0:00:02 > 0:00:05This programme contains some strong language and some scenes of a sexual nature.
0:00:05 > 0:00:08I'm Tyger Drew-Honey and I'm about to turn 18. I'm on the cusp of adulthood.
0:00:08 > 0:00:11But going from boy to man is harder than it looks.
0:00:11 > 0:00:15Oh!
0:00:15 > 0:00:17Ooh!
0:00:17 > 0:00:18I look like Simon Cowell!
0:00:18 > 0:00:20And if you think real life is confusing,
0:00:20 > 0:00:24- you should see the inside of my head.- Stop!- Yeah, gobble, gobble!
0:00:24 > 0:00:30Oh, yes, I love you! So I want to know how everyone else is coping.
0:00:30 > 0:00:34Surely I'm not the only one struggling to become a grown-up?
0:00:34 > 0:00:35Have I got red lips?
0:00:38 > 0:00:41# No, you girls never know
0:00:41 > 0:00:44# How you make a boy feel. #
0:00:45 > 0:00:50To kick things off, I decided to stick with what I know - porn.
0:00:50 > 0:00:53Not only do I enjoy a bit from time to time, but I'm also
0:00:53 > 0:00:57part of the first generation to have 24/7 access to hardcore porn.
0:00:57 > 0:01:01Porn is normal. Everyone watches it.
0:01:01 > 0:01:04But what I wanted to know was - what's it doing to us?
0:01:04 > 0:01:07Big boobs, big bum, little waist, shaven.
0:01:07 > 0:01:10Girls have to be shaven, otherwise I don't go there.
0:01:10 > 0:01:12So I went on a mission to discover
0:01:12 > 0:01:16if our fondness for porn fantasy is impacting sex in the real world.
0:01:16 > 0:01:19I've just watched a woman pretty much get everything done to her.
0:01:19 > 0:01:21Why didn't I get turned on? Why didn't I get a boner?
0:01:21 > 0:01:24I got up close and personal to the porn habits of other young people...
0:01:24 > 0:01:27I was watching it at least six hours a day, masturbating three times,
0:01:27 > 0:01:28four times a day.
0:01:28 > 0:01:31..as well as facing up to a few of my own.
0:01:31 > 0:01:32You know, I can't help wonder,
0:01:32 > 0:01:35but maybe my own sex life has been informed by porn.
0:01:35 > 0:01:37Oh - one more thing I should mention,
0:01:37 > 0:01:41Britain's most famous porn star is also my dad.
0:01:41 > 0:01:43So shall we move my cock out the way now?
0:01:43 > 0:01:45You stick your cock where you want!
0:01:47 > 0:01:49A Short History of British Porn Consumption.
0:01:49 > 0:01:51Pay attention at the back!
0:01:51 > 0:01:54From the dawn of time, our species has been obsessed with pornography.
0:01:54 > 0:01:57Homo erectus even sounds like a porn star name.
0:02:00 > 0:02:01In the Victorian era,
0:02:01 > 0:02:05all it took was a flash of ankle to get men to knock one out.
0:02:05 > 0:02:08The 1970s kicked off with Britain's biggest daily newspaper
0:02:08 > 0:02:11taking boobs from the top shelf and onto page 3.
0:02:11 > 0:02:12Phwoarr!
0:02:12 > 0:02:16Today it feels like it's harder to avoid porn than it is to find it.
0:02:16 > 0:02:18It's everywhere.
0:02:18 > 0:02:22So what is this unlimited access to porn doing to us?
0:02:25 > 0:02:29I started my journey in Soho, once the sex capital of Britain
0:02:29 > 0:02:32and where previous generations came to get their porn fix.
0:02:32 > 0:02:36That is, before the internet made leaving the house redundant.
0:02:36 > 0:02:40I reckon I started watching porn at about eight or nine
0:02:40 > 0:02:44and, you know, at that age, the only real perception you've got
0:02:44 > 0:02:46of that sort of thing is boobs and that's just about it.
0:02:46 > 0:02:50So to discover pages and pages and pages of like hard-core
0:02:50 > 0:02:53pornography, it kind of just opened my eyes to this really
0:02:53 > 0:02:57sort of thrilling, exciting and naughty world.
0:02:57 > 0:03:00In the years since then, that world has exploded.
0:03:00 > 0:03:03It's claimed that as much as a third of all internet content
0:03:03 > 0:03:04is pornographic.
0:03:04 > 0:03:07The rest is pictures of cats and like a porn star's penis,
0:03:07 > 0:03:09that statistic is still growing.
0:03:12 > 0:03:15I'd say...I'd say I'm quite a sexual person,
0:03:15 > 0:03:18and you know, sometimes, everyone gets those urges where you
0:03:18 > 0:03:20want to have an orgasm and whatnot and if you're not with
0:03:20 > 0:03:24someone at that moment, then I think most people would go to porn.
0:03:24 > 0:03:29It's the best solution. It's easily accessible, it's pretty quick.
0:03:29 > 0:03:31Um, you know, gets the job done.
0:03:31 > 0:03:35According to a recent YouGov survey, over half of
0:03:35 > 0:03:3915 to 17-year-olds have accessed pornography on a smartphone or tablet.
0:03:39 > 0:03:42I mean, you know, if you've ever gone on to a porn site, then
0:03:42 > 0:03:45you'll know that it's strictly over 18s only, but I mean,
0:03:45 > 0:03:47unlike these places, there's obviously,
0:03:47 > 0:03:49I mean, there's no way to check.
0:03:49 > 0:03:52My whole generation would never have to go into one of these shops.
0:03:52 > 0:03:54It's like nowadays, it's just like whatever you fancy,
0:03:54 > 0:03:57you just go on your phone and it's all there.
0:04:01 > 0:04:02All right, mate?
0:04:02 > 0:04:04The first time I watched porn, I think I was 13.
0:04:04 > 0:04:06I think I was about 12.
0:04:06 > 0:04:0713, 14.
0:04:07 > 0:04:10- 15.- I was about 11.
0:04:10 > 0:04:12Probably about 12.
0:04:12 > 0:04:14- 12, yeah. - I was probably about 10, maybe.
0:04:16 > 0:04:18I know I have loads of friends that watch porn for pleasure.
0:04:18 > 0:04:20Of course I liked it. Something new.
0:04:20 > 0:04:26It was lesbian porn and at first, I didn't really know what it was,
0:04:26 > 0:04:29but I liked it.
0:04:29 > 0:04:33It was just me, my computer and my cream and I just went at it.
0:04:33 > 0:04:35- It's really easy. - It's really easy to find porn now.
0:04:35 > 0:04:37Just type into Google whatever you like.
0:04:37 > 0:04:39I think I was shocked at first
0:04:39 > 0:04:42because I had never seen anything explicit before.
0:04:42 > 0:04:44We'd never seen sex.
0:04:44 > 0:04:47All my friends watch it and talk about it and that's been
0:04:47 > 0:04:48since I was 11.
0:04:48 > 0:04:51I think everyone I've dated has watched porn.
0:04:51 > 0:04:54Like, we're in a generation now where it is normal.
0:04:54 > 0:04:56Porn is normal and everyone watches it.
0:04:59 > 0:05:02So it seems we're all at it. No big surprise there.
0:05:02 > 0:05:06It's free, it's fun, it's a bit of fantasy - what's not to love?
0:05:06 > 0:05:09But with the Government trying to stick internet filters all over
0:05:09 > 0:05:14the place, I wanted to know if porn is really such a bad thing.
0:05:14 > 0:05:16So I set off to meet an expert,
0:05:16 > 0:05:18someone who knows the industry inside out.
0:05:18 > 0:05:22He's got 30 years' experience and has made over 500 films.
0:05:22 > 0:05:27- Come in.- Can I have a coffee or something?- Double espresso?- Yeah.
0:05:27 > 0:05:28You know, you know.
0:05:28 > 0:05:30Ladies and gentlemen, my dad.
0:05:30 > 0:05:32- Right, can we do this again?- Yes.
0:05:32 > 0:05:35Also known as legendary porn star Ben Dover,
0:05:35 > 0:05:38my dad was the UK's most successful porn producer before free
0:05:38 > 0:05:42internet porn totally shafted him. Ironic, really.
0:05:42 > 0:05:44We'll see you real soon on Ben Dover...
0:05:44 > 0:05:47I don't know, what is this show called, anyway?
0:05:47 > 0:05:49Lifetime achievement, services to the industry.
0:05:49 > 0:05:51Oh, it's not the lifetime achievement.
0:05:51 > 0:05:53Do you think they're trying to tell me something? 2,000.
0:05:53 > 0:05:56That's best gonzo videos so that's for the Ben Dover series.
0:05:56 > 0:05:59That's the latest one I got, which comes with an award
0:05:59 > 0:06:02that's disappeared, which was for Only Fools And Arses,
0:06:02 > 0:06:05which was the last film we did for Bluebird before they closed down.
0:06:05 > 0:06:09Yes, that is a life-sized replica of my dad's penis and no,
0:06:09 > 0:06:12it's not weird that I'm holding it like that. It's not weird at all.
0:06:12 > 0:06:15I've definitely got the DNA of the shape of your helmet.
0:06:15 > 0:06:19- Do you think so?- Yeah.- Do you think we're sharing helmet shapes?
0:06:19 > 0:06:23- Well, yeah. Well, you know, that would be...- You are my dad.
0:06:23 > 0:06:25Yeah, you're right. It is. We have got...
0:06:25 > 0:06:28- Similar, but then it would be, wouldn't it?- Yeah.
0:06:28 > 0:06:30Don't believe what I just said. It's pretty weird.
0:06:30 > 0:06:33- Although, see, I can do this. - Look at your balls.
0:06:34 > 0:06:39- Dickhead!- Ha, dickhead!- So shall remove my cock out of the way now?
0:06:39 > 0:06:43Um, yeah. You stick your cock where you want.
0:06:43 > 0:06:46You do, don't you?
0:06:46 > 0:06:47Stop it!
0:06:47 > 0:06:50Come on, now. Ask a proper documentary question.
0:06:50 > 0:06:52You know how the industry is changing now it's
0:06:52 > 0:06:54just on the internet, like all over the place?
0:06:54 > 0:06:57I know, it's like now, whenever I see stuff on the internet,
0:06:57 > 0:06:58it's like this six minute...
0:06:58 > 0:07:01all it is is just two people having sex.
0:07:01 > 0:07:05I think people are starting to want something slightly a bit more
0:07:05 > 0:07:07- interesting, if you will.- Mmmm...
0:07:07 > 0:07:08Maybe, but I mean,
0:07:08 > 0:07:11don't you think it's just all completely fake, anyway?
0:07:11 > 0:07:14I mean, d'you think porn is actually representative
0:07:14 > 0:07:15- whatsoever of what sex is like?- No.
0:07:15 > 0:07:18I think a lot of people, especially young people,
0:07:18 > 0:07:21now are thinking that they've got to have sex
0:07:21 > 0:07:23like they're in a porn movie.
0:07:23 > 0:07:28They've got to like, you know, pretend that they're porn stars!
0:07:28 > 0:07:30I mean, the whole thing started years ago
0:07:30 > 0:07:35when every single girl, even if she wasn't in the porn business,
0:07:35 > 0:07:37started shaving her pussy for some reason.
0:07:37 > 0:07:41So look, you know, it was like, that was like the porn star look, and
0:07:41 > 0:07:45then even people who work in offices were starting to shave their pussy.
0:07:45 > 0:07:47Hey, dad - do think you could possibly say "pussy"
0:07:47 > 0:07:50a few more times? No, that would be impossible.
0:07:50 > 0:07:53And that's another thing I think, is for the future, bring back the bush.
0:07:53 > 0:07:55I think the bush is going to come back in quite a big way.
0:07:55 > 0:07:59I'm getting the hang of this. Documentaries love a good campaign.
0:07:59 > 0:08:01- 'What do we want?'- Bush!
0:08:01 > 0:08:05- 'When do we want it?' - However long it takes pubes to grow!
0:08:05 > 0:08:09OK. Maybe not quite Make Poverty History but good try, Dad.
0:08:09 > 0:08:12I mean, there's two ways of looking at it. There's two ways of saying, you can say,
0:08:12 > 0:08:14you know, the innocence has been lost
0:08:14 > 0:08:18because people never used to learn about loads of different sort of
0:08:18 > 0:08:22techniques and everything till they were probably in their early 20s,
0:08:22 > 0:08:24um, whereas now, you've got 18-year-old girls
0:08:24 > 0:08:26who are just doing everything.
0:08:26 > 0:08:30But I think it's putting a lot of pressure on girls and boys because
0:08:30 > 0:08:32girls are thinking that whereas before,
0:08:32 > 0:08:35all they had to do was just lay there and have sex,
0:08:35 > 0:08:38now they are realising that there's a whole load of other stuff that
0:08:38 > 0:08:42guys want girls to do and I guess they feel under pressure to do it.
0:08:42 > 0:08:45I hate to say it, but the old man was making a good point.
0:08:45 > 0:08:49Free porn is opening our eyes to all kinds of stuff.
0:08:49 > 0:08:52With the internet's most searched word being "sex",
0:08:52 > 0:08:56our curiosity is being indulged like never before and for an
0:08:56 > 0:09:00increasing number of young guys, watching just isn't enough.
0:09:00 > 0:09:03They want something more personal and interactive.
0:09:08 > 0:09:13- Straight through there.- Nice place.
0:09:13 > 0:09:16Webcaming is now the most popular genre of porn,
0:09:16 > 0:09:19with the most visited adult website in the world devoted to nothing
0:09:19 > 0:09:21but girls and their webcams.
0:09:22 > 0:09:25Leslie Rose has been a webcam girl for the last six months.
0:09:25 > 0:09:28- So I presume these are your work clothes?- Ha! They are.
0:09:28 > 0:09:31There are people who have got me underwear sets
0:09:31 > 0:09:34and things like that to wear specifically for their shows,
0:09:34 > 0:09:36people who buy me shoes because they want me
0:09:36 > 0:09:41- to wear shoes on their shows, people like to treat you, also.- Is that...
0:09:41 > 0:09:43Is that the reason why you're in your dressing gown right now,
0:09:43 > 0:09:45so it's like easy access if you get a call?
0:09:45 > 0:09:49I haven't just like got out of the bath looking all glamorous, like hey!
0:09:49 > 0:09:53Yeah, I have like a pink underwear set on underneath,
0:09:53 > 0:09:56so literally I can just go feow! -
0:09:56 > 0:09:59take it off, do my call, put everything back on,
0:09:59 > 0:10:01put my dressing gown back on, get comfy again,
0:10:01 > 0:10:04have a drink and like, do my revision.
0:10:04 > 0:10:07So it's the...the money that you earn from doing this,
0:10:07 > 0:10:10- that, you know, supports your education, right?- Yeah.
0:10:10 > 0:10:13I literally woke up and decided to go to uni one day and it was
0:10:13 > 0:10:17because of the fact that I'd been webcaming and I saw how much money
0:10:17 > 0:10:20I could be making and how much money I was making.
0:10:20 > 0:10:23As a woman, my sexuality is my biggest commodity, so like,
0:10:23 > 0:10:28if people want me, they can have me if they pay for me. So, yeah.
0:10:28 > 0:10:31With the price of one of Leslie's shows starting at just a tenner,
0:10:31 > 0:10:34she is seeing more and more guys my age log on for a good time.
0:10:34 > 0:10:36Some of them are shy.
0:10:36 > 0:10:38Some of them are just kind of discovering that there is this
0:10:38 > 0:10:43interactive thing that, you know, they can have so readily available.
0:10:43 > 0:10:46I think some people as well use it as a bit of a...
0:10:46 > 0:10:50not a replacement for, but like on a par with porn,
0:10:50 > 0:10:54because it's something that they can physically hold in their hand
0:10:54 > 0:10:57and you're right there and they can move around with you and like,
0:10:57 > 0:11:02it's not just on a like screen that's stationary or anything like that.
0:11:02 > 0:11:03And they can interact with you.
0:11:03 > 0:11:06Do you have much of an insight into what sort of things that they like?
0:11:06 > 0:11:08If you ask, they'll tell you what they like.
0:11:08 > 0:11:10And what...other times, it's really funny,
0:11:10 > 0:11:13cos they'll have a really big TV and it'll just be porn on it.
0:11:13 > 0:11:16- Really?- And like... - What sort of porn?
0:11:16 > 0:11:20There's...honestly, there's this one guy who rings me and...
0:11:20 > 0:11:24Well, who books me, and he books me for 15 minutes each time
0:11:24 > 0:11:26and every single time it's different.
0:11:26 > 0:11:31I prefer when it's young guys, because it's somebody that I could...
0:11:31 > 0:11:32I can kind of get into a bit more.
0:11:32 > 0:11:35Because you could potentially, in another life,
0:11:35 > 0:11:36- be with them or something. - Yeah, exactly.
0:11:36 > 0:11:40Like, I can imagine it actually being in the same room as them or
0:11:40 > 0:11:45being with them, or like knowing them in some way, something like that.
0:11:45 > 0:11:48You know, it's... It's nice, as bad as it sounds.
0:11:48 > 0:11:50PHONE RINGS
0:11:50 > 0:11:52- You've got a call coming in. - I have got a call coming in.
0:11:52 > 0:11:55Um, you're going to have to leave.
0:11:55 > 0:11:58Out! Go, go, go! Out.
0:11:58 > 0:12:03- Oh...- No!- Forget your penis!- Go! Go!
0:12:03 > 0:12:06Shut the door behind you!
0:12:06 > 0:12:08Hello, gorgeous. How are you?
0:12:09 > 0:12:13Mm, thank you very much, darling! Do you like my tattoos?
0:12:14 > 0:12:17Yeah, I bet you'd love to get your hands all over this body,
0:12:17 > 0:12:19- wouldn't you, babe?- This is weird!
0:12:19 > 0:12:24- Not as weird as you listening through the door, Tyger!- Boy!
0:12:24 > 0:12:27Leslie's session was short and sweet and from what
0:12:27 > 0:12:31I'd heard through the door, she'd had one very happy customer.
0:12:32 > 0:12:36Er, well, I mean, that sounded like quite a lot of fun.
0:12:36 > 0:12:42- Why don't you, um, go next door and give it a go for yourself?- But, um...
0:12:43 > 0:12:49- Yeah. I mean, if...if...if...if... if you want me to.- Off you go.- Wow!
0:12:49 > 0:12:53Yeah, OK. Wow. OK. Cool. OK. Get in!
0:12:53 > 0:12:54This was going to be amazing.
0:12:54 > 0:12:58A beautiful girl was about to do anything that I wanted.
0:12:58 > 0:13:02You want to know how we feel in shows, YOU'VE got to give ME a show.
0:13:02 > 0:13:04Yeah - this wasn't quite what I'd imagined.
0:13:04 > 0:13:08Unfortunately, I'm only allowed to show you a few seconds of the following footage
0:13:08 > 0:13:13because the BBC have deemed it too sexy for general viewing.
0:13:17 > 0:13:22- 'Face the other way! Face me now, come on!'- Sorry, I'm new to this.
0:13:22 > 0:13:24Right, make waves at me.
0:13:24 > 0:13:27- 'Make waves at me.'- You don't actually do this, do you?
0:13:27 > 0:13:30'You just need to look sultry.'
0:13:30 > 0:13:32Waves.
0:13:32 > 0:13:34'Give it some oomph!'
0:13:34 > 0:13:35Behind it.
0:13:37 > 0:13:38Are you having fun?
0:13:39 > 0:13:42What I want, I get. I'm the customer.
0:13:42 > 0:13:44'You haven't paid me!'
0:13:49 > 0:13:53- OK, bye, then.- See you later. - Have a nice evening.- Bye.
0:13:54 > 0:13:56'Personal humiliation aside,
0:13:56 > 0:13:59'my evening was definitely an eye-opener.
0:13:59 > 0:14:01'I've never tried online sex myself,
0:14:01 > 0:14:05'and after stepping inside Leslie's world, I'm in no rush to.
0:14:09 > 0:14:13'I'd started to see just how the internet is changing not
0:14:13 > 0:14:16'just our viewing habits but the industry itself.
0:14:16 > 0:14:18'To find out what the porn stars themselves
0:14:18 > 0:14:20'make of our constant access to the free stuff,
0:14:20 > 0:14:24'I set off for the glitziest night in the UK porn industry calendar.
0:14:28 > 0:14:33'Using my wit, schoolboy charm and, in hindsight, really silly hat, I'd
0:14:33 > 0:14:35'blagged my way onto the red carpet at porn's
0:14:35 > 0:14:38'equivalent of the BAFTAs - the SHAFTAs.
0:14:38 > 0:14:39'See what they did there?'
0:14:42 > 0:14:46What do you think about how easily porn can be
0:14:46 > 0:14:48- accessed on the internet? - You know what?
0:14:48 > 0:14:50It actually kind of sucks that it can be accessed
0:14:50 > 0:14:54- so easily cos it's kind of ruining the porn industry.- Your livings?
0:14:54 > 0:14:57It is. You can watch it. Anybody thinks they're a porn star now.
0:14:57 > 0:14:59You can make a video on your own instead of a porn star.
0:14:59 > 0:15:01Yeah, cos the money and time that goes into it,
0:15:01 > 0:15:04- they're all big shoots, aren't they?- Yes, very big.
0:15:04 > 0:15:06Well, fantastic. Thank you for talking to me.
0:15:06 > 0:15:09- Have a lovely evening.- All right. You too.- Nice to meet you. Bye-bye.
0:15:09 > 0:15:11- Nice to meet you. Thank you.- Thank you.
0:15:14 > 0:15:17'I soon realised I'd set myself a hard task -
0:15:17 > 0:15:21'asking serious questions in the face of serious distractions.'
0:15:21 > 0:15:23Wow.
0:15:23 > 0:15:26'I decided I needed the interview equivalent of a cold shower.'
0:15:26 > 0:15:30- So you're, like, a fan of the SHAFTAs?- Yeah, I like girls.
0:15:30 > 0:15:34- You know, I like dirty girls. - So you like porn, then?- Yeah.
0:15:34 > 0:15:37- What would, like, your dream porn scene be?- Two girls.- Two girls?
0:15:37 > 0:15:41I think women, two women, is more feminine, it's beautiful, you know?
0:15:41 > 0:15:44- When you see, like, doing and receiving.- Yeah.
0:15:44 > 0:15:46I think, when a man and a woman does it, it's kind of...
0:15:46 > 0:15:48I mean, I'll do it nicely, but those guys, you know?
0:15:48 > 0:15:49Some of them are animals.
0:15:49 > 0:15:52Most guys, walking down the street, don't have a 10-inch knob.
0:15:52 > 0:15:54We try our best, you know? We can't all go on.
0:15:54 > 0:15:56Not all guys are on Viagra, anyway, I mean...
0:15:56 > 0:15:58I can go maybe for, like, 10 minutes.
0:15:58 > 0:16:00I can't go for an hour, you know?
0:16:00 > 0:16:01'Maybe not, but I know a man who can.'
0:16:01 > 0:16:04- So Dad, what are you doing here tonight?- Um...
0:16:04 > 0:16:10- I'm presenting Best MILF.- Best MILF? Is that the name of the award?
0:16:10 > 0:16:14I'm guessing, yeah. Yeah. Something like that.
0:16:14 > 0:16:16Hottie's MILF or something MILF, anyway.
0:16:16 > 0:16:18It's something to do with MILFs. I don't know.
0:16:18 > 0:16:22I don't know why I can't get Best New Starlet.
0:16:22 > 0:16:24Cos you're about 60, Dad!
0:16:24 > 0:16:25Yeah, all right!
0:16:27 > 0:16:30- My name's Tyger. What's your name? - Brooklyn.- Brooklyn?- Brooklyn Blue.
0:16:30 > 0:16:33- Blue? Why are you here tonight, then?- Because I do naughty things.
0:16:33 > 0:16:36- Ooh! What do you do, then? - I shoot porn.- You shoot porn?
0:16:36 > 0:16:39- Do you enjoy shooting porn? - I love shooting porn.
0:16:39 > 0:16:42What's your opinion on young people watching porn? Do you think they watch too much?
0:16:42 > 0:16:45I think it's great that young people watch porn.
0:16:45 > 0:16:48Personally, I watch porn myself. I always have done, since I was young.
0:16:48 > 0:16:50And I think it's amazing. I think, like...
0:16:50 > 0:16:53I think it teaches people cos when people watch porn, it kind
0:16:53 > 0:16:57of teaches them what their parents and the schools don't teach them.
0:16:57 > 0:16:59Yeah. Re-enacting the things from the movies.
0:16:59 > 0:17:03Babe, the stuff I've learnt since doing porn, I tell you!
0:17:04 > 0:17:06'Was it true that porn stars were teaching us
0:17:06 > 0:17:08'everything we know about sex?'
0:17:08 > 0:17:10I think, like, watching porn does become a part of, like,
0:17:10 > 0:17:14sex education, for the younger generation more so.
0:17:14 > 0:17:17My personal experience, I definitely learnt a lot from porn.
0:17:17 > 0:17:19It's like a manual. Watching porn is like a manual, I suppose.
0:17:19 > 0:17:21That's the whole point of it, really,
0:17:21 > 0:17:24to then take that video and then, you know, do it on a bird.
0:17:24 > 0:17:25That's the aim.
0:17:25 > 0:17:27I think guys are thinking they're learning,
0:17:27 > 0:17:30that they're learning about sex, watching porn.
0:17:30 > 0:17:31'Well, we all had to start somewhere.
0:17:31 > 0:17:35'My sex ed at school hadn't exactly filled me with confidence.
0:17:43 > 0:17:47'Nowadays, I live here, with my mum and Surrey's randiest dog, Reggie.
0:17:50 > 0:17:52'Even though Mum and Dad separated a few years ago,
0:17:52 > 0:17:55'I still feel I was very lucky growing up.'
0:17:55 > 0:17:57You really want five bits of bacon, Tyger?
0:17:57 > 0:18:00Your eyes are bigger than your belly cos that is a lot of bacon.
0:18:00 > 0:18:03'Sex and porn was an open topic in my house and not just
0:18:03 > 0:18:04'because of my dad.
0:18:04 > 0:18:07'My mum was part of the industry, too, first as an adult model
0:18:07 > 0:18:08'and then later,
0:18:08 > 0:18:12'as editor of one of the world's biggest pornographic magazines.'
0:18:12 > 0:18:13Tyger, how do you want this tripledecker?
0:18:13 > 0:18:16- Like that and then the butter this side?- I've done it, Mum.
0:18:16 > 0:18:18- I've done it.- Right, OK. Go on, then.- Just leave it!
0:18:18 > 0:18:22- Just leave it to me now. This is my bit.- Do it, then.
0:18:22 > 0:18:25You're not making it easy for me!
0:18:25 > 0:18:28I thought that because Tyger's grown up around porn,
0:18:28 > 0:18:31it's very difficult to know how it's affected him
0:18:31 > 0:18:33because, you know, the odd porn star would come to our house
0:18:33 > 0:18:36and this one, Pascal, this Belgian guy who we knew very well
0:18:36 > 0:18:40and was always round our house, Tyger just knew him as a normal person
0:18:40 > 0:18:43and he used to sort of say about what Dad does for a living.
0:18:43 > 0:18:47And, you know, we used to say, "He's making kissy-kiss films with
0:18:47 > 0:18:50"Pascal," you know, from about the age of seven type of thing.
0:18:50 > 0:18:52Or, "Mummy and Daddy film people having special hugs."
0:18:52 > 0:18:54Yeah, special hugs. Yeah.
0:18:54 > 0:18:57You know, you don't really think about what might be going on.
0:18:57 > 0:18:59All you really just know, you're just a little boy
0:18:59 > 0:19:02and these are lovely people, they work with Mum and Dad.
0:19:02 > 0:19:04Oh, that's cool, like Pascal and... What was her name? Champagne?
0:19:04 > 0:19:05I don't know.
0:19:05 > 0:19:08You mean that girl who got ready in our house once, Pascal's girlfriend?
0:19:08 > 0:19:11- No, Champagne. Her name was Champagne.- Oh, Charmaine?- Charmaine.
0:19:11 > 0:19:14- Charmaine. You called her Champagne! - Cos I was only about five or six.
0:19:14 > 0:19:15Charmaine Sinclair.
0:19:15 > 0:19:18Funnily enough, she owns the dry cleaner's in Morton now!
0:19:18 > 0:19:22'Good on you, Champagne. You've really...cleaned up your act.
0:19:22 > 0:19:25'I'm fairly convinced that my parents' honesty over the years
0:19:25 > 0:19:28'has helped get rid of any shame I may have felt about watching porn.
0:19:28 > 0:19:30'If it had have been my dirty little secret,
0:19:30 > 0:19:33'I sometimes wonder if I'd have developed a bit of a habit.
0:19:33 > 0:19:36'After all, you know what they say - tell a teenage boy not to do
0:19:36 > 0:19:39'something and they'll masturbate furiously for 100 days.
0:19:39 > 0:19:41'That is the saying, isn't it?'
0:19:41 > 0:19:44I'd say I'd watch porn probably at least once a day, at least.
0:19:44 > 0:19:46There was this stage where I was three times a day, really.
0:19:46 > 0:19:47Three or four times, yeah.
0:19:47 > 0:19:493-4 times a week, I'd say.
0:19:49 > 0:19:52At least once a week, I guess, or something like that.
0:19:52 > 0:19:53That's news to me.
0:19:53 > 0:19:54SHE LAUGHS
0:19:54 > 0:19:56I was addicted to it when I first got into it.
0:19:56 > 0:19:59Like, I'd come home from school, put porn on.
0:19:59 > 0:20:01From there, more porn.
0:20:01 > 0:20:02That's it. It just escalated!
0:20:04 > 0:20:07'It's estimated that more than a quarter of boys aged 14-17 in
0:20:07 > 0:20:13'the UK view porn once a week, with 5% admitting to using it everyday.
0:20:13 > 0:20:16'The rest were too busy watching porn to answer the survey.
0:20:16 > 0:20:18'Now, that might not sound like much,
0:20:18 > 0:20:22'but that's thousands of guys who are potentially addicted to porn.
0:20:23 > 0:20:25'I travelled to Essex to meet 19-year-old Zach who
0:20:25 > 0:20:28'curbed his appetite for hard-core porn by going cold turkey.'
0:20:28 > 0:20:31Um... I think... Is he that lad there?
0:20:31 > 0:20:35'Ironically, cold turkey is a popular subgenre in the porn world.'
0:20:35 > 0:20:38# Oh, cold turkey, baby Yeah, cold turkey, oh, yeah
0:20:38 > 0:20:43# I know you love that cold turkey, baby, oh, yeah, oh, yeah
0:20:43 > 0:20:46# Yeah, give me that cold turkey Yeah, gobble, gobble! #
0:20:46 > 0:20:48'Nah! I just made that up.'
0:20:48 > 0:20:52- You all right, mate? Are you Zach? - Yeah. You all right, man? How you doing?- Yeah, how's it going, man?
0:20:52 > 0:20:55- Is it all right to park here? - Yeah, that'll be fine.
0:20:58 > 0:21:00- How's it going, buddy? I'm Tyger. Nice to meet you.- You too.
0:21:02 > 0:21:06I got to a point where I think I watched porn every day for a week,
0:21:06 > 0:21:08and I just felt, like, dirty.
0:21:08 > 0:21:11So, I mean, do you think you were addicted to porn?
0:21:11 > 0:21:14I think everyone, in one form or another, is addicted to porn.
0:21:14 > 0:21:17If you watch it three or four times a week to once a week,
0:21:17 > 0:21:19you've still got that sort of schedule of once a week,
0:21:19 > 0:21:20three or four times a week,
0:21:20 > 0:21:23but that was, like, the main reason I thought, enough's enough.
0:21:23 > 0:21:25How'd you think the porn you've watched has had
0:21:25 > 0:21:28an effect on your relationship with girls and women?
0:21:28 > 0:21:30Even times with me, you may have been with a girl and think, I'd
0:21:30 > 0:21:34actually rather be at home in front of a laptop and finish myself off.
0:21:34 > 0:21:37Sounds really horrible, but I think most boys have had that
0:21:37 > 0:21:41sort of experience where you think, I'd rather just be watching porn.
0:21:41 > 0:21:43'Zach seemed like a down-to-earth guy
0:21:43 > 0:21:46'and I could relate to a lot of what he was saying.
0:21:46 > 0:21:49'That evening, we met his mates at the pub and, I didn't know it yet,
0:21:49 > 0:21:51'but he was about to make quite the revelation.'
0:21:51 > 0:21:54- Aaron, Frankie. Tyger. - Who's Aaron, who's Frankie? - I'm Frankie.- Aaron, Frankie.
0:21:54 > 0:21:58I'm Tyger. Nice to meet you. I like that shirt.
0:21:58 > 0:22:01- What do you guys think of porn? - Personally, I think porn is...
0:22:01 > 0:22:06On the internet, it's a bit too much, you know what I mean?
0:22:06 > 0:22:07What do you mean too much?
0:22:07 > 0:22:10Everywhere you go, like, for instance, if you was on...
0:22:10 > 0:22:14So if I was watching a film on my laptop, then, as it was downloading,
0:22:14 > 0:22:16there would be a pop-up of "download now, free membership for life".
0:22:16 > 0:22:17Having said that,
0:22:17 > 0:22:20that just shows you've been looking at some dodgy stuff on your laptop!
0:22:20 > 0:22:24- Ain't my fault! It catches your eye. - How often do you guys watch it?
0:22:24 > 0:22:26Er... It depends.
0:22:26 > 0:22:28Sometimes, every day but, I mean, like, online,
0:22:28 > 0:22:31- it's always there, so when you're bored, you just...- Yeah.
0:22:31 > 0:22:33Sometimes, boredom just hits you, yeah.
0:22:33 > 0:22:35'OK, everyone. Here it is.
0:22:35 > 0:22:37'Bombshell moment.'
0:22:37 > 0:22:40I'd say I've watched my fair share of porn to know, as a career,
0:22:40 > 0:22:42that's something I'd want to do.
0:22:42 > 0:22:45'What?! Zach wanted to be a porn star?'
0:22:45 > 0:22:47If you can do it five times in a day, then surely,
0:22:47 > 0:22:48you should make it in the industry?
0:22:48 > 0:22:51'I was surprised, to say the least, so I did what any normal
0:22:51 > 0:22:53'person would do in that situation
0:22:53 > 0:22:55'and distracted us all with a selfie.'
0:22:55 > 0:22:58Half a face will do. Half a face?
0:22:58 > 0:23:01'If I'm honest, I don't think he looks like a porn star.
0:23:01 > 0:23:04'I don't think he'd have the gusto, do you know what I mean?'
0:23:04 > 0:23:06I don't think he'd have the pizzazz in him to sort of, you know,
0:23:06 > 0:23:08go for hours.
0:23:08 > 0:23:12I don't think... I don't know. I'd have to find out.
0:23:12 > 0:23:15I'd have to basically see his broomstick first
0:23:15 > 0:23:17and make a bit of a judgment on that.
0:23:17 > 0:23:19You know, that might tip the odds in his favour.
0:23:23 > 0:23:27'Meeting Zach gave me a taste of how much porn can mess with your mind.
0:23:27 > 0:23:29'Even though I've watched my fair share of hard-core stuff,
0:23:29 > 0:23:33'I've never thought about following in my father's footsteps.
0:23:33 > 0:23:36'But I had started to wonder what effect my generation's mass
0:23:36 > 0:23:39'porn consumption was having.'
0:23:39 > 0:23:43People expect you to do more things. Boys definitely have higher
0:23:43 > 0:23:48expectations of how girls should act, sexually.
0:23:48 > 0:23:52I reckon watching porn makes someone want to do more things.
0:23:52 > 0:23:54Anal is a big expectation now.
0:23:54 > 0:23:56- I think threesomes, as well.- Yes.
0:23:56 > 0:23:59And watersports, like, they expect to, like, piss in your mouth
0:23:59 > 0:24:00and stuff.
0:24:00 > 0:24:02And what's it called? Creampies.
0:24:04 > 0:24:05In your face.
0:24:05 > 0:24:08And if you kind of say, oh, I'm not really up for that, then people
0:24:08 > 0:24:12might think that you're a prude or that you're kind of a bit frigid.
0:24:12 > 0:24:15I think also, like, the expectation of what your body looks like.
0:24:15 > 0:24:18Big boobs, big bum, a little waist, shaven.
0:24:18 > 0:24:21Guys really do expect you to be shaved now because of porn.
0:24:21 > 0:24:23Yeah, they have to be shaven. Of course.
0:24:23 > 0:24:25Girls have to be shaven, otherwise I don't go there.
0:24:25 > 0:24:30It gives people warped ideas of what sex should be like. It's fucking now.
0:24:30 > 0:24:34- It's not sex. It's fucking. - It's not making love. It's fucking.
0:24:34 > 0:24:37'A report last year found that access and exposure to porn is
0:24:37 > 0:24:41'linked to young people engaging in more risky sexual behaviour.
0:24:42 > 0:24:45'If they were using porn, they were more likely to have had anal sex
0:24:45 > 0:24:48'or have unprotected anal and oral sex.
0:24:50 > 0:24:53'I was on my way to meet a woman who had found
0:24:53 > 0:24:55'herself on the receiving end of generation porn.'
0:24:55 > 0:24:58- I think we're sitting here. - Thank you very much.
0:24:58 > 0:25:00There you go, my fair lady.
0:25:00 > 0:25:02Thank you, kind sir.
0:25:02 > 0:25:06'Cindy Gallop's affection for dating younger men inspired her to
0:25:06 > 0:25:08'create MakeLoveNotPorn.
0:25:08 > 0:25:11'A global online campaign to get real sex back into the bedroom.'
0:25:12 > 0:25:15So, Cindy, what is it you like about younger men?
0:25:15 > 0:25:18Lot's of stamina. Very short recovery periods.
0:25:18 > 0:25:22Generally speaking, I just like to have a lot of sex.
0:25:22 > 0:25:25The older I get the hornier I get so I like to fuck all night,
0:25:25 > 0:25:26fuck all day.
0:25:26 > 0:25:29I like to have as much sex as possible and younger men deliver.
0:25:29 > 0:25:31In a way that, unfortunately, men my own age don't.
0:25:31 > 0:25:35Could you tell me about any specific experiences that you've had
0:25:35 > 0:25:38with younger guys who have probably watched far too much porn?
0:25:39 > 0:25:43It's really important to emphasise that the issue isn't porn.
0:25:43 > 0:25:46The issue is the absence of talking about sex in the real world.
0:25:46 > 0:25:48So I dated one guy who was 23.
0:25:49 > 0:25:52And he began watching porn at the age of 10 or 11.
0:25:52 > 0:25:54And he lost his virginity at the age of 18.
0:25:54 > 0:25:59So for seven, eight years he was masturbating massively,
0:25:59 > 0:26:01watching huge amounts of porn.
0:26:02 > 0:26:06As a result he has never come inside a woman.
0:26:06 > 0:26:09Never come in a woman's mouth, never come through a hand job.
0:26:09 > 0:26:12The only way he can come during sex is by jerking himself off.
0:26:12 > 0:26:13Wow, really?
0:26:13 > 0:26:17And I realised I was encountering an issue that would never have crossed
0:26:17 > 0:26:20my mind if I had not encountered it intimately and personally.
0:26:20 > 0:26:23Which is what happens when two things converge
0:26:23 > 0:26:26and I want to emphasise the convergence of these two factors.
0:26:26 > 0:26:30'That's me nodding like I know what convergence means.'
0:26:30 > 0:26:34When today's total freedom of access to hardcore porn online
0:26:34 > 0:26:40meets our society's reluctance to talk openly and honestly about sex.
0:26:40 > 0:26:45So there are things like porn world. All men love come in women's faces.
0:26:45 > 0:26:47And all women love having their faces come on.
0:26:47 > 0:26:50Real world, some people like this, some people don't.
0:26:50 > 0:26:52And it's a good idea to have the conversation
0:26:52 > 0:26:57and find out and make sure everyone's happy with what's going on.
0:26:57 > 0:27:00Porn world, women have no hair down there.
0:27:00 > 0:27:03Real world, some women like shaving and some don't.
0:27:03 > 0:27:05Some men like women au naturel.
0:27:05 > 0:27:08Do you think the women that do shave shave as a result of having
0:27:08 > 0:27:11watched porn and thinking, "that's what guys like."
0:27:11 > 0:27:13- That's what I have to do? - Yes, absolutely.
0:27:13 > 0:27:15And I know that by the way.
0:27:15 > 0:27:19Porn does not teach women how to ask for and experience their own
0:27:19 > 0:27:23pleasure and it doesn't teach young men how to give it.
0:27:23 > 0:27:27And so focusing on making sure a woman has a great time is not
0:27:27 > 0:27:29what porn teaches men.
0:27:29 > 0:27:31'I never really thought about it before.
0:27:31 > 0:27:32'But Cindy had a point.
0:27:32 > 0:27:36'Because of porn men can't see a need for condoms.
0:27:36 > 0:27:40'Because of porn men think women love it when you come in their face.
0:27:43 > 0:27:46'Because of porn all men expect anal.'
0:27:46 > 0:27:49Whoa, hold up now. I get the point.
0:27:49 > 0:27:52I think the viewers could probably imagine that for themselves.
0:27:54 > 0:27:55'Meeting Cindy made me
0:27:55 > 0:27:58'think about how the fantasy of porn is impacting the realities of sex.
0:28:00 > 0:28:03'I started to wonder if our constant connection with hardcore porn
0:28:03 > 0:28:06'was helping us to disconnect from real world relationships?'
0:28:06 > 0:28:08- You're Rundeep?- Yeah. You all right?
0:28:08 > 0:28:12'Rundeep was a 21-year-old shift worker who got in contact after
0:28:12 > 0:28:13'he realised his world of fantasy
0:28:13 > 0:28:15and reality had become truly blurred.'
0:28:18 > 0:28:22I know it's not reality but when you watch it you're like, "Yeah, I can do
0:28:22 > 0:28:23"that. I want some of that."
0:28:23 > 0:28:26And that's the kind of people I'd love to meet.
0:28:26 > 0:28:30It's a bit strange, I know but normal girls don't stand out for me.
0:28:30 > 0:28:31In the past I've bought escorts
0:28:31 > 0:28:34and once you've done it it's a different story because
0:28:34 > 0:28:38they don't compare to different girls because they do things differently.
0:28:38 > 0:28:41When you've hired escorts what's the favourite things they do for you?
0:28:41 > 0:28:44- What do you like? - I like the role-plays they do.
0:28:44 > 0:28:47The stripping tease, the domination.
0:28:47 > 0:28:50They've got whips, you're tied up and you can't do nothing.
0:28:50 > 0:28:53You're trying to get out but you can't.
0:28:53 > 0:28:55It's like a fantasy. Little role-play.
0:28:55 > 0:28:58I've had a secretary before and I was pretending
0:28:58 > 0:29:00I was a manager in an office.
0:29:00 > 0:29:02Different to what most people do
0:29:02 > 0:29:05because when you meet a normal girl they really wouldn't want to do that.
0:29:05 > 0:29:11So what is it that normal girls won't do that people in porn do do?
0:29:11 > 0:29:15They won't swallow, they won't attend parties, gang bang parties.
0:29:15 > 0:29:19There's more but I can't remember off the top of my head.
0:29:19 > 0:29:22- They won't do buckaroo.- 'Buckaroo, I used to love playing that.
0:29:22 > 0:29:24'Stick the hat on the little donkey.'
0:29:24 > 0:29:27Basically when you have one girl and there's eight,
0:29:27 > 0:29:29nine people to one girl.
0:29:29 > 0:29:32And she has to suck on all cocks at the same time.
0:29:32 > 0:29:33"Oh, different Buckaroo.
0:29:33 > 0:29:35"Nope, never played that."
0:29:35 > 0:29:38Have you ever done anything like that?
0:29:38 > 0:29:41I thought about it but I didn't want to go on my own because I was a bit shy.
0:29:41 > 0:29:42I just want to stop watching porn
0:29:42 > 0:29:44because it's not what I want to be doing.
0:29:44 > 0:29:48It's effected me going ahead in life. I want to change my life around.
0:29:48 > 0:29:51- Would you say porn has taken over your life?- That's correct.
0:29:51 > 0:29:54- And you need to make it un-take over your life.- That's correct.
0:29:55 > 0:29:59'Rundeep's descent into the world of sex for hire may seem extreme
0:29:59 > 0:30:01'but I discovered he wasn't alone.'
0:30:02 > 0:30:07Nowadays it seems that any one you see you can have potentially because
0:30:07 > 0:30:14there are actually websites where you can hire porn stars as escorts.
0:30:14 > 0:30:18To basically help you live out your wildest dreams.
0:30:18 > 0:30:21There are so many of these porn stars you can hire to have
0:30:21 > 0:30:23sex with and do whatever you want.
0:30:24 > 0:30:27£250, £300, very open-minded.
0:30:29 > 0:30:32Minimum six hours, £1,300. Blimey!
0:30:32 > 0:30:36This is a whole new thing to me.
0:30:36 > 0:30:39I knew porn existed and I kind of knew escorts existed
0:30:39 > 0:30:43but I didn't know the two worlds collided.
0:30:44 > 0:30:47'Looking at this stuff made me realise the deeper I delved
0:30:47 > 0:30:52'the line between fantasy and reality seemed to be getting thinner.
0:30:52 > 0:30:54'Whilst Rundeep was determined to redress the balance,
0:30:54 > 0:30:57'I wasn't really sure Zach knew what he was getting into.
0:30:57 > 0:30:59'Even though he said he'd given up watching it,
0:30:59 > 0:31:01'he still saw a career in porn as part of his future.'
0:31:01 > 0:31:04I don't think Zach's alone. I think there's loads of kids
0:31:04 > 0:31:07and young people who don't really know what they want to do
0:31:07 > 0:31:10and so they clutch at straws and see what's out there
0:31:10 > 0:31:13because porn's so out there that's what Zach wants to do but...
0:31:14 > 0:31:19I'm really hoping he'll see sense and consider another path.
0:31:19 > 0:31:21- How's it going, buddy?- Bit chilly.
0:31:22 > 0:31:24- Nice to see you.- Likewise.
0:31:24 > 0:31:26'Another thing about young people is how much
0:31:26 > 0:31:29'we enjoy sitting on the wrong parts of benches.
0:31:29 > 0:31:31'Look at us trying to be cool there.'
0:31:31 > 0:31:33What is your take on me wanting to do it.
0:31:33 > 0:31:36Porn's been a big part of your life. What's your opinion.
0:31:36 > 0:31:38A bit weird or normal or surreal?
0:31:40 > 0:31:42I don't think it is the best career path to go down.
0:31:44 > 0:31:46Purely from things I've learned from my dad
0:31:46 > 0:31:50and the trouble we have come across as a family.
0:31:50 > 0:31:54I think being a porn star makes it very hard to have relationships.
0:31:54 > 0:31:57Do you think you'll be able to find someone who will mother
0:31:57 > 0:32:01your child if you're a porn star and having sex with other women?
0:32:01 > 0:32:04Do you want to be at home having a nice family dinner or
0:32:04 > 0:32:09be in Hackney having sex with Brooklyn Blue at 9:30 at night for 100 quid?
0:32:09 > 0:32:11It's probably best a short term thing.
0:32:11 > 0:32:13You can't do it for ever, as you know.
0:32:13 > 0:32:17If I was to have kids one day I wouldn't want them to find about it.
0:32:17 > 0:32:20I don't know why. I don't know how your mum and dad felt about it.
0:32:20 > 0:32:22They were really open with you.
0:32:22 > 0:32:25For me, I'd want to keep it them not knowing really.
0:32:25 > 0:32:28Your kids will find out. People will know it's you.
0:32:28 > 0:32:30Even if you do move on to another profession.
0:32:30 > 0:32:33People will maybe see videos of you on the internet.
0:32:33 > 0:32:37It will be out there for ever for everyone to see.
0:32:37 > 0:32:42The more you say it the more I can slowly feel the mind going.
0:32:44 > 0:32:47Like you said, it is money, family for ever so it could be...
0:32:48 > 0:32:53You've experienced it. Nobody knows more about this than you so...
0:32:53 > 0:32:55It does make you think.
0:32:55 > 0:32:58'If I was going to convince Zach a career in porn was a bad idea,
0:32:58 > 0:33:00'I'd have to think of something radical.'
0:33:04 > 0:33:11- Make a wish.- Sorry. Enough of porn. More about me. It was my birthday.
0:33:11 > 0:33:13I was now, officially an adult.
0:33:15 > 0:33:18If I wanted to I could get into a nightclub. I could...
0:33:19 > 0:33:21What else can you do at the age of majority?
0:33:21 > 0:33:24I could book an escort if I wanted to. I could go to a strip club.
0:33:24 > 0:33:26I could have a lap dance.
0:33:26 > 0:33:29Now, I'd never fancied the idea of hiring escorts
0:33:29 > 0:33:32but a strip club, yeah, I could do that.
0:33:32 > 0:33:34After all, it's all in the name of research, right?
0:33:37 > 0:33:39I've never been into a strip club before.
0:33:39 > 0:33:42I'm used to going on my phone. This isn't really my scene.
0:33:42 > 0:33:46So I'm pretty nervous to be honest. I don't really know what to expect.
0:33:50 > 0:33:54- Hello.- You, all right?- I'm George. Nice to meet you.- Nice to meet you.
0:33:54 > 0:33:56- I'm Tyger.- Take a seat.
0:34:00 > 0:34:03- How's your day been?- Yeah, good.
0:34:03 > 0:34:07'God, look how awkward I am. Come on, Tyger, be cool.
0:34:08 > 0:34:12'I know what you're thinking, every 18-year-old boy's dream, right?
0:34:15 > 0:34:17'But the truth is, as this gorgeous woman was dancing around a
0:34:17 > 0:34:22'pole for me, all I could think was, "I reckon I could do that."
0:34:22 > 0:34:23'How hard could it be?
0:34:25 > 0:34:28'Look at me. Sexy climbing, sexy climbing. Sexy falling.
0:34:28 > 0:34:30'This really hurts.'
0:34:33 > 0:34:35There we go. There's your dance.
0:34:36 > 0:34:42- Did you enjoy it?- Yeah, it was good. Cool.- Thank you very much.
0:34:42 > 0:34:45- Nice to meet you.- Lovely to meet you.
0:34:45 > 0:34:46'Shake hands, very cool.'
0:34:48 > 0:34:51'If they're looking for a new James Bond,
0:34:51 > 0:34:53'consider that my audition tape.'
0:34:53 > 0:34:59I spent 20 quid for a three minute dance. Um... So, yeah.
0:34:59 > 0:35:01I feel slightly robbed.
0:35:01 > 0:35:03I think it's a bit of a generation thing, to be honest.
0:35:03 > 0:35:06I think before we had smartphones and such easily accessible
0:35:06 > 0:35:09porn on the internet, this is where everyone came.
0:35:09 > 0:35:10But nowadays,
0:35:10 > 0:35:14when you turn 18 or 21 you might go to one of these places to see
0:35:14 > 0:35:18what it's like but at the end of the day you're going to resort to
0:35:18 > 0:35:20free porn on your phone just like that.
0:35:26 > 0:35:29'I'd seen first-hand how disappointing a fantasy can
0:35:29 > 0:35:32'seem in the flesh so when I was invited to the filming of a porn
0:35:32 > 0:35:36'shoot by my old friend Brooklyn Blue I knew just who to take with me.'
0:35:37 > 0:35:41I wondered if you'd like to come along and be on set
0:35:41 > 0:35:43and see everything that's happening and stuff.
0:35:43 > 0:35:44That sounds good.
0:35:44 > 0:35:47- I'd love to.- There's a chance it won't be quite what you think it's
0:35:47 > 0:35:48going to be like.
0:35:48 > 0:35:51And I think there's a chance you'll see the realities of it.
0:35:51 > 0:35:53It might turn your head in the other direction.
0:35:55 > 0:36:00It's a mixture of excitement and fear of maybe not seeing
0:36:00 > 0:36:03it in the same light as I used to, if that makes sense.
0:36:03 > 0:36:04Yeah, of course.
0:36:06 > 0:36:10I'm excited for the fact that not a lot of people get to experience this.
0:36:10 > 0:36:14Best case is doing this, thinking this is right up my street.
0:36:14 > 0:36:16That would be the best case.
0:36:16 > 0:36:20As a mate I want to help him and make him see the light
0:36:20 > 0:36:23and you could do something else a lot better.
0:36:23 > 0:36:25What do you think they're going to be wearing?
0:36:25 > 0:36:29'I'm no expert, Zach, but I'd imagine not a lot.
0:36:29 > 0:36:32'We headed to East London where Brooklyn was shooting
0:36:32 > 0:36:33'a vampire themed porn film.
0:36:33 > 0:36:36'Twilight has a lot to answer for.
0:36:36 > 0:36:41'My cunning plan was to give Zach a bit of shock therapy. Tyger style.'
0:36:41 > 0:36:43Help me, help me.
0:36:44 > 0:36:50I really want to do a shot if I'm lying on the bed and he's on top
0:36:50 > 0:36:55of me and you get a good shot of him kissing and kissing down my neck.
0:36:55 > 0:36:58- And then going to bite. - So he hasn't bitten you yet.
0:36:58 > 0:37:00You end up on the bed and then he bites you.
0:37:00 > 0:37:03Monty's a better director than me. I'm useless.
0:37:03 > 0:37:06I'm good at doing the porn stuff but the directing...
0:37:07 > 0:37:09It's difficult. Very difficult.
0:37:14 > 0:37:20- I reckon there's been a few porn films shot in here.- Definitely.
0:37:20 > 0:37:24'Being professional is vital in these situations.
0:37:24 > 0:37:26'Maybe not.'
0:37:26 > 0:37:29I can hear them through there. Should we go and meet them?
0:37:29 > 0:37:32- Are we allowed?- How you feeling? - I'm feeling all right.
0:37:32 > 0:37:35Compared to what I was in the car.
0:37:37 > 0:37:39After you, mate. I insist, after you.
0:37:39 > 0:37:43'Look at us being all polite. At a porn shoot.'
0:37:46 > 0:37:47TYGER KNOCKS
0:37:48 > 0:37:54- Hello, guys.- This is my friend Zach. - Nice to meet you, Brooklyn.
0:37:54 > 0:37:57- Nice to meet you.- Very well, thank you.
0:37:57 > 0:38:00- Zach wants to be a porn star. - Do you?
0:38:01 > 0:38:04- How long you wanted to do porn for? - Probably a year and a half.
0:38:04 > 0:38:06Why do you want to do porn?
0:38:06 > 0:38:09I think it's the right career for me, to be honest with you.
0:38:09 > 0:38:11I love porn. I'm not going to lie.
0:38:11 > 0:38:16- I watched some of your videos, very nice by the way.- Did you now?
0:38:16 > 0:38:20- Did you enjoy them? - I had a very nice time, actually.
0:38:20 > 0:38:23Basically, how much of it is performance
0:38:23 > 0:38:26and how much of it is pleasure?
0:38:26 > 0:38:30It is performing. You're an actor, you're acting.
0:38:30 > 0:38:33But at the same time I genuinely love what I do.
0:38:33 > 0:38:35Do you think it's a fair representation of what sex is
0:38:35 > 0:38:37actually like?
0:38:38 > 0:38:43Yeah. Maybe not. I don't know. But I like sex like that.
0:38:43 > 0:38:47Would you say it's harder for boys to get into as opposed to the opposite sex?
0:38:47 > 0:38:49'Also known as girls.'
0:38:49 > 0:38:50Definitely.
0:38:50 > 0:38:53As long as you've got spit and you can take a cock,
0:38:53 > 0:38:57it's easy for girls. Really easy.
0:38:57 > 0:39:01Whereas guys, you have to be able to get up, come on time,
0:39:01 > 0:39:05fuck hard, have good size.
0:39:05 > 0:39:07It's a lot more difficult.
0:39:11 > 0:39:14Help. Just pull it up.
0:39:14 > 0:39:17'I should probably explain the guy man handling Brooklyn is
0:39:17 > 0:39:20'the male lead in this film, Monty.'
0:39:27 > 0:39:29Lay down there.
0:39:29 > 0:39:32You step out of the shot. And then we can set the lights up.
0:39:32 > 0:39:34You want to be on that side.
0:39:34 > 0:39:35We want Brooklyn closest to us.
0:39:35 > 0:39:38She's here, I'm eating her pussy, I got to be this side.
0:39:38 > 0:39:41That's what I mean.
0:39:41 > 0:39:45How did you get your first audition?
0:39:45 > 0:39:48I started shooting the girls myself
0:39:48 > 0:39:52and then they were saying you should do it.
0:39:52 > 0:39:57When I contacted some other producers that said give it a shot.
0:39:57 > 0:40:01I think porn's a bit of fun. It's a bit of fun, innit?
0:40:03 > 0:40:08Can't take porn too seriously, I don't think.
0:40:08 > 0:40:10The story went that Brooklyn had been turned into a lusty
0:40:10 > 0:40:12vampire by Monty.
0:40:12 > 0:40:15No, maybe she turned Monty into a lusty vampire.
0:40:15 > 0:40:18Basically, one of them's dead and they're going to do some sex.
0:40:20 > 0:40:24I'm a bit more comfortable now seeing everyone, spoke to everyone.
0:40:24 > 0:40:27I feel a bit more like I definitely could do this now.
0:40:27 > 0:40:28OK, sorry.
0:40:31 > 0:40:33Then I come in down here.
0:40:33 > 0:40:35Camera's rolling and action.
0:40:41 > 0:40:44I wonder if Zach's going to be able to keep himself from getting
0:40:44 > 0:40:46a hard on?
0:40:46 > 0:40:48Maybe he will if he looks away every now and then.
0:40:48 > 0:40:51But I don't think I'd be able to be in there watching Brooklyn
0:40:51 > 0:40:54having sex and not have a boner, I have to say.
0:40:56 > 0:40:58Do you want a minute?
0:40:59 > 0:41:01Cut for a minute.
0:41:01 > 0:41:05But not long into the shoot every man's greatest fear was realised.
0:41:05 > 0:41:08Monty couldn't get it up.
0:41:08 > 0:41:11- Do you want us to wait outside? - Just for a minute, please.
0:41:11 > 0:41:15'To be fair he is a vampire. There's not much blood down there.'
0:41:15 > 0:41:17That's what I was afraid of. The whole pressure side.
0:41:17 > 0:41:21There's people in there so I can sort of understand where he's coming from.
0:41:21 > 0:41:24'I think we can all see where he's coming from, Zach.'
0:41:25 > 0:41:26It's normal seeing that.
0:41:28 > 0:41:29Action.
0:41:32 > 0:41:33SHE GROANS
0:41:42 > 0:41:44Can we get some water quick?
0:41:45 > 0:41:47Was it sexy then?
0:41:47 > 0:41:49I don't want to seem ungrateful to them
0:41:49 > 0:41:52but I weren't turned on, weren't feeling horny.
0:41:52 > 0:41:54It was just like a normal thing.
0:41:56 > 0:41:59Why didn't I get turned on? Why didn't I get a boner?
0:41:59 > 0:42:03Now I'm thinking I've seen the struggle Monty has had to ask us
0:42:03 > 0:42:07to leave to get it up. What happens to me now?
0:42:07 > 0:42:10I watched a woman have everything get done to her
0:42:10 > 0:42:12and I didn't even get a wiggle.
0:42:12 > 0:42:14I don't think that's right in my opinion.
0:42:14 > 0:42:19'A bit like the strip club, watching porn being made had left Zach cold.
0:42:19 > 0:42:22'I hoped it would convince him to rethink his future plans.
0:42:24 > 0:42:28'But it wasn't just Zach who was having a rethink.
0:42:28 > 0:42:30'I was starting to question my own ideas too.'
0:42:32 > 0:42:34When I started making this film I was sure
0:42:34 > 0:42:36I had my own porn use in check.
0:42:38 > 0:42:41I thought I fancied a bash, click a few buttons. Watch some porn.
0:42:41 > 0:42:43Never thought much of it.
0:42:43 > 0:42:47Having met people like Zach and Rundeep, even Cindy, I can't
0:42:47 > 0:42:52help think my own sex life has been informed by porn.
0:42:55 > 0:42:58I lost my virginity when I was 13 and I had been watching
0:42:58 > 0:43:00porn for a fair few years before that.
0:43:00 > 0:43:03So it's bound to have some effect on the way I view sex.
0:43:05 > 0:43:07Because I like oral sex and I kind of expect it
0:43:07 > 0:43:13and I've come on girls' faces and it's not that out of the norm.
0:43:15 > 0:43:17Maybe that's what looking at porn has done to me.
0:43:17 > 0:43:19Maybe its put those ideas in my head.
0:43:19 > 0:43:21Without me realising it.
0:43:26 > 0:43:30'The guys I met so far had all taken their porn habits to an extreme.
0:43:30 > 0:43:33'But what happens when watching porn goes way too far?
0:43:36 > 0:43:39'I went to meet someone whose experience of this took
0:43:39 > 0:43:40'a very sinister turn.
0:43:40 > 0:43:43'She didn't want to appear on camera but wanted others to hear her story.'
0:43:46 > 0:43:50I met a boy at college and he was very interested in porn
0:43:50 > 0:43:52and I always knew he was.
0:43:52 > 0:43:56We'd watch it together and I was never that fussed.
0:43:56 > 0:44:00At the time because everyone watched porn. It wasn't a big deal.
0:44:02 > 0:44:04But then the things he were watching were getting...
0:44:05 > 0:44:09..more and more different to what I was used to.
0:44:09 > 0:44:13It went from simulation rape things to things that
0:44:13 > 0:44:17I was a bit suspicious as to whether they were rape or not.
0:44:17 > 0:44:22And he liked to act out what he saw on the camera.
0:44:22 > 0:44:23Do you think he was acting?
0:44:25 > 0:44:32I think that we both learned sex through porn.
0:44:32 > 0:44:37It started with quite rough vaginal sex
0:44:37 > 0:44:41and then it moved on to gagging and then it moved on to...
0:44:42 > 0:44:45..anal sex without permission and
0:44:45 > 0:44:48then onto very brutal, painful anal sex.
0:44:48 > 0:44:51I didn't feel it was my role to say anything.
0:44:52 > 0:44:55Cos that's what the women in front of me were doing.
0:44:55 > 0:44:59- Do you think he was kind of brainwashed?- It was constant.
0:44:59 > 0:45:01All the time.
0:45:02 > 0:45:04Four or five, maybe six times a day.
0:45:04 > 0:45:06Going to the bathrooms in between lessons to watch,
0:45:06 > 0:45:08texting each other links,
0:45:08 > 0:45:10watching it in lessons, watching it out of lessons,
0:45:10 > 0:45:12watching it on the bus, watching when we get home,
0:45:12 > 0:45:14watching it over dinner.
0:45:14 > 0:45:18It's constant. It was just what you did. It's what everyone was doing.
0:45:18 > 0:45:21And how do you think that accessibility is affecting
0:45:21 > 0:45:24this generation and people younger than ourselves?
0:45:26 > 0:45:27I think...
0:45:28 > 0:45:30I think we're entering
0:45:30 > 0:45:34into something that we've never experienced before.
0:45:34 > 0:45:36I think this generation is growing up...
0:45:37 > 0:45:39..with more knowledge
0:45:39 > 0:45:43and more horrifying knowledge than anyone ever has before.
0:45:43 > 0:45:45He thought that's what normal sex was, so he was doing it.
0:45:45 > 0:45:48I thought that's what normal sex was, so I was doing it.
0:45:48 > 0:45:51It wasn't until many years later I realised that it was
0:45:51 > 0:45:54a horrible experience that women should not be going through.
0:45:56 > 0:46:00I don't feel like I'm his victim.
0:46:01 > 0:46:02I feel like I'm porn's victim.
0:46:08 > 0:46:11I think this has kind of been a real turning point
0:46:11 > 0:46:12in the journey for me, actually,
0:46:12 > 0:46:14because it does make me think that
0:46:14 > 0:46:17although porn has been such a big part of my life,
0:46:17 > 0:46:18there has been a massive part of it
0:46:18 > 0:46:21that has completely been hidden from me,
0:46:21 > 0:46:23maybe because I just was never told about it
0:46:23 > 0:46:26or my parents never did anything like that, but...
0:46:27 > 0:46:31..there's like this whole other dark world of porn...
0:46:32 > 0:46:34..and it's really scary.
0:46:34 > 0:46:36I really have been scared by it, actually, today.
0:46:39 > 0:46:42I still wanted to know if porn felt a responsibility towards
0:46:42 > 0:46:47its increasingly young audience and there was only one person to ask.
0:46:47 > 0:46:48What used to be...
0:46:48 > 0:46:50I met my dad at a former porn studio,
0:46:50 > 0:46:52where he'd made many of his own films.
0:46:56 > 0:46:59Oh, wow, it's even worse...
0:46:59 > 0:47:00It's even worse than it was.
0:47:00 > 0:47:02Right, so...
0:47:03 > 0:47:05Oh, no, I can't believe it.
0:47:05 > 0:47:08- This is where you used to shoot your porn films?- Some of it, yeah.
0:47:08 > 0:47:14My God, up until last week, in fact, this was a fully functional,
0:47:14 > 0:47:18completely done out lap dancing, er, pole dancing bar.
0:47:18 > 0:47:22- This is really weird.- It's like the Mary Celeste of the porn world.
0:47:22 > 0:47:25'Don't worry, I Googled it. Turns out it's an old boat.'
0:47:25 > 0:47:29So, Dad, would you say that this studio
0:47:29 > 0:47:32is like the metaphor for porn today?
0:47:32 > 0:47:33Erm, yeah.
0:47:34 > 0:47:36Good.
0:47:36 > 0:47:37I like that, yes.
0:47:37 > 0:47:38Absolutely.
0:47:38 > 0:47:41I mean, in a way, do you think in any way
0:47:41 > 0:47:43it could be a good thing, because...
0:47:43 > 0:47:46Ha! No, because I'm out of work!
0:47:46 > 0:47:51Fair enough, but I met someone recently who...
0:47:51 > 0:47:53She was with her boyfriend who was addicted to porn
0:47:53 > 0:47:58and over time he got into more and more dark and violent types of porn
0:47:58 > 0:48:00and, ultimately, he became addicted to rape porn.
0:48:00 > 0:48:04- You can't...- You can't say it's OK that someone can, you know,
0:48:04 > 0:48:08be in a relationship, they hadn't really had much sexual experience
0:48:08 > 0:48:11- before they started watching porn and porn taught them sex.- Yeah.
0:48:11 > 0:48:14And because of that, they thought sex was rape.
0:48:14 > 0:48:16Maybe if porn wasn't so fake,
0:48:16 > 0:48:18maybe if porn wasn't shot in a bedroom
0:48:18 > 0:48:21that looks just like a porn bedroom
0:48:21 > 0:48:24or wasn't in a dungeon or in a lap dancing club,
0:48:24 > 0:48:27do you think maybe if porn was actually what sex is like,
0:48:27 > 0:48:30- then maybe these problems wouldn't happen?- Well, yeah.
0:48:30 > 0:48:34At the end of the day, it is doing terrible things to young people,
0:48:34 > 0:48:37- whether it's their fault or not. - That's just where we are.
0:48:37 > 0:48:39That's just the way we are in the world.
0:48:39 > 0:48:41I don't think it's a particularly good thing either.
0:48:41 > 0:48:44Right or wrong, there is no question that porn is here to stay,
0:48:44 > 0:48:47but what would happen if we did stop?
0:48:47 > 0:48:49What would a porn-free life even look like?
0:48:51 > 0:48:52I discovered an online community
0:48:52 > 0:48:54filled with men from all over the world
0:48:54 > 0:48:57who had decided that their porn habit had taken over.
0:48:58 > 0:49:02In an effort to reclaim their lives from the clutches of hardcore porn,
0:49:02 > 0:49:03they'd joined NoFap.
0:49:03 > 0:49:05So, apparently,
0:49:05 > 0:49:08"fap" is the sound that your penis makes when you have a wank,
0:49:08 > 0:49:11so NoFap.com, "partake in the ultimate challenge".
0:49:11 > 0:49:14Jesus, there is literally so many comments on here
0:49:14 > 0:49:17from so many people who are claiming this thing is like a godsend.
0:49:17 > 0:49:21'And it got me thinking, I wonder what their meetings are like.'
0:49:21 > 0:49:23Hello, everyone, and welcome to today's meeting.
0:49:23 > 0:49:25Is there anyone new in today?
0:49:27 > 0:49:28Go on, brother,
0:49:28 > 0:49:30tell us your name.
0:49:30 > 0:49:32Erm, right, well, hi, everyone.
0:49:32 > 0:49:34I'm Tyger and I...
0:49:34 > 0:49:36I'm a wanker.
0:49:41 > 0:49:43Rundeep's admission that he's tried
0:49:43 > 0:49:46and failed in the past to give up porn made me wonder
0:49:46 > 0:49:48if this community could be the way forward for him.
0:49:50 > 0:49:52So I took Rundeep to meet a prominent voice
0:49:52 > 0:49:54from the NoFap community, Tobias.
0:49:54 > 0:49:57- How's it going?- It's Tyger, right? - Yeah, nice to meet you.
0:49:57 > 0:50:00And it's Rundeep? Pleased to meet you, I'm Tobias.
0:50:00 > 0:50:02- Come on in.- Thank you. Thank you very much.
0:50:02 > 0:50:04What a nice little place.
0:50:04 > 0:50:07So how long is it that you've been "no-fapping" for now?
0:50:07 > 0:50:11I haven't watched porn or masturbated for almost 550 days.
0:50:11 > 0:50:13I think that's tomorrow, actually.
0:50:13 > 0:50:16What benefits actually directly come from not watching porn?
0:50:17 > 0:50:21Well, that's a very in-depth topic and once again,
0:50:21 > 0:50:22it differs from person to person.
0:50:22 > 0:50:24But if you're basically spending your whole...
0:50:24 > 0:50:27Well, I wouldn't say your whole life watching porn,
0:50:27 > 0:50:28but if you watch far too much of it
0:50:28 > 0:50:31instead of interacting with actual females,
0:50:31 > 0:50:35you tend to get a wrong idea of things like
0:50:35 > 0:50:37what kind of things women like,
0:50:37 > 0:50:40you get a wrong idea of what women should look like, for example.
0:50:40 > 0:50:44For example, with porn stars, they're always wearing full make up,
0:50:44 > 0:50:46they might be surgically enhanced
0:50:46 > 0:50:53and if you basically masturbate to that on a consistent basis,
0:50:53 > 0:50:55that becomes your sexual taste,
0:50:55 > 0:50:59so when you're walking around and you're seeing girls who are just cute
0:50:59 > 0:51:02and they've got natural bodies instead of enhanced ones,
0:51:02 > 0:51:04you might find them a little less attractive,
0:51:04 > 0:51:08because you're not getting off on that kind of image.
0:51:08 > 0:51:10You're getting off on a fake image instead.
0:51:10 > 0:51:12That's really interesting, actually.
0:51:12 > 0:51:14That's partially one of the reasons I brought Rundeep here,
0:51:14 > 0:51:20- because Rundeep watches quite a lot of pornography, don't you?- Yes.
0:51:20 > 0:51:21And what you basically just said
0:51:21 > 0:51:23I think kind of hits the nail on the head.
0:51:23 > 0:51:25I was probably watching it six times a day,
0:51:25 > 0:51:28masturbating three times, four times a day,
0:51:28 > 0:51:32about three to four hours a day and then it just went on and on.
0:51:32 > 0:51:34Then I was booking escorts, spending my money on them,
0:51:34 > 0:51:37and then it came to "What am I doing?
0:51:37 > 0:51:41"What am I doing?", Yeah, "Has to be a porn star",
0:51:41 > 0:51:45- a porn star experience escort like- BLEEP.
0:51:45 > 0:51:47Top-class escorts.
0:51:47 > 0:51:51What you see in movies, what you can't get outside,
0:51:51 > 0:51:53and my taste is as you described -
0:51:53 > 0:51:55I want a porn star, not a normal person.
0:51:55 > 0:51:58Would you say you think Rundeep has been brainwashed?
0:51:58 > 0:52:00Brainwashed?
0:52:00 > 0:52:05That's a rather heavy term, really, but in a certain extent, yeah.
0:52:05 > 0:52:09I know if I see pictures of porn stars and how they usually look
0:52:09 > 0:52:13when they're performing, I don't find that attractive any more.
0:52:13 > 0:52:15I'd rather have a girl-next-door type.
0:52:15 > 0:52:19And do you have any special techniques or pieces of advice
0:52:19 > 0:52:21that you should give to Rundeep to try and help him
0:52:21 > 0:52:23stay away from sexual thoughts?
0:52:23 > 0:52:26Take up other activities. You said you do it out of boredom.
0:52:26 > 0:52:28I had that as well,
0:52:28 > 0:52:31so when you take it out of your life,
0:52:31 > 0:52:33what have you got to do? You've got to introduce lots of new things.
0:52:33 > 0:52:36Now, a lot of people think that if they take it out of their life,
0:52:36 > 0:52:39their life is going to be immediately much better,
0:52:39 > 0:52:41but you have to replace it with other things.
0:52:41 > 0:52:43That's definitely an essential thing.
0:52:43 > 0:52:47So as soon as these thoughts pop into my head, I'll just go...
0:52:47 > 0:52:48HE EXHALES
0:52:48 > 0:52:50That's my power stance.
0:52:54 > 0:52:57'The power stance felt a bit weird.
0:52:57 > 0:53:00'I wondered what else Tobias did to fill his porn-free time.'
0:53:00 > 0:53:03I noticed on your YouTube video you said you started mountaineering
0:53:03 > 0:53:06and playing the keyboard and stuff.
0:53:06 > 0:53:09Yeah, it's a case of all of these things are stuff
0:53:09 > 0:53:11that I couldn't consider myself doing before.
0:53:11 > 0:53:15So you could say you went from playing one organ
0:53:15 > 0:53:17- to playing another organ. - I'll not do that joke.
0:53:19 > 0:53:20Sorry.
0:53:20 > 0:53:21OK.
0:53:21 > 0:53:24'And that was our cue to leave.' Thanks again, Tobias.
0:53:24 > 0:53:26'Taxi!'
0:53:26 > 0:53:28What did you think about what he has to say?
0:53:28 > 0:53:32- Yeah... - 'But if Tobias could do 500 days,
0:53:32 > 0:53:34'I wondered how long I could last.'
0:53:52 > 0:53:54I was almost at the end of my porn journey,
0:53:54 > 0:53:57but there was one person I needed to see again.
0:53:57 > 0:54:01I've come to meet Rundeep and he told me to meet him at a boxing gym.
0:54:02 > 0:54:06I think it's quite a good sign that he's out boxing and stuff.
0:54:06 > 0:54:07It means he's not at home wanking.
0:54:09 > 0:54:11- Hey, buddy.- You all right?
0:54:11 > 0:54:13- I'm excited.- You all right?
0:54:13 > 0:54:14- How's it going? - Not too bad, yourself?
0:54:14 > 0:54:17I'd heard from Rundeep that he'd found himself a new hobby
0:54:17 > 0:54:19and I was keen to know if it had replaced his old one.
0:54:23 > 0:54:24But before I could find out,
0:54:24 > 0:54:26he challenged me to get in the ring too.
0:54:28 > 0:54:30Me?
0:54:30 > 0:54:32A boxing ring?
0:54:32 > 0:54:34Can only mean one thing.
0:54:34 > 0:54:36Gratuitous Rocky montage.
0:54:36 > 0:54:38MUSIC: "Eye Of The Tiger" by Survivor
0:54:38 > 0:54:39Come on.
0:54:39 > 0:54:40Back, good.
0:54:40 > 0:54:41OK.
0:54:43 > 0:54:44Hands up after.
0:54:44 > 0:54:47- # It's the eye of the tiger... # - Good, there you go.
0:54:47 > 0:54:48# It's the thrill of the fight
0:54:48 > 0:54:51# Rising up to the challenge of... #
0:54:51 > 0:54:53OK, so I'm no Stallone,
0:54:53 > 0:54:55but could this really be a replacement for porn?
0:54:55 > 0:54:58Rundeep, what was it that made you decide to give up porn?
0:54:58 > 0:55:00I think I just wanted to control my life.
0:55:00 > 0:55:02Just wanted to change things,
0:55:02 > 0:55:04so now it's time to take control of it.
0:55:04 > 0:55:05Has it been difficult, giving up porn?
0:55:05 > 0:55:07To be fair, the first seven days, no.
0:55:07 > 0:55:10The eighth or ninth day, yeah. I thought I need to change.
0:55:10 > 0:55:12If I want to do it, I have to be determined.
0:55:12 > 0:55:15I get all my anger out here, I have fun and I enjoy what I do.
0:55:15 > 0:55:19It might just be a start, but knowing I'd played even a small part
0:55:19 > 0:55:22in helping Rundeep made me feel like a champion.
0:55:28 > 0:55:30The truth is, I don't think anyone really knows
0:55:30 > 0:55:34what the long-term effects will be of my generation's porn appetite.
0:55:34 > 0:55:38Perhaps we're all too quick to put porn into one category -
0:55:38 > 0:55:39good or bad.
0:55:39 > 0:55:42The truth is it's a lot more complicated than that.
0:55:43 > 0:55:45But one thing I have learned on this journey
0:55:45 > 0:55:48is that we all need to talk about sex a lot more.
0:55:50 > 0:55:54It needs conversations like what we like, what we don't like,
0:55:54 > 0:55:55what we want from sex.
0:55:55 > 0:55:59They need to replace the porn manual that is shaping
0:55:59 > 0:56:01so many young people's sex lives today.
0:56:04 > 0:56:07I'm not saying that I'm never going to watch porn again,
0:56:07 > 0:56:11but it definitely has made me think twice about how much I turn to it.
0:56:29 > 0:56:33MUSIC: "No You Girls" by Franz Ferdinand