Life Changers

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0:00:04 > 0:00:08In the '90s, Wales faced an explosion of social issues.

0:00:08 > 0:00:13From drink and drugs to disability rights and teen mums,

0:00:13 > 0:00:17they were to test the strength of many men and women.

0:00:19 > 0:00:22I think it just makes you more active and proactive,

0:00:22 > 0:00:26and we called ourselves the last of the civil rights movements.

0:00:27 > 0:00:31My daughter was in my arms and I just grew up, just like that.

0:00:31 > 0:00:34In a way, it was as if to say, this is my responsibility now.

0:00:35 > 0:00:38I was able to pass on my experience of addiction

0:00:38 > 0:00:41because you tell them how it felt for you.

0:00:41 > 0:00:45And when you see people who've got well, it's an achievement.

0:00:45 > 0:00:48This is the story of people who overcame

0:00:48 > 0:00:50extreme personal challenges.

0:00:50 > 0:00:54Through sheer willpower, they changed their lives for good.

0:01:01 > 0:01:04The '90s was a decade of change

0:01:04 > 0:01:07in some of the major social issues in Wales.

0:01:07 > 0:01:10Recreational use of drink and drugs

0:01:10 > 0:01:13became prevalent throughout the nation.

0:01:13 > 0:01:17Teenage pregnancy, once the shame of family and neighbours,

0:01:17 > 0:01:19was the highest in Europe.

0:01:19 > 0:01:22And disabled people were starting to fight for their rights.

0:01:26 > 0:01:30Disabled people had had equal access to recreational

0:01:30 > 0:01:34and educational services since the 1970s.

0:01:34 > 0:01:38But by the early '90s, they still had no legal protection

0:01:38 > 0:01:40against discrimination.

0:01:40 > 0:01:43Activists wanted that to change.

0:01:43 > 0:01:47Rosie Moriarty-Simmonds was born with severe impairments

0:01:47 > 0:01:49which affected her limbs

0:01:49 > 0:01:53after her mother took the drug thalidomide during pregnancy.

0:01:54 > 0:01:58Instead of arms, Rosie has four fingers, and she cannot walk.

0:02:00 > 0:02:04She got a degree in psychology and applied for many jobs,

0:02:04 > 0:02:07but felt she was always turned down because of her disability.

0:02:09 > 0:02:11And even when an offer did come,

0:02:11 > 0:02:15it was withdrawn because of her access requirements.

0:02:16 > 0:02:19I think I cried for three days, then I got angry,

0:02:19 > 0:02:23then I got frustrated again, then I got angry again.

0:02:23 > 0:02:25And then I thought, this is absolutely ridiculous.

0:02:25 > 0:02:27Somebody has to give me a break.

0:02:27 > 0:02:29And eventually I did get a break,

0:02:29 > 0:02:31but I can see how some people give up.

0:02:31 > 0:02:36And I've always felt that I'm lucky, I can speak for myself,

0:02:36 > 0:02:39so if I can speak for myself, I should also be speaking for

0:02:39 > 0:02:42and advocating for those who can't.

0:02:42 > 0:02:45I think it just makes you more active and proactive,

0:02:45 > 0:02:47and you want to go out and make change.

0:02:47 > 0:02:52I think it was at that stage that I kind of became the bossy little,

0:02:52 > 0:02:55feisty little madam that I've grown up to be.

0:02:58 > 0:03:02Though eventually Rosie found a job in the civil service,

0:03:02 > 0:03:06her interest in disability politics led to a complete career change.

0:03:07 > 0:03:13The real political activism for me happened in the early '90s,

0:03:13 > 0:03:16when there was no anti-discrimination legislation

0:03:16 > 0:03:19and I was getting more and more involved.

0:03:19 > 0:03:23I retrained, did a home journalism course,

0:03:23 > 0:03:27also getting involved in disability equality training

0:03:27 > 0:03:29and campaigning.

0:03:29 > 0:03:32You had DAN, who were the Direct Action Network.

0:03:32 > 0:03:34You had Disability Wales

0:03:34 > 0:03:38and you had the Cardiff and Vale Coalition of Disabled People.

0:03:38 > 0:03:42And we would hold demonstrations fighting for legislation,

0:03:42 > 0:03:44particularly in Wales.

0:03:44 > 0:03:47What I would teach within disability equality training

0:03:47 > 0:03:51would be to the social model of disability,

0:03:51 > 0:03:55but the world in which we lived was the medical model of disability.

0:03:55 > 0:03:58And the difference between the two is that the medical model

0:03:58 > 0:04:03looks at the disabled person and sees them as the problem,

0:04:03 > 0:04:06whereas the social model of disability

0:04:06 > 0:04:09turns it completely on its head and looks at society.

0:04:09 > 0:04:12And it says it's society that's the problem,

0:04:12 > 0:04:16and it's society that has to change to accommodate

0:04:16 > 0:04:19and include disabled people.

0:04:21 > 0:04:25There were so many issues that needed to be addressed.

0:04:27 > 0:04:31Everything from disabled people and employment,

0:04:31 > 0:04:35education, access to transport, access to information,

0:04:35 > 0:04:38and that's why disabled people had to stand up

0:04:38 > 0:04:40and fight for these rights.

0:04:43 > 0:04:46So trying to get members of society to understand that,

0:04:46 > 0:04:51we'd hold demonstrations in London, you know, march up Whitehall,

0:04:51 > 0:04:55start off in Trafalgar Square, bring the traffic to a standstill.

0:04:55 > 0:04:59We called ourselves the last of the civil rights movements.

0:04:59 > 0:05:03- What do we want?- Civil rights! - When do we want them?- Now!

0:05:03 > 0:05:06So the more radical the activities,

0:05:06 > 0:05:08the more press coverage you would get.

0:05:08 > 0:05:13And then you would get society, hopefully, asking questions.

0:05:13 > 0:05:15And then through the education route,

0:05:15 > 0:05:18people like myself would come along and answer those questions.

0:05:20 > 0:05:24In 1995, the campaigners got a result

0:05:24 > 0:05:27when the Disability Discrimination Act was established

0:05:27 > 0:05:29to improve the rights of disabled people.

0:05:31 > 0:05:35For the first time it would be unlawful for employers

0:05:35 > 0:05:38to discriminate against someone on grounds of disability.

0:05:43 > 0:05:45I believe that it was very successful,

0:05:45 > 0:05:49because as a result of having the legislation

0:05:49 > 0:05:51some people who would not have bothered,

0:05:51 > 0:05:54suddenly found that they had to make change,

0:05:54 > 0:05:59and certainly, as far as employment and education and service provision,

0:05:59 > 0:06:03it's made huge differences for disabled people.

0:06:12 > 0:06:16In the late '90s, music, magazines and the internet

0:06:16 > 0:06:19were a magnetic attraction for young people,

0:06:19 > 0:06:21and the reason was sex.

0:06:21 > 0:06:25But growing numbers of teenagers having underage sex

0:06:25 > 0:06:29led to more schoolgirl mums in Wales than anywhere in western Europe.

0:06:31 > 0:06:33The stories behind the headlines

0:06:33 > 0:06:35were often due to poor sex education.

0:06:35 > 0:06:39Some were due to troubled family circumstances.

0:06:39 > 0:06:43The most troubled of all were those who suffered sexual abuse

0:06:43 > 0:06:44as children.

0:06:45 > 0:06:48Samantha Yemm grew up with her brother and two sisters

0:06:48 > 0:06:50near Newport.

0:06:51 > 0:06:55When I was round about five years old, my mum worked quite a lot,

0:06:55 > 0:06:58she was in the butchers trade at that time.

0:06:58 > 0:07:01So my mum worked a lot, my dad worked a lot.

0:07:01 > 0:07:03He worked with the funeral home.

0:07:03 > 0:07:05So, come the summer holidays and things like that,

0:07:05 > 0:07:08it was very hard for my mum to get a sitter

0:07:08 > 0:07:12so we ended up going to my Grancha's house quite a lot.

0:07:12 > 0:07:15And my Grancha was our main carer at that time.

0:07:16 > 0:07:21But unbeknown to Samantha's parents, her grandfather, Grancha,

0:07:21 > 0:07:24was sexually abusing her and her older sister.

0:07:25 > 0:07:28When I was five, that's when it started.

0:07:28 > 0:07:31Erm, I can remember everything up until...

0:07:33 > 0:07:35..maybe the age of seven.

0:07:35 > 0:07:37And I've blanked everything out since then,

0:07:37 > 0:07:41cos it was sexual intercourse.

0:07:45 > 0:07:47As Samantha grew older,

0:07:47 > 0:07:51the opportunities for her grandfather's abuse became fewer,

0:07:51 > 0:07:53until they ceased altogether.

0:07:59 > 0:08:03For Samantha, like many young teenage girls and boys,

0:08:03 > 0:08:06secondary school discos were like a rite of passage.

0:08:06 > 0:08:09It seems natural that here,

0:08:09 > 0:08:12sexual feelings were aroused for the first time.

0:08:12 > 0:08:14Obviously, you go into the big school,

0:08:14 > 0:08:16and it's like, oh, my God, boys, boys, boys.

0:08:16 > 0:08:19You know, proper teenage, proper girl.

0:08:19 > 0:08:22And I didn't feel at that time I was a really attractive person,

0:08:22 > 0:08:23because, to me, I wasn't.

0:08:23 > 0:08:27It was, like, "Oh, a boy's interested in me." "Hi", sort of thing.

0:08:29 > 0:08:33When Samantha was 14, she began going out with an older boy.

0:08:33 > 0:08:37Though she suppressed the memories of her grandfather's abuse,

0:08:37 > 0:08:40Samantha had mixed feelings about sex with her boyfriend

0:08:40 > 0:08:42for the first time.

0:08:42 > 0:08:44David was very charming.

0:08:44 > 0:08:48Erm...he was a very attractive boy.

0:08:48 > 0:08:51He looked a bit like Tom Cruise!

0:08:51 > 0:08:53He had the smile.

0:08:53 > 0:08:56But the first day I had sexual intercourse with David,

0:08:56 > 0:09:00erm, it didn't feel abnormal.

0:09:00 > 0:09:02I wasn't frightened. I wasn't scared.

0:09:02 > 0:09:06But I felt that regardless of what happened with my grandfather

0:09:06 > 0:09:08I still needed that male figure,

0:09:08 > 0:09:11because that's what was going to cure me.

0:09:11 > 0:09:15I always felt that I was missing that, kind of, interaction, maybe,

0:09:15 > 0:09:18of a sexual relationship.

0:09:18 > 0:09:23So being with David and actually having sex with him

0:09:23 > 0:09:26that very first time was like a connection for me,

0:09:26 > 0:09:30as though, OK, I'm not going to let him go now because he's mine.

0:09:30 > 0:09:33And because he was showing me some kind of attention

0:09:33 > 0:09:35that made me whole as a person.

0:09:36 > 0:09:40He made me feel wanted, loved, and he cared for me quite a lot.

0:09:40 > 0:09:42And, erm...

0:09:43 > 0:09:47I don't know, we just clicked, and it was what I was looking for,

0:09:47 > 0:09:48I thought.

0:09:50 > 0:09:53But the young couple made no attempt to use contraception.

0:10:01 > 0:10:07For a lot of people in the '90s, drinking was full-on.

0:10:08 > 0:10:12Bingeing by both sexes became the fashion amongst the young.

0:10:14 > 0:10:17But the reasons that led some to extreme drinking

0:10:17 > 0:10:19were often personal.

0:10:22 > 0:10:25It increased the chance of alcohol dependency,

0:10:25 > 0:10:29especially for those vulnerable to psychological issues.

0:10:34 > 0:10:40In Newport, for example, 40% of men drank more than was safe for health.

0:10:47 > 0:10:52Mike McNamara was lead singer with Big Mac's Wholly Soul Band

0:10:52 > 0:10:53based in the city.

0:10:55 > 0:10:59I loved all that type of music so it was great to be able to do,

0:10:59 > 0:11:03to, sort of, emulate all those heroes of mine, you know?

0:11:03 > 0:11:08Sam Cook and Wilson Pickett and all that sort of early gutsy soul.

0:11:08 > 0:11:11And because there's so much excitement,

0:11:11 > 0:11:14everybody just gets into the spirit of it and wants to dance.

0:11:14 > 0:11:16# I feel good

0:11:17 > 0:11:19# I knew that I should... #

0:11:19 > 0:11:21But there was a problem.

0:11:21 > 0:11:24Mike needed to drink in order to boost his self-confidence

0:11:24 > 0:11:25when performing.

0:11:27 > 0:11:30There was a certain point with the booze,

0:11:30 > 0:11:33where it enabled you to do the job without the fear.

0:11:34 > 0:11:38But once I started drinking, I couldn't stop.

0:11:38 > 0:11:41You felt good about yourself. You felt you could talk to people.

0:11:41 > 0:11:43You felt you could communicate with people.

0:11:43 > 0:11:45You could get on great with people.

0:11:45 > 0:11:48All of a sudden, you know, the shackles were thrown off,

0:11:48 > 0:11:50and so you think to yourself,

0:11:50 > 0:11:53I like that, I'll have a bit more of that.

0:11:53 > 0:11:55And then, eventually, it takes over.

0:11:56 > 0:11:58And it ruins you. Destroys you.

0:11:59 > 0:12:02I can remember falling out of the car at one gig,

0:12:02 > 0:12:04and we'd been drinking 2020...

0:12:05 > 0:12:08..special brew and the show was dreadful.

0:12:08 > 0:12:11My wife was there and she said, you were terrible.

0:12:11 > 0:12:13Erm...

0:12:14 > 0:12:17But I thought I was great. I thought I was great that night.

0:12:17 > 0:12:20And I was dreadful. Singing out of tune, didn't...

0:12:20 > 0:12:22You know, I wasn't aware of what was going on,

0:12:22 > 0:12:24what the band was playing or anything.

0:12:27 > 0:12:31In 1996, Mike's drinking reached crisis point.

0:12:33 > 0:12:36I'd been drinking all night, I got a bottle of white wine

0:12:36 > 0:12:39from behind the bar to go home with

0:12:39 > 0:12:43and I'm lying in bed at four o'clock in the morning, wide awake,

0:12:43 > 0:12:46and my wife turns around, she looked at me,

0:12:46 > 0:12:48and I could see the look of despair.

0:12:49 > 0:12:54At this moment, Mike realised he needed to reach out for help.

0:12:57 > 0:13:01In the '90s, police busts of drug dealers were rising.

0:13:01 > 0:13:03- Police officers!- Police!

0:13:05 > 0:13:08Addiction could cost users over £100 a day,

0:13:08 > 0:13:10often funded by crime.

0:13:11 > 0:13:14And their family lives were reduced to chaos.

0:13:16 > 0:13:20Brian Morris was in it up to his neck.

0:13:20 > 0:13:22A drug dealer, addicted to heroin.

0:13:23 > 0:13:28He lived in Amsterdam with his partner, who was also hooked.

0:13:28 > 0:13:32Their six-week-old baby boy was treated for the addiction.

0:13:33 > 0:13:36I owed Turkish heroin dealers quite a lot of money

0:13:36 > 0:13:41and they proposed a deal for me to make that money

0:13:41 > 0:13:45by smuggling a kilo of cocaine to Wales.

0:13:45 > 0:13:47Then I'd be able to pay them back.

0:13:47 > 0:13:51I wasn't going to do it ever again, because this baby arrived, you know.

0:13:51 > 0:13:53I brought an addicted child into the world.

0:13:53 > 0:13:55That was so shameful.

0:13:55 > 0:14:00But we had the baby for two weeks and the Turkish dealers came round

0:14:00 > 0:14:04and they were threatening so I could have lost my life.

0:14:04 > 0:14:06or they could have hurt any of us,

0:14:06 > 0:14:08so I agreed to do this deal.

0:14:08 > 0:14:11In December 1995,

0:14:11 > 0:14:15Brian travelled to Swansea to sell a kilo of cocaine.

0:14:15 > 0:14:19One last deal to pay off his debts.

0:14:19 > 0:14:23He was trying to come off heroin and was suffering withdrawal symptoms

0:14:23 > 0:14:26as he waited in a hotel room with another dealer.

0:14:26 > 0:14:29I was going through cold turkey.

0:14:29 > 0:14:33Hot and cold sweats and stomachaches.

0:14:33 > 0:14:36I wasn't feeling very well at all.

0:14:36 > 0:14:41And it was about 12 noon when suddenly the door burst open.

0:14:41 > 0:14:44"This is a raid! This is the police! Don't move!"

0:14:44 > 0:14:46With guns pointed at us.

0:14:46 > 0:14:50Then I had thoughts going through my head, I'll get ten years for this.

0:14:50 > 0:14:53My son is not going to see me...

0:14:53 > 0:14:55..at all any more.

0:14:56 > 0:15:00Brian was arrested and taken into custody.

0:15:00 > 0:15:02His plans for the future blown away.

0:15:03 > 0:15:06But then, at this moment of despair,

0:15:06 > 0:15:09he felt his life change for the better.

0:15:10 > 0:15:13The next day, while I was in the police station cell,

0:15:13 > 0:15:15I just cried out to God to help.

0:15:15 > 0:15:20Then, this little voice came into my head and, not audibly,

0:15:20 > 0:15:22just like an impression...

0:15:23 > 0:15:27"You can use this, Brian, to change your life.

0:15:27 > 0:15:30"You can use this time. You can get educated.

0:15:30 > 0:15:33"And you can turn it round."

0:15:33 > 0:15:35And just a warmth came over me,

0:15:35 > 0:15:37and I felt hopeful,

0:15:37 > 0:15:40the despair and fear left me.

0:15:41 > 0:15:45And from that moment I decided it's high time now

0:15:45 > 0:15:47that you gave your life to God,

0:15:47 > 0:15:50because he's been knocking on your heart for years,

0:15:50 > 0:15:53but you've clouded it with drugs for so long.

0:16:00 > 0:16:04Rosie Moriarty-Simmonds never let her disability compromise her life.

0:16:06 > 0:16:10She married her husband Stephen in 1988.

0:16:10 > 0:16:13He was also thalidomide impaired.

0:16:13 > 0:16:18And like many couples, they were thrilled at starting a family.

0:16:20 > 0:16:25A disabled person to bring up a child, even in the 1990s,

0:16:25 > 0:16:26was quite rare.

0:16:26 > 0:16:28Because...

0:16:28 > 0:16:32you weren't seen as being capable of doing it.

0:16:32 > 0:16:35You weren't seen as being able to organise your own childcare

0:16:35 > 0:16:37or your own child support.

0:16:37 > 0:16:40And there were so many people that surprised me

0:16:40 > 0:16:44by their attitude towards that - "Well, how are you going to manage?"

0:16:44 > 0:16:49But it was our decision to have a child, our choice to have a child,

0:16:49 > 0:16:51our right to have a child,

0:16:51 > 0:16:55and nobody was going to stop us from doing that.

0:16:57 > 0:17:00Being a mum was absolutely fantastic

0:17:00 > 0:17:04and I was determined to do as much as I could for James myself.

0:17:04 > 0:17:07I would pick James up from his cot in a mouthful of baby grow,

0:17:07 > 0:17:11with my teeth, carry him through to the kitchen,

0:17:11 > 0:17:13lie him on the kitchen table flat,

0:17:13 > 0:17:17hold the bottle in my fingers like that, and feed him that way.

0:17:17 > 0:17:20And instinct is quite incredible, I think,

0:17:20 > 0:17:23because if anybody else was changing his nappy

0:17:23 > 0:17:25he'd be a right little wriggly eel,

0:17:25 > 0:17:29but, instinctively, when I was doing it, he would know not to move.

0:17:32 > 0:17:34While bringing up her son James,

0:17:34 > 0:17:39Rosie worked hard developing her consultancy on disability issues.

0:17:39 > 0:17:41It was a busy time.

0:17:41 > 0:17:44But as she adapted to new situations,

0:17:44 > 0:17:48Rosie drew inspiration from her own mother's attitude to life.

0:17:51 > 0:17:53- How old is she?- Two and a half.

0:17:55 > 0:17:58My mum, being busy and active,

0:17:58 > 0:18:02was something that just seemed to be natural with her.

0:18:02 > 0:18:04I think that I've inherited it.

0:18:05 > 0:18:08And coming from the kind of childhood that I had,

0:18:08 > 0:18:12constantly being told you can do whatever you want,

0:18:12 > 0:18:14you can be whatever you want.

0:18:15 > 0:18:18But you've got to instigate it.

0:18:22 > 0:18:25You run your business, you raise your family,

0:18:25 > 0:18:28and I did an awful lot of voluntary work.

0:18:28 > 0:18:29But I thrived on it.

0:18:29 > 0:18:35You felt empowered, you felt you were really making change,

0:18:35 > 0:18:37and it felt real.

0:18:37 > 0:18:40It was real, you know, at long last.

0:18:40 > 0:18:45You know, what you wanted was actually happening.

0:18:46 > 0:18:50In 2015, Rosie was awarded an OBE

0:18:50 > 0:18:55for her services to the equality and rights of disabled people.

0:18:57 > 0:19:00# Wake me up before you go go

0:19:00 > 0:19:03# Don't leave me hanging on like a yo-yo... #

0:19:03 > 0:19:08In the late '90s, research among 13 to 15-year-olds in Wales

0:19:08 > 0:19:13showed 32% of boys and 39% of girls

0:19:13 > 0:19:17claimed they had had sex by the age of 14.

0:19:18 > 0:19:22Samantha Yemm was still with her boyfriend David at 15.

0:19:22 > 0:19:26They used no contraception in their sexual relationship.

0:19:27 > 0:19:30Yet Samantha was surprised when she discovered

0:19:30 > 0:19:33she was going to have a baby.

0:19:33 > 0:19:37The day came when she broke the news of her pregnancy to her mother.

0:19:38 > 0:19:40Instead of telling my mum face-to-face,

0:19:40 > 0:19:43I wrote this really big long letter

0:19:43 > 0:19:46and explained to her, you know, that I'm truly sorry, erm...

0:19:47 > 0:19:49Sorry.

0:19:52 > 0:19:55I'm sorry, you know, I'm pregnant.

0:19:55 > 0:19:58And I told her how far gone I was in this letter.

0:20:00 > 0:20:04And my mum's face just dropped after she read this letter.

0:20:05 > 0:20:08It was absolutely heartbreaking knowing that I'd disappointed my mum

0:20:08 > 0:20:12in a way that she didn't want me to ruin my childhood.

0:20:12 > 0:20:16I can understand why and, you know, she was scared for me

0:20:16 > 0:20:18more than anything.

0:20:20 > 0:20:25The late '90s marked a high point in teenage pregnancies in Wales

0:20:25 > 0:20:28with over 6,000 a year recorded.

0:20:30 > 0:20:34Samantha received no sex education from her parents

0:20:34 > 0:20:36and was already seven months pregnant

0:20:36 > 0:20:39by the time her school gave a class on the subject.

0:20:43 > 0:20:46She was 16 when her baby was born.

0:20:47 > 0:20:50She got a lot of support from her mother and grandmother

0:20:50 > 0:20:54but it was still a life-changing moment for her.

0:20:56 > 0:20:59I grew up pretty quick, as soon as my daughter was in my arms,

0:20:59 > 0:21:02and I was in the delivery room and had my daughter there.

0:21:02 > 0:21:04I just grew up, just like that, in a way.

0:21:04 > 0:21:07I would say, this is my responsibility now.

0:21:07 > 0:21:09I was scared, I was frightened, holding this little,

0:21:09 > 0:21:12tiny little baby in my arms, being a teenager,

0:21:12 > 0:21:14I'm thinking, "Oh, my God, it's like holding a doll."

0:21:14 > 0:21:18I'd only just finished playing with dolls in a few years previously

0:21:18 > 0:21:20and now I'm holding a real-life doll in my hand.

0:21:20 > 0:21:23I'm thinking, "I don't know what to do with it."

0:21:26 > 0:21:30Samantha and her partner David were engaged

0:21:30 > 0:21:33but after nine months living together as a family

0:21:33 > 0:21:35the relationship fell apart.

0:21:35 > 0:21:38She moved back home with her parents

0:21:38 > 0:21:41and set about finishing school and getting a job.

0:21:41 > 0:21:44My daughter was at home, I'm in school,

0:21:44 > 0:21:46I need to finish my learning, I need an education.

0:21:46 > 0:21:49I've got a baby to support, you know, this is my life now,

0:21:49 > 0:21:51so I need as many grades as I possibly can

0:21:51 > 0:21:53to get a good job to support my child.

0:21:54 > 0:21:58Samantha's grandfather was eventually prosecuted

0:21:58 > 0:22:00for her sexual abuse.

0:22:00 > 0:22:04But though his crime had traumatised her as a child,

0:22:04 > 0:22:07her baby helped her focus on the future.

0:22:08 > 0:22:11Having a baby doesn't solve everything.

0:22:11 > 0:22:14Erm, but, to me, it solved...

0:22:15 > 0:22:18..my inner feelings of, you know,

0:22:18 > 0:22:20I have got somebody else to care for now.

0:22:20 > 0:22:24I just wanted a better life for myself

0:22:24 > 0:22:27and, obviously, and my daughter. I wanted to own my own house.

0:22:27 > 0:22:30I wanted a really good job, I wanted to have that luxury

0:22:30 > 0:22:32to take my daughter on holiday.

0:22:32 > 0:22:35This was the future I was looking for.

0:22:35 > 0:22:38That's what motivated me. My daughter was my motivation.

0:22:38 > 0:22:40I wanted my daughter to have a fantastic life.

0:22:40 > 0:22:42I wanted everything for my daughter,

0:22:42 > 0:22:45everything that I was doing was for my daughter.

0:22:46 > 0:22:49Samantha qualified as a nursing auxiliary

0:22:49 > 0:22:52and bought a house near Newport.

0:22:57 > 0:23:03In the '90s, alcoholism was a deep social and psychological wound

0:23:03 > 0:23:06that scarred families and communities.

0:23:06 > 0:23:10It was estimated that there were over 50,000 people

0:23:10 > 0:23:12with a serious drink problem in Wales.

0:23:12 > 0:23:15Mike McNamara was one of them.

0:23:16 > 0:23:19Like so many people in the same situation,

0:23:19 > 0:23:23he sought out a local branch of Alcoholics Anonymous,

0:23:23 > 0:23:26the mutual fellowship set up to help alcoholics

0:23:26 > 0:23:30achieve sobriety and to remain sober.

0:23:31 > 0:23:35Mike found he needed to confront deep psychological issues

0:23:35 > 0:23:38if he was to turn his life around.

0:23:39 > 0:23:42The alcoholic doesn't stop drinking until he's hurt enough.

0:23:42 > 0:23:46Not the people around him, until he's hurt enough.

0:23:46 > 0:23:48But it took me months and months and months,

0:23:48 > 0:23:51to even speak at AA meetings.

0:23:51 > 0:23:54It's almost like a revelation to me

0:23:54 > 0:23:58because alcoholism was to do with an addictive personality.

0:23:58 > 0:23:59Erm...

0:23:59 > 0:24:02The self-centredness,

0:24:02 > 0:24:05the world revolves around me

0:24:05 > 0:24:07and you live in your own head.

0:24:07 > 0:24:09And that's very, very true of me.

0:24:09 > 0:24:12I am a very solitary person.

0:24:13 > 0:24:14# Your love

0:24:14 > 0:24:16# Is lifting me higher... #

0:24:16 > 0:24:21Perseverance paid off and eventually Mike was able to come to terms

0:24:21 > 0:24:23with his new, sober life.

0:24:25 > 0:24:28It's learning again to live.

0:24:28 > 0:24:30It was a whole new ball game.

0:24:30 > 0:24:34It was being aware of what was going on, rather than,

0:24:34 > 0:24:39sort of, having that... that veil between you and reality.

0:24:39 > 0:24:41And when you get sober,

0:24:41 > 0:24:43you start to realise...

0:24:43 > 0:24:46that all of those things that you thought were you,

0:24:46 > 0:24:49you thought you were gregarious, you thought you were this

0:24:49 > 0:24:52because you went out in the pub and you've done this, done that,

0:24:52 > 0:24:55and danced on the tables and all that, that was you...

0:24:55 > 0:24:58That's not you at all. You're nothing like that, really.

0:24:59 > 0:25:02Mike's new life included singing for Children In Need.

0:25:03 > 0:25:08# To share a love that brings us dignity... #

0:25:10 > 0:25:13Mike wanted to give something back for the help he received

0:25:13 > 0:25:15with his fight against alcoholism.

0:25:17 > 0:25:21So he joined the Kaleidoscope Project as a counsellor.

0:25:23 > 0:25:26Here he brought his experience to its work with people

0:25:26 > 0:25:29recovering from substance abuse in Wales.

0:25:31 > 0:25:35I was able to pass on my experience of addiction

0:25:35 > 0:25:38and you can see that recognition in their eyes,

0:25:38 > 0:25:40when you're speaking to them,

0:25:40 > 0:25:42because you tell them how it felt for you.

0:25:42 > 0:25:46And you can see that they thought the same as I thought,

0:25:46 > 0:25:48that it was unique to them.

0:25:48 > 0:25:50That self-centredness, that whole, sort of,

0:25:50 > 0:25:54amalgamation of personality defects that are common to us.

0:25:54 > 0:25:56They can relate to it.

0:25:56 > 0:25:59And when you see people who've got well,

0:25:59 > 0:26:02who've been off the drink for years,

0:26:02 > 0:26:05who got their job together, their life together,

0:26:05 > 0:26:08you think to yourself... that's an achievement.

0:26:11 > 0:26:15Brian Morris was given a 12 year sentence

0:26:15 > 0:26:19for attempting to sell over £1 million worth of cocaine.

0:26:20 > 0:26:23Dartmoor Prison was now his new home.

0:26:23 > 0:26:25Not seeing my son grow up

0:26:25 > 0:26:27really, really hurt.

0:26:27 > 0:26:30I used to spend hours in prayer.

0:26:30 > 0:26:32I spent hours crying,

0:26:32 > 0:26:35and, you know, saying sorry about that, praying for my son,

0:26:35 > 0:26:39praying for my family and hope they'd forgive me.

0:26:39 > 0:26:42And I started working on all different aspects of

0:26:42 > 0:26:45what was wrong with me in my life and what had gone wrong.

0:26:45 > 0:26:48And I've done this through these Bible courses

0:26:48 > 0:26:52which touched different areas, different topics about behaviour

0:26:52 > 0:26:55and about learning new ways of living.

0:26:55 > 0:26:58I did course after course after course.

0:26:58 > 0:27:00I went up to college level as well.

0:27:00 > 0:27:03While I was in prison I started a prayer group.

0:27:03 > 0:27:08It grew into 12 people coming to my small cell every day,

0:27:08 > 0:27:10who needed prayer.

0:27:10 > 0:27:12And I knew I was doing good and helping.

0:27:12 > 0:27:15Even the officers said, "That's great what you're doing.

0:27:15 > 0:27:18"It's a lot calmer here on the block."

0:27:18 > 0:27:20By late 1999,

0:27:20 > 0:27:23Brian had accrued over 65 learning certificates

0:27:23 > 0:27:25from his Bible courses.

0:27:25 > 0:27:28They formed a part of his application for parole

0:27:28 > 0:27:30for good behaviour.

0:27:30 > 0:27:32And to his delight,

0:27:32 > 0:27:35he won his freedom after serving five years

0:27:35 > 0:27:37of his original 12 year sentence.

0:27:37 > 0:27:41Brian was the model of a reformed prisoner

0:27:41 > 0:27:45and went on to become pastor of Oakdale Baptist Church

0:27:45 > 0:27:46near Caerphilly.

0:27:46 > 0:27:49My enthusiasm while I was in prison

0:27:49 > 0:27:52kept me strong for God and my faith.

0:27:52 > 0:27:57And I enjoyed touching people's lives and seeing people change,

0:27:57 > 0:28:02giving something back, that gave me a lift from my guilt, you know?

0:28:02 > 0:28:04It took that guilt away

0:28:04 > 0:28:07for the years that I'd been a drug dealer.

0:28:07 > 0:28:11And I felt when I became a pastor,

0:28:11 > 0:28:13even though I'd served the time for my crime,

0:28:13 > 0:28:17still, deep down, what I've done, you know, will people accept me?

0:28:17 > 0:28:20But people greet me in the street and have warmed to me.

0:28:20 > 0:28:23All that's forgotten. They remember, you know, what I've become.

0:28:24 > 0:28:27# You're my love, you're my sweetest thing

0:28:27 > 0:28:30# Don't shy away, don't shy away... #

0:28:30 > 0:28:35In the '90s, many people faced extreme personal challenges

0:28:35 > 0:28:39as the social landscape of the nation was transformed.

0:28:39 > 0:28:42But through their inspiration and strength of character,

0:28:42 > 0:28:45they changed their lives for the better.

0:28:46 > 0:28:50Next week we see how men and women helped create a new world of work

0:28:50 > 0:28:53by striking out on their own.

0:28:53 > 0:28:58# Ooh, ah, just a little bit Ooh, ah, a little bit more

0:28:58 > 0:29:01# Ooh, ah, just a little bit You know what I'm looking for

0:29:01 > 0:29:05# Ooh, ah, just a little bit Ooh, ah, a little bit more

0:29:05 > 0:29:07# Ooh, ah, just a little bit

0:29:07 > 0:29:09# I'll give you a love you can't ignore... #