0:00:09 > 0:00:10Hey, Lifebabblers.
0:00:10 > 0:00:13Today we're talking about what makes someone become a bully.
0:00:13 > 0:00:15Everyone can have a bad day,
0:00:15 > 0:00:18but what can make us go from grumpy to bully?
0:00:18 > 0:00:21There's so many reasons as to why someone bullies.
0:00:21 > 0:00:24Sometimes it can be because they themselves
0:00:24 > 0:00:25have been bullied in the past.
0:00:25 > 0:00:26Bullying someone else can help them
0:00:26 > 0:00:28take their mind of their own problems.
0:00:28 > 0:00:30Sometimes bullies are dealing with something difficult
0:00:30 > 0:00:33in their own lives and they don't know how to cope or talk about it.
0:00:33 > 0:00:35Having more power over someone else can help them feel like
0:00:35 > 0:00:37they've got more control in their life.
0:00:37 > 0:00:41Some bullies don't even realise what they're doing is upsetting.
0:00:41 > 0:00:43People can bully you because they want to fit in with the group.
0:00:43 > 0:00:46It can be really hard to stand up to friends.
0:00:46 > 0:00:47They might even be worried that
0:00:47 > 0:00:49if they don't join in they'll get bullied too.
0:00:49 > 0:00:51'Bullying is...'
0:00:59 > 0:01:04Hello and welcome to another episode of Bully Or Banter?
0:01:04 > 0:01:06Today's contestants are Mark A,
0:01:06 > 0:01:08and joining him today is Mark B.
0:01:09 > 0:01:11You overhear your friend's mum say to him,
0:01:11 > 0:01:13"Have a good day at school, my little cheesecake."
0:01:13 > 0:01:14What do you do?
0:01:14 > 0:01:17She calls him cheesecake? Tell everyone!
0:01:17 > 0:01:19BUZZ! Wrong answer.
0:01:19 > 0:01:20What about you, Mark A?
0:01:20 > 0:01:22A good friend would keep it private.
0:01:22 > 0:01:25DING! Right!
0:01:25 > 0:01:27Your friends are teasing one of the group about something,
0:01:27 > 0:01:29but it's clear that they don't like it.
0:01:29 > 0:01:30What do you do?
0:01:30 > 0:01:32- Join in with the teasing. - BUZZ!
0:01:32 > 0:01:35- Mark A?- Tell the group that you think they should stop.
0:01:35 > 0:01:37DING! Excellent. Full points again.
0:01:38 > 0:01:41You find a video of your friends playing with their favourite toys.
0:01:41 > 0:01:43And we can see a clip of that.
0:01:43 > 0:01:46That's not fair! That's so embarrassing!
0:01:46 > 0:01:50Tell your friend you found it and don't show it to anyone.
0:01:50 > 0:01:52DING! Right!
0:01:53 > 0:01:55Your friends have invited everyone to a party
0:01:55 > 0:01:57except one person in the group.
0:01:57 > 0:01:58What do you do?
0:01:58 > 0:02:00Reach out to them.
0:02:00 > 0:02:02No-one likes to be excluded.
0:02:02 > 0:02:04DING! Both Marks have two points.
0:02:05 > 0:02:07If you think you've been
0:02:07 > 0:02:09bullying someone, stop.
0:02:09 > 0:02:12Make a positive change and decide not to do it any more.
0:02:12 > 0:02:13Say you're sorry.
0:02:13 > 0:02:16It takes a lot of courage to admit when you've done something wrong.
0:02:16 > 0:02:18Think about why you behaved like that.
0:02:18 > 0:02:20Is there something going on in your life
0:02:20 > 0:02:22which is upsetting you or making you feel angry?
0:02:22 > 0:02:25We all make mistakes, but bullying is a mistake
0:02:25 > 0:02:27that can have serious consequences
0:02:27 > 0:02:30for you and the person you're bullying.
0:02:30 > 0:02:32If you realise that you've been a bully,
0:02:32 > 0:02:34talk to a friend or a trusted adult
0:02:34 > 0:02:35and get some help with the situation.
0:02:35 > 0:02:38It's really important to make a change,
0:02:38 > 0:02:40and you don't have to do it on your own.
0:02:40 > 0:02:42PHONE RINGS
0:02:42 > 0:02:43'I started bullying in secondary school.
0:02:43 > 0:02:45'My whole life was traumatic
0:02:45 > 0:02:47'and I thought that if I bullied other kids,
0:02:47 > 0:02:49'someone might notice I needed help.
0:02:49 > 0:02:52'I picked on kids for everything and anything.
0:02:52 > 0:02:56'The kid could have his tie too tight and that would be enough.
0:02:56 > 0:02:59'I knew it was wrong and it made me feel really bad,
0:02:59 > 0:03:00'but I didn't know what to do.
0:03:00 > 0:03:03'I also knew if I didn't change,
0:03:03 > 0:03:05'I was going to affect my future,
0:03:05 > 0:03:07'so I stopped and haven't bullied since.
0:03:07 > 0:03:10'Now I'm older, I'm training to be a gym instructor
0:03:10 > 0:03:12'and I've learnt from my mistakes.'
0:03:12 > 0:03:15Worried you may have bullied someone but not sure?
0:03:15 > 0:03:16It's time for positive action.
0:03:16 > 0:03:17Step one.
0:03:17 > 0:03:20Why not ask them and listen to what they have to say?
0:03:20 > 0:03:21Be honest, but remember
0:03:21 > 0:03:23they might find it difficult to tell you the truth.
0:03:23 > 0:03:25Step two. Think about what happened.
0:03:25 > 0:03:26Write down all the things you said and did
0:03:26 > 0:03:29and try to put yourself in somebody else's shoes.
0:03:29 > 0:03:31If the situation was the other way around, how would you feel?
0:03:31 > 0:03:33Step three. Be a part of the solution.
0:03:33 > 0:03:35If you can recognise your own bullying,
0:03:35 > 0:03:38you may be able to stop it from happening to someone else.
0:03:40 > 0:03:41That's all for this Lifebabble.
0:03:41 > 0:03:45For more info on bullying, head to the CBBC website.
0:03:45 > 0:03:48Whatever is on your mind, remember to keep babbling.
0:03:48 > 0:03:49See you next time.