How Straight Am I?

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0:00:02 > 0:00:06This programme contains some strong language and some scenes of a sexual nature

0:00:06 > 0:00:08My name is Tyger Drew-Honey. I'm 18 and I'm straight.

0:00:08 > 0:00:10Sexuality, or who we have sex with,

0:00:10 > 0:00:13is a major part to everyone's identity.

0:00:13 > 0:00:16Except that for my generation, it seems we don't care

0:00:16 > 0:00:18if that just happens to be both boys and girls.

0:00:20 > 0:00:23According to the British sex survey, almost a quarter of young

0:00:23 > 0:00:27British adults have had some sort of same-sex experience.

0:00:27 > 0:00:29I've hooked up with girls before, yeah,

0:00:29 > 0:00:32shit on a drunken night or something,

0:00:32 > 0:00:34but nothing serious at all.

0:00:34 > 0:00:36I think it's all changed, really. I think everyone...

0:00:36 > 0:00:39If you snog your mate, then it doesn't mean you're gay as such,

0:00:39 > 0:00:42you're just having a good time, normally.

0:00:42 > 0:00:44I mean, I've been with guys and I've been with girls and it's like,

0:00:44 > 0:00:47I'm not bisex... I wouldn't label myself as bisexual,

0:00:47 > 0:00:50straight or whatever, I'm just like,

0:00:50 > 0:00:53"I like you, so, yeah, I want you, so you're mine now."

0:00:55 > 0:00:58So, is it true that the old labels and categories we had of gay

0:00:58 > 0:01:01and straight have now been ditched?

0:01:01 > 0:01:04This is mental. Like, I've just had a little look on the internet

0:01:04 > 0:01:08and I've been completely bombarded by so many different types of sexuality.

0:01:08 > 0:01:11Pansexual, heteroflexible, demisexual...

0:01:11 > 0:01:15It's like sexuality is so much more fluid nowadays

0:01:15 > 0:01:18and the lines between boys and girls are just increasingly blurred.

0:01:22 > 0:01:25Maybe... Who knows, are we all a bit bi-curious?

0:01:26 > 0:01:30For the next month, I want to meet the trailblazers of youth sexuality

0:01:30 > 0:01:33who are redefining our sexual desires and preferences and find out

0:01:33 > 0:01:36why young people are pushing the boundaries like never before.

0:01:36 > 0:01:40From seaside towns where guys cop off with their straight mates...

0:01:40 > 0:01:42I actually got off with him, like full-on...

0:01:42 > 0:01:44It was a good kiss, it was a good kiss.

0:01:46 > 0:01:49..to glamorous metropolitan sex parties where straight girls

0:01:49 > 0:01:50get off with girls.

0:01:52 > 0:01:55I don't see there's anything wrong with a girl having

0:01:55 > 0:01:58lots of fun exploring her sexuality.

0:02:00 > 0:02:03I mean, I don't know, is it going to be sex everywhere?

0:02:03 > 0:02:05Like, where am I going to look?!

0:02:05 > 0:02:08And as young people embrace this new fluid sexuality, I'll explore

0:02:08 > 0:02:12how gender itself is helping to reshape this brave new world.

0:02:12 > 0:02:13I think everyone's curious.

0:02:13 > 0:02:18Every straight guy out there has had a curious thought.

0:02:19 > 0:02:21And what about me?

0:02:21 > 0:02:22As a straight guy, I want to see

0:02:22 > 0:02:25whether my own sexuality really is set in stone,

0:02:25 > 0:02:28and what happens when I let it all hang out.

0:02:30 > 0:02:32No! Not a front thong!

0:02:32 > 0:02:34They won't stay in!

0:02:34 > 0:02:35She needs a bigger sock.

0:02:43 > 0:02:44'Before I set off,

0:02:44 > 0:02:47'I think it's a good idea if I lay my cards on the table.

0:02:47 > 0:02:49'Here's a quick interview with me

0:02:49 > 0:02:53'interrogating myself about my sexuality.'

0:02:53 > 0:02:57To describe my sexuality I would say I'm straight,

0:02:57 > 0:03:00I'm heterosexual.

0:03:00 > 0:03:04Erm, I fancy girls and women

0:03:04 > 0:03:07and I don't fancy men.

0:03:08 > 0:03:11'Aren't you even a little bit curious, Tyger?'

0:03:11 > 0:03:13I haven't got that curiosity in me

0:03:13 > 0:03:15to sort of want to experiment with men.

0:03:15 > 0:03:19I know maybe some people do, but I'm quite happy...

0:03:19 > 0:03:22Well, at the moment, in my mind-set, I'm quite happy

0:03:22 > 0:03:24to sort of stick to females.

0:03:24 > 0:03:27'Oh, go on, you know you want to.'

0:03:27 > 0:03:31Things change an awful lot and people have all kinds

0:03:31 > 0:03:34of things that happen to them in their lives which make them certain

0:03:34 > 0:03:38types of people, but in the frame of mind that I'm in at the moment,

0:03:38 > 0:03:43I would say, quite strongly, I think I will be a straight man forever.

0:03:44 > 0:03:46'So, now you know where I am.'

0:03:46 > 0:03:48Thank you very much.

0:03:48 > 0:03:51'Enough of me, I am starting to feel a little bit uncomfortable.'

0:03:51 > 0:03:53But before we find out what's happening today,

0:03:53 > 0:03:56let's go on a short journey back in time.

0:03:56 > 0:03:59Being gay in your grandparents' day wasn't easy.

0:03:59 > 0:04:01Nan might have got away with it, because lesbian sex was never

0:04:01 > 0:04:05made illegal, although you were well advised to keep a low profile.

0:04:05 > 0:04:07That's it, ladies, try and blend in.

0:04:07 > 0:04:11For Grandpa, however, coming out of the closet meant going into prison.

0:04:11 > 0:04:13And as we all know, nothing gay ever happens in there.

0:04:18 > 0:04:21The sexual revolution kicked off with the contraceptive pill

0:04:21 > 0:04:24in the 1960s. And with risk-free sex,

0:04:24 > 0:04:26your mum and dad probably bought one of these.

0:04:26 > 0:04:28It changed the way hairy straight couples in the suburbs

0:04:28 > 0:04:30had sex forever.

0:04:30 > 0:04:32Nah, I don't get that one...

0:04:32 > 0:04:34But it was still all about the boxes -

0:04:34 > 0:04:37straight, gay and nothing else.

0:04:37 > 0:04:40# Karma, karma, karma, karma, karma chameleon... #

0:04:40 > 0:04:44The '80s seemed to usher in a new, more open-minded era,

0:04:44 > 0:04:48but then things all went a bit dark.

0:04:48 > 0:04:51If you ignore AIDS, it could be the death of you.

0:04:51 > 0:04:53After a couple of decades of safe sex and monogamy,

0:04:53 > 0:04:55things began to lighten up,

0:04:55 > 0:04:59and today, it seems that anything goes -

0:04:59 > 0:05:02porn on tap, same-sex marriages,

0:05:02 > 0:05:04Tom Daley coming out on YouTube...

0:05:04 > 0:05:07# I kissed a girl just to try it... #

0:05:07 > 0:05:11..and no-one seemed to blink an eye when Katy Perry kissed a girl.

0:05:11 > 0:05:14No-one really cares whether they're gay or not, really, nowadays.

0:05:14 > 0:05:16Well, to us, it don't really matter.

0:05:16 > 0:05:21People are more accepting now of different sexualities, yeah.

0:05:21 > 0:05:23I think you can like whoever you like,

0:05:23 > 0:05:26and it shouldn't be important whether they're a girl or a boy,

0:05:26 > 0:05:28just whether you're attracted to them.

0:05:28 > 0:05:29Then do whatever you like.

0:05:31 > 0:05:35Before I start my journey into this brave new world of sexuality,

0:05:35 > 0:05:37there's just time for a last-minute pep talk.

0:05:37 > 0:05:39Hello, Tyg.

0:05:39 > 0:05:44'Ladies and gentlemen, back by popular demand - my dad.'

0:05:44 > 0:05:45So, where are you off to now, then?

0:05:45 > 0:05:50Erm, well, I'm just packing my bags because I'm off around the country

0:05:50 > 0:05:54to meet other young people exploring their sexuality in...

0:05:54 > 0:05:55Good.

0:05:55 > 0:05:59..in interesting ways. To challenge myself, basically.

0:05:59 > 0:06:02I mean, I don't know if you've ever heard this,

0:06:02 > 0:06:05but there's a statistic on the internet that says

0:06:05 > 0:06:08apparently 79% of people think that I'm gay.

0:06:08 > 0:06:12- What?!- Yeah, where do you think that comes from?

0:06:12 > 0:06:14It's probably because you look a bit like Tom Daley.

0:06:14 > 0:06:17But I don't know. Could it be that, something like that?

0:06:17 > 0:06:20Because you look a bit like someone who's just come out as gay?

0:06:20 > 0:06:23I don't think it's got anything to do with looking like anyone.

0:06:23 > 0:06:25Well, it's the internet, so it must be true.

0:06:25 > 0:06:26No, I mean...

0:06:26 > 0:06:29Yeah, but I mean, do you honestly think... Really?!

0:06:29 > 0:06:32I mean, would it ever bother you if I turned out to be gay?

0:06:32 > 0:06:34No, of course not!

0:06:34 > 0:06:36I mean, it'd be a bit of a shock.

0:06:36 > 0:06:39'Well done. Very 21st-century dad answer.

0:06:39 > 0:06:42'But I'm not entirely convinced.'

0:06:42 > 0:06:43Got everything? Got clean pants?

0:06:43 > 0:06:46Hmm... If I need to wear the same pair one day again, I will.

0:06:46 > 0:06:47Well, yeah, I expect you can

0:06:47 > 0:06:49just turn them inside out, you'll be fine.

0:06:49 > 0:06:51I'll be fine. Going to be fun.

0:06:53 > 0:06:55'Yeah, all right, Dad, I'm only going to London!'

0:06:58 > 0:07:00It does seem that girls are more open than blokes

0:07:00 > 0:07:03when it comes to being bi-curious.

0:07:03 > 0:07:06According to the latest 2014 British sex survey,

0:07:06 > 0:07:10the number of girls exploring their sexuality with other girls

0:07:10 > 0:07:12has quadrupled in less than a decade.

0:07:12 > 0:07:15I think women are more comfortable with getting off with women

0:07:15 > 0:07:18- because of like emotional comfort. - Yeah, they feel more secure.

0:07:18 > 0:07:20Yeah, more secure, something like that.

0:07:20 > 0:07:24I've got in with girls before. I think it's totally normal.

0:07:24 > 0:07:28I've got in with girls that, like, thought of it as being

0:07:28 > 0:07:31really weird and then being later, after getting with me, like,

0:07:31 > 0:07:34"Oh, that was, actually, like, the same, it wasn't weird at all."

0:07:34 > 0:07:36I don't think I would really, like,

0:07:36 > 0:07:38blame a girl for getting off with another girl.

0:07:38 > 0:07:41- Yeah, I'd be like, "Ooh!"- Because girls are pretty like fit, like.

0:07:41 > 0:07:45Yeah, if the other girl's fit, if the other girl's fit, it's cool.

0:07:45 > 0:07:46Yeah!

0:07:46 > 0:07:49To find out more about women and their sexual preferences,

0:07:49 > 0:07:53I've come to London to meet 24-year-old part-time model Lauren

0:07:53 > 0:07:54and her boyfriend Chris.

0:07:54 > 0:07:56You look very nice.

0:07:56 > 0:07:57Thank you.

0:07:57 > 0:08:01'They've created a sex party club night for men and women.'

0:08:01 > 0:08:03So, how many parties would you say you've been to, Lauren?

0:08:03 > 0:08:05Oh, I...

0:08:05 > 0:08:08Erm, I can't remember. Quite a few.

0:08:08 > 0:08:12In a way, it kind of seems like a man's dream to go somewhere

0:08:12 > 0:08:15- where there's a lot of willing beautiful women.- Mm-hmm.

0:08:15 > 0:08:19Erm, but it almost kind of seems like it would be different

0:08:19 > 0:08:21from a female point of view.

0:08:21 > 0:08:24Not all girls are like typical girls you think, like,

0:08:24 > 0:08:25"Oh, I only want one boyfriend."

0:08:25 > 0:08:30Some girls are just as sexually active as men and sometimes more.

0:08:30 > 0:08:34And, you know, some girls like other girls and like to experiment

0:08:34 > 0:08:38and stuff, so I think it's more fun for girls,

0:08:38 > 0:08:42because they get the choice of having a boy or playing with a girl.

0:08:44 > 0:08:46So, it seems that it's the women who are keenest to use

0:08:46 > 0:08:50the parties to explore their sexuality.

0:08:50 > 0:08:52I wanted to know more, so Chris agreed to show me

0:08:52 > 0:08:55what happens at one of their nights.

0:08:55 > 0:08:56I almost don't want to look at this page

0:08:56 > 0:08:59- cos it's just going to make me get really horny.- OK...

0:08:59 > 0:09:01MOANING

0:09:08 > 0:09:11'Don't get a boner, don't get a boner, don't get a boner...'

0:09:11 > 0:09:12Oh, my God!

0:09:12 > 0:09:15One of the things that I found interesting and quite

0:09:15 > 0:09:18startling was that it's actually the girls that call the shots

0:09:18 > 0:09:22and they're the ones that make the moves and invite you in, or not.

0:09:22 > 0:09:23Why is that?

0:09:23 > 0:09:26It's a great dynamic where everyone feels completely free

0:09:26 > 0:09:29and not judged and can do whatever the fuck they want.

0:09:29 > 0:09:33It's viewed as a bisexual girl- straight guy party, I think.

0:09:33 > 0:09:37I don't know if you know how old I am, but I'm 18,

0:09:37 > 0:09:40and 18's generally the age you get to do stuff.

0:09:40 > 0:09:42So, is 18 the age that you can come to these parties at?

0:09:42 > 0:09:44Yeah, 18 and over.

0:09:44 > 0:09:46So, do you get many 18-year-olds?

0:09:46 > 0:09:48Quite a few. You'd be surprised.

0:09:48 > 0:09:50I'm not actually that surprised

0:09:50 > 0:09:53because I can imagine this being something that a lot of people

0:09:53 > 0:09:56heard about and think, "Right, as soon as I get to 18..."

0:09:56 > 0:09:58A lot of, like, 18-year-old girls and guys...

0:09:58 > 0:10:01It's not like it's disproportionately one sex,

0:10:01 > 0:10:04it's like a real mixture of both, yeah.

0:10:04 > 0:10:07You don't get so many 18-year-old couples,

0:10:07 > 0:10:10like that's actually probably a smaller proportion,

0:10:10 > 0:10:13but, yeah, lots of 18-year-old girls and guys.

0:10:13 > 0:10:16A lot still doing their A-levels, which is quite random.

0:10:16 > 0:10:22The idea that, like, I could potentially be doing that...

0:10:22 > 0:10:27Yeah. Well, I mean, that's home cinema. That's, like, 12, 15,

0:10:27 > 0:10:28maybe 20 couples come to that.

0:10:28 > 0:10:31But then, the one at the weekend where you're coming to,

0:10:31 > 0:10:33there's going to be about 70 couples

0:10:33 > 0:10:35and about 20 single girls.

0:10:35 > 0:10:38So, it's going to be like that, but a hundredfold.

0:10:38 > 0:10:41'I just hope his club night is better than his maths!'

0:10:43 > 0:10:45I'd seen the girls in action

0:10:45 > 0:10:49and now I wanted to find out from Lauren just what this all means.

0:10:49 > 0:10:51I've arranged to meet her at the park.

0:10:51 > 0:10:55The problem is I suck at rollerblading, so I came for a jog.

0:10:55 > 0:10:57This IS what joggers wear, right?

0:10:57 > 0:11:00When was the last time you rollerbladed, then?

0:11:00 > 0:11:01Erm, couple of weeks ago.

0:11:01 > 0:11:03Just like walking but you don't really have to do anything.

0:11:03 > 0:11:05I know, that's why I love it!

0:11:05 > 0:11:07'I wanted to know what it is that makes girls

0:11:07 > 0:11:08'so keen on these parties.'

0:11:08 > 0:11:13It's a lot of fun, it's, you know, different, it's sexy,

0:11:13 > 0:11:15it's kind of girls together and...

0:11:15 > 0:11:19That's the thing, is it just you who's a bit like this,

0:11:19 > 0:11:21or do you think it's kind of women as a whole?

0:11:21 > 0:11:24- No, every single girl there will play with another girl.- Really?!

0:11:24 > 0:11:27- I mean, yeah, cos they...- But surely that's like being bisexual.

0:11:27 > 0:11:30For a guy, that would just never happen. Well, it would rarely happen.

0:11:30 > 0:11:34Well, I don't see myself as bisexual or lesbian.

0:11:34 > 0:11:39I'm bi-curious, you know? If I... I would never date a woman

0:11:39 > 0:11:43and if I had a choice of a one-to-one with a guy or girl,

0:11:43 > 0:11:45the guy would probably, you know, win.

0:11:45 > 0:11:48But you can't deny there's something, you know,

0:11:48 > 0:11:50with a really beautiful girl.

0:11:50 > 0:11:52What can women do that men can't?

0:11:52 > 0:11:55You know, some guys just get to the party and they just want a like,

0:11:55 > 0:11:57quick kiss-kiss, stick it in, get the job done and go...

0:11:57 > 0:11:59'Very romantic, lads.'

0:11:59 > 0:12:04..where women are a bit more like, erm, they warm you up.

0:12:04 > 0:12:07You know, women are really good at, like, kissing and touching

0:12:07 > 0:12:11and they're really soft and gentle. I don't think I've ever come across

0:12:11 > 0:12:14a girl that actually doesn't know what she's doing down there,

0:12:14 > 0:12:16so I would say, yeah, they're probably...

0:12:16 > 0:12:18the majority of them are better.

0:12:20 > 0:12:23A great place for Lauren to meet like-minded girls,

0:12:23 > 0:12:26the parties also give her the chance to explore sex in a whole new way

0:12:26 > 0:12:29without labelling herself as gay or bisexual.

0:12:31 > 0:12:34But whilst Lauren was a regular on the sex party scene,

0:12:34 > 0:12:36this was going to be my first one

0:12:36 > 0:12:38and I was feeling a little bit nervous.

0:12:40 > 0:12:41- Hey, man.- How's it going?

0:12:41 > 0:12:44Yeah, good, you all right? Nice to see you.

0:12:46 > 0:12:48God, it's absolutely beautiful, isn't it?

0:12:48 > 0:12:51'Chris has asked me for a hand getting the venue ready

0:12:51 > 0:12:52'for the party tonight.'

0:12:52 > 0:12:54- You good, bro? - Good, man.

0:12:54 > 0:12:57Now I know what a chaise longue is for, I guess.

0:13:00 > 0:13:02Have you seen how sweaty I am?

0:13:03 > 0:13:06'And with everything ready, what else would you do before a sex party?

0:13:06 > 0:13:08'High tea, of course.'

0:13:08 > 0:13:10Thank you very much.

0:13:10 > 0:13:14'For Lauren, the sex party is an arena where it's easy to explore.

0:13:14 > 0:13:17'But that doesn't stop her getting stick for it.'

0:13:17 > 0:13:22I do enjoy it, you know. I get to have a loving relationship

0:13:22 > 0:13:26with a great guy who I love very much and also, you know,

0:13:26 > 0:13:30explore your sexuality and have fun with other people.

0:13:30 > 0:13:33It's a good balance. I wouldn't say it's for everyone,

0:13:33 > 0:13:35but it works for us.

0:13:35 > 0:13:39So, we just don't judge anyone else and hopefully no-one judges us!

0:13:39 > 0:13:41What do you think about the girls at parties?

0:13:41 > 0:13:43Do you think of them in a bad way?

0:13:43 > 0:13:47Do you think they're sluts and stuff like that?

0:13:47 > 0:13:48You can be honest.

0:13:48 > 0:13:51Well, the thing is, it's a tricky question,

0:13:51 > 0:13:54because the answer isn't yes,

0:13:54 > 0:13:57but it isn't no.

0:13:57 > 0:14:01Really, girls are more equipped to have more sex than guys.

0:14:01 > 0:14:05Girls can have multiple orgasms going on for hours.

0:14:05 > 0:14:08Guys, you know, have one-shot wonders, so why...?

0:14:08 > 0:14:12They're built to have more sex than actual guys,

0:14:12 > 0:14:15so I can't see how if a guy has loads of girls,

0:14:15 > 0:14:18he's a lad and he's cool, but if a girl does, she's a slut.

0:14:18 > 0:14:20Well, the bottom line is that I think it's unfair to judge

0:14:20 > 0:14:22anyone before you know them.

0:14:22 > 0:14:25So, how are you feeling about your first party?

0:14:25 > 0:14:29I think I'm going to be a bit nervous with all the sort of

0:14:29 > 0:14:33sexual energy in the room, and kind of knowing where to put myself.

0:14:33 > 0:14:36Yeah, I think you'll get into the flow of it.

0:14:36 > 0:14:38Hopefully... I think it should be quite good fun.

0:14:38 > 0:14:40It'll be really...just interesting,

0:14:40 > 0:14:42it'll be like a world I've never seen before. Yeah.

0:14:44 > 0:14:46So, bring it on.

0:14:55 > 0:14:57It's the night of the party

0:14:57 > 0:15:00and clothes are already coming off upstairs.

0:15:00 > 0:15:03Meanwhile, downstairs, I'm still struggling to get mine on.

0:15:06 > 0:15:08MOANING

0:15:23 > 0:15:25I'm a...

0:15:25 > 0:15:29I'm a little bit shitting myself, I guess,

0:15:29 > 0:15:32because I feel like if everyone's doing stuff around me,

0:15:32 > 0:15:34where am I going to look?

0:15:34 > 0:15:36Cos if I look, I'm probably going to get really horny,

0:15:36 > 0:15:39or if I look and they make eye contact with me

0:15:39 > 0:15:42I'm going to feel really uncomfortable and look away.

0:15:42 > 0:15:45And I don't know, is it going to be sex everywhere or like...?

0:15:48 > 0:15:50I've just got to go and see, haven't I?

0:16:05 > 0:16:08'Girls getting off with girls is definitely a male fantasy,

0:16:08 > 0:16:11'but you know what? Watching them,

0:16:11 > 0:16:14'I realise it's just as much their fantasy, too.

0:16:18 > 0:16:21'Only they're actually doing it and it's not for my benefit.

0:16:22 > 0:16:25'It's all getting a bit steamy. I needed to get some fresh air.'

0:16:25 > 0:16:28I've seen so many new things tonight.

0:16:28 > 0:16:32I've seen sexuality in a completely different way.

0:16:32 > 0:16:34I mean, the thing is,

0:16:34 > 0:16:37girls are really completely running the shots in there.

0:16:37 > 0:16:40'Back inside and I'm also getting a bit of attention.'

0:16:40 > 0:16:42I told you, I wanted your cock

0:16:42 > 0:16:45and then she's going to have your balls...

0:16:45 > 0:16:47And then we'll pull you down and just have you.

0:16:47 > 0:16:50- And Lauren was going to restrain you.- Just touch his knob.

0:16:50 > 0:16:52We planned it all out. We planned it all out.

0:16:52 > 0:16:54What has happened to role reversal

0:16:54 > 0:16:58when it's the guys saying, "Well done, good job,"

0:16:58 > 0:17:01and the girls that go, "Get your cock out."

0:17:01 > 0:17:05I've, erm, I've been hit on quite a few times.

0:17:05 > 0:17:07Yeah. You will do,

0:17:07 > 0:17:10and they're definitely going to try their hardest to boat you.

0:17:10 > 0:17:14'Boat me? I didn't even know what that means!'

0:17:14 > 0:17:16- Definitely. - I won't, if it's all the same.

0:17:16 > 0:17:17'Thanks, Chris.

0:17:18 > 0:17:22'Lauren has shown me that, with girls, it's not just all talk.

0:17:22 > 0:17:24'And girls really are out there exploring their sexuality,

0:17:24 > 0:17:27'while not being given the old labels of gay or straight.

0:17:27 > 0:17:28'They just want to have fun.'

0:17:28 > 0:17:30You guys are sexual.

0:17:30 > 0:17:32Yeah.

0:17:32 > 0:17:37A lot of guys think girls like sex a lot less than men,

0:17:37 > 0:17:41but I don't really feel that way any more.

0:17:41 > 0:17:44Girls love sex, probably just as much or more than men.

0:17:44 > 0:17:47And they completely rule the roost in here, which is quite

0:17:47 > 0:17:51nice to see because normally you think guys are the one that rule.

0:17:51 > 0:17:56But it's definitely turned in the party situation, so...

0:17:56 > 0:17:58It's a really good thing for girls to do.

0:18:03 > 0:18:05So, with girls more open to getting it on with girls,

0:18:05 > 0:18:07then what about us boys?

0:18:07 > 0:18:09It seems we're less adventurous

0:18:09 > 0:18:11when it comes to experimenting with each other.

0:18:11 > 0:18:13Naaaaaaaaaaah.

0:18:13 > 0:18:18Sorry, we would not really get off with a guy.

0:18:18 > 0:18:20Not what I'm into, but each to their own.

0:18:20 > 0:18:23I'm not going to judge anyone else for doing what they like.

0:18:23 > 0:18:24Whatever floats your boat.

0:18:24 > 0:18:27I wouldn't get myself off with a man, no.

0:18:27 > 0:18:29'Come on, guys, there must be someone!'

0:18:29 > 0:18:31At the moment I'm straight. I know it could change.

0:18:31 > 0:18:34You never know, if the right person comes along.

0:18:34 > 0:18:36Might happen - I could go the other way.

0:18:37 > 0:18:40I've come to Brighton to meet someone who is blazing

0:18:40 > 0:18:42a trail for bi-curious boys everywhere.

0:18:44 > 0:18:47Ever since George IV built a love shack on the beach here

0:18:47 > 0:18:50more than 200 years ago, people have flocked to the sunshine coast

0:18:50 > 0:18:54to pursue their sex lives away from prying eyes.

0:18:54 > 0:18:57Today, Brighton is famous for its tolerant attitude to sexuality.

0:18:57 > 0:19:0020-year-old university student Conner is into girls,

0:19:00 > 0:19:04but he's also into boys. What he's not into is being labelled.

0:19:04 > 0:19:09Would you say you are a guy that likes guys and some girls,

0:19:09 > 0:19:12or girls and guys and...? I mean, what do you think?

0:19:12 > 0:19:16I think, if anyone asked, I would just say I'm bisexual.

0:19:16 > 0:19:19You know, it's the easiest thing to say.

0:19:19 > 0:19:20At the same time, you know,

0:19:20 > 0:19:24I don't think a lot of people like these sort of identities.

0:19:24 > 0:19:25You can be so many different things

0:19:25 > 0:19:28and you don't have to label yourself in a box.

0:19:32 > 0:19:36We head on to the university and a club where size isn't everything.

0:19:36 > 0:19:37# You'd better run, better run

0:19:37 > 0:19:39# Outrun my gun... #

0:19:39 > 0:19:40This isn't what I expected.

0:19:42 > 0:19:45You've got a C which is probably the easiest one.

0:19:45 > 0:19:47'Conner wants me to meet his friend Matt,

0:19:47 > 0:19:49'who heads up the ukulele society.'

0:19:49 > 0:19:51F then a G.

0:19:53 > 0:19:55'For these guys, Brighton has struck a chord

0:19:55 > 0:19:59'when it comes to looking at men and women in a different way.'

0:19:59 > 0:20:04# Somewhere over the rainbow

0:20:05 > 0:20:10# Way up high

0:20:10 > 0:20:15# And the dreams that you dream of

0:20:15 > 0:20:18# Once in a lullaby... #

0:20:18 > 0:20:20'We head back to the house and pizza.

0:20:23 > 0:20:27'I wonder - how do Conner's friends feel about him being bi-curious?'

0:20:27 > 0:20:29He's been exploring himself,

0:20:29 > 0:20:31which I think is brilliant.

0:20:31 > 0:20:34I mean, he's a young man, you've not got any commitments, really.

0:20:34 > 0:20:37- No, not at all.- And you've just been kind of exploring what you like.

0:20:37 > 0:20:39Obviously, I like guys,

0:20:39 > 0:20:41and now I'm just sort of like back to where I was before,

0:20:41 > 0:20:43so it's, like, girls, guys,

0:20:43 > 0:20:46and I can just sort of, you know...

0:20:46 > 0:20:50I'm not really sure where I go next, to be fair.

0:20:50 > 0:20:52Is it just the case that you're now, sort of,

0:20:52 > 0:20:54having more honest conversations,

0:20:54 > 0:20:58because you're not afraid to say "Oh, yeah, I like this boy"?

0:20:58 > 0:21:01It's much more easy. I don't have to sort of hide a part of me away.

0:21:01 > 0:21:04I just sort of say what's on my mind to you guys now.

0:21:04 > 0:21:07And like, I'm so comfortable with him to the point that at Halloween

0:21:07 > 0:21:10I actually got off with him, like, full-on.

0:21:10 > 0:21:11Yeah, we were pretty...

0:21:11 > 0:21:13It was a good kiss. It was a good kiss.

0:21:13 > 0:21:14How did you feel about it?

0:21:14 > 0:21:16I mean, because you've got a different sexuality,

0:21:16 > 0:21:18was there any part of you that thought,

0:21:18 > 0:21:20"This is a bit weird cos he's my friend

0:21:20 > 0:21:22"and I'm enjoying sexually getting off with him"?

0:21:22 > 0:21:25It wasn't a big deal, because we didn't make it a big deal.

0:21:25 > 0:21:26And why should it be?

0:21:26 > 0:21:28I love him, I do.

0:21:28 > 0:21:31It's just... I physically expressed that, I guess.

0:21:31 > 0:21:35But it doesn't make me think of myself as not heterosexual

0:21:35 > 0:21:37because I was being bi-curious about it.

0:21:37 > 0:21:39What about you guys?

0:21:39 > 0:21:43I genuinely do appreciate an attractive woman.

0:21:43 > 0:21:46And, yeah, I might want to sort of, like, joke around or whatever,

0:21:46 > 0:21:48but I don't think it would...

0:21:48 > 0:21:50I don't think I could ever necessarily have a relationship

0:21:50 > 0:21:52with another woman.

0:21:52 > 0:21:55But that's not to say that I would completely rule it out

0:21:55 > 0:21:56for the entirety of my life.

0:21:56 > 0:22:00I do see the person more than the body.

0:22:00 > 0:22:01It is rarer to see guys.

0:22:01 > 0:22:05Yeah, because there is that whole sort of masculinity issue.

0:22:05 > 0:22:07Yeah, people feel like it threatens your masculinity,

0:22:07 > 0:22:11but I think it's just a different way of expressing your masculinity.

0:22:13 > 0:22:15So, where are we planning to go tonight?

0:22:15 > 0:22:17We're going to Revenge,

0:22:17 > 0:22:21which is a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer club.

0:22:23 > 0:22:26'Conner's mates seem cool about him exploring his sexuality.

0:22:26 > 0:22:29'They're even up for a bit of experimentation themselves.'

0:22:29 > 0:22:33MUSIC: Can't Hold Us by Macklemore & Ryan Lewis feat. Ray Dalton

0:22:37 > 0:22:39'But part of me can't help but wonder,

0:22:39 > 0:22:42'what if this is just a cover for Conner being gay?

0:22:42 > 0:22:45'I'll have to wait until the morning to ask that question.'

0:22:51 > 0:22:53Are those sausages looking nice, Andrew?

0:22:53 > 0:22:55Yep, yeah. Getting on their way now.

0:22:57 > 0:22:59I think I'm ready to have one of your sausages.

0:23:05 > 0:23:06Happy with the sausages.

0:23:06 > 0:23:08Even, like, in gay communities,

0:23:08 > 0:23:10people still think bisexuality doesn't exist.

0:23:10 > 0:23:12A lot of people just say, "Oh, you know,

0:23:12 > 0:23:15"he just can't come to grips with it and just say he's gay".

0:23:15 > 0:23:18If I was gay, I would just tell everyone.

0:23:18 > 0:23:20You know, it would be a whole lot easier.

0:23:20 > 0:23:22Because you're getting discrimination from both sides -

0:23:22 > 0:23:24both straights and gays.

0:23:24 > 0:23:25Once you get people talking about it

0:23:25 > 0:23:29and realising it's not just straight or gay,

0:23:29 > 0:23:31people will be more influenced to come out

0:23:31 > 0:23:34and explore their sexualities themselves.

0:23:38 > 0:23:41'Later, on we pop out to a local pub for an open-mic night

0:23:41 > 0:23:42'for the open-minded.'

0:23:47 > 0:23:49There's a really nice vibe in here, it's kind of like

0:23:49 > 0:23:51you can tell that everyone feels completely at home

0:23:51 > 0:23:54and everyone just really wants to be themselves

0:23:54 > 0:23:57and definitely seems like a more...

0:23:59 > 0:24:00..liberal.

0:24:00 > 0:24:04There's definitely a lot of people who aren't just straight in here.

0:24:04 > 0:24:08There's a lot of variety in the way that people are dressed

0:24:08 > 0:24:11and the sex that people have got their arms round and stuff.

0:24:13 > 0:24:15It seems quite all right, to be honest.

0:24:15 > 0:24:17- Thank you very much! - CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

0:24:17 > 0:24:19'What is it with ukuleles in Brighton?

0:24:19 > 0:24:22'What I didn't know was just who was up next.'

0:24:26 > 0:24:29I think Conner's going to say something in a minute.

0:24:29 > 0:24:31Please put your hands together for Conner.

0:24:31 > 0:24:33CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

0:24:37 > 0:24:40So, yeah, erm, pretty much like this time last year

0:24:40 > 0:24:41I was kind of ashamed.

0:24:41 > 0:24:43Like, ashamed of who I was.

0:24:43 > 0:24:46I kind of let bigoted and ignorant minds tell me

0:24:46 > 0:24:49that there was something wrong with me.

0:24:49 > 0:24:50That there was something to hide

0:24:50 > 0:24:52rather than something to be proud of.

0:24:52 > 0:24:56Also, so that other people, you know, like myself

0:24:56 > 0:24:59can be the person who I should be,

0:24:59 > 0:25:01and be true to myself.

0:25:01 > 0:25:02So, erm, yeah, I'm Conner,

0:25:02 > 0:25:04I'm 20 years old, I'm ambidextrous,

0:25:04 > 0:25:06I'm mixed race and I'm bisexual.

0:25:06 > 0:25:08CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

0:25:22 > 0:25:25Having spent time with Conner and his friends in Brighton,

0:25:25 > 0:25:27it got me thinking about my own sexuality.

0:25:27 > 0:25:29It seems to me like we're the first generation

0:25:29 > 0:25:31that have actually got this outlook

0:25:31 > 0:25:33of just do what you want. You know, who cares?

0:25:33 > 0:25:37In the past, it was a lot harder to live like that.

0:25:37 > 0:25:41We're obviously so much more open and so much more...

0:25:41 > 0:25:42not really fussed.

0:25:42 > 0:25:46Because again, we were saying obviously you can appreciate a guy.

0:25:46 > 0:25:50You know, does that make you still 100% heterosexual?

0:25:50 > 0:25:53You know, where do you draw the line?

0:25:53 > 0:25:56For how much do you say, fancy a guy, how much do you fancy a girl?

0:25:56 > 0:26:00There are so many more similarities than differences with most people.

0:26:00 > 0:26:03A lot of people historically have always focused

0:26:03 > 0:26:04on the small differences

0:26:04 > 0:26:08rather than the huge striking similarities between people.

0:26:10 > 0:26:13'I've always accepted that I was straight and have never questioned it

0:26:13 > 0:26:15'cos I've never had those thoughts,

0:26:15 > 0:26:20'but you don't have to sort of set a sexuality for yourself, really.'

0:26:20 > 0:26:21It's just, like, be yourself.

0:26:21 > 0:26:22Do what you want to do in that moment,

0:26:22 > 0:26:24If it's with a girl - do it with a girl.

0:26:24 > 0:26:26If it's with a guy - do it with a guy.

0:26:26 > 0:26:31I think it so happens that a lot of people will only ever fancy girls.

0:26:31 > 0:26:35But what Conner's taught me is that it's much more fluid,

0:26:35 > 0:26:39and open to change than I think I previously thought it was.

0:26:42 > 0:26:46'And me? Well, I might not be ready to jump into bed with another man,

0:26:46 > 0:26:49'but I am beginning to see things differently.

0:26:50 > 0:26:52'I've arranged to meet Dad in our local,

0:26:52 > 0:26:54'and as Britain's most famous male porn star,

0:26:54 > 0:26:59'I was keen to get Dad's take on all this bi-curious sexuality stuff.'

0:26:59 > 0:27:01I don't know if this is something you would be familiar with,

0:27:01 > 0:27:03given your profession, Dad.

0:27:03 > 0:27:05But I went to a sex party...

0:27:05 > 0:27:07Oh, yeah. Right, OK.

0:27:07 > 0:27:09Have you ever been to a sex party?

0:27:09 > 0:27:11A few times, yeah.

0:27:11 > 0:27:13The odd one or two! Yes...

0:27:13 > 0:27:17- But there's just women everywhere, like...- Having sex with other women.

0:27:17 > 0:27:18Having sex with other women.

0:27:18 > 0:27:20Yeah, that's what they do, man. That's just the...

0:27:20 > 0:27:22Why is that? Why aren't men doing it?

0:27:22 > 0:27:24I always remember, when you turn up to a shoot

0:27:24 > 0:27:26and it's two girls and a guy's supposed to turn up,

0:27:26 > 0:27:27and the guy doesn't turn up.

0:27:27 > 0:27:30You just go, "Well, we'll just do a two-girl lesbian thing."

0:27:30 > 0:27:32The girls are, "Yeah, all right, then", know what I mean?

0:27:32 > 0:27:34I always thought, and I'd always say to my crew,

0:27:34 > 0:27:37can you imagine if we were doing a scene with two guys and a girl

0:27:37 > 0:27:39and the girl never turned up? You'd say to the guys,

0:27:39 > 0:27:41"OK, Rob, John, the girl hasn't turned up,

0:27:41 > 0:27:43"so we'll just do a quick gay scene."

0:27:43 > 0:27:46"Yeah, yeah. No problem, Ben." It ain't never going to happen.

0:27:46 > 0:27:50You know, I was 11 years old before homosexuality

0:27:50 > 0:27:52was made legal, you know what I mean?

0:27:52 > 0:27:54I spent the first 11 years of my life

0:27:54 > 0:27:57with people going to jail for being gay, so, you know...

0:27:57 > 0:28:02And as we've moved on, the world's moved on in a good way.

0:28:02 > 0:28:05You know, at the end of the day, people are going to experiment

0:28:05 > 0:28:08and obviously, with the world the way that it is at the moment,

0:28:08 > 0:28:10it's much more acceptable to be that

0:28:10 > 0:28:13and to "swing both ways", as we used to say.

0:28:17 > 0:28:21So far, I've met straight girls who go with girls,

0:28:21 > 0:28:23and straight boys who go with boys.

0:28:23 > 0:28:25So, maybe young people are ditching the labels

0:28:25 > 0:28:28and embracing this new fluid sexuality.

0:28:29 > 0:28:31I'm heading north to meet someone who's thrown the rule book

0:28:31 > 0:28:33out the window altogether.

0:28:33 > 0:28:35He was born a guy who was gay,

0:28:35 > 0:28:38but is now a girl who is straight,

0:28:38 > 0:28:41but still wants to keep her penis.

0:28:41 > 0:28:44Not long ago touched down in sunny old Scotland,

0:28:44 > 0:28:50Aberdeen, which from my geographical knowledge is fairly north.

0:28:50 > 0:28:53We've been driving north for about an hour now,

0:28:53 > 0:28:56so I pretty much feel like I'm in the middle of nowhere.

0:29:08 > 0:29:09'I'm meeting Brooke who's 20

0:29:09 > 0:29:12'and lives in the tough fishing port of Peterhead.'

0:29:12 > 0:29:13I'm Tyger, you all right?

0:29:13 > 0:29:15- I'm Brooke, nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you.

0:29:15 > 0:29:16Come on in.

0:29:16 > 0:29:19Where shall I put this? Shall I just shove it there?

0:29:19 > 0:29:21Just shove it in there, make yourself feel at home.

0:29:21 > 0:29:22So, erm...

0:29:22 > 0:29:24So, when did you come out as transgender?

0:29:24 > 0:29:27I came out maybe four months ago.

0:29:27 > 0:29:30I actually came out on Facebook to everyone,

0:29:30 > 0:29:32because everyone just knew me as a cross-dresser.

0:29:32 > 0:29:35And the one way to get it out and to change my name

0:29:35 > 0:29:38from my birth name to Brooke, I had to...

0:29:38 > 0:29:42Well, I felt like I had to say it on Facebook. So, yeah...

0:29:42 > 0:29:43What was your name before?

0:29:43 > 0:29:46Colin...is my birth name.

0:29:46 > 0:29:49I identify as a straight woman.

0:29:49 > 0:29:50Many people will still...

0:29:50 > 0:29:52even in the town, people will still call me "him",

0:29:52 > 0:29:55still call me "Colin". But there's a few, like, times where people

0:29:55 > 0:29:59would come up and physically hit me, spit on me,

0:29:59 > 0:30:01and I've started to defend myself, you know.

0:30:01 > 0:30:04I had to start fighting back, I just feel like I have to,

0:30:04 > 0:30:06cos if I don't, it's not going to go anywhere.

0:30:06 > 0:30:07People are still going to be the same,

0:30:07 > 0:30:09so it's just about defending who I am.

0:30:11 > 0:30:15Even though Brooke's open about her gender and sexuality,

0:30:15 > 0:30:18she gets a tough time from parts of the local community.

0:30:18 > 0:30:20There are an estimated 300,000-500,000 people

0:30:20 > 0:30:22classed as transgender

0:30:22 > 0:30:25'living in Britain and, although more trans people are visible today,

0:30:25 > 0:30:28'abuse is something they experience on a regular basis.

0:30:28 > 0:30:31'Shockingly, statistics show that nearly half transgender young

0:30:31 > 0:30:34'people have attempted suicide.

0:30:34 > 0:30:35'Even though Brooke gets abuse at night,

0:30:35 > 0:30:38'it's the daytime that freaks her out the most.'

0:30:38 > 0:30:41Does it make you feel anxious? Are you feeling anxious now?

0:30:41 > 0:30:45I feel really anxious right now. And it's not because you're here,

0:30:45 > 0:30:47it's actually just because it's during the day.

0:30:47 > 0:30:51During the day, I feel like they see me more like a freak.

0:30:51 > 0:30:55At night, I feel like people embrace me a little bit more.

0:30:55 > 0:31:00It goes back to, like, guys, where they wouldn't look at me twice

0:31:00 > 0:31:03during the day. I've literally seen people walk across the road just to

0:31:03 > 0:31:07try and avoid me and then the next weekend they'll be buying me drinks.

0:31:07 > 0:31:11So I think it's because they don't want anyone else knowing

0:31:11 > 0:31:15how they feel or what they're into.

0:31:15 > 0:31:19'It seems that even up here sexuality is opening up,

0:31:19 > 0:31:21'and Brooke is having a big impact.

0:31:21 > 0:31:23'Although she's only just become a woman,

0:31:23 > 0:31:26'there's plenty of local lads who want to get intimate with her.'

0:31:26 > 0:31:28So, one minute they're like big, burly fishermen,

0:31:28 > 0:31:31and then the next minute they're chatting you up.

0:31:31 > 0:31:34It's kind of like... I mean, what IS their sexuality?

0:31:34 > 0:31:37I think... I think they're straight.

0:31:37 > 0:31:39You know, because to me they're not sleeping with me cos I'm a man,

0:31:39 > 0:31:45it's the woman side that's catching them in the net.

0:31:45 > 0:31:49But I mean, you've still got a willy. How do they feel about that?

0:31:49 > 0:31:5299% of the time they're fine with that.

0:31:52 > 0:31:55A lot of it comes down to more than just sucking my dick

0:31:55 > 0:31:58or me giving a guy whatever.

0:32:05 > 0:32:07Right, there we go.

0:32:09 > 0:32:12- Do you think that's OK? - That's fine. That's fine.

0:32:12 > 0:32:17'Brooke and I are getting on well. We're like old friends in fact.'

0:32:17 > 0:32:20Feel how thin that is. That's like dental floss.

0:32:20 > 0:32:24If you've run out of dental floss tonight you can use this weave.

0:32:24 > 0:32:26It is thin ,actually.

0:32:26 > 0:32:29Really, really thin. How weird's that?

0:32:29 > 0:32:31That is really weird.

0:32:31 > 0:32:34'I thought I was kind of starting to get my head around sexuality a bit,

0:32:34 > 0:32:38'like, you know we've got bisexuals and gays and lesbians and stuff,

0:32:38 > 0:32:41'and that was all still quite simple.'

0:32:41 > 0:32:44But actually, sexuality is such an individual thing.

0:32:44 > 0:32:46For someone like Brooke,

0:32:46 > 0:32:48she was born as Colin,

0:32:48 > 0:32:53came out as a gay man, started a transformation into a woman,

0:32:53 > 0:32:56and now identifies as a straight woman.

0:32:56 > 0:32:59But she still wants to keep her penis.

0:32:59 > 0:33:02Sexuality is a really individual thing,

0:33:02 > 0:33:04and you can't put people in boxes.

0:33:04 > 0:33:06What box would you put Brooke in?

0:33:10 > 0:33:13'It's not exactly easy for me to get my head around Brooke's sexuality,

0:33:13 > 0:33:17'so I can't imagine what it must be like for her family.

0:33:17 > 0:33:19'I've persuaded Brooke to invite them over for Sunday lunch.'

0:33:19 > 0:33:21So, do you have any herbs?

0:33:21 > 0:33:24No. Do we? I don't know.

0:33:24 > 0:33:26So, how come you live on your own?

0:33:26 > 0:33:30- My dad kicked me out. - Really?- Yeah.

0:33:30 > 0:33:35What happened was, I was out, I was dressed in suspenders,

0:33:35 > 0:33:38and I think it was one of his friends took a picture

0:33:38 > 0:33:43and sent it to my dad and he just went off on one.

0:33:43 > 0:33:46Why do you think he finds it so hard to accept you?

0:33:47 > 0:33:50I think because he...

0:33:50 > 0:33:53he was a boxer, and he was really good at boxing,

0:33:53 > 0:33:56he was professional and done very well,

0:33:56 > 0:33:59and I think, being the only boy,

0:33:59 > 0:34:02you know, he had dreams for me

0:34:02 > 0:34:06to follow in his footsteps and I kind of went the opposite.

0:34:06 > 0:34:07So, I think...

0:34:08 > 0:34:12..it crushed his dreams for me but... You know.

0:34:12 > 0:34:15- But that's not your dream, is it? - True. But it must be hard.

0:34:15 > 0:34:18You know, in your mind, it must be like,

0:34:18 > 0:34:20"Well, my son has got to do this."

0:34:20 > 0:34:25Right, let's put that in the oven. Put it up to like 220, I think...

0:34:26 > 0:34:29'It isn't just the chicken that's about to get a grilling though.'

0:34:29 > 0:34:30There we go.

0:34:30 > 0:34:33So, would you ever experiment with a transgender?

0:34:35 > 0:34:38Is it something that makes...? Is it appealing to you?

0:34:43 > 0:34:45Like, would you...?

0:34:45 > 0:34:48I don't think I can say no, cos I don't know.

0:34:50 > 0:34:53Poss... It's not something that interests me at this point in time.

0:34:53 > 0:34:55So, does that mean you...?

0:34:55 > 0:34:59Cos a lot of people would see you as gay, then?

0:34:59 > 0:35:02Although I don't see it, and other people don't,

0:35:02 > 0:35:06you would get branded "gay", cos I still have the bits.

0:35:06 > 0:35:09Even though I would be attracted to you as a woman.

0:35:09 > 0:35:13I think the answer's definitely not no, as in...

0:35:13 > 0:35:15So, you wouldn't rule it out?

0:35:15 > 0:35:19No. It's this idea that your sexuality is such a fluid thing.

0:35:19 > 0:35:22How do I know what I'm going to be like in 20 years' time?

0:35:22 > 0:35:23Well, there you go.

0:35:23 > 0:35:26- How do you know who you're going to be with or...?- Yeah.

0:35:28 > 0:35:29- Hiya.- Hiya.

0:35:29 > 0:35:32'Mum Jackie is here, together with her other daughters,

0:35:32 > 0:35:35'but Dad won't be tucking in to my delicious roast chicken.'

0:35:35 > 0:35:36Yum, yum, yum.

0:35:38 > 0:35:41- You want a hand?- Erm...

0:35:41 > 0:35:42You're demolishing it!

0:35:45 > 0:35:47You still call him Colin?

0:35:47 > 0:35:52Yeah, I still call him Colin because...I'm his mother,

0:35:52 > 0:35:56and it's a big change for me to call him Brooke, you know.

0:35:56 > 0:36:00When he got kicked out, how did you feel about that?

0:36:00 > 0:36:02I felt awful. Aye, really bad.

0:36:02 > 0:36:05Why didn't you allow him to stay?

0:36:05 > 0:36:07I did allow him to stay.

0:36:07 > 0:36:11But it was his... the relationship between him

0:36:11 > 0:36:15and my husband, it was so bad, the tension was so bad in the house

0:36:15 > 0:36:18and everybody was just... it was just a nightmare.

0:36:20 > 0:36:22What do you think of Brooke?

0:36:24 > 0:36:26I just think I'm proud of him.

0:36:26 > 0:36:28Proud of who he is,

0:36:28 > 0:36:31and I'm glad that he's doing what's making him happy.

0:36:31 > 0:36:35I love him unconditionally so it doesn't matter what he does,

0:36:35 > 0:36:39or anything, or who he wants to be, that's never going to change.

0:36:39 > 0:36:41I just love him and that's it.

0:36:41 > 0:36:43And I always will.

0:36:43 > 0:36:45That's what mothers do.

0:36:49 > 0:36:52- Tyger?- Yep. - Do you want to fake tan my back?

0:36:54 > 0:36:55Sure.

0:36:55 > 0:36:59'It's a Saturday night and the biggest event on Brooke's calendar.'

0:36:59 > 0:37:02If I do this wrong, will you be cross at me?

0:37:02 > 0:37:04I'll be raging. I'll be raging.

0:37:04 > 0:37:07'We're heading out on the town and she wants to look her best.'

0:37:07 > 0:37:09So, that will do the now.

0:37:09 > 0:37:14Where actually are you in your sort of transformation kind of

0:37:14 > 0:37:16process of becoming a woman?

0:37:16 > 0:37:17I am at the beginning stages.

0:37:17 > 0:37:19Basically, I went to my doctor

0:37:19 > 0:37:23and I'm on the waiting list to see a psychologist - someone who

0:37:23 > 0:37:27comes and basically diagnoses you as being transgender.

0:37:27 > 0:37:30- And so would you have your penis removed?- I'm not sure.

0:37:30 > 0:37:33My penis, I don't see it as masculine, although I know it

0:37:33 > 0:37:39seems like that but I don't know why I should need to get it removed.

0:37:39 > 0:37:42Sexual pleasure would be the main reason why I would keep it,

0:37:42 > 0:37:46because things can get kinky in the bedroom, you know,

0:37:46 > 0:37:47for whatever reasons.

0:37:47 > 0:37:50What if your girlfriend says, "Look, Tyger,

0:37:50 > 0:37:53"I really want to do you,"

0:37:53 > 0:37:54would you do it?

0:37:55 > 0:37:58I don't...I don't think I would. Only because...

0:37:58 > 0:37:59This sounds terribly crude,

0:37:59 > 0:38:05but I've stuck my fingers up my bum in the bath before and...

0:38:05 > 0:38:09I don't think it feels very nice, it feels weird, and then...

0:38:09 > 0:38:13water gets up there and then you have to squirt it out in the bath.

0:38:13 > 0:38:15- OK... - LAUGHTER

0:38:15 > 0:38:19'Come on, guys, back me up here. We've all done it, right?!'

0:38:19 > 0:38:20As you do...!

0:38:20 > 0:38:22'Only me, then.'

0:38:22 > 0:38:23- MAN:- Where did that come from?

0:38:23 > 0:38:27LAUGHTER CONTINUES

0:38:27 > 0:38:30'Come on, be professional, yeah, guys?'

0:38:30 > 0:38:34Do you think rather than just being one thing like a label

0:38:34 > 0:38:38that, you know, sexuality is actually more than that?

0:38:38 > 0:38:42By labelling something, you're kind of missing out on a lot.

0:38:42 > 0:38:45But you like what you like.

0:38:45 > 0:38:48You know, if you want to label it something, label it,

0:38:48 > 0:38:50but I think everyone's curious.

0:38:50 > 0:38:54Every straight guy out there has had a curious thought.

0:38:54 > 0:38:57And I don't care what they say cos it's true.

0:38:57 > 0:39:00I've spoken to many, many gay and straight guys

0:39:00 > 0:39:03and they all say the same.

0:39:03 > 0:39:06It's whether or not they are wanting to pursue it.

0:39:10 > 0:39:12Stepping out with a 6'5" trans-woman

0:39:12 > 0:39:15in a remote fishing village makes me feel exposed,

0:39:15 > 0:39:17especially since Brooke is subject

0:39:17 > 0:39:20to verbal and physical abuse on a regular basis.

0:39:21 > 0:39:25But that's not going to stop her showing me the high life.

0:39:25 > 0:39:27Some people seem pleased to see us,

0:39:27 > 0:39:29others I'm not so sure about.

0:39:30 > 0:39:33I was feeling a little bit uncomfortable,

0:39:33 > 0:39:35and part of me wishes we weren't quite so visible.

0:39:35 > 0:39:37But when you want to blend in, what do you do?

0:39:37 > 0:39:39Grab the mic and sing karaoke.

0:39:39 > 0:39:42Remember, you're staying with me tonight.

0:39:44 > 0:39:46And guess what - Mum's even here.

0:39:46 > 0:39:49# White lips, pale face

0:39:49 > 0:39:52# Breathing in snowflakes

0:39:52 > 0:39:55# Burnt lungs, sour taste... #

0:39:56 > 0:39:57Woo!

0:39:57 > 0:40:02# ..They say she's in the Class A Team

0:40:02 > 0:40:05# Stuck in her daydream

0:40:05 > 0:40:08# She's been this way since 18 but lately... #

0:40:09 > 0:40:13A few pints later, we're off with best friend Jordan to a nightclub.

0:40:13 > 0:40:14And I don't mind admitting

0:40:14 > 0:40:17that I'm starting to see Brooke in a new light.

0:40:17 > 0:40:20This might sound very, very strange, but...

0:40:20 > 0:40:23I mean, this is so strange I can almost not bring myself to say it

0:40:23 > 0:40:27- but...- You fancy me. - I fancy you more than some women.

0:40:27 > 0:40:30Well, I fucking hope so. I hope so!

0:40:30 > 0:40:33And that's the really weird thing because I know

0:40:33 > 0:40:36that genetically you're a guy

0:40:36 > 0:40:38and then genetically some people are women,

0:40:38 > 0:40:40but I still don't fancy them.

0:40:40 > 0:40:42But, wait,

0:40:42 > 0:40:46it's not to do with gender that way, it's just to do with appearance.

0:40:46 > 0:40:48Like you say,

0:40:48 > 0:40:52I was born male, right,

0:40:52 > 0:40:54but I still present myself as a female,

0:40:54 > 0:40:57and better than a lot of females.

0:40:57 > 0:40:58I would've never thought...

0:41:00 > 0:41:03I'm going to be the safe one.

0:41:03 > 0:41:04Go now!

0:41:04 > 0:41:08'But not everyone is impressed by my admiration for Brooke.

0:41:09 > 0:41:10'By changing from a boy to a girl,

0:41:10 > 0:41:13'Brooke has really shaken up this small town.

0:41:13 > 0:41:15'She might be sexy to many of the boys,

0:41:15 > 0:41:19'but some girls seem threatened by her.'

0:41:19 > 0:41:22- Are you OK?- Mm-hm.

0:41:24 > 0:41:27All right, you. Are you joking? Basic bitch.

0:41:27 > 0:41:28What is that all about? Honestly, why? Why?

0:41:28 > 0:41:30What are you all about?

0:41:30 > 0:41:32- You know what? - I'll smash your face in.

0:41:32 > 0:41:35- She's better looking than you are. - Oi!

0:41:35 > 0:41:36I'm sorry, maybe...

0:41:36 > 0:41:39You see this is where the 50% comes in,

0:41:39 > 0:41:41- the 50% comes in. - The thing is, like...

0:41:43 > 0:41:47You know, I don't even need to be in any special type of relationship with

0:41:47 > 0:41:51you to know that that is just not how humans should treat each other.

0:41:51 > 0:41:55We're part of a society and it's this generation that is having this

0:41:55 > 0:41:57freedom to do this sort of thing,

0:41:57 > 0:41:59so why should people still be doing that?

0:41:59 > 0:42:03See, sometimes when I'm drunk, I'm like, "Are you joking me?"

0:42:03 > 0:42:06And I'll look at the woman that's calling me a man

0:42:06 > 0:42:08and I'm thinking to myself,

0:42:08 > 0:42:11"I'm more woman than she will ever be."

0:42:11 > 0:42:14Keep in mind, I've got a cock. You know, and it is what it is.

0:42:14 > 0:42:19I'm like people need to fucking realise it's not that big of a deal.

0:42:19 > 0:42:22People have got a bigger problem with it than I have!

0:42:22 > 0:42:26But I'm the one that's going through it, like...what's that about?

0:42:26 > 0:42:30- I know. This is such a strange thing. - Fuck you!

0:42:30 > 0:42:33When a bitch comes up to me, what do you expect?

0:42:33 > 0:42:34Are you laughing at her?

0:42:34 > 0:42:36INDISTINCT

0:42:36 > 0:42:37LAUGHTER

0:42:37 > 0:42:40No, Brooke, Brooke, Brooke,

0:42:40 > 0:42:42darling, darling, darling...

0:42:42 > 0:42:45- I'm no' dealing with that.- Brooke. Brooke, he's not laughing at you.

0:42:45 > 0:42:47Calm down.

0:42:47 > 0:42:49Calm down.

0:42:49 > 0:42:50Now. Calm it.

0:42:50 > 0:42:52See that shit, I don't like it.

0:42:52 > 0:42:55Brooke, come on, have a good night, have a good night.

0:42:55 > 0:42:57Put your shoes back on, have a good night.

0:43:04 > 0:43:08I think living somewhere like Peterhead, life is probably

0:43:08 > 0:43:11always going to be quite difficult for Brooke.

0:43:13 > 0:43:17They've got very traditional views on what sexuality should be

0:43:17 > 0:43:20and how people should act.

0:43:21 > 0:43:25And so, when Brooke expresses her sexuality so openly in such

0:43:25 > 0:43:30a different way, I think that's why she gets such hostility from it.

0:43:30 > 0:43:33Perhaps she needs to leave Peterhead to avoid becoming the village freak

0:43:33 > 0:43:37that she fears, and follow her dream of becoming a make-up artist.

0:43:37 > 0:43:39How am I looking?

0:43:39 > 0:43:42I think you're looking fierce.

0:43:42 > 0:43:44- Fierce.- Fierce.

0:43:44 > 0:43:45Like a tiger?

0:43:45 > 0:43:47Like a tiger.

0:43:47 > 0:43:49You look a bit like a drag queen.

0:43:49 > 0:43:51I thought you were going to look like Pocahontas.

0:43:51 > 0:43:54I really thought I was going to do a good job of this but...

0:43:54 > 0:43:57- Do I look bad?- You don't look bad. You look pretty though.

0:43:59 > 0:44:01'But what have I learnt about myself?

0:44:03 > 0:44:06'Being with Brooke, it's just really shown me actually that

0:44:06 > 0:44:09'penises and guys and stuff, you know, it's...

0:44:09 > 0:44:12'you know, it's not the end of the world. It's just...

0:44:12 > 0:44:14'it's just a body and a person.'

0:44:14 > 0:44:16I don't need to start thinking I'm gay

0:44:16 > 0:44:18because I don't feel like I am,

0:44:18 > 0:44:21I still feel like I'm attracted to women but,

0:44:21 > 0:44:23you know, the idea of

0:44:23 > 0:44:27maybe getting with a guy now seems much, much more OK to me.

0:44:27 > 0:44:29Like what's the problem with it?

0:44:30 > 0:44:33Brooke has made me feel so much more sexuality confident

0:44:33 > 0:44:35that I feel I'm ready to step into a world that

0:44:35 > 0:44:38I would never have ventured into before.

0:44:38 > 0:44:41I'm heading south to Manchester, where I'm joining a group of lads

0:44:41 > 0:44:45who mix gender and sexuality in a completely mad way.

0:44:55 > 0:44:58- You all right?- Nice to meet you. - I'm Tyger.- I'm Lawrence.

0:44:58 > 0:45:01- All right, Lawrence, nice to meet you.- I'm John.- Nice to meet you.

0:45:01 > 0:45:04- I'm Michael. - Michael, nice to meet you.

0:45:04 > 0:45:07These guys run one of Manchester's biggest new club nights -

0:45:07 > 0:45:09Cha Cha Boudoir.

0:45:09 > 0:45:11They've reinvented the drag act as a way for young people to

0:45:11 > 0:45:14reveal something about their inner sexuality,

0:45:14 > 0:45:19be that man, woman, straight, gay, whatever.

0:45:19 > 0:45:20And, come Friday night,

0:45:20 > 0:45:23I'll be revealing something of my own new sexuality on stage.

0:45:23 > 0:45:27Drag's about what you bring through and what you want to do with it.

0:45:27 > 0:45:30It gives us a lot of opportunities to really, really play,

0:45:30 > 0:45:34not only with gender forms, but also with those aspects of sex

0:45:34 > 0:45:36and sexuality that we don't get to explore.

0:45:36 > 0:45:39Contemporary drag isn't just female impersonation.

0:45:39 > 0:45:41There's all those elements that make up a drag queen,

0:45:41 > 0:45:46it's just choosing the parts you want to use so you can, you know,

0:45:46 > 0:45:48still wear the corset and the nails and the wig, but you don't

0:45:48 > 0:45:51necessarily have to be a woman, you can be a wolf or whatever.

0:45:51 > 0:45:54I feel comfortable but, you know what, I think it's something

0:45:54 > 0:45:57that I probably would have felt weirder doing

0:45:57 > 0:45:59at the start of my "adventure", as you called it,

0:45:59 > 0:46:03rather than now, where I've kind of come to terms with more of this

0:46:03 > 0:46:06idea of people being slightly more out there.

0:46:06 > 0:46:10I think I'm actually quite looking forward to it.

0:46:12 > 0:46:16Come Friday night, and I'll be showing the world the inner Tyger.

0:46:18 > 0:46:20Try a size 14.

0:46:20 > 0:46:22'I've got a few days to get my costume together with

0:46:22 > 0:46:25'the help of uni students John and Lawrie,

0:46:25 > 0:46:27'AKA Liquorice Black and Violet Blanc.'

0:46:29 > 0:46:31- It's a bit erm...- Tight around there.

0:46:31 > 0:46:33You're going to be tucked on the night so you're going to

0:46:33 > 0:46:36have like a gaff that essentially pushes your balls up inside you

0:46:36 > 0:46:38and keeps your willy pulled between your legs so

0:46:38 > 0:46:40you look flat down there. But it looks good!

0:46:42 > 0:46:46I've also got to choreograph my own performance and learn a song.

0:46:46 > 0:46:50- They were so fucking good. - You're going to be good.

0:46:50 > 0:46:51On Friday night,

0:46:51 > 0:46:55it won't be just me on stage revealing my inner sexuality.

0:46:55 > 0:46:59I didn't quite realise the level of competition.

0:46:59 > 0:47:01They're more like high energy,

0:47:01 > 0:47:04- whereas that boy's trying to tell a story in a different way.- Yeah.

0:47:04 > 0:47:06If you sashayed around like that,

0:47:06 > 0:47:08- it would look a bit weird on you.- Yeah.

0:47:11 > 0:47:14'Everyone I've met on my journey has had a big impact on me.

0:47:14 > 0:47:17'But actually, letting go of my straight-boy self today is

0:47:17 > 0:47:20'turning out to be more difficult than I imagined.

0:47:20 > 0:47:22'It's a bit like learning to walk again,

0:47:22 > 0:47:25'something I'm also struggling with today.'

0:47:25 > 0:47:26APPLAUSE AND CHEERING

0:47:26 > 0:47:29Why are you even clapping?

0:47:29 > 0:47:31It's really hard, isn't it?

0:47:31 > 0:47:33It can be horrible.

0:47:33 > 0:47:35It's really hard.

0:47:35 > 0:47:38Personally, I think I did shit. Oh, well.

0:47:38 > 0:47:41- It went well, it went well. - It was cracking.

0:47:41 > 0:47:43- It was all right. - It was!- Thank you.

0:47:43 > 0:47:44Flipping hell.

0:47:49 > 0:47:52'With just a day to go, I'm still struggling,

0:47:52 > 0:47:55'so Violet has arranged for me to meet his boyfriend, Frank.

0:47:55 > 0:47:58'Born in Manchester he had a tough upbringing.

0:47:58 > 0:48:00'He lived with his girlfriend for seven years

0:48:00 > 0:48:03'and had a daughter with her before he came out as gay.

0:48:03 > 0:48:07'He really does know what it means to struggle with your sexuality.'

0:48:07 > 0:48:11So, what was it like when you were in your straight relationship?

0:48:11 > 0:48:13But I guess you kind of knew that you were gay?

0:48:13 > 0:48:15It started to get to a point where it was all

0:48:15 > 0:48:18I could think about, I tried to fight it for ages,

0:48:18 > 0:48:20and I mean ages,

0:48:20 > 0:48:23and then I decided it was making me more ill doing it

0:48:23 > 0:48:26than it was to be truthful to myself. Do you know what I mean?

0:48:26 > 0:48:29It's like there's an invisible rule book for every man.

0:48:29 > 0:48:31So, for every man you have to do certain things - you have to

0:48:31 > 0:48:34be into sport, you have to wear this, you have to wear that,

0:48:34 > 0:48:36you have to act a certain way. It's you that's got to live

0:48:36 > 0:48:40with yourself at the end of the day so why would you lie to yourself?

0:48:40 > 0:48:44Do you think there's something beyond this whole idea of male,

0:48:44 > 0:48:47female, gay, bi, straight and...?

0:48:47 > 0:48:50I think we're all just beings, we're all just beings,

0:48:50 > 0:48:53but as humans we like to put words to things

0:48:53 > 0:48:55to explain them, to make it easier on ourselves

0:48:55 > 0:48:57because really no-one's got a clue what's going on.

0:48:57 > 0:49:01Everyone is both, everyone is everything and nothing all in one,

0:49:01 > 0:49:04and I think as soon as we're born we're told, "Boy, girl, boy,"

0:49:04 > 0:49:06just because you've got a dick or a fanny,

0:49:06 > 0:49:08and I think that's bollocks.

0:49:08 > 0:49:10You can have a fanny and still be a lad inside,

0:49:10 > 0:49:12you can have a dick and be a woman inside.

0:49:12 > 0:49:15I think it's who you love, it's not what you love.

0:49:17 > 0:49:20Frank nailed it for me, right there on a street corner in Manchester.

0:49:22 > 0:49:25There are no rules when it comes to sexuality.

0:49:25 > 0:49:29The only thing that matters is who you love, not what you love.

0:49:29 > 0:49:33I think when I first heard that almost 80%

0:49:33 > 0:49:36of people presumed that I might be gay...

0:49:38 > 0:49:40I don't want to say insulted but

0:49:40 > 0:49:45I kind of guess I did feel almost slightly insulted.

0:49:45 > 0:49:49But now I'm just like, "Yeah, cool, think that if you want."

0:49:49 > 0:49:53It's just kind of, I've learnt how...

0:49:53 > 0:49:57how OK it is to be not straight.

0:50:00 > 0:50:04The big night has arrived and the new Tyger is starting to take shape.

0:50:04 > 0:50:07# Caroline laughs and it's raining all day

0:50:07 > 0:50:10# Loves to be one of the girls... #

0:50:11 > 0:50:14Have they explained the intricacies of tucking to you?

0:50:14 > 0:50:17- Yes.- Are you going to use duct tape or a gaff?

0:50:17 > 0:50:19- A gaff.- Gaff's good because you can go for a wee.

0:50:19 > 0:50:23That's what I used to use before I chopped my willy off.

0:50:23 > 0:50:25'This is Grace, a transsexual make-up artist.

0:50:25 > 0:50:29'She's here to help transform me beyond recognition.

0:50:29 > 0:50:31'And that's Violet, just in case you didn't recognise her.'

0:50:31 > 0:50:35There you are then, darling. Looking fierce.

0:50:35 > 0:50:37What do you think?

0:50:38 > 0:50:40# I feel like a woman. #

0:50:40 > 0:50:42LAUGHTER

0:50:42 > 0:50:44# Pretty in pink... #

0:50:44 > 0:50:48'With my make-up done, it's time to get rid of my penis.'

0:50:48 > 0:50:53So, balls in, then kind of fold the ball sack around it

0:50:53 > 0:50:56and then pull the dick right back and then pull your gaff.

0:50:56 > 0:50:58'But there's a problem.'

0:50:58 > 0:50:59LAUGHTER

0:50:59 > 0:51:02No, not a front thong!

0:51:02 > 0:51:03They won't stay in!

0:51:03 > 0:51:05OK, what about that?

0:51:05 > 0:51:08Yeah, pull it tight, wedgie yourself with it.

0:51:08 > 0:51:11She needs a bigger sock, honey.

0:51:11 > 0:51:14- You need a sport sock.- I thought you were trying to tell me

0:51:14 > 0:51:16- I had a big dick.- Who's got a sports sock?

0:51:16 > 0:51:18Just relax, Mama Grace the transsexual will teach you

0:51:18 > 0:51:20how to get rid of your genitalia.

0:51:22 > 0:51:24Put your legs in there.

0:51:25 > 0:51:28- I'm not looking. - That's all right.- Tuck it all.

0:51:28 > 0:51:31- So, these go in?- So, the balls go in.

0:51:31 > 0:51:33OK, cool, go, go, go, go, go!

0:51:33 > 0:51:36There we go, that's much wider, that's better.

0:51:36 > 0:51:38Oh, yes, that's much better.

0:51:38 > 0:51:41She's a girl!

0:51:41 > 0:51:43The funny thing is I feel like there's going to be a bump

0:51:43 > 0:51:46in between my legs where my penis actually is.

0:51:46 > 0:51:47Nobody's going to see there

0:51:47 > 0:51:49unless you're doing like a split or something.

0:51:49 > 0:51:50She does do a split in the number.

0:51:50 > 0:51:53This is like, miraculously uncomfortable.

0:51:53 > 0:51:54Yeah, welcome to being a woman.

0:51:54 > 0:51:57I used to do that every day for, like, ten years.

0:51:57 > 0:52:01It doesn't only hurt your penis, it also hurts your bum crack

0:52:01 > 0:52:04- cos you've got...- A thing in it, yeah.- You've got a thing in it.

0:52:04 > 0:52:08But you look like a gorgeous, beautiful woman now.

0:52:08 > 0:52:10'It's taken us nearly four hours to get ready

0:52:10 > 0:52:13'but the transformation is almost complete.

0:52:13 > 0:52:15'We have ceased to be men or women, gay or straight,

0:52:15 > 0:52:17'we are just out of this world.'

0:52:17 > 0:52:20Pull it forwards. She looks fit.

0:52:21 > 0:52:23- Have you looked at yourself in the mirror?- Not properly.

0:52:23 > 0:52:28I still feel like... I feel like I am a man

0:52:28 > 0:52:32but I'm about to let the feminine side of me escape.

0:52:33 > 0:52:35And now you're a cross-dresser, as well.

0:52:35 > 0:52:38It's all downhill from here.

0:52:38 > 0:52:41You look fabulous, darling.

0:52:41 > 0:52:43Thank you very much. I think you've done a fantastic job.

0:52:43 > 0:52:47You look amazing. Go fierce it out, bitch.

0:52:47 > 0:52:48That's what I'm talking about.

0:52:57 > 0:52:59Oh, my Lord!

0:53:00 > 0:53:02You look fierce, you look amazing!

0:53:02 > 0:53:07- Thank you! - Look at her ass, girl!

0:53:07 > 0:53:09So what do I call you? Is it Tyger?

0:53:09 > 0:53:11I think it's just Tyger, yes.

0:53:13 > 0:53:15It's a really weird moment. I feel...

0:53:15 > 0:53:18I never thought I could feel quite so feminine.

0:53:18 > 0:53:21But, erm, yeah...

0:53:24 > 0:53:26'The moment has arrived - it's time for me

0:53:26 > 0:53:31'to show the world something of the inner sexuality of Tyger Drew-Honey.'

0:53:31 > 0:53:34The moment is here.

0:53:34 > 0:53:35I'm going to be going on stage in a minute.

0:53:35 > 0:53:41This is not something I would even know anything about a month ago,

0:53:41 > 0:53:44but now I'm here and I'm loving it and I'm excited.

0:53:47 > 0:53:49All the way from BBC television,

0:53:49 > 0:53:52the wonderful Tyger Drew-Honey!

0:53:52 > 0:53:53CHEERING

0:53:53 > 0:53:55# I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath

0:53:55 > 0:53:58# Scared to rock the boat and make a mess

0:53:58 > 0:54:01# So I sit quietly

0:54:01 > 0:54:03# Agree politely

0:54:03 > 0:54:06# You held me down, but I got up

0:54:06 > 0:54:08# Get ready cos I've had enough

0:54:08 > 0:54:11# I see it all, I see it now

0:54:11 > 0:54:15# I got the eye of the tiger

0:54:15 > 0:54:16# A fighter

0:54:16 > 0:54:18# Dancing through the fire

0:54:18 > 0:54:21# Cos I am a champion

0:54:21 > 0:54:25# And you're gonna hear me roar

0:54:25 > 0:54:27# Oh-oh-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh-oh-oh

0:54:27 > 0:54:30# Oh-oh-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh-oh-oh

0:54:30 > 0:54:32# Oh-oh-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh-oh-oh

0:54:32 > 0:54:36# You're gonna hear me roar

0:54:36 > 0:54:38# Oh-oh-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh-oh-oh

0:54:38 > 0:54:39# Oh-oh-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh-oh-oh

0:54:39 > 0:54:41# You'll hear me roar

0:54:41 > 0:54:43CHEERING

0:54:43 > 0:54:46# You're gonna hear me roar. #

0:54:46 > 0:54:49CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

0:54:55 > 0:54:58If you were to say to me three weeks ago,

0:54:58 > 0:55:00"Think about getting off with a guy,"

0:55:00 > 0:55:05I'd have been like, "Ugh." Like, "Why? That's disgusting."

0:55:05 > 0:55:10But actually now, after the things I've experienced and stuff, it's kind

0:55:10 > 0:55:13of like I'm actually struggling to see what the problem with that is.

0:55:13 > 0:55:16Yes, I'm attracted to girls, but it's just a guy, you know.

0:55:16 > 0:55:18Why can't people just let go and stop caring?

0:55:19 > 0:55:24If we did all let go, who knows what's going to happen?

0:55:24 > 0:55:26You might be pleasantly surprised.

0:55:29 > 0:55:34So, what have I learned about the sexuality of the 21st century?

0:55:34 > 0:55:37I met a man with a small instrument that likes guys as much as girls,

0:55:37 > 0:55:39and has mates who love to kiss him.

0:55:39 > 0:55:44I met a girl who loves sex with girls as much as sex with boys.

0:55:44 > 0:55:48And I met a man who became a woman, who wants to keep a penis

0:55:48 > 0:55:51because it's kinky in the bedroom and drives the local fishermen wild.

0:55:51 > 0:55:55And I met a bunch of lads who have mashed up everything we know about

0:55:55 > 0:56:00gender and sexuality to create a world in which anything is possible.

0:56:00 > 0:56:02As for myself, the straight boy,

0:56:02 > 0:56:06well, I've learned that actually I'm more of a fluid, crazy, tiger,

0:56:06 > 0:56:10man, woman, beast who's not afraid of what the future might hold.

0:56:10 > 0:56:14It's time to ditch the categories, the tick boxes and the labels.

0:56:14 > 0:56:17There's a whole big world out there to explore,

0:56:17 > 0:56:18so bring it on.

0:56:18 > 0:56:25# Somewhere over the rainbow

0:56:25 > 0:56:28# Way up high

0:56:30 > 0:56:35# And the dreams that you dreamed of

0:56:35 > 0:56:40# Once in a lullaby

0:56:40 > 0:56:43# High, oh... #