A Dad is Born

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0:00:07 > 0:00:11This programme contains some strong language

0:00:17 > 0:00:21Ready? Come zip me up. It's the only bit you can't do yourself.

0:00:22 > 0:00:27It's not bad for a pregnant woman being able to do that zip up.

0:00:27 > 0:00:28It's bloody hard!

0:00:35 > 0:00:42Greg is a multi-millionaire trader whose girlfriend is expecting a baby in four weeks.

0:00:43 > 0:00:45Who's your daddy, who's your daddy?

0:00:47 > 0:00:53Viktor is a minicab driver from Hungary who'll become a father for the first time in ten days.

0:00:53 > 0:00:56Yes!

0:01:01 > 0:01:07Jamie is a recruitment consultant whose first child is due in two months' time.

0:01:11 > 0:01:16These men are all determined to become involved, caring dads.

0:01:18 > 0:01:23But they all know this isn't going to be straightforward or easy.

0:01:23 > 0:01:27BABY MONITOR BEEPS

0:01:28 > 0:01:30Hello, hello? Hello!

0:01:30 > 0:01:36I wanted to follow the experience of birth purely from the fathers' point of view

0:01:36 > 0:01:38and see how babies change men.

0:01:45 > 0:01:47The first 20-48 hours.

0:01:47 > 0:01:50The key secretions the baby has swallowed could make her choke

0:01:50 > 0:01:51and sometimes turn blue...

0:01:51 > 0:01:54Yes, I read that bit.

0:01:55 > 0:01:59Basically constant panicking, isn't it?

0:02:01 > 0:02:06Jamie, not all men read baby books on the way to work.

0:02:06 > 0:02:07No.

0:02:07 > 0:02:14I feel like if I didn't read, as a couple we wouldn't know much at all.

0:02:15 > 0:02:19- Do you take the lion's share of that?- Yes.

0:02:19 > 0:02:24I said before, I feel knowledge is power in that scenario even though

0:02:24 > 0:02:29when it comes to the birth it will not count for anything.

0:02:29 > 0:02:33I feel more comfortable the more I know and Nicky feels comfortable the more I know.

0:02:33 > 0:02:37It said in the book, when you take the baby home for the first few days

0:02:37 > 0:02:39it might cough up some mucus and choke a bit.

0:02:39 > 0:02:42If I didn't know what to do, I would crap myself!

0:02:42 > 0:02:45The baby starts turning blue and coughing and choking,

0:02:45 > 0:02:47I wouldn't know to hit it on the back,

0:02:47 > 0:02:50are you going to hurt it or whatever.

0:02:50 > 0:02:53Are you trying to defend yourself

0:02:53 > 0:02:56- and ward off later panic by preparing now?- Yeah, totally.

0:02:56 > 0:03:02- Do they think you are a big softy in the office?- Yes! Yes, massively.

0:03:05 > 0:03:09Will you be leaving before baby gets up,

0:03:09 > 0:03:11coming back after baby goes to bed?

0:03:11 > 0:03:13Realistically, yes.

0:03:13 > 0:03:16I will probably be third in the pecking order.

0:03:16 > 0:03:19I'm quite keen to make sure that doesn't happen.

0:03:21 > 0:03:25Jamie says his greatest fear is his baby will reject him

0:03:25 > 0:03:28if they don't share enough bonding time in the early weeks.

0:03:35 > 0:03:38How long is it till baby comes?

0:03:38 > 0:03:44Three days left, three or four days but it feels like forever.

0:03:45 > 0:03:48At the same time, any time, any second.

0:03:48 > 0:03:55So, we are sleepless now, not because we have the baby

0:03:55 > 0:03:59but because we don't have the baby yet.

0:04:01 > 0:04:05Of all three men, Viktor seemed the most unlikely convert

0:04:05 > 0:04:07to fatherhood and family life.

0:04:07 > 0:04:12I used to have a feeling like every woman in the world is mine.

0:04:12 > 0:04:16I'm just not able to use all of them or do all of them,

0:04:16 > 0:04:18but I still have them.

0:04:18 > 0:04:22Maybe if I have time, if I have the feeling

0:04:22 > 0:04:25and want to take them, I can take them.

0:04:25 > 0:04:30I have this weird feeling and if I saw someone in the road

0:04:30 > 0:04:33that was a good-looking girl I used to think,

0:04:33 > 0:04:36"I could fuck her like thunder."

0:04:36 > 0:04:40And I loved to think this way.

0:04:40 > 0:04:45Seriously, I literally saw the picture in my head,

0:04:45 > 0:04:50how could I give her what I want to give her?

0:04:52 > 0:04:56Viktor now works 70 hours a week as a London minicab driver

0:04:56 > 0:04:59to make a home for his girlfriend Melinda,

0:04:59 > 0:05:02and he claims imminent fatherhood has changed him.

0:05:02 > 0:05:06I wanted to be loved by everyone

0:05:06 > 0:05:10but today I just want her love only.

0:05:11 > 0:05:16Because nothing and no-one is more important than she is.

0:05:16 > 0:05:22Melinda is the person who was going to be with me forever.

0:05:24 > 0:05:30'Get ready, because what you are about to learn may just change your life.

0:05:30 > 0:05:37'Over 100,000 people from over 80 countries

0:05:37 > 0:05:41'have learned from this man how to change their lives forever.

0:05:41 > 0:05:45'Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Mr Greg Secker.'

0:05:55 > 0:05:58- Are you guys excited?- Yes. - Let's make some money.

0:05:58 > 0:06:03Cable short positions, touching the pivot, dropping down.

0:06:03 > 0:06:05The trades you want to get into.

0:06:05 > 0:06:09Greg is a motivational speaker who runs a business coaching people to make money trading.

0:06:09 > 0:06:14He has spoken alongside Donald Trump and Richard Branson.

0:06:14 > 0:06:19Thank you all for being here. We will communicate throughout the day. Have fun. See you soon.

0:06:22 > 0:06:27Greg is in the middle of a divorce, expecting a baby with his girlfriend,

0:06:27 > 0:06:30and working almost non-stop.

0:06:30 > 0:06:35OK, off we trot. Jump in the other side, there's a kiddie seat there.

0:06:35 > 0:06:39- Is this your main car? - No, this is my baby car,

0:06:39 > 0:06:42hence the baby seat.

0:06:42 > 0:06:49I have a Lamborghini Murcielago SV which is a real toy, I should show you that.

0:06:49 > 0:06:52It's a real pretty little thing... it's a massive thing.

0:06:52 > 0:06:55But it's a proper man car.

0:06:57 > 0:07:02How is that trade doing, Lulu? Is it still going down...? Fuck, yes!

0:07:02 > 0:07:07Open up the account, tell me the number. That's a winner. Chicken, chicken dinner.

0:07:07 > 0:07:12Sorry, folks. We are up 5,700.

0:07:12 > 0:07:15We should probably consider taking that.

0:07:15 > 0:07:17Lucy, you're going to close your first trade.

0:07:17 > 0:07:22Where that line says 5,700, yeah?

0:07:22 > 0:07:25That's the only trade on there.

0:07:25 > 0:07:30We need to bank that. You are going to hit close. Just take the money. Hit close.

0:07:30 > 0:07:35- "The trade was placed successfully." - Yeah, baby! How much did we make?

0:07:35 > 0:07:39Give us a high-five. You just made six grand.

0:07:43 > 0:07:48There's the head. Hasn't engaged yet. Sitting in a nice position.

0:07:50 > 0:07:54This is Greg and Cathy's 36-week scan.

0:07:54 > 0:07:58Just say send the money, it will be in the account in five minutes

0:07:58 > 0:07:59and then...

0:07:59 > 0:08:05I don't know why he wants me to do it. Yeah, that can happen. I am tired out.

0:08:05 > 0:08:07Cool, OK, thanks. Bye.

0:08:11 > 0:08:16Another three kilos since...

0:08:16 > 0:08:19It would be last month.

0:08:22 > 0:08:23- Hm?- Hm.

0:08:23 > 0:08:28Although this is Cathy's first baby, Greg is already a father.

0:08:28 > 0:08:33He is not only separated from his wife but also an infant son.

0:08:37 > 0:08:40Because Greg, you have already had a child

0:08:40 > 0:08:44- and you knew how that affected your relationship.- Yeah.

0:08:44 > 0:08:46- No?- Yeah. HORN TOOTS

0:08:46 > 0:08:52Cath is very focused on the baby fitting in with us

0:08:52 > 0:08:55and not just everything being all about the baby. That's important.

0:08:55 > 0:09:01And it's not like "I'm having a baby" and all my attention...

0:09:01 > 0:09:04It's like "we're having a baby."

0:09:05 > 0:09:10We both share all of the... You know, love and attention.

0:09:10 > 0:09:14Even though you'll be out working a little bit more. But...

0:09:14 > 0:09:18But still it's not like, not like he'll replace you.

0:09:18 > 0:09:21How could anyone replace you?

0:09:41 > 0:09:46The baby inside there is already bigger than I am.

0:09:46 > 0:09:48I think so!

0:09:48 > 0:09:50Aw...

0:10:05 > 0:10:06Big watermelon in there.

0:10:06 > 0:10:11- Does she always cook for you? - Yes. Yes.

0:10:11 > 0:10:18It's the best thing. A woman is not a real woman if she doesn't cook.

0:10:18 > 0:10:24I'm sorry if I offend anyone with that but I just feel that way.

0:10:24 > 0:10:31I cannot take any girl serious if she doesn't cook

0:10:31 > 0:10:34because it's so good to feel the care.

0:10:45 > 0:10:50- You are going to be a daddy. - It's more than that.

0:10:50 > 0:10:54Because the daddy, everyone can use that word

0:10:54 > 0:10:56but I feel some kind of like...

0:10:58 > 0:11:01I'm going to have a chance to make it right, first of all.

0:11:01 > 0:11:07Because of my dad. And secondly, I'm going to have a family.

0:11:07 > 0:11:09Are you scared?

0:11:10 > 0:11:14No. Not at all. I'm like...

0:11:14 > 0:11:19When you are just imagining what the sportsman, you know,

0:11:19 > 0:11:26the runner, the world champion runner feels before the gunshot,

0:11:26 > 0:11:32you know, just swearing, "OK, let's go, let's go, let's go now, come on, I want to do this challenge."

0:11:32 > 0:11:35And I just feel that tension in me.

0:11:35 > 0:11:40I just want to have her, I just want to go on this journey with her.

0:11:40 > 0:11:45# Takes a day to make you yawn Brother... #

0:11:45 > 0:11:48Viktor had worked an 18-hour day,

0:11:48 > 0:11:52but he still insisted on driving me home.

0:11:52 > 0:11:56He was concerned about a woman's safety so late at night.

0:12:00 > 0:12:05# But it takes you years to know what love is

0:12:05 > 0:12:07# And it takes some fears to make you trust

0:12:07 > 0:12:10# It takes those tears to make you rust

0:12:10 > 0:12:13# It takes the dust to have it polished... #

0:12:13 > 0:12:15HE SINGS ALONG

0:12:15 > 0:12:22# And la-la-la-la-la-la Life is wonderful

0:12:22 > 0:12:27# La-la-la-la-la-la Life goes full circle

0:12:27 > 0:12:29# La-la-la-la-la-la... #

0:12:29 > 0:12:32Viktor's father had been a violent alcoholic

0:12:32 > 0:12:34who left the family when he was a child.

0:12:34 > 0:12:38I never learned how I can be a good father,

0:12:38 > 0:12:40but I learned what I don't want to be.

0:12:40 > 0:12:43And now I know what I do not want to be.

0:12:43 > 0:12:50I felt him so strong, and he was strong when he broke the door...

0:12:52 > 0:12:57..which was the protection from him, and I had to run.

0:12:57 > 0:13:01So I don't want to be that father, I want to be the gentle one.

0:13:01 > 0:13:04Is your father still alive?

0:13:04 > 0:13:06He just died a few weeks ago.

0:13:06 > 0:13:09And...I felt nothing.

0:13:09 > 0:13:12I felt actually anger more than, you know, sorry or anything,

0:13:12 > 0:13:15because he just could escape.

0:13:15 > 0:13:20Cos I never got him, I never could...

0:13:20 > 0:13:26Could talk to him about my real...

0:13:26 > 0:13:31Real feelings. How much he hurt...

0:13:31 > 0:13:36Hurt us. And...

0:13:36 > 0:13:43You know, when you're preparing some speech to someone for years,

0:13:43 > 0:13:49and when he's gone, you just say, "Fuck!"

0:13:51 > 0:13:53Really. That's it.

0:14:00 > 0:14:04So how close do you live to your little boy?

0:14:04 > 0:14:07Um, very close. I'll show you where he lives.

0:14:07 > 0:14:11Was he aware when you split up with his mum?

0:14:11 > 0:14:14- Was he...?- Aware.- No.

0:14:14 > 0:14:16He was only about 18 months old, so...

0:14:16 > 0:14:22Um...yeah, and we've tried to really protect him from that.

0:14:22 > 0:14:26Now he's nearly three, for him, his memory is that, you know,

0:14:26 > 0:14:28I don't live in his house.

0:14:28 > 0:14:31He comes and stays at mine, and he has a little room at mine.

0:14:31 > 0:14:34Actually we're redecorating his room at the moment.

0:14:34 > 0:14:37'Greg's very close to his first child,

0:14:37 > 0:14:39'and always wanted me to film them together,

0:14:39 > 0:14:41'but a week before his new baby's due,

0:14:41 > 0:14:45'a letter arrives from his wife's legal team forbidding it.'

0:14:45 > 0:14:50So do you have any fears that that might happen again, second time round?

0:14:50 > 0:14:52Yeah, I suppose so. I mean, everyone...

0:14:52 > 0:14:54I'm in a very different relationship now

0:14:54 > 0:14:57and I kind of feel like you can't live in that fear,

0:14:57 > 0:15:01you've just got to roll the dice, and life is a gamble,

0:15:01 > 0:15:04and who knows what happens in five years' or ten years' time.

0:15:05 > 0:15:07But I truly...

0:15:07 > 0:15:12For me, I fell in love for the first time when I met Cathy. So, um...

0:15:12 > 0:15:15I'd never felt like that before, you know?

0:15:15 > 0:15:17For me it was always very safe being in relationships.

0:15:17 > 0:15:21If they didn't work out, well, I'm OK, Jack. I'm not going to fall to bits.

0:15:21 > 0:15:26Whereas with Cath, if it didn't work out, I think I would fall to bits.

0:15:28 > 0:15:30Here we are.

0:15:32 > 0:15:35We've only been together just over a year,

0:15:35 > 0:15:37maybe 16 months or something like that.

0:15:37 > 0:15:41- When our energies are together we're like... - WHISTLES

0:15:41 > 0:15:44- Did you plan to have a baby together?- Yeah. Yeah.

0:15:44 > 0:15:45- Very quickly, then.- Yeah.

0:15:45 > 0:15:49We met, within four months or five months I remember saying,

0:15:49 > 0:15:52you know, "why don't we have a baby?" And, er...

0:15:52 > 0:15:57- Greg was like, "Oh, I really want a baby," and I was like, "All right." - Did you want a baby to trap her?

0:15:57 > 0:16:00No! Um... I just, it kind of felt right.

0:16:00 > 0:16:03I kind of always resented the fact that I had an amazing,

0:16:03 > 0:16:06amazing little boy, but I wasn't truly in love.

0:16:06 > 0:16:11I thought it would be great to have a family with someone you were really in love with.

0:16:11 > 0:16:15So, yeah, kind of felt...right, you know?

0:16:15 > 0:16:18And this is the baby's room!

0:16:20 > 0:16:24So obviously you can see what the theme is, a little sailor theme.

0:16:24 > 0:16:26Sailor! Sailor or beach theme.

0:16:26 > 0:16:30But my favourite part of the whole room is actually the clothes,

0:16:30 > 0:16:33because I like doing this with my own clothes, anyway,

0:16:33 > 0:16:36but how cute are little baby clothes?

0:16:36 > 0:16:41Look! A Ferrari outfit.

0:16:41 > 0:16:43No guessing who bought that one.

0:16:43 > 0:16:46And then what else? What's really cute?

0:16:46 > 0:16:49Do you know what your issue is now?

0:16:49 > 0:16:51- I'm seeing an issue.- Yeah.

0:16:51 > 0:16:56You'll notice the issue here. If I try and wheel the buggy out...

0:16:56 > 0:16:59You've got a big issue there.

0:16:59 > 0:17:02Baby's not coming in the dining room!

0:17:02 > 0:17:05That's the thing, is we need to push this all back.

0:17:05 > 0:17:07No, we need to get rid of that carpet.

0:17:07 > 0:17:10I told you, I've been asking you for months to fix that.

0:17:10 > 0:17:12That's why I wanted that space in the dining room clear,

0:17:12 > 0:17:15- so we've got somewhere. - So you march down here,

0:17:15 > 0:17:18sling it over your shoulder when you're in the shops.

0:17:18 > 0:17:22- There's no way I can carry that. - I think it's rather nifty.

0:17:23 > 0:17:26With the baby?! How am I going to carry that?

0:17:26 > 0:17:28- Bloody hell, I can hardly lift it! - Don't pick it up!

0:17:28 > 0:17:33- Wow, God, this is amazing, isn't it? - It is. Do you like the colour?

0:17:33 > 0:17:37- It's brilliant! - It's neutral duck egg.

0:17:37 > 0:17:39So girl or boy.

0:17:39 > 0:17:41- Neutral duck egg?- Moses basket...

0:17:41 > 0:17:45- Looks like blue to me. - No, it's not blue!

0:17:45 > 0:17:47- Don't say that.- Sorry.

0:17:47 > 0:17:52- I've read four books.- Four books? - Dad, you know, I'm on my fourth at the moment.

0:17:52 > 0:17:56- How many books can you read? - There's a lot out there.

0:17:56 > 0:18:00- It's not just the "having the baby", it's the "what to do after the baby". - Yeah.

0:18:00 > 0:18:04The "having the baby" bit will happen regardless, one way or the other.

0:18:04 > 0:18:06So what bits of "what to do after?"

0:18:06 > 0:18:11- How to stop it crying, get it to sleep, get sleep routines going, hold it correctly...- Oh, Jamie!

0:18:11 > 0:18:12There's millions of stuff.

0:18:12 > 0:18:14You're going to lose loads of sleep.

0:18:14 > 0:18:17That... All part and parcel of the... But, you know...

0:18:17 > 0:18:18I didn't.

0:18:20 > 0:18:23- It was just...- You didn't lose...?! - ..Chilled.

0:18:23 > 0:18:27How did you know what to do without knowing any knowledge?

0:18:27 > 0:18:31Well, I... No, I didn't. It was just sort of common-sense stuff.

0:18:31 > 0:18:35I just want to make sure... I was reading this bit in the book where it said

0:18:35 > 0:18:38- if your baby starts choking on mucus, how to deal with it.- Oh, God!

0:18:38 > 0:18:41The important thing is...

0:18:41 > 0:18:44is make sure you've got plenty of wine!

0:18:44 > 0:18:45BOTH LAUGH

0:18:45 > 0:18:47Ha, I've done that wrong.

0:18:54 > 0:18:56Oh, why is life so difficult?

0:18:58 > 0:18:59Ow, fuck!

0:19:00 > 0:19:03PULSATING NOISE OF AMPLIFIED HEARTBEAT

0:19:10 > 0:19:11OK, OK, OK, OK.

0:19:12 > 0:19:14Is there anyone who's coming?

0:19:18 > 0:19:20MUSICAL BUZZER BLEEPS

0:19:23 > 0:19:25Hello?

0:19:28 > 0:19:32- Hi.- Hello, good morning. Oh, sorry. Maybe it was the wrong one. Sorry.

0:19:32 > 0:19:34It's the number four, yeah, you were right.

0:19:37 > 0:19:38I feel really smaller!

0:19:46 > 0:19:47PULSATING NOISE RESUMES

0:20:14 > 0:20:17BED CREAKS

0:20:20 > 0:20:22WHEEZING

0:20:26 > 0:20:29WHEEZING CONTINUES

0:20:29 > 0:20:31SHE GROANS

0:20:43 > 0:20:45PULSATING NOISE CONTINUES

0:21:10 > 0:21:13Keep coming, keep coming, keep coming, keep coming, keep coming.

0:21:13 > 0:21:16Make it longer, longer, longer.

0:21:16 > 0:21:17SHE GASPS

0:21:17 > 0:21:20- Make it harder, harder, longer, longer. - SHE STRAINS

0:21:20 > 0:21:22Harder, longer, harder, longer.

0:21:22 > 0:21:24- SHE SCREAMS - Longer, longer, longer.

0:21:24 > 0:21:28Longer, longer, longer, longer. Keep coming, another one, another one. Keep coming.

0:21:28 > 0:21:30SHE MOANS

0:21:33 > 0:21:34Push for me now.

0:21:36 > 0:21:37SHE GROANS

0:21:41 > 0:21:44- Push still?- Push, push. - Push for me now.

0:21:47 > 0:21:50SHE MOANS

0:21:50 > 0:21:51HE SOBS AND MUMBLES

0:21:51 > 0:21:53BABY WAILS

0:21:53 > 0:21:56Congratulations, that's your baby.

0:21:56 > 0:21:58BOTH SOB

0:22:03 > 0:22:04That's your baby.

0:22:08 > 0:22:09SHE MURMURS TO BABY

0:22:09 > 0:22:14- Put it there? Is OK?- Harder, yeah. Cut harder... That's it.

0:22:16 > 0:22:20HE SOBS

0:22:25 > 0:22:26SPEAKING IN HUNGARIAN

0:22:41 > 0:22:44You'll be all right, she'll be all right. OK, Dad?

0:22:50 > 0:22:54Greg's baby's due to be delivered by elective Caesarean tomorrow

0:22:54 > 0:22:57at the private Portland Hospital.

0:23:00 > 0:23:03But today, his business is in crisis

0:23:03 > 0:23:06and he's in the middle of replacing an entire department.

0:23:06 > 0:23:07ENGINE ROARS

0:23:15 > 0:23:19There I am with the speakers day after day training and training and training those guys

0:23:19 > 0:23:25to squeeze the orange but the guys that are filling up the orange juicer aren't chucking enough oranges in.

0:23:25 > 0:23:28So many people want a fucking easy life

0:23:28 > 0:23:33and they don't realise they're robbing themselves cos if you're slack, you become a slacker.

0:23:35 > 0:23:39- COMPUTER:- Warning, fixed safety camera. Speed limit - 30.

0:23:39 > 0:23:40Say that again?

0:23:41 > 0:23:44It says that you should never sleep together

0:23:44 > 0:23:46on a sofa, armchair or settee.

0:23:46 > 0:23:49It increases the risk of cot death 50 times.

0:23:49 > 0:23:5050 times?!

0:23:52 > 0:23:54That's mildly terrifying.

0:24:01 > 0:24:04Jamie's baby is now six days late.

0:24:04 > 0:24:07And some of the information he has absorbed about parenthood

0:24:07 > 0:24:11is beginning to backfire and give him nightmares.

0:24:48 > 0:24:53It's 15th of September 2011.

0:24:53 > 0:24:56It's about 8:37.

0:24:58 > 0:25:02Your epidural has been in for about eight minutes. Probably about...

0:25:02 > 0:25:05I can feel it starting to go into my feet now.

0:25:05 > 0:25:10I reckon you will be in there about 8:45, in about ten minutes.

0:25:10 > 0:25:13I reckon he'll be with us before nine o'clock.

0:25:13 > 0:25:17- I just really don't want to feel any...- You won't feel anything.

0:25:18 > 0:25:21People always ask me, "Can I do this?"

0:25:21 > 0:25:23And the answer is, "Yes, you can...

0:25:23 > 0:25:28"IF you know two things - what to do and when to do it."

0:25:42 > 0:25:45Congratulations.

0:25:45 > 0:25:47BABY MEWLING

0:26:27 > 0:26:29I'll get back down there.

0:26:29 > 0:26:31BABY CRIES

0:26:34 > 0:26:35All right.

0:26:37 > 0:26:41I reckon if you go from that angle there, you can get us, all three.

0:26:50 > 0:26:52Can you get it?

0:26:52 > 0:26:56You might have to come round more that way.

0:26:57 > 0:27:00I just sent it to 4,900-odd.

0:27:00 > 0:27:04- How many?- 4,900. On Facebook.

0:27:11 > 0:27:15# She don't want to go outside

0:27:15 > 0:27:18# Tonight... #

0:27:26 > 0:27:28BABY CRIES

0:27:44 > 0:27:46WOMAN CRYING >

0:27:47 > 0:27:48She's crying.

0:28:11 > 0:28:16She's crying because she... Because she's wrong.

0:28:21 > 0:28:25She's really, really, really...

0:28:28 > 0:28:33It won't be good if she gonna keep blaming herself about anything.

0:28:33 > 0:28:37- But she does.- Is she cutting her fingernails?- Yeah, yeah.

0:28:37 > 0:28:41Because she don't want to hurt the baby.

0:28:41 > 0:28:43I hear... CLICKING

0:28:43 > 0:28:47This. This noise mean she cut them off.

0:28:47 > 0:28:51I know she is actually less confident than I.

0:28:51 > 0:28:53I can bluff. I can do it.

0:28:53 > 0:28:58And I keep inside how scared I am.

0:28:58 > 0:29:02And sometimes this confidence leads me

0:29:02 > 0:29:05and helps me through certain things.

0:29:10 > 0:29:15It's just so painful to see her blame herself, which is wrong.

0:29:16 > 0:29:18I know this whole thing is just...

0:29:21 > 0:29:24It is just something what we need to learn, I believe.

0:29:28 > 0:29:31The next day, Jamie called.

0:29:31 > 0:29:36His wife's waters had broken over dinner at Pizza Express.

0:29:40 > 0:29:42OK. Car park, it's getting a bit pricey.

0:29:44 > 0:29:47- How much is it?- 35 quid.

0:29:48 > 0:29:52You'll probably be in here overnight. Of course you will.

0:29:55 > 0:29:57That'll be 50 quid, won't it?

0:29:57 > 0:30:01I'm waiting for it to all go pear-shaped.

0:30:03 > 0:30:07Do you generally think things are going to go pear-shaped?

0:30:07 > 0:30:10Well, no-one ever tells you a nice story about giving birth.

0:30:10 > 0:30:14No-one tells you it's going to be a magical event that you'll love.

0:30:14 > 0:30:17Everyone tells you that you have got to get over it.

0:30:17 > 0:30:20You've got to get over the first three months.

0:30:20 > 0:30:23And then when the child is about 16, you start enjoying parenthood.

0:30:28 > 0:30:31I could have picked a better birthing outfit. I look ridiculous.

0:30:31 > 0:30:36Trackie bottoms and a grubby T-shirt. And my horrible trainers.

0:30:37 > 0:30:40- See you in a bit.- Bye.

0:30:47 > 0:30:52Someone said to me in the office yesterday when I was leaving,

0:30:52 > 0:30:57I left a boy and returned a father.

0:30:57 > 0:31:00'While I was waiting for Jamie's baby to be born,

0:31:00 > 0:31:03'I met another man who was about to have his first child.

0:31:03 > 0:31:07'His wife was in labour in the room right next door to Jamie's.'

0:31:07 > 0:31:10Do you feel like a boy or a man now?

0:31:12 > 0:31:17No, I just feel like a... a scared kid.

0:31:19 > 0:31:22I feel immensely proud, I feel immensely happy

0:31:22 > 0:31:25and immensely terrified all at the same time.

0:31:27 > 0:31:30Another three or four hours more and that's it done.

0:31:30 > 0:31:34- Do you know what you are having? - A boy. A boy.- Is that good?

0:31:35 > 0:31:40No, actually, I wanted to have a daughter. I wanted a daughter, but...

0:31:43 > 0:31:46But they always say that, er...

0:31:46 > 0:31:50you don't always get what you want.

0:31:53 > 0:31:56You seem to be taking it all quite calmly.

0:31:58 > 0:32:03Em, I really don't feel actually overly calm...

0:32:05 > 0:32:06It's just that it's long

0:32:06 > 0:32:10and everyone said it goes really quickly when you're sitting there,

0:32:10 > 0:32:12the hours fly by - they don't.

0:32:15 > 0:32:19Stuff like special reassuring holds on the back of her shoulder

0:32:19 > 0:32:22and breathing...just...

0:32:22 > 0:32:25Just be there and try and be as supportive as you can.

0:32:26 > 0:32:30- How have the special reassuring holds gone down?- Terribly!

0:32:31 > 0:32:36She thought I was trying to put some sort of nerve grip in place.

0:32:38 > 0:32:41Um, well, all my training hasn't paid off.

0:32:42 > 0:32:47'Please help us to try to protect our patients. Gel your hands.'

0:32:48 > 0:32:52Whether he likes it or not, my father has done me a massive service.

0:32:52 > 0:32:55In what way?

0:32:55 > 0:32:57Showed me what not to do.

0:32:59 > 0:33:03- What would you do differently with your son?- Be more involved.

0:33:05 > 0:33:07Definitely more involved.

0:33:13 > 0:33:15Ten centimetres. Starting to budge.

0:33:29 > 0:33:33- So what happened?- They had a baby girl.- Oh, have they? I told you!

0:33:35 > 0:33:39- Your turn.- Yes, I know. Baby boy happening here.

0:33:40 > 0:33:44After all his extensive preparations,

0:33:44 > 0:33:48Jamie's wife's labour was relatively straightforward.

0:33:50 > 0:33:52BABY CRIES

0:34:04 > 0:34:08- No, that's horrible.- What do you mean? I think that's a good one.

0:34:08 > 0:34:10I'm going to call Dad.

0:34:13 > 0:34:15We'll send a better picture.

0:34:20 > 0:34:23When does it all kick in?

0:34:23 > 0:34:27As in, when do you start feeling like...?

0:34:33 > 0:34:35I don't feel like a dad.

0:34:37 > 0:34:38Even though I am.

0:34:38 > 0:34:43Think it's when you do all the changing and stuff.

0:34:47 > 0:34:49- Maybe it's different for men?- Yeah.

0:34:59 > 0:35:04Lionel's wife ended up having an emergency Caesarean after a very long and difficult labour.

0:35:04 > 0:35:09- Hey, guys.- Congratulations.- Thanks.

0:35:09 > 0:35:12- Are you OK?- Oh! Don't ask.

0:35:12 > 0:35:16- Been a bit of a marathon, hasn't it? - It's been a tough time. A tough time.

0:35:16 > 0:35:18Been through hell and back.

0:35:18 > 0:35:19And now?

0:35:19 > 0:35:21Er...

0:35:23 > 0:35:25..heaven is there.

0:35:26 > 0:35:28It's good.

0:35:28 > 0:35:30- Are you all right?- I'm...

0:35:33 > 0:35:38- Been hard?- It's tough. I can't say that much.- Speak to you later.

0:35:38 > 0:35:40I'll catch up with you.

0:35:48 > 0:35:51I made a promise to my wife that I wouldn't let her suffer,

0:35:51 > 0:35:54that I'll stand by her.

0:35:54 > 0:35:56And I don't like to break my promises. So...

0:35:58 > 0:36:01I've been unable to do anything to take the pain away.

0:36:01 > 0:36:05It was absolutely killing me,

0:36:05 > 0:36:11and knowing that you can't do anything doesn't really help.

0:36:12 > 0:36:17"Just the knowledge of this helps", but it doesn't really help.

0:36:20 > 0:36:21Hey, guys.

0:36:28 > 0:36:34I think the dad thing's going to kick in tomorrow morning.

0:36:34 > 0:36:36I'm a dad. Can you believe it?

0:36:38 > 0:36:39Can you believe it?

0:36:39 > 0:36:42Amazing. It's amazing.

0:36:46 > 0:36:50- SAT NAV:- You are leaving the congestion charging zone.

0:36:52 > 0:36:55I should be in Australia now.

0:36:55 > 0:36:58I'm supposed to be speaking with Donald Trump

0:36:58 > 0:37:01and Richard Kiyosaki tomorrow.

0:37:01 > 0:37:04My biggest gig in my whole life I'm missing.

0:37:04 > 0:37:07If I speak I'd probably make £2 million in 90 minutes.

0:37:10 > 0:37:15And then go down to Melbourne and do £1.5 million.

0:37:15 > 0:37:18So, yeah, this week's costing me about £3.5 million,

0:37:18 > 0:37:21which is pretty hectic, isn't it?

0:37:21 > 0:37:25I'll get another chance next year, I suppose.

0:37:25 > 0:37:28- Was that a no-brainer for you or did you feel...?- It was a no-brainer.

0:37:28 > 0:37:30Family comes first.

0:37:30 > 0:37:34I would give up these days, but £3.5 million's a big old price to pay.

0:37:36 > 0:37:40This would be a new house.

0:37:40 > 0:37:45A trust fund. An education up to the age of 18.

0:37:45 > 0:37:48When you look at it in that respect you think, "Hmm."

0:38:07 > 0:38:14Greg's cleared his diary for the next two weeks to spend time at home with Kathy and the baby.

0:38:29 > 0:38:31BABY GURGLES

0:38:34 > 0:38:37You'll probably hear the heartbeat thing. We've got the...

0:38:37 > 0:38:39We downloaded an app on the iPad.

0:38:39 > 0:38:43We put an iPad in the cot but it's got various different sounds.

0:38:43 > 0:38:46So it's a continuous heartbeat.

0:38:46 > 0:38:51It's meant to replicate what it sounds like for the baby in the womb.

0:38:51 > 0:38:52BABY GURGLES

0:38:54 > 0:38:56Say, "Daddy, can you take me and change me now?

0:38:56 > 0:38:58"I've got too much poo in my nappy now."

0:39:00 > 0:39:01Aw, pick her up.

0:39:01 > 0:39:06Come on. It's changing time, darling.

0:39:06 > 0:39:07HE GRUNTS

0:39:10 > 0:39:12Oh, God. I can feel it.

0:39:12 > 0:39:14Jamie's halfway through his paternity leave

0:39:14 > 0:39:18and he's taken on all the home and baby chores to support his wife,

0:39:18 > 0:39:21who's been breastfeeding day and night.

0:39:21 > 0:39:23Hello!

0:39:25 > 0:39:30I know. The hangings are so more interesting than Daddy. Hello!

0:39:32 > 0:39:35If you ever want to lose weight, as a guy, have a baby.

0:39:35 > 0:39:39Not literally have a baby, but...

0:39:39 > 0:39:40How much weight have you lost?

0:39:40 > 0:39:43I think I've lost about two kilos in the last week and a bit

0:39:43 > 0:39:46just from forgetting to eat.

0:39:48 > 0:39:51It suddenly gets to midday and I realise,

0:39:51 > 0:39:54"Shit, I haven't actually eaten since seven o'clock last night."

0:39:54 > 0:39:57You'll just be walking around doing stuff.

0:39:57 > 0:40:00There's always so much to do in addition to the normal house stuff

0:40:00 > 0:40:05of getting Nikki some water and putting the wash on, changing baby.

0:40:05 > 0:40:07SAXOPHONE PLAYS "The Nutcracker Suite"

0:40:32 > 0:40:34HE SPEAKS IN HUNGARIAN

0:40:43 > 0:40:46Viktor was only going to take three days of work,

0:40:46 > 0:40:49but he's still at home on day ten.

0:40:51 > 0:40:54Today he ironed his shirt for the first time.

0:40:54 > 0:40:57You know why I do all these things?

0:40:57 > 0:41:01Because I know in a day, my baby girl,

0:41:01 > 0:41:08she's going to be a person as I am today, and she's going to come to me and ask me,

0:41:08 > 0:41:16"Dad, what did you do when my mum was tired and when she was weak?"

0:41:16 > 0:41:23I want to tell her what I've done, as a father should do.

0:41:23 > 0:41:32And I just would be happy to have my father in this position

0:41:32 > 0:41:38and to know he was there when he was needed. But he wasn't.

0:41:38 > 0:41:44But I want to make sure my baby going to know I was here

0:41:44 > 0:41:48when I was needed and I'm still here and I'm going to be here.

0:41:48 > 0:41:55That's why I cannot be tired enough or too tired to stop doing this.

0:41:55 > 0:41:57HE SINGS ALONG TO RADIO

0:42:05 > 0:42:07Wow! Did you see that?

0:42:07 > 0:42:10One hand, one hand open it, just, pah!

0:42:10 > 0:42:14Pah! The magic father power.

0:42:14 > 0:42:17HE COOS AT THE BABY

0:42:17 > 0:42:22Every piece of this lovely body feels like a piece of mine.

0:42:22 > 0:42:25There's nothing strange about it, nothing.

0:42:25 > 0:42:28And you just, like... If you're not disgusted

0:42:28 > 0:42:33because of your own crap, or because of your own poo,

0:42:33 > 0:42:37you won't be disgusted because of your child.

0:42:37 > 0:42:40You're just amazing. I love to do that.

0:42:43 > 0:42:49Every time he lays on my chest, you get this sense of karmic sea,

0:42:49 > 0:42:53you know, wash over you, which is this lovely sort of bliss.

0:42:53 > 0:42:57'Three days after the birth, and Greg was having a barbecue.

0:42:57 > 0:42:59'It seemed that spending time at home with Cathy

0:42:59 > 0:43:02'and his second son had somehow softened him.'

0:43:02 > 0:43:04Can you see him?

0:43:04 > 0:43:06You should stand there.

0:43:08 > 0:43:10Stand behind me.

0:43:16 > 0:43:19Now tell me that is not an adorable little boy.

0:43:21 > 0:43:24I think a few of the times when we've been filming

0:43:24 > 0:43:26I've felt sometimes I've sort of jumped into that

0:43:26 > 0:43:30"Greg on stage" thing, which is not really who I am as a person,

0:43:30 > 0:43:36but I feel sometimes maybe that's a defensive kind of, you know...

0:43:36 > 0:43:38shield or whatever.

0:43:40 > 0:43:43It's really nice to spend time at home

0:43:43 > 0:43:45and sort of be yourself again, you know?

0:43:45 > 0:43:48It must be hard having to perform so much.

0:43:48 > 0:43:49Yeah, like a little seal.

0:44:00 > 0:44:03I don't understand how everything's so perfect in your world

0:44:03 > 0:44:05and you've got this quiet baby

0:44:05 > 0:44:09who doesn't need to be rocked around the house all night.

0:44:10 > 0:44:12Do you think it's perfect in my world?

0:44:14 > 0:44:16I think...

0:44:16 > 0:44:20you do a very good job of showing things as perfect.

0:44:20 > 0:44:22I think that...

0:44:22 > 0:44:25I think not having your son with you is very difficult.

0:44:25 > 0:44:27It's horrific.

0:44:27 > 0:44:32It's the one massive thing that...

0:44:32 > 0:44:34makes my whole world not work.

0:44:36 > 0:44:39But I have to get on with it, obviously.

0:44:39 > 0:44:44It's the one thing I'd give everything to change, everything.

0:44:44 > 0:44:46People probably watching this would go,

0:44:46 > 0:44:50"Yeah, you wouldn't give all your money and your lifestyle."

0:44:50 > 0:44:51I bloody would!

0:44:51 > 0:44:54Cos I know in a heartbeat I could get it back.

0:44:54 > 0:44:57Take it all away, I could have it back within six months,

0:44:57 > 0:44:59because I'm a bloody hard little worker.

0:44:59 > 0:45:05No, I think people might say, "Well, could you have not tried harder, longer?"

0:45:05 > 0:45:08Yeah. And I've thought a lot about that,

0:45:08 > 0:45:11and I've got a lot of friends who are 40 years old

0:45:11 > 0:45:15in relationships that are now going through divorce and the kids are eight, nine and 10,

0:45:15 > 0:45:18and are completely distraught their dad is now leaving.

0:45:18 > 0:45:21And I'm 100% clear that that relationship wasn't right

0:45:21 > 0:45:25for a number of reasons, and I thought, "You know what?

0:45:25 > 0:45:28"The best thing to do is to leave early."

0:45:28 > 0:45:31But if I'm being completely honest, I didn't plan it well.

0:45:31 > 0:45:34I mean, I was a total fucking coward when it comes to leaving,

0:45:34 > 0:45:36and I did not have the brevity to leave.

0:45:36 > 0:45:39It wasn't until I met someone I fell in love with that I felt,

0:45:39 > 0:45:42OK, there's a compelling future and I can go forward.

0:45:42 > 0:45:44Other than that, I'd have stayed, 100%,

0:45:44 > 0:45:49cos the idea of leaving him was way, way, way beyond painful.

0:45:57 > 0:45:59You've got to listen to this song.

0:45:59 > 0:46:02It's absolute, just tells everything,

0:46:02 > 0:46:05about me and Melinda, what is going on in the house.

0:46:05 > 0:46:07MUSIC: "Song For A Friend" by Jason Mraz

0:46:07 > 0:46:14# You're learning to love yourself... #

0:46:15 > 0:46:22She have this stupid, stupid, silly thought in her mind, "What if?"

0:46:22 > 0:46:25And after that there are 1,000 stupid thoughts,

0:46:25 > 0:46:30like, "What if I not give enough food for her?

0:46:30 > 0:46:32"What if I have done something wrong?

0:46:32 > 0:46:35"What if?" Too many what-ifs.

0:46:35 > 0:46:37Do you think Melinda is depressed?

0:46:38 > 0:46:41I-I'm worried...

0:46:41 > 0:46:45She's in front of the route, she's in front of the path.

0:46:45 > 0:46:47If you walk where you...

0:46:48 > 0:46:52Her leg, one of her legs, is on this path

0:46:52 > 0:46:56where you can walk and you can be depressed.

0:46:56 > 0:46:57She's just tired,

0:46:57 > 0:47:03and I need to be with her to make sure she's not walking in this path.

0:47:03 > 0:47:07Because at the end of this path she's going to be lonely

0:47:07 > 0:47:09and she's going to lose her...

0:47:10 > 0:47:12Herself.

0:47:12 > 0:47:15And I don't want to let... And I WON'T let this happen.

0:47:15 > 0:47:17Viktor's baby is now two weeks old,

0:47:17 > 0:47:20and he still hasn't returned to work.

0:47:20 > 0:47:23You know, I'd rather have a poor family

0:47:23 > 0:47:28but still have a family than give them everything and...

0:47:32 > 0:47:33..and not being with them.

0:47:33 > 0:47:41# Oh my baby, my curly headed baby

0:47:41 > 0:47:43# I'll sing you fast asleep

0:47:43 > 0:47:57# And love you so as I sing

0:47:57 > 0:48:05# Oh my baby, my curly headed baby

0:48:05 > 0:48:09# Just tuck your head like little bird

0:48:09 > 0:48:17# Beneath its mother's wing...#

0:48:17 > 0:48:19That confirms there is still buying pressure,

0:48:19 > 0:48:24a bounceback towards the pivot line here, that was rejected.

0:48:24 > 0:48:28This is good, because if you look prior to that,

0:48:28 > 0:48:30the Wednesday and Thursday, these are two sell-off days.

0:48:30 > 0:48:34That's your short serving, this is your short squeeze.

0:48:34 > 0:48:38Five days after the birth, and Greg, still with a global business to run,

0:48:38 > 0:48:40has started trying to work from home.

0:48:45 > 0:48:46Friday?

0:48:50 > 0:48:53Next week, Tuesday? Next week Tuesday or next week Friday?

0:49:01 > 0:49:07- Could do Thursday?- Thursday?- 29th?

0:49:07 > 0:49:11- No.- Wednesday?- Wednesday? No.

0:49:11 > 0:49:15- Next...- You've got a midwife baby check at 2pm on Wednesday.

0:49:15 > 0:49:17No, next Wednesday.

0:49:17 > 0:49:21We've already got one in there, a midwife baby check at 2pm on Wednesday.

0:49:21 > 0:49:24- Next Wednesday?- No. Today's Monday...

0:49:24 > 0:49:28I know what we're doing this Wednesday, I'm talking about next week.

0:49:28 > 0:49:30Are you phoning for a midwife baby check?

0:49:30 > 0:49:35- I'm talking about a photographer for the baby shoot.- Oh...

0:49:39 > 0:49:40Do you have two hours next week?

0:49:44 > 0:49:48Today's the...26th?

0:49:54 > 0:49:57- Today's the 22nd.- Yeah, it is.

0:50:00 > 0:50:04Let me know if you can do any days between now and the 7th.

0:50:05 > 0:50:11- Or the 8th.- I'm registering him at Westminster on Monday.- We are.

0:50:12 > 0:50:15- Because, actually...- We are.

0:50:17 > 0:50:19We had a photoshoot for the baby shower,

0:50:19 > 0:50:25we had a photoshoot for the pregnancy, um, we have a photoshoot every other day!

0:50:26 > 0:50:29- Who drives that? - Hmm, I don't know(!)

0:50:31 > 0:50:36He is actually the special package, you know? After all of that.

0:50:36 > 0:50:39He's the one we really want to take photos of now.

0:50:45 > 0:50:48- Do you like being photographed? - Not as much as Cathy.

0:50:50 > 0:50:55Do you think you guys are slightly more irritable with each other than normal?

0:50:55 > 0:50:57Exactly.

0:50:57 > 0:51:01We're like... You know like when you're about to have a fight with someone?

0:51:01 > 0:51:02We're like that all the time.

0:51:04 > 0:51:09- What's on the shopping list? - A few bits and bobs. Painkillers.

0:51:09 > 0:51:13- Who's doing the cooking and the tidying and the washing?- Umm...

0:51:15 > 0:51:20Oh, shit, that's a point. I forgot to take the washing out! Bollocks.

0:51:20 > 0:51:25So yes, I'm doing the washing but forgetting to take it out.

0:51:25 > 0:51:27I'm doing the cooking.

0:51:27 > 0:51:30What's the point in Nikki cooking when she has to stand there

0:51:30 > 0:51:35and she's in absolute agony to stand up for an extended period of time?

0:51:35 > 0:51:37- Who's doing the nappies?- Me.

0:51:43 > 0:51:46These are, they look like sleep suits.

0:51:46 > 0:51:51- That's the same as a babygro, isn't it?- Is it harder than you expected?

0:51:55 > 0:51:59Um...Not the baby bit, in terms of the, you know,

0:51:59 > 0:52:04it's not that I didn't expect the baby to cry every couple of hours and want to be fed,

0:52:04 > 0:52:07but, uh, the look after two people bit...

0:52:08 > 0:52:10I didn't realise how that was going to be.

0:52:13 > 0:52:16So it's a bit of an emotional day for you guys?

0:52:16 > 0:52:21Just, you know, Nikki... I'm trying to be positive about it, um...

0:52:23 > 0:52:25Yeah...

0:52:27 > 0:52:32And I am positive about it, but, it's just keeping that ship steady.

0:52:32 > 0:52:35If I fall to pieces in front of her as well,

0:52:35 > 0:52:37it doesn't do anyone any good.

0:52:37 > 0:52:40Millions of people go through this all the time,

0:52:40 > 0:52:42so it's not exactly a big deal, but I guess.

0:52:42 > 0:52:48- Do you feel like you're at the helm? - Yeah. Yeah. I do a bit.

0:52:48 > 0:52:53- Which is fine.- But you're trying to hold it all together, aren't you?

0:52:53 > 0:52:55Yeah. Yeah.

0:52:59 > 0:53:02- How embarrassing!- It is hard.

0:53:02 > 0:53:05I shouldn't be getting upset about this, but...

0:53:05 > 0:53:07It's just, you know, I...

0:53:09 > 0:53:15It's difficult keeping it all going with an hour's sleep a night.

0:53:15 > 0:53:18And the thing that no-one tells you is how much of a...

0:53:18 > 0:53:23You know, in pieces your wife or whoever's going to be in after giving birth.

0:53:25 > 0:53:26Er...

0:53:26 > 0:53:31Do you think all the other guys you've been with have gone through a similar experience?

0:53:33 > 0:53:38I think everyone's different. I think it's hard for everybody.

0:53:38 > 0:53:41Er, I think you're...

0:53:41 > 0:53:46- very eager to get it right and do your very best.- Yeah.

0:53:48 > 0:53:49Yeah.

0:53:57 > 0:54:01- Can you show me the picture, Greg? - Oh, God. No!

0:54:01 > 0:54:03It's there.

0:54:03 > 0:54:07- Do I have to go by myself?- Do you want me to come with?- Go on, then.

0:54:07 > 0:54:11- Good thing I heard your response when you first saw it.- Which was what?- It was like a soap opera.

0:54:11 > 0:54:15- No, no, no, it was...- I bought this online, and I thought it...

0:54:15 > 0:54:18I HONESTLY thought this was smaller. I know...

0:54:18 > 0:54:23it might sound like I'm trying to defend my lapse in taste, but...

0:54:23 > 0:54:26It's big. Look how big it is.

0:54:26 > 0:54:29And therefore, it looks like something out of Footballers' Wives.

0:54:29 > 0:54:36It's like something you'd have in your Footballers' Wives house, above your white marble fireplace.

0:54:36 > 0:54:39So we decided that's going to go behind the door in the bedroom.

0:54:39 > 0:54:43'Greg lives by a maxim that 90% of life's problems

0:54:43 > 0:54:45'can be solved by writing a cheque.'

0:54:47 > 0:54:50'He and Cathy have employed a maternity nurse,

0:54:50 > 0:54:53'and he returns to full-time work tomorrow.'

0:54:53 > 0:54:55- Bye.- Bye.

0:54:58 > 0:55:02One relationship failed, I'd feel under enormous pressure

0:55:02 > 0:55:04- to make sure that the second one didn't.- Yes.

0:55:04 > 0:55:08Yeah, it does. It does feel like that, and I...

0:55:08 > 0:55:11Yeah, I do feel under more pressure, I suppose. You're absolutely right.

0:55:11 > 0:55:17Wouldn't it be horrific to be, you know, the father of two children,

0:55:17 > 0:55:20having no relationship with either of their mothers? That would be...

0:55:20 > 0:55:23Can you imagine? That would be...horrible.

0:55:32 > 0:55:34Oh, my God! I can see my son.

0:55:34 > 0:55:39You can't turn your camera round, but he's out there on his little balcony.

0:55:39 > 0:55:40Look at that!

0:55:41 > 0:55:45Well, that's heartbreaking when I have to look at him, out on his own.

0:55:46 > 0:55:48He's... We're going to... We should move on.

0:55:54 > 0:55:58Bless him! Playing in his little sandpit. Oh!

0:55:58 > 0:56:01I've got him today, though, at three o'clock.

0:56:05 > 0:56:06KISSING

0:56:06 > 0:56:10- Bye, Daddy.- You probably don't notice Daddy's going, do you?- No!

0:56:10 > 0:56:12Bye.

0:56:12 > 0:56:15# A gentle breeze

0:56:15 > 0:56:19# From Hushabye Mountain

0:56:19 > 0:56:22# Softly blows

0:56:22 > 0:56:26# O'er Lullaby Bay

0:56:26 > 0:56:29# It fills the sails

0:56:29 > 0:56:34# Of boats that are waiting

0:56:34 > 0:56:41# Waiting to sail your worries away

0:56:43 > 0:56:46# It isn't far

0:56:46 > 0:56:50# To Hushabye Mountain

0:56:50 > 0:56:54- # And your boat... # - BABY CRIES

0:56:54 > 0:56:58# Waits down by the quay

0:56:58 > 0:57:02# The winds of night

0:57:02 > 0:57:05# So softly are sighing

0:57:05 > 0:57:09# Soon they will fly

0:57:09 > 0:57:12# Your troubles to sea

0:57:12 > 0:57:16# So close your eyes

0:57:16 > 0:57:21# On Hushabye Mountain

0:57:21 > 0:57:24# Wave goodbye

0:57:24 > 0:57:27# To cares of the day

0:57:27 > 0:57:32# And watch your boat

0:57:32 > 0:57:36# From Hushabye Mountain

0:57:36 > 0:57:43# Sail far away from Lullaby Bay. #

0:58:00 > 0:58:03So, Greg tells me you're having a baby.

0:58:03 > 0:58:08- Yes, we are expecting a baby in January.- Is it your first?

0:58:08 > 0:58:10It's our first baby, yes.

0:58:10 > 0:58:14Very excited, but don't know what to expect.

0:58:14 > 0:58:16People say life changes, but I don't know.

0:58:18 > 0:58:21# And watch your boat

0:58:21 > 0:58:26# From Hushabye mountain

0:58:26 > 0:58:28# Sail far away

0:58:28 > 0:58:33# From Lullaby Bay. #

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