0:00:02 > 0:00:04# When I was young
0:00:04 > 0:00:07# I never needed anyone... #
0:00:07 > 0:00:10Staying in on your own on the weekends, it's not fun.
0:00:10 > 0:00:13You know, staying in, watching X Factor on a Saturday night
0:00:13 > 0:00:15is pretty shit.
0:00:15 > 0:00:18Staying in and watching a film on your own is pretty shit.
0:00:18 > 0:00:21Staying in and having a Chinese on your own is pretty shit.
0:00:21 > 0:00:22MICROWAVE BEEPS
0:00:22 > 0:00:26I've been single for about a year now and, don't get me wrong,
0:00:26 > 0:00:30single life has its perks but it also can get really boring.
0:00:30 > 0:00:31I mean, like, I enjoy staying in,
0:00:31 > 0:00:35I really do but it's only good if you've got company.
0:00:35 > 0:00:37I mean, I'm fed up of being on my own on Sundays on a hangover.
0:00:37 > 0:00:39Everybody likes a cwtch
0:00:39 > 0:00:41and I'm fed up of cwtching my packet of crisps on Sundays.
0:00:42 > 0:00:47# All by myself... #
0:00:47 > 0:00:51So, my friends have said to me, "Why don't you try online dating?"
0:00:51 > 0:00:53A few of them are on there, some of them got mixed reviews,
0:00:53 > 0:00:55some of them have fallen in love and some of them haven't,
0:00:55 > 0:00:57some of them have said it's just full of creeps.
0:00:57 > 0:01:00But, you know, I'm 26, I'm still young,
0:01:00 > 0:01:02I'm going to try and give the social media dating app a go
0:01:02 > 0:01:05and, you know, I could find love but I doubt it
0:01:05 > 0:01:07but we'll see.
0:01:07 > 0:01:08Wish me luck.
0:01:08 > 0:01:16# Don't wanna be all by myself any more... #
0:01:17 > 0:01:19I'm Hayley Pearce,
0:01:19 > 0:01:23you know, the tea lady from BBC Three's The Call Centre.
0:01:23 > 0:01:27I'm a fairly typical twentysomething from the Valleys,
0:01:27 > 0:01:29just trying to get by and make sense of it all.
0:01:46 > 0:01:49'It's a typical Saturday night in Swansea
0:01:49 > 0:01:53'and, tonight, I'm out with my mates, heading to my favourite bar.'
0:01:53 > 0:01:55Shall we all have shots?
0:01:55 > 0:01:58Can we have a shot, shot of anything?
0:01:58 > 0:02:00- Not sambuca!- Tequila!
0:02:00 > 0:02:02Here we go.
0:02:06 > 0:02:09MUSIC: Candy Shop by 50 Cent
0:02:10 > 0:02:13'Before internet dating came along,
0:02:13 > 0:02:16'this is where you came to cop off or look for love -
0:02:16 > 0:02:17'the big night out.
0:02:19 > 0:02:24'But now, if you're on the pull, things have changed.'
0:02:25 > 0:02:27- Good night tonight, girls. - Yeah, it was.
0:02:27 > 0:02:29- Really good, wasn't it?- Really fun. - Thing is, all same faces
0:02:29 > 0:02:31all the time in Swansea, weren't it?
0:02:31 > 0:02:34You've been dancing with lads all night though.
0:02:34 > 0:02:35I was only dancing, come on.
0:02:35 > 0:02:38That's the problem, when you come to Swansea all the time,
0:02:38 > 0:02:40- you always see the same faces. - I know, it is, isn't it?
0:02:40 > 0:02:43It's like it's either, like, your mate's ex or you're friends
0:02:43 > 0:02:46- or you're related some way or another.- You know them all.- Yeah!
0:02:46 > 0:02:50'No wonder pulling's got harder.'
0:02:50 > 0:02:54MUSIC: Boys And Girls by will.i.am featuring Pia Mia
0:02:54 > 0:02:56These days, fewer and fewer young, free and singles
0:02:56 > 0:02:58are hitting bars to hook up.
0:03:03 > 0:03:06Dating's gone digital and with the launch of a new breed of apps,
0:03:06 > 0:03:08it's gone mobile too.
0:03:11 > 0:03:15Over seven million of us now turn to technology for help to find love.
0:03:16 > 0:03:21And an estimated one in four relationships now start online.
0:03:23 > 0:03:25For a young and connected generation,
0:03:25 > 0:03:28the future of dating is finding love on the go.
0:03:32 > 0:03:35I've always been quite old school when it comes to looking for love
0:03:35 > 0:03:39but I've now decided to join the online dating revolution.
0:03:39 > 0:03:41So, for the next month,
0:03:41 > 0:03:44I'm signing up to one of the UK's most popular apps.
0:03:46 > 0:03:50First things first, time to create the dreaded profile.
0:03:52 > 0:03:56MUSIC: I'm Every Woman by Whitney Houston
0:04:13 > 0:04:16Well, I think I've went a little bit overboard with the selfies.
0:04:16 > 0:04:19It's kind of harder than it seems, mind, because, I mean,
0:04:19 > 0:04:22you know, what kind of pictures do I put up?
0:04:22 > 0:04:23I don't want to go...
0:04:23 > 0:04:25Do I go classy, do I go sexy?
0:04:25 > 0:04:28Do I go funny, do I go sophisticated?
0:04:28 > 0:04:30Do I go party girl?
0:04:30 > 0:04:33I don't want to have too much boob on show just in case they think,
0:04:33 > 0:04:34you know, I'm that type of girl.
0:04:34 > 0:04:38I don't want to look too mad just in case they think, "Nutjob!"
0:04:38 > 0:04:40I don't know what to do. How many do you put up?
0:04:42 > 0:04:44According to a recent survey,
0:04:44 > 0:04:48guys spent just 58 seconds judging a profile
0:04:48 > 0:04:50so I've got to get mine spot-on.
0:04:51 > 0:04:53Otherwise I might never get any matches.
0:04:59 > 0:05:04'Miranda Bishop, an online profile expert, has got some killer tips.'
0:05:04 > 0:05:08- Right, so let's start with my picture.- OK.
0:05:08 > 0:05:10Lots of wine.
0:05:10 > 0:05:12- Do you...?- Tried to look sophisticated with a book.
0:05:12 > 0:05:14- I do not read though.- Right, OK.
0:05:14 > 0:05:16This is a lovely picture of you
0:05:16 > 0:05:19but you can't see half of your face because your sunglasses are on.
0:05:19 > 0:05:22So what you want to do is just pick something that you can see,
0:05:22 > 0:05:23I always say eyes, teeth and hands.
0:05:23 > 0:05:26It's a kind of subconscious thing that people feel like
0:05:26 > 0:05:27- they know you better...- Right.
0:05:27 > 0:05:30..or they feel like they can trust you straightaway.
0:05:30 > 0:05:32- There's a bit of a pout going on there.- Yeah.
0:05:32 > 0:05:34And, according to a study,
0:05:34 > 0:05:3796% of people say that they much prefer seeing
0:05:37 > 0:05:39like a big cheesy grin rather than a pout.
0:05:39 > 0:05:42So I pout now and again because I've got a cheesy smile.
0:05:42 > 0:05:44OK.
0:05:44 > 0:05:48OK. You've got loads of pictures of you, like, doubled up.
0:05:48 > 0:05:50- Yes, it's just an app.- OK.
0:05:50 > 0:05:53But it kind of looks like either that you've, like, got a twin
0:05:53 > 0:05:57- or that you like seeing a lot of yourself.- Oh, God!
0:05:57 > 0:05:59- So maybe just stick to, like, the one.- OK.
0:05:59 > 0:06:02- Yeah, yeah, maybe say that you don't have a twin.- OK.
0:06:02 > 0:06:05- You've got loads of these, actually.- OK!
0:06:05 > 0:06:08Well, that was, like, mixed reviews. I'm happy with that, that's fine.
0:06:08 > 0:06:11- OK.- Now I need you to look at my bio though.- Yup.
0:06:11 > 0:06:12What have you got? So you've got,
0:06:12 > 0:06:15"26 years old, fun-loving, party girl."
0:06:15 > 0:06:18I would say that maybe that's a little bit of a cliche.
0:06:18 > 0:06:20'That's a bit harsh, isn't it?'
0:06:20 > 0:06:22Lots of people would say that they're fun-loving
0:06:22 > 0:06:26- or they like to go out, they like to party.- I really am though.- OK!
0:06:26 > 0:06:29But I like the fact that you've got loads of your hobbies
0:06:29 > 0:06:32in here as well. It helps people strike up a conversation with you
0:06:32 > 0:06:33in the first place. So, yeah.
0:06:33 > 0:06:36And finishes off with you make a cracking cup of tea,
0:06:36 > 0:06:38again, brilliant. Cos that just sums you up, doesn't it?
0:06:38 > 0:06:41- So it's all good, yeah? - Yeah, I think it's all right, yeah.
0:06:41 > 0:06:45- Good. Right, let's see how I get off now, then.- OK, cool.
0:06:47 > 0:06:49MUSIC: Girlfriend by NSYNC
0:06:51 > 0:06:55'So, just a few tweaks to my profile and I'm up for grabs.
0:06:57 > 0:06:59'Time to start swiping for guys.
0:06:59 > 0:07:02'And hopefully match with some of them.'
0:07:02 > 0:07:03No.
0:07:04 > 0:07:06No. No.
0:07:07 > 0:07:09Definitely no.
0:07:12 > 0:07:14He's all right.
0:07:16 > 0:07:21My first reaction to this dating app is I feel quite judgmental, right?
0:07:21 > 0:07:24Because I'm swiping way more left than I am right
0:07:24 > 0:07:26and left means you're not interested, you know,
0:07:26 > 0:07:29you don't fancy them. But who am I to judge?
0:07:29 > 0:07:32At the end of the day, these guys could have cracking personalities.
0:07:34 > 0:07:37All I know for sure is this thing is full-on.
0:07:43 > 0:07:4724 hours of swiping and things already looking promising.
0:07:48 > 0:07:51So I've had a few matches
0:07:51 > 0:07:53but there's one in particular but I'm quite interested in.
0:07:53 > 0:07:57He's very good-looking, he's a model, his name's Conway
0:07:57 > 0:07:59and he's invited me out for dinner Friday.
0:07:59 > 0:08:02So I think I'm going to take the plunge
0:08:02 > 0:08:05and I'm going to go for it and just see how it goes, really, isn't it?
0:08:09 > 0:08:13It's going to be my first-ever online date.
0:08:13 > 0:08:16He sounds perfect but is it too good to be true?
0:08:21 > 0:08:23For those of us looking for love online,
0:08:23 > 0:08:26being conned by fake profiles or being catfished
0:08:26 > 0:08:29is something many of us worry about.
0:08:34 > 0:08:39It's estimated that one in ten of all online dating profiles are fake.
0:08:41 > 0:08:44- Hey, girls.- Hiya.- Hello.- You OK? - Yeah.- I believe you've got...
0:08:44 > 0:08:47'Serial swipers Kim and Sue from South Wales
0:08:47 > 0:08:50'found that out the hard way
0:08:50 > 0:08:52'and I've come to meet them to get the lowdown
0:08:52 > 0:08:54'before tomorrow's big date.'
0:08:54 > 0:08:58So something I am really paranoid about, girls, is being catfished.
0:08:58 > 0:09:01Have any of you ever been catfished or you know any stories?
0:09:01 > 0:09:02- Kim?- Never been catfished,
0:09:02 > 0:09:06- but somebody used me to catfish somebody.- Oh, my God.
0:09:06 > 0:09:08I was in work one Tuesday afternoon
0:09:08 > 0:09:10and I get this really random message from this guy.
0:09:10 > 0:09:14It turns out that "I" had been speaking to him
0:09:14 > 0:09:16- for, like, three months. - Oh, that's awful.
0:09:16 > 0:09:19- He'd fallen in love with me, well, not me but...- Yeah.
0:09:19 > 0:09:22..Sophie, Sophie Evans was the girl's name.
0:09:22 > 0:09:25She had taken every post that I'd put up on Facebook
0:09:25 > 0:09:28that just happened to be public and created this whole little life.
0:09:28 > 0:09:30She'd literally been stealing my photos.
0:09:30 > 0:09:32- It's freaky, though, isn't it?- Yeah.
0:09:32 > 0:09:35To know that she was obviously stalking your page.
0:09:35 > 0:09:38I was so angry that someone had done that.
0:09:38 > 0:09:40- It's a minefield out there. - Oh, it is, yeah.
0:09:40 > 0:09:42We've, sort of, as we've gone on, we've learned, haven't we?
0:09:42 > 0:09:45- Yeah. I've got a massive block list. - Really?- Yeah.
0:09:45 > 0:09:48- Why's that?- Just the messages. - Like what, though?
0:09:48 > 0:09:51I've been told that some of them are shocking.
0:09:51 > 0:09:53A couple of days ago, he sent me a message saying,
0:09:53 > 0:09:56- "Hi, I'm nine inches."- Yeah. - OK, that's how he started off?
0:09:56 > 0:09:58- And it can be just "bum fun".- Yeah.
0:09:58 > 0:10:01What about that guy that asked you to put bread in your shoes?
0:10:01 > 0:10:03In my shoes! "Would you do this for me?" he said.
0:10:03 > 0:10:05"Put bread in your shoes, walk around all day
0:10:05 > 0:10:09- "and then make me eat it."- What? - Yeah. He was blocked straightaway.
0:10:09 > 0:10:11I can't cope.
0:10:11 > 0:10:13I can't... What's wrong with them all, like?
0:10:13 > 0:10:15THEY LAUGH
0:10:15 > 0:10:17When I pluck up the courage to actually go on a date,
0:10:17 > 0:10:20- they never turn up.- What? - They don't turn up. Stand me up.
0:10:20 > 0:10:23Oh, see if that happens to me, I will die, mind. Oh, my God.
0:10:23 > 0:10:25How many times have you been stood up?
0:10:25 > 0:10:27- Oh, more times than they've turned up.- Yeah.
0:10:27 > 0:10:30- Blown right out, you mean? - Yeah, literally!- So funny.
0:10:30 > 0:10:32- So it's like, "Next!"- Yeah.
0:10:32 > 0:10:33THEY LAUGH
0:10:35 > 0:10:39'Oh, my God. What have I let myself in for?
0:10:39 > 0:10:41'Guess I'm soon going to find out.
0:10:53 > 0:10:57'It's Friday night and I'm on my way to meet my online date Conway
0:10:57 > 0:10:59'and my nerves are getting the better of me.'
0:11:02 > 0:11:06Not going to lie, absolutely shitting myself.
0:11:06 > 0:11:09Not even lying, seriously, heart palpitating, the lot,
0:11:09 > 0:11:13overthinking, overthinking how I sit, how I walk, do I eat,
0:11:13 > 0:11:15do I kiss him on two cheeks, do I kiss him once
0:11:15 > 0:11:17or do I just wait for him, do I shake his hand?
0:11:17 > 0:11:19Totally overthinking everything
0:11:19 > 0:11:22and all of this is because you guys are there,
0:11:22 > 0:11:25camera crew are there, it's as simple as that.
0:11:26 > 0:11:29So I'm just going to try and go with the flow.
0:11:29 > 0:11:31Everyone knows that I'm quite chatty and outgoing
0:11:31 > 0:11:34and loud and talkative.
0:11:34 > 0:11:36I'm either going to talk my way through it to the punt
0:11:36 > 0:11:38because I'm so nervous and just overtalking,
0:11:38 > 0:11:40just kill it because I'm just scared.
0:11:40 > 0:11:43Or I'm literally going to freeze and not say anything.
0:12:10 > 0:12:13- Hey. Hi, you all right? - How's it going, how are you doing?
0:12:13 > 0:12:15- All right?- Nice to meet you.
0:12:15 > 0:12:17Oh, my God.
0:12:18 > 0:12:20I'm shitting myself.
0:12:20 > 0:12:22At least you are who you are.
0:12:22 > 0:12:24- At least I am who I am.- Yeah. - I turned up.
0:12:30 > 0:12:33- Do you know what you want?- No. - Why don't you have steak?
0:12:33 > 0:12:35Man has steak and girl has chicken, don't they?
0:12:35 > 0:12:37- So you've decided my food for me now.- Yeah.- Jesus!
0:12:37 > 0:12:40Yeah, but you'll like it and you can have some of mine,
0:12:40 > 0:12:42- see, I'm a nice girl. - Of course I'm going to like steak.
0:12:44 > 0:12:47You were an entertaining tea lady.
0:12:47 > 0:12:49- I don't regret being a tea lady, mind.- Eh?
0:12:49 > 0:12:50I don't regret being a tea lady.
0:12:50 > 0:12:53- No, you were entertaining. - Oh, well, do you know what?
0:12:53 > 0:12:56I'm lucky to have you here now. If you watched The Call Centre
0:12:56 > 0:12:58and you're still on a date with me
0:12:58 > 0:13:00cos that was years ago and I was like...
0:13:02 > 0:13:03I've grown-up a lot since then.
0:13:03 > 0:13:07- Oh, my God, am I talking too much? Am I?- Relax, relax.
0:13:12 > 0:13:13The food.
0:13:13 > 0:13:16- Chicken and mashed potato. - Thank you.- You're very welcome.
0:13:16 > 0:13:19- And then we've got our steak there. - Thank you very much.- Perfect.
0:13:19 > 0:13:22- Enjoy your food, guys.- Thank you. - Thank you.
0:13:22 > 0:13:23Look how awkward I eat.
0:13:24 > 0:13:27Look, I go like that, like a child.
0:13:27 > 0:13:29"Ah! Choo-choo-choo!"
0:13:35 > 0:13:38I will be honest and say I was glad that you actually had the confidence
0:13:38 > 0:13:40to have a date with me on camera.
0:13:40 > 0:13:44You've made me feel so, so relaxed tonight.
0:13:44 > 0:13:47Whether you're doing this on camera, I don't know but we'll see.
0:13:47 > 0:13:49We'll see.
0:13:49 > 0:13:50Will we see? We will see?
0:13:50 > 0:13:53Will we see? Will you see me again?
0:13:53 > 0:13:55- I would actually, yes. - Would you?- I would.- Why?
0:13:55 > 0:13:57- Because you're nice.- I am nice.
0:13:57 > 0:13:59And genuine. You're literally...
0:13:59 > 0:14:01Take you as you are.
0:14:01 > 0:14:03- You're not hiding nothing. - I'm not hiding anything.
0:14:03 > 0:14:06I am, I am hiding a bit of nerves.
0:14:06 > 0:14:08Yeah, but you're not hiding nothing.
0:14:08 > 0:14:11You're not withholding anything, of your personality or any traits.
0:14:11 > 0:14:13- No, no.- It's good.
0:14:23 > 0:14:25I'm just playing it smooth.
0:14:25 > 0:14:29'She's completely open and what you see is what you get.'
0:14:29 > 0:14:31She likes to talk a little bit but, yeah,
0:14:31 > 0:14:33she's really a nice girl, genuine.
0:14:33 > 0:14:36- So I'm reds, then, obviously, yeah? - You're reds.
0:14:36 > 0:14:38She's got a very nice smile.
0:14:38 > 0:14:40Very nice.
0:14:40 > 0:14:43HE LAUGHS I'll just hit and wish.
0:14:43 > 0:14:44Oh, fuck. Shit.
0:14:44 > 0:14:47He's made me feel really comfortable,
0:14:47 > 0:14:49it's flowing, there's no awkward silences.
0:14:51 > 0:14:54So maybe this dating shit ain't so bad.
0:14:57 > 0:14:59Do I think I'll see her again?
0:14:59 > 0:15:00Yeah, I think...
0:15:00 > 0:15:04you know, have another date or coffee or...
0:15:04 > 0:15:06even a shopping date.
0:15:06 > 0:15:09Will I see him again? I think so.
0:15:09 > 0:15:10Aw.
0:15:12 > 0:15:13I don't know.
0:15:13 > 0:15:16Maybe this is the wine talking, but watch this space.
0:15:26 > 0:15:28# Let's talk about sex, baby
0:15:28 > 0:15:30# Let's talk about you and me
0:15:30 > 0:15:32# Let's talk about sex
0:15:32 > 0:15:34# Uh-huh. #
0:15:37 > 0:15:40Dating apps might have changed how straight guys and
0:15:40 > 0:15:44girls meet, but they've completely transformed the gay dating scene.
0:15:44 > 0:15:47# You got that thing that I've been looking for... #
0:15:47 > 0:15:50The most popular app, Grindr,
0:15:50 > 0:15:53has over 1.5 million daily users,
0:15:53 > 0:15:57with each spending, on average, more than two hours every day online.
0:15:59 > 0:16:01- Hey.- Hey, you OK?
0:16:02 > 0:16:04Ready to take some photos?
0:16:04 > 0:16:06'I've come to meet fashion photographer Robbie Simonette,
0:16:06 > 0:16:09'who's been using gay dating apps
0:16:09 > 0:16:11'since he first came out six years ago.'
0:16:11 > 0:16:12HE LAUGHS
0:16:15 > 0:16:17Right, enough snaps, Rob.
0:16:17 > 0:16:22I want to know about your experience with online dating.
0:16:22 > 0:16:23Is it like the straight apps, then?
0:16:23 > 0:16:27Like you swipe and you match up, or how does it work?
0:16:27 > 0:16:28They are designed by location.
0:16:28 > 0:16:31So you have a grid of guys, different profile pictures,
0:16:31 > 0:16:34and they're all ordered closest to you and furthest away.
0:16:34 > 0:16:37And then you can just literally text them and be, like, "Oi, oi"?
0:16:37 > 0:16:38SHE CLICKS HER TONGUE
0:16:38 > 0:16:40Yeah, depending on what you want.
0:16:40 > 0:16:42If you're interested in that sort of thing,
0:16:42 > 0:16:43you can just pick up someone.
0:16:43 > 0:16:47If you're looking for just fun, or just a bit of sex - like that.
0:16:47 > 0:16:50So you're telling me that you can find someone online,
0:16:50 > 0:16:53and within minutes, you could be meeting them to have sex?
0:16:53 > 0:16:55Yeah, pretty much.
0:16:55 > 0:16:56- Seconds, in some cases, I'm sure. - HE LAUGHS
0:16:56 > 0:16:58- Seconds?- Yeah.
0:16:58 > 0:17:03There's not necessarily because gays are more promiscuous at all.
0:17:03 > 0:17:05- The gay apps facilitate that more. - Yeah?
0:17:05 > 0:17:07It becomes a bit of a culture, and before you know it,
0:17:07 > 0:17:11they'll be on their lunch breaks at work using Grindr
0:17:11 > 0:17:12to meet up with people
0:17:12 > 0:17:16- in the half-hour they have for a snack, or...- No.- "Snack."
0:17:16 > 0:17:18I've got a friend that slept with five in a day.
0:17:18 > 0:17:21- Five in a day?- Yeah, yeah.
0:17:21 > 0:17:23So you've been on it a number of years now -
0:17:23 > 0:17:26would you say it's a good thing or a bad thing?
0:17:26 > 0:17:28It completely depends - I think it's both.
0:17:28 > 0:17:29I haven't fallen in love on there,
0:17:29 > 0:17:32but I have found some quite fruitful relationships and friendships.
0:17:32 > 0:17:35Back in the day, before apps, like, gay men
0:17:35 > 0:17:38- would have to congregate in the gay clubs, of course.- Yeah.
0:17:38 > 0:17:40And then, the kind of arrive of apps has meant
0:17:40 > 0:17:43that there's no need for gay men to go to these places any more.
0:17:43 > 0:17:45- Right.- So there's less of a scene for it.
0:17:45 > 0:17:48But at the same time, especially for people that aren't able to go out,
0:17:48 > 0:17:50- or aren't as outgoing...- Yeah.
0:17:50 > 0:17:52..it's a complete godsend, definitely.
0:17:52 > 0:17:55They're a bit of a launchpad for every young gay guy, I'm assuming.
0:17:55 > 0:17:59I know that I definitely used apps before actually coming out.
0:17:59 > 0:18:00It's social, at the end of the day.
0:18:00 > 0:18:03Anything that connects people, that's good,
0:18:03 > 0:18:04but if you use it in the wrong way, erm,
0:18:04 > 0:18:07then it can be quite detrimental.
0:18:07 > 0:18:09It can have quite a bad effect.
0:18:13 > 0:18:15So it seems this online dating can be a minefield,
0:18:15 > 0:18:17whatever app you use.
0:18:20 > 0:18:22But for now, I'm going to keep swiping,
0:18:22 > 0:18:24as I haven't yet found my Mr Right.
0:18:26 > 0:18:30So it's been a couple of days since the date with Conway,
0:18:30 > 0:18:31and we have spoken since.
0:18:31 > 0:18:34We did mention about going on a coffee date and that.
0:18:34 > 0:18:36Like, he's such a good-looking guy.
0:18:36 > 0:18:38And, yeah, I do fancy him.
0:18:38 > 0:18:41But I don't think anything will come from it, cos he's better looking
0:18:41 > 0:18:43than me, for God sake. I can't be dealing with that -
0:18:43 > 0:18:45I'd be so insecure. And, like, he's a model.
0:18:45 > 0:18:48He takes more photos of himself than what I do.
0:18:48 > 0:18:50I like a man to be a man's man, you know?
0:18:50 > 0:18:53So I just think it'll probably fade into a friendship or something.
0:18:55 > 0:18:58It can't be true love every time.
0:18:58 > 0:19:02But after two weeks online, I've only been on one date.
0:19:02 > 0:19:04Am I being too picky?
0:19:05 > 0:19:08I mean, how can we really know who we're compatible with
0:19:08 > 0:19:10unless we meet them?
0:19:12 > 0:19:14'I might need to up my game.
0:19:14 > 0:19:17'So I'm coming to meet self-styled Tinder king Adam Ledner,
0:19:17 > 0:19:21'who's had far more success than most at online dating.'
0:19:23 > 0:19:26So how many girls were you actually seeing at once, then?
0:19:26 > 0:19:27- Sort of...- Or messaging them?
0:19:27 > 0:19:29I was messaging quite a few -
0:19:29 > 0:19:32probably talking like 20-30.
0:19:32 > 0:19:34- All at once time?- All at one time.
0:19:34 > 0:19:36It's just... It's a numbers game, really.
0:19:36 > 0:19:39So if you plant 100 seeds, one of them's going to grow.
0:19:39 > 0:19:42Because I knew there'd be 20-30 potential other people after them,
0:19:42 > 0:19:45it was sort of my thing to step up the game, really.
0:19:45 > 0:19:47So get off Tinder as quick as possible, really.
0:19:47 > 0:19:51So I would sort of aim to be off Tinder within ten messages.
0:19:51 > 0:19:53And have their phone number within ten messages,
0:19:53 > 0:19:55and then start calling them then.
0:19:55 > 0:19:59I sort of saw it as an opportunity, really, to perfect my chat, really.
0:19:59 > 0:20:02And then it would sort of get to the stage where I could say...
0:20:02 > 0:20:05It'd sort of be like a script at a call centre, in effect.
0:20:05 > 0:20:07If they said this, I would say that.
0:20:07 > 0:20:10So how many times were you actually swiping right, then?
0:20:10 > 0:20:12Because I find that I'm actually not interested, not interested,
0:20:12 > 0:20:15not interested before I find someone that's hot.
0:20:15 > 0:20:18For me, if there's slight potential, then I will swipe right,
0:20:18 > 0:20:20so probably about 70% of the time.
0:20:22 > 0:20:23'In just five months,
0:20:23 > 0:20:26'Adam racked up over 200 matches before finding the one.'
0:20:26 > 0:20:28Honey, I'm home.
0:20:28 > 0:20:30'But now, he's done with all that.'
0:20:30 > 0:20:32- Hello.- Hi, nice to meet you.
0:20:32 > 0:20:34You must be Bianca? Nice to meet you.
0:20:34 > 0:20:35Hiya. I'm sorry.
0:20:35 > 0:20:38'Just over a year after meeting online,'
0:20:38 > 0:20:42Adam and Bianca got married and had a son - little baby Brock.
0:20:43 > 0:20:45So did he ever he ever wine and dine you
0:20:45 > 0:20:46seeing as you were the special one?
0:20:46 > 0:20:47- Did he hell!- No?
0:20:47 > 0:20:51- Yeah, it was more just like casual. - Netflix and chill?- Yeah, you know?
0:20:51 > 0:20:54But I'm not doing that - I want to get wined and dined.
0:20:54 > 0:20:56But that would be the thing - I would actually have to take some
0:20:56 > 0:20:59and wine and dine them, which would be slightly annoying,
0:20:59 > 0:21:01- cos obviously... - You didn't want that?
0:21:01 > 0:21:04Obviously, they're not going to put out on the first sort of thing, so.
0:21:04 > 0:21:07- It would be...- I hope you did, then? Did you? Yeah, you did!
0:21:07 > 0:21:09Yeah. Standard.
0:21:09 > 0:21:12No, you definitely are Mr and Mrs Tinder, let's be honest.
0:21:12 > 0:21:14And it's no nice to see a nice little love story here.
0:21:14 > 0:21:17- Romance is not dead.- Yeah. - Well, maybe, I don't know.
0:21:19 > 0:21:23# Let's go out and be wild Do it while we can
0:21:23 > 0:21:25# Do, do
0:21:27 > 0:21:30# Running free in the world We got all weekend
0:21:30 > 0:21:33# Do, do
0:21:33 > 0:21:35# Tear up, take it down... #
0:21:35 > 0:21:38Adam and Bianca's story has given me hope that my Prince Charming
0:21:38 > 0:21:39could still be out there.
0:21:42 > 0:21:44I've come to my mates Danielle's house
0:21:44 > 0:21:47to check out some profiles.
0:21:47 > 0:21:50'And while I'm here, I can't resist but share with her some of the
0:21:50 > 0:21:53'more extreme ways men have been trying to get my attention.'
0:21:55 > 0:21:57- So...I got some sleaze.- What's this?
0:21:57 > 0:22:00Look at this one. This one, look what he sent me.
0:22:00 > 0:22:01All right, are you ready for this?
0:22:01 > 0:22:04Why did he send these? Straight away, he sent a dick pic, like.
0:22:04 > 0:22:06- Oh!- Watch.
0:22:06 > 0:22:08Right, be prepared. Be prepared.
0:22:09 > 0:22:11Oh, my God!
0:22:11 > 0:22:13Know what he said? That's the second one he sent.
0:22:13 > 0:22:15SHE GASPS
0:22:15 > 0:22:16And that's the one that's soft.
0:22:18 > 0:22:19It's like a third leg.
0:22:19 > 0:22:22Aw! Why do they do that?
0:22:22 > 0:22:23I don't know. He was like,
0:22:23 > 0:22:27- "You'll be in a wheelchair after I finish with you."- Aw!- I know.
0:22:27 > 0:22:30You wouldn't meet someone in real life and they go, "By the way, look at this."
0:22:30 > 0:22:31I know, exactly!
0:22:31 > 0:22:35Exactly, so why do they feel the need to just send it? I know.
0:22:36 > 0:22:38'Three weeks into my online dating experience,
0:22:38 > 0:22:41'and one thing I have learned is that some guys have
0:22:41 > 0:22:43a very different approach to it than us girls.'
0:22:43 > 0:22:45- No.- No.
0:22:45 > 0:22:46- BOTH:- No.
0:22:46 > 0:22:48'But I'm not giving up just yet.'
0:22:50 > 0:22:53Tomorrow, I'm meeting one of my matches
0:22:53 > 0:22:54for a date with a difference.
0:23:07 > 0:23:09So I'm here today to meet Ben.
0:23:09 > 0:23:11Obviously, someone I met online.
0:23:11 > 0:23:13I've been chatting to him for a couple of days now.
0:23:13 > 0:23:14He seems cool.
0:23:14 > 0:23:18I'm quite excited today because, obviously, it's a horse riding date.
0:23:18 > 0:23:21I've never done this before.
0:23:21 > 0:23:22See how it goes.
0:23:22 > 0:23:26And if it goes tits-up, then I know I've got a getaway with my horse.
0:23:26 > 0:23:27"Giddy-up, boy!"
0:23:39 > 0:23:41- SHE LAUGHS - Hey, you.
0:23:41 > 0:23:43- Hey.- Hey, how are you? - All right.
0:23:43 > 0:23:45- So are you nervous?- Yeah. - Have you done this before?
0:23:45 > 0:23:48- I have rode a horse before. - Yeah?- Yeah.
0:23:48 > 0:23:49How old were you then?
0:23:49 > 0:23:51Erm, about four years ago?
0:23:51 > 0:23:53- OK, so you should know what to do, then?- A little bit. Why, have you?
0:23:53 > 0:23:55Come and show me how to do it.
0:23:55 > 0:23:57- Have you rode a horse?- Once, when I was a little boy...- OK.
0:23:57 > 0:23:59- ..and I was no good then. - Shall I take the stallion, then?
0:23:59 > 0:24:01- No, that's my one.- Ha! OK.
0:24:03 > 0:24:05- Just try this one on you.- Yeah.
0:24:05 > 0:24:07Is that comfy?
0:24:07 > 0:24:09- OK, is that comfy?- I can't breathe. It's a bit tight.
0:24:09 > 0:24:10Just do it up a bit.
0:24:13 > 0:24:15Perfect.
0:24:15 > 0:24:16Let's go!
0:24:16 > 0:24:18It's OK.
0:24:18 > 0:24:20- It's OK.- So when you get on,
0:24:20 > 0:24:22- you want to put your left foot in the stirrup.- Right.
0:24:22 > 0:24:24I'll just make sure my arse crack's not out now.
0:24:24 > 0:24:26Ready?
0:24:26 > 0:24:29Oh, my arse crack's definitely... I can't reach it.
0:24:29 > 0:24:32I can't get up. I actually can't get up.
0:24:32 > 0:24:34Do you want a hand? Let me come over now - let me help you up.
0:24:34 > 0:24:35SHE LAUGHS
0:24:35 > 0:24:37Go on, then.
0:24:37 > 0:24:39Oh, my God, this is going to be a disaster.
0:24:39 > 0:24:41- There, up.- Shit.
0:24:41 > 0:24:43I'm going to push your arse up now.
0:24:43 > 0:24:44THEY LAUGH
0:24:44 > 0:24:46Second base!
0:24:46 > 0:24:48- You're on. - SHE LAUGHS
0:24:48 > 0:24:49Oh, God, thank you.
0:24:51 > 0:24:53Oh, yes! THEY LAUGH
0:24:53 > 0:24:54Oh, my God, I'm off. I'm off.
0:24:54 > 0:24:57Come on, giddy-up. SHE LAUGHS
0:24:57 > 0:24:59Why have I got someone guiding me and you haven't?
0:24:59 > 0:25:02- Cos he's got a mind of his own. - Oh, great, I got a nuts one, like.
0:25:02 > 0:25:04Like you.
0:25:08 > 0:25:09SHE IMITATES CLIP-CLOPS
0:25:09 > 0:25:11No. I don't know what you say.
0:25:11 > 0:25:14I don't know what you say to a horse.
0:25:14 > 0:25:16- Come on, come on.- Harder.
0:25:16 > 0:25:18Oh, no! Oh, oh, oh.
0:25:18 > 0:25:20THEY LAUGH
0:25:20 > 0:25:21Come on, come on!
0:25:23 > 0:25:25SHE LAUGHS Ow!
0:25:29 > 0:25:31That should have worked, shouldn't it?
0:25:31 > 0:25:33We should have raced, shouldn't we?
0:25:33 > 0:25:35They must get so bored of eating grass all day.
0:25:35 > 0:25:37- No, cos that's what they eat, isn't it?- Yeah, but...
0:25:37 > 0:25:39- It's not like they want a cooked breakfast.- Come on.
0:25:39 > 0:25:41- SHE CLICKS HER TONGUE - OK, go.
0:25:43 > 0:25:46Do you know...? Do you know horses, they love Polos?
0:25:46 > 0:25:48I was trying to make him go faster. Come on, guys.
0:25:48 > 0:25:51What did she say not to say? What was the word not to say?
0:25:51 > 0:25:54- "Gallop."- Gallop! Gallop! - Gallop. Come on!
0:25:54 > 0:25:56You're meant to be a stallion. Come on, like.
0:25:56 > 0:25:58Oh, oh, oh!
0:25:58 > 0:25:59Trot. Trot. Trot.
0:25:59 > 0:26:02What, what, what. Hey, hey. Hup!
0:26:02 > 0:26:05Oh, my fanny's killin'. SHE LAUGHS
0:26:05 > 0:26:07- Oh.- Good girl, good girl, good girl.
0:26:07 > 0:26:08Good girl, good girl.
0:26:08 > 0:26:09Oh, look.
0:26:09 > 0:26:11- Woohoo!- Come on, follow your brother.
0:26:11 > 0:26:14SHE PANTS Phew!
0:26:14 > 0:26:15'Well, that was hysterical.
0:26:15 > 0:26:18'I've got to be honest, I thought I could ride a horse until
0:26:18 > 0:26:19'I jumped on the crazy one.
0:26:19 > 0:26:22'Like, my horse was more interested in eating the grass.'
0:26:22 > 0:26:24You know, it just wouldn't move.
0:26:24 > 0:26:27And then, when I started going for it, I was like, "Oh, God. Titties.
0:26:27 > 0:26:28"Titties!"
0:26:28 > 0:26:31I should have wore a sports bra. I should have wore a sports bra.
0:26:31 > 0:26:33- Come on.- Yes, yes. Ah! Ah! SHE LAUGHS
0:26:35 > 0:26:37It was a good evening. Shame it was so short.
0:26:37 > 0:26:39It would have been nice to do some more.
0:26:39 > 0:26:41But, no, it was good fun.
0:26:41 > 0:26:43She's not as crazy as I thought, actually.
0:26:43 > 0:26:45SHE GRUNTS AND LAUGHS
0:26:45 > 0:26:47Oh! Oh! Oh!
0:26:47 > 0:26:49Will I see her again? Yes, I would.
0:26:50 > 0:26:54He seems like a really nice guy. He seems like a gent.
0:26:54 > 0:26:56I think if I go for a little drink with him now, then
0:26:56 > 0:26:58I'll get to know more of his personality.
0:27:01 > 0:27:03I've never done anything like that before.
0:27:03 > 0:27:05So let's be honest, like, you know,
0:27:05 > 0:27:08if we go on another date again in the future,
0:27:08 > 0:27:11with you - or with anyone else, I'm just saying -
0:27:11 > 0:27:14I don't think nothing can top that. That was cute.
0:27:14 > 0:27:16- Fair play, you did good.- Yeah?
0:27:16 > 0:27:18- Yeah, cheers.- Cheers. - Thank you. No problem.
0:27:18 > 0:27:20That's a date I'll remember. HE LAUGHS
0:27:35 > 0:27:40Whether you're looking for love, a fling, or just casual sex,
0:27:40 > 0:27:43online dating seems to have something for everyone.
0:27:47 > 0:27:50After four weeks of playing the online dating game,
0:27:50 > 0:27:53I'm now officially off the app.
0:27:53 > 0:27:56And to be honest, it's such a relief.
0:27:56 > 0:28:00It's a numbers game, and one that I found exhausting.
0:28:00 > 0:28:02The constant swiping and messaging
0:28:02 > 0:28:05meant that I was always on my phone, even more than normal.
0:28:05 > 0:28:07It was taking over my life.
0:28:07 > 0:28:11And anyway, I think I'm just an old-fashioned
0:28:11 > 0:28:12one guy kind of girl.
0:28:14 > 0:28:15I'm glad I tried it,
0:28:15 > 0:28:18because now I know it's not for me.
0:28:18 > 0:28:21So I'm just going to delete it now. Bye-bye,
0:28:21 > 0:28:23you dirty, little, slutty app.
0:28:25 > 0:28:28So I'm back hitting the town with my mates,
0:28:28 > 0:28:30looking for Mr Right the old school way.
0:28:30 > 0:28:32And if it happens, it happens.
0:28:32 > 0:28:34# So don't let this be our final song
0:28:35 > 0:28:37# So don't let this be our final song... #
0:28:37 > 0:28:39And will I see Ben again?
0:28:40 > 0:28:42We'll see.
0:28:42 > 0:28:44# Before you say the night is over
0:28:44 > 0:28:46# I want you to know
0:28:46 > 0:28:49# That we gotta, gotta carry on
0:28:49 > 0:28:52# So don't let this be our final song
0:28:54 > 0:28:56# Take us to a higher ground... #