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0:01:18 > 0:01:21So have you a big bridal party? Have you many bridesmaids?
0:01:21 > 0:01:24Yes, see, I tried to, like, incorporate everybody.
0:01:24 > 0:01:26His side of the family and my side.
0:01:26 > 0:01:28So he has four men, I have four bridesmaids,
0:01:28 > 0:01:32and then we have three flower girls and three page boys.
0:01:32 > 0:01:34- God, that IS big!- I know!
0:01:36 > 0:01:38So are you going to get dressed up, then?
0:01:38 > 0:01:40- Are you going to wear a nice suit? - Yeah!
0:01:40 > 0:01:43- Is Mummy going to be a princess? - Yeah, me going in a suit.
0:01:43 > 0:01:46You're going in a suit? THEY LAUGH
0:01:46 > 0:01:49- Where did you meet?- I was an apprentice, working in Shorts,
0:01:49 > 0:01:51and he was coming down, they had no work at the time,
0:01:51 > 0:01:55so they were coming down to re-train, and I met him there.
0:01:55 > 0:01:56He was doing the whole "big lad" thing.
0:01:56 > 0:02:00"You're gorgeous," and all that! THEY LAUGH
0:02:00 > 0:02:03But he left after about a week, and I never seen him again.
0:02:03 > 0:02:04But a year later, I got moved
0:02:04 > 0:02:07- into the factory where he was working.- Right.
0:02:07 > 0:02:09- But I had a boyfriend then.- Right.
0:02:09 > 0:02:12So he was asking me out and stuff and I said, "No, I'm going with a fella.
0:02:12 > 0:02:13"Can't be doing that, now."
0:02:13 > 0:02:16So he says to me one day, "I've no money in my phone.
0:02:16 > 0:02:18"Do you mind if I borrow yours to phone my mate?"
0:02:18 > 0:02:22And I says, "No, go ahead." So he lifted my phone, rang himself,
0:02:22 > 0:02:24and he said, "Got your number now, chick!"
0:02:24 > 0:02:26THEY LAUGH So it was the whole big boy attitude
0:02:26 > 0:02:29that really...you know, the cockiness and stuff?
0:02:29 > 0:02:30- That attracted you?- I know, it is!
0:02:30 > 0:02:33Can't really say no to that sort of thing!
0:03:05 > 0:03:09You couldn't give me a wee drop of cold water for that?
0:03:09 > 0:03:10- Cold water?- Yeah, please.
0:03:10 > 0:03:12So are these twins?
0:03:12 > 0:03:14No, no, this is my daughter,
0:03:14 > 0:03:17and Stephanie's my daughter, and this...
0:03:17 > 0:03:20- This is MY daughter. - So that's your granddaughter?
0:03:20 > 0:03:23- So there's three generations sitting in front of me here?- There is.
0:03:23 > 0:03:25My God! You wouldn't think it, so you would!
0:03:25 > 0:03:27Three generations, and these two are three days apart.
0:03:27 > 0:03:30- They're going to grow up so like twins.- Oh, definitely.
0:03:30 > 0:03:33- Who discovered first?- Me.
0:03:33 > 0:03:35And then you told your mummy?
0:03:35 > 0:03:37- Yeah, I told my mum.- And then?
0:03:37 > 0:03:40And then I found out two weeks after Stephanie.
0:03:40 > 0:03:43Stephanie was the last person I wanted to tell I was pregnant,
0:03:43 > 0:03:46because it was her time...
0:03:46 > 0:03:49- Yeah, and how did you feel when your mummy told you?- I don't know.
0:03:49 > 0:03:52- I always wanted a wee sister, didn't I?- Oh, always.
0:03:52 > 0:03:54They're going to be so like twins.
0:03:54 > 0:03:59We've already talked about sleepovers and twin buggies
0:03:59 > 0:04:01and who's taking who out.
0:04:01 > 0:04:04- And they'll be in the same class at school and everything!- Aye.
0:04:04 > 0:04:08- Just imagine Christmas! - I know, it'll be great!
0:04:08 > 0:04:10I can't wait to do it all again,
0:04:10 > 0:04:14- because I remember the look on Stephanie's face.- When Santa came?
0:04:14 > 0:04:20When Santa came. She would come into the room and she would just sparkle.
0:04:20 > 0:04:23Her eyes would light up and she'd go, "Oh, Mummy! Oh, Mummy!"
0:04:23 > 0:04:26And are you a great Christmas person?
0:04:26 > 0:04:27No, I hate Christmas.
0:04:27 > 0:04:30Well, you're going to have to start loving it for this year!
0:04:30 > 0:04:32- I know, I will!- It's so different when you've got your own.
0:04:32 > 0:04:35We'll have to get two extra chairs for the table now.
0:04:35 > 0:04:38- Two high chairs, this Christmas.- I know.
0:04:38 > 0:04:40Skyler Precious. Oh, wow!
0:04:40 > 0:04:42- Isn't that lovely?- It is.
0:04:42 > 0:04:45I did want her to be called Precious,
0:04:45 > 0:04:47but I wasn't allowed.
0:04:47 > 0:04:50- Who didn't allow you?- Her daddy.
0:04:50 > 0:04:54I wasn't allowed to call her that because it sounds like a porn star.
0:04:54 > 0:04:56THEY LAUGH
0:05:00 > 0:05:0240...
0:05:05 > 0:05:07..160...
0:05:10 > 0:05:11..170...
0:05:13 > 0:05:16..175. There.
0:05:16 > 0:05:18Got more than enough.
0:05:18 > 0:05:22Well, that's your date booked for your wedding in the City Hall.
0:05:22 > 0:05:25- It's a happy day. - And that's all yours, sweetheart.
0:05:25 > 0:05:28- Thank you very much. - Don't spend it on a horse!
0:05:28 > 0:05:31You don't say that.
0:05:31 > 0:05:35You're not supposed to say things like that. No!
0:05:35 > 0:05:37Mr Coulter, what was your occupation?
0:05:37 > 0:05:38- Labourer.- A labourer.
0:05:38 > 0:05:41Labourer. A labourer all my life.
0:05:41 > 0:05:42That's fine.
0:05:44 > 0:05:45I've been married before.
0:05:47 > 0:05:50And I'd say, "Oh, it's a hard road going down on your own!
0:05:50 > 0:05:54- "It's a very hard road! - THEY LAUGH
0:06:06 > 0:06:09- There you are. You got what you wanted.- Yep!
0:06:09 > 0:06:11THEY LAUGH
0:06:11 > 0:06:13Stop it! You're making me nervous!
0:06:13 > 0:06:16Oh, I know, but you're after letting go of it.
0:06:16 > 0:06:19You win some, you lose some, you know?
0:06:23 > 0:06:26You can have someone doing a reading if you want to,
0:06:26 > 0:06:29if you've got a poem or a favourite piece of verse.
0:06:29 > 0:06:31It just can't be anything religious.
0:06:31 > 0:06:33Oh, no, no, no, no.
0:06:33 > 0:06:35And if you are going to have a wee poem or that,
0:06:35 > 0:06:38we need to see the wording and the name of the person.
0:06:38 > 0:06:41- Do I need to take off these badges? Them there?- What?
0:06:41 > 0:06:42Are you not allowed to wear them?
0:06:42 > 0:06:45- You can wear what you want. - Thank you very much, dear.
0:06:47 > 0:06:48- Yep.- That's it.
0:06:48 > 0:06:51Will you sign it at the bottom for me? I'll give you copies.
0:06:53 > 0:06:56You know what I'm telling you, what I'm worried about?
0:06:56 > 0:06:59In case you walk out and walk away and leave me.
0:06:59 > 0:07:01- No.- Sure, my ex was there and she walked out.
0:07:01 > 0:07:03Left me with children and all.
0:07:03 > 0:07:05And I hope you're not going to do the same thing.
0:07:05 > 0:07:08- I'm not going to do it. No way. - You better not.- No.
0:07:08 > 0:07:10I'm telling you, you've got a good bloke here.
0:07:10 > 0:07:13Genuine.
0:07:13 > 0:07:16- He's not going to mess around with anybody.- I'm not going anywhere!
0:07:28 > 0:07:29SHE LAUGHS
0:07:32 > 0:07:34I'm from Belfast!
0:07:37 > 0:07:41- It's quite fancy in there, isn't it?- It is really fancy.
0:07:41 > 0:07:44All the big marble floors and all.
0:07:44 > 0:07:46Thank you.
0:07:46 > 0:07:48What are we in for today?
0:07:48 > 0:07:49Our wedding schedule. Just to pick it up.
0:07:49 > 0:07:51Not this time already?!
0:07:51 > 0:07:53I know, isn't that scary, how quick it's come in?!
0:07:55 > 0:07:57Is this last time I'll see this bit, "single?"
0:07:57 > 0:08:00- That's it! That's it! - HE LAUGHS
0:08:00 > 0:08:02Are you married long?
0:08:03 > 0:08:05- A very long time.- A very long time?
0:08:05 > 0:08:07THEY LAUGH
0:08:07 > 0:08:10- You'd have been good on our marriage course, wouldn't you?- Yeah!
0:08:10 > 0:08:14"How to Make a Marriage Last!" SHE LAUGHS
0:08:14 > 0:08:18Just nod and agree with everything they say?
0:08:18 > 0:08:20It's very simple, you're in the wrong. That's it!
0:08:20 > 0:08:22We've been watching the likes of Four Weddings
0:08:22 > 0:08:24and Don't Tell The Bride and stuff, and I would go,
0:08:24 > 0:08:26"Oh, what do you think of that wedding dress?"
0:08:26 > 0:08:28And he would go, "Hmm, that's lovely."
0:08:28 > 0:08:30And he's scared to say any dress isn't nice,
0:08:30 > 0:08:32- in case it's like my dress. - Yeah, yeah!
0:08:32 > 0:08:34I can't wait to see her in the dress.
0:08:34 > 0:08:37But I would say I'll have a wee tear in my eye, so I will.
0:08:37 > 0:08:41- As my mum says, "You better not cry!"- He better cry!
0:08:41 > 0:08:43SHE LAUGHS
0:09:11 > 0:09:13CHEERING
0:09:15 > 0:09:17"When the one whose hand you're holding
0:09:17 > 0:09:19"is the one who holds your heart
0:09:19 > 0:09:21"When the one whose eyes you gaze into
0:09:21 > 0:09:23"Gives your hopes and dreams their start
0:09:23 > 0:09:27"When the one whom you believe in puts her faith and trust in you
0:09:27 > 0:09:32"You've found the one and only love you share your whole life through."
0:09:32 > 0:09:34- Aw! - SHE LAUGHS
0:09:34 > 0:09:36Total rubbish!
0:09:36 > 0:09:38- I'm very cynical.- Oh, Jennifer!
0:09:38 > 0:09:40- I'm very cynical. - You have to be romantic!
0:09:40 > 0:09:42There isn't just...I don't believe there's just
0:09:42 > 0:09:45ONE person in the world just for you. I don't believe in that.
0:09:47 > 0:09:53TUNE - "GOING TO THE CHAPEL"
0:10:03 > 0:10:04- BEHIND CAMERA:- When you were wee,
0:10:04 > 0:10:07did you have an idea of what love would feel like?
0:10:07 > 0:10:10No. See whenever I was young, I think,
0:10:10 > 0:10:13cos your emotions are running so high whenever you're younger,
0:10:13 > 0:10:16you think you're in love with absolutely everybody.
0:10:18 > 0:10:19But them there feelings don't last.
0:10:19 > 0:10:22Whenever you're with someone, you stop getting the butterflies
0:10:22 > 0:10:25and stuff, but it turns into something totally different.
0:10:25 > 0:10:28- Where you just rely on them for all wee things, don't you?- Mmm-hmm.
0:10:30 > 0:10:31Close them down again.
0:10:34 > 0:10:36Like, Marie-Claire, my niece, said to me,
0:10:36 > 0:10:39"Are you still going to come and visit us once you're married?"
0:10:39 > 0:10:42As if I'm going to turn into this total different person.
0:10:42 > 0:10:43But I don't think I will.
0:10:43 > 0:10:46See, to be honest, even right now, I'm getting ready,
0:10:46 > 0:10:49I still don't feel like I'm going to be a married woman.
0:10:49 > 0:10:52Like, I don't know whether it'll feel any different or not.
0:10:52 > 0:10:56Maybe it'll be like, know having a birthday, never feeling a year older?
0:10:56 > 0:10:58- Yeah.- It'll just sort of feel the same.
0:10:58 > 0:11:02- Ooh, I've got butterflies in my stomach!- I know! All morning!
0:11:02 > 0:11:04It's all about me! SHE LAUGHS
0:11:08 > 0:11:09Is that OK?
0:11:21 > 0:11:24All right, this is the tightest it goes, from the top.
0:11:24 > 0:11:26Right, what are you feeling now, nervous or excited?
0:11:26 > 0:11:28I feel pretty calm, actually. I'm really surprised.
0:11:37 > 0:11:39Daddy, you look lovely in that suit!
0:11:43 > 0:11:45Is it OK if my daddy sits in the back seat?
0:11:48 > 0:11:51HE WHISTLES SOFTLY
0:11:55 > 0:11:57It's my second time, you know.
0:11:57 > 0:11:59- Glutton for punishment! - HE LAUGHS
0:11:59 > 0:12:02When you get old, you need somebody to look after you.
0:12:02 > 0:12:03DRIVER: Oh, aye.
0:12:05 > 0:12:09You just can't turn the clocks back any more.
0:12:10 > 0:12:13- BEHIND CAMERA:- You're not nervous at all, Billy?
0:12:13 > 0:12:15No, no. No, no.
0:12:16 > 0:12:20She's nervous, but not me. I'm not nervous about anything.
0:12:20 > 0:12:23"ETERNAL FLAME" BY THE BANGLES PLAYS ON STEREO
0:12:29 > 0:12:31SHE GASPS
0:12:31 > 0:12:33I'm going to start crying now already!
0:12:33 > 0:12:35My make-up's going to be ruined by the end of this day.
0:12:37 > 0:12:38Och, look at them, Daddy.
0:12:38 > 0:12:40Don't they all look lovely?
0:12:43 > 0:12:46There's Charlie! SHE SNIFFS
0:12:46 > 0:12:50I swear, I think I have hormone issues!
0:12:51 > 0:12:54What's my make-up like? Is it all right now?
0:12:55 > 0:12:57It's only natural.
0:12:57 > 0:13:00CHORAL MUSIC
0:13:25 > 0:13:27I have to remind you both
0:13:27 > 0:13:29of the solemn and binding character
0:13:29 > 0:13:32of the contract you're about to make.
0:13:32 > 0:13:36Marriage, according to the law of this country,
0:13:36 > 0:13:39is the union of one man with one woman,
0:13:39 > 0:13:41voluntarily entered into
0:13:41 > 0:13:43to the exclusion of all others.
0:13:45 > 0:13:49OK, Billy, if you'd like to put the ring on Carol's finger
0:13:49 > 0:13:51and repeat after me: I give you this ring.
0:13:51 > 0:13:53I give you this ring.
0:13:53 > 0:13:54- As a symbol.- As a symbol.
0:13:54 > 0:13:55- Of my love.- Of my love.
0:13:55 > 0:13:57- And of our marriage. - And of our marriage.
0:13:57 > 0:13:59Today.
0:13:59 > 0:14:01It's tight!
0:14:01 > 0:14:03SHE LAUGHS
0:14:04 > 0:14:07Your finger grew! I'll get it on.
0:14:07 > 0:14:09That'll do. That's all right.
0:14:09 > 0:14:12That's all right there, isn't it?
0:14:12 > 0:14:16By virtue of the covenants made in my presence,
0:14:16 > 0:14:18as Deputy Registrar of Marriages,
0:14:18 > 0:14:21I declare that you, William John Coulter,
0:14:21 > 0:14:23and you, Carol Anne Smith,
0:14:23 > 0:14:26are now joined together in matrimony,
0:14:26 > 0:14:28in accordance with the law.
0:14:28 > 0:14:30You are now husband and wife.
0:14:30 > 0:14:32Thank you.
0:14:32 > 0:14:34I was going to say, "You may kiss your bride!"
0:14:34 > 0:14:36See, I'm there first! I'm there first! Right quick!
0:14:43 > 0:14:45- PRIEST:- In Christ, Our Lord.
0:14:47 > 0:14:49The peace of the Lord, ever and always.
0:14:49 > 0:14:51ALL: And also with you.
0:14:53 > 0:14:55In the name of the Father and of the Son
0:14:55 > 0:14:58and of the Holy Spirit,
0:14:58 > 0:15:00Lord be with you.
0:15:00 > 0:15:02CHORAL MUSIC
0:15:15 > 0:15:16Did we get it?
0:15:16 > 0:15:19You got it?
0:15:25 > 0:15:27I think we've got bride and groom here.
0:15:29 > 0:15:33Oh, and there's another couple of girls over here at the fountain.
0:15:33 > 0:15:39They look as if they're something to do with the wedding as well.
0:15:39 > 0:15:42- BEHIND CAMERA:- Was there a point in your own marriage,
0:15:42 > 0:15:44a day in your own marriage, where you thought,
0:15:44 > 0:15:46"I don't think this is going to work any more?"
0:15:48 > 0:15:51One specific one? One particular day?
0:15:51 > 0:15:52A whole lot of days.
0:15:52 > 0:15:54My honeymoon.
0:15:57 > 0:16:01On my honeymoon, I think we both knew it wasn't going to work.
0:16:01 > 0:16:05But we were too scared. Marriage...
0:16:06 > 0:16:08..you're talking a good while ago.
0:16:08 > 0:16:12Both our parents were quite religious people.
0:16:12 > 0:16:15And I always was told you got married
0:16:15 > 0:16:16and you got married for life.
0:16:16 > 0:16:19For better, for worse.
0:16:19 > 0:16:21And, um...
0:16:21 > 0:16:23I was told you had to stick with it.
0:16:23 > 0:16:24I was very young,
0:16:24 > 0:16:28and I maybe just didn't have the confidence I would have now.
0:16:33 > 0:16:35Do you plan to fall in love again?
0:16:35 > 0:16:37Erm...
0:16:37 > 0:16:39SHE LAUGHS
0:16:41 > 0:16:43I don't know, honestly.
0:16:47 > 0:16:49I...I would be very scared.
0:16:49 > 0:16:51I don't know whether I would get married again, no.
0:17:11 > 0:17:14When did your wife die?
0:17:14 > 0:17:15Christmas Eve.
0:17:16 > 0:17:18Did you get a death certificate?
0:17:20 > 0:17:25- No.- Was the coroner involved?
0:17:25 > 0:17:26No.
0:17:26 > 0:17:28Did she die suddenly, or had she seen a doctor?
0:17:28 > 0:17:32She'd seen the doctor within the last month or something like that.
0:17:32 > 0:17:33- Had she?- Yeah.
0:17:33 > 0:17:36So there should be a death certificate, then.
0:17:36 > 0:17:39Yeah...no, I haven't got one.
0:17:39 > 0:17:41Do you know who has that?
0:17:41 > 0:17:43Did a doctor come out...where did she die?
0:17:43 > 0:17:45- In the house.- In the house.
0:17:45 > 0:17:49Did a doctor come out to make out a death certificate?
0:17:49 > 0:17:53No, it was Christmas Eve, actually. But he came out afterwards.
0:17:53 > 0:17:55- He came out afterwards?- Yeah.
0:17:55 > 0:17:57- What, after Christmas?- Yes.
0:17:57 > 0:18:02She was buried on...she died on Christmas Eve
0:18:02 > 0:18:05and was buried on the Monday.
0:18:05 > 0:18:08So it probably would have gone through the coroner's office,
0:18:08 > 0:18:11because of it happening over the holiday period.
0:18:11 > 0:18:12Yes, yes, yes.
0:18:12 > 0:18:16- There probably might not have been a death certificate issued, then.- No.
0:18:16 > 0:18:17Who was your doctor?
0:18:26 > 0:18:28Computer's very slow today.
0:18:28 > 0:18:30- Is it?- Mmm-hmm.
0:18:30 > 0:18:32Ah, well.
0:18:32 > 0:18:37- Arthur.- I thought I recognised you coming in there.
0:18:37 > 0:18:38- How are you?- Not too bad.
0:18:38 > 0:18:39- How are you?- Sorry about Joan.
0:18:39 > 0:18:42- I know you are. Thanks very much.- OK.
0:18:44 > 0:18:46You've some happy memories. How long were you married?
0:18:46 > 0:18:49- 55. - HIS VOICE CRACKS
0:18:49 > 0:18:52- Long time, isn't it?- Very long.
0:18:52 > 0:18:55- Not long enough, as I said. - I know, I know.
0:18:55 > 0:18:58I'm happy for her, I really am.
0:18:58 > 0:19:00I shouldn't be doing what I'm doing now but...
0:19:00 > 0:19:03- So she'd a peaceful death, then? - A beautiful death.
0:19:03 > 0:19:05The woman next door...got her to come in
0:19:05 > 0:19:08because of her breathing, you know?
0:19:08 > 0:19:10I said, "She might not be breathing now."
0:19:10 > 0:19:13She was all right, but she wasn't gasping or anything.
0:19:13 > 0:19:16- She was just... - HE BREATHES CALMLY
0:19:16 > 0:19:19And she said, "I think she's telling us she's going."
0:19:23 > 0:19:27The woman next door said, "I've seen people dying,
0:19:27 > 0:19:29"but I never saw a more beautiful death."
0:19:29 > 0:19:32- The woman next door said this. - Isn't that nice?
0:19:32 > 0:19:34And I said, "Well, that's good, isn't it?"
0:19:34 > 0:19:37You don't know how lucky you are, wee man. So...
0:19:39 > 0:19:42- You don't feel too lucky? - No, that's right.
0:20:30 > 0:20:33Hello, this is Peggy here from City Hall, Registration of Deaths.
0:20:33 > 0:20:35How can I help you?
0:20:45 > 0:20:47PHONE RINGS
0:20:49 > 0:20:52Christopher was my only son.
0:20:52 > 0:20:54He had a brain tumour.
0:20:56 > 0:20:58- BEHIND CAMERA:- And what's the wee feather?
0:20:58 > 0:21:00After Christopher died,
0:21:00 > 0:21:03I would just find feathers in really random places,
0:21:03 > 0:21:08and I kind of looked upon them as a sign.
0:21:08 > 0:21:12Whether they were or not, I don't know, but I kept several of them.
0:21:12 > 0:21:15Do you remember, Margaret, the time I came back in here
0:21:15 > 0:21:18- with the feather attached to my neck?- Oh, yes.
0:21:18 > 0:21:20That was lovely. It just sat here.
0:21:20 > 0:21:22Feathers everywhere.
0:21:25 > 0:21:31So the feather, in a way, connects you to where he is, in a way?
0:21:31 > 0:21:33Erm...
0:21:33 > 0:21:35I suppose, a little bit.
0:21:36 > 0:21:38A little bit.
0:21:38 > 0:21:40I would love some more connection.
0:21:42 > 0:21:43It's not enough.
0:22:17 > 0:22:20ARTHUR MUMBLES PRAYER
0:22:27 > 0:22:29- That's me back again today! - HE LAUGHS
0:22:30 > 0:22:32Everything OK?
0:22:36 > 0:22:39- BEHIND CAMERA:- Is it good to talk to Joan, Arthur?
0:22:39 > 0:22:42Yep. Say prayers and talk to her.
0:22:42 > 0:22:44- Ask her to look after me. - HE CHUCKLES
0:22:49 > 0:22:51And tell her how much I miss her.
0:23:04 > 0:23:05And Junior too.
0:23:08 > 0:23:10Who's Junior?
0:23:10 > 0:23:12Junior's my son, Arthur.
0:23:17 > 0:23:18What happened to Junior?
0:23:18 > 0:23:23He was going down that road there, and apparently,
0:23:23 > 0:23:30when tar and bitumen meets, it makes it so slippery,
0:23:30 > 0:23:37and he was driving and going down the hill and he went into a spin,
0:23:37 > 0:23:40and there was a big tree on the far side and he hit that tree.
0:23:43 > 0:23:46There was another boy with him. He was all right.
0:23:48 > 0:23:50But Junior died.
0:24:02 > 0:24:05I hope you and Junior can hear me.
0:24:05 > 0:24:08You know how much I miss the two of you.
0:24:11 > 0:24:15- All being well, see you tomorrow. - HE CHUCKLES
0:25:23 > 0:25:25- You're Mr Redmond's son?- Yeah.
0:25:25 > 0:25:28His place of birth, was it Belfast?
0:25:28 > 0:25:31- Yeah, it was Belfast. - I'll just put Belfast.
0:25:31 > 0:25:34- And his marital status? - Still married, so he was.
0:25:34 > 0:25:36Just, "married," then.
0:25:36 > 0:25:38And whatever his occupation was?
0:25:38 > 0:25:41- He was a sprayer in Shorts.- OK.
0:25:41 > 0:25:43- Just put, "aircraft sprayer?"- Yeah.
0:25:43 > 0:25:47- You came straight down from the hospital?- Yeah.
0:25:47 > 0:25:50Well, no, I had to go down to Shorts there first,
0:25:50 > 0:25:51the place where he worked.
0:25:51 > 0:25:54I had to see them, and they told me to come here.
0:25:54 > 0:25:56And then I'll have to go home again.
0:26:00 > 0:26:04No, it's not something any of us are really experienced at.
0:26:04 > 0:26:07You know, you don't want to be doing something like this too often.
0:26:07 > 0:26:08- No.- No, it's all new.
0:26:08 > 0:26:11That's what the wee nurse said to me this morning.
0:26:11 > 0:26:13"You're all new at this."
0:26:25 > 0:26:27- BEHIND CAMERA:- Sammy, what does it feel like
0:26:27 > 0:26:29on the day that you lose your father?
0:27:23 > 0:27:25- Here's my son now.- Is it?
0:27:32 > 0:27:34That's your wedding day there?
0:27:34 > 0:27:35That's my wedding day, yes.
0:27:35 > 0:27:38I was 19 and he was 21.
0:27:38 > 0:27:41And what do you remember about that day?
0:27:41 > 0:27:42Oh, it was brilliant.
0:27:42 > 0:27:43Happiest day of my life.
0:27:45 > 0:27:48Did you know you were going to be together forever at that time?
0:27:48 > 0:27:51Well, not really. Not at that time, you know. Just...
0:27:52 > 0:27:55..just, we never wanted to part, you know?
0:28:01 > 0:28:03Do you want to come in out of the cold and wait?
0:28:24 > 0:28:26CHORAL MUSIC
0:28:40 > 0:28:43I'm just wondering, what was your secret?
0:28:43 > 0:28:46About staying together so long?
0:28:46 > 0:28:49We didn't really have a secret, did we?
0:28:49 > 0:28:51Just stayed together.
0:28:51 > 0:28:55That's what the girl up in the nursing home said to me one day.
0:28:55 > 0:28:58"How long were you married?"
0:28:58 > 0:29:02I said, "Well, in April coming, it'll be 60 years."
0:29:02 > 0:29:06She says, "That's a long time you've stayed together."
0:29:06 > 0:29:09She says, "How did you stick 60 years?"
0:29:09 > 0:29:12I said, "We just loved each other."
0:29:12 > 0:29:14SHE LAUGHS That's right.
0:29:19 > 0:29:21Who's Sandy?
0:29:21 > 0:29:24That's the dog.
0:29:24 > 0:29:26SHE LAUGHS German shepherd!
0:29:26 > 0:29:28That was his wish.
0:29:28 > 0:29:32That's what we both...when we were a bit younger,
0:29:32 > 0:29:34we decided when we got him
0:29:34 > 0:29:36that if anything happened to any one of us,
0:29:36 > 0:29:38he would go in the bottom of the coffin.
0:29:38 > 0:29:40So unfortunately, Roy went first.
0:30:01 > 0:30:04SHE SOBS
0:30:15 > 0:30:17I love you. I always will.
0:30:20 > 0:30:23SHE SOBS
0:31:02 > 0:31:05ORGAN MUSIC
0:31:12 > 0:31:17Just stop there and take the coffin off your shoulders with your hands.
0:31:20 > 0:31:23We commit his body to be cremated.
0:31:23 > 0:31:29Ashes to ashes, dust to dust, in the sure
0:31:29 > 0:31:33and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life through our Lord
0:31:33 > 0:31:38and Saviour Jesus Christ, Amen.
0:32:16 > 0:32:18The groom is delayed,
0:32:18 > 0:32:21and the bride has to get back into the car again to hide from him.
0:32:28 > 0:32:31- Do you remember the first time you fell in love?- Yes.
0:32:32 > 0:32:35I was 19.
0:32:37 > 0:32:39My first love.
0:32:43 > 0:32:45Very special.
0:32:49 > 0:32:50Still friends.
0:32:53 > 0:32:58- Albeit on Facebook.- How did you know?
0:32:58 > 0:33:02Um... Because I just really, genuinely wanted to be with him
0:33:02 > 0:33:05all the time, and shared everything with him.
0:33:07 > 0:33:10And I would say that he loved me more than I loved him,
0:33:10 > 0:33:13and I genuinely really loved him.
0:33:15 > 0:33:17There you go, the one that got away.
0:33:19 > 0:33:24He didn't get away, we decided that we were going to split up,
0:33:24 > 0:33:30and we split up. That was right at the time, so no regrets.
0:33:30 > 0:33:36- Never think about meeting him again? - I did. I met up with him in 2008
0:33:36 > 0:33:40and spent the day with him and his family, it was his wife and daughter,
0:33:40 > 0:33:42spent the whole day with them, it was lovely.
0:33:42 > 0:33:46And I would have met up with him last year.
0:33:46 > 0:33:50He lives in Australia. That's handy(!) When I was in Australia,
0:33:50 > 0:33:56but I left a message for him on Facebook saying, "Do you fancy meeting up for a coffee?"
0:33:56 > 0:34:00And he never got back to me, so...
0:34:01 > 0:34:03But...
0:34:03 > 0:34:06It's a bit hurtful after all this time.
0:34:08 > 0:34:09But that's just the way things go.
0:34:13 > 0:34:14You know?
0:34:17 > 0:34:19Hello!
0:34:19 > 0:34:22- Gary?- Cutting it fine. - You're cutting it fine?!
0:34:22 > 0:34:26I thought you'd never get through the courtyard.
0:34:30 > 0:34:33- You are getting married in St Therese?- Yes.- That's a lovely chapel.
0:34:33 > 0:34:35It is a nice wee chapel, isn't it?
0:34:35 > 0:34:39I actually went to the school beside it, Little Flower.
0:34:39 > 0:34:41- Oh, did you?- It's nice, yeah.
0:34:41 > 0:34:43So you've got links there.
0:34:43 > 0:34:45Yes, well, to be honest, the reason why we did it there was
0:34:45 > 0:34:49because the priest buried our son, and he was really,
0:34:49 > 0:34:51really nice at the time, so it means something.
0:34:53 > 0:34:56So it will be the same priest who buried your baby who will be
0:34:56 > 0:34:57marrying you, then?
0:34:59 > 0:35:02- Where is Rory buried?- Glenavon. - Right, that's not too far.
0:35:02 > 0:35:06Not too bad. So, actually the reason,
0:35:06 > 0:35:10my cousin's wee boy died. He died at five months.
0:35:10 > 0:35:12So we thought it would be nice,
0:35:12 > 0:35:15- the two babies together, kind of thing.- Yes.
0:35:16 > 0:35:19- Did you have to start and buy a grave at that time?- My cousin, she offered.
0:35:19 > 0:35:21Because we wouldn't have known what to do.
0:35:21 > 0:35:24- You don't expect anything like that to happen.- No, you don't.
0:35:24 > 0:35:27It's a really nice graveyard, actually.
0:35:27 > 0:35:30If you like that sort of thing.
0:35:30 > 0:35:33I wish we could get a family plot up there, but you never think
0:35:33 > 0:35:39you're going to have to talk about these things, sure you don't?
0:35:39 > 0:35:41- That's right.- Until you have to.
0:35:46 > 0:35:50- That's £40, please.- Right. - You want to pay by card or cash?
0:35:50 > 0:35:53MUSIC: ORGAN PLAYS "CHAPEL OF LOVE"
0:36:04 > 0:36:07Is it too heavy?
0:36:22 > 0:36:25Does it mean a lot to you, to get married in a church?
0:36:25 > 0:36:28It means...
0:36:28 > 0:36:30I don't know.
0:36:32 > 0:36:37The way I can describe it is, I think a lot of our renewed
0:36:37 > 0:36:41faith came when Rory died, because if we didn't
0:36:41 > 0:36:46believe in anything, we would have, I think, really, really floundered.
0:36:47 > 0:36:52And we thought, we need to know that somebody is looking after him,
0:36:52 > 0:36:55- and he is watching us. - < Tracey!
0:36:55 > 0:36:58Yes, I know. Mummy, wait a wee minute.
0:37:00 > 0:37:03It's... There is a fear there, will it be OK?
0:37:05 > 0:37:08Will we be able to cope on the day, you know?
0:37:08 > 0:37:13Just hoping that it will, you know, so...
0:37:13 > 0:37:15Yeah, you know.
0:37:16 > 0:37:21So... Yeah, it's really... That's really it, you know.
0:37:23 > 0:37:31I hope it will be OK on the day, and...Rory will be over us,
0:37:31 > 0:37:33and looking after us.
0:37:34 > 0:37:40We always wanted him to know that we were good parents,
0:37:40 > 0:37:45that we would have been, so... So hopefully it will be OK
0:37:45 > 0:37:48and not flounder like I'm floundering now.
0:37:49 > 0:37:54# You begin another chapter in the book of life
0:37:56 > 0:38:02# Love is a circle that surrounds you
0:38:02 > 0:38:09# You can find it on the faces of your family and friends
0:38:09 > 0:38:12# Love... #
0:38:12 > 0:38:15Through these mysteries, they may be strengthened in love for one
0:38:15 > 0:38:20another and for you, through Christ, our Lord. Amen.
0:38:20 > 0:38:23Ryan, wear this ring as a sign of our love and fidelity.
0:38:23 > 0:38:25- In the name of the Father... - In the name of the Father...
0:38:25 > 0:38:29- And of the Son... - And of the Son...- And of the Holy Spirit.- And of the Holy Spirit.
0:38:33 > 0:38:35They are now man and wife. You may kiss your bride.
0:38:35 > 0:38:38And let's give them a big round of applause.
0:38:38 > 0:38:40APPLAUSE
0:38:41 > 0:38:43Congratulations.
0:38:45 > 0:38:47OK.
0:38:51 > 0:38:53CHURCH BELLS TOLL
0:38:56 > 0:39:00CHORAL MUSIC PLAYS
0:39:08 > 0:39:11In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, amen.
0:39:11 > 0:39:15It is wonderful to see such a wonderful turnout
0:39:15 > 0:39:16for Cemetery Sunday.
0:39:16 > 0:39:21Some of us don't feel very much like celebrating today.
0:39:21 > 0:39:25In spite of the sunshine and the lovely weather, some of us
0:39:25 > 0:39:31are here today under a great, heavy cloud of sorrow and grief.
0:39:33 > 0:39:39This feast calls us to rejoice, to be glad and to celebrate life
0:39:39 > 0:39:41and new beginnings.
0:39:43 > 0:39:46Father, would you put a wee touch there?
0:39:46 > 0:39:47Thank you very much.
0:40:00 > 0:40:05I think your faith brightens your life for you, you know what I mean?
0:40:06 > 0:40:09With Joan passing away on Christmas Eve,
0:40:09 > 0:40:12if you just saw that, that's the end of it.
0:40:12 > 0:40:15Life wouldn't be worth living.
0:40:15 > 0:40:19You are always expecting some day somewhere you're going to meet her, you know?
0:40:19 > 0:40:21And the rest of the family, like, you know?
0:40:23 > 0:40:27So this is a thought. Most people have this thought, I think, too.
0:40:28 > 0:40:33On the day that you are born, there is a date for you to die.
0:40:35 > 0:40:39On the day you're born, there is a date for being born
0:40:39 > 0:40:41and a date for dying. End of story.
0:40:41 > 0:40:42What do you think?
0:41:19 > 0:41:23Is it harder to fall in love the second time round?
0:41:23 > 0:41:26I don't think you're necessarily looking for it.
0:41:26 > 0:41:31When you're younger, you might be looking for it,
0:41:31 > 0:41:34you might be looking to tick the boxes.
0:41:34 > 0:41:36You get to the end of school, you might go on and do university,
0:41:36 > 0:41:39you get a job, you find someone, you fall in love, you get married,
0:41:39 > 0:41:42you have kids. You've got to tick the boxes.
0:41:42 > 0:41:45And some people might be trying to force finding those boxes to tick.
0:41:45 > 0:41:47Are you describing yourself there?
0:41:47 > 0:41:49HE CHUCKLES
0:41:49 > 0:41:54Was there a day that you realised, hang on, this isn't going to last?
0:41:54 > 0:41:57There were certainly some days when I thought, this isn't working.
0:41:59 > 0:42:01But...
0:42:03 > 0:42:06..there were reasons why I just kept going.
0:42:08 > 0:42:14Love isn't necessarily the bolt from the blue, rose petals and champagne.
0:42:17 > 0:42:21Does your present girlfriend feel the same?
0:42:21 > 0:42:25Um...I don't know, we haven't discussed love.
0:42:26 > 0:42:29How long have you been together?
0:42:29 > 0:42:32Now we've got to think. Six years.
0:42:32 > 0:42:37- Six years.- You must have discussed something like love.
0:42:37 > 0:42:41It's possible we have discussed love, but it might have taken
0:42:41 > 0:42:45a great intake of alcohol, and as a result, we don't remember.
0:42:50 > 0:42:51Hello, Guy.
0:42:51 > 0:42:54This has probably gone cold.
0:42:55 > 0:42:57Maybe I shouldn't show you this,
0:42:57 > 0:43:03- but I've got a brand-new copy of 50 Shades Of Grey.- What's it about?
0:43:03 > 0:43:06It's filth, just... Guy, it's just...
0:43:06 > 0:43:11Um... It's about an innocent girl called
0:43:11 > 0:43:15Anastasia Steele, and she meets Mr Christian Grey,
0:43:15 > 0:43:17who is a billionaire and is into um...
0:43:20 > 0:43:26..just... He's into different stuff and...
0:43:26 > 0:43:33he likes his women to be submissive, and he would be the dominant one.
0:43:35 > 0:43:41And that's putting it nicely. It's... It's quite a book.
0:43:44 > 0:43:46Have you read it? No.
0:43:47 > 0:43:50Well, there's a bit where there is two silver balls...
0:43:50 > 0:43:51LAUGHTER
0:43:51 > 0:43:53They're not his!
0:43:56 > 0:43:58I never heard tell of such things.
0:43:58 > 0:44:01Well, they do end up getting married, you know,
0:44:01 > 0:44:06so it doesn't mean they continuously just live in sin.
0:44:06 > 0:44:11- Is the physical side of a marriage important?- Yes, it's very important.
0:44:12 > 0:44:15It's not the be all and end all,
0:44:15 > 0:44:19but it's important within a relationship, I think.
0:44:19 > 0:44:23- Wendy, you're married far longer than I am.- 37 years, yes.
0:44:23 > 0:44:26Yes, it is important, no two ways about it. It is important.
0:44:42 > 0:44:45It is one of these, I am sitting in a meeting, the door opens,
0:44:45 > 0:44:48she walks in and bang, that was it. It was one of them.
0:44:48 > 0:44:50- Some Enchanted Evening. - Some Enchanted Evening, yes.
0:44:50 > 0:44:55- That was in 2004. - And this is where it has all led to.
0:44:55 > 0:44:59- This is where it has all led to. - She walked in the door and now there is a wedding coming.
0:44:59 > 0:45:02- How did you get into the baking?- My wife. Unfortunately, she passed away.
0:45:02 > 0:45:07She was a cook, too. So that is where my daughter gets it from.
0:45:07 > 0:45:09And have you inherited any of the cooking skills?
0:45:09 > 0:45:11- A wee bit, a wee bit. - Victoria sponge.
0:45:11 > 0:45:13Don't mention the Victoria sponge.
0:45:13 > 0:45:15So are you going to have a Maltesers cake?
0:45:15 > 0:45:17No, this is just traditional fruit.
0:45:17 > 0:45:20- You know the way you normally have pillars in between?- Yes.
0:45:20 > 0:45:24- I have decided to use four Tyrone Crystal glasses.- Ooh!- So I have.
0:45:24 > 0:45:27So it's going to be the cake and the colour round the bottom with the
0:45:27 > 0:45:31ribbon and then four Tyrone Crystal glasses and then the cake on top.
0:45:33 > 0:45:36So you're going to have a layer of cake and then you're going
0:45:36 > 0:45:40to have the Tyrone glasses between your base layer and your top layer.
0:45:40 > 0:45:43Do you have to reinforce your icing or anything?
0:45:43 > 0:45:47What I'll do, I'll put... You know them dowel rods you can get?
0:45:47 > 0:45:50You cut them and that actually puts the downforce down through the cake,
0:45:50 > 0:45:54so it doesn't push into the icing. So...
0:45:54 > 0:45:57So you put your dowel rods into the cake first,
0:45:57 > 0:46:01- then your glass on top. - So it is sitting like that.
0:46:01 > 0:46:04- Like a support pillar.- Like a support pillar.- Yeah.
0:46:08 > 0:46:13Why DO people fall in love? I don't know.
0:46:13 > 0:46:15I've been lucky enough to fall in love twice.
0:46:15 > 0:46:19- Once with your mum and now Amanda. - Is once not good enough?- Pardon?
0:46:19 > 0:46:22- Is once not good enough? - No, once is not good enough. No.
0:46:24 > 0:46:26The dowel rods are in that bag.
0:46:28 > 0:46:29Just put that in the bag.
0:46:34 > 0:46:38- Want me to squish the lumps out for you?- No... Yes.
0:46:42 > 0:46:48- That's a photograph of Amanda.- Yes. - So she's marrying your dad.- Yes.
0:46:50 > 0:46:57- When did you propose? - What was the date? Three years ago?
0:46:57 > 0:47:01We actually went down, the first date we had was on a park bench in Antrim.
0:47:01 > 0:47:05I actually took her down to the same park,
0:47:05 > 0:47:08put her in the same chair and just got down on one knee and said,
0:47:08 > 0:47:11"Look, Amanda, we've been going out so long, will you marry me?"
0:47:11 > 0:47:13That was it.
0:47:13 > 0:47:16- And then...- Then went home to tell the kids.
0:47:16 > 0:47:18And what was your reaction, Alistair?
0:47:18 > 0:47:25Alistair actually... How do I put it?
0:47:25 > 0:47:30He went into shock, I would say, because he thought we might have to move house and change schools
0:47:30 > 0:47:33and all this, but to be honest, nothing has changed.
0:47:33 > 0:47:35The kids are still going to the same school.
0:47:35 > 0:47:42- That wasn't the reason.- Why? - At that time, my mum was still alive.- Yeah.
0:47:42 > 0:47:46And at that time, I didn't want them to get married when she was still alive.
0:47:50 > 0:47:54But it worked out, didn't it?
0:47:54 > 0:47:57- Things can only get better. - Also, I still love your mum.
0:47:57 > 0:48:00I was down the other day with her. Putting flowers on her grave.
0:48:02 > 0:48:04Just trying to get my edges straight.
0:48:07 > 0:48:11Alistair unfortunately didn't really know his mum that well.
0:48:11 > 0:48:14Unfortunately, she took ill when she was very, very young.
0:48:17 > 0:48:21Six months after Alistair was born, she actually fell out of bed.
0:48:21 > 0:48:24Would she mind going into the nursing home, just for a week,
0:48:24 > 0:48:27maybe a fortnight, just to give me a bit of time with the kids
0:48:27 > 0:48:29and get my head round things.
0:48:29 > 0:48:31Once she went into the home physically,
0:48:31 > 0:48:34her health just deteriorated, so it did.
0:48:34 > 0:48:37She was there 14 years.
0:48:41 > 0:48:43- 14 years? - 14 years she was in the nursing home.
0:48:47 > 0:48:53Alistair, would you visit your mum a lot? When she was in the home?
0:48:53 > 0:48:56About once a week I'd go up.
0:48:56 > 0:48:59Because we weren't sure whether she could hear or see us.
0:48:59 > 0:49:02I would have taken the local newspaper,
0:49:02 > 0:49:05so I would and actually read to her, but that's the problem,
0:49:05 > 0:49:08we don't know whether she could hear me or not.
0:49:08 > 0:49:11- So the wedding is a big deal. - It's a big deal, yeah.
0:49:13 > 0:49:15All weddings should be big deals.
0:49:17 > 0:49:20Alistair, what do you make of the whole concept about marriage
0:49:20 > 0:49:22and weddings?
0:49:22 > 0:49:25If two people love each other,
0:49:25 > 0:49:28they should be allowed to marry each other.
0:49:31 > 0:49:35That's me there. I'm just going to put this on top,
0:49:35 > 0:49:40to stop the cats getting at it while it dries for a day or two.
0:49:40 > 0:49:43DOG BARKS
0:50:07 > 0:50:09And how are you keeping, all right?
0:50:09 > 0:50:11- Who?- You.- Me? I'm keeping OK.
0:50:13 > 0:50:14So far, anyway.
0:50:20 > 0:50:25- What's that under the TV?- That wee black box? That's my other dog. Sandy.
0:50:25 > 0:50:28It was supposed to go in Roy's coffin, but they wouldn't allow it.
0:50:29 > 0:50:32Although I don't see what harm it could have done.
0:50:34 > 0:50:39- And where's Roy's ashes now? - There scattered over the sea.
0:50:40 > 0:50:44- Have you got any of them?- In that wee thing. Only a wee skimpy bit.
0:50:44 > 0:50:49But it is hard to open, and you can spill it if you try to open it.
0:50:49 > 0:50:54- It's not so easy to open.- Did you spill some of it?- Some of it!
0:50:57 > 0:50:59- Where?- Somewhere in here, I think.
0:50:59 > 0:51:03He'll come back and haunt me.
0:51:05 > 0:51:10After Roy died, and he was cremated and all, I saw four ghosts,
0:51:11 > 0:51:16and the fourth one was Roy's face. And he had his own hair back.
0:51:16 > 0:51:19And all he did was smile at me and that was it.
0:51:19 > 0:51:23- Did you say anything to him?- No.
0:51:26 > 0:51:33- Was it nice?- Yes, nice to see him. Nice to see him smiling.
0:51:39 > 0:51:44- Where do you think he is now, Sally? - Not a clue. Somewhere up there.
0:52:15 > 0:52:18- Hi, Molly. - Have you got my trousers?- Pardon?
0:52:18 > 0:52:20- Have you got my trousers? - Which ones?
0:52:20 > 0:52:22Cold, that way now!
0:52:22 > 0:52:23Ha-ha-ha!
0:52:28 > 0:52:32MUSIC: "Say You Say Me" by Lionel Richie
0:52:33 > 0:52:38Pardon? Who's he? I'm checking to make sure they are clean.
0:52:38 > 0:52:42# Say you, say me
0:52:44 > 0:52:46# Say it for always
0:52:48 > 0:52:50# That's the way it should be
0:52:53 > 0:52:57# Say you, say me
0:52:59 > 0:53:03# Say it together
0:53:03 > 0:53:05# Naturally... #
0:53:08 > 0:53:12Now, George, will you solemnly promise that you will honour
0:53:12 > 0:53:16and cherish her in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, and
0:53:16 > 0:53:21that in all things, you will be to her a faithful and loving husband?
0:53:21 > 0:53:22I will.
0:53:22 > 0:53:26- Amanda.- I will. - And come to the exchange of rings.
0:53:28 > 0:53:30- It won't go on.- It will!
0:53:37 > 0:53:41Alistair, keep it short and sweet. Thank you, Alistair.
0:53:41 > 0:53:43APPLAUSE
0:53:48 > 0:53:49As he has pointed out,
0:53:49 > 0:53:51I have forgotten to print out my speech,
0:53:51 > 0:53:55so I would like to thank Amanda and George for this very nice meal we
0:53:55 > 0:53:59are about to have. He said short and sweet, so there you go.
0:53:59 > 0:54:02LAUGHTER AND APPLAUSE
0:54:07 > 0:54:10# Don't close your eyes
0:54:10 > 0:54:13# Let it be me
0:54:13 > 0:54:16# Don't pretend it's him
0:54:16 > 0:54:19# In some fantasy
0:54:19 > 0:54:23# Darling, just once
0:54:23 > 0:54:26# Let yesterday go... #
0:54:26 > 0:54:28WHISTLE BLOWS
0:54:33 > 0:54:35Well done!
0:54:38 > 0:54:40Where's the fucking linesman?
0:54:42 > 0:54:43All the best.
0:54:45 > 0:54:49- Yes, all right, good to see you. Good to see you.- Here, I meant to ask you. - Yes. Go ahead.
0:54:49 > 0:54:53Were you down here when my two great uncles were down here, Beefy and Buttons?
0:54:53 > 0:54:57Yes, Beefy Hunter played when I was playing.
0:54:57 > 0:54:59- Buttons as well? - I have a good memory, haven't I?
0:55:02 > 0:55:05INDISTINCT CHATTER
0:55:12 > 0:55:16- What are you doing?- When did you used to play here, Arthur?
0:55:16 > 0:55:19I played with the Crusaders from 1949 to 1953.
0:55:27 > 0:55:29That's Joan. Joan Josephine Brady.
0:55:38 > 0:55:39All the best.
0:55:43 > 0:55:47- Is it getting any easier, Arthur? - Eh?- Is it getting any easier?
0:55:47 > 0:55:49It never will, and I don't want it to.
0:55:51 > 0:55:58Because if it gets any easier, all is lost. You give up.
0:55:58 > 0:56:03I would never give up for her. So I wouldn't. Never.
0:56:05 > 0:56:07I don't think it'll ever get any easier.
0:56:07 > 0:56:09And to get any easier, I would have to forget,
0:56:09 > 0:56:11and I don't want to forget.
0:56:14 > 0:56:17MUSIC: "Who Knows Where The Time Goes?" by Sandy Denny
0:56:17 > 0:56:20# And I am not alone
0:56:21 > 0:56:28# While my love is near me
0:56:30 > 0:56:33# Before the winter fire
0:56:37 > 0:56:41# I will still be dreaming
0:56:48 > 0:56:51# I have no fear of time
0:56:56 > 0:57:04# For who knows how my love grows?
0:57:06 > 0:57:15# And who knows where the time goes? #
0:57:16 > 0:57:18Who's next, please?
0:57:44 > 0:57:48Subtitles by Red Bee Media Ltd