Charlotte and Natasha

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0:00:03 > 0:00:06Everything's stressing me out at the minute. Everything and everyone.

0:00:06 > 0:00:10She sort of reverts back into teenager mode.

0:00:10 > 0:00:15If we even try and talk, it ends up in a row.

0:00:15 > 0:00:18I'm not bothering with her.

0:00:18 > 0:00:20I'm not even going to try and make it better.

0:00:20 > 0:00:23I can't live with her, not as she is.

0:00:35 > 0:00:36One, two, three!

0:00:36 > 0:00:41Charlotte from Conwy in North Wales is mum to ten-month-old Melanie.

0:00:42 > 0:00:45Tonight, it's a Saturday,

0:00:45 > 0:00:49most 16-year-olds will be out with their friends

0:00:49 > 0:00:51or drinking or at a party...

0:00:52 > 0:00:55..but I'm at home with Melanie!

0:00:55 > 0:00:57Oh, Melly.

0:00:57 > 0:01:02I got my pregnancy test in the clinic so when she told me I was pregnant,

0:01:02 > 0:01:05I was like, "Oh, my gosh, what shall I do?"

0:01:07 > 0:01:12Charlotte and the baby's dad were both 15 when they found out she was pregnant.

0:01:12 > 0:01:14I think we were only together for about a month,

0:01:14 > 0:01:19but it wasn't a good relationship, we were constantly arguing and stuff.

0:01:19 > 0:01:22Where's Melly gone? Peekaboo!

0:01:22 > 0:01:25The best bit was that she had already told me

0:01:25 > 0:01:30her and her boyfriend wasn't having sex because he was still a virgin.

0:01:30 > 0:01:32So I used to rib them and say,

0:01:32 > 0:01:35"Don't go swimming without your socks on"

0:01:35 > 0:01:38and everything else, and Charlotte used to say,

0:01:38 > 0:01:41"Eww, I'm not popping his cherry!"

0:01:41 > 0:01:44Peekaboo!

0:01:44 > 0:01:49Charlotte and Melanie live with her mum Kelly and her five brothers and sisters.

0:01:49 > 0:01:53It wasn't a case of this was her first time.

0:01:53 > 0:01:56She has been sexually active for quite a while.

0:01:56 > 0:02:02I don't know if that was because we had open conversations about sex,

0:02:02 > 0:02:07even right down to positioning.

0:02:07 > 0:02:10That's the kind of relationship we've had.

0:02:10 > 0:02:13Charlotte used to be a goody two-shoes,

0:02:13 > 0:02:17she used to be Mum's perfect child and we all used to look at Charlotte

0:02:17 > 0:02:19and think, oh, she's Mum's favourite,

0:02:19 > 0:02:26but now I look at her and I'm like no, she's not good, she's done some quite stupid things.

0:02:26 > 0:02:30Before she found out she was pregnant, Charlotte had her future mapped out.

0:02:30 > 0:02:34I was in the air cadets.

0:02:34 > 0:02:37My career choice was always to go into the police or the RAF police,

0:02:37 > 0:02:40because it's interesting as well.

0:02:40 > 0:02:42I wouldn't mind being a pilot either!

0:02:42 > 0:02:48When she said that she was pregnant, I was a little disappointed because she had already made up her mind

0:02:48 > 0:02:55on what she wanted from life, what her career was going to be, and then...it's gone.

0:02:55 > 0:03:00All I want Charlotte to do is to do two rescue breaths and 30 compressions.

0:03:00 > 0:03:05Less than one in five young mums in Wales are in work or education.

0:03:07 > 0:03:12But with her mum to mind Melanie, Charlotte was back at school just three weeks after giving birth

0:03:12 > 0:03:17and is now at college studying uniformed services.

0:03:17 > 0:03:19Charlotte is an excellent student

0:03:19 > 0:03:22and how she manages to get the assignments in on time

0:03:22 > 0:03:25and to the quality she writes them, it's a credit to her.

0:03:25 > 0:03:28- What do old people wear in their mouths?- Dentures.

0:03:28 > 0:03:32I'm still at college and I still want to be a police officer,

0:03:32 > 0:03:35I AM going to be a police officer...

0:03:36 > 0:03:40..and having a baby is not going to stop me.

0:03:46 > 0:03:50I was 15 when I caught pregnant and now I'm 16 and Levi is three months.

0:03:50 > 0:03:54Natasha and her son Levi live in Mexborough in Yorkshire.

0:03:54 > 0:03:57I were getting a big belly and having cravings

0:03:57 > 0:04:00so I had the thought in my head, what if I am pregnant?

0:04:00 > 0:04:03But I wasn't going to take a pregnancy test just in case,

0:04:03 > 0:04:07but I didn't exactly take a pregnancy test until I was five months.

0:04:07 > 0:04:14Natasha was living with her dad when she found out she was already 20 weeks into her pregnancy.

0:04:14 > 0:04:15When Natasha,

0:04:15 > 0:04:18when she's come home and said she was pregnant,

0:04:18 > 0:04:20I wasn't very pleased at all.

0:04:20 > 0:04:24I felt like knocking her head off for being stupid,

0:04:24 > 0:04:28but there's nowt you can do once it's happened.

0:04:30 > 0:04:31After she'd had Levi,

0:04:31 > 0:04:37Natasha moved in with her older sister Bonnie and her two daughters for extra support.

0:04:37 > 0:04:41When I found out I was pregnant, I told my sister and my mum

0:04:41 > 0:04:46and they were happy for me, but you could see they were disappointed as well.

0:04:47 > 0:04:53Natasha and her 18-year-old boyfriend were still in a relationship when Levi was born.

0:04:53 > 0:04:56Me and Levi's father had been going out for two-and-a-half years,

0:04:56 > 0:05:00but then all the arguments kicked off

0:05:00 > 0:05:04and I can't cope with it as well as looking after a baby.

0:05:04 > 0:05:08I can't see me and Levi's father getting back together at all.

0:05:08 > 0:05:11Do you want a big family, Tash, like Mum had? Like eight kids?

0:05:11 > 0:05:16I want a big-ish, but not that many, about three or four.

0:05:16 > 0:05:18- You're going to wait for a few years, aren't you?- Yeah.

0:05:18 > 0:05:21Settle down, get married?

0:05:21 > 0:05:22I don't want to get married.

0:05:24 > 0:05:27- Why's that?- I just don't want to.

0:05:27 > 0:05:30- Why, because divorce is dearer than the wedding?- Yeah.

0:05:32 > 0:05:37Natasha's sister was also a teen mum and, like Natasha, Bonnie is single.

0:05:37 > 0:05:40You don't need to be in a relationship to be a mum,

0:05:40 > 0:05:43she's happier to learn to be a mum by herself,

0:05:43 > 0:05:48you know, to be a mum and then to become a partner again.

0:05:48 > 0:05:53This bag is for Levi's clothes, because I've got nowhere to put them at the moment.

0:05:53 > 0:05:58This house is a two-bedroomed house, Natasha's room is my back room downstairs,

0:05:58 > 0:06:03and it's a pain in the backside lifting the sofa bed up and down the stairs.

0:06:03 > 0:06:06Natasha's stay with her sister was supposed to be temporary.

0:06:06 > 0:06:09- Tasha?- What?- Where do you want your bags of stuff putting?

0:06:09 > 0:06:11That was nearly two months ago.

0:06:11 > 0:06:14I'll just put it all down here and then it's out the way for now.

0:06:16 > 0:06:21- It's nice, I enjoy having her here. - It's a bit cramped.- It'll be better when you get your own house.

0:06:21 > 0:06:25You kind of need your own house cos we can't keep living like this.

0:06:25 > 0:06:28It's like living in a tin of sardines.

0:06:28 > 0:06:31- It's not very big, is it?- No.

0:06:36 > 0:06:39Tristan, can you go and see Charlotte?

0:06:39 > 0:06:43She doesn't like mornings at all.

0:06:43 > 0:06:48It's 7am and in North Wales, Charlotte's mum Kelly has been up for an hour.

0:06:48 > 0:06:51From the time I get up in the morning...

0:06:53 > 0:06:57..it's just, get out of bed and start work.

0:07:00 > 0:07:02- Where are your boots for school? - Wakey wakey!

0:07:02 > 0:07:05Melanie usually sleeps until about 7:45.

0:07:05 > 0:07:09Charlotte wakes her up, I've made her a bottle of tea.

0:07:09 > 0:07:12Can you make sure there's no other dishes laying around?

0:07:12 > 0:07:17Usually while I'm making the cups of tea, I'm emptying the dishwasher at the same time.

0:07:17 > 0:07:22If you didn't have a routine in the morning, you'd soon get overwhelmed

0:07:22 > 0:07:25with everything that's got to be done.

0:07:25 > 0:07:29Melanie! What are you doing?

0:07:29 > 0:07:35Charlotte is very much a typical teenager. She won't go out unless she looks absolutely spot on.

0:07:37 > 0:07:43Kelly takes 11-month-old Melanie to nursery so that Charlotte can continue her education.

0:07:43 > 0:07:46Mum, try not to forget Melanie's pram this time.

0:07:46 > 0:07:49You could always put the pram in the car yourself.

0:07:49 > 0:07:52- Only if I'm going to be late. - Daniel, have you got your shoes on?

0:07:52 > 0:07:57I don't work, so it gives me the opportunity to provide that support

0:07:57 > 0:08:03for Charlotte, and a lot of people don't have that opportunity.

0:08:03 > 0:08:08I don't think Charlotte realises sometimes exactly how much I do.

0:08:14 > 0:08:16After a long day at college,

0:08:16 > 0:08:20Charlotte is faced with looking after an increasingly active Melanie.

0:08:20 > 0:08:23Melanie is that age where she's climbing on furniture

0:08:23 > 0:08:27and climbing into things, and Charlotte is having to chase her more.

0:08:27 > 0:08:29Melanie! No!

0:08:31 > 0:08:33Melanie! Don't touch!

0:08:33 > 0:08:35No!

0:08:35 > 0:08:38Melanie, no!

0:08:38 > 0:08:41I think she gets overwhelmed by it at times.

0:08:41 > 0:08:48She loves all the good bits, but when it comes to the boring stuff, like the cleaning up after her,

0:08:48 > 0:08:52she sort of reverts back into teenager mode.

0:08:52 > 0:08:56She will be completely and utterly lazy.

0:08:56 > 0:09:01I try and have a good relationship with her. It has been tense since Melanie was born.

0:09:05 > 0:09:09Over the last few weeks, Kelly has become concerned

0:09:09 > 0:09:14that Charlotte's struggling with the increasing demands of motherhood.

0:09:14 > 0:09:19It was all right when Melanie was a little, tiny baby cos she was cute and cuddly but now she's up and...

0:09:19 > 0:09:21Spoilt.

0:09:21 > 0:09:24Yeah, and she's got no routine or bedtime.

0:09:24 > 0:09:26I always have a go at Charlotte for that.

0:09:26 > 0:09:29Well, she was up at 11:45 the other night.

0:09:29 > 0:09:33She's started banging on my walls now so it keeps me up as well.

0:09:33 > 0:09:35She doesn't clean up after her,

0:09:35 > 0:09:40there was a bowl and a half of stuff out there yesterday.

0:09:40 > 0:09:42- Of Melanie's?- And Charlotte's.

0:09:42 > 0:09:49All this washing here was in the basket and she's just thrown it there so she can take the basket.

0:09:50 > 0:09:55It's a shame because I used to think of her as my best friend.

0:09:55 > 0:09:57She was your best child!

0:09:57 > 0:10:01She was your favourite, I remember being so jealous of her.

0:10:01 > 0:10:05- Are you washing your hair? - To try to get Charlotte to do things for herself,

0:10:05 > 0:10:08Kelly has taken radical action.

0:10:08 > 0:10:12I've withdrawn every kind of support from Charlotte.

0:10:12 > 0:10:15You know, I don't cook for her, I don't do her dishes,

0:10:15 > 0:10:17I don't do her washing,

0:10:17 > 0:10:21I don't take Melanie here, there and everywhere for her.

0:10:21 > 0:10:23I don't do any of that.

0:10:23 > 0:10:27I don't understand why she's being the way she is,

0:10:27 > 0:10:31I don't understand what's changed in such a short space of time.

0:10:36 > 0:10:41It's February, and today is Melanie's first birthday party.

0:10:46 > 0:10:49Melanie, shall we bounce?

0:10:49 > 0:10:53Charlotte's relationship with her mum has become so strained

0:10:53 > 0:10:55that Kelly hasn't turned up to the party.

0:10:55 > 0:11:00She didn't tell me she wasn't coming, but she didn't really say she was.

0:11:00 > 0:11:03We're not getting on that well, but she could have turned up.

0:11:03 > 0:11:06At the end of the day, Melanie is never going to be one again.

0:11:06 > 0:11:09It's her loss, not mine.

0:11:13 > 0:11:20In Yorkshire, 16-year-old Natasha has had a change of heart about being a single mum.

0:11:20 > 0:11:22Walk down there and find a bench.

0:11:22 > 0:11:27Baby Levi is no longer the only man in Natasha's life.

0:11:29 > 0:11:33She's got a new boyfriend - 22-year-old catering assistant, Daryl.

0:11:33 > 0:11:38For lunch, usually take her to KFC or something, she's crazy about chicken.

0:11:38 > 0:11:41I want to go on the donkeys!

0:11:41 > 0:11:44You may be just a little bit too big.

0:11:44 > 0:11:49Me and Natasha started talking on Facebook, texting and it progressed from there.

0:11:49 > 0:11:51Wow!

0:11:51 > 0:11:57When I first saw her, they were the first words that I thought.

0:11:57 > 0:11:59- What's that, is it a duck? - Seagull.

0:11:59 > 0:12:02Physical attraction was there.

0:12:02 > 0:12:06Then when we got speaking, you know, I could tell that she was a down to earth girl.

0:12:09 > 0:12:13The thing I like most about Daryl is his personality

0:12:13 > 0:12:17because he's a really nice lad, he actually cares about your feelings.

0:12:17 > 0:12:20It was love at first sight in my eyes, I don't know about him.

0:12:24 > 0:12:30- She's got a very weird, fun personality to be with. - Thank you! Weird.

0:12:30 > 0:12:35I wouldn't change it for anything, that's the main reason why I love her for it.

0:12:38 > 0:12:41Daryl lives 60 miles away from Natasha with his parents

0:12:41 > 0:12:45so to get some time together, they're staying at a bed and breakfast.

0:12:45 > 0:12:51- It's a bit awkward though isn't it? - Yeah, not having a kitchen or 'owt, unless you want Pot Noodles,

0:12:51 > 0:12:54there's not a lot else we can do.

0:12:54 > 0:12:57I think it's nice to be out of Bonnie's house,

0:12:57 > 0:13:03just for the fact you've got time alone and space to do things your own way.

0:13:03 > 0:13:07I find it easier to spend time with him when we're by ourselves with just Levi

0:13:07 > 0:13:10because we get to spend time as a family.

0:13:10 > 0:13:15He tries this best with Levi and I suppose that's all that really matters.

0:13:15 > 0:13:20I honestly don't see a problem with there being children in a relationship already.

0:13:20 > 0:13:26As long as you're willing to love that child as if it's your own, there shouldn't be a problem at all.

0:13:26 > 0:13:30I'm quite lucky so far. He's not done the worst of the three.

0:13:30 > 0:13:32He's not weed on me yet.

0:13:34 > 0:13:37I don't think he needs a lot of directing.

0:13:37 > 0:13:42When he first changed his bum, he went in head first with a smelly one, but he did it OK.

0:13:46 > 0:13:51Natasha and Levi are still sleeping in sister Bonnie's back room.

0:13:51 > 0:13:53Hello, take a seat.

0:13:53 > 0:13:56Today, Natasha's trying to find them a home of their own.

0:13:56 > 0:14:00Do you want to tell me what you're looking for?

0:14:00 > 0:14:04- A two-bedroomed house. - Can I ask, are you working at all?

0:14:04 > 0:14:07- No.- Have you looked into the housing benefit system?

0:14:07 > 0:14:14- See what help you can get. - They said £98 a week.- £98 a week.

0:14:14 > 0:14:17Natasha is eligible for housing benefit,

0:14:17 > 0:14:22so the council will pay towards her rent, but she'll have to come up with a deposit of £400.

0:14:22 > 0:14:29I'm most excited about just having my own space and be able to do what I want.

0:14:29 > 0:14:33Daryl will be coming down during hours that he's not got work.

0:14:33 > 0:14:37We'll have our own place that we can just sit down and talk

0:14:37 > 0:14:40and spend time together without everyone else.

0:14:40 > 0:14:45This is the living room, so you have a real log burning fire there.

0:14:45 > 0:14:49Only one in ten teen mums lives independently.

0:14:49 > 0:14:52Through here you've got your kitchen.

0:14:52 > 0:14:56Since she was 18, Natasha's sister's been in that position,

0:14:56 > 0:15:00with only state benefits for support. Now Natasha faces the same challenges.

0:15:00 > 0:15:04I don't think she's thought about it properly, about living on her own.

0:15:04 > 0:15:06She's got to pay for gas and electricity.

0:15:06 > 0:15:10She needs to sort out all the paperwork for her housing benefit,

0:15:10 > 0:15:13council tax, sort her water out, TV licence.

0:15:13 > 0:15:18- It's going to be difficult. - This is the second bedroom, decorated for the little one.

0:15:18 > 0:15:22I wouldn't say I'm scared about the responsibility,

0:15:22 > 0:15:26run the house, look after Levi, because I've always got help,

0:15:26 > 0:15:33but I'll most probably find it hard after what I've heard from my sisters.

0:15:33 > 0:15:35The house is really nice.

0:15:35 > 0:15:41I didn't think there'd be anything like that with so much furniture already in it.

0:15:41 > 0:15:46Hopefully I can afford it and get moved in as soon as.

0:15:52 > 0:15:56Kieron, you need to go and have a wash, do your teeth and get dressed.

0:15:56 > 0:16:00In North Wales, things between Charlotte and her mum have hit rock bottom.

0:16:00 > 0:16:05Charlotte's in bed this morning. She normally is at this time.

0:16:05 > 0:16:12Since Kelly stopped taking Melanie to nursery, Charlotte's been struggling with college.

0:16:12 > 0:16:14Charlotte can't be bothered getting the bus in the morning

0:16:14 > 0:16:20to take Melanie to the creche so Charlotte doesn't go to college.

0:16:20 > 0:16:22See you later, Mum!

0:16:25 > 0:16:27Nobody does anything for us two.

0:16:27 > 0:16:33It's just like Charlotte's not here, Melanie is here sometimes

0:16:33 > 0:16:38because sometimes they all decide to talk to her and sometimes they decide to walk straight past her.

0:16:40 > 0:16:46Mum don't drop off Melanie any more so I can't really go to college

0:16:46 > 0:16:49so I think I might drop out for the rest of the year.

0:16:49 > 0:16:52She's still got the nursery placement, though.

0:16:52 > 0:16:56Yeah, and how do you expect me to get there?

0:16:56 > 0:17:00Well, you could get up a bit earlier and go by bus.

0:17:00 > 0:17:04Yeah, two buses. Don't think so.

0:17:04 > 0:17:07When I had six kids, I still managed to get you all ready

0:17:07 > 0:17:11and take you to school and go to college.

0:17:11 > 0:17:14Didn't want to go to college anyway. Did me a favour.

0:17:15 > 0:17:18'As long as I was picking up and carrying after her,

0:17:18 > 0:17:23'she was fine to go, but now she's just thrown it all away.'

0:17:23 > 0:17:28If she really wanted to do what she said she wanted to do,

0:17:28 > 0:17:31she'd only have to get up a little bit earlier.

0:17:31 > 0:17:35Maybe not make so much fuss about her hair and her make-up,

0:17:35 > 0:17:37get on a bus and take Melanie to the creche.

0:17:46 > 0:17:52The relationship breakdown is having a knock-on effect on everyone in the house.

0:17:52 > 0:17:54Should be in bed by about eight o'clock.

0:17:54 > 0:17:57- You never take her to bed that early.- That's how much interest you pay to her any more

0:17:57 > 0:18:02- because she's been going to bed at eight o'clock for quite a while. - No, she hasn't.- Yeah, she has.

0:18:02 > 0:18:06- Is this nice, Melanie? - Shut it. I am being nice to you.

0:18:06 > 0:18:12Oh, yeah? So last night when I was shouting you loads and loads and loads and you were ignoring me.

0:18:12 > 0:18:15- You can't expect me to just drop everything for you, love. - Yeah, you should.

0:18:15 > 0:18:20When she's here, you can cut the atmosphere with a knife.

0:18:20 > 0:18:22It's just so tense.

0:18:22 > 0:18:27Everybody is feeling it, and it's horrible living here, it's absolutely horrible.

0:18:29 > 0:18:31Don't even start...

0:18:33 > 0:18:36Right, no more.

0:18:36 > 0:18:38All gone!

0:18:38 > 0:18:41No, it's not yay, naughty.

0:18:41 > 0:18:46Everything is stressing me out at the moment, everything and everyone.

0:18:46 > 0:18:48First, my mum and that lot.

0:18:48 > 0:18:54Second, Melanie, because I'm not used to having her all day, every day.

0:18:54 > 0:18:57Normally if I come in the room, Charlotte leaves.

0:18:57 > 0:18:59If Charlotte's in there, I leave.

0:19:02 > 0:19:04We don't normally sit in a room together any more.

0:19:07 > 0:19:11If we even try and talk, it ends up in row.

0:19:11 > 0:19:15It would be easier if my mum was helping me,

0:19:15 > 0:19:20but I'm not bothering with her, I'm not going to try and make it better anymore.

0:19:20 > 0:19:24I dearly love Melanie and I do love Charlotte,

0:19:24 > 0:19:28but I don't like her, I can't live with her,

0:19:28 > 0:19:30not as she is.

0:19:39 > 0:19:44In Yorkshire, Natasha and Daryl have been going out together for almost three weeks.

0:19:47 > 0:19:52Natasha didn't get the house she wanted because she couldn't afford the deposit,

0:19:52 > 0:19:54but other things in her life are moving on.

0:19:54 > 0:19:59Natasha's dad has received an unexpected request.

0:19:59 > 0:20:04Daryl sent me a message on Facebook asking for my daughter's hand in marriage.

0:20:06 > 0:20:09I was pleased about him sending the message,

0:20:09 > 0:20:14at least I know that he's going to be looking after her and that he likes her.

0:20:14 > 0:20:19I just sent him permission and wished him congratulations.

0:20:19 > 0:20:22I was very nervous of asking Natasha to marry me.

0:20:22 > 0:20:25It's a big commitment at the best of times.

0:20:25 > 0:20:31I wanted to reassure her that I'm not going anywhere, I'm here to stay.

0:20:31 > 0:20:35When I found out he was actually serious, I was very shocked

0:20:35 > 0:20:39because I didn't think it would be for a couple more months, maybe years.

0:20:39 > 0:20:43Let's see your ring. That's really pretty,

0:20:45 > 0:20:47Aw, congratulations.

0:20:47 > 0:20:50Did you get down on one knee and hold her hand?

0:20:50 > 0:20:54Yeah, and she just sat there giggling for a while

0:20:54 > 0:20:56and then turned around and said yes.

0:20:56 > 0:20:58How long have you been together?

0:20:58 > 0:21:01Been together about three weeks.

0:21:01 > 0:21:07- Don't you think people will think that it's a bit sudden? - It feels...I don't know, normal.

0:21:07 > 0:21:09It just felt right.

0:21:14 > 0:21:19In North Wales, there have been massive changes over the last few days.

0:21:20 > 0:21:25Charlotte's mum has thrown her and Melanie out, so they've been taken in by Charlotte's aunt.

0:21:25 > 0:21:30My mum just said all your stuff will be outside by 7pm, don't bother bringing your keys back.

0:21:30 > 0:21:35I've changed the locks so I was like fair enough but that's pretty sad.

0:21:35 > 0:21:37On Monday, everything came to a head.

0:21:37 > 0:21:41We'd had a really horrendous weekend with Charlotte

0:21:41 > 0:21:45I'd said to Charlotte, enough's enough, don't bother coming back today.

0:21:45 > 0:21:51That's it, because I don't want to argue with her any more.

0:21:51 > 0:21:54Right now, I just don't even want to see her.

0:21:54 > 0:21:58I don't really want to go back home, I don't think I'd even be allowed.

0:21:58 > 0:22:03I feel happier anyway, just not coming home to a stressful house

0:22:03 > 0:22:09where it's all tense and stuff, so I do feel a lot better.

0:22:09 > 0:22:15Moving to her aunt's has improved other areas of Charlotte's life, too.

0:22:15 > 0:22:20Now that I'm staying here, I'm closer to Melanie's nursery

0:22:20 > 0:22:25so I'm going back to college full time now.

0:22:25 > 0:22:28I think she'll achieve anything she puts her mind to.

0:22:30 > 0:22:32Anything is possible with her,

0:22:32 > 0:22:38you've just got to work hard and stick to it. Dead proud of you, I am.

0:22:38 > 0:22:43The reason that I do what I do is because

0:22:43 > 0:22:46I don't want to turn out like my mum.

0:22:46 > 0:22:48She doesn't have a job, for whatever reason,

0:22:48 > 0:22:53but I want to try and get one because I know it was a pain in the bum

0:22:53 > 0:22:59seeing my mum sit around all day and it annoyed me so much so I don't want to do that.

0:22:59 > 0:23:04You've got to bear in mind that while Melanie is so young, you're not going to be able to work,

0:23:04 > 0:23:07but you are doing the right thing by bettering yourself.

0:23:07 > 0:23:12I've got that career choice that I want and I'm going to aim for it, even if I have got Melanie.

0:23:12 > 0:23:16- Yeah, and you can study to get that, can't you?- Yeah.

0:23:16 > 0:23:20What do you think I should do next, move out or stay here with you?

0:23:20 > 0:23:24Well, I'd love to have you stay here with me, but it's room, isn't it?

0:23:28 > 0:23:33With eight people living in three bedrooms, social services have deemed the house overcrowded,

0:23:33 > 0:23:37so Charlotte's high priority on the housing waiting list.

0:23:37 > 0:23:38When I get my own place,

0:23:38 > 0:23:43depending on where I end up depends on whether I'll be able to stay at college and stuff,

0:23:43 > 0:23:46it could be harder than what it is now.

0:23:50 > 0:23:55In Yorkshire, Natasha's set a wedding date for later this year.

0:23:55 > 0:23:59- What kind of thing have you got in mind?- A big, princessy one.

0:23:59 > 0:24:04Today, she's on a mission with her sister Bonnie to find her perfect dress.

0:24:05 > 0:24:08Huge layers, nets underneath.

0:24:08 > 0:24:11You've got all this beautiful beading at the top.

0:24:19 > 0:24:24Ahh, you look like a grown up now, you're not my baby sister, I can't poke you no more.

0:24:24 > 0:24:27I was surprised when I heard about the wedding.

0:24:27 > 0:24:32I guess it's when you find the right person, you're happy

0:24:32 > 0:24:34and if things change you can always get a divorce nowadays.

0:24:34 > 0:24:36You look like you're going to cry!

0:24:36 > 0:24:41Oh, come here! You all right? Look at your mum.

0:24:41 > 0:24:47It feels really weird because I didn't think I'd ever get married,

0:24:47 > 0:24:52I never wanted to, but now I just do.

0:24:52 > 0:24:56I've never felt this way that I do with Daryl

0:24:56 > 0:25:01so I'm guessing it just means he is the right man.

0:25:01 > 0:25:05Most people would think I'm stupid and I'm rushing into things.

0:25:05 > 0:25:07I don't feel as if I'm rushing into things,

0:25:07 > 0:25:12it's just one of those heat of the moment things and it feels right.

0:25:12 > 0:25:16- That dress is nice. - Be nicer if it were puffier.

0:25:16 > 0:25:22Natasha is still waiting for her new home, but the wedding plans are on track, if not on budget.

0:25:22 > 0:25:26I want a big cake, a horse and carriage, big dress.

0:25:26 > 0:25:30Something not missed by Daryl, who's using his life savings to pay for the big day.

0:25:30 > 0:25:36I knew there was a lot you needed to finance and sort out,

0:25:36 > 0:25:42but it's more than I expected now, it just keeps getting worse and worse.

0:25:42 > 0:25:44Go and give you a bath.

0:25:44 > 0:25:48I'm feeling more of a family than when I first met Levi.

0:25:48 > 0:25:52I love them both to bits and I wouldn't want to replace them.

0:25:52 > 0:25:56I'm excited very much about my future with Natasha,

0:25:56 > 0:26:00having her and Levi and any future family that we may have.

0:26:00 > 0:26:03- Do you think we'll be like them old people, then?- Hope so.

0:26:03 > 0:26:09I'm not exactly trying to get pregnant because I don't want to get pregnant yet,

0:26:09 > 0:26:13but if I do actually catch pregnant then I'd not get rid of it,

0:26:13 > 0:26:16I'd just work through it like I did Levi.

0:26:17 > 0:26:22It's one of my little dreams, having a relationship, getting married,

0:26:22 > 0:26:25having children and living my life.

0:26:33 > 0:26:36In North Wales, Charlotte and Melanie have moved again.

0:26:36 > 0:26:41My room is the one on the left above the door, with the big bay window.

0:26:41 > 0:26:46Their new home is close to both Melanie's nursery and Charlotte's college,

0:26:46 > 0:26:51but it's only temporary council accommodation in a converted hotel.

0:26:51 > 0:26:56You've got to get in through the front door within a minute or the alarms go off,

0:26:56 > 0:27:00you're not allowed visitors, you've got to be in at 12 o'clock at night,

0:27:00 > 0:27:03but it's a decent place.

0:27:09 > 0:27:14I just hope eventually we'll get back to speaking terms,

0:27:14 > 0:27:19that I can be part of her life and Melanie's. At the end of the day I'm still her mum.

0:27:19 > 0:27:22I still worry about her.

0:27:22 > 0:27:26I don't think we'll sort it out because she's stubborn, I'm stubborn

0:27:26 > 0:27:28and it's just not going to work, is it?

0:27:28 > 0:27:33But I miss my little brothers and my sister. Hopefully I'll still see them.

0:27:33 > 0:27:37Against the odds, Charlotte is back on track to finish her college course.

0:27:37 > 0:27:40I'm still aiming to be a police officer in the long run.

0:27:40 > 0:27:45I don't see why any young mum should not follow what they've always wanted to do.

0:27:45 > 0:27:50Just because they've got a kid it doesn't mean nothing, and they should carry on with their ideas for life.

0:27:56 > 0:28:00Next time, we meet Becky from Fife...

0:28:00 > 0:28:03- What's wrong?- I'm tired, Mum. - It's what it's like being a mum.

0:28:03 > 0:28:05He should have been in his bed ages ago.

0:28:05 > 0:28:08I would like her to bond better with Kenzie.

0:28:08 > 0:28:12- ..and 15-year-old Davita.- Church has been quite a big support at times.

0:28:12 > 0:28:15I think I just cried my way through the first two weeks.

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