0:00:02 > 0:00:04Obesity in Britain has reached crisis level, but for many couples,
0:00:04 > 0:00:07there's one thing that stops them from beating it -
0:00:07 > 0:00:08each other.
0:00:08 > 0:00:11You don't feel so bad, I think, if you've got a partner in crime.
0:00:11 > 0:00:14Stuck in a rut of poor diets and overeating,
0:00:14 > 0:00:17it's threatening not only their health, but their relationships.
0:00:17 > 0:00:20You try to sabotage every time I try to lose weight.
0:00:20 > 0:00:22It's causing us to have the relationship break-up,
0:00:22 > 0:00:23- which is what we don't want.- Yeah.
0:00:23 > 0:00:25'I'm Professor Tanya Byron.
0:00:25 > 0:00:27'I'm a clinical psychologist.
0:00:27 > 0:00:30'I want to try something radical and new.'
0:00:30 > 0:00:31My God!
0:00:31 > 0:00:34Four overweight couples have agreed to live apart...
0:00:34 > 0:00:36We're going to do this, aren't we?
0:00:36 > 0:00:37I love you.
0:00:37 > 0:00:39..because I'm going to separate them.
0:00:39 > 0:00:42Couples stuck in an unhealthy rut can be each other's worst enemies,
0:00:42 > 0:00:46so the theory is, dramatic change happens first
0:00:46 > 0:00:47when we separate the couple.
0:00:47 > 0:00:50I'm glad that he's a bit scared. I am.
0:00:51 > 0:00:53Each week, I'll work with one couple
0:00:53 > 0:00:57to try to get the root of what's behind their overeating.
0:00:57 > 0:00:58'Only when they are away from each other
0:00:58 > 0:01:00'can they start to tackle their demons...'
0:01:00 > 0:01:03This is me worst nightmare, this.
0:01:03 > 0:01:05..and through a health and fitness plan,
0:01:05 > 0:01:07we'll try to change them for good...
0:01:07 > 0:01:08Let's go.
0:01:08 > 0:01:10I've got big feet, this is a disadvantage.
0:01:12 > 0:01:13..and break their bad habits.
0:01:13 > 0:01:15Broccoli.
0:01:15 > 0:01:17Will living apart from each other for ten weeks
0:01:17 > 0:01:20finally succeed when everything else has failed?
0:01:20 > 0:01:23I've wanted to give up at least seven times a day every day.
0:01:23 > 0:01:26If it doesn't work and he's not changed,
0:01:26 > 0:01:28then me and Pete aren't going to work.
0:01:38 > 0:01:40'I like food. I love it.
0:01:40 > 0:01:42'And I love all, like, the bad stuff,'
0:01:42 > 0:01:45all the dead fatty, like, junk food -
0:01:45 > 0:01:47kebab...
0:01:47 > 0:01:49chippy, Chinese...
0:01:49 > 0:01:51Yeah, I like all that.
0:01:51 > 0:01:53And Pete does too, so...
0:01:53 > 0:01:55- SHE LAUGHS - ..perfect match.
0:01:57 > 0:02:01Salesman Pete and his partner Celena live in Warrington with son Cameron
0:02:01 > 0:02:05and Kayleigh, Celena's daughter from a previous relationship.
0:02:05 > 0:02:08Food has been at the centre of their lives since they met.
0:02:08 > 0:02:11'We met on the internet.'
0:02:11 > 0:02:13Plenty of Fish, to be precise.
0:02:13 > 0:02:17That first date, he spent a fortune on food.
0:02:17 > 0:02:20I'm a feeder, so I am probably the worst.
0:02:23 > 0:02:27Pete does most of the cooking at home and he's proud of his recipes.
0:02:27 > 0:02:30We're having beans with half a tub of butter.
0:02:30 > 0:02:33And loads of chips with everything.
0:02:33 > 0:02:36That's going to fall everywhere. You gave me too much chips.
0:02:36 > 0:02:39But there is one thing that is in none of his recipes.
0:02:39 > 0:02:41He hates vegetables.
0:02:41 > 0:02:43He's like a child.
0:02:43 > 0:02:44'I don't do veg.'
0:02:44 > 0:02:47If it's green, it's mean. I'm terrible for it.
0:02:47 > 0:02:51Celena has put on 5st in the three years they've been together.
0:02:51 > 0:02:55Now it is threatening not just her health, but also their relationship.
0:02:55 > 0:02:57'Pete wants to get married,'
0:02:57 > 0:03:01but there's absolutely no way that I'm going to get married this size.
0:03:01 > 0:03:02No way.
0:03:02 > 0:03:04It frustrates the hell out of me
0:03:04 > 0:03:07because it's one excuse after another.
0:03:07 > 0:03:09Don't know - it could split us up.
0:03:11 > 0:03:14I hate what I see in that mirror. I hate it.
0:03:14 > 0:03:18As a trainee midwife, she feels her whole future is at stake.
0:03:18 > 0:03:23A big part of the midwife's role is health promotion.
0:03:23 > 0:03:26I just look fat. I look unhealthy.
0:03:27 > 0:03:29It's hypocritical.
0:03:30 > 0:03:33And daughter Kayleigh fears that she and her mother are growing apart.
0:03:33 > 0:03:36We don't spend quality time together.
0:03:36 > 0:03:40Sport, activities like rock climbing, and all that...
0:03:40 > 0:03:44We can't do it because of my mum's weight, so it's a bit upsetting.
0:03:45 > 0:03:48I'm definitely stuck in limbo.
0:03:48 > 0:03:50I want to get my life back.
0:03:50 > 0:03:54Celena has tried to lose weight many times.
0:03:54 > 0:03:56'I've been on every diet you can think of -'
0:03:56 > 0:03:59Weight Watchers, Slimming World, Atkins...
0:03:59 > 0:04:04Been on milkshakes, where you don't eat anything, cabbage soup...
0:04:04 > 0:04:06'You name it, I've done it.'
0:04:06 > 0:04:08So now she and Pete have made the brave decision
0:04:08 > 0:04:11to separate for ten weeks.
0:04:11 > 0:04:13My coping mechanism is going to be fishing.
0:04:13 > 0:04:16I'm going to get as much of that in as I can.
0:04:16 > 0:04:19- HE LAUGHS - You're not going to lose much weight fishing, are you?
0:04:19 > 0:04:20HE LAUGHS
0:04:20 > 0:04:22It's not funny, love.
0:04:22 > 0:04:24It isn't funny. I think it's going to be dead hard.
0:04:24 > 0:04:26I wish you'd be bleedin' serious.
0:04:26 > 0:04:28I'm a bit scared.
0:04:29 > 0:04:32Reality's hitting now that this is it and...
0:04:33 > 0:04:34..it is going to be hard.
0:04:41 > 0:04:44Today they have come to London to meet me before they separate.
0:04:47 > 0:04:48CELENA SIGHS
0:04:48 > 0:04:52Since meeting three years ago, they haven't spent a single night apart,
0:04:52 > 0:04:55but this could be the only way to fix their health
0:04:55 > 0:04:56and their relationship.
0:04:56 > 0:04:58'This, for me, is about couples
0:04:58 > 0:05:00'who can become each other's own worst enemies
0:05:00 > 0:05:02'and so, for Peter and Celena,
0:05:02 > 0:05:05'we're going to begin with a ten-week separation,'
0:05:05 > 0:05:07which is an incredibly brave and courageous thing
0:05:07 > 0:05:11for them to agree to. But really to address their issues as a couple,
0:05:11 > 0:05:14they first have to spend time understanding themselves.
0:05:14 > 0:05:16It's massive.
0:05:16 > 0:05:18- Massive.- It's a massive thing.
0:05:18 > 0:05:21This is the first day of the rest of our lives.
0:05:21 > 0:05:25Helping me crack their deep-seated bad habits while they are apart
0:05:25 > 0:05:27is behavioural scientist Paul Dolan
0:05:27 > 0:05:30and physiologist Rick Shakes-Braithwaite.
0:05:31 > 0:05:32Before they meet me,
0:05:32 > 0:05:36they must first undergo a series of fitness and heath tests with Rick,
0:05:36 > 0:05:39just to see how serious things have got.
0:05:39 > 0:05:40- Celena.- Hi, Rick.
0:05:40 > 0:05:42Come on through.
0:05:42 > 0:05:45- We're going to start off with a breath test.- Right. That's fine.
0:05:45 > 0:05:46- HE BLOWS OUT - Hard as you can.
0:05:46 > 0:05:48SHE INHALES
0:05:48 > 0:05:50SHE BLOWS
0:05:50 > 0:05:51Step up.
0:05:51 > 0:05:55The tests will help us design a food plan and exercise regime
0:05:55 > 0:05:57that will be tailor-made to both Peter and Celena
0:05:57 > 0:05:59during the separation...
0:05:59 > 0:06:01The body composition machine is calculating...
0:06:01 > 0:06:03- MACHINE BLEEPS - ..not just what your weight is,
0:06:03 > 0:06:05but water levels, muscle tissue.
0:06:05 > 0:06:08- It's about what you're actually made of.- Yeah.
0:06:08 > 0:06:11- Now I want to do some fitness tests. - Oh, God!
0:06:11 > 0:06:14..and flag up any telltale warning signs of ill health
0:06:14 > 0:06:16before it's too late.
0:06:18 > 0:06:21- I think that's it.- That's it? - I've got a bit of a sweat on now!
0:06:21 > 0:06:22SHE LAUGHS
0:06:22 > 0:06:25More than 60% of people put on weight
0:06:25 > 0:06:27when they're in a comfortable relationship.
0:06:27 > 0:06:30Ten weeks apart and without the influence of each other,
0:06:30 > 0:06:34Pete and Celena can finally tackle their individual bad habits
0:06:34 > 0:06:36and so give themselves a greater chance
0:06:36 > 0:06:39to lose weight and improve their health.
0:06:39 > 0:06:41- It's very nice to meet you.- You too.
0:06:41 > 0:06:43You are, as a couple, your own worst enemies.
0:06:43 > 0:06:45Is one of you more a problem than the other?
0:06:45 > 0:06:49- PETE CHUCKLES - Me - I'm a classic feeder.
0:06:49 > 0:06:51Not in the way that he wants me to get bigger
0:06:51 > 0:06:54because he likes bigger women. He just wants to make me happy.
0:06:54 > 0:06:57- So it's how you show people you care for them.- Yeah, yeah.- Right.
0:06:57 > 0:07:00If I say to Pete, "Pick us up a bar of chocolate,"
0:07:00 > 0:07:03he'll get four or five different kinds.
0:07:03 > 0:07:05He's, like, giving me permission then.
0:07:05 > 0:07:07It's all right if I eat all them.
0:07:07 > 0:07:11- Right.- I've always been big, but never this big.
0:07:11 > 0:07:15I'm going to ask Rick to talk through the test results.
0:07:17 > 0:07:19Peter, I'm going to start with you.
0:07:19 > 0:07:23I think your biggest downfall could be complacency.
0:07:24 > 0:07:29Your current weight is 15st and 3lbs.
0:07:29 > 0:07:33Of that weight, 40% of it is just fat.
0:07:33 > 0:07:38A normal body mass index runs between 18.5 and 25.
0:07:38 > 0:07:43At the moment you're at 32.7, so you're outside the normal range,
0:07:43 > 0:07:45into the obese range.
0:07:45 > 0:07:47You have a diet that's low in fibre,
0:07:47 > 0:07:49very high in sugar,
0:07:49 > 0:07:51with a lot of toxins in it.
0:07:51 > 0:07:55That significantly increases your risk of getting cancer.
0:07:56 > 0:07:58Celena.
0:07:58 > 0:07:59CELENA CHUCKLES
0:08:01 > 0:08:04- BMI runs from 18 to 25.- Mm-hmm.
0:08:04 > 0:08:08You're at 48.5.
0:08:08 > 0:08:11You're not just in the obese range - you're on the highest category -
0:08:11 > 0:08:14so you run the highest risk of developing diabetes,
0:08:14 > 0:08:15heart disease and stroke.
0:08:15 > 0:08:20- Mm-hmm.- Your current weight at the moment is 21st.
0:08:21 > 0:08:24- I'm absolutely mortified! - PETE LAUGHS
0:08:24 > 0:08:25- Are you?- I'm mortified, yeah.
0:08:25 > 0:08:27I'm absolutely mortified about it,
0:08:27 > 0:08:30and embarrassed and disgusted with meself.
0:08:30 > 0:08:31- Tell me why...- Oh, don't! - CELENA LAUGHS
0:08:31 > 0:08:33Oh, I'm sorry.
0:08:33 > 0:08:35- I'm sorry. Sorry.- It's all right.
0:08:35 > 0:08:37SHE SNIFFS
0:08:37 > 0:08:38SHE SIGHS
0:08:39 > 0:08:42Even being in your own body is a real challenge for you.
0:08:44 > 0:08:45I hate it.
0:08:45 > 0:08:47- Yeah.- You hate it?- Yeah, I hate it.
0:08:47 > 0:08:50That is a really harsh thing for you to say.
0:08:50 > 0:08:54The more you hate yourself, the less likely you are
0:08:54 > 0:08:56to really make the changes we need.
0:08:56 > 0:08:59- Yeah.- Does it make you think any differently about Celena?
0:08:59 > 0:09:02No. She knows I love her for who she is, not what she is.
0:09:02 > 0:09:04This is a tough question.
0:09:05 > 0:09:10If you know that the woman you love more than anybody else in the world
0:09:10 > 0:09:13is seriously deeply unhappy with the way that she looks,
0:09:13 > 0:09:16- why...?- Why do I buy that chocolate? - Why do you feed her?
0:09:16 > 0:09:20I don't know, cos it's never been put in this light to me, has it?
0:09:20 > 0:09:21What are you hearing?
0:09:21 > 0:09:23That I'm not helping things.
0:09:23 > 0:09:24Making things worse.
0:09:26 > 0:09:28I've never thought of it along them lines.
0:09:28 > 0:09:30It feels pretty brutal.
0:09:31 > 0:09:33CELENA SIGHS But big behavioural factors
0:09:33 > 0:09:36are really contributing to these issues.
0:09:36 > 0:09:38Listening to Rick tell you your weights,
0:09:38 > 0:09:40I've worked out, in the time that you've been with each other,
0:09:40 > 0:09:42over the last three years -
0:09:42 > 0:09:44Peter, you've gained about 1lb a month,
0:09:44 > 0:09:46Celena, you about 2lbs a month.
0:09:46 > 0:09:48God!
0:09:48 > 0:09:54Without changing, in another 12 months, you're 24lbs heavier.
0:09:54 > 0:09:56- And so it will go on.- Yeah.
0:09:56 > 0:09:59The 2lbs a month that you're gaining
0:09:59 > 0:10:00come from the chocolate bars
0:10:00 > 0:10:03- that are provided by the man that loves you.- Yeah.
0:10:03 > 0:10:08Which is preventing you making the commitment in marriage
0:10:08 > 0:10:10that you so desperately want.
0:10:10 > 0:10:13So what I'm seeing is a vicious cycle
0:10:13 > 0:10:17and that's what my role will be - to help you break.
0:10:19 > 0:10:21And now it's the separation. CELENA SIGHS
0:10:21 > 0:10:23I'll go outside. Leave you together.
0:10:28 > 0:10:30- HE LAUGHS AND SOBS - You all right?
0:10:31 > 0:10:33- You OK?- Yeah.
0:10:38 > 0:10:40It's only ten weeks, isn't it?
0:10:40 > 0:10:42It's hard, though.
0:10:42 > 0:10:44HE SIGHS
0:10:44 > 0:10:45HE SNIFFS
0:10:56 > 0:10:58- I'm all right. Yeah?- Yeah.
0:10:58 > 0:11:00- I love ya.- Love ya.
0:11:06 > 0:11:09From now on, Pete is off to live on his own.
0:11:09 > 0:11:11Although he will get to see his son Cameron,
0:11:11 > 0:11:16it'll be ten long weeks before Pete sets eyes on Celena again.
0:11:18 > 0:11:19It's really surprised me.
0:11:19 > 0:11:21I didn't think I'd get upset, I didn't think Peter'd get upset.
0:11:21 > 0:11:25- What do you think has shocked him? - I think he feels a bit guilty now.
0:11:26 > 0:11:29- Me head's chocka. - HE CHUCKLES
0:11:29 > 0:11:31I feel angry with myself.
0:11:31 > 0:11:34Put it one way - it's opened my eyes, big-style.
0:11:34 > 0:11:38It's given us the kick up the bum that we both needed.
0:11:38 > 0:11:40Now's definitely the time to change.
0:11:49 > 0:11:51To help them focus on themselves,
0:11:51 > 0:11:55Pete and Celena agreed to have no contact for the first three weeks.
0:11:56 > 0:11:58Pete has moved into his sister's apartment
0:11:58 > 0:12:0020 miles away in Liverpool...
0:12:00 > 0:12:04I'm missing Celena immensely. I feel like I've lost a part of me.
0:12:05 > 0:12:09..while Celena will stay at home in Warrington.
0:12:09 > 0:12:11Today her best friend Jenny has popped round
0:12:11 > 0:12:13to offer some moral support.
0:12:13 > 0:12:15- Hello!- Hello!
0:12:15 > 0:12:16How was he when you left him?
0:12:16 > 0:12:18Upset. He was crying.
0:12:19 > 0:12:20Aww...
0:12:20 > 0:12:22THEY LAUGH
0:12:22 > 0:12:26No, it was, it was horrible. It was dead hard, you know.
0:12:26 > 0:12:27But you've not had to worry thinking,
0:12:27 > 0:12:31"Oh, will Peter like this, what I'm eating?" Cos he's not here.
0:12:31 > 0:12:32Yeah.
0:12:32 > 0:12:33To help them lose weight,
0:12:33 > 0:12:37a dietician has given Pete and Celena a food plan.
0:12:37 > 0:12:39There are no banned foods.
0:12:39 > 0:12:41Home-made pizza - we could do that.
0:12:41 > 0:12:43- What is falafel?- Falafel?
0:12:43 > 0:12:44I don't know.
0:12:44 > 0:12:47Instead, they must count every calorie they consume.
0:12:47 > 0:12:49- Have you seen the portion sizes? - Yeah.
0:12:49 > 0:12:52- CELENA LAUGHS - You're going to starve to death. - I know!
0:12:52 > 0:12:56Before now, Celena would eat up to 3,000 calories a day -
0:12:56 > 0:12:591,000 more than the recommended daily allowance for a woman.
0:12:59 > 0:13:01I'm going to use Cameron's bowl.
0:13:01 > 0:13:02Oh, God!
0:13:02 > 0:13:04THEY LAUGH
0:13:05 > 0:13:09Rick wants them to lose an average of 2lbs a week
0:13:09 > 0:13:13and, for Pete, his whole lifestyle has been turned upside down.
0:13:13 > 0:13:14It feels extremely different.
0:13:14 > 0:13:17The Volvic water would've been bottles of Pepsi.
0:13:18 > 0:13:20Really nice, that stuff, you know?
0:13:21 > 0:13:24But it's not just their diet that needs to change.
0:13:24 > 0:13:29Rick has calculated that Pete needs lose 4.5 stone in body fat
0:13:29 > 0:13:30to be a functional weight.
0:13:32 > 0:13:35But he is worried that Pete may be complacent about this challenge.
0:13:35 > 0:13:38He hasn't exercised in three years.
0:13:38 > 0:13:41I'm going to send him on a trip into the future - a year from now -
0:13:41 > 0:13:44and show him exactly what will happen if he continues
0:13:44 > 0:13:48to keep putting on weight the way he has since he met Celena.
0:13:48 > 0:13:50- Buddy, how are you doing? - I'm all right, Rick.
0:13:50 > 0:13:51So...
0:13:52 > 0:13:54- It's a Rocky movie.- Aye!
0:13:54 > 0:13:57- I'm Apollo Creed, you're Rocky.- OK!
0:13:57 > 0:13:58Second boat.
0:13:58 > 0:13:59Steady jog. Go for it.
0:14:03 > 0:14:04Breathe consistently.
0:14:05 > 0:14:07PETE PANTS
0:14:07 > 0:14:11He needs to understand, if he keeps eating badly and not exercising,
0:14:11 > 0:14:13where he's going to be a year from now.
0:14:13 > 0:14:16Welcome to your weight next year...
0:14:16 > 0:14:18if you stay doing what you're doing.
0:14:18 > 0:14:19Ohh...
0:14:19 > 0:14:21How does it feel now?
0:14:22 > 0:14:24- Heavy.- Come on, bud, let's go.
0:14:24 > 0:14:30Since he met Celena three years ago, Pete has put on around 1lb a month.
0:14:30 > 0:14:33What he's put on there is another stone and a quarter.
0:14:33 > 0:14:36Our projection was a stone, so I've put a little bit more
0:14:36 > 0:14:39cos he's probably going to continue eating badly, not exercising more,
0:14:39 > 0:14:41his metabolism is slowing down,
0:14:41 > 0:14:43so I think a stone and a quarter is a fair estimate.
0:14:43 > 0:14:45It's going to change him.
0:14:46 > 0:14:47PETE SIGHS
0:14:47 > 0:14:49- How are you feeling?- Oh... - PETE PANTS
0:14:49 > 0:14:51Goosed!
0:14:52 > 0:14:55So what you've put on... You feeling sick?
0:14:55 > 0:14:58HE RETCHES
0:15:01 > 0:15:02I can't...
0:15:03 > 0:15:05- What the- BLEEP?
0:15:05 > 0:15:07- Can I take this off for a minute? - Yeah, of course you can.
0:15:07 > 0:15:09- It's...- Stifling.- Yeah, yeah.
0:15:11 > 0:15:12Just bend down.
0:15:12 > 0:15:13That's it.
0:15:16 > 0:15:18- How does that feel?- It feels better.
0:15:18 > 0:15:22I want you to not forget how awful you feel,
0:15:22 > 0:15:26just going down there and back. Not very far.
0:15:26 > 0:15:28Not far at all. Do you get the point?
0:15:28 > 0:15:31That if I don't start changing now, it's going to be that plus more that I am carrying.
0:15:31 > 0:15:34I won't even be able to take me kids out for a walk.
0:15:34 > 0:15:36- Couldn't take yourself out for a walk.- No, no.
0:15:36 > 0:15:37You need to eat properly now.
0:15:37 > 0:15:41You need to take care of yourself for the rest of your life. Good.
0:15:41 > 0:15:43Let's start doing some exercise.
0:15:43 > 0:15:45- I was looking forward to this day. - Push-ups.
0:15:45 > 0:15:49I've never been able to do push-ups in my whole entire life. OK?
0:15:49 > 0:15:51Push-ups with a difference.
0:15:51 > 0:15:54Rick hopes that he has shocked Pete into action but, to make sure
0:15:54 > 0:15:58he keeps it up, he sets him a series of exercises to do every day.
0:15:58 > 0:15:59Now we're going to do butt taps.
0:15:59 > 0:16:03The resistance training, combined with running, will help him not
0:16:03 > 0:16:07only lose weight but also keep it off as it reduces stored body fat.
0:16:07 > 0:16:08No pain, no gain, lad!
0:16:08 > 0:16:13But changing bad habits built up over a lifetime
0:16:13 > 0:16:14is not going to be easy.
0:16:14 > 0:16:18Pete and Celena have always been a bad influence on each other
0:16:18 > 0:16:21when it comes to food and they've piled on the weight.
0:16:21 > 0:16:23But through separation,
0:16:23 > 0:16:26I want to get to the root of what's caused this.
0:16:26 > 0:16:29Today, I've come to Warrington to meet with Celena to try to
0:16:29 > 0:16:32understand HER bad relationship with food.
0:16:32 > 0:16:33- Hello.- Hi.
0:16:33 > 0:16:36- How are you?- You OK?- Yeah, I'm good.
0:16:38 > 0:16:41I need to understand where this began.
0:16:41 > 0:16:43I've always been the biggest out of all me friends,
0:16:43 > 0:16:46even through school, and then I had Kayleigh quite young
0:16:46 > 0:16:49and it was so hard bringing Kayleigh up on me own.
0:16:49 > 0:16:51Presumably, if you're then at home
0:16:51 > 0:16:56and your friends are out having fun, how do you comfort yourself?
0:16:56 > 0:16:58- Getting a pizza, or... - Get a pizza, yeah.
0:16:58 > 0:17:01- So the whole thing becomes a self-perpetuating cycle.- Yeah.
0:17:01 > 0:17:03It's like a snowball rolling downhill -
0:17:03 > 0:17:06- it just gets bigger and bigger and bigger.- Yeah.
0:17:06 > 0:17:10I hate how I look. I put on this big front that I'm happy
0:17:10 > 0:17:15and it's easy to do. It is easy to do but I'm not happy.
0:17:15 > 0:17:17Pete going out and buying the five chocolate bars -
0:17:17 > 0:17:19- although he did it to make you happy...- Yeah.
0:17:19 > 0:17:22- ..it was almost like he was your dealer...- Yeah.- ..in a way.
0:17:22 > 0:17:24- I'm dead angry.- Yeah.- Yeah.
0:17:24 > 0:17:27And the anger WILL sabotage this.
0:17:27 > 0:17:30You'll go back to binge eating. We've got to get you happy now.
0:17:30 > 0:17:34I feel like you're asking the impossible.
0:17:34 > 0:17:37I think, if you come with it with a psychological mind-set
0:17:37 > 0:17:40- "I'm doing a diet to lose weight", you'll fail.- Yeah.
0:17:40 > 0:17:44If you come at it with the psychological mind-set that is
0:17:44 > 0:17:48- "I am changing my life and my lifestyle..."- Yeah.
0:17:48 > 0:17:51- "..and this is it now", you won't fail.- Yeah.
0:17:53 > 0:17:55I always find it really heart-breaking
0:17:55 > 0:17:58when I talk to women like Celena,
0:17:58 > 0:18:02who have such profoundly low self-esteem.
0:18:02 > 0:18:04And obviously, in order for Celena to succeed at this,
0:18:04 > 0:18:08she has to actually feel very positive and strong
0:18:08 > 0:18:11and that's going to be tough for her, I think.
0:18:11 > 0:18:15For now, nearing the end of the first week, Celena is sticking to
0:18:15 > 0:18:18her food plan and making healthy meals and snacks to get her
0:18:18 > 0:18:20through a shift at work.
0:18:20 > 0:18:25As a trainee midwife, three days a week, she works the night shift,
0:18:25 > 0:18:27but her body is fighting back.
0:18:27 > 0:18:32Absolutely gagging for carbs -
0:18:32 > 0:18:38crumpets with butter or...some toast.
0:18:40 > 0:18:43But instead, I've got a fat-free yoghurt,
0:18:43 > 0:18:46so I'm going to eat that instead.
0:18:46 > 0:18:50And...like, try and fight my craving.
0:18:50 > 0:18:52To help, I've asked Rick to pay her a visit.
0:18:55 > 0:18:59Now I work in hospitals and I have this everywhere I go.
0:18:59 > 0:19:01The resistance band!
0:19:01 > 0:19:02Let's work the arms a little bit,
0:19:02 > 0:19:05get the circulation flowing with the bicep curls.
0:19:05 > 0:19:07Up and down. Up and down.
0:19:08 > 0:19:11SHE STRAINS
0:19:11 > 0:19:12Pump some blood into these arms.
0:19:12 > 0:19:15I can use that at home as well.
0:19:15 > 0:19:18People who take on the night shift don't realise just how much
0:19:18 > 0:19:21havoc it will play with your body,
0:19:21 > 0:19:23but there are some simple things that you can do.
0:19:23 > 0:19:26Do some stretches. Doing a couple of stretches will help
0:19:26 > 0:19:28improve the circulation and,
0:19:28 > 0:19:32- by doing so, help you with the shift itself.- Mm-hm.
0:19:32 > 0:19:35Waiting for a patient, waiting for a phone call.
0:19:35 > 0:19:38I've never thought about giving myself five minutes
0:19:38 > 0:19:40and just looking after myself.
0:19:40 > 0:19:43It can only be a good thing, can't it?
0:19:43 > 0:19:46But if she is really going to reach Rick's target
0:19:46 > 0:19:48of losing 2lbs a week, she'll need to do more.
0:19:50 > 0:19:53So the key thing with your programmes
0:19:53 > 0:19:55- is to have them really short and succinct...- Right.
0:19:55 > 0:19:56- ..so it's more manageable.- OK.
0:19:56 > 0:19:59So come on down.
0:20:00 > 0:20:01Can't do these.
0:20:01 > 0:20:04- Just start from this position and it's... - HE BREATHES
0:20:04 > 0:20:06That's it. Perfect. That's exactly it.
0:20:06 > 0:20:08That's excellent. That's fine.
0:20:08 > 0:20:10Rick gives Celena an eight-minute workout
0:20:10 > 0:20:13specifically designed for her needs.
0:20:13 > 0:20:14One last time.
0:20:14 > 0:20:16Oh, my God! He's going to kill me!
0:20:16 > 0:20:19We're going to hold back for 30 seconds.
0:20:19 > 0:20:22It's not going to be easy but, if she follows this routine every day,
0:20:22 > 0:20:25she should start to see a change in her body shape.
0:20:25 > 0:20:27I need like a safe word!
0:20:27 > 0:20:29SHE LAUGHS
0:20:31 > 0:20:32After just two weeks apart,
0:20:32 > 0:20:37the separation is beginning to take its toll on Pete.
0:20:37 > 0:20:41I'm feeling at the moment that it's an uphill battle on my own.
0:20:41 > 0:20:42It's killing me being away from her
0:20:42 > 0:20:45- and it's killing me being away from the kids.- Yeah.
0:20:45 > 0:20:47It's just doing my head in.
0:20:47 > 0:20:51With the help of best mate Danny, he's trying to follow Rick's
0:20:51 > 0:20:52exercise programme.
0:20:52 > 0:20:54One more.
0:20:54 > 0:20:56But it doesn't come naturally.
0:20:56 > 0:20:57HE LAUGHS
0:20:57 > 0:20:59- Don't, I'm getting- BLEEP- off!
0:20:59 > 0:21:02- It hurts. I know it hurts. - It's just this- BLEEP- stretch, mate.
0:21:02 > 0:21:05When we were kids in school, when it came to PE or anything like that,
0:21:05 > 0:21:09he was always the one that used to sit out of everything.
0:21:10 > 0:21:13At home, he is sticking to the food plan,
0:21:13 > 0:21:16but the concept of eating less is all a bit alien to him.
0:21:16 > 0:21:19I've never stood like this making a meal, thinking that
0:21:19 > 0:21:22I'm proper starving. It's only since doing this,
0:21:22 > 0:21:25so I don't know whether it's portion size or what.
0:21:25 > 0:21:28I'm just going to have to go through it all properly.
0:21:29 > 0:21:32I feel it's about time I paid Pete a visit
0:21:32 > 0:21:34to try and understand HIM a bit more.
0:21:35 > 0:21:37There's issues around habits and behaviour
0:21:37 > 0:21:40that have to be thought about, have to be understood,
0:21:40 > 0:21:43because understanding is fundamental to behaviour change.
0:21:43 > 0:21:46- How are you?- Nice to see you. - Yeah, really nice to see you.
0:21:46 > 0:21:49- Yeah. Go through.- Thank you.
0:21:49 > 0:21:52I wanted to sort of ask you about your own childhood.
0:21:52 > 0:21:54Do you have any pictures?
0:21:54 > 0:21:56Some childhood photographs.
0:21:56 > 0:21:58Have you?
0:21:58 > 0:22:00Oh, so how old are you here?
0:22:00 > 0:22:03- Around 16.- And already you can see you're carrying some extra weight.
0:22:03 > 0:22:04Terrible, this one, you know!
0:22:04 > 0:22:06How many years ago is this?
0:22:06 > 0:22:0913 years ago, so I would have been around about 21 there.
0:22:09 > 0:22:11- So you're quite big there.- Yeah.
0:22:11 > 0:22:15It's in the family. It's been in the family, you know.
0:22:15 > 0:22:18My dad's been big from what I can remember.
0:22:18 > 0:22:22Now me dad is in constant pain with his back and his knees.
0:22:22 > 0:22:25He's a poorly man.
0:22:25 > 0:22:27There's a history of weight within the family.
0:22:27 > 0:22:30So clearly, if we look at that photo,
0:22:30 > 0:22:32- there's also a history of... - Bad habits.- ..bad habits.
0:22:32 > 0:22:34Every Friday, we had a chippy tea.
0:22:34 > 0:22:35Did you have a treat cupboard?
0:22:35 > 0:22:38Yeah, we had a box in the fridge with chocolate in.
0:22:38 > 0:22:42- A box?- No, just like a little... You know, like the drawers that are meant to be for veg.
0:22:42 > 0:22:45So the vegetable drawer in the fridge was filled with chocolate and stuff?
0:22:45 > 0:22:48"If it's green, it's mean" is my theory.
0:22:48 > 0:22:51- You're like a four-year-old... - Yeah, I am.- ..with vegetables.
0:22:51 > 0:22:53So you can see, over the years,
0:22:53 > 0:22:56how it's having this really negative knock-on effect.
0:22:56 > 0:22:59I need to get you to drag it to the front of your mind
0:22:59 > 0:23:01so you're really, really aware, all the time,
0:23:01 > 0:23:03of the choices you're making.
0:23:03 > 0:23:07It's make or break, so it's got to be make.
0:23:12 > 0:23:14After three weeks living apart,
0:23:14 > 0:23:17Celena seems more determined than ever.
0:23:17 > 0:23:18Yeah, I love it.
0:23:18 > 0:23:21Inspired by Rick's fitness regime, she has signed herself up
0:23:21 > 0:23:25- to regular training at boot camp. - Oh, my God!
0:23:25 > 0:23:29She is going swimming twice a week and is sticking to the food plan.
0:23:29 > 0:23:32I am not going to give up.
0:23:32 > 0:23:35And the reason that I am not going to give up is because Pete
0:23:35 > 0:23:38is learning to change his behaviour, as well.
0:23:38 > 0:23:41Whereas before, when I've done really well,
0:23:41 > 0:23:46erm...Pete would suggest, you know, we go out or
0:23:46 > 0:23:49"You have been really good. Let's have a takeaway tonight."
0:23:49 > 0:23:52But he's not going to be doing that.
0:23:52 > 0:23:54I am confident that Pete won't let me down.
0:23:55 > 0:23:57No pressure, like!
0:23:58 > 0:23:59I'll kill him!
0:23:59 > 0:24:02RAP MUSIC
0:24:05 > 0:24:08But for Pete, temptation is just round the corner.
0:24:08 > 0:24:11I've got me summer ball for work tomorrow.
0:24:11 > 0:24:14Been drumming my brain over what to drink,
0:24:14 > 0:24:18cos obviously, I'm thinking about calories.
0:24:18 > 0:24:21So, I think I'm going to drink vodka and slimline tonic.
0:24:27 > 0:24:31At me summer ball, I ended up on the pints and I had quite a few more
0:24:31 > 0:24:33than what I intended on.
0:24:33 > 0:24:36So, I ended up having a takeaway on Saturday.
0:24:36 > 0:24:40I'm not going to lie, like! I did enjoy it a little bit,
0:24:40 > 0:24:43but I just felt like I had let myself down
0:24:43 > 0:24:46and, obviously, I have let Celena down, as well.
0:24:47 > 0:24:48No, no!
0:24:50 > 0:24:52Celena and Pete have separated,
0:24:52 > 0:24:55so that they can work on their individual issues.
0:24:55 > 0:24:57In this process, honesty is key
0:24:57 > 0:24:58and so it's important that the couple
0:24:58 > 0:25:01share both their successes and their slip-ups.
0:25:01 > 0:25:03Oh, me stomach is proper killing, like.
0:25:03 > 0:25:05It's proper doing backflips.
0:25:05 > 0:25:09Today, they get to talk to each other for the first time.
0:25:09 > 0:25:12I'm excited to speak to him and see what he has been up to.
0:25:13 > 0:25:16RINGTONE
0:25:21 > 0:25:27- Hello.- Hello! You all right? - Yeah, are you?- Yeah.
0:25:27 > 0:25:28Have you been missing me?
0:25:28 > 0:25:30Yeah, a little bit.
0:25:30 > 0:25:33I've been missing you loads. It's horrible, because...
0:25:33 > 0:25:35- SHE LAUGHS - I have, like.
0:25:35 > 0:25:37- How are you doing? - I've been doing well,
0:25:37 > 0:25:41except, I had a little bit of a slip, at the weekend.
0:25:42 > 0:25:43Oh, was it your works do?
0:25:43 > 0:25:47I ended up on the pints and I had a few more than what I expected to.
0:25:47 > 0:25:49- Oh, did ya?- About 15.
0:25:49 > 0:25:53- 15 pints?!- Yeah.- Shut up!- Yeah.
0:25:53 > 0:25:55I ended up getting a takeaway.
0:25:56 > 0:26:00- You had a takeaway.- Yeah. - What did you have?
0:26:00 > 0:26:02Fried rice, chips and beef curry.
0:26:02 > 0:26:07- Shut up!- Yeah.- I thought you were going to try dead hard?
0:26:07 > 0:26:10I have tried dead hard. I've done dead well, other than that.
0:26:10 > 0:26:12Other than your 15 pints and your Chinese,
0:26:12 > 0:26:15to get over your hangover and stuff? Tell Daddy to work harder.
0:26:17 > 0:26:19Bit harder.
0:26:19 > 0:26:24- Work harder. Say, "No more beer." - No beer.- "No Chinese."
0:26:24 > 0:26:27- No Chinese. - "Be a good boy."- Be a good boy.
0:26:27 > 0:26:29Good boy. Love you.
0:26:29 > 0:26:31- Say, "I love you".- Love you.
0:26:31 > 0:26:33Love ya. Ta-ra. Ta-ra.
0:26:33 > 0:26:34Ta-ra. Ta-ra.
0:26:36 > 0:26:38I need to get things sorted.
0:26:38 > 0:26:41From the 15 pints he drank, Pete will have consumed around
0:26:41 > 0:26:44- 2,800 calories...- I feel stressed.
0:26:44 > 0:26:46..and that doesn't include the takeaway.
0:26:46 > 0:26:50He is supposed to be on around 1,450 a day.
0:26:51 > 0:26:53I'm dead annoyed!
0:26:53 > 0:26:56I'm dead annoyed that he has had a Chinese!
0:26:56 > 0:26:57I'm fuming.
0:26:58 > 0:27:00I'd love a Chinese.
0:27:02 > 0:27:03I'll kill him.
0:27:05 > 0:27:09Honestly, if he doesn't stick to this, I will go mad,
0:27:09 > 0:27:14cos what is the point in us being apart for, like, ten weeks,
0:27:14 > 0:27:17if he is not going to give it 100%?
0:27:19 > 0:27:22- Your daddy is well naughty. - All... All gone!
0:27:30 > 0:27:32Oh, I like it.
0:27:32 > 0:27:35Oh, can we go for a cocktail after this?!
0:27:35 > 0:27:37- THEY LAUGH - No!
0:27:37 > 0:27:39Did I tell you that Pete said he had, like, 15 pints
0:27:39 > 0:27:42on his night out and a Chinese? He's well cheated, hasn't he?
0:27:42 > 0:27:46If he's not changed, it will be like, what's the point?
0:27:46 > 0:27:48As Pete is struggling without Celena,
0:27:48 > 0:27:51I want to give him something else to focus on.
0:27:51 > 0:27:53One of our big challenges
0:27:53 > 0:27:56'is to help him shift his eating habits for good,
0:27:56 > 0:27:58'so I've gathered the team to discuss what to do.'
0:27:58 > 0:28:01Celena has taken this and she is really running with it.
0:28:01 > 0:28:06Pete, it is taking him time to really get his head around it.
0:28:06 > 0:28:09If there's a mismatch, in terms of how she's working on this
0:28:09 > 0:28:13and how he is quite far behind her, at the moment, is that going
0:28:13 > 0:28:15to have an impact on their relationship moving forward?
0:28:15 > 0:28:19- I think we've got to catch him up, in that sense, as well.- I agree.
0:28:19 > 0:28:22Even if Pete doesn't care about himself, he should care about
0:28:22 > 0:28:23his family, cos he makes all the food.
0:28:23 > 0:28:25He loathes eating vegetables.
0:28:25 > 0:28:27- I don't think he ever eats them. - Ever.
0:28:27 > 0:28:29I reckon I could work on that with him.
0:28:30 > 0:28:34Paul Dolan is an expert in behaviour change.
0:28:34 > 0:28:38He knows that Pete is not alone in his struggle with vegetables.
0:28:38 > 0:28:41In fact, one in seven of us don't eat our greens.
0:28:41 > 0:28:43- Why don't we try some veg?- Oh, no!
0:28:43 > 0:28:45But with Pete, we have an opportunity to change that
0:28:45 > 0:28:49and get him eating his five-a-day, before he gets back with Celena.
0:28:51 > 0:28:53- Broccoli. - This may seem a bit cruel,
0:28:53 > 0:28:57but research has shown that this method can get children
0:28:57 > 0:29:00who hate greens to learn to eat them.
0:29:00 > 0:29:05A study in Louisiana asked 300 schoolchildren,
0:29:05 > 0:29:09who said they hated vegetables, to eat them every day for two weeks.
0:29:09 > 0:29:14It just tastes bland to me. Won't be eating them again, mate.
0:29:14 > 0:29:17By simply exposing them to vegetables, little and often,
0:29:17 > 0:29:20for a period of time, two-thirds of the children
0:29:20 > 0:29:22started to enjoy their greens.
0:29:23 > 0:29:26- Rocket.- I've never tried it. - You don't actually know, then.
0:29:26 > 0:29:29- If you haven't tried it, you don't like it.- You're a man who hates
0:29:29 > 0:29:30something that he's not yet tried.
0:29:30 > 0:29:34If it can work for children, it might just work for Pete.
0:29:36 > 0:29:38That's all right, isn't it? Wow!
0:29:38 > 0:29:41- It's not as bad.- Look at that!
0:29:43 > 0:29:45- OK, what have we got there? - Oh, mushrooms.
0:29:45 > 0:29:50Paul ends the session with a food Pete fears the most.
0:29:50 > 0:29:52Not a vegetable, but a fungus.
0:29:52 > 0:29:54When was the last time you had a mushroom?
0:29:54 > 0:29:5610, 15 years ago.
0:29:56 > 0:29:57That's quite a long time.
0:29:57 > 0:30:01- And I proper vomited, like. - OK, well, I'm going to stand back,
0:30:01 > 0:30:03while you do that.
0:30:03 > 0:30:04Oh. No way.
0:30:04 > 0:30:07It's a mushroom, Pete. What could be so bad about it?
0:30:07 > 0:30:09Just the smell of them, the feel of them.
0:30:13 > 0:30:16Stop dithering and get your hand in that bowl.
0:30:18 > 0:30:19Go on, you are there now.
0:30:22 > 0:30:24It's a mushroom, for God's sake. Put it in.
0:30:24 > 0:30:27I know what it is. Trust me, I know what it is!
0:30:36 > 0:30:37Good man.
0:30:45 > 0:30:47- Eugh!- Nice then, yeah?- No!
0:30:47 > 0:30:51To test the theory, Paul sets Pete a challenge.
0:30:51 > 0:30:55I want you to eat a whole piece of broccoli, a whole carrot
0:30:55 > 0:31:00and a whole mushroom every day, for the next two weeks.
0:31:00 > 0:31:02PAUL GIGGLES
0:31:02 > 0:31:06If we can get him in to good habits, this will be a long-lasting,
0:31:06 > 0:31:10long-term impact on Pete, Celena, the children
0:31:10 > 0:31:13and their children's children - that's how much this matters.
0:31:13 > 0:31:16You can only learn by your mistakes, can't you?
0:31:16 > 0:31:20You can't live and regret your past, so it's all about the future now.
0:31:20 > 0:31:23And it's not just Pete who is thinking about the future.
0:31:23 > 0:31:27After nearly five weeks apart, Celena is starting to think about
0:31:27 > 0:31:29when they come back together.
0:31:29 > 0:31:33We can't go back to the way that we were. I wasn't happy.
0:31:33 > 0:31:37I wasn't happy, Peter weren't happy, the kids weren't happy.
0:31:37 > 0:31:41I'm hoping that Pete is in the same mind-set. That's the hardest part
0:31:41 > 0:31:43about all of this.
0:31:43 > 0:31:46The exercise, the diet - all that is easy,
0:31:46 > 0:31:50compared to not being able to physically see Pete
0:31:50 > 0:31:52and have the conversations that I want to have with him.
0:31:52 > 0:31:57If it doesn't work and he comes back and he's not determined on, like,
0:31:57 > 0:32:02keeping this lifestyle, then me and Pete aren't going to work.
0:32:07 > 0:32:12Today, Rick has summoned both Pete and Celena to attend a weigh-in.
0:32:13 > 0:32:17They haven't seen each other, or a set of scales, for five weeks.
0:32:17 > 0:32:21If they have both been sticking to the diet and exercise,
0:32:21 > 0:32:25by now, each of them should have lost almost a stone in body fat.
0:32:25 > 0:32:26I'm extremely nervous.
0:32:26 > 0:32:30Alcohol and takeaway consumption probably hasn't helped matters.
0:32:32 > 0:32:36Peter falls into my category of excusers.
0:32:36 > 0:32:38Why he has binged, there is always an excuse.
0:32:38 > 0:32:41When you come on the scale and I measure exactly what's inside
0:32:41 > 0:32:43the body, there are no excuses.
0:32:43 > 0:32:45Step onto there for me.
0:32:53 > 0:32:55You have lost 9.5lbs.
0:32:59 > 0:33:02'Disappointed, because it could have been so much more.'
0:33:02 > 0:33:05The plus point is, Celena won't find out,
0:33:05 > 0:33:06so I won't get SUCH a verolocking.
0:33:08 > 0:33:11My key worry with you is that you are a little bit complacent.
0:33:11 > 0:33:14Time is running out.
0:33:16 > 0:33:18I genuinely don't feel like I have done enough.
0:33:18 > 0:33:21I know I could have done more. Time is running out.
0:33:21 > 0:33:25It's time to go hard now. Go hard or go home, isn't it?
0:33:27 > 0:33:31Celena, she is a perfectionist. The problem with perfectionists is,
0:33:31 > 0:33:34if they don't meet their 100% expectations, they give up
0:33:34 > 0:33:39and they will continue to do this vicious cycle for years.
0:33:39 > 0:33:41I want to have lost at least a stone.
0:33:41 > 0:33:44If not...I'm going to be gutted.
0:33:50 > 0:33:52How are you feeling?
0:33:52 > 0:33:57- All right. Will you just tell me?! I just want to know!- OK.
0:33:57 > 0:34:00You lost...2st.
0:34:00 > 0:34:03- Shut up! 2st?!- 2st.
0:34:06 > 0:34:09- So, it's double what you expected. - Serious?- Yeah.
0:34:09 > 0:34:11- Fantastic.- Thank you.- Good.
0:34:15 > 0:34:19I was dead shocked when he said 2st, because I thought that
0:34:19 > 0:34:22I would be able to tell. It sounds dead stupid.
0:34:22 > 0:34:24If anybody else had lost 2st
0:34:24 > 0:34:26and they say, "I can't tell".
0:34:26 > 0:34:28I, seriously, cannot tell.
0:34:28 > 0:34:30It's probably a job for Tanya, that, innit?!
0:34:37 > 0:34:40Celena should be on a high. 2st is incredible.
0:34:43 > 0:34:47- Oh, my God.- But it seems it's impossible for her to see herself
0:34:47 > 0:34:49in a positive way.
0:34:49 > 0:34:52This is really, I think, the core issue that underpins
0:34:52 > 0:34:55the struggles that she has been having.
0:34:55 > 0:34:57Self-medicating with food - it's a, kind of, obvious cycle
0:34:57 > 0:35:01that just grows and grows, with anxiety kicking up alongside it.
0:35:01 > 0:35:04I feel like someone is going to jump out and get me.
0:35:04 > 0:35:07I'm going to encourage her to take part in an activity that
0:35:07 > 0:35:12I hope will really help her begin to think differently about her body.
0:35:12 > 0:35:17- Hello.- Hello. - You are doing scary face at me.
0:35:17 > 0:35:19Yeah, I'm a bit scared.
0:35:19 > 0:35:22All right, well, let me talk to you.
0:35:22 > 0:35:25I have set up a situation. It is about body image
0:35:25 > 0:35:28and appreciating you for who you are now.
0:35:28 > 0:35:32We have got to get there now, not when you have lost all the weight -
0:35:32 > 0:35:35- and you have done amazingly. - Oh, God. Right.
0:35:37 > 0:35:40- Why are you getting tearful? - Because I don't know what it is.
0:35:40 > 0:35:43Well, let's go and have a look and if you don't like it,
0:35:43 > 0:35:46- then, we don't do it.- OK.- All right. Let's go. It's round here.
0:35:53 > 0:35:57People come here and they draw bodies.
0:35:58 > 0:36:00They want to draw you.
0:36:00 > 0:36:01- You're shaking.- I know!
0:36:03 > 0:36:06I don't know, because they are going to be looking
0:36:06 > 0:36:09at everything, aren't they? I feel sick.
0:36:09 > 0:36:12SHE LAUGHS
0:36:12 > 0:36:14No-one else is going to judge you. Only you.
0:36:16 > 0:36:17OK.
0:36:17 > 0:36:21- OK, let me go and get them. - Oh, my God!
0:36:21 > 0:36:22I feel sick.
0:36:30 > 0:36:34This is me worst nightmare, this. Absolute worst nightmare.
0:36:38 > 0:36:42- This is Celena. This is Brian.- Hi! - This is his studio.- You OK?
0:36:42 > 0:36:46- Yeah, I think so.- Good to meet you. - Changing room? See you in a bit.
0:36:46 > 0:36:48Thank you very much.
0:36:48 > 0:36:51- I'm going to kill you! - You're going to kill me? Oh, my God!
0:36:51 > 0:36:53I'm not getting me boobs out!
0:36:53 > 0:36:55No-one is telling you to get your boobs out.
0:36:57 > 0:36:58I think, if I don't laugh, I will cry.
0:36:58 > 0:37:01I wish I had, like, worn good knickers.
0:37:01 > 0:37:05- Right, OK.- Oh, my God!
0:37:09 > 0:37:13I feel like I'm taking you...an execution.
0:37:13 > 0:37:16I never stand still long enough for anyone to, like, look at me.
0:37:16 > 0:37:17Even with Pete.
0:37:17 > 0:37:19You have got to start to appreciate this now,
0:37:19 > 0:37:22your body that has lost 2st.
0:37:22 > 0:37:25- Let's go in there and... - I'll do a Titanic pose.
0:37:25 > 0:37:27Hello! Right.
0:37:29 > 0:37:31- Happy with that?- Yeah.
0:37:42 > 0:37:46The phobia of her own body that Celena has,
0:37:46 > 0:37:48here, she is just learning to be relaxed,
0:37:48 > 0:37:52while having people look at her in a non-threatening way.
0:37:54 > 0:37:58And actually, she is getting so much more relaxed,
0:37:58 > 0:37:59as the class goes on.
0:37:59 > 0:38:01She looks really serene.
0:38:01 > 0:38:03She looks really beautiful.
0:38:03 > 0:38:05It makes me happy.
0:38:18 > 0:38:21- Oh, they're good!- They are good.
0:38:22 > 0:38:25I thought it would be bigger, as well. They are like...
0:38:25 > 0:38:28- That they'd do a huge... - Yeah, like, bigger.
0:38:28 > 0:38:31I just thought I would look bigger.
0:38:31 > 0:38:35What does that tell you about your perception of yourself?
0:38:35 > 0:38:36That it's wrong!
0:38:36 > 0:38:38Like, off-the-charts wrong, isn't it?
0:38:38 > 0:38:44Yeah. I need to ease up a little bit, because what I see
0:38:44 > 0:38:45isn't what other people see.
0:38:45 > 0:38:47I'm really proud of you.
0:38:47 > 0:38:50- I can't believe I have just done that.- You can't?- No.
0:38:50 > 0:38:54I actually thought you were going to throw up on me when you walked in.
0:38:54 > 0:38:56Either that or I thought I was going to hit you!
0:38:59 > 0:39:01Oh, I'm glad you didn't do that.
0:39:01 > 0:39:06I would have preferred if you had thrown up on me! Oh, dear Lord!
0:39:07 > 0:39:09She smashed it!
0:39:09 > 0:39:11She is an awesome woman and that is what she needs
0:39:11 > 0:39:16to hold on to, because she will now absolutely succeed in this process.
0:39:16 > 0:39:18Little steps towards the bigger goal.
0:39:18 > 0:39:21The bigger goal being going on holiday, being in the sun
0:39:21 > 0:39:23and putting on a wedding dress.
0:39:23 > 0:39:26I did it. I am well proud of myself.
0:39:28 > 0:39:30It's good, innit?!
0:39:35 > 0:39:36That's it.
0:39:37 > 0:39:41Having lost only nine pounds in the first five weeks,
0:39:41 > 0:39:43Pete knows that he's got a lot of catching up to do
0:39:43 > 0:39:46before he sees Celena again.
0:39:46 > 0:39:50He's now making the time to run for 15 minutes, three times a week.
0:39:50 > 0:39:54He can burn up to 150 calories for each mile.
0:39:54 > 0:39:55Wow, Daddy's got one.
0:39:55 > 0:39:59He is also beginning to realise just how important this change
0:39:59 > 0:40:01in lifestyle is.
0:40:01 > 0:40:04Daddy have a bite and then you have some.
0:40:04 > 0:40:06Today, he is with his son, Cameron.
0:40:06 > 0:40:08Mmm!
0:40:08 > 0:40:12The biggest motivation any person can have is their kids.
0:40:12 > 0:40:14What would it be like for the kids if I weren't here,
0:40:14 > 0:40:18if my health did take a turn for the worst? I have never really thought
0:40:18 > 0:40:20about it that way, but I have been through it, personally,
0:40:20 > 0:40:22where my dad struggled with health.
0:40:22 > 0:40:24It's not nice. I never want any
0:40:24 > 0:40:26of my kids to have to go through seeing me
0:40:26 > 0:40:28what I seen my dad go through.
0:40:28 > 0:40:31Tickle! Tickle, tickle, tickle!
0:40:31 > 0:40:32A long, healthy, happy future.
0:40:32 > 0:40:34That's all I ever want for my family.
0:40:36 > 0:40:41With a heightened understanding of what's at stake, for the past week,
0:40:41 > 0:40:44Pete has been following Paul's instructions and eating
0:40:44 > 0:40:49raw vegetables once a day, but is still finding it hard.
0:40:49 > 0:40:52The theory is, the more times he eats them, the more he will
0:40:52 > 0:40:53train himself to like them.
0:40:53 > 0:40:56I never thought that I would be sat on a bench in my lunch hour
0:40:56 > 0:41:00eating healthy food, such as green food.
0:41:00 > 0:41:02Looking at this mushroom, I'm dreading it.
0:41:09 > 0:41:13I can't stomach it. I really do not like it.
0:41:13 > 0:41:14Beetroot's nice, though.
0:41:22 > 0:41:25With just two weeks left, Celena is feeling more self-confident...
0:41:27 > 0:41:30..and seeing the benefits of Rick's exercise regime,
0:41:30 > 0:41:34she's now taking it one stage further.
0:41:34 > 0:41:38It's Celena's boot camp. Got all my mates involved!
0:41:38 > 0:41:39They hate me!
0:41:39 > 0:41:42It will be fun, when Celena is screaming at you(!)
0:41:42 > 0:41:45When we get back together, Pete will have no choice
0:41:45 > 0:41:48but to do this with me. He will be a member of my boot camp
0:41:48 > 0:41:53and I'll have pleasure in beating him.
0:41:54 > 0:41:57- Girls, focus! - I think I am going to break my back!
0:41:57 > 0:42:00Clench your bum and your pelvic floor, as you come up.
0:42:00 > 0:42:03- Argh!- It's all in the hips.
0:42:04 > 0:42:07I hope nobody is watching us out the windows!
0:42:11 > 0:42:12All done, girls!
0:42:12 > 0:42:14I think you have got the bug now, haven't you?
0:42:14 > 0:42:16I enjoy it.
0:42:16 > 0:42:19Kayleigh is here, so the kids can get involved
0:42:19 > 0:42:21- and it doesn't cost money. - It's like a new mum.
0:42:21 > 0:42:24It's like we are getting to know each other again!
0:42:25 > 0:42:28Kayleigh, break my heart, why don't ya?!
0:42:28 > 0:42:31- Don't cry, Mum. Come on. - I won't cry.
0:42:31 > 0:42:32Aww.
0:42:32 > 0:42:36That's the first time I have hugged my mum properly, in ages.
0:42:36 > 0:42:41I can't even remember the last time we hugged like that, properly.
0:42:41 > 0:42:44So, it's so nice to be able to feel like
0:42:44 > 0:42:48I am getting my mum back, so I'm excited for the future.
0:42:48 > 0:42:51Really excited for the future.
0:42:59 > 0:43:01With just one week to go, Pete's thoughts are turning
0:43:01 > 0:43:04to being reunited with Celena.
0:43:04 > 0:43:07It's important for me to make sure that I look my best when I see her,
0:43:07 > 0:43:10cos I need to prove her, obviously, this time apart
0:43:10 > 0:43:11has been well worth it.
0:43:11 > 0:43:13Just been horrible, just being away from her.
0:43:13 > 0:43:16You know, the old saying, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder".
0:43:16 > 0:43:18But it's true. It does.
0:43:18 > 0:43:20I'm dying to see her, see the difference in her.
0:43:20 > 0:43:23Hopefully, she notices the difference in me,
0:43:23 > 0:43:28because there has been a big change. I can notice where I've lost weight
0:43:28 > 0:43:31on my stomach, where I'm wearing pants that used to be tight.
0:43:31 > 0:43:35I'd never ate veg, but I enjoy it now, like.
0:43:35 > 0:43:37So, I just can't wait to see her, like.
0:43:37 > 0:43:38Feel like a kid at Christmas.
0:43:38 > 0:43:42- I'm liking it, mate. It's good having a fringe back again.- Yeah?
0:43:48 > 0:43:51Celena will be seeing Pete in just five days,
0:43:51 > 0:43:55but there is a final fear that I'd like to help her face.
0:43:55 > 0:43:58Having spent time with Celena, looking at body image,
0:43:58 > 0:44:00now that she has begun to shift how she sees herself,
0:44:00 > 0:44:03it feels to me that it's now time to help her really challenge
0:44:03 > 0:44:07this phobia she has of being a bride.
0:44:10 > 0:44:14- Nice to see you!- Yeah.- You are looking at me with such suspicion!
0:44:14 > 0:44:17I don't trust you now! What you are going to make me do?
0:44:17 > 0:44:22- I'm taking you to a shop. - Yeah?- A bridal shop.- Oh, no!
0:44:22 > 0:44:25- Oh!- Do you want to hold my hand or do you want to run?
0:44:25 > 0:44:30- Oh! Right, all right. Yeah. - Yeah? OK.
0:44:30 > 0:44:34Oh! Hiya!
0:44:34 > 0:44:37- I want to kill her!- Oh, no, no!
0:44:41 > 0:44:45I just don't know. It's stupid, isn't it? It's a dress. I know...
0:44:45 > 0:44:48It's not stupid. It's anxiety. So, let's just go.
0:44:48 > 0:44:50- Thank you.- Oh!- All right, so we are going to try this one?
0:44:50 > 0:44:52- Yeah.- OK.
0:44:53 > 0:44:55I don't know. Right, OK.
0:44:55 > 0:44:58- Shall we do it? - Yeah, I'll get in it.
0:44:58 > 0:45:01This is called systematic desensitisation.
0:45:01 > 0:45:04Take yourself to the thing you're afraid of,
0:45:04 > 0:45:06expose yourself to it, keep doing it,
0:45:06 > 0:45:08it's not a problem any more.
0:45:08 > 0:45:09Argh!
0:45:11 > 0:45:14What is the psychology behind this? Why are we doing this?
0:45:14 > 0:45:18That don't look as bad as I think I'm going to look.
0:45:18 > 0:45:21To challenge that negative self-belief. Yeah.
0:45:21 > 0:45:23Do you want to have a look?
0:45:24 > 0:45:25No!
0:45:27 > 0:45:30- Yeah, yeah. Go on, then. - Go on, then.
0:45:36 > 0:45:37Oh, God!
0:45:39 > 0:45:40What do you think?
0:45:44 > 0:45:45Yeah, I look nice.
0:45:49 > 0:45:51- Why is this making me feel quite emotional?- Aw.
0:45:51 > 0:45:54- Why, though?- Don't know.
0:45:54 > 0:45:57Well, go on. You help me, you be my psychologist.
0:46:00 > 0:46:01Because it is big, this.
0:46:01 > 0:46:04It is like a big thing for me.
0:46:04 > 0:46:05Definitely.
0:46:06 > 0:46:10Pete would have an heart attack if he'd seen me in a dress like this.
0:46:10 > 0:46:13- He would.- Well, we don't want to induce that.
0:46:16 > 0:46:21I never thought I'd be a woman who'd cry in a bridal shop.
0:46:21 > 0:46:23Good. Good.
0:46:23 > 0:46:25She'll continue to lose weight, she's changed her lifestyle,
0:46:25 > 0:46:27she's doing really well,
0:46:27 > 0:46:32but she is happy with who she is now
0:46:32 > 0:46:34and that's the way the process has to work.
0:46:34 > 0:46:37You can't wait to become happy...
0:46:38 > 0:46:42..because, if that's what you're doing, you'll never get there.
0:46:45 > 0:46:47After ten long weeks apart,
0:46:47 > 0:46:50tomorrow, Pete and Celena will be reunited.
0:46:50 > 0:46:53It's the hardest thing I've ever done in my whole entire life.
0:46:53 > 0:46:55Stood here tonight looking out there at the sunset,
0:46:55 > 0:46:58it's made me miss her even more. Even the little things,
0:46:58 > 0:47:02when she's going on at me and doing my head in, I miss that.
0:47:02 > 0:47:04She keeps me in check, don't she?
0:47:04 > 0:47:07Now that they have worked so hard on their individual issues,
0:47:07 > 0:47:09I hope that, by coming back together,
0:47:09 > 0:47:11they can make a fresh start.
0:47:11 > 0:47:15The biggest change I want is her to feel more at ease with herself.
0:47:15 > 0:47:18She comes across to people who know as though she's dead confident
0:47:18 > 0:47:20and bubbly and full of herself
0:47:20 > 0:47:23but I know she does suffer because of the way she looks.
0:47:23 > 0:47:26So, if she's changed the way she feels about herself,
0:47:26 > 0:47:27we can start moving forward, then.
0:47:27 > 0:47:31If this is making me happy, then he'll go all out,
0:47:31 > 0:47:35but there's a little part of me that thinks that he's going to get bored
0:47:35 > 0:47:37and that the novelty is going to wear off.
0:47:37 > 0:47:39I don't want us to want different things,
0:47:39 > 0:47:42I want us both to want the same things.
0:47:42 > 0:47:44I do think about him all the time.
0:47:44 > 0:47:46It's like we split up.
0:47:46 > 0:47:48That's how it feels.
0:47:48 > 0:47:50It feels like we've split up.
0:47:52 > 0:47:54And I'm a bit nervous about seeing him.
0:47:55 > 0:47:57It's like a first date.
0:47:58 > 0:47:59Mm.
0:48:08 > 0:48:10It's the end of the separation.
0:48:11 > 0:48:12Judgment day.
0:48:12 > 0:48:16Today, Celena and Pete finally get to see each other.
0:48:16 > 0:48:18I'm excited and nervous at the same time.
0:48:18 > 0:48:21Obviously, I hope she's going to be made up to see me.
0:48:22 > 0:48:26If he's not took it serious,
0:48:26 > 0:48:28I won't be happy
0:48:28 > 0:48:30and I'll tell him.
0:48:36 > 0:48:39Pete and Celena have made big changes,
0:48:39 > 0:48:41they're not the same people they used to be,
0:48:41 > 0:48:43but this is a crucial moment
0:48:43 > 0:48:45and, when they come together, will they struggle
0:48:45 > 0:48:48or will their relationship be stronger
0:48:48 > 0:48:50because of the time they've spent apart?
0:48:50 > 0:48:52Being apart from the person who you love
0:48:52 > 0:48:54and you want to spend the rest of your life with
0:48:54 > 0:48:57is the most difficult thing anybody could do.
0:48:57 > 0:49:02Today is dead important because it will show me how serious Pete is
0:49:02 > 0:49:05about changing our lives.
0:49:05 > 0:49:08Celena's seized this opportunity to change her life.
0:49:08 > 0:49:11Pete, on the other hand, was a bit slow off the mark
0:49:11 > 0:49:14but now, returning as a family, this is a chance for them
0:49:14 > 0:49:16to champion each other's efforts
0:49:16 > 0:49:20and not sabotage each other like they did before.
0:49:20 > 0:49:22I have arranged for their friends and family
0:49:22 > 0:49:24to surprise them at the venue.
0:49:24 > 0:49:25I'm just excited for them both.
0:49:25 > 0:49:29I can't wait for them to see each other now.
0:49:29 > 0:49:31I am just a little bit nervous now.
0:49:33 > 0:49:35My stomach's just doing backflips.
0:49:35 > 0:49:37I feel a bit sick.
0:50:06 > 0:50:08CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
0:50:24 > 0:50:27Take the dummy out and give me a kiss.
0:50:27 > 0:50:30Big one! Big one! Mwah!
0:50:31 > 0:50:33Aw! Cuddle!
0:50:33 > 0:50:35What do you think Celena will think when she sees you?
0:50:35 > 0:50:38I don't know. Hope she'll be happy!
0:50:38 > 0:50:40Would you like to see her?
0:50:40 > 0:50:41Yeah, I'd love to.
0:50:41 > 0:50:44MUSIC: Higher Love by James Vincent McMorrow
0:51:01 > 0:51:06Oh, no way! Oh, no way!
0:51:09 > 0:51:11No way!
0:51:13 > 0:51:16Look at you! Oh, my God!
0:51:16 > 0:51:17Hello, babe.
0:51:20 > 0:51:24- You all right?- Yeah.
0:51:24 > 0:51:26- You OK?- Yeah. Are you?
0:51:26 > 0:51:28You've got lippy all over you!
0:51:29 > 0:51:33- You look ace! - Thanks. So do you, babes.- Ta.
0:51:33 > 0:51:37- Hello, gorgeous!- I can't believe all you lot are here!
0:51:37 > 0:51:39- What do you think about...? - Yeah, he's fit.
0:51:42 > 0:51:45- Back on track for tonight, then! - All right, steady on!
0:51:45 > 0:51:47We've got some work to do. Steady on.
0:51:47 > 0:51:50- You look ace!- Thanks. So do you. You look amazing.
0:51:50 > 0:51:52- Have you missed each other? - Yeah.- Yeah.
0:51:52 > 0:51:56- I've missed the earache. - You've missed the...- Yeah, yeah.
0:51:56 > 0:52:00- All right, he'll get plenty of that later.- Earache!
0:52:00 > 0:52:01What is going through your mind now?
0:52:01 > 0:52:04I'm just made up cos the last time that I'd spoke to him,
0:52:04 > 0:52:06he was still, like, reeling from when went on his works do
0:52:06 > 0:52:09and he had, like, 15 pints and then a Chinese.
0:52:09 > 0:52:13I just felt like he wasn't working as hard as I was.
0:52:13 > 0:52:17Pete, why don't we show Celena what we did?
0:52:19 > 0:52:20Thank you very much.
0:52:21 > 0:52:23So, broccoli.
0:52:25 > 0:52:26Look, everybody.
0:52:30 > 0:52:31Look at you.
0:52:31 > 0:52:33- Are you going to cook with those vegetables now?- Yes.
0:52:33 > 0:52:35So how fit and healthy are you?
0:52:35 > 0:52:38Well, there's somebody here who can tell you.
0:52:38 > 0:52:42Pete, you've lost 2.5st of fat
0:52:42 > 0:52:44but the reason you feel so much stronger
0:52:44 > 0:52:48is because you've almost put on a stone of muscle
0:52:48 > 0:52:50and that's an amazing achievement.
0:52:50 > 0:52:51APPLAUSE
0:52:51 > 0:52:52Bloody hell!
0:52:54 > 0:52:56Well done, Pete.
0:52:56 > 0:52:58- Are you happy?- Oh, yeah.
0:53:01 > 0:53:05- Celena...- Oh, God!- When we met ten weeks ago, you were 21st.
0:53:05 > 0:53:08All right, thank you for that!
0:53:08 > 0:53:10She's going to kill you!
0:53:11 > 0:53:13Sorry!
0:53:13 > 0:53:18You've lost almost 3st in ten weeks.
0:53:18 > 0:53:20CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
0:53:24 > 0:53:26Can you both tell each other
0:53:26 > 0:53:29what you want from each other moving forward?
0:53:29 > 0:53:33I pledge here obviously not to be feeding you unhealthy foods,
0:53:33 > 0:53:36putting you in jeopardy by trying to keep you happy.
0:53:36 > 0:53:39The last ten weeks, I've learnt to eat healthily
0:53:39 > 0:53:41so, moving forward, we're going to bring that together,
0:53:41 > 0:53:44not only for myself, but for us and for the family, as well.
0:53:44 > 0:53:47I won't be the Pete from ten weeks ago ever again.
0:53:47 > 0:53:54I pledge that I'm not going to use my weight as an excuse any more
0:53:54 > 0:53:57not to go on holiday and not to go to any social events,
0:53:57 > 0:53:59and, like, the biggie - getting married,
0:53:59 > 0:54:02I pledge that we'll start looking at venues
0:54:02 > 0:54:04and get something booked.
0:54:10 > 0:54:13When she came through the gates, I just filled up,
0:54:13 > 0:54:16and I was like, "My mum's beautiful
0:54:16 > 0:54:19"and she can finally see that she's beautiful."
0:54:26 > 0:54:28I asked her to marry me because I want to marry her,
0:54:28 > 0:54:29because I want to grow old with her,
0:54:29 > 0:54:33because I want to spend the rest of my life with her and now we can.
0:54:33 > 0:54:34- Can't we?- Yeah, we will.
0:54:36 > 0:54:38They've blossomed into this couple
0:54:38 > 0:54:41who are ready to embrace this moving forward,
0:54:41 > 0:54:43and that, for me, is a proper love story
0:54:43 > 0:54:45with a really, really happy ending.
0:54:48 > 0:54:50You do look amazing.
0:54:50 > 0:54:52Going my hotel now!
0:54:52 > 0:54:53Get your shoes off.
0:55:01 > 0:55:04I never, ever thought in a million years
0:55:04 > 0:55:09that Pete would change the way that he acts so much.
0:55:11 > 0:55:13It's proper shocked me.
0:55:13 > 0:55:16Pete now weighs 12st 6lbs,
0:55:16 > 0:55:19nearly 3st less than before the separation,
0:55:19 > 0:55:23while Celena has lost an overall 3st 8lbs.
0:55:23 > 0:55:24It's just changed us loads.
0:55:24 > 0:55:27We're back to the way we was when we first got together.
0:55:27 > 0:55:29We're all kissy and cuddly and all that
0:55:29 > 0:55:32because you feel more confident in yourself.
0:55:32 > 0:55:34He's like a dog on heat. Honestly!
0:55:34 > 0:55:36He is!
0:55:36 > 0:55:38I've kept in touch with Pete and Celena
0:55:38 > 0:55:41and I'm really pleased to hear of their progress
0:55:41 > 0:55:43but I want to know why they think it worked.
0:55:43 > 0:55:45Hello!
0:55:45 > 0:55:47Nice to see you!
0:55:49 > 0:55:52- So, how's it going since you've been back together?- Good.
0:55:52 > 0:55:55Can't keep his bleeding hands off me!
0:55:55 > 0:55:58Would you have done this without the separation?
0:55:58 > 0:56:00No, I don't think we could.
0:56:00 > 0:56:03The separation was the main part in us changing.
0:56:03 > 0:56:06Not just the eating habits and stuff like that -
0:56:06 > 0:56:08the way you feel about yourself,
0:56:08 > 0:56:11I don't think you could have changed that totally if I was around.
0:56:11 > 0:56:14No, we both had totally separate issues
0:56:14 > 0:56:17and they had to be tackled separately.
0:56:17 > 0:56:20Are you saying that, being together, you just hadn't got the headspace
0:56:20 > 0:56:23- to really work out what the issues were?- Yeah.
0:56:23 > 0:56:26I didn't think that I had issues. I thought I was all right.
0:56:26 > 0:56:29We've all got issues!
0:56:29 > 0:56:35It's so empowering to see a couple completely shifted
0:56:35 > 0:56:38in terms of the previous rut that they were in
0:56:38 > 0:56:40and, now they've come back together,
0:56:40 > 0:56:42you can see this fresh perspective for both of them
0:56:42 > 0:56:45is enabling them as a couple now to be really healthy.
0:56:45 > 0:56:47And that's brilliant.
0:56:47 > 0:56:49Go! Whoo!
0:56:49 > 0:56:50They're big kids again.
0:56:50 > 0:56:52They are big kids again and I love it.
0:56:52 > 0:56:56Like, they're a lot healthier and happier in themselves.
0:56:56 > 0:56:58It's like they're falling in love all over again.
0:56:58 > 0:57:00Kiss me, quick!
0:57:08 > 0:57:11Next time, Bob and Jane's unhealthy lifestyle...
0:57:11 > 0:57:13- Get off!- Hang on, hang on.
0:57:13 > 0:57:15..has meant their relationship has hit a standstill.
0:57:15 > 0:57:17She wants me to give her love all the time
0:57:17 > 0:57:18but she can't give it herself.
0:57:18 > 0:57:21- This is about saving your relationship.- Yeah!
0:57:21 > 0:57:24Will separating them for ten weeks get them back on track?
0:57:24 > 0:57:27I drink to try and block it out.
0:57:27 > 0:57:28It's not drinking in here.
0:57:28 > 0:57:30You will never give me anything like this again, right?
0:57:30 > 0:57:32I need the truth all the way through.
0:57:32 > 0:57:36It defeats the object of why we're doing all this in the first place.