0:00:02 > 0:00:05This programme contains some strong language.
0:00:07 > 0:00:10These films follow the lives of a group of children
0:00:10 > 0:00:13that we first met at the age of seven.
0:00:13 > 0:00:16A new generation of the 7 Up series.
0:00:20 > 0:00:24We continued the journey when we filmed them again aged 14.
0:00:27 > 0:00:29When I was younger, I wanted to be an archaeologist,
0:00:29 > 0:00:33only to find out later on I was scared of corpses.
0:00:33 > 0:00:37I want to get to the Olympics in 2012.
0:00:37 > 0:00:39You have to always have high hopes.
0:00:39 > 0:00:40Even if I don't make it,
0:00:40 > 0:00:43but I'll never say that because I know I will make it.
0:00:43 > 0:00:47Now, aged 21, we meet them again.
0:00:49 > 0:00:51It's really a certain kind of fear of inadequacy
0:00:51 > 0:00:55and that I never want to be someone who's looked down on other people.
0:00:55 > 0:00:58I just don't have belief in myself or self-confidence.
0:00:58 > 0:01:01You know, I just feel like if there's more of me
0:01:01 > 0:01:03in the world it would just be a bit happier.
0:01:08 > 0:01:12I promise that I will do my best to love my God, to serve the Queen and
0:01:12 > 0:01:16the country, to help other people and to keep the Brownie Guide Law.
0:01:16 > 0:01:20Well done. Going to pin this badge on to you.
0:01:20 > 0:01:23Welcome to the New Mills Brownies.
0:01:23 > 0:01:25When we returned to film Stacey aged 14,
0:01:25 > 0:01:30she was still living in her birth place of New Mills, Derbyshire.
0:01:30 > 0:01:33It's a really nice place. Nearly everybody knows everybody.
0:01:34 > 0:01:37I went to Manchester once and didn't like it.
0:01:37 > 0:01:39It's just too big.
0:01:39 > 0:01:43There's people there that you didn't know, it could be anybody out there.
0:01:43 > 0:01:45Absolutely anybody.
0:01:45 > 0:01:50It's just you in this huge city, on your own basically.
0:01:50 > 0:01:52CAR HORNS HONK
0:01:59 > 0:02:03'When I was 14, I was just so, so shy.
0:02:03 > 0:02:05'I had no confidence in myself whatsoever.
0:02:07 > 0:02:09'And I do think that the last seven years
0:02:09 > 0:02:12'and the things I have done, I have changed so much.'
0:02:14 > 0:02:18I don't think I would at 14 ever have dreamed that I would've,
0:02:18 > 0:02:21you know, moved away, lived away for university
0:02:21 > 0:02:24and then move to the other side of the world afterwards.
0:02:24 > 0:02:26Good morning, everybody.
0:02:26 > 0:02:29- ALL:- Good morning, Stacey.
0:02:29 > 0:02:33- How is everybody? ALL:- Well.
0:02:33 > 0:02:38'I was in my third year of uni and it got to the point where it was...
0:02:38 > 0:02:41'Having to start to think about careers and what you wanted to do.'
0:02:41 > 0:02:44We're going to start with a game.
0:02:44 > 0:02:47'And to be honest, I really didn't have a clue,
0:02:47 > 0:02:51'so the university careers programme was putting on some careers talks
0:02:51 > 0:02:55'for a programme called TEIC, Teach English In China.'
0:02:55 > 0:02:57CHILDREN SHOUT
0:02:57 > 0:02:59'I just applied for it, got it.'
0:02:59 > 0:03:02So I'm here in Changde Vocational Technical College
0:03:02 > 0:03:05in Hunan Province, Southern China.
0:03:05 > 0:03:08CHILDREN SHOUT
0:03:09 > 0:03:11'I could never have imagined myself standing up
0:03:11 > 0:03:14'and teaching in front of a class.
0:03:14 > 0:03:18'I was still sort of a little bit reserved at university.'
0:03:18 > 0:03:20"French friend from French."
0:03:20 > 0:03:21LAUGHTER
0:03:21 > 0:03:24'But now, it's just like a second nature.
0:03:24 > 0:03:26'I really don't mind at all.'
0:03:30 > 0:03:34The school itself is quite small, but really friendly.
0:03:34 > 0:03:37It does feel like a sort of close-knit community.
0:03:37 > 0:03:39Can be walking around
0:03:39 > 0:03:43and literally 20 or more people will say hello to me,
0:03:43 > 0:03:47which is a celebrity, I feel like a celebrity.
0:03:48 > 0:03:51And where do you think you'd like to live when you're older?
0:03:51 > 0:03:53London or Hollywood.
0:03:56 > 0:03:59- What would you do in Hollywood? - Be a star.
0:04:04 > 0:04:07Sanchez grew up in Chapeltown, Leeds.
0:04:10 > 0:04:12By the age of 14,
0:04:12 > 0:04:15his thoughts of stardom had begun to focus on football.
0:04:15 > 0:04:19He'd been accepted into the prestigious Leeds United Academy.
0:04:19 > 0:04:22The one thing... My life, if you had to order it,
0:04:22 > 0:04:25it would be family first cos you have to get your priorities.
0:04:25 > 0:04:28But second has to come football.
0:04:28 > 0:04:31Get wide, Sanchez. Go away from him. Run him off.
0:04:31 > 0:04:34I can imagine myself watching TV, Match of the Day,
0:04:34 > 0:04:37watching England, I can see myself in that centre mid position.
0:04:37 > 0:04:40I can see it now, so I'm just waiting for that to come true.
0:04:40 > 0:04:42CHEERING
0:04:46 > 0:04:49September, 2012.
0:04:49 > 0:04:51Sanchez makes the bench for Leeds first team.
0:04:52 > 0:04:5625,000 people just screaming and shouting.
0:04:56 > 0:04:58It was amazing, it was ridiculous.
0:05:00 > 0:05:03I honestly wasn't nervous. I felt I was in my element.
0:05:03 > 0:05:05I felt, you know, this is me,
0:05:05 > 0:05:08this is what I'm going to be doing for the rest of my life.
0:05:11 > 0:05:16By age 15, I was offered my professional contract.
0:05:16 > 0:05:20Just did the normal stages of progressing through the ranks.
0:05:20 > 0:05:23It was going really well. I was enjoying my football.
0:05:29 > 0:05:31COMMENTATOR: Oh, what a goal that is!
0:05:31 > 0:05:35- COMMENTATOR:- Sanchez Payne and that was an absolute bullet.
0:05:35 > 0:05:38And then I started to take a bit of a turn for the worst.
0:05:40 > 0:05:42When I signed my contract,
0:05:42 > 0:05:47I was signed by Gary McAllister who happened to leave within, I think,
0:05:47 > 0:05:52of a month and I feel that when the new manager came in,
0:05:52 > 0:05:56I felt like my chances were a lot more limited,
0:05:56 > 0:05:58which was quite hard to take.
0:06:00 > 0:06:04There was people who had opinions about me for whatever reason,
0:06:04 > 0:06:05that I wasn't good enough.
0:06:07 > 0:06:10So once I heard that, I kind of realised that
0:06:10 > 0:06:14I was stuck in a situation that I really had no control over.
0:06:16 > 0:06:19Sanchez had to see out the rest of his contract
0:06:19 > 0:06:23before being released by Leeds in summer, 2013.
0:06:31 > 0:06:34The Leeds contract came to an end, it was very emotional.
0:06:34 > 0:06:37There was a few tears shed, by me as well,
0:06:37 > 0:06:39cos it was an end of an era.
0:06:47 > 0:06:51There was a moment not too long ago and I was very down,
0:06:51 > 0:06:53a very low place.
0:06:53 > 0:06:56I think the reason is because I don't see football
0:06:56 > 0:06:59as my way to stardom or my way to fame,
0:06:59 > 0:07:01I see it as a way of supporting my family.
0:07:03 > 0:07:05But nobody's going to want me on their team.
0:07:05 > 0:07:07- Yeah, you can be on my team. - You've said it now anyway.
0:07:07 > 0:07:10Yeah, but I'm saying obviously if you're on my team
0:07:10 > 0:07:12then we're going to win.
0:07:12 > 0:07:15Even if I have to carry you.
0:07:15 > 0:07:19'The family are literally like my rock.
0:07:19 > 0:07:22'Right now I'm in the scenario where, you know,
0:07:22 > 0:07:26'I need a bit of support and they're there for me.'
0:07:26 > 0:07:29You know, I just can't wait to repay the favour.
0:07:35 > 0:07:38My mum is a director of Harrods.
0:07:39 > 0:07:44And my dad is a lawyer at Clifford Chance
0:07:44 > 0:07:48and he sort of buys and sells companies,
0:07:48 > 0:07:50which is a bit boring, I think.
0:07:51 > 0:07:54At seven, Oliver was living in West London
0:07:54 > 0:07:58and going to Hill House, an independent school in Chelsea.
0:07:59 > 0:08:02Well, I think two years after we did the last programme,
0:08:02 > 0:08:05I moved to a boarding school in Oxford called The Dragon,
0:08:05 > 0:08:11which I... Well, I was there for four years until year eight.
0:08:11 > 0:08:15And then last September, last September?
0:08:15 > 0:08:18Yeah, last September I went to Eton,
0:08:18 > 0:08:21so I've just done my first year there which was really good.
0:08:21 > 0:08:23Yale! Yale!
0:08:23 > 0:08:25WHISTLE BLOWS
0:08:38 > 0:08:41I would say that my five years at Eton, really enjoyed it.
0:08:41 > 0:08:43Then towards the end of my penultimate year,
0:08:43 > 0:08:46I started thinking about universities,
0:08:46 > 0:08:49both British and American unis and ended up at Yale,
0:08:49 > 0:08:51over here in the US.
0:08:51 > 0:08:55When I first came over, I was excited but also pretty trepidatious,
0:08:55 > 0:08:57I'd barely been to the US before.
0:08:59 > 0:09:00'I thought I knew the culture.
0:09:00 > 0:09:03'I think there is a lot of America that you see
0:09:03 > 0:09:06'that is different from the UK.'
0:09:06 > 0:09:08Yeah, go for it, thank you.
0:09:08 > 0:09:10'Very overtly confident,
0:09:10 > 0:09:14'kind of brash nature that Americans can have to us Brits.'
0:09:14 > 0:09:17# Yale, Yale, so it's all up in my head now
0:09:17 > 0:09:21# Got me thinking that I might get ready to take her with me
0:09:21 > 0:09:24# Cos she's ready to read
0:09:24 > 0:09:26# But I gotta keep it real now... #
0:09:26 > 0:09:30'I'm wary of sounding too kind of elitist and snobby,
0:09:30 > 0:09:33'but being around people who are your own age,
0:09:33 > 0:09:36'intelligent people who you can, you know, have very engaging
0:09:36 > 0:09:39'conversations and interactions with I think really helps.
0:09:39 > 0:09:42'So I think it's very non-judgemental and less critical.
0:09:42 > 0:09:46'And I think maybe that's sort of an Americanism in itself
0:09:46 > 0:09:49'which is something that I've enjoyed.'
0:09:49 > 0:09:52I don't even think about being in America any more, like, you know,
0:09:52 > 0:09:54I don't think about my friends as being American,
0:09:54 > 0:09:57I just think about them as being my friends.
0:09:59 > 0:10:01- 14-YEAR-OLD SANCHEZ:- 'My family's here, friends are here.
0:10:01 > 0:10:05'You can walk down the street and you can see 20 people
0:10:05 > 0:10:08'and then like 15 of them you'll know close.'
0:10:11 > 0:10:14- 21-YEAR-OLD SANCHEZ:- 'My group of friends are like none other.
0:10:19 > 0:10:22'We are the tightest group I could ever think of.
0:10:22 > 0:10:25'Like literally I would do anything for my boys.
0:10:25 > 0:10:26'They all feel the same.'
0:10:29 > 0:10:32Even though we chill together, have a laugh,
0:10:32 > 0:10:36we all have very good upbringings and good morals.
0:10:39 > 0:10:43'As young people coming up, everyone is determined to
0:10:43 > 0:10:48'make their own way in life, which I think, you know, is quite rare.
0:10:48 > 0:10:50'I think that's what we take pride in.
0:10:51 > 0:10:56Some of Sanchez's circle are already tasting success.
0:10:56 > 0:10:58Andre Wisdom, his cousin, plays for Liverpool
0:10:58 > 0:11:01and has captained England at under-21 level.
0:11:01 > 0:11:04His friend Dominic Poleon is a striker for Leeds.
0:11:10 > 0:11:12'Literally every one of my friends have had
0:11:12 > 0:11:15'an opportunity at a top-level club.
0:11:15 > 0:11:20'We could all be at a club right now if things went a bit different.
0:11:20 > 0:11:23'Andre, he's an inspiration to everyone, but also me,
0:11:23 > 0:11:25'you know, we're the same age
0:11:25 > 0:11:29'but we were together at one stage when it veered off.'
0:11:29 > 0:11:35He has epitomised what it is to be a strong person through football.
0:11:38 > 0:11:42RAP MUSIC PLAYS
0:11:49 > 0:11:52MUSIC: "Buggin' Out" by A Tribe Called Quest
0:12:04 > 0:12:07Can we pose for the camera, please?
0:12:07 > 0:12:09Can we get a little smile, please?
0:12:11 > 0:12:15Some of them are for swimming, some of them are for rugby,
0:12:15 > 0:12:17some of them are for football.
0:12:17 > 0:12:19Some of them are for judo.
0:12:19 > 0:12:22And who won them all?
0:12:22 > 0:12:25That one's mine, that one's mine, that one's mine,
0:12:25 > 0:12:28that one's mine and that one's mine.
0:12:37 > 0:12:41Owen is the youngest of a sporting family from Cardiff.
0:12:41 > 0:12:46By the age of 14, he was training five times a week before school.
0:12:46 > 0:12:50When I was 12 and 13 I was British champion.
0:12:50 > 0:12:54When I was 14 when you last shown me,
0:12:54 > 0:12:57I was in the British World-Class Potential Squad.
0:12:57 > 0:13:00So that year marked younger guys
0:13:00 > 0:13:04in terms of possibly making the Olympics 2012.
0:13:06 > 0:13:08'From 15, 16, 17,
0:13:08 > 0:13:10'I wasn't improving as much as I needed to
0:13:10 > 0:13:13'to make the Olympics.'
0:13:13 > 0:13:16I had a couple of hard years after I was 14
0:13:16 > 0:13:19and then decided to pack it in.
0:13:19 > 0:13:21And then towards the end of my swimming career,
0:13:21 > 0:13:26it was sort of a relief that I could sort of bow out knowing I'd done well
0:13:26 > 0:13:29when I was younger, but it was time to move on.
0:13:29 > 0:13:31Owen, go.
0:13:33 > 0:13:36Did you watch the Olympic swimming events on television?
0:13:36 > 0:13:40'Yeah. I had a couple of friends who I knew in the Olympics.'
0:13:40 > 0:13:43Yeah, in terms that it was good for them to be in the Olympics,
0:13:43 > 0:13:45but also, in the back of your mind thinking,
0:13:45 > 0:13:47"Oh, I could have been there."
0:13:48 > 0:13:50Nice shot, great shot.
0:13:50 > 0:13:52And how about the rest of your sports?
0:13:52 > 0:13:55Cos you were talented across any number of sports, weren't you?
0:13:55 > 0:13:57'All my other sports have sort of taken a back seat
0:13:57 > 0:14:00'since I've started working.'
0:14:00 > 0:14:03I haven't played cricket for about two years
0:14:03 > 0:14:05and rugby for about a year and a half.
0:14:08 > 0:14:11Do you miss the competitiveness of sport?
0:14:11 > 0:14:14'To be honest, with me in anything I do I'm quite competitive.
0:14:14 > 0:14:17'I just see it as if you set yourself a goal,
0:14:17 > 0:14:20'you have something to strive for, something to achieve
0:14:20 > 0:14:25'just makes it easier if you've got that end product to get there'
0:14:25 > 0:14:27and to motivate you to get it.
0:14:29 > 0:14:32'I work in a bank dealing with PPI complaints.
0:14:34 > 0:14:37'I started there about two years ago.
0:14:37 > 0:14:38'It's going good.
0:14:38 > 0:14:40'They offer you overtime
0:14:40 > 0:14:45'so my average hours work today is about 12 hours a day.
0:14:45 > 0:14:50'I work from half seven to eight o'clock with half hour lunch'
0:14:50 > 0:14:53and a couple of breaks in-between.
0:14:53 > 0:14:57But I've got in such a routine of it that it's just so normal to me now.
0:14:58 > 0:15:02Jesus. All right, that's enough, over there, off you go.
0:15:08 > 0:15:12I think it's got a lot easier since I met my girlfriend in work.
0:15:13 > 0:15:17Owen, if I go in, you're coming with me. Just bear that in mind.
0:15:17 > 0:15:21'I've known her for nearly 18 months now.
0:15:21 > 0:15:27'We work in the same department, exactly the same job.
0:15:27 > 0:15:30'We are together quite a lot of the time.'
0:15:30 > 0:15:33We used to sit next to each other as well, so it was quite a...
0:15:33 > 0:15:34Seeing a lot of each other
0:15:34 > 0:15:36but we don't sit next to each other any more.
0:15:36 > 0:15:40Am I allowed to ask how you two got together?
0:15:40 > 0:15:42I got this one, OK?
0:15:42 > 0:15:44- So...- He'll tell you a story...
0:15:44 > 0:15:47- ..she joined after me. - ..and I'll tell you the truth.
0:15:47 > 0:15:51And then we went on a night out and she just pounced on me.
0:15:51 > 0:15:53So that's it basically.
0:15:53 > 0:15:59And the truth is he spiked my drink and I was helpless and that was it.
0:15:59 > 0:16:00Yeah.
0:16:00 > 0:16:02Freestyle. Move...
0:16:02 > 0:16:04Chapeltown, Leeds.
0:16:04 > 0:16:06When we first filmed Sanchez's father,
0:16:06 > 0:16:09he was teaching dance classes.
0:16:09 > 0:16:11Sanchez was often there too.
0:16:14 > 0:16:16Never mind, pick it up!
0:16:20 > 0:16:23- 21-YEAR-OLD SANCHEZ:- 'Me and my dad, we're just like brothers,
0:16:23 > 0:16:25'everyone thinks we look like brothers.
0:16:25 > 0:16:27'We talk about everything.
0:16:32 > 0:16:37'My dad, he's been blessed with a very big heart.
0:16:37 > 0:16:40'He's got a likeability about him
0:16:40 > 0:16:43'which means things that he does say, people take on board.'
0:16:43 > 0:16:47Oh, don't let him do that, man. Should have hit him.
0:16:47 > 0:16:49'He's a very good person to have.
0:16:49 > 0:16:51'I mean luckily enough he's my dad.'
0:16:53 > 0:16:56So many boys will kill to get this opportunity, man.
0:16:56 > 0:16:59So many boys have come this far and haven't made it.
0:16:59 > 0:17:02We're not there yet, you haven't made it yet,
0:17:02 > 0:17:04cos the road is still long and far.
0:17:06 > 0:17:08Having been released by Leeds,
0:17:08 > 0:17:11Sanchez was offered a trial by Doncaster Rovers.
0:17:11 > 0:17:13Initially for a two week period,
0:17:13 > 0:17:17after eight weeks he still hadn't heard if he'd be kept on.
0:17:17 > 0:17:21Throughout the whole trial I was not getting paid, I wasn't signed.
0:17:21 > 0:17:25Literally I couldn't really afford to keep going down
0:17:25 > 0:17:28without being paid or without expenses, you know.
0:17:29 > 0:17:32And some weeks we'd be playing football
0:17:32 > 0:17:36and all I want is some communication and that's the hardest part.
0:17:39 > 0:17:40What's happening with you anyway?
0:17:40 > 0:17:44- Doncaster, heard anything from Archie?- No. Nothing as yet.
0:17:44 > 0:17:47The last e-mail I got was an e-mail
0:17:47 > 0:17:49saying that they've been e-mailing people, but...
0:17:51 > 0:17:54How many times have I taken you to training with hardly no petrol
0:17:54 > 0:17:57- in my car? Tell the truth.- The car that leans to the left.- Shut up!
0:17:57 > 0:18:00- The car that turns corners by itself.- Thank you very much.
0:18:00 > 0:18:02You'll have to buy me a new one when you get your contract.
0:18:02 > 0:18:05You don't deserve it. You are a good footballer, you're a good boy,
0:18:05 > 0:18:08not because you're my son, not because I just love you,
0:18:08 > 0:18:10it's just sod's law at the moment.
0:18:10 > 0:18:13- Are we giving up? Are we giving up?- No.- Eh?
0:18:13 > 0:18:16We're not giving up, no, are we heck!
0:18:18 > 0:18:21October, 2013.
0:18:21 > 0:18:25Yale's first eight prepare for a regatta in New Haven, Connecticut.
0:18:25 > 0:18:27We've still got tons of time, guys.
0:18:27 > 0:18:29'It's a very bizarre role, the cox's role.
0:18:29 > 0:18:32'The kind of analogies I would use would be halfway between
0:18:32 > 0:18:35'a jockey and a goalkeeper in the sense that the goalkeeper analogy
0:18:35 > 0:18:37'I like just because invariably you don't get noticed until you
0:18:37 > 0:18:39'fuck up and the best compliment you can get is,
0:18:39 > 0:18:41'"Oh, yeah, he did his job."
0:18:41 > 0:18:44'The jockey analogy I quite like where you have to very much
0:18:44 > 0:18:46'be in tune with like the horse and the race
0:18:46 > 0:18:48'and know tactically when to move and know kind of
0:18:48 > 0:18:51'when to use the whip and when not to use the whip and that kind of thing.'
0:18:51 > 0:18:56It's doing what you've been doing in practice.
0:18:56 > 0:18:57Nothing frenetic.
0:18:57 > 0:19:00Oliver competes at a high level.
0:19:00 > 0:19:03Since school he's trained with coaches and rowers
0:19:03 > 0:19:05of world championship and Olympic standard.
0:19:07 > 0:19:09Absolutely mentally aware.
0:19:09 > 0:19:12Absolutely aware. Three more.
0:19:12 > 0:19:15'I despise being beaten in any context.
0:19:15 > 0:19:18'I also don't like other people thinking they're better than me,
0:19:18 > 0:19:20'especially when I don't think they are.
0:19:20 > 0:19:23'Having the desire to not see some other fucker at university winning,
0:19:23 > 0:19:25'I don't want to see them having satisfaction'
0:19:25 > 0:19:28when I can have that. I don't want them to think that
0:19:28 > 0:19:30they're better than me when I don't think that they are.
0:19:30 > 0:19:33Would you say you were something of a perfectionist?
0:19:33 > 0:19:35Yeah, definitely.
0:19:35 > 0:19:40If something's not right I'll tend to bash up and try it again,
0:19:40 > 0:19:41so yeah, definitely.
0:19:41 > 0:19:43I think I get it from my dad though,
0:19:43 > 0:19:45cos he's a complete perfectionist as well.
0:19:45 > 0:19:46GUNSHOT
0:19:46 > 0:19:49CHEERING
0:19:49 > 0:19:52Stroke by stroke. 33.
0:19:52 > 0:19:56They can see us coming and they can't do shit about it.
0:19:56 > 0:19:59'It's really a kind of fear of inadequacy, in that I never want
0:19:59 > 0:20:02'to be someone who is looked down on by other people.
0:20:02 > 0:20:06'I'm definitely very overly conscious of other people's opinions.'
0:20:06 > 0:20:10Foot down, to the floor. Relentless.
0:20:10 > 0:20:14A lot of people I've spoken to about this, kind of family friends,
0:20:14 > 0:20:16have said, "Oh, you can't live with the fear of failure,
0:20:16 > 0:20:19"that's a really negative way to live and you'll never be happy."
0:20:19 > 0:20:23And I see that and I understand that for them it wouldn't work.
0:20:23 > 0:20:25For me, it's sometimes uncomfortable
0:20:25 > 0:20:27but I feel that it gets the best out of me.
0:20:31 > 0:20:33When we first filmed Courtney,
0:20:33 > 0:20:37she was living in Kirby, a suburb of Liverpool.
0:20:37 > 0:20:40And where have you been then, Courtney, apart from Liverpool?
0:20:40 > 0:20:45Nowhere than Liverpool. I've been stuck in England all the time.
0:20:46 > 0:20:49I've never gone to a different country.
0:20:49 > 0:20:52I've never been to Australia.
0:20:52 > 0:20:54I've never been to America.
0:21:05 > 0:21:09'I originally wanted to apply to Oxford but I thought the course
0:21:09 > 0:21:12'is the same in Liverpool as it is in Oxford, you know.
0:21:12 > 0:21:14'I'm going to be paying the same initially,
0:21:14 > 0:21:16'I would have had to have got the same grades to get in,'
0:21:16 > 0:21:19so why add living expenses on top of that?
0:21:19 > 0:21:22Because the cost of living in the South is substantially greater
0:21:22 > 0:21:23than what it is in the North.
0:21:26 > 0:21:29- 14-YEAR-OLD COURTNEY: - 'I like to be different.
0:21:30 > 0:21:33'Everyone should have something about them
0:21:33 > 0:21:36'that makes people remember them.'
0:21:36 > 0:21:38You should be the shepherd and not the sheep.
0:21:38 > 0:21:41Not follow stuff just because it's what everyone else is doing.
0:21:41 > 0:21:45What we're going to do today is to look at what skills
0:21:45 > 0:21:49will you actually need to get into a career in law.
0:21:49 > 0:21:54'When I did my first set of A levels I did law, politics
0:21:54 > 0:21:57'and then I did history.
0:21:57 > 0:21:59'I also did GCSE Latin as well.
0:21:59 > 0:22:02'I tried Russian.'
0:22:02 > 0:22:05Seems I had a knack for it and then the year after
0:22:05 > 0:22:10when I did my first set of AS's I did a GCSE in Mandarin.
0:22:10 > 0:22:15You know what, all that blue stuff there, that is the Atlantic Ocean.
0:22:17 > 0:22:19And...
0:22:19 > 0:22:22And you know what?
0:22:22 > 0:22:24White men from England,
0:22:24 > 0:22:29they sailed across the Atlantic Ocean all the way around there,
0:22:29 > 0:22:33travelled all over America and killed the Indians.
0:22:34 > 0:22:37That was a long time ago, about 50 years ago.
0:22:39 > 0:22:41- Hiya.- Hiya!
0:22:44 > 0:22:45'I think it's my parents largely,
0:22:45 > 0:22:50'they've encouraged me from a very early age that education is the way
0:22:50 > 0:22:53'that you get from where you are to where you want to be.'
0:22:53 > 0:22:57So you can, you know, really achieve your potential
0:22:57 > 0:22:59and experience all that life has to offer.
0:23:01 > 0:23:02Aha!
0:23:04 > 0:23:08That's what I've always been looking for, Los Angeles.
0:23:08 > 0:23:12That's in America. Just found it.
0:23:12 > 0:23:15All the butterflies were here when I moved in,
0:23:15 > 0:23:17I thought it was a nice little touch.
0:23:17 > 0:23:21I've got my lovely, little cupboard in there.
0:23:21 > 0:23:23I'd rather you didn't film too much of the bathroom
0:23:23 > 0:23:26cos I don't think me mum would be very pleased about that.
0:23:27 > 0:23:29And...
0:23:29 > 0:23:32someone has carved "Matthew" into my desk
0:23:32 > 0:23:36which sort of lets me know who's had this room before me.
0:23:36 > 0:23:38I notice you've got cleaning materials which I think
0:23:38 > 0:23:41is probably rare for a student.
0:23:41 > 0:23:43Yeah, my mother always stresses the importance of keeping
0:23:43 > 0:23:49everything in good order, clean, so it's just old habit really.
0:23:50 > 0:23:53It's warm in here like most of the time except at night
0:23:53 > 0:23:55for some bizarre reason.
0:23:55 > 0:23:58There's a slight lip when you close the window,
0:23:58 > 0:24:02so quite often I have to use a towel as a draft excluder,
0:24:02 > 0:24:05but oh, well, that's all part of the student experience.
0:24:07 > 0:24:10So what do you reckon now? Shall we just pop in there now to see
0:24:10 > 0:24:14if the place is ready for the surveyor to come and have a look?
0:24:14 > 0:24:16Just check the water's working and...
0:24:16 > 0:24:20'I left school when I was 18, just finished my A levels,
0:24:20 > 0:24:25'then with my grades, they're not too bad but they're not amazing,'
0:24:25 > 0:24:30so I thought there's no point going to uni, doing a course which is OK.
0:24:30 > 0:24:33Well, that's the space for the cooker.
0:24:33 > 0:24:36'I thought, "Oh, I'll give it a crack of just going out and working."
0:24:38 > 0:24:43'My dad came out of school without any real grades.
0:24:43 > 0:24:46'He came out with a Welsh O level I think
0:24:46 > 0:24:52'and then just through hard work and motivation got us what we have now.'
0:24:52 > 0:24:55So you don't have any regrets about not going to university?
0:24:55 > 0:24:57Er, no.
0:24:57 > 0:25:00It's probably one of the best decisions I made not to go to uni.
0:25:00 > 0:25:02Hokey cokey!
0:25:02 > 0:25:04Your left arm.
0:25:04 > 0:25:06In. Out.
0:25:06 > 0:25:09'When I actually found out I'd got into university,
0:25:09 > 0:25:12'my mum had gone out to get the clearing papers just in case.
0:25:12 > 0:25:15'Came back and told her and we were both in floods of tears,
0:25:15 > 0:25:17'really happy.
0:25:17 > 0:25:19'You know that was the sort of realisation
0:25:19 > 0:25:21'that I can actually do this, you know,
0:25:21 > 0:25:23'I've got confidence in my ability for once.'
0:25:23 > 0:25:25That's what it's all about.
0:25:25 > 0:25:29I'm the first one in the family to have gone.
0:25:29 > 0:25:30So ready, go.
0:25:32 > 0:25:35'I've never sort of been naturally clever,
0:25:35 > 0:25:37'I've always had to work really, really hard
0:25:37 > 0:25:39'to get the results I wanted.'
0:25:39 > 0:25:43And I had a few setbacks at uni, like, I failed my first year.
0:25:43 > 0:25:47- Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you too.
0:25:47 > 0:25:51'And eventually through sheer hard work I just scraped a 2.1
0:25:51 > 0:25:55and graduation day... Oh, I think it is one of the best,
0:25:55 > 0:25:58the day I will remember for the rest of my life.
0:26:02 > 0:26:06My name is Uncle Chris. What's my name? Uncle...?
0:26:06 > 0:26:09- CHILDREN: Chris.- Uncle Fish? He said Uncle Fish, that's not right.
0:26:09 > 0:26:11Gemma grew up in Bolton.
0:26:11 > 0:26:14At 18 months old, she contracted a rare virus
0:26:14 > 0:26:17that restricted mobility in her arms and legs.
0:26:17 > 0:26:21- What's your name, Gemma?- Gemma. - Gemma, that's a lovely name.
0:26:21 > 0:26:23Three, two, one, go!
0:26:27 > 0:26:30I can do what I want with my friends and everything.
0:26:31 > 0:26:35It's made me more confident being friends with all them lot
0:26:35 > 0:26:39because they just don't really care what other people think.
0:26:40 > 0:26:44So I just thought if they're like that
0:26:44 > 0:26:46then I should be like that as well.
0:26:46 > 0:26:49You got your party sorted?
0:26:49 > 0:26:51Um, sort of it. It's nearly all there.
0:26:51 > 0:26:54'I'm studying criminology at Liverpool Hope
0:26:54 > 0:26:56'and it's going really well.
0:26:56 > 0:26:58'Just my dissertation year this year
0:26:58 > 0:27:02'so it's quite daunting knowing you've got to do all this work
0:27:02 > 0:27:05'and your own research, but I'm quite looking forward to it.'
0:27:07 > 0:27:11When you're 14, you think you're really cocky and big
0:27:11 > 0:27:14and stuff and then when I got to year ten I started realising,
0:27:14 > 0:27:16I was like, "Actually I should probably do some work
0:27:16 > 0:27:20"rather than being, you know, like with the wrong sort of people."
0:27:20 > 0:27:23So you might adopt a certain way of dress
0:27:23 > 0:27:26just to pee people off in authority.
0:27:26 > 0:27:29We've all done that, haven't we? I think I'm still doing it.
0:27:29 > 0:27:31So people are losing value in...
0:27:31 > 0:27:33'I don't think I've changed personally.
0:27:33 > 0:27:37'Maybe a little bit more hardworking or a bit more responsible
0:27:37 > 0:27:40'rather than being just carefree.'
0:27:40 > 0:27:44It's just made me be able to grow up which is good.
0:27:53 > 0:27:55Bye!
0:27:57 > 0:27:59Have you got a picture or anything?
0:27:59 > 0:28:02No. I was hoping to just have it like...
0:28:02 > 0:28:04- Right, OK.- Not just all scraped back.
0:28:04 > 0:28:07- Right, so do you want a bit a quiff here at the front?- Yeah.
0:28:07 > 0:28:10'Me and Charlie have been together for like three years
0:28:10 > 0:28:12'or something now.
0:28:12 > 0:28:18'We met at college but it was college through a friend and yeah,
0:28:18 > 0:28:21'it just blossomed from there.'
0:28:21 > 0:28:23- Is it big enough?- Yeah.
0:28:25 > 0:28:26I didn't even know him really.
0:28:26 > 0:28:29It was just an occasional like, "Hi. Hello."
0:28:29 > 0:28:32And then we started like talking loads over the summer.
0:28:32 > 0:28:37# Happy birthday to you
0:28:37 > 0:28:42# Happy birthday to you... #
0:28:42 > 0:28:46'He had a girlfriend at the time and I had a boyfriend
0:28:46 > 0:28:47'so we were both just friends
0:28:47 > 0:28:52'and then we both ended up splitting with our other partners
0:28:52 > 0:28:56'and then we just both got together and now we've lasted ages.'
0:28:56 > 0:28:58- Hip-hip!- ALL:- Hooray!
0:29:00 > 0:29:02- ALL:- 21 today!
0:29:02 > 0:29:07Ladies love men and men love ladies.
0:29:10 > 0:29:13And then they get married.
0:29:13 > 0:29:16- And they get married.- And...
0:29:16 > 0:29:18And then as soon as...
0:29:18 > 0:29:22As soon as they get married they're not allowed to split up then.
0:29:22 > 0:29:25They have to stay with them for their whole life.
0:29:26 > 0:29:28Yeah.
0:29:28 > 0:29:30MUSIC: "We Are Family" by Sister Sledge
0:29:32 > 0:29:36'My mum and dad split up, I was about 18.
0:29:36 > 0:29:40'My mum has just recently got remarried to Trevor
0:29:40 > 0:29:43'who is really, really nice.
0:29:43 > 0:29:47'He works as like the manager of traffic control at Heathrow,
0:29:47 > 0:29:51'so it seemed to make more sense for my mum to go to London
0:29:51 > 0:29:53'rather than to stay here,
0:29:53 > 0:29:56'which is fine anyway because I was moving out.'
0:30:01 > 0:30:04Luckily, me and my sister were at an age where we could understand
0:30:04 > 0:30:08why it happened rather than being younger and not knowing.
0:30:10 > 0:30:13# Under the apple tree
0:30:13 > 0:30:16# My boyfriend said to me
0:30:16 > 0:30:20# Hug me, kiss me, tell me that you love me
0:30:20 > 0:30:22# A, B, C. #
0:30:24 > 0:30:26'I think the biggest thing that's changed in my life
0:30:26 > 0:30:30'was my parents split up and divorced when I was 16.
0:30:30 > 0:30:32'I didn't really expect it to happen,
0:30:32 > 0:30:35'but I think since it's happened, it's been good for the three of us.'
0:30:35 > 0:30:37'Me and my mum and my brother.'
0:30:37 > 0:30:40I don't actually have a lot to do with my dad any more.
0:30:40 > 0:30:43I've not seen him in nearly two years.
0:30:43 > 0:30:46Right, come on, we'll do it note by note, play me bottom G
0:30:46 > 0:30:47and the bottom C.
0:30:47 > 0:30:49- I can't, I need it.- No, play me a C.
0:30:52 > 0:30:55'She'd been with him for half of her life
0:30:55 > 0:30:57'and then all of a sudden had stopped
0:30:57 > 0:31:01'and I know she really struggled for the first sort of year,
0:31:01 > 0:31:06'18 months and she's since told me that I was her rock.'
0:31:06 > 0:31:11So we were close, but since then we were even closer.
0:31:11 > 0:31:14MUSIC: "Is This The Way To Amarillo"
0:31:16 > 0:31:20Who would you turn to to talk to if there was something
0:31:20 > 0:31:22that was worrying you?
0:31:22 > 0:31:24My mum.
0:31:24 > 0:31:26Definitely.
0:31:26 > 0:31:31If there's something going wrong or I'm not happy I'll tell her.
0:31:31 > 0:31:32I won't keep it from her.
0:31:33 > 0:31:35Rather she knew the truth.
0:31:38 > 0:31:40Do you hear from your father?
0:31:40 > 0:31:44'Even if he knows that I'm here, he's still not been in touch with me
0:31:44 > 0:31:49'to sort of say anything about being here so I don't think he cares,'
0:31:49 > 0:31:53but then we don't really have a relationship any more I don't feel,
0:31:53 > 0:31:57so I don't want to let it get to me too much because the people
0:31:57 > 0:32:04that do care about me know that I'm here and miss me and stuff, so yeah.
0:32:04 > 0:32:07MUSIC: "Seaside" by The Kooks
0:32:17 > 0:32:21You were always, you know, a close family when we'd seen you before.
0:32:21 > 0:32:25Give me an update on how the family life is.
0:32:25 > 0:32:26COURTNEY: Um, it's fine.
0:32:26 > 0:32:28I still speak to my mother most of the time.
0:32:28 > 0:32:31In fact she always makes a big point of texting me just before she
0:32:31 > 0:32:35goes to bed, you know, a good night, love you, all that sort of thing.
0:32:35 > 0:32:39My dad too and I still go and see them sometimes, you know,
0:32:39 > 0:32:41throughout the week cos it's only,
0:32:41 > 0:32:44well, it's not really that far away, so.
0:32:45 > 0:32:47You know what?
0:32:47 > 0:32:53Actually there's a little town in Australia called Springfield.
0:32:53 > 0:32:56That's where The Simpsons come from.
0:32:56 > 0:32:58And that's where Brad Pitt comes from.
0:33:00 > 0:33:02Me mum likes him.
0:33:03 > 0:33:07I've got the... I've got the hands free on and the phone's on the desk.
0:33:10 > 0:33:13That way I'd have three nice formal dresses.
0:33:13 > 0:33:15I've got the black, like, you know,
0:33:15 > 0:33:18the velvety one with the silvery lace at the top.
0:33:18 > 0:33:21I've got that nice cream one with the black lace overlay,
0:33:21 > 0:33:24you know what I wore to Tina's wedding?
0:33:24 > 0:33:28I'm thinking, I'm thinking have you got one of those big staple guns?
0:33:28 > 0:33:31You know what you used to staple things down,
0:33:31 > 0:33:32like tarpaulin and stuff?
0:33:32 > 0:33:35Cos it's... I could use that on the ironing board
0:33:35 > 0:33:37to sort of hold those things in place cos the...
0:33:37 > 0:33:39VOICE ON PHONE
0:33:46 > 0:33:49- Do you want one?- Nah.- I've got loads.- I'm all right, thanks.
0:33:49 > 0:33:52I saw them in ALDI and they looked like this in the box...
0:33:52 > 0:33:55'I don't know, I often joke I'm sort of like a 50-year-old
0:33:55 > 0:33:58'stuck in a 20 year old's body because I always seem to be
0:33:58 > 0:34:02'the responsible one that looks after everybody when they're a bit drunk.
0:34:04 > 0:34:08'I mean I'll have the occasional Malibu and Coke
0:34:08 > 0:34:11'at like a family gathering or something
0:34:11 > 0:34:13'but generally no, I'm not much of a drinker.
0:34:14 > 0:34:18'I'm still a young person who does like to have a good time,
0:34:18 > 0:34:21'so in those respects I am sort of typical.'
0:34:23 > 0:34:26You still have those moments where you haven't realised
0:34:26 > 0:34:29your own unimportance and you think the world revolves around you
0:34:29 > 0:34:30and your own stupid problems.
0:34:30 > 0:34:34Apparently that doesn't seem to dampen down until you're around 25,
0:34:34 > 0:34:36but, yeah.
0:34:44 > 0:34:49Courtney, it's a lot quieter in here this morning than it was yesterday.
0:34:49 > 0:34:51Yeah, that's probably cos everyone's still in bed.
0:34:51 > 0:34:54They all went out last night so I'm the only one up.
0:34:57 > 0:34:59Did you hear them come in?
0:34:59 > 0:35:02Around five-ish.
0:35:02 > 0:35:04And how did you spend your evening?
0:35:04 > 0:35:07Trying and failing to fix an ironing board.
0:35:17 > 0:35:19St Austell, Cornwall.
0:35:19 > 0:35:23When we filmed Talan aged seven, he required constant supervision
0:35:23 > 0:35:25from a designated classroom assistant.
0:35:28 > 0:35:30Tell me how you get on at school?
0:35:30 > 0:35:34School is really good, it's cool. Yeah, man, wahoo!
0:35:37 > 0:35:39Sit up.
0:35:39 > 0:35:42And underneath it's got one that Adam brought up yesterday,
0:35:42 > 0:35:45the semicircle.
0:35:45 > 0:35:47- Stand up.- No.
0:35:47 > 0:35:49- Talan.- Stand up.
0:35:52 > 0:35:54Sorry.
0:35:54 > 0:35:57And I'm not having you in class acting like that.
0:35:57 > 0:35:59You know how to behave in the classroom,
0:35:59 > 0:36:01you were just showing off.
0:36:01 > 0:36:04- 21-YEAR-OLD TALAN:- As anyone who's seen the previous programmes knows
0:36:04 > 0:36:06I was a slightly quirky child
0:36:06 > 0:36:11and being acutely aware of that or certainly being made acutely aware
0:36:11 > 0:36:16of that and being then self-aware of it most of the time thereafter.
0:36:16 > 0:36:19'You know noticing that my social interaction
0:36:19 > 0:36:20'was different from other people.
0:36:20 > 0:36:23'OK, there's times where this is a bit too much and there's times
0:36:23 > 0:36:26'where it's take your foot off the gas pedal a little bit.'
0:36:26 > 0:36:28I've got a sworn enemy called Mark.
0:36:28 > 0:36:33I know his name. Shane. Shane, Chris.
0:36:33 > 0:36:35And why are they your enemies?
0:36:35 > 0:36:38I'm not sure really. They aggravate me and I react.
0:36:38 > 0:36:40I can't help it.
0:36:40 > 0:36:42Are you happier here than at your old house?
0:36:42 > 0:36:44Definitely, yes.
0:36:44 > 0:36:47Yes, it's a big improvement to the old situation.
0:36:50 > 0:36:53Whereas it used to be like the Battle of the Somme,
0:36:53 > 0:36:55now it's like Christmas Day on the Western Front.
0:36:55 > 0:36:58So what we're going to use is a semi-automatic shotgun, OK?
0:36:58 > 0:37:01Which I'm just going to put together.
0:37:02 > 0:37:04- Do they trust you with that?- Eh?
0:37:04 > 0:37:06They trust you with that?
0:37:06 > 0:37:07More than they would you.
0:37:09 > 0:37:12'It's something that I'm intentionally trying to structure.'
0:37:12 > 0:37:14Pull.
0:37:15 > 0:37:19'Just all those social interactions that other people learn naturally.
0:37:19 > 0:37:23'Perhaps I didn't learn them quite so naturally so I've had to try
0:37:23 > 0:37:25'and implement them deliberately.'
0:37:27 > 0:37:30- Oh, for goodness' sake. - And all of those was hesitation.
0:37:30 > 0:37:34- Not that good. - No. I'm not happy with it.
0:37:34 > 0:37:36You're only as good as your last shot, remember.
0:37:36 > 0:37:38'Whether or not I've improved on that I wouldn't hazard a guess.'
0:37:38 > 0:37:43'I guess at yes, but I always say that's still work in progress.'
0:37:43 > 0:37:45Ease off the gas a little bit.
0:37:45 > 0:37:47Just want to be a little bit lighter with that right foot.
0:37:47 > 0:37:50I thought it slowed down cos I was taking my foot off the gas.
0:37:50 > 0:37:53You're not letting me get a good feel for it. You're confusing me.
0:37:53 > 0:37:55We were a little bit quick towards the corner
0:37:55 > 0:37:57so I had to intervene slightly.
0:37:57 > 0:37:59Yes, Mum.
0:37:59 > 0:38:02You're in a hurry to get home today.
0:38:02 > 0:38:07'Well, I've finished college, so I've recently finished a job
0:38:07 > 0:38:11'I was working on and I'm obviously currently hunting for another one.
0:38:11 > 0:38:15'Cornwall's not exactly overflowing with jobs
0:38:15 > 0:38:17'but at the same time, there aren't none at all.'
0:38:19 > 0:38:23I was kitchen porter for a few months, a few years back
0:38:23 > 0:38:26and then recently I was a commie chef,
0:38:26 > 0:38:29which is nothing to do with my political orientation.
0:38:29 > 0:38:32It's simply somebody who does most of the veg prep, so.
0:38:33 > 0:38:36Talan still lives at the same family home.
0:38:36 > 0:38:40When he left college, he had offers from five different universities,
0:38:40 > 0:38:42but is yet to commit.
0:38:42 > 0:38:45At the minute I'm simply exploring my areas of interest
0:38:45 > 0:38:47and areas of possibility
0:38:47 > 0:38:51and eventually I'll probably settle on one particular route.
0:38:51 > 0:38:53And there's certain routes I've got lined up,
0:38:53 > 0:38:56I'm going to test each one of them to see how feasible they are
0:38:56 > 0:38:58and how doable.
0:38:58 > 0:39:01And obviously I've got multiple different possible plans.
0:39:01 > 0:39:03Plans of action.
0:39:05 > 0:39:07'Occasionally things may just come to me.
0:39:07 > 0:39:09'Watching a Korean film,
0:39:09 > 0:39:13'I decided to search for Korean courses at universities.
0:39:13 > 0:39:16'Thought I'd do something a little different
0:39:16 > 0:39:20'and cos I'm most definitely interested in languages.'
0:39:20 > 0:39:23Whether or not I'd have an aptitude for learning Korean
0:39:23 > 0:39:25would be anyone's guess.
0:39:29 > 0:39:32I won't say I'm a loner, but I do like my own company.
0:39:32 > 0:39:34I can deal with it.
0:39:34 > 0:39:38There are times when I do think it would be nice to sort of have
0:39:38 > 0:39:41another foreign person working at the school,
0:39:41 > 0:39:44cos I am literally surrounded by Chinese people 24/7.
0:39:46 > 0:39:50You don't realise in England just how different it is going to be out here.
0:39:50 > 0:39:54Even just the little things of walking down the street on my own,
0:39:54 > 0:39:57people stop and stare at me.
0:39:57 > 0:40:03You just can't put it into words how surreal it all is.
0:40:03 > 0:40:08Oh, but you like mushroom, you add some mushroom in it.
0:40:08 > 0:40:09Ah, I can't get it.
0:40:09 > 0:40:12'I have a family here that picked me up
0:40:12 > 0:40:14'when we arrived in Changde
0:40:14 > 0:40:18'and they adopted me as their English daughter and said,
0:40:18 > 0:40:21'"We will cook for you, we will look after you."
0:40:21 > 0:40:24'They want to make sure I'm happy,
0:40:24 > 0:40:27'they want to make sure that I'm not homesick.'
0:40:27 > 0:40:29This is me, it's terrible.
0:40:31 > 0:40:33You don't realise in England just how different
0:40:33 > 0:40:35it is going to be out here.
0:40:35 > 0:40:37You know that it's going to be a different culture
0:40:37 > 0:40:39and a different way of doing things,
0:40:39 > 0:40:43but I think I underestimated just how different.
0:40:43 > 0:40:45Right. Number.
0:40:45 > 0:40:47- One.- Two.- Three.- Four...
0:40:47 > 0:40:50Talan, a cadet when we filmed him at 14,
0:40:50 > 0:40:53is pursuing a possible career in the military.
0:40:53 > 0:40:56He's been held up by a report from his childhood
0:40:56 > 0:40:59that indicated he might have Asperger's.
0:40:59 > 0:41:02I was in the process of applying and then I found out that...
0:41:02 > 0:41:06I was reading through the guidance notes and there was a medical issue
0:41:06 > 0:41:12that I wasn't 100% sure about, so I had to speak with them about it
0:41:12 > 0:41:16and then my doctor and so on and get that sorted.
0:41:16 > 0:41:19And there's a little bit, there's a little bit of a waiting list
0:41:19 > 0:41:23to find out what the result of that will be.
0:41:26 > 0:41:29It wasn't something I was really concerned with
0:41:29 > 0:41:32cos it never had any effect on me.
0:41:32 > 0:41:34It's only when you find out that
0:41:34 > 0:41:39it's in the way of something that it suddenly becomes a problem.
0:41:41 > 0:41:44The Asperger's and the dyspraxia and all that lot
0:41:44 > 0:41:47and there was lots of speculation over whether I'm this, that
0:41:47 > 0:41:49or the other and most of which I didn't
0:41:49 > 0:41:52but you know one or two they thought I might've, but in the end
0:41:52 > 0:41:56I just ignored half of it because it didn't really mean anything to me.
0:41:58 > 0:42:01'I'm not just going to take the word of some psychologist
0:42:01 > 0:42:02'that assessed me ten years ago
0:42:02 > 0:42:05'when it could have just been a personality quirk.
0:42:05 > 0:42:08'So I'm going to make absolutely sure of that before I give up.
0:42:08 > 0:42:10'I don't think you can really call it an ambition
0:42:10 > 0:42:13'if you're not willing to do everything you can to achieve it.'
0:42:16 > 0:42:18What things do you think are important?
0:42:18 > 0:42:21Things like being happy and...
0:42:23 > 0:42:25..having, loving someone.
0:42:25 > 0:42:29Knowing that someone loves you and things like that.
0:42:29 > 0:42:3221-YEAR-OLD OLIVER: 'Being an only child of only children
0:42:32 > 0:42:36'living in the city, having a nanny all the time and that kind of thing,
0:42:36 > 0:42:39'I think moving out of that environment was a bit of a
0:42:39 > 0:42:41'kick up the backside in terms of learning how to deal
0:42:41 > 0:42:44'with other people, I didn't deal with it very well to start with,
0:42:44 > 0:42:46especially the first couple of years at boarding school.
0:42:46 > 0:42:48That really engrained into my mindset.
0:42:48 > 0:42:51'There were definitely positives that came out of it.
0:42:51 > 0:42:54'Being able to spend time on your own and be kind of self-reliant
0:42:54 > 0:42:57'and being able to have your own set of motivations is very valuable.
0:42:57 > 0:43:01'But at the same time socially I think there was a level of comfort'
0:43:01 > 0:43:04that I would maybe would have derived having a sibling that
0:43:04 > 0:43:07I didn't get that's... I've sort of had to build up more artificially.
0:43:13 > 0:43:17And she spent 15 minutes talking about organisms,
0:43:17 > 0:43:18like micro-organisms.
0:43:18 > 0:43:21'For me, I think one of the things with boarding school
0:43:21 > 0:43:25'that really played into that level of kind of social discomfort
0:43:25 > 0:43:28'that I've tried to cope with that, but I think one element of that
0:43:28 > 0:43:30'that really didn't work that well with learning
0:43:30 > 0:43:33'how to interact with girls on a kind of meaningful level.'
0:43:33 > 0:43:35And I was like, "No, I'm too tired. I'm going to bed."
0:43:35 > 0:43:37It's always a good decision.
0:43:37 > 0:43:40'I've had one longish relationship of six months'
0:43:40 > 0:43:43and one kind of shorter one of about six, seven weeks
0:43:43 > 0:43:46and I've not necessarily felt...
0:43:46 > 0:43:48I've learned a lot, especially from the longer one.
0:43:48 > 0:43:50I learned a lot about myself.
0:43:50 > 0:43:52CHEERING
0:43:52 > 0:43:55'I started to open up a lot towards the end.
0:43:55 > 0:43:59'I think that I didn't handle it in a particularly good way.'
0:44:00 > 0:44:03I really made myself I think quite vulnerable by doing that
0:44:03 > 0:44:07and it wasn't something that came through particularly well, so.
0:44:14 > 0:44:18- 14-YEAR-OLD SANCHEZ:- 'I like girls that I've liked a lot
0:44:18 > 0:44:19'and we've had to break up
0:44:19 > 0:44:23'because I might be liking them too much and when I'm going to football
0:44:23 > 0:44:27'maybe it gets to that point you have to think about yourself first.'
0:44:29 > 0:44:31Cos girls are girls.
0:44:31 > 0:44:33There's so many girls in the world can mess up your head,
0:44:33 > 0:44:36especially for a young boy, so it's hard, man, it's hard.
0:44:36 > 0:44:39That's why my dad's just keeping me on the right track
0:44:39 > 0:44:41just to make sure that girls... You can have your girls
0:44:41 > 0:44:46but once it gets too serious, know when to stop.
0:44:46 > 0:44:49# Ain't no telling what he'll do for the paper
0:44:49 > 0:44:53# Souffle, I'm straight, I scrape my plate
0:44:53 > 0:44:56# I'm a smooth operator... #
0:44:56 > 0:45:00'It wasn't a girl's vibe tonight, like, we enjoy our own company.'
0:45:00 > 0:45:02You have to have different banter when females are around.
0:45:02 > 0:45:04Having a man den night tonight.
0:45:04 > 0:45:07When it's the man den, you can, you know, you know what I mean?
0:45:07 > 0:45:10You can be Chief Keith and all the gangster rock all night
0:45:10 > 0:45:13rather than all the playing into their hands, so.
0:45:16 > 0:45:19No slow jams until we get to the club and then we start mixing.
0:45:36 > 0:45:39MUSIC: "Jenny From The Block" by Jennifer Lopez
0:45:45 > 0:45:49Have you had any meaningful relationships?
0:45:49 > 0:45:53'Each relationship that I did have, it was a growing up stage
0:45:53 > 0:45:56'for different reasons, good and bad.
0:45:56 > 0:45:59'I'm still very cool with the people now.
0:45:59 > 0:46:02'It's just experiences that you take on, you know.
0:46:02 > 0:46:06'It's like everything was new, you know,
0:46:06 > 0:46:09'this is a person that you commit to.'
0:46:09 > 0:46:13I don't think I'd ever let anything, whether it's girls, drink,
0:46:13 > 0:46:15anything get in the way of my career.
0:46:36 > 0:46:39And how do you think other people see you?
0:46:39 > 0:46:42I get the idea that most of them don't really like me much
0:46:42 > 0:46:45but that doesn't bother me, so.
0:46:47 > 0:46:51It's for the most part I'm quite a loner sort of thing.
0:46:51 > 0:46:56I'll go off on me own sort of thing and come back.
0:46:56 > 0:46:58I'm not necessarily one of those people
0:46:58 > 0:47:00who likes to be in a group all the time.
0:47:03 > 0:47:06In Lostwithiel near Talan's home,
0:47:06 > 0:47:09the Young Farmers meet to discuss plans for a cabaret evening.
0:47:12 > 0:47:15'I'm certainly more sociable than I used to be.
0:47:15 > 0:47:18'Sometimes you want a bit of peace and quiet, but I don't think anyone
0:47:18 > 0:47:22'would disagree with that, but now generally I'm perfectly sociable.'
0:47:22 > 0:47:25Do a Dad's Army routine, just sort of hop out the tractor
0:47:25 > 0:47:27with your shotguns.
0:47:29 > 0:47:32We've got to come up with something...
0:47:34 > 0:47:38'Meeting someone new, I don't trust them immediately.
0:47:38 > 0:47:42'I don't think that's any different for anyone else, you know, you can't
0:47:42 > 0:47:46'trust anyone until you get to know them, you know, you don't know them.'
0:47:48 > 0:47:53Do you worry about the judgment of other people?
0:47:53 > 0:47:56'Certainly I do.'
0:47:56 > 0:48:00But I wouldn't say nearly so much as when I was younger.
0:48:02 > 0:48:05You know I'd like to be more comfortable in my own skin.
0:48:23 > 0:48:25It's just adverts everywhere.
0:48:27 > 0:48:30- Is that washing still in my room? - Yeah.- Yes.
0:48:30 > 0:48:35- Would you like me to sort it out for you?- Yes.
0:48:35 > 0:48:36OK.
0:48:36 > 0:48:38If it's dry.
0:48:38 > 0:48:42'Charlie lives like between here, his mum's and university.'
0:48:42 > 0:48:46Would you do us a favour and grab us the mirror out the bathroom?
0:48:46 > 0:48:48'When he's not at home,
0:48:48 > 0:48:52'if we've not seen each other then we'll talk to each other on Skype.'
0:48:55 > 0:48:59Is there any chance that you could grab my lipstick out my bag, please?
0:48:59 > 0:49:00'As we're both doing work,
0:49:00 > 0:49:03'we can both just have Skype in the background.
0:49:03 > 0:49:07'It's the best you can do for a long distance thing.'
0:49:07 > 0:49:11When he's here, he's like a housewife,
0:49:11 > 0:49:14well, house goddess sort of thing.
0:49:14 > 0:49:18He's so good, he cleans, he helps me do everything here
0:49:18 > 0:49:23and he always makes well nice food as well.
0:49:23 > 0:49:24You need anything else in your bag?
0:49:24 > 0:49:29- Me? I need some catheters and stuff, please.- You've got loads.
0:49:29 > 0:49:32I haven't, I've only got about three.
0:49:32 > 0:49:35When you know him, he is absolutely hilarious.
0:49:35 > 0:49:40He just throws little witty comments in everywhere and it's just great.
0:49:40 > 0:49:44Most of my friends' boyfriends are quite jealous and he's not,
0:49:44 > 0:49:48he's just like, "Oh, if you want to go somewhere, just go."
0:49:48 > 0:49:53We just work so well together, it's just, it's just great.
0:49:53 > 0:49:55Do you think you'd like to be rich when you grow up?
0:49:55 > 0:49:56No, not really.
0:49:59 > 0:50:01Why do you say that?
0:50:02 > 0:50:05Well, I just don't feel like being stared at
0:50:05 > 0:50:06through a fancy car window.
0:50:08 > 0:50:10And having lifts in our house.
0:50:10 > 0:50:13Because one girl in our class, I've been to her party once
0:50:13 > 0:50:16and it was dreadful, but anyway she has this house
0:50:16 > 0:50:20and it's got lifts instead of stairs and things.
0:50:20 > 0:50:23- A whaling town in New England, yeah. - Well, I like whale.
0:50:25 > 0:50:28'Right now I'm going to try and move forward with rowing
0:50:28 > 0:50:30'and academic stuff
0:50:30 > 0:50:33'and I'm applying to Oxford for two years post graduation,
0:50:33 > 0:50:36'so that will give me a bit more time to get my head in the right place.
0:50:38 > 0:50:42'I enjoy writing, so I've considered journalism or writing in some sense.
0:50:42 > 0:50:47'What I don't want to do is go to Wall Street or go to Clifford Chance.
0:50:47 > 0:50:49'That's really not something that turns me on.'
0:50:49 > 0:50:51I want to be able to do something more individual
0:50:51 > 0:50:54and more unique than that because I don't want to work in a workplace
0:50:54 > 0:50:57where I feel like other people can do the same thing that I do.
0:50:57 > 0:51:00'Money motivates everyone and you want to have a comfortable life
0:51:00 > 0:51:03'and you want to be able to buy the things that you want to buy.
0:51:03 > 0:51:04'For me that is too superficial.
0:51:04 > 0:51:07'Again going back to rowing, I suppose the satisfaction that
0:51:07 > 0:51:09'I derive from that knowing that I put work in and I get
0:51:09 > 0:51:12'positive returns out of it is very fulfilling
0:51:12 > 0:51:14'so I'd want to have something that gives me that sense of,
0:51:14 > 0:51:17'is it spiritual fulfilment? I'm by no means a religious person,
0:51:17 > 0:51:19'in fact I'm very anti-religion'
0:51:19 > 0:51:22but something hopefully more than the kind of material gains.
0:51:22 > 0:51:27- And the slope, slope roof.- Hm.
0:51:27 > 0:51:31'I may decide that I will go back and in the future go into teaching
0:51:31 > 0:51:36'in England, but at the moment, I'm enjoying myself too much out here.'
0:51:37 > 0:51:40ALL: Cheers!
0:51:41 > 0:51:45'I'm pretty certain at the moment that I will stay for another year,
0:51:45 > 0:51:49'so I'll do two here.'
0:51:49 > 0:51:51Which one do you like best?
0:51:51 > 0:51:55'I want to learn Mandarin and I feel really attached to my students.
0:51:55 > 0:51:58'They're just brilliant, so I want to sort of see them through
0:51:58 > 0:52:01'until they graduate.'
0:52:01 > 0:52:04THEY SING IN MANDARIN
0:52:09 > 0:52:10'New Mills will always be home
0:52:10 > 0:52:13'but I think as well home is where you make it.
0:52:13 > 0:52:17'I feel now that my home is in China because I am here
0:52:17 > 0:52:19'and I've made it my home.'
0:52:26 > 0:52:29Some children's parents are divorced
0:52:29 > 0:52:34and my parents aren't.
0:52:34 > 0:52:39And other children's families...
0:52:39 > 0:52:43are poor and mine aren't.
0:52:46 > 0:52:50So that's why my family are lucky.
0:52:51 > 0:52:54'To be honest I just want to make a good living for myself.
0:52:54 > 0:53:00'Obviously everyone wants to be rich and have the nice things in life.'
0:53:00 > 0:53:03Eventually have a family and just to be able to buy your family
0:53:03 > 0:53:05whatever you want.
0:53:05 > 0:53:09No, I don't think Owen's really changed too much, has he?
0:53:09 > 0:53:11Got a lot hairier.
0:53:11 > 0:53:14That's one problem with the shower, I'm telling you.
0:53:14 > 0:53:17- I thought my hair would be a problem.- That ain't me.
0:53:17 > 0:53:19Your chest hair is clogging it.
0:53:19 > 0:53:22- It's not me.- It's not my chest hair.
0:53:22 > 0:53:25Probably Geoff's moustache.
0:53:25 > 0:53:29'As kids growing up, we had literally everything we wanted
0:53:29 > 0:53:32'and that's just through my parents' hard work.
0:53:32 > 0:53:35'In terms of how they brought us up
0:53:35 > 0:53:39'and careers they've had and what we have now.'
0:53:39 > 0:53:44To model my life off what theirs is wouldn't be such a bad thing.
0:53:45 > 0:53:47Do you think boys are different from girls?
0:53:47 > 0:53:51Yeah, cos boys think they're better than girls and they're not.
0:53:53 > 0:53:59I know about boys cos boys don't get to have babies and girls do.
0:54:02 > 0:54:05That's why I think boys are a lot different.
0:54:07 > 0:54:09Do you think it's difficult to have babies?
0:54:09 > 0:54:11Yeah, cos you have, cos you have to go...
0:54:11 > 0:54:14- SHE PANTS - ..and push very hard
0:54:14 > 0:54:18and it hurts you that much that you start screaming.
0:54:21 > 0:54:25'I do like children, I just don't think I'm cut from the cloth
0:54:25 > 0:54:27'to actually be a parent myself.
0:54:27 > 0:54:29'I think I could be a good aunt though.'
0:54:29 > 0:54:32So my mother will just have to look to my brother
0:54:32 > 0:54:34if she wants grandchildren.
0:54:36 > 0:54:38Friends are good because they help you keep going,
0:54:38 > 0:54:41but sometimes relationships and stuff can be a bit of distraction.
0:54:46 > 0:54:50Really they can only be short-term sometimes,
0:54:50 > 0:54:53whereas your studies are going to affect your future.
0:54:53 > 0:54:56"Meh-sher-ho." Easy enough.
0:55:02 > 0:55:06'What I've learnt from my past is that the small steps
0:55:06 > 0:55:09'are the most important, because every journey
0:55:09 > 0:55:13'starts for the first few goals, obtaining them goals.
0:55:13 > 0:55:16'You know it's like right now my next step is keeping fit.
0:55:16 > 0:55:19'From then it's finding the team and then it's, you know,
0:55:19 > 0:55:22'getting in the team, staying in the team
0:55:22 > 0:55:24'and from then on slowly things will start to set into place
0:55:24 > 0:55:27'rather than, you know, I'm going to play in the premiership.
0:55:27 > 0:55:30'That is my dream and my end goal
0:55:30 > 0:55:32'but I've learnt now to take things step by step.'
0:55:36 > 0:55:39- OLIVER:- 'I've had a very fortunate life
0:55:39 > 0:55:41'and I haven't had a lot of big problems,
0:55:41 > 0:55:44'but it's definitely been a comfort knowing that that support network,
0:55:44 > 0:55:46'albeit small, has always been there, so.
0:55:46 > 0:55:50'I'm definitely afraid of being a failure, whatever that means.
0:55:50 > 0:55:52'Failing to take advantage of what I have,
0:55:52 > 0:55:55'failing to really be able to capitalise on the situation
0:55:55 > 0:55:57'and I don't want to be in a position in 50 years' time
0:55:57 > 0:55:59'when looking back and going,
0:55:59 > 0:56:01'"Oh, I really dropped the ball on that one."
0:56:01 > 0:56:04'So I sort of feel an obligation now that I've got this far
0:56:04 > 0:56:05'to really take advantage'
0:56:05 > 0:56:09and be successful or at least be fulfilled.
0:56:09 > 0:56:12So I suppose the fear of not achieving that is something that,
0:56:12 > 0:56:14that scares me.
0:56:14 > 0:56:17Aw, look!
0:56:20 > 0:56:2314-YEAR-OLD GEMMA: 'I love the idea of being married.'
0:56:25 > 0:56:28Just in a wedding dress and everything,
0:56:28 > 0:56:31it'll just be your day and everything, be well good.
0:56:32 > 0:56:37What do you think you would need or look for in a husband?
0:56:40 > 0:56:42Somebody who's kind and who will help me.
0:56:55 > 0:56:58I do love him, but...
0:56:58 > 0:57:00Yeah, I love him.
0:57:02 > 0:57:04I don't know what else to say.
0:57:06 > 0:57:09Wow.
0:57:09 > 0:57:11Wow, look at this tree.
0:57:11 > 0:57:13What you looking at?
0:57:13 > 0:57:14This tree up here.
0:57:14 > 0:57:17Beautiful.
0:57:17 > 0:57:19It's the best tree I've ever seen.
0:57:21 > 0:57:24My mum and my dad...
0:57:26 > 0:57:30..that's the only people that love me.
0:57:33 > 0:57:38And my nan and everybody in my family loves me but...
0:57:40 > 0:57:42..they don't always like what I do.
0:57:42 > 0:57:44I'm tired.
0:58:01 > 0:58:03'I don't bother trying to think about who I am,
0:58:03 > 0:58:08'I just simply try to get along like everyone else and, you know,
0:58:08 > 0:58:10'and if that seems to be fine for everyone else, then fine.
0:58:12 > 0:58:15'Or if not then, never mind.
0:58:19 > 0:58:22'And you're never going to please everyone so
0:58:22 > 0:58:25'I don't suppose that's radically different from anyone.
0:58:27 > 0:58:29'I was who I was.
0:58:29 > 0:58:31'There's no point particularly looking back on it
0:58:31 > 0:58:33'with a feeling of dislike.'
0:58:36 > 0:58:38And nothing one can do about the past.
0:58:38 > 0:58:41The only thing I'm concerned about is the future.