0:00:02 > 0:00:04This programme contains some strong language.
0:00:04 > 0:00:07Arin Andrews and Katie Hill are one of America's most famous teen couples.
0:00:07 > 0:00:09Millions follow their romance online
0:00:09 > 0:00:12because their love story is one in a million.
0:00:12 > 0:00:13She is the perfect woman for me.
0:00:13 > 0:00:19Arin and Katie are the first openly transgender teen couple in America.
0:00:19 > 0:00:22# Imagine all the girls Ah-ah-ah, ah, ah-ah-ah-ah
0:00:22 > 0:00:23# And the boys... #
0:00:23 > 0:00:27Once a girl named Emerald, Arin is now a 16-year-old boy.
0:00:28 > 0:00:32Luke became Katie, now an 18-year-old woman.
0:00:32 > 0:00:35It's become so normal for me to be a woman.
0:00:35 > 0:00:38You know, to be a normal woman, in everyday life.
0:00:38 > 0:00:43I've always loved women and liked women, even as a female,
0:00:43 > 0:00:47because I've always deep down known that I was a straight male.
0:00:47 > 0:00:49Arin and Katie's online video blogs
0:00:49 > 0:00:53are inspiring other young transgender people
0:00:53 > 0:00:55to talk openly about love.
0:00:55 > 0:00:57Claire is searching for Mr Right.
0:00:57 > 0:01:02I would just like someone to spend time with, and to cuddle,
0:01:02 > 0:01:04and just do little things, like...
0:01:04 > 0:01:06the little things mean the most to me.
0:01:06 > 0:01:10Devon is the new kid in town and he wants a girlfriend.
0:01:10 > 0:01:12It's a little bit difficult in the dating scene
0:01:12 > 0:01:17because I don't really know anybody and nobody really knows me.
0:01:17 > 0:01:22Arin and Katie, Claire, Devon are part of a new generation
0:01:22 > 0:01:24telling the world what it's like to be...
0:01:30 > 0:01:33It's not easy dating when you're transgender.
0:01:33 > 0:01:35It's so embarrassing to admit,
0:01:35 > 0:01:39but I do, I get stood up all the time and it's so annoying!
0:01:39 > 0:01:41You're changing completely.
0:01:41 > 0:01:45My sex drive has gone up a lot.
0:01:45 > 0:01:47Like, a lot.
0:01:47 > 0:01:51Sharing these experiences online helps others to understand.
0:01:51 > 0:01:54And giving them hope that they're not alone.
0:01:54 > 0:01:58I have met a lot of douchebags and jerks,
0:01:58 > 0:02:02and I would really, really want to meet a gentleman.
0:02:02 > 0:02:04Arin Andrews and Katie Hill
0:02:04 > 0:02:06are pioneers in the transgender blogosphere,
0:02:06 > 0:02:10first appearing online as a couple in 2012.
0:02:10 > 0:02:13They met at a transgender support group in Oklahoma.
0:02:15 > 0:02:16I went up to her, kind of with my iPhone,
0:02:16 > 0:02:19I was like, "Hey, can I have your number?" kind of thing
0:02:19 > 0:02:22and she was like, "Yeah, sure, I'll give you my number"
0:02:22 > 0:02:25and I was like, "Oh, I bet she doesn't really...you know, like me."
0:02:25 > 0:02:30But she did like him and their unique love soon blossomed.
0:02:30 > 0:02:33We were watching, just, TV, and we were laying down
0:02:33 > 0:02:37and I was pretty much like this to him, cuddled close,
0:02:37 > 0:02:40and finally, for the first time ever, he put his arm around me.
0:02:40 > 0:02:43I said, "This is nonsense,
0:02:43 > 0:02:45"I'm going to do it if he's not going to do it."
0:02:45 > 0:02:46- And so...- Aw, man.
0:02:46 > 0:02:49..I had to go in for the first kiss.
0:02:49 > 0:02:50I was sitting here, like, thinking,
0:02:50 > 0:02:53"I'm kissing the most beautiful girl in the world...
0:02:53 > 0:02:55"The most amazing woman I know."
0:02:56 > 0:02:58Over the years, Arin and Katie's posts online
0:02:58 > 0:03:02have had a major impact on the lives of other young trans adults,
0:03:02 > 0:03:06who felt isolated, confused, and had nowhere to turn.
0:03:06 > 0:03:10There was kind of a moment of like...
0:03:10 > 0:03:12"OK, this is what I am."
0:03:12 > 0:03:14Cos, like, when I found other trans people...
0:03:15 > 0:03:18..and, like, when they would tell their stories and how they felt,
0:03:18 > 0:03:21I was like, "Oh, my gosh, this is what I am."
0:03:21 > 0:03:23Claire is 20 now.
0:03:23 > 0:03:27Just nine months ago, she came out online as transgender.
0:03:27 > 0:03:33I have finally made the decision to fully transition.
0:03:33 > 0:03:36When I look back at old pictures and videos,
0:03:36 > 0:03:39it's like looking at a completely different person.
0:03:39 > 0:03:41Not even physical-wise,
0:03:41 > 0:03:47I feel like my inside changed too, like, the way I felt about things.
0:03:47 > 0:03:50Yeah, I was very depressed back then.
0:03:50 > 0:03:52Just a lot of things I was unhappy with.
0:03:52 > 0:03:55Social media not only gave Claire an outlet for her depression,
0:03:55 > 0:03:59it helped her find friends who supported her.
0:03:59 > 0:04:03I've had a lot of issues with dating and with men.
0:04:03 > 0:04:06I personally want to date a straight man,
0:04:06 > 0:04:11I don't want a man who wants me for the person that I was,
0:04:11 > 0:04:14I want a man who wants me for the woman that I am.
0:04:14 > 0:04:15My friend Oliviah,
0:04:15 > 0:04:19she taught me a lot, actually, about, like, things I needed to do.
0:04:21 > 0:04:25- I had to, like, basically make you into, like, a new person! - BOTH LAUGH
0:04:25 > 0:04:28- It's been about a year now. That's crazy.- I know...
0:04:28 > 0:04:31One of the first lessons Oliviah taught Claire
0:04:31 > 0:04:35was one of the most important - how to disguise that telltale bulge.
0:04:35 > 0:04:37I mean, basically, you just...
0:04:38 > 0:04:40..pull everything back!
0:04:40 > 0:04:41You tuck some of that...
0:04:41 > 0:04:46Yeah, I mean, your testicle... Male testicles have a, um, socket.
0:04:46 > 0:04:51You put them back in there and you pull everything, like, way back
0:04:51 > 0:04:53and then it's flat!
0:04:53 > 0:04:54And then, you put underwear on.
0:04:54 > 0:04:56And, yeah, you just put on a pair of tight underwear.
0:04:56 > 0:04:59- Yeah...- Yeah. All right. You ready?
0:04:59 > 0:05:02- Yeah, I'm ready.- D'you wanna go? OK.
0:05:05 > 0:05:08The girls head into town, ready for a big night out.
0:05:08 > 0:05:12# This is the part when I break free
0:05:12 > 0:05:17# Cos I can't resist it no more-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh... #
0:05:17 > 0:05:20And Claire's hoping to rev up her love life.
0:05:20 > 0:05:23Yeah, we're going to, like... go out, enjoy ourselves,
0:05:23 > 0:05:26dance with some guys, get you a guy...
0:05:26 > 0:05:28it's going to be awesome.
0:05:28 > 0:05:33They meet up with another trans friend, Zoey, and hit a local club.
0:05:34 > 0:05:36# You were better... #
0:05:36 > 0:05:39Plenty of men on the dance floor, will the girls get lucky?
0:05:39 > 0:05:41# I was under your spell
0:05:41 > 0:05:44# Like a deadly
0:05:44 > 0:05:46# Fever, yeah, babe
0:05:46 > 0:05:48# On the highway to hell, yeah... #
0:05:48 > 0:05:50They came, they saw...
0:05:50 > 0:05:53but they left by themselves.
0:05:53 > 0:05:55That was so fun.
0:05:55 > 0:05:59Many trans women run into a common problem with men.
0:05:59 > 0:06:01I feel, like, guys just tend to sexualise us.
0:06:01 > 0:06:04They don't see, like, what we have to offer past the bedroom.
0:06:04 > 0:06:06You know, if we weren't transgender,
0:06:06 > 0:06:08we would get those second and third dates no...no problem.
0:06:08 > 0:06:15I have been with a few guys, like, physically, and...
0:06:15 > 0:06:16I feel like once...
0:06:18 > 0:06:21..they got down there, I kind of just shut off.
0:06:21 > 0:06:25I've been sexual with my boyfriend, obviously, but...
0:06:25 > 0:06:27he's fine with it and he's accepted it.
0:06:27 > 0:06:30Um, he's completely straight and everything like that,
0:06:30 > 0:06:34but he's accepted it, and he's like me, he wants to please people,
0:06:34 > 0:06:35so it doesn't bother him.
0:06:35 > 0:06:36Gotcha.
0:06:36 > 0:06:41Most guys I've met, I meet them one time, literally.
0:06:41 > 0:06:44And then, after that, nothing.
0:06:44 > 0:06:47There's someone out there for you, like, it's going to happen.
0:06:47 > 0:06:52I've never had, like, an actual relationship and it's...
0:06:52 > 0:06:54kind of odd to me, like, how?
0:06:54 > 0:06:58Like, I don't know why, like, what is the issue?
0:06:58 > 0:06:59Is it me?
0:06:59 > 0:07:02Claire has just joined the conversation online.
0:07:02 > 0:07:05Others began posting videos when they were younger.
0:07:05 > 0:07:09Hi, my name is Brittney and I am 16 years old,
0:07:09 > 0:07:12and I'm transgender.
0:07:12 > 0:07:15Arin's posts date back to before his relationship with Katie,
0:07:15 > 0:07:19from the very beginning of his transgender journey.
0:07:19 > 0:07:22This is the beginning, this is the very start of my transition.
0:07:22 > 0:07:26As you can see, I finally got my hair cut. Yes!
0:07:26 > 0:07:27Haircuts are good.
0:07:27 > 0:07:31From 14 and up, Arin told his story on social media.
0:07:31 > 0:07:34I have changed as a person emotionally, physically,
0:07:34 > 0:07:35spiritually, everything.
0:07:35 > 0:07:38Everything about me has changed and I love it.
0:07:38 > 0:07:41And his vlogs had a major impact on teens coming out as trans,
0:07:41 > 0:07:43including Devon.
0:07:47 > 0:07:51Now 18, Devon followed Arin's lead by sharing his own transition.
0:07:53 > 0:07:55I was so goofy back then, though.
0:07:55 > 0:07:58So goofy, my voice is so high-pitched and I...
0:07:58 > 0:07:59I remember, like,
0:07:59 > 0:08:00talking about silly things.
0:08:00 > 0:08:03Um, so I'm using this site, it's called Laura's Playground.
0:08:03 > 0:08:06I saw my best friend's underwear today.
0:08:06 > 0:08:09Yep, pretty sexy.
0:08:09 > 0:08:13I'm a man! Like, physically, no.
0:08:13 > 0:08:16But look at this, what d'you see?
0:08:16 > 0:08:17MAN.
0:08:17 > 0:08:19I'm more man than Justin Bieber.
0:08:19 > 0:08:23But growing up trans is not just frustrating, it can be painful too.
0:08:23 > 0:08:26And in high school, Devon became a target.
0:08:26 > 0:08:29I was shoved into lockers, shoved into walls
0:08:29 > 0:08:31and this kid came up to me and he was really upset,
0:08:31 > 0:08:33and put me in a chokehold and he said he was going to...
0:08:33 > 0:08:35He said, "I'm going to fucking kill you, faggot."
0:08:35 > 0:08:39Um, and that was kind of the turning point in my life
0:08:39 > 0:08:40and in my mom's life.
0:08:40 > 0:08:44A turning point that changed Devon and his mum's life forever
0:08:44 > 0:08:48and forced them to move away from their old home in Iowa.
0:08:48 > 0:08:51I love photos, but it just... It's so emotional.
0:08:51 > 0:08:53- Yeah.- You know.
0:08:53 > 0:08:54Yeah, I feel you.
0:08:54 > 0:08:55Here's aged three.
0:08:55 > 0:08:58That's when... when everything changed.
0:08:58 > 0:09:01I mean, I just cut your hair off,
0:09:01 > 0:09:03you wouldn't let me do anything with it, so I'm like,
0:09:03 > 0:09:06"OK, we'll just cut it off, then we don't have to fight about it."
0:09:06 > 0:09:09- Hm.- This was really tough for me, right here.
0:09:09 > 0:09:11When you hit, like, 12 and 13
0:09:11 > 0:09:16and that's when it got really bad for me, I fought it.
0:09:16 > 0:09:19I didn't want you to...
0:09:20 > 0:09:24You know, your life to be any harder than it had to be.
0:09:24 > 0:09:27I remember the endless conversations of you saying,
0:09:27 > 0:09:29"Devon you have to start wearing girl clothes
0:09:29 > 0:09:31"and then you can be such a beautiful girl."
0:09:31 > 0:09:34- Mm-hm.- And I remember forcing myself to say,
0:09:34 > 0:09:36"Yeah, you're right, I could be."
0:09:36 > 0:09:38- I didn't understand what was going on with you.- Mm.
0:09:38 > 0:09:41- Sometimes I thought you were just being obstinate.- Mm-hm.
0:09:41 > 0:09:45People are looking at you and then they're asking me questions,
0:09:45 > 0:09:48I mean, right in your face - "Is that a boy or a girl?" -
0:09:48 > 0:09:49it's like...
0:09:49 > 0:09:53You just... I just sometimes wanted it just to be easier.
0:09:53 > 0:09:55But don't you think that's kind of how I feel?
0:09:55 > 0:09:59Don't you think I feel like, "God, couldn't this just be easier?"
0:10:01 > 0:10:02I love you, baby.
0:10:02 > 0:10:04'I don't think at all'
0:10:04 > 0:10:08that being transgender is a choice cos thinking on it, why would you...
0:10:08 > 0:10:11Why would somebody want this kind of life?
0:10:11 > 0:10:15Why would somebody want to, um, put themselves through all this pain?
0:10:15 > 0:10:18Devon's hoping that a change of scenery
0:10:18 > 0:10:22will help kick-start his social life and find him a girlfriend.
0:10:25 > 0:10:27Moving to a whole entire new state and not really knowing anybody,
0:10:27 > 0:10:29that's kind of scary...
0:10:29 > 0:10:31Trying to find a new group of friends where you...
0:10:31 > 0:10:34you know, feel like home when you hang out with them.
0:10:34 > 0:10:36He's hooking up with some skater buddies
0:10:36 > 0:10:39who already know that he's trans.
0:10:39 > 0:10:42So what's it like moving here from Iowa?
0:10:42 > 0:10:43Do you like it better or...?
0:10:43 > 0:10:46I don't know, it's beautiful here. There's, like, a lot of trees.
0:10:46 > 0:10:50- In Iowa, all we have is, like, cornfields and stuff! - LAUGHTER
0:10:50 > 0:10:53How d'you like the chick scene around here compared to Iowa?
0:10:53 > 0:10:54They're pretty hot, you know.
0:10:54 > 0:10:56You've talked about your ex-girlfriend a couple of times,
0:10:56 > 0:10:59but you never go into too much detail on it.
0:10:59 > 0:11:01Um, there's this girl named Rebecca...
0:11:01 > 0:11:04She kind of dropped the "I'm in love with you" card.
0:11:04 > 0:11:06- Ooh!- I kind of handled it wrong.
0:11:06 > 0:11:09Cos I just, like, kind of stopped talking to her for a little bit.
0:11:09 > 0:11:10- Been there.- Yeah.
0:11:10 > 0:11:13Leaving Iowa, I did leave a big broken heart
0:11:13 > 0:11:15with this girl named Rebecca,
0:11:15 > 0:11:19but I felt really overwhelmed and I wasn't ready for what was there.
0:11:19 > 0:11:22So, are you looking for a girl around here, or, like,
0:11:22 > 0:11:23anything serious like that?
0:11:23 > 0:11:25I think what I'm looking for is
0:11:25 > 0:11:27somebody who's fun and exciting, who can, like,
0:11:27 > 0:11:30be as energetic as I can, you know?
0:11:30 > 0:11:31Someone to go out and do things with?
0:11:31 > 0:11:33- Yeah, exactly. To chill, you know? - Yeah.
0:11:33 > 0:11:35As Devon is the new kid in town,
0:11:35 > 0:11:38his buddies have invited a couple of girls they want him to meet.
0:11:38 > 0:11:39Kels!
0:11:40 > 0:11:42- How are you? - Good, how are you doing?
0:11:42 > 0:11:44- Hey.- Just skating.
0:11:44 > 0:11:47- Yeah, what are you guys doing here? - Taking a break.
0:11:47 > 0:11:50- Have you guys met Devon before? - Aw, no!
0:11:50 > 0:11:52- Hey, I'm Devon. - Hi, Devon.- I'm Syd.
0:11:52 > 0:11:53Nice to meet you.
0:11:53 > 0:11:54- I'm Kelsie. - Nice to meet you.
0:11:54 > 0:11:56Nice to meet you too.
0:11:56 > 0:11:58- Where are you from?- I'm from Iowa.
0:11:58 > 0:11:59What kind of music are you guys into?
0:11:59 > 0:12:02Alternative punk, I guess... Uh, a little bit of everything.
0:12:02 > 0:12:06- Like hardcore. - Some hardcore and pop punk music.
0:12:06 > 0:12:08We're both really into, I guess, the local scene.
0:12:08 > 0:12:11I mean, if you're not doing anything on Saturday,
0:12:11 > 0:12:13I mean, there's a really cool show, so, you should stop by.
0:12:13 > 0:12:16Yeah, that actually sounds pretty fun, I might do that.
0:12:21 > 0:12:24I think I've definitely got a lot in common with Kelsie,
0:12:24 > 0:12:26I think we kind of connected a little bit
0:12:26 > 0:12:29and I'd like to see kind of where that goes with her.
0:12:34 > 0:12:36It's the first time Devon has felt a connection
0:12:36 > 0:12:38since splitting up with his ex.
0:12:38 > 0:12:41But it's too soon for Devon to tell Kelsie
0:12:41 > 0:12:43that he was once a girl named Addison.
0:12:45 > 0:12:48- OLIVIAH:- When you are transgender, you are...
0:12:48 > 0:12:52Young trans Americans are not only sharing posts about their feelings,
0:12:52 > 0:12:54they're also sharing updates
0:12:54 > 0:12:57about the medical challenges of becoming trans.
0:12:57 > 0:13:00I have testosterone, which makes you go through the roof.
0:13:00 > 0:13:03And the first step to change your gender
0:13:03 > 0:13:05is to take hormones.
0:13:06 > 0:13:10Arin started taking testosterone, or T, when he was 15,
0:13:10 > 0:13:12sharing the momentous occasion on social media.
0:13:14 > 0:13:15And there's my first shot.
0:13:15 > 0:13:18Today is my first day on T.
0:13:18 > 0:13:20Um, I feel like a new man.
0:13:21 > 0:13:23Basically, I was pretty much born today.
0:13:27 > 0:13:29Ouch.
0:13:29 > 0:13:31- This is the part that hurts, yeah. - Does it sting?
0:13:31 > 0:13:33He also shared how T was affecting him,
0:13:33 > 0:13:37updating his vlog to show each change as it happened.
0:13:37 > 0:13:38I've got like...
0:13:39 > 0:13:41..a moustache, if you can see it.
0:13:41 > 0:13:44Here's my arms... They're getting there.
0:13:44 > 0:13:46I got a lot of hair right here.
0:13:46 > 0:13:48Quite a bit of a happy trail going all the way up.
0:13:48 > 0:13:52Sideburns... I don't know if you can see the hair on that.
0:13:52 > 0:13:54My Adam's apple, I don't know if you guys can see it,
0:13:54 > 0:13:55but it's frickin' huge, like...
0:13:55 > 0:13:58T even affects the shape of female genitals.
0:13:58 > 0:14:01Downstairs... is, like, two and a half inches.
0:14:01 > 0:14:05And for you trans guys out there that know what that's like,
0:14:05 > 0:14:06it's kind of crazy.
0:14:06 > 0:14:09Nothing looks like normal biological female any more.
0:14:09 > 0:14:12As these changes made Arin more of a man,
0:14:12 > 0:14:16he turned his back on Emerald, the reluctant pageant queen.
0:14:16 > 0:14:18These are all my beauty pageant trophies
0:14:18 > 0:14:22that I won a long time ago, before I started transitioning.
0:14:22 > 0:14:23That's my past.
0:14:23 > 0:14:28Until aged 12, when he, then still a she, had had enough.
0:14:28 > 0:14:31What male wants to be in beauty pageants?
0:14:31 > 0:14:32I was a guy in a dress.
0:14:32 > 0:14:34So I just wanted to, you know, get rid of them,
0:14:34 > 0:14:37so I just took them out of my room and threw them in here,
0:14:37 > 0:14:38cos they don't mean much to me.
0:14:38 > 0:14:41Just a bunch of crap, basically.
0:14:41 > 0:14:42Whilst Arin's mum was supportive,
0:14:42 > 0:14:46she struggled to let go of the daughter she used to have.
0:14:46 > 0:14:48I always get so emotional, I, I...
0:14:49 > 0:14:53This was the Emerald I knew. I mean, this is what I've always known.
0:14:53 > 0:14:56This was, like, a huge part of her life and...
0:14:56 > 0:15:00all of her...her dance costumes, I've saved them every year.
0:15:00 > 0:15:01I haven't gotten rid of them.
0:15:01 > 0:15:04He looked so cute in this one, oh!
0:15:05 > 0:15:06It's adorable.
0:15:06 > 0:15:08I still want to say "she" because I hang on to that.
0:15:08 > 0:15:11The girl I had. It's kind of like when someone dies...
0:15:11 > 0:15:12you still want to, I guess, honour that.
0:15:12 > 0:15:14I don't know, it's just really hard.
0:15:14 > 0:15:16Um, but "she" just sounds better
0:15:16 > 0:15:19when you're talking about her dance costumes...
0:15:19 > 0:15:21So...sorry!
0:15:21 > 0:15:23Hey, Mom, can you come help me, real quick?
0:15:23 > 0:15:24Sure.
0:15:26 > 0:15:28OK.
0:15:28 > 0:15:31Devon's mum injects him with T once a week.
0:15:31 > 0:15:34Using it means that he will NEVER be able to have children.
0:15:35 > 0:15:41I had periods up until I was 16 when I started testosterone.
0:15:41 > 0:15:42And it took about...
0:15:43 > 0:15:46..maybe two to three months for them to stop.
0:15:46 > 0:15:49But one side effect took Devon by surprise.
0:15:49 > 0:15:52Being on testosterone definitely raises your sex drive.
0:15:52 > 0:15:54'I heard that!'
0:15:54 > 0:15:55- Yeah, I know! - LAUGHTER
0:15:55 > 0:15:59- No, Mom, it doesn't make me horny! - 'Uh-huh.'
0:15:59 > 0:16:01Whilst Arin and Devon need testosterone injected
0:16:01 > 0:16:03to maintain their transition,
0:16:03 > 0:16:06Claire's body still produces the male hormone naturally.
0:16:06 > 0:16:11I am taking...four pills a day...
0:16:11 > 0:16:13Spironolactone, which is...
0:16:13 > 0:16:16Basically, it blocks the testosterone,
0:16:16 > 0:16:21so I won't get any manlier, praise Jesus.
0:16:21 > 0:16:24And then I'm on oestrogens.
0:16:24 > 0:16:27When I first started taking the oestrogen, my...
0:16:27 > 0:16:33and hormones, my emotions were kind of like at a high as a female.
0:16:33 > 0:16:35Cos I wanted to cry before, as a guy.
0:16:36 > 0:16:39I actually was frustrated that I could never cry.
0:16:39 > 0:16:41Before she started taking hormones,
0:16:41 > 0:16:44Claire used to be an all-American boy named Dylan,
0:16:44 > 0:16:46growing up in a small town in Virginia.
0:16:46 > 0:16:48My neighbour's probably looking at me, like,
0:16:48 > 0:16:50"When did they get a daughter?"
0:16:50 > 0:16:53Despite Claire's small town upbringing,
0:16:53 > 0:16:56her family have tried their best to support her.
0:16:56 > 0:17:00It's just hard cos everybody has been calling you "Dylan" and "he,"
0:17:00 > 0:17:01like, their whole life and then,
0:17:01 > 0:17:03like, this past year everything's changed,
0:17:03 > 0:17:04so it's kind of different.
0:17:04 > 0:17:07The hardest thing for me is getting used to saying "she".
0:17:07 > 0:17:11Like, when people mess up, like... pronouns and stuff,
0:17:11 > 0:17:14it kind of just, like... really upsets me.
0:17:15 > 0:17:18It kind of, like, wants to make me cry.
0:17:18 > 0:17:21Claire's mum has been on her side from the start.
0:17:21 > 0:17:25I've-I've seen your tears, I've been there...
0:17:25 > 0:17:27through this whole process.
0:17:27 > 0:17:29I know what you've been going through.
0:17:29 > 0:17:32Well, let me ask you this - what kind of guy do you see me with?
0:17:32 > 0:17:33I think you just have to see.
0:17:33 > 0:17:37You just have to... I mean, this is still, you know,
0:17:37 > 0:17:39you're still learning.
0:17:39 > 0:17:40It's just a learning process.
0:17:40 > 0:17:45You're going to make mistakes, you just learn from your mistakes.
0:17:45 > 0:17:46And see what's good for you.
0:17:46 > 0:17:49Whitney, what kind of guy should I date?
0:17:49 > 0:17:52WHITNEY BABBLES, LAUGHTER
0:17:52 > 0:17:53When I came out as transgender,
0:17:53 > 0:17:55my mom's side of the family accepted it.
0:17:55 > 0:17:59Then there was my dad's side that, like, completely didn't accept it.
0:17:59 > 0:18:01They think it's, like, a super-big sin.
0:18:01 > 0:18:04And, like, I'm an abomination.
0:18:04 > 0:18:07Like, that's what my dad told me I was.
0:18:07 > 0:18:10He called me once I came out as trans.
0:18:10 > 0:18:14Told me that everyone thought I was an abomination.
0:18:19 > 0:18:21It's Saturday night...
0:18:21 > 0:18:23and Devon has been waiting all week
0:18:23 > 0:18:26to see the girl he met at the skate park, Kelsie.
0:18:26 > 0:18:28- How are you doing? - Good, good. How are you?
0:18:28 > 0:18:30Thanks for inviting me to the show.
0:18:30 > 0:18:33- Yeah.- It looks pretty cool. It's outside, that's dope.
0:18:33 > 0:18:35I know, yeah, it's been pretty cool so far.
0:18:35 > 0:18:37- Awesome, did I miss much?- Kind of.
0:18:37 > 0:18:39- You ready to watch?- Yes.
0:18:39 > 0:18:40Cool.
0:18:40 > 0:18:44LOUD MUSIC PLAYS Devon wants to wait to tell Kelsie he's trans.
0:18:45 > 0:18:49She seems into him, but he has been rejected in the past.
0:18:49 > 0:18:53Recently, this girl and me went on a date and everything was fine.
0:18:53 > 0:18:57Um, and then I felt the need to kind of tell her that I was transgender.
0:18:57 > 0:19:01I remember her...her saying, "Nah, dude, I like guys."
0:19:01 > 0:19:04And I was like..."OK."
0:19:04 > 0:19:06That kind of hit hard, I was like, "But I am a guy."
0:19:06 > 0:19:08And she's like, "Yeah, but you're not."
0:19:08 > 0:19:11ROCK MUSIC PLAYS
0:19:12 > 0:19:14- BAND MEMBER:- 'Yeah!' - CHEERING
0:19:14 > 0:19:16'I love you guys!'
0:19:16 > 0:19:18The last band actually was really, really good, honestly.
0:19:18 > 0:19:22I definitely could have, like, danced and grooved to them, you know what I'm saying?
0:19:22 > 0:19:23Yeah, no, they're really good, I like them.
0:19:23 > 0:19:26Since you kind of showed me, like, what you're into, I write a lot,
0:19:26 > 0:19:29um, so I was wondering if you kind of want to go to this poetry slam with me?
0:19:29 > 0:19:30- Yeah.- Yeah?
0:19:30 > 0:19:32- Yeah, that'd be super cool. - Cool, awesome.
0:19:32 > 0:19:34- That'd be super cool, I've never been to one.- Sweet.
0:19:36 > 0:19:40But telling Kelsie he's trans is not the only thing on Devon's mind.
0:19:40 > 0:19:43His ex-girlfriend, Rebecca, has been in contact
0:19:43 > 0:19:46to say that she still has feelings for him.
0:19:46 > 0:19:47Devon's moved on, though.
0:19:47 > 0:19:50He doesn't want a long-distance relationship
0:19:50 > 0:19:54and feels he must go back to Iowa to tell her in person.
0:19:54 > 0:19:56Rebecca understands, you know, like that I'm here
0:19:56 > 0:19:57and the distance is hard.
0:19:57 > 0:19:59I definitely think it'd be good to...
0:19:59 > 0:20:00To see her and talk to her
0:20:00 > 0:20:03and kind of talk in person cos over phone and text message
0:20:03 > 0:20:05you can't kind of get that reaction
0:20:05 > 0:20:07of the other person's face instantly, you know?
0:20:08 > 0:20:10After nine months on hormones,
0:20:10 > 0:20:14Claire is about to take a major step on her trans journey.
0:20:14 > 0:20:16It's a big day today because it's the first time I...
0:20:18 > 0:20:21..have ever been to the beach as Claire and it's like...
0:20:21 > 0:20:23I don't know how to feel about it.
0:20:23 > 0:20:27Like, I'm really excited, but at the same time I think...
0:20:27 > 0:20:33not nervous, but I don't know what to expect.
0:20:37 > 0:20:38- Hi! - GIRLS:- Hey!
0:20:38 > 0:20:40Claire and her friends
0:20:40 > 0:20:42want to see if they can meet some hot guys at the beach.
0:20:42 > 0:20:44I'm excited!
0:20:44 > 0:20:47I mean, there's probably a lot of cute guys out today.
0:20:47 > 0:20:50- I feel like just scope out the area. - Yeah, looking is always fun.
0:20:51 > 0:20:54It's the first time Claire has worn a bikini in public.
0:20:54 > 0:20:59# If you gave me a chance I would take it
0:20:59 > 0:21:02# It's a shot in the dark but I'll make it... #
0:21:02 > 0:21:05And the guys seem to be paying attention.
0:21:05 > 0:21:06# ..You can't shake me... #
0:21:06 > 0:21:08Good, how are you?
0:21:08 > 0:21:10- Zoey.- Zoey? I'm Casey. - I'm Mike, nice to meet you.
0:21:10 > 0:21:11- I'm Claire. - GUYS:- Nice to meet you.
0:21:11 > 0:21:13What kind of guys are you ladies into?
0:21:13 > 0:21:16Do you like the blond surfer kind of guy? Skater dude?
0:21:16 > 0:21:19Like, is it personality that gets you or is it like...?
0:21:19 > 0:21:21- Yeah, definitely. - Definitely personality?
0:21:21 > 0:21:25Yeah, if a guy is, like, really funny and makes me laugh
0:21:25 > 0:21:28and I can, like, be comfortable around him, it's a plus.
0:21:28 > 0:21:31So not to be like forward or anything but, like...
0:21:31 > 0:21:33do you think we're cute?
0:21:33 > 0:21:35- Most definitely.- Really?
0:21:35 > 0:21:38Gorgeous. I think you ladies are gorgeous.
0:21:38 > 0:21:41- MIKE: We should hook up sometime, hang out, you know?- Really?- Yeah.
0:21:41 > 0:21:44- Heck, yeah.- We'll always be here. - You need to, like, get our numbers.
0:21:44 > 0:21:45Sure thing.
0:21:46 > 0:21:48So, do I just put you in here as "Beautiful"?
0:21:48 > 0:21:51LAUGHTER
0:21:51 > 0:21:54- Of course, yeah.- OK.
0:21:54 > 0:21:55Bye.
0:21:55 > 0:21:58But when the guys found out the girls were trans, things changed.
0:21:58 > 0:22:02That's it, silence. Like nothing from them again.
0:22:02 > 0:22:06In a lot of ways, I don't like telling a guy
0:22:06 > 0:22:12because once I tell him, it's, like, all respect goes out the window.
0:22:12 > 0:22:18Straight guys just can't get over you having the male parts.
0:22:18 > 0:22:22Once I had or get the surgery, I think it will change a lot for me
0:22:22 > 0:22:25because right now, you know, if I meet a straight guy
0:22:25 > 0:22:29and he doesn't know, like, you know, we can't get physical.
0:22:29 > 0:22:32If I don't tell him, like, and then if he finds out, like...
0:22:32 > 0:22:38Just things get so complicated that you don't even begin to...
0:22:38 > 0:22:40I can't even, yeah, begin to explain.
0:22:40 > 0:22:42Claire is considering getting surgery
0:22:42 > 0:22:45so that guys will accept her fully as a woman.
0:22:47 > 0:22:49- Hi, Claire, how are you?- Hi...
0:22:49 > 0:22:52What I'd like to do is just get a sense of what you feel
0:22:52 > 0:22:55would be the amount that you would want.
0:22:55 > 0:22:58Claire wants three procedures - first, a boob job.
0:22:59 > 0:23:03See now that, that's getting up into a full C cup
0:23:03 > 0:23:06and I think that might be a little bit more difficult to fit.
0:23:06 > 0:23:10You may not have enough skin to fit an implant that's too large.
0:23:10 > 0:23:12Then she wants her Adam's apple shaved.
0:23:12 > 0:23:15What we would do is basically just shave off a little piece
0:23:15 > 0:23:16on either side here...
0:23:16 > 0:23:19But the third surgery is risky and highly invasive
0:23:19 > 0:23:22and the hardest for Claire to decide on.
0:23:22 > 0:23:24We can make, for example, a vagina for you.
0:23:24 > 0:23:27Uh, we use the skin from the inside of your thighs...
0:23:27 > 0:23:30- Oh.- ..and we create, like, a tunnel.
0:23:30 > 0:23:32Uh, sometimes we can just use them up in your groin area, here,
0:23:32 > 0:23:35so you don't quite see it all the way down on your,
0:23:35 > 0:23:36- on your thighs area.- Scars?
0:23:36 > 0:23:38Scars are higher up.
0:23:38 > 0:23:40- Plus, you'd have to have your penis resected.- Mm.
0:23:40 > 0:23:44And, um, what we try to do sometimes is save some of the...
0:23:44 > 0:23:46the sensation, the nerve sensations.
0:23:46 > 0:23:49- Yeah, yeah... - But, um, you know, again,
0:23:49 > 0:23:52that would never quite be as sensitive as...
0:23:52 > 0:23:54- Before.- ..before.
0:23:54 > 0:23:57- I don't want the feeling to go away...- Yeah, yeah.
0:23:57 > 0:23:59..and never have feeling down there again.
0:23:59 > 0:24:02Right. If you ever wanted to have, you know, somebody penetrate...
0:24:02 > 0:24:05- Uh-huh.- ..then you would have to have something inside,
0:24:05 > 0:24:08kind of keeping that skin from contracting,
0:24:08 > 0:24:10until it had a chance to fully heal.
0:24:10 > 0:24:12It's a big step, there's no doubt about that.
0:24:12 > 0:24:15- It's a big step.- And I have to be prepared fully for it.
0:24:15 > 0:24:17- Yes, yes.- Mentally and, like, physically.- Absolutely.
0:24:17 > 0:24:20As Claire considers this drastic next step,
0:24:20 > 0:24:23she turns to Arin and Katie's vlogs for help.
0:24:24 > 0:24:27Ah! I'm only three days away with the surgery and I'm so excited!
0:24:27 > 0:24:31This is a big, big, big... big deal!
0:24:32 > 0:24:35For all of y'all who are transgender or in the community,
0:24:35 > 0:24:40you know that having surgery is a very life-changing event.
0:24:40 > 0:24:41Three years ago,
0:24:41 > 0:24:44Arin and Katie shared the mental and physical highs and lows
0:24:44 > 0:24:48of their own surgical transition, with millions online.
0:24:48 > 0:24:51Katie was the first to have surgery.
0:24:51 > 0:24:55I'm on my way to the waiting room to get my surgery.
0:24:55 > 0:24:58It's in two hours and 14 minutes and counting.
0:24:58 > 0:25:00I'm sitting here kind of... a little worried
0:25:00 > 0:25:03because the surgery's about four hours long...
0:25:03 > 0:25:04Katie's bottom surgery
0:25:04 > 0:25:07meant that her penis was fashioned into a vagina and clitoris
0:25:07 > 0:25:09and her testicles were cut off.
0:25:10 > 0:25:14It hurts... It hurts so badly and...
0:25:14 > 0:25:16I miss you...
0:25:18 > 0:25:21Despite the immense pain, Katie felt freer.
0:25:21 > 0:25:24Inside I'm crying, I'm just so happy.
0:25:24 > 0:25:26SHE SNIFFLES
0:25:26 > 0:25:30It's very key for your personality.
0:25:30 > 0:25:32You have to, you know, be a strong person
0:25:32 > 0:25:37and if you're not, then you... transitioning is not for you.
0:25:37 > 0:25:40Claire feels stronger knowing that Katie has done
0:25:40 > 0:25:42what SHE someday hopes to do.
0:25:42 > 0:25:45If Katie Hill can get gender reassignment surgery,
0:25:45 > 0:25:47then so can I and so can you.
0:25:49 > 0:25:50In the vlogosphere,
0:25:50 > 0:25:54Devon still has his ex, Rebecca, on his mind.
0:25:54 > 0:25:59I guess to start out, I had dated this girl, um, for a while,
0:25:59 > 0:26:05but she...really made me kind of comfortable in my own skin
0:26:05 > 0:26:08cos she really appreciated, like, my body and, like,
0:26:08 > 0:26:10didn't see anything wrong with it,
0:26:10 > 0:26:13which was kind of like a first that I'd ever experienced.
0:26:13 > 0:26:16Rebecca's been in contact with Devon to say that she loves him.
0:26:16 > 0:26:18For Devon, the relationship is over,
0:26:18 > 0:26:22so he's driving to his old town in Iowa for a heart-to-heart.
0:26:23 > 0:26:26I think if she asks about Kelsie, I'll...
0:26:26 > 0:26:29I'll definitely, I won't lie to her or anything.
0:26:29 > 0:26:30But I don't think that's something
0:26:30 > 0:26:32that I would just choose to talk about
0:26:32 > 0:26:35because I know that if I did, that would hurt her.
0:26:35 > 0:26:38Rebecca is part of a group of close friends Devon left behind in Iowa,
0:26:38 > 0:26:42so visiting gives him the perfect chance to catch up with the gang.
0:26:44 > 0:26:46LAUGHTER
0:26:47 > 0:26:49SHE LAUGHS
0:26:49 > 0:26:51Aah!
0:26:58 > 0:27:01But he needs to clarify his feelings with Rebecca.
0:27:01 > 0:27:03Obviously, I liked you.
0:27:03 > 0:27:06Just cos you used to do some things
0:27:06 > 0:27:10that, like, frickin' movie people do.
0:27:10 > 0:27:12What are these movie things that I did?
0:27:12 > 0:27:16Like...on my way back from youth group.
0:27:17 > 0:27:19That was the first time you pulled a move on me.
0:27:19 > 0:27:22- LAUGHING:- In the back of my grandma's car!
0:27:22 > 0:27:24What was the move?
0:27:24 > 0:27:29You leaned in to kiss me, and then we started kissing...
0:27:29 > 0:27:31One thing led to another...
0:27:31 > 0:27:34Kind of explored each other's bodies a bit!
0:27:34 > 0:27:35SHE LAUGHS
0:27:35 > 0:27:39It's just...really easy to...
0:27:39 > 0:27:41fall in love with you, so...
0:27:42 > 0:27:45I don't want that, it's not what I want.
0:27:45 > 0:27:47You're a cool person...
0:27:48 > 0:27:52Like, I don't know. I don't like you in that way.
0:27:53 > 0:27:56Having this conversation today and it not going as well as planned,
0:27:56 > 0:28:00I think it makes it a little bit clearer that Iowa
0:28:00 > 0:28:02and Rebecca is in the past
0:28:02 > 0:28:08and the future in Minnesota holds Kelsie and...seeing where that goes.
0:28:12 > 0:28:14BELL JINGLES
0:28:14 > 0:28:18After being rejected at the beach, Claire has called in BFF Oliviah
0:28:18 > 0:28:21to spruce up her online dating profile.
0:28:21 > 0:28:24So, what dating apps are you using?
0:28:24 > 0:28:28Well, I've been using OkCupid...
0:28:28 > 0:28:30What should I say, I'm trans?
0:28:30 > 0:28:32Is that something you're comfortable with saying?
0:28:32 > 0:28:33- Yeah.- OK.
0:28:33 > 0:28:36- Transgender... - Just kind of add it in there...
0:28:36 > 0:28:38Do you consider yourself straight or bisexual?
0:28:38 > 0:28:40- I'm straight.- Straight. OK.
0:28:40 > 0:28:42So your self-summary says,
0:28:42 > 0:28:44"If you want to know more about me, message me," really?
0:28:44 > 0:28:48- Well, yeah! - Who are you? Who is Claire?
0:28:49 > 0:28:52Claire is a kind person.
0:28:52 > 0:28:54Kind and genuine.
0:28:54 > 0:28:58Claire has found an online profile of someone she fancies.
0:28:58 > 0:29:00His name is Jason.
0:29:00 > 0:29:02- Oh, yeah? Is this him?- Yeah.
0:29:03 > 0:29:04Ooh!
0:29:04 > 0:29:07In his profile, Jason has listed he's open to dating anyone,
0:29:07 > 0:29:09no matter what sexuality or gender.
0:29:11 > 0:29:13- He's just, like, perfect. - He's perfect?
0:29:13 > 0:29:17- Yeah.- Well, have you ever, like, tried talking to him?
0:29:17 > 0:29:20Not really. Um, I'm just kind of scared, you know what I mean?
0:29:20 > 0:29:23- Like, of like...- Why are you scared? What pushes you back?
0:29:23 > 0:29:24Rejection.
0:29:24 > 0:29:26Why don't you message him?
0:29:26 > 0:29:29Just say, "I'd like the chance to get to know you," and then just...
0:29:29 > 0:29:30- Send it.- Send it, yeah.
0:29:32 > 0:29:34- Did it.- All done! Yay!
0:29:34 > 0:29:38Being single and confused about your gender can be traumatic.
0:29:38 > 0:29:44When you're transgender, it is very easy to feel unlovable and like,
0:29:44 > 0:29:49you will not be able to find someone who will be accepting of you...
0:29:49 > 0:29:53Before he found love with Katie, Arin's vlogs tell a different story,
0:29:53 > 0:29:55one that was almost too hard to share.
0:29:57 > 0:30:00A year ago, I actually tried to commit suicide.
0:30:01 > 0:30:05You know, you get to that point when you're just like, "I give up".
0:30:05 > 0:30:08Arin felt so much shame about being trans
0:30:08 > 0:30:11that he couldn't even show his face whilst sharing his feelings.
0:30:19 > 0:30:20And he's not alone.
0:30:20 > 0:30:22Nearly half of all transgender teens
0:30:22 > 0:30:24attempt suicide.
0:30:24 > 0:30:27Using his experiences, Arin wanted to share a message of hope.
0:30:27 > 0:30:29You know, it's just like one of those moments in life
0:30:29 > 0:30:32that is insane and...
0:30:32 > 0:30:34and then I look back and I'm like, "Well, look at me.
0:30:34 > 0:30:36"I'm on testosterone, my hair is short,
0:30:36 > 0:30:38"I have the most amazing and beautiful girlfriend
0:30:38 > 0:30:41"that I could ever ask for and my life's just incredible."
0:30:41 > 0:30:44Never give up, guys. I promise you it gets better.
0:30:44 > 0:30:47Devon almost ended it all too.
0:30:47 > 0:30:49Until he found Arin's YouTube videos.
0:30:52 > 0:30:54When I was younger I saw a few of Arin's videos.
0:30:54 > 0:30:56Watching his videos definitely made me feel like
0:30:56 > 0:30:59I wasn't all alone, that I wasn't all by myself.
0:30:59 > 0:31:01It was... "This is OK, me being transgender,
0:31:01 > 0:31:02"and there's other folks out there
0:31:02 > 0:31:04"who feel exactly the same way that I feel."
0:31:04 > 0:31:08'I'm determined to be, you know, that man I always saw myself as.'
0:31:08 > 0:31:11Arin's ambition to get surgery inspired Devon in particular.
0:31:11 > 0:31:14'These changes that I've been telling you guys
0:31:14 > 0:31:16'are one of the most important things and factors
0:31:16 > 0:31:18'in my life right now, especially my chest...'
0:31:18 > 0:31:20With his vlog, Arin wanted to inspire and reassure
0:31:20 > 0:31:22other trans teens going through the same thing.
0:31:22 > 0:31:26I'm super, super excited, you know. Top surgery's tomorrow!
0:31:26 > 0:31:28Like, I thought I'd never be able to say that.
0:31:28 > 0:31:29Next time you see me,
0:31:29 > 0:31:34I will never have these wonderful thingies any more.
0:31:34 > 0:31:35Nope, they're going to be gone.
0:31:35 > 0:31:37Yeah, I'll see you when I'm boobless.
0:31:39 > 0:31:43After Katie's surgery, it's now Arin's turn to go under the knife.
0:31:43 > 0:31:45Uh, blade...
0:31:45 > 0:31:47Surgeons performed a double mastectomy
0:31:47 > 0:31:50to remove his breast tissue.
0:31:52 > 0:31:57He needed time to recover, but as soon as he did, he was back online.
0:31:57 > 0:32:02I'm starting to feel it now. I got my drain tubes and stuff.
0:32:02 > 0:32:06It's pretty much all I can see, but I'm so happy to be flat-chested.
0:32:06 > 0:32:09And he couldn't wait to send a video to Katie too.
0:32:09 > 0:32:11Hey, baby.
0:32:11 > 0:32:14I just wanted to send you a video and tell you that I love you.
0:32:14 > 0:32:15I love you.
0:32:17 > 0:32:20Back in Oklahoma, Katie was eager to see the new Arin.
0:32:20 > 0:32:22More than anything, I just missed him when he was gone.
0:32:22 > 0:32:26I understand Arin probably better than anybody else.
0:32:26 > 0:32:31I think that bond that we have, it is...it's unbreakable.
0:32:31 > 0:32:36He felt like he was ready, just like how I was ready for my surgery.
0:32:36 > 0:32:38CAR ALARM SETTING BLEEPS
0:32:38 > 0:32:40- Hey!- Hey, baby!
0:32:40 > 0:32:41- BOTH:- Hey!
0:32:41 > 0:32:45- How're you feeling?- I'm a little sore, but...it's all good.
0:32:47 > 0:32:51- Oh, wow!- I've still got some scar tissue round my nipple
0:32:51 > 0:32:54and here, but... it's starting to go away
0:32:54 > 0:32:56and this side is my better side.
0:32:56 > 0:32:58You look good. He did a really good job.
0:33:00 > 0:33:01It's kind of empowering, you know?
0:33:01 > 0:33:03Seeing him without a shirt on
0:33:03 > 0:33:05and seeing that he really doesn't have any scars
0:33:05 > 0:33:07is really cool and kind of gives me hope.
0:33:07 > 0:33:10Arin has inspired Devon to take the plunge
0:33:10 > 0:33:12and to book an appointment to talk about surgery.
0:33:12 > 0:33:14I think after having top surgery
0:33:14 > 0:33:17I'll definitely feel a lot more comfortable around girls
0:33:17 > 0:33:22and, um, kind of getting into the intimate part of being with girls.
0:33:22 > 0:33:27I've only been comfortable sharing my body completely,
0:33:27 > 0:33:31like, fully naked, with one girl, um, ever before in my life.
0:33:36 > 0:33:39Claire's new online profile has got a response.
0:33:42 > 0:33:45She calls up best friend, Oliviah, to dish.
0:33:45 > 0:33:46Hey!
0:33:46 > 0:33:48'Hey, how's it going?'
0:33:48 > 0:33:50Good... Oh, my gosh, guess who just messaged me?
0:33:50 > 0:33:52'Who?'
0:33:52 > 0:33:53Jason.
0:33:53 > 0:33:54'Really?'
0:33:54 > 0:33:57Well, he said that he wants to go on a date.
0:33:57 > 0:33:58'Good!'
0:33:58 > 0:33:59Hopefully I get a kiss!
0:34:01 > 0:34:03- Hi, Claire!- Hi!
0:34:03 > 0:34:04- You ready for your appointment?- Yes.
0:34:04 > 0:34:06- We'll be with you in a minute. - OK, thank you.
0:34:06 > 0:34:08But before any kissing,
0:34:08 > 0:34:11Claire wants to make sure her skin is stubble-free.
0:34:11 > 0:34:14Like, less than a year ago, I had a full-on beard.
0:34:14 > 0:34:18Like, full-on. Like, thick.
0:34:18 > 0:34:20Had to shave, like...
0:34:20 > 0:34:22twice a day.
0:34:22 > 0:34:24I would never wish...
0:34:24 > 0:34:26for a woman to go through this.
0:34:26 > 0:34:29AIR GUSHES FROM INSTRUMENT, MACHINE BLEEPS
0:34:29 > 0:34:31- How're you doing?- Good, I'm fine.
0:34:31 > 0:34:32Great.
0:34:32 > 0:34:34Claire undergoes laser treatments, monthly,
0:34:34 > 0:34:37to kill the hair follicles in her face.
0:34:37 > 0:34:40OK, we're going to do a little bit on your upper lip...
0:34:40 > 0:34:42That's, like, the worst.
0:34:42 > 0:34:44- That's the worst part, I know. - Yeah...
0:34:49 > 0:34:51Beautiful.
0:34:51 > 0:34:54All right, Claire... We made it!
0:34:54 > 0:34:56It's looking great.
0:34:56 > 0:34:58- Good?- Yep, we're good.
0:34:59 > 0:35:02- Hey, Claire, it looks really good. - Thank you.
0:35:02 > 0:35:03I'm so excited...
0:35:03 > 0:35:06I can't believe it's only been less than a year since we started.
0:35:06 > 0:35:09It's very important for my skin to be smooth,
0:35:09 > 0:35:15just cos, like, I'm going on a date and I don't want any stubble!
0:35:15 > 0:35:17- Abso...- That would be...not good.
0:35:17 > 0:35:19- Yeah.- Just in case, like, he kisses me or something...
0:35:19 > 0:35:23- There's women that would die for your skin, so...- Thank you.
0:35:23 > 0:35:26Yeah, absolutely. So, yeah, just keep doing what you're doing.
0:35:26 > 0:35:28I think we're well on our way to being done with this part
0:35:28 > 0:35:29of your journey.
0:35:30 > 0:35:35Hair was just a big thing... Like, I hated it.
0:35:35 > 0:35:37Having to, like, shave!
0:35:37 > 0:35:41Imagine being a woman, growing a beard.
0:35:41 > 0:35:42That's how it felt.
0:35:43 > 0:35:45Inspired by Arin,
0:35:45 > 0:35:48Devon follows up with a doctor, who specialises in transgender medicine.
0:35:48 > 0:35:53What's it feel like, I mean... to have the breasts?
0:35:53 > 0:35:57It'd be lovely to get them off so I can do some stuff, like swimming,
0:35:57 > 0:36:01and hang out with the guys and have no questions asked about it.
0:36:01 > 0:36:06You want to have your plan in place by October to have surgery when?
0:36:06 > 0:36:09- As soon as we can.- OK! - BOTH LAUGH
0:36:09 > 0:36:12- A soon as the money's there and we have a date, you know?- OK.
0:36:12 > 0:36:16Top surgery costs at least £6,000.
0:36:16 > 0:36:18But Devon wants to go one step further than Arin
0:36:18 > 0:36:22and have bottom surgery, building a penis from a graft of his skin.
0:36:22 > 0:36:25This can cost almost ten times as much.
0:36:25 > 0:36:29So for YOU, what you would want would be a functional penis.
0:36:29 > 0:36:32- Yeah. - I mean, that you can pee through...
0:36:32 > 0:36:35- Yeah.- ..that would get an erection when you get excited...
0:36:35 > 0:36:38- Yeah.- ..and be able to, uh, perform sexually.
0:36:38 > 0:36:40- Yeah. - And that's kind of what you want.
0:36:40 > 0:36:41Mm-hm.
0:36:41 > 0:36:42Cool.
0:36:42 > 0:36:47Until he can have the surgery he wants, Devon has to improvise.
0:36:49 > 0:36:52"Packing" is the transgender term for...
0:36:52 > 0:36:56you know, I would basically say just putting anything in your pants
0:36:56 > 0:36:59to kind of give you that shape and that oomph of having a penis.
0:36:59 > 0:37:01DEVON MUTTERS TO HIMSELF
0:37:03 > 0:37:06It makes me feel more myself, more of what I want in my body.
0:37:06 > 0:37:08If medicine was advanced,
0:37:08 > 0:37:12I would definitely hop on board of the train of getting, um, a penis.
0:37:12 > 0:37:13I don't want to die a female.
0:37:15 > 0:37:19The best advice I could give somebody, um, is that...
0:37:19 > 0:37:23be confident in who you are and if somebody doesn't agree with that...
0:37:25 > 0:37:27..then, you know, you don't deserve that.
0:37:27 > 0:37:28Thanks to the internet,
0:37:28 > 0:37:32many in the transgender community have new-found confidence.
0:37:32 > 0:37:33Do you see this shirt?
0:37:36 > 0:37:39It says, "Transgender Woman".
0:37:40 > 0:37:42This movement is real, yo...
0:37:42 > 0:37:46Arin vlogs about the physical effects of surgery and how he feels.
0:37:46 > 0:37:48These are my nipples, they're, um...
0:37:48 > 0:37:53I got some scar tissue right here, but it's nothing horribly bad.
0:37:53 > 0:37:56And this is my other nipple. This is my better side.
0:37:56 > 0:37:58I mean, I can't even tell you how happy I am with my results
0:37:58 > 0:38:03and just finally being able to go to the lake now and be shirtless.
0:38:06 > 0:38:08He and Katie were ready to spend their summer at the lake...
0:38:08 > 0:38:12confident that their post-surgery bodies had finally got them
0:38:12 > 0:38:14to where they'd always wanted to be.
0:38:14 > 0:38:16I don't think anyone, unless they know our story,
0:38:16 > 0:38:18actually would come to the conclusion
0:38:18 > 0:38:20- that we're trans-man, trans-woman dating.- Yeah.
0:38:20 > 0:38:23They would just see us as a boy and a girl dating.
0:38:24 > 0:38:27The news media picked up on their story.
0:38:28 > 0:38:31It was a whole new level of exposure.
0:38:31 > 0:38:33- REPORTER:- 'Now a month after surgery,
0:38:33 > 0:38:35'Arin is ready to reveal his new manly chest.
0:38:35 > 0:38:39'Off comes his shirt. Katie couldn't be more impressed.'
0:38:39 > 0:38:40Fantastic.
0:38:42 > 0:38:43I can stick my chest out
0:38:43 > 0:38:46and just be happy with who I am and confident about it.
0:38:46 > 0:38:47I feel amazing.
0:38:47 > 0:38:51As their fame grew, so did their following.
0:38:51 > 0:38:54The golden couple were having the time of their lives.
0:38:54 > 0:38:56Alone together...
0:38:57 > 0:39:00..with nine million people watching them online.
0:39:03 > 0:39:06For Claire, it's the moment she's been prepping for...
0:39:06 > 0:39:09a date with her online crush, Jason.
0:39:09 > 0:39:12Jason has read Claire's online dating profile
0:39:12 > 0:39:15and already knows she's transgender.
0:39:15 > 0:39:18I'm feeling really, really excited.
0:39:18 > 0:39:21We've been talking online for a little while and...
0:39:21 > 0:39:24yeah, like, he just seems like a really, really good guy.
0:39:25 > 0:39:28- Hi! I'm here to meet Jason.- Right!
0:39:28 > 0:39:30Right this way, please.
0:39:31 > 0:39:34- Hi!- Hey, how are you?
0:39:34 > 0:39:36Good to see you.
0:39:36 > 0:39:38- Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you too.
0:39:38 > 0:39:39You're so handsome.
0:39:39 > 0:39:42- LAUGHING:- Well, thanks, you look very nice yourself.
0:39:42 > 0:39:43D'you find it OK?
0:39:43 > 0:39:45It was a little hard to find, to be honest,
0:39:45 > 0:39:47cos it's, like, literally in an alley.
0:39:47 > 0:39:49That's why it's called The Alley Light.
0:39:49 > 0:39:50- JASON LAUGHS - Whatever.
0:39:50 > 0:39:53- Here are your cocktail menus... - Thank you, thank you.
0:39:53 > 0:39:56- I'll be back in just two minutes. - Oh, is this the goat cheese?
0:39:56 > 0:39:58- This is the green beans with the frozen foie gras.- Oh!
0:39:58 > 0:40:00- Thank you!- You're welcome. - Thank you so much.
0:40:02 > 0:40:04I just really need to know, like...
0:40:04 > 0:40:08What kinda... What type do you like?
0:40:08 > 0:40:11If you look at pictures of the people that I've dated,
0:40:11 > 0:40:15it would be really hard to find, like, a pattern or a type.
0:40:15 > 0:40:18I really like kind eyes and a genuine smile,
0:40:18 > 0:40:19but aside from that,
0:40:19 > 0:40:22I don't look at anything physical when it comes to anybody.
0:40:22 > 0:40:26Your type is really just, like, a genuine person?
0:40:26 > 0:40:30Yeah. Like I said, open to anybody.
0:40:30 > 0:40:34Have you ever, and answer this question honestly...
0:40:34 > 0:40:36- Uh-huh. - Have you ever, and would you ever...
0:40:38 > 0:40:39..be with a trans person?
0:40:39 > 0:40:42No, and sure.
0:40:42 > 0:40:44- No, and sure...- Yeah. - ..what does that mean?
0:40:44 > 0:40:46- No - I haven't ever been with a trans person.- Oh, OK.
0:40:46 > 0:40:50I have never been, like, out dating, you know, a trans person.
0:40:50 > 0:40:52And, sure, why not?
0:40:52 > 0:40:55- When it comes to physical contact... - Yep.
0:40:56 > 0:41:01..when do you get intimate and stuff like that, like, how soon?
0:41:01 > 0:41:03Uh, when the time is right.
0:41:03 > 0:41:06I don't think there's a timetable for it, I really don't.
0:41:06 > 0:41:08- You don't really rush it? - No, definitely not.
0:41:08 > 0:41:11- It's not, like, the first thing on your mind?- No.
0:41:11 > 0:41:12Typically, I do hold off for quite a while
0:41:12 > 0:41:15before I have any sort of physical contact with somebody.
0:41:15 > 0:41:19- That is, like, baffling to me. - Why is that baffling to you?
0:41:21 > 0:41:24Because there's so many guys that...
0:41:26 > 0:41:29- ..that's all that's on their mind. - Mm-hm.
0:41:29 > 0:41:30- Like, literally.- Mm-hm.
0:41:32 > 0:41:34Jason has ticked all the boxes.
0:41:34 > 0:41:38But will Claire get the kiss her cheeks are ready for?
0:41:38 > 0:41:41- It's been a nice night. - Well, I'm heading out.
0:41:41 > 0:41:44- I'm an old man, need to go to bed. Mm!- Text me, call me.
0:41:44 > 0:41:46- Will see you later, OK?- Bye.
0:41:46 > 0:41:47Bye.
0:41:49 > 0:41:52I really, really think Jason is...
0:41:53 > 0:41:56..boyfriend material?
0:41:56 > 0:41:57But that's too early to say!
0:41:58 > 0:42:00But I really, really like him a lot.
0:42:02 > 0:42:05Devon is preparing for his date...
0:42:05 > 0:42:09but Kelsie still doesn't know that he's trans.
0:42:09 > 0:42:13So, tonight, he needs his mum's advice on a poem with a purpose.
0:42:14 > 0:42:18- Kelsie, that cute girl that I saw at the skate park...- Mm-hm.
0:42:18 > 0:42:20I saw her at the show and we kind of made a little connection
0:42:20 > 0:42:22and I invited her to this poetry slam,
0:42:22 > 0:42:24which is the reason why I'm kind of writing this to...
0:42:24 > 0:42:26kind of tell her that I'm trans.
0:42:26 > 0:42:29- What d'you think about that?- I just don't think this is a good idea.
0:42:29 > 0:42:31- It's kind of like dropping a bomb on someone.- Yeah.
0:42:31 > 0:42:34I'm kind of putting myself in her shoes
0:42:34 > 0:42:37and even if I was very supportive and an ally, I'd be like,
0:42:37 > 0:42:40- "Whoa, dude, did you really?!" - Yeah.
0:42:40 > 0:42:43She could take it wrong and not know what to do, you know?
0:42:43 > 0:42:46She'll, like, bail, or, like, you know, just chill there.
0:42:46 > 0:42:48I mean, she could take it really well.
0:42:48 > 0:42:49I think if at all possible, Devon,
0:42:49 > 0:42:52- if you can have a little time with her before this...- Mm-hm...
0:42:52 > 0:42:53..and just let her know then.
0:42:53 > 0:42:55D'you know what I'm saying?
0:42:55 > 0:42:57Yeah, I know what you're saying. I feel you.
0:42:57 > 0:43:02The next day, Devon thinks about WHEN he should tell Kelsie the truth.
0:43:03 > 0:43:06There's a lot of anxiety of telling people that I'm transgender
0:43:06 > 0:43:10and especially new people, telling them, it's...
0:43:10 > 0:43:13Cos, I mean, you can have, like, a really nice person
0:43:13 > 0:43:15who completely loves you for who you are,
0:43:15 > 0:43:17but then they can completely turn their back around you
0:43:17 > 0:43:19when you bring this up.
0:43:19 > 0:43:22Cos it is such a complex thing to think about.
0:43:22 > 0:43:25That evening, Devon has finally made up his mind
0:43:25 > 0:43:28to tell Kelsie that he's transgender.
0:43:34 > 0:43:36But he's decided to tell her in private.
0:43:45 > 0:43:47The following afternoon,
0:43:47 > 0:43:50Devon waits to see if Kelsie is going to turn up to meet him.
0:43:50 > 0:43:54I'm not too open about, you know, being trans with new faces,
0:43:54 > 0:43:55new people.
0:43:55 > 0:43:58A lot of nerves kind of running through my body right now.
0:43:58 > 0:44:01But Kelsie does come and Devon has a chance to talk things through.
0:44:01 > 0:44:03- Hey!- Hey!
0:44:03 > 0:44:04- How are you?- Good.
0:44:04 > 0:44:07- Could we take a seat and talk for a sec?- Yeah. Of course.
0:44:07 > 0:44:10- Yeah, are you nervous? - Yeah, extremely nervous.
0:44:11 > 0:44:15So, I felt like before anything kind of got a little serious between us
0:44:15 > 0:44:18that I should tell you that.
0:44:18 > 0:44:21- Does that surprise you in any way? - I mean, honestly, yeah.
0:44:21 > 0:44:26Like I-I guess I wouldn't have known if you didn't tell me.
0:44:26 > 0:44:32Um... But like I said, like - there's nothing wrong, so I mean...
0:44:32 > 0:44:34Yeah, but I... I honestly wouldn't have guessed, but...
0:44:34 > 0:44:36The reason kind of why I told you that
0:44:36 > 0:44:38and why I'm kind of nervous about this whole thing
0:44:38 > 0:44:39is cos of the poem...
0:44:39 > 0:44:42- The poem that I wrote is trans-related and it kind of...- Oh.
0:44:42 > 0:44:44It ties in with all of that and I just, you know,
0:44:44 > 0:44:46wanted to tell you beforehand, before I, like,
0:44:46 > 0:44:47sideswiped you with a...
0:44:47 > 0:44:51- Yeah, yeah, no, that... Thank you for telling me before.- ..The poem.
0:44:51 > 0:44:52- You ready to go in?- Yeah, I am.
0:44:52 > 0:44:54Cool.
0:44:54 > 0:44:57- WOMAN:- 'Welcome to the ReVerb Open Mic, how's everybody doing tonight?'
0:44:57 > 0:44:59- ALL:- 'Good!'
0:44:59 > 0:45:00'It's good to see you.'
0:45:01 > 0:45:05- Please make some noise for Devon. - AUDIENCE:- Whoo!
0:45:08 > 0:45:11Hey, guys, my name's Devon. Um, I'm transgender.
0:45:11 > 0:45:12I'm kind of new to Minnesota -
0:45:12 > 0:45:14I just moved from Iowa about four months ago.
0:45:14 > 0:45:17This is my first time actually sharing my piece with somebody.
0:45:17 > 0:45:19Oh, man.
0:45:20 > 0:45:23Please don't ask me why I'm way too into girls.
0:45:23 > 0:45:25Please don't ask me why I hold back.
0:45:25 > 0:45:27Please don't ask me why I always make my voice deeper
0:45:27 > 0:45:29when I meet somebody new.
0:45:29 > 0:45:31Please don't ask me why I'm constantly adjusting my clothes.
0:45:31 > 0:45:33But ask me why I wear my heart on my sleeve.
0:45:33 > 0:45:35Please don't ask me
0:45:35 > 0:45:37why I always have to use the stall in the bathroom.
0:45:37 > 0:45:39Ask me why I'm so accepting.
0:45:39 > 0:45:41Please don't ask me why I have two names.
0:45:41 > 0:45:43Ask me why I'm so strong-willed.
0:45:43 > 0:45:46- AUDIENCE MEMBER:- Whoo!
0:45:49 > 0:45:51I think your... Your piece was so good. I really liked it.
0:45:51 > 0:45:53- HE LAUGHS - Thank you.
0:45:53 > 0:45:56There's definitely some changes I could definitely do, and also,
0:45:56 > 0:45:59to be honest with you, having you there made me a little bit nervous.
0:45:59 > 0:46:02Why were you nervous cos I was there?
0:46:02 > 0:46:05Cos I didn't know how you would react to...
0:46:05 > 0:46:08To, you know, little Dev going up there with a big voice and like,
0:46:08 > 0:46:13you know, uh, being passionate and really loud about things.
0:46:13 > 0:46:16- But also, like, you're cute so... - DEVON LAUGHS
0:46:16 > 0:46:18You know, that's going to make anybody really nervous,
0:46:18 > 0:46:20having a cute girl out in the crowd.
0:46:20 > 0:46:24Do you think, maybe possibly, we could, like, go on a formal date?
0:46:24 > 0:46:26- Yeah! I would really like that. - Awesome.
0:46:26 > 0:46:28Yeah.
0:46:30 > 0:46:32I feel like I could tell Kelsie a little bit sooner
0:46:32 > 0:46:34than I typically would tell somebody who's...
0:46:34 > 0:46:37because knowing her only for a short amount of time,
0:46:37 > 0:46:38she's really found interest in me
0:46:38 > 0:46:41and a connection has definitely been made.
0:46:41 > 0:46:44But I do feel kind of iffy about...
0:46:44 > 0:46:46about how she feels and, um,
0:46:46 > 0:46:49I feel like she definitely still has a lot of questions.
0:46:51 > 0:46:54Claire has the first second date of her life.
0:46:56 > 0:46:59But on her way out the door... a top-up.
0:47:03 > 0:47:06It's good to take oestrogen right before a date cos...
0:47:07 > 0:47:09..I think it does give me a confidence boost,
0:47:09 > 0:47:11it makes me feel more feminine.
0:47:15 > 0:47:17It's time for Claire to find out if Jason
0:47:17 > 0:47:20is truly boyfriend material.
0:47:20 > 0:47:23My mission is to...get Jason.
0:47:23 > 0:47:25That's my mission.
0:47:25 > 0:47:28And she's pulling out all the stops.
0:47:29 > 0:47:33The last date we had, he smelt really good.
0:47:33 > 0:47:35So I wanna, like, outdo him a little bit.
0:47:38 > 0:47:40- How are you?- Good, how are you?
0:47:40 > 0:47:41- Good to see you.- How are you?
0:47:41 > 0:47:43Good! Come on in!
0:47:43 > 0:47:46- I LOVE to eat.- This is so good!
0:47:46 > 0:47:48BOTH LAUGH
0:47:48 > 0:47:50All right, you can pop open the oven
0:47:50 > 0:47:52cos I'm covered in chicken juice.
0:47:52 > 0:47:53OVEN BLEEPS
0:47:53 > 0:47:56What about you, do you think people are attracted to?
0:47:56 > 0:47:58Or what attracts people to you?
0:47:58 > 0:48:00- There's more to me than just... - Mm-hm.
0:48:00 > 0:48:02..the outward appearance, you know?
0:48:02 > 0:48:05And I've, like, endured a lot in my life.
0:48:05 > 0:48:09Just, like, figuring out who I am.
0:48:09 > 0:48:10I think if there was one thing
0:48:10 > 0:48:12that I would want people to know about me,
0:48:12 > 0:48:15it's...my journey.
0:48:15 > 0:48:16Well, for a long time I just...
0:48:17 > 0:48:19- ..put myself down...- Right.
0:48:19 > 0:48:22..and now I'm accepting myself and who I am
0:48:22 > 0:48:24and it's OK to be transgender.
0:48:25 > 0:48:29Claire takes a moment to powder her nose and settle her nerves.
0:48:29 > 0:48:31One - I don't want to put pressure on anything.
0:48:31 > 0:48:36But two - I do want to see where I kind of stand with this.
0:48:36 > 0:48:38He's a glass of...
0:48:40 > 0:48:44..a very expensive wine, or whatever you want to call it,
0:48:44 > 0:48:46but I've been drinking...
0:48:48 > 0:48:50..Dr Pepper.
0:48:51 > 0:48:53- Jason? - SHE LAUGHS
0:48:53 > 0:48:56I don't know how to ask you this question!
0:48:56 > 0:48:58Um, you just ask me right out.
0:48:58 > 0:49:01- How do you feel about me? - How do I feel about you?
0:49:01 > 0:49:05Um, I think that we have learned a lot from each other
0:49:05 > 0:49:07because I'm still kind of finding myself.
0:49:07 > 0:49:09What are you finding out?
0:49:09 > 0:49:11I find out something new about myself every day!
0:49:11 > 0:49:16Would you, like, ever consider yourself, like, being with me,
0:49:16 > 0:49:18on an emotional level
0:49:18 > 0:49:21and, like, romance level?
0:49:21 > 0:49:26I don't think that the best way for me to support you right now
0:49:26 > 0:49:29is as a romantic endeavour, or as a romantic partner,
0:49:29 > 0:49:33I think the best way for me to support you right now is just,
0:49:33 > 0:49:35is simply to support you.
0:49:35 > 0:49:37Um, and I don't know that I feel comfortable
0:49:37 > 0:49:40adding the aspect of romanticism.
0:49:40 > 0:49:45I was just hoping like it could lead somewhere maybe.
0:49:45 > 0:49:49I do appreciate that you told me in a nice way.
0:49:49 > 0:49:53Not sort of being like, "Well, I don't like you!"
0:49:55 > 0:49:57- Yeah.- Yeah. Thank you for that.
0:49:58 > 0:50:00Have a good night. Do be safe getting home, OK?
0:50:00 > 0:50:03- I'll try. - All right. We'll chat soon.
0:50:03 > 0:50:04- OK, bye.- Bye.
0:50:13 > 0:50:15SHE SNIFFLES
0:50:15 > 0:50:16Oh, gosh.
0:50:20 > 0:50:23I don't know, I don't know what's wrong with me.
0:50:23 > 0:50:26Going to be 21 and haven't even had, like...
0:50:28 > 0:50:31..a relationship for, like, even a month!
0:50:31 > 0:50:35I'm just getting to the point where I don't even want to try...any more.
0:50:35 > 0:50:38Even if a guy comes up to me and says, "Oh, I want to be with you,"
0:50:38 > 0:50:40I'm going to be, like, "You're kidding."
0:50:42 > 0:50:46"Like, this is not going to work out. Cos you're lying."
0:50:51 > 0:50:54- REPORTER:- 'It's the most unusual love story we've ever seen.
0:50:54 > 0:50:57'America's first transgender teen couple
0:50:57 > 0:51:00'openly dating and madly in love...'
0:51:00 > 0:51:03One year after talking to the world's press about their surgery,
0:51:03 > 0:51:05Arin and Katie are ready to share
0:51:05 > 0:51:08the next chapter in their relationship.
0:51:08 > 0:51:09They were a transgender couple
0:51:09 > 0:51:12who knew exactly what the other had gone through,
0:51:12 > 0:51:14but now they've broken up.
0:51:14 > 0:51:18Katie has decided to break up with Arin.
0:51:18 > 0:51:20I just wasn't happy with the relationship and, um,
0:51:20 > 0:51:24I could see it was taking a toll on him, taking a toll on us,
0:51:24 > 0:51:28and our friendships and my grades and his grades, and...
0:51:28 > 0:51:32I just thought it was best if we split apart.
0:51:33 > 0:51:37I broke his heart, I know, but, um, I did it for...our sake.
0:51:40 > 0:51:44I've never been in a relationship besides her since I've been a man.
0:51:44 > 0:51:45- REPORTER:- 'Transgendered or not,
0:51:45 > 0:51:49'Arin was like any teenage boy who got dumped.'
0:51:49 > 0:51:51I definitely reacted in the "guy way,"
0:51:51 > 0:51:52or, you know, the typical man way.
0:51:52 > 0:51:55I was upset and I punched things.
0:51:55 > 0:51:59The community Arin and Katie built online was devastated too.
0:51:59 > 0:52:01And I feel like in our own community,
0:52:01 > 0:52:03we were looking up to Katie and Arin.
0:52:03 > 0:52:05You know, a normal couple
0:52:05 > 0:52:08who understood what they were going through
0:52:08 > 0:52:11and who've stayed with each other for so long...
0:52:11 > 0:52:13And it just sucks that they broke up,
0:52:13 > 0:52:14you know, I'm really sad about it.
0:52:14 > 0:52:17But Claire rallies the troops.
0:52:17 > 0:52:19I think it's very important
0:52:19 > 0:52:21that we all be here for Katie in her break-up
0:52:21 > 0:52:24cos I know I would want someone to be there for me.
0:52:24 > 0:52:29Katie felt one aspect in particular was missing from her relationship...
0:52:29 > 0:52:32An aspect that was hard to talk about.
0:52:32 > 0:52:34We didn't have an intimate life, really.
0:52:34 > 0:52:36You know, it was just... And that was OK with me.
0:52:37 > 0:52:42We talked about it, you know, we tried stuff.
0:52:42 > 0:52:44But all in all, it wouldn't work out,
0:52:44 > 0:52:46so eventually we were just like, "All right, who cares?
0:52:46 > 0:52:48"That's not important, let's just have a good time,
0:52:48 > 0:52:50"enjoy each other's company."
0:52:51 > 0:52:54If you're dating me for sex, then I think you're in the wrong place.
0:52:54 > 0:52:56- ARIN LAUGHS - Definitely, you know,
0:52:56 > 0:52:59you better go down the road cos you're not going to find that here.
0:52:59 > 0:53:02I'm mean, that's... It's an important part of a relationship, but it's not all that.
0:53:02 > 0:53:04You know, I... I thought it was kind of funny.
0:53:04 > 0:53:06I was, like, "Oh, great!
0:53:06 > 0:53:09"As soon as I get a vagina, I get a boyfriend without a penis.
0:53:09 > 0:53:12- "Like, what?" - MIMICS COMIC TONE:- Womp, womp, womp.
0:53:12 > 0:53:14Few people can relate to Arin's situation like Devon.
0:53:16 > 0:53:21Following Arin and Katie's ending, and Katie having transitioned fully
0:53:21 > 0:53:23and Arin still kind of being held back,
0:53:23 > 0:53:26I think, me being the jealous type that I am,
0:53:26 > 0:53:29it'd be very hard for me to have somebody else
0:53:29 > 0:53:32who's a lot farther in transitioning than I am.
0:53:32 > 0:53:35Despite the news about Arin and Katie's break up,
0:53:35 > 0:53:38Devon still believes he can find romance.
0:53:38 > 0:53:40I'm kind of like a hopeless romantic.
0:53:40 > 0:53:42I get my hopes up high for a lot of things that I shouldn't,
0:53:42 > 0:53:45and I like to keep them high, kind of hoping,
0:53:45 > 0:53:46always hoping for the best.
0:53:51 > 0:53:54He's ready to lay his heart on the line with Kelsie.
0:53:54 > 0:53:55Hello!
0:53:55 > 0:53:57- DEVON LAUGHS - Hello!
0:53:59 > 0:54:01- Those are for you. - Oh, my gosh. Thank you!
0:54:01 > 0:54:03Yeah!
0:54:03 > 0:54:06You can pick the spot cos YOU'RE taking ME on the date!
0:54:06 > 0:54:08I see, we'll just sit on top of the hill.
0:54:09 > 0:54:13So, I was kind of nervous whether or not you would come today.
0:54:13 > 0:54:16Um, because having said that I'm transgender,
0:54:16 > 0:54:18it could change the way you look at me.
0:54:18 > 0:54:23Not at all! Not at all. Nope. I don't know why it would. You know?
0:54:23 > 0:54:27I mean, I see you as a guy and that's what you are.
0:54:28 > 0:54:30So, Kelsie...
0:54:31 > 0:54:35For some reason... you kind of stopped me in my tracks.
0:54:35 > 0:54:38- (Stop!) - DEVON LAUGHS
0:54:38 > 0:54:40And I... I definitely think
0:54:40 > 0:54:43there's more than just like a... like a friend connection.
0:54:43 > 0:54:45Where, where kind of...
0:54:45 > 0:54:47Where kind of would you want this to go?
0:54:47 > 0:54:49I'm not exactly sure.
0:54:49 > 0:54:51I mean, I'd like to see, like, where it goes.
0:54:51 > 0:54:52- I mean, we just met, kind of thing. - Mm-hm.
0:54:52 > 0:54:54I think you're a really interesting person.
0:54:54 > 0:54:57I'd like to get to know you a lot better.
0:55:05 > 0:55:09I think the ultimate goal at the end of my life,
0:55:09 > 0:55:13I would definitely want to find somebody that I'm in love with.
0:55:13 > 0:55:14BOTH LAUGH
0:55:14 > 0:55:16I think it would be lovely to eventually marry a woman
0:55:16 > 0:55:21and carry on with our lives as normal people and being in love.
0:55:21 > 0:55:23As Devon looks to the future,
0:55:23 > 0:55:25Arin is trying not to dwell on the past.
0:55:25 > 0:55:27The best way to cope, for me,
0:55:27 > 0:55:29is just hanging out with my friends, having a good time,
0:55:29 > 0:55:30working out, you know?
0:55:30 > 0:55:33Keeping on the positive side of things.
0:55:33 > 0:55:35He recognises how far he's come.
0:55:35 > 0:55:38It's a very beautiful thing when you can see yourself transform
0:55:38 > 0:55:41into something that you've always seen yourself in the mirror.
0:55:41 > 0:55:44And despite his heartbreak, he and Katie are still close.
0:55:44 > 0:55:47I feel like we're always just going to be friends
0:55:47 > 0:55:49and I think we're a lot stronger because of it.
0:55:49 > 0:55:54Transitioning with Katie has given me and her a very unique bond.
0:55:54 > 0:55:57Katie is now 21 and Arin 19.
0:55:58 > 0:56:00He's started uni and is determined to move on
0:56:00 > 0:56:02and live his life to the full.
0:56:09 > 0:56:10Arin and Katie's romance
0:56:10 > 0:56:13continues to impact the growing transgender community...
0:56:15 > 0:56:17..who will always see them as the golden couple.
0:56:17 > 0:56:22It's just, like, what are the odds that two people that are transgender
0:56:22 > 0:56:24and struggling with the same things
0:56:24 > 0:56:27kind of find each other and fall in love?
0:56:27 > 0:56:29I think it's very... that's reassuring.
0:56:29 > 0:56:32I wish I could, you know, find something like that.