0:00:02 > 0:00:03I was 15 when I got pregnant
0:00:03 > 0:00:07and I didn't really know how to feel about it.
0:00:07 > 0:00:08Apart from cry.
0:00:08 > 0:00:10Mum, can you feed her?
0:00:10 > 0:00:12I don't want to bring up another child.
0:00:12 > 0:00:16Sometimes I feel like I've stolen her from the hospital.
0:00:16 > 0:00:19- You can't be arsed with your baby. - I'm a teenager, what do you expect?
0:00:19 > 0:00:21Don't shake your head at me.
0:00:21 > 0:00:24Tonie is sticking her head in the sand at the moment,
0:00:24 > 0:00:27- thinking it's going to go away. - Mu-um!
0:00:27 > 0:00:29BABY CRIES
0:00:29 > 0:00:30Shh.
0:00:44 > 0:00:4716-year-old single mum Tonie lives in a two bed flat in Farnborough,
0:00:47 > 0:00:51with mum Rachel, step dad Paul and one-week-old baby Lola.
0:00:51 > 0:00:53It's a bit weird, having a kid.
0:00:53 > 0:00:56Only being a kid yourself.
0:00:56 > 0:01:00I was drunk, I had sex.
0:01:00 > 0:01:03I didn't even plan to get pregnant.
0:01:03 > 0:01:06I was disappointed when I found out she was pregnant,
0:01:06 > 0:01:09because she said she was using contraceptives
0:01:09 > 0:01:13and it was just a slip-up. Whether I believe that, I don't know.
0:01:13 > 0:01:15I don't regret anything that happened.
0:01:15 > 0:01:18If I did, I wouldn't have the most beautiful daughter ever.
0:01:18 > 0:01:21It's weird how something so perfect
0:01:21 > 0:01:24could come out of someone like me.
0:01:24 > 0:01:27Before I got pregnant, I was in a lot of trouble with the police.
0:01:27 > 0:01:31Always getting drunk, causing mayhem everywhere.
0:01:31 > 0:01:34I was on a tag for a month,
0:01:34 > 0:01:37but I'm still on a supervision order.
0:01:37 > 0:01:40Antonia was a misfit child.
0:01:40 > 0:01:43Growing up, as a teenager, she was always out
0:01:43 > 0:01:45till all hours, didn't do as she was told,
0:01:45 > 0:01:47rebelled against everything, got into trouble
0:01:47 > 0:01:50when there was trouble to be got into.
0:01:50 > 0:01:54Well, if I didn't buck up my ideas, I would have been going juvie.
0:01:54 > 0:01:56But now I've had Lola,
0:01:56 > 0:01:58she's made me think about going to college
0:01:58 > 0:02:01and university and getting a job.
0:02:01 > 0:02:02Oh, Lola!
0:02:02 > 0:02:04Urgh!
0:02:04 > 0:02:05SHE RETCHES
0:02:05 > 0:02:07Although Tonie's trying to turn her life around,
0:02:07 > 0:02:10she still needs a lot of support.
0:02:10 > 0:02:14Oh, Mum. I can't get that over her head.
0:02:14 > 0:02:17- Look, if you hold it front ways... - I did hold it like that.
0:02:17 > 0:02:19..and you put it under the chin, over the head.
0:02:19 > 0:02:23I need my mum, only cos she's been there and done it.
0:02:23 > 0:02:25Obviously, I'm still only a kid myself.
0:02:25 > 0:02:29She's her mum, she should have a natural instinct.
0:02:29 > 0:02:32But she's just scared she's not going to do it right.
0:02:32 > 0:02:36It makes me want to cry when she's crying and I don't know what's wrong.
0:02:36 > 0:02:38Oh, it's heartbreaking.
0:02:38 > 0:02:42I don't what to do. You can't talk to her and she can't talk back.
0:02:42 > 0:02:45Well, I'm kinda hoping Tonie sorts her life out.
0:02:45 > 0:02:50I'm glad she's become a mother and it's changed her for the better.
0:02:50 > 0:02:53I was worried that it wouldn't
0:02:53 > 0:02:56and I'd be left holding the baby.
0:02:56 > 0:03:01I've had my kids, I don't want to be bringing up another child.
0:03:01 > 0:03:04It's still a bit weird, waking up, knowing you've got a baby.
0:03:04 > 0:03:08You've got to look after the baby as well as yourself.
0:03:08 > 0:03:09It is a bit hard.
0:03:14 > 0:03:18While Tonie gets used to being a mum,
0:03:18 > 0:03:20in Newcastle, 16-year-old Bobbi is expecting a boy.
0:03:20 > 0:03:22She's calling him Harry.
0:03:24 > 0:03:27Eh, my life, I look bloody huge!
0:03:27 > 0:03:31I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant.
0:03:31 > 0:03:32Now I'm about to have a baby.
0:03:32 > 0:03:37When I found out I was having a baby, I cried. It was hard.
0:03:37 > 0:03:38I didn't know what to do.
0:03:38 > 0:03:41Didn't know how me mam and dad were going to react.
0:03:43 > 0:03:44I was scared.
0:03:44 > 0:03:49I never imagined I'd get pregnant at this age.
0:03:49 > 0:03:51I was shocked, a little bit disappointed.
0:03:51 > 0:03:54I think it's difficult when you find out
0:03:54 > 0:03:56your daughter's been
0:03:56 > 0:03:59having sex at 15.
0:03:59 > 0:04:02It's hard, cos it's your little girl.
0:04:02 > 0:04:05I'm upset that Bobbi's pregnant because, to me,
0:04:05 > 0:04:08she's still my little sister and I'd never imagined
0:04:08 > 0:04:10her having a baby.
0:04:10 > 0:04:13I thought she would have learnt from what I've done.
0:04:13 > 0:04:17Bobbi's sister also got pregnant at 15.
0:04:17 > 0:04:19This is the second one.
0:04:19 > 0:04:21I mean, Ellie is nearly three
0:04:21 > 0:04:24and now I'm going to be a nanna again
0:04:24 > 0:04:26and I'm only 39. That's...
0:04:27 > 0:04:30That's something. I could be in the Guinness Book of Records.
0:04:30 > 0:04:34Like Naomi, Bobbi is no longer with the father of her baby.
0:04:34 > 0:04:38I do think she's too young, but then I did it,
0:04:38 > 0:04:40so I can't really say anything.
0:04:40 > 0:04:41It's so hard.
0:04:41 > 0:04:45Bobbi's watched Naomi struggle.
0:04:45 > 0:04:47It was hard for Naomi.
0:04:47 > 0:04:50I mean, a young mum. Bobbi watched that.
0:04:50 > 0:04:52I thought she'd be more careful.
0:04:53 > 0:04:58In Newcastle, 5% of girls are pregnant before they are 18.
0:04:58 > 0:05:00SHE GASPS
0:05:00 > 0:05:04I've got a stretch mark! On me belly.
0:05:04 > 0:05:06I don't want a stretch mark.
0:05:06 > 0:05:10Are they really stretch marks? Ah, they are as well!
0:05:10 > 0:05:12Now I can't believe I'm having a baby.
0:05:12 > 0:05:14But it's going to here in...
0:05:16 > 0:05:18..God knows how many days.
0:05:19 > 0:05:21It could come now.
0:05:25 > 0:05:28Throughout her pregnancy, Bobbi has been saving money
0:05:28 > 0:05:30to buy a £1,000 pram.
0:05:30 > 0:05:34Her sister Naomi and her daughter have popped over to take a look.
0:05:36 > 0:05:38You're too big.
0:05:40 > 0:05:42- No, Nanna's seen it.- No. - Nanna's seen it, man.
0:05:44 > 0:05:47Don't have to put it in there, just put it like that.
0:05:47 > 0:05:50She always loses patience with Ellie,
0:05:50 > 0:05:53cos Ellie just doesn't understand when she says no.
0:05:53 > 0:05:56Ellie just carries on doing it.
0:05:56 > 0:05:58You're going to bloody break it!
0:05:58 > 0:06:01I've only had it half an hour.
0:06:01 > 0:06:03Don't open it!
0:06:03 > 0:06:07I think Bobbi will be different with Harry, cos it's her son
0:06:07 > 0:06:10and she'll understand to have a bit more patience.
0:06:12 > 0:06:13Ellie, you're so annoying!
0:06:15 > 0:06:16Ellie, man!
0:06:18 > 0:06:19With only one week to go,
0:06:19 > 0:06:22Bobbi has to come to terms with the inevitable.
0:06:22 > 0:06:25It's getting close now like, Bobbi.
0:06:25 > 0:06:29- Yeah.- What's happened to your belly button?
0:06:30 > 0:06:34I feel excited about being a mam.
0:06:34 > 0:06:39But on the other hand, I'm really scared.
0:06:39 > 0:06:42Looks like he's dropped a bit, don't it?
0:06:43 > 0:06:44Turn to the side.
0:06:46 > 0:06:51I don't think I'm ready to be a mam,
0:06:51 > 0:06:54but I think I'm just going to have to learn to be a mum.
0:06:57 > 0:07:01Whilst Bobbi is waiting for the big day, in Farnborough, baby Lola
0:07:01 > 0:07:04is now four weeks old and Tonie is finding it hard to adjust.
0:07:06 > 0:07:09- We'll have a nice clean fresh one. - You can burp her.
0:07:09 > 0:07:12- Why?- I don't want sick on me, I just washed my hair.
0:07:12 > 0:07:13MUM TUTS
0:07:13 > 0:07:14You lazy sod!
0:07:14 > 0:07:17Tonie won't be able to rely on her mum forever.
0:07:17 > 0:07:19With space in the two bedroom flat limited,
0:07:19 > 0:07:24Rachel wants Tonie and Lola to move in to a mother and baby unit.
0:07:24 > 0:07:28There's not enough room in the flat for Lola to grow up here.
0:07:28 > 0:07:31I don't want to, cos I'd feel a bit lost without my mum
0:07:31 > 0:07:32if I move out.
0:07:32 > 0:07:34She's a bit anti it, I think she's a bit scared
0:07:34 > 0:07:37about moving out and being by herself.
0:07:37 > 0:07:41Tonie's not confident enough to be by herself with Lola yet.
0:07:41 > 0:07:43She still needs help.
0:07:43 > 0:07:45I won't make her move out till she's left school
0:07:45 > 0:07:47and Lola will be six months then,
0:07:47 > 0:07:51so she should be a dab hand at being a mum by that point.
0:07:51 > 0:07:54Think about your options and what's best for Lola.
0:07:54 > 0:07:57Yeah, but what options are you giving me? Live here or on the streets?
0:07:57 > 0:08:00- As a mother...- You're kicking me out.- I'm not.
0:08:00 > 0:08:03You are. Well, I'm not moving out, I'm not choosing to leave.
0:08:03 > 0:08:06- Choosing to leave is moving out. - You can't live here.
0:08:06 > 0:08:07Lola needs her own room.
0:08:07 > 0:08:10No, because I'm not going in to a mother and baby unit
0:08:10 > 0:08:12and my friends won't come round.
0:08:12 > 0:08:15She needs to be able to look after herself, really.
0:08:15 > 0:08:19I am always going to be here for her.
0:08:19 > 0:08:23But I can't be there 24/7 for her.
0:08:23 > 0:08:27No, I don't want to move out.
0:08:27 > 0:08:29Cos then, I'll be on my own with a baby
0:08:29 > 0:08:33and I'm quite happy living at home.
0:08:37 > 0:08:41After her pregnancy, Tonie has been enjoying getting out again.
0:08:41 > 0:08:45Today, she is visiting her best friend, Amber.
0:08:49 > 0:08:53I don't want to get sick on me.
0:08:53 > 0:08:54Hey, hey!
0:08:56 > 0:08:58Oh, probably too cold for her.
0:08:58 > 0:09:00BABY SCREAMS
0:09:00 > 0:09:01Ah!
0:09:01 > 0:09:02Oh!
0:09:04 > 0:09:07I thought Tonie would end up pregnant at a young age.
0:09:07 > 0:09:08But I thought I would as well.
0:09:08 > 0:09:11I wouldn't want a kid at this age, though.
0:09:11 > 0:09:13It was a bit weird, seeing her with a baby bump
0:09:13 > 0:09:16instead of a bottle of alcohol and a fag.
0:09:16 > 0:09:20I think if Tonie had the choice, she wouldn't have had a baby so young.
0:09:20 > 0:09:25She said that if she could go back, she wouldn't have a kid.
0:09:25 > 0:09:28But she wouldn't change Lola for the world,
0:09:28 > 0:09:30she wouldn't give her up for the world.
0:09:30 > 0:09:33- What are you doing tonight, anyway? - I know I'm drinking.
0:09:33 > 0:09:36- I'm tagging along. I've got no plans.- Yeah, if you want.
0:09:36 > 0:09:41- She might want burping, you know. - Er, that's Mummy's job!
0:09:41 > 0:09:43- She won't be sick on ya. - Ah, no! That's Mummy's job!
0:09:43 > 0:09:47She won't be as long as you've got the muzzy. Sit her up like that.
0:09:47 > 0:09:50- No, I might hurt her. - Shut up, they're not made of glass!
0:09:58 > 0:10:01It's the next day and Rachel is worried that Tonie's past
0:10:01 > 0:10:03is rearing its ugly head.
0:10:06 > 0:10:09Tonie came home late last night.
0:10:09 > 0:10:10I feel dead!
0:10:10 > 0:10:14Stop burning the candle at both ends, start being a mother and staying in.
0:10:17 > 0:10:19Yeah, it's quite frustrating, you know,
0:10:19 > 0:10:23cos I was really motherly when I had my babies
0:10:23 > 0:10:28and she's just not that interested, which is quite heart-breaking.
0:10:28 > 0:10:30Mum, can you feed her?
0:10:35 > 0:10:37For God's sake!
0:10:45 > 0:10:49As well as Rachel being concerned about Tonie's parenting,
0:10:49 > 0:10:53her school attendance has dropped, too, adding fuel to the fire.
0:10:53 > 0:10:54Is there any bottles made?
0:10:57 > 0:10:58No.
0:10:58 > 0:11:01- Well, she's hungry, isn't she? - Oh? Well, go make her a bottle then.
0:11:01 > 0:11:03I'm eating!
0:11:03 > 0:11:06Tonie's just interested in being with her mates
0:11:06 > 0:11:10or being on her phone and doesn't seem to pay much attention to Lola.
0:11:10 > 0:11:13I've spoken to Tonie about it. She says there's nothing wrong.
0:11:13 > 0:11:17Probably going out is keeping me a lot happier and everything.
0:11:17 > 0:11:22Knowing that I can still go out, even if I've got a kid.
0:11:22 > 0:11:24I'm trying to talk her into going down the doctors
0:11:24 > 0:11:26and getting some help or something.
0:11:26 > 0:11:31I don't know if she's got the baby blues or she just can't be arsed.
0:11:31 > 0:11:35My mum thinks I've got post natal depression or whatever it's called
0:11:35 > 0:11:38but I don't even know what it is, so I don't think I've got it.
0:11:41 > 0:11:44Whilst Tonie is struggling to stay on top of motherhood,
0:11:44 > 0:11:48in Newcastle, Bobbi is about to come face to face with it.
0:11:51 > 0:11:54Two days overdue, she's gone in to labour.
0:11:54 > 0:11:57Bobbi, five minutes apart. How are you feeling?
0:11:57 > 0:11:59Rough.
0:11:59 > 0:12:01Rough?
0:12:10 > 0:12:11Go on, Bob.
0:12:22 > 0:12:25BABY CRIES
0:12:32 > 0:12:36Back at home, Bobbi is trying to adapt to life
0:12:36 > 0:12:39with ten-day-old Harry.
0:12:39 > 0:12:41I'm really tired.
0:12:41 > 0:12:44Wish I could just like go to sleep for a month.
0:12:44 > 0:12:46I never thought it was going to be easy,
0:12:46 > 0:12:50it's just the night feeds that are the worst thing.
0:12:50 > 0:12:52It takes ages.
0:12:55 > 0:12:59I think she will find it a little bit difficult.
0:12:59 > 0:13:03When I first had Ellie, I felt really down and tired.
0:13:03 > 0:13:07That's probably the same as what Bobbi is feeling.
0:13:10 > 0:13:14He has been awake all morning. He just won't sleep, man.
0:13:15 > 0:13:17Cos he's not in a routine yet.
0:13:18 > 0:13:20Well, he's flat out now.
0:13:22 > 0:13:27- I had to get him asleep in my arms. - Sometimes you have to cuddle 'em in.
0:13:27 > 0:13:29- Nurse them.- What, 24/7?
0:13:30 > 0:13:34- It's not.- It's all night nearly.
0:13:46 > 0:13:48BABY CRIES
0:13:48 > 0:13:51Hey, hey, hey, hey!
0:13:58 > 0:14:00Mam, I can't do it!
0:14:02 > 0:14:05When Bobbi isn't coping, she'll shout at me,
0:14:05 > 0:14:07saying I can't cope, I can't do it.
0:14:07 > 0:14:11It's important for Bobbi to do it herself cos she's got to.
0:14:11 > 0:14:14She's the mum, not me.
0:14:14 > 0:14:16Hey! Ooh!
0:14:16 > 0:14:19BABY CRIES
0:14:19 > 0:14:22She should be, like, coping more
0:14:22 > 0:14:25because it's... her responsibility.
0:14:25 > 0:14:29She shouldn't, like, expect my mum to help.
0:14:29 > 0:14:32It's Bobbi's time to learn to be a mum.
0:14:32 > 0:14:35You've got to get used to it.
0:14:35 > 0:14:37Right, Bobbi?
0:14:38 > 0:14:43That's better, then settle down for the night.
0:14:43 > 0:14:44No!
0:14:46 > 0:14:48She'll get used to it.
0:14:48 > 0:14:52She'll start feeling better in herself in maybe a week.
0:14:52 > 0:14:53Things'll get easier.
0:14:53 > 0:14:56To try and get Bobbi to do things on her own,
0:14:56 > 0:15:01her mum has decided to leave the house for the afternoon.
0:15:01 > 0:15:05- Bobbi, don't nurse him too much. Settle him down straight away. - I know.
0:15:05 > 0:15:06Don't spoil him.
0:15:06 > 0:15:08I'm sure you'll cope.
0:15:08 > 0:15:11- Bye, Bobbi.- Bye.
0:15:11 > 0:15:12BABY CRIES
0:15:20 > 0:15:21Ugh, I got sick on my nails.
0:15:25 > 0:15:28This is the first time I've been left by myself.
0:15:28 > 0:15:30I hope he doesn't start crying.
0:15:33 > 0:15:36I hope he just goes to sleep.
0:15:37 > 0:15:40It's scary because my full responsibility
0:15:40 > 0:15:42is looking after a baby.
0:15:45 > 0:15:48Whilst Bobbi is finding her feet,
0:15:48 > 0:15:52in Farnborough, baby Lola is now six weeks old.
0:15:52 > 0:15:54Tonie's problems have got worse
0:15:54 > 0:15:57and suspecting she may have post-natal depression,
0:15:57 > 0:16:00Rachel wants her to seek help.
0:16:00 > 0:16:03It's not something I want to talk to her about.
0:16:03 > 0:16:05But the doctor might be able to help you.
0:16:05 > 0:16:07Help me with what? I'm fine.
0:16:07 > 0:16:09Fine with attitude.
0:16:11 > 0:16:14I'm a teenager, Mum - what do you expect?
0:16:14 > 0:16:17I expect you to grow up and become a mother. You chose to have a baby.
0:16:17 > 0:16:19Don't shake your head at me.
0:16:19 > 0:16:22If you don't do anything about your baby blues, Tonie,
0:16:22 > 0:16:24then it'll only get worse.
0:16:26 > 0:16:28- And worse.- I haven't got baby blues. - And worse.
0:16:28 > 0:16:32- I haven't got baby blues!- And worse. - I haven't got baby blues!
0:16:32 > 0:16:34You can't be arsed with you baby.
0:16:34 > 0:16:37I can. I just can't be arsed with you going on in my earhole 24/7.
0:16:38 > 0:16:41I think I need a little bit of help.
0:16:41 > 0:16:43Sometimes I feel depressed and sad.
0:16:43 > 0:16:47Sometimes I don't believe it's real and I don't believe she's mine.
0:16:47 > 0:16:51Sometimes I just feel I've stolen her from the hospital or something.
0:16:51 > 0:16:54But no, she's mine.
0:16:54 > 0:16:57I just still feel like I'm a teenage girl who wants to go out.
0:17:03 > 0:17:06Eventually, Rachael gets Tonie to go to the doctor's.
0:17:06 > 0:17:08When Tonie went to the doctor's,
0:17:08 > 0:17:13the doctor said she hadn't got baby blues.
0:17:13 > 0:17:15It wasn't post-natal depression.
0:17:15 > 0:17:19It was a case of, it was the shock of becoming a mother.
0:17:19 > 0:17:23What a crock of poo that was.
0:17:23 > 0:17:25I've heard it all now.
0:17:31 > 0:17:34It's Friday night, and Tonie and best friend Amber
0:17:34 > 0:17:35are getting ready to go out.
0:17:35 > 0:17:38- What's she crying for? - I don't know.
0:17:38 > 0:17:39I'm not psychic.
0:17:39 > 0:17:45- Have she had all her bottles? - Can you go and try feeding her?
0:17:45 > 0:17:48Oh, just have a little bottle.
0:17:48 > 0:17:52I think she's having a bit of trouble bonding a little bit.
0:17:52 > 0:17:56But it's a lot to take in at 16, really.
0:17:56 > 0:17:58I get excited during the week,
0:17:58 > 0:18:01just knowing I'm going out on the weekend.
0:18:01 > 0:18:06I don't actually have to look after a baby for the night.
0:18:06 > 0:18:10It's like she's still trying to live her life like she used to
0:18:10 > 0:18:12and she's sort of realising day by day that she can't.
0:18:12 > 0:18:14What are you crying for?
0:18:14 > 0:18:17I fed you, I've burped you. Maybe you need changing.
0:18:17 > 0:18:19Tonie!
0:18:21 > 0:18:23This time, mum Rachel can't babysit,
0:18:23 > 0:18:26so Tonie's asked Amber's family to step in.
0:18:26 > 0:18:30- Hello, Loley!- There's another blanket, just in case
0:18:30 > 0:18:32- she gets cold.- OK.
0:18:32 > 0:18:35Are you coming back to get Lola or is she with us for the night?
0:18:35 > 0:18:37- She's with us for the night. - OK.
0:18:37 > 0:18:40Right, have a good night, girls, and I'll see you tomorrow.
0:18:40 > 0:18:41Bye-bye!
0:18:55 > 0:18:58The next day, and after her night out,
0:18:58 > 0:19:01Tonie hasn't picked up her daughter.
0:19:01 > 0:19:03Is your mummy still in bed?
0:19:03 > 0:19:05She's lazy, isn't she? Yeah! Say, "Mummy".
0:19:08 > 0:19:09Yeah, voicemail.
0:19:09 > 0:19:12Tonie's in bed, Lola's in the living room.
0:19:12 > 0:19:15Tonie can't be bothered to come and get her yet.
0:19:15 > 0:19:17We're going to have her here for another hour.
0:19:17 > 0:19:20I enjoy looking after Lola,
0:19:20 > 0:19:23it's just I feel like Tonie pushes her on to other people
0:19:23 > 0:19:27cos she doesn't know how to cope with it.
0:19:28 > 0:19:30Tonie never picked up Lola.
0:19:30 > 0:19:34Amber's sister had to deliver her back to her mum.
0:19:40 > 0:19:41In order to get Tonie to behave,
0:19:41 > 0:19:47Rachel has imposed a 10pm curfew but Tonie has repeatedly broken it.
0:19:47 > 0:19:50You can't play peek-a-boo unless she can see you.
0:19:50 > 0:19:52She can't see nothing anyway.
0:19:52 > 0:19:56She can. She can see everything.
0:19:56 > 0:20:01Tonie's made me flip my lid finally. I've had enough of her.
0:20:01 > 0:20:03We had a falling out because apparently,
0:20:03 > 0:20:06I'm always palming off my daughter to everyone
0:20:06 > 0:20:10and she give me a 28-day eviction letter and I took it up the council.
0:20:10 > 0:20:14Tonie just seems to want to dump the baby and not be anywhere near her
0:20:14 > 0:20:17and she finally admitted to me that she's not bonded with her.
0:20:17 > 0:20:22But I think it's more a case of she's more interested in going out
0:20:22 > 0:20:24rather than staying in with her.
0:20:24 > 0:20:26Wouldn't you rather have an active baby
0:20:26 > 0:20:28than a quiet boring baby?
0:20:28 > 0:20:30Babies aren't boring.
0:20:30 > 0:20:32They are. They just... I want her to be a toddler
0:20:32 > 0:20:35so I can actually play with her
0:20:35 > 0:20:37instead of her just laying there.
0:20:37 > 0:20:39I still want my freedom.
0:20:39 > 0:20:42Which I'm still getting,
0:20:42 > 0:20:45just not as much as I'd like.
0:20:45 > 0:20:48Cos it is hard going from a 16-year-old normal kid
0:20:48 > 0:20:51to a 16-year-old mum.
0:20:51 > 0:20:55I just want to remember what my life used to be like.
0:20:55 > 0:20:58Tonie would just be the same if she stayed here.
0:20:58 > 0:20:59I just don't think she'd move on from it.
0:20:59 > 0:21:02I think the best thing for her is to go out
0:21:02 > 0:21:06and get her own place and see just how bloody hard it is.
0:21:06 > 0:21:10Rachel had given Tonie the option to stay at home for six months,
0:21:10 > 0:21:13if she followed house rules.
0:21:13 > 0:21:15I'm quite happy I'm moving out, to be fair.
0:21:15 > 0:21:18Cos then I won't get told what I can and can't do in a house.
0:21:18 > 0:21:21Rules, they're just pathetic.
0:21:21 > 0:21:24It is a struggle for me, kicking Tonie and Lola out,
0:21:24 > 0:21:28cos I do want them here with me
0:21:28 > 0:21:33but the only way to solve it is for her to go and I will be gutted.
0:21:38 > 0:21:41While Tonie has to face some hard facts,
0:21:41 > 0:21:42in Newcastle,
0:21:42 > 0:21:45baby Harry is now two months old
0:21:45 > 0:21:47and Bobbi is settling in to parenthood.
0:21:48 > 0:21:51He has his last bottle at eleven o'clock
0:21:51 > 0:21:54and doesn't wake up till six o'clock in the morning.
0:21:54 > 0:21:56It's really good.
0:21:56 > 0:21:58I couldn't imagine Harry not being here.
0:21:58 > 0:22:01It's not scary any more.
0:22:01 > 0:22:04I was scared at the start
0:22:04 > 0:22:06but now I'm fine.
0:22:06 > 0:22:08I didn't think she would be able to do it.
0:22:08 > 0:22:13I think he's, like, changed her for a good reason,
0:22:13 > 0:22:17cos she doesn't want help with other people,
0:22:17 > 0:22:19she wants to just do it herself.
0:22:19 > 0:22:21They've bonded really well.
0:22:21 > 0:22:22Sing it to Haz.
0:22:22 > 0:22:24La... la la...
0:22:27 > 0:22:30# Let the rain wash away. #
0:22:32 > 0:22:36- SHE LAUGHS - Harry doesn't look happy.
0:22:36 > 0:22:42And having Harry has also changed her relationship with her niece.
0:22:42 > 0:22:45It's like the slightest thing that Ellie did annoyed Bobbi
0:22:45 > 0:22:47and Bobbi was just shouting at her,
0:22:47 > 0:22:49and that's how everyone
0:22:49 > 0:22:52had mixed thoughts of what Bobbi would be like with Harry.
0:22:52 > 0:22:56Since she's had Harry, she's just changed.
0:22:56 > 0:22:58Like she's nice to Ellie, she holds her hand
0:22:58 > 0:23:00and carries her when we're out.
0:23:05 > 0:23:08With the difficult early days behind her,
0:23:08 > 0:23:10Bobbi is able to enjoy time with her son.
0:23:10 > 0:23:12Everything's got easier now,
0:23:12 > 0:23:14like the older I get, it's getting easier.
0:23:16 > 0:23:20I don't know what the future will hold but I'm glad I've had Harry.
0:23:22 > 0:23:26He's the best thing that's happened to us.
0:23:38 > 0:23:43In Farnborough, it's 24 hours before Tonie has to move out.
0:23:43 > 0:23:45She's still breaking house rules and spending
0:23:45 > 0:23:47even less time at home with her daughter.
0:23:47 > 0:23:51Mum Rachel wants to find a solution.
0:23:51 > 0:23:53What you going to do?
0:23:53 > 0:23:54I don't know.
0:23:54 > 0:23:57One minute you want me to have Lola, next minute you want her.
0:23:57 > 0:24:00You need to make up your mind on what you're doing.
0:24:00 > 0:24:03You're just more interested in going out, aren't you?
0:24:03 > 0:24:04Yes.
0:24:04 > 0:24:06'A lot's been going with Tonie.'
0:24:06 > 0:24:11She decided she didn't want Lola and I was going to have Lola.
0:24:11 > 0:24:14And then she's decided actually she doesn't want to lose Lola
0:24:14 > 0:24:20so we've just got to find her somewhere to live.
0:24:20 > 0:24:24Tonie is very much sticking her head in the sand at the moment,
0:24:24 > 0:24:27thinking it's all going to go away.
0:24:27 > 0:24:30Her easiest option is to sort her life out and stay at home
0:24:30 > 0:24:32but she's just not willing to do that.
0:24:32 > 0:24:36We need to sort something out pretty Goddamn quick.
0:24:36 > 0:24:38I don't want you to be her mum.
0:24:38 > 0:24:41You need to make a bit more of an effort at being a mother,
0:24:41 > 0:24:42then, don't you, really?
0:24:42 > 0:24:47Stop wanting to go out and be home at a sensible time.
0:24:47 > 0:24:51Get your baby bathed and fed and get her bottles done
0:24:51 > 0:24:55and do your washing and keep your bedroom tidy, go to school,
0:24:55 > 0:24:58get an education and do things the right way, then, don't you?
0:24:58 > 0:25:03She's not grown-up enough to look after someone else at the moment.
0:25:03 > 0:25:08It's all just dawned on her that being a mother isn't that easy.
0:25:13 > 0:25:16It's the day of the move, and Rachel is waiting to hear
0:25:16 > 0:25:19where Tonie and Lola will be housed.
0:25:19 > 0:25:22Well, I don't want my life disrupted by it, no, sorry.
0:25:24 > 0:25:27It's not fair on me.
0:25:27 > 0:25:28The social worker just rang me
0:25:28 > 0:25:32and they're not happy to put Tonie in a bed and breakfast with Lola
0:25:32 > 0:25:34so they want Lola to stay here with me
0:25:34 > 0:25:36and Tonie go into a bed and breakfast
0:25:36 > 0:25:39until they find her a supported housing unit.
0:25:39 > 0:25:42Tonie is moving into a foster placement,
0:25:42 > 0:25:45without Lola.
0:25:45 > 0:25:48- Have you got your front door key? - I think so, why?
0:25:48 > 0:25:50- Cos I want it back. - No.
0:25:50 > 0:25:52- Er, yeah.- No.
0:25:52 > 0:25:53- Yes.- No.
0:25:55 > 0:25:56SHE SIGHS
0:26:00 > 0:26:03I'm trying to make this work, Tonie.
0:26:03 > 0:26:04And be sensible. Eh?
0:26:04 > 0:26:06I don't want them to be old and if they're nasty,
0:26:06 > 0:26:08I'm going to kick em in the head.
0:26:08 > 0:26:10Don't bugger it up, Tonie,
0:26:10 > 0:26:12or you'll bugger it up for yourself and Lola
0:26:12 > 0:26:13and you'll end up losing her.
0:26:13 > 0:26:15You need to think about it.
0:26:27 > 0:26:29TONIE SOBS
0:26:32 > 0:26:34It's only while you're here.
0:26:34 > 0:26:36Once they find you somewhere...
0:26:40 > 0:26:41RACHEL KISSES HER
0:26:41 > 0:26:44I don't want to be here.
0:26:44 > 0:26:47Well, this was your choice.
0:26:47 > 0:26:51You shouldn't be such a little BLEEP, should ya? Eh?
0:26:53 > 0:26:55You'll have her back soon.
0:26:58 > 0:27:00LOLA CRIES
0:27:27 > 0:27:29Grandad's not back yet.
0:27:29 > 0:27:31Eh?
0:27:46 > 0:27:51Next time, we meet best friends Sophie and Ashley.
0:27:51 > 0:27:54When I was eight weeks pregnant,
0:27:54 > 0:27:56she found out she was pregnant.
0:27:56 > 0:27:59I was 13 when I first started having sex.
0:27:59 > 0:28:02You just take it out on me all the time.
0:28:02 > 0:28:03No, you just think everything is so easy.
0:28:03 > 0:28:05How is everything easy?
0:28:08 > 0:28:09# You've come so far
0:28:09 > 0:28:14# Well done, darling We knew that you had it in you
0:28:14 > 0:28:19# You can do anything that you want World is an oyster
0:28:19 > 0:28:20# Don't disappoint us, ta
0:28:20 > 0:28:23# You can stand on your own two feet... #
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