0:00:02 > 0:00:04Finding love is hard at the best of times...
0:00:04 > 0:00:06I would love to settle down,
0:00:06 > 0:00:09but I'm not one of those people that needs to have a boyfriend.
0:00:09 > 0:00:11- You're a 21st-century women? - No, not at all!
0:00:11 > 0:00:14..but when you're young, single and religious,
0:00:14 > 0:00:17- it's a whole other ball game. - In the Koran,
0:00:17 > 0:00:21it actually, specifically states that men and women aren't even to be in the same room.
0:00:21 > 0:00:25If you could meet your ideal Jewish person, what would it be?
0:00:25 > 0:00:28- Full head of hair.- Excellent(!)
0:00:28 > 0:00:30There's pressure to get married,
0:00:30 > 0:00:34especially when you're the last one to be married and going to the last wedding.
0:00:34 > 0:00:37Tonight, we're following three Christians
0:00:37 > 0:00:40on their journey to find love.
0:00:40 > 0:00:43It's just saying, "OK, God, I'd like to meet somebody. I'll do my part".
0:00:43 > 0:00:48God has the ability to plop this man down from the sky,
0:00:48 > 0:00:52but I'm worried he might be really ugly!
0:00:52 > 0:00:55We find out what happens when you're looking for a wife...
0:00:55 > 0:00:59My mum's like, "Son, hurry up. I want some grandchildren".
0:00:59 > 0:01:01..but dating doesn't come easy.
0:01:01 > 0:01:03I'm a little bit apprehensive, a little bit anxious.
0:01:03 > 0:01:07It's been a long time since I've been on a date.
0:01:07 > 0:01:10And when you've been devastated by love once before...
0:01:10 > 0:01:12It broke my heart. It really did.
0:01:12 > 0:01:15..can you ever pick up the pieces and find happiness again?
0:01:15 > 0:01:18This potentially could be the person I've been waiting for.
0:01:18 > 0:01:20I've never felt like this.
0:01:20 > 0:01:22All right. Love you.
0:01:22 > 0:01:24Love you, too. I'm going to miss you.
0:01:24 > 0:01:28It still kind of feels, like, "OK, am I going to wake up in a minute?"
0:01:36 > 0:01:3927-year-old Katy is a born again Christian youth pastor
0:01:39 > 0:01:42from Manchester. She's been single
0:01:42 > 0:01:45since her engagement broke off five years ago.
0:01:45 > 0:01:48Lately, she's been hoping God will find her someone else.
0:01:48 > 0:01:51I used to be like, "No, I'm just going to wait.
0:01:51 > 0:01:54"I will wait until God finds me the right person".
0:01:54 > 0:01:55You know, "Boom, here's a guy!"
0:01:55 > 0:01:59I believe that God is the perfect matchmaker.
0:01:59 > 0:02:00Whether to be proactive
0:02:00 > 0:02:05or whether to just wait and see what God does is the difficulty.
0:02:05 > 0:02:08Katy's ex-fiance used to go to her church
0:02:08 > 0:02:12and she'd been hoping that's where she'd meet someone new.
0:02:12 > 0:02:15The problem is nearly everyone there's a member of her family.
0:02:15 > 0:02:18I've kind of realised I've got to go out
0:02:18 > 0:02:22and work together with him and say, "OK, God, where is this guy?"
0:02:22 > 0:02:25Katy and her fiance broke up just before the wedding.
0:02:27 > 0:02:31It's taken her a long time to feel she's ready to meet someone else.
0:02:31 > 0:02:33It broke my heart. It really did.
0:02:33 > 0:02:37I mean, I struggled with it for a long time afterwards.
0:02:37 > 0:02:41We actually booked a reception and actually paid for a wedding dress.
0:02:41 > 0:02:44You just prepare yourself for everything that it involves
0:02:44 > 0:02:45and for that to be suddenly gone,
0:02:45 > 0:02:48that was quite hard to deal with, really.
0:02:48 > 0:02:52Erm, yeah, it was a real struggle at that time.
0:02:56 > 0:02:59Katy's now trying to put the past behind her.
0:02:59 > 0:03:01I know quite a few people who are single
0:03:01 > 0:03:05and really happy as a Christian.
0:03:05 > 0:03:09Just personally, I want to be married. I want to get married.
0:03:13 > 0:03:16Katy may be ready to find love again, but knowing where to find
0:03:16 > 0:03:20the Christian man of her dreams is not so easy.
0:03:20 > 0:03:22I do need to go out and find...
0:03:22 > 0:03:26Well, not go out and find, but go out and try and meet people.
0:03:26 > 0:03:30I, personally, wouldn't go to a pub to meet a guy,
0:03:30 > 0:03:33because, well, for one, I don't want to meet a guy that drinks.
0:03:34 > 0:03:38So, the types of places that I'd probably go
0:03:38 > 0:03:42are more places that I'd find godly, Christian guys.
0:03:45 > 0:03:47Lots of young Christians meet their partners at church
0:03:47 > 0:03:50and today, Katy's going to an evangelical church
0:03:50 > 0:03:53in nearby Sheffield with a massive congregation.
0:03:55 > 0:03:58Hopefully, it's going to have loads of young people.
0:03:58 > 0:04:00It'd be nice to meet quite a few people my own age.
0:04:00 > 0:04:03But when she does find her perfect match,
0:04:03 > 0:04:07it won't just be the two of them in the relationship.
0:04:07 > 0:04:12I think a husband should expect that Jesus would come first
0:04:12 > 0:04:14and that he would come second.
0:04:14 > 0:04:17That might be quite hard to understand for people
0:04:17 > 0:04:21because generally, we talk very much about falling in love
0:04:21 > 0:04:24and that person being our number one, but actually,
0:04:24 > 0:04:27if Jesus isn't number one, then ultimately,
0:04:27 > 0:04:32you're trying to put somebody else in place where he should be.
0:04:34 > 0:04:40CONGREGATION SING
0:04:45 > 0:04:49Hope City has a congregation of 2,000 and luckily for Katy,
0:04:49 > 0:04:51600 of them are under 30.
0:04:57 > 0:05:02CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
0:05:04 > 0:05:06You've got a good-sized church here, as well.
0:05:06 > 0:05:09You know people are going to be coming.
0:05:09 > 0:05:12- You're going to get opportunities to meet somebody.- Yeah.
0:05:12 > 0:05:16Because I only have a small church, I need to spread my wings a bit.
0:05:16 > 0:05:18This is what it says in Matthew seven -
0:05:18 > 0:05:23"Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find."
0:05:23 > 0:05:26So, have you spotted anyone in here this morning
0:05:26 > 0:05:28that we can hook you up with?
0:05:28 > 0:05:29I haven't really had a look.
0:05:29 > 0:05:32- I feel really bad. - What is wrong with you?!- I know!
0:05:32 > 0:05:34Because I was so focused like this.
0:05:34 > 0:05:37See, if you were a guy right now, you'd be very happy
0:05:37 > 0:05:41because there are how many great girls to choose from?
0:05:41 > 0:05:44- Us girls - limited choice. - You do have a few guys, though.
0:05:44 > 0:05:47We do and most of them are probably married for about six years
0:05:47 > 0:05:50cos they all got married at 21 round here.
0:05:50 > 0:05:53Yeah, that's the problem in churches. It's like, as soon as you hit an age,
0:05:53 > 0:05:56it's like, "You need to get married".
0:05:56 > 0:05:59There is more for your life...
0:05:59 > 0:06:01With so few single men at the church,
0:06:01 > 0:06:05Katy's trip to Sheffield hasn't been as successful as she'd hoped.
0:06:05 > 0:06:08You are not on the scrap heap. God has not forgotten about you.
0:06:08 > 0:06:10He is placing new dreams in your heart
0:06:10 > 0:06:13and you're going to be thinking, "Can I really do that?"
0:06:13 > 0:06:16And God says, "Course you can".
0:06:22 > 0:06:2627-year-old Richard from London became a Christian when he was 14.
0:06:26 > 0:06:32I stand before you today as a born again Christian, as a man that has a love and passion for God.
0:06:32 > 0:06:36As a born again Christian, Richard believes God speaks to him directly
0:06:36 > 0:06:41and he sees it as his mission to spread the word of God.
0:06:41 > 0:06:44I'd like to encourage you to get serious for God
0:06:44 > 0:06:46cos he's serious about you.
0:06:46 > 0:06:50When he's not flying around the world spreading the gospel,
0:06:50 > 0:06:52he's producing, directing and presenting
0:06:52 > 0:06:55his very own Christian TV show.
0:06:55 > 0:06:57What would you say to young men
0:06:57 > 0:07:00that are just trying to find their perfect partner in life?
0:07:00 > 0:07:04God is interested in creating power couples for the kingdom of God.
0:07:04 > 0:07:06CHEERING
0:07:06 > 0:07:08Although Richard would like to meet someone,
0:07:08 > 0:07:12he's been single for the last two years.
0:07:12 > 0:07:14I think Richard doesn't have a lady at the moment
0:07:14 > 0:07:16because he works crazy hours.
0:07:16 > 0:07:20Approaching a lady and trying to ask her out for a date,
0:07:20 > 0:07:23it doesn't come very natural to me, if I'm being very honest with you.
0:07:23 > 0:07:25I actually get very shy.
0:07:25 > 0:07:30I see Richard with a really caring person,
0:07:30 > 0:07:33really soft person, someone with a really good heart.
0:07:33 > 0:07:35The next relationship that I end up being with,
0:07:35 > 0:07:38I would certainly hope that's it's right.
0:07:38 > 0:07:41I really want it to be the right person for my life.
0:07:45 > 0:07:47I love her eyes.
0:07:47 > 0:07:52Today, after church, Richard's catching up with his family.
0:07:52 > 0:07:56We all have different characters and he's very, very caring.
0:07:56 > 0:07:58He's a gentleman.
0:07:58 > 0:08:02The kind of woman I see Richard with is, like, blonde hair.
0:08:02 > 0:08:04THEY LAUGH
0:08:04 > 0:08:06Not fake blonde. Real blonde.
0:08:07 > 0:08:10You know, Richard loves his fashion,
0:08:10 > 0:08:13so definitely a lady who looks good
0:08:13 > 0:08:18and I'm sure Richard will make sure she does, if she doesn't.
0:08:18 > 0:08:22Richard's only had one serious relationship in his whole life.
0:08:22 > 0:08:27But Richard's mum is keen to see him married as soon as possible.
0:08:46 > 0:08:50If Richard's going to keep his mum happy and find himself a wife,
0:08:50 > 0:08:52he needs to get out and about more.
0:08:54 > 0:08:58So, tonight, he's come to a Christian club night organised by his church.
0:09:00 > 0:09:03He's brought his good friend Anna along.
0:09:03 > 0:09:06Our families grew up together, so we grew up on the same estate.
0:09:06 > 0:09:09He was a lot cuter then.
0:09:09 > 0:09:11THEY LAUGH
0:09:11 > 0:09:14She's going to get in serious trouble, you know!
0:09:14 > 0:09:16It's great having people like Anna
0:09:16 > 0:09:19because Anna was saying to me today
0:09:19 > 0:09:22that I should spend more time hanging out,
0:09:22 > 0:09:27getting out of the office. You're stepping out of your comfort zone.
0:09:27 > 0:09:32Can we get a lemon and orange and I'll get a lemonade.
0:09:32 > 0:09:36MUSIC: "Ante Up" by MOP
0:09:42 > 0:09:44But it soon becomes clear
0:09:44 > 0:09:47the Christian club night is not quite what they imagined.
0:09:54 > 0:09:58And after less than half an hour, he bails.
0:09:58 > 0:10:00It's not really the environment, I guess,
0:10:00 > 0:10:02that I would find my life partner
0:10:02 > 0:10:04because I would not expect my life partner
0:10:04 > 0:10:08to dance around with other guys or her lady friends
0:10:08 > 0:10:12in a very sexual way because I certainly would not do that.
0:10:14 > 0:10:19The inappropriate way of dancing would be continuous gyrating moves
0:10:19 > 0:10:25in a... You know, a girl and a guy facing...
0:10:26 > 0:10:28..bum to chest.
0:10:28 > 0:10:31Oh, if you've got it, flaunt it. Not really!
0:10:31 > 0:10:33It's not cool to drink alcohol,
0:10:33 > 0:10:35but that's not really a Christian thing.
0:10:35 > 0:10:37I don't think it's cool.
0:10:37 > 0:10:40In your relationship, you should try not to kiss passionately
0:10:40 > 0:10:43because it naturally leads on to other things,
0:10:43 > 0:10:44if you're a good kisser.
0:10:44 > 0:10:46Even if you're a bad kisser!
0:10:51 > 0:10:55So, if you want to come round this way.
0:10:55 > 0:10:59Katy has made a vow not to have sex until she's married.
0:10:59 > 0:11:02OK, if we can bring it down a level, girls.
0:11:02 > 0:11:05As a youth pastor, she and her best friend Sarah teach workshops
0:11:05 > 0:11:07on the Christian views on sex.
0:11:07 > 0:11:12Christians can think sex is bad. That is totally wrong.
0:11:12 > 0:11:13Sex is a good thing.
0:11:13 > 0:11:16Sex was created by God to be enjoyed.
0:11:16 > 0:11:19But, that's within marriage.
0:11:19 > 0:11:22It's meant for commitment, it's meant for life.
0:11:22 > 0:11:25Sex in marriage is supposed to be amazing.
0:11:25 > 0:11:28- I don't know cos I'm single. - I'm married and it's great.
0:11:28 > 0:11:31I'm looking forward to that when I'm married, too.
0:11:31 > 0:11:34I can say to my husband, "I have waited for you".
0:11:34 > 0:11:37Hopefully, Katy won't have to wait too long.
0:11:37 > 0:11:40She's been looking online for a while and not had much luck.
0:11:42 > 0:11:45So, she's signed up for a Christian speed dating event in London
0:11:45 > 0:11:48where single, Christian men should be guaranteed.
0:11:51 > 0:11:55This is kind of something completely different
0:11:55 > 0:11:56that I would never normally do.
0:11:56 > 0:12:00But on the flip side, it's really exciting. Quite looking forward to it, really.
0:12:03 > 0:12:06At a speed dating event, it's all about first impressions
0:12:06 > 0:12:10and Katy's got to decide what's going to look good and godly.
0:12:10 > 0:12:14I wouldn't want to wear probably anything that's too short or too low.
0:12:14 > 0:12:17Wouldn't want to give him the wrong impression.
0:12:17 > 0:12:20I don't want him to think I'm a bit easy or anything like that.
0:12:20 > 0:12:25You love God, so I feel that the way I dress,
0:12:25 > 0:12:28is a way to show him that I love him.
0:12:28 > 0:12:33Godly outfit sorted, but Katy's got no idea what to expect tonight.
0:12:34 > 0:12:39I'm just hoping that conversation is easy and not like pulling teeth.
0:12:39 > 0:12:41That would be quite hard.
0:12:44 > 0:12:45Does this go?
0:12:45 > 0:12:48That is doing my head in.
0:12:51 > 0:12:54- Hello, I'm Ben.- And I'm Katy.
0:12:54 > 0:12:57I'd best write that down in case I forget.
0:12:57 > 0:12:59There are nearly half a million
0:12:59 > 0:13:03single evangelical Christians in the UK.
0:13:03 > 0:13:07But sadly, only ten available men have turned up.
0:13:07 > 0:13:10So, where have you come from? Cos you're not English.
0:13:10 > 0:13:13- Yes.- You ARE English? Were you born in England?
0:13:13 > 0:13:16No, no, I was born in Iran.
0:13:16 > 0:13:18Born in Iran. Oh, wow. OK.
0:13:18 > 0:13:20I study IT.
0:13:20 > 0:13:22Oh, OK.
0:13:22 > 0:13:27- If you have any problem with the computer...- I can come to you!
0:13:27 > 0:13:28It was nice to meet you.
0:13:28 > 0:13:30Very nice to meet you. Thank you.
0:13:30 > 0:13:35- Where is my pencil? - Oh, have you lost your pencil?
0:13:35 > 0:13:38We moved around a lot as kids cos my dad is a minister.
0:13:38 > 0:13:41Oh, seriously? My dad's a pastor.
0:13:41 > 0:13:44Kind of where I live is on the edge of countryside,
0:13:44 > 0:13:47- so I just love going walking, cycling.- That's nice.
0:13:47 > 0:13:52- So, you're quite active, then? You exercise quite a lot?- I try to!
0:13:52 > 0:13:56- Shall I catch you later? - Yeah, it was nice to meet you.
0:13:56 > 0:14:00I feel like I'm marking people. It's awful, isn't it?
0:14:02 > 0:14:04What's your name, sorry?
0:14:08 > 0:14:11- So, you prefer Dan to Daniel? - Yes, I do.
0:14:11 > 0:14:16So, Katy, let me ask you, if you could go anywhere in the world
0:14:16 > 0:14:19and you could do anything you wanted, what would you do?
0:14:19 > 0:14:23I'd love to live in California. That would be, like, a dream of mine.
0:14:23 > 0:14:26But I don't know what I'd do there.
0:14:26 > 0:14:29- I'd probably do the same job. - What is that?- A youth pastor.
0:14:32 > 0:14:34Voluntarily.
0:14:34 > 0:14:37- Nice to meet you. - It was nice to meet you, too.- Indeed.
0:14:38 > 0:14:42She's met a lot of men, but did any of them tick her boxes?
0:14:43 > 0:14:49I'm thinking I've met a lot of people that would make nice friends.
0:14:51 > 0:14:56I don't feel like I've met anybody that I would really consider as,
0:14:56 > 0:15:00"Ooh, Id like to find out more about that person, really".
0:15:00 > 0:15:01Which is a shame.
0:15:01 > 0:15:06Am I too fussy? Maybe I'm a bit fussy. I don't know.
0:15:11 > 0:15:16You've got to be attracted to them. I'm waiting for the whoosh.
0:15:16 > 0:15:19SHE MOUTHS
0:15:19 > 0:15:22Yeah, physical attraction is obviously very important,
0:15:22 > 0:15:25but isn't that the first sign, that it's the right person for you?
0:15:25 > 0:15:30She found me irresistible, and I thought she was OK.
0:15:30 > 0:15:32I'm not materialistic, but he could drive a car.
0:15:32 > 0:15:35That would be good, cos it's just practical, you know!
0:15:35 > 0:15:39I have such weird opinions on what attracts me...
0:15:39 > 0:15:44It's going to sound so cheesy, but it's usually someone's heart.
0:15:47 > 0:15:50Lorraine is a 27-year-old advertising exec,
0:15:50 > 0:15:51who belongs to a Seventh Day
0:15:51 > 0:15:54Adventist Church in Ilford, Essex.
0:15:54 > 0:15:56She's been single for three years.
0:15:56 > 0:16:00My church is mostly older folks,
0:16:00 > 0:16:04and mostly females.
0:16:04 > 0:16:06Yeah, not many guys.
0:16:06 > 0:16:09With eight women to every man in her church,
0:16:09 > 0:16:13Lorraine's finding it hard to find ANY man, let alone The One.
0:16:13 > 0:16:14There's a lack of, you know...
0:16:14 > 0:16:17- Eligible men.- Eligible men!
0:16:17 > 0:16:21Adam was just given Eve, just like that, she was there.
0:16:22 > 0:16:27God has the ability to plop this man down from the sky,
0:16:27 > 0:16:29but I'm worried he might be really ugly!
0:16:31 > 0:16:36He has to be a man of God and easy on the eye, but apart from that, Lorraine's not too fussy.
0:16:38 > 0:16:42There is a tick list, but not a lengthy, extensive one.
0:16:42 > 0:16:44You know, tall, dark and handsome.
0:16:44 > 0:16:48Given the lack of suitable men in her church, Lorraine needs to look
0:16:48 > 0:16:53further afield, so tonight she's going on a blind date with Richard.
0:16:53 > 0:16:59# Tonight's the kind of night where everything could change... #
0:16:59 > 0:17:02Pretty slick if I may say, you like that? Yeah? Pretty cool?
0:17:02 > 0:17:07# Where everything could change... #
0:17:07 > 0:17:10I'm a little bit apprehensive, a little bit anxious.
0:17:10 > 0:17:13It's been a long time since I've been on a date.
0:17:13 > 0:17:17I can't remember how long it's been, but it's been like, years, a long, long time.
0:17:17 > 0:17:19Richard's not sure what to wear.
0:17:19 > 0:17:24What IS that, is that a built-in scarf?!
0:17:24 > 0:17:26LAUGHTER
0:17:26 > 0:17:32- That is a built-in scarf! - You put it on and... - Maybe I'll have to see it on.
0:17:34 > 0:17:42- Hey!- Looks good, I like it. - Do you like it?- I do, very nice. Nice and cajz.
0:17:42 > 0:17:43Nice and cajz.
0:17:43 > 0:17:47Definitely smarten it up with one of the jackets.
0:17:47 > 0:17:49- A jacket?- Yep. Really good.
0:17:49 > 0:17:51Are you feeling the scarf now? Does it make more sense?
0:17:51 > 0:17:58- It does make sense. It sort of looks cool.- Looks kind of funky! - I'm warming to it.
0:17:58 > 0:18:02# Tonight's the kind of night where everything could change... #
0:18:02 > 0:18:05So, Richard's got his scarfy thing,
0:18:05 > 0:18:07and Lorraine's almost set to go as well.
0:18:07 > 0:18:10You don't have to work to impress them, is what I mean.
0:18:10 > 0:18:16- I feel stressed out, now. - Have low expectations!- Have none! - He can only pleasantly surprise you!
0:18:16 > 0:18:20- Are you going to let him talk? - I always let people talk.
0:18:20 > 0:18:22Yeah, right!
0:18:24 > 0:18:28I don't like going on first dates. At all. I hate them.
0:18:28 > 0:18:30My last first date...
0:18:30 > 0:18:35An interview - felt like I was being interviewed for like...
0:18:35 > 0:18:39wife. Your ovaries working? Tick!
0:18:39 > 0:18:42# Tonight's the kind of night where everything could change
0:18:46 > 0:18:51# Tonight's the kind of night where everything could change
0:18:51 > 0:18:53# Everything could change. #
0:18:54 > 0:18:55Lovely to meet you.
0:18:55 > 0:19:00- Great to see you. How are you?- I'm all right.
0:19:00 > 0:19:02Nice! How was your journey here? Was it OK?
0:19:02 > 0:19:09- I literally work across... I work in Soho...- No way!- Yeah.- Nice. Lucky you!- What about you?
0:19:09 > 0:19:12- I'm a TV presenter.- OK. - Yeah, TV chat shows and stuff...
0:19:13 > 0:19:17A lot of like, celebrities, from musicians and songwriters...
0:19:17 > 0:19:20As an entree, Richard serves up his CV.
0:19:20 > 0:19:22Funny story, right - so...
0:19:22 > 0:19:26- I guess for me, I was extremely ambitious in life at a young age... - OK.
0:19:26 > 0:19:28I just had this passion to become a TV presenter, right?
0:19:28 > 0:19:32- Yeah.- I just believe I'm here on this earth to make a difference
0:19:32 > 0:19:35- and I just launched a brand-new show called the Richard Kays show.- OK, yeah, you said.- And so...
0:19:35 > 0:19:38Are you hungry? Cos I'm starving!
0:19:38 > 0:19:41- You know what, I am actually hungry! - I'm going to keep it real!
0:19:41 > 0:19:44Thank you, that was really quick.
0:19:44 > 0:19:46That looks nice.
0:19:46 > 0:19:48Are you a bit of a shopper yourself?
0:19:48 > 0:19:51Yeah, I've got issues. I shop way too much.
0:19:51 > 0:19:56You sound like my kind of girl, man! It's weird, right - I absolutely love shopping.
0:19:56 > 0:20:00- That's not going to be good. We'd be broke!- Very true!
0:20:00 > 0:20:04She likes shopping, but does she have anything else Richard's looking for?
0:20:04 > 0:20:07So I have to ask you, can you cook?
0:20:07 > 0:20:11I'm not too bad. I don't big up myself too much, but I do like to cook.
0:20:11 > 0:20:16- Not too bad?- I'm good.- That sounds like, "Course I can cook!" - Why are you asking?!
0:20:16 > 0:20:20- I like to cook. Do you not cook?- I'm OK.
0:20:20 > 0:20:24A lot of people think I can't cook...
0:20:24 > 0:20:28- Have you poisoned anyone?- Sorry?!
0:20:28 > 0:20:31No, but my mum isn't favourable on my meals, neither is my family.
0:20:31 > 0:20:37Neither is my friends. No, I'm OK! I can cook a really good egg. I can make toast.
0:20:37 > 0:20:45- That's what you want your diet to be?- What's why I need a lady that can cook.- Yeah, you need a mum!
0:20:46 > 0:20:49I think that he's handsome. But I'm a bit more attracted
0:20:49 > 0:20:54to his personality than I'd say to him aesthetically...
0:20:54 > 0:20:55I just... Oh!
0:20:56 > 0:20:59Yes. That is the truth and I'm sticking to it.
0:20:59 > 0:21:01Course I would love to settle down,
0:21:01 > 0:21:04but I'm not one of those people that needs to have a boyfriend.
0:21:04 > 0:21:09- One of these 21st-century women? - No, not at all! Listen, I'll be in the kitchen,
0:21:09 > 0:21:12I'd do all that wifey stuff, but I have been told I come across
0:21:12 > 0:21:16like I don't need a man and that's why I haven't got one.
0:21:16 > 0:21:19I'm such a slow eater! Look...
0:21:19 > 0:21:24- You're practically done, look at me!- My mum's going to be so ashamed of me! I've just eaten fast.
0:21:24 > 0:21:25I'd better go.
0:21:25 > 0:21:30As their night draws to an end, is there any real spark between them?
0:21:30 > 0:21:34One of those first dates where you chat loads
0:21:34 > 0:21:37and it doesn't feel like, "Oh, what time is it now?"
0:21:37 > 0:21:39So no, it was nice.
0:21:39 > 0:21:43Can I see something happening beyond the date this evening?
0:21:43 > 0:21:46I thought that she was absolutely lovely.
0:21:46 > 0:21:48You know...
0:21:53 > 0:21:56I assume he thinks I'm a nice person,
0:21:56 > 0:22:00I think he's lovely too. In terms of romance, I'm not sure.
0:22:00 > 0:22:02I don't know, but I don't think there's a spark, necessarily.
0:22:02 > 0:22:07I spent a lot of time with her this evening and had a lovely time
0:22:07 > 0:22:10having a meal together and we had a lot of banter together.
0:22:10 > 0:22:15But in my heart and in my self, she's not what I'm looking for,
0:22:15 > 0:22:20she's just not that person, and that's OK,
0:22:20 > 0:22:22not everyone's for you.
0:22:27 > 0:22:30FAINT MUSIC
0:22:32 > 0:22:36# I'm going to stand with courage I won't be discouraged... #
0:22:36 > 0:22:39For the last three months, Katy has been juggling life as a youth worker
0:22:39 > 0:22:43and Christian dance teacher with her search to find love again.
0:22:44 > 0:22:47OK, so... Get my hair out of my face!
0:22:47 > 0:22:49So, we shall go from here to link it all together.
0:22:49 > 0:22:52# I'm gonna let it shine Little light of mine... #
0:22:52 > 0:22:57When I dance, it's not just like, "Oh, I'm dancing", but actually it's a form of worship as well.
0:22:57 > 0:22:59# If He did it for me Then He'll do it for you
0:22:59 > 0:23:02# He's knocking on the door so what you gonna do?
0:23:02 > 0:23:04# This little light of mine... #
0:23:04 > 0:23:10Recently, she's booked a week off work so she can spend more time looking for someone.
0:23:11 > 0:23:15And she's heading to the Christian Creation Festival in Cornwall.
0:23:15 > 0:23:18DANCE MUSIC PLAYS
0:23:25 > 0:23:31With 20,000 Christians all in one place, she should have a better chance of finding someone.
0:23:36 > 0:23:38CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
0:23:38 > 0:23:42I know you are going through hard times.
0:23:42 > 0:23:46God knows you're going through some hard times, but listen - God's got a plan.
0:23:49 > 0:23:55If you put your hope in Jesus, that can be a firm and secure hope.
0:23:55 > 0:24:00# And every day, you wash my shame away, oh... #
0:24:00 > 0:24:02Just when everybody's worshipping,
0:24:02 > 0:24:06it's just an amazing feeling, to be honest, because you're all
0:24:06 > 0:24:09completely passionate for God, all completely going for it.
0:24:09 > 0:24:12# You wash my shame away, oh
0:24:12 > 0:24:15MUSIC DROWNS LYRICS
0:24:21 > 0:24:27As well as energetic worship, Katy's had time to think about the kind of man she'd like to meet.
0:24:27 > 0:24:31One of the dreams she's always had is that he'd love kids and would come from America.
0:24:33 > 0:24:39I've just found out 70 American volunteers, quite exciting.
0:24:40 > 0:24:43That's if I get a chance to chat to them,
0:24:43 > 0:24:46cos they'll be busy if they're volunteers.
0:24:50 > 0:24:53Brilliant! Right, OK.
0:24:53 > 0:24:55Later that day, Katy's having lunch in one of the tents
0:24:55 > 0:25:00and who should happen to be there, but the American volunteers.
0:25:00 > 0:25:02Oh, right - OK.
0:25:02 > 0:25:06One in particular catches her eye - Jake.
0:25:06 > 0:25:07Did you say you came from...
0:25:10 > 0:25:12Rancho Cucamonga.
0:25:13 > 0:25:15So still from California?
0:25:17 > 0:25:19Why do I live in Manchester?!
0:25:20 > 0:25:23It's quite nice, though. It's just... Yeah.
0:25:23 > 0:25:28Just...England, though, isn't it? Not as exciting as hot weather in California.
0:25:32 > 0:25:35I had a really good conversation with a guy named Jake.
0:25:35 > 0:25:39who's also a youth pastor, really into kids' work,
0:25:39 > 0:25:42and stuff like that, so that's pretty exciting,
0:25:42 > 0:25:47because, well, we've got similar interests and things. So...
0:25:47 > 0:25:52Yeah. I'm really looking forward to tomorrow. Can't wait. It's going to be great.
0:25:55 > 0:25:58Richard's given himself a year to find a partner
0:25:58 > 0:26:01and if he's going to walk down the aisle soon, he needs to get a move on.
0:26:02 > 0:26:08Today, he's come to the Dominion Theatre in Central London - but not to see a West End Show.
0:26:08 > 0:26:14This afternoon, the venue is hosting the biggest Evangelical Church in the UK.
0:26:14 > 0:26:17One of the things I like about the church is that it's very young,
0:26:17 > 0:26:22- very trendy, lot of girls round here.- Amen!- Amen to that, thank you very much!
0:26:22 > 0:26:25ROCK MUSIC
0:26:27 > 0:26:33Each Sunday, 6,000 young Christians come to Hillsong Church at the Dominion Theatre.
0:26:33 > 0:26:37Lots of them are hoping they might meet The One.
0:26:44 > 0:26:46MUSIC ENDS, WHOOPING
0:26:48 > 0:26:52- Afternoon, everybody. - Good afternoon!- We all OK?
0:26:52 > 0:26:56Why don't you turn around and say hi to somebody...
0:26:56 > 0:27:02Just moments into the service and Richard's struck lucky. He sat next to a girl who is just his type.
0:27:02 > 0:27:05It seems that God is working on your behalf.
0:27:05 > 0:27:11Before long, Richard unleashes his best opening line.
0:27:11 > 0:27:13Hm? Yeah.
0:27:13 > 0:27:16Is there still going to be a God in two months' time? Two years?
0:27:16 > 0:27:18SERVICE CONTINUES
0:27:25 > 0:27:27- Have a nice week. - Thank you very much.
0:27:27 > 0:27:30By the end of the service, he's got her number.
0:27:30 > 0:27:33We ended up exchanging numbers, which is really cool.
0:27:33 > 0:27:38I didn't expect that to happen. Kind of see what happens, hey?
0:27:41 > 0:27:4424 hours after Richard met the girl in church,
0:27:44 > 0:27:46he takes the plunge and texts her.
0:27:46 > 0:27:50It would be...great to see you again?
0:27:50 > 0:27:54Or...it would be lovely to see you again?
0:27:54 > 0:27:55Be great to see you again...
0:27:55 > 0:28:01He's keen to get a date with her and he doesn't want to mess it up.
0:28:01 > 0:28:03This is kind of out of my realm,
0:28:03 > 0:28:07this not something I'm used to doing on a regular basis.
0:28:07 > 0:28:11Great to see you again... No, I want to change that.
0:28:11 > 0:28:13It would be lovely to see you again...
0:28:13 > 0:28:17I'm trying not think about her too much, because I don't want to
0:28:17 > 0:28:20take it too seriously. It's been a long time since I've been
0:28:20 > 0:28:24in this situation and deep down, I guess I don't want to get hurt.
0:28:24 > 0:28:26It would be lovely to see you again.
0:28:26 > 0:28:30By the way, this is my number. Looking forward to hearing from you soon.
0:28:30 > 0:28:34Richard Kays - with a little smiley face!
0:28:37 > 0:28:42It's gone - it's sent. Oh, my days! I feel a bit nervous.
0:28:42 > 0:28:48I don't know whether she's going to text me back.
0:28:48 > 0:28:50Now, he's got to wait.
0:28:54 > 0:28:57- PHONE CHIRPS - 24 hours later...
0:28:57 > 0:29:02Hey, Richard! Thanks for your message. Good to meet you. How was your day?
0:29:02 > 0:29:06Now we're talking, now we're kinda... We're kinda getting somewhere!
0:29:06 > 0:29:11ROCK MUSIC
0:29:13 > 0:29:17INDISTINCT LYRICS
0:29:22 > 0:29:24At the Christian Creation Festival,
0:29:24 > 0:29:29Katy's got one thing on her mind - stepping things up with Jake.
0:29:30 > 0:29:35- Hello! You all right?- Yeah, how are you?- Good. This is the last one?
0:29:38 > 0:29:41'Normally, I would not make the first move.
0:29:41 > 0:29:45'I wouldn't even think of going up to a guy and chatting to him.
0:29:45 > 0:29:47'I'd wait for him to come and chat to me.'
0:29:47 > 0:29:50# King Jesus, you are victorious
0:29:50 > 0:29:52# You are... #
0:29:52 > 0:29:56'I decided that this week, OK, I'd put myself out there a bit.'
0:29:56 > 0:30:01# King Jesus, you are victorious
0:30:01 > 0:30:06# You are King Jesus, you are victorious. #
0:30:06 > 0:30:07WHOOPING
0:30:14 > 0:30:16You were like, "Oh, no - I can't dance"
0:30:16 > 0:30:18and I was like... You can actually dance!
0:30:18 > 0:30:20That was quite impressive.
0:30:20 > 0:30:24Jake ticks so many of her boxes, even the dancing one,
0:30:24 > 0:30:26but the evening is drawing to a close.
0:30:30 > 0:30:34And, despite everything going on around them, they just don't notice.
0:30:44 > 0:30:47They've got Christians in the group.
0:30:47 > 0:30:48Oh, really?
0:30:48 > 0:30:52- Have you got to go soon? - I think we're having a meeting.
0:30:52 > 0:30:56Oh, are you having a meeting?
0:30:56 > 0:30:59Yeah, but you're a blessing, it's been awesome to meet you.
0:30:59 > 0:31:02Oh, yeah, it's been lovely to meet you, as well.
0:31:03 > 0:31:06'The last thing I would have expected to meet would be'
0:31:06 > 0:31:09an American, Californian Christian.
0:31:09 > 0:31:12Cos that's just amazing, really.
0:31:16 > 0:31:18It was great to meet you.
0:31:18 > 0:31:22After five days at the festival, Katy has to leave.
0:31:22 > 0:31:26Jake is only in the UK for another seven days,
0:31:26 > 0:31:29and she has no idea how he really feels about her.
0:31:32 > 0:31:34'I think she's beautiful,'
0:31:34 > 0:31:38inside and out, everything about her was awesome.
0:31:40 > 0:31:45I guess it really blessed me a lot to see that she's the real deal,
0:31:45 > 0:31:50so she's, yeah, just beautiful, in every way.
0:32:00 > 0:32:04- Hi, how are you? - I'm good, how are you?
0:32:04 > 0:32:07Back home in Manchester, Katy goes straight over
0:32:07 > 0:32:10to her best friend Sarah's.
0:32:10 > 0:32:14- American, singer, dancer...- Yeah.
0:32:15 > 0:32:19Sarah got married two years ago when she was 23,
0:32:19 > 0:32:21and she's now expecting her first child.
0:32:21 > 0:32:25OK, so marry him, get him to move here and then get him
0:32:25 > 0:32:30to be your partner for, em...kids youth work.
0:32:30 > 0:32:34- We don't even know if he even likes me at this stage.- He will!
0:32:34 > 0:32:37- I don't know.- The only reason he would not like you
0:32:37 > 0:32:40- is if he's a complete moron. - No, he's actually a really nice guy.
0:32:40 > 0:32:43Jake is the first person Katy's had strong feelings for
0:32:43 > 0:32:46since breaking up with her fiance.
0:32:46 > 0:32:48Now she's got a big decision to make
0:32:48 > 0:32:53should she ask Jake for a date, or should she wait for him to ask her?
0:32:53 > 0:32:54Difficult situation, isn't it?
0:32:54 > 0:32:57Yeah, but at the end of the day, you'd rather
0:32:57 > 0:33:00a little bit of embarrassment and then turn around and say
0:33:00 > 0:33:04he doesn't like you than to always think, "What if?"
0:33:04 > 0:33:07"I never made the effort and I'll never know now."
0:33:07 > 0:33:10Yeah, if he doesn't like me then it's definitely not good,
0:33:10 > 0:33:13- so that's kind of the easy way out, in one sense.- Yeah, it is.
0:33:13 > 0:33:15Oh, you got an American guy!
0:33:15 > 0:33:18Well, I haven't got an American guy.
0:33:18 > 0:33:21I like an American guy, there's a bit of a difference.
0:33:21 > 0:33:22It's still quite nice.
0:33:27 > 0:33:29I think we should be active, we shouldn't be passive,
0:33:29 > 0:33:31that's important - why not?
0:33:31 > 0:33:34If God put in your heart to find a wife, you should be looking,
0:33:34 > 0:33:37but at the same time not rushing.
0:33:37 > 0:33:39I don't really want to be chasing anyone,
0:33:39 > 0:33:43cos it just seems a little bit desperate.
0:33:43 > 0:33:47You can't just hide yourself under a rock and say, "OK, God, find me someone."
0:33:47 > 0:33:51How is he going to let you know that perhaps that is the right one
0:33:51 > 0:33:53if your head's stuck in the Bible?
0:33:53 > 0:33:56Not that you shouldn't read the Bible at the same time.
0:34:01 > 0:34:05Over the last few weeks, Richard's been texting the girl from church.
0:34:05 > 0:34:09Problem is, he's struggling to pin her down for a date.
0:34:12 > 0:34:13I think I need to be a bit more clear,
0:34:13 > 0:34:16I want to meet up with you, text messaging is great,
0:34:16 > 0:34:21it's been fantastic for now, but, hey, are you available?
0:34:21 > 0:34:25Can we hook up? Can we eventually get like a date out of this?
0:34:28 > 0:34:33After six weeks and 42 texts, Richard has almost got the date.
0:34:33 > 0:34:36Hey, it's been a while, you know.
0:34:36 > 0:34:40It's been such a long time I feel I've got cobwebs all over me.
0:34:40 > 0:34:43I've not had a relationship in a long time.
0:34:43 > 0:34:46It's gone, done and dusted.
0:34:52 > 0:34:55In Manchester, Katy's given God a nudge
0:34:55 > 0:34:58and she's been in touch with Jake.
0:34:58 > 0:35:04I'm just about to look on Facebook to see if Jake has got back to me.
0:35:04 > 0:35:08I know he's been online, which is even worse,
0:35:08 > 0:35:11because then you know somebody's been online and that
0:35:11 > 0:35:13they've had the opportunity to get back to you,
0:35:13 > 0:35:18but if they haven't, that's kind of like, "Oh, right, that's embarrassing!"
0:35:18 > 0:35:24But, will he want to go on a date with her before he flies back to the States?
0:35:24 > 0:35:26Oh, he has got back to me, yay!
0:35:26 > 0:35:29The question is, what has he got back to me saying?
0:35:42 > 0:35:45Oh, that's brilliant! Yay!
0:35:45 > 0:35:49Right, OK, I'm actually really, really relieved,
0:35:49 > 0:35:52cos I was like, "Oh, no, what if he doesn't want to hang out?
0:35:52 > 0:35:55"That's going to be so incredibly embarrassing."
0:35:55 > 0:35:57But no, he's OK, so...
0:35:57 > 0:36:01Get to know each other a bit better, I think that'll be really nice.
0:36:01 > 0:36:04So, yeah, I'm looking forward to it.
0:36:12 > 0:36:15I was just wondering if we're still on for today
0:36:15 > 0:36:17and where you might like us to meet.
0:36:17 > 0:36:20Look forward to seeing you soon, hopefully, take care and God bless.
0:36:20 > 0:36:24- Was that all right? - Yeah, that was good.
0:36:24 > 0:36:26I got nervous, I was like, "Ooh..."
0:36:27 > 0:36:30Richard's ready to meet the girl from church.
0:36:30 > 0:36:35He is meant to see her at five, but she still hasn't confirmed where.
0:36:35 > 0:36:36If she doesn't turn up today,
0:36:36 > 0:36:39I think you're going to have to just...forget her.
0:36:39 > 0:36:42- That sound really harsh... - No, you're right.
0:36:42 > 0:36:45Richard's workmate Zoe is around for a bit of support while he waits.
0:36:45 > 0:36:48It's really strange for the first time in my life
0:36:48 > 0:36:52being in a situation where I'm not in control, it's so weird.
0:36:52 > 0:36:55It's good that you just can't make a wife happen.
0:36:55 > 0:36:57Yeah, it ain't business, is it?
0:36:57 > 0:36:59How long do we wait?
0:36:59 > 0:37:02Um...give it half an hour?
0:37:09 > 0:37:11We're getting close, three minutes to go.
0:37:11 > 0:37:14- She still hasn't called. - She still has not called.
0:37:22 > 0:37:26Once it hits six o'clock, that's definitely done and dusted.
0:37:26 > 0:37:29- Yeah, you can't keep waiting all night.- No way.
0:37:39 > 0:37:43I've never been stood up and my whole entire life, never ever.
0:37:43 > 0:37:45Oh dear.
0:37:45 > 0:37:47Never ever been stood up before.
0:37:52 > 0:37:55Richard tries to put on a brave face.
0:37:55 > 0:37:59This might seem like a negative, but really and truly this is
0:37:59 > 0:38:02an amazing positive, because it says she wasn't right for me,
0:38:02 > 0:38:05but there's someone out there that's right for me,
0:38:05 > 0:38:09and that can only be, you know, amazing to embrace one day.
0:38:25 > 0:38:28Right, what kind of look do you want for your date?
0:38:28 > 0:38:30I don't know, I just want a normal look.
0:38:30 > 0:38:34- Casual?- Yeah, like me, but like I've made an effort, as me.
0:38:34 > 0:38:38I don't want to look like somebody else, but, yeah.
0:38:38 > 0:38:41It's the night before her date with Jake,
0:38:41 > 0:38:44and Katy's drafted in best friend Sarah to help choose what to wear.
0:38:44 > 0:38:47You've gone down a dress size.
0:38:47 > 0:38:51- Slimming jeans!- Nice bum.
0:38:51 > 0:38:54No, that's too baggy to go with that top...
0:38:54 > 0:38:59'I think it's amazing that I've met him in the first place, really.'
0:38:59 > 0:39:02I'm just looking forward to seeing him tomorrow,
0:39:02 > 0:39:07and hopefully there'll still be something there.
0:39:07 > 0:39:09I'm really excited.
0:39:14 > 0:39:17Have you thought about how you might feel when you meet him?
0:39:17 > 0:39:23I'm just thinking, "Just keep it normal and don't be weird."
0:39:23 > 0:39:26Katy's meeting Jake in York, and, as her car's broken down,
0:39:26 > 0:39:30she's having to take her sister and niece along, too.
0:39:31 > 0:39:33I'm so excited for Katy.
0:39:36 > 0:39:38It's Katy's first date in five years,
0:39:38 > 0:39:42and the first in a long time for Jake, too.
0:39:42 > 0:39:44I don't normally go on just dates.
0:39:44 > 0:39:46I'm really cautious, usually, about a lot of stuff,
0:39:46 > 0:39:48so this is kind of different for me.
0:39:48 > 0:39:51But I'm excited, though, because Katy seems rad.
0:39:51 > 0:39:54Let's see what happens.
0:39:54 > 0:39:58What I'm just going to say is, "Hey, Katy, what's up?"
0:39:58 > 0:39:59Something like that.
0:39:59 > 0:40:02You can tell I've been working on it for a while now.
0:40:02 > 0:40:04"Hey, Katy."
0:40:04 > 0:40:05Yeah, that's it.
0:40:05 > 0:40:09- Hiya.- How you doing? - I'm good, how are you?
0:40:09 > 0:40:13- Hiya.- Hi.- Nice to meet you. - It's great to meet you.
0:40:13 > 0:40:15This is Jake...
0:40:15 > 0:40:17After hanging out with Rachel and Chloe-May,
0:40:17 > 0:40:20Katy and Jake head off to spend some time alone.
0:40:27 > 0:40:30- What's that?- It's my bible.
0:40:30 > 0:40:34- Oh, right, is it? - Yeah. Kind of weird.
0:40:34 > 0:40:37It's not weird. Let's have a look.
0:40:37 > 0:40:41- It's not like my purse or anything. - I'll just have a look at your bible!
0:40:41 > 0:40:43Side Hug Records.
0:40:43 > 0:40:45A big thing with this side hug, isn't there?
0:40:45 > 0:40:48- Is that an American thing? - Yeah, it must be.
0:40:48 > 0:40:51Well, no, actually, I think it's a Christian thing, as well.
0:40:51 > 0:40:53Yes, there's this book,
0:40:53 > 0:40:58it's like the conservative Christian 'isms' or something like that,
0:40:58 > 0:41:02some book, and it's talking about the side hug and how it's like
0:41:02 > 0:41:06the full-frontal hug is a little inappropriate for some people.
0:41:06 > 0:41:08And you're like, that's good to know.
0:41:08 > 0:41:11- That looks good.- Thank you.
0:41:11 > 0:41:15Whoa, there's two.
0:41:15 > 0:41:17Want to pray?
0:41:17 > 0:41:20- Did you say you want to pray? - Yeah, do you want to?- Yeah, you can.
0:41:20 > 0:41:22- Cool.- I'm not going to.
0:41:22 > 0:41:24Heavenly Father, thank you for this day,
0:41:24 > 0:41:27thank you for Katy and that we get to be together...
0:41:27 > 0:41:30Since they last met, Jake has had a revelation about Katy.
0:41:32 > 0:41:35'On church on Sunday, in the middle of the message,'
0:41:35 > 0:41:37God put this burning thing on my heart.
0:41:37 > 0:41:39It wasn't like an audible voice,
0:41:39 > 0:41:43it was just in the middle of the message it was like I zoned out
0:41:43 > 0:41:46and then he put this love for her in my heart.
0:41:46 > 0:41:48- My hair looks awful right now. - It's fine.
0:41:48 > 0:41:50'I definitely didn't expect that,
0:41:50 > 0:41:54'especially since I've only known her for like five days.'
0:41:54 > 0:41:59It's like, this potentially could be the person I've been waiting for.
0:41:59 > 0:42:01God works in mysterious ways sometimes,
0:42:01 > 0:42:04and it'd be pretty mysterious, because I wasn't looking for it,
0:42:04 > 0:42:06for me to find somebody here.
0:42:06 > 0:42:08Back in California, there are lots of girls,
0:42:08 > 0:42:12but I've never felt like this about somebody, so, we'll see.
0:42:12 > 0:42:15Another word I don't use in America, 'proper'.
0:42:15 > 0:42:17That means, like, serious, like.
0:42:17 > 0:42:20But despite having such strong feelings, he plays it cool.
0:42:20 > 0:42:24Like legit? Do you say legit?
0:42:24 > 0:42:26Yeah, well, I wouldn't say it like that.
0:42:26 > 0:42:28Legit.
0:42:28 > 0:42:30'I hope she likes me, and sometimes I can't tell,
0:42:30 > 0:42:34'so I'm just going to keep praying about it,
0:42:34 > 0:42:36'but I feel like God's opened the door
0:42:36 > 0:42:38and it's a door I want to walk through.
0:42:38 > 0:42:40Is this the cheque here?
0:42:40 > 0:42:42I got it, don't worry about it.
0:42:42 > 0:42:46- Are you sure?- Yeah, I saved up for this trip all year.
0:42:46 > 0:42:47By the end of the date,
0:42:47 > 0:42:50they still haven't talked about their true feelings.
0:42:50 > 0:42:52Thank you.
0:42:54 > 0:42:56'It kind of feels to me like God's doing something
0:42:56 > 0:43:01'and that this is kind of a plan of God, kind of thing, unravelling.'
0:43:01 > 0:43:04It's really exciting, isn't it?
0:43:04 > 0:43:09I think he's really perfect for you, really. I can't believe it.
0:43:09 > 0:43:11Will you be on Facebook over the next couple of days?
0:43:11 > 0:43:14- Yeah, I'm going to try to get on John's computer.- All right, OK.
0:43:14 > 0:43:17- IN ENGLISH ACCENT: All right. - All right.
0:43:17 > 0:43:20- Awesome, cool. God bless you.- And you.
0:43:20 > 0:43:22And I shall see you soon.
0:43:24 > 0:43:30'He goes home next Monday, so he's not got very long left in the UK.'
0:43:30 > 0:43:34But he did tell Katy to come to Edinburgh if she can,
0:43:34 > 0:43:38which means he wants to see more of her before he goes.
0:43:38 > 0:43:41Edinburgh will be the last chance for them
0:43:41 > 0:43:45to tell each other how they feel before Jake goes home.
0:43:47 > 0:43:51Will he stand up to dad's scrutiny, do you think?
0:43:51 > 0:43:55- Dad, you'd love him. - It doesn't take much to stand up to your scrutiny.
0:43:55 > 0:43:59That night, Katy catches up with her mum and pastor dad.
0:43:59 > 0:44:01- Are his family Christians?- Yeah.
0:44:01 > 0:44:03- Yes, that's good.- Yeah, so...
0:44:03 > 0:44:08- You would really, really like him. - Would I?- He was lovely.
0:44:08 > 0:44:10You're blushing, Katy!
0:44:10 > 0:44:14There's one thing Katy hasn't found out about Jake, though.
0:44:14 > 0:44:17- No, she decided not to ask that question.- What question?
0:44:17 > 0:44:20The question Nana asked, "Does he drink?"
0:44:20 > 0:44:22Yeah, I didn't ask him.
0:44:22 > 0:44:24I didn't feel like it was appropriate,
0:44:24 > 0:44:27there wasn't really a time to ask,
0:44:27 > 0:44:31and I hadn't really put that at the front of my mind, to be honest, so...
0:44:31 > 0:44:34The important thing is that you believe it's God,
0:44:34 > 0:44:38and if it is God, then all these other things will fall into place.
0:44:45 > 0:44:48When Christians often talk about it's a God thing,
0:44:48 > 0:44:51that's kind of a way of explaining the unexplainable.
0:44:51 > 0:44:54I guess when it's easy, when it comes together easily
0:44:54 > 0:44:58and it works easily, then I think it's a God thing.
0:44:58 > 0:45:00I think...
0:45:00 > 0:45:04You just know, "OK, this is exactly what God wants me to."
0:45:04 > 0:45:08That was... that was pretty much how we were sure that
0:45:08 > 0:45:10marriage was right for us.
0:45:10 > 0:45:14I am questioning now, though... No, I'm completely joking!
0:45:14 > 0:45:17She's not really questioning it, she's just saying that.
0:45:17 > 0:45:19I used to ask for signs, you know,
0:45:19 > 0:45:22"God, make that cloud look like you if this man's meant to be,"
0:45:22 > 0:45:25and I don't think God works like that in my life.
0:45:25 > 0:45:27I remember a story about Cliff Richard,
0:45:27 > 0:45:29who's the ultimate Christian bachelor,
0:45:29 > 0:45:33and he told a story of so many women have come up to him
0:45:33 > 0:45:36throughout the years and said, "I've had a message
0:45:36 > 0:45:39"and God has told me that we're supposed to be together."
0:45:39 > 0:45:42And Cliff said, "Great, I'll just wait until he tells me."
0:45:45 > 0:45:49Born-again Christian Richard still hasn't found his perfect partner
0:45:49 > 0:45:51after four months of hunting high and low.
0:45:51 > 0:45:54Tonight, he's trying another blind date,
0:45:54 > 0:45:57and this time he's going all guns blazing.
0:45:57 > 0:46:01I want a bit of bling this evening, a bit of bling, I like my bling.
0:46:01 > 0:46:03Diamonds...
0:46:10 > 0:46:13Richard Kays is about to do dinner.
0:46:16 > 0:46:21Richard's date is 23-year-old Laura, a born-again Christian from Bath.
0:46:21 > 0:46:25Normally I'm one of these people that's last minute with outfits,
0:46:25 > 0:46:28but this time round I did have a good think about it.
0:46:28 > 0:46:31I spent probably a few hours lying awake at night
0:46:31 > 0:46:32thinking about what I should wear.
0:46:32 > 0:46:35She works for the church,
0:46:35 > 0:46:37and, like Richard, for a Christian media company.
0:46:37 > 0:46:41I suppose the best thing that could happen would be that we would
0:46:41 > 0:46:45get on really well, perhaps we could go on another date at another point.
0:46:45 > 0:46:49Maybe it could be a relationship, I don't know.
0:46:53 > 0:46:57Laura's only been single for the last three months.
0:46:57 > 0:47:00- Lovely to see you. - Lovely to see you.- Are you good?
0:47:00 > 0:47:03Yeah, I'm good, thanks, nice to meet you.
0:47:03 > 0:47:05I've just come up on the train, so...
0:47:05 > 0:47:08I'm liking the sparkly shirt.
0:47:08 > 0:47:12If I knew how bling you were I would have been cacking myself,
0:47:12 > 0:47:13Yeah, bruv.
0:47:13 > 0:47:17Oh, look! I used some gangster language, I said 'bruv'.
0:47:17 > 0:47:19These youngsters say the word 'sick',
0:47:19 > 0:47:22which basically means it was really, really good.
0:47:22 > 0:47:25So, if the food was nice tonight, "Man, that was sick."
0:47:25 > 0:47:26Sick, man.
0:47:26 > 0:47:29I use the word 'lush' quite a bit. I say lush.
0:47:29 > 0:47:31That's totally not ghetto.
0:47:31 > 0:47:35That's a word a 13-year-old schoolgirl uses,
0:47:35 > 0:47:36to describe her pony.
0:47:36 > 0:47:39This is lush.
0:47:39 > 0:47:41What words do you use?
0:47:41 > 0:47:45'Awesome', I use the word awesome all the time, I'm just really lame.
0:47:45 > 0:47:49That's such a Christian word, as well. "That is so awesome."
0:47:49 > 0:47:50"Such an awesome guy."
0:47:54 > 0:47:59I would describe Richard as just fun, really lovely,
0:47:59 > 0:48:03and just a really, really good guy.
0:48:03 > 0:48:05So, can you cook, are you a bit of a cook?
0:48:05 > 0:48:11Wait a minute, what's that question about?!
0:48:11 > 0:48:13Can I cook?!
0:48:13 > 0:48:15I can clean very well, as well.
0:48:17 > 0:48:18'I love her sense of humour,'
0:48:18 > 0:48:22there are parts about her sense of humour that are really silly, but I love it.
0:48:22 > 0:48:27It says to me that she doesn't take life too seriously, which is fantastic.
0:48:27 > 0:48:31So, what kind of things do you look for in a partner?
0:48:33 > 0:48:35Big questions, eh?
0:48:35 > 0:48:38- We're going there, we're going there.- Really?
0:48:39 > 0:48:43OK, what do I go for in a partner? Um...
0:48:43 > 0:48:46I don't really go for a type.
0:48:46 > 0:48:48In the past, I've dated people who are Christians,
0:48:48 > 0:48:51I've dated people who aren't Christians, and I've found
0:48:51 > 0:48:55that dating someone who's a Christian is a lot easier.
0:48:55 > 0:48:56What about you?
0:48:56 > 0:48:59Firing that question back at you, you are filing it at me.
0:48:59 > 0:49:03Yeah, someone I can just get along with, have fun with and stuff.
0:49:03 > 0:49:07Someone who doesn't take life way too seriously.
0:49:07 > 0:49:08Sounds cool, yeah.
0:49:08 > 0:49:12I think, often, Christians can get a bit serious about dating,
0:49:12 > 0:49:15like, 'The One', it has to be 'The One'.
0:49:15 > 0:49:19Actually, I think God uses you meeting and being in different
0:49:19 > 0:49:23relationships in a significant way to help you grow as a person.
0:49:23 > 0:49:26We got quite deep then, didn't we?
0:49:26 > 0:49:30- Shall we get deep again? - Let go deeper.
0:49:30 > 0:49:34'He's really fun and easy to chat to,'
0:49:34 > 0:49:39so, yeah, he's probably better than I thought he could be.
0:49:39 > 0:49:41Do I fancy her?
0:49:42 > 0:49:44Yes, II...
0:49:44 > 0:49:46I'm shy about those things,
0:49:46 > 0:49:49I ain't really gonna say outright that I fancied her.
0:49:49 > 0:49:51OK, what I'm basically trying to say
0:49:51 > 0:49:54is it would be really nice to go out on a second date.
0:49:54 > 0:49:57I probably did fancy her, or do fancy her.
0:49:57 > 0:49:59I said it, there it is, I said it!
0:49:59 > 0:50:01- Two, five, four, awesome.- Awesome.
0:50:01 > 0:50:03- Awesome, this has been amazing.- Yeah.
0:50:03 > 0:50:05- Take care, God bless.- You too.
0:50:05 > 0:50:08- Make sure you get home safe, OK? - Thank you, yeah, you too.
0:50:08 > 0:50:10- And I'll be in touch.- Bye!
0:50:17 > 0:50:20It was only 10 days ago that Katy met Jake
0:50:20 > 0:50:23and he's only in the country for another two days
0:50:23 > 0:50:26so there's hardly any time to work out how they feel.
0:50:29 > 0:50:33I just think, um... Cos just where I'm at is, like, I...
0:50:33 > 0:50:38I guess where I'm at the place of is...
0:50:39 > 0:50:43It's hard to say. I don't want to start crying cos I'm weird...
0:50:43 > 0:50:44THEY LAUGH
0:50:44 > 0:50:45Like...
0:50:47 > 0:50:49I'm horrible at talking... No, but...
0:50:49 > 0:50:53I just... I guess where I'm at is kind of like...
0:50:53 > 0:50:57After meeting you, I really don't want anybody else.
0:50:57 > 0:51:00You know, like I just like to be around you.
0:51:00 > 0:51:03Like...seriously, that's how it's been for me...
0:51:03 > 0:51:07So that's why I was like, "God, I think there's something really cool happening.
0:51:07 > 0:51:09"I think there's something really real."
0:51:09 > 0:51:14Kind of like, I'd just be happy being with you, you know? That's...
0:51:14 > 0:51:16what I wanted to say.
0:51:16 > 0:51:18My sister said it right.
0:51:18 > 0:51:21She said, "It's like God's hand picked you for me."
0:51:21 > 0:51:24- And that's kind of how I feel about you.- Cool.
0:51:27 > 0:51:31So are we on the same page? We can make it Facebook official?
0:51:31 > 0:51:34Yeah. THEY LAUGH
0:51:34 > 0:51:38- Nothing's real until it's on Facebook, is it?- Yeah.
0:51:38 > 0:51:41'I was just quite taken aback by the whole thing to be honest.'
0:51:41 > 0:51:45It still feels like, "OK, am I going to wake up in a minute?"
0:51:46 > 0:51:49I'm happy that we got the chance today to talk
0:51:49 > 0:51:53so I feel really relieved that she feels the same way, so...
0:51:53 > 0:51:54it's good.
0:51:54 > 0:51:59Jake has sent a relationship request on Facebook,
0:51:59 > 0:52:01so I'm going to confirm it.
0:52:03 > 0:52:07"You are now in a relationship with Jake." It's Facebook official!
0:52:07 > 0:52:09THEY LAUGH
0:52:12 > 0:52:15But a relationship for a Christian can come with its own rules.
0:52:15 > 0:52:20In all my relationships I've been in, I've actually held off.
0:52:20 > 0:52:23So, I've actually never kissed anyone before.
0:52:23 > 0:52:28It was something that I felt like, "I want to have that just for my wife and her only."
0:52:28 > 0:52:33I'm hoping she'll be my wife and so we'll wait until
0:52:33 > 0:52:38the day of the wedding to kiss, so that's where it's at.
0:52:43 > 0:52:47"Wishing you a birthday fit for a princess."
0:52:47 > 0:52:51It's been a couple of days since Richard and Laura went out on a date
0:52:51 > 0:52:55Tomorrow's her birthday so Richard's dropping her a line.
0:52:55 > 0:52:57That's a gorgeous card...
0:52:57 > 0:53:00but it might be a little bit much coming from me.
0:53:00 > 0:53:03Just because we've only just had our first date together
0:53:03 > 0:53:05so it might be a little bit much for now.
0:53:05 > 0:53:09Richard still dreams of getting married as soon as possible,
0:53:09 > 0:53:10but he'll have to wait and see
0:53:10 > 0:53:14whether things develop between Laura and him.
0:53:14 > 0:53:17"Happy birthday to one special lady.
0:53:17 > 0:53:20"I look forward to seeing you again. From Richard Kays."
0:53:20 > 0:53:22And I put a little kiss there as well.
0:53:22 > 0:53:26I don't know whether she's Mrs Kays, I think time will tell...time will tell.
0:53:26 > 0:53:29I would never rush into a relationship,
0:53:29 > 0:53:31I would never go into a relationship having been on a first date.
0:53:32 > 0:53:34It's just so not Richard Kays, you know?
0:53:35 > 0:53:41For me, a relationship is a very important thing.
0:53:41 > 0:53:46You know, it's you meeting someone that you could potentially spend the rest of your life with.
0:53:46 > 0:53:50For me, it reaffirms the importance of waiting
0:53:50 > 0:53:54because if you don't wait, you could end up embracing anyone for life.
0:53:56 > 0:54:01Katy's heading to the airport to see Jake one last time.
0:54:01 > 0:54:04They've only known each other for two weeks
0:54:04 > 0:54:06and today he's flying back to California.
0:54:06 > 0:54:10She's certain she's found the right man for her.
0:54:11 > 0:54:14It's crazy, it really is crazy.
0:54:14 > 0:54:17But then at the same point, I feel like that's how I know it's right,
0:54:17 > 0:54:23cos with other guys, I've always felt like I've had to try and make myself feel something for them,
0:54:23 > 0:54:25at least at the beginning anyway.
0:54:25 > 0:54:28But with Jake, it's been really natural.
0:54:28 > 0:54:33It's completely different to anything that I've experienced...
0:54:33 > 0:54:36but then he's completely different to anyone I've ever met
0:54:36 > 0:54:38so it kind of makes sense.
0:54:47 > 0:54:49At the moment I'm like,
0:54:49 > 0:54:53"Oh, I don't even know if he wants to hold hands or anything."
0:54:57 > 0:55:02'I think it's special if you can wait till your wedding day,
0:55:02 > 0:55:05'which is really, really hard cos I do like kissing a lot!'
0:55:07 > 0:55:10- Thanks for coming all the way over here.- That's all right.
0:55:10 > 0:55:14They plan to meet in California in a couple of months.
0:55:14 > 0:55:19So when I come and visit you, we should go surfing and try it.
0:55:19 > 0:55:20We should!
0:55:22 > 0:55:27With Jake heading back to the States, their relationship will have to be long distance for now.
0:55:28 > 0:55:33- Anyway, I'll see you when I see you. - Yeah.- Facebook, Skype...
0:55:33 > 0:55:38Even if you don't have a camera we can chat cos it's free on Skype.
0:55:38 > 0:55:40Awesome!
0:55:40 > 0:55:44- All right, love you.- I love you, too. I'm going to miss you.
0:55:44 > 0:55:45- All right, see you.- See you.
0:55:45 > 0:55:48'Jake is everything I ever wanted in a guy.
0:55:48 > 0:55:52'and just to know that God knows me in that detail
0:55:53 > 0:55:58'and cares about me that much, is mindblowing really.'
0:55:58 > 0:56:02It's just a miracle, in all honesty.
0:56:02 > 0:56:05If you didn't believe in miracles, then here's one now.
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