0:00:09 > 0:00:11Hey, Lifebabblers,
0:00:11 > 0:00:13today we're going to be talking about peer pressure
0:00:13 > 0:00:14and standing up for yourself.
0:00:14 > 0:00:17So, Charlie, what is peer pressure?
0:00:20 > 0:00:22Peer pressure is when you do something
0:00:22 > 0:00:25either because a friend has persuaded you to do it,
0:00:25 > 0:00:27or because everybody else seems to be doing it,
0:00:27 > 0:00:29and so you feel scared that you'll look stupid
0:00:29 > 0:00:31if you don't do it as well.
0:00:31 > 0:00:32Peer pressure can be something as small
0:00:32 > 0:00:35as taking an extra slice of cake, or something a little bit bigger
0:00:35 > 0:00:38that could actually lead you to getting into trouble.
0:00:38 > 0:00:41It can also be when you see a lot of other people doing something
0:00:41 > 0:00:43and you feel like you should do it, too.
0:00:43 > 0:00:46Sometimes people are worried that they'll be picked on
0:00:46 > 0:00:47if they don't go with the crowd,
0:00:47 > 0:00:49or that they might lose their friends,
0:00:49 > 0:00:51or they just do things that they know they shouldn't do
0:00:51 > 0:00:54because they think it'll make their friends like them a bit more.
0:00:54 > 0:00:56If you find yourself facing peer pressure,
0:00:56 > 0:00:59be strong and do what you think is right.
0:00:59 > 0:01:02A good friend will respect your choices
0:01:02 > 0:01:04and you'll find yourself respecting yourself more, too,
0:01:04 > 0:01:06if you stand up for what you believe in.
0:01:09 > 0:01:12So I got in trouble at school once and felt really bad about it.
0:01:12 > 0:01:15Basically, we were told not to go into the sweet shop
0:01:15 > 0:01:19with my friends, but I decided to follow them into the sweet shop.
0:01:19 > 0:01:22I didn't even buy any sweets, but we got caught and I got in trouble.
0:01:22 > 0:01:24I felt really bad about it
0:01:24 > 0:01:27because I didn't even want to go in that sweet shop
0:01:27 > 0:01:28and, from that day, I learnt
0:01:28 > 0:01:31not to follow other people's actions to fit in.
0:01:31 > 0:01:34PHONE RINGS
0:01:34 > 0:01:37As a boy who attends ballet class,
0:01:37 > 0:01:40I have faced criticism from my peers and people at my school
0:01:40 > 0:01:43that I shouldn't do ballet because I'm a boy.
0:01:43 > 0:01:45At first, it got me down,
0:01:45 > 0:01:48but I decided I wasn't going to let it bother me.
0:01:48 > 0:01:50Talking to my family helped.
0:01:50 > 0:01:53I love to dance, and I kept on dancing.
0:01:53 > 0:01:57I am going to achieve my dreams of a dancer, no matter what people say.
0:01:57 > 0:01:59CHEERING
0:02:02 > 0:02:04Standing up for yourself means clearly explaining
0:02:04 > 0:02:06how you feel and what you want.
0:02:06 > 0:02:08But how do you stand up for yourself
0:02:08 > 0:02:10without sounding pushy or aggressive?
0:02:10 > 0:02:11Here's some tips.
0:02:11 > 0:02:14Practice what you want to say first, or try writing them down.
0:02:14 > 0:02:16"Sorry, guys, as appealing as it sounds,
0:02:16 > 0:02:18"I just don't want to watch football...
0:02:18 > 0:02:20"again."
0:02:20 > 0:02:24Eww. No, thanks, I'd rather not eat your home-made raw onion cake,
0:02:24 > 0:02:26but thank you for the kind offer.
0:02:26 > 0:02:30Hopefully that sounded OK and not, like...mean.
0:02:30 > 0:02:33No, thank you, I would not like to do your homework for you.
0:02:33 > 0:02:35Act calm and confident.
0:02:38 > 0:02:41Sometimes it can be hard to stand up for yourself
0:02:41 > 0:02:42and say how you really feel,
0:02:42 > 0:02:45especially if you're disagreeing with someone.
0:02:45 > 0:02:47While people should accept you for who you are
0:02:47 > 0:02:48and respect the decisions
0:02:48 > 0:02:50that you make, some may not.
0:02:50 > 0:02:53Have you ever made somebody do something they didn't want to do?
0:02:53 > 0:02:55How do you think that made THEM feel?
0:02:55 > 0:02:57Everyone has the right to say how they feel
0:02:57 > 0:02:59and ask for what they need.
0:02:59 > 0:03:02Sometimes, it just takes one person to be assertive
0:03:02 > 0:03:05to give everybody else permission to say what they want to.
0:03:05 > 0:03:07If you still feel pressured into doing something
0:03:07 > 0:03:08you don't want to do,
0:03:08 > 0:03:10talk to someone.
0:03:13 > 0:03:17# Is someone telling you to do something you'd rather not do?
0:03:17 > 0:03:20# If they say go, say thanks but no
0:03:20 > 0:03:23# Cos honestly I'm good
0:03:23 > 0:03:25# If they don't drop it then just drop them
0:03:25 > 0:03:28# Cos there's nothing worse than a pushy, fake friend
0:03:28 > 0:03:30# You know what you want and you know what you don't
0:03:30 > 0:03:32# So just say nope. #
0:03:37 > 0:03:40That's all we have time for today, Lifebabblers.
0:03:40 > 0:03:44Check out more from the team over on the CBBC website.
0:03:44 > 0:03:47And remember, don't be pressured, be you,
0:03:47 > 0:03:48and keep babbling.