Loneliness

0:00:09 > 0:00:10Hey, Lifebabblers.

0:00:10 > 0:00:11We all feel lonely sometimes,

0:00:11 > 0:00:14but when it starts to make us feel very sad,

0:00:14 > 0:00:15it's time to talk about it.

0:00:15 > 0:00:18So today we're talking about loneliness.

0:00:19 > 0:00:22Feeling lonely and sad isn't much fun.

0:00:22 > 0:00:25It may happen if you feel you don't see or talk to anyone that often.

0:00:25 > 0:00:27You can also feel lonely when you're surrounded by lots of people.

0:00:27 > 0:00:29You may feel empty and isolated.

0:00:29 > 0:00:32If you don't feel listened to, cared for or understood.

0:00:32 > 0:00:34Lots of things cause loneliness.

0:00:34 > 0:00:37You might feel you don't get along with friends and family.

0:00:37 > 0:00:38You might feel that you don't fit in,

0:00:38 > 0:00:40or that you don't feel great about yourself.

0:00:40 > 0:00:42You might find it hard to make friends.

0:00:42 > 0:00:44You might have moved somewhere new,

0:00:44 > 0:00:45started a new school,

0:00:45 > 0:00:48experienced a death or a change in your family situation.

0:00:48 > 0:00:51No matter who we are, loneliness can happen to anyone.

0:00:53 > 0:00:57Being alone is not the same as feeling lonely and sad.

0:00:57 > 0:01:00So when someone spends a lot of time on their own,

0:01:00 > 0:01:03even though they prefer to spend time with other people,

0:01:03 > 0:01:07loneliness can set in and this can lead to feeling down.

0:01:07 > 0:01:09If you're feeling like this most of the time,

0:01:09 > 0:01:11you may need to get some help.

0:01:11 > 0:01:14Reach out to a trusted adult and let them know how you're feeling.

0:01:14 > 0:01:17It might not be easy to open up,

0:01:17 > 0:01:19but it's good to give it a go.

0:01:19 > 0:01:20PHONE RINGS

0:01:20 > 0:01:23I started to feel lonely when everyone got obsessed with

0:01:23 > 0:01:26playing football at break times, and I didn't want to.

0:01:26 > 0:01:30I'd always be by myself and it felt rubbish.

0:01:30 > 0:01:33People didn't mean to leave me out, but the lonelier I got,

0:01:33 > 0:01:35the harder it was to join in.

0:01:35 > 0:01:38Loneliness makes you feel like you're not a good person

0:01:38 > 0:01:39and no-one likes you.

0:01:39 > 0:01:42I had a big think and realised it was me, not everyone else,

0:01:42 > 0:01:44who was making me feel lonely.

0:01:44 > 0:01:48In every negative situation I turned that into a good situation,

0:01:48 > 0:01:50and I made a big effort to be happy.

0:01:51 > 0:01:53Feeling lonely can be a circle that's hard to break.

0:01:53 > 0:01:56But there are positive things you can do.

0:01:56 > 0:01:58Think about what is making you feel lonely.

0:01:58 > 0:02:00This may help you find ways to address it.

0:02:00 > 0:02:02Talk to a friend or family member about how you feel,

0:02:02 > 0:02:05and get out and do fun stuff together.

0:02:05 > 0:02:08How about joining a club or a group outside of school?

0:02:08 > 0:02:11Remember, don't let loneliness stop you from connecting with people.

0:02:11 > 0:02:13You don't know when someone's feeling lonely,

0:02:13 > 0:02:15and saying "hi" may be just what they need.

0:02:17 > 0:02:20If you notice someone often hangs out on their own, or looks sad,

0:02:20 > 0:02:22check out if they're OK.

0:02:22 > 0:02:24If someone's not keen to go home or wants you to stay,

0:02:24 > 0:02:26they might need someone to talk to or just hang out with.

0:02:26 > 0:02:29Keep a lookout for signs of loneliness.

0:02:29 > 0:02:32You never know when you might make someone's day.

0:02:34 > 0:02:36When I'm feeling lonely, I keep my chin up,

0:02:36 > 0:02:38stay strong and find somebody to talk to.

0:02:38 > 0:02:40My main advice would be don't dwell on it.

0:02:40 > 0:02:41Just try to take your mind off it.

0:02:41 > 0:02:43It can be hard, but it would really help.

0:02:43 > 0:02:46I started working on my hobbies and doing things that I love.

0:02:46 > 0:02:49It taught me self-love and it made me feel confident within myself.

0:02:49 > 0:02:52When I feel lonely, I watch loads of videos on the internet.

0:02:52 > 0:02:54Cat ones are the best!

0:02:56 > 0:03:00# Things can get tough when you are alone

0:03:00 > 0:03:05# It can take some courage to pick up the phone

0:03:06 > 0:03:10# There's so many things to do outside

0:03:11 > 0:03:16# You don't have to hide

0:03:17 > 0:03:20# No matter the weather Things will get better

0:03:20 > 0:03:23# People to deserve to see

0:03:23 > 0:03:28# Just how wonderful you are

0:03:28 > 0:03:35# And happiness is never far

0:03:35 > 0:03:38# Away. #

0:03:39 > 0:03:41That's all for this Lifebabble.

0:03:41 > 0:03:42Remember, you're not alone.

0:03:42 > 0:03:45If you need more info on how to deal with loneliness,

0:03:45 > 0:03:48head to the CBBC website. And keep babbling!