0:00:02 > 0:00:04This programme contains some strong language.
0:00:04 > 0:00:07In 2015, many believe that when it comes to sexism we're going backwards, not forwards.
0:00:07 > 0:00:09So I'm on a mission to find out whether we -
0:00:09 > 0:00:10in particular, my generation -
0:00:10 > 0:00:12are becoming more sexist than ever before.
0:00:12 > 0:00:17To me, sexism would mean to be discriminated against because I'm a female
0:00:17 > 0:00:20and I've got boobs and all the rest of the female anatomy.
0:00:20 > 0:00:22I think sexism is inequality between men and women.
0:00:22 > 0:00:24Erm, making you feel like a sexual object,
0:00:24 > 0:00:28when you're obviously not - you're just going out for a walk.
0:00:28 > 0:00:30Yeah, I just think it's, like, certain groups of males
0:00:30 > 0:00:33probably have a lack of respect towards women.
0:00:33 > 0:00:36You know that there is just a lack of respect for you as a person,
0:00:36 > 0:00:39and it's got nothing to do with my ability,
0:00:39 > 0:00:42but everything to do with my gender.
0:00:43 > 0:00:47So do we treat women as badly as the media and stats suggest?
0:00:47 > 0:00:51According to a UN report published last year...
0:00:51 > 0:00:54Britain is the most "in-your-face sexist" country in the world.
0:00:55 > 0:00:57Is it?
0:00:57 > 0:00:59- Sexism still exists. - Yeah, yeah, yeah.
0:00:59 > 0:01:02- It's thriving.- It's still there. - Like a cancer.
0:01:02 > 0:01:04People who don't see it or experience it
0:01:04 > 0:01:06they don't think it exists any more.
0:01:06 > 0:01:08But it exists in other people's lives.
0:01:08 > 0:01:11Even celebrities are rallying to the cause.
0:01:11 > 0:01:13Take this impassioned speech from Emma Watson at the UN.
0:01:13 > 0:01:17Men, gender equality is your issue, too.
0:01:19 > 0:01:22So is our attitude to women really getting worse?
0:01:22 > 0:01:25Do men have any idea how women actually feel about the way
0:01:25 > 0:01:26they're being treated?
0:01:26 > 0:01:28And is there anything that we can do to change things?
0:01:31 > 0:01:34For the next month, I'm going to travel the country to find out,
0:01:34 > 0:01:37from university sports teams...
0:01:37 > 0:01:39INDISTINCT SINGING
0:01:39 > 0:01:42..to nights out clubbing.
0:01:42 > 0:01:43I had my arse grabbed.
0:01:43 > 0:01:47Somebody came up behind me and thrusted into my back...side.
0:01:47 > 0:01:50I'll find out how language is a big part of the problem...
0:01:50 > 0:01:55Scrubber, moose, hag, dog, tramp, slat, whore, tart...
0:01:55 > 0:01:59..and how the internet is being used as the latest weapon against women.
0:01:59 > 0:02:03In July, 2013, I became a victim of revenge porn.
0:02:03 > 0:02:05I'll discover what's being done to tackle the problem...
0:02:05 > 0:02:08I want you all together, now, to shout.. SPARTANS!
0:02:08 > 0:02:09URGH! URGH! URGH!
0:02:09 > 0:02:13..and meet some who think it is men who are getting a rough deal.
0:02:13 > 0:02:15Do you think young men are in crisis at the moment?
0:02:15 > 0:02:18Definitely. Men don't have a place in the world, that they once did.
0:02:18 > 0:02:21And find out how girls, and boys, are fighting back.
0:02:25 > 0:02:26I'm going on a journey
0:02:26 > 0:02:29to find out just how sexist my generation is.
0:02:39 > 0:02:42But before I set off, there was just time to pop to our local
0:02:42 > 0:02:45to say farewell to Dad, and get his take on the subject.
0:02:45 > 0:02:48Do you think we've got a problem with sexism in the UK?
0:02:48 > 0:02:51No, I think there probably IS sexism in the UK,
0:02:51 > 0:02:56but then you have to then narrow down what you think sexism is.
0:02:56 > 0:02:59You know, sexism can be different things to different people.
0:02:59 > 0:03:01- Do you think I'm sexist? - No.
0:03:01 > 0:03:02No, I don't think that.
0:03:02 > 0:03:05I've never seen any evidence of you being sexist?
0:03:05 > 0:03:06No, I don't think you are, at all.
0:03:06 > 0:03:09But something that happened to me recently...
0:03:09 > 0:03:11I remember, some random person...
0:03:11 > 0:03:13I was going through the door and I held it like that for her,
0:03:13 > 0:03:16and she just looked at me as if to say...
0:03:16 > 0:03:17"Why? You go first, it's fine."
0:03:17 > 0:03:20She wasn't saying, like, I was being sexist, but, as if to say,
0:03:20 > 0:03:22"Don't bother."
0:03:22 > 0:03:24Holding a door open for a woman... What's wrong with that?
0:03:24 > 0:03:26Holding a... I open car doors for women all the time.
0:03:26 > 0:03:30- That's how I was brought up.- That's one of the things that really annoys me.
0:03:30 > 0:03:31I can't even do it any more!
0:03:31 > 0:03:34It used to be, when I was brought up, if you were in a restaurant
0:03:34 > 0:03:36and a woman gets up to go to the loo, or whatever,
0:03:36 > 0:03:38you stand up while she leaves the table.
0:03:38 > 0:03:41- If I do that now, people think, right- BLEEP- nutter.
0:03:41 > 0:03:43And it's the hypersensitivity to try and not to be sexist.
0:03:43 > 0:03:45Of course it is, yeah.
0:03:45 > 0:03:46Because you can't say anything.
0:03:46 > 0:03:48Oh, I don't know.
0:03:48 > 0:03:50This is a tough one. Good subject.
0:03:50 > 0:03:52Good subject, but I don't...
0:03:52 > 0:03:54I don't know. Presumably you're going to find out
0:03:54 > 0:03:57by the end of this thing, aren't you?
0:04:01 > 0:04:04I'm off to university to start my search
0:04:04 > 0:04:07because apparently they're quickly becoming, like,
0:04:07 > 0:04:09hotbeds for rampant sexism.
0:04:09 > 0:04:13There's a report here from the National Union of Students
0:04:13 > 0:04:15that says in universities,
0:04:15 > 0:04:18groping is seen as a normal part of a night out.
0:04:19 > 0:04:21Is it?
0:04:21 > 0:04:23And there's a website called Unilad -
0:04:23 > 0:04:25I'm sure you can guess what that is,
0:04:25 > 0:04:26a website for lads at uni -
0:04:26 > 0:04:30all about, sort of, girls and shagging and stuff...
0:04:30 > 0:04:33and there was a post here on a forum from a guy, it says...
0:04:33 > 0:04:36"It's not rape, I like to call it a struggle-cuddle."
0:04:36 > 0:04:38And these guys all over the country at university have been
0:04:38 > 0:04:42in the news, in the papers, for what they would call "banter"
0:04:42 > 0:04:46about things like raping freshers and spiking girls' drinks.
0:04:47 > 0:04:50But before we get to university, let's further our education with
0:04:50 > 0:04:53a quick history lesson to see how men have been treating women badly
0:04:53 > 0:04:55for generations.
0:04:55 > 0:04:57Back in your great-grandmother's day,
0:04:57 > 0:04:59the suffragette movement was formed,
0:04:59 > 0:05:01to the horror of men all over the country.
0:05:01 > 0:05:04By 1918, women were finally granted the right to vote.
0:05:04 > 0:05:06Well, sort of.
0:05:06 > 0:05:08You had to be over 30 and qualify as a homeowner,
0:05:08 > 0:05:10where, up until the 1950s,
0:05:10 > 0:05:13a woman's place was definitely meant to be.
0:05:16 > 0:05:17Then in the 1960s,
0:05:17 > 0:05:19women took to the streets again
0:05:19 > 0:05:21to continue their fight for equal rights.
0:05:21 > 0:05:23And it worked.
0:05:23 > 0:05:25In 1975, the Sex Discrimination Act
0:05:25 > 0:05:26was passed,
0:05:26 > 0:05:28meaning women were now officially equal to men.
0:05:28 > 0:05:32And four years later, we had our first female Prime Minister.
0:05:32 > 0:05:35The lady's not for turning.
0:05:35 > 0:05:37# Yo, I'll tell you what I want What I really, really want
0:05:37 > 0:05:39# So tell me what you want... #
0:05:39 > 0:05:41Change was definitely in the air and by the '90s,
0:05:41 > 0:05:43it appeared that girls were on top.
0:05:43 > 0:05:47# If you want to be my lover, you got to get with my friends...#
0:05:47 > 0:05:48Fast forward to the present
0:05:48 > 0:05:51and it seems like we're going backwards fast.
0:05:51 > 0:05:53Sexist video games, sexist porn,
0:05:53 > 0:05:55Dapper Laughs,
0:05:55 > 0:05:57and a resurgence of a predatory lad culture.
0:05:57 > 0:05:59How do you want your eggs?
0:05:59 > 0:06:01Same as last night, yeah? Fertilised?
0:06:01 > 0:06:03He knows...!
0:06:03 > 0:06:05So, back to uni, where apparently the worst offenders
0:06:05 > 0:06:08are the sports clubs, who see singing sexist songs
0:06:08 > 0:06:11as part and parcel of a fun night out.
0:06:12 > 0:06:16Last year mobile phone footage of a Stirling University rugby team
0:06:16 > 0:06:18went viral when they were caught singing an updated version
0:06:18 > 0:06:21of an old drinking song on a public bus.
0:06:21 > 0:06:25Fellow passengers in this footage are clearly shocked and appalled
0:06:25 > 0:06:27by their behaviour.
0:06:27 > 0:06:29- WOMAN:- That's so brutal.
0:06:29 > 0:06:33INDISTINCT SHOUTING AND CHANTING
0:06:41 > 0:06:43I'm starting my journey in Cardiff,
0:06:43 > 0:06:47a thriving university city famous for its love of a good night out
0:06:47 > 0:06:48and rugby.
0:06:48 > 0:06:50But I've come here to play hockey.
0:06:50 > 0:06:52To be honest, I was a little relieved -
0:06:52 > 0:06:54rugby always terrified me at school!
0:06:58 > 0:07:01I want to really get under the skin of lad culture
0:07:01 > 0:07:03and see if university sports clubs
0:07:03 > 0:07:06are really as bad as it's been suggested.
0:07:06 > 0:07:09To do that, hockey captain Chris and chairman Ben
0:07:09 > 0:07:11have promised to take me on a big night out.
0:07:11 > 0:07:13All right?
0:07:13 > 0:07:14Yeah, a bit cold!
0:07:14 > 0:07:19'But first I have to prove my worth on the pitch.
0:07:19 > 0:07:21'Easier said than done.'
0:07:25 > 0:07:26Drive it forward.
0:07:28 > 0:07:32I feel kind of like a kind of sense of camaraderie, which is quite nice.
0:07:32 > 0:07:35Like...team spirit, kind of thing.
0:07:37 > 0:07:39So far, the most offensive thing about this game
0:07:39 > 0:07:41has been my hockey skills.
0:07:43 > 0:07:47Maybe the sexist behaviour will start to reveal itself in the locker room,
0:07:47 > 0:07:50where - let's face it - everything else is revealed!
0:07:53 > 0:07:54Stop looking.
0:07:59 > 0:08:01That is the coldest shower ever!
0:08:01 > 0:08:02Warm shower?
0:08:05 > 0:08:09'My initiation into the world of university sports teams
0:08:09 > 0:08:12'and Unilad culture begins with a bottle of shampoo
0:08:12 > 0:08:14'poured over my head.'
0:08:14 > 0:08:15Bad spillage!
0:08:15 > 0:08:18'Closely followed by my second cold shower of the day.'
0:08:18 > 0:08:20Oh, my gosh!
0:08:20 > 0:08:24GASPS AND GROANS
0:08:24 > 0:08:26It's a pair of shoes, boys!
0:08:26 > 0:08:30I feel like I'm kind of being initiated into this lad world,
0:08:30 > 0:08:33but I don't know if I'm fully there, yet.
0:08:33 > 0:08:35I seem to be doing some of the lad things wrong.
0:08:35 > 0:08:37WOMAN: Why, what're you doing wrong?
0:08:37 > 0:08:40I don't know. Didn't like my shoes. They're not laddie shoes, apparently.
0:08:40 > 0:08:42I thought they were smart, but...
0:08:42 > 0:08:45looks like I've fallen at the first hurdle.
0:08:45 > 0:08:46- You're ready?- I'm ready!
0:08:46 > 0:08:49'Suited and booted, time to hit the bars of Cardiff.'
0:08:49 > 0:08:52Three, two, one... Go!
0:08:52 > 0:08:54In time-honoured tradition, a hockey lads' night out
0:08:54 > 0:08:57kicks off with some drinking games.
0:08:58 > 0:09:01SHOUTING
0:09:05 > 0:09:08WILD SHOUTING ERUPTS
0:09:08 > 0:09:11I quickly learn that drinking
0:09:11 > 0:09:12is a big part of a lads' night out.
0:09:12 > 0:09:14As is...
0:09:14 > 0:09:17a good old-fashioned sing-song, led by star player Mattie.
0:09:17 > 0:09:21INDISTINCT DRUNKEN SINGING
0:09:23 > 0:09:27A few beers later, attention is turned to some girls in the bar.
0:09:27 > 0:09:30# Have you ever seen Millsy pull a wench...#
0:09:30 > 0:09:34They are serenaded by a traditional hockey love ballad, Pull a Wench.
0:09:34 > 0:09:37# Have you ever seen Millsy pull a wench? #
0:09:37 > 0:09:40Whilst Chris and some of the boys
0:09:40 > 0:09:42try to impress the ladies with their banter,
0:09:42 > 0:09:46I was about to be initiated into another hockey tradition.
0:09:46 > 0:09:48It's a game called Tell Her,
0:09:48 > 0:09:51and the rules are if someone says something about a girl
0:09:51 > 0:09:53and a team-mate shouts "Tell her!"
0:09:53 > 0:09:55then he must immediately go up to the girl
0:09:55 > 0:09:57and tell her what he just said.
0:09:57 > 0:10:01So, say, for example, some idiot just told his new team-mates
0:10:01 > 0:10:04that he didn't fancy a girl at the bar...
0:10:04 > 0:10:06- TELL HER!- Tell her!
0:10:06 > 0:10:07Tell her!
0:10:07 > 0:10:09Excuse me.
0:10:09 > 0:10:11Excuse me. I'm really sorry about this,
0:10:11 > 0:10:15erm, I wouldn't have sex with you at the moment.
0:10:15 > 0:10:16< I would!
0:10:16 > 0:10:19Yes. I was the idiot.
0:10:19 > 0:10:21I'm really sorry.
0:10:21 > 0:10:22That was so awkward.
0:10:22 > 0:10:24Why do you have to do that?
0:10:24 > 0:10:26It teaches you respect.
0:10:26 > 0:10:28You know, they're having a great time
0:10:28 > 0:10:29and they're absolutely lovely guys,
0:10:29 > 0:10:33but, you know, I really enjoyed hanging out with them and playing hockey with them,
0:10:33 > 0:10:37and just kind of really feeling that sort of kind of team spirit.
0:10:37 > 0:10:39The camaraderie.
0:10:39 > 0:10:43And the idea that you've always got a group of mates to go out with.
0:10:43 > 0:10:46You've always got someone there to back you up, kind of thing.
0:10:46 > 0:10:49That's really nice, but... as the night progressed,
0:10:49 > 0:10:52and they're literally just chucking drinks down their throats,
0:10:52 > 0:10:55you know - they're lovely guys - but they just change slightly.
0:10:55 > 0:10:58I don't think they fully really know the way that they are acting,
0:10:58 > 0:11:00and I felt a bit uncomfortable
0:11:00 > 0:11:03going up to random women and putting your arms around them, and stuff.
0:11:03 > 0:11:05It's just...
0:11:05 > 0:11:07That was just a little bit too far for me, I think.
0:11:13 > 0:11:16# I've got to beam a message to you
0:11:17 > 0:11:20# Straight from the satellite... #
0:11:21 > 0:11:23I felt quite bad when I woke up this morning.
0:11:23 > 0:11:25Not just because of my hangover,
0:11:25 > 0:11:28but mainly because last night
0:11:28 > 0:11:31I was so, like, wound up in how uncomfortable I was feeling,
0:11:31 > 0:11:34and how uncomfortable I felt having to go up to women
0:11:34 > 0:11:37and tell them things and watching the lads tell women
0:11:37 > 0:11:39that they're fat, and stuff,
0:11:39 > 0:11:41and if I was feeling uncomfortable,
0:11:41 > 0:11:44then imagine how those women must have felt.
0:11:47 > 0:11:51To find out, I managed to track down some of the girls from last night.
0:11:51 > 0:11:54Shelby, Jasmine, and Georgia are students at university here.
0:11:54 > 0:11:56I wanted to find out how the boys' behaviour
0:11:56 > 0:11:59and drinking games affected them.
0:11:59 > 0:12:01- Hiya.- You all right? - Fine, thank you.- Cool.
0:12:01 > 0:12:03I don't know if you saw me last night,
0:12:03 > 0:12:06- but I kind of saw you guys last night in Missoula.- Yes.- Yes.
0:12:06 > 0:12:08We kind of met.
0:12:08 > 0:12:11But, erm...you were chatting to some of the lads I was with
0:12:11 > 0:12:14and, to be honest, I think you actually left
0:12:14 > 0:12:15at quite a good time in the night.
0:12:15 > 0:12:18I noticed that with the volume of the guys
0:12:18 > 0:12:20you could tell that the alcohol was sort of taking an effect.
0:12:20 > 0:12:22And that's when they start coming over to us
0:12:22 > 0:12:25and showing that actually they were drunk.
0:12:25 > 0:12:28The louder it gets, the more you don't want to be around them.
0:12:28 > 0:12:30I really got, erm, a sense that...
0:12:31 > 0:12:34..it was just like they don't even think about it.
0:12:34 > 0:12:36It's just, like, what the hockey team
0:12:36 > 0:12:39and what these people have just done for years.
0:12:39 > 0:12:41I don't think they actually really
0:12:41 > 0:12:44think about how it makes girls feel, sometimes.
0:12:44 > 0:12:47No. If you get upset "Oh, it's just banter!"
0:12:47 > 0:12:50That's, like, the most coined...
0:12:50 > 0:12:52- That word has just been used for so many things.- Yeah.
0:12:52 > 0:12:55- "Just get over it."- Covers a lot of nasty comments, doesn't it?
0:12:55 > 0:12:56"Oh, it's just banter."
0:12:56 > 0:12:59Are there any sort of specific examples of the sexism
0:12:59 > 0:13:01you've experienced that, like, stand out?
0:13:01 > 0:13:04I have a few experiences where you're at a bar,
0:13:04 > 0:13:06and someone tries to approach you
0:13:06 > 0:13:08because they see you're not with your friends
0:13:08 > 0:13:11and because I'm quite short the angle that I'm stood at
0:13:11 > 0:13:13they'll make a comment about my chest being out,
0:13:13 > 0:13:15or something like that.
0:13:15 > 0:13:18- Or they'll just stick their head in. - Yeah, they grope freely,
0:13:18 > 0:13:20and it's not very nice.
0:13:20 > 0:13:23You sort of tell them to f-off, or something, or back off,
0:13:23 > 0:13:25and then they say, "Well, why are you wearing it?"
0:13:25 > 0:13:28or "Why would you do it? You're just asking for it" sort of thing.
0:13:28 > 0:13:30I'd seen things from the boys' perspective,
0:13:30 > 0:13:33so now I wanted to see things from the girls' side.
0:13:33 > 0:13:35And what's the best way to really understand
0:13:35 > 0:13:37what it's like to be a girl?
0:13:38 > 0:13:40By becoming one, of course!
0:13:41 > 0:13:44The girls are already ready by the time I arrive for our big night out.
0:13:46 > 0:13:49You need to help me look as good as I can, basically! OK?
0:13:49 > 0:13:52- Yeah.- We can do that. You're in good hands.
0:13:52 > 0:13:54What do you want to wear? Have you got anything in mind?
0:13:54 > 0:13:56I guess I want to look hot,
0:13:56 > 0:13:58but I don't want to look, like, really slutty.
0:13:58 > 0:14:00- That word!- But, honestly.
0:14:00 > 0:14:03A guy honestly does have a perception...
0:14:03 > 0:14:06Girls don't dress slutty, they just end up being branded slutty.
0:14:06 > 0:14:07It's such a fine line, as well.
0:14:07 > 0:14:10Well, I apologise, but I want to be on that side of that line.
0:14:10 > 0:14:12- I suppose it must be quite a fine line.- Absolutely.
0:14:12 > 0:14:14Because guys like you label us as slutty.
0:14:14 > 0:14:18I did apologise straight afterwards. THEY CHUCKLE
0:14:18 > 0:14:20I wasn't sure my apology had cut it, though.
0:14:20 > 0:14:22And I was worried the offence I'd caused
0:14:22 > 0:14:25would derail my girls' night out before it'd even started.
0:14:25 > 0:14:27Well, anyway you all look pretty stunning,
0:14:27 > 0:14:29so I think I'm going to try and go and do the same to myself.
0:14:29 > 0:14:32- Yeah? All right? - Good luck.- Thank you.
0:14:33 > 0:14:36I vow one day there will be a film where I don't dress as a woman!
0:14:36 > 0:14:38# Midnight...#
0:14:40 > 0:14:42I think I look quite nice.
0:14:42 > 0:14:44I'm struggling with this wig so much,
0:14:44 > 0:14:47you're just going to have to help me. I'm so sorry.
0:14:49 > 0:14:52Something tells me my wig isn't the only problem.
0:14:52 > 0:14:54So, what's actually wrong with my outfit?
0:14:54 > 0:14:56You look...awful.
0:14:56 > 0:14:58- ..told me to buy is.- No.
0:14:58 > 0:15:01I wouldn't wear that on a night out even. And I've got a girl's figure.
0:15:01 > 0:15:03I'm trying my best!
0:15:03 > 0:15:05- Yeah, you did.- Try the dress.
0:15:10 > 0:15:12OOHS AND AAHS
0:15:12 > 0:15:14Do you think I look really sexy, now?
0:15:14 > 0:15:15Yeah, it looks cool.
0:15:15 > 0:15:18Do you guys like attention, or dislike attention on nights out?
0:15:18 > 0:15:20We don't do it for that, we do it for ourselves.
0:15:20 > 0:15:22- ALL:- Yeah.
0:15:22 > 0:15:23Could you explain that a little bit?
0:15:23 > 0:15:26For a bloke, it's kind of hard to understand.
0:15:26 > 0:15:27So who do you guys dress up for?
0:15:27 > 0:15:29Who am I dressing up for, right now?
0:15:29 > 0:15:31Our night doesn't revolve around guys.
0:15:31 > 0:15:34We like to make sure that we're dressing up for each other.
0:15:34 > 0:15:36'I think that's a big part of why a lot of guys
0:15:36 > 0:15:39'behave so badly towards women - they just don't realise that girls
0:15:39 > 0:15:40'aren't dressing up for them.'
0:15:40 > 0:15:44So, then, when a guy thinks he can do something which is
0:15:44 > 0:15:47one step too far, that's not really cool.
0:15:47 > 0:15:49Absolutely not.
0:15:49 > 0:15:51And where would you say that boundary is?
0:15:51 > 0:15:53When it's, like, sexual - too far.
0:15:53 > 0:15:56Saying you look nice, your body looks nice - fine.
0:15:56 > 0:15:59Like, literally, pointing to a bit of your body - I don't know...
0:15:59 > 0:16:02Right, so what do you think the worst that's going to happen to you tonight is?
0:16:04 > 0:16:05Erm...
0:16:05 > 0:16:08The worst is you can be spiked, so...
0:16:08 > 0:16:10- Spiked?- Yeah.
0:16:10 > 0:16:13I'm pretty sure I know what to be spiked means,
0:16:13 > 0:16:15but is it when they put drugs in your drink,
0:16:15 > 0:16:17so that you basically can't function
0:16:17 > 0:16:19so that they can basically rape you?
0:16:19 > 0:16:21Yeah, I think that's, like, the general idea of it.
0:16:21 > 0:16:23Has that, like, properly happened?
0:16:23 > 0:16:26- It's happened to me.- It's happened to you?- Yeah. It happened to me.
0:16:26 > 0:16:28It was in Freshers' Week,
0:16:28 > 0:16:29I went on a night out...
0:16:29 > 0:16:33I just ended up finding myself in some random uni halls.
0:16:33 > 0:16:35I had the police take the home.
0:16:35 > 0:16:37I had to go to hospital,
0:16:37 > 0:16:39I had to get blood tests...
0:16:39 > 0:16:40So, yes. Scary.
0:16:40 > 0:16:43Yes, I mean, I'm surprised that actually all of you probably know
0:16:43 > 0:16:45- one person who's been spiked. - ALL:- Yeah.
0:16:45 > 0:16:47I thought it was something...
0:16:47 > 0:16:51- Honestly, I thought it was something from, like, films and stuff.- No.
0:16:51 > 0:16:52'Shelby is far from alone.
0:16:52 > 0:16:55'Shockingly, a recent survey at nearby Swansea University
0:16:55 > 0:16:59'found that one in three female students have had their drink spiked.
0:16:59 > 0:17:02'A sinister example of the dangers young woman face
0:17:02 > 0:17:04'at university today.'
0:17:04 > 0:17:06OK, am I looking all right?
0:17:06 > 0:17:07'Time to leave for the club.'
0:17:07 > 0:17:09Ooh. I am going to be so cold.
0:17:09 > 0:17:12Does anyone have a little jacket, or anything?
0:17:12 > 0:17:13- No!- No!- That's not what we do!
0:17:13 > 0:17:17'So, a girls' night out dictates I must freeze.'
0:17:17 > 0:17:19THEY ALL SHIVER
0:17:19 > 0:17:20OK, guys. Where is the club?
0:17:20 > 0:17:22'Worth saying it's sub-flipping-zero!'
0:17:22 > 0:17:24It is a bit of a walk.
0:17:24 > 0:17:27'We are being filmed on a hidden camera as we walk to the club,
0:17:27 > 0:17:29'so I can experience what it is really like for a girl
0:17:29 > 0:17:31'walking the streets at night.
0:17:33 > 0:17:35'We've only just started walking...
0:17:35 > 0:17:38'and a random bloke on the street shouts sexual abuse at us.'
0:17:38 > 0:17:39- What?- What's he done now?
0:17:39 > 0:17:44- What'd he say?- He said, "Oh, I love pussy, I do."
0:17:44 > 0:17:45THEY LAUGH
0:17:45 > 0:17:47Oh, my God...! Oh, my God!
0:17:47 > 0:17:51Licking his lips? That was nice(!)
0:17:52 > 0:17:56What's, like, the worst thing that's happened walking down the street on a night out?
0:17:56 > 0:18:00Getting catcalls... You can't do anything when you're far away.
0:18:00 > 0:18:03It's something every single night.
0:18:03 > 0:18:07'Now every bloke we pass on the street feels like a potential threat.
0:18:08 > 0:18:12'My girls' night out is quickly becoming a real eye-opener.'
0:18:12 > 0:18:16MUSIC PLAYS
0:18:17 > 0:18:20'This is what girls do on a night out, isn't it?
0:18:27 > 0:18:31'Also at the club were Chris, Mattie and Ben from the hockey team.'
0:18:40 > 0:18:43Definitely a lot of people in there who know that I'm a bloke,
0:18:43 > 0:18:45but some people probably fancied me.
0:18:45 > 0:18:47SHE LAUGHS
0:18:47 > 0:18:49Specially when they grabbed your bum and were buying you drinks.
0:18:49 > 0:18:52I've had drinks bought, I've had bum-grabs,
0:18:52 > 0:18:55and you look round, and they're nowhere to be seen.
0:18:55 > 0:18:57It's like a spank.
0:18:57 > 0:19:01- Yeah. That happens a lot. Your bum gets...- How do they just vanish?
0:19:06 > 0:19:10Particularly in the club, I had my arse grabbed.
0:19:10 > 0:19:14Somebody came up behind me and thrusted into my back...side.
0:19:14 > 0:19:17When that guy thrusted into me, I turned round straight away
0:19:17 > 0:19:19- and he was high-fiving his friends. - Really?
0:19:19 > 0:19:20He thought it was funny.
0:19:20 > 0:19:22You must feel like an exhibition, then?
0:19:22 > 0:19:25They don't really value you as a human being.
0:19:29 > 0:19:30When we first met,
0:19:31 > 0:19:35- I did not know it was a male. - And you squeezed my bum, didn't you?
0:19:35 > 0:19:36I did squeeze your bum.
0:19:36 > 0:19:39What type of girls tonight caught your eye?
0:19:39 > 0:19:41There was you, there was two blondes...
0:19:41 > 0:19:44One with a lot...to show.
0:19:44 > 0:19:46There was one with this - Chavasaurus rex.
0:19:46 > 0:19:48If she's doing that, what do you think that means?
0:19:48 > 0:19:52- Do think that means she wants attention?- She wants then, erm...
0:19:52 > 0:19:54- Possibly. I don't believe... - Wants the "D".
0:19:54 > 0:19:56- What's the D?- There's the D.
0:19:56 > 0:19:59I think we can all guess what "the D" stands for.
0:20:05 > 0:20:09Do you know what, I've actually had a really good time this evening.
0:20:09 > 0:20:11Like, I've been out the lads,
0:20:11 > 0:20:12and have had a lads' night.
0:20:12 > 0:20:15I've been out with the girls, and have had a proper girls' night,
0:20:15 > 0:20:18and I've kind of seen it from the other side.
0:20:18 > 0:20:19But, the thing that does shock me,
0:20:19 > 0:20:22is when you speak to any women, any girls on the street or in the club,
0:20:22 > 0:20:28you know, each one of them has got at least one pretty harrowing story
0:20:28 > 0:20:31of, you know, everyday sexism.
0:20:32 > 0:20:35My experiences in Cardiff with the girls have made me realise
0:20:35 > 0:20:37just how rife sexism is,
0:20:37 > 0:20:40and how little respect women sometimes get from us men.
0:20:40 > 0:20:43But as much as I thought otherwise at the beginning of my journey,
0:20:43 > 0:20:45by using the word slutty,
0:20:45 > 0:20:48it was clear that I was part of the problem, too.
0:20:48 > 0:20:52Scrubber, moose, hag, dog, tramp, slut, whore, tart,
0:20:52 > 0:20:55slapper, Delilah, Jezebel, trout...
0:20:55 > 0:20:58Don't worry, I haven't suddenly got Tourette's - bear with me...
0:20:58 > 0:21:02..pig, slut, sket, skank, thirsty bitch,
0:21:02 > 0:21:05harlot, floozy, minger, gash bike...
0:21:05 > 0:21:07Yeah, all right, I did make "gash bike" up,
0:21:07 > 0:21:10but there is actually a very serious point to all this.
0:21:10 > 0:21:12Because in the English language
0:21:12 > 0:21:14there are over 200 derogatory terms to describe a girl
0:21:14 > 0:21:18who sleeps around a lot, but there are only a few for guys.
0:21:18 > 0:21:21Now that seems like a pretty serious imbalance.
0:21:22 > 0:21:26So, meet Joe and meet Hannah.
0:21:26 > 0:21:28Now, Joe has slept with 30 girls
0:21:28 > 0:21:30and Hannah has slept with 30 guys.
0:21:30 > 0:21:32So I'm going to go into the street
0:21:32 > 0:21:34to see what people think about them both.
0:21:34 > 0:21:37Ready, guys? Yeah, no, no, it'll be fun, it'll be good fun.
0:21:37 > 0:21:39No, it'll be fun. Yeah, yeah. Let's go, let's go.
0:21:42 > 0:21:44So how will people judge Joe and Hannah -
0:21:44 > 0:21:46not their real names or their sexual history, by the way -
0:21:46 > 0:21:49for having the same number of sexual partners?
0:21:49 > 0:21:51OK, so, this is my mate Joe.
0:21:51 > 0:21:52He's slept with 30 girls.
0:21:52 > 0:21:55- What would you think of him? - Lad.
0:21:55 > 0:21:57- Lad?- Yeah. Lad. - And this is my friend Hannah.
0:21:57 > 0:22:00Now she's slept with 30 guys - what do you think of her?
0:22:00 > 0:22:03First word that pops into my head would probably be slag.
0:22:04 > 0:22:06- I'd think he was a lad. - Yeah.- Probably.
0:22:06 > 0:22:09- Bit of slag. - LOUD LAUGHTER
0:22:09 > 0:22:10- Player.- Player.
0:22:10 > 0:22:13- Slut. - FRIEND CHUCKLES
0:22:13 > 0:22:15Naughty boy, I would say. A bit of a slut.
0:22:15 > 0:22:17His friends will think he's a bit of a lad.
0:22:17 > 0:22:20But some girls will think she's a slut. They'd be jealous.
0:22:20 > 0:22:24He's a game fella. On the other hand he could be dying of diseases.
0:22:24 > 0:22:26- I think she's...- She's a slag. - ..a slag,
0:22:26 > 0:22:29considering she's been with so many men.
0:22:29 > 0:22:33Erm, well, that's put me right off her, to be honest.
0:22:34 > 0:22:36Even the girls are calling her a slut.
0:22:36 > 0:22:39Perhaps we really do need to come up with a new word for a female stud.
0:22:44 > 0:22:47Do you think there's actually a female equivalent
0:22:47 > 0:22:50- for the word stud or lad? - I've never heard one, no.
0:22:50 > 0:22:52Well, you've got to come up with one.
0:22:54 > 0:22:55Lass, probably!
0:22:57 > 0:23:00Do you think there is a female equivalent of the word stud?
0:23:01 > 0:23:02No. Not that exists.
0:23:04 > 0:23:07Well, I guess you kind of could say that slag is the equivalent,
0:23:07 > 0:23:10- but not really, because stud is a good thing.- Yeah.- Slag isn't.
0:23:10 > 0:23:13It seems to be one rule for one gender and one rule for the other,
0:23:13 > 0:23:16which is obviously wrong.
0:23:16 > 0:23:20Female stud, all I can think of is, like, fud is a female stud.
0:23:22 > 0:23:23Right. So there you have it.
0:23:23 > 0:23:27I mean, it might not've been the most scientific method,
0:23:27 > 0:23:29but I think my experiment definitely proved that
0:23:29 > 0:23:33we do have a big double standard when it comes to boys and girls
0:23:33 > 0:23:36and that, actually, the language we all use
0:23:36 > 0:23:38is a big part of that everyday sexism problem.
0:23:38 > 0:23:40And, you know, I guess,
0:23:40 > 0:23:43we might have come up with a new word for a female stud - a fud.
0:23:45 > 0:23:48(Fud...) Nah.
0:23:48 > 0:23:49Nah, maybe not.
0:23:51 > 0:23:53'Someone who's done more than most
0:23:53 > 0:23:56'to shine a light on the issue of sexism today is Laura Bates,
0:23:56 > 0:23:58'founder of the Everyday Sexism project...'
0:23:58 > 0:24:01- Fancy going to get a coffee, or something?- Sure. Sounds good.
0:24:01 > 0:24:04'..a website that records everyday incidents of sexist behaviour
0:24:04 > 0:24:06'experienced by women on a day-to-day basis.
0:24:06 > 0:24:09'Laura didn't want us to identify her office
0:24:09 > 0:24:13'as she's been the subject of almost daily threats of violence and rape.
0:24:13 > 0:24:17'In just three years, her site has had 100,000 posts.'
0:24:17 > 0:24:20Here's a bunch of really typical entries.
0:24:20 > 0:24:22So, this is from a girl at school who...
0:24:22 > 0:24:25The guy sitting next to her took a picture of her breasts
0:24:25 > 0:24:28on his mobile phone and Snapchatted it around to the other guys
0:24:28 > 0:24:30at the school without her realising.
0:24:30 > 0:24:32Here we've got a 14-year-old girl
0:24:32 > 0:24:35in a science class being told to get back in the kitchen,
0:24:35 > 0:24:38that all she's good for is cleaning, cooking and blow jobs.
0:24:38 > 0:24:41And here another 14-year-old's talking about
0:24:41 > 0:24:45being frequently touched, groped and having her breasts grabbed
0:24:45 > 0:24:47at school, and it being something that's really normal.
0:24:47 > 0:24:50We would have thousands of entries all along those same lines -
0:24:50 > 0:24:52people saying the same thing.
0:24:52 > 0:24:54I mean, I've had a look at your website myself,
0:24:54 > 0:24:58and although most of the stuff on there is terrible...
0:24:58 > 0:24:59but there are entries that...
0:24:59 > 0:25:02It seems a bit more of a grey area,
0:25:02 > 0:25:05where it's not, actually, maybe,
0:25:05 > 0:25:07that sexist in a lot of people's opinions.
0:25:07 > 0:25:09Do you think there's any danger in if we really are
0:25:09 > 0:25:11calling everything sexist
0:25:11 > 0:25:13that we're going to get to a worse state,
0:25:13 > 0:25:15where actually nothing is sexist?
0:25:15 > 0:25:18Well, I definitely don't think that we're in danger at the moment
0:25:18 > 0:25:19of overreacting to sexism.
0:25:19 > 0:25:22Very much the message we get is that it's something very difficult
0:25:22 > 0:25:25for people to speak out about, and it doesn't get recognised.
0:25:25 > 0:25:27For me, I think it's a spectrum.
0:25:27 > 0:25:32For example, we see a woman who tries to brush off being shouted at or wolf-whistled in the street -
0:25:32 > 0:25:35it's not that big a deal - and then finds that because she ignores it,
0:25:35 > 0:25:36the guy follows her home
0:25:36 > 0:25:38and sexually assaults her on her doorstep.
0:25:38 > 0:25:39So it's not separate boxes of
0:25:39 > 0:25:42"this isn't that big a deal", "this is more serious"...
0:25:42 > 0:25:44These things are kind of more fluid than that,
0:25:44 > 0:25:47and they have a bigger impact on each other.
0:25:49 > 0:25:51'Sites like Laura's have certainly put sexism on the agenda today
0:25:51 > 0:25:55'and it's encouraging to read how it's inspiring a generation of women
0:25:55 > 0:25:57'to stand up against it.'
0:25:57 > 0:26:03However, the internet is also being used as a weapon against women.
0:26:03 > 0:26:04Slut-shaming, or revenge porn,
0:26:04 > 0:26:07is where a boy posts an intimate image on the internet of a girl
0:26:07 > 0:26:09he used to go out with.
0:26:09 > 0:26:13And, yes, it is almost always boys posting images of girls.
0:26:13 > 0:26:16I've come to Chelmsford to meet this girl called Hazel
0:26:16 > 0:26:20who unfortunately was "shamed" by her ex-boyfriend
0:26:20 > 0:26:22in quite a brutal way.
0:26:22 > 0:26:24She's done quite a lot of stuff in the papers -
0:26:24 > 0:26:26there's something in a tabloid here...
0:26:32 > 0:26:33Hazel hit the headlines last year
0:26:33 > 0:26:36after her ex-boyfriend posted an explicit sex tape of them
0:26:36 > 0:26:38over the internet.
0:26:38 > 0:26:40What was it like the moment you find out?
0:26:40 > 0:26:42I was just so shocked.
0:26:42 > 0:26:44I feel humiliated.
0:26:44 > 0:26:46Like, all these strange, like,
0:26:46 > 0:26:48gross men have seen it.
0:26:48 > 0:26:50I just felt so...
0:26:50 > 0:26:52exposed, you know?
0:26:54 > 0:26:58Revenge porn is one way for a boy to assert power over their ex,
0:26:58 > 0:26:59but Hazel refused be crushed
0:26:59 > 0:27:01and decided to speak up.
0:27:01 > 0:27:04That's quite, like, a brave thing to do, don't you think?
0:27:04 > 0:27:08I'm trying to tell my story to help others, really.
0:27:08 > 0:27:11I want my word to get out
0:27:11 > 0:27:14and to show that I'm not ashamed,
0:27:14 > 0:27:18and the other victims shouldn't be ashamed either.
0:27:18 > 0:27:20And what are you doing today, then?
0:27:20 > 0:27:23Well, I'm going to go to a local school, Bosworth School,
0:27:23 > 0:27:26and I'm going to speak to some six-formers
0:27:26 > 0:27:29and tell them my story.
0:27:30 > 0:27:32Hello, everyone.
0:27:32 > 0:27:33- PUPILS:- Hello.
0:27:33 > 0:27:36My name's Hazel, and in July, 2013,
0:27:36 > 0:27:38I became a victim of revenge porn.
0:27:38 > 0:27:42I was in a relationship for about nine or ten months
0:27:42 > 0:27:45and I broke up with him,
0:27:45 > 0:27:49but before, when we were in love, or when we thought we were in love -
0:27:49 > 0:27:51we'd done a little video.
0:27:51 > 0:27:56But when we broke up, he posted the video onto actual porn sites
0:27:56 > 0:27:58and it took over a year to get rid of it.
0:27:58 > 0:28:01And the one thing that I would like to tell everyone
0:28:01 > 0:28:03is to be aware.
0:28:03 > 0:28:08Because I know it can have the same psychological effects as rape,
0:28:08 > 0:28:10and I don't want people to feel that way.
0:28:15 > 0:28:19So, just by a show of hands, how many of you actually know someone
0:28:19 > 0:28:21that this type of thing has happened to?
0:28:21 > 0:28:22Whoa.
0:28:22 > 0:28:24OK, I did not expect that.
0:28:24 > 0:28:26'I only left school three years ago,
0:28:26 > 0:28:29'but in that time, the problem seems to have become a lot worse.'
0:28:29 > 0:28:32I know so many people that've had it happen to them.
0:28:32 > 0:28:34Probably 20 people.
0:28:34 > 0:28:37It happened to one person, like, recently.
0:28:37 > 0:28:40And they didn't come into school for a very long time.
0:28:40 > 0:28:43They didn't hang around with the same people.
0:28:43 > 0:28:46I think their friends just stopped talking to them
0:28:46 > 0:28:47because they were embarrassed
0:28:47 > 0:28:50and didn't want to be associated with, like, "a slag."
0:28:50 > 0:28:52And they just lost all of their friends
0:28:52 > 0:28:55and they're still to this day, getting hate
0:28:55 > 0:28:57because of what they did.
0:28:57 > 0:28:59Obviously, it happens to both guys and girls,
0:28:59 > 0:29:02but in either way in the situations
0:29:02 > 0:29:05a guy always somehow comes out on top
0:29:05 > 0:29:09in the way...it doesn't affect him really, like, socially.
0:29:09 > 0:29:13Like, even sometimes you could say he would get a little bit more popular
0:29:13 > 0:29:15for receiving these pictures.
0:29:15 > 0:29:16Or showing his friends them.
0:29:16 > 0:29:19Whereas, a girl, no matter how... how much...
0:29:19 > 0:29:22she will always come out on bottom.
0:29:22 > 0:29:24'The stuff I was hearing from the girls was shocking
0:29:24 > 0:29:26'and I wanted to get a sense of why boys do it.'
0:29:26 > 0:29:30Do you think the media and social networking are actually
0:29:30 > 0:29:32- allowing men to be more sexist? - Yeah.
0:29:32 > 0:29:33Because of the rights and...
0:29:33 > 0:29:36now that women are allowed to vote and everything,
0:29:36 > 0:29:39and because of that they have to find another way
0:29:39 > 0:29:41to push them down and show that they're the dominant.
0:29:41 > 0:29:43And you've still got your old-fashioned,
0:29:43 > 0:29:45"Oh, yeah, we're better" people,
0:29:45 > 0:29:47and we need to say, "No, that's enough."
0:29:49 > 0:29:50In the past when, you know, I'd have been
0:29:50 > 0:29:52shown a picture of my mate's naked girlfriend,
0:29:52 > 0:29:56I'd probably have thought, ah, yeah, that's cool, quite nice, whatever.
0:29:56 > 0:29:58I wouldn't have thought anything about the girl in the picture.
0:29:58 > 0:30:00Now, I'd be more inclined to think,
0:30:00 > 0:30:03no, mate, stop, what are you doing? Why are you showing me that?
0:30:03 > 0:30:05That's not a nice thing to do.
0:30:05 > 0:30:08And really, I think that's what we ALL should be saying.
0:30:13 > 0:30:17'At the beginning of this journey, I was unsure about what to think,
0:30:17 > 0:30:19'but I'm starting to see things differently now.
0:30:19 > 0:30:20'It really has begun to hit home
0:30:20 > 0:30:23'just how big a problem it is for girls
0:30:23 > 0:30:25'and it made me start to think about my own girlfriend, Libby,
0:30:25 > 0:30:28'and what she might have had to put up with.'
0:30:30 > 0:30:32I'm quite excited to see my girlfriend.
0:30:34 > 0:30:38- Hi there, babe.- Hey, you OK?- You all right? Yeah, I'm good.- I missed you.
0:30:38 > 0:30:42- I missed you more. Hey, Reg! Reggie boy!- Reg is here.- Hello!
0:30:42 > 0:30:45'Libby and I have been together for a year and a half,
0:30:45 > 0:30:47'but this will be the first time I've ever asked her
0:30:47 > 0:30:50'about any sexist behaviour she might have experienced.'
0:30:50 > 0:30:54You know, you're just walking, like, walking down the street,
0:30:54 > 0:30:56mind your own business, blah, blah, blah...
0:30:56 > 0:30:59- I get beeped at all the time. - I've seen it, yeah.
0:30:59 > 0:31:02Just cos you get the workmen in their vans and...
0:31:02 > 0:31:04um, train stations?
0:31:04 > 0:31:08A lot of the time, it's happened before, there's empty carriages
0:31:08 > 0:31:11and, you know, a guy comes and sits next to you on a whole empty garage.
0:31:11 > 0:31:15- On an empty carriage. Oh, my God. - And it's like...really?- Yeah.
0:31:15 > 0:31:18And it gets to the point where you kind of just brush it off,
0:31:18 > 0:31:23cos you just get it so often and you just accept that's what guys do.
0:31:23 > 0:31:26And I mean, I have to say initially,
0:31:26 > 0:31:29I didn't think our generation was particularly sexist,
0:31:29 > 0:31:31but seeing the Cardiff lads,
0:31:31 > 0:31:34you know, they do this thing when they...
0:31:34 > 0:31:36they just walk up to random women in bars and...
0:31:36 > 0:31:38tell them random things like...
0:31:38 > 0:31:40oh, I don't want to have sex with you.
0:31:40 > 0:31:42'OK, technically, yes, that was me.'
0:31:42 > 0:31:45Do you ever get though, like, in our generation now,
0:31:45 > 0:31:49it's like the way to chat up a girl is to act like that towards them?
0:31:49 > 0:31:52And guys think that going out and being a lad and drinking
0:31:52 > 0:31:54and going up to girls and being like, oh, yeah,
0:31:54 > 0:31:57can I have sex with you, can I see your boobs and stuff like that,
0:31:57 > 0:32:00that guys just think that that is how you get girls nowadays?
0:32:00 > 0:32:02But is it ever flattering?
0:32:03 > 0:32:05Um, in some cases, yes.
0:32:05 > 0:32:08But even if a really, really hot guy came up to me
0:32:08 > 0:32:10and said, oh, show us your tits, I would still be like,
0:32:10 > 0:32:12hang on, that is a bit weird.
0:32:12 > 0:32:14I would still want him to be respectful to me.
0:32:14 > 0:32:17- There we go.- It looks all right, doesn't it?- Perfect, look at that.
0:32:17 > 0:32:20- Do you want it now or shall we put it in the fridge? - In the fridge.- I think so,
0:32:20 > 0:32:23cos I'm not really in the mood for that much salad.
0:32:23 > 0:32:26I don't think I'll ever be in the mood for that much, but it's good fun.
0:32:28 > 0:32:30'Libby had raised an interesting point.
0:32:30 > 0:32:33'Guys in our generation just don't know how to talk to
0:32:33 > 0:32:35'and behave in front of girls any more.
0:32:35 > 0:32:38'Maybe we just need a bit of a helping hand.'
0:32:38 > 0:32:41Someone who claims to offer this help is Beckster.
0:32:41 > 0:32:43He runs classes to teach young men how to approach women
0:32:43 > 0:32:46and bring out their inner alpha male.
0:32:46 > 0:32:48I find the best way to do this
0:32:48 > 0:32:50is first of all, learn the training wheels,
0:32:50 > 0:32:53like, the conversational pieces,
0:32:53 > 0:32:55the conversational starters.
0:32:55 > 0:32:59The thing is, a lot of people would describe me as kind of like, um...
0:32:59 > 0:33:01- kind of like metrosexual.- Yes.
0:33:01 > 0:33:04So, like, how are you going to, how are you going to help me?
0:33:04 > 0:33:07Maybe instil a bit more of the alpha man in you.
0:33:07 > 0:33:09That just means being more, the most confident self you can be,
0:33:09 > 0:33:11it doesn't mean walking around, going, beefcake,
0:33:11 > 0:33:13- or anything like that.- Yeah. - It just means,
0:33:13 > 0:33:16being 100% positive in your actions,
0:33:16 > 0:33:19the words you say, having conviction in what you're going to do
0:33:19 > 0:33:21and seeing someone you like and having the courage
0:33:21 > 0:33:24- to go up and talk to them. - But I'll be so nervous.
0:33:24 > 0:33:27It's fine, with time, your confidence grows
0:33:27 > 0:33:30- and you'll be absolutely fine. Deal?- OK, all right.
0:33:30 > 0:33:33- Let's do it.- All right, deal. Deal. - Cool.- Instant date.
0:33:33 > 0:33:36'Two men in leather gloves fisting in a London park?
0:33:36 > 0:33:38'You can't get more alpha male than that.'
0:33:38 > 0:33:41To kick things off, we begin with the theory
0:33:41 > 0:33:44in a classroom above a London pub.
0:33:44 > 0:33:46So, we're going to wake you up, get the blood going.
0:33:46 > 0:33:49Who's seen the film 300? Do you know the roar on it?
0:33:49 > 0:33:51- Yeah.- Spartans!
0:33:51 > 0:33:54So, I want you to altogether now shout, "Spartans!" Then, "Ooh, ooh, ooh!" OK?
0:33:54 > 0:33:57'Hang on, I thought he said this wasn't like that.'
0:33:57 > 0:33:59- Spartans!- ALL:- Spartans!
0:33:59 > 0:34:01Ooh, ooh, ooh!
0:34:01 > 0:34:03Right, good, now sit down.
0:34:03 > 0:34:05That's just waking the blood up and getting you going.
0:34:05 > 0:34:09- 'We start with some basics.' - Smiling is important.
0:34:09 > 0:34:12Smiling, apparently increases your chance...
0:34:12 > 0:34:14by 80%.
0:34:14 > 0:34:17Just me smiling quite a lot.
0:34:17 > 0:34:18So, just smile more.
0:34:20 > 0:34:23Yeah? Just, big smiles. That's it, I want to see the pearly whites.
0:34:23 > 0:34:25There you go. See?
0:34:25 > 0:34:28Now we're laughing, this is fun, this is contagious.
0:34:28 > 0:34:32This works, this is great for people. Right...
0:34:32 > 0:34:34This is the time, pens and paper.
0:34:34 > 0:34:35BECKSTER LAUGHS
0:34:35 > 0:34:37Capture,
0:34:37 > 0:34:38bond...
0:34:40 > 0:34:42and...what do you think the last one might be?
0:34:42 > 0:34:44'Er, get her phone number?
0:34:44 > 0:34:47'Cheeky kiss? First date?
0:34:47 > 0:34:49'Move in together and get married?'
0:34:49 > 0:34:50Sex.
0:34:50 > 0:34:52FAINT LAUGHTER
0:34:52 > 0:34:55'I didn't see that one coming, but you have to admire the ambition.'
0:34:55 > 0:34:59Capture their...imagination.
0:34:59 > 0:35:01Capture their emotions, OK?
0:35:01 > 0:35:03And capture their humour. Bond.
0:35:03 > 0:35:07- What do you think I mean by bond? - Getting to know them better.
0:35:07 > 0:35:08Getting to know them better.
0:35:08 > 0:35:11And this is building deep rapport,
0:35:11 > 0:35:15which also is one way to find a mate or a friend, OK?
0:35:15 > 0:35:17I've just said friend.
0:35:17 > 0:35:21What happens if we stick in the bonding stage?
0:35:21 > 0:35:23- What happens?- Friend zone.
0:35:23 > 0:35:26Yeah, you get stuck in the friend zone.
0:35:26 > 0:35:29Who's been stuck in the friend zone? Put your hands up. I have.
0:35:29 > 0:35:32Yeah? Exactly. And why is that?
0:35:32 > 0:35:35Cos you didn't show any sexual interest.
0:35:35 > 0:35:38You're too scared to man up
0:35:38 > 0:35:41and take it to the next level, which is sex.
0:35:41 > 0:35:43'I'm curious to find out about my classmates
0:35:43 > 0:35:45'and their reasons for being here.'
0:35:45 > 0:35:47I don't want to just pull, you know what I mean?
0:35:47 > 0:35:50That's probably one of the main reasons why I'm still a virgin,
0:35:50 > 0:35:52because I want to meet someone.
0:35:52 > 0:35:55It just, like, some people have had the social upbringing
0:35:55 > 0:35:58so they've met all the women through that. Other people haven't.
0:35:58 > 0:36:01So what do they do? Do they go home and cry about it,
0:36:01 > 0:36:03play on computer games? I don't know.
0:36:03 > 0:36:05Or they can go out and meet women.
0:36:05 > 0:36:07'Tom's a good-looking guy.
0:36:07 > 0:36:10'Surely he doesn't have a problem approaching girls.'
0:36:10 > 0:36:13I used to be sort of scared of rejection.
0:36:13 > 0:36:14I used to be very shy,
0:36:14 > 0:36:17and I used to kind of care too much what people thought about me,
0:36:17 > 0:36:19so I thought just by being quiet, you know...
0:36:19 > 0:36:21What would the ultimate, perfect guy that you want to be be?
0:36:21 > 0:36:24I think everyone wants to be James Bond, don't they, really?
0:36:24 > 0:36:25- James Bond?- Yeah.
0:36:25 > 0:36:28I'm going to teach you a conversational piece
0:36:28 > 0:36:30that we can start using today.
0:36:30 > 0:36:32So write this one down.
0:36:32 > 0:36:36So when we're stopping people on the street or in the park,
0:36:36 > 0:36:41it's a delicate subject of body language and gestures and so on,
0:36:41 > 0:36:45so we want to be quite careful not to invade their space too much,
0:36:45 > 0:36:49and how to do it correctly and fluidly,
0:36:49 > 0:36:51with calibration and confidence.
0:36:51 > 0:36:53So the first thing is the walk up.
0:36:53 > 0:36:56So I can practise on you first. If you stand up for a moment.
0:36:56 > 0:36:58Hey, sorry, I've only got a moment,
0:36:58 > 0:37:00but I was just chatting to my friend, Alison.
0:37:00 > 0:37:02She's in Primark at the moment.
0:37:02 > 0:37:05So a little joke there and so on. And then you...
0:37:05 > 0:37:07'Ha-ha, the old Alison in Primark joke.
0:37:07 > 0:37:09'Classic! Always funny.
0:37:13 > 0:37:16'Theory over, time now to put it into practice.
0:37:16 > 0:37:20'So we all head off to Covent Garden to try out our newly learned skills.'
0:37:20 > 0:37:22Let's go. Come on.
0:37:25 > 0:37:26Is that it?
0:37:27 > 0:37:30But whilst my classmates all confidently head off on the pull,
0:37:30 > 0:37:32I'm feeling a bit nervous.
0:37:32 > 0:37:36When you're nervous, the first three times are always going to be the most nerve-racking thing.
0:37:36 > 0:37:38But once you get over that, cos you get used to doing it,
0:37:38 > 0:37:41realise you're not going to die, it's all good.
0:37:41 > 0:37:44People will be really friendly and open,
0:37:44 > 0:37:46and if they don't want to talk, they'll just say sorry
0:37:46 > 0:37:49and carry on and you know, leave you to it. So it's fine.
0:37:49 > 0:37:52- So there's no interaction that's really a bad interaction.- OK.
0:37:52 > 0:37:54As long as you keep it nice, it's all good.
0:37:56 > 0:37:59Buoyed up by Beckster's pep talk, I see a nice looking girl.
0:38:02 > 0:38:04Excuse me, I'm really sorry.
0:38:04 > 0:38:07I've always actually wondered, are Ugg boots any good?
0:38:07 > 0:38:10Are they very comfy? They are?
0:38:10 > 0:38:11'All seems to be going well.'
0:38:11 > 0:38:13What's your name, by the way? INAUDIBLE
0:38:13 > 0:38:17- Could I have your phone number? - No, sorry.- OK.
0:38:17 > 0:38:20That's all right, no problem. Thank you.
0:38:20 > 0:38:22Hi, there. Excuse me.
0:38:22 > 0:38:25I wanted to come say hi cos I thought you looked really nice.
0:38:25 > 0:38:26OK, thank you.
0:38:27 > 0:38:30'The rejections were coming thick and fast.
0:38:30 > 0:38:33'I needed some expert one-to-one coaching from Beckster.'
0:38:33 > 0:38:35You could maybe use the wanted or needed question.
0:38:35 > 0:38:38- OK.- "My friend's just in the Apple Store, so I've only got a moment,
0:38:38 > 0:38:40"but I just wanted to ask you this question -
0:38:40 > 0:38:43"what do you think's better, to be wanted or needed by somebody?"
0:38:43 > 0:38:46Hi, there. Excuse me. I'm really, really sorry. I've only got a minute,
0:38:46 > 0:38:49my friend's just in the Apple Store. Can I ask you girls a quick question?
0:38:49 > 0:38:52Do you think it is better to be wanted or needed?
0:38:53 > 0:38:55All right, thank you very much.
0:38:55 > 0:38:56'I give up.
0:38:56 > 0:39:00'I hope my fellow classmates were having more luck than me.'
0:39:00 > 0:39:03- Hey, Tom, is it going? - I've got one number.
0:39:03 > 0:39:05Cool. So how have you found it today, then?
0:39:05 > 0:39:09It's been quite intense. Like, you know, sort of... It's interesting.
0:39:09 > 0:39:11I'm still learning quite a lot.
0:39:11 > 0:39:13Quite tired. It's full-on.
0:39:13 > 0:39:17'While we were talking, Tom suddenly spots a girl he fancies,
0:39:17 > 0:39:19'and decides to give it one final go.
0:39:21 > 0:39:22'This was going to be amazing.
0:39:22 > 0:39:25'I could feel Cupid drawing his bow.
0:39:25 > 0:39:27'Go on, Tom. Go on!'
0:39:27 > 0:39:28Excuse me.
0:39:29 > 0:39:30'Ah.'
0:39:30 > 0:39:33How did that go? What happened there?
0:39:33 > 0:39:35I give up.
0:39:35 > 0:39:37Fuck this.
0:39:45 > 0:39:48'Unlucky, Tom. But at least you got a number.
0:39:49 > 0:39:52'I wonder if the others had any more success.
0:39:52 > 0:39:54'Is that Vas over there with a potential date?'
0:39:54 > 0:40:00So over there, Vas has actually managed to pull someone,
0:40:00 > 0:40:02and he's sat with them at a restaurant.
0:40:02 > 0:40:04That's peculiar.
0:40:04 > 0:40:06I don't think I'd be able to do that.
0:40:06 > 0:40:08And is that the...
0:40:09 > 0:40:11Well, he's pulled, basically.
0:40:11 > 0:40:13'Beckster's class clearly helped Vas,
0:40:13 > 0:40:16'and I could see how teaching men to talk to women
0:40:16 > 0:40:18'can help us treat girls more respectfully.
0:40:18 > 0:40:20'But I wanted to here if girls think
0:40:20 > 0:40:22'random men approaching them in the street is OK or not.'
0:40:22 > 0:40:25I'm guessing you guys get approached in the street?
0:40:25 > 0:40:29I think when it does happen, it's mainly, like, builders and stuff.
0:40:29 > 0:40:30Yeah, just shouting things.
0:40:30 > 0:40:33Shouting or whistles, and stuff like that,
0:40:33 > 0:40:35and that just really, really angers us.
0:40:35 > 0:40:37Do think it's a bit of a weird thing to do?
0:40:37 > 0:40:40I just think it's nicer when people talk to you, like...
0:40:40 > 0:40:44Yeah, it's the approach. It's definitely the approach. It's like, you can just be genuine.
0:40:44 > 0:40:46Like, "Oh, hi, my name's so-and-so." You know?
0:40:46 > 0:40:49That's a lot... I think girls appreciate that more than
0:40:49 > 0:40:52just a really cheesy, like, "Oh, I think you're fit."
0:40:52 > 0:40:55'I, though, was having doubts about whether Beckster's classes
0:40:55 > 0:40:56'were the kind of help my generation needs.
0:40:56 > 0:40:59'I wondered whether this approach was more likely
0:40:59 > 0:41:01'to encourage sexist behaviour than end it.'
0:41:01 > 0:41:05- Do you think it's in any way sexist, what we were doing?- No, not at all.
0:41:05 > 0:41:08What would you say to people who say it is sexist?
0:41:08 > 0:41:10Well, I mean, obviously there are different people
0:41:10 > 0:41:13teaching different things. We're teaching lifestyle,
0:41:13 > 0:41:15social skills and confidence.
0:41:15 > 0:41:20So I would say that whoever they're talking about are doing it wrong.
0:41:20 > 0:41:23Today I felt a little bit, sometimes,
0:41:23 > 0:41:26like I was kind of harassing women.
0:41:26 > 0:41:28Do you... In some way, do you kind of feel
0:41:28 > 0:41:31a bit of a responsibility
0:41:31 > 0:41:35- because of the fact that you teach this?- I think it's totally fine as long as you do it in the right way,
0:41:35 > 0:41:38you're respectful, you're not rude or crude, not hurting anyone's feelings
0:41:38 > 0:41:40and not breaking the law, it's all good things.
0:41:40 > 0:41:42And they're all things we promote not to do.
0:41:42 > 0:41:46We always want to keep a clean, confident school.
0:41:46 > 0:41:50Meeting Beckster and the guys today, I have seen that there's a lot of it that's pretty harmless,
0:41:50 > 0:41:54actually, and on the positive side, he's just telling these guys about
0:41:54 > 0:41:57a skill that they can learn to improve their life with
0:41:57 > 0:41:59and appear more confident with.
0:41:59 > 0:42:02But if getting that skill comes at the expense
0:42:02 > 0:42:06of harassing a woman on the street, then can that ever be a good thing?
0:42:09 > 0:42:11'Helping men get the skills to safely navigate
0:42:11 > 0:42:14'the minefield of sexism are Nick and Dave,
0:42:14 > 0:42:17'two Australians who set up the Good Lad Workshop
0:42:17 > 0:42:18'to promote positive masculinity
0:42:18 > 0:42:21'and help university sports teams become good lads.
0:42:21 > 0:42:25'I wanted to find out more, and I knew just the boys to take along -
0:42:25 > 0:42:29'my hockey buddies from Cardiff.'
0:42:29 > 0:42:32Basically this is a workshop for men, and for men like us.
0:42:32 > 0:42:36It's about talking about complex gender situations,
0:42:36 > 0:42:39and hopefully by thinking about things, we can actually examine
0:42:39 > 0:42:41and improve the relationships we have with others.
0:42:41 > 0:42:45It's trying to encourage us as guys to, before we do things,
0:42:45 > 0:42:48to think about them, or think about the implications on others.
0:42:48 > 0:42:52So to start, we're just going to get some of the blood flowing
0:42:52 > 0:42:54and do something hopefully very quick and fun.
0:42:54 > 0:42:58So how positive is actively supporting a male friend
0:42:58 > 0:43:00going through a break-up?
0:43:00 > 0:43:04How positive is a guy grabbing an unknown girl's arse in a club?
0:43:04 > 0:43:07'As the session progressed, I was keen to get the guys' thoughts.'
0:43:07 > 0:43:09Going in I was a little bit...
0:43:09 > 0:43:12tedious, like, you said it was a lads' workshop.
0:43:12 > 0:43:15But when you actually saw the message behind it, it was quite cool.
0:43:15 > 0:43:16It kind of did hit home.
0:43:16 > 0:43:18So the next one we call what to wear.
0:43:18 > 0:43:22You're getting along really well, and after a while, you lean in to kiss her,
0:43:22 > 0:43:25and she leans away, smiles, and at this stage,
0:43:25 > 0:43:26she sort of backs away, and she says,
0:43:26 > 0:43:28"Sorry, I have a boyfriend."
0:43:28 > 0:43:31Saying, "Oh, I've got a boyfriend," it's like a defence mechanism.
0:43:31 > 0:43:34Cos not many lads want the confrontation in the club.
0:43:34 > 0:43:37'I had a feeling the penny was beginning to drop.'
0:43:37 > 0:43:39Just being constantly aware that other people
0:43:39 > 0:43:42are affected by your actions, and by saying certain things
0:43:42 > 0:43:46in a certain way, you can have a really negative impact.
0:43:46 > 0:43:50All the women we have spoken to around the country say
0:43:50 > 0:43:53there is nothing sexier than a guy
0:43:53 > 0:43:56who is confident enough to ask for consent.
0:43:56 > 0:44:00You don't have to say, "Excuse me, can I have sex with you now?"
0:44:00 > 0:44:03You can say, like, "Can I touch you there? Do you like that?
0:44:03 > 0:44:04"What would you like me to do?"
0:44:04 > 0:44:06Like, from today, you think, actually,
0:44:06 > 0:44:09my actions in the past could actually get me in trouble,
0:44:09 > 0:44:11sort of thing. So you've got to lower that line.
0:44:11 > 0:44:14Like, I don't really want the consequence that could happen
0:44:14 > 0:44:17from doing the actions I have been doing. I've got to take that step back
0:44:17 > 0:44:20and really think logically about where I want to go in the future.
0:44:20 > 0:44:23Think, oh, just for one night out I could ruin my life.
0:44:30 > 0:44:32I could tell the guys were pretty sceptical this morning
0:44:32 > 0:44:34about the Good Lad Workshop.
0:44:34 > 0:44:36They were really defensive at the start.
0:44:36 > 0:44:39You know, I could tell that they didn't think
0:44:39 > 0:44:42they were the type of guy that was being described.
0:44:42 > 0:44:46And to be honest, to be able to come out and admit that,
0:44:46 > 0:44:49and you know, to take that on the nose,
0:44:49 > 0:44:52and really, truthfully actually want to change,
0:44:52 > 0:44:55cos I think they do - you know, that's a big thing.
0:44:55 > 0:44:58And I've got a lot of respect for that.
0:45:02 > 0:45:06'So far on my journey, I've heard only that it's men who are sexist.
0:45:06 > 0:45:08'I've come to Nottingham today to hear from someone
0:45:08 > 0:45:10'who thinks quite the opposite.
0:45:10 > 0:45:15'Mike Buchanan believes it's a woman's world, run by feminists who hate men.
0:45:15 > 0:45:18'He argues it's men, and not women, who've been getting a rough ride,
0:45:18 > 0:45:21'and he's on the campaign trail for his political party,
0:45:21 > 0:45:24'called Justice For Men And Boys.'
0:45:24 > 0:45:26I thought I'd better have a little bit of a look
0:45:26 > 0:45:27at Mike's book before I met him.
0:45:27 > 0:45:32So that's what I've done, and this is the cover of his book.
0:45:32 > 0:45:35And I just want to read you a bit from chapter 5.
0:45:36 > 0:45:39"My theory is that many feminists are profoundly stupid
0:45:39 > 0:45:42"as well as hateful, a theory that could be readily tested
0:45:42 > 0:45:45"by arresting a number of them and forcing them, with the threat
0:45:45 > 0:45:49"of denying them access to chocolate, to undertake IQ tests."
0:45:49 > 0:45:51Doesn't sit on the fence, this Mike, does he?
0:45:53 > 0:45:57- Is this Justice For Men And Boys? - It is, Tyger. Nice to meet you.
0:45:57 > 0:46:00- Mike Buchanan.- Nice to meet you. I'm Tyger.
0:46:00 > 0:46:02- Josh.- Hi, Josh. How you doing? - I'm good.
0:46:02 > 0:46:05- Ray.- Hi, Ray. How you doing?- Nice to see you.- Nice to see you too.
0:46:05 > 0:46:07So what's going on here, then?
0:46:07 > 0:46:10Well, this is a political party, Justice For Men And Boys.
0:46:10 > 0:46:12We're here at Nottingham University,
0:46:12 > 0:46:14handing out leaflets and engaging with students
0:46:14 > 0:46:18on the subject of men's human rights and the abuses of them.
0:46:21 > 0:46:24Can I give you a leaflet? Thank you very much.
0:46:24 > 0:46:28I mean, feminism is a female supremacy movement
0:46:28 > 0:46:30driven by misandry, the hatred of men.
0:46:30 > 0:46:32It's a vile ideology.
0:46:32 > 0:46:35Gentlemen, good morning. I wonder if I could give you a leaflet.
0:46:35 > 0:46:37It's naturally assumed that women are better
0:46:37 > 0:46:39and more willing to be parents.
0:46:39 > 0:46:42Josh is 18, only a year younger than me.
0:46:42 > 0:46:46I wanted to know why he had committed to the Justice For Men cause.
0:46:48 > 0:46:50Do you think young men are in crisis at the moment?
0:46:50 > 0:46:53Definitely. Now that we're acknowledging as a society
0:46:53 > 0:46:56that women are just as good as men, just as equal as men,
0:46:56 > 0:46:58men don't have a place in the world that they once did.
0:46:58 > 0:47:01You know, a man who goes out to work used to be respected,
0:47:01 > 0:47:03cos he was looking after the household,
0:47:03 > 0:47:05but now we view that as unnecessary.
0:47:05 > 0:47:08Yeah, he's going out and working, but he should do that.
0:47:08 > 0:47:11But he doesn't need to do that, because the woman could go out and work anyway.
0:47:11 > 0:47:14And so men don't fit neatly into the little boxes they did.
0:47:14 > 0:47:17And with the... You know, we don't have as much manual labour jobs any more.
0:47:17 > 0:47:21We don't have as many calls to go to big wars like the Second World War.
0:47:21 > 0:47:23And all these things that men are uniquely biologically
0:47:23 > 0:47:25and psychologically suited for,
0:47:25 > 0:47:28that we once slotted nicely into - it's gone.
0:47:28 > 0:47:30So young men are lost,
0:47:30 > 0:47:34and don't have the same guidance they once had from society.
0:47:34 > 0:47:36I mean, what is it you want? You want equality between genders?
0:47:36 > 0:47:40I want full equality as far as is obviously reasonable.
0:47:40 > 0:47:42Everyone I've met on this journey,
0:47:42 > 0:47:45- the only thing that everyone wants...- Is equality.- ..is equality.
0:47:45 > 0:47:48So surely - are you not fighting the wrong battle?
0:47:48 > 0:47:52Maybe if you joined forces, you could all be much more powerful?
0:47:52 > 0:47:55I would join forces in a heartbeat if I thought it was possible.
0:47:55 > 0:47:59'But today isn't a day that Justice For Men and feminists will join forces,
0:47:59 > 0:48:02'and it's not long before a group of angry students start arguing with
0:48:02 > 0:48:06'Mike and Josh and making it quite clear that they're not welcome here.'
0:48:06 > 0:48:07- Sorry?- Do you think this is acceptable?
0:48:07 > 0:48:12- What, men's rights?- Yeah.- Yes, men's rights are...- Do you not think that the whole of society,
0:48:12 > 0:48:15- the whole of the world, is organised toward men's rights?- No, I don't.
0:48:15 > 0:48:17And male privilege? In what sense can you possibly justify that?
0:48:17 > 0:48:20- Well, I think you need to read our manifesto.- I've read it.
0:48:20 > 0:48:22Well, we have 20 areas where men's...
0:48:22 > 0:48:25- The human rights of men and boys are assaulted. There isn't one... - Assaulted?!- Yes.
0:48:25 > 0:48:29Basically I object to the reinforcement
0:48:29 > 0:48:31that only men can help men, I suppose.
0:48:31 > 0:48:33It seems...
0:48:33 > 0:48:35It's Justice For Men And Boys And The Women Who Love Them.
0:48:35 > 0:48:38We're not opposed to having female supporters.
0:48:38 > 0:48:41- Women-hating fascists.- We're not. - Fuck off.- We're nothing of the sort.
0:48:41 > 0:48:43- You should fuck off away from our uni.- We're not going to.
0:48:43 > 0:48:46What do you think you've got to do in any place,
0:48:46 > 0:48:49bashing on women further than what they have over the centuries?
0:48:49 > 0:48:52- Why is the male suicide rate... - You have no place!- Why is the male suicide rate...
0:48:52 > 0:48:56OK, so basically, it's all just gone a bit pear-shaped.
0:48:56 > 0:48:59People over there, they're objecting
0:48:59 > 0:49:02to Justice For Men's message.
0:49:02 > 0:49:04They don't want to be filmed.
0:49:04 > 0:49:06Believe it or not, it's actually calmed down a bit.
0:49:06 > 0:49:08There was a lot more people there a minute ago,
0:49:08 > 0:49:10and it was a bit uncomfortable, to be honest.
0:49:10 > 0:49:14So that's why I've kind of brought myself over here to the side.
0:49:14 > 0:49:17Moments later, one protester feels so strongly
0:49:17 > 0:49:21about Mike's anti-women views, they threw cat litter all over his van.
0:49:21 > 0:49:25Luckily, Ray is on hand to check the consistency.
0:49:25 > 0:49:29Mike and his group genuinely feel very hard done by women,
0:49:29 > 0:49:32but all the women that I've met have shocked me with stories
0:49:32 > 0:49:35of spiked drinks and groping and revenge porn,
0:49:35 > 0:49:39which just makes Mike's extreme views seem really warped.
0:49:39 > 0:49:42Now, Mike is unashamedly anti-feminist,
0:49:42 > 0:49:45and although I don't really want to say I share a view with him,
0:49:45 > 0:49:49I kind of have always been a bit wary of feminists myself.
0:49:49 > 0:49:54And it seems I'm not alone in finding feminists can divide opinion.
0:49:54 > 0:49:56- Lesbians. - HE LAUGHS
0:49:56 > 0:50:00No, I mean, they do seem to be more, like, stern
0:50:00 > 0:50:02and dress suited and booted.
0:50:02 > 0:50:04She don't care what other people think of her.
0:50:04 > 0:50:07It's a very powerful women, a feminist.
0:50:07 > 0:50:08They've got a big ego.
0:50:10 > 0:50:13Someone that walks around full of themselves.
0:50:13 > 0:50:15Someone that love themselves a lot.
0:50:15 > 0:50:18I'd say just someone who pretty much takes charge,
0:50:18 > 0:50:22someone who gives their views and is not afraid to hold back.
0:50:28 > 0:50:30Now, feminism is one of those things
0:50:30 > 0:50:35that I've never really completely got, because I mean,
0:50:35 > 0:50:39in my mind, women and men are equal already, you know?
0:50:39 > 0:50:43And from my personal experience, the feminists that I've met
0:50:43 > 0:50:45in the past are just a bit sensitive, you know?
0:50:45 > 0:50:48You can't really say anything to them without them
0:50:48 > 0:50:49just kind of hating on men.
0:50:51 > 0:50:54'So I've come to Manchester to face my own prejudice
0:50:54 > 0:50:56'and hear what some young feminists have to say,
0:50:56 > 0:51:00'and take part myself in a march organised by students.'
0:51:00 > 0:51:03Hiya. Is there anyone called Jess here?
0:51:03 > 0:51:04- Yeah, hi.- Hi!- Tyger, is it?
0:51:04 > 0:51:08- Yes, it is.- Hi, I'm Jess, the women's officer. Nice to meet you.- Cool.
0:51:08 > 0:51:10- Are you here to help out with some banner making?- Yeah.
0:51:10 > 0:51:12Yeah, sure. What would you like me to do?
0:51:19 > 0:51:20I mean, what is all this?
0:51:20 > 0:51:25- So right now, we're painting one of the banners that's going to be used in the march later tonight.- OK.
0:51:25 > 0:51:27- Do you know anything about the march?- No.
0:51:27 > 0:51:29OK, so the march is called Reclaim The Night,
0:51:29 > 0:51:34and the idea behind it is that girls shouldn't have to feel worried
0:51:34 > 0:51:36about what they're wearing or if they've been drinking
0:51:36 > 0:51:39or who they're with or what time it is when they're out at night.
0:51:39 > 0:51:42They shouldn't have to be scared about being raped or attacked.
0:51:42 > 0:51:44So this march is about reclaiming the night,
0:51:44 > 0:51:47and women really sort of owning the streets
0:51:47 > 0:51:51and challenging the idea that being raped or assaulted
0:51:51 > 0:51:54is their fault, and that it's down to any of these things,
0:51:54 > 0:51:55like flirting or alcohol or skirts.
0:51:55 > 0:51:58So that's basically what the march tonight is about.
0:51:58 > 0:52:03I'm obviously a guy, and not often do I go on feminist marches,
0:52:03 > 0:52:07so do you think anyone is going to think I am a bit of a fake?
0:52:07 > 0:52:10No. I think... To be honest, there is a mixed bloc,
0:52:10 > 0:52:12so you're not going to be the only guy there.
0:52:12 > 0:52:15And the last thing we want is to have that kind of segregation
0:52:15 > 0:52:17between men and women, and everything.
0:52:17 > 0:52:19So it's much better to have a more group majority
0:52:19 > 0:52:23and get everybody involved to sort of all stand as one,
0:52:23 > 0:52:26instead of having, like, girls against guys.
0:52:32 > 0:52:34'Some of the girls I met at the banner making
0:52:34 > 0:52:37'have invited me over for a pre-march party.'
0:52:43 > 0:52:47Right, so apparently, part of this Reclaim The Night march,
0:52:47 > 0:52:51a big part of it, is that everyone, like, neon paints up.
0:52:51 > 0:52:54So I'd better get stuck in, I guess.
0:53:00 > 0:53:02LAUGHTER
0:53:07 > 0:53:10The girls have told me that the reason they do this
0:53:10 > 0:53:13is so that they make themselves as visible as possible.
0:53:13 > 0:53:18I think I'm probably visible enough.
0:53:23 > 0:53:26LAUGHTER Oh, my God, look at your faces!
0:53:26 > 0:53:28'OK, so I might have overdone the zinc.'
0:53:28 > 0:53:32- Going for a bit of a decorative look, but...- I thought we were lighting up the streets!
0:53:32 > 0:53:34You definitely are lighting up the streets!
0:53:34 > 0:53:35LAUGHTER
0:53:35 > 0:53:37It looks good. It's feminism!
0:53:37 > 0:53:39LAUGHTER
0:53:39 > 0:53:41Nice one.
0:53:41 > 0:53:43- CHANTING:- What do we want? - Safe streets!
0:53:43 > 0:53:47'2,000 men and women are marching to make the streets a safer place
0:53:47 > 0:53:49'by reclaiming the night.'
0:53:49 > 0:53:51- Safe streets!- When do want it?- Now!
0:53:51 > 0:53:53- What do we want?- Safe streets!
0:53:53 > 0:53:55This is a lot of fun, actually.
0:53:55 > 0:53:59Not that I didn't think it would be, but yeah,
0:53:59 > 0:54:02everyone's having a really good time. We're born equal,
0:54:02 > 0:54:04and I need to get chanting!
0:54:04 > 0:54:06Our streets!
0:54:06 > 0:54:10- Our streets!- Whose streets? - Our streets!
0:54:11 > 0:54:15'Most women do feel afraid outside after dark.
0:54:15 > 0:54:17'A recent survey found that 95% of women
0:54:17 > 0:54:21'don't feel safe on the streets, and with good reason.
0:54:21 > 0:54:23'Last year in the Greater Manchester area,
0:54:23 > 0:54:27'there were 6,372 reported violent attacks on women and girls.'
0:54:30 > 0:54:33Like, my initial view on feminism,
0:54:33 > 0:54:35because I'd never really looked into it,
0:54:35 > 0:54:37was that it was just kind of man-bashing.
0:54:37 > 0:54:40But actually, after talking to you guys, it's really...
0:54:40 > 0:54:42That's not it at all.
0:54:48 > 0:54:51- Yeah. And it's been broken in me, I have to say.- That's good.
0:55:00 > 0:55:01No, yeah.
0:55:07 > 0:55:11'Emma Watson was right in the speech I saw the start of this film.
0:55:11 > 0:55:14'I've learned that sexism is a male issue too.
0:55:14 > 0:55:17'Apathy and sitting on the fence are no longer an option.
0:55:17 > 0:55:19'A tipping point has been reached,
0:55:19 > 0:55:22'and it's time for guys to show their support.'
0:55:22 > 0:55:24I have to say, when I first started this journey,
0:55:24 > 0:55:29I didn't really think that sexism was much of a problem for my generation.
0:55:29 > 0:55:31But then, I suppose, pretty quickly,
0:55:31 > 0:55:33when I met the girls in Cardiff,
0:55:33 > 0:55:36my opinion did start to change,
0:55:36 > 0:55:40and then since then, I really have learned that, actually, sexism -
0:55:40 > 0:55:44it is a really big part of so many girls' everyday lives.
0:55:48 > 0:55:51'And sexist behaviour doesn't just manifest itself
0:55:51 > 0:55:53'in fear and intimidation for the women.
0:55:54 > 0:55:58'It also makes us men look really, really bad.'
0:55:58 > 0:56:02I think the thing is, men just don't think enough
0:56:02 > 0:56:05about their behaviour and their actions,
0:56:05 > 0:56:10and actually how that really can potentially devastate a woman.
0:56:10 > 0:56:12And we can all think about our actions
0:56:12 > 0:56:15and all think about the language we use,
0:56:15 > 0:56:18and I've learnt that we need to stand up and be that guy
0:56:18 > 0:56:20who says to his mates, you know,
0:56:20 > 0:56:23"That's not actually all right to say to a woman."
0:56:23 > 0:56:26And I've learnt that we can all do things better.
0:56:26 > 0:56:29CHANTING
0:56:31 > 0:56:34Honestly, I would never have thought of myself as someone
0:56:34 > 0:56:38who would come to a feminist march, but now look at me.
0:56:38 > 0:56:40Anyway, I think I've got to go back.
0:56:40 > 0:56:43CHEERING Yes!