0:00:02 > 0:00:05This programme contains some strong language.
0:00:05 > 0:00:09- We all want things from the people we love.- A boyfriend should be somebody that can make you smile,
0:00:09 > 0:00:13can make you happy, can pick you up when you're feeling down.
0:00:13 > 0:00:18And then I was obviously 11 and caring. Too far.
0:00:18 > 0:00:21Everyone wants a father figure, someone to go to the pub with
0:00:21 > 0:00:23or play football with or help with their homework.
0:00:23 > 0:00:25So how do you cope
0:00:25 > 0:00:29when someone close to you is locked up for committing a terrible crime?
0:00:29 > 0:00:33Some days, I can have my depressing days and I can really break down.
0:00:33 > 0:00:35My mum was in pieces. I was in pieces.
0:00:35 > 0:00:36Everyone in my family was in pieces.
0:00:36 > 0:00:39I don't understand that.
0:00:39 > 0:00:40No matter how hard things get,
0:00:40 > 0:00:43you've got to be supportive to the man you love, and I am.
0:00:43 > 0:00:48This film follows the stories of four extraordinary young people
0:00:48 > 0:00:52whose lives are turned upside down by having a loved one in prison.
0:00:52 > 0:00:56We woke to 30 to 40 police officers in our house
0:00:56 > 0:00:57with bullet-proof vests on.
0:00:57 > 0:01:00He didn't realise that his actions were going to have
0:01:00 > 0:01:02such a negative impact on my life.
0:01:02 > 0:01:06Filmed over 18 months, their lives take dramatic turns...
0:01:06 > 0:01:11It's all a bit much now. I just want it all sorted out.
0:01:11 > 0:01:14There has been occasions in the past when you weren't there to help me.
0:01:14 > 0:01:17How can I focus when people in school ask why my dad's in jail?
0:01:17 > 0:01:19- What the...? That's- BLEEP- hurtful.
0:01:19 > 0:01:21..as they face the challenges
0:01:21 > 0:01:25of loving someone on the wrong side of the law.
0:01:25 > 0:01:27The one thing you want there with you, you can't have.
0:01:27 > 0:01:29And it is heartbreaking.
0:01:29 > 0:01:33I've never heard my dad accept responsibility for anything,
0:01:33 > 0:01:35let alone shaping my life.
0:01:35 > 0:01:37Eight years without your dad,
0:01:37 > 0:01:42seeing him about once a month is just too hard to think about.
0:01:53 > 0:01:56This is the Gibsons' household in rural Suffolk.
0:01:57 > 0:02:01Mum Christine, 19-year-old Becky,
0:02:01 > 0:02:06her brother Matt and her two little sisters, Rachel and Sarah.
0:02:06 > 0:02:10Their father, Graham, has just gone to prison for eight years.
0:02:10 > 0:02:14He was found guilty of a £52 million pension scheme fraud.
0:02:16 > 0:02:19It's just unbelievable. It was really upsetting.
0:02:19 > 0:02:23We still all remember it really clearly to this day.
0:02:23 > 0:02:25It's something that we're never going to forget.
0:02:25 > 0:02:27This is my mum's room.
0:02:27 > 0:02:30This room, you can hear cars coming down the lane and stuff,
0:02:30 > 0:02:33and obviously, when we first got raided,
0:02:33 > 0:02:38you could hear the cars outside and you could hear doors slamming.
0:02:38 > 0:02:41It's really hard to explain, when you wake up,
0:02:41 > 0:02:44and you have 30 or so police officers in your house.
0:02:44 > 0:02:47The first feeling is fear, really, why are they here?
0:02:47 > 0:02:50Are they after you? Have you done something?
0:02:50 > 0:02:53And then, when you realise it's one of your parents,
0:02:53 > 0:02:56it's like, they're going to take him away in a police van,
0:02:56 > 0:02:57they're going to lock him up.
0:02:57 > 0:03:02It has a long-term lasting effect, to the point where, at one point,
0:03:02 > 0:03:06I didn't leave the house for weeks on end, because I was scared to go out.
0:03:06 > 0:03:08I would have panic attacks in the middle of town
0:03:08 > 0:03:09when I was shopping with my friends.
0:03:12 > 0:03:16Becky and her family live in a close-knit community.
0:03:16 > 0:03:18We'd hoped they'd be supportive, cos when we first moved here,
0:03:18 > 0:03:21we'd all just stand and chat on the lane type of thing.
0:03:21 > 0:03:23We were getting on well.
0:03:23 > 0:03:26Then they just all sort of turned when it happened, you know.
0:03:26 > 0:03:29You do feel like you're being judged.
0:03:29 > 0:03:32When someone hears that you've got a parent in jail,
0:03:32 > 0:03:35you're a bit like, "Oh, maybe you're just like them
0:03:35 > 0:03:38"and you're going to end up in jail as well,"
0:03:38 > 0:03:40and it is really hurtful.
0:03:44 > 0:03:47Before Graham went to prison, the Gibsons were comfortably off.
0:03:47 > 0:03:50Becky was used to family holidays in Thailand
0:03:50 > 0:03:53and pool parties in the back garden.
0:03:53 > 0:03:57Since Graham has gone, the family have lost their main wage-earner,
0:03:57 > 0:04:00and all their assets have been frozen.
0:04:00 > 0:04:02I think these are all my bills now.
0:04:02 > 0:04:04I've just about got them in order.
0:04:06 > 0:04:10Like, all the electric bill, the water bill.
0:04:10 > 0:04:14Yeah, it was just me just start again from scratch
0:04:14 > 0:04:16and just sorting out everything.
0:04:16 > 0:04:21We get help from the prison, because it's a 50-mile journey, isn't it?
0:04:21 > 0:04:23As I'm not earning any money,
0:04:23 > 0:04:28they allow us petrol money when I visit with the children.
0:04:28 > 0:04:30What do we get? 13p a mile.
0:04:30 > 0:04:32Every penny counts at the moment, doesn't it?
0:04:32 > 0:04:35Every single penny, yeah. It's just been a nightmare.
0:04:35 > 0:04:38I must admit, the first few weeks, we got in such a muddle.
0:04:40 > 0:04:43The family are struggling with their finances
0:04:43 > 0:04:47and are getting by on Becky and her brother Matt's part-time wages.
0:04:47 > 0:04:49We're a family of five at the moment.
0:04:49 > 0:04:53When you're trying to feed a family of five for a month,
0:04:53 > 0:04:54it's so difficult.
0:04:54 > 0:04:58We've literally had to be financially responsible for the whole family,
0:04:58 > 0:05:02and it's really difficult, because, you know, you think,
0:05:02 > 0:05:03"I earn that money."
0:05:03 > 0:05:08And then, we have to give quite a lot of it to put on bills.
0:05:08 > 0:05:11I've learnt just to say, "Look, we need it."
0:05:11 > 0:05:14I'm just trying to be mature about it, really.
0:05:15 > 0:05:20Becky's family have not paid their mortgage for the last eight months.
0:05:20 > 0:05:22I am worried about repossession at the moment,
0:05:22 > 0:05:25because the bills are just so expensive.
0:05:25 > 0:05:29It involves about £1,000 every month for the mortgage.
0:05:29 > 0:05:33Before this happened, I thought I'd just have a nice easy life,
0:05:33 > 0:05:37going to meet someone, get married and have kids, perfectly normal.
0:05:37 > 0:05:42It was the last thing we ever imagined would happen to us.
0:05:54 > 0:05:57Cheyenne is 16.
0:05:57 > 0:06:00Her mum was caught trying to smuggle drugs into a prison
0:06:00 > 0:06:02and has been in jail for the past two years.
0:06:02 > 0:06:04I used to watch Bad Girls on the telly,
0:06:04 > 0:06:07and it used to be quite rough and what they'd get up to,
0:06:07 > 0:06:11and I'm thinking, "Oh, no, is that what my mum's doing in jail?"
0:06:13 > 0:06:19Cheyenne was 13 when her mum went to prison. The sentence was four years.
0:06:19 > 0:06:25I was quite angry with her, quite angry and a bit disappointed.
0:06:25 > 0:06:29With good behaviour, she'll only serve two years.
0:06:30 > 0:06:36If all goes well, Cheyenne could have her back in just a few months.
0:06:36 > 0:06:40That picture was when my mum first went into jail.
0:06:40 > 0:06:44I got birthday cards from her when she's been in there.
0:06:44 > 0:06:47"To my Cheyenne, best wishes on your 14th birthday.
0:06:47 > 0:06:50"Have a wonderful day. All my love always, Mum."
0:06:50 > 0:06:53Every year, she always sends me a Valentine's card as well,
0:06:53 > 0:06:57just saying she loves me.
0:06:57 > 0:07:00She always puts at the end, "Mummy". Instead of "Mum", it's always "Mummy".
0:07:00 > 0:07:05I usually get quite emotional when I get some letters off my mum,
0:07:05 > 0:07:08cos I know straightaway by the envelope.
0:07:08 > 0:07:12She decorates the envelopes. I know her writing and everything.
0:07:12 > 0:07:14Since her mum went to prison,
0:07:14 > 0:07:16Cheyenne has lived with different relatives.
0:07:16 > 0:07:19She's currently staying at her grandad's house in Wales
0:07:19 > 0:07:23and is being looked after by her Auntie Clare.
0:07:25 > 0:07:28- INTERVIEWER:- Is it always so busy? - Yeah, all the time.
0:07:29 > 0:07:33It's a small house, and Cheyenne doesn't have her own room.
0:07:34 > 0:07:37Where do you get ready when you're here?
0:07:37 > 0:07:42I either get ready in here or I get ready in my auntie's room.
0:07:42 > 0:07:45I don't know - wherever's free, really!
0:07:45 > 0:07:46And where do you sleep?
0:07:46 > 0:07:52I sleep either in my auntie's bed when I want to,
0:07:52 > 0:07:56but I find it more comfortable on the settee, so I stay on the settee,
0:07:56 > 0:07:59big quilt, I just wraps up and watches the telly and falls asleep.
0:08:06 > 0:08:08Since Cheyenne moved to Wales,
0:08:08 > 0:08:11her attendance had school has been poor,
0:08:11 > 0:08:15and she's been getting into trouble with her mates.
0:08:15 > 0:08:19Always drinking, getting into trouble with the police.
0:08:19 > 0:08:23I was fighting then on bonfire night, weren't I? Got arrested for that.
0:08:23 > 0:08:25Got cautioned.
0:08:25 > 0:08:27And what about school?
0:08:27 > 0:08:29SHE LAUGHS
0:08:29 > 0:08:32- Well!- Don't even go!
0:08:32 > 0:08:36- When I do go, I go on the knock from my lessons, don't I?- Yeah.
0:08:36 > 0:08:38I just don't go to my lessons.
0:08:38 > 0:08:41Because like, no-one tells me off. They try, and I just don't listen.
0:08:41 > 0:08:44I've got one of them things, I just blanks out the people.
0:08:44 > 0:08:47What I don't want to hear, I blanks out of it.
0:08:47 > 0:08:49Run!
0:08:51 > 0:08:53Come on!
0:08:55 > 0:08:57I don't know. She's out of control of the moment.
0:08:57 > 0:08:59She just don't listen.
0:08:59 > 0:09:02She promised to settle down in school.
0:09:02 > 0:09:05You know, few weeks, and that was it.
0:09:07 > 0:09:11- Being pushed from pillar to post, living out of suitcases.- And bags.
0:09:11 > 0:09:14It's not fair for her.
0:09:14 > 0:09:17It's messed up her schooling. It's...
0:09:19 > 0:09:20..and everything.
0:09:20 > 0:09:23- Do you miss her?- Yeah.
0:09:23 > 0:09:27A lot, like really badly, like I do miss her.
0:09:27 > 0:09:30Some days, I can have my depressing days
0:09:30 > 0:09:34when I really, really break down.
0:09:34 > 0:09:38I'll just be like, "I want my mum," I don't know.
0:09:38 > 0:09:40Not long ago, I just broke down and thought,
0:09:40 > 0:09:42"Oh, my God, what am I doing?"
0:09:42 > 0:09:44I do miss her loads.
0:09:53 > 0:09:5719-year-old Dean is unemployed but dreams of being a rap star.
0:09:57 > 0:10:01He lives in one of the toughest housing estates in north-west London.
0:10:03 > 0:10:06Everyone who lives on this estate, like my kind of age,
0:10:06 > 0:10:09like none of us have had it easy, so to speak, innit.
0:10:09 > 0:10:12It's not a nice place to grow up. You can see that by looking, innit.
0:10:12 > 0:10:13Don't be flaunting your goods.
0:10:13 > 0:10:16If you flaunt your goods, there's a lot of hungry people round here
0:10:16 > 0:10:19that won't be happy to see you with an iPhone or a BlackBerry, like.
0:10:21 > 0:10:22Dean's father, also called Dean,
0:10:22 > 0:10:26spent much of his son's childhood in and out of prison
0:10:26 > 0:10:30and, as a result, has had little input into his upbringing.
0:10:30 > 0:10:32I never had a dad.
0:10:32 > 0:10:35He was locked for prolonged periods throughout my whole life.
0:10:35 > 0:10:39I've had one stable home ever.
0:10:39 > 0:10:43Dean was brought up by a series of different relatives.
0:10:43 > 0:10:49I've lived in Mill Hill, West Hendon, Watford, Kingsbury, Stanmore,
0:10:49 > 0:10:55Welwyn Garden City, Luton, even Spain for three months.
0:10:55 > 0:10:59I've lived all over, and that is because of my dad.
0:11:02 > 0:11:07If my dad never went to prison and I'd just lived in one place as a stable family unit,
0:11:07 > 0:11:10I would have had a much better chance of thriving in school.
0:11:10 > 0:11:12The plan always was, when I was younger,
0:11:12 > 0:11:15I was looking to go to university or at least college.
0:11:15 > 0:11:18But the way I look at it, my dad being away so much,
0:11:18 > 0:11:21it's just completely knocked any chance of stability I had,
0:11:21 > 0:11:24and because of that, I was never actually able to sit down and focus
0:11:24 > 0:11:27and think about what it was that I actually wanted.
0:11:30 > 0:11:34Dean's dad has been out of prison since 2006
0:11:34 > 0:11:38but had spent the previous 12 years in and out of jail.
0:11:38 > 0:11:42I started painting in prison.
0:11:42 > 0:11:45This one's called Glasto Baby.
0:11:45 > 0:11:50This is Glastonbury, this is Dance Village.
0:11:50 > 0:11:56I was a bit obsessed with Amy Winehouse for a while.
0:11:56 > 0:11:57Amy with Marilyn Monroe hair.
0:12:00 > 0:12:03In total, I've been in Pentonville, Ford,
0:12:03 > 0:12:06Highpoint, Wandsworth and Brixton prison.
0:12:06 > 0:12:11The first one was taking a conveyance without authority under the Theft Act.
0:12:11 > 0:12:15Then the second one, which was assault occasioning actual bodily harm.
0:12:15 > 0:12:17Possession, article of the blade in a public place.
0:12:17 > 0:12:22Conspiracy to defraud the major credit card companies and clearing banks.
0:12:22 > 0:12:26And then after that, we get to 2004, which is 10 years later.
0:12:26 > 0:12:29That's when it was the art and all the rest of it.
0:12:29 > 0:12:33I was actually in prison for handling stolen art
0:12:33 > 0:12:37worth £600,000, contemporary art, Warhols and stuff.
0:12:37 > 0:12:42I mean, I had four Warhols for a year hanging in my house,
0:12:42 > 0:12:46and mates would come round and say, "They look like real ones."
0:12:46 > 0:12:48I'd go, "No, no, no they're just prints," you know.
0:12:48 > 0:12:52And thinking they've got Warhol's fingerprints on the back of them, know what I mean?
0:12:52 > 0:12:56But at the time, crime was like my business.
0:12:56 > 0:12:59It was strange for me, because one day, I was walking home from school
0:12:59 > 0:13:03and looking at a sheet of paper which was my homework about researching Andy Warhol paintings
0:13:03 > 0:13:06and bringing in an example of six other pieces of work, yeah?
0:13:06 > 0:13:09So, you can imagine my shock when I walked through the front door
0:13:09 > 0:13:12and the Superman and one of the Marilyn Monroes
0:13:12 > 0:13:15were in my living room, sprawled across the living room floor.
0:13:15 > 0:13:17I was kind of like, "Whoa!"
0:13:17 > 0:13:18Dean was in the car
0:13:18 > 0:13:21when I was dragged out of an art gallery in Haymarket,
0:13:21 > 0:13:23and the road was blocked off by four police vans,
0:13:23 > 0:13:25and I was led out into to the street
0:13:25 > 0:13:29and laid in the middle of the road and handcuffed. He saw that.
0:13:29 > 0:13:33(RAPPING) It was hard when my father was incarcerated
0:13:33 > 0:13:35Real pain
0:13:35 > 0:13:38Real struggles...
0:13:38 > 0:13:40Since Dean's dad has come out of prison,
0:13:40 > 0:13:43they're on speaking terms but aren't close.
0:13:43 > 0:13:45Dean has never confronted his dad
0:13:45 > 0:13:48about the consequences of his time inside.
0:13:50 > 0:13:54I was just angry that he couldn't fix up and actually say to himself,
0:13:54 > 0:13:56"I've got kids, I've got responsibilities,
0:13:56 > 0:13:59"I need to be free on the road to help them."
0:13:59 > 0:14:02I'd just like to sit down with him one day and say to him,
0:14:02 > 0:14:05"Look, this is what you've done, this is the effect it had on me
0:14:05 > 0:14:07"and this is why I'm like this now."
0:14:07 > 0:14:09And I'd just like him to accept some responsibility,
0:14:09 > 0:14:12because it's something he's never done before.
0:14:20 > 0:14:23I am excited. A bit nervous.
0:14:23 > 0:14:27I don't know. Just loads of emotions.
0:14:27 > 0:14:30In Wales, Cheyenne is off on a visit to see her mum.
0:14:32 > 0:14:35I knows I'm close when I see Bristol Bridge.
0:14:36 > 0:14:39Until I get there, I'm like, "Are we there yet?"
0:14:39 > 0:14:43Every time I get in the car, I'm like, "How long? How long?"
0:14:43 > 0:14:48- Are you allowed to hug and kiss your mum?- I am in this jail, yeah.
0:14:48 > 0:14:49I weren't allowed in the others.
0:14:49 > 0:14:52I wasn't even allowed to kiss her on the lips.
0:14:52 > 0:14:55Because of all the drugs that were getting passed through the lips,
0:14:55 > 0:14:58and mouths, I wasn't allowed to kiss my mum.
0:14:58 > 0:15:02I weren't allowed to hold her hand, but I still did. I didn't care.
0:15:02 > 0:15:05I made sure they seen it as well.
0:15:05 > 0:15:08Because at the end of the day, like, it's my mum. So...
0:15:15 > 0:15:18Cheyenne is entitled to one hour-long visit every two weeks.
0:15:18 > 0:15:20But the visits are difficult to organise,
0:15:20 > 0:15:26and in the last two years, Cheyenne has seen her mum just five times.
0:15:32 > 0:15:34Yasmin Thomas.
0:15:34 > 0:15:36'It's a lot to do, like, just to go into the prison.
0:15:38 > 0:15:40'It is hard, but you get used to it after a while.
0:15:42 > 0:15:46'I'll do it just to go and see my mum, so I don't mind.'
0:15:51 > 0:15:54Hiya, baby! Come here. You OK?
0:15:57 > 0:15:58(You smell of garlic!)
0:15:59 > 0:16:04- Why is your hair straight?- I know, cos I got it cut last night.
0:16:04 > 0:16:10- The ends were really crap. My friend cut it with clippers.- Clippers?
0:16:10 > 0:16:14Yeah, cos you can't get scissors in here. So we straightened it.
0:16:14 > 0:16:18- Do you like them? - Yeah, they look nice.
0:16:18 > 0:16:20I got the nails all classier.
0:16:20 > 0:16:23What does it feel like seeing your mum in prison?
0:16:23 > 0:16:28It used to hurt a bit, but I never used to think,
0:16:28 > 0:16:32'look where she is - I used to think I'm happier I seen her now.'
0:16:32 > 0:16:36- What do you talk about? - What I've been doing, school.
0:16:36 > 0:16:40What she's been doing - obviously, I know she hasn't been doing a lot.
0:16:40 > 0:16:42'The time just flies.'
0:16:42 > 0:16:45They're putting that on in school I'm overly hyperactive
0:16:45 > 0:16:47- and I went...- Because of me?
0:16:47 > 0:16:52- Mmm.- I need you to stay on there, finish your exams.
0:16:52 > 0:16:56Just explain to them you're just so excited that I'm coming out,
0:16:56 > 0:16:59- but don't give no attitude, Chey, you've got too much... - Clare said...
0:16:59 > 0:17:04You got too much attitude. You need to be a bit humble.
0:17:04 > 0:17:08Do you know what I mean? You need to be humble and you ooze attitude.
0:17:10 > 0:17:14- You know you do. - Yeah, I know that.- It's no buts.
0:17:14 > 0:17:17- I need you to stay honest. Do you want to come here?- No.
0:17:17 > 0:17:20Well, carry on and not go to school and get kicked out of school, this is...
0:17:20 > 0:17:22- No, I'm not coming here like I've been kicked out of school. - Excuse me.
0:17:22 > 0:17:25- Then you start going down the wrong path...- No.
0:17:25 > 0:17:27- Do as I say, not as I do. - No, I'm not.
0:17:27 > 0:17:32- You've got five minutes. Can you finish up, please?- OK.
0:17:32 > 0:17:36It's gone quick, hasn't it? See, time's going quick, isn't it?
0:17:36 > 0:17:37Oh, my God!
0:17:43 > 0:17:45'Leaving is the worst bit, I think.'
0:17:45 > 0:17:47I don't mind doing all the rest...
0:17:47 > 0:17:51it is upsetting when you leave them.
0:17:51 > 0:17:54- I love you. See you later.- Love you.
0:17:54 > 0:17:56See you soon. Love you, baby.
0:18:00 > 0:18:02The following in Mum's footsteps...
0:18:02 > 0:18:05that's properly what they are thinking about me.
0:18:05 > 0:18:09It won't be long, you'll be in jail. It won't be long, you'll be pregnant.
0:18:09 > 0:18:11I say no, I will prove you all wrong.
0:18:11 > 0:18:17I'm going to try now really, try and sort it out before my mum gets out.
0:18:27 > 0:18:32Becky's dad has been given an eight-year sentence for pension fraud.
0:18:32 > 0:18:33The family believe he is innocent
0:18:33 > 0:18:36and are appealing against the conviction.
0:18:37 > 0:18:43This is the revised appeal. All the exhibits and that.
0:18:43 > 0:18:44There is a lot to do.
0:18:44 > 0:18:48I have 100% faith in my dad that he was innocent,
0:18:48 > 0:18:50simply because I have seen all the evidence.
0:18:50 > 0:18:52I have seen the bank transactions,
0:18:52 > 0:18:55I have seen it all through my mum and through the lawyers.
0:18:55 > 0:18:57I have seen the evidence.
0:18:57 > 0:19:00Which is why it still shocks me to this day that he is in prison.
0:19:02 > 0:19:03Whilst Dad is away,
0:19:03 > 0:19:08Becky and her family are trying to avoid falling further into debt.
0:19:08 > 0:19:11When Dad went to prison, we had literally no money.
0:19:11 > 0:19:13Mum was really worried.
0:19:13 > 0:19:15So I was trying to think of the first thing that I could sell
0:19:15 > 0:19:18and I had a brand-new doll which she bought me.
0:19:18 > 0:19:24And that went pretty much to the bills, the electricity and whatnot.
0:19:24 > 0:19:26You know, food and stuff we needed.
0:19:26 > 0:19:30I've been selling any little bits I've kind of seen.
0:19:33 > 0:19:36Even the family pets are up for sale.
0:19:36 > 0:19:40They are Maltese terriers, except Rosie is half Maltese and half Bijon.
0:19:40 > 0:19:42£350 each.
0:19:45 > 0:19:48Until her dad went into prison, Becky had been running
0:19:48 > 0:19:52a bespoke wedding dress business from her own studio.
0:19:52 > 0:19:57These dresses were ones which were in our business.
0:19:57 > 0:20:03This is one of Rachel's designs that we got made from our supplier in Thailand.
0:20:04 > 0:20:07We had to stop it, simply because when we had a studio,
0:20:07 > 0:20:10that was when we could invite clients over,
0:20:10 > 0:20:12and we had a website and everything.
0:20:12 > 0:20:16We had to stop it, because basically the website was costing a lot
0:20:16 > 0:20:20to run and to use, and the studio was costing a lot as well.
0:20:22 > 0:20:25So, when we lost the studio, we had to bring everything back here,
0:20:25 > 0:20:29and then, you know, like I said, you can't really run a wedding business from home,
0:20:29 > 0:20:31because it's not professional.
0:20:31 > 0:20:36It was really upsetting to lose it when we found out that the rent was just getting too much
0:20:36 > 0:20:40and we couldn't have it any more. It was really, really upsetting.
0:20:40 > 0:20:44Mum invested nearly all of her savings into it.
0:20:44 > 0:20:48We have probably spent about £15-16,000 setting this up.
0:20:48 > 0:20:52Well, if I had known how things were going to turn out,
0:20:52 > 0:20:54I wouldn't have put my savings into it.
0:20:54 > 0:20:57I just thought it was going to be a nice business for the children.
0:20:57 > 0:21:01So, yeah, I think we've worked out that we are going to make a real loss on it.
0:21:01 > 0:21:04Some of the ones that we just bought off wholesalers,
0:21:04 > 0:21:09we were hoping to sell them, get a little bit of money to help with the bills and everything.
0:21:09 > 0:21:13I mean, I have a part-time job now, and so does my brother, and we are living off...
0:21:13 > 0:21:15'That is literally what we are living off.'
0:21:15 > 0:21:18I am trying to think how I took this picture.
0:21:18 > 0:21:24With the mortgage payments falling evermore behind, it's vital that Becky can sell her dresses.
0:21:24 > 0:21:26There has been times when I have been really angry,
0:21:26 > 0:21:30but I've learnt to say, look, if we can give money to Mum to keep
0:21:30 > 0:21:35the house going, to keep us afloat, then we will do that.
0:21:36 > 0:21:39At the end of the day, you've just got to keep going through,
0:21:39 > 0:21:41and everything will get better.
0:21:45 > 0:21:51- Bags of coal.- How many have we got? - 10.- Good grief!
0:21:51 > 0:21:56Basically, our local church, they've been raising some money for us
0:21:56 > 0:21:58and they have got us all this coal this morning.
0:21:58 > 0:22:01Because they know we have been struggling with bills and stuff.
0:22:01 > 0:22:04Really, really nice to have the support of them.
0:22:04 > 0:22:06It's been really, really good.
0:22:10 > 0:22:12I can keep this topped up all day now.
0:22:12 > 0:22:16It will be lovely and warm by tonight in here.
0:22:16 > 0:22:19I won't have to sit there being cold with a blanket round me!
0:22:33 > 0:22:39Dean has been invited by his dad to perform on a community radio show that he hosts.
0:22:40 > 0:22:43They have asked him to take over the show for the week,
0:22:43 > 0:22:46and obviously, he asked me if I wanted a slot,
0:22:46 > 0:22:49so we are going to go, show him what we're packing!
0:22:49 > 0:22:50You get me?
0:22:52 > 0:22:56Since Dean's dad left prison, he's been running his own charity
0:22:56 > 0:23:00which supports disadvantaged artists.
0:23:00 > 0:23:04Hello. Second show of 13. Art Saves Lives, a community interest company.
0:23:04 > 0:23:08Today, he has decided to give his own son a break.
0:23:08 > 0:23:12And you are going to do a track that is what? Original? It's out today?
0:23:12 > 0:23:15Yeah. It's out tomorrow on YouTube. Ready?
0:23:15 > 0:23:18(RAPPING TO BACKING TRACK) ..Put it down on my calendar
0:23:18 > 0:23:20..Must want me to get angrier
0:23:21 > 0:23:22..Sit like a spatula
0:23:23 > 0:23:25..They haven't got the stamina
0:23:26 > 0:23:28..Keep away from the camera
0:23:28 > 0:23:32..Huh, manlier
0:23:32 > 0:23:35..With some dodgy-looking characters
0:23:35 > 0:23:37Yo, terms and conditions apply.
0:23:37 > 0:23:38Hold tight fuse on buttons.
0:23:40 > 0:23:43Sorry, some technical difficulties there...
0:23:43 > 0:23:45You're never too old to like this kind of music, I think.
0:23:45 > 0:23:47Though the radio show went well,
0:23:47 > 0:23:50father and son still have a long way to go
0:23:50 > 0:23:54if they are to start repairing their relationship.
0:23:54 > 0:23:56My heart goes out a little bit when I'm with him,
0:23:56 > 0:23:57and I can't think what to say.
0:23:57 > 0:24:04And I am an unconventional dad, so I don't know...how I'm supposed to be.
0:24:04 > 0:24:06It's really weird in that way.
0:24:06 > 0:24:08I can only do what I do and do the best I can.
0:24:08 > 0:24:10All I know is that we're not arguing,
0:24:10 > 0:24:14we're not shouting at each other, do you know what I mean?
0:24:14 > 0:24:19We have got a good stepping stone, I think, to progress in this.
0:24:19 > 0:24:22If you saw us together, you wouldn't think that we were father and son.
0:24:22 > 0:24:26You'd think we were just acquaintances or like business partners or something.
0:24:26 > 0:24:29There is no hug when we greet, there is not even a handshake when we greet,
0:24:29 > 0:24:32it's like, "Are you all right?" "Are you all right?" "Yeah."
0:24:32 > 0:24:35Everyone wants a dad. Everyone wants a father figure in their life,
0:24:35 > 0:24:39everyone wants someone to go to the park and play football with, and help with their homework.
0:24:39 > 0:24:43And I have come to a stage now where it would be nice to have someone to ring up and say,
0:24:43 > 0:24:46"Yo, how are you? Do you need any money? Do you need any help?" It would be nice.
0:24:46 > 0:24:48See you later.
0:24:52 > 0:24:54Heel.
0:24:54 > 0:24:56Heel.
0:24:58 > 0:25:0223-year-old Anne-Marie lives in Buckinghamshire
0:25:02 > 0:25:04with her mum and stepdad.
0:25:04 > 0:25:05She is engaged to Victor,
0:25:05 > 0:25:09who is almost at the end of the three-year sentence for actual bodily harm.
0:25:09 > 0:25:15Victor is due out on tag in just six weeks' time.
0:25:15 > 0:25:20Wearing the ring signifies that we are actually serious about each other
0:25:20 > 0:25:21and it's actually for life
0:25:21 > 0:25:24and it proves that he loves me and I love him
0:25:24 > 0:25:28and we do want to take our relationship to the next level, like getting married.
0:25:28 > 0:25:34If somebody asked me a couple of years ago, would you ever get with somebody who is inside?
0:25:34 > 0:25:37I would put my hands up and say, no way.
0:25:37 > 0:25:39Wouldn't do it, I'm not that type of person.
0:25:39 > 0:25:46But then...I met Victor, and my whole world changed for the better.
0:25:46 > 0:25:50- Come here!- Anne-Marie and Victor have always known each other.
0:25:50 > 0:25:53Her older brother is Victor's best friend.
0:25:53 > 0:25:56But the couple only fell in love after he was sent down.
0:25:57 > 0:26:00'I liked him before, when he was out,'
0:26:00 > 0:26:02but I didn't know if he felt the same way.
0:26:02 > 0:26:06So I did what a girl would do, you know, flirt, be a little bit silly,
0:26:06 > 0:26:11and then finding out he actually got sent down broke my heart.
0:26:11 > 0:26:15And then I wrote him a letter telling him how I felt,
0:26:15 > 0:26:17not knowing that he had sent me one,
0:26:17 > 0:26:20and we both received our letters on the same day.
0:26:20 > 0:26:22And we've been together ever since.
0:26:26 > 0:26:28"Hello, gorgeous. How have you been?
0:26:28 > 0:26:33"I've realised now is the time to get my head screwed on and stop acting like a kid.
0:26:33 > 0:26:34"I've got responsibilities now.
0:26:34 > 0:26:36"I don't want to come back to prison again.
0:26:36 > 0:26:38"All I'm going to do while I'm in jail is hit the gym,
0:26:38 > 0:26:42"work out and hopefully come out without the beer belly!
0:26:42 > 0:26:43"Save yourself for me!
0:26:43 > 0:26:47"No, seriously, be good. Lots of love, Victor Kavanagh."
0:26:48 > 0:26:53Victor was jailed with two others for assaulting a man whilst burgling his house.
0:26:53 > 0:26:55The victim suffered multiple injuries.
0:26:57 > 0:27:01I think that Victor does deserve to be in there for the crime that he committed.
0:27:01 > 0:27:04This has literally taught him a lesson.
0:27:04 > 0:27:09He's had a lot of time to think in there
0:27:09 > 0:27:13and he does regret everything and he regrets hurting people in the process.
0:27:13 > 0:27:15You know, he was meant to be out in March...
0:27:15 > 0:27:18With Victor's release approaching,
0:27:18 > 0:27:23Anne-Marie's mum Daisy has concerns.
0:27:23 > 0:27:25Do you worry about Anne-Marie?
0:27:25 > 0:27:27Yes.
0:27:27 > 0:27:30They've not actually been together,
0:27:30 > 0:27:34they've not actually been out on their own,
0:27:34 > 0:27:38and in my mind, you're worrying because he's inside,
0:27:38 > 0:27:43and yet, for your daughter, you would like something...
0:27:43 > 0:27:45her to meet a nice bloke, that type of thing.
0:27:45 > 0:27:48Now, he could be a nice bloke - well, I know he's a nice bloke -
0:27:48 > 0:27:50but you...
0:27:50 > 0:27:53- You've still got the worry. - You still have got the worry that...
0:27:53 > 0:27:57is he going to still be like he was before he went in?
0:27:57 > 0:28:00Me and my mum are really close, and obviously, she's always
0:28:00 > 0:28:05wanted me to make the perfect guy who will treat me like a princess.
0:28:05 > 0:28:09My mum obviously has her doubts about me and Victor being together.
0:28:09 > 0:28:14Obviously, she has had a different dream of me being engaged,
0:28:14 > 0:28:17and everything, but life doesn't always go the way you want it to.
0:28:20 > 0:28:24At the moment, I'm off to go and see my mother-in-law,
0:28:24 > 0:28:26which is obviously Victor's mum.
0:28:26 > 0:28:28We are obviously going through this together.
0:28:28 > 0:28:30It is her son, and my fiance,
0:28:30 > 0:28:33so we have formed a very good relationship.
0:28:33 > 0:28:37I'm hoping to speak to Vic, his mum told him yesterday to ring,
0:28:37 > 0:28:38so fingers crossed.
0:28:40 > 0:28:43Victor's regular phone calls to his mum and Anne-Marie
0:28:43 > 0:28:44have to be pre-arranged.
0:28:44 > 0:28:45Hello!
0:28:45 > 0:28:47You're lucky, because it's just gone two.
0:28:47 > 0:28:51Not that I'm keeping an eye on the clock or anything,
0:28:51 > 0:28:54or waiting for that thing to go "Doodle-oodle-oodle-oo-doo!"
0:28:54 > 0:28:56There could always be something...
0:28:56 > 0:28:58PHONE RINGS There you go!
0:29:00 > 0:29:01Hello?
0:29:01 > 0:29:03Hello. Yes...
0:29:03 > 0:29:08I don't know, I just feel that he's near when I get those phone calls.
0:29:08 > 0:29:11Just to know that he's all right.
0:29:11 > 0:29:16It's when he doesn't phone, I then think there's something wrong.
0:29:16 > 0:29:19Victor's imminent release date
0:29:19 > 0:29:22is causing mixed emotions in the family.
0:29:22 > 0:29:26Just, like, as, as a family, we miss him so much.
0:29:26 > 0:29:31He realises now that he shouldn't have done it,
0:29:31 > 0:29:33he shouldn't have got involved,
0:29:33 > 0:29:37and that he's actually missing us,
0:29:37 > 0:29:41as a family, you know.
0:29:41 > 0:29:44I'm scared, because I don't know what it's going to be like,
0:29:44 > 0:29:48and I'm excited, because I haven't seen him for so long.
0:29:48 > 0:29:52I'm scared it's going to be awkward with him,
0:29:52 > 0:29:55because he's obviously changed.
0:29:55 > 0:29:58So, what did he have to say?
0:29:58 > 0:30:02He's fine. Yeah, can't wait to come home.
0:30:02 > 0:30:04But he sounded quite happy?
0:30:04 > 0:30:05Yeah.
0:30:05 > 0:30:10Anne-Marie is hoping to be united with her fiance in six weeks' time.
0:30:10 > 0:30:14Argh! I've got butterflies!
0:30:14 > 0:30:17Right, Anne-Marie. Love you.
0:30:17 > 0:30:18Love you, too.
0:30:21 > 0:30:25Despite her best efforts to improve at school,
0:30:25 > 0:30:28Cheyenne's behaviour has been getting worse.
0:30:28 > 0:30:32And in the last few days, she's got herself into serious trouble.
0:30:32 > 0:30:37I went back to school on Monday, I got suspended on Wednesday.
0:30:37 > 0:30:40I had a meeting today, but it got delayed,
0:30:40 > 0:30:42so I'm suspended until Thursday.
0:30:42 > 0:30:44What's your mum going to say?
0:30:44 > 0:30:47I told my mum, but I never told her everything, but Clare did.
0:30:47 > 0:30:49She's upset with me, really.
0:30:49 > 0:30:51She is. She's told me she's disappointed.
0:30:52 > 0:30:55Year 11 report.
0:30:55 > 0:30:57Terrible.
0:30:57 > 0:31:01G, G, F, fail. G, G, G, U.
0:31:01 > 0:31:03Behaviour, S.
0:31:05 > 0:31:07It's terrible, Cheyenne.
0:31:07 > 0:31:12"Cheyenne's attendance gives cause for concern, at 54%."
0:31:12 > 0:31:15- That's disgusting, Cheyenne. - Well, I know!
0:31:16 > 0:31:20- Why are you doing it? - I don't know.
0:31:20 > 0:31:24I mean, I don't think I'm doing anything wrong.
0:31:26 > 0:31:28What are we going to do with you?
0:31:28 > 0:31:30I don't... Oh...
0:31:32 > 0:31:35Doesn't matter what I say to her. Goes in one ear and out the other.
0:31:35 > 0:31:38It's like I'm not even there talking to her.
0:31:38 > 0:31:40That's her problem. She's never had discipline.
0:31:40 > 0:31:43Child just needs to have her mum home
0:31:43 > 0:31:46and for them to be a mother and daughter.
0:31:46 > 0:31:51You know, I've caught her crying. But she won't, she won't talk.
0:31:51 > 0:31:55She bottles it all up and then goes all over the place in school.
0:31:55 > 0:31:57What do you think about what Clare says?
0:31:57 > 0:32:00It's the truth. I just do nothing.
0:32:02 > 0:32:07I just goes into my own little world. And just do nothing.
0:32:16 > 0:32:18It's 6:30am,
0:32:18 > 0:32:22and Anne-Marie is getting ready for her weekly trip to see Victor.
0:32:22 > 0:32:25I refuse to miss a visit.
0:32:25 > 0:32:26Even if I'm ill, I will go.
0:32:26 > 0:32:28SHE LAUGHS
0:32:28 > 0:32:32I like to get there early to make sure that I'm, like, first,
0:32:32 > 0:32:36second or third, because the queues get so ridiculous in there.
0:32:36 > 0:32:40Basically, it's first-come, first-served with the numbers.
0:32:40 > 0:32:45If you're number one, you will get into the visit before two o'clock.
0:32:45 > 0:32:50Say, if you get there about half 11, 12,
0:32:50 > 0:32:54you will literally be, like, number 60.
0:32:54 > 0:33:00I can roughly sit outside for over two hours,
0:33:00 > 0:33:04wait outside forever to see the bloke, which I definitely would.
0:33:04 > 0:33:06I'd camp there overnight if I could.
0:33:14 > 0:33:19My mates think I'm crazy for doing this every weekend.
0:33:19 > 0:33:23Even going in to see him, I get, like, shakes, butterflies, nervous.
0:33:23 > 0:33:28You go in there and you're buzzing. You walk out
0:33:28 > 0:33:30and you just want to cry.
0:33:37 > 0:33:40Number one in the queue.
0:33:40 > 0:33:42I love it, actually love it.
0:33:46 > 0:33:50I am looking forward to him coming home, definitely.
0:33:50 > 0:33:52Just want to spend the day with him.
0:33:52 > 0:33:55Just want to go to the shop and hold his hand.
0:33:55 > 0:34:00Chill with him on the sofa for a night. Just cuddle.
0:34:00 > 0:34:02Have him home.
0:34:09 > 0:34:13Dean has had a setback in his relationship with his father.
0:34:14 > 0:34:18What does your dad think? Have you spoke to your dad?
0:34:18 > 0:34:20Yeah, man, had a big argument with him.
0:34:22 > 0:34:26Dean and his dad aren't on speaking terms.
0:34:26 > 0:34:29They've fallen out after Dad cancelled a radio station appearance
0:34:29 > 0:34:31by Dean and a fellow rapper.
0:34:31 > 0:34:34We were just about to leave, and he was, like, oh, yeah,
0:34:34 > 0:34:37tell your mate he can't come, tell him to go home.
0:34:37 > 0:34:40And I was like, Whoa! That's a violation, isn't it?
0:34:40 > 0:34:43- Yeah.- I just like, if he can't come, I'm not coming, know what I mean?
0:34:43 > 0:34:45He was just, like, Oh, you're a fucking waster,
0:34:45 > 0:34:48and hang up the phone on me like a fucking big kid, so...
0:34:48 > 0:34:50You ain't spoken since that?
0:34:50 > 0:34:53No, just ignores me. He ain't rang me, ain't texted me, nothing.
0:34:57 > 0:35:00He went mad on the phone.
0:35:00 > 0:35:03Said I was disrespecting him, I'd ruined it for him,
0:35:03 > 0:35:06blah blah blah, it's only a little radio...
0:35:06 > 0:35:10started slagging off the radio station, slagging off me.
0:35:10 > 0:35:12He's, he's really stubborn, you know?
0:35:12 > 0:35:17I mean, and he's got that rapper's kind of pride, you know?
0:35:17 > 0:35:19"I've got nothing, I don't need nothing, I don't need any help,
0:35:19 > 0:35:22"I don't need this, I don't need that,"
0:35:22 > 0:35:24you know, "I'm a big man, I'm this, I'm that,
0:35:24 > 0:35:27"I've been brought up on the street." Half the time, it's just nonsense.
0:35:27 > 0:35:32I don't want to reach the point where I say to Dean,
0:35:32 > 0:35:36you get on with it - I'm here if you need me.
0:35:37 > 0:35:40Because that's what my dad said to me,
0:35:40 > 0:35:44and we ended up not speaking for 10 years.
0:35:48 > 0:35:51Anne-Marie should be finally getting Victor home
0:35:51 > 0:35:54four weeks after he's released on tag.
0:35:54 > 0:35:56She's keen to look her best.
0:35:56 > 0:35:58It is good to look good for him, definitely.
0:35:58 > 0:36:00It's nice to look good for Victor, always.
0:36:00 > 0:36:04The hours in here are definitely worth it.
0:36:04 > 0:36:09I always work on Victor's favourite bit, and it's got to be the butt.
0:36:09 > 0:36:11What does he say about your butt?
0:36:11 > 0:36:13What does Victor say about my bum?
0:36:13 > 0:36:17It's not what he says, it's the way he looks.
0:36:17 > 0:36:22He likes to watch me walk away, definitely. And he has a sneaky grab!
0:36:26 > 0:36:30Anne-Marie and Victor's mother, Sharon, can't wait to have him home.
0:36:30 > 0:36:32It's going to be strange, him coming out,
0:36:32 > 0:36:34but, oh, my God, I'm going to cry.
0:36:34 > 0:36:38I'm going to be, like, screaming from the rooftops.
0:36:38 > 0:36:41When you're running up to him, I'll be pushing you out of the way.
0:36:41 > 0:36:45- I'll be pushing you out of the way! - You'll see!- Me first!
0:36:45 > 0:36:48I'm going to be building up on these weights and going...
0:36:48 > 0:36:50- Me first. I'm first. - Not gonna happen.
0:36:50 > 0:36:55It will be strange, because I'll actually have him home, 24-7.
0:36:55 > 0:36:58There won't be cameras, there won't be officers,
0:36:58 > 0:37:01there won't be a table that's fixed to the floor, with a chair.
0:37:01 > 0:37:05I'll actually be able to wake up and hug him
0:37:05 > 0:37:09and know that, coming home from work, he's going to be there.
0:37:13 > 0:37:17Sharon and Anne-Marie are off to the local council
0:37:17 > 0:37:21to try and sort out a flat for her and Victor to share on his release.
0:37:21 > 0:37:25We know that, because he's coming out of serving a sentence,
0:37:25 > 0:37:30they do deserve that chance to be rehabilitated,
0:37:30 > 0:37:33so it really is a big thing to go in there and fight our case.
0:37:33 > 0:37:38He's an ex-prisoner, but he's still a human being, at the end of the day.
0:37:38 > 0:37:42And it's so important for us to get this place,
0:37:42 > 0:37:46because we want to start our lives together and we've waited
0:37:46 > 0:37:50over a year to be together now, and I just want him home.
0:37:50 > 0:37:54There is a long waiting list to get a council flat.
0:37:54 > 0:37:57The sick, disabled and those living in cramped conditions
0:37:57 > 0:38:00or the homeless are top of the queue.
0:38:00 > 0:38:02The meeting is unsuccessful.
0:38:02 > 0:38:08Nope, we're still none the wiser, what's going on.
0:38:08 > 0:38:11It's just...all a bit much now.
0:38:11 > 0:38:14Just want it all sorted out.
0:38:14 > 0:38:21You feel that people just don't care. You're labelled as...a crook.
0:38:21 > 0:38:26- Villain's partner!- And you just feel that they don't want to help.
0:38:26 > 0:38:30- I'm sure that's not the case, but... - That's how it comes across, though.
0:38:30 > 0:38:34People might think, well,
0:38:34 > 0:38:37if her partner's inside, then she must have a very dodgy past as well,
0:38:37 > 0:38:42but I've never been in trouble in my life, ever.
0:38:42 > 0:38:47You know, I work, I go to the gym, I go out with my friends,
0:38:47 > 0:38:50you know, not everyone is involved in dodgy crime,
0:38:50 > 0:38:53regardless of whether their partner is inside or not.
0:38:53 > 0:38:55There are some girls out there that are respectable
0:38:55 > 0:38:59and live their life and support their men, no matter what.
0:38:59 > 0:39:01- Chin up.- I am, I am keeping my chin up.
0:39:01 > 0:39:04- All right? Don't give up hope. - Definitely not.
0:39:04 > 0:39:09I won't. I haven't let him down so far. I'm not going to start now.
0:39:09 > 0:39:13Yep. Come on. Let's go.
0:39:23 > 0:39:26"Hi, my little princess, have I told you recently how I love you?
0:39:26 > 0:39:31"I'm just waiting for a form from the housing, so you can start
0:39:31 > 0:39:34"to think about how you would like your bedroom to be,
0:39:34 > 0:39:35"as you're going to need
0:39:35 > 0:39:38"all new bedroom furniture, and mirrors and lamps, etc."
0:39:38 > 0:39:42Cheyenne's mum has had her release date confirmed
0:39:42 > 0:39:46and she's going to be out of prison in just a couple of weeks.
0:39:46 > 0:39:51Only 25 days now, and she's out. Can't wait! I can't!
0:39:51 > 0:39:56Soon as we get that house, we'll be all settled in. Fine. Be sorted.
0:39:59 > 0:40:04I mean, it will be wicked when my mum gets out, I'll be a happier person.
0:40:04 > 0:40:07Happier in myself, as well, really.
0:40:07 > 0:40:10I wouldn't wish it on someone, to be honest. I really wouldn't.
0:40:10 > 0:40:13I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, either,
0:40:13 > 0:40:15because it's hard to live with.
0:40:15 > 0:40:17She's your mum, she gave birth to you, she carried you.
0:40:17 > 0:40:21You have a bond with your mum, don't you? So it is hard, really.
0:40:23 > 0:40:26"So, my bee, my little princess, my darling daughter,
0:40:26 > 0:40:29"always remember I love you so, so much.
0:40:29 > 0:40:32"Because this is the very last time, I promise with all my heart,
0:40:32 > 0:40:35"I won't break it, I won't ever, ever leave you again.
0:40:35 > 0:40:38"Be good, babe, good night and sweet dreams,
0:40:38 > 0:40:40"thinking of you always, all my love, Mum."
0:40:48 > 0:40:50Becky's mum, Christine,
0:40:50 > 0:40:53has received the news the family had been fearing.
0:40:53 > 0:40:56This arrived yesterday.
0:40:56 > 0:40:58"Please find enclosed the claim forms
0:40:58 > 0:41:00"for the possession claim issued against you."
0:41:00 > 0:41:04"This claim will be heard at the county court."
0:41:04 > 0:41:07"At the hearing, the court will consider
0:41:07 > 0:41:09"whether or not you must leave the property
0:41:09 > 0:41:13"and will take into account information that you provide."
0:41:13 > 0:41:18So, basically, they're going to take the house off us.
0:41:19 > 0:41:22So, we'll have to find somewhere else, won't we?
0:41:22 > 0:41:23Mmm.
0:41:23 > 0:41:26I knew it was coming, but I suppose, actually having the papers,
0:41:26 > 0:41:29with the court hearing and everything,
0:41:29 > 0:41:32I just thought, another thing to sort out.
0:41:32 > 0:41:35The next couple of months are going to be pretty hard.
0:41:38 > 0:41:40You know, we admit we can't keep the payments up,
0:41:40 > 0:41:44so now it's literally trying to get that sorted out,
0:41:44 > 0:41:47and we're going to have to downsize to a smaller house.
0:41:47 > 0:41:49Even though there's five of us,
0:41:49 > 0:41:52we're going to have to get a smaller house now.
0:41:56 > 0:42:00So, it's oil central heating. Kitchen...
0:42:00 > 0:42:05- I know it's not what we used to, but it's quite nice, isn't it?- Yes.
0:42:05 > 0:42:08Now the family home is going to be repossessed,
0:42:08 > 0:42:12they need to find a rental property urgently.
0:42:12 > 0:42:15- You'd be looking to stay long-term, would you?- We would, yes.
0:42:15 > 0:42:20As we go through, you'll see the bedrooms are a really good size.
0:42:20 > 0:42:24I have to say, the property could do with a little bit of TLC,
0:42:24 > 0:42:25but the price does reflect that.
0:42:25 > 0:42:27Quite daunting...
0:42:27 > 0:42:29the amount of stuff we've got to move.
0:42:31 > 0:42:36You're double-glazed throughout, so brand-new windows have just gone in.
0:42:36 > 0:42:37Really nice.
0:42:37 > 0:42:39I like this house better.
0:42:39 > 0:42:41- You can see yourselves living here? - I could.
0:42:41 > 0:42:44I think cos it's all fresh and clean.
0:42:44 > 0:42:47If you're keen and you think it's something you want to go for,
0:42:47 > 0:42:50I'll ask for you this evening. I'll come back to you in the morning.
0:42:50 > 0:42:55I will feel a little sad to move out the house, cos, you know,
0:42:55 > 0:42:57it still holds some good memories.
0:42:57 > 0:43:01It was supposed to be our last family home before, like,
0:43:01 > 0:43:03we all grew up and moved out.
0:43:03 > 0:43:05But, you know, just
0:43:05 > 0:43:09because of the memories that are held in that place is just...
0:43:09 > 0:43:12You know, we're all quite happy to move and to make a fresh start.
0:43:18 > 0:43:21Anne-Marie is hoping to have Victor home in three weeks,
0:43:21 > 0:43:26but she receives a phone call from Victor's mum, Sharon, with bad news.
0:43:26 > 0:43:27What does that mean?
0:43:29 > 0:43:30Why are they...? Why?
0:43:36 > 0:43:38Why are they saying that?
0:43:43 > 0:43:45Absolutely.
0:43:47 > 0:43:49What? I don't understand that.
0:43:49 > 0:43:51No.
0:43:54 > 0:43:58Victor won't be released on tag as the family had been expecting.
0:43:58 > 0:44:01He will have to serve his full sentence in prison.
0:44:05 > 0:44:06Yeah.
0:44:06 > 0:44:10He won't be coming home for another four months.
0:44:10 > 0:44:17Heartbreaking at the moment. I just don't... I don't know what to think.
0:44:17 > 0:44:19I know that he's stressing, I'm stressing
0:44:19 > 0:44:26and there's a lot that we need to sort out now as a family.
0:44:26 > 0:44:29I'm hoping there's going to be some light at the end of the tunnel.
0:44:31 > 0:44:32I hope.
0:44:39 > 0:44:43Everyone's like, "You're really happy lately, Cheyenne, you're really happy."
0:44:43 > 0:44:45And everyone writes on my Facebook wall and they're like,
0:44:45 > 0:44:48"Oh, tomorrow..." and, "Two days left."
0:44:48 > 0:44:51Everywhere I go in the street, they're like,
0:44:51 > 0:44:53"Cheyenne, your mum's out on Wednesday."
0:44:53 > 0:44:55Bag's in the car.
0:44:55 > 0:44:57- Excited, ain't you?- Yeah!
0:44:58 > 0:45:00Freezing.
0:45:03 > 0:45:10Mum's texted. "OK, love, I'm on the corner, waiting. Love you too."
0:45:10 > 0:45:14I've never seen her like this. She is very excited.
0:45:14 > 0:45:18She's got butterflies in her stomach. She's all over the place.
0:45:18 > 0:45:20I said, "Yeah, you will, you're speaking to your mum again.
0:45:20 > 0:45:25"You'll be back with your mum. After two years is a long time, Cheyenne."
0:45:26 > 0:45:3040 minutes late. 40 minutes late now. Not good.
0:45:30 > 0:45:33Quick, it's on green. Go!
0:45:40 > 0:45:42There she is.
0:45:44 > 0:45:47I'm on child lock, I'm on child lock!
0:46:07 > 0:46:09We've been waiting for this day for so long.
0:46:10 > 0:46:14Cheyenne's mum has been released from prison on good behaviour.
0:46:14 > 0:46:16She'd been serving a four-year sentence
0:46:16 > 0:46:19for smuggling drugs into jail.
0:46:19 > 0:46:23I just sat there and knitted and knitted.
0:46:23 > 0:46:25I done him in a day.
0:46:25 > 0:46:27- Did the penguin. - I really like this bracelet.
0:46:27 > 0:46:30The snake, look at his eyes.
0:46:30 > 0:46:33What's the first thing you two are going to do together?
0:46:33 > 0:46:35Me and Chey, she wants a phone.
0:46:35 > 0:46:42But, as you must have found out about Cheyenne, she oozes attitude.
0:46:42 > 0:46:45- Here we go.- And she wasn't brought up like that.
0:46:45 > 0:46:48She wasn't brought up to be rude, so I'm a bit disappointed sometimes
0:46:48 > 0:46:51when I phone her and I hear her going to someone, "Shut up!"
0:46:51 > 0:46:53when they're older than her.
0:46:53 > 0:46:58So we got to sit down and have a good talk, haven't we, Chey?
0:46:58 > 0:47:00Yeah. See. You know a way to tell
0:47:00 > 0:47:04when I say something she doesn't want to hear? She doesn't answer me.
0:47:04 > 0:47:07So I've got my hands full, but I suppose, in a way,
0:47:07 > 0:47:10I'm not saying that attitude's to be expected,
0:47:10 > 0:47:13but sometimes her actions are because of me.
0:47:14 > 0:47:18I expect them and I think maybe, cos of my guilt,
0:47:18 > 0:47:23I allow her to get away with things.
0:47:23 > 0:47:25Hello!
0:47:27 > 0:47:30- Hello, sweetheart. All right? - You?- Yeah.
0:47:34 > 0:47:36I'm having you!
0:47:36 > 0:47:39'It hasn't sunk in yet. It just feels amazing.'
0:47:39 > 0:47:41She's just out now, she doesn't have to go back.
0:47:41 > 0:47:45She's back for good, isn't she, babe? She's back now.
0:47:46 > 0:47:48So it feels good.
0:48:00 > 0:48:04Three days later, Cheyenne and her mum move out of Grandad's house.
0:48:04 > 0:48:07It will be a while before they are properly rehoused.
0:48:07 > 0:48:08And for the time being,
0:48:08 > 0:48:12they are having to live in a cramped one-bedroom flat.
0:48:12 > 0:48:14Wednesday she got out.
0:48:14 > 0:48:17We started moving things up to the flat on Thursday.
0:48:17 > 0:48:22We moved in the Friday. But, I don't know, I don't like it.
0:48:22 > 0:48:24I don't like the flat at all.
0:48:24 > 0:48:27I want them to hurry up and house us, really.
0:48:29 > 0:48:32I've been arguing with my mum. I don't know...
0:48:32 > 0:48:36It's like she's come back wanting to be in control straightaway,
0:48:36 > 0:48:37and I don't like it at all.
0:48:37 > 0:48:42- Cos this isn't what you expected, is it?- Not one bit.
0:48:42 > 0:48:46She's got to realise that I'm not a little girl like I was
0:48:46 > 0:48:47when she first went away.
0:48:48 > 0:48:52I don't know, there's mixed emotions. I don't know what I want.
0:48:52 > 0:48:54I was all excited when she first came out,
0:48:54 > 0:48:57now I just don't know what I want.
0:49:04 > 0:49:07It's three weeks since Dean fell out with his dad.
0:49:07 > 0:49:11Dean has finally decided to talk to him about their relationship.
0:49:11 > 0:49:15The impact that he has had on my life is there to be seen, obviously.
0:49:15 > 0:49:18Like I said, in school, I do think I'd the potential to do very well.
0:49:18 > 0:49:21I could've gone much further in my education than I did,
0:49:21 > 0:49:23but that's due to stability issues that he caused.
0:49:23 > 0:49:25He probably knows the mistakes he's made
0:49:25 > 0:49:26and how they've affected me.
0:49:26 > 0:49:29Deep down, he probably wants to rectify the mistakes.
0:49:30 > 0:49:32Since Dad left prison six years ago,
0:49:32 > 0:49:37this will be the first time Dean and his dad have ever talked properly.
0:49:37 > 0:49:39We've never had the opportunity to actually sit down and have
0:49:39 > 0:49:43a one-to-one conversation, to say, "Right, what you feeling about this?
0:49:43 > 0:49:46"What do you feel about that? What can we do to sort this out?
0:49:46 > 0:49:48"Can we move on from this?"
0:49:48 > 0:49:50We've never sat down and had that conversation.
0:49:50 > 0:49:52- All right?- You all right?
0:49:54 > 0:49:56We haven't spoken for a couple of weeks.
0:49:56 > 0:49:59There's no need for that situation to explode.
0:49:59 > 0:50:01We could've worked around it rather than...
0:50:01 > 0:50:03It's no good saying that after, is it?
0:50:03 > 0:50:06You sent a text that said, "You've done fuck all for me,
0:50:06 > 0:50:07"you never have."
0:50:07 > 0:50:11- Why did it get all personal like that?- I don't know.
0:50:11 > 0:50:15Obviously, I took the "waster" comment more personal than it was intended.
0:50:15 > 0:50:16I haven't wasted my life.
0:50:16 > 0:50:20All I'm saying is, the reason I've been angry for the past couple
0:50:20 > 0:50:24of weeks is the comments about I do fuck all for you and I never have.
0:50:24 > 0:50:27What you saying about that? What does that mean?
0:50:29 > 0:50:32Obviously, I never meant what I said. I was angry at the time, innit?
0:50:32 > 0:50:35But obviously, there have been occasions in the past
0:50:35 > 0:50:37when you haven't been there to help me.
0:50:37 > 0:50:40That's fuckin' hurtful. I just didn't...
0:50:40 > 0:50:43You know, have you got a problem with me offering you work?
0:50:43 > 0:50:46Have you got a problem with me offering you the things I offer you?
0:50:46 > 0:50:50I don't see how the offers of help can rectify what has happened.
0:50:50 > 0:50:52Cos things have happened.
0:50:52 > 0:50:55And like I said, I've had no control over what has happened.
0:50:55 > 0:50:57I've just had to sit back as a bystander and deal with it
0:50:57 > 0:50:59and move around from house to house to house.
0:50:59 > 0:51:01The amount of different areas I've lived in.
0:51:01 > 0:51:04I worked it out the other day, I sat there and thought,
0:51:04 > 0:51:06"How many places have I lived?" It's crazy.
0:51:06 > 0:51:09Shit happens, doesn't it? It's like that.
0:51:09 > 0:51:13But the fact is, since 2006, I ain't put a foot wrong, really.
0:51:13 > 0:51:17Think about all the years leading up to 2006, maybe start thinking
0:51:17 > 0:51:21about the effects that some of the things you've done did have on me to this day.
0:51:21 > 0:51:24You've got to maybe take some of the blame sometimes.
0:51:24 > 0:51:27I honestly think that, if I stayed in one stable household,
0:51:27 > 0:51:30in one stable school, I would've gone on to pass my exams fine,
0:51:30 > 0:51:32gone on to college and maybe university.
0:51:32 > 0:51:34But now I'm unemployed on the streets.
0:51:34 > 0:51:37You can't throw that at me. At this point in my life...
0:51:37 > 0:51:40Maybe I would've been able to work towards goals with a more focused...
0:51:40 > 0:51:43- Life's not about ifs and whats, is it?- It is.
0:51:43 > 0:51:44What if, what if, what if?
0:51:44 > 0:51:48How can I focus when people in school are asking why my dad's in jail?
0:51:48 > 0:51:51If I can decide at the age of 18 that this is not the route
0:51:51 > 0:51:54I want to go down and I want to be positive and get a job
0:51:54 > 0:51:56and pursue music, why did it take you so long
0:51:56 > 0:51:59to come to the same realisation? That's what I want to know.
0:52:03 > 0:52:06I don't know. I just don't want...
0:52:06 > 0:52:09No, I can't even go down that road, really.
0:52:13 > 0:52:16It was different then. It was just different than what it is now.
0:52:16 > 0:52:17It's different.
0:52:19 > 0:52:23You know, because I know I done some bad shit in the past. I just...
0:52:23 > 0:52:26I can only make up for it now.
0:52:27 > 0:52:29I don't know.
0:52:30 > 0:52:34Yeah, I take on board everything you say now.
0:52:37 > 0:52:40Anyway, it's the first time I've ever heard
0:52:40 > 0:52:41you speak like this, anyway.
0:52:43 > 0:52:44I think, erm...
0:52:47 > 0:52:52I do accept responsibility now that you've said it. I accept it.
0:52:52 > 0:52:55- So we can sort it out, really.- Yeah.
0:52:59 > 0:53:01You've opened my eyes today.
0:53:01 > 0:53:04We should go and get something to eat!
0:53:08 > 0:53:10It was very emotional, man.
0:53:10 > 0:53:13Obviously, like, when my dad said he accepted responsibility,
0:53:13 > 0:53:15that was a shocker for me.
0:53:15 > 0:53:17I was genuinely surprised.
0:53:17 > 0:53:21I've never heard my dad accept responsibility for anything,
0:53:21 > 0:53:24let alone shaping my life.
0:53:24 > 0:53:26So, the fact that he accepted responsibility,
0:53:26 > 0:53:28that's a big deal to me, innit?
0:53:28 > 0:53:29And it means a hell of a lot.
0:53:45 > 0:53:48Despite Victor's release date being put back,
0:53:48 > 0:53:52Anne-Marie still has big plans for their future.
0:53:53 > 0:53:55- It's a bit exciting, innit? - Yeah, very exciting.
0:53:55 > 0:54:00- I just want to get a rough idea of the wedding dress. Yes.- Yes.
0:54:00 > 0:54:02That's the kind of style I'd love.
0:54:02 > 0:54:04This is one of my personal favourites.
0:54:04 > 0:54:08- If you gave that a score out of ten, what would you say?- Ten.
0:54:08 > 0:54:12- That is really lovely, actually. - That's knock 'em dead!- Yeah, it is.
0:54:12 > 0:54:15If you pop your arms up.
0:54:15 > 0:54:18I love it. I think it'd be really nice, but then I see these bits.
0:54:20 > 0:54:23This is the ten. I like this one, this is a ten.
0:54:28 > 0:54:32Where will I be in five years? Hopefully married to Victor.
0:54:32 > 0:54:39Maybe kids on the way. Don't know. Settled down, happy, both working...
0:54:41 > 0:54:43..with prison being in the past.
0:54:49 > 0:54:50Oh, it's huge.
0:54:50 > 0:54:55I think all this has got to go. That's Dad's old chair.
0:54:55 > 0:55:01- Shall we get rid of all that as well? Put it in.- It's not going in!
0:55:03 > 0:55:06See? It's out now. Eugh!
0:55:18 > 0:55:22I think, if we can just keep ourselves afloat with money
0:55:22 > 0:55:26and keep ourselves afloat with each other, and keeping ourselves
0:55:26 > 0:55:31together, keeping our feet on the ground and just focusing on getting
0:55:31 > 0:55:35Dad out, there's not a lot more we can do until he's out, really.
0:56:04 > 0:56:07I'm not going to paint a pretty picture and say, "Yeah, me and my dad
0:56:07 > 0:56:12"are fine now, we're going to go off on team-building exercises together."
0:56:12 > 0:56:14Cos that would just be bullshit, you know.
0:56:14 > 0:56:17But at the end of the day, he is trying to make a difference now
0:56:17 > 0:56:20and he is trying to help where he can now. Obviously, I accept that.
0:56:20 > 0:56:23It's never going to be perfect, but it's going to be all right.
0:56:23 > 0:56:27Yeah, it's all good for me, it's all good, it's all looking up.
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