0:00:02 > 0:00:04We've always been close friends.
0:00:04 > 0:00:10- We've had arguments over boys. - We've had a lot of arguments over things like that!
0:00:10 > 0:00:12I'd class Ash as my sister, always have done.
0:00:12 > 0:00:16If she's ever upset, she always comes to me and I'll go to her.
0:00:16 > 0:00:20When I was eight weeks pregnant, she found out she was pregnant.
0:00:20 > 0:00:23It's nice to have Ashleigh pregnant as well.
0:00:23 > 0:00:25It's really nice to have the support.
0:00:36 > 0:00:39I'm 16. I'm 31 weeks pregnant.
0:00:39 > 0:00:44This is the keepsake box, innit, that we're going to give to him when he's older -
0:00:44 > 0:00:46scans, and...like, the pregnancy test.
0:00:46 > 0:00:49It was from Poundland.
0:00:49 > 0:00:5416-year-old Ashleigh is having a baby with her boyfriend of two years, 19-year-old Ryan.
0:00:56 > 0:00:58'He was the first person that I proper fell for.
0:00:58 > 0:01:01'I thought he was different to any other boy.
0:01:01 > 0:01:05'Like, never lie, hurt, cheat - anything like that,'
0:01:05 > 0:01:10but once we found out I was pregnant, things started to get a bit... hilly, in our relationship.
0:01:10 > 0:01:11His arm, his elbow...
0:01:11 > 0:01:15'It's on and off, really now.'
0:01:15 > 0:01:18We don't really speak as much as what we used to and we argue loads.
0:01:18 > 0:01:21Ashleigh was on the contraceptive pill,
0:01:21 > 0:01:24but after suffering too many side effects
0:01:24 > 0:01:26decided to stop taking it.
0:01:26 > 0:01:31Everybody was saying to me, "Oh, it'll be all right because it builds up a wall round..."
0:01:31 > 0:01:34something, that stops...obviously, you getting pregnant
0:01:34 > 0:01:38and it'll take a while for that wall to break down, sort of thing,
0:01:38 > 0:01:40so it was, like, a shock.
0:01:40 > 0:01:42I was one of them ones, "Oh, it ain't going to happen to me."
0:01:42 > 0:01:46There's a picture to show you that he's a boy.
0:01:46 > 0:01:49You were really happy. You were shaking, weren't you?
0:01:49 > 0:01:50Really happy.
0:01:50 > 0:01:54They've already settled on the name Jayden for their son.
0:01:54 > 0:01:57When I found out she was pregnant... Well, I was over the moon.
0:01:57 > 0:02:01I didn't know what to think at first, telling my family and what they would think,
0:02:01 > 0:02:03but I really was over the moon.
0:02:05 > 0:02:07Ashleigh's mum lives abroad,
0:02:07 > 0:02:10and her dad with his new family in Portsmouth,
0:02:10 > 0:02:13so she lives with her six-year-old brother Levi
0:02:13 > 0:02:16and her grandma Anne in Norfolk.
0:02:19 > 0:02:20I like flour.
0:02:20 > 0:02:22My grandma's been there from day one.
0:02:22 > 0:02:25I don't understand how she does it all.
0:02:25 > 0:02:29She had four children of her own and then taken on...
0:02:29 > 0:02:32one of her children's children
0:02:32 > 0:02:34and then taken on another one.
0:02:34 > 0:02:36She's not really had no life of her own.
0:02:36 > 0:02:39Being close to her gran made it hard for Ashleigh
0:02:39 > 0:02:42to break the news about her pregnancy.
0:02:42 > 0:02:46I rang up and I said, "I've done a pregnancy test and it's positive."
0:02:46 > 0:02:51You're getting lower and lower and lower, and fuller and fuller out.
0:02:51 > 0:02:55Obviously, she wasn't impressed at all, because of my age,
0:02:55 > 0:02:57and she laughed at first and said,
0:02:57 > 0:03:01"Right, now you and Ryan have really got to buckle down.
0:03:01 > 0:03:03"It's not just about you two any more.
0:03:03 > 0:03:08"You've both got to basically stop the arguing, stop being so selfish."
0:03:08 > 0:03:12I think she was then worried about me having my baby
0:03:12 > 0:03:17and clearing off and leaving my baby with her, so then she's got another responsibility,
0:03:17 > 0:03:19which I wouldn't do anyway.
0:03:19 > 0:03:23I'm really looking forward to the responsibility of looking after him.
0:03:23 > 0:03:27I'm actually excited even about changing his nappy and things like that,
0:03:27 > 0:03:30because I know it's me who's caring for him
0:03:30 > 0:03:34and making sure he's safe and OK.
0:03:34 > 0:03:37I'll let him know that I love him and I'll always support him.
0:03:37 > 0:03:40I ain't going anywhere. I'm not just going to get up and leave him.
0:03:40 > 0:03:43Something that I never really had.
0:03:46 > 0:03:49When Ashleigh was just eight weeks pregnant,
0:03:49 > 0:03:51best friend 15-year-old Sophie,
0:03:51 > 0:03:53decided she too would buy a pregnancy test
0:03:53 > 0:03:56and took it in the nearest place -
0:03:56 > 0:03:58King's Lynn Bus Station.
0:04:00 > 0:04:03She come out the toilet, passed me the test,
0:04:03 > 0:04:07and it had two thick, dark lines. I was like, "Ohh!"
0:04:07 > 0:04:11- Passed it to her...- And I screamed. - You ran out and sat there.
0:04:11 > 0:04:13I came running out, "I'm pregnant!" to Connor,
0:04:13 > 0:04:15and he didn't believe me.
0:04:15 > 0:04:17THEY LAUGH
0:04:17 > 0:04:20Connor is Sophie's 17-year-old boyfriend and father of her child.
0:04:20 > 0:04:24They're having a boy and have already named him Charlie.
0:04:24 > 0:04:28She showed me the test because at first I was like, "You're not pregnant,"
0:04:28 > 0:04:31but when I found out she was pregnant, I was shocked -
0:04:31 > 0:04:33I just...couldn't believe it.
0:04:34 > 0:04:37Sophie's mum Tammy was at work as a care assistant
0:04:37 > 0:04:39when she receive a text message.
0:04:39 > 0:04:42My phone went and that was a message from Sophie,
0:04:42 > 0:04:44"Mum, please don't be mad.
0:04:44 > 0:04:48"I've just taken four pregnancy tests and they've all come back positive."
0:04:48 > 0:04:52I didn't know whether to laugh, cry. I felt a bit hysterical inside.
0:04:52 > 0:04:54She screamed and cried.
0:04:54 > 0:04:58She felt disappointed because I'm not going to experience, like,
0:04:58 > 0:05:01the teenage stuff like going out nightclubbing and stuff.
0:05:01 > 0:05:04Midwife's told me that Charlie's hands are like that.
0:05:04 > 0:05:09He's engaged, so he's going to come out looking like Superman. That's going to be painful.
0:05:09 > 0:05:12Don't worry about the pain. As long as Charlie comes out fine.
0:05:12 > 0:05:15You can scream as much as you want.
0:05:15 > 0:05:19We were both disappointed that she was pregnant,
0:05:19 > 0:05:22because we'd have liked them to spend some time enjoying themselves
0:05:22 > 0:05:25while they were younger, but at the end of the day,
0:05:25 > 0:05:28that's our first grandchild and we're excited
0:05:28 > 0:05:30and I wouldn't have it any other way now.
0:05:30 > 0:05:32Oh! He keeps kicking my boob up.
0:05:32 > 0:05:38Sophie's pregnancy came at the end of a three year spell of difficult behaviour.
0:05:38 > 0:05:41I was 13 when I first started having sex.
0:05:41 > 0:05:46I got kind of pressured into it. I should have said no but I didn't.
0:05:46 > 0:05:49I didn't really understand what was going on,
0:05:49 > 0:05:51so I just went with the flow.
0:05:51 > 0:05:54After that experience, I changed completely.
0:05:54 > 0:05:57I was just too much into boys.
0:05:57 > 0:06:01When I was 14, I started sleeping around a bit.
0:06:01 > 0:06:05I was a complete...nasty person.
0:06:05 > 0:06:09I used to swear at my mum. I used to tell her that I hate her.
0:06:09 > 0:06:13I would start on people who walked down the street for no reason.
0:06:13 > 0:06:15I caused a lot of chaos.
0:06:19 > 0:06:22- You've probably got...- Wind.
0:06:22 > 0:06:25That's four, five, six, seven, eight, nine.
0:06:25 > 0:06:30At 15, Sophie left school before she'd taken her GCSEs.
0:06:30 > 0:06:33- At least I never had the police on my door with you. - Once at school.
0:06:33 > 0:06:36- I hit that girl with a crutch. - Oh, yeah, I forgot about that one.
0:06:36 > 0:06:40It's just not even funny. You just put me through hell.
0:06:40 > 0:06:44You put them people through hell, her parents.
0:06:44 > 0:06:46She pulled my hair, so I whacked her round the head.
0:06:46 > 0:06:51That doesn't make it right. Two wrongs don't make a right and you know I've always said that.
0:06:51 > 0:06:54The way you spoke to these teachers, I never brought you up like that.
0:06:54 > 0:06:58I just don't... I still don't understand it, even today.
0:06:58 > 0:06:59SHE LAUGHS
0:06:59 > 0:07:01It's really not funny.
0:07:01 > 0:07:06You need to learn to deal with your anger and your issues in a different manner.
0:07:06 > 0:07:10- Can you take your go on Scrabble now?- It's my go? - It has been for two hours.
0:07:10 > 0:07:12I caused Mum to have a breakdown.
0:07:12 > 0:07:16The amount of times she's walked out crying, she's screaming at me...
0:07:16 > 0:07:22Sophie had been a really, really difficult girl. I got a job because she'd been so difficult.
0:07:22 > 0:07:25I needed my space away from her and away from the home.
0:07:25 > 0:07:27I just needed some time, like, for me,
0:07:27 > 0:07:30and I went out and got this job and I kept thinking to myself,
0:07:30 > 0:07:33"The next step, she's going to be pregnant."
0:07:33 > 0:07:34That's 45...
0:07:34 > 0:07:37I just hope it's going to be positive from here on.
0:07:37 > 0:07:41I just want you to be good mum and set a good example to Charlie.
0:07:41 > 0:07:44- Sophie, you're not even listening. - Have you seen the cat in the box?
0:07:44 > 0:07:46I've seen the cat in the box.
0:07:46 > 0:07:50I want him to grow up knowing that education...
0:07:50 > 0:07:53- ..is boring.- No, it's not.
0:07:53 > 0:07:56It's only you who can make the right choices for your boy
0:07:56 > 0:08:00and you need to make the right choices.
0:08:05 > 0:08:10Hi, Ashleigh. Have a seat. Thank you.
0:08:10 > 0:08:12Ashleigh is now 34 weeks pregnant
0:08:12 > 0:08:16and is seeing her midwife every two weeks.
0:08:16 > 0:08:19- Do I need to pull my arm out? - No, that's fine.
0:08:19 > 0:08:22Ryan is working hard as a bin man to support Ashleigh,
0:08:22 > 0:08:24but their relationship is still rocky.
0:08:24 > 0:08:27Thank you. That's fine.
0:08:27 > 0:08:31- I haven't supported her as much as I should do.- No, you haven't.
0:08:31 > 0:08:37As I said, you've been all right financially, paying for things baby needs,
0:08:37 > 0:08:40but you haven't physically been there for ME.
0:08:40 > 0:08:42I'm going to try and be round here more.
0:08:42 > 0:08:43No, it's not really that, is it?
0:08:43 > 0:08:48Well, it's not that - it's being honest with you stuff, not being an idiot.
0:08:48 > 0:08:54- Keep lying, and...- I used to lie. - Well, no, the last time you lied was not so long ago.
0:08:54 > 0:08:57- I didn't cheat on you, though, did I?- Yeah, you did.
0:08:57 > 0:09:00No, I didn't physically go out and sleep with no-one else.
0:09:00 > 0:09:03No, but you've done a lot of other things,
0:09:03 > 0:09:06so don't make it out that you were innocent, because you know it was cheating.
0:09:06 > 0:09:12I'm not having baby round that sort of environment, arguing, shouting,
0:09:12 > 0:09:16because that's not nice for anybody to be in, let alone a baby.
0:09:16 > 0:09:22Only half of teenage mums are with the father of their child when the baby is born,
0:09:22 > 0:09:26and just a third are still together when the baby is five.
0:09:26 > 0:09:28I want to be in both their lives - baby's and Ashleigh's.
0:09:30 > 0:09:32I love them both.
0:09:32 > 0:09:34Hopefully, I will be a good dad.
0:09:34 > 0:09:36I'll try my best to be a good dad.
0:09:36 > 0:09:39That's fine, Ashleigh. I'll just give you a tissue.
0:09:39 > 0:09:42I personally think he's just going bored of it
0:09:42 > 0:09:45and he'd rather be out doing better things.
0:09:45 > 0:09:47I hope he proves me wrong.
0:09:54 > 0:09:56See you later, babies.
0:09:56 > 0:10:01Round the corner, things are looking more promising for young couple Sophie and Connor.
0:10:01 > 0:10:04They now live together in Sophie's family home
0:10:04 > 0:10:07and have recently got engaged.
0:10:07 > 0:10:10He's completely different from the guys I've been out with,
0:10:10 > 0:10:13the rest of them just wanted one thing,
0:10:13 > 0:10:17and when they got it, they went, but he's stuck with me.
0:10:17 > 0:10:20I always wanted a baby at a young age,
0:10:20 > 0:10:24but I didn't want a baby with anyone else apart from Connor...
0:10:24 > 0:10:25and it happened!
0:10:25 > 0:10:28We could never get condoms to fit so we couldn't really use them.
0:10:28 > 0:10:30We were just using the pull out technique.
0:10:30 > 0:10:33Connor goes to college three times a week
0:10:33 > 0:10:35where he's re-sitting his GCSEs.
0:10:35 > 0:10:38Sophie has been out of school for nearly a year
0:10:38 > 0:10:43and is now 30 weeks pregnant, so she spends all her days at home.
0:10:43 > 0:10:48I'm home alone, I'm bored, so I'm stuck on Facebook.
0:10:48 > 0:10:51My dad has asked me to, like, fold the washing. I just know, in about
0:10:51 > 0:10:56an hour and a half when Connor gets back, he'll do it!
0:11:06 > 0:11:08Make me a sandwich.
0:11:08 > 0:11:12I normally wait until he gets back from school to get something
0:11:12 > 0:11:15to eat because, well, I can't be bothered to make it.
0:11:15 > 0:11:20I've always been lazy, before I was pregnant.
0:11:23 > 0:11:26Thank you.
0:11:26 > 0:11:30When I come back to the house, if the hoovering needs doing, I'll do that,
0:11:30 > 0:11:32if there's washing up or the animals need feeding,
0:11:32 > 0:11:34I'll just crack on and do it.
0:11:34 > 0:11:38Sometimes I feel guilty watching him do it all by himself.
0:11:38 > 0:11:42But it's not worth me getting up and doing it because I'd just moan.
0:11:42 > 0:11:44I'm glad it's him. She's been with many a...
0:11:44 > 0:11:47SHE SIGHS
0:11:47 > 0:11:50Many a lad has been through my door, erm, visiting.
0:11:50 > 0:11:52I'm just glad it was Connor.
0:11:52 > 0:11:54I think Connor's going to be a really good dad.
0:11:54 > 0:11:58He loves him already and he's said that he's doing night feeds
0:11:58 > 0:12:00and I'm not allowed to touch him.
0:12:02 > 0:12:05But Connor's not the only one that showers Sophie with love.
0:12:05 > 0:12:08I have been very overprotective of my children,
0:12:08 > 0:12:10I've not let them breathe sometimes.
0:12:10 > 0:12:13With Sophie I kept her on such a tight leash,
0:12:13 > 0:12:16I think that's why she started rebelling.
0:12:16 > 0:12:19Even last year, we went to panto, I still want you as children,
0:12:19 > 0:12:23I still want to wrap you up in cotton wool and protect you
0:12:23 > 0:12:25and I still want you to be my babies.
0:12:28 > 0:12:32Oh, it's hard, you kiddies growing up
0:12:32 > 0:12:35and you're going to just like be gone.
0:12:35 > 0:12:39One minute I'm like, "Clear off, you treat this place like a hotel,"
0:12:39 > 0:12:42and the next I'm like, "Come snuggle up to your mum,"
0:12:42 > 0:12:44and I never want to let you go.
0:12:57 > 0:13:00Oh, no!
0:13:00 > 0:13:02Ashleigh is now 38 weeks pregnant,
0:13:02 > 0:13:05while best friend and neighbour Sophie is just seven weeks behind.
0:13:05 > 0:13:10- I've never seen one of these.- No.
0:13:10 > 0:13:14So they've decided to get prepared by watching a birthing video.
0:13:14 > 0:13:17- That looks painful. - Yeah it does, doesn't it?!
0:13:17 > 0:13:19Oh, no, I've never seen nothing like this.
0:13:19 > 0:13:22Connor and my mum are going to be my birthing partners.
0:13:22 > 0:13:27Connor probably will end fainting or running out the room, but my mum,
0:13:27 > 0:13:30she's seen babies being born so she'll be fine, I know she will.
0:13:30 > 0:13:32What about if ours is like really fat?
0:13:32 > 0:13:36Since I've been pregnant, I have lost my dignity completely
0:13:36 > 0:13:38so I'm not worried about people seeing my bits.
0:13:38 > 0:13:41I'm more worried actually about Connor seeing them.
0:13:41 > 0:13:44Urgh!
0:13:45 > 0:13:49Meanwhile, the boys are in the pub, also thinking about what lies ahead.
0:13:49 > 0:13:53I never thought I was going to be a dad as a teenager, not at all,
0:13:53 > 0:13:56I thought it'd be like going into my twenties or something.
0:13:56 > 0:13:58I was going to say thirties for me.
0:13:58 > 0:14:01Yeah, I would say twenties because it's a big responsibility,
0:14:01 > 0:14:03but I'm pleased that we are having a baby.
0:14:03 > 0:14:05- It is exciting. - It is going to be exciting.
0:14:05 > 0:14:07I'm scared about the labour.
0:14:07 > 0:14:09I'll probably freak out and collapse.
0:14:09 > 0:14:12I'm dreading labour because Soph moans when she's got a headache,
0:14:12 > 0:14:16- like, real bad, let alone labour. - My mate said the other day that cutting through the cord
0:14:16 > 0:14:19is like cutting through a sausage. That's not too bad.
0:14:19 > 0:14:21I got told it's like cutting through rubber.
0:14:21 > 0:14:25I'm not really fussed what it is, just get it over and done with.
0:14:25 > 0:14:30I weren't even going to consider an epidural but by the looks of that.
0:14:30 > 0:14:33Oh, now it's out. Awww.
0:14:34 > 0:14:38Now it's getting closer, you've only got a couple of weeks, it's now...
0:14:38 > 0:14:44getting really scary because it's happening and there's no way out now.
0:14:45 > 0:14:49It is scary, especially after seeing that.
0:14:51 > 0:14:55- It changes you doesn't it?- Yeah. - You have to grow up.
0:14:55 > 0:14:58A lot of times I've been an idiot and let her down
0:14:58 > 0:15:00but that won't happen again. No way.
0:15:00 > 0:15:03Best thing to do, when you see her, ask how she's feeling.
0:15:03 > 0:15:04If there's anything she wants to talk about.
0:15:04 > 0:15:06I always asked how she's feeling, I used to.
0:15:06 > 0:15:10Just ask her if she wants to talk, if she's got any problems,
0:15:10 > 0:15:12if she wants to talk about anything.
0:15:12 > 0:15:16There's going to be minor arguments, you're going to get stress,
0:15:16 > 0:15:18because as you said, sleepless nights.
0:15:18 > 0:15:22But I mean like, there's no point in having a full blown argument.
0:15:22 > 0:15:25Especially not in front of the baby anyway.
0:15:29 > 0:15:33It's nearly Christmas and Ashleigh is now four days overdue.
0:15:33 > 0:15:39My Christmas present, which Ryan got me from Jayden.
0:15:39 > 0:15:40It's really pretty.
0:15:40 > 0:15:42So cute.
0:15:42 > 0:15:43It's lovely.
0:15:43 > 0:15:48Since Ryan's chat with Connor about relationships,
0:15:48 > 0:15:52things have moved on for him and Ashleigh.
0:15:52 > 0:15:54How are you and Ryan getting along?
0:15:54 > 0:15:57We haven't had one argument in three days!
0:15:57 > 0:16:01Three days without an argument, without a bicker, without anything.
0:16:01 > 0:16:02Not even a dig?
0:16:02 > 0:16:03Nope.
0:16:03 > 0:16:05I'm telling people the same as he is,
0:16:05 > 0:16:08that we're in a relationship with each other.
0:16:08 > 0:16:10A physical relationship.
0:16:10 > 0:16:13Eww!
0:16:13 > 0:16:16Do you want another baby after Jayden?
0:16:16 > 0:16:19Not straight after, I don't, no.
0:16:19 > 0:16:23That will be when me and him are like proper close again,
0:16:23 > 0:16:27financially stable, got our on home.
0:16:27 > 0:16:29Do you want another baby?
0:16:29 > 0:16:32Yeah, I want one straight after.
0:16:40 > 0:16:41Right, baby girl, I gotta go.
0:16:41 > 0:16:44Be a good girl.
0:16:44 > 0:16:46Drive careful.
0:16:46 > 0:16:49At Sophie's house, neither she nor Connor has a job,
0:16:49 > 0:16:51so money is becoming an issue.
0:16:51 > 0:16:54Dad, Malcolm, works full-time as a courier.
0:16:54 > 0:16:57Tammy and I work as hard as we can.
0:16:57 > 0:17:00Tam will do extra shifts at work.
0:17:00 > 0:17:05Me, I'll do as much as I possibly can to try and get some extra money.
0:17:05 > 0:17:07I do go out on Saturdays,
0:17:07 > 0:17:11I go out on Sundays, I go out on bank holidays. It is hard,
0:17:11 > 0:17:16but I'm prepared to do as many hours as I can to help my family.
0:17:16 > 0:17:18See you later, bye-bye.
0:17:18 > 0:17:22It's not just Sophie, Connor and the baby that need feeding.
0:17:22 > 0:17:27Sophie's 17-year-old brother Jake is also still living at home.
0:17:27 > 0:17:32I've got to pay £20 a week for keep, which I thought was fair enough,
0:17:32 > 0:17:35but Connor and Sophie sit at home all day,
0:17:35 > 0:17:37and doesn't have to pay nothing,
0:17:37 > 0:17:43while I'm at work, busting my ass for 45 hours a week on £3.60 an hour.
0:17:43 > 0:17:46That's the only thing I'll probably do today, feed the fish.
0:17:46 > 0:17:52My mum and dad have spent a lot on me, Connor and baby.
0:17:52 > 0:17:56I still can't believe they re-mortgaged the house to help us.
0:17:56 > 0:18:00They've bought us the pram, they're bought most of his clothes,
0:18:00 > 0:18:02his cot blankets and cot sets.
0:18:02 > 0:18:05They've really helped us a lot.
0:18:09 > 0:18:12Mum, Tammy, is also working as many shifts as she can.
0:18:12 > 0:18:15I'm shattered, what with full-time work
0:18:15 > 0:18:19and trying to keep on top of things at home, trying to run the house,
0:18:19 > 0:18:22trying to do the food shopping and the washing.
0:18:22 > 0:18:24That's just very, very tiring.
0:18:24 > 0:18:26You can lie down all day.
0:18:26 > 0:18:28I can't.
0:18:28 > 0:18:30You ain't got a job to go to.
0:18:30 > 0:18:33- I clean the house.- How much of that do you do without a fight?
0:18:33 > 0:18:36- Not a lot!- I done it this morning! - Only because you had to.
0:18:48 > 0:18:52With everyone around her working so hard,
0:18:52 > 0:18:56it's made Sophie question her decision to leave school last year.
0:18:56 > 0:19:01If I could go back and tell myself to try hard at school, I would have done.
0:19:01 > 0:19:05I've not got a good record, so that'll stop me getting jobs.
0:19:05 > 0:19:08It's a shame how I used to behave
0:19:08 > 0:19:12because, thinking about it, me and my mum would have been more friends,
0:19:12 > 0:19:14and I would have a lot more friends,
0:19:14 > 0:19:16but I guess you learn from your mistakes.
0:19:16 > 0:19:22After my baby is here, I'm going to try and get into college
0:19:22 > 0:19:26to do cooking, because that's what I've always wanted to do.
0:19:29 > 0:19:32BABY CRIES
0:19:32 > 0:19:37Six days after her due date, Ashleigh finally went into labour.
0:19:37 > 0:19:39Oh, he's peeing! He's peeing!
0:19:40 > 0:19:45Ryan was by her side when she gave birth to their son, Jayden.
0:19:45 > 0:19:47Get his wipes out.
0:19:48 > 0:19:51I knew it was going to be painful pushing a baby out,
0:19:51 > 0:19:55but I didn't know what I was letting myself in for!
0:19:55 > 0:19:59That was the worst pain I have ever felt,
0:19:59 > 0:20:04especially when they get you to touch the baby's head as it's crowning,
0:20:04 > 0:20:08that burnt so bad, that burnt, that really burnt.
0:20:08 > 0:20:11I had to have stitches as well, didn't I?
0:20:11 > 0:20:12Yeah.
0:20:12 > 0:20:15I had a second degree tear, so it was a really bad tear,
0:20:15 > 0:20:17and I bled absolutely loads.
0:20:17 > 0:20:20I thought I was going to faint, but I didn't.
0:20:20 > 0:20:23After cutting the cord and having a hug with him, I felt closer to Ash,
0:20:23 > 0:20:24I felt closer with him.
0:20:24 > 0:20:26It felt great.
0:20:26 > 0:20:32And then giving Ash a big old hug and saying, "Well done."
0:20:32 > 0:20:34I think she did really well,
0:20:34 > 0:20:37even with all the screaming and shouting, bless her.
0:20:37 > 0:20:40Since coming home, Ryan's been staying for a week
0:20:40 > 0:20:43to help out while Ashleigh's gran is on holiday.
0:20:43 > 0:20:44It's been great.
0:20:44 > 0:20:46I've been getting used to getting up early.
0:20:46 > 0:20:49Looking after him, looking after Ash,
0:20:49 > 0:20:52because she's still sore from having stitches and everything.
0:20:52 > 0:20:55Last night was the worst night we've had.
0:20:55 > 0:20:57He wouldn't settle so we're both tired,
0:20:57 > 0:21:00so we were both getting arsey with each other.
0:21:00 > 0:21:02I think when I haven't got him to help,
0:21:02 > 0:21:06I am going to find it really, really, really hard,
0:21:06 > 0:21:09especially if it's like last night.
0:21:09 > 0:21:12If it's like last night, I don't know what I'm going to do.
0:21:15 > 0:21:18While Ashleigh and Ryan get used to sleepless nights,
0:21:18 > 0:21:20Sophie is having a night to remember.
0:21:20 > 0:21:23A week after her due date,
0:21:23 > 0:21:25she finally went into labour.
0:21:25 > 0:21:28Hold your breath and push down.
0:21:28 > 0:21:30She found the first 12 hours so difficult,
0:21:30 > 0:21:32she decided to have an epidural.
0:21:37 > 0:21:40Nearly 24 hours after her first contraction,
0:21:40 > 0:21:43Sophie gave birth to her little boy, Charlie.
0:21:46 > 0:21:48Look!
0:21:48 > 0:21:52He's trying to cry but he doesn't know how to.
0:21:52 > 0:21:54He's getting there.
0:22:02 > 0:22:08Back at home, memories of the birth are still raw in everyone's minds.
0:22:08 > 0:22:10She got a little bit anxious when the pain kicked in.
0:22:10 > 0:22:14It got to the point when she kept asking for a caesarean,
0:22:14 > 0:22:16forceps, whatever, just get him out.
0:22:16 > 0:22:20To see your daughter in that pain, or your son, no matter what,
0:22:20 > 0:22:23to see your child in pain like that, it kills you inside.
0:22:25 > 0:22:28I must admit, there was one point where I was very, very scared.
0:22:28 > 0:22:30I was trying my hardest not to cry.
0:22:30 > 0:22:32I just didn't know what to do,
0:22:32 > 0:22:34there was nothing I could do to help her.
0:22:34 > 0:22:38Luckily, we had her mum there and she was keeping her calm.
0:22:43 > 0:22:46Stick your finger in and see if he's hungry.
0:22:46 > 0:22:49Ashleigh and Ryan have been parents for two weeks now,
0:22:49 > 0:22:51and Ryan is now living back at his mum's.
0:22:51 > 0:22:54I think it's been really hard for her.
0:22:54 > 0:22:56Lots of sleepless nights...
0:22:56 > 0:22:59and always screaming, how he is now.
0:23:01 > 0:23:02What time did he wake up last night?
0:23:02 > 0:23:06- He don't just ever wake up once. - Was you a pain the bum last night?
0:23:06 > 0:23:07BABY CRIES
0:23:07 > 0:23:09BABY STOPS CRYING Oh, good one!
0:23:09 > 0:23:11Actually look what he's doing.
0:23:11 > 0:23:14That's what I'm saying, he's just messing around with it again.
0:23:14 > 0:23:17- Pass him here, look. - No, I'm feeding him.
0:23:17 > 0:23:19Take it out and stick it back in then!
0:23:19 > 0:23:22Don't go mad. If he don't want it, he don't want it.
0:23:22 > 0:23:23Yes, he does!
0:23:23 > 0:23:27You know when he does that to take it out and stick it back in.
0:23:29 > 0:23:32Sorry. Here you are.
0:23:32 > 0:23:34Don't tell me not to go mad,
0:23:34 > 0:23:37because it's not you who has to wash his clothes and everything, is it?
0:23:37 > 0:23:40Maybe because I'm not here to wash his clothes!
0:23:40 > 0:23:44He just seems to think that he's got the hard part of it all,
0:23:44 > 0:23:45and no, he ain't.
0:23:45 > 0:23:48I'm not saying I've got the hard part.
0:23:48 > 0:23:52I understand that you get sleepless nights, but I can't do nothing.
0:23:52 > 0:23:54I'm not saying you can!
0:23:54 > 0:23:55Has he got a cloth or anything?
0:23:55 > 0:23:57No, just use my dressing gown.
0:23:57 > 0:23:58Fair enough.
0:23:58 > 0:24:02Sorry you got a sleepless night and that you're taking it out on me.
0:24:02 > 0:24:03I'm not taking it out on you.
0:24:03 > 0:24:06You think everything is so pissing easy.
0:24:06 > 0:24:07How is everything easy?!
0:24:07 > 0:24:10I get back from work and you tell me to hurry up. I'm as quick as I can.
0:24:10 > 0:24:12I didn't get back till four o'clock.
0:24:12 > 0:24:15You just take it out on me, as soon as I get back from work.
0:24:15 > 0:24:16I'm as quick as I can.
0:24:16 > 0:24:19- You are such a selfish- BLEEP. - Do you know that?
0:24:19 > 0:24:21How am I selfish?
0:24:21 > 0:24:25You know I can't wait to get up here and look after him, I love to.
0:24:32 > 0:24:34I hate stacking the steriliser.
0:24:34 > 0:24:38Sophie is also adjusting to her new life as a teenage mum.
0:24:38 > 0:24:40Fold that laundry up!
0:24:40 > 0:24:41Connor can do it.
0:24:41 > 0:24:43- What?- I said Connor can do it when you go to work.
0:24:43 > 0:24:47Sophie, do you mind if I make Charlie's bottles?
0:24:47 > 0:24:49No, that's fine.
0:24:49 > 0:24:50I should make her do it.
0:24:50 > 0:24:53We're actually making Sophie very lazy, all of us.
0:24:53 > 0:24:54Yeah, you are!
0:24:54 > 0:24:56Not that she cares very much.
0:24:56 > 0:25:01As well as a doting grandma, Charlie has a doting father, too.
0:25:01 > 0:25:03You're not still tired?!
0:25:03 > 0:25:06Connor's a fantastic dad, he's just so loving.
0:25:06 > 0:25:08He's just perfect.
0:25:08 > 0:25:11It's harder than I first thought it would be.
0:25:11 > 0:25:13I don't like changing nappies.
0:25:13 > 0:25:17I don't mind putting them on. I just don't like changing poo nappies.
0:25:17 > 0:25:20I just can't hack it. I'll be sick.
0:25:20 > 0:25:22Our relationship has stayed the same.
0:25:22 > 0:25:26It's just so strong and nothing's going to break it.
0:25:26 > 0:25:30We haven't started trying for a baby yet.
0:25:30 > 0:25:32I'm hoping we're going to start trying
0:25:32 > 0:25:37when he's, like, about eight or nine months,
0:25:37 > 0:25:41so he'll have someone to grow up with as well.
0:25:41 > 0:25:47Having a newborn in this busy house has affected the entire family.
0:25:47 > 0:25:50When I first saw Charlie I cried.
0:25:50 > 0:25:53I feel the same now actually.
0:25:53 > 0:25:55It sounds ridiculous, I know,
0:25:55 > 0:25:58but that boy has got so much love around him.
0:25:58 > 0:26:00He has brought the family together.
0:26:00 > 0:26:04I don't know if I was on the verge of murdering her, committing suicide,
0:26:04 > 0:26:08leaving or throwing her out, but now she's turned a corner,
0:26:08 > 0:26:09and I love her.
0:26:09 > 0:26:12I actually really like her now, really like her.
0:26:12 > 0:26:16We've become friends, really, really close friends.
0:26:16 > 0:26:20While things have moved along for Sophie's family,
0:26:20 > 0:26:23Ashleigh is dealing with some big changes, too.
0:26:23 > 0:26:27Me and Ryan have split up completely this time.
0:26:27 > 0:26:32At the end of the day, it's not fair on Jayden, seeing his parents argue.
0:26:32 > 0:26:35When I say argue, I mean screaming at each other all the time.
0:26:35 > 0:26:37I don't want to be with him.
0:26:37 > 0:26:39I'm disappointed things turned out like this.
0:26:39 > 0:26:43I wish we was together like a family, got our own place.
0:26:46 > 0:26:50Despite the split, both are still determined to share the parenting.
0:26:52 > 0:26:55Ryan's his dad and it'll always stay like that.
0:26:55 > 0:26:59He is absolutely brilliant with Jayden, he loves him to bits.
0:26:59 > 0:27:02We need to sort something out so that I can see him more,
0:27:02 > 0:27:04so we get that sort of bond.
0:27:04 > 0:27:06I don't want that bond to go away.
0:27:06 > 0:27:09I want to be there for each other so he can look up to me.
0:27:09 > 0:27:12I've asked him if he'll have him one night a weekend,
0:27:12 > 0:27:14and then, hopefully, if Jayden grows up like that,
0:27:14 > 0:27:18he'll realise he's got his mum in his life and his dad in his life.
0:27:18 > 0:27:21He's my world. I wouldn't ever take him away,
0:27:21 > 0:27:23I wouldn't want no-one to take him away.
0:27:23 > 0:27:26I absolutely love him, I really do.
0:27:26 > 0:27:30He means absolutely everything to me.
0:27:30 > 0:27:33I've never loved anybody or anything as much as I love that little boy,
0:27:33 > 0:27:36and nothing will ever, ever change that.
0:27:36 > 0:27:38I will always be there for him.
0:27:51 > 0:27:55Next time, we meet Charlotte from North Wales...
0:27:55 > 0:27:59Everything's just stressing me out. Everything and everyone.
0:27:59 > 0:28:02If we even try and talk, it ends up in a row.
0:28:02 > 0:28:05I can't live with her. Not as she is.
0:28:05 > 0:28:07..and 16-year-old Natasha.
0:28:07 > 0:28:08Look at your mum!
0:28:08 > 0:28:13Her boyfriend sent me a message on Facebook, asking for my daughter's hand in marriage.
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