0:00:04 > 0:00:09SINGING AND LAUGHING
0:00:12 > 0:00:15Show me your mehndi, put your arms out. Other way.
0:00:17 > 0:00:20It's like she got ready for a grand wedding.
0:00:20 > 0:00:22She was so happy, full of smiles.
0:00:22 > 0:00:25She said, "Oh, I feel like a princess."
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0:00:29 > 0:00:32She just wanted to be happy. She wasn't asking for the world.
0:00:41 > 0:00:44I really don't know why she went to Pakistan.
0:00:44 > 0:00:46It just shocks me. Like, she wasn't a daft girl.
0:00:48 > 0:00:51She had the best of this world. She wanted the best of that world.
0:00:51 > 0:00:54But things didn't work out the way she wanted it.
0:01:00 > 0:01:02"Your Excellency, the Prime Minister of Pakistan,
0:01:02 > 0:01:05"I am writing to you to bring to your attention a very serious
0:01:05 > 0:01:07"allegation of an honour killing of a British citizen."
0:01:07 > 0:01:10This case does fit that classic picture
0:01:10 > 0:01:13and circumstances of an honour killing.
0:01:14 > 0:01:18We're here to speak for her, because we know what she was like.
0:01:19 > 0:01:24Because today, if we let this go with Samia, it could be anybody.
0:01:26 > 0:01:29We are her voice, speaking for her today,
0:01:29 > 0:01:31because I know she would have done the same.
0:01:48 > 0:01:51Hey, you all! I love you all! Mwah!
0:01:51 > 0:01:54She used to describe herself as tall, dark and handsome.
0:01:56 > 0:01:59She was a just a Bradford girl.
0:01:59 > 0:02:02Into her fashion, into how she looks.
0:02:03 > 0:02:08Today I want to straighten and blow dry my hair. I've got nothing to do.
0:02:08 > 0:02:10If I'm sat down, I'm thinking about food!
0:02:10 > 0:02:14She was lively, bubbly, happy, smiling, laughing, joking...
0:02:14 > 0:02:17Tall, beautiful, stunning.
0:02:17 > 0:02:20She was a trendsetter, really. We used to copy her.
0:02:21 > 0:02:23Minions!
0:02:24 > 0:02:27She just wanted to be around people that loved her.
0:02:51 > 0:02:52I could be upsetting anybody today
0:02:52 > 0:02:57because it's such a sensitive matter within our community.
0:02:57 > 0:03:00It's like something you can't even talk about openly.
0:03:17 > 0:03:20Me, Nusba and Samia, we just always used to chill.
0:03:20 > 0:03:22We were so free with each other,
0:03:22 > 0:03:25and we could speak about literally anything.
0:03:25 > 0:03:27She was cool.
0:03:27 > 0:03:29We used to call her Samia Masee.
0:03:29 > 0:03:32"Masee" means, like, your mum's sister.
0:03:33 > 0:03:34She was a lot older than us,
0:03:34 > 0:03:37only like five or six years, but she was such a big kid.
0:03:38 > 0:03:40Like, she was a little wild one.
0:03:42 > 0:03:43She used to love cars.
0:03:45 > 0:03:46She loved driving.
0:03:46 > 0:03:48But she wasn't allowed to drive.
0:03:48 > 0:03:51Maybe that was their way of controlling exactly what
0:03:51 > 0:03:54she could do, or where she could go.
0:03:54 > 0:03:55Can you believe it?
0:03:55 > 0:03:58Her family own a limousine place, a car hiring company.
0:03:58 > 0:04:01She wasn't allowed a car!
0:04:01 > 0:04:02She used to hire a car undercover.
0:04:04 > 0:04:06That's how much lock-down she was on.
0:04:09 > 0:04:10She's really like a crazy boy driver.
0:04:13 > 0:04:16She was just living wild, reckless. She didn't care.
0:04:17 > 0:04:20"This is what I am. What you see is what you get."
0:04:21 > 0:04:26It was like... It's almost like she knew that her life-span
0:04:26 > 0:04:27is quite short.
0:04:34 > 0:04:36There's a lot of pressure in Bradford.
0:04:37 > 0:04:40Because her family are so well-known there's a lot of pressure.
0:04:52 > 0:04:54She loved her family.
0:04:54 > 0:04:57Out of everyone in the family, she was closest to her dad.
0:04:57 > 0:04:59The family is quite a big family.
0:04:59 > 0:05:02Her mum has got, like, five brothers.
0:05:02 > 0:05:03Her uncle owns a fish and chip shop,
0:05:03 > 0:05:05one owns the florist,
0:05:05 > 0:05:07one owns a car rental business,
0:05:07 > 0:05:09so they are very well-known.
0:05:09 > 0:05:12She loved her family. From her cousins, to her cousin brothers,
0:05:12 > 0:05:14her cousin brothers' kids, she loved them all.
0:05:14 > 0:05:16She never used to work.
0:05:16 > 0:05:18Her dad used to, like, finance her.
0:05:18 > 0:05:22She was Daddy's girl. Whatever she wanted, she got.
0:05:22 > 0:05:26If her dad used to say anything, it's like she could not disagree.
0:05:27 > 0:05:28She melted.
0:05:28 > 0:05:32Her family is so complicated from any other family that I know.
0:05:32 > 0:05:35Like, we've come from Asian families and we don't have that,
0:05:35 > 0:05:37but she had it on another level.
0:05:41 > 0:05:44The Pakistani values are, whatever happens, family comes first,
0:05:44 > 0:05:46no matter how much they shit on you.
0:05:47 > 0:05:51It's family, family, family, family, family, family, family, family,
0:05:51 > 0:05:52and it's never going to end.
0:05:53 > 0:05:57You want their approval at the end, no matter what decision you make.
0:05:57 > 0:06:00Whether it's wrong or right, but for them to say,
0:06:00 > 0:06:03"Yeah, it's OK, we're going to support you in this."
0:06:07 > 0:06:10She actually loved her family so much
0:06:10 > 0:06:13that she couldn't be open with them, ever.
0:06:13 > 0:06:15Everything was a secret.
0:06:19 > 0:06:23She was always like, "I love my dad, I'd do anything for my dad".
0:06:23 > 0:06:25You know, "my dad's word's law",
0:06:25 > 0:06:27and maybe that's why she actually went
0:06:27 > 0:06:30and she married her father's choice in the first place.
0:06:43 > 0:06:45What started happening was,
0:06:45 > 0:06:47because her mum and my mum were really close,
0:06:47 > 0:06:50her mum used to say to my mum, you know, "You talk to Samia,
0:06:50 > 0:06:54"she listens to you, ask her to come to Pakistan and get married."
0:06:54 > 0:06:56And that's when she opened up to us
0:06:56 > 0:06:58saying she's not happy with this marriage.
0:06:58 > 0:07:00From day one, she was not happy.
0:07:00 > 0:07:02Shakeel's her first cousin.
0:07:02 > 0:07:05Yeah, he's her first cousin, she had to marry him.
0:07:12 > 0:07:15These Pakistanis think that, to keep the land back home in the family
0:07:15 > 0:07:17that you should marry first cousins.
0:07:17 > 0:07:19So the family inheritance is good.
0:07:21 > 0:07:24It's like basically winning the lottery, but self-made.
0:07:27 > 0:07:30Her mum give birth to her, and her dad helped to make her,
0:07:30 > 0:07:32so she's property now.
0:07:39 > 0:07:42All your life, you've been choosing what you want to wear,
0:07:42 > 0:07:46how you want to do your hair, how you want to portray yourself,
0:07:46 > 0:07:48then all of a sudden, when you want to choose person to marry,
0:07:48 > 0:07:51all of a sudden, snap.
0:07:52 > 0:07:54It's like... It's like a mind game.
0:07:54 > 0:07:57They know they've got you where they want you,
0:07:57 > 0:07:59because they'll make you marry who they choose.
0:07:59 > 0:08:00You won't have your choice.
0:08:02 > 0:08:05Basically, it was just a marriage that had been arranged,
0:08:05 > 0:08:09and she kind of agreed to it.
0:08:09 > 0:08:11They went shopping with her, made sure she, like,
0:08:11 > 0:08:14got everything got everything, whatever she liked.
0:08:14 > 0:08:18They went up to Pakistani Bazaar and bought an outfit from there.
0:08:19 > 0:08:22They did pay for everything, but she wasn't happy.
0:08:22 > 0:08:25She knew that money could not buy happiness.
0:08:25 > 0:08:27She just had to go along with it.
0:08:48 > 0:08:51We dropped her off to the airport. She was totally heartbroken.
0:08:51 > 0:08:54She was like, "This journey's just getting faster and faster."
0:08:54 > 0:08:57I still remember she said that when she was sat on the plane.
0:08:57 > 0:08:59Before she was going to take-off, she texted me saying,
0:08:59 > 0:09:02"I can't believe this is actually happening."
0:09:06 > 0:09:07She felt suffocated.
0:09:09 > 0:09:12It's like you're losing yourself, it's like there's something
0:09:12 > 0:09:15over you that's possessing you to listen to them,
0:09:15 > 0:09:17but you're not following your heart,
0:09:17 > 0:09:19and then you're stuck in the middle of both worlds.
0:09:58 > 0:10:02I wasn't there physically with her, but I was always on the phone,
0:10:02 > 0:10:03texting, voice mails.
0:10:03 > 0:10:06She was telling me what's happening today, what's happened now,
0:10:06 > 0:10:07what's going to happen.
0:10:48 > 0:10:50Everyone went from here, so it was like a big wedding,
0:10:50 > 0:10:52obviously she didn't want to marry him,
0:10:52 > 0:10:55but she did it because she didn't want, you know,
0:10:55 > 0:10:58to make, like, a laughing stock out of her family.
0:11:04 > 0:11:06From her parents' point of view,
0:11:06 > 0:11:08they were doing the right thing by her.
0:11:11 > 0:11:13You know, you bring up your daughter,
0:11:13 > 0:11:15you want her to be married in a good home.
0:11:15 > 0:11:18You know, for her to make a life for herself.
0:11:23 > 0:11:27Her mum and dad were cousins before they got married.
0:11:27 > 0:11:29So she listened to her parents,
0:11:29 > 0:11:33and it's just, sort of, just a circle that goes on and on.
0:11:38 > 0:11:41My mum and dad are Pakistani, but I'm not.
0:11:42 > 0:11:43I'm from the UK.
0:11:44 > 0:11:46How can I change all of a sudden?
0:11:48 > 0:11:50How can I be the villager from back home?
0:11:53 > 0:11:55He knew she didn't want to marry him,
0:11:55 > 0:11:58why couldn't he be the bigger person and say, "You know what?
0:11:58 > 0:12:01"If she doesn't want to spend the rest of her life with me, I shouldn't marry her."
0:12:01 > 0:12:04You know, he could have helped her, he's her cousin.
0:12:04 > 0:12:06You know, he's known her since she's been a kid.
0:12:08 > 0:12:11How can you marry someone that doesn't want to marry you?
0:12:11 > 0:12:12Like, it's disgusting.
0:12:12 > 0:12:15I don't want to say it, but it's disgusting, isn't it?
0:12:19 > 0:12:23Every girl imagines to be with the perfect guy, have the perfect life.
0:12:23 > 0:12:25But she... She didn't get that.
0:12:27 > 0:12:31She just blocked the whole fact that she was going to get married,
0:12:31 > 0:12:33and then she just let it be.
0:12:33 > 0:12:36She just got married, and she just couldn't wait to come back.
0:13:03 > 0:13:07She was a really good girl, and she tried to make her marriage work.
0:13:07 > 0:13:09That's why her family say, "Oh, she was happy."
0:13:09 > 0:13:13No, that was all fake. She was trying to be happy.
0:13:13 > 0:13:16Do you know, with her, she's not a depressed sort of person.
0:13:16 > 0:13:19She was doing it for the sake of her dad.
0:13:19 > 0:13:22So it's not like she didn't give it her best shot.
0:13:23 > 0:13:26She just thought, "Do you know what? Let's see."
0:13:26 > 0:13:28She just thought, "We'll give it a chance."
0:13:35 > 0:13:37It just did not bring her happiness.
0:13:37 > 0:13:41She wasn't happy. The main thing was happiness for her.
0:13:41 > 0:13:45She wasn't happy, how could she live the rest of her life?
0:13:52 > 0:13:55Was she different when she came back from Pakistan?
0:13:55 > 0:13:57She didn't change towards her friends,
0:13:57 > 0:13:59but she became bitter towards her family.
0:13:59 > 0:14:01She became really bitter towards them.
0:14:08 > 0:14:12Well, she came back. She was, like, really low key.
0:14:13 > 0:14:15I remember, she wasn't allowed out much.
0:14:15 > 0:14:18And then we started talking, and she used to tell us she hates it.
0:14:20 > 0:14:21She always used to be sad.
0:14:48 > 0:14:52I'd go over to her house and he'd be on Skype to her.
0:14:52 > 0:14:55And I'd be like, "Doesn't he ever give you a break,
0:14:55 > 0:14:58"to be with your friends, or your family?"
0:14:58 > 0:14:59She used to be like, "No, no."
0:14:59 > 0:15:02She used to be like, "No, he doesn't.
0:15:02 > 0:15:04"He just always wants to be on my tail."
0:15:04 > 0:15:06That was her words "my tail".
0:15:08 > 0:15:12To her, when they used to be alone, he used to terrorise her.
0:15:18 > 0:15:22Your family will want you to go forward, to a limit.
0:15:22 > 0:15:26They want to get you married and control who you marry.
0:15:27 > 0:15:30But they don't care what they've done to you.
0:15:30 > 0:15:33They just say, "I'm sorry, but you're married to him.
0:15:33 > 0:15:34"You have to put up with it."
0:15:36 > 0:15:37How can you...?
0:15:37 > 0:15:39What can you do?
0:15:39 > 0:15:41You can't do anything.
0:15:41 > 0:15:44No-one's ever going to understand you.
0:15:45 > 0:15:47So you don't have no help from anyone.
0:15:47 > 0:15:50Your friends can't help you, and you're just stuck.
0:15:52 > 0:15:55Sometimes you just wish you weren't even here.
0:15:55 > 0:15:58You just want to be at peace, wherever it is.
0:15:59 > 0:16:01You don't want to be here.
0:16:52 > 0:16:55The first time when we met, we were in a restaurant.
0:16:56 > 0:16:59I met her through a couple of my other friends.
0:17:00 > 0:17:03For me, at that time, it was just some other girl.
0:17:04 > 0:17:08Gradually, when she opened up, she had a big, big, big laugh,
0:17:08 > 0:17:10very loud laugh.
0:17:23 > 0:17:27She was really lively, she was really loving.
0:17:28 > 0:17:31She had a way with the words,
0:17:31 > 0:17:34that she could steal away anybody's heart.
0:17:36 > 0:17:38Very clean gesture.
0:17:39 > 0:17:41Very naive nature.
0:17:41 > 0:17:43Very deep talks.
0:17:45 > 0:17:48I think these were the things, you know, which pulled me towards her.
0:17:53 > 0:17:57I remember that first time she ever told me about Ali.
0:17:58 > 0:18:01I was like, I knew there was some more to this!
0:18:02 > 0:18:05I had never seen such a big smile on her face.
0:18:07 > 0:18:12She wanted to take me to Piccadilly Circus, and so we took the Tube.
0:18:14 > 0:18:16After a while, I was thinking to myself,
0:18:16 > 0:18:18"Why not do I see any circus?"
0:18:18 > 0:18:22So I asked her, "It says Piccadilly Circus, where is the circus?"
0:18:25 > 0:18:30We laughed so hard that we were on the road, you know,
0:18:30 > 0:18:31holding our tummies.
0:18:31 > 0:18:33With aches in it.
0:18:35 > 0:18:37Fun moments.
0:18:41 > 0:18:43I think that was the moment, you know,
0:18:43 > 0:18:45we knew there was something going on.
0:18:45 > 0:18:47It wasn't intentional from both sides,
0:18:47 > 0:18:51but things started picking up from there.
0:18:55 > 0:18:58Phone calls, then me coming back to London more often,
0:18:58 > 0:19:00going to Bradford more often.
0:19:08 > 0:19:10She was head-over-heels about him.
0:19:10 > 0:19:13She was like, "This is what I want, this is...
0:19:13 > 0:19:14"This is what I've prayed for."
0:19:17 > 0:19:20Why did she choose Mukhtar?
0:19:20 > 0:19:21Because she loved Mukhtar.
0:19:21 > 0:19:24She loved the life that Mukhtar offered.
0:19:26 > 0:19:28She filled my life with happiness.
0:19:29 > 0:19:31Everything was different for me.
0:19:31 > 0:19:33Everything started making sense to me.
0:20:02 > 0:20:04I was a shy type, she was a shy type.
0:20:05 > 0:20:08One fine day, I said, "I think I like you,
0:20:08 > 0:20:09"I want to get married to you."
0:20:09 > 0:20:12And she was like, "Guess what? I want to marry you too."
0:20:12 > 0:20:14I said, "Oh, no, I'm in trouble now."
0:20:17 > 0:20:21She was in love, and that's what happens when you're in love.
0:20:21 > 0:20:25I think what she tried doing, in terms of being with Mukhtar,
0:20:25 > 0:20:29she tried to do it as sensitively as possible.
0:20:31 > 0:20:34When did she tell you about her circumstances,
0:20:34 > 0:20:37and what did you think?
0:20:37 > 0:20:41By the time she told me, we had this connection between us.
0:20:41 > 0:20:42We...
0:20:42 > 0:20:46We were really close, as friends, and this was, kind of,
0:20:46 > 0:20:49a deal between the father and this guy.
0:20:49 > 0:20:52He's going to get married to his daughter,
0:20:52 > 0:20:56and he's going to come to England for the passport,
0:20:56 > 0:20:58and to stay, and blah, blah, blah.
0:20:58 > 0:21:01She always considered him as a brother.
0:21:02 > 0:21:04How could a father do that to a daughter?
0:21:06 > 0:21:09He raised up a child all his life with love, care,
0:21:09 > 0:21:12he did so much for his child, and then one fine day,
0:21:12 > 0:21:15he just decides that she's no more a daughter, she is a cow,
0:21:15 > 0:21:18or a goat, I'm just going to go to the market and sell it.
0:21:18 > 0:21:22This is how she got married, and then she was back in England, and...
0:21:24 > 0:21:26..things were... Everybody knows how things were.
0:21:38 > 0:21:40When she decided she wanted to divorce him,
0:21:40 > 0:21:44she said to Shakeel that, "You need to divorce me",
0:21:44 > 0:21:47and he was like, "I'm not going to divorce you."
0:21:58 > 0:22:02I hadn't seen or heard or spoken to her.
0:22:02 > 0:22:05Normally, you know, we'd see each other in town, in Primark.
0:22:07 > 0:22:09So I knocked on the door.
0:22:11 > 0:22:13She wasn't there.
0:22:14 > 0:22:16She must have heard.
0:22:16 > 0:22:20She messaged, saying, "My family don't know anything.
0:22:20 > 0:22:22"Don't mention anything."
0:22:22 > 0:22:25I knew she were hinting at the divorce.
0:22:27 > 0:22:31She was saying, you know, she wasn't happy, she was homebound,
0:22:31 > 0:22:32she wasn't allowed to go anywhere.
0:22:34 > 0:22:37I said to her, you know, you need to leave there.
0:22:37 > 0:22:40And she thought, "I do anything yet, I need to divorce him first."
0:22:49 > 0:22:52I'd say to her, you don't take life seriously,
0:22:52 > 0:22:54and she used to say, "Life's too short.
0:22:54 > 0:22:56"It's right, man, it's right, man.
0:22:56 > 0:22:58"I'm just going to do it, there's no other choice."
0:22:58 > 0:23:00She didn't have a choice.
0:23:00 > 0:23:02She longed it out for way too long.
0:23:17 > 0:23:19Once she received that divorce paper,
0:23:19 > 0:23:24that's when she called Ali over from Dubai, and then that was it.
0:23:26 > 0:23:28She wanted her life.
0:23:28 > 0:23:31She wanted to be, like, she wanted to be a wife.
0:23:31 > 0:23:34She didn't want to just be a normal girl living at home.
0:23:34 > 0:23:37She wanted to move away and make a family.
0:23:49 > 0:23:52SHE SINGS
0:23:52 > 0:23:54GIGGLING
0:23:54 > 0:23:56Where's Ali gone?
0:23:57 > 0:24:01We got her ready for her wedding day with Ali,
0:24:01 > 0:24:04and Samaira did her make-up, and I went with her.
0:24:05 > 0:24:08It happened so quick, like,
0:24:08 > 0:24:11it was like a secret, we were doing a secret wedding with her.
0:24:14 > 0:24:17I was so badly shaking while I was doing her eyes,
0:24:17 > 0:24:18and I kept making her cry.
0:24:18 > 0:24:21I was like, "Are you really going to leave me?"
0:24:21 > 0:24:24And she was like, "Can you stop it?
0:24:24 > 0:24:27"You're supposed to be making me be brave and strong."
0:24:28 > 0:24:30She made sure it was the best.
0:24:30 > 0:24:32It's like she got ready for a grand wedding.
0:24:42 > 0:24:45Show me your mehndi, put your arms out. Other way.
0:24:45 > 0:24:48INAUDIBLE
0:24:48 > 0:24:51LAUGHTER
0:24:51 > 0:24:52Oh, it's so much that video.
0:24:52 > 0:24:55Her nose, her teeth, her smile, her laugh.
0:24:55 > 0:24:56She's so happy.
0:24:56 > 0:24:58She looks so alive.
0:25:03 > 0:25:07That day was probably the best day. I felt like I was getting married!
0:25:07 > 0:25:08That's how good I was feeling.
0:25:10 > 0:25:13She said, "Oh, I feel like a princess."
0:25:13 > 0:25:15She felt it, she felt it.
0:25:17 > 0:25:20Nikah was a very fun day.
0:25:21 > 0:25:24I was the chauffeur, I was the groom, I was the photographer.
0:25:26 > 0:25:28As soon we stepped out of the Imam's house,
0:25:28 > 0:25:31she looked into my eyes and she said, "You know what?"
0:25:31 > 0:25:34I said, "What?" "We did it!" So, yeah...
0:25:35 > 0:25:40We had tears in our eyes. We were happy and we were crying.
0:25:40 > 0:25:42The Imam walked out of the door,
0:25:42 > 0:25:45"Guys, relax, I think you're going to be fine."
0:25:45 > 0:25:48I was, "Yeah, it's going to be fine."
0:25:53 > 0:25:55That was it. They were done.
0:25:55 > 0:25:58It was the Nikah, and then it was the English registry,
0:25:58 > 0:26:02which, on both occasions, I wasn't able to make it, unfortunately.
0:26:02 > 0:26:03Why didn't you go?
0:26:03 > 0:26:05I'll be honest, I had other things going on,
0:26:05 > 0:26:09and her family used to turn up at my house as it was,
0:26:09 > 0:26:13and I felt like I shouldn't get too big for my boots and just,
0:26:13 > 0:26:15you know, I'll just take a back seat,
0:26:15 > 0:26:17but I'll always be there for her.
0:26:17 > 0:26:20I was there throughout the whole... Through the whole journey.
0:26:21 > 0:26:24It was nice. You know when you see someone go through a lot,
0:26:24 > 0:26:27it's nice to see them be happy because you think, you know what,
0:26:27 > 0:26:30they've had their hardship, now it's going to be easy, but...
0:26:30 > 0:26:32it didn't get easy for her.
0:26:47 > 0:26:50She was basically walking through a snicket with her cousin sister
0:26:50 > 0:26:51and some guys attacked her.
0:26:55 > 0:26:58And they started hitting her legs with metal poles.
0:27:01 > 0:27:03Nobody touched her cousin sister, but she got battered,
0:27:03 > 0:27:05so that was personal.
0:27:05 > 0:27:06That was a personal attack.
0:27:32 > 0:27:36Everybody hides secrets from families and friends,
0:27:36 > 0:27:40but he was the biggest secret of her life.
0:27:41 > 0:27:45And then, when it came out, it just didn't come out in the right way.
0:28:11 > 0:28:15She used to report it to the police, and she used to tell us that.
0:28:15 > 0:28:18So we used to get reassured, thinking they'll help her.
0:28:18 > 0:28:20She reported everything, everything.
0:28:20 > 0:28:23She used to argue with her family and have police on the phone,
0:28:23 > 0:28:25and her family didn't know.
0:28:25 > 0:28:28She was on top of it. She was very on top of it.
0:28:28 > 0:28:30You know, especially when you have a big family,
0:28:30 > 0:28:32so you have loads of cousins,
0:28:32 > 0:28:34you have loads of uncles and aunties,
0:28:34 > 0:28:36and they're all married in the family,
0:28:36 > 0:28:38so so-and-so's married to so-and-so's brother,
0:28:38 > 0:28:42so-and-so's married to so-and-so's sister, and it's so intense.
0:28:42 > 0:28:45I can't think of one person that was by her side.
0:28:48 > 0:28:50I knew she had an officer involved.
0:28:53 > 0:28:55And I knew she had things going on, but,
0:28:55 > 0:29:01I was so caught up in myself and my situation, that I never asked her.
0:29:03 > 0:29:05And I just... I feel really selfish.
0:29:08 > 0:29:13Towards the end of her living at home, she was really scared, like...
0:29:14 > 0:29:16..petrified scared.
0:29:17 > 0:29:20She was like a prisoner, really, in her own home.
0:29:22 > 0:29:24I thought, you know, maybe they are angry,
0:29:24 > 0:29:26maybe they will settle down, but they didn't.
0:29:28 > 0:29:30I told Samia, I said, "Listen,
0:29:30 > 0:29:32"things are not getting better,
0:29:32 > 0:29:35"you come to Dubai and we'll settle it from here."
0:29:38 > 0:29:43Behind the scenes, we were planning on getting her ticket, her passport,
0:29:43 > 0:29:46getting her mehndi back on cos she's going back to her husband...
0:29:46 > 0:29:49And then the next day, she just went.
0:29:51 > 0:29:53It was going to happen, there was no other way.
0:29:53 > 0:29:55Her family were never going to agree.
0:29:57 > 0:29:59It felt right for her.
0:29:59 > 0:30:01She thought, "This is what I want."
0:30:02 > 0:30:06But, once she did, she was the happiest girl alive.
0:30:18 > 0:30:20Wooo!
0:30:23 > 0:30:26INAUDIBLE
0:30:31 > 0:30:33She loved Dubai from day one.
0:30:34 > 0:30:36She explored every corner in Dubai.
0:30:36 > 0:30:38She was enjoying herself.
0:30:38 > 0:30:40She'd want people to know that she was having fun,
0:30:40 > 0:30:42so, yeah, she used to bash Snapchat.
0:30:42 > 0:30:45She used to bash Snapchat badly.
0:30:46 > 0:30:50Why are we getting free hot chocolate only in Dubai?
0:30:50 > 0:30:52She used to drive there as well.
0:30:52 > 0:30:55She used to drive her husband's car, and it was on the left-hand side.
0:30:55 > 0:30:57She goes, "I've adjusted right well, you know?"
0:30:57 > 0:30:59And she was really happy.
0:31:00 > 0:31:03But she used to say, "I'm going to give birth to my kids in England",
0:31:03 > 0:31:06because she wanted her kids to be British, like their mum.
0:31:06 > 0:31:08She was British and proud.
0:31:08 > 0:31:12MUSIC: Set Fire to the Rain by Adele
0:31:12 > 0:31:15SAMIA SINGS ALONG
0:31:15 > 0:31:19# But I set fire to the rain
0:31:19 > 0:31:23# Watched it pour as I touched your face... #
0:31:25 > 0:31:30Trust me, me and my husband are so eager to become parents.
0:31:30 > 0:31:32Allah is testing our patience,
0:31:32 > 0:31:35like hell, seriously.
0:31:36 > 0:31:38She couldn't wait to have kids.
0:31:38 > 0:31:41She was, basically just wanted a family.
0:31:41 > 0:31:43She wanted that. In that picture of her and Ali,
0:31:43 > 0:31:45she wanted a third person in it, basically.
0:31:47 > 0:31:50And if we have a girl, we're going to get her this,
0:31:50 > 0:31:51we're going to get her gold,
0:31:51 > 0:31:54we're going to get her gold this and gold that.
0:31:54 > 0:31:57Things will change so much. Everything will be about the baby.
0:31:57 > 0:31:59When me and him start talking about babies, he gets so happy.
0:31:59 > 0:32:01He'll be like, "We'll buy this, this and this."
0:32:01 > 0:32:04And he's like. "But what are we going to buy for ourselves?"
0:32:04 > 0:32:05And I die laughing.
0:32:05 > 0:32:09Everything will change once the baby will be born,
0:32:09 > 0:32:12when we'll come to know, the moment we'll come to know,
0:32:12 > 0:32:14I think everything will change, Inshallah.
0:32:14 > 0:32:19She used to say, "Oh, my make-up, I have to put this fixing spray on
0:32:19 > 0:32:23"because my make-up melts, but I love it out here."
0:32:25 > 0:32:27The thing that was so unfortunate
0:32:27 > 0:32:30was that she just couldn't let go of her family.
0:32:32 > 0:32:38She had the best of this world. She wanted the best of that world.
0:32:40 > 0:32:42But things didn't work out the way she wanted it.
0:33:01 > 0:33:05She wanted to ask for forgiveness from her mum and dad,
0:33:05 > 0:33:07and she started to feel bad for what she did.
0:33:12 > 0:33:15We still continued talking to the parents, you know, convincing them.
0:33:15 > 0:33:17She speaks to the family every day.
0:33:17 > 0:33:20She tries to convince the sister, the mother.
0:33:21 > 0:33:25She always wanted me to be the father's best friend.
0:33:25 > 0:33:27She always used to tell me,
0:33:27 > 0:33:31"He's really a nice guy, you'll like him, he'll like you."
0:33:32 > 0:33:37As a girl, you think, shit, if I go to do what I want to do,
0:33:37 > 0:33:40marry a guy of our own choice, without our mum and dad's blessing,
0:33:40 > 0:33:43it's always in our mind, it's always on our conscience.
0:33:43 > 0:33:47My mum and dad are not with me, and karma always get you back,
0:33:47 > 0:33:49no matter what you do, that's what we believe.
0:33:54 > 0:33:57They'll twine it in a way that it's like a hidden curse.
0:34:02 > 0:34:05To the father, I literally begged him.
0:34:05 > 0:34:07He was, like, saying one thing again and again,
0:34:07 > 0:34:10"You leave her, you leave her, you leave her."
0:34:10 > 0:34:12I said, "I can't leave her, she's my wife."
0:34:14 > 0:34:18She would call, tons and tons of messages,
0:34:18 > 0:34:21always messages on WhatsApp, everything.
0:34:21 > 0:34:22He wouldn't call back.
0:34:22 > 0:34:26The mother would tell, "OK, he's fine, he'll take some time,
0:34:26 > 0:34:28"he'll be OK."
0:34:28 > 0:34:31The sister would say, "He's really upset with you.
0:34:31 > 0:34:34"He doesn't like you any more, he doesn't want to see your face."
0:35:28 > 0:35:31Yes, reputation, honour is a big thing.
0:35:33 > 0:35:34She used to say it.
0:35:34 > 0:35:38Their family respect, that honour matters to them.
0:35:38 > 0:35:41No-one's allowed to tarnish that respect that they've got.
0:35:41 > 0:35:43People would say, "Look, your daughter's done this,
0:35:43 > 0:35:44"your daughter's this".
0:35:44 > 0:35:47That's why our parents feel like they're ashamed of what we've done,
0:35:47 > 0:35:50so they're carrying on the norms and values,
0:35:50 > 0:35:52and they're trying to embed them in so hard,
0:35:52 > 0:35:56but they don't understand, we're in the UK, not in Pakistan.
0:35:56 > 0:35:59It's the Pakistani culture against us.
0:36:41 > 0:36:44I get a call from the cousin, asking about Samia.
0:36:46 > 0:36:47And he told me that her aunt,
0:36:47 > 0:36:51which was her ex-mother-in-law, she passed away.
0:36:52 > 0:36:54She was really in shock.
0:36:54 > 0:36:56She really loved her auntie, which she did,
0:36:56 > 0:36:59she really loved Shakeel's mum, there's no denying about that.
0:36:59 > 0:37:01When Shakeel's mum died, she cried a lot.
0:37:05 > 0:37:07She wanted to go to Pakistan after that,
0:37:07 > 0:37:11and we had this discussion, why she shouldn't go to Pakistan.
0:37:14 > 0:37:15And then, after a few weeks,
0:37:15 > 0:37:20she started getting these emotional dialogues from the family.
0:37:20 > 0:37:24The father is not well, he's going to pass away any time,
0:37:24 > 0:37:25you need to come.
0:37:26 > 0:37:28Things might happen to the father.
0:37:55 > 0:37:57Then she gets another phone call, you know.
0:37:57 > 0:37:59"What if your father dies?"
0:37:59 > 0:38:01Blah, blah, blah.
0:38:02 > 0:38:07She was...out of control. She just wanted to get to Pakistan,
0:38:07 > 0:38:09she wanted to see her father.
0:38:12 > 0:38:15I mean, her dad, like he was quite ill for the past few years,
0:38:15 > 0:38:17you know, with diabetes.
0:38:19 > 0:38:21If anything happened to her dad,
0:38:21 > 0:38:24she would never forgive herself for not going.
0:38:24 > 0:38:27But she said, there's no reassurance,
0:38:27 > 0:38:30so that shows that she feared for her life,
0:38:30 > 0:38:33and she couldn't guarantee that she was going to come back.
0:38:35 > 0:38:38Samaira Facetimed me, straightaway, she rang me,
0:38:38 > 0:38:41she goes, "You won't believe it. Masee's going Pakistan."
0:38:42 > 0:38:46I go, "Is she fucking stupid? Does she want to fucking get shot?"
0:38:47 > 0:38:50Samaira's like, "I've told her she's going to get shot.
0:38:50 > 0:38:51"You're risking everything."
0:38:51 > 0:38:54She goes, "She's not having it, she wants to see her dad."
0:39:10 > 0:39:13She was packing, and I asked her, "What's happening?"
0:39:13 > 0:39:16She was like, "I'm going to Pakistan."
0:39:16 > 0:39:18I said, "Where did you buy the ticket from?"
0:39:18 > 0:39:21She said, "My sister sent it to me."
0:39:22 > 0:39:24I was really upset about it.
0:39:25 > 0:39:28I was helpless. What could I have done?
0:39:30 > 0:39:34I'm going to face her the rest of my life, knowing that her father
0:39:34 > 0:39:37was not well and I stopped her, and something happened to him.
0:39:39 > 0:39:41Then I had to let her go.
0:39:46 > 0:39:47You know, I stopped my car.
0:39:47 > 0:39:50I said, "You still have time, think about it."
0:39:50 > 0:39:52She hugs me, and she says,
0:39:52 > 0:39:55"Nothing's going to happen to me, I'll be fine."
0:39:57 > 0:40:00And that was the last time I've seen her.
0:40:00 > 0:40:01Yup.
0:40:33 > 0:40:36I really don't know why she went to Pakistan.
0:40:38 > 0:40:42It just shocks me. She wasn't a daft girl.
0:40:43 > 0:40:45That's the question. Why did she go?
0:40:45 > 0:40:47Why did she go? Like, why?
0:41:24 > 0:41:28Hi, I got my SIM, I called you. I don't have net.
0:41:28 > 0:41:31I'll have net later on, but you can contact me on that number direct.
0:41:31 > 0:41:35So, I'm going to leave this place now, head towards my place,
0:41:35 > 0:41:37and, so, just ring me.
0:43:26 > 0:43:28'Everything will change.'
0:43:34 > 0:43:35'Wooo!'
0:46:16 > 0:46:20I kept waiting and waiting. She didn't call me back.
0:46:20 > 0:46:24I started calling her, texting her, nothing happened.
0:46:24 > 0:46:26This was not Samia.
0:46:29 > 0:46:31Then I started texting her sister,
0:46:31 > 0:46:35and saying, "I'm trying to reach Samia.
0:46:35 > 0:46:36"Do you know where she is?"
0:46:36 > 0:46:38She kept on reading the texts.
0:46:38 > 0:46:39She wouldn't get back to me on that.
0:46:42 > 0:46:4610pm, my time, I get a call from her cousin.
0:46:48 > 0:46:50He told me that she died of a heart attack.
0:46:54 > 0:46:55I thought, "Maybe...
0:46:55 > 0:46:58"Maybe this is one of the dirty games they are playing.
0:46:58 > 0:47:00"Maybe they took away her passport
0:47:00 > 0:47:03"and they don't want her to come back, and they will torture her."
0:47:04 > 0:47:09I had a hope that she's still alive, and I might be able to find her.
0:48:12 > 0:48:14I just... I was just shocked.
0:48:15 > 0:48:20I remember later I fainted, after like an hour, when it sunk in.
0:48:21 > 0:48:24I just couldn't grasp the fact that she's dead.
0:48:26 > 0:48:28But what really got me was that I was there that time,
0:48:28 > 0:48:30I was in Pakistan.
0:48:30 > 0:48:32I was in the same clock.
0:48:32 > 0:48:34Like, the clock was ticking, at the same time
0:48:34 > 0:48:38whilst my mate was getting brutally abused,
0:48:38 > 0:48:42I was, God knows, laughing with who, shopping, buying clothes...
0:48:42 > 0:48:44Little did I know that a life's been taken.
0:48:44 > 0:48:46One of my girls is dying.
0:48:46 > 0:48:48Do you know what I mean?
0:50:09 > 0:50:11Half of the cousins were saying something,
0:50:11 > 0:50:14and half of the cousins were saying something else,
0:50:14 > 0:50:17that she's died of a heart attack, or that she fell down the stairs,
0:50:17 > 0:50:20she had an asthma attack, she's committed suicide.
0:50:20 > 0:50:24And I just thought, "Here we go with all the stories."
0:50:24 > 0:50:26Samaira's like, "You need to report it to the police, we need help.
0:50:26 > 0:50:29"Pakistan, they've buried her, and no-one will help us."
0:50:29 > 0:50:31She was screaming at me on the phone,
0:50:31 > 0:50:33"You have to do something there!"
0:50:33 > 0:50:36I was like, "I have to do it, I have to do it, I have to do it."
0:50:36 > 0:50:41We went to the police station straightaway to report her murder.
0:50:50 > 0:50:51I got a text message saying,
0:50:51 > 0:50:55"Naz, there's a girl who's been killed in Pakistan,
0:50:55 > 0:50:58"she's British, one of your constituents.
0:50:58 > 0:51:00"Can you help us, and if you can't, then tell us who can."
0:51:02 > 0:51:04And immediately, when I heard the story,
0:51:04 > 0:51:05I knew it, I knew she'd been murdered.
0:51:05 > 0:51:08There was not a single question in my head
0:51:08 > 0:51:10that she had not been murdered.
0:51:10 > 0:51:12So what I did, was then I wrote directly
0:51:12 > 0:51:13to the Prime Minister of Pakistan.
0:51:13 > 0:51:16I took the risk of naming it as an honour killing,
0:51:16 > 0:51:18saying it had the hallmarks of an honour killing,
0:51:18 > 0:51:20because I was absolutely convinced.
0:51:20 > 0:51:22That was when Pakistanis realised,
0:51:22 > 0:51:24"Hang on a minute, we need to look into this."
0:51:49 > 0:51:51Under light of the available evidence,
0:51:51 > 0:51:54the court grants us custody of the accused.
0:51:57 > 0:52:00They told us in the investigation how it happened.
0:52:06 > 0:52:09Shakeel was hell bent on keeping her in Pakistan,
0:52:09 > 0:52:11and breaking off this marriage
0:52:11 > 0:52:16with a gentleman who was from outside the family.
0:52:16 > 0:52:18Till 20th, they waited.
0:52:19 > 0:52:22They went through the personal effects of Samia secretly,
0:52:22 > 0:52:24this is what they told us in the investigation.
0:52:24 > 0:52:28They were unable to find the passport and the ticket.
0:52:28 > 0:52:30When, around noon, she came to that mansion
0:52:30 > 0:52:33where her luggage was sitting,
0:52:33 > 0:52:36Shakeel went into an argument,
0:52:36 > 0:52:39trying to make her stay in Pakistan.
0:52:39 > 0:52:44And, when she refused, then he forcefully committed sexual act.
0:52:45 > 0:52:50And when he was done with that, she was running down screaming...
0:52:51 > 0:52:56That is when Shakeel put the scarf around her neck, and killed her.
0:53:28 > 0:53:31REPORTER: Samia was happy in her second marriage.
0:53:31 > 0:53:33She conformed to law in Britain, why was she killed in Pakistan?
0:53:43 > 0:53:44Was Samia murdered?
0:54:49 > 0:54:54I've been talking about family honour for many, many years now.
0:54:54 > 0:54:59There's a script we follow as Asian girls, as Pakistani girls.
0:54:59 > 0:55:03What you have is, you have young girls who feel that they're
0:55:03 > 0:55:05holding their parents' izzat,
0:55:05 > 0:55:08and if they step out of line, they will be letting their parents down.
0:55:08 > 0:55:11And the pressure of that is absolutely immense.
0:55:12 > 0:55:15That because it's so culturally normal,
0:55:15 > 0:55:18it doesn't seem like it's been coerced, it's what happens.
0:55:18 > 0:55:21In Samia's case, there are classic hallmarks,
0:55:21 > 0:55:24classic hallmarks of power, control,
0:55:24 > 0:55:26the whole misguided concept of honour,
0:55:26 > 0:55:28how it manifests around women,
0:55:28 > 0:55:30the control of women.
0:55:30 > 0:55:32You know, been there, done it, got the T-shirt.
0:55:32 > 0:55:35I know what my community's about, and I know when it's wrong.
0:55:35 > 0:55:37And in this case, it was wrong.
0:55:44 > 0:55:46I'm not the same person any more.
0:55:46 > 0:55:48Even if I smile, even if I laugh,
0:55:48 > 0:55:50it's just a fake smile,
0:55:50 > 0:55:51it's just a fake laugh.
0:55:52 > 0:55:55She completed me, in many ways.
0:55:55 > 0:55:59If I say all the ways, it won't be wrong. She did complete me.
0:56:02 > 0:56:03You have to have two faces.
0:56:03 > 0:56:06One for the world, and one for yourself.
0:56:08 > 0:56:11Some people find a balance between the two, and others can't,
0:56:11 > 0:56:14and they rebel. And...you just get stuck.
0:56:19 > 0:56:21And then you get trapped.
0:56:21 > 0:56:24This is what we were always scared of.
0:56:24 > 0:56:27This was like the thing that we just knew was going to happen.
0:56:30 > 0:56:31That was the sad part, that we knew.
0:56:31 > 0:56:33We knew it was going to happen,
0:56:33 > 0:56:36but we were oblivious to it at the same time.
0:56:38 > 0:56:42To see someone so beautiful in so much pain.
0:56:42 > 0:56:44She was dead laying there,
0:56:44 > 0:56:46but I could still see pain through her.
0:56:48 > 0:56:51It was like I could see "help" written on her forehead,
0:56:51 > 0:56:52like "help me, help me".
0:56:52 > 0:56:56And you know, she was proud of being British, but it didn't...
0:56:56 > 0:56:58She's not got anything for being British.
0:57:00 > 0:57:02She's in a better place.
0:57:02 > 0:57:04She's definitely in heaven.
0:57:04 > 0:57:06Definitely in Jannah.
0:57:08 > 0:57:12I just want the truth to come out, and justice to be served.
0:57:12 > 0:57:15Let justice... The word "justice" is not good enough
0:57:15 > 0:57:16for what I want to happen.
0:57:21 > 0:57:23She got murdered.
0:57:23 > 0:57:26Everyone should be speaking about the fact that she got murdered.
0:57:26 > 0:57:28Honour killing.
0:57:30 > 0:57:32It's not a crime what she's done.
0:57:32 > 0:57:33It's normal.
0:57:33 > 0:57:35It's normal to fall in love.
0:57:41 > 0:57:45She told us, she used to say to us, "If anything happens to me...
0:57:45 > 0:57:46"you guys are my witnesses.
0:57:46 > 0:57:48"I'm telling you lot."
0:57:48 > 0:57:49But...
0:57:51 > 0:57:53..our words are not good enough, are they?