0:00:02 > 0:00:05Finding love is hard at the best of times.
0:00:05 > 0:00:07I am a bit of an Asian Bridget Jones.
0:00:07 > 0:00:09I would like a Mr Darcy.
0:00:09 > 0:00:12But when you're young, single and religious,
0:00:12 > 0:00:14it's a whole other ball game.
0:00:14 > 0:00:16- No sex before marriage.- Oh!
0:00:16 > 0:00:19What would your ideal Jewish person be?
0:00:19 > 0:00:22- Full head of hair... - Excellent!
0:00:22 > 0:00:25I'm like, God, seriously, my loins.
0:00:25 > 0:00:27Tonight, we're following three Hindu singletons
0:00:27 > 0:00:29on their journey to find love.
0:00:29 > 0:00:31Want to find someone now.
0:00:31 > 0:00:33I've no idea where they're hiding, these Hindu girls.
0:00:33 > 0:00:37But should you put your love life in the hands of your mum and dad?
0:00:37 > 0:00:39You have to go and see him.
0:00:39 > 0:00:43I never, ever thought I'd tell my parents, "OK, I'm ready."
0:00:43 > 0:00:46Or do you follow your own heart to find the one?
0:00:46 > 0:00:49What's stopping things from getting too solid?
0:00:49 > 0:00:50I don't know.
0:00:50 > 0:00:54To be honest, that's something you'll have to ask him.
0:00:54 > 0:00:57- I worry for the girl, man, because I'm a- BLEEP.
0:00:57 > 0:01:00And if you're trying to find someone from your own faith...
0:01:00 > 0:01:02My mum wants me to find a nice Hindu girl.
0:01:02 > 0:01:04..what happens when you struggle to get a date?
0:01:04 > 0:01:08I just know I don't want to see him anymore, ever.
0:01:08 > 0:01:12And when the fear of being left on the shelf all becomes too much...
0:01:12 > 0:01:14According to my mum, I should be married with children.
0:01:14 > 0:01:18..do you take the biggest gamble of your life for love?
0:01:18 > 0:01:20Don't cry, don't cry.
0:01:20 > 0:01:23I think she's actually head over heels in love.
0:01:23 > 0:01:25I think she's the one, yeah.
0:01:31 > 0:01:36Social worker Jalpa lives with her parents in Middlesex.
0:01:36 > 0:01:39Mum, they were 50p, get over it.
0:01:39 > 0:01:42Like most 25-year-olds, Jalpa likes to let her hair down.
0:01:42 > 0:01:44SCREAMING
0:01:45 > 0:01:50But Jalpa also stays true to her traditional upbringing.
0:01:50 > 0:01:51I am Hindu.
0:01:51 > 0:01:55I'm a Swaminarayan, which is a branch of Hinduism.
0:01:55 > 0:01:58Jalpa's been single for over a year
0:01:58 > 0:02:02and when it comes to men, she usually goes for bad boys.
0:02:02 > 0:02:04She hasn't got the best track record,
0:02:04 > 0:02:06in terms of the kind of guys she's gone out with.
0:02:06 > 0:02:09Now she's decided to ask her dad for help,
0:02:09 > 0:02:13but can he do any better for his only daughter than she has?
0:02:13 > 0:02:15When I told him, he was ecstatic.
0:02:15 > 0:02:18He was so happy, he was just like, "Oh, really?!"
0:02:18 > 0:02:22We are looking, she's been interviewed by three, four guys.
0:02:22 > 0:02:23Interviewed!
0:02:23 > 0:02:25Yeah, it's like interviewing, isn't it?
0:02:25 > 0:02:27It is like an interviewing thing.
0:02:27 > 0:02:31I never, ever thought I'd tell my parents, "OK, Mum, I'm ready."
0:02:31 > 0:02:34We'll see what happens, you can never tell.
0:02:36 > 0:02:40I hate these texts and I hate being the first one to text.
0:02:40 > 0:02:43I don't mind responding to texts, saying, "Oh, yeah, hi..."
0:02:43 > 0:02:46Jalpa always wanted to be married by 26,
0:02:46 > 0:02:48but with her birthday only three months away,
0:02:48 > 0:02:52she's got Mum as well as Dad involved in the hunt,
0:02:52 > 0:02:53and Mum's given her a contact.
0:02:53 > 0:02:56- Did his mum give you the number? - Yeah.
0:03:02 > 0:03:04Sound like a bit of a sap.
0:03:04 > 0:03:06Mum, can you help me?
0:03:06 > 0:03:08What else do I write?
0:03:14 > 0:03:15Do they play a game?
0:03:15 > 0:03:18- If people reply straightaway are they desperate?- Yeah.
0:03:18 > 0:03:22- It's not a game, no, not really. - It is.
0:03:22 > 0:03:27What would be the perfect etiquette for texting like this?
0:03:27 > 0:03:32I would, maybe a few hours later, or if they work then after work.
0:03:32 > 0:03:35If he texted back straight away saying,
0:03:35 > 0:03:39- "Let's meet for coffee tomorrow," would you text back going, "Yeah, awesome"?- No.
0:03:47 > 0:03:49Oh, got a text.
0:03:49 > 0:03:51It's him.
0:03:51 > 0:03:55- That was quick! - I know, see? That was quick.
0:03:57 > 0:03:59Short and sweet...
0:04:02 > 0:04:05So, now he's hinting, isn't it, really?
0:04:05 > 0:04:06I'm not texting back straightaway.
0:04:06 > 0:04:08One minute! That is record!
0:04:10 > 0:04:12So now you think he's desperate.
0:04:12 > 0:04:15No! I don't think he's desperate!
0:04:16 > 0:04:20A little bit - he could have given it at least five minutes, you know?
0:04:20 > 0:04:21Yeah, but why?
0:04:21 > 0:04:24Maybe he thought it was rude to leave longer.
0:04:24 > 0:04:27One minute, Mum? That's like record.
0:04:33 > 0:04:36When it comes to Hindus, there's a number of options
0:04:36 > 0:04:38available for them to meet a partner.
0:04:38 > 0:04:40Uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters will say,
0:04:40 > 0:04:43"Oh, I know somebody, let me introduce you,
0:04:43 > 0:04:45"let's go to their house, they have somebody."
0:04:45 > 0:04:49Your mum will get a phone call to say there's XYZ boy, for example.
0:04:49 > 0:04:53She'll ask if she's tall, if she's too short put the phone down...
0:04:53 > 0:04:56They pass numbers between parents, grandparents, aunties...
0:04:56 > 0:04:58She'll ask, "Has she got a degree?"
0:04:58 > 0:04:59If she hasn't, put the phone down.
0:04:59 > 0:05:02They won't look at if that girl's suited or anything,
0:05:02 > 0:05:04it's up to you to decide.
0:05:04 > 0:05:07Does she cook round chapatis? She'll probably ask that.
0:05:07 > 0:05:09If she doesn't, put the phone down.
0:05:15 > 0:05:18Executive PA Hasmita is feeling the pressure to get married.
0:05:18 > 0:05:20She's been single for over a year
0:05:20 > 0:05:22and her mum's worried she'll end up on the shelf.
0:05:22 > 0:05:26According to my mum, I should be married with children by now.
0:05:26 > 0:05:29"You haven't got time to be messing around."
0:05:29 > 0:05:34I'm not messing around, I'm taking my time, cos this is a lifelong commitment.
0:05:34 > 0:05:38Hasmita's sister got married four years ago, so the pressure's now on Hasmita.
0:05:38 > 0:05:41She's OK, she's a very busy girl,
0:05:41 > 0:05:45but I don't know, Hasmita don't like any boy.
0:05:45 > 0:05:49It's not like I don't like any boy, I just haven't met the right boy.
0:05:49 > 0:05:52SHE SPEAKS GUJARATI
0:05:52 > 0:05:55You can't rush fruit to ripe.
0:05:55 > 0:05:57Yeah, take a long time.
0:05:57 > 0:06:02But now she's saying that if I'm a mango, I'm too ripe!
0:06:02 > 0:06:05Hasmita's been on lots of different dates,
0:06:05 > 0:06:09but she's never found anyone who ticks all her boxes.
0:06:09 > 0:06:12So many different things on this list.
0:06:12 > 0:06:16For a guy to fulfil every single one would just be crazy.
0:06:16 > 0:06:19- Ideally non-smoking... - He has to be tall...
0:06:19 > 0:06:21A funny and intelligent boy.
0:06:21 > 0:06:23Not someone who's completely teetotal,
0:06:23 > 0:06:25because that would be boring.
0:06:25 > 0:06:26But serious, as well.
0:06:26 > 0:06:29Someone who's, you know, who knows themselves,
0:06:29 > 0:06:31knows what they want out of life.
0:06:31 > 0:06:34And if that wasn't enough, she'd really like it
0:06:34 > 0:06:38if he originated from one particular village in India.
0:06:38 > 0:06:41For me, it's a big issue if a boy I'm looking for comes from Madhapar.
0:06:41 > 0:06:44That's where all my mum's family is.
0:06:44 > 0:06:48A lot of people keep saying the word "compromise" to me.
0:06:48 > 0:06:52I'm all up for compromising, but I'm not going to pretend to be something I'm not.
0:06:52 > 0:06:55What else won't you compromise on?
0:06:55 > 0:06:57Sharing my wardrobe space!
0:07:01 > 0:07:05If Hasmita's ever going to find a husband who measures up, she needs help.
0:07:05 > 0:07:09Today, she's seeing some traditional Hindu matchmakers,
0:07:09 > 0:07:11known as Aunties.
0:07:11 > 0:07:14To a certain extent, I want reassurance
0:07:14 > 0:07:17that I'm not overly fussy, as everyone keeps telling me.
0:07:17 > 0:07:21But it is just that I have a quest to find the right one.
0:07:21 > 0:07:23So let's see what happens.
0:07:26 > 0:07:28- Hi.- Hello, Auntie.- Hi.
0:07:30 > 0:07:33What are you looking for in a partner?
0:07:33 > 0:07:35And how can we help?
0:07:35 > 0:07:39Well, I have a list, and a lot of people think it's a bit far-fetched.
0:07:39 > 0:07:42The expectation is quite high for everyone.
0:07:42 > 0:07:44I want a prince.
0:07:44 > 0:07:47But, there's only a few about, unfortunately.
0:07:47 > 0:07:51I've met so many boys in so many different ways it's unbelievable.
0:07:51 > 0:07:53How old are you?
0:07:53 > 0:07:55I'm going to be 29 next month.
0:07:55 > 0:07:59A lot of people say, "Can't wait too long, you'll get too old
0:07:59 > 0:08:02"and the right boy for you will have married somebody else."
0:08:02 > 0:08:05I don't believe that at all.
0:08:05 > 0:08:06You do!?
0:08:17 > 0:08:19It's not wasting my life.
0:08:25 > 0:08:27Yeah, you need to find someone.
0:08:27 > 0:08:30Well you need to find me someone!
0:08:31 > 0:08:34Another Auntie telling me to hurry up.
0:08:34 > 0:08:39- Take care. We'll be in touch. - Thank you. Bye.
0:08:44 > 0:08:49For the last few weeks, Jalpa's dad has been trying to find a suitable husband for her.
0:08:49 > 0:08:52Has anyone else called?
0:09:01 > 0:09:03I have to go and see him?
0:09:08 > 0:09:11I know, but sometimes they don't text back, it's not my fault.
0:09:11 > 0:09:15And then I forget, and then I get confused.
0:09:15 > 0:09:19I have seen a few and they've been not that great, so now what?
0:09:19 > 0:09:22Do I have to keep on going, keep on going?
0:09:28 > 0:09:31But what if I did find myself, then?
0:09:34 > 0:09:37How many introductions are you prepared to go on?
0:09:37 > 0:09:39Well...
0:09:39 > 0:09:41Many? Calm down, Dad, I don't think many.
0:09:43 > 0:09:46I say max 10, if it doesn't work out
0:09:46 > 0:09:49then I'm living under your roof for the rest of my life.
0:09:54 > 0:09:57Within Hindu, you want someone Gujarati...
0:09:57 > 0:09:59Then you've got age, gets a bit smaller...
0:09:59 > 0:10:01..Someone from a certain village...
0:10:01 > 0:10:06..And you end up with about 50 people available to you in the entire United Kingdom.
0:10:10 > 0:10:14No, you don't put oil in first, roll the chapati.
0:10:14 > 0:10:17Student Amardeep lives in East London with his mum and dad,
0:10:17 > 0:10:20who are from the Sindhi region of what is now Pakistan.
0:10:20 > 0:10:23Wash your hands first, Amar, don't know where you've been.
0:10:28 > 0:10:30Amardeep's been single for over a year.
0:10:30 > 0:10:33Even though he's only 22, his mum feels now is the right time
0:10:33 > 0:10:38to start the search for his future bride - preferably a Hindu one.
0:10:38 > 0:10:41In life he has to be married, settled,
0:10:41 > 0:10:45and I thought this would be a right time to meet somebody.
0:10:45 > 0:10:47Gentle with it, darling.
0:10:47 > 0:10:51Amardeep's always dated non-Hindu girls.
0:10:51 > 0:10:56Now he's ready to unleash his charms on someone his mum would approve of.
0:11:00 > 0:11:03She's got to look good, first of all.
0:11:03 > 0:11:06And height's important, I don't really like short girls.
0:11:06 > 0:11:08She's got to be friendly, outgoing, can cook,
0:11:08 > 0:11:11And not clingy, I don't like clinginess
0:11:11 > 0:11:13Break it, don't move it, don't move it.
0:11:13 > 0:11:16So Mum's happy with any Indian.
0:11:16 > 0:11:19If I get married to someone that's not, then it creates barriers,
0:11:19 > 0:11:23the concept of different cultures, a different way of thinking.
0:11:23 > 0:11:24That's it, voila.
0:11:25 > 0:11:27BUZZING
0:11:27 > 0:11:30Amardeep's mum wants him to find a bride by 25.
0:11:30 > 0:11:34And he's got his own special plan to help get the girls - a tattoo.
0:11:34 > 0:11:37I suggest you keep it like that and then put it like that.
0:11:37 > 0:11:40- A bit smaller or you think that size? - I think that size is fine, man.
0:11:40 > 0:11:43'It's not a problem meeting girls, I can talk to different girls.
0:11:43 > 0:11:47'The fact of finding a Hindu girl, I'm finding it very hard.'
0:11:47 > 0:11:49- Are you squeamish? - Very squeamish.
0:11:49 > 0:11:53If I start crying I want it cut, I don't want no tears on national TV.
0:11:53 > 0:11:57But it appears that Amardeep is having second thoughts about his "love life".
0:11:57 > 0:12:00Tattoos, you've just got to go with it, man,
0:12:00 > 0:12:01you can't be too fussy about it.
0:12:01 > 0:12:03NEEDLE BUZZING
0:12:07 > 0:12:11Just the fact it's going to be there for the rest of my life.
0:12:11 > 0:12:12It's a good image.
0:12:12 > 0:12:16I need my first tattoo, I've been dying for a tattoo since I was 15.
0:12:16 > 0:12:19- BLEEP- it, let's just do it.
0:12:25 > 0:12:28Hold up, hold up, hold up, two-minute break.
0:12:28 > 0:12:29- It is painful, it's not like- BLEEP.
0:12:29 > 0:12:31Give me some tissue to put in my mouth.
0:12:31 > 0:12:36- Just grit your teeth and do it. - Have you got a mouthpiece or something?
0:12:41 > 0:12:43Perfect.
0:12:44 > 0:12:47I love life, just got to find a girl.
0:12:47 > 0:12:50You've just got to find a girl to love.
0:12:53 > 0:12:56Hasmita's spent the last five years searching for the one,
0:12:56 > 0:13:00and even the matchmakers haven't managed to find anyone who's right.
0:13:00 > 0:13:02But recently there's been a glimmer of hope.
0:13:02 > 0:13:07I'm going to e-mail him now, he was asking about my health,
0:13:07 > 0:13:09cos I had a cough the other day and was really tired.
0:13:09 > 0:13:13One of her aunts in India has been told about a Gujarati boy.
0:13:13 > 0:13:16Not only is he looking for a wife, but, amazingly,
0:13:16 > 0:13:21he comes from their village in India, and she's put them in touch.
0:13:21 > 0:13:23I was just asking him how was his day
0:13:23 > 0:13:26and let him know that I had a busy day at work.
0:13:26 > 0:13:30His name is Dipesh, and he seems to tick a lot of her boxes.
0:13:30 > 0:13:36But there is just one problem - he lives 4,000 miles away in Dubai.
0:13:36 > 0:13:40Originally I was like, "I'm not going to waste too much time speaking to him,"
0:13:40 > 0:13:43but then I was really impressed with how good his English is,
0:13:43 > 0:13:46cos I always thought his English is not going to be that great.
0:13:46 > 0:13:51I think if it wasn't for these, Google and Facebook,
0:13:51 > 0:13:55I wouldn't consider it, because it helps get to know someone.
0:13:55 > 0:13:58You pick up on the things that are important.
0:13:58 > 0:14:01I can see he has a lot of pictures of his nieces and nephews,
0:14:01 > 0:14:06and when I speak to him he sounds incredibly family-orientated.
0:14:06 > 0:14:08It just helps create a picture of someone,
0:14:08 > 0:14:10what their interests are and things.
0:14:13 > 0:14:17Today, Jalpa is going on her first ever traditional arranged date,
0:14:17 > 0:14:20with a boy called Viral.
0:14:20 > 0:14:23He was introduced by her mum's sister.
0:14:24 > 0:14:25- Hello.- Hi, Jalpa.
0:14:25 > 0:14:28- How are you?- Nice to meet you.
0:14:28 > 0:14:31'I'm just really anxious, because this is all done through family'
0:14:31 > 0:14:34and my mum's obviously told my aunts, my aunts told my cousins,
0:14:34 > 0:14:39so it's just a long chain, so now I've got text messages, "Are you excited about tonight?"
0:14:39 > 0:14:42And it's like, if it was a normal date it wouldn't be like that.
0:14:42 > 0:14:44'There is a little bit of pressure.'
0:14:44 > 0:14:47- Fancy grabbing a coffee or something?- Sure.
0:14:47 > 0:14:51'Basically, my mum gave me Jalpa's telephone number,
0:14:51 > 0:14:54'I gave her a call to see if she was interested in meeting up.'
0:14:54 > 0:14:57What I know about her is pretty much her name, um...
0:14:57 > 0:14:59'a bit about what she does, but not much detail.'
0:14:59 > 0:15:03- So, have you done this a few times? - A couple, but not like formally,
0:15:03 > 0:15:07as in they haven't been through my parents and stuff.
0:15:07 > 0:15:09- OK, just like friends and stuff. - Yeah.
0:15:09 > 0:15:12I think the good thing is no-one comes with expectations.
0:15:12 > 0:15:14Yeah, you can't, though, can you?
0:15:14 > 0:15:16That's what I have learned, as well,
0:15:16 > 0:15:20you can't just expect people to be how you want them to be.
0:15:20 > 0:15:23- To be fair, it would be ideal if you could just...- Yeah!
0:15:23 > 0:15:27- But I guess that's not the way it works.- Yeah, it would be very ideal.
0:15:27 > 0:15:29'He's a really sweet guy.'
0:15:29 > 0:15:31I wouldn't have been like that on a normal date.
0:15:31 > 0:15:34'All the stuff he was saying, it's like your whole CV,'
0:15:34 > 0:15:37but your personal CV, as well.
0:15:37 > 0:15:40What about this weekend, you doing anything?
0:15:40 > 0:15:43I've got nothing planned, just catching up with family and stuff.
0:15:43 > 0:15:46- Hopefully the weather's supposed to be good, this week.- Yeah?
0:15:46 > 0:15:48Yeah, apparently.
0:15:51 > 0:15:55- Do you want another drink, you OK? - I'm all right, to be fair.
0:15:55 > 0:15:56Good, good, good.
0:15:56 > 0:16:01- Do you want to make moves? - Yeah.- It's getting late.
0:16:01 > 0:16:04'It went all right, Jalpa's a nice person, good personality.
0:16:04 > 0:16:06'In terms of next steps,'
0:16:06 > 0:16:08see what she thinks and take it from there.
0:16:08 > 0:16:11'I know when I get home, "How did it go? Was he nice?'
0:16:11 > 0:16:15"Are you going to see him again?" Of course, that's the main question.
0:16:15 > 0:16:19I don't know, I guess I'll have to think about that on the way home.
0:16:19 > 0:16:22But he's really, really, really nice.
0:16:22 > 0:16:26But I don't know if he's my type, in the way that, um...
0:16:26 > 0:16:28I don't know, I don't know how to say it!
0:16:33 > 0:16:37Mum, come and have a look at the photos, Dipesh just sent photos of him.
0:16:37 > 0:16:40Hasmita and Dipesh have been talking for the last few months,
0:16:40 > 0:16:44and although they've never met, it's beginning to get serious.
0:16:44 > 0:16:46I said to him to send me a recent photo,
0:16:46 > 0:16:48so he sent me this cos he went shopping.
0:16:48 > 0:16:52Usually we end up speaking two, maybe three times a week,
0:16:52 > 0:16:55sometimes they're long conversations, I think the last conversation
0:16:55 > 0:16:57'was three hours long.'
0:16:57 > 0:16:59How's your project at work, is it still busy?
0:16:59 > 0:17:03'I like the sound of his voice, cos it's really deep and confident.'
0:17:03 > 0:17:05We're working on it for the last two years.
0:17:05 > 0:17:07'My mum has already spoken to him,'
0:17:07 > 0:17:14and within a minute she ended up asking him, "What are you two doing?"
0:17:14 > 0:17:17OK, I'll speak to you tomorrow then.
0:17:19 > 0:17:21Yeah, it was nice speaking to you.
0:17:21 > 0:17:24It was nice speaking to you, as well.
0:17:24 > 0:17:25'It feels natural, I think.
0:17:25 > 0:17:28'If it felt uncomfortable I wouldn't be calling him
0:17:28 > 0:17:30'and speaking to him as often as I do.'
0:17:30 > 0:17:33- Good night, bye.- Bye.
0:17:38 > 0:17:43In Walthamstow, Amardeep is getting ready for a night out.
0:17:44 > 0:17:46Look at that crease, there.
0:17:46 > 0:17:49Why didn't you take it to the dry-cleaner's?
0:17:49 > 0:17:52Why do you leave everything to the last minute?
0:17:52 > 0:17:56He's trying out his first ever Hindu singles night.
0:18:00 > 0:18:02- Are you nervous?- A little bit.
0:18:02 > 0:18:05It's for Hindus from all over London, as well,
0:18:05 > 0:18:07so there'll be Gujaratis, Punjabis, Tamils,
0:18:07 > 0:18:10there'll be like a big variety of Hindu girls.
0:18:10 > 0:18:12I'll be like stepping into a lion's den, man!
0:18:12 > 0:18:15I think it's a good experience for you, Amar,
0:18:15 > 0:18:20to see what it's like, the dating scene over here,
0:18:20 > 0:18:24to find you a nice partner.
0:18:24 > 0:18:26Someone who can iron, as well.
0:18:26 > 0:18:28SHE LAUGHS
0:18:31 > 0:18:34I've never dated a Hindu girl, or an Asian girl.
0:18:34 > 0:18:37It's so hard to find Hindu girls in London,
0:18:37 > 0:18:39cos you don't know if they're single or in a relationship.
0:18:39 > 0:18:42It's a perfect opportunity for me.
0:18:42 > 0:18:43With 25 single girls on tap,
0:18:43 > 0:18:47hopefully Amardeep will strike lucky with at least one of them.
0:18:47 > 0:18:51If she's ugly, obviously...
0:18:51 > 0:18:54Yeah, we can still talk if she's ugly,
0:18:54 > 0:18:57but if she wants to talk about food or something,
0:18:57 > 0:19:00if she's fat and wants to talk about food, I might talk about food.
0:19:00 > 0:19:01So, yeah, I'll just see.
0:19:01 > 0:19:04- Hi, I'm Sona, nice to meet you. - Amar, nice to meet you.
0:19:04 > 0:19:06Are you enjoying yourself?
0:19:06 > 0:19:08Yeah, I'm enjoying myself.
0:19:08 > 0:19:11- Really? Have you pulled any nice, beautiful women yet?- Not yet.
0:19:11 > 0:19:14- Do you know how to? - I might need some lessons.
0:19:14 > 0:19:16Have you got any fit brothers you can introduce me to?
0:19:16 > 0:19:20- I'm an only son, an only son. - All right, see you later.
0:19:20 > 0:19:22- I'm one-of-a-kind!- Cheque, please!
0:19:22 > 0:19:23He's a good character,
0:19:23 > 0:19:26I mean, he obviously knows how to banter, how to make a girl smile.
0:19:26 > 0:19:30- Are there any women here you think you can pull?- Maybe.
0:19:30 > 0:19:31Where? I can't see any.
0:19:31 > 0:19:35- I don't know.- Don't look at me!
0:19:35 > 0:19:38- What's your favourite food? - Indian, I'm Indian.
0:19:38 > 0:19:39Your favourite film?
0:19:39 > 0:19:42Can you give me something that's not boring? I'm bored. Next!
0:19:42 > 0:19:46- Come on, five seconds, five... - Whoa, whoa, whoa!
0:19:46 > 0:19:47..three, two...
0:19:47 > 0:19:49Let me ask how old you are first.
0:19:49 > 0:19:51Never ask a woman her age! Next!
0:19:51 > 0:19:54- That would clear up a lot of... - Laters.
0:19:54 > 0:19:57'He's just boyish, you just want to squeeze his cheeks'
0:19:57 > 0:19:59and just be like, "Aw, good little boy,
0:19:59 > 0:20:01"go and eat your samosas in the corner, like a good boy."
0:20:01 > 0:20:04'She was a bit too much like a rebel.'
0:20:04 > 0:20:08I just met her for three minutes and she was outpacing me in every joke.
0:20:08 > 0:20:11I think he'll make someone very happy one day.
0:20:11 > 0:20:13Just not me!
0:20:14 > 0:20:17Although Sona didn't fall for his charms,
0:20:17 > 0:20:20Amardeep did manage to get a couple of numbers.
0:20:20 > 0:20:23I've got a few contacts, a few Facebook adds.
0:20:23 > 0:20:25It went good and I wouldn't mind coming again.
0:20:25 > 0:20:30I'm going to get in contact with the girls and take it from there.
0:20:36 > 0:20:42Even though Hasmita's never even met Dipesh, she's made a big decision.
0:20:42 > 0:20:46She's planning to fly all the way to Dubai to find out if he's the one.
0:20:46 > 0:20:50She's come to talk it through with best friend Martina.
0:20:50 > 0:20:53Oh, my God! The only point of contact you've had is through Google Talk
0:20:53 > 0:20:57or e-mail or phone. You've never met him, you don't know what he's like...
0:20:57 > 0:21:01Yeah, but that's because he fits my list and everyone has told me
0:21:01 > 0:21:03my list is unrealistic.
0:21:03 > 0:21:05Is it because your family know him or...?
0:21:05 > 0:21:09Yeah, there's definitely comfort in the fact that my aunt knows him.
0:21:09 > 0:21:11OK, he's a random stranger to me, but to my family,
0:21:11 > 0:21:14he's not a random stranger and then the more I speak to him
0:21:14 > 0:21:17and get to know him, I'll know if he's compatible with me.
0:21:17 > 0:21:20Don't you think it's crazy, what you're doing? To go to Dubai?
0:21:20 > 0:21:23Are you going on your own or,
0:21:23 > 0:21:26like, to go out to some other country and meet some guy, like...
0:21:26 > 0:21:28You're scaring me!
0:21:28 > 0:21:30I'm not scaring you but I'm just saying, like, you know,
0:21:30 > 0:21:32it's kinda crazy.
0:21:32 > 0:21:35It sounds scary, it sounds unknown, but I guess, you know,
0:21:35 > 0:21:37you don't know until you're in it.
0:21:43 > 0:21:45So how was it last night?
0:21:45 > 0:21:46Four weeks into his search,
0:21:46 > 0:21:49Amardeep's best friend Dipesh has come round
0:21:49 > 0:21:50to see how his dating event went.
0:21:50 > 0:21:54It was good. I got a few numbers, I got a few names to add on Facebook.
0:21:54 > 0:21:56I was surprised to see a Sindhi there, first of all.
0:21:56 > 0:21:59- She was a Spanish Sindhi. - Didn't you get her number?
0:21:59 > 0:22:01I got her number and I got her Facebook as well.
0:22:01 > 0:22:04- What do you like about her? - She's Sindhi, first of all.- Mm.
0:22:04 > 0:22:07- She seemed quite friendly and nice. - How does she look?
0:22:07 > 0:22:11- I'll show you know. It should be. - It's definitely not that one.
0:22:11 > 0:22:13- No, that one's in Mumbai. - It's not a good start.
0:22:13 > 0:22:16She ain't got nice handwriting, that's for sure.
0:22:16 > 0:22:20- Try I, try I now.- Which? M? I. That's not even a name!
0:22:20 > 0:22:23- She didn't look like SpongeBob, did she!- Could be that one, you know.
0:22:23 > 0:22:27- Shall I add both of them?- They'll both be like, "Who's this weirdo?"
0:22:27 > 0:22:30Amardeep can't find the girl on Facebook, but luckily...
0:22:30 > 0:22:32- I got her number. - Why don't you give her a text?
0:22:32 > 0:22:36Yeah, I'll give her a text now. What shall I say?
0:22:37 > 0:22:42- Or is that too pushy?- That's a bit too pushy. Or you could say...
0:22:44 > 0:22:47- Is that what you called her? - No, cos she's Spanish, innit?
0:22:47 > 0:22:48Shall I start with...?
0:22:53 > 0:22:57- That sounds a bit weird, though! - It does! That's like stalking, bro!
0:22:57 > 0:23:01If someone had said that to you, what would you be like?
0:23:01 > 0:23:04- I'd be like, "Weirdo." - No. "Was nice to meet you yesterday."
0:23:05 > 0:23:10- Shall I put my name on the end, then? - Yeah, obviously put your name, it's a mark of respect.
0:23:12 > 0:23:13- Yeah.- Yeah? Send it?
0:23:15 > 0:23:19- Shall we do the other girl now? - Shall we do the other girl?- Next!
0:23:26 > 0:23:31- OK, open this, Mum. - What's that, girl?- Have a look.
0:23:32 > 0:23:36Hasmita's got a surprise for her mum.
0:23:36 > 0:23:38It's the news she's been praying for.
0:23:38 > 0:23:45- These are flight details of my flight to Dubai. I'm going on Monday!- Is it?
0:23:45 > 0:23:51- This Monday?- Yes.- Ah! You're surprise! Good luck.
0:23:51 > 0:23:55"Good luck," is that what your dad said to you
0:23:55 > 0:23:57when you went on the plane?
0:23:57 > 0:24:00As a teenager, Hasmita's mum was sent by her father from India
0:24:00 > 0:24:03to marry a man she had only ever seen a picture of.
0:24:27 > 0:24:32- Don't cry. Don't cry. Too early. - He was a good man, wasn't he?
0:24:32 > 0:24:34Yeah, he is a very good man.
0:24:40 > 0:24:42Ah, here she comes!
0:24:42 > 0:24:46Jalpa's friend Nishma is getting engaged and she's trying on her outfit.
0:24:46 > 0:24:48- D'you like it?- Yeah!
0:24:48 > 0:24:52- I don't know how to wear this. - How did your date go?
0:24:52 > 0:24:54It was good, it was...
0:24:54 > 0:24:58He was a nice guy, but you didn't think you could see yourself having a future with him.
0:24:58 > 0:24:59- No.- Why?
0:24:59 > 0:25:02I know it's going to sound really stupid
0:25:02 > 0:25:04and totally what you guys expect - he's not my type.
0:25:04 > 0:25:09We know her type! The type she's not supposed to go for.
0:25:09 > 0:25:11Something with a bit of edge.
0:25:11 > 0:25:14A rude boy, someone that's really rude to her.
0:25:14 > 0:25:18- Yeah, she's the kind of...- Someone that ignores her.- Ignore me! What?!
0:25:18 > 0:25:22The opposite of who her mum would choose for her, that's Jalpa's type.
0:25:22 > 0:25:25It was a good experience, you know, the whole "formal" thing.
0:25:25 > 0:25:30- Going to date these...weirdos, yeah! - Oh, they're not weird!
0:25:30 > 0:25:33How do you know they're weird until you see them?
0:25:33 > 0:25:36No, I guess they're just like you - eager to get married!
0:25:36 > 0:25:38You're weird anyway!
0:25:41 > 0:25:45Nishma is the first of Jalpa's close friends to get engaged.
0:25:48 > 0:25:49What was that?!
0:25:49 > 0:25:51It's exciting, dressing up nicely, putting on make-up
0:25:51 > 0:25:55and all that, it's really, really lovely, you know, you get that
0:25:55 > 0:25:59whole little buzz as well, and everyone wants to look nice.
0:25:59 > 0:26:05- I hate wearing saris! I really detest wearing saris!- So do I.
0:26:14 > 0:26:16When you see things like this happen, you do,
0:26:16 > 0:26:19you feel like you want to get married within your culture,
0:26:19 > 0:26:22you want to marry someone that follows the same religion as you.
0:26:22 > 0:26:24It makes you think, "When's that going to be me?"
0:26:24 > 0:26:26I really want to be up there with someone.
0:26:26 > 0:26:28It's warm milk.
0:26:28 > 0:26:32I don't know what it represents or why we're drinking it,
0:26:32 > 0:26:35it just smells really badly. Can you move?!
0:26:35 > 0:26:40- Why is everyone drinking milk? - Don't ask me! Don't ask me!
0:26:40 > 0:26:43So nobody knows, we're just drinking milk?
0:26:54 > 0:26:56You know how you get broody? This is like...
0:26:56 > 0:26:59I don't know the word for it, but that's exactly how that feeling works.
0:26:59 > 0:27:01You want to be up there.
0:27:01 > 0:27:06Yeah, I did, I really wish, like, you know, I want to find someone now.
0:27:13 > 0:27:15Which one shall I take?
0:27:19 > 0:27:22It's the night before Hasmita flies to Dubai...
0:27:22 > 0:27:24- This one?- Yeah, I'll take that.
0:27:25 > 0:27:29..and her mum has some last-minute relationship advice.
0:27:40 > 0:27:45- I'm a grown woman?- Yeah.- OK.
0:27:46 > 0:27:49Even though her mum has never met Dipesh,
0:27:49 > 0:27:52she would love Hasmita to come back engaged.
0:27:55 > 0:27:57I'm excited. I'm a little nervous.
0:27:57 > 0:28:01I'm not even going to think about all the things that come after it.
0:28:01 > 0:28:04Yeah, I have doubts coming into my head. This can go both ways.
0:28:04 > 0:28:07There's the perfect, fairy-tale ending
0:28:07 > 0:28:11and then there's the reality of, this girl has invested, you know,
0:28:11 > 0:28:15six months or more and, in the end, nothing's come of it.
0:28:15 > 0:28:18If it doesn't go well, I'll just have to pick myself up and carry on.
0:28:25 > 0:28:29I woke up at half two in the morning, having a bit of a reality check
0:28:29 > 0:28:32and a bit of a panic attack.
0:28:32 > 0:28:34I think I know what people mean by "cold feet" now,
0:28:34 > 0:28:37cos I was just like, "Am I really doing this?"
0:28:37 > 0:28:42You know? In a few hours, I'm going to be flying on my own,
0:28:42 > 0:28:45halfway across the world to meet a boy I've never met before.
0:28:45 > 0:28:47I must be crazy!
0:28:53 > 0:28:58- It's a long time, you and Dipesh are talking.- Not long, Mum, six months!
0:28:58 > 0:28:59Six months is long!
0:29:03 > 0:29:06- So you think he's ripe and ready to get married?- Yeah.
0:29:06 > 0:29:09I don't think I am.
0:29:17 > 0:29:19OK, all right, Mum.
0:29:20 > 0:29:23OK, yeah, bye!
0:29:25 > 0:29:28'I'm glad she's here to see me off cos I can't imagine'
0:29:28 > 0:29:33what it would have been like for her to have done it all those years ago.
0:29:33 > 0:29:37Cos hers was certain that she was going to marry that boy.
0:29:37 > 0:29:40For me, I can come back after two weeks and just say, "No, not for me."
0:29:42 > 0:29:43- Bye.- Bye!
0:30:05 > 0:30:08I'm starting to get a little scared which is not like me
0:30:08 > 0:30:10but at the same time,
0:30:10 > 0:30:14I've never done anything like this, so it takes a bit of Dutch courage.
0:30:14 > 0:30:17I don't know, do they serve that on this plane?
0:30:17 > 0:30:19This is it, we're landing now.
0:30:22 > 0:30:26What if he doesn't like me?
0:30:27 > 0:30:28Never thought about that.
0:30:39 > 0:30:43- Hi, how are you? - Good, thanks, how are you?
0:30:43 > 0:30:46- How was your flight? - Good, really nice.
0:30:48 > 0:30:51I was really nervous. What if he didn't like me?
0:30:51 > 0:30:54I think as soon as I saw him and he saw me,
0:30:54 > 0:30:58I felt confident that, OK, he's pleased, I'm pleased.
0:30:58 > 0:31:01Let's see what this adventure is going to be all about.
0:31:03 > 0:31:04'I think we were both trying to take it in,
0:31:04 > 0:31:07'the whole fact that we've been speaking for so long.'
0:31:07 > 0:31:12I saw the flowers he got me and I remembered we'd talked about flowers.
0:31:12 > 0:31:13It was really bizarre
0:31:13 > 0:31:15because I wasn't concerned about the flowers,
0:31:15 > 0:31:20I just wanted to keep looking at him at that time.
0:31:31 > 0:31:35Amardeep's heard that some other girls from the Hindu dating event
0:31:35 > 0:31:37have shown an interest.
0:31:37 > 0:31:38He's been quick to follow it up.
0:31:38 > 0:31:42I sent an e-mail out a few days ago.
0:31:42 > 0:31:44I got a reply back from one girl.
0:31:44 > 0:31:45She's a bit cheeky.
0:31:58 > 0:31:59I'm stuck now.
0:31:59 > 0:32:02I can't answer cos I can't remember what we talked about.
0:32:02 > 0:32:04I can't remember what she looks like.
0:32:04 > 0:32:06I'm going to send her a cheeky e-mail back.
0:32:06 > 0:32:08Hopefully, I can get away with it and get a date.
0:32:19 > 0:32:22She's being cheeky to me so I can be cheeky to her. She might like it.
0:32:30 > 0:32:32She wrote Toodle Noodles at the end of hers.
0:32:32 > 0:32:36In psychology, as well, it says if you imitate somebody's body language
0:32:36 > 0:32:40and their spoken language as well, it means you're attracted to them.
0:32:40 > 0:32:43If she's using Toodle Noodles and I'm using Toodle Noodles,
0:32:43 > 0:32:45you're imitating the behaviour.
0:32:47 > 0:32:51That's sent. She should respond to this.
0:33:02 > 0:33:07Jalpa's come into central London to meet her second introduction,
0:33:07 > 0:33:09the boy she's been texting.
0:33:09 > 0:33:12I'm just about to go and meet "Mr Essex".
0:33:12 > 0:33:15He doesn't want to be filmed, which is understandable,
0:33:15 > 0:33:18It's not for everyone. See you later.
0:33:19 > 0:33:24The pressures of going on a date with someone like this, it's pressurising.
0:33:24 > 0:33:26You know you're going with intention of,
0:33:26 > 0:33:29he could be the one that I'm going to get married to.
0:33:29 > 0:33:32That is the most pressurising thing.
0:33:32 > 0:33:34He could be the one you're getting married to.
0:33:38 > 0:33:39Later that evening...
0:33:39 > 0:33:42So what did you think overall?
0:33:42 > 0:33:44Overall?
0:33:44 > 0:33:47Is he your type or not your type?
0:33:47 > 0:33:50Why's this whole type thing coming into it?
0:33:50 > 0:33:51It is true, isn't it, really?
0:33:51 > 0:33:53He's OK, I get on with him and stuff.
0:33:53 > 0:33:54What does he do?
0:33:58 > 0:34:03He works in some kind of company. SHE LAUGHS
0:34:03 > 0:34:06Would you see him again, if he asked?
0:34:08 > 0:34:09I don't know. Maybe, maybe not.
0:34:09 > 0:34:12I really don't know, I need to think about it.
0:34:12 > 0:34:14I can't say from now.
0:34:14 > 0:34:16There just wasn't a spark.
0:34:16 > 0:34:20- There wasn't excitement. - They say it didn't click, basically.
0:34:20 > 0:34:25- It didn't click.- It didn't click, no, mother, it didn't click.
0:34:29 > 0:34:33Your parents fundamentally want you to be happy. That's what they do.
0:34:33 > 0:34:37They think that getting married is what will make you happy
0:34:37 > 0:34:38and they're trying to help you.
0:34:38 > 0:34:40There's definitely pressure to get married,
0:34:40 > 0:34:42especially when you're the last
0:34:42 > 0:34:44and going to your last friend's wedding.
0:34:44 > 0:34:46Mum's saying, "You'll get left behind,
0:34:46 > 0:34:49"getting older, friends are all getting married
0:34:49 > 0:34:52"and you're still single, you can't live a lonely life."
0:34:52 > 0:34:55If you give them the indication that it was nice,
0:34:55 > 0:34:57maybe we'll see each other again,
0:34:57 > 0:35:00then it's like, OK, this could actually happen.
0:35:02 > 0:35:06If you say, "no", you have to deal with the "why?"
0:35:11 > 0:35:13Right, we've got everything, let's go.
0:35:13 > 0:35:16After months of waiting, Hasmita and Dipesh
0:35:16 > 0:35:18are finally getting to know each other in person.
0:35:18 > 0:35:19Where you going?
0:35:19 > 0:35:22- Over here.- You're facing traffic.
0:35:24 > 0:35:27The fact that we were actually spending a lot of time together,
0:35:27 > 0:35:29I don't know, it brought us closer together.
0:35:33 > 0:35:38It was incredibly striking how fast that happened.
0:35:38 > 0:35:39How is it?
0:35:39 > 0:35:43- Are you liking it?- I like it, I think it's really nice.- Have it.
0:35:43 > 0:35:47I don't want you to buy me traditional gold.
0:35:49 > 0:35:51Make up your mind first.
0:35:51 > 0:35:53- Have you been shopping with women before?- No.
0:35:53 > 0:35:54Exactly.
0:35:58 > 0:36:01- This is nice. - Yes, it is nice.
0:36:01 > 0:36:02Really, it is.
0:36:02 > 0:36:07Now he's saying everything is nice. Great.
0:36:08 > 0:36:10We just fell into this old married couple
0:36:10 > 0:36:13as if we've been together 10 years.
0:36:13 > 0:36:15It's really bizarre.
0:36:17 > 0:36:19It's like you!
0:36:21 > 0:36:25Having spent the day seeing the sights of Dubai,
0:36:25 > 0:36:27the couple go on their first ever romantic date.
0:36:27 > 0:36:29- Cheers.- Cheers.
0:36:30 > 0:36:32What made you want to bring me here?
0:36:43 > 0:36:46Since we've been speaking, you've been waiting for this?
0:36:48 > 0:36:50Yeah?
0:36:50 > 0:36:51How does it feel now?
0:36:55 > 0:36:57There's just the two of us, so it's perfect.
0:36:57 > 0:37:00There's no mums and others getting the calendars out, marking dates.
0:37:00 > 0:37:02It's romantic, it's nice,
0:37:02 > 0:37:04I feel like I'm catching up with a friend
0:37:04 > 0:37:09but also, I'm meeting him for the first time so it's really strange.
0:37:09 > 0:37:10It's perfect.
0:37:10 > 0:37:13- Do you realise we're moving?- Yes.
0:37:13 > 0:37:17It's like a fairy tale. It's really nice. Thank you.
0:37:17 > 0:37:20I don't know, I just feel a connection and a bond.
0:37:24 > 0:37:27I do want to carry on looking into his eyes.
0:37:27 > 0:37:31Was there a point where you thought we have a good connection?
0:37:31 > 0:37:35- What do you think? We understand each other, or what?- Yes.
0:37:35 > 0:37:39We had really a nice time on this cruise.
0:37:39 > 0:37:44I never thought that the evening would be that much... It was great.
0:37:44 > 0:37:46Do you think she's the one?
0:37:47 > 0:37:51Yes, I think she is the one, yes.
0:37:53 > 0:37:57When we got home, we were really relaxed and then he was like,
0:37:57 > 0:38:00"Yes, we should go for it." Go for what?
0:38:00 > 0:38:02I was confused then as in what he meant.
0:38:02 > 0:38:05He's like, "Yes, we should go for it, we should get married."
0:38:05 > 0:38:06This was so unexpected.
0:38:06 > 0:38:10I didn't expect him to say that soon that we should get married.
0:38:10 > 0:38:12It's just been absolutely amazing
0:38:12 > 0:38:17how everything I've wanted has fallen into place.
0:38:26 > 0:38:28In London, Amardeep and his mum
0:38:28 > 0:38:30have come to the temple for Saturday worship.
0:38:33 > 0:38:36When I go to the temple I get a sense of wellbeing,
0:38:36 > 0:38:37peacefulnes.
0:38:46 > 0:38:48A lot of Hindu introductions take place at the temple
0:38:48 > 0:38:53and Amardeep's hoping he might get lucky.
0:38:53 > 0:38:56As the congregation come together for the traditional meal,
0:38:56 > 0:38:58he isn't backwards in coming forwards.
0:38:58 > 0:39:00MUSIC: "Mr Boombastic" by Shaggy
0:39:04 > 0:39:07- What are you studying in London? - Business management.
0:39:11 > 0:39:15What about tonight? Do you want to get a quick drink, 20 minutes.
0:39:15 > 0:39:16Tonight?
0:39:16 > 0:39:19# Smooth, just like silk... #
0:39:21 > 0:39:23- Are you single yourself?- Yes.
0:39:33 > 0:39:37- That's my mobile number. - Maybe meet tomorrow?- Yes.
0:39:37 > 0:39:40I'll give you a call and on Facebook.
0:39:40 > 0:39:42'I got one girl's number.'
0:39:42 > 0:39:45We'll see tomorrow whether I can sort out a date or not.
0:39:45 > 0:39:47Hopefully, she's a goer.
0:39:59 > 0:40:03Although Jalpa's parents have been organising introductions,
0:40:03 > 0:40:04she's still been looking herself.
0:40:04 > 0:40:06She's met a boy called Diep.
0:40:06 > 0:40:11He's 30 and runs his own business, but it's early days.
0:40:11 > 0:40:15Me and Diep haven't officialised anything or anything of that sort.
0:40:15 > 0:40:17I'm trying to keep my options open
0:40:17 > 0:40:19because I don't know where it is heading.
0:40:19 > 0:40:22Nothing is set in stone that we're together.
0:40:22 > 0:40:24It's not like that at all.
0:40:24 > 0:40:27Obviously I do like Diep and stuff.
0:40:27 > 0:40:31Getting introduced to people, it's that reaction, you start comparing.
0:40:31 > 0:40:36It has a bearing on how you think things are going to turn out.
0:40:43 > 0:40:47Tonight, she's out on a date with the man himself.
0:40:47 > 0:40:49Jalps, Jalps!
0:40:49 > 0:40:50That was so...
0:40:50 > 0:40:53Me and Diep, we have a right laugh together.
0:40:53 > 0:40:55We can just talk to each other.
0:40:56 > 0:40:58That's cheating!
0:40:59 > 0:41:02Diep is exactly Jalpa's type.
0:41:02 > 0:41:07There's no friendliness when it comes to competition, my love.
0:41:17 > 0:41:19I think we bounce off each other really well.
0:41:19 > 0:41:23I have a laugh with her like you can't understand.
0:41:23 > 0:41:26You're bad, you're bad.
0:41:26 > 0:41:28I'm bad? You started it.
0:41:29 > 0:41:33I have a fair idea of what she wants.
0:41:33 > 0:41:35We have a great time together.
0:41:37 > 0:41:40As girls do, fairy tales and she's dreaming
0:41:40 > 0:41:44and we both get on very, very well.
0:41:44 > 0:41:46It worries me.
0:41:46 > 0:41:48What worries you?
0:41:48 > 0:41:50The preparing for a wedding.
0:41:50 > 0:41:52That's because of your mum and your sister.
0:41:52 > 0:41:57But, what about the whole feeling of like being with someone?
0:41:57 > 0:42:00OK, when I saw them together, it was really sweet.
0:42:00 > 0:42:04The look on his face when the sheet comes down, that was like, wow!
0:42:04 > 0:42:05That's the best bit.
0:42:05 > 0:42:09Does it not make you feel like, "I wish I'd got married"?
0:42:09 > 0:42:12- No.- Not at all?
0:42:12 > 0:42:15For that, yes, maybe. We'll see.
0:42:18 > 0:42:19How about next year?
0:42:21 > 0:42:23- Stop.- Are you ready?
0:42:24 > 0:42:28My mum knows that we meet, but no-one else does.
0:42:28 > 0:42:32I don't even tell my grandma. She'll get way too excited.
0:42:32 > 0:42:37If things do get more solid, then she'll probably know.
0:42:37 > 0:42:39I'll tell her.
0:42:40 > 0:42:45- What's stopping things from getting too solid?- I don't know.
0:42:45 > 0:42:48To be honest, that's something that you'll have to ask him.
0:42:48 > 0:42:53- Thank you very much.- Thank you, I had a great time.- So did I.
0:42:53 > 0:42:56- I worry for the girl, man. Because I'm a- BLEEP.
0:42:56 > 0:42:59I don't want to hurt her. I never want to hurt her.
0:42:59 > 0:43:03I think she's got an amazing personality and...
0:43:06 > 0:43:09..I like it when she smiles. I'd prefer her to stay smiling.
0:43:14 > 0:43:19After a two-week whirlwind romance, Hasmita's back in London.
0:43:19 > 0:43:22And she's engaged.
0:43:24 > 0:43:30I'm back from Dubai, having spent some time with Dipesh.
0:43:31 > 0:43:36It was really nice, and I can be soppy and say it was magical.
0:43:38 > 0:43:41So is it love, do you think?
0:43:41 > 0:43:44- Yeah.- Why are you emotional?
0:43:51 > 0:43:52I guess cos I miss him.
0:43:56 > 0:44:00And it's cos I know I'm really lucky to have found someone.
0:44:03 > 0:44:07And it's not just about the ticking the boxes and the other stuff,
0:44:07 > 0:44:12it's the connection that we have, and it's really nice.
0:44:12 > 0:44:16# I can see for miles, miles, miles. #
0:44:17 > 0:44:21I'm not saying we're the perfect couple and we don't have issues.
0:44:21 > 0:44:27We will. The first year is going to be horrendous cos everyone warns me it's going to be horrendous.
0:44:27 > 0:44:28Um...
0:44:28 > 0:44:32But we'll work through it cos we want to and that's the key thing.
0:44:32 > 0:44:36Is it hard being back without him after such a whirlwind?
0:44:36 > 0:44:39- It was a whirlwind.- Yeah, it is.
0:44:40 > 0:44:45# I can see for miles, miles, miles, miles. #
0:44:51 > 0:44:55Back at home, Hasmita and her mum are starting to plan the wedding.
0:44:55 > 0:44:59Do you want to see him first? You can go to Dubai first.
0:44:59 > 0:45:03Seeing not necessary. See on the wedding day.
0:45:03 > 0:45:06It might be too late then! What if you don't like him?
0:45:06 > 0:45:10Oh, no. My daughter choose it, then I am happy.
0:45:10 > 0:45:13There's only three months to go, you know that.
0:45:13 > 0:45:16How much time do you need to plan the wedding?
0:45:16 > 0:45:20Maybe eight weeks, nine weeks.
0:45:20 > 0:45:26- Now I'm handing over to you. You do the wedding.- Don't worry. I'm happy.
0:45:26 > 0:45:28As long as you're happy.
0:45:29 > 0:45:31Yeah, yeah, I'm happy.
0:45:38 > 0:45:42Finally, after four months of disastrous attempts,
0:45:42 > 0:45:44Amardeep has got a date.
0:45:44 > 0:45:48- Hi, there. Nice to meet you. - Hi, nice to meet you.
0:45:50 > 0:45:53- My name's Amardeep. What's your name? - Sheila.- Nice to meet you.
0:45:53 > 0:45:55- Do you know anything about me? - I don't know nothing.
0:45:55 > 0:45:58- How old are you?- 23. - I'm 27.- You're 27?
0:46:00 > 0:46:01Thank you.
0:46:01 > 0:46:05- So what was your last relationship? - At uni. I was dating an Israeli girl.
0:46:05 > 0:46:07I dated her for a year. She was a really nice girl.
0:46:07 > 0:46:10- That was my only serious relationship.- Ever?
0:46:10 > 0:46:13- Six months is a long time.- Really?
0:46:13 > 0:46:15- Have you got a tattoo? - I've got loads.
0:46:15 > 0:46:19I've got an aum, I've got a ganesh...
0:46:19 > 0:46:21- I've got...- Let me see.
0:46:22 > 0:46:27"Love life"? Are you serious? You've got a tattoo saying "love life"?
0:46:27 > 0:46:30- Of course. Why not? - It's a bit meaningless, though.
0:46:30 > 0:46:32- Not really.- Does it mean that much to you?
0:46:32 > 0:46:34She's quite negative.
0:46:34 > 0:46:37She's got a mocking attitude and negative kind of...
0:46:37 > 0:46:40She had nothing too positive to say.
0:46:40 > 0:46:43When it came to the conversation about what you look for in a person,
0:46:43 > 0:46:47we just had completely two different attitudes to that.
0:46:47 > 0:46:49That kind of put me off a little bit.
0:46:49 > 0:46:54You have to be attracted to a person, cos you got to wake up next to that person every morning.
0:46:54 > 0:46:56I don't think looks are that important.
0:46:56 > 0:46:58There's got to be something to attract you.
0:46:58 > 0:47:01- Yeah.- But that's just 10%, maybe 20%.
0:47:01 > 0:47:04If I'm going to go out with someone, I need to be attracted to them.
0:47:04 > 0:47:07- The way they look or their personality?- The way they look!
0:47:07 > 0:47:10I'm taking a minging person home with me.
0:47:10 > 0:47:15- That's just me telling myself I've really- BLEEP- my life up.
0:47:15 > 0:47:17'We really disagreed, and what's pissed me off'
0:47:17 > 0:47:22is that he thinks looks aren't important and personality is.
0:47:22 > 0:47:24He's lying.
0:47:24 > 0:47:28- You have to fancy someone. - You have to fancy someone first.
0:47:28 > 0:47:31Yeah. You're making it sound like,
0:47:31 > 0:47:35"It's all right to go out with a minger, they've got a great personality",
0:47:35 > 0:47:37and your kids might be ugly.
0:47:37 > 0:47:40Obviously looks are important, that's why I don't love him.
0:47:40 > 0:47:42'It's just not happening.'
0:47:42 > 0:47:45And he ordered more drinks, and then he started ordering food.
0:47:45 > 0:47:48I thought we were going to go soon. Just kept dragging on for ever.
0:47:48 > 0:47:50So...
0:47:51 > 0:47:54I don't want to say anything bad, but...
0:47:54 > 0:47:56she seems set in her ways.
0:47:56 > 0:48:00I'm looking for a different... She's not funny, she's not jokey.
0:48:00 > 0:48:02She's a bit serious.
0:48:02 > 0:48:05Maybe it's me. Maybe it's not him.
0:48:05 > 0:48:09Who knows? I just know I don't want to see him any more. Ever.
0:48:09 > 0:48:12- And he's got really- BLEEP - clothes as well.
0:48:12 > 0:48:15What do you think of the date so far? SHE LAUGHS
0:48:15 > 0:48:17INTERVIEWER: What were your highlights?
0:48:17 > 0:48:19The food was good, I enjoyed it. It was nice.
0:48:37 > 0:48:39It's four months since Dubai,
0:48:39 > 0:48:44and Hasmita is finally reunited with Dipesh for her wedding.
0:48:46 > 0:48:50She's travelled 6,000 miles to Madhapar in northern India
0:48:50 > 0:48:54and today, they're shopping for bridal bindis for the wedding
0:48:54 > 0:48:55in three days' time.
0:48:59 > 0:49:01Choose whatever you like. It will look nice on you.
0:49:01 > 0:49:03What, you want me to wear them?
0:49:03 > 0:49:07- Everyone does here so that will look nice on you.- I know but I don't...
0:49:07 > 0:49:08OK, we'll have a look.
0:49:08 > 0:49:11- Like this?- Yeah, this other one.
0:49:11 > 0:49:14- This is nice.- Yeah, these are the nice ones.- These are nicer.
0:49:14 > 0:49:18- Will you help me put it on? I think...- This one.- Is it?- Yeah.
0:49:20 > 0:49:21SHE LAUGHS
0:49:21 > 0:49:24This is only the second time the couple have ever met.
0:49:24 > 0:49:26- Four months went really fast for me. - Yeah...
0:49:26 > 0:49:29Four months feel like...four weeks.
0:49:29 > 0:49:32'So when I first saw Dipesh at the airport it was really strange'
0:49:32 > 0:49:35cos I got really nervous a few days before, thinking,
0:49:35 > 0:49:39"Oh, God, what if something's not right when I see him?"
0:49:39 > 0:49:43I was much more excited than the first time when I met her at Dubai Airport.
0:49:43 > 0:49:45# I can't conceal... #
0:49:45 > 0:49:49We were just looking at each other and it just felt so as if...
0:49:49 > 0:49:51It was as if we'd been married for ten years
0:49:51 > 0:49:53and we haven't seen each other for four months.
0:49:53 > 0:49:57'I think the distance helped us fall in love more, I think.'
0:49:57 > 0:50:01We have similar thoughts. Our bonding is nice.
0:50:01 > 0:50:03'I just like being a part of her'
0:50:03 > 0:50:06and spending time with her.
0:50:06 > 0:50:11# See, what I'm trying to say is
0:50:11 > 0:50:16# You make things better... #
0:50:16 > 0:50:20How did you tell your mum that we're going to get married?
0:50:20 > 0:50:24My mum said that, if you guys are happy doing it together then it's your choice.
0:50:24 > 0:50:27- So she was happy?- She was happy. - She liked me when I saw her.- Yeah.
0:50:27 > 0:50:32- My mum and dad are so excited.- Yeah, my auntie's coming from Mumbai.
0:50:32 > 0:50:35We have to organise the food, isn't it, for everybody?
0:50:35 > 0:50:38Have to organise the food, the Dandiyas and all.
0:50:38 > 0:50:41- The dancing.- The dancing, the music nights and all.
0:50:41 > 0:50:44Yeah, what time do you arrive on the horse?
0:50:44 > 0:50:46- You're not doing the elephant, are you?- No.
0:50:46 > 0:50:50- My auntie told me it's not a good idea cos it poos everywhere!- Yeah.
0:50:50 > 0:50:54The kind of love and relationship that I was expecting to have with my husband
0:50:54 > 0:50:56is exactly what it is.
0:50:56 > 0:51:00Even the stress of planning this wedding, we've been ourselves.
0:51:01 > 0:51:05# See, what I'm trying to say is
0:51:05 > 0:51:12# You make things better
0:51:12 > 0:51:14# It's better... #
0:51:20 > 0:51:22CHEERING
0:51:22 > 0:51:27Tonight it's Jalpa's 26th birthday but Diep isn't there.
0:51:27 > 0:51:29Thank you. Thank you very much.
0:51:29 > 0:51:31She always hoped she'd be married by now.
0:51:31 > 0:51:35But after months of following the traditional family approach,
0:51:35 > 0:51:38- she's come to a decision.- I don't want to do the introduction thing.
0:51:38 > 0:51:42I don't want to meet these people and talk to them
0:51:42 > 0:51:43and have a very...
0:51:44 > 0:51:46..painful date.
0:51:46 > 0:51:50I don't think it's the way for me to find the person I want to be with.
0:51:50 > 0:51:55I don't know what I'll tell my dad. I guess he'd still want to be like,
0:51:55 > 0:51:57"Oh, let's see this boy, let's see this boy."
0:51:57 > 0:52:00But even if I tell him, "Don't, look", he will.
0:52:00 > 0:52:04He'll probably be like, "You know what, I saw this person,"
0:52:04 > 0:52:08'and he'll probably wean his way into me like that.'
0:52:08 > 0:52:11I just can't be bothered with the whole process
0:52:11 > 0:52:14of getting to know someone, speaking to them,
0:52:14 > 0:52:16and then going to see them and then thinking,
0:52:16 > 0:52:18"Oh, shit, they're not for me."
0:52:18 > 0:52:21But for now, Diep is still on the scene.
0:52:21 > 0:52:25I don't think she's in love, but then who am I to say anything?
0:52:26 > 0:52:30I think if she is, she would have told us and that's why I'm saying I don't.
0:52:30 > 0:52:32It's really funny because I think
0:52:32 > 0:52:36- she's actually head over heels in love.- Do you?- Yeah!
0:52:36 > 0:52:39- OK, she thinks... Yeah.- I think she's head over heels in love.
0:52:41 > 0:52:44Me and Diep are good friends, really good friends.
0:52:44 > 0:52:45Things are good.
0:52:45 > 0:52:49Like, we see each other. We just get along, just have a laugh.
0:52:49 > 0:52:52'I love his company, so...'
0:52:52 > 0:52:54You just see where it goes. You don't know...
0:52:54 > 0:52:56I don't know what's going to happen.
0:52:56 > 0:52:58You can't predict what's going to happen.
0:53:04 > 0:53:06Yeah, I'm listening.
0:53:06 > 0:53:09I want this pot out. That's why I came to give you instruction.
0:53:09 > 0:53:12Despite the disaster of his only proper date in months,
0:53:12 > 0:53:15Amardeep is feeling good about the future.
0:53:15 > 0:53:20There are Hindu girls out there. It's just you got to know the right time, place to find them.
0:53:20 > 0:53:23'I think it's important to take my time in the searching.'
0:53:23 > 0:53:25I have to mature a little bit, too.
0:53:25 > 0:53:27And, there's already some good news.
0:53:27 > 0:53:31I've got a few more dates lined up this month, which should be interesting as well.
0:53:31 > 0:53:36It's a range. I've got one Punjabi girl, one Sindhi girl, one Gujarati girl.
0:53:36 > 0:53:37'I'm looking forward to these dates.
0:53:37 > 0:53:41'All these months have prepared me quite well to the whole dating scene
0:53:41 > 0:53:43'so I know what I'm saying so I'm smooth.'
0:53:43 > 0:53:47It might turn into a serious relationship. I could get lucky.
0:53:49 > 0:53:52Finally, after years of searching high and low
0:53:52 > 0:53:54for her perfect man,
0:53:54 > 0:53:57today Hasmita is getting married.
0:54:08 > 0:54:11So this is it, this is my wedding day!
0:54:12 > 0:54:15'It's absolutely amazing that I'm in my home town
0:54:15 > 0:54:18'and getting ready for a wedding to marry the boy
0:54:18 > 0:54:21'that I've always been looking for. It's a complete fairy tale
0:54:21 > 0:54:25'as I had no expectations of meeting the prince I've always wanted
0:54:25 > 0:54:29'and now he's arriving on a big white horse
0:54:29 > 0:54:32'for this big fairy-tale wedding.'
0:54:32 > 0:54:34MUSIC: "Paradise" by Coldplay
0:54:38 > 0:54:40I'm so happy now.
0:54:41 > 0:54:43Dipesh is a lovely boy.
0:54:44 > 0:54:491,500 people have been invited to see Hasmita and Dipesh get married.
0:54:49 > 0:54:52MUSIC: "Greatest Day" by Take That
0:54:58 > 0:55:02# Today this could be
0:55:02 > 0:55:06# The greatest day of our lives... #
0:55:06 > 0:55:10'I know he's the one I'm going to spend the rest of my life with.
0:55:10 > 0:55:14'I have no doubt whatsoever about it.'
0:55:14 > 0:55:15# Let's make a new start... #
0:55:15 > 0:55:18We've been praying for seven hours today
0:55:18 > 0:55:20so the marriage should be really good.
0:55:20 > 0:55:22Yeah.
0:55:23 > 0:55:26MAN CHANTS
0:55:28 > 0:55:33'Going from a single girl to a married woman is a huge change'
0:55:33 > 0:55:36but I've had a long time to be a single girl
0:55:36 > 0:55:38and now it's the time to be a married woman.
0:55:39 > 0:55:44# And the world comes alive
0:55:44 > 0:55:48# And the world comes alive
0:55:48 > 0:55:52# And the world comes alive
0:55:52 > 0:55:55# Whoa, whoa, whoa! #
0:55:55 > 0:55:59- How does it feel to be like man and wife then?- Yeah, husband and wife.
0:55:59 > 0:56:02As soon as someone said "Mrs Budhia" I thought, "No, is that me?!"
0:56:05 > 0:56:09# You are the reason that I breathe
0:56:09 > 0:56:12# You are the reason that I still believe... #
0:56:12 > 0:56:16- It was a fairy-tale wedding day. - We had a great time together.
0:56:19 > 0:56:23I'm feeling quite lucky, to be honest. I'm so glad. It's once in a lifetime.
0:56:23 > 0:56:27# Nothing can ever come between us
0:56:27 > 0:56:29# So come and dance with me
0:56:29 > 0:56:31# Take ho-o-o-old
0:56:31 > 0:56:33# You and me, it's destiny
0:56:33 > 0:56:36# Catch me, catch me, catch me come on, catch me, I want you now
0:56:36 > 0:56:39# I know you can save me come and save me, I need you now
0:56:39 > 0:56:43# I am yours for ever yes, for ever I will follow
0:56:43 > 0:56:47# Anywhere and anywhere never going to... #
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0:56:54 > 0:56:57# I need you! Going to make it! #