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0:00:03 > 0:00:07My name is Tracy Beaker and these are my Survival Files.

0:00:07 > 0:00:11Your essential guide to the ups and downs of growing up.

0:00:11 > 0:00:14- Tracy.- Tracy!

0:00:14 > 0:00:17Life in the Dumping Ground has taught me a lot about stuff.

0:00:17 > 0:00:20- Tracy Beaker.- Scary stuff.

0:00:22 > 0:00:25Complicated stuff.

0:00:25 > 0:00:27Stuff that can make you want to scream.

0:00:27 > 0:00:31If you can cope with the stuff that goes down in this place,

0:00:31 > 0:00:33you can cope with anything.

0:00:33 > 0:00:37I've spent most of my life here. When I was a kid.

0:00:37 > 0:00:38Now, it's where I work.

0:00:38 > 0:00:42I've learnt a lot about friends.

0:00:42 > 0:00:44About enemies.

0:00:46 > 0:00:49About what life can throw at you.

0:00:52 > 0:00:55It's not always been pretty.

0:00:55 > 0:00:57But it's made me who I am today.

0:00:57 > 0:01:01And now, I'm passing on my wisdom to you guys, in a video blog.

0:01:01 > 0:01:06Pay attention, I've lived through all this so you don't have to.

0:01:08 > 0:01:12On The Tracy Beaker Survival Files this time, what makes us angry?

0:01:12 > 0:01:15Should we let it all out when we get cross?

0:01:15 > 0:01:19How to keep your cool when you're about to blow your top.

0:01:21 > 0:01:24Let me tell you a secret.

0:01:24 > 0:01:27It's hard to believe, but I wasn't always the chilled,

0:01:27 > 0:01:30calm, well-balanced person that I am today.

0:01:30 > 0:01:32Some people even called me angry.

0:01:32 > 0:01:34You never let me eat sweets.

0:01:34 > 0:01:37You're wimps about horror videos.

0:01:37 > 0:01:39Your kitchen stunk of wet dog!

0:01:39 > 0:01:43And I never want to see you, ever again!

0:01:43 > 0:01:45Anything could set me off.

0:01:45 > 0:01:49I got angry about the important things, like a rejection

0:01:49 > 0:01:51from another foster family.

0:01:51 > 0:01:55- I asked to be brought back!- You're just such a big fat liar.- Argh!

0:01:55 > 0:01:57Aaah!

0:01:57 > 0:02:00Sometimes, it was the small stuff that got to me.

0:02:00 > 0:02:02This is MY room, whoever's in it

0:02:02 > 0:02:05can pack up her scratchy stuff and clear off!

0:02:05 > 0:02:09Sorry, chicken, I can't do that.

0:02:09 > 0:02:12NOOOOOOOOOOOW!

0:02:17 > 0:02:19At least I knew how to apologise.

0:02:19 > 0:02:21SORRY!

0:02:21 > 0:02:24- OK?!- Ha-ha-ha-ha!

0:02:24 > 0:02:27Now, I save my anger for the really big stuff,

0:02:27 > 0:02:29like unfairness or injustice.

0:02:29 > 0:02:33Or people borrowing your clothes and shrinking them.

0:02:34 > 0:02:38So, you just go into my room and help yourself?

0:02:38 > 0:02:42- Yeah.- Then brought it here and trashed it?- It was an accident.

0:02:42 > 0:02:47- Sorry. We were just washing it.- I don't want to hear it.

0:02:47 > 0:02:51'Sometimes we all feel like exploding and hitting the roof.

0:02:51 > 0:02:53'All of us, even Mike.'

0:02:54 > 0:02:59'Mike's probably the kindest, most caring man I've ever met.

0:02:59 > 0:03:01'But don't tell him I said that.

0:03:01 > 0:03:04'I like to keep him on his toes.

0:03:04 > 0:03:07'Mike has a lot to put up with at the Dumping Ground.

0:03:07 > 0:03:09'He's usually really patient.

0:03:09 > 0:03:11'He hardly even raises his voice.

0:03:11 > 0:03:16'But when he does blow his top, you'd better dive for cover.'

0:03:16 > 0:03:18This had better be good.

0:03:18 > 0:03:21You are in serious trouble.

0:03:30 > 0:03:34OK, Mike, much-loved care worker, imaginative chef,

0:03:34 > 0:03:39unimaginable guitar player, what kind of thing makes you angry?

0:03:39 > 0:03:43What? Apart from people not appreciating my magical culinary

0:03:43 > 0:03:45and musical skills?

0:03:45 > 0:03:49- Yeah, cos you must be used to that by now.- True, ha-ha!

0:03:49 > 0:03:53I suppose the thing that makes me most angry is when the people

0:03:53 > 0:03:57I really care about are hurt by the thoughtlessness of others.

0:03:57 > 0:03:58Such as?

0:03:58 > 0:04:01Well, like when Frank's grandad died

0:04:01 > 0:04:04and no-one could be bothered to let him know.

0:04:04 > 0:04:07He actually died nearly a week ago.

0:04:07 > 0:04:11- The funeral was yesterday, I'm sorry.- They didn't tell me!

0:04:11 > 0:04:15- The hospital organised it. - He'd got nobody else.

0:04:15 > 0:04:18The funeral was important. What's more important is...

0:04:18 > 0:04:22- I should've been there.- ..is the time you spent with him.

0:04:22 > 0:04:26- The visits, the phone calls. - He was my grandad.- I know.

0:04:26 > 0:04:30- Fine, look. - Leave me alone.- Frank!

0:04:30 > 0:04:31It's your fault!

0:04:33 > 0:04:34If that wasn't bad enough, the cemetery said

0:04:34 > 0:04:38that Frank's grandad couldn't have a headstone.

0:04:38 > 0:04:40Poor lad's lost the only relative he had

0:04:40 > 0:04:44and all I'm getting from them are rules and excuses.

0:04:44 > 0:04:47It was so ignorant. It really made my blood boil.

0:04:47 > 0:04:51You're just making excuses now!

0:04:53 > 0:04:57This is an absolute disgrace!

0:04:57 > 0:04:59You've met lots of kids over the years,

0:04:59 > 0:05:02many with behavioural problems.

0:05:02 > 0:05:04Think hard and answer honestly.

0:05:04 > 0:05:06Out of all those kids,

0:05:06 > 0:05:10who would you say was the one with the worst temper?

0:05:11 > 0:05:16YOUNG TRACY: 'She started it... Noooo... I hate you...'

0:05:17 > 0:05:22I can't say that anyone particularly stands out.

0:05:22 > 0:05:26'Hmm. Not as much insight as I'd hoped for from Mike.

0:05:26 > 0:05:29'Let's see if any of the Dumping Ground young people

0:05:29 > 0:05:31'can come up with anything better.'

0:05:31 > 0:05:36People who make promises and don't keep them. That makes me angry.

0:05:36 > 0:05:40What makes me angry? One word. Rules.

0:05:40 > 0:05:44Things that make me angry. Oh, I don't know.

0:05:44 > 0:05:47How about people sticking cameras in my face

0:05:47 > 0:05:49and asking me stupid questions?!

0:05:49 > 0:05:51That makes me angry.

0:05:51 > 0:05:55'Some people have so much anger that they don't like

0:05:55 > 0:06:00'to talk about it, cos they're afraid of getting out of control.'

0:06:07 > 0:06:10What makes you angry, Gus?

0:06:10 > 0:06:13There are three things that make me quite angry.

0:06:13 > 0:06:15One thing that makes me more angry

0:06:15 > 0:06:18and one thing that makes me very angry.

0:06:18 > 0:06:21The things that make me quite angry are, one,

0:06:21 > 0:06:25when people talk during my piano practice.

0:06:25 > 0:06:26- Gus, Gus.- Wait!

0:06:26 > 0:06:31Two, when people mess about with the toilet when I need a 'just in case.'

0:06:31 > 0:06:33There's no lock on the toilet!

0:06:38 > 0:06:39Look.

0:06:39 > 0:06:43Three, when people move my pencils.

0:06:46 > 0:06:47Tight.

0:06:47 > 0:06:52The thing that makes me more angry is when people touch my notebooks.

0:06:52 > 0:06:54Let me write down our number for you.

0:06:54 > 0:06:57- Oh.- Can I borrow this? Sonny?

0:06:58 > 0:07:01And the thing that makes me very angry

0:07:01 > 0:07:03is when people make me late,

0:07:03 > 0:07:05like on my audition day.

0:07:05 > 0:07:06Remember?

0:07:06 > 0:07:10How could I forget that? It wasn't exactly my finest hour.

0:07:10 > 0:07:12I don't want to make a quick stop.

0:07:12 > 0:07:17I have...39 minutes and 30 seconds till my audition.

0:07:17 > 0:07:20'I was supposed to be taking Gus to an audition,

0:07:20 > 0:07:22'but got caught up with Lily.'

0:07:24 > 0:07:26Start the car.

0:07:26 > 0:07:27Wait. Lily, come with me.

0:07:27 > 0:07:31We have 23 minutes till my audition, we HAVE to leave.

0:07:31 > 0:07:35You'll get to your audition, I promise. We'll be right back.

0:07:35 > 0:07:37How long is right?

0:07:38 > 0:07:40Lily, this is your big chance.

0:07:40 > 0:07:44Say sorry, and remember, Matt and Christie are in charge.

0:07:44 > 0:07:48'I was trying to help her. I thought I could persuade Lily's

0:07:48 > 0:07:51'foster parents to take her back,

0:07:51 > 0:07:53'so she could be with her sisters.'

0:07:53 > 0:07:55- Lily!- Lily!

0:07:58 > 0:08:00I'm sorry, I had to show you.

0:08:00 > 0:08:03Lily's learnt her lesson, let her prove it

0:08:03 > 0:08:07- and keep the family together. - My wife told you...- Lily?

0:08:07 > 0:08:09Have you got something to say?

0:08:09 > 0:08:13- Yeah, Poppy doesn't like tuna.- Lily!

0:08:13 > 0:08:16- You don't have to eat it. - She likes it.

0:08:16 > 0:08:18She doesn't. Why did you give her tuna?

0:08:18 > 0:08:22I told you she doesn't like it. You made her cry.

0:08:22 > 0:08:24'This is not how it was meant to go.

0:08:24 > 0:08:27'Everyone was blowing their tops.'

0:08:27 > 0:08:28No!

0:08:28 > 0:08:32'Matt was furious that we'd gone there.'

0:08:32 > 0:08:33No! Please, I won't do it any more!

0:08:33 > 0:08:37'Lily was frantic because it had gone all wrong.'

0:08:39 > 0:08:42'Even the cab driver was getting cross.'

0:08:42 > 0:08:44I've got to be at the airport in an hour.

0:08:44 > 0:08:48'And poor Gus was beside himself.'

0:08:48 > 0:08:51- 13 minutes and 45 seconds. - Gus, calm down, please.

0:08:51 > 0:08:53Is it the music school or not?

0:08:53 > 0:08:56Gus, it's all right. Can we go now, please?

0:08:56 > 0:09:01- All right.- Only 13 minutes and 45 seconds.

0:09:01 > 0:09:04The last thing I wanted to do was upset Gus,

0:09:04 > 0:09:06but I should've known better.

0:09:06 > 0:09:10Gus likes to feel in control. When things get out of control,

0:09:10 > 0:09:11he gets anxious.

0:09:11 > 0:09:14When Gus gets anxious, look out for fireworks.

0:09:21 > 0:09:24- Right, Gus, you leg it in and...- No!- But we're here.

0:09:24 > 0:09:28- It's 12:46.- We're only a minute late.- No!

0:09:28 > 0:09:33The longer we argue about it, the later you're going to be.

0:09:33 > 0:09:34I'm not arguing and we're not going!

0:09:34 > 0:09:37- Back to Elm Tree House? - No.- Yes!

0:09:37 > 0:09:40You worked really hard, just go in and do it.

0:09:40 > 0:09:42It'll take three minutes from the door to the loo.

0:09:42 > 0:09:45Two minutes for my 'just in case'.

0:09:45 > 0:09:47Two minutes to get to the school hall.

0:09:47 > 0:09:50And two minutes to position my piano stool.

0:09:50 > 0:09:52That's too many minutes!

0:09:52 > 0:09:55- But I'll... - I've missed my slot.

0:09:55 > 0:09:57I can't cross it off my list.

0:09:57 > 0:10:00Everything's gone wrong! Everything!

0:10:00 > 0:10:04- Can we just go back...? - Back to Elm Tree House.

0:10:07 > 0:10:11'All that anger, all that stress. And it was all because of me.

0:10:11 > 0:10:16'I'd ruined everyone's day because I hadn't thought things through.

0:10:16 > 0:10:18'So, I got furious too, with myself.

0:10:20 > 0:10:23'Whatever I did that day, I meant it for the best.

0:10:23 > 0:10:26'I wanted to sort out Lily's problems.

0:10:26 > 0:10:30'Sometimes, the best intentions can go horribly wrong.

0:10:30 > 0:10:33'Take Johnny, he's always trying to do the right thing,

0:10:33 > 0:10:37'but when things go against him, his anger can take over.'

0:10:37 > 0:10:41'One moment, he'll be helping with the washing up.

0:10:41 > 0:10:44'Next, he's shouting up a storm to make us pay attention.'

0:10:44 > 0:10:47Johnny! Johnny, calm down!

0:10:47 > 0:10:50- Get off me! - This isn't going to help!

0:10:50 > 0:10:53- Get off me! - This isn't helping.

0:10:53 > 0:10:56- What's going on?- Get off me!

0:10:56 > 0:10:57Aaaah!

0:10:57 > 0:11:00Oh!

0:11:00 > 0:11:01I'm so sorry.

0:11:01 > 0:11:04What kind of thing makes you angry, Johnny?

0:11:04 > 0:11:07I don't mean to get angry, I just get frustrated.

0:11:07 > 0:11:10It's understandable that you do.

0:11:10 > 0:11:13Everybody feels like letting it all out sometimes.

0:11:13 > 0:11:15- I don't get angry!- Easy, tiger.

0:11:15 > 0:11:20When you get frustrated, you can be a bit scary to be around.

0:11:20 > 0:11:21Yeah, I know.

0:11:23 > 0:11:26'Yeah, very scary. Even violent.'

0:11:26 > 0:11:28What's up with you?

0:11:32 > 0:11:33Argh!

0:11:35 > 0:11:39Look, look at my plant. Who did this?

0:11:39 > 0:11:42At first, I was annoyed about my plant.

0:11:42 > 0:11:45When I found out what had happened, I was more worried

0:11:45 > 0:11:50about Johnny, because he always does these things for a reason.

0:11:50 > 0:11:53He's got so much anger inside of him.

0:11:53 > 0:11:56- Sometimes, he's just going to explode.- I've noticed.

0:11:56 > 0:12:00He's got to let his feelings out, sometime.

0:12:00 > 0:12:03Where do you think all his anger comes from?

0:12:03 > 0:12:05His past.

0:12:05 > 0:12:09His mum's boyfriend used to punish him for the smallest

0:12:09 > 0:12:13little thing and he would try so hard, but it never worked.

0:12:16 > 0:12:18All he wants is to be loved.

0:12:18 > 0:12:22That's why he's so desperate to find him and Tee a foster family.

0:12:22 > 0:12:25But, you know yourself, it's not easy.

0:12:25 > 0:12:28- You've thieved that foster placement.- I never.

0:12:28 > 0:12:31You had a foster home and you turned them down!

0:12:31 > 0:12:34- Now you're stealing me and Tee's place!- Johnny!

0:12:34 > 0:12:38Why does she get the chances? When's it our turn?

0:12:39 > 0:12:42I know we're supposed to make allowances for Johnny,

0:12:42 > 0:12:45because he's had a tough time, but what about us?

0:12:45 > 0:12:48None of us have exactly had it easy.

0:12:50 > 0:12:52- Don't you ever hit me again.- Ow!

0:12:52 > 0:12:55- Carmen!- I'll get you.- Ow, ow!

0:12:55 > 0:12:57- Get off!- Carmen!- Ow!- Stop it!

0:12:57 > 0:13:00Johnny does get a bit cross sometimes.

0:13:00 > 0:13:04That's only because he cares so much about stuff, like getting

0:13:04 > 0:13:08fostered, or the time when I climbed the tree and he blamed you.

0:13:08 > 0:13:10Yeah, don't remind me.

0:13:10 > 0:13:13Tee, please come down!

0:13:13 > 0:13:16Really, deep down, you don't want to be up there, do you?

0:13:16 > 0:13:18It is high. But I have to prove that

0:13:18 > 0:13:21I'm not just Johnny's little sister.

0:13:21 > 0:13:23I don't always do what he tells me.

0:13:23 > 0:13:25It wasn't your fault.

0:13:25 > 0:13:29I just wanted to be more independent, so I climbed the tree.

0:13:29 > 0:13:30Nobody made me do it.

0:13:30 > 0:13:34That's not what Johnny thought at the time.

0:13:34 > 0:13:38Tee, grab my hand. You have to.

0:13:38 > 0:13:39I'm slipping.

0:13:49 > 0:13:51- Tee!- Aah!

0:13:52 > 0:13:55'Tee was OK, thank goodness.

0:13:55 > 0:13:57'We knew what was coming next, though.'

0:13:57 > 0:14:00- My sister could've been killed.- Back off.

0:14:00 > 0:14:04- Tracy didn't make Tee climb the tree.- She did. Ask her.

0:14:04 > 0:14:06She caused all of this.

0:14:06 > 0:14:09She's a stupid, big-headed idiot,

0:14:09 > 0:14:11who'll never be good at anything.

0:14:11 > 0:14:14Writing books, working here, anything!

0:14:16 > 0:14:17Tee, are you OK?

0:14:19 > 0:14:23Your shift's over. Why don't you go home and never come back?

0:14:28 > 0:14:32I never mean to lose it, it just happens.

0:14:32 > 0:14:37Sometimes, it's like I'm outside of myself, watching someone else.

0:14:37 > 0:14:41And then I calm down and I'm back to normal. It's weird.

0:14:41 > 0:14:43Tracy? I, um...

0:14:43 > 0:14:46I didn't mean what I said yesterday.

0:14:46 > 0:14:49I think you're really good at working here.

0:14:51 > 0:14:53I don't blame Johnny.

0:14:53 > 0:14:57When he goes off on one, he says things he doesn't mean.

0:14:57 > 0:15:00He regrets it afterwards. That's what anger can do to you.

0:15:00 > 0:15:03But you can find people to help.

0:15:03 > 0:15:05So, what have we learnt so far

0:15:05 > 0:15:09about anger to upload into the Tracy Beaker Survival Files?

0:15:09 > 0:15:11Three big discoveries, I'd say.

0:15:11 > 0:15:15One. When people get angry, sometimes the reason is obvious,

0:15:15 > 0:15:18like someone from the council being a jobsworth.

0:15:18 > 0:15:21Or a misplaced bottle of Liam-ade.

0:15:21 > 0:15:25But sometimes, it's harder to work out why somebody keeps losing it.

0:15:25 > 0:15:29To find the real cause of the anger, you may have to dig deep.

0:15:29 > 0:15:31That's true with Johnny.

0:15:31 > 0:15:36Two. When people are angry, they often say things they don't mean.

0:15:36 > 0:15:38That's true with Johnny too.

0:15:38 > 0:15:41The worst thing you can do is get angry back.

0:15:41 > 0:15:43That doesn't help anybody.

0:15:43 > 0:15:46And big discovery number three.

0:15:46 > 0:15:49Don't ever, ever mess with Gus's routine.

0:15:49 > 0:15:51EVER!

0:15:56 > 0:15:59Another thing about anger, it can be contagious.

0:15:59 > 0:16:04One day, when I was a teenager, anger spread through

0:16:04 > 0:16:08the Dumping Ground like a virus.

0:16:08 > 0:16:12'It all started with Shelley, who was in charge at the time.

0:16:12 > 0:16:15'She was furious with one of the staff.'

0:16:15 > 0:16:18NA-THAAAAN!

0:16:20 > 0:16:23'His name was Nathan, by the way.

0:16:23 > 0:16:25'He was like a big brother to us kids.

0:16:25 > 0:16:28'Always up for a game and a laugh.

0:16:28 > 0:16:31'Never did any chores, which used to drive Shelley crazy.'

0:16:31 > 0:16:33Burning the ironing!

0:16:38 > 0:16:40'Nathan tried, bless him.

0:16:40 > 0:16:41'But not hard enough.

0:16:41 > 0:16:43'Two minutes in the laundry room

0:16:43 > 0:16:46'and he managed to ruin the T-shirt

0:16:46 > 0:16:48'that Cam had sent me from New York.'

0:16:48 > 0:16:50Idiot! 'I was not happy.'

0:16:50 > 0:16:51I'll buy you a new top.

0:16:51 > 0:16:54You can't buy one like that! It was special!

0:16:54 > 0:16:58- I'm trying to watch something. - Cool iron, can't you read?

0:16:58 > 0:17:02- Shut up about your stupid T-shirt! - Who asked you to butt in?

0:17:02 > 0:17:05"Someone sent me a T-shirt from New York, I'm so special!"

0:17:05 > 0:17:08Uh-oh. Crash alert. We used to be good mates.

0:17:08 > 0:17:10He was my best mate for a while.

0:17:10 > 0:17:14Crash was brilliant, but he had a right temper on him.

0:17:14 > 0:17:18Some days, he'd just lose it. This was one of those days.

0:17:18 > 0:17:20'And when Crash had one of his angry days,

0:17:20 > 0:17:23'it was best to hide anything breakable.'

0:17:23 > 0:17:27- Duke, he won't give me the milk.- Give Tracy the milk.

0:17:27 > 0:17:32- Ah. He got milk all over me! - Crash, for goodness sake.

0:17:33 > 0:17:35Arrrgh!

0:17:35 > 0:17:38'No time for crying over spilt sugar.'

0:17:38 > 0:17:42You should take it out of his pocket money.

0:17:42 > 0:17:45'Things were about to get worse. Much worse.'

0:17:46 > 0:17:48- Arrgh!- Woah.

0:17:52 > 0:17:55Whoa! If I'd done that, I'd have been grounded forever.

0:17:55 > 0:17:58But because it was Crash, everyone worried about him instead.

0:18:03 > 0:18:06'It was so unfair. I was a victim of furniture rage.

0:18:06 > 0:18:09'Not to mention clothing abuse.

0:18:09 > 0:18:12'But no-one seemed bothered about me at all.'

0:18:13 > 0:18:18- How's Crash?- Well, he seems to have calmed down a bit.- Crash!

0:18:18 > 0:18:21What about me? I could have been hurt.

0:18:21 > 0:18:24- There are more important things.- What about this?

0:18:24 > 0:18:28Maybe you'd better replace the incompetent staff,

0:18:28 > 0:18:31before they do more damage.

0:18:31 > 0:18:34'The next thing I knew, the window-smasher

0:18:34 > 0:18:38'and the shirt-burner were having a cosy chat.

0:18:38 > 0:18:41'Thinking up new ways to torture me, no doubt.

0:18:41 > 0:18:45'I decided to do a bit of snooping.'

0:18:45 > 0:18:49- I don't want to hurt people.- I know.

0:18:49 > 0:18:51I get angry. Just like him.

0:18:51 > 0:18:53You're not like your dad.

0:18:53 > 0:18:56I wanted to hurt Tracy.

0:18:56 > 0:18:58But you didn't.

0:18:58 > 0:19:02You only damaged things, not people.

0:19:09 > 0:19:12'So, that was why Crash got so wound-up.

0:19:12 > 0:19:14'His dad was an angry, violent man.'

0:19:14 > 0:19:16You're not like him.

0:19:16 > 0:19:19'And that was why Crash ended up in the Dumping Ground

0:19:19 > 0:19:21'in the first place.

0:19:21 > 0:19:22'Despite his childhood,

0:19:22 > 0:19:26'Crash was determined not to end up like his dad.

0:19:26 > 0:19:29'He didn't want to hurt anyone. That was pretty big.

0:19:29 > 0:19:31'It made me feel pretty small.

0:19:33 > 0:19:36But what could we do to help Crash deal with his anger?'

0:19:36 > 0:19:39ELAINE: And we're walking through a meadow,

0:19:39 > 0:19:41full of lovely flowers.

0:19:43 > 0:19:47Towards the beautiful mountain.

0:19:47 > 0:19:51'Crash's bad day was about to get worse,

0:19:51 > 0:19:54'when Elaine decided to help him with his feelings.'

0:20:05 > 0:20:06It's a waste of time.

0:20:06 > 0:20:10- Perhaps we're not trying hard enough.- I do try.

0:20:10 > 0:20:14Things got really out-of-hand. Someone might have got hurt.

0:20:16 > 0:20:20We wondered if you might be happier somewhere else?

0:20:20 > 0:20:21DUKE: No.

0:20:23 > 0:20:25Oh, how could you be so dumb?

0:20:25 > 0:20:28Nathan, haven't you got the washing to do?

0:20:28 > 0:20:30This is more important.

0:20:32 > 0:20:37Think of a beautiful scene. The blue sky and the...

0:20:39 > 0:20:42I had to do something, before Elaine's anger management

0:20:42 > 0:20:45training made the whole Dumping Ground kill each other.

0:20:45 > 0:20:48It was time for anger therapy, Beaker style.

0:20:48 > 0:20:50First, I got Nathan on board.

0:20:50 > 0:20:52- Will you help me with something?- I've got to do this.

0:20:52 > 0:20:54It's really important.

0:20:56 > 0:20:59'Next, a decoy to get Duke out of the kitchen.'

0:20:59 > 0:21:04There's squirrels in the garden eating all your vegetables!

0:21:07 > 0:21:10Chipped.

0:21:10 > 0:21:11Not chipped.

0:21:14 > 0:21:16Cracked.

0:21:16 > 0:21:18'Then for the tricky bit.'

0:21:20 > 0:21:21Get out.

0:21:27 > 0:21:29Throw it at me.

0:21:29 > 0:21:31I won't duck.

0:21:33 > 0:21:35Look, I'm a show-off and a pain

0:21:35 > 0:21:38and I'm really, really sorry I made you mad.

0:21:40 > 0:21:43All right, I'm the biggest pain in the world.

0:21:43 > 0:21:46Worse than Shelley with the nit comb?

0:21:46 > 0:21:48Even worse than Elaine the pain?

0:21:50 > 0:21:54- Nobody's worse than Elaine the Pain.- Agreed.

0:21:54 > 0:21:56Now, come with me.

0:21:59 > 0:22:01# Da-dah! #

0:22:01 > 0:22:05- It's for you.- Is this a joke or something?- Crash.

0:22:05 > 0:22:07It's a Crash cupboard.

0:22:09 > 0:22:10Hmm?

0:22:11 > 0:22:14- Crasssh... - It's good, isn't it?

0:22:14 > 0:22:17- Wow!- Wait.

0:22:17 > 0:22:19Everyone, behind the door.

0:22:19 > 0:22:21Come on, lads.

0:22:29 > 0:22:32# Go, Crash. Go, Crash. Go, Crash

0:22:32 > 0:22:34# Go, Crash. Go, Crash. #

0:22:34 > 0:22:36Nathan!

0:22:36 > 0:22:41You've been making playhouses when I told you to do the chores!

0:22:41 > 0:22:43- It's not a playhouse.- Not now.

0:22:43 > 0:22:46- Nathan, I am sick and...- Try it.

0:22:46 > 0:22:49# Go, Shelley. Go, Shelley

0:22:49 > 0:22:51# Go, Shelley. Go, Shelley

0:22:51 > 0:22:55# Go, Shelley. Go, Shelley. #

0:23:02 > 0:23:04Yeah!

0:23:04 > 0:23:07That's what you might call a smashing solution

0:23:07 > 0:23:09to the anger problem... Yeah, sorry.

0:23:09 > 0:23:12# Go, Crash. Go, Crash. Go, Crash. #

0:23:12 > 0:23:13Yeah!

0:23:13 > 0:23:15Once you're grown-up,

0:23:15 > 0:23:18you're supposed to control your emotions.

0:23:18 > 0:23:22You can't shout at people. You can't even throw a plate.

0:23:22 > 0:23:25You have to handle your feelings on your own.

0:23:25 > 0:23:28Being an adult means being strong and brave,

0:23:28 > 0:23:30and sometimes kind of lonely.

0:23:39 > 0:23:42Can you please just all get out of here?

0:23:42 > 0:23:44Fine! Organise your own office!

0:23:47 > 0:23:49'I really felt all at sea.

0:23:49 > 0:23:52'And angry with the way my life was going.

0:23:52 > 0:23:57'Cam was away, boyfriend issues, and work was doing my head in.

0:23:57 > 0:24:01'I wasn't sure how long I'd be able to keep it together.

0:24:01 > 0:24:04'In the old days, when things got on top of me,

0:24:04 > 0:24:07'I'd let it out in a massive shouting fit.

0:24:07 > 0:24:11'But when you're a mature, respected career woman, things change.

0:24:11 > 0:24:15'A door-slamming, full-on tantrum is not an option.

0:24:15 > 0:24:16'Apparently.

0:24:16 > 0:24:19'So, I tried to bottle it all up.'

0:24:19 > 0:24:21I can't breathe.

0:24:21 > 0:24:23'It didn't go well.'

0:24:24 > 0:24:28- Cup of tea, lovely.- I'm so sorry.

0:24:28 > 0:24:33- I don't know what's wrong with me.- You've had a panic attack.

0:24:33 > 0:24:37You'll be OK in a few minutes. Just try and calm yourself.

0:24:37 > 0:24:40A panic attack?

0:24:40 > 0:24:45Tracy...is everything all right?

0:24:46 > 0:24:52I don't know. I'm fine. Things are just piling up, I guess.

0:24:55 > 0:24:57Cam's staying in New York.

0:24:57 > 0:24:58Really?

0:25:00 > 0:25:04Six months. I've never seen her so excited.

0:25:04 > 0:25:06How do you feel about it?

0:25:08 > 0:25:11When people we love do things we don't expect,

0:25:11 > 0:25:16things we'd rather they didn't do, that can make us upset.

0:25:16 > 0:25:21- Angry.- I'm not angry. - No, no, I know, I know.

0:25:21 > 0:25:24But I can remember a young Tracy Beaker who,

0:25:24 > 0:25:29when she would get upset with people, would get very, very angry.

0:25:31 > 0:25:34Now, this grown-up Tracy Beaker may not get so angry.

0:25:34 > 0:25:37Thank goodness for that, eh? Ha-ha!

0:25:39 > 0:25:44But perhaps she still hasn't quite learnt how to express it

0:25:44 > 0:25:46when she's upset.

0:25:46 > 0:25:48Talking, you mean?

0:25:49 > 0:25:53When someone loves you, really loves you, you can tell them

0:25:53 > 0:25:57that you're upset with them, you know.

0:25:58 > 0:25:59They won't go away.

0:26:07 > 0:26:09Is growing up always this hard?

0:26:12 > 0:26:15Only when you care about things so much.

0:26:26 > 0:26:29'What can I tell you about anger to upload

0:26:29 > 0:26:31'into the Tracy Beaker Survival Files?

0:26:31 > 0:26:34'First, it's perfectly normal to get angry

0:26:34 > 0:26:36'and it happens to all of us.

0:26:36 > 0:26:39'Remember, you're not the only person who feels

0:26:39 > 0:26:42'that way, but think about other people.

0:26:42 > 0:26:44'If you get angry, you might upset them,

0:26:44 > 0:26:48'you'll make them sad, or maybe they'll get angry with you.

0:26:48 > 0:26:52'Sometimes, when someone gets angry, it's easy to work out why.

0:26:52 > 0:26:56'Something bad has happened to them and they react.

0:26:56 > 0:26:58'We all do it, it's normal, healthy even.

0:26:58 > 0:27:01'But when people seem to be angry all the time,

0:27:01 > 0:27:04'usually it's about something deeper.

0:27:04 > 0:27:07'Maybe they don't know why they're angry,

0:27:07 > 0:27:09'or they don't want to face up to it.

0:27:09 > 0:27:12'Part of growing up is learning not to scream

0:27:12 > 0:27:15'all the time when you don't get your way.

0:27:15 > 0:27:18'Sometimes, we get so good at not getting angry that we

0:27:18 > 0:27:23'end up bottling things up inside, and that can do more harm than good.

0:27:23 > 0:27:26'So, if something is making you angry,

0:27:26 > 0:27:30'the best thing is to explain your problem to someone

0:27:30 > 0:27:33'who'll understand and keep your cool if you can.'

0:27:34 > 0:27:38'That's the Beaker guide to anger safely uploaded to

0:27:38 > 0:27:41'the Tracy Beaker Survival Files.'

0:27:42 > 0:27:46More gems of wisdom from my experiences next time.

0:27:46 > 0:27:48You'll be furious if you miss it.

0:27:48 > 0:27:52Remember, I've been through all this so you don't have to.

0:27:52 > 0:27:55# Don't look back in anger

0:27:58 > 0:27:59# I heard you say

0:28:06 > 0:28:08# At least not today. #