Love You to Death: A Year of Domestic Violence

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0:00:02 > 0:00:07This programme contains some strong language

0:00:07 > 0:00:11and scenes which some viewers may find upsetting.

0:00:11 > 0:00:12She was my auntie.

0:00:20 > 0:00:22She was one of my best friends from school.

0:00:30 > 0:00:32Chantelle was my daughter.

0:00:32 > 0:00:34She was my next-door neighbour.

0:00:38 > 0:00:40She was my little sister.

0:00:40 > 0:00:42She was my mum.

0:01:10 > 0:01:13Janelle Duncan Bailey, 25.

0:01:14 > 0:01:16Akua Agyeman, 32.

0:01:17 > 0:01:20Anastasia Voykina, 23.

0:01:20 > 0:01:23Suzanne Newton, 45.

0:01:23 > 0:01:25Myrna Kirby, 57.

0:01:25 > 0:01:28Virginja Jurkiene, 49.

0:01:28 > 0:01:30Debbie Levey, 44.

0:01:30 > 0:01:34Samantha Medland, 24.

0:01:34 > 0:01:36Ganimete Hoti, 42.

0:01:36 > 0:01:39Alexis Durant, 42.

0:01:57 > 0:02:00It always really annoys me when something happens with somebody,

0:02:00 > 0:02:04how suddenly they become the most genuine, lovely,

0:02:04 > 0:02:06wonderful person in the world, when not everybody can be.

0:02:06 > 0:02:08Does that make sense?

0:02:08 > 0:02:11But this girl, like, so real...

0:02:13 > 0:02:17- So clumsy and dopey. She was so dopey, wasn't she?- Yeah.

0:02:17 > 0:02:20The things she used to come out with.

0:02:20 > 0:02:23I know! We were like, "Did she just definitely say that?"

0:02:23 > 0:02:25Did she definitely just say that?

0:02:25 > 0:02:28In the middle of town in front of everyone. Perfect.

0:02:30 > 0:02:33I knew her from working with her in the care home.

0:02:33 > 0:02:35I remember when she first started, then,

0:02:35 > 0:02:38obviously, like, I wear fake tan and stuff, and she was like,

0:02:38 > 0:02:39"Oh, let's go shopping."

0:02:39 > 0:02:42And she spent about £100 on, like, fake eyelashes, fake tan

0:02:42 > 0:02:46and everything, and then whenever we went out, I'd always have to

0:02:46 > 0:02:49fake-tan all her legs and then she'd always get drunk and spill her drink

0:02:49 > 0:02:53and she'd have white lines all down her legs.

0:02:53 > 0:02:55Oh, it used to make me laugh.

0:02:57 > 0:03:02When she was 19, Kirsty had a baby girl called Brooke

0:03:02 > 0:03:04and began raising her on her own.

0:03:09 > 0:03:11How did she meet Mark?

0:03:11 > 0:03:13He literally just knocked on her door.

0:03:13 > 0:03:18He'd just got out of prison...the day before.

0:03:18 > 0:03:21She told me...

0:03:21 > 0:03:25Wasn't it like he beat somebody up or something, wasn't it?

0:03:25 > 0:03:27And I just thought that's not really someone that

0:03:27 > 0:03:30I want my best friend to be with, somebody like that.

0:03:32 > 0:03:34Susan Cole, 54.

0:03:34 > 0:03:37Jennifer Rennie, 26.

0:03:37 > 0:03:39Daneshia Arthur, 30.

0:03:39 > 0:03:41Pamela Jackson, 55.

0:03:41 > 0:03:43Deborah Simister, 45.

0:03:43 > 0:03:45Lisa Clay, 40.

0:03:47 > 0:03:50What do you think that Kirsty saw in him? What was he like?

0:03:50 > 0:03:52No idea, absolutely no idea.

0:03:52 > 0:03:55So different from any other person, boyfriend she'd ever had.

0:03:55 > 0:03:57In what way?

0:03:57 > 0:04:00He looked a mess, absolute mess.

0:04:00 > 0:04:03Scruffy, long, bushy hair,

0:04:03 > 0:04:07tracksuit bottoms all the time and T-shirts.

0:04:07 > 0:04:09Not her usual type at all.

0:04:09 > 0:04:14Did you get the feeling that Kirsty was in love with him?

0:04:14 > 0:04:15Yeah.

0:04:15 > 0:04:18Kirsty was besotted with him, even though

0:04:18 > 0:04:21it was, like, literally, like a week, two weeks after.

0:04:21 > 0:04:25She was just, like, fascinated by him, even then.

0:04:27 > 0:04:30Kirsty started to drink quite heavily with him.

0:04:30 > 0:04:35Where she always drank socially before, erm,

0:04:35 > 0:04:40she was drinking more than what she'd...what you'd call the normal.

0:04:40 > 0:04:44Did he steal her card and go and buy drugs with it?

0:04:44 > 0:04:46- Yeah, bank card.- Yeah.

0:04:46 > 0:04:49He stole...and went and bought drugs with it

0:04:49 > 0:04:53and spent all of her money on drugs so she couldn't do the food shopping

0:04:53 > 0:04:55and that's what the money was for.

0:04:57 > 0:04:59But she was also very worried that

0:04:59 > 0:05:02when he went out, he was going to leave her for ever.

0:05:02 > 0:05:05- And that he was never going to come back again.- Yeah.

0:05:05 > 0:05:09That's what she really panicked about, that, if he left,

0:05:09 > 0:05:11that was it, he was never going to come back.

0:05:11 > 0:05:15- And she'd ring him 100 times...- Hmm. - ..just to make sure he was coming.

0:05:15 > 0:05:18So he really had a hold over her, didn't he?

0:05:18 > 0:05:21- Yeah.- A massive, massive hold.

0:05:26 > 0:05:31Derisa Trenchard, 48.

0:05:31 > 0:05:34Junella Valentine, 34.

0:05:34 > 0:05:36Ahdieh Khayatzadeh, 46.

0:05:36 > 0:05:39Gabrielle Stanley, 28.

0:05:39 > 0:05:41Josephine Steele, 45.

0:05:45 > 0:05:48Did she ever say that he had been violent towards her?

0:05:48 > 0:05:51No, no.

0:05:51 > 0:05:56Um, I was seeing marks on Kirsty,

0:05:56 > 0:06:00um...and she told me that they were play fighting.

0:06:00 > 0:06:03I remember when she came to work once and she had, like, these

0:06:03 > 0:06:07little marks on her arm there and I said something to her

0:06:07 > 0:06:09and she was like, "Oh, I just burnt it on the oven,"

0:06:09 > 0:06:12but you could see that they weren't burns

0:06:12 > 0:06:14and I kind of just, like, brushed it off.

0:06:14 > 0:06:17I thought maybe she was just messing around with Brooke,

0:06:17 > 0:06:19or something. I didn't think anything of it.

0:06:19 > 0:06:22SHE SNIFFS

0:06:22 > 0:06:24Sorry, I'm going to cry now.

0:06:32 > 0:06:34Don't cry.

0:06:35 > 0:06:37- You'll smudge your eyeliner. - (I know.)

0:06:40 > 0:06:42Now all my make-up is running. Great(!)

0:06:42 > 0:06:44No, it's not, honest.

0:06:44 > 0:06:46Do the eye blow.

0:06:46 > 0:06:47I'm doing it.

0:06:47 > 0:06:50No, you have to do it like this, and blow up.

0:06:52 > 0:06:56I did confront Kirsty. She went mental at me.

0:06:57 > 0:07:01Absolutely mental. And she didn't talk to me for three weeks.

0:07:04 > 0:07:07I told her so many times, if these problems are happening

0:07:07 > 0:07:10this early in the relationship, it was just best to end it,

0:07:10 > 0:07:12which she always agreed with me.

0:07:13 > 0:07:15But each time took him back.

0:07:20 > 0:07:25In the summer that year, she became, a lot of the time, tearful...

0:07:26 > 0:07:28..down.

0:07:28 > 0:07:30She lost a lot of weight very quickly.

0:07:31 > 0:07:34Um...she just looked worn down.

0:07:36 > 0:07:41By September 2013, Mark had been living with Kirsty

0:07:41 > 0:07:43and Brooke for nine months.

0:07:45 > 0:07:48Was Kirsty quite isolated by then?

0:07:48 > 0:07:51She had really lost everybody.

0:07:51 > 0:07:54Like, they had an argument and he was like,

0:07:54 > 0:07:57"I'm going to make sure that you've got nobody,

0:07:57 > 0:08:00"you're going to lose all your friends." And that's what happened.

0:08:00 > 0:08:02Yeah, that is what happened.

0:08:02 > 0:08:05Like, she did literally...just lost everybody because of him.

0:08:13 > 0:08:16Catherine Sandeman, 40.

0:08:16 > 0:08:18Ridda Zanab, 21,

0:08:18 > 0:08:20Jade Watson, 22.

0:08:20 > 0:08:23Paula Newman, 20.

0:08:23 > 0:08:25Tracey Topliss, 47.

0:08:25 > 0:08:28Carol French, 73.

0:08:28 > 0:08:30Aisha Alam, 49.

0:08:38 > 0:08:43Brooke told me that he was bashing, as she put it,

0:08:43 > 0:08:46Mummy with a knife...

0:08:47 > 0:08:50..and kicking her while she was on the floor.

0:08:53 > 0:08:59She told me that he was telling her to, "Get up, you whore."

0:09:02 > 0:09:05She then told me that he changed his trousers..

0:09:06 > 0:09:10..and then put washing on.

0:09:14 > 0:09:18He left and locked the front door.

0:09:20 > 0:09:24Brooke was seen at seven o'clock at the window

0:09:24 > 0:09:26beckoning to a neighbour...

0:09:29 > 0:09:34..but the neighbour thought Brooke was just waving.

0:09:36 > 0:09:41Brooke managed to open the back door at half past seven that morning,

0:09:41 > 0:09:44climb over a fence that was very high for her...

0:09:46 > 0:09:49..and was seen by a neighbour

0:09:49 > 0:09:52standing in the alleyway.

0:09:55 > 0:09:59Brooke told the neighbour that Mummy was dead.

0:10:01 > 0:10:04What she saw that night no child should ever have to see.

0:10:14 > 0:10:19Naika Inayat, 52, killed in a fire set by her husband.

0:10:19 > 0:10:22He planned to prevent his daughter from going ahead with a marriage

0:10:22 > 0:10:26he felt would dishonour the family, and killed his wife in the blaze.

0:10:28 > 0:10:30Farkhanda Younis, 30.

0:10:30 > 0:10:33Stabbed in Manchester by her husband

0:10:33 > 0:10:36while her six-year-old son slept next door.

0:10:53 > 0:10:57I used to tell him when I was little that I just hated him,

0:10:57 > 0:10:59cos I just didn't want to be left alone with him.

0:10:59 > 0:11:03I'm not sure what it was. I just didn't feel safe around him.

0:11:13 > 0:11:17Can you tell me what life was like at home with him?

0:11:17 > 0:11:20If Mum went out, even to take Nan shopping,

0:11:20 > 0:11:22you'd get a phone call every two minutes.

0:11:22 > 0:11:24"Where are you? When are you going to be home?"

0:11:24 > 0:11:26I don't think her phone was ever not going off.

0:11:26 > 0:11:29Just seeing where she was all the time, just not trusting at all.

0:11:29 > 0:11:34- Because he was possessive? - Mmm. Controlling over everything.

0:11:34 > 0:11:37Just wouldn't let us do anything that he didn't want us to do.

0:11:40 > 0:11:43- So, he was a bully?- Mmm. Definitely.

0:11:45 > 0:11:49Did your mum tell her family about her problems at all?

0:11:49 > 0:11:51No, she wouldn't really tell anyone.

0:11:51 > 0:11:54I think the only person she really told is me

0:11:54 > 0:11:56and that's only cos I was there.

0:11:56 > 0:11:58I don't think the family knew anything.

0:11:58 > 0:12:01I think she just thought he was a bit weird,

0:12:01 > 0:12:03but may as well just carry on.

0:12:03 > 0:12:05Cos I always told her to leave him and she always said,

0:12:05 > 0:12:08"I don't know what he'd do if I did."

0:12:08 > 0:12:10- She said that?- Mmm.

0:12:13 > 0:12:17In August 2013, after 25 years with him,

0:12:17 > 0:12:22Anne-Marie decided she could no longer tolerate Lee's behaviour.

0:12:26 > 0:12:27What was his reaction

0:12:27 > 0:12:31when she said that she wanted to end the relationship?

0:12:31 > 0:12:34He just said that he's not going to let her leave,

0:12:34 > 0:12:38and that he'd rather die, or her die, rather than him being alone.

0:12:40 > 0:12:43He was just stalking Mum constantly. He wouldn't leave her alone.

0:12:43 > 0:12:45If she was walking the dog, he'd be just behind her,

0:12:45 > 0:12:48or overlooking the cliff if she was on the beach.

0:12:52 > 0:12:55When we drove to school, once, he was in a Scream mask

0:12:55 > 0:12:58and a costume holding up a sign saying "I love you",

0:12:58 > 0:12:59waiting for us to drive past.

0:13:03 > 0:13:06We called the police on the first night that he went crazy

0:13:06 > 0:13:09and we'd kicked him out. That was when he was threatening to kill her.

0:13:09 > 0:13:11We were always calling the police,

0:13:11 > 0:13:13because she did get a non-molestation order.

0:13:13 > 0:13:16She went to the court and set it up herself and then, after that

0:13:16 > 0:13:20was in place, they said, "Call every time he was near." So we did.

0:13:25 > 0:13:28Heather Arthur, 50, stabbed in Newcastle

0:13:28 > 0:13:33by her husband of 30 years when she told him she wanted a divorce.

0:13:35 > 0:13:38Salma Parveen, 22, and a bank clerk.

0:13:38 > 0:13:40Strangled with a scarf by her husband in Coventry

0:13:40 > 0:13:43when their marriage broke down.

0:13:43 > 0:13:47Christine Baker, 52, strangled by her husband of 20 years

0:13:47 > 0:13:50in Newcastle when he discovered she had been unfaithful.

0:14:00 > 0:14:04It was just a normal morning. I just got up for school.

0:14:04 > 0:14:06When we went in the front room to get my shoes on,

0:14:06 > 0:14:09Dad jumped out of the pool house and ran up the end of the garden

0:14:09 > 0:14:10and jumped over the fence.

0:14:10 > 0:14:13So Mum called the police straight away and then she was on the phone

0:14:13 > 0:14:16to the police as she was driving me to school.

0:14:16 > 0:14:19So, the last time I saw her, she was on the phone to the police.

0:14:21 > 0:14:24There was an appointment that had already been set up

0:14:24 > 0:14:25for that day at six o'clock,

0:14:25 > 0:14:28and that's how the call was left,

0:14:28 > 0:14:31that she would attend at six o'clock that evening,

0:14:31 > 0:14:34and, obviously, nobody could've foreseen what was going to happen

0:14:34 > 0:14:36during the course of that day.

0:14:37 > 0:14:39We know he walked along the coast.

0:14:39 > 0:14:42He walked to where he knew that Anne would be.

0:14:42 > 0:14:46By his reckoning, was there about 10 past 12 waiting to meet her.

0:14:49 > 0:14:52I think he said that he tied a rope round her head

0:14:52 > 0:14:56and then hit her over the head with a big branch and then tied it

0:14:56 > 0:14:59up more, kissed her, said he loved her and then drove away.

0:15:01 > 0:15:05Once he'd killed Anne, we know that he took the dogs back,

0:15:05 > 0:15:07that she was walking, to the owners.

0:15:07 > 0:15:12He then went from there to a local Asda store in Broadstairs,

0:15:12 > 0:15:15where he went to the toilets

0:15:15 > 0:15:17and washed the blood and mud off himself.

0:15:23 > 0:15:27And then he went from there to a pub

0:15:27 > 0:15:31and had two-and-a-half pints of beer

0:15:31 > 0:15:34and then from that point, he went to the telephone kiosk

0:15:34 > 0:15:36and phoned the police.

0:15:39 > 0:15:44'OK, there's been a murder in Convent Road in the field.'

0:15:44 > 0:15:45TYPING

0:15:45 > 0:15:47'Please go and get her.

0:15:47 > 0:15:50- OPERATOR:- 'Can you tell me your name?- Lee Birch.

0:15:50 > 0:15:52- 'Lee Birch? - Her name is Anne-Marie Birch.

0:15:52 > 0:15:56- 'How do you know this has happened? - Because I killed her, it's my wife.'

0:16:00 > 0:16:03Hindsight's always a fantastic thing, isn't it?

0:16:03 > 0:16:07But it's just such a massive leap from, you know,

0:16:07 > 0:16:11harassing someone, even persistent harassment, to that...

0:16:11 > 0:16:15the ultimate violence that you could mete out to anybody.

0:16:17 > 0:16:20Nothing would've stopped him. He actually said that in interview.

0:16:20 > 0:16:24"It wouldn't have mattered what orders I'd been given by the court

0:16:24 > 0:16:27"or conditions I'd been given by the police.

0:16:27 > 0:16:29"Nothing would've stopped me."

0:16:31 > 0:16:33Why did he kill her?

0:16:33 > 0:16:38He just couldn't imagine not being with her. He was obsessed.

0:16:38 > 0:16:41Obviously, you love your family and you love your wife,

0:16:41 > 0:16:42but it was obsession.

0:16:42 > 0:16:45He just could not bear the thought of being without her.

0:16:52 > 0:16:54Margaret Knight, 77.

0:16:54 > 0:16:57Margaret Mercati, 63.

0:16:58 > 0:17:00Yvonne Walsh, 25.

0:17:01 > 0:17:05Fatemeh Bostani, 43.

0:17:14 > 0:17:19He was a very good man. Very happy, jolly type of man, very helpful man.

0:17:19 > 0:17:24He would ask anyone if they needed help for pick and drop, or anything.

0:17:24 > 0:17:26So, he was a kind man?

0:17:26 > 0:17:29He was a kind man. That's how I know him, yeah.

0:17:35 > 0:17:40In 2000, Mohamed Ali, owner of several shops,

0:17:40 > 0:17:41met Amina Bibi,

0:17:41 > 0:17:44known to her family as Assia.

0:17:46 > 0:17:51After his first wife passed away, he met her through a friend.

0:17:51 > 0:17:55Both of them went back home to Pakistan and, um...

0:17:55 > 0:17:59the friend took him...one of his family friend's house.

0:17:59 > 0:18:04That's how he saw Assia and it was like love at first sight,

0:18:04 > 0:18:06call it that way.

0:18:08 > 0:18:12He had a word with her parents and they simply agreed,

0:18:12 > 0:18:16because he was from London and they said it's a good opportunity,

0:18:16 > 0:18:19let's get the daughter married to him.

0:18:19 > 0:18:22Very simple, very simple girl. She wasn't educated.

0:18:22 > 0:18:25She could hardly speak any word of English.

0:18:27 > 0:18:30Did she want to marry him, do you think?

0:18:30 > 0:18:31Well, she had no choice, I think.

0:18:34 > 0:18:37She was a nice wife, nice mum.

0:18:37 > 0:18:40She was... Overall, she was a good lady.

0:18:40 > 0:18:43What were the qualities that made her a nice wife?

0:18:43 > 0:18:47She used to make dinner for her husband, whatever he used to say.

0:18:47 > 0:18:51She used to look after the house, she used to look after the boys,

0:18:51 > 0:18:54keep her house nice and tidy and, um... Yeah.

0:18:54 > 0:18:57- She was a good, obedient wife? - She was, yes.

0:18:59 > 0:19:02You said that when she came, she came from a very poor

0:19:02 > 0:19:04- and simple family? - That's right, yeah.

0:19:04 > 0:19:07As time passed in England, did her attitude change?

0:19:07 > 0:19:11It did, yeah. It did change, as she had seen everything - money

0:19:11 > 0:19:13and freedom and everything.

0:19:13 > 0:19:15She wanted this, she wanted that.

0:19:17 > 0:19:20She wanted a house built in Pakistan.

0:19:20 > 0:19:22Did he build her a house in Pakistan?

0:19:22 > 0:19:23He did, yeah, he did.

0:19:23 > 0:19:27He used to look after her quite a lot.

0:19:29 > 0:19:32So, when you saw her getting more greedy for money, in a way,

0:19:32 > 0:19:35what was your reaction, Rizwana?

0:19:35 > 0:19:39That too much greediness is not good.

0:19:41 > 0:19:44Did she become more powerful in the marriage at that point?

0:19:44 > 0:19:49As the years passed away, yes, like, become a boss of the house

0:19:49 > 0:19:53and control of the house. Control financially.

0:19:55 > 0:20:01The husband used to ask for even a small amount of money, like £5.

0:20:01 > 0:20:04So, he had to come to her, to ask for some pocket money?

0:20:04 > 0:20:08That's it, yeah, pocket money, yeah. Yeah...

0:20:10 > 0:20:14Was there any indication that he wanted to end the marriage?

0:20:14 > 0:20:17No, I haven't seen any indication, no.

0:20:17 > 0:20:19He was quite happy with her and the boys.

0:20:19 > 0:20:23The boys were very close to their father,

0:20:23 > 0:20:26and even she was quite close to him.

0:20:26 > 0:20:27I haven't seen anything.

0:20:27 > 0:20:30It was like a very happy house, happy family.

0:20:30 > 0:20:33That's what it looked like from the outside?

0:20:33 > 0:20:36That's it, yeah. So, you don't know what's going on

0:20:36 > 0:20:38behind the closed doors, do you?

0:20:42 > 0:20:46Varkha Rani, 24, strangled in Walsall by her husband,

0:20:46 > 0:20:49when she discovered their arranged marriage

0:20:49 > 0:20:51was a cover for his homosexuality.

0:20:53 > 0:20:57Gemma Finnigan, 24, strangled and stabbed in Tyne and Wear

0:20:57 > 0:20:58by her mentally ill boyfriend,

0:20:58 > 0:21:02who believed she was possessed by the Devil.

0:21:02 > 0:21:08Marion Vita, 48, a mother of one, stabbed in Glasgow by her husband

0:21:08 > 0:21:12of 19 years, after he discovered she was having a lesbian affair.

0:21:20 > 0:21:24Neighbours say she was beautiful, kind and quiet.

0:21:24 > 0:21:28Amina Bibi was often seen taking her two sons to mosque.

0:21:28 > 0:21:33But in September last year, her life was cut brutally short

0:21:33 > 0:21:37by two men, Frederick Best, a drug addict high on crack

0:21:37 > 0:21:40on the day he killed her, and her husband, Mohamad Ali,

0:21:40 > 0:21:45who paid Best a £100 deposit to stab her in a fake burglary.

0:21:45 > 0:21:48On the morning of the murder, Best and Ali met briefly.

0:21:48 > 0:21:52Ali took his younger son to school, then Best let himself in

0:21:52 > 0:21:57with a key Ali had cut for him, and Amina Bibi was stabbed 72 times.

0:22:01 > 0:22:04What do you feel about what happened to her?

0:22:04 > 0:22:08I feel very bad. I feel very, very bad.

0:22:09 > 0:22:11She was brutally murdered.

0:22:11 > 0:22:16That's not a nice way to do... Not a nice way to end the relationship.

0:22:17 > 0:22:19That's not the solution, no.

0:22:19 > 0:22:23He should have divorced her, got separated from her.

0:22:23 > 0:22:26He could have done anything, but not killing, no.

0:22:26 > 0:22:28This is not the solution. No, not at all.

0:22:32 > 0:22:36Mohamed Ali is in prison, serving 24 years for murder,

0:22:36 > 0:22:40and Rizwana is raising the two boys.

0:22:46 > 0:22:51Sabeen Thandi, 37 and mother of three, pregnant when she died,

0:22:51 > 0:22:56strangled by her jealous husband in Forest Gate, east London.

0:22:56 > 0:22:59Shivani Kapoor, 35, a mother of one.

0:22:59 > 0:23:02Strangled in Middlesex by her husband,

0:23:02 > 0:23:05a gambling addict who worked for Morgan Stanley.

0:23:24 > 0:23:26PENS SCRATCH

0:23:30 > 0:23:33So, girls, are you normally this peaceful

0:23:33 > 0:23:36- and just playing quietly together? - No.- No.

0:23:36 > 0:23:38What are you normally like?

0:23:38 > 0:23:41- We are, like, all arguing. - Fighting and arguing.

0:23:41 > 0:23:43- Do you argue a lot?- Yes.- Mm-hm.

0:23:43 > 0:23:47- Have you always argued a lot? - Yeah.- Sort of.

0:23:47 > 0:23:50Yes! The answer's yes.

0:23:50 > 0:23:54And what did your mum used to say when you used to argue?

0:23:54 > 0:23:57- She used to say, "Be quiet!" - She just said, "Be quiet,"

0:23:57 > 0:24:00and Daddy used to send us on the naughty step.

0:24:04 > 0:24:07- What did you call her?- Blondie.

0:24:07 > 0:24:12She was what you'd call a typical dumb blonde at times.

0:24:14 > 0:24:18- My mummy likes this colour... - She likes pink and purple best.

0:24:18 > 0:24:22She likes pink and purple best. That's why I'm using purple.

0:24:22 > 0:24:25And I've done a heart pink-and-purple striped.

0:24:26 > 0:24:28Right, oh, yeah.

0:24:28 > 0:24:32I'm doing this fully purple.

0:24:39 > 0:24:42'She loved the girls. She thought the world of the girls.

0:24:42 > 0:24:45'She'd do anything for them.'

0:24:50 > 0:24:52She used to love them kids to bits.

0:24:52 > 0:24:56She actually loved him to bits. She actually told me that one day.

0:24:56 > 0:24:57What did she say, Stuart?

0:24:57 > 0:25:04She said that he used a certain, um, shower gel

0:25:04 > 0:25:07and he smelt like chocolate, and she said,

0:25:07 > 0:25:11"He got out of shower t'other day and I love him that much

0:25:11 > 0:25:14"I could have eaten him. He's absolutely gorgeous."

0:25:14 > 0:25:16So we never thought this would happen.

0:25:18 > 0:25:21Is that a picture of your mum, there?

0:25:21 > 0:25:24- Yes, it is.- That's me mum. There.

0:25:27 > 0:25:29This one.

0:25:29 > 0:25:31Can you point to your mum for me, Isobel?

0:25:31 > 0:25:33There.

0:25:33 > 0:25:35Are either of you in that picture?

0:25:35 > 0:25:37- Just Isobel.- I'm there.

0:25:37 > 0:25:39SHE GIGGLES

0:25:39 > 0:25:40I'm tickly.

0:25:46 > 0:25:50Chantelle met Steven Barnsdale-Quean in 1998

0:25:50 > 0:25:53when they were both working in a nursing home.

0:25:55 > 0:25:59Things moved very quickly, really.

0:25:59 > 0:26:01They didn't seem to have been together five minutes

0:26:01 > 0:26:04before he'd moved into Chantelle's house.

0:26:09 > 0:26:12He had no friends... Strange.

0:26:12 > 0:26:15I nicknamed him Billy No-Mates.

0:26:15 > 0:26:19It was as if he didn't want to leave Chantelle on her own.

0:26:21 > 0:26:25Was he ever physically violent or abusive to Chantelle

0:26:25 > 0:26:27that you were ever aware of?

0:26:27 > 0:26:30Not that I'm aware of, no. Not at all.

0:26:30 > 0:26:32Not physically, no.

0:26:32 > 0:26:36But he used to check her Facebook messages.

0:26:36 > 0:26:39He used to check her telephone.

0:26:39 > 0:26:43He was in control of all the financial things, you know?

0:26:43 > 0:26:47He'd have Chantelle's bank card and if Chantelle needed money,

0:26:47 > 0:26:50he'd go to the bank and he'd get the money out.

0:26:51 > 0:26:56I cannot imagine how she allowed the money to be spent

0:26:56 > 0:27:03without her knowledge, um, debt to be built up without her knowledge.

0:27:08 > 0:27:12After 14 years together, Chantelle discovered that Stephen

0:27:12 > 0:27:15had secretly run up considerable debts.

0:27:15 > 0:27:20The family house was repossessed, and they were rehoused by the council.

0:27:28 > 0:27:32What we didn't realise at the time was that he was hiding mail again.

0:27:32 > 0:27:36He was hiding letters underneath units, the dining-room units,

0:27:36 > 0:27:40underneath the spare wheel in the car.

0:27:40 > 0:27:44All odd places that you wouldn't expect to find mail.

0:27:44 > 0:27:48So, the debt was building up again and he was concealing it again?

0:27:48 > 0:27:50- Yeah.- Yeah.- Mm-hm.

0:28:06 > 0:28:12Stephen had used a one-metre length of chain

0:28:12 > 0:28:14that's used for hanging baskets

0:28:14 > 0:28:17that he bought from B&Q two weeks earlier.

0:28:17 > 0:28:23He'd used a hair bobble to connect that, put it over her head,

0:28:23 > 0:28:27insert a rolling pin and start to tighten the chain around her neck.

0:28:27 > 0:28:33This was described by the pathologist as a Spanish windlass,

0:28:33 > 0:28:37which is basically a mechanism where, when you turn it,

0:28:37 > 0:28:41it stays in that position and then you can turn it again,

0:28:41 > 0:28:43so you're tightening it all the time

0:28:43 > 0:28:46and, obviously, it stopped her breathing.

0:28:46 > 0:28:48I know about this piece of chain,

0:28:48 > 0:28:50because Chantelle had showed it me

0:28:50 > 0:28:52and she said, "Stephen has bought this chain.

0:28:52 > 0:28:56"He's going to hang some pictures up with it." And he never did it.

0:28:57 > 0:29:01So, whether he knew when he bought it what he was going to do with it,

0:29:01 > 0:29:02I don't know.

0:29:06 > 0:29:09Why did he kill her?

0:29:09 > 0:29:11- We don't know.- We don't know.

0:29:11 > 0:29:14We're assuming that it was all about money.

0:29:22 > 0:29:25- Do you know how old she was, your mum?- 35.

0:29:25 > 0:29:28And if you think it's weird, her young...

0:29:28 > 0:29:33her younger brother is turning older than his oldest sister.

0:29:33 > 0:29:40It's a bit weird, if you actually think about it, and it's a bit...

0:29:40 > 0:29:43It's really, really weird and confusing.

0:29:45 > 0:29:49What have you told them about what happened?

0:29:49 > 0:29:54We told them that Daddy had killed Mummy.

0:29:54 > 0:29:58We didn't tell them how it had happened,

0:29:58 > 0:30:01but one of the neighbours' children

0:30:01 > 0:30:07told them that Daddy had strangled Mummy.

0:30:10 > 0:30:12- And they don't ask questions beyond that?- No.

0:30:15 > 0:30:17Do you miss your mum a lot?

0:30:17 > 0:30:21- Mm-hm.- Yeah. - It's, like, really hard.

0:30:21 > 0:30:24And what about your dad? Do you miss your dad?

0:30:24 > 0:30:27- A bit, not a lot. - I don't miss him.

0:30:28 > 0:30:30It...cos...um...

0:30:30 > 0:30:31I hate him.

0:30:31 > 0:30:33I don't miss him that much.

0:30:41 > 0:30:43Dimitrina Borisova, 46,

0:30:43 > 0:30:48stabbed 17 times in the street in Sheffield by her ex-boyfriend,

0:30:48 > 0:30:52who had lost a custody battle over their two-year-old son.

0:30:52 > 0:30:56Victoria Rose, 58, shot dead in Wiltshire by her ex-boyfriend,

0:30:56 > 0:30:59a retired police inspector, who then shot himself.

0:31:09 > 0:31:11She was very cheeky.

0:31:15 > 0:31:20We were always very close. She was always the joker of the family.

0:31:24 > 0:31:29When she hit teenage years, she became a depressive.

0:31:29 > 0:31:32What age did that happen?

0:31:32 > 0:31:35Um, well, when she was in school,

0:31:35 > 0:31:40she fell in with the wrong people, when she was about 15, 16.

0:31:40 > 0:31:45And she didn't do very well at her exams because of that.

0:31:46 > 0:31:50And I think, from there, she just... Her behaviour got worse.

0:31:50 > 0:31:55Was she depressed to the extent that she was diagnosed with depression?

0:31:55 > 0:31:58Yes. Yeah, she did...

0:31:58 > 0:32:01Not...not straightaway but as the years went on,

0:32:01 > 0:32:06she was diagnosed as a depressive, and then it was only very recently,

0:32:06 > 0:32:10probably a year before she died, that she was diagnosed

0:32:10 > 0:32:12with borderline personality disorder.

0:32:14 > 0:32:17Do you know when she met Steven Williams?

0:32:17 > 0:32:22I think they worked in a bar. She used to do bar work sometimes.

0:32:22 > 0:32:24She'd have different bar jobs

0:32:24 > 0:32:27and I think they'd met in a bar at some point,

0:32:27 > 0:32:30but they hadn't got together,

0:32:30 > 0:32:32but she was only seeing him

0:32:32 > 0:32:35for about three weeks before he stabbed her.

0:32:35 > 0:32:38And we didn't even know she was seeing him.

0:32:39 > 0:32:41All she wanted was to find someone

0:32:41 > 0:32:44and be in a relationship and be loved,

0:32:44 > 0:32:49so that's why she was always headfirst into everything

0:32:49 > 0:32:53and she'd already said to her friends that she was really happy

0:32:53 > 0:32:56and he was lovely and he might be the one,

0:32:56 > 0:33:00because that's... Unfortunately, that's what she did.

0:33:02 > 0:33:04And I think he saw that and took advantage of it.

0:33:07 > 0:33:09Jane McRae, 55.

0:33:10 > 0:33:12Julie Beattie, 24.

0:33:14 > 0:33:17Rosemary Gill, 48.

0:33:17 > 0:33:20Alexandra Kovacs, 25.

0:33:20 > 0:33:24Jean Redfern, 67.

0:33:24 > 0:33:26Keisha McKenzie, 28.

0:33:44 > 0:33:48What was the first that you knew that anything had happened?

0:33:48 > 0:33:52I got a message on Facebook from one of her friends saying to me,

0:33:52 > 0:33:53"Oh, my God, what's happened?

0:33:53 > 0:33:56"I've heard Jo's been airlifted to hospital."

0:33:56 > 0:34:01And I said, "What the hell? I don't know what you're talking about."

0:34:02 > 0:34:04So I rang Mum and Dad,

0:34:04 > 0:34:08and they said that the police had rung them and said...

0:34:08 > 0:34:11They didn't tell them what had happened.

0:34:11 > 0:34:14We all thought Jo being Jo, she'd got drunk

0:34:14 > 0:34:18and got into a fight or she'd been self-harming.

0:34:18 > 0:34:21I said, "I don't want to start panicking until, you know,

0:34:21 > 0:34:24"we know what's happened."

0:34:25 > 0:34:29And I think the police got there at Mum's in the afternoon

0:34:29 > 0:34:32and Mum rang me and said,

0:34:32 > 0:34:34"The policewoman wants to have a word with you."

0:34:34 > 0:34:37And that's when she said,

0:34:37 > 0:34:40"Your sister has been stabbed a number of times...

0:34:43 > 0:34:46"..and you might want to come and see her."

0:34:51 > 0:34:54They basically were saying,

0:34:54 > 0:34:56"We don't know if she's going to make it."

0:34:56 > 0:35:00They thought they were going to have to amputate her arms...

0:35:01 > 0:35:03..because the wounds were so bad.

0:35:08 > 0:35:12So, we got straight in the car and went straight to the hospital

0:35:12 > 0:35:13and met Mum and Dad there.

0:35:15 > 0:35:18We all thought she was going to be OK, because she was awake,

0:35:18 > 0:35:20she was lucid.

0:35:21 > 0:35:23Um...

0:35:24 > 0:35:27I said, "Who did this to you?"

0:35:27 > 0:35:31She said, "Oh, it was somebody I know.

0:35:31 > 0:35:33"He's called Steven Williams."

0:35:33 > 0:35:37She said they'd had a row in the evening

0:35:37 > 0:35:40and he tried to rip a radio off the wall.

0:35:40 > 0:35:45So she told him to leave, and she said he'd flipped

0:35:45 > 0:35:49and got a knife from the kitchen and started stabbing her.

0:36:04 > 0:36:09And he sat with her for five or six hours waiting for her to die.

0:36:15 > 0:36:20At one point, she said she remembers taking a really deep breath

0:36:20 > 0:36:23and he said, "Oh, will you just fucking die?"

0:36:34 > 0:36:38The next day was the Sunday. We went back in to see her in the afternoon.

0:36:38 > 0:36:40She was awake again.

0:36:40 > 0:36:44She was obviously on a lot of morphine but she was being Jo.

0:36:44 > 0:36:46She was joking with the police officers.

0:36:46 > 0:36:51They were trying to take DNA from under her nails

0:36:51 > 0:36:53and she was joking with them saying,

0:36:53 > 0:36:57"Watch that nail, because I pick my nose with that one."

0:36:57 > 0:36:59She was just being Jo.

0:37:02 > 0:37:05On the Sunday, we finally spoke to someone and they told us

0:37:05 > 0:37:07how serious it was, but they sort of said,

0:37:07 > 0:37:10"Well, you know, she's out of the woods."

0:37:10 > 0:37:13But, yeah, we all thought she was going to be OK

0:37:13 > 0:37:15but then, the next morning,

0:37:15 > 0:37:20we rang the hospital and they said she'd had problems breathing.

0:37:21 > 0:37:25She was getting distressed, so they had to sedate her

0:37:25 > 0:37:29and put her on a ventilator, and she never came out of it.

0:37:43 > 0:37:45Linah Keza, 29.

0:37:45 > 0:37:48Anu Kapoor, 27.

0:37:48 > 0:37:51Mayurathy Perinpamoorihy, 32.

0:37:51 > 0:37:54Caroline Parry, 49.

0:37:54 > 0:37:56Michelle Giles, 43.

0:37:56 > 0:37:58Judith Maude, 57.

0:38:18 > 0:38:22Describe your mum's personality to me.

0:38:22 > 0:38:26She was a bubbly, friendly, outgoing person.

0:38:26 > 0:38:27She enjoyed helping others.

0:38:27 > 0:38:30- She was really caring, she'd do anything for anyone.- Yeah.

0:38:30 > 0:38:35Can you describe your father's personality to me?

0:38:35 > 0:38:37Controlling.

0:38:37 > 0:38:38He's...

0:38:40 > 0:38:43- He's not a very nice man.- No.

0:38:48 > 0:38:50I always spent a lot of time with my dad.

0:38:50 > 0:38:53Like, I used to go to rugby with him

0:38:53 > 0:38:55every Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday.

0:38:55 > 0:38:58I used to come up my bamp's a lot to see the animals.

0:38:58 > 0:39:01He used to take me out on the horse on the weekends,

0:39:01 > 0:39:03if we didn't have rugby.

0:39:03 > 0:39:06I was a lot closer to my dad than my other sisters.

0:39:06 > 0:39:08- But you were a daddy's girl?- Yeah.

0:39:10 > 0:39:16When you were little, what was it like being around him?

0:39:16 > 0:39:19Walking on eggshells. I didn't know what was going to happen when,

0:39:19 > 0:39:24and how he's going to wake up, what sort of mood he was going to be in.

0:39:24 > 0:39:26Did he have a temper, Sophia?

0:39:26 > 0:39:30Yeah, like, most of it was, like, from when he'd work himself up

0:39:30 > 0:39:33and he didn't know how to let his emotions out

0:39:33 > 0:39:36and then he'd just let them out, like, through...

0:39:36 > 0:39:38like, throwing a cup or something.

0:39:38 > 0:39:40Like, it wasn't abuse,

0:39:40 > 0:39:41like, domestic abuse,

0:39:41 > 0:39:43it was nothing like that.

0:39:43 > 0:39:47It was more, like, taking things out on objects close to him,

0:39:47 > 0:39:51rather than people or anything to hurt someone.

0:39:53 > 0:39:56He'd pull TVs off the wall,

0:39:56 > 0:39:59throw microwaves through windows.

0:39:59 > 0:40:01The most serious thing is, he lit the house on fire

0:40:01 > 0:40:05whilst Sameera, Sophia and my mum were in the house.

0:40:09 > 0:40:11What was your dad's job?

0:40:11 > 0:40:13He was a builder.

0:40:13 > 0:40:16And what was your mum's job? Did she work?

0:40:16 > 0:40:20The jobs that she did have weren't for long periods of time

0:40:20 > 0:40:23because he would be controlling her.

0:40:23 > 0:40:27He'd hide her shoes, so she couldn't go to work, or hide the car keys.

0:40:27 > 0:40:29He put an app on the phone

0:40:29 > 0:40:32so whenever she had a text, it'd read out the name.

0:40:32 > 0:40:35Or whenever she had a phone call, it would read out the name

0:40:35 > 0:40:37so he knew who she was speaking to.

0:40:37 > 0:40:40- What, it would speak the name out loud?- Yeah.- Yeah.

0:40:43 > 0:40:47I know it sounds crazy, but she stayed with him for a quieter life.

0:40:47 > 0:40:48It's hard to move your family

0:40:48 > 0:40:51away from what they know,

0:40:51 > 0:40:54their surroundings... You know, their school, their friends.

0:40:54 > 0:40:57She was trying to do her best for her kids.

0:41:00 > 0:41:04In 2011, Kelvin's behaviour became increasingly erratic

0:41:04 > 0:41:08and he made the decision to leave the family home.

0:41:09 > 0:41:14He still had control over my mum because we still lived in the house.

0:41:15 > 0:41:18He'd come up in the morning, about 8 o'clock,

0:41:18 > 0:41:22make sure she was up from bed by making her a cup of tea,

0:41:22 > 0:41:24and then he'd come back during the day

0:41:24 > 0:41:26whilst he was in work, and after work.

0:41:28 > 0:41:30Mum knew that he was still controlling her.

0:41:34 > 0:41:38My sisters are making him out to be ten times worse

0:41:38 > 0:41:40than what he actually was.

0:41:40 > 0:41:42He used to come up, he used to light the fire, make a cup of tea,

0:41:42 > 0:41:46go and sort the dogs out, do any work out the back.

0:41:46 > 0:41:49So, I don't think he'd put himself in that situation,

0:41:49 > 0:41:52knowing, if he was just controlling her,

0:41:52 > 0:41:55that he'd have to go and do all that just to keep an eye on her.

0:41:58 > 0:42:01Reema Ramzan, 18, beheaded by her boyfriend

0:42:01 > 0:42:03with a kitchen knife in Sheffield.

0:42:06 > 0:42:09Rania Alayed, 25, murdered by her violent husband

0:42:09 > 0:42:12after she left him, fearing for her life.

0:42:12 > 0:42:14Her body has never been found.

0:42:18 > 0:42:22Lilima Akter, 27, murdered in Birmingham by her estranged husband,

0:42:22 > 0:42:26nine years after their arranged marriage in Bangladesh.

0:42:33 > 0:42:36- NEWSREADER:- 'A man from Bridgend has been found guilty

0:42:36 > 0:42:38'of murdering his wife by strangling her with a dog lead.

0:42:38 > 0:42:41'Assia Newton was found in the bedroom of her home

0:42:41 > 0:42:44'in Penclacwydd last July.'

0:42:45 > 0:42:49Do you think that he planned to kill your mum?

0:42:49 > 0:42:51No, I think, like, it was a...

0:42:51 > 0:42:54like, an out-of-the-blue thing,

0:42:54 > 0:42:57like an argument come, he went to do something

0:42:57 > 0:42:59and then it just happened, like...

0:42:59 > 0:43:03It was too late before he could do anything.

0:43:03 > 0:43:06Do you think that your father PLANNED to kill your mother?

0:43:06 > 0:43:08- Yeah.- Yeah.

0:43:08 > 0:43:10Cos she was going to be happy.

0:43:12 > 0:43:16She was going to have a life without him and he...he didn't want that.

0:43:19 > 0:43:22He realised that his control was slipping on her.

0:43:24 > 0:43:25She was a possession,

0:43:25 > 0:43:29and, I believe, that he felt his control was slipping.

0:43:36 > 0:43:39Zaneta Kindzierska, 32.

0:43:39 > 0:43:42Asma Begum, 21.

0:43:42 > 0:43:45Linzi Ashton, 25.

0:43:51 > 0:43:53PHONE RINGS

0:43:53 > 0:43:56- Hello.- 'All right?' - Yeah, are you?- 'Yeah, not too bad.'

0:43:56 > 0:43:59Good, what have you been doing, then? Making anything?

0:43:59 > 0:44:01- 'Um, a bench.'- Oh, is it?- 'Yeah.'

0:44:01 > 0:44:05My birthday's coming up, mind. You best make something for that.

0:44:05 > 0:44:07You best get thinking.

0:44:07 > 0:44:10'You don't want a jewellery box or anything, do you?'

0:44:10 > 0:44:12Well, I got one. You made me one.

0:44:14 > 0:44:17'Can you explain where Sophia is now?

0:44:17 > 0:44:20'She chose to live with Kelvin's family.

0:44:22 > 0:44:24'We just find it so disrespectful

0:44:24 > 0:44:28'after all we've been through, not just my mum, as well,

0:44:28 > 0:44:32'but all we've been through, and she decided to side with him.'

0:44:32 > 0:44:35We don't want anything to do with her.

0:44:35 > 0:44:38'One minute on Facebook, she'll write about my mum

0:44:38 > 0:44:40'and how much she misses her,

0:44:40 > 0:44:43'but then she'll write how she's in contact and talking to Daddy...

0:44:43 > 0:44:45'Can't wait to see him.'

0:44:47 > 0:44:48He's the one that's done this.

0:44:48 > 0:44:51He's... The reason my mum's not here today

0:44:51 > 0:44:53is because he's murdered her.

0:44:53 > 0:44:55She just doesn't make sense.

0:44:55 > 0:44:59Like, I don't understand why someone would want to be in contact

0:44:59 > 0:45:02with someone that's murdered your mum.

0:45:02 > 0:45:05He's still my dad. I can't switch off my feelings.

0:45:05 > 0:45:08Like, maybe my sisters have. Like, I can't do that.

0:45:08 > 0:45:12I won't forgive him for what he's done, but he is still my dad.

0:45:17 > 0:45:20SHE GIGGLES

0:45:20 > 0:45:22'Yeah, I will make you something.

0:45:22 > 0:45:26'A little jewellery box, but with drawers.'

0:45:26 > 0:45:29- Well, that will have to do, then, won't it?- 'Yeah, it'll have to!'

0:45:29 > 0:45:31THEY LAUGH

0:45:31 > 0:45:36You've got gym. I'll leave you and go, cos I've got college, as well.

0:45:36 > 0:45:38'All right, then. Love you.'

0:45:38 > 0:45:41Love you, ta-ra. Yeah, ta-ra, ta-ra, ta-ra...

0:45:52 > 0:45:55Kate Dixon, 40, Cambridge graduate

0:45:55 > 0:45:58and manager at Islington Council,

0:45:58 > 0:46:01stabbed in south London by her ex-boyfriend

0:46:01 > 0:46:05when he found out she was seeing another man.

0:46:05 > 0:46:09Denise Williamson, 44, stabbed in Nottinghamshire by her fiance,

0:46:09 > 0:46:11who tracked her phone calls and e-mails,

0:46:11 > 0:46:13paranoid she was having an affair.

0:46:13 > 0:46:17Her body was found by her 17-year-old autistic son.

0:46:31 > 0:46:35- What relationship was Chloe to you? - She was my mother.

0:46:35 > 0:46:40- And what relationship was Argyrios to you?- He was my stepfather.

0:47:00 > 0:47:04She was very stylish. Her hair always looked great.

0:47:10 > 0:47:13I've never seen her come and ever have a bad-hair day.

0:47:13 > 0:47:17Her clothes were lovely. She always looked good.

0:47:23 > 0:47:26All her stuff is neat, look in the drawers.

0:47:26 > 0:47:29There's her nightdresses, look. There's her nightdress...

0:47:29 > 0:47:32still folded up.

0:47:32 > 0:47:34She was so neat and tidy.

0:47:39 > 0:47:42She was very friendly, very warm.

0:47:42 > 0:47:44She likes chatting,

0:47:44 > 0:47:46she likes to have a cup of tea.

0:47:46 > 0:47:49So, you would have a cup of tea with her, would you?

0:47:49 > 0:47:53Yeah, whenever she sees me, "Come and have a cup of tea with me."

0:47:54 > 0:47:58I had to drop everything, working, and then go to her, yeah.

0:48:00 > 0:48:04Roughly how old was your mum and how old was Argyrios when they met?

0:48:04 > 0:48:06Um, I think he was 35

0:48:06 > 0:48:10and Mum would be about 46.

0:48:10 > 0:48:12That's Argyrios, there, when they got married.

0:48:12 > 0:48:15That's their wedding day. That's their wedding day.

0:48:18 > 0:48:19There.

0:48:21 > 0:48:23She never changed much, actually.

0:48:28 > 0:48:31Annabella, that's Annabella.

0:48:31 > 0:48:32Did he have a job?

0:48:32 > 0:48:34No!

0:48:34 > 0:48:36Did he ever have a job?

0:48:36 > 0:48:39Um, maybe casually.

0:48:39 > 0:48:43But not properly. No, my mum provided.

0:48:47 > 0:48:51I didn't warm to him. I felt that he was up to something.

0:48:52 > 0:48:56After Mum had only been married to him a few weeks,

0:48:56 > 0:48:59he went off with an 18-year-old to Greece,

0:48:59 > 0:49:04so it confirmed our suspicions that he wasn't a nice person.

0:49:06 > 0:49:10- Was he ever physically violent towards her?- Yes.

0:49:10 > 0:49:12Once, we were in Greece, um,

0:49:12 > 0:49:15he was driving and he...

0:49:15 > 0:49:18Something happened, my mother told him to watch something in the road

0:49:18 > 0:49:22and he turned round and he hit her in the eye

0:49:22 > 0:49:24and he had this big sovereign ring.

0:49:24 > 0:49:29So, you know, he was violent. He had hurt my mother.

0:49:31 > 0:49:33One day she was locked out.

0:49:33 > 0:49:37She didn't have the key so she knocked at my door

0:49:37 > 0:49:39and then I came with her,

0:49:39 > 0:49:41and then she knocked the door.

0:49:41 > 0:49:43He came down...

0:49:43 > 0:49:47and, literally, I think he slapped her, you know.

0:49:47 > 0:49:51- He slapped her in front of you? - Yeah, yeah.

0:49:51 > 0:49:54He slapped her, pushed her, you know, how...?

0:49:54 > 0:49:57He was a very strong man, very strong man.

0:49:59 > 0:50:05And I think she had to go to the hospital for that. Yeah...

0:50:07 > 0:50:09She wanted to keep it to herself.

0:50:09 > 0:50:12Not talk to the police or anybody, you know?

0:50:12 > 0:50:15I mean, that's where she has gone wrong.

0:50:16 > 0:50:19Right from the beginning, she should have told the police.

0:50:21 > 0:50:24But she kept quiet. I don't know why.

0:50:29 > 0:50:31- Was she a proud person?- Yes.

0:50:31 > 0:50:35I think she would have been quite sort of...

0:50:35 > 0:50:38not "ashamed", that's not the right word,

0:50:38 > 0:50:41but maybe a little bit embarrassed to tell her family

0:50:41 > 0:50:43the extent of what was going on.

0:50:50 > 0:50:53Gail Lucas, 51, and mother of two,

0:50:53 > 0:50:56attacked in her car in Leeds by her ex-partner

0:50:56 > 0:50:59who ignored court orders to stay away from her.

0:51:00 > 0:51:02Orina Morawiec, 21,

0:51:02 > 0:51:05stabbed to death in south-east London by her husband,

0:51:05 > 0:51:09who feared deportation to Afghanistan if she divorced him.

0:51:10 > 0:51:15In 2008, Chloe ended her relationship with Argyrios.

0:51:17 > 0:51:21They divided the house into two flats, and Argyrios moved upstairs.

0:51:30 > 0:51:35He started to become deluded, paranoid deluded, and, um,

0:51:35 > 0:51:39he said that there was an assassination plot -

0:51:39 > 0:51:43that her brothers were colluding to get him killed.

0:51:47 > 0:51:51I wanted to take my mother away from there, but she wouldn't go.

0:51:51 > 0:51:54That was her home, and she wouldn't leave.

0:51:59 > 0:52:04- When was the last time that you saw your mother?- December.

0:52:04 > 0:52:06Did she mention Argyrios at that time?

0:52:06 > 0:52:09Well, he was looming around,

0:52:09 > 0:52:11but he didn't look well.

0:52:12 > 0:52:14Did he go to the doctor?

0:52:14 > 0:52:16Yes.

0:52:16 > 0:52:19They took two X-rays.

0:52:19 > 0:52:22The second X-ray showed cancer

0:52:22 > 0:52:26and this is what triggered everything off.

0:52:26 > 0:52:28This is what led up to my mum's murder.

0:52:31 > 0:52:35Julie Connaughton, 57, attacked with a hammer in Chesterfield

0:52:35 > 0:52:38by her husband of nine years when she filed for divorce.

0:52:40 > 0:52:44Jane Wiggett, 57, strangled in Cheltenham by her ex-husband,

0:52:44 > 0:52:48who had been violent towards her throughout their 30-year marriage.

0:52:55 > 0:52:58I saw the flame and I took the phone

0:52:58 > 0:53:02and came quickly outside and rang 999.

0:53:03 > 0:53:05- 'Hello.- Hello?- Fire brigade.

0:53:05 > 0:53:07'There is a fire, a big fire

0:53:07 > 0:53:12'on Fallow Court Avenue, N12. Please come quickly!

0:53:12 > 0:53:16- 'What's on fire?- It is the whole place burning! The house is burning!

0:53:16 > 0:53:17'Right, can you get outside?

0:53:17 > 0:53:20'I've come outside! It's my neighbour!

0:53:20 > 0:53:22- 'Please!- OK, the fire brigade is on the way.

0:53:22 > 0:53:26- 'Please!- Do you know if there's anybody... OK.

0:53:26 > 0:53:29'Hello! Everything is burning! Please, come quick!'

0:53:31 > 0:53:35What I understand, um, what he did was...

0:53:35 > 0:53:38I don't know if he came up at Mum from behind,

0:53:38 > 0:53:42but there was mention that there was a towel on her head.

0:53:42 > 0:53:46I think maybe he put the towel over her head,

0:53:46 > 0:53:49blunt-force trauma on the head,

0:53:49 > 0:53:53broke her jaw, slit her throat

0:53:53 > 0:53:55and then he put her on the floor,

0:53:55 > 0:53:58he put all pillows and different things round her,

0:53:58 > 0:54:01he doused her with petrol and olive oil

0:54:01 > 0:54:06and he turned off all the fire alarms and he tried to set the gas

0:54:06 > 0:54:10so that he was hoping to explode the flat.

0:54:14 > 0:54:16Where was he found, Muireann?

0:54:16 > 0:54:19At the top of the stairs.

0:54:19 > 0:54:21He actually hung himself and he...

0:54:21 > 0:54:24The rope broke and he fell down.

0:54:27 > 0:54:29Why did he kill her?

0:54:29 > 0:54:33Why? Out of spite and malevolence.

0:54:33 > 0:54:36Basically, that's it.

0:54:36 > 0:54:40And I think he always thought that my mum would die first.

0:54:42 > 0:54:45- MUIREANN:- He thought, "Well, if I'm going, you're not staying. End of."

0:54:49 > 0:54:53- ANNA:- Why should she go like that?

0:54:53 > 0:54:55SOBBING

0:54:58 > 0:55:00She didn't deserve to go like THAT.

0:55:01 > 0:55:05You know, we're all going to die at one point, but...

0:55:06 > 0:55:10..she should have gone in comfort, with her family there.

0:55:10 > 0:55:14She was, you know... She could have lived another ten years more.

0:55:14 > 0:55:19She was healthy. There was nothing wrong with her, you know?

0:55:19 > 0:55:21Just...

0:55:21 > 0:55:22It's just wrong.

0:55:28 > 0:55:31Betty Gallagher, 87.

0:55:31 > 0:55:33Lisa Banks, 46.

0:55:44 > 0:55:46My whole life has changed now.

0:55:46 > 0:55:49I went off the rails massively.

0:55:49 > 0:55:50I went out and I got in trouble.

0:55:50 > 0:55:53You know, I got in fights and arguments

0:55:53 > 0:55:57and I just turned into a complete and utter mess.

0:55:59 > 0:56:01And are you all right now?

0:56:01 > 0:56:04I'll never be OK. You'll never, ever be OK.

0:56:06 > 0:56:10And has it made you wary or mistrustful of...

0:56:10 > 0:56:13- Everyone.- ..boys since then?

0:56:13 > 0:56:15I'm like it with everybody now.

0:56:15 > 0:56:17I don't really trust anybody.

0:56:17 > 0:56:19And do you think it will have affected

0:56:19 > 0:56:21your capacity to have a relationship?

0:56:23 > 0:56:24Yeah.

0:56:26 > 0:56:28Most definitely.

0:56:30 > 0:56:31Yeah.

0:56:31 > 0:56:33I didn't realise.

0:56:33 > 0:56:34It has, hasn't it?

0:56:46 > 0:56:49Annie Beaver, 81, killed in Hampshire

0:56:49 > 0:56:54by her husband of 40 years. Both were suffering from dementia.

0:56:55 > 0:56:59Sharon Hayter, 54, beaten to death with a claw hammer

0:56:59 > 0:57:02by her husband, who also killed their disabled daughter.

0:57:04 > 0:57:05Poonam Kumar, 35,

0:57:05 > 0:57:09strangled in Southall by her husband, who then hanged himself.

0:57:13 > 0:57:17- Look at them daffodils. They're pretty.- Yeah, they are.

0:57:17 > 0:57:19- I like that heart.- Yeah.- Yeah.

0:57:26 > 0:57:30- Tell her you've brought her a drink. - Mummy, I've brought you a drink.

0:57:30 > 0:57:34- She liked to have a drink of vodka, didn't she? You do it.- You do it.

0:57:34 > 0:57:36That's it. There you go, Chants.

0:57:36 > 0:57:40She's drinking it. You can tell, can't you?

0:57:40 > 0:57:42Yeah, it's going down, isn't it, now.

0:57:42 > 0:57:45- She must be enjoying that drink. - Yeah.

0:57:45 > 0:57:47- Do you think so?- Mm-hm.

0:57:47 > 0:57:49Yeah.

0:57:52 > 0:57:55Jayden Parkinson, 17.

0:57:55 > 0:57:57Victoria Adams, 22.

0:57:57 > 0:58:00Mahnaz Raffie, 48.

0:58:00 > 0:58:02Kerry Power, 36.

0:58:02 > 0:58:05Janet Lockhart, 29.

0:58:05 > 0:58:08Shamim Gabriel, 33.