0:00:02 > 0:00:04Are you OK with me doing this blog with you?
0:00:04 > 0:00:06Yeah. Mike said so, didn't he? Besides, it'll be fun.
0:00:06 > 0:00:09- Is it meant to be fun? - Well, you know, fun-ish.
0:00:09 > 0:00:12- It is a serious topic. - Yes, of course.
0:00:12 > 0:00:14So, we're not going to have fun.
0:00:14 > 0:00:16We're going to help people.
0:00:16 > 0:00:18Right. OK. Welcome to The Dumping Ground.
0:00:18 > 0:00:22A place where no-one has any fun. Will that do you?
0:00:22 > 0:00:23I think that was quite negative.
0:00:29 > 0:00:31It's not as bad as it sounds.
0:00:31 > 0:00:35If you're watching this, you're one of us now.
0:00:35 > 0:00:37Relax. You're going to love it here.
0:00:37 > 0:00:38- BOTH:- Ta-da!
0:00:38 > 0:00:41You'll meet some amazing new friends.
0:00:42 > 0:00:45Get to try exciting new food.
0:00:45 > 0:00:48We promise. It's an experience you'll never forget.
0:00:48 > 0:00:49Brilliant.
0:00:52 > 0:00:53But, remember, this is the place
0:00:53 > 0:00:56where random chaos can strike at any time.
0:00:59 > 0:01:00So you have to be prepared...
0:01:02 > 0:01:04For pretty much anything.
0:01:07 > 0:01:11- And that's why... - We've made this video blog.
0:01:11 > 0:01:14- We've been through all this... - So that you don't have to.
0:01:16 > 0:01:19This time on The Dumping Ground Survival Files,
0:01:19 > 0:01:21facing up to difficult challenges.
0:01:21 > 0:01:25Whether it's stuff that's hard to say or things that seem impossible to do,
0:01:25 > 0:01:27this blog has the answers.
0:01:30 > 0:01:33OK. If you're watching this, then you probably don't need me
0:01:33 > 0:01:35to tell you that life's not a bowl of cherries.
0:01:35 > 0:01:38Because a bowl of cherries is a portion of fruit.
0:01:38 > 0:01:41- No, it's a figure of speech. - We can help though.
0:01:41 > 0:01:44We understand that life is not a portion of fruit.
0:01:45 > 0:01:48It might be something you have to do that seems impossible
0:01:48 > 0:01:51or a tricky conversation you'd rather not be having.
0:01:51 > 0:01:54We've all had to cope with difficult stuff.
0:01:54 > 0:01:56But what you'll find here is that most of us don't like
0:01:56 > 0:01:58to talk about the tough times.
0:01:58 > 0:02:00Just because you've spent your whole childhood in care,
0:02:00 > 0:02:02never really had your own room,
0:02:02 > 0:02:05been abandoned by your mum and your best friend,
0:02:05 > 0:02:07doesn't mean to say you should bang on
0:02:07 > 0:02:09about how hard life is all the time.
0:02:09 > 0:02:12She's right. Most people don't like to talk about these things.
0:02:14 > 0:02:15But the whole reason for this blog
0:02:15 > 0:02:18is to look at how people deal with tough challenges,
0:02:18 > 0:02:21so we need some people to tell us about their experiences.
0:02:21 > 0:02:23And I know just where to start.
0:02:24 > 0:02:27- Hi, Tee.- All right, Carms?
0:02:27 > 0:02:29Can I ask you some stuff for the new kids blog?
0:02:29 > 0:02:31Yeah. Is this the one you doing with Kaz?
0:02:31 > 0:02:33Yeah. It's about facing up to tough challenges.
0:02:33 > 0:02:36- Lucky you've got her, then. - I'm sorry?
0:02:36 > 0:02:38You know, she's not exactly had the easiest life.
0:02:38 > 0:02:41- Meaning?- She'd have a lot to say.
0:02:41 > 0:02:46- Oh, and I have had the easiest life? - No, but she's been through a lot.
0:02:46 > 0:02:48Yeah. Abandoned by her mum,
0:02:48 > 0:02:50best friend swanned off to the other end of the country.
0:02:50 > 0:02:53Oh, no, hang on. That's not her. That's me.
0:02:53 > 0:02:56Kaz had to flee from a warzone and then she lived on the streets.
0:02:56 > 0:02:59No. Hold on. Carmen, you don't need to...
0:02:59 > 0:03:02Johnny, I'm doing a blog on facing up to tough challenges.
0:03:02 > 0:03:04Yeah. Well, you've come to the right place then.
0:03:04 > 0:03:06OK. First challenge. Putting up with Johnny
0:03:06 > 0:03:09in one of his pleased-with-himself moods without throwing up.
0:03:09 > 0:03:11Sorry, I didn't catch that.
0:03:11 > 0:03:16Oh, nothing. So, Johnny, what's the hardest challenge you've ever faced?
0:03:16 > 0:03:18Well, I suppose learning to keep my cool
0:03:18 > 0:03:21when being surrounded by this lot here. That's not exactly been easy.
0:03:21 > 0:03:24Why does she get all the chances? When's it going to be our turn?
0:03:28 > 0:03:30Let go! Right, stop it, you two!
0:03:32 > 0:03:34Then, a different kind of challenge.
0:03:34 > 0:03:36There was the half marathon that time.
0:03:36 > 0:03:40Winners never quit! Winners never quit!
0:03:40 > 0:03:42I can do it! I can do it!
0:03:42 > 0:03:47Johnny's here! Guys! Guys! Johnny's coming!
0:03:47 > 0:03:49Go on, Johnny!
0:03:49 > 0:03:51My legs were hurting. My lungs were killing.
0:03:51 > 0:03:52And I had a stitch.
0:03:52 > 0:03:54But I knew that I couldn't let everyone down.
0:04:08 > 0:04:10So, yeah, that was tough too.
0:04:10 > 0:04:11SHE YAWNS
0:04:11 > 0:04:16- Carmen, are you still listening? - Oh, yeah. Go on. Fascinated.
0:04:16 > 0:04:20All right. Well, then there was the time when the family, the Watsons,
0:04:20 > 0:04:22wanted to adopt Tee but not me...
0:04:22 > 0:04:26Oh, hang on. I think the battery's low on power.
0:04:26 > 0:04:29Really? It looks fine to me. That little light's green.
0:04:29 > 0:04:32No, that's bad. It means it's going to run out.
0:04:32 > 0:04:36Best go and recharge it, eh? Sorry. Thanks. Yeah. Bye.
0:04:36 > 0:04:38A narrow escape from death by boredom.
0:04:38 > 0:04:40- Who did you film?- Tee and Johnny.
0:04:40 > 0:04:43- And how did it go?- Not great.
0:04:43 > 0:04:46- Maybe they weren't the right people to ask.- Meaning?
0:04:46 > 0:04:49If you want some serious points of view, you should ask some adults.
0:04:49 > 0:04:52- Adults?- You do Mike. I'll do May Li.
0:04:54 > 0:04:57May Li, if you have something to do you are really dreading,
0:04:57 > 0:04:59what would be your advice?
0:04:59 > 0:05:01Well, my policy is,
0:05:01 > 0:05:05it's best to face challenging stuff head on and just get on with it.
0:05:05 > 0:05:09Delaying and arguing about who does what really gets you nowhere.
0:05:09 > 0:05:12- That's very impressive.- Oh. Thanks.
0:05:12 > 0:05:15- If not exactly true.- What?
0:05:15 > 0:05:17Hang on, Kaz. What's that supposed to mean?
0:05:17 > 0:05:20Two words. Bailey and Wharton.
0:05:23 > 0:05:25Bailey wanted to go home to his dad
0:05:25 > 0:05:27and someone had to tell him he couldn't.
0:05:27 > 0:05:30I heard all about how you "faced it head on".
0:05:30 > 0:05:33He's not going to take it well on top of missing the finals,
0:05:33 > 0:05:34so watch how you tell him.
0:05:34 > 0:05:36You're the one who told him he was only here for one night,
0:05:36 > 0:05:40- so you can do it.- You've had longer to get to know him than me.
0:05:40 > 0:05:41Oh, yeah, a whole 12 hours.
0:05:41 > 0:05:42PHONE RINGS
0:05:42 > 0:05:44Mike, can I ask you something?
0:05:44 > 0:05:48Yeah. Of course you can. As long as you're quick. Stay there.
0:05:48 > 0:05:51Say there was this really popular girl who had quite a tough time,
0:05:51 > 0:05:53but never complained about it.
0:05:57 > 0:05:59We are talking imaginary here, right?
0:05:59 > 0:06:02And you were about to randomly make her life a misery
0:06:02 > 0:06:05by forcing her to share a room with someone she didn't want to.
0:06:05 > 0:06:08- Would I do that? - How would you go about telling her?
0:06:08 > 0:06:11Would you come straight out and do it?
0:06:11 > 0:06:12Yeah. Of course I would.
0:06:12 > 0:06:17- Not try to fob it off on a more junior member of staff?- As if!
0:06:18 > 0:06:21- WATER SPLASHES - Argh!
0:06:21 > 0:06:23- Mike. You OK?- Yeah.
0:06:23 > 0:06:26You've been here longer. She'll take it much better from you.
0:06:26 > 0:06:29Yeah, but I did last time. And the time before.
0:06:29 > 0:06:31You know, if this happens all the time,
0:06:31 > 0:06:33- we should have a system in place. - We did.
0:06:33 > 0:06:35Gina and I used to draw straws.
0:06:35 > 0:06:37- Bit childish, isn't it?- Yeah.
0:06:39 > 0:06:42The most important thing is to keep calm
0:06:42 > 0:06:45and trust your experience and your training
0:06:45 > 0:06:48to come up with a practical way of working out what's best.
0:06:50 > 0:06:52- Flip a coin?- You're on.
0:06:56 > 0:06:57BOTH: Heads!
0:06:59 > 0:07:04- Head care worker gets to choose. Heads.- Are you sure about that?- Yes.
0:07:04 > 0:07:06No. No, I'll go for tails.
0:07:06 > 0:07:09No! I'll stick with heads.
0:07:12 > 0:07:16Tails! Ha-ha! You lose! Now, get up there and tell her.
0:07:16 > 0:07:20- Why me? Why is it always me? - Believe me, I know how you feel.
0:07:20 > 0:07:22Well, then don't make me do it,
0:07:22 > 0:07:24because it's just go to be like Jodie all over again.
0:07:24 > 0:07:26This girl is different. You know her.
0:07:26 > 0:07:29- Who is it?- Frank's friend. Kazima.
0:07:29 > 0:07:33So much for adults. They say one thing and do another.
0:07:33 > 0:07:36And if Mike won't bite the bullet and face up to difficult situations,
0:07:36 > 0:07:38what hope is there for the rest of us?
0:07:38 > 0:07:42What was the difficult situation Mike wouldn't face up to?
0:07:42 > 0:07:43Er...forgot.
0:07:43 > 0:07:46- The homeless girl?- Yeah.- The thief?
0:07:46 > 0:07:48You know that she only stole because she had to.
0:07:48 > 0:07:51And what if she decides that she has to have my stuff?
0:07:51 > 0:07:54- Mike, you're asking me to share my room with a criminal.- No.
0:07:54 > 0:07:56I'm asking you to be kind to somebody
0:07:56 > 0:08:00who's had a rough deal in life and needs your help.
0:08:00 > 0:08:03- Yeah. Slips my mind.- OK.
0:08:03 > 0:08:05If you don't mind, there is something I would like to say.
0:08:05 > 0:08:07OK. No-one's stopping you.
0:08:07 > 0:08:10About someone in The Dumping Ground who has been through such a lot.
0:08:10 > 0:08:14- Right.- Who has always been kind to me and treated me like a sister.
0:08:14 > 0:08:15Yeah.
0:08:15 > 0:08:18I've got loads of dresses you can borrow.
0:08:18 > 0:08:20Are they all pink?
0:08:20 > 0:08:22No, actually.
0:08:22 > 0:08:26But I'll go and get them from the attic and you can try them on, OK?
0:08:28 > 0:08:31- I could give you a makeover. - Makeover?
0:08:31 > 0:08:33Yeah, me and Lily used to do them all the time.
0:08:33 > 0:08:37- I could do your hair, your nails, your make-up.- Like yours?
0:08:37 > 0:08:40- Yeah, if you want to. Let's do it. - I have a better idea.
0:08:40 > 0:08:42What if I make you over?
0:08:44 > 0:08:45What's wrong?
0:08:45 > 0:08:47Don't you want to look like me?
0:08:50 > 0:08:51Joking.
0:08:52 > 0:08:56This good friend has let me share a room and always been there for me.
0:08:56 > 0:08:59Well, this person's hasn't exactly been perfect,
0:08:59 > 0:09:01but they have tried their best.
0:09:01 > 0:09:04If you move into my room, then I expect you to follow my rules.
0:09:04 > 0:09:06- Your rules?- Yeah.
0:09:06 > 0:09:09For a start, you need to start washing your clothes
0:09:09 > 0:09:10because it stinks around this place.
0:09:10 > 0:09:14- All I can smell is your cheap perfume.- The perfume is fine.
0:09:14 > 0:09:15The problem is you.
0:09:23 > 0:09:26How do I smell now? Do you like it?
0:09:27 > 0:09:29That was a present from my mum.
0:09:31 > 0:09:35Get out of my room now!
0:09:35 > 0:09:39Yes, it's true that I owe an awful lot to
0:09:39 > 0:09:40Frank.
0:09:41 > 0:09:42Frank?
0:09:42 > 0:09:44Only joking. I meant Floss.
0:09:44 > 0:09:47Oh, my aching sides.
0:09:47 > 0:09:49You're right. Too much fun.
0:09:49 > 0:09:53We'll be BFFs. She could, like, totally give me a makeover.
0:09:53 > 0:09:57I could be like her, look like her, dress like her.
0:09:57 > 0:09:59Well, you do smell like her.
0:09:59 > 0:10:02She looks at me like I'm dirt on the ground.
0:10:02 > 0:10:03I can't live like that.
0:10:03 > 0:10:07But it's got to be better than living on the streets.
0:10:07 > 0:10:10Except on the streets I was respected.
0:10:10 > 0:10:11I could choose my friends.
0:10:11 > 0:10:14Thanks a lot.
0:10:14 > 0:10:17Oh, shush. I chose you.
0:10:17 > 0:10:21And if it wasn't for you, I would still be back out there.
0:10:21 > 0:10:23The great thing about Frank is that he faces challenges,
0:10:23 > 0:10:27but he doesn't mope about feeling sorry for himself.
0:10:27 > 0:10:29Well, actually, that's not true, is it?
0:10:29 > 0:10:31Maybe you don't know Frank as well as you think you do.
0:10:31 > 0:10:33What do you mean?
0:10:33 > 0:10:37Believe me, Frank can well turn into Mr The World's Got It In For Me
0:10:37 > 0:10:38when things don't go right for him.
0:10:38 > 0:10:40Like when he messed up in his exams that time.
0:10:40 > 0:10:42PHONE BEEPS
0:10:44 > 0:10:47- Well?- Frank?
0:10:47 > 0:10:50I got a D in sports science.
0:10:53 > 0:10:55OK. A D is OK.
0:10:55 > 0:10:58And the rest?
0:10:58 > 0:11:01Never mind. It's just exams.
0:11:01 > 0:11:04Jim said it was my whole future.
0:11:04 > 0:11:07You know, while some people are more suited to academia...
0:11:07 > 0:11:09- Oh, you mean I'm thick.- No.
0:11:09 > 0:11:11Don't bat your eyes at me.
0:11:11 > 0:11:16I'm thick, I'm useless, and this proves it.
0:11:19 > 0:11:22Frank, I heard something about you. I need to know if it's true.
0:11:22 > 0:11:24What do you mean?
0:11:24 > 0:11:26That you felt so sorry for yourself
0:11:26 > 0:11:29when your exams went badly you were going to give up.
0:11:29 > 0:11:31That's not the Frank I know.
0:11:31 > 0:11:35It was just an off day.
0:11:35 > 0:11:38And I soon snapped out of it.
0:11:38 > 0:11:40So, what are you going to do?
0:11:40 > 0:11:43Take control of my destiny.
0:11:43 > 0:11:46Go back to school.
0:11:46 > 0:11:48Do my resits.
0:11:50 > 0:11:53Get on the course that I really want.
0:11:53 > 0:11:56And, when you've been through it yourself,
0:11:56 > 0:12:01you can see when others are making the same mistakes.
0:12:01 > 0:12:05- Like who?- You'd be surprised.
0:12:06 > 0:12:11- Are you going to help me, then, or are you just going to sit there?- Yep.
0:12:11 > 0:12:15- What are you even been doing here, Frank?- I can sit if I want.
0:12:15 > 0:12:19- Well, then put my stupid disc in. - Do it yourself.
0:12:19 > 0:12:22I can't because I'm in this lame contraption.
0:12:22 > 0:12:26Doesn't mean you can treat people like slaves.
0:12:26 > 0:12:28Oh, I'm sorry, I can't work the machine with my toes.
0:12:28 > 0:12:30You don't even try.
0:12:30 > 0:12:34Do you think I like being like this? Do you think I like being useless?
0:12:34 > 0:12:38Moping about doesn't do any good.
0:12:38 > 0:12:42You won't get anywhere like that.
0:12:42 > 0:12:47- You're not useless. You're in a wheelchair.- Exactly.
0:12:47 > 0:12:50It's my whole track career gone now.
0:12:50 > 0:12:53You will get better.
0:12:54 > 0:12:57I'm like this every day of my life.
0:12:57 > 0:13:01I can't run or win a race.
0:13:01 > 0:13:08I have to talk really slowly, so people can understand.
0:13:10 > 0:13:11Frank, wait!
0:13:14 > 0:13:17It's different for you.
0:13:17 > 0:13:21You were born like that, so you don't know any different.
0:13:21 > 0:13:24I don't sit around and moan, you mean.
0:13:24 > 0:13:26So, what Frank was saying might not
0:13:26 > 0:13:28have been exactly what Faith wanted to hear.
0:13:28 > 0:13:29But he was right.
0:13:29 > 0:13:32And he was brave enough to speak up and say that stuff,
0:13:32 > 0:13:34however difficult it might have been.
0:13:36 > 0:13:39So, what have we learnt so far about facing up to tough challenges
0:13:39 > 0:13:42to upload into the Survival Files?
0:13:42 > 0:13:46Well, challenges can come in lots of different forms.
0:13:46 > 0:13:49It could be something really hard that you have to do.
0:13:49 > 0:13:53Or something that's difficult to say to someone can be just as tough.
0:13:53 > 0:13:56Either way, ignoring the problem gets you nowhere.
0:13:56 > 0:13:58It's best to face up to stuff.
0:13:58 > 0:14:02But even some adults have trouble putting that into practice.
0:14:02 > 0:14:05Sometimes, though, you can find yourself facing a challenge
0:14:05 > 0:14:08that doesn't seem hard. It seems impossible.
0:14:08 > 0:14:11Faith certainly found it tough being in a wheelchair.
0:14:11 > 0:14:14So, she was lucky that she had Frank there to talk things through.
0:14:14 > 0:14:17He knows more about tough challenges than most.
0:14:23 > 0:14:24You're right, you know.
0:14:24 > 0:14:28Sometimes something difficult is just as hard, even harder,
0:14:28 > 0:14:30than doing something difficult.
0:14:30 > 0:14:31Yeah. Tell me about it.
0:14:31 > 0:14:34Although some people can make a right meal out of it.
0:14:39 > 0:14:41Like when Lily went off with her dad and Shannay.
0:14:41 > 0:14:44Is that your friend who went to live in another part of the country?
0:14:44 > 0:14:48- The one who abandoned you? - Yeah. How did you know about her?
0:14:48 > 0:14:50I don't know.
0:14:50 > 0:14:52Somebody must have mentioned her.
0:14:53 > 0:14:55Anyway, Lily so went about it all the wrong way.
0:14:55 > 0:14:58She just made it hard for herself.
0:14:58 > 0:15:00It's not like I'm a monster or something.
0:15:01 > 0:15:03Have you spoken to Carmen yet?
0:15:03 > 0:15:06- Weird, Spud! Look! - You have to...
0:15:06 > 0:15:08Hey, Lily, when did you get here?
0:15:08 > 0:15:11What are you two whispering about?
0:15:12 > 0:15:17OK, erm, you know that cafe that Sinead's sister has down south?
0:15:17 > 0:15:20- By the seaside, yeah. - Yeah, that one.
0:15:20 > 0:15:22Erm, she asked my dad and Sinead to run it.
0:15:25 > 0:15:27What, full-time?
0:15:27 > 0:15:29Won't that mean they have to live there though?
0:15:29 > 0:15:31Well, yeah, there's a flat above.
0:15:31 > 0:15:35Lily, they cannot just pack you up and move you miles away.
0:15:35 > 0:15:38How long does it even take to get there?
0:15:38 > 0:15:41Hours.
0:15:41 > 0:15:43And what about your sisters?
0:15:43 > 0:15:45Should they just pack everything up and come too?
0:15:45 > 0:15:47Poppy and Rosie are settled, they're fine here.
0:15:47 > 0:15:49Yeah, but you're best where you are, Lily.
0:15:49 > 0:15:52- Have you told your dad this isn't fair?- Well...
0:15:52 > 0:15:56No, you haven't. Lily, he has messed you around too many times.
0:15:56 > 0:15:59- Carmen...- You move here, you live there, the Dumping Ground,
0:15:59 > 0:16:00then you live back with him.
0:16:00 > 0:16:02When will you tell him it's not fair?
0:16:02 > 0:16:03Just tell him that you want to stay!
0:16:03 > 0:16:05No, cos I want to go!
0:16:05 > 0:16:07Talk about coming out and saying something.
0:16:07 > 0:16:09She could have sugared the pill a little bit.
0:16:09 > 0:16:11What should this Lily have said then?
0:16:11 > 0:16:13Whatever way she put it, you were going to be upset.
0:16:13 > 0:16:15What do you mean? I'm a calm person.
0:16:15 > 0:16:17I can take it.
0:16:17 > 0:16:18Carmen, please don't be angry with me.
0:16:18 > 0:16:20I don't mean to be harsh, Carmen.
0:16:20 > 0:16:24But if someone is brave enough to break bad news, it's not fair
0:16:24 > 0:16:26to just keep making things harder for them.
0:16:26 > 0:16:29- I just don't see why you want to go. - To be with my dad.
0:16:29 > 0:16:34To be part of Jonah growing up... Look, I don't know, it's important.
0:16:34 > 0:16:37Aren't your sisters important? Me, the Dumping Ground?
0:16:37 > 0:16:40Doesn't what's here add up to more than the dad that's let you down
0:16:40 > 0:16:42- more than enough times. - It's a new start for me too.
0:16:42 > 0:16:44There's a college not far,
0:16:44 > 0:16:46I could sign up for a catering course.
0:16:46 > 0:16:48Maybe one day I'll be a professional cook.
0:16:48 > 0:16:50What, and there are no colleges here?
0:16:50 > 0:16:52It's what happens, isn't it? Everyone leaves.
0:16:52 > 0:16:54Now you're just feeling sorry for yourself.
0:16:54 > 0:16:57It's you that's pushing people away.
0:16:57 > 0:16:59You're saying I pushed my mum away?
0:16:59 > 0:17:00No, I didn't mean that.
0:17:00 > 0:17:02Look, I've never pushed anyone away and you know that.
0:17:02 > 0:17:05People just move on and find something better than me,
0:17:05 > 0:17:07which is exactly what you've done.
0:17:08 > 0:17:13It's not better, it's just next.
0:17:13 > 0:17:18Look, you don't know Lily and you don't know me,
0:17:18 > 0:17:20so, don't judge people, right?
0:17:22 > 0:17:24But you're talking like you're the only person ever to have to
0:17:24 > 0:17:26face up to losing people.
0:17:26 > 0:17:29Tell you what, Kaz. Why don't we drop this now?
0:17:29 > 0:17:30It's too upsetting.
0:17:32 > 0:17:34It's OK. I do understand.
0:17:34 > 0:17:36It must have been difficult.
0:17:36 > 0:17:40Why don't we change the subject to something a little less sad.
0:17:40 > 0:17:43OK. How about Frank losing everything he owned
0:17:43 > 0:17:46and ending up on the streets destitute and in lots of danger.
0:17:46 > 0:17:47Perfect.
0:17:47 > 0:17:49I mean, oh, you know, poor Frank.
0:17:51 > 0:17:53I suppose we should have noticed something was up
0:17:53 > 0:17:57because even though Frank supposedly had left, he was always here.
0:17:58 > 0:18:04- I just...- Come on, inside the office now, Frank.
0:18:04 > 0:18:05It's true.
0:18:05 > 0:18:08It's hard to imagine why you would want to hang round this place
0:18:08 > 0:18:09if you had somewhere better to live.
0:18:09 > 0:18:12Actually, that's quite offensive!
0:18:13 > 0:18:19Everything is fine. I love living on my own.
0:18:19 > 0:18:22What is true is Frank's excuses for turning up
0:18:22 > 0:18:24were getting lamer and lamer.
0:18:24 > 0:18:26And to what do we owe the pleasure this time?
0:18:26 > 0:18:29I borrowed a pound off Rick.
0:18:29 > 0:18:31Cheers, mate, it could have waited though.
0:18:31 > 0:18:37And my shower's not working.
0:18:37 > 0:18:39And then it went completely the other way.
0:18:39 > 0:18:40From being always here,
0:18:40 > 0:18:43it was like Frank had vanished off the face of the earth.
0:18:43 > 0:18:45And when we went looking for him, were we in for a shock!
0:18:45 > 0:18:48- Flat's empty, no-one's there. - Well, he can't have moved out,
0:18:48 > 0:18:50- he would have told us. - Is this the right flat?
0:18:50 > 0:18:51Yes, definitely.
0:19:02 > 0:19:04- All right?- Do you know Frank Matthews?
0:19:07 > 0:19:08Who's asking?
0:19:08 > 0:19:11When you see him, tell him I want my money.
0:19:11 > 0:19:14- What money? Where is he?- Well, that's what I'd like to know.
0:19:17 > 0:19:20- What?- Where'd you get that chain?
0:19:20 > 0:19:21DOG BARKS
0:19:29 > 0:19:30Frank's in trouble.
0:19:33 > 0:19:35Whenever he'd got into a mess before,
0:19:35 > 0:19:38Frank has always used the gift of the gab to charm his way out of it.
0:19:38 > 0:19:41But this was heavy. He was way out of his depth.
0:19:42 > 0:19:45Apparently, Frank hasn't been at college.
0:19:45 > 0:19:46He's also missed appointments
0:19:46 > 0:19:47with his support worker.
0:19:47 > 0:19:49Well, when did she last see him?
0:19:49 > 0:19:51Two weeks ago.
0:19:51 > 0:19:52We've spoken to the police,
0:19:52 > 0:19:55we've filed a missing persons report,
0:19:55 > 0:19:57now we need to gather as much information as we can.
0:19:57 > 0:20:01- Who saw Frank last? - Me, but that was weeks ago.
0:20:01 > 0:20:03All right, well, what about Jade?
0:20:03 > 0:20:06I texted her and she said she hasn't seen him since they broke up.
0:20:06 > 0:20:07- They broke up?- Mm-hm.
0:20:07 > 0:20:10And then she saw him in town with another girl.
0:20:10 > 0:20:12- What girl? - She said she didn't know,
0:20:12 > 0:20:17but she did say she looked a bit, erm, dodgy.
0:20:17 > 0:20:19All right, well, you need to tell the police all this.
0:20:19 > 0:20:23They'll probably want to speak to Jade as well. Come on.
0:20:23 > 0:20:26Look, don't worry. We'll find him.
0:20:26 > 0:20:29- Yeah, all right...- I hope they find him.
0:20:29 > 0:20:31The thing is, though, that Frank was never really in danger
0:20:31 > 0:20:33because he had people looking out for him,
0:20:33 > 0:20:35who would never have let him come to any harm.
0:20:35 > 0:20:37Yeah, I know, you say that but,
0:20:37 > 0:20:40let's face it, he was living under a bridge.
0:20:40 > 0:20:42There are worse places. Believe me.
0:20:42 > 0:20:46You've been living here? Frank, you've got a flat.
0:20:46 > 0:20:48Look, Carmen, I can't go back there.
0:20:48 > 0:20:50What, cos you owe money?
0:20:50 > 0:20:54He played cards with bad people. First he won, then,
0:20:54 > 0:20:56he lost... A lot.
0:20:56 > 0:20:58How much did he lose?
0:20:58 > 0:21:01- Everything.- Not everything.
0:21:04 > 0:21:06Take it. It is a gift.
0:21:08 > 0:21:10I can't believe you did that!
0:21:11 > 0:21:15- Frank, you can't live like this. - It's OK.
0:21:15 > 0:21:18I'm going to win my money back.
0:21:18 > 0:21:19How?
0:21:21 > 0:21:24If you were all looking out for Frank like you say,
0:21:24 > 0:21:26how did you let him get into such a mess?
0:21:26 > 0:21:28It's not as simple as that.
0:21:28 > 0:21:30I think it's very simple.
0:21:30 > 0:21:33Frank's gambling habit meant he had lost everything
0:21:33 > 0:21:35and all his so-called new friends had let it happen.
0:21:36 > 0:21:39You can't bet on another card game.
0:21:39 > 0:21:41This one's different.
0:21:41 > 0:21:44Is that why you sold your watch? Buying money for a game?
0:21:44 > 0:21:49No, I'll win my money back and then I'll stop.
0:21:49 > 0:21:51Gambling can be like a disease.
0:21:51 > 0:21:54Once someone gets hooked on it, you can't just tell them to stop.
0:21:54 > 0:21:56- It's hard for them. - What a mess though!
0:21:56 > 0:21:59I mean, it was hard to know where to start to fix it.
0:21:59 > 0:22:03Well, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
0:22:03 > 0:22:04Give me the watch.
0:22:04 > 0:22:07But you said it was a gift.
0:22:07 > 0:22:10Not for you to lose at cards. I'll keep it safe for you.
0:22:12 > 0:22:15Fine.
0:22:15 > 0:22:17That's all very well but what Frank needed to get him
0:22:17 > 0:22:21out of this impossible mess was his real friends.
0:22:21 > 0:22:23I agree.
0:22:23 > 0:22:24Leave me alone.
0:22:27 > 0:22:29Can you please just tell him to come back to the Dumping Ground?
0:22:29 > 0:22:34- Dumping Ground?- Yeah, it's our home. It's better than it sounds, trust me.
0:22:34 > 0:22:36Guys, they're here!
0:22:36 > 0:22:39What a relief that was, getting Frank safely back to
0:22:39 > 0:22:41the Dumping Ground and people who really care.
0:22:41 > 0:22:43- Never do that again, OK?- Yeah.
0:22:43 > 0:22:45What, like Johnny?
0:22:45 > 0:22:48- So, you gambled all your money away, again.- Well, it's not Frank's fault.
0:22:48 > 0:22:52- He was scammed.- Now you want us to help you commit fraud?
0:22:52 > 0:22:57And Bailey. He wasn't exactly desperate to help out either.
0:22:57 > 0:22:59You don't know what you're getting yourself into.
0:22:59 > 0:23:01These people could be well messed up.
0:23:01 > 0:23:04Yeah, we're not asking for anything that risky, you know,
0:23:04 > 0:23:07just jewellery. Cheap jewellery, that looks expensive.
0:23:08 > 0:23:10Like this, do you mean?
0:23:10 > 0:23:12Good to know that there is some point in having
0:23:12 > 0:23:13so much tacky jewellery.
0:23:13 > 0:23:15I'll pretend I didn't hear that.
0:23:15 > 0:23:17This could work.
0:23:17 > 0:23:19- So, when do we do it? - Whoa, whoa... We?
0:23:19 > 0:23:21You're going to need a girl to make the scam work.
0:23:21 > 0:23:25I'm the oldest, and I've got my crutches, still.
0:23:25 > 0:23:27Now I like how she's thinking.
0:23:27 > 0:23:29I don't get it, why does she need her crutches?
0:23:29 > 0:23:32Because he's going to suspect the poor lame girl...
0:23:32 > 0:23:34So, Frank telling Faith to stop moaning
0:23:34 > 0:23:36and get on with life ended up helping him.
0:23:37 > 0:23:38Frank!
0:23:38 > 0:23:42She even used her injury to help out.
0:23:42 > 0:23:45- Frank's not here.- Can I come in?
0:23:45 > 0:23:47Please, I left something here, something really important.
0:23:47 > 0:23:51There's nothing here. The place is empty.
0:23:51 > 0:23:54Don't worry, Frank's probably looking after it.
0:23:54 > 0:23:56Looking after what?
0:23:56 > 0:23:59My engagement ring. I'll just die if I don't get it back.
0:23:59 > 0:24:01And you think Frank's got it?
0:24:01 > 0:24:04I know it's here, I've looked everywhere else.
0:24:06 > 0:24:10Call me if you find it. Please.
0:24:11 > 0:24:14- Expensive, was it?- Priceless.
0:24:14 > 0:24:18To me, I'd pay anything to get it back.
0:24:18 > 0:24:19Anything.
0:24:28 > 0:24:32- How did it go?- Faith was on fire. Where'd you learn to act like that?
0:24:32 > 0:24:34Years of lying to social workers.
0:24:34 > 0:24:37I was so impressed. All these people cared about Frank.
0:24:37 > 0:24:40And we all came together to get him out of this mess.
0:24:40 > 0:24:42- What are you doing?- Nothing.
0:24:42 > 0:24:44She just picked up something.
0:24:44 > 0:24:46Well, what is it?
0:24:48 > 0:24:52- Just a ring. - Faith's engagement ring.
0:25:05 > 0:25:08You give me that ring and I'll pay you back everything.
0:25:09 > 0:25:13- Everything?- All the money we ever won off you.
0:25:13 > 0:25:16How about that? You can share it with her if you like.
0:25:16 > 0:25:17Have I got a deal?
0:25:19 > 0:25:20Yeah.
0:25:28 > 0:25:31- Result?- Result.- Come on, let's go.
0:25:31 > 0:25:33Do you think they've tried to call me yet?
0:25:37 > 0:25:39Who is it you're after, mate?
0:25:39 > 0:25:41Faith. I need to speak to Faith.
0:25:41 > 0:25:44Wrong number, mate.
0:25:45 > 0:25:47I must have the number wrong.
0:25:47 > 0:25:50Danny, what happened to your chain?
0:25:56 > 0:25:59- Frank!- That was quicker than I thought...
0:25:59 > 0:26:01- Maybe they want this? - How do you do that?
0:26:01 > 0:26:03Who cares? Run!
0:26:03 > 0:26:06You must have been relieved when everything got sorted out.
0:26:06 > 0:26:09Yeah, I knew my luck had to change.
0:26:09 > 0:26:11Luck! That wasn't luck.
0:26:11 > 0:26:14That was loads of people going out of their way to help you.
0:26:14 > 0:26:16Yeah. Lucky me.
0:26:16 > 0:26:18Frank Matthews. You're impossible.
0:26:18 > 0:26:19Yep.
0:26:21 > 0:26:24So, what have we learnt about tough challenges to
0:26:24 > 0:26:27upload into the Dumping Ground Survival Files?
0:26:27 > 0:26:31There are all sorts of challenges life throws at us.
0:26:31 > 0:26:33It can be something really hard that you have to do,
0:26:33 > 0:26:35like Johnny's half marathon.
0:26:35 > 0:26:38It can be something you don't know how to tell someone.
0:26:38 > 0:26:41Like Lily when she had to tell me she was moving away.
0:26:41 > 0:26:44Or Mike when he had to tell Carmen she had to share a room.
0:26:44 > 0:26:47It seems many people have trouble telling Carmen stuff
0:26:47 > 0:26:48she doesn't want to hear.
0:26:48 > 0:26:50Moving on...
0:26:50 > 0:26:52It's best to face up to things you're dreading.
0:26:52 > 0:26:55If it's something you're going to have to do eventually,
0:26:55 > 0:26:56why not tackle it today?
0:26:56 > 0:26:58But that's often easier said than done.
0:26:58 > 0:27:00As May Li can tell you.
0:27:02 > 0:27:05There are some challenges, though, that are just too big for one person.
0:27:05 > 0:27:07And then you need help.
0:27:07 > 0:27:09Frank might have been telling Faith stuff
0:27:09 > 0:27:10she didn't want to hear at the time
0:27:10 > 0:27:14but he helped her face up to the challenge of life after her injury.
0:27:14 > 0:27:17And she repaid the favour when we all pulled together to help
0:27:17 > 0:27:21Frank get out of what seemed like an impossible situation.
0:27:21 > 0:27:24That's the lowdown on facing up to challenges safely
0:27:24 > 0:27:27uploaded into the Dumping Ground Survival Files.
0:27:29 > 0:27:32Good luck with the tough challenges in your life. And remember...
0:27:32 > 0:27:34We've been through all this,
0:27:34 > 0:27:35so you don't have to.