0:00:03 > 0:00:06'I'm Cherry Healey
0:00:06 > 0:00:09'and in the last few years my life has been turned on its head.
0:00:09 > 0:00:11'I have gone from this...
0:00:11 > 0:00:13'to this...'
0:00:13 > 0:00:14BABY CRIES
0:00:14 > 0:00:16'..and then to this.
0:00:16 > 0:00:19'I don't know about you, but I sometimes feel like the world
0:00:19 > 0:00:23'is running away from me, and it's high time I caught up.
0:00:23 > 0:00:26'So I'm determined to get some answers
0:00:26 > 0:00:28'to life's fundamental questions.
0:00:28 > 0:00:32'Does my bum look big in this? Am I too old to take drugs?
0:00:32 > 0:00:35'Do I need a Brazilian?
0:00:35 > 0:00:39'Today, I want to find out what a modern relationship
0:00:39 > 0:00:42'looks like in a world where anything goes.
0:00:42 > 0:00:45'Does single equal sad and lonely? Or is it sexy?
0:00:45 > 0:00:50'Is coupledom the mark of success, or just plain smug?
0:00:50 > 0:00:53'I'm going to be meeting a cast of characters from the cool
0:00:53 > 0:00:56'to the crazy to the conventional
0:00:56 > 0:01:00'to find out whether they prefer being single or settled.'
0:01:03 > 0:01:06'I'll be hearing from a young couple who keep their relationship fresh
0:01:06 > 0:01:09'by inviting other people into their bed.
0:01:09 > 0:01:13'A 22-year-old who's on the hunt for Mrs Right.
0:01:13 > 0:01:16'Two singletons who definitely aren't,
0:01:16 > 0:01:19'with over 250 notches on the bedpost between them.
0:01:19 > 0:01:23'And twin sisters, one single, one married with a baby,
0:01:23 > 0:01:25'who perfectly sum up the dilemma.
0:01:25 > 0:01:28'I will be getting a taste of life in their world.'
0:01:28 > 0:01:31It is really, really fun.
0:01:31 > 0:01:33I am flirting quite badly
0:01:33 > 0:01:36and that is a little bit embarrassing.
0:01:36 > 0:01:38I am a married woman with a child.
0:01:38 > 0:01:40'Then I will be inviting them into mine,
0:01:40 > 0:01:44'and bringing them back to my hub - my base for the next few months -
0:01:44 > 0:01:47'in a bid to get them to confess all.'
0:01:47 > 0:01:50Do you think you are a bit of a commitment-phobe?
0:01:50 > 0:01:53I'm very cautious about making sure that it's right.
0:01:53 > 0:01:55But I think that might be why you are still single,
0:01:55 > 0:01:56because it's unrealistic.
0:01:56 > 0:02:00Do you think that a monogamous relationship for life
0:02:00 > 0:02:02- exists any more? - No, definitely not.
0:02:02 > 0:02:05'Will they end up teaching me something about my life?
0:02:05 > 0:02:08'Or can I help them change theirs?'
0:02:08 > 0:02:10Did you have sexual intercourse?
0:02:10 > 0:02:13Your face says, "I had sex."
0:02:32 > 0:02:35Every week, I go through a listing magazine
0:02:35 > 0:02:38and I used to start at the beginning of the magazine
0:02:38 > 0:02:42where all the club nights are, crazy raves,
0:02:42 > 0:02:47nights where you have to dress up, and now that I am settled,
0:02:47 > 0:02:50I go towards the back of the magazine,
0:02:50 > 0:02:56where all the television listings are, and I have a look at what's on.
0:02:56 > 0:03:00And what worries me is that... I am really happy now,
0:03:00 > 0:03:04but now that I'm settled, have I become a bit boring?
0:03:06 > 0:03:08'Not in those leggings, I'm not.'
0:03:09 > 0:03:13'First on my journey to uncover the truth about relationships
0:03:13 > 0:03:17'are two people who are definitely not boring.
0:03:17 > 0:03:20'Nearly 60% of Brits have had a one-night stand.
0:03:20 > 0:03:23'5% of us admit to having had over 20.
0:03:23 > 0:03:26'Now, I'm all up for celebrating your singledom,
0:03:26 > 0:03:28'but it's got me thinking.
0:03:28 > 0:03:31'Just how many sexual partners is too many?
0:03:31 > 0:03:34'I found two people who don't seem to have any limits.'
0:03:39 > 0:03:41My name is Matty Lynch.
0:03:41 > 0:03:45I'm 27 years old and I have slept with, ballpark figure,
0:03:45 > 0:03:47roughly about 80-odd women.
0:03:47 > 0:03:49My name is Biannca.
0:03:49 > 0:03:51I'm 28 years of age and I have slept with
0:03:51 > 0:03:53round about 170 men.
0:03:53 > 0:03:56'I want to find out if the rules for putting it about
0:03:56 > 0:03:59'are different for men and women.
0:03:59 > 0:04:01'So I've asked Matty and Biannca to let the cameras follow them
0:04:01 > 0:04:03'for a day...
0:04:03 > 0:04:05'and a night.'
0:04:07 > 0:04:10'In the heart of central London lies this backpackers' hostel,
0:04:10 > 0:04:13'temporary home to a constant stream of young foreign tourists.'
0:04:13 > 0:04:15# Love machine... #
0:04:15 > 0:04:17'And one horny hostel manager.'
0:04:17 > 0:04:19Hey!
0:04:19 > 0:04:22Mwah! Love you!
0:04:22 > 0:04:26I do get to meet a lot of girls every day, checking people in,
0:04:26 > 0:04:30introducing them to the hostel, taking them out on pub crawls.
0:04:30 > 0:04:33You have a three-day or a three-month relationship with a person,
0:04:33 > 0:04:36then you meet the next person and you're onto a new relationship.
0:04:36 > 0:04:38One of the key things about getting girls at a hostel
0:04:38 > 0:04:40is letting them know you have your own room,
0:04:40 > 0:04:44because as I'm sure you know, in hostels, everyone has a bunk bed.
0:04:44 > 0:04:46So most of the people who have sex in hostels,
0:04:46 > 0:04:50and that's quite a few people, it's the showers.
0:04:50 > 0:04:51And who wants to have sex in the shower?
0:04:51 > 0:04:56OK, so this is the conquest map of the world.
0:04:56 > 0:04:59My favourite nationality would definitely have to be Chile.
0:04:59 > 0:05:03I also love my Scandinavians, Australians...
0:05:03 > 0:05:04Yeah, I love them all.
0:05:04 > 0:05:07At the hostel I have probably slept with about,
0:05:07 > 0:05:08it would be 21 now.
0:05:08 > 0:05:1122, actually. I forgot last week.
0:05:13 > 0:05:15'South Woodford, Essex.
0:05:15 > 0:05:18'Home to model, dancer and party girl Biannca Lake,
0:05:18 > 0:05:22'who has shared her considerable charms with over 170 men.'
0:05:22 > 0:05:24I don't think I am a slut. I'm just popular.
0:05:24 > 0:05:27There's too many beautiful boys out there to be with just one.
0:05:27 > 0:05:29I love the attention. I get a lot of attention
0:05:29 > 0:05:31when me and my girls go out.
0:05:31 > 0:05:33'But it's not a good dance
0:05:33 > 0:05:36'Biannca is looking for when she goes out clubbing.'
0:05:36 > 0:05:42I would say on a night out I would get about six or seven numbers, yeah.
0:05:43 > 0:05:48'And she always has a plan B, just in case she has a slow night.'
0:05:48 > 0:05:52If I don't pull in the club, it's definitely a call to the booty call.
0:05:52 > 0:05:55# It's a booty call... #
0:05:55 > 0:06:00A booty call is a guy that you keep seeing.
0:06:00 > 0:06:02You might have a one-night stand with him
0:06:02 > 0:06:05and then basically when he is near you ring each other up,
0:06:05 > 0:06:08or when you go to a club and you don't get quite lucky,
0:06:08 > 0:06:10you just call them up and see where they are.
0:06:12 > 0:06:16Hey, listen, threesome, OK? My room, check-in is at 10.30.
0:06:16 > 0:06:18'To avoid a booty call of his own tonight,
0:06:18 > 0:06:21'Matty has already got one lucky hostel resident in his sights.'
0:06:21 > 0:06:24- What are you up to? Do you want to marry me?- Yeah, sure, yes.
0:06:24 > 0:06:27If that's all right - I'm feeling a little bit lonely at the moment.
0:06:27 > 0:06:30It's really important if you are trying to get with girls
0:06:30 > 0:06:31to be the centre of attention,
0:06:31 > 0:06:35to be the guy who stands out above the rest, like be the manager of the hostel for instance
0:06:35 > 0:06:38or getting your guitar out and getting everybody round.
0:06:38 > 0:06:41If you stand out from the crowd, peacocking as they call it,
0:06:41 > 0:06:44then you are going to have a lot more success than somebody
0:06:44 > 0:06:46who sits in the corner and waits for them to come to him,
0:06:46 > 0:06:48cos it's not going to happen.
0:06:48 > 0:06:52'With his pulling strategy in place, he's locked onto his target.'
0:06:52 > 0:06:55- Right. Are you ready for tonight? - Yeah.- Are you ready for this?- Yes.
0:06:56 > 0:07:00# Just one kiss will make it better... #
0:07:00 > 0:07:04'With love on tap at the hostel, Matty barely has to try,
0:07:04 > 0:07:07'but for Biannca, the chase is half the fun.'
0:07:08 > 0:07:11When I see a guy, I'm not going to lie, I'm ruthless.
0:07:11 > 0:07:14When I like a guy, I just literally go straight up to him,
0:07:14 > 0:07:19no point worrying... We'll get down and get busy.
0:07:19 > 0:07:22If you're a shit kisser, you're going to be a shit shag.
0:07:22 > 0:07:26So basically, you've got to pass that one first, and then it's cool.
0:07:26 > 0:07:27We can work from there.
0:07:27 > 0:07:31The boys can touch, but they can't fall in love.
0:07:31 > 0:07:33That's the biggest turn-off of them all.
0:07:33 > 0:07:35My friends are like,
0:07:35 > 0:07:38"Don't you ever wish you could just have that someone special?"
0:07:38 > 0:07:39No!
0:07:39 > 0:07:42All right, maybe for like Christmas and birthdays they come in handy.
0:07:42 > 0:07:45Everything else, no way. They're just too stressful.
0:07:45 > 0:07:48I just remembered what my good skill is. My lips.
0:07:48 > 0:07:51Do you know you hear girls, "He was looking at my boobs"?
0:07:51 > 0:07:53No, they are looking at my lips.
0:07:53 > 0:07:57They just say to me, "Oh, I bet you'd be good at, you know."
0:07:59 > 0:08:05# Maneater, make you work hard Make you spend hard... #
0:08:05 > 0:08:08One thing Biannca never goes out without is her survival kit,
0:08:08 > 0:08:11containing all the essentials for a girl on the pull.
0:08:11 > 0:08:14I take flats with me, cos obviously the walk of shame in the morning.
0:08:14 > 0:08:16I have got all my make-up.
0:08:16 > 0:08:19I often put my make-up on before I go to bed
0:08:19 > 0:08:24so when I wake up next to the hot guy, he just thinks "Wow!"
0:08:24 > 0:08:25And a condom.
0:08:25 > 0:08:29Basically, if you ain't got a sock on it you're not coming near me.
0:08:29 > 0:08:31So I always take a condom with me.
0:08:33 > 0:08:35My bag is packed and ready to go.
0:08:35 > 0:08:39# Oh, here she comes She's a maneater... #
0:08:42 > 0:08:46Matty and Biannca are at the extreme end of the spectrum,
0:08:46 > 0:08:49but they are certainly enjoying their singledom.
0:08:49 > 0:08:52We'll be seeing just how much they are enjoying it later.
0:08:52 > 0:08:54When I think back to my single years,
0:08:54 > 0:08:57it's not the no-strings sex I think of first.
0:08:57 > 0:09:00When I was single I used to tell people I'd chosen to be single.
0:09:00 > 0:09:03I didn't want a relationship at that phase in my life.
0:09:03 > 0:09:06Actually, I was dating like a mad person.
0:09:06 > 0:09:11Speed dating, blind dating, internet dating, you name it, I was doing it.
0:09:11 > 0:09:14If I'd go on a date and it was good, I would think,
0:09:14 > 0:09:16"Ooh, is this the one?"
0:09:16 > 0:09:20Having said that, doesn't mean that I didn't absolutely love the process
0:09:20 > 0:09:22and really love being single too.
0:09:24 > 0:09:26Over half of all single people
0:09:26 > 0:09:29say they would rather be in a relationship.
0:09:29 > 0:09:31Here's a case in point.
0:09:42 > 0:09:48So today I'm in Tamworth in the Midlands to meet this guy, Matthew.
0:09:48 > 0:09:51He's 22, he's just come out of a really long relationship
0:09:51 > 0:09:54and he's desperate to find another woman.
0:09:54 > 0:09:57'I am intrigued to find out why someone so young
0:09:57 > 0:10:01'wants to settle down again so quickly.'
0:10:01 > 0:10:03I am someone who likes to be in a relationship,
0:10:03 > 0:10:06I want someone just to settle down with. I want someone there,
0:10:06 > 0:10:08want someone to come home to, someone to talk to,
0:10:08 > 0:10:11someone to share a future with. I am missing it big time.
0:10:11 > 0:10:12- Hi!- How are you?
0:10:12 > 0:10:16- I was expecting someone looking different to you.- I know.
0:10:16 > 0:10:20- I have changed since.- To those pictures. Shall we go?- Yeah.
0:10:20 > 0:10:23I was about 18 stone there.
0:10:23 > 0:10:26'Matt's half the man he used to be, and not because he's single.
0:10:26 > 0:10:30'He's lost a shedload of weight since going solo,
0:10:30 > 0:10:32'and it's done wonders for his self-confidence.'
0:10:32 > 0:10:35I lost about 4 1/2 stone.
0:10:35 > 0:10:38- In what space of time? - About three, 3 1/2 months.
0:10:38 > 0:10:40That's unbelievably quick.
0:10:40 > 0:10:42I went to the gym about every single day.
0:10:42 > 0:10:44I modified my diet a bit, stopped drinking,
0:10:44 > 0:10:48and I just kept running, and it just shred off, to be honest.
0:10:48 > 0:10:50- Like Forrest Gump. - I just kept on running.
0:10:50 > 0:10:53I have heard that your nickname is Superhands. Why?
0:10:53 > 0:10:56It's not quite a nickname, as an actual name.
0:10:56 > 0:10:59- What?- I changed my middle name by deed poll.
0:10:59 > 0:11:01- So your name is actually Superhands?- Yeah.
0:11:01 > 0:11:03Why are you called Superhands?
0:11:03 > 0:11:08I was with a girl. Afterwards, she said to me, "You've got super hands."
0:11:08 > 0:11:11It's not an unpleasant nickname for a boy, is it?
0:11:11 > 0:11:14I mean, you kind of lucked out a bit, didn't you?
0:11:14 > 0:11:15It's quite a good one, I think!
0:11:15 > 0:11:19- So what are you like with the ladies?- Average.
0:11:19 > 0:11:21In what way?
0:11:21 > 0:11:23It's a lack of experience for me, I think. I'm not pushy.
0:11:25 > 0:11:30Which is why his mates have an altogether different nickname for him.
0:11:30 > 0:11:35He's called the opener, because he opens and never closes, basically.
0:11:35 > 0:11:38He talks to a lot of girls but doesn't go any further.
0:11:38 > 0:11:40It started off, I was out one night
0:11:40 > 0:11:43and there was three girls, a group of them, together.
0:11:43 > 0:11:47I managed to kiss all three of them. Didn't close, like, but I opened.
0:11:48 > 0:11:52So seeing as Superhands is into jogging,
0:11:52 > 0:11:54I have put my running kit on.
0:11:54 > 0:11:58I am going to go for a little runabout with him, hopefully keep up.
0:11:58 > 0:12:00He's got super hands, maybe he's got super feet.
0:12:02 > 0:12:04- Are you ready, then?- Yeah. Let's go!
0:12:04 > 0:12:06# ..Oh, Lord, it may go
0:12:06 > 0:12:10# Put your hands on Put your hands on... #
0:12:10 > 0:12:15'But Matt's not interested in using his fit new bod just to score.
0:12:15 > 0:12:20'He's looking for true love. And I never could resist a happy ending.'
0:12:20 > 0:12:25# ..Put your hands on Put your hands on... #
0:12:25 > 0:12:28So if you had a magic wand, what kind of girl are you after?
0:12:28 > 0:12:32Ideally, I want someone fun, energetic, spontaneous,
0:12:32 > 0:12:34up for a laugh.
0:12:34 > 0:12:36- What about looks? - I tend to go for brunettes.
0:12:36 > 0:12:39I don't have a magic wand, surprise,
0:12:39 > 0:12:43but I do have a bit of a secret weapon.
0:12:43 > 0:12:46- Right.- I have got social media, baby.
0:12:46 > 0:12:49- Can you find that perfect one, do you think?- I'm going to try.
0:12:49 > 0:12:53- You know, I'm not going to lie, love is hard to find.- Yeah.
0:12:53 > 0:12:58# ..Put your hands on Put your hands on. #
0:13:07 > 0:13:09'Fingers crossed my internet campaign will help him
0:13:09 > 0:13:11'find the girl of his dreams.
0:13:11 > 0:13:13'It's not as daft as it sounds.
0:13:13 > 0:13:19'Last year, newly 20% of couples who got married met online.
0:13:19 > 0:13:22'There's nothing virtual about the love lives of Matty and Biannca.
0:13:22 > 0:13:25'Later on, I will be finding out why they do what they do.'
0:13:25 > 0:13:29- Do you want to be in a relationship in the future?- Eventually, yeah.
0:13:29 > 0:13:32But I don't think no-one does them any more, everyone just cheats.
0:13:32 > 0:13:38'But for now, sit back, relax, and enjoy the, um...ride.'
0:13:38 > 0:13:40- # Mr Loverman - Shabba
0:13:40 > 0:13:43- # Mr Loverman - Shabba... #
0:13:43 > 0:13:46Hostel manager Matty is about to head out on a pub crawl.
0:13:46 > 0:13:51But before he does, he is boning up on some international chat-up lines.
0:13:51 > 0:13:53Shall I say this to you?
0:13:53 > 0:13:56HE READS JAPANESE
0:13:58 > 0:14:01That means, "Will you sleep with me?" in Japanese.
0:14:01 > 0:14:04- How do you say it in French? - Voulez-vous coucher avec moi.
0:14:04 > 0:14:07- That's what that means?- Exactly!
0:14:07 > 0:14:10# Voulez-vous coucher avec moi Ce soir... #
0:14:10 > 0:14:14- # Voulez-vous coucher avec moi... # - To the right.
0:14:14 > 0:14:16For Matty, pulling women is a numbers game.
0:14:16 > 0:14:21Now he's got another blonde hostel guest in his sights.
0:14:21 > 0:14:23This one's from Texas.
0:14:24 > 0:14:28- Boom! Don't you love a high-five? - Do you guys actually love each other?
0:14:28 > 0:14:30Not as much as I love you, to be honest.
0:14:32 > 0:14:34If you're not confident, you're not going to get anywhere.
0:14:34 > 0:14:36Might as well get stuck in.
0:14:36 > 0:14:38If they say no, there's always more women.
0:14:46 > 0:14:49# Voulez-vous coucher avec moi? #
0:14:49 > 0:14:51Like the Don Draper of the backpacking scene,
0:14:51 > 0:14:54he's off the bus and into the bar.
0:14:54 > 0:14:56It's time to unleash the beast.
0:14:56 > 0:14:58MUSIC: "Love Machine" by Girls Aloud
0:15:05 > 0:15:07Hello.
0:15:11 > 0:15:17It seems to be going very well. A bit of dancing, having it large.
0:15:17 > 0:15:21It's still the same two. Leaning a bit more towards Callie.
0:15:21 > 0:15:24After a few more G&Ts and a couple of beers,
0:15:24 > 0:15:26I think we could get a little bit more dirty dancing than that.
0:15:30 > 0:15:34It's not just the ladies who are in for a treat tonight.
0:15:34 > 0:15:35Eyelashes at the ready,
0:15:35 > 0:15:38Biannca's heading to the West End with best friend Siobhan.
0:15:38 > 0:15:41The girls come to this club so often,
0:15:41 > 0:15:43they're on first-name terms with the bouncers...
0:15:46 > 0:15:51..who make sure they're whisked straight to the VIP area.
0:15:56 > 0:15:59As always, Biannca is scouting for men.
0:15:59 > 0:16:01But she does have standards, you know,
0:16:01 > 0:16:02and so far no-one is cutting the mustard.
0:16:02 > 0:16:07The time is 2am, the night's not even started yet. That is early.
0:16:07 > 0:16:11Don't worry, there's still hope. It's all there, baby!
0:16:19 > 0:16:21Matty and his gang are at their second venue of the night,
0:16:21 > 0:16:25but an important member of the party has gone AWOL.
0:16:27 > 0:16:30The girl that I was dancing with at the last club,
0:16:30 > 0:16:32she disappeared, she got lost.
0:16:32 > 0:16:33So then we came to the other club,
0:16:33 > 0:16:36and because I was off with that girl, the other girl
0:16:36 > 0:16:38I was trying to go with has obviously seen that
0:16:38 > 0:16:41and might have got a little bit tired and emotional,
0:16:41 > 0:16:46I think is the correct terminology, adjective if you may.
0:16:46 > 0:16:48Luckily for Matty, even though girl number one
0:16:48 > 0:16:50from Canada has disappeared
0:16:50 > 0:16:54and he's blown his chances with girl number two from the States,
0:16:54 > 0:16:59girl number three saves the night with a full-on French kiss.
0:16:59 > 0:17:00Ooh-la-la!
0:17:00 > 0:17:03Something very unexpected happened and I had my receptionist,
0:17:03 > 0:17:06Marie, come up and go, "How about it, then?"
0:17:06 > 0:17:08I was like, "Well, why not?"
0:17:13 > 0:17:16Biannca's night is also looking up,
0:17:16 > 0:17:18as she finally manages to reel in a man.
0:17:25 > 0:17:28But, with only a quick kiss on offer,
0:17:28 > 0:17:30she decides to cut her losses.
0:17:30 > 0:17:33Oh, my God. The night has actually been a complete flippin' nightmare,
0:17:33 > 0:17:34to be honest.
0:17:34 > 0:17:40It's all right, because it is only 2.57 and the night is still young.
0:17:42 > 0:17:46A friend of Biannca's has texted her about a party that's happening
0:17:46 > 0:17:51just around the corner, featuring hot guys and an even hotter Jacuzzi.
0:17:56 > 0:17:59Once she's settled in, Biannca clocks a potential mark
0:17:59 > 0:18:00and moves in for the kill.
0:18:02 > 0:18:03How does she do it?
0:18:05 > 0:18:10You know what, he's a good kisser! You know what that means!
0:18:10 > 0:18:12- Do you want to get in the Jacuzzi? - Yeah.- Let's go.
0:18:14 > 0:18:19I met a really nice guy tonight. I don't actually know what his name is.
0:18:19 > 0:18:21Oh, my God, is that really bad?
0:18:26 > 0:18:30With the bubbles doing their bit, Biannca and, er, Thingy,
0:18:30 > 0:18:33decide to head off somewhere a little more private.
0:18:35 > 0:18:37You're not coming in!
0:18:43 > 0:18:45Matty's moved on to his third bar.
0:18:48 > 0:18:52And, astonishingly, gets his first knockback of the night.
0:18:52 > 0:18:54But his luck soon changes,
0:18:54 > 0:18:58as his lost Canadian friend finds her way back to the group.
0:18:58 > 0:19:02He sees his opening, takes his chance and it's back of the net!
0:19:03 > 0:19:06I never expected this to happen.
0:19:06 > 0:19:08Down in the bar, dancing with a few girls
0:19:08 > 0:19:11and trying my luck I think is the best way to put it.
0:19:11 > 0:19:15Then out of the blue, the girl who was lost was then found,
0:19:15 > 0:19:17ended up getting with her.
0:19:17 > 0:19:19I'm a happy man.
0:19:19 > 0:19:22You saw the world map earlier, I'm really hoping that tonight
0:19:22 > 0:19:24there's going to be another heart on Vancouver.
0:19:24 > 0:19:30# I get all the girls I get all the girls... #
0:19:36 > 0:19:40I've asked Matty and Biannca to say goodbye to their beds,
0:19:40 > 0:19:42and whoever's in them, to come in for a chat.
0:19:42 > 0:19:46There's so much I want to ask them, like are they really having fun?
0:19:46 > 0:19:49'It all looks like a bit of an effort to me.'
0:19:49 > 0:19:51Nice to meet you. Hi.
0:19:51 > 0:19:53- How's it going?- Hi.
0:19:53 > 0:19:55- You're Matty?- I certainly am. - Nice to meet you.
0:19:58 > 0:20:03I have to know, Matty, did you put a heart on Vancouver?
0:20:03 > 0:20:07- Unfortunately not.- No! What happened?
0:20:07 > 0:20:10Well, she ended up getting with a Portuguese guy who was
0:20:10 > 0:20:13staying at the hostel, so I got with someone else instead.
0:20:13 > 0:20:17Was that one of the girls that you had lined up?
0:20:17 > 0:20:19No, just back to the hostel, everyone partied till about 3am
0:20:19 > 0:20:22and then back down to the room and sealed the deal, yeah.
0:20:22 > 0:20:26And, Biannca, did you have sex?
0:20:26 > 0:20:28Yeah.
0:20:28 > 0:20:31Isn't having sex in a sauna a bit uncomfortable?
0:20:31 > 0:20:34- We never had it in the sauna.- Where did you end up sleeping with him?
0:20:34 > 0:20:36- In the bedroom.- Oh, really?
0:20:36 > 0:20:39- Do you have any places you won't do it?- Won't do it in a bush.
0:20:39 > 0:20:43Not in a bush. So in a conventional bed?
0:20:43 > 0:20:46- Yeah, I wouldn't do it in the street or anything.- Boring!
0:20:46 > 0:20:51- I can see you disagree.- Phone box last week.- Shut up!- Seriously, yeah.
0:20:51 > 0:20:55- You did it in a phone box?- Yeah, on the Strand.- How tall are you?- 6'7".
0:20:55 > 0:20:58- Was your head not bashing on the ceiling?- Hers was.
0:20:58 > 0:21:02Since we've last seen you, how many people have you slept with?
0:21:02 > 0:21:04- Four people.- In one month?- Yeah. - So one person a week?
0:21:04 > 0:21:10- Is that a lot or little for you? - That's about average.
0:21:10 > 0:21:15I've slept with 170 and it's probably now gone up to about 177 now.
0:21:15 > 0:21:18If you met a girl and you asked how many people she'd slept with
0:21:18 > 0:21:23and she said 177, honestly what would be your first reaction?
0:21:23 > 0:21:26- I think I'm in there tonight! - Really!
0:21:26 > 0:21:27Some guys would think this and some guys,
0:21:27 > 0:21:29"Eugh, not going near her."
0:21:29 > 0:21:31What do you think guys want to hear
0:21:31 > 0:21:33when they ask how many people you've slept with?
0:21:33 > 0:21:38- What is the magic number for a guy? - "I've slept with five, babe."- Really?
0:21:38 > 0:21:42I did a bit of Twitter research and I asked how many is too many,
0:21:42 > 0:21:45and it was between about three and eight.
0:21:45 > 0:21:49When a guy asks how many, a girl, she takes half of hers away
0:21:49 > 0:21:52and says the number. And a guy doubles it, that's what I heard.
0:21:52 > 0:21:55Do you ever get called a slut?
0:21:55 > 0:21:57Yeah, some girls probably do think it,
0:21:57 > 0:21:59but I know deep down they just want to be like me.
0:21:59 > 0:22:03All the girls are like me, it's just I'm more out there, I'm like,
0:22:03 > 0:22:06"Yeah, I banged you, I banged your mate last week
0:22:06 > 0:22:09"and I'm banging your mate tonight. Is that all right?" It's cool.
0:22:11 > 0:22:14When you go out, you meet a guy, the conquest has happened,
0:22:14 > 0:22:17you've sealed the deal, is there any part of that process
0:22:17 > 0:22:20that you wish wasn't there, anything you'd like to improve on?
0:22:20 > 0:22:23Yeah, that he doesn't fall for you, cos I get that quite a lot,
0:22:23 > 0:22:27guys want to make me their girlfriend and I'm not girlfriend material.
0:22:27 > 0:22:32But what if you really liked the guy? What if you miss a goodie?
0:22:32 > 0:22:36There has been a couple that I've really liked but it's got me so scared.
0:22:36 > 0:22:40Why do you get scared? Isn't that what people technically really want?
0:22:40 > 0:22:43I think it's because I gave my life to someone before
0:22:43 > 0:22:46and he broke my heart, and if I spend a bit too much time
0:22:46 > 0:22:49I might fall in love and he might do the same to me.
0:22:49 > 0:22:51So I think, yeah.
0:22:51 > 0:22:55So you run away from anything that could potentially hurt you?
0:22:55 > 0:22:56Oh, my God, I'm going to be lonely!
0:22:59 > 0:23:02Do you want to be in a relationship in the future?
0:23:02 > 0:23:06Eventually, yeah, but I don't... Relationships are old-school now.
0:23:06 > 0:23:09No-one does them any more. I think everyone just cheats.
0:23:10 > 0:23:14So do you think a monogamous relationship for life
0:23:14 > 0:23:16- exists anymore? - No, definitely not.- Really?
0:23:16 > 0:23:20I think it is. I've got a lot of my buddies...
0:23:20 > 0:23:23- One girl until you die?- Not at the moment, later on.- Shut up!
0:23:23 > 0:23:25When I'm old and wrinkly.
0:23:25 > 0:23:26I've got to ask.
0:23:26 > 0:23:29Considering for both of you it's about the numbers,
0:23:29 > 0:23:32anything going to happen here?
0:23:32 > 0:23:34What you doing later?!
0:23:34 > 0:23:39- You're not my type! - Really, what's your type?
0:23:39 > 0:23:42- Sorry! Tall, dark...- But, but...
0:23:42 > 0:23:46- No, but really pretty.- That's harsh. - But if I'd a few drinks, maybe.
0:23:52 > 0:23:55'Matty and Biannca may not want a ring on their finger,
0:23:55 > 0:23:59'but in a single-vs-settle debate, it's clear that plenty of us do.
0:23:59 > 0:24:03'In fact, last year the number of weddings in the UK
0:24:03 > 0:24:05'rose for the first time in a decade.'
0:24:05 > 0:24:07It's really stupid.
0:24:07 > 0:24:12Even though I love being married and I absolutely adore my husband,
0:24:12 > 0:24:16I haven't actually changed my Facebook status to married yet.
0:24:16 > 0:24:19It's like I don't want to admit that I'm out of the game.
0:24:21 > 0:24:24And that being settled is in some way boring.
0:24:24 > 0:24:29'But what if I could revisit my past and decide once and for all
0:24:29 > 0:24:32'whether I preferred being married with a baby
0:24:32 > 0:24:34'or footloose and fancy free?
0:24:34 > 0:24:37'That's exactly the dilemma I gave two twins.'
0:24:37 > 0:24:41My name is Claire Rooney, I'm 29 and I'm single.
0:24:41 > 0:24:44My name is Siobhan, I'm 29 and I'm married.
0:24:46 > 0:24:50The twins may have identical DNA, but they have opposite lifestyles.
0:24:50 > 0:24:52Siobhan, the older twin
0:24:52 > 0:24:54by 11 minutes, lives in Luton with husband Ross
0:24:54 > 0:24:59and nine-month-old Sebastian, and works full time as a solicitor.
0:24:59 > 0:25:01I love being a mum and I love being married.
0:25:03 > 0:25:06I just love having the security that comes with that.
0:25:07 > 0:25:11While younger sister Claire is the Carrie Bradshaw of Guildford
0:25:11 > 0:25:13and works as a PE teacher.
0:25:13 > 0:25:15I get to do whatever I like,
0:25:15 > 0:25:19I don't have to worry about hurting someone else's feelings.
0:25:19 > 0:25:20I like to spend my money on myself.
0:25:20 > 0:25:24I like to go out and socialise, I love to go out for dinner.
0:25:24 > 0:25:30Two women, one shared upbringing and a very different set of choices.
0:25:30 > 0:25:33They're my perfect lab rats.
0:25:33 > 0:25:37So I'm going to get them to swap lives for 24 hours to find out
0:25:37 > 0:25:40whether they might actually prefer each other's.
0:25:40 > 0:25:43- Hello.- Hello. Hello!
0:25:43 > 0:25:45On the face of it,
0:25:45 > 0:25:48single sister Claire doesn't have a care in the world,
0:25:48 > 0:25:51but she has to deal with a different kind of stress to her sister.
0:25:51 > 0:25:54There's the expectation you should be settling down and the clock's ticking.
0:25:54 > 0:25:57"Come on, you need to have a baby." But I don't think that way.
0:25:57 > 0:25:59- Christmas is a nightmare.- Why?
0:25:59 > 0:26:03Siobhan's married with a baby, my older sister's married with a baby
0:26:03 > 0:26:05so everyone's like, "Poor Claire."
0:26:05 > 0:26:11- Oh, no! With that face?- Yeah, pretty much. I'm like, "I'm OK, honestly."
0:26:13 > 0:26:15- The pity face.- Yeah, I hate it. That's what I hate.
0:26:15 > 0:26:18How do you feel when you get the pity face?
0:26:18 > 0:26:20I feel like there's something wrong with me.
0:26:20 > 0:26:24Do you think your sister being married has affected what you want
0:26:24 > 0:26:27or how you plan your life?
0:26:27 > 0:26:31It's made me realise about what it's like to be married and have a baby.
0:26:31 > 0:26:34It's like having an insight before you're actually there.
0:26:34 > 0:26:38- What is that insight? - It's hard work!
0:26:39 > 0:26:44'Not today, though. Siobhan's heading out for some fun...with me.'
0:26:45 > 0:26:48- Ready?- Yeah.- Let's do it.
0:26:56 > 0:26:59Claire has only ever looked after Seb on her own
0:26:59 > 0:27:02for an hour before, and she forgot to feed him.
0:27:02 > 0:27:04If she can't figure out his highchair,
0:27:04 > 0:27:06he might go hungry again.
0:27:06 > 0:27:08A-ha!
0:27:11 > 0:27:13Yum!
0:27:13 > 0:27:18Mmm! Just seems like a lot of hassle.
0:27:18 > 0:27:21If I want to eat, I just sit down and eat, whereas with him,
0:27:21 > 0:27:26you have to get so many things organised first.
0:27:30 > 0:27:32Seb, help!
0:27:32 > 0:27:36Next up is a hot date with some mums,
0:27:36 > 0:27:39provided she can work out how to fold the buggy.
0:27:42 > 0:27:45Yes, Sebby!
0:27:45 > 0:27:48Car seat, baby. I think we're done.
0:27:53 > 0:27:55I left my car keys inside!
0:27:57 > 0:28:00Thankfully, the stress levels aren't quite as high
0:28:00 > 0:28:01on my date with Siobhan.
0:28:01 > 0:28:05When was the last time you were in a salon?
0:28:05 > 0:28:07I think I got my hair cut
0:28:07 > 0:28:09about two or three weeks before Seb was born
0:28:09 > 0:28:12and I haven't had it done since then.
0:28:12 > 0:28:14- Is this something you really miss? - Yeah.
0:28:14 > 0:28:20It's just a few moments when I'm not Seb's mum and back to being Siobhan.
0:28:20 > 0:28:23Exhausted and delayed by Buggy-gate,
0:28:23 > 0:28:26Claire arrives for coffee 40 minutes late.
0:28:26 > 0:28:27I know just how she feels.
0:28:27 > 0:28:31- I'm really sorry I'm late. - Oh, it's OK!
0:28:31 > 0:28:34Oh, my God!
0:28:34 > 0:28:38- Was it good? - Oh! I don't know how you do it.
0:28:38 > 0:28:42I knew it was hard, but I never thought it was this hard.
0:28:42 > 0:28:44I'm probably more stressed today than I was at work.
0:28:44 > 0:28:46Genuinely.
0:28:46 > 0:28:50I was supposed to go to a party tonight, a 30th birthday party.
0:28:50 > 0:28:51Not going to happen.
0:28:58 > 0:29:02Have you ever in your heart of hearts had a moment
0:29:02 > 0:29:05where you've thought, "Just want to be single again"?
0:29:05 > 0:29:08I have a moment where I just want to walk out of the room
0:29:08 > 0:29:11and leave everyone, you know, and just have five seconds to myself,
0:29:11 > 0:29:16but there's absolutely no way I would trade where I am to be single again.
0:29:18 > 0:29:23Back at home, Ross has returned to see how Claire's coping with dinner.
0:29:23 > 0:29:26But it's not the food going in that's causing the problem.
0:29:26 > 0:29:30- I think he's pooing.- Yes, this could be a nice challenge for you.
0:29:30 > 0:29:32Seb, don't do it! It's going to stink.
0:29:34 > 0:29:36I'm not looking forward to that.
0:29:36 > 0:29:38Urgh! Urgh!
0:29:38 > 0:29:41Never do that again to Aunty Claire.
0:29:41 > 0:29:44It's 8pm, and Seb is finally asleep,
0:29:44 > 0:29:49and Clark finds herself going for the housebound mum's hat-trick
0:29:49 > 0:29:51of sofa, plus wine, plus telly.
0:29:51 > 0:29:53Sounds lush to me.
0:29:56 > 0:29:58'Having dodged the dirty nappies tonight,
0:29:58 > 0:30:00'Siobhan's out with her two best friends,
0:30:00 > 0:30:03'who she hasn't seen in over three months.'
0:30:03 > 0:30:05- Cheers!- Cheers.
0:30:05 > 0:30:07Siobhan, to being a single girl again.
0:30:08 > 0:30:11Do you think that people's perception of being settled
0:30:11 > 0:30:14is that it's a bit boring?
0:30:14 > 0:30:17- Yeah, I think so. - Why do you think that is?
0:30:17 > 0:30:19I think it's because you let people down a lot,
0:30:19 > 0:30:22so you can't go out as often, and so people stop inviting you
0:30:22 > 0:30:25because it's like, oh, she's probably not going to come anyway.
0:30:25 > 0:30:28Cheers. To the single life.
0:30:28 > 0:30:29One night only.
0:30:32 > 0:30:34Siobhan seems to be having a brilliant time.
0:30:34 > 0:30:35We've had a lovely day together.
0:30:35 > 0:30:38I think she feels really relaxed and pampered.
0:30:38 > 0:30:40She's finally had some time to herself.
0:30:40 > 0:30:43But I think it's time that I go home to my baby.
0:30:43 > 0:30:48And partly cos I'm knackered. Is that because I'm boring and settled?
0:30:53 > 0:30:54It's been three weeks
0:30:54 > 0:30:57since the twins submitted to my life swap experiment.
0:30:57 > 0:31:03Now I want to find out what it's taught them about each other's lives, and about their own.
0:31:04 > 0:31:07- How are you ladies?- Good, thank you. - Yeah, fine, thank you.
0:31:07 > 0:31:09- Recovered?- Yeah, just. Just about.
0:31:09 > 0:31:14And for you, you didn't seem to particularly enjoy your day off.
0:31:14 > 0:31:16I felt like I was at a bit of a loose end.
0:31:16 > 0:31:20I kind of don't feel like I took advantage of it completely,
0:31:20 > 0:31:22but I always had Seb in the back of my mind.
0:31:22 > 0:31:26Has it made you feel differently about your life in any way?
0:31:26 > 0:31:29Yeah, I completely appreciate that it's really fulfilling
0:31:29 > 0:31:33and it's better than just having time off and looking after myself.
0:31:33 > 0:31:37I imagine there are mums who find it a complete chain around the ankle,
0:31:37 > 0:31:41but it's because it's the right time in my life for it that I'm so happy with it.
0:31:41 > 0:31:43And did it make you feel different about your life?
0:31:43 > 0:31:46It made me appreciate my life in the sense of
0:31:46 > 0:31:48I'm actually really lucky,
0:31:48 > 0:31:51I don't have to worry about other things
0:31:51 > 0:31:54that Siobhan has to worry about, yeah.
0:31:54 > 0:31:56Why bother getting married?
0:31:56 > 0:32:00You've got this family unit, why not just cohabit with Ross?
0:32:00 > 0:32:03I just think there's something nice in saying officially
0:32:03 > 0:32:07"I'm going to spend the rest of my life with you." And I'm realistic,
0:32:07 > 0:32:11marriages end, I understand that, but it's just about saying, "Right,
0:32:11 > 0:32:14"we're going to support each other and start a family together,"
0:32:14 > 0:32:16and I think it's just nice to do that married.
0:32:16 > 0:32:19Do you think there is such a thing as "the one"?
0:32:19 > 0:32:24I do, because I think it's important you're with someone that gets you
0:32:24 > 0:32:27and complements you and you complement them.
0:32:27 > 0:32:29I don't think there is.
0:32:29 > 0:32:32I think they could be loads of people could be "the one" guy,
0:32:32 > 0:32:34I think it depends on who you are, who you're meeting.
0:32:34 > 0:32:37I don't think there is necessarily one person in the world
0:32:37 > 0:32:40for one person, otherwise what are the chances?
0:32:40 > 0:32:42Got to make the chances.
0:32:42 > 0:32:48- You like the notion of there being one person you find, fate brings you together?- I like that idea.
0:32:48 > 0:32:50But I think that might be why you're still single,
0:32:50 > 0:32:54because it's unrealistic. In my view, you've got to...
0:32:54 > 0:32:57Me and Ross are special, but that's because we work hard at it.
0:32:57 > 0:33:01- Do you think you're a bit of a commitment-phobe?- I wouldn't say I'm a commitment-phobe,
0:33:01 > 0:33:07I'd just say I'm very cautious about making sure that it's right,
0:33:07 > 0:33:11because I've been in a situation where I thought we were both on the same page and quite clearly,
0:33:11 > 0:33:15we were on different pages, and it came as a shock.
0:33:15 > 0:33:17Having spent a day in each other's lives,
0:33:17 > 0:33:20is that anything that you would change about each other's?
0:33:21 > 0:33:26I just want you to get married and have babies. I do!
0:33:26 > 0:33:28That's only so Seb can have a little playmate.
0:33:28 > 0:33:30It's not, I just want you to...
0:33:30 > 0:33:33I know you're happy, but just I want you to, like...
0:33:33 > 0:33:37- She just gave me the pity face, did you see that?- Yeah, I did!
0:33:37 > 0:33:39She just gave me the pity face!
0:33:39 > 0:33:44No, but I do, I just want you to have that kind of support,
0:33:44 > 0:33:46because I do worry about you sometimes,
0:33:46 > 0:33:49that it's kind of you against the world, so I just...
0:33:49 > 0:33:53you know, I just want to change everything.
0:33:54 > 0:33:58I'd probably create a few more extra hours in the day
0:33:58 > 0:34:01that Siobhan could have to do what she wanted with it,
0:34:01 > 0:34:03although she'd probably still spend it with Seb.
0:34:03 > 0:34:08So you'd both give each other a little bit of your own lives?
0:34:08 > 0:34:10- Yeah.- Yeah.
0:34:10 > 0:34:13- Yeah. I think so.- Maybe you could babysit a bit more.
0:34:13 > 0:34:16- Not on my own!- No.
0:34:23 > 0:34:28I can really relate to Siobhan's take on marriage, it's really pragmatic.
0:34:28 > 0:34:33Yes, marriage can be hard work, but wow, the pay-off is amazing.
0:34:33 > 0:34:36I also really understand where Claire is coming from.
0:34:36 > 0:34:39Not so long ago, I was also single,
0:34:39 > 0:34:42and felt like people were looking at me like I was lonely
0:34:42 > 0:34:44when actually, I was having a really good time.
0:34:44 > 0:34:48Why can't being single be a valid lifestyle choice?
0:34:48 > 0:34:51'And singledom doesn't seem like such a bad idea
0:34:51 > 0:34:54'when all the gossip mags are filled with painful celebrity splits.
0:34:54 > 0:34:58'Russell Brand and Katy Perry, Johnny Depp and Vanessa Paradis,
0:34:58 > 0:35:00'Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.
0:35:00 > 0:35:02'If the celebs can't get it right,
0:35:02 > 0:35:04'then what hope is there for us mere mortals?'
0:35:04 > 0:35:10Maybe it's the pressure of staying faithful that pushes us apart.
0:35:10 > 0:35:13Perhaps we're just not really cut out for monogamy.
0:35:13 > 0:35:19I've met a young couple who believe that you can be in a committed relationship and sleep around.
0:35:25 > 0:35:29I've come to a small town in South Wales -
0:35:29 > 0:35:32think Gavin And Stacey without the seaside -
0:35:32 > 0:35:35to meet a young couple who spice up their six-month relationship
0:35:35 > 0:35:39with threesomes and a spot of bondage. As you do!
0:35:40 > 0:35:42- Hello.- Hi.- Are you Rhianydd?
0:35:42 > 0:35:45- Yes, I am. Hi. - I'm Cherry.- Hi, come on in.
0:35:45 > 0:35:46Thank you.
0:35:48 > 0:35:50'My host is 19-year-old Rhianydd,
0:35:50 > 0:35:53'who lives here with her boyfriend James.
0:35:53 > 0:35:56'He's at work, so us girls can have a little natter.'
0:35:57 > 0:36:00Where did you meet James?
0:36:00 > 0:36:02Um...we met on a night out.
0:36:02 > 0:36:04It just developed into something romantic.
0:36:04 > 0:36:08It wasn't supposed to be romantic, it was strictly business,
0:36:08 > 0:36:12- if you know what I mean! - Just friends?
0:36:12 > 0:36:15- With benefits, yeah.- I see.
0:36:15 > 0:36:21- Was he quite experienced? - No, not at all...in the slightest.
0:36:21 > 0:36:24- Was he a virgin?- He was, yes.
0:36:24 > 0:36:25Did you know?
0:36:25 > 0:36:28I didn't find this out until a few months ago.
0:36:28 > 0:36:31How would you describe your sex life at the moment?
0:36:31 > 0:36:34Very passionate, like just one big sex bomb!
0:36:34 > 0:36:37SHE LAUGHS
0:36:37 > 0:36:39# Sex bomb, sex bomb... #
0:36:39 > 0:36:42So it's upstairs to see where the action happens
0:36:42 > 0:36:46and it doesn't take long for Rhianydd to whip out her sex toys.
0:36:46 > 0:36:49- Yeah.- Wow! That's a whip.
0:36:49 > 0:36:54- Yeah.- Wow, vibrators, essential.
0:36:54 > 0:36:58Bullet number one, bullet number two. This one is brilliant.
0:36:58 > 0:37:00It's got a lot of settings like...
0:37:00 > 0:37:02- RHYTHMIC BUZZING - Ooh!
0:37:04 > 0:37:08That one goes there and then you literally just jam it in the door.
0:37:08 > 0:37:11- Jam it in the door like that. - Like that, pretty much.
0:37:12 > 0:37:15'When she's not hanging from a doorway in handcuffs,
0:37:15 > 0:37:20'Rhianydd is pretty much a typical housewife - running baths,
0:37:20 > 0:37:23'cooking dinner and doing the washing for her man.'
0:37:24 > 0:37:27'It's a funny thing, those two things sitting side by side.
0:37:27 > 0:37:30'Rhianydd is this perfect housewife and in the bedroom,'
0:37:30 > 0:37:35she's a real sex bomb, a real feisty, up-for-anything girl.
0:37:35 > 0:37:38It's kind of every guy's fantasy.
0:37:40 > 0:37:42Hello.
0:37:42 > 0:37:45'And now he's back from work, it's time for me to find out
0:37:45 > 0:37:48'if James is in fact living every man's dream.'
0:37:49 > 0:37:52That first time you had a threesome, how was that?
0:37:52 > 0:37:55At first I was like, "Can I? Can I do this?"
0:37:55 > 0:37:58- He was very...- "Can I do that? Are you OK with this?"
0:37:58 > 0:38:00And how did it feel having sex with another woman
0:38:00 > 0:38:02in front of someone that you love?
0:38:02 > 0:38:05Because you've kind of gone from 0-60 really quickly.
0:38:05 > 0:38:09You've gone from losing your virginity to having threesomes and bondage.
0:38:09 > 0:38:12It wasn't like, "Oh, my God, what's going on?"
0:38:12 > 0:38:14It was just like, "Yes, let's go."
0:38:14 > 0:38:17- What's so good about a threesome? - It's two girls.
0:38:17 > 0:38:21'I can do the maths, but it is unusual to be dabbling
0:38:21 > 0:38:23'so soon into a new relationship.'
0:38:23 > 0:38:30What are the rules to your experimental sexual life?
0:38:30 > 0:38:32I can't go off and sleep with other women.
0:38:32 > 0:38:35- She can't go off and sleep with other men.- Men or women.
0:38:35 > 0:38:40- Would you ever let a guy come in? - You'd want to, wouldn't you?
0:38:40 > 0:38:44- Maybe one day.- It's different because I don't find blokes attractive.
0:38:44 > 0:38:47- What about kissing?- No.
0:38:47 > 0:38:49Yes? I don't...
0:38:49 > 0:38:52I don't mind if he kisses a girl.
0:38:52 > 0:38:55I suppose it would depend on what girl it was.
0:38:55 > 0:39:00Is this really just a way that you guys can actually just
0:39:00 > 0:39:02sleep around and not have the other one get cross?
0:39:02 > 0:39:04- I suppose.- Yeah.
0:39:04 > 0:39:08But at the same time, it's genuinely fun.
0:39:08 > 0:39:10What's your next sexual adventure?
0:39:10 > 0:39:14It's my birthday and I've always wanted to go to London and I know,
0:39:14 > 0:39:17because I read in a magazine, that there are a load of fetish clubs.
0:39:17 > 0:39:19Would you have sex with other people in the club?
0:39:19 > 0:39:23- Don't know.- I don't know, I don't know.- I don't know.
0:39:23 > 0:39:25Does the thought of it turn you on? Is it hot?
0:39:25 > 0:39:29I think all the PVC and boobs would turn me on.
0:39:29 > 0:39:31Yeah, I think my eyes would be quite peeled.
0:39:33 > 0:39:35The thing about threesomes is they're sexy
0:39:35 > 0:39:39and they're kind of really hot and they do turn me on a bit,
0:39:39 > 0:39:43you know, the concept of them, and they're so naughty.
0:39:43 > 0:39:47But I don't think really I could do it.
0:39:47 > 0:39:50I don't think I'm sexually secure enough to watch someone I love
0:39:50 > 0:39:54have some sex with someone else. I would always be wondering...
0:39:54 > 0:39:58"Is there something more than just the physical?
0:39:58 > 0:40:02"Is my partner enjoying sex with them more than me?"
0:40:04 > 0:40:07Rhianydd and James's lifestyle is not for the fainthearted,
0:40:07 > 0:40:11especially at their age, but in a strange way,
0:40:11 > 0:40:13maybe their sexploits bring them closer together.
0:40:13 > 0:40:15Now it's back to Matt Superhands,
0:40:15 > 0:40:19the Prince Charming looking for his Cinders.
0:40:24 > 0:40:26- Welcome.- How are you doing?
0:40:26 > 0:40:30'A week ago, I started an internet campaign to find Matt a girlfriend.
0:40:30 > 0:40:33'Now he's come to visit and help me put together a shortlist.'
0:40:33 > 0:40:36So, I've got you a shortlist.
0:40:36 > 0:40:39- Do you want to see them? - Definitely.- They're great.
0:40:39 > 0:40:44'Nearly 100 potential Cinderellas want to see if the slipper fits.'
0:40:44 > 0:40:46Hiya, I'm Kirsty.
0:40:46 > 0:40:50I'm 20, live in Edinburgh, from Aberdeen originally though.
0:40:50 > 0:40:51She looks sweet.
0:40:51 > 0:40:53Jasmine.
0:40:53 > 0:40:56- That's in the definitely pile. - Sophie.
0:40:56 > 0:40:58- Sophie is a bit of a winner, isn't she?- Yeah, she's nice.
0:40:58 > 0:41:00We're getting quite a good list.
0:41:00 > 0:41:02'Matt wants a girl with a sense of humour,
0:41:02 > 0:41:05'so we've asked everyone to do their party trick on camera.'
0:41:05 > 0:41:10I'm quite bendy. I can do this with my hands.
0:41:10 > 0:41:11And my elbows.
0:41:11 > 0:41:15Let's maybe put like a question mark against her. OK.
0:41:15 > 0:41:16I can do the splits
0:41:16 > 0:41:18but I'm really aching today after doing class yesterday.
0:41:18 > 0:41:20- Interesting.- Yeah.
0:41:20 > 0:41:22Hey there, Matt. I'm Sally.
0:41:22 > 0:41:26My party trick is I can do really repulsive faces.
0:41:26 > 0:41:27So...
0:41:30 > 0:41:34- I think she's hot. - She does look fun.- Cool.
0:41:34 > 0:41:38- So that's everyone. OK, so we've got seven.- That's a healthy list.
0:41:38 > 0:41:42I think I've dreamed about this list before, to be honest.
0:41:42 > 0:41:44I mean, it's not an unpleasant thing for you to be doing.
0:41:44 > 0:41:48No, it's one of my better days, if I'm honest.
0:41:49 > 0:41:52'He's going to invite his whole shortlist to a house party,
0:41:52 > 0:41:55'a sort of Cinderella speed dating thingy.
0:41:55 > 0:41:58'Doesn't sound like the quickest way to a girl is heart to me,
0:41:58 > 0:42:00'but it does sound like fun.'
0:42:01 > 0:42:04'Three days later, it's time for the party
0:42:04 > 0:42:06'and we've had a bit of a disaster.'
0:42:06 > 0:42:10So, I just got to the pub where I'm meeting the girls
0:42:10 > 0:42:13and on the train journey here, about five of the girls
0:42:13 > 0:42:17that are supposed to be coming bailed, last minute.
0:42:17 > 0:42:18I'm absolutely gutted.
0:42:20 > 0:42:22That's great, thank you.
0:42:22 > 0:42:25'Fortunately, it's quality, not quantity we're after.
0:42:25 > 0:42:29'Two of Matt's favourites are here, Sally from Wiltshire,
0:42:29 > 0:42:32'who likes pulling funny faces, and Nicky from Birmingham.'
0:42:32 > 0:42:34Cheers, ladies.
0:42:34 > 0:42:38To a slightly awkward evening, but we'll just plough on through.
0:42:44 > 0:42:46Superhands!
0:42:48 > 0:42:49Well, come in.
0:42:49 > 0:42:52This is Nicky and this is Sally.
0:42:52 > 0:42:55- Hi!- Hi!
0:42:56 > 0:42:58# Are you ready? #
0:43:05 > 0:43:08- Superhands, are you a bit drunk? - Erm, yeah, a little bit.
0:43:08 > 0:43:11- I got carried away.- Have you been doing a bit of pre-party drinking?
0:43:11 > 0:43:16- Yeah.- Why?- I got excited. - You got a bit excited.- Yeah.
0:43:16 > 0:43:21- I'm going to let you go and woo the ladies, all right?- Oh.
0:43:21 > 0:43:26- In your own time, no rush. - So daunting.- Nice and organic, yeah?
0:43:26 > 0:43:28Nice and awkward. To awkwardness!
0:43:30 > 0:43:31I can't down this.
0:43:31 > 0:43:33Don't down it! Don't down it!
0:43:35 > 0:43:37'Fuelled by just enough Dutch courage,
0:43:37 > 0:43:39'Prince Charming starts wooing Sally.'
0:43:39 > 0:43:45- What do you do? - I'm a teaching assistant. God, I want to travel so much.
0:43:45 > 0:43:47- I want to move to Australia, that's my plan.- Really?
0:43:47 > 0:43:51- Yeah, that's my goal.- I would actually like to go to New Zealand.
0:43:51 > 0:43:55- You've definitely got something in common.- In common.- Yeah.- Definitely.
0:43:55 > 0:43:59- Immediate impressions - fancy her? - Yeah.- Come on, Superhands.
0:43:59 > 0:44:04'But Superhands is nothing if not fair, so it's Nicky's go next.'
0:44:06 > 0:44:10- Fancy her?- Not immediately... She's all right, like.
0:44:10 > 0:44:15- Are you kind of leaning more towards Sally?- Yeah, she's awesome.
0:44:15 > 0:44:17My big worry is that Superhands is really drunk
0:44:17 > 0:44:20and he's going to blow his chance with Sally
0:44:20 > 0:44:24because she's a bright girl and she's great to talk to.
0:44:26 > 0:44:29But I think if she only sees Superhands
0:44:29 > 0:44:31as "Jack The Lad" tonight...
0:44:31 > 0:44:33there ain't going to be no date.
0:44:35 > 0:44:39'Fortunately for him, Matt eventually sobers up enough
0:44:39 > 0:44:42'to use those super hands of his to impress his potential date.'
0:44:43 > 0:44:47I loved his card tricks. They were actually very impressive.
0:44:47 > 0:44:51He's lovely. We've been chatting a lot. Getting on really well, yeah.
0:44:51 > 0:44:53It's nice. I think he's good looking
0:44:53 > 0:44:58and I think he's also really interesting.
0:44:58 > 0:45:02Yeah, I'm going to ask Sally out on a date, I think, yeah. Yeah...
0:45:02 > 0:45:04if she accepts, that's a different story.
0:45:04 > 0:45:08Yeah, I'd be interested in seeing him again.
0:45:13 > 0:45:18'And while I hit the dance floor - oh, I just can't help myself -
0:45:18 > 0:45:22'it looks like a fairytale ending might just be on the cards.'
0:45:29 > 0:45:33'It's been a little while since I've been in a room
0:45:33 > 0:45:35'full of single people
0:45:35 > 0:45:40just going for it, and it is really, really fun.
0:45:40 > 0:45:45I am flirting quite badly, and that is a little bit embarrassing.
0:45:45 > 0:45:49I am a married woman with a child but, you know...
0:45:50 > 0:45:54It is really, really fun. I'm having a wicked time.
0:45:54 > 0:45:56And I think that Sally and Superhands
0:45:56 > 0:45:58seem to be getting on quite well.
0:46:14 > 0:46:18'It's been a week since the party and I'm dying to know
0:46:18 > 0:46:21'if my match-making skills have worked.'
0:46:21 > 0:46:24- Hiya.- Hiya.- You all right? - How are you?
0:46:26 > 0:46:31So...what happened after I left?
0:46:31 > 0:46:34- SHE WHISTLES - Hm?
0:46:34 > 0:46:39We went out, we had a dance, a cheeky kiss, I suppose.
0:46:39 > 0:46:44- A little bit.- Tiny bit? - Tiny bit.- Snog?- Mm, a bit.
0:46:44 > 0:46:48- Did anything else happen? Did you have sexual intercourse?- No.
0:46:48 > 0:46:50- No.- No, definitely not.
0:46:50 > 0:46:54- Why does your face say that you did? - No.
0:46:54 > 0:46:59You. Your face says "I had sex." Why?
0:46:59 > 0:47:03- Actually didn't.- Erm, I didn't, no. - Whose bed did you sleep in?
0:47:04 > 0:47:08- I'm being interrogated now. - Erm, mine. My bed.
0:47:08 > 0:47:11- OK, so you slept in the same bed. - Yeah.- But no sex?- No.
0:47:11 > 0:47:14And then what happened for the rest of the day?
0:47:14 > 0:47:17- Did you spend the day together? - Up till about three or four o'clock.
0:47:17 > 0:47:20- Did you take her out on a date? - Yeah, yeah, took her out.
0:47:20 > 0:47:23- I treated her.- Where?- I took her where I take most of the ladies.
0:47:23 > 0:47:28- I took her to KFC. - I sold you as a really nice guy!
0:47:28 > 0:47:32You can't take a lady to KFC on their first date!
0:47:32 > 0:47:35How do you feel about each other at the moment? Do you fancy Superhands?
0:47:35 > 0:47:37Erm, yeah, a little bit.
0:47:37 > 0:47:40- Superhands? Do you fancy Sally? - Er...
0:47:40 > 0:47:44- Don't be silly. Not a silly answer. - OK.- Be honest with me.
0:47:44 > 0:47:47No, no, yeah, she's nice, she's nice.
0:47:47 > 0:47:49- Do you fancy her?- Yeah, of course.
0:47:49 > 0:47:52There seems to be a kind of game going on between you two because
0:47:52 > 0:47:55you clearly like Superhands and Superhands, you clearly like Sally,
0:47:55 > 0:47:58but it's like neither of you want to admit it.
0:47:58 > 0:48:03- What, what's going on? - A little banter, I think.- Yeah.
0:48:03 > 0:48:04I think that's good, though.
0:48:04 > 0:48:09- I just quite enjoy winding her up, to be honest.- So, what next? Babies?
0:48:09 > 0:48:14- Marriage? Shall I buy a hat? - Oh, wow.
0:48:15 > 0:48:17Superhands, you look like you want to hit me.
0:48:17 > 0:48:20- Let me know if anything happens. - Yeah.
0:48:20 > 0:48:24You know, it's a bit weird that I'm so involved, but I feel like I am.
0:48:24 > 0:48:28- It'd be really good.- A bit weird. - Just keep me up to date. Yeah?
0:48:33 > 0:48:37I found Superhands and Sally really hard to read.
0:48:37 > 0:48:41Either they're nuts about each other and it's just not cool to show it
0:48:41 > 0:48:46or maybe Superhands just isn't as ready to settle down as he thinks he is.
0:48:46 > 0:48:50One thing is definitely clear, though,
0:48:50 > 0:48:54and that's Superhands needs a lesson in first-date etiquette.
0:49:00 > 0:49:02'Now back to James and Rhianydd -
0:49:02 > 0:49:05'a couple who believe you can be committed and sleep around.
0:49:05 > 0:49:09'Sexploits like theirs are more widespread than you might imagine.
0:49:09 > 0:49:13'In fact, 15% of us admit to having taken part in a threesome.'
0:49:15 > 0:49:16'They've decided to leave Wales
0:49:16 > 0:49:20'and turn up the head on their open relationship
0:49:20 > 0:49:21'by coming to the Big Smoke.
0:49:21 > 0:49:23'They'll be needing a tour guide, then.'
0:49:24 > 0:49:27PA: 'This is a security announcement...'
0:49:30 > 0:49:34They're here. Hello!
0:49:34 > 0:49:37- Welcome to London!- I know, finally.
0:49:37 > 0:49:39It's nice and cold.
0:49:39 > 0:49:42# Bright lights, big city... #
0:49:44 > 0:49:48'It's Rhianydd's first ever time in London
0:49:48 > 0:49:50'but she won't be doing any sight-seeing tonight.
0:49:50 > 0:49:55'We're off to a fetish club. But what's a girl to wear?
0:49:55 > 0:49:57'Fortunately there's just time for a spot of shopping.'
0:49:57 > 0:50:01# I kissed a girl and I liked it
0:50:01 > 0:50:05# The taste of her cherry chapstick... #
0:50:05 > 0:50:06Wow!
0:50:06 > 0:50:11- Do you love it?- I love the smell. - James, what about you?
0:50:11 > 0:50:13- Is this not really your thing?- No.
0:50:13 > 0:50:16- Do you like it?- Yes, miss!
0:50:16 > 0:50:19Those are some tiny pants.
0:50:19 > 0:50:20I really love these.
0:50:20 > 0:50:23- Shall we, er, try some stuff on? - Definitely.
0:50:23 > 0:50:25I thought you'd never ask. Oh, God!
0:50:25 > 0:50:26You're so keen.
0:50:28 > 0:50:34- Wow!- Oh, wow! I love it. - Can I just do one thing?- Yeah.
0:50:34 > 0:50:35Oh!
0:50:35 > 0:50:37- I like the boobs though.- Yeah.
0:50:37 > 0:50:40(She's gone commando!)
0:50:43 > 0:50:45- THEY CHUCKLE - Brilliant.
0:50:49 > 0:50:51I quite like this.
0:50:53 > 0:50:55I love this shop SO much.
0:50:55 > 0:50:58- I think I'm happy in this. - Yes, that one's really cool.
0:50:58 > 0:50:59I really like this.
0:50:59 > 0:51:01It's lovely.
0:51:01 > 0:51:06High five! Yeah, we look so hot. And slightly squeaky.
0:51:10 > 0:51:13'Who knew a giant washing-up glove could be so comfortable.
0:51:13 > 0:51:16'Fetish club, here we come!'
0:51:16 > 0:51:19Are you open-minded to stuff happening, or is it...?
0:51:19 > 0:51:21I'm open-minded to stuff happening.
0:51:21 > 0:51:24- There's no definite agenda?- No.
0:51:24 > 0:51:25We're going to ease into it.
0:51:25 > 0:51:29'Our first stop is the casually named Torture Room.
0:51:29 > 0:51:30'It's a real eye-opener.'
0:51:30 > 0:51:32SLAPPING Yeah?
0:51:32 > 0:51:37'I've never seen anything like this before I don't think James and Rhianydd have either.'
0:51:37 > 0:51:39- SCREAMS - Can you hear that?
0:51:39 > 0:51:43'But that's pretty tame compared to some of the things that are going on here tonight.'
0:51:43 > 0:51:47There is a girl being tied up and suspended,
0:51:47 > 0:51:51her legs in positions I didn't know was possible.
0:51:51 > 0:51:57And a... Yeah, a guy in a hat's about to do some things...to her.
0:51:57 > 0:52:01MECHANICAL WHIRRING
0:52:03 > 0:52:06'It seems like everyone in the club is having a brilliant time.'
0:52:08 > 0:52:11'Everyone except for James and Rhianydd, that is.
0:52:11 > 0:52:15'In fact, it looks like they can't wait to get out of here.'
0:52:17 > 0:52:23It's one thing being in a little bedroom in South Wales with handcuffs.
0:52:23 > 0:52:27It's quite another thing actually being here.
0:52:27 > 0:52:31This is just in a different league altogether.
0:52:32 > 0:52:36- Sleep well.- Bye-bye. - Bye. Have a nice time.
0:52:38 > 0:52:42I do wonder whether the fantasy is maybe better than the reality.
0:52:45 > 0:52:49'It's been nearly two months since the fetish club fiasco
0:52:49 > 0:52:53'but I've managed to persuade Rhianydd and James to come back to London.
0:52:53 > 0:52:57'I want to know whether their experiences that night
0:52:57 > 0:53:00'have had any effect on their relationship.'
0:53:00 > 0:53:02So that was an interesting night that we went on.
0:53:02 > 0:53:06- BOTH: Very interesting. - Very interesting.- Wasn't it?- Yes.
0:53:06 > 0:53:08You know, no-one was shy to do anything.
0:53:08 > 0:53:11- They were just doing it right in front of you.- Yeah.
0:53:11 > 0:53:14- All eyes to see, they didn't care.- Yeah.
0:53:14 > 0:53:16We thought we were like that, but once you're put in a room
0:53:16 > 0:53:19full of people that are doing all that we're like...
0:53:19 > 0:53:20- Tied up and stuff.- Wow.
0:53:20 > 0:53:23Were you surprised at your reaction that night?
0:53:23 > 0:53:27- Yeah. I was quite disappointed at my reaction.- Interesting. Why?
0:53:27 > 0:53:30I think if we had a few more drinks, we'd be like,
0:53:30 > 0:53:32"Yeah, let's go."
0:53:33 > 0:53:36How have you been as a couple since that night?
0:53:36 > 0:53:40- A lot closer.- More comfortable with one another, you know.- Yeah.
0:53:40 > 0:53:44We've been, just like me and him, focusing on our relationship.
0:53:44 > 0:53:49- You mean like a "conventional" couple?- Yeah, I know.- Shut up!
0:53:49 > 0:53:50That's interesting.
0:53:50 > 0:53:54So that night has made you more monogamous, more together.
0:53:54 > 0:53:57- I think it took all the adventure out of us.- Yeah.
0:53:57 > 0:54:00It feels like today there's something different about you two.
0:54:00 > 0:54:03It's like you're both now almost on the same page.
0:54:03 > 0:54:05- Yeah.- It's an awful expression but...
0:54:05 > 0:54:08Yeah, we are, cos now we know where we stand.
0:54:08 > 0:54:11Because, before, you would say something and you would look at her
0:54:11 > 0:54:14as though to say, "That's the first time I've heard that."
0:54:14 > 0:54:17We've literally just always never really had a game plan,
0:54:17 > 0:54:19- never had any set rules or anything. - It just happened.
0:54:19 > 0:54:22It's always just been, "I want to do this, shall we do that?"
0:54:22 > 0:54:25"Yeah, OK then. Sure." And then vice versa.
0:54:25 > 0:54:29We've talked about like all the threesomes and things like that.
0:54:29 > 0:54:33We've said, "Oh, we don't know whether we'll do that again."
0:54:33 > 0:54:37- Why not? - Just cos we feel a lot closer now.
0:54:37 > 0:54:39Like a lot more serious with the relationship.
0:54:39 > 0:54:45- Just bonking each other?- Yeah.- Yes. - And we're happy with that.
0:54:45 > 0:54:49Sometimes it's really nice to think that we're becoming
0:54:49 > 0:54:54- a really like a serious couple and that we're looking forward to the future.- Yeah.
0:54:54 > 0:54:59Is the door still a little bit open to that adventure?
0:54:59 > 0:55:02Oh, yeah, it's wide open. It's wide open.
0:55:02 > 0:55:06It's just that we're sort of at that stage where we're like,
0:55:06 > 0:55:09"Oh, yeah, let's do this!" "Oh, no, but we've got to save up for a car."
0:55:09 > 0:55:11I'm really happy to see you so happy.
0:55:11 > 0:55:14You seem, yeah, really lovely and in love.
0:55:14 > 0:55:16And it's all thanks to the fetish club.
0:55:20 > 0:55:22'So single or settled?
0:55:22 > 0:55:26'Of course it all depends on where you're at in your life.
0:55:26 > 0:55:30'Perhaps a modern relationship can look like anything you want it to.
0:55:30 > 0:55:33'I do miss the thrill of the chase but I've realised that
0:55:33 > 0:55:36'just because I'm settled, it doesn't mean I'm boring.
0:55:36 > 0:55:39'I'm pleased to report that my husband,
0:55:39 > 0:55:41'the telly and I are all very happy.'
0:56:03 > 0:56:06'Next time, I'll be finding out
0:56:06 > 0:56:09'why we've become a nation of pill poppers.'
0:56:09 > 0:56:13- I need quick results. - It made you want it more than once.
0:56:13 > 0:56:14How many times?
0:56:14 > 0:56:17'Whether we're self-medicating or chasing a legal high...'
0:56:17 > 0:56:19Yes, Cherry! Yes.
0:56:19 > 0:56:21'..are we all addicted to something?'
0:56:21 > 0:56:23HE GIGGLES
0:56:23 > 0:56:26Do you think that pills are just quite an easy option?
0:56:26 > 0:56:28They're easier than talking about it.
0:56:28 > 0:56:31- I took one as well. - This is HER experiment!
0:56:31 > 0:56:33- Maybe this one is the miracle cure! - This the one.
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