0:00:02 > 0:00:04They say manners maketh man.
0:00:05 > 0:00:08Don't, no, that's very negative body language, remember?
0:00:10 > 0:00:12HE SNORTS
0:00:12 > 0:00:14Why would you do that? Why?
0:00:14 > 0:00:16Hello. Are you serious?
0:00:16 > 0:00:18- Serious?- Deathly serious.
0:00:18 > 0:00:21- Hard as you can.- And good manners cost nothing.
0:00:21 > 0:00:24How dare you? Please could I have the ball?
0:00:24 > 0:00:26But in our modern world,
0:00:26 > 0:00:29is there still a place for old-fashioned etiquette?
0:00:30 > 0:00:32Do you know what a viscount is?
0:00:32 > 0:00:33It's a restaurant in Dungannon.
0:00:37 > 0:00:40Have we forgotten the rules and can we relearn them?
0:00:41 > 0:00:42Elbow.
0:00:45 > 0:00:51Manners are the social glue that keeps us together as a society.
0:00:51 > 0:00:52As long as humans walk the earth,
0:00:52 > 0:00:56manners will always be important and needed.
0:00:56 > 0:00:59And I won't hear anyone who says otherwise.
0:01:06 > 0:01:10William Hanson is one of the UK's leading etiquette experts.
0:01:10 > 0:01:13He travels the world teaching proper manners to businesses,
0:01:13 > 0:01:14embassies and high commissions.
0:01:17 > 0:01:21From an early age, he's had a fetish for the finer things in life.
0:01:22 > 0:01:23That would be a two-button suit.
0:01:23 > 0:01:26- Yes, two buttons.- Two-button?- Yes, I toyed once with a three-button suit.
0:01:26 > 0:01:29- They were dark years.- Yeah!
0:01:29 > 0:01:32He wants to make the world a better mannered place.
0:01:34 > 0:01:37And this time round he's over here on a special mission.
0:01:48 > 0:01:52I'm Jake O'Kane and, where I come from, putting manners on someone has
0:01:52 > 0:01:53a whole different meaning.
0:01:58 > 0:02:02So I'm not convinced the manners William teaches really have a place
0:02:02 > 0:02:03in today's world.
0:02:03 > 0:02:06Oh, let's meet for tea, let's have a cup of tea.
0:02:06 > 0:02:08First up, afternoon tea.
0:02:08 > 0:02:10Like that's something we do every day!
0:02:10 > 0:02:13I don't even know what half this stuff is.
0:02:13 > 0:02:15Hello. You must be Jake.
0:02:15 > 0:02:16- William.- Very lovely to meet you.
0:02:16 > 0:02:18And you, sir. And wouldn't you know,
0:02:18 > 0:02:21I've been drinking tea the wrong way all my life.
0:02:22 > 0:02:26Finish your mouthful before you take a cup of...sip of tea.
0:02:26 > 0:02:28- Seriously?- Yeah, and don't talk with your mouth open.
0:02:30 > 0:02:32Mastication is pretty awful.
0:02:32 > 0:02:33I don't want to see it.
0:02:33 > 0:02:35I thought you were going to say something else there!
0:02:35 > 0:02:38I've got to tell you. I thought you were going to say something else.
0:02:38 > 0:02:41Sit up straight, shoulders back, show off that waistcoat.
0:02:43 > 0:02:46Oh, this is relaxed(!) There's a way to stir?
0:02:46 > 0:02:48There is a way to stir our tea. Let's see what you do.
0:02:49 > 0:02:50- Rou... No.- No?
0:02:50 > 0:02:52Moving just the fingers, not the wrist.
0:02:52 > 0:02:556, 12, 6, 12, 6, 12, back and...
0:02:57 > 0:02:58Do...
0:02:58 > 0:03:00JAKE CHUCKLES
0:03:01 > 0:03:03I'm coming back.
0:03:03 > 0:03:05- I'll be with you. - This is my life's work.
0:03:05 > 0:03:08- Right.- 6, 12, 6, 12, 6...
0:03:10 > 0:03:14While William may have dedicated his life to teaching the Ps and Qs of
0:03:14 > 0:03:15polite behaviour...
0:03:16 > 0:03:18- After you, please. - Thank you very much.
0:03:18 > 0:03:21- I thought we did that beautifully. - I thought we did that beautifully.
0:03:21 > 0:03:25..I think there are things he can learn from us, the N and I of manners.
0:03:25 > 0:03:27Northern Irish style.
0:03:27 > 0:03:31I should have my yellow gloves on me so I could wave.
0:03:31 > 0:03:34I'm taking the professor of politeness on a whirlwind tour of how we do
0:03:34 > 0:03:38things over here. I want to show him the old ways are dead
0:03:38 > 0:03:42and our new way of getting on, well, works just fine.
0:03:44 > 0:03:46So, this is a black taxi, Belfast style.
0:03:46 > 0:03:47- Right.- And...
0:03:47 > 0:03:49- Well, we have these in London. - You do.
0:03:52 > 0:03:54This is what makes taxis different.
0:03:54 > 0:03:57We're trying to teach William the differences of Northern Ireland to
0:03:57 > 0:04:00the rest of the UK. We share taxis.
0:04:00 > 0:04:03We share... William doesn't have taxis like this.
0:04:03 > 0:04:06- Oh, no, the English, they have this as private.- Yeah?
0:04:06 > 0:04:08SHE LAUGHS
0:04:10 > 0:04:13- Hello.- Hiya.- Oh, I hope I get this chap.
0:04:13 > 0:04:15- Hello.- What's the craic?
0:04:15 > 0:04:16I'm William.
0:04:18 > 0:04:21- What's he doing?- He's getting out.
0:04:21 > 0:04:22Take care.
0:04:22 > 0:04:24- Goodbye.- See you.
0:04:24 > 0:04:28- Keep in touch.- It's a whole new world in West Belfast.
0:04:28 > 0:04:31- Where were you?- Out all night drinking.- Out all night drinking?
0:04:31 > 0:04:33- You mean you haven't gone to bed? - No.
0:04:33 > 0:04:35It's like being in a nightclub.
0:04:35 > 0:04:38- It's fun.- And there's an etiquette for confined space in England.
0:04:38 > 0:04:41I mean, we wouldn't, we probably wouldn't look at each other.
0:04:41 > 0:04:44We'd maybe smile, like, a half smile as you came in.
0:04:45 > 0:04:48I have known relationships start in black taxis.
0:04:48 > 0:04:51Fellas get in and girl's been there, "What's your number?
0:04:51 > 0:04:53- "What's your name?"- They'll be married with children now.
0:04:53 > 0:04:56See, William's surprised that we're so open.
0:04:56 > 0:04:58No, we all talk to each other. And do you know something?
0:04:58 > 0:05:01You sit in a taxi and you sit and talk away.
0:05:01 > 0:05:04Many conversations I've had with absolute...people I don't
0:05:04 > 0:05:06- know.- Unless you were in a bad mood.
0:05:06 > 0:05:08Aye, in a bad mood you wouldn't.
0:05:08 > 0:05:10How would I know if you're in a bad mood, though?
0:05:10 > 0:05:12I just won't talk to you.
0:05:13 > 0:05:15- Right.- 'That told him!'
0:05:18 > 0:05:19Next stop in the manners tour,
0:05:19 > 0:05:23a place better suited to his Highness of Mannersville.
0:05:23 > 0:05:27The headquarters of the Royal Antediluvian Order of Buffaloes in Belfast.
0:05:27 > 0:05:29I know, who knew?
0:05:30 > 0:05:31Check!
0:05:33 > 0:05:36And the unashamed royalist William is going to be right at home here.
0:05:42 > 0:05:44Hello, would you mind if we interrupted?
0:05:44 > 0:05:47- I'm William.- We are trying to find out,
0:05:47 > 0:05:49has manners changed over the years?
0:05:49 > 0:05:51I was brought up that you had to respect your elders
0:05:51 > 0:05:53and you didn't talk down to them,
0:05:53 > 0:05:55even if you were blatantly wrong or something.
0:05:55 > 0:05:58Carol, tell us, what manners do you think are lacking today?
0:05:58 > 0:06:01Especially "please" and "thank you".
0:06:01 > 0:06:04And I think as much as younger people don't do it,
0:06:04 > 0:06:06a lot of older people don't do it.
0:06:06 > 0:06:10- Yes.- Teach them manners and make sure that they have a good education,
0:06:10 > 0:06:13no matter how poor you are or how little you have.
0:06:13 > 0:06:15This is fixed. This is fixed! LAUGHTER
0:06:15 > 0:06:17You see, oh ye of little faith.
0:06:17 > 0:06:21He didn't... He thought I was a stick in the mud and that no-one else would
0:06:21 > 0:06:25agree with me. Does anyone actually disagree with me and think that
0:06:25 > 0:06:26actually manners aren't relevant?
0:06:26 > 0:06:29Anyone? No.
0:06:29 > 0:06:31- Exactly.- Manners are.
0:06:31 > 0:06:32Yes, other than Jake O'Kane.
0:06:32 > 0:06:34Other than him.
0:06:34 > 0:06:38Of course they're going to agree, they're from the same era as William.
0:06:38 > 0:06:42But I'm convinced his ways would never work with a family today.
0:06:42 > 0:06:46And, so, introducing his challenge -
0:06:46 > 0:06:47a real live family.
0:06:50 > 0:06:53This is the Brimages. There's Dad, Davey, there's Mum, Sharon,
0:06:53 > 0:06:58they've three boys - Mark, who's 16, Jonathan's 14 and Adam is 12.
0:06:58 > 0:07:01Well, manners would be important to us because, in the house, well,
0:07:01 > 0:07:04it's all about respect and it's respecting us as their parents.
0:07:04 > 0:07:07Do you know, in the busyness of life, you kind of,
0:07:07 > 0:07:10just for an easy life you brush over them instead of, you know,
0:07:10 > 0:07:14following through. So we need help to, you know, introduce...
0:07:14 > 0:07:17- Routines.- ..discipline and routines.
0:07:17 > 0:07:19Mornings are a problem with the Brimages.
0:07:19 > 0:07:20- Right.- Dad's away to work,
0:07:20 > 0:07:24so it's all left to Mother to get them out of bed.
0:07:24 > 0:07:26Not an easy thing.
0:07:26 > 0:07:30- No.- I've collected evidence as to their behaviour in their natural
0:07:30 > 0:07:31surroundings.
0:07:32 > 0:07:35Right, boys. Time to get up for school.
0:07:38 > 0:07:41Adam? Time to get up.
0:07:41 > 0:07:42She's not very forceful.
0:07:42 > 0:07:44No, she's a nice lady.
0:07:44 > 0:07:46You'd have no idea of what time it is...
0:07:46 > 0:07:48- No.- You'd hardly know what day it is.
0:07:48 > 0:07:50It's been ten minutes.
0:07:50 > 0:07:52Let's see what's happening.
0:07:52 > 0:07:54Nearly there, Adam.
0:07:54 > 0:07:58Johnny, I'm going to pull the quilt back if you don't hurry up and waken
0:07:58 > 0:08:00- up.- Get me my shirt, please.
0:08:00 > 0:08:02Your shirt's sitting over here where you left it.
0:08:03 > 0:08:06A lot of whining. It's like he's dying.
0:08:06 > 0:08:08Having a wash before you get dressed?
0:08:11 > 0:08:13Jonathan, it's quarter to nine.
0:08:13 > 0:08:15Put the shirt on and got back into bed.
0:08:15 > 0:08:17Well, it's going to need a good iron now.
0:08:19 > 0:08:21- Come on!- I'm coming.
0:08:21 > 0:08:22You're not, but!
0:08:22 > 0:08:25I never struggled to get out of bed in the morning at this age.
0:08:27 > 0:08:29Not everyone is like you, William.
0:08:29 > 0:08:30Bed not made.
0:08:31 > 0:08:33Dirty washing lying on the floor.
0:08:34 > 0:08:37Why is he on his phone? Socks don't match either.
0:08:39 > 0:08:41Mmm, the joys.
0:08:42 > 0:08:43Well, mornings are a complete disaster.
0:08:43 > 0:08:47Mornings are difficult. I wouldn't say that's that unusual.
0:08:47 > 0:08:49No, seriously, that was... That's quite mild.
0:08:49 > 0:08:52The middle one's going to be trouble. I think you're going to
0:08:52 > 0:08:55- have trouble the middle one.- Yes, I think he was...- Spirit, he's got spirit.
0:08:55 > 0:08:57Always be wary of someone with mismatched socks.
0:08:57 > 0:08:59That's what I always say.
0:09:02 > 0:09:05This is mealtime.
0:09:05 > 0:09:07Now, you like setting tables.
0:09:07 > 0:09:08I love it. I love a set table.
0:09:08 > 0:09:12That's one thing you enjoy and this, I think, you will enjoy.
0:09:12 > 0:09:13OK.
0:09:17 > 0:09:19What on earth is going on?
0:09:19 > 0:09:21Your cutlery. Are you not getting excited?
0:09:21 > 0:09:24Johnny, just don't leave them lying in a pile, son.
0:09:30 > 0:09:32She just doesn't care.
0:09:32 > 0:09:34Look!
0:09:35 > 0:09:37That's not bad. He's got them on the table.
0:09:41 > 0:09:43It's like Picasso does table settings.
0:09:43 > 0:09:45Da, dinner!
0:09:47 > 0:09:49Yous are peeling spuds tonight.
0:09:49 > 0:09:51Oh! Golly, no, stop, stop.
0:09:51 > 0:09:53What is that? What is that?
0:09:53 > 0:09:56That's your potatoes. That's the staple diet of Northern Ireland.
0:09:56 > 0:09:59And why is it being served on the table?
0:09:59 > 0:10:02Because you can reach over and grab one and put it on your plate.
0:10:03 > 0:10:06Two nights ago, I did gratin pomme dauphinois and I put it in
0:10:06 > 0:10:09a lovely Le Creuset little earthwear dish.
0:10:09 > 0:10:10That's French to me.
0:10:10 > 0:10:11William, no harm to you, what is that?
0:10:11 > 0:10:15Well, gratin pomme dauphinois is French, so just as well.
0:10:17 > 0:10:20- There you go. - Oh!- Your meat.
0:10:20 > 0:10:22A double whammy of awfulness.
0:10:22 > 0:10:24You've got everything you need!
0:10:24 > 0:10:28How can you expect children to be well mannered if you are not giving
0:10:28 > 0:10:30them the environment to be well mannered?
0:10:30 > 0:10:33If parents are trying to set a bar for their children,
0:10:33 > 0:10:35we've also got to set a bar for the parents.
0:10:35 > 0:10:40And then both can work in harmony and we can become a lot more civil
0:10:40 > 0:10:43and courteous and well mannered.
0:10:43 > 0:10:46So, for William, a well-mannered family starts with the parents
0:10:46 > 0:10:49setting rules and the children sticking to them.
0:10:50 > 0:10:52I'm going to look forward to you saying that.
0:10:52 > 0:10:54No, I think it is going to be easy.
0:11:01 > 0:11:02- You have now entered... - County Tyrone.
0:11:02 > 0:11:04You are now in County Tyrone.
0:11:04 > 0:11:08Abandon all hope, ye who enter here.
0:11:11 > 0:11:13- Straight down here...- Right.
0:11:13 > 0:11:16No, I think we were supposed to go down there but, don't worry,
0:11:16 > 0:11:17let's have an explore.
0:11:17 > 0:11:19Make a right.
0:11:19 > 0:11:20Here? No.
0:11:21 > 0:11:22- Apparently...- William! - Well, look...
0:11:22 > 0:11:24- William.- You said no.
0:11:24 > 0:11:26- Keep going.- Be more firm.
0:11:26 > 0:11:28Just say, "Next left."
0:11:28 > 0:11:31- Don't be so polite. - We're on Princess Avenue.
0:11:31 > 0:11:34How appropriate's that?!
0:11:34 > 0:11:36Careful.
0:11:36 > 0:11:38Oh, there we go, William.
0:11:38 > 0:11:39Drop me at the front door, I think.
0:11:42 > 0:11:44I've just thought of something.
0:11:44 > 0:11:46How am I going to get home?
0:11:46 > 0:11:48- I've no GPS.- Bye!
0:11:51 > 0:11:54Ding Dong! 1950s-style manners calling.
0:11:56 > 0:11:57This will be fun.
0:11:59 > 0:12:01- Hello, William.- Hello. Very lovely to meet you.
0:12:01 > 0:12:02- You too.- I'm Johnny.
0:12:02 > 0:12:04- Hello, I'm Adam.- Hello, Adam.
0:12:04 > 0:12:07- I'm Mark.- Hello, Mark. Thank you very much for having me.
0:12:07 > 0:12:08Welcome.
0:12:08 > 0:12:10Look at that. Impeccable manners.
0:12:10 > 0:12:12Come on ahead. In through to the kitchen.
0:12:12 > 0:12:14And like any good host,
0:12:14 > 0:12:18Sharon is quick to offer a cup of tea to her guest.
0:12:18 > 0:12:21Sharon, could I be a complete frightful bore here?
0:12:21 > 0:12:24Is there any chance, as lovely as that mug is,
0:12:24 > 0:12:26I could have a cup and saucer, please?
0:12:28 > 0:12:30I've just got a real hang-up about mugs.
0:12:30 > 0:12:31Do you know what?
0:12:32 > 0:12:35Do you not find that a bit rude, coming into somebody's house and asking,
0:12:35 > 0:12:38like, for a cup and saucer if they're offering you your tea in a mug?
0:12:38 > 0:12:40In their best china mug, I might add.
0:12:40 > 0:12:43Yes, and if we weren't on... If we weren't on the terms that we were
0:12:43 > 0:12:45on, I would have said nothing.
0:12:45 > 0:12:48Might be a bit dusty, they haven't been used in a while.
0:12:48 > 0:12:50That's all right.
0:12:50 > 0:12:52- Beautiful.- That's OK. I'll make it in the cup and saucer for you.
0:12:52 > 0:12:55- Thank you, that's so kind of you, Sharon.- You're welcome,
0:12:55 > 0:12:58- you're welcome.- I owe you. - Uh-huh, you certainly do.
0:12:58 > 0:13:00Oh-ho!
0:13:00 > 0:13:04Taking on a Tyrone mummy - he's going to regret that!
0:13:04 > 0:13:06Anyway, time for tea.
0:13:06 > 0:13:09- Do you put your pinky out when you're drinking?- No. No, no, no.
0:13:09 > 0:13:11- Oh, shock horror!- No, you always tuck it in.
0:13:11 > 0:13:13Do you know where that came from?
0:13:13 > 0:13:16- Where?- So, I'm going to shock you now, so just bear with me.
0:13:18 > 0:13:19In France, prerevolution...
0:13:19 > 0:13:21Yes.
0:13:21 > 0:13:24..a lot of the French aristocracy were fairly promiscuous.
0:13:24 > 0:13:27- OK.- And so when they were having tea,
0:13:27 > 0:13:29if you put your little finger out like so,
0:13:29 > 0:13:32it was to show that you had a sexually-transmitted infection, so...
0:13:32 > 0:13:34- Oh!- I know, "Please don't sleep with me."
0:13:35 > 0:13:38So sorry about that. But please don't.
0:13:38 > 0:13:40I'll step away from you.
0:13:40 > 0:13:42- Get the Dettol.- Seriously?
0:13:42 > 0:13:45- Etiquette's a learning curve, isn't it?- It really is.
0:13:49 > 0:13:52From tea drinking to beer drinking...
0:13:52 > 0:13:53This is the hipsters.
0:13:54 > 0:13:56We're in our natural home here.
0:13:58 > 0:14:01I have a lesson for William, in the manners of the pub.
0:14:01 > 0:14:03The etiquette of buying your round,
0:14:03 > 0:14:04Northern Irish style.
0:14:05 > 0:14:10I believe that alcohol plays quite a key part in Northern Irish culture,
0:14:10 > 0:14:11is that a fair assessment?
0:14:11 > 0:14:13Well, it is a Northern Irish culture.
0:14:13 > 0:14:15- Guinness.- Guinness.
0:14:15 > 0:14:19- Have you ever tried Guinness? - Now, I put Guinness in the Christmas puddings.
0:14:19 > 0:14:23You can't come to Belfast and leave without at least trying.
0:14:23 > 0:14:27- Just a little bit.- A little - a half pint, not even a pint, just a half pint.
0:14:27 > 0:14:29Watch, no, watch it happen. That's magic.
0:14:29 > 0:14:31See what you're watching there, that's magic.
0:14:31 > 0:14:34The English, yous aren't good at rounds,
0:14:34 > 0:14:35yous don't understand rounds.
0:14:35 > 0:14:38- I buy you a drink.- OK, thank you very much.
0:14:38 > 0:14:40You're welcome. You don't leave.
0:14:40 > 0:14:42You then buy me a drink.
0:14:42 > 0:14:45And then I buy you a drink and then you buy me a drink.
0:14:45 > 0:14:48- We'd both go on all evening. - Exactly, William!
0:14:48 > 0:14:50That's what it's all about. That's what we do it for.
0:14:50 > 0:14:53Well, say there's ten people and someone buys a drink.
0:14:53 > 0:14:55You're there for ten drinks.
0:14:55 > 0:14:59- Ten of those?- No, ten serious drinks.
0:14:59 > 0:15:01Ten pints, that's a half pint cos you're English.
0:15:01 > 0:15:04- 20 of those? - Oh, yeah.- Oh!
0:15:06 > 0:15:07Not with your finger out, William.
0:15:09 > 0:15:10Get it in ye.
0:15:12 > 0:15:14JAKE CHUCKLES
0:15:14 > 0:15:16A bit messy.
0:15:16 > 0:15:20- It's delicious.- That's national heritage stuff you're talking about there.
0:15:20 > 0:15:22Stout is what we've given the world.
0:15:23 > 0:15:26I think we might want to give it back.
0:15:26 > 0:15:28Can we have a napkin?
0:15:28 > 0:15:31Would it make any difference if we put it in a different class?
0:15:31 > 0:15:33- Cheers.- To your very good health.
0:15:33 > 0:15:34Tally ho.
0:15:34 > 0:15:36Hmm.
0:15:36 > 0:15:38- Better in a wine glass. - Growing on you.
0:15:38 > 0:15:39I still don't love it.
0:15:39 > 0:15:41It's no Creme De Menthe Frappe.
0:15:41 > 0:15:46But you enjoy the flavour more in a more delicate rim.
0:15:47 > 0:15:52Well, let's have a round of Creme De Menthe Frappe, whatever they are.
0:15:56 > 0:15:59Having seen young Johnny's attempts at setting the table...
0:16:01 > 0:16:05..William is keen to show the wannabe knife thrower the error of his ways.
0:16:05 > 0:16:08- Johnny?- This room.- Ah, right.
0:16:08 > 0:16:12Now, would you like to learn how to set a table properly?
0:16:12 > 0:16:16- Yeah.- He's ecstatic at the notion.
0:16:16 > 0:16:19First of all, before you have put any piece of cutlery there,
0:16:19 > 0:16:22you put your plate and the plate is obviously in line with the middle of the chair.
0:16:22 > 0:16:25Just ever so slightly back.
0:16:25 > 0:16:26Imagine a finger there. OK?
0:16:26 > 0:16:30Just put the sharp edge facing inwards to show that we were civilised and
0:16:30 > 0:16:32you weren't using it as a weapon.
0:16:32 > 0:16:35Do you know you get a little plate here? And that's your bread plate?
0:16:35 > 0:16:37- Yeah.- So that goes on the left and the glass goes on the right.
0:16:37 > 0:16:39So you're going to have a go at setting this.
0:16:39 > 0:16:41And later on, in a few days' time,
0:16:41 > 0:16:45you're going to teach your brothers how to do this, OK?
0:16:45 > 0:16:48And try and have a big smile on your face when you're doing this, Johnny.
0:16:48 > 0:16:49This is the best thing you've done all day.
0:16:49 > 0:16:52This one, there's a nice pattern on that one, Johnny, so, yeah,
0:16:52 > 0:16:53have the pattern facing the diner.
0:16:55 > 0:16:56A picture-perfect setting.
0:16:56 > 0:16:57Well done, Johnny.
0:16:57 > 0:17:00Oh, are you going to share that on Facebook?
0:17:00 > 0:17:02- No.- No.- 'Of course.'
0:17:02 > 0:17:03- That's a shame.- 'Not.'
0:17:03 > 0:17:05Boys!
0:17:05 > 0:17:06What?
0:17:06 > 0:17:08Dinner!
0:17:08 > 0:17:13Ah, the familiar call to dine, heard all over the country.
0:17:13 > 0:17:15Now, Mark, your elbows on the table.
0:17:15 > 0:17:19You're going to start first, Sharon, as you are the lady of the house,
0:17:19 > 0:17:20or I'm going to serve you, actually.
0:17:20 > 0:17:24And these containers, the foil containers, are they your own?
0:17:25 > 0:17:27- No.- No, no.
0:17:27 > 0:17:30But I suppose if you were doing this, if this was a home-made one,
0:17:30 > 0:17:32you would put it in a nice thing?
0:17:32 > 0:17:34- Yes, I would.- Which is fine and, for family style, that's fine.
0:17:34 > 0:17:37That's not what he was saying earlier.
0:17:37 > 0:17:39I reckon William is a bit scared of Sharon.
0:17:40 > 0:17:44And we would wait for everybody to have food on their plate before we
0:17:44 > 0:17:45- began.- I was thinking that.
0:17:45 > 0:17:48At this table, you snooze, you lose.
0:17:48 > 0:17:52Right. Well, we don't just dive straight in.
0:17:52 > 0:17:53They normally do.
0:17:53 > 0:17:55Not any more.
0:17:56 > 0:17:58- So, Mother, you may begin. - Thank you.
0:17:58 > 0:18:01And, chaps, this is true in social etiquette even if it wasn't your mother,
0:18:01 > 0:18:02if this was a lady...
0:18:02 > 0:18:08Elbow. ..is that you would just wait just a few beats for a lady to start
0:18:08 > 0:18:10and then you would...you would begin.
0:18:10 > 0:18:13Begin? They'd be half finished by now if you'd let them.
0:18:13 > 0:18:15Manners maketh the dinner cold.
0:18:18 > 0:18:22Er... No, you're going to wait for everyone to finish
0:18:22 > 0:18:25and then you're going to say, "Would anybody like any more?"
0:18:25 > 0:18:26- Oh, right.- And you serve everybody else
0:18:26 > 0:18:28and then you serve yourself.
0:18:28 > 0:18:29- Oh.- So, good manners...
0:18:29 > 0:18:32- Oh, Johnny.- ..are all about other people.
0:18:32 > 0:18:36That's the key. They are selfless, not selfish.
0:18:36 > 0:18:38Would you like any more, William?
0:18:38 > 0:18:41I'm fine, thank you very much, Johnny. Thank you for asking.
0:18:41 > 0:18:42- That's OK.- Would YOU like any more?
0:18:42 > 0:18:44Probably.
0:18:44 > 0:18:45Go on. Knock yourself out.
0:18:47 > 0:18:52Dinner over and William has a plan to buy Sharon some respect and help
0:18:52 > 0:18:53about the house.
0:18:54 > 0:18:56Now, you'd normally do the dishwasher,
0:18:56 > 0:18:58so I would like you and Mark,
0:18:58 > 0:19:01so you're going to show Mark how we're going to stack the dishwasher, OK?
0:19:01 > 0:19:02Everybody else...
0:19:02 > 0:19:06'He might just be about to push them over the edge here.'
0:19:06 > 0:19:07Mark, it'll not bite you, son.
0:19:07 > 0:19:12You know, you could put a bit of oomph into it.
0:19:12 > 0:19:16See, this, like, this is why I do it myself, William.
0:19:16 > 0:19:19I know. But ultimately, now Mark knows what to do,
0:19:19 > 0:19:21tomorrow you don't need to stand there and help.
0:19:21 > 0:19:23That's probably why I've never put it in,
0:19:23 > 0:19:27cos it's just quicker for me to do it and then I get sitting down quicker.
0:19:27 > 0:19:30But then we can't complain that they don't help.
0:19:30 > 0:19:33- Yeah, OK.- I've giving you...
0:19:33 > 0:19:35what I would do, OK?
0:19:35 > 0:19:38I'm not saying my word is gospel.
0:19:38 > 0:19:40It's close to it, but it isn't gospel.
0:19:40 > 0:19:44- OK.- So it's up to you now to adapt this to your lifestyle.
0:19:44 > 0:19:46We'll give it a go.
0:19:46 > 0:19:48Don't sound so excited(!)
0:19:49 > 0:19:52Winning hearts and minds in Cookstown for sure.
0:19:52 > 0:19:55Go, go, go.
0:19:55 > 0:19:58Next in William's manners mission, a friendly match...
0:19:58 > 0:20:00in Portadown.
0:20:00 > 0:20:02- Who's moving?- Thomas!
0:20:02 > 0:20:03Thomas!
0:20:03 > 0:20:05I used to serve the cricket teas at school.
0:20:06 > 0:20:08Really?
0:20:08 > 0:20:12He's about to find out there's no room for friendliness
0:20:12 > 0:20:13on a hurling pitch.
0:20:14 > 0:20:16Does anyone get hurt?
0:20:16 > 0:20:19You could get injured in any sport. You could get injured playing
0:20:19 > 0:20:22- tiddlywinks - you could get one in the eye really.- I know, well,
0:20:22 > 0:20:24I had a friend that got injured on tiddlywinks actually.
0:20:25 > 0:20:28I play croquet. Have you ever played croquet?
0:20:28 > 0:20:30It's not a very contact sport, is it, no?
0:20:30 > 0:20:33No, but why does it need to be a contact sport?
0:20:33 > 0:20:36It adds to the excitement of it, does it not, no?
0:20:36 > 0:20:39Moving like a gazelle, with three legs,
0:20:39 > 0:20:43welcome the latest recruit to the ancient sport of hurling.
0:20:43 > 0:20:44I look good, don't I?
0:20:44 > 0:20:47- Terrific, yeah.- Can I play with the gloves?
0:20:47 > 0:20:49If you must.
0:20:49 > 0:20:51OK.
0:20:51 > 0:20:53Gloves on, match ready.
0:20:54 > 0:20:55I don't know what team I'm on.
0:20:55 > 0:20:58Oh, sugar! Oh!
0:20:58 > 0:20:59- Don't hit me!- William!
0:21:03 > 0:21:04Hard as you can.
0:21:06 > 0:21:07How dare you.
0:21:10 > 0:21:11Please could I have the ball?
0:21:13 > 0:21:15WHISTLE BLOWS
0:21:15 > 0:21:16You enjoy it?
0:21:16 > 0:21:17No.
0:21:17 > 0:21:18HE LAUGHS
0:21:18 > 0:21:23That proves sometimes good manners won't get you anywhere.
0:21:25 > 0:21:26Let's never do that again.
0:21:39 > 0:21:43Back in Tyrone, and William's next stop is with Dad Davey at the quarry
0:21:43 > 0:21:44where he works.
0:21:46 > 0:21:47THEY CHAT
0:21:47 > 0:21:49- Hi, Davey.- Hello, William.
0:21:49 > 0:21:52- Hello, nice to see you. - All right, you too.- I'm fine.
0:21:52 > 0:21:53- Hello, I'm William.- Hello.
0:21:53 > 0:21:55Oh, this isn't awkward at all(!)
0:21:55 > 0:21:56How do you do?
0:21:56 > 0:21:59Quickly winning new friends.
0:21:59 > 0:22:01He's just like one of the lads.
0:22:01 > 0:22:04Now, I noticed with your tea you weren't actually picking it up with
0:22:04 > 0:22:07the handle, you were just holding the mug.
0:22:07 > 0:22:08Is that to warm your hands?
0:22:08 > 0:22:09That's exactly what that's for, yeah.
0:22:09 > 0:22:12- Right.- So, William, do I lift it right? This.
0:22:12 > 0:22:14Yes, that's good.
0:22:14 > 0:22:16- That's very posh.- Very nice.
0:22:16 > 0:22:19Yes, it's like sitting here with the Duke of Edinburgh.
0:22:19 > 0:22:24You think there would be much need for quarry etiquette, quarrequette?
0:22:24 > 0:22:27Quarrequette? He's making this up now.
0:22:27 > 0:22:30Most quarry operatives and people associated with quarries would be
0:22:30 > 0:22:32quite thick in the skin.
0:22:32 > 0:22:33If you like someone,
0:22:33 > 0:22:36you're actually quite rude to them and you insult them,
0:22:36 > 0:22:40whereas if you don't like them or you're not that keen,
0:22:40 > 0:22:41you're perfectly charming?
0:22:41 > 0:22:43We would call that a bit of slagging over here.
0:22:43 > 0:22:45- Slagging?- Yeah.
0:22:45 > 0:22:51So if you said something slaggy to Davey, would you be a slag?
0:22:52 > 0:22:53No.
0:22:54 > 0:22:56That's something different, is it?
0:22:56 > 0:22:58- Yeah.- OK, right, bit perplexing.
0:22:58 > 0:23:01Because I'm quite nice to my friends.
0:23:01 > 0:23:03Generally. It's how it works.
0:23:05 > 0:23:06He's missing the point.
0:23:06 > 0:23:10Time for a lesson in the art of sleggin'.
0:23:10 > 0:23:13- Hello.- Hello.- Hello.
0:23:13 > 0:23:14I'm William. How do you do?
0:23:14 > 0:23:17Shall we try slagging each other?
0:23:17 > 0:23:19- No, please don't.- Why not? - Just please don't.
0:23:19 > 0:23:21She's going to be much better at it than he...
0:23:21 > 0:23:24- No, please don't.- Go on, slag me. - No, I can't.
0:23:24 > 0:23:27This is the thing. She can't because she doesn't know you.
0:23:27 > 0:23:30Slagging, we know something about the person that's maybe slightly
0:23:30 > 0:23:33embarrassing that they would not want other people to know,
0:23:33 > 0:23:36so we'll be in a taxi full of strangers and then we'll hit them with that.
0:23:36 > 0:23:38And then they have nowhere to go but...
0:23:38 > 0:23:40So we might talk, if you had haemorrhoids...
0:23:40 > 0:23:42Absolutely, that would be it good one.
0:23:42 > 0:23:44If you had haemorrhoids... "Are you sitting there right?"
0:23:44 > 0:23:47He should have brought a cushion.
0:23:47 > 0:23:49Actually, if you slagged me,
0:23:49 > 0:23:51I should take that as a compliment?
0:23:51 > 0:23:54- Absolutely.- Yeah.- So how would you slag me?
0:23:54 > 0:23:55I've got a very thick skin.
0:23:55 > 0:23:58- I write for the Daily Mail.- I saw the way you looked at him!
0:23:58 > 0:24:00Go!
0:24:00 > 0:24:03- As camp as Christmas. - "As camp as Christmas"?
0:24:03 > 0:24:04Well, he did ask.
0:24:04 > 0:24:07It would have been rude not to have told him.
0:24:07 > 0:24:09Christmas is a jolly nice thing.
0:24:09 > 0:24:10Slagging.
0:24:11 > 0:24:13It's great craic.
0:24:17 > 0:24:19Family mealtime sorted,
0:24:19 > 0:24:22William is keen to show that a good morning starts with a good night.
0:24:25 > 0:24:30OK, Johnny, Adam, your bedtime tonight is quarter to ten.
0:24:30 > 0:24:34I don't mean 9:46, I mean 9:45.
0:24:34 > 0:24:37OK? Set a bedtime, stick to it.
0:24:37 > 0:24:38Be firm.
0:24:38 > 0:24:39- OK.- Don't bow in the wind.
0:24:41 > 0:24:44He's laying down the law with the younger boys but how will he fare
0:24:44 > 0:24:48with the 16-year-old and his late-night obsession?
0:24:49 > 0:24:52Many's a morning when I have got up and I come up here to start and get
0:24:52 > 0:24:54ready to get out and the lights would still be on.
0:24:54 > 0:24:56We've had to kill the power a few times here to...
0:24:57 > 0:24:59Flick the switch in the meter box.
0:24:59 > 0:25:01- Hello.- Hello.
0:25:01 > 0:25:02Would you like to pause it?
0:25:02 > 0:25:03Mm-hmm.
0:25:03 > 0:25:08Right, it's just about quarter to, you've got three minutes.
0:25:08 > 0:25:10- Turn it off.- 'Oh, matron.'
0:25:10 > 0:25:13The manners expert has gone all SAS.
0:25:13 > 0:25:19- Two minutes.- Far too easy.- I don't know what all the fuss is about!
0:25:19 > 0:25:20I know, I know.
0:25:20 > 0:25:24Just give it five minutes till you see, don't be so confident.
0:25:24 > 0:25:27She's on the defensive. I tell you.
0:25:29 > 0:25:32I'll give him a stick if he wants one.
0:25:32 > 0:25:34Well, the Xbox is off.
0:25:34 > 0:25:36Straightaway. Straightaway.
0:25:36 > 0:25:39Sharon, don't you be sticking up for them.
0:25:39 > 0:25:41Don't be telling my wee babies what to do.
0:25:41 > 0:25:44Excellent. Now, where are your mobile phones?
0:25:44 > 0:25:47Perfect. Right, good night, I'll see you tomorrow.
0:25:48 > 0:25:51By Jove, I think he's done it.
0:25:52 > 0:25:53Buoyed by his overnight success,
0:25:53 > 0:25:57the posh bloke with the weird wardrobe returns to the British family...
0:25:57 > 0:25:58- Good morning.- Good morning.
0:25:58 > 0:26:01- Hello.- We're making some buttermilk scones for the breakfast.
0:26:01 > 0:26:03..and there's still more manners work to be done.
0:26:03 > 0:26:05His daddy taught him that.
0:26:08 > 0:26:10We don't generally do that.
0:26:18 > 0:26:22"By Viscount Stewart in 1869."
0:26:22 > 0:26:24Do you know what a Viscount is?
0:26:24 > 0:26:26It's a restaurant in Dungannon.
0:26:34 > 0:26:35Is this something you do a lot?
0:26:35 > 0:26:39No, not very often at all.
0:26:39 > 0:26:40Just never find the time.
0:26:40 > 0:26:42It's only up the road.
0:26:42 > 0:26:44Although a child might say,
0:26:44 > 0:26:46"No, I just want to play my Xbox,"
0:26:46 > 0:26:48actually giving them an alternative, I think,
0:26:48 > 0:26:51once in a while... Actually, children need to be children
0:26:51 > 0:26:53sometimes and they're expending energy.
0:26:53 > 0:26:56They'll hopefully be exhausted by the time they're going to bed.
0:26:56 > 0:26:58And they're actually playing together without fighting.
0:26:58 > 0:27:01- Yes, they're getting on very well. - Can you believe that?
0:27:01 > 0:27:04It's very refreshing. Hello.
0:27:05 > 0:27:07I cut... He cut my hand.
0:27:07 > 0:27:09- I broke his fingers.- OK.
0:27:09 > 0:27:12Jolly good.
0:27:12 > 0:27:14But at least we set the table properly.
0:27:14 > 0:27:16His work here is done.
0:27:16 > 0:27:20So, William, the Brimages who you visited, have they taken on board what you taught them?
0:27:20 > 0:27:25One of the big things that has been really the best for me is
0:27:25 > 0:27:27taking the phones off them at nine o'clock.
0:27:27 > 0:27:29Aren't you finished with that, son?
0:27:29 > 0:27:31Come on, give it to me.
0:27:31 > 0:27:33Right.
0:27:33 > 0:27:36They now know cut off is nine o'clock, end of story.
0:27:36 > 0:27:39And there is no quibbling about it, there's no arguing about it.
0:27:39 > 0:27:42Because they're getting up fresh cos they haven't been on their phones
0:27:42 > 0:27:43till late. So that's a big plus.
0:27:43 > 0:27:45What's happening in the bedroom?
0:27:45 > 0:27:47Oh! We're up, boys!
0:27:48 > 0:27:50Up and getting ready.
0:27:50 > 0:27:52Good boys, thank you.
0:27:52 > 0:27:54I'm not saying it's tranquil, now,
0:27:54 > 0:27:57but it's just running smoother and we're getting out better.
0:27:57 > 0:28:00So, knife facing inwards.
0:28:00 > 0:28:06Finger. And make sure your plate is on the centre of the seat.
0:28:06 > 0:28:07Do you know what I like?
0:28:07 > 0:28:10Do you know what I like? This is not a chore, they're doing it together,
0:28:10 > 0:28:12they're enjoying it.
0:28:12 > 0:28:15- That's... I think...- You see, etiquette can be fun.
0:28:15 > 0:28:17- OK.- I have to say now for myself,
0:28:17 > 0:28:22I feel really blessed that the whole thing happened,
0:28:22 > 0:28:26that we got to be doing this whole thing and the experience of it.
0:28:26 > 0:28:30It's important to me, trying to get the children raised as best we can.
0:28:32 > 0:28:33That's what's important to me.
0:28:36 > 0:28:38Positive adventure for us all.
0:28:38 > 0:28:40Great family experience.
0:28:40 > 0:28:42Oh, that's really lovely to hear.
0:28:42 > 0:28:45Actually that makes me feel all warm inside.
0:28:45 > 0:28:47- Saint William.- Your words.
0:28:47 > 0:28:49In the practical terms,
0:28:49 > 0:28:51what you have done proves that manners still are important.
0:28:51 > 0:28:53Of course they're important.
0:28:53 > 0:28:57- I knew that.- It must make you feel nice because you proved me wrong!
0:28:58 > 0:28:59Well, obviously that's the best bit.
0:28:59 > 0:29:02It makes me feel very proud, actually.
0:29:02 > 0:29:06- Come on, I'll buy you a Creme De Menthe Frappe.- OK.
0:29:06 > 0:29:10# Life is sweat, yeah Sweet as honey
0:29:10 > 0:29:13# Happy-go-lucky me
0:29:19 > 0:29:20# Ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha
0:29:20 > 0:29:23# Happy-go-lucky me. #