Changing Minds

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0:00:02 > 0:00:03BABY CRIES

0:00:03 > 0:00:04BABY LAUGHS

0:00:04 > 0:00:08In the year 2000, the BBC began a remarkable experiment

0:00:08 > 0:00:12to follow the lives of 25 babies from across the UK.

0:00:15 > 0:00:18And we've been filming them ever since.

0:00:20 > 0:00:22As they took their first steps...

0:00:22 > 0:00:24CHEERING AND LAUGHING

0:00:24 > 0:00:25..started school...

0:00:28 > 0:00:30..moved house

0:00:30 > 0:00:32and made friends.

0:00:32 > 0:00:36It was a quest to find out what makes us who we are.

0:00:36 > 0:00:38Nature or nurture?

0:00:38 > 0:00:41In this series, our group are turning 16.

0:00:41 > 0:00:44As they step out into the adult world,

0:00:44 > 0:00:46everything is changing.

0:00:46 > 0:00:47Whoo!

0:00:47 > 0:00:48# Yeah

0:00:48 > 0:00:53# We're happy, free, confused and lonely at the same time... #

0:00:53 > 0:00:55Being 16 freaks me out.

0:00:55 > 0:00:59Like, I'm not an adult. I'm not ready to be an adult yet.

0:00:59 > 0:01:01# It's time. #

0:01:01 > 0:01:03- ALL:- One, two, three, Esher!

0:01:03 > 0:01:04CHEERING

0:01:04 > 0:01:06As they reach this milestone,

0:01:06 > 0:01:09I'll be joined by clinical psychologist Tanya Byron...

0:01:09 > 0:01:13THEY CHEER ..who works with teenagers.

0:01:13 > 0:01:17I'll be revealing why being 16 is such a turbulent time.

0:01:17 > 0:01:19I think they've had enough now.

0:01:19 > 0:01:22I'll be finding out about the incredible new science

0:01:22 > 0:01:26that shows how teenagers are being affected by huge changes

0:01:26 > 0:01:28going on in their brains.

0:01:28 > 0:01:31I mean, look, we've got Blackpool Tower in there, the pleasure centre.

0:01:31 > 0:01:33That's your brain, Matt.

0:01:35 > 0:01:39And looking at the massive impact of growing up in a world

0:01:39 > 0:01:42that is radically different to their parents'.

0:01:42 > 0:01:44I spend a lot more time talking to people on social media

0:01:44 > 0:01:46than I do in real life.

0:01:48 > 0:01:50It's a perfect storm.

0:01:50 > 0:01:55Society, physical changes, hormonal changes, and brain changes.

0:01:57 > 0:02:01So join us as we say goodbye to the children we knew...

0:02:01 > 0:02:04..and say hello to the teenagers that they've become.

0:02:20 > 0:02:22Over the last 16 years,

0:02:22 > 0:02:26we've watched our children grow throughout their childhood.

0:02:27 > 0:02:30But in the last few years, they've all undergone

0:02:30 > 0:02:33an extraordinary physical transformation.

0:02:33 > 0:02:35# I'm coming out

0:02:35 > 0:02:38# I want the world to know

0:02:38 > 0:02:40# Got to let it show. #

0:02:41 > 0:02:44He was just a little boy.

0:02:44 > 0:02:48And then suddenly, in the last year, he's really shot up.

0:02:48 > 0:02:50Which, obviously... Also with his voice,

0:02:50 > 0:02:51his voice has changed as well.

0:02:51 > 0:02:53And I've got to the point sometimes

0:02:53 > 0:02:56where I hear this really deep voice in the house, and I'll think,

0:02:56 > 0:02:59"Oh, my God, there's a strange man in the house!"

0:02:59 > 0:03:03Powerful surges of hormones are turning the boys into young men.

0:03:03 > 0:03:05He's taking more care of himself

0:03:05 > 0:03:07because there's ladies.

0:03:08 > 0:03:09Lots of ladies.

0:03:16 > 0:03:18And the girls have turned into young women.

0:03:21 > 0:03:25Well, I've got taller since the last time you filmed, definitely.

0:03:25 > 0:03:26And I've grown some boobs.

0:03:29 > 0:03:31She's a woman. She's, you know...

0:03:31 > 0:03:34She's got that youthfulness about her, which is really depressing!

0:03:38 > 0:03:40As they grow into their adult bodies,

0:03:40 > 0:03:43changes are happening in their brains, too.

0:03:45 > 0:03:48It's almost like I've just transformed

0:03:48 > 0:03:50into an entirely different person.

0:03:50 > 0:03:53..preparing them for the adult world to come.

0:03:58 > 0:04:01And he pulls out this, like, turquoise orange...

0:04:01 > 0:04:04No-one captures these brain changes better than Matt.

0:04:04 > 0:04:08And I was like, "Oh, Joe!"

0:04:08 > 0:04:11# Do-re-mi, do-re-mi... #

0:04:11 > 0:04:14Growing up in Surrey with his parents, Kathryn and Graham,

0:04:14 > 0:04:19and older brother, Rob, he always seemed the shyest of our children.

0:04:19 > 0:04:22- Right, Emile?- Yes.

0:04:22 > 0:04:24- Jade?- Yes.

0:04:24 > 0:04:26Matthew?

0:04:26 > 0:04:28Are you here, darling?

0:04:28 > 0:04:29Can you answer, darling?

0:04:29 > 0:04:31- HE WHISPERS:- No.

0:04:34 > 0:04:37Matthew, when he first started, he was very quiet

0:04:37 > 0:04:39and hardly spoke at all.

0:04:39 > 0:04:43He is shy, but it's not really shy because he's scared of things,

0:04:43 > 0:04:45it's more that he's a very gentle child.

0:04:51 > 0:04:53Which one shall we have a look at?

0:04:54 > 0:04:57He was often hesitant to explore and try things out.

0:04:57 > 0:05:00He's a bit reluctant to let go of his dad.

0:05:00 > 0:05:04So, the impression that we get is of quite an anxious little boy.

0:05:04 > 0:05:06Where shall I sit down? Where do you want me to sit down?

0:05:06 > 0:05:11When he was three, we tested how he coped with new situations,

0:05:11 > 0:05:12and he was unusually timid.

0:05:14 > 0:05:16I think his reaction is extraordinary, isn't it?

0:05:16 > 0:05:19Here he is, in this garden of earthly delights,

0:05:19 > 0:05:21and he's not taking any of the fruit.

0:05:21 > 0:05:23He just doesn't have the confidence

0:05:23 > 0:05:26to go off and explore it by himself.

0:05:26 > 0:05:29This is a pattern that continued throughout his childhood.

0:05:29 > 0:05:32So you're going to come out and have a game with him?

0:05:32 > 0:05:34All right. What do you fancy doing next?

0:05:34 > 0:05:36- Lego.- Hm?

0:05:36 > 0:05:38- Lego.- Lego?

0:05:38 > 0:05:40Can we do something outside when it's nice and sunny?

0:05:40 > 0:05:42We can do Lego outside.

0:05:42 > 0:05:44- Lego outside?- Yeah.

0:05:45 > 0:05:48At 16, Matt has a very different attitude to life.

0:05:48 > 0:05:50CHEERING

0:05:54 > 0:05:56Suddenly it was completely out of my control,

0:05:56 > 0:06:01in terms of just him wanting to go off to parties.

0:06:01 > 0:06:02And so full-on.

0:06:02 > 0:06:05And he'd be like, "Right, next week, I'm doing this on Friday night,

0:06:05 > 0:06:06"that on Saturday night," you know,

0:06:06 > 0:06:08"And I'm staying at this person's house."

0:06:08 > 0:06:10And half the people I didn't know at all!

0:06:10 > 0:06:12He's quite a hedonist. He's a very party animal.

0:06:12 > 0:06:14Joe, do you want a drink?

0:06:14 > 0:06:17'Most weekends we'll go to, like, parties and stuff.'

0:06:17 > 0:06:18- Cheers, Sammy.- That's all right.

0:06:18 > 0:06:21Last night, I went to a party and there were about 60 people there.

0:06:21 > 0:06:24Can we order some more drinks?

0:06:24 > 0:06:25The what?

0:06:25 > 0:06:26He just has a go at everything,

0:06:26 > 0:06:29particularly like adrenaline-fuelled sports.

0:06:30 > 0:06:32He's definitely a thrill seeker.

0:06:34 > 0:06:36BELL RINGS

0:06:36 > 0:06:37I really like extreme sport.

0:06:38 > 0:06:40How did you find it?

0:06:40 > 0:06:41It's good, yeah.

0:06:41 > 0:06:43'I feel really excited.'

0:06:43 > 0:06:46You just, like, run off the edge of a mountain, like,

0:06:46 > 0:06:49- with the parachute on you. Just like, "Nope!"- Whee!

0:06:49 > 0:06:51And then, like, you feel the parachute.

0:06:51 > 0:06:53It's really fun. Crazy.

0:06:54 > 0:06:56So what's behind this new love of thrills?

0:07:00 > 0:07:03There's no doubt that Matt's upbringing has played a part.

0:07:03 > 0:07:06His parents have given him a secure base

0:07:06 > 0:07:08to allow him to explore the world.

0:07:10 > 0:07:12'Although he is ready to sort of embrace the world,

0:07:12 > 0:07:16'it's like he will do it in his own little way and in his own time.

0:07:16 > 0:07:20'I think it's very important for him to be, you know, away from us.'

0:07:20 > 0:07:22Goodbye. Shall I ring you later?

0:07:22 > 0:07:25- Nope.- To say good night? - No.- Oh, can't I ring you, please?

0:07:25 > 0:07:28- No, no.- Oh, please?- No!

0:07:28 > 0:07:31And encouraging his love of sport has opened up opportunities

0:07:31 > 0:07:34to develop friendships and his confidence.

0:07:34 > 0:07:38- Yay!- Well done. Superb, well done.

0:07:38 > 0:07:40And what's your favourite position, then?

0:07:40 > 0:07:43- Do you like defence, attack? - Striker.

0:07:43 > 0:07:44CHEERING

0:07:44 > 0:07:46But Matt's transformation is far greater

0:07:46 > 0:07:48than just gaining more confidence.

0:07:51 > 0:07:55'New science is revealing an extraordinary change

0:07:55 > 0:07:58'happening deep inside the brain of every teenager.'

0:07:58 > 0:08:02What we want to look at today is both of your brains

0:08:02 > 0:08:04and then compare the differences.

0:08:04 > 0:08:08And what we're particularly going to look at is the part of the brain

0:08:08 > 0:08:11that is involved with how we register pleasure.

0:08:11 > 0:08:14The pleasure centre of the brain.

0:08:14 > 0:08:18Whilst inside an MRI scanner, Matt and his dad, Graham,

0:08:18 > 0:08:21will be given a shot of delicious sugary syrup.

0:08:21 > 0:08:23You'll get a little bit of liquid.

0:08:23 > 0:08:25And, please, don't suck on it.

0:08:25 > 0:08:27OK, first scan starting now.

0:08:27 > 0:08:31The sweetness will stimulate the walnut-sized part of the brain

0:08:31 > 0:08:33called the nucleus accumbens,

0:08:33 > 0:08:35otherwise known as the pleasure centre.

0:08:37 > 0:08:40OK, so we're going to start the study now.

0:08:40 > 0:08:43It's here that our feelings of excitement come from.

0:08:45 > 0:08:47Surges of the hormone testosterone,

0:08:47 > 0:08:50that transforms boys' bodies during puberty,

0:08:50 > 0:08:55also acts on the brain of both boys and girls.

0:08:55 > 0:08:57OK, we're all finished and I'm coming to get you out.

0:08:57 > 0:09:00And the effects can be explosive.

0:09:02 > 0:09:04So we've got Matt's brain here on the left,

0:09:04 > 0:09:05we've got Graham's brain here on the right.

0:09:05 > 0:09:08So let's now see how that area responds

0:09:08 > 0:09:10while you're drinking that sugar syrup.

0:09:11 > 0:09:17You can actually see in your brains this really big difference.

0:09:17 > 0:09:20I mean, look, we've got Blackpool Tower in there,

0:09:20 > 0:09:21the pleasure centre there.

0:09:21 > 0:09:24- That's your brain, Matt.- Yeah.

0:09:24 > 0:09:26Graham, bit of a damp squib.

0:09:26 > 0:09:27THEY LAUGH

0:09:27 > 0:09:30But you enjoyed the sugar, but we're not seeing that.

0:09:30 > 0:09:32So mine didn't respond at all to the sugar?

0:09:32 > 0:09:34- HOLLY:- Yours did not respond at all.

0:09:34 > 0:09:39What we know is, in teenagers, you crave pleasure more,

0:09:39 > 0:09:43you seek pleasure more and, when you have pleasure,

0:09:43 > 0:09:47you experience it more intensely than we do as adults.

0:09:49 > 0:09:53These differences in the way the adolescent brain reacts to pleasure

0:09:53 > 0:09:58may explain why so many teens have such an appetite for fun.

0:09:58 > 0:10:00- ALL:- One, two, three, Esher!

0:10:00 > 0:10:03They quite literally feel things more strongly

0:10:03 > 0:10:05than at any other time in their lives.

0:10:10 > 0:10:14Whether it's having a drink or falling through the sky,

0:10:14 > 0:10:17nothing feels as thrilling as when we're 16.

0:10:17 > 0:10:18I think that's good, yeah.

0:10:18 > 0:10:20THEY LAUGH

0:10:21 > 0:10:25The idea that the teenage brain is different from the adult brain

0:10:25 > 0:10:27is really surprising.

0:10:27 > 0:10:31Because it's developing, the brain of a teenager functions differently,

0:10:31 > 0:10:35and this explains some other big changes in our teens,

0:10:35 > 0:10:38like becoming more self-conscious.

0:10:38 > 0:10:40SHEEP BLEAT

0:10:46 > 0:10:48For Megan in South Wales,

0:10:48 > 0:10:52this has brought about a very obvious transformation.

0:10:54 > 0:10:55Yeah!

0:10:58 > 0:11:01She's grown up helping her parents, Gaynor and Rhodri,

0:11:01 > 0:11:03on a busy working farm.

0:11:04 > 0:11:06I like chasing them,

0:11:06 > 0:11:09because they always be scared.

0:11:09 > 0:11:10We, um...

0:11:10 > 0:11:12We don't go away much.

0:11:12 > 0:11:15We're on 24/7 beck and call, at the end of the phone.

0:11:15 > 0:11:18There's so much to do, really.

0:11:18 > 0:11:21She's been brought up to be active and practical.

0:11:23 > 0:11:25Look at these toys!

0:11:26 > 0:11:29Come on, then. Which toy are you going to go for?

0:11:29 > 0:11:31But, even from the earliest age,

0:11:31 > 0:11:34her rejection of anything she thought of as too girlie

0:11:34 > 0:11:36seemed to be part of her nature.

0:11:36 > 0:11:39Obviously, the tomboy instinct reigns!

0:11:42 > 0:11:46Megan continued to be a tomboy throughout her childhood.

0:11:46 > 0:11:48I'm the dad!

0:11:49 > 0:11:53I like holding them, because they slither over my hands,

0:11:53 > 0:11:57and they make them all nice and clean.

0:11:57 > 0:11:58SHE LAUGHS

0:11:58 > 0:12:03I'm tomboy and Rhys is a girlie girl!

0:12:03 > 0:12:06She never worried about anything like her clothes or her appearance.

0:12:06 > 0:12:09It's quite boring, choosing clothes all morning

0:12:09 > 0:12:11and then you waste out all your day.

0:12:11 > 0:12:13You went fishing or something.

0:12:15 > 0:12:19And she felt the same when we last filmed her at 12.

0:12:19 > 0:12:22I'm not one to wear dresses, but...

0:12:24 > 0:12:27- BOTH:- Whirl, s-s-s!

0:12:27 > 0:12:31She was a bit of a tomboy and nothing ever matched

0:12:31 > 0:12:32and she wasn't...

0:12:32 > 0:12:35You know, she didn't care what she looked like

0:12:35 > 0:12:36and she was right ragamuffin.

0:12:36 > 0:12:38Oh, they're so cute!

0:12:38 > 0:12:40But she's changed so much.

0:12:40 > 0:12:42Yeah, I heard Claire's was really good

0:12:42 > 0:12:44- for, like, Gatsby headpieces.- It is.

0:12:44 > 0:12:48She's very much conscious about how she looks and stuff now,

0:12:48 > 0:12:50compared to how she was.

0:12:50 > 0:12:52So this is more me.

0:12:52 > 0:12:56Now she's 16, being a tomboy is a distant memory

0:12:56 > 0:12:59as she gets ready for a party with her friends.

0:12:59 > 0:13:02I think it'll be quite nice to have, like,

0:13:02 > 0:13:04a party where everyone, like, dresses up.

0:13:04 > 0:13:05Are you wearing pearls?

0:13:05 > 0:13:07'Cos it's, like, a Gatsby theme.

0:13:07 > 0:13:12'So it's, like, black-tie and gold and silver and sparkly.'

0:13:12 > 0:13:15- If I go like that... - Yeah. Oh, that looks so pretty.

0:13:15 > 0:13:16Ooh!

0:13:16 > 0:13:18Ooh, that's nice.

0:13:18 > 0:13:20- What is it?- I don't know.

0:13:25 > 0:13:27I feel like a princess.

0:13:27 > 0:13:29I'm just sat here, in my dressing gown.

0:13:30 > 0:13:34Megan's new-found attention to her looks is normal.

0:13:35 > 0:13:38All our teenagers are more concerned with their appearance

0:13:38 > 0:13:41and their body image than they ever were as children.

0:13:46 > 0:13:48Back when they were seven,

0:13:48 > 0:13:52we asked all of them how they felt about their bodies.

0:13:52 > 0:13:56First, they told us which of these images was most like them.

0:13:56 > 0:13:59So which of these body shapes is most like yours?

0:14:00 > 0:14:02And then we asked them whether

0:14:02 > 0:14:05they'd prefer to look like any of the others.

0:14:05 > 0:14:07A.

0:14:07 > 0:14:10On the whole, they were happy with the way they were,

0:14:10 > 0:14:11or just didn't care.

0:14:11 > 0:14:13I don't know.

0:14:15 > 0:14:19At 16, they're much more critical of their appearance.

0:14:19 > 0:14:21Which one looks the skinniest?

0:14:21 > 0:14:22Er, that one.

0:14:22 > 0:14:24Yeah, D.

0:14:24 > 0:14:28I'd say D's most like mine, not very much muscle, but a tiny bit.

0:14:30 > 0:14:31Probably that one.

0:14:31 > 0:14:34Cos I'm, like, really skinny.

0:14:34 > 0:14:37Unlike when they were seven, given the choice,

0:14:37 > 0:14:39most of them would prefer a different body.

0:14:40 > 0:14:42That one.

0:14:42 > 0:14:44Yeah, I'd like to be taller,

0:14:44 > 0:14:45less fat.

0:14:47 > 0:14:49I guess B or C.

0:14:49 > 0:14:51I'd prefer myself with a slimmer frame.

0:14:54 > 0:14:55I am a bit too skinny.

0:14:55 > 0:14:58I'd just like to be able to put on a bit more weight myself,

0:14:58 > 0:15:02cos, like, sometimes being called anorexic, it's not too great.

0:15:07 > 0:15:10We all know that teenagers are more self-conscious,

0:15:10 > 0:15:12but science is revealing why.

0:15:13 > 0:15:17It seems this could be down to a particular change in their brains.

0:15:20 > 0:15:25When we do experiments with adults and teenagers, if we scan your brain

0:15:25 > 0:15:29and ask you to think about other people judging you,

0:15:29 > 0:15:34we see this huge amount of activity in the front part of a teenage brain

0:15:34 > 0:15:37much, much more than in the front part of an adult's brain.

0:15:37 > 0:15:38This is the prefrontal cortex.

0:15:38 > 0:15:41It's to do with how we perceive others

0:15:41 > 0:15:43and how we think others perceive us.

0:15:43 > 0:15:47And at your age, the prefrontal cortex, the front of the brain,

0:15:47 > 0:15:50is undergoing massive, massive changes.

0:15:50 > 0:15:52And while it's changing,

0:15:52 > 0:15:56it's much more active so that you would get quite obsessed

0:15:56 > 0:15:59with what other people think about you.

0:16:04 > 0:16:06Alongside these brain changes,

0:16:06 > 0:16:09there's something unique about this generation of teens

0:16:09 > 0:16:12that's fuelling a preoccupation with their appearance.

0:16:14 > 0:16:17They're growing up in a world of smartphones and social media,

0:16:17 > 0:16:20where they're constantly posting selfies,

0:16:20 > 0:16:22which are then judged by others.

0:16:26 > 0:16:29# Sometimes I hate myself

0:16:29 > 0:16:31# Sometimes I love myself... #

0:16:36 > 0:16:39The combination of a world obsessed with selfies

0:16:39 > 0:16:43and a brain extra-sensitive to the judgment of others

0:16:43 > 0:16:46means that it's no surprise that today's teenagers

0:16:46 > 0:16:48are preoccupied with how they look.

0:16:56 > 0:16:58And, at 16,

0:16:58 > 0:17:02there's another important reason for wanting to be attractive to others.

0:17:04 > 0:17:08Everyone is, like, obsessed with getting a boyfriend,

0:17:08 > 0:17:12getting with someone, being in a relationship and all that.

0:17:12 > 0:17:16Like, who did something with who and who kissed who?

0:17:16 > 0:17:19And that's like... Everyone talks about it.

0:17:19 > 0:17:23I think, at 16, some people, probably most people,

0:17:23 > 0:17:27are ready in some way to have a, sort of, more physical relationship.

0:17:33 > 0:17:36Charlie is one of the first of our teenagers

0:17:36 > 0:17:38to be in a long-term relationship.

0:17:38 > 0:17:39I can't bend like that.

0:17:41 > 0:17:44She's been with boyfriend Paddy for eight months.

0:17:46 > 0:17:48We was at a party.

0:17:48 > 0:17:50We was just talking and then...

0:17:50 > 0:17:52I can't remember what actually happened,

0:17:52 > 0:17:53but she threw Coke over me.

0:17:53 > 0:17:56You was eyeing up different people.

0:17:56 > 0:17:59And then, I thought, "No."

0:17:59 > 0:18:01Took me a while to forgive her.

0:18:01 > 0:18:02Aw!

0:18:02 > 0:18:06After the party, he invited me round his on Valentine's Day

0:18:06 > 0:18:09and he like kissed me on the head and I just looked up at him

0:18:09 > 0:18:12and then he just kissed me. I was like, "OK."

0:18:12 > 0:18:14It was fun.

0:18:16 > 0:18:19It's a relationship her mum, Toni, is concerned about,

0:18:19 > 0:18:24because, when she was 16, she was already pregnant with Charlie.

0:18:24 > 0:18:26Let me change your nappy first.

0:18:26 > 0:18:30She had no contact with Charlie's father, just a teenager himself.

0:18:32 > 0:18:35It's a pattern she's seen repeat through the generations.

0:18:38 > 0:18:43My great-nan had my nan at 21,

0:18:43 > 0:18:48and then my nan had my mum at 17,

0:18:48 > 0:18:49my mum had me at 21,

0:18:49 > 0:18:51I had Charlie at 17.

0:18:53 > 0:18:56'So I'm hoping Charlie will be 21 or older.

0:18:56 > 0:18:58'That is the plan.'

0:18:59 > 0:19:02Toni went on to have three more children after Charlie.

0:19:04 > 0:19:09Against all the odds, she re-sat her GCSEs

0:19:09 > 0:19:12and eventually built up a successful career as a nurse.

0:19:15 > 0:19:17But life was tough as a young mother.

0:19:18 > 0:19:22We haven't physically got the time to concentrate solely

0:19:22 > 0:19:25on doing activities with the children, because we have to work

0:19:25 > 0:19:30at least six days out of seven just to live.

0:19:30 > 0:19:34Seeing her mum struggle influenced how Charlie saw her own future.

0:19:36 > 0:19:38When I grow up, I would like to be a vet.

0:19:38 > 0:19:42I would like a big house, have a couple of pets

0:19:42 > 0:19:44and no children.

0:19:45 > 0:19:48Toni hopes that Charlie has the opportunity

0:19:48 > 0:19:50to get what she wants from life.

0:19:50 > 0:19:54I would be gutted if she fell pregnant now

0:19:54 > 0:19:56or any time before she's 20,

0:19:56 > 0:19:59because I want her to do all the things I didn't.

0:20:04 > 0:20:07'I'm working on the basis I'll have a future with Charlie.

0:20:09 > 0:20:11'I haven't got a lot to offer, but I'll try.

0:20:13 > 0:20:16'It's the first girl I've actually loved, like, properly.'

0:20:22 > 0:20:25Makes you feel, like, special and wanted by someone.

0:20:25 > 0:20:27It's nice, I like it.

0:20:33 > 0:20:37The teenagers' feeling of first love is so powerful

0:20:37 > 0:20:40because of the combination of surging sex hormones

0:20:40 > 0:20:44acting on brains that are extra-sensitive to pleasure.

0:20:49 > 0:20:51It's a recipe for one thing.

0:20:54 > 0:20:56I have spoke to Charlie in the summer.

0:20:56 > 0:20:59We spoke about sex

0:20:59 > 0:21:01and then, a few weeks down the line,

0:21:01 > 0:21:03Charlie was honest with me and said that, actually,

0:21:03 > 0:21:07she had a couple of times and I said, you know,

0:21:07 > 0:21:10not to be ashamed of it if that's how you feel about each other.

0:21:10 > 0:21:12It is nice when you meet the right person,

0:21:12 > 0:21:14as long as I know that you're safe.

0:21:14 > 0:21:16You all right?

0:21:16 > 0:21:18I'm going to cry.

0:21:18 > 0:21:20I felt, actually at that point,

0:21:20 > 0:21:23it wasn't a mother-daughter conversation.

0:21:23 > 0:21:25It was on a level -

0:21:25 > 0:21:28"Let's talk about the realistic side of this

0:21:28 > 0:21:31"and how we're going to move forward."

0:21:31 > 0:21:35# Let's go all the way tonight

0:21:35 > 0:21:36# No regrets... #

0:21:36 > 0:21:38A third of teenagers will have lost their virginity

0:21:38 > 0:21:41by the time they're 16,

0:21:41 > 0:21:44which isn't much different from their parents.

0:21:45 > 0:21:48But teen pregnancies are at an all-time low,

0:21:48 > 0:21:52and some research suggests this generation is having less sex

0:21:52 > 0:21:54with fewer partners than their parents did.

0:21:57 > 0:22:01When I was younger, sex was just kind of,

0:22:01 > 0:22:04"Let's just try that," and now it's more kind of,

0:22:04 > 0:22:08"Oh, I've found a mate and I'm going to stick with him."

0:22:08 > 0:22:10She does get it and she does say to me,

0:22:10 > 0:22:13"I don't want kids until I'm married," so...

0:22:15 > 0:22:17..fingers crossed.

0:22:18 > 0:22:20I'm not saying that mum was stupid for doing it.

0:22:20 > 0:22:23Well, she was at that age, but I'm here.

0:22:23 > 0:22:26But I wouldn't...

0:22:26 > 0:22:28like, be silly like that.

0:22:31 > 0:22:33The sexual feelings that emerge during puberty

0:22:33 > 0:22:36can make for a confusing time.

0:22:38 > 0:22:42Two years ago, Eve had something big to tell her dad.

0:22:46 > 0:22:49'I was scared of telling my dad, I mean,

0:22:49 > 0:22:51'cos I'd only just found out.

0:22:51 > 0:22:54'Like, I waited a few months to tell my dad, because I was scared.'

0:22:54 > 0:22:56So I was going to, like, write him a note.

0:22:56 > 0:22:58I remember I wrote him a note and I put it in a bottle

0:22:58 > 0:23:02and I put it in his room and he just didn't find it!

0:23:02 > 0:23:05For, like, three days, I left this note there

0:23:05 > 0:23:07and he just didn't look at it, so I took it out and I was like,

0:23:07 > 0:23:11"You know what? I won't do that. I'll tell him." So I called him.

0:23:11 > 0:23:15It was late. I was driving back at 11 o'clock at night,

0:23:15 > 0:23:17and my phone went.

0:23:17 > 0:23:18So, I answer it...

0:23:19 > 0:23:22..and she comes on and she just says...

0:23:22 > 0:23:23Er...

0:23:23 > 0:23:28"I want to tell you something, but I don't want to talk about it."

0:23:28 > 0:23:30So, I'm like, "Right...?"

0:23:30 > 0:23:31And, um...

0:23:33 > 0:23:34I said, "OK, go on, then."

0:23:34 > 0:23:36- And she said...- "Dad?" And he went, "Yeah?"

0:23:36 > 0:23:39And I was like, "I'm gay." And then I put the phone down.

0:23:44 > 0:23:47Coming to terms with being gay has been a big journey for Eve.

0:23:52 > 0:23:54She spent much of her childhood

0:23:54 > 0:23:56living on a Christian retreat in Worcestershire.

0:23:56 > 0:23:58Bunny ears!

0:23:58 > 0:24:02So her early life was shaped by strong traditional beliefs

0:24:02 > 0:24:04about relationships and family.

0:24:04 > 0:24:07Dear Lord, God bless Mummy, God bless Daddy,

0:24:07 > 0:24:09God bless Holly and God bless me,

0:24:09 > 0:24:12and please help me and just be round my bed and me to have no bad dreams.

0:24:12 > 0:24:14Amen.

0:24:16 > 0:24:19Aged eight, her world was turned upside down

0:24:19 > 0:24:22when she lost her mother, Caroline, to cancer.

0:24:26 > 0:24:29- Feeling a bit sad?- A bit.

0:24:29 > 0:24:32But I prefer writing to her just as if she's on a long holiday.

0:24:32 > 0:24:33Yeah.

0:24:33 > 0:24:35Well, she really is,

0:24:35 > 0:24:38because I'm going to get there eventually, aren't I?

0:24:40 > 0:24:44Isn't it, don't you keep asking questions until you get a no?

0:24:44 > 0:24:46Oh! Oh, Tim!

0:24:46 > 0:24:49Last year, her dad, Tim, remarried.

0:24:49 > 0:24:52So Eve now has a stepsister, Rosie...

0:24:54 > 0:24:56..and a supportive stepmother, Pam.

0:24:56 > 0:24:59LAUGHTER

0:25:01 > 0:25:04There's been a lot of change for Eve in the last few years.

0:25:04 > 0:25:05Am I alive?

0:25:05 > 0:25:07It's not surprising it took her a little while

0:25:07 > 0:25:09to come to terms with her sexuality.

0:25:09 > 0:25:12- No, not...- Not you, personally.

0:25:12 > 0:25:15I think I had probably, like, known something was slightly different.

0:25:15 > 0:25:18You know, when you're 11 and everybody's talking about

0:25:18 > 0:25:21having crushes on boys, you have no idea what they mean.

0:25:21 > 0:25:25But when I was 13 or 14, I kind of realised that the way they

0:25:25 > 0:25:28were talking about boys was the same way that I'd sort of been...

0:25:28 > 0:25:31thinking about all my best friends.

0:25:31 > 0:25:32I'd had crushes and just not realised.

0:25:32 > 0:25:35I hadn't been paying attention, really, to the way I was feeling.

0:25:35 > 0:25:38And that was quite scary to think about originally,

0:25:38 > 0:25:41because I didn't know anyone else who was like that.

0:25:41 > 0:25:43I'd not seen it on TV or anything.

0:25:43 > 0:25:45I didn't realise that it was a thing.

0:25:45 > 0:25:48And then later, when I just turned 14,

0:25:48 > 0:25:51I was reading about relationships and I came across the word lesbian

0:25:51 > 0:25:55and I thought, "Oh, my gosh, why did I not know there was a word for it?

0:25:55 > 0:25:57"I didn't know other people were like this." So it was thrilling.

0:25:57 > 0:26:01It was such a sigh of relief and straight after that,

0:26:01 > 0:26:02I told everyone.

0:26:03 > 0:26:07My first thought was, "Well, thank God she's not pregnant,"

0:26:07 > 0:26:10then, as far as I'm concerned, all that she needs to know

0:26:10 > 0:26:11is that it's not a problem.

0:26:11 > 0:26:16What her sexual orientation is or what sexual identity she has

0:26:16 > 0:26:19isn't the issue, it's whether she's able to take that

0:26:19 > 0:26:21where she wants to take it

0:26:21 > 0:26:25and live a happy and fulfilled life with that.

0:26:25 > 0:26:28He sent me a long message about how it didn't matter

0:26:28 > 0:26:31and that he still loved me and everything.

0:26:31 > 0:26:33And then at the bottom, he put,

0:26:33 > 0:26:35"Remember I'm the coolest dad in the world, lol."

0:26:35 > 0:26:37And it was funny.

0:26:37 > 0:26:39I've got the message somewhere, saved.

0:26:44 > 0:26:45As Eve's grown-up,

0:26:45 > 0:26:48there's been a huge change in attitude to being gay.

0:26:48 > 0:26:52The age of consent is now the same as it is for straight sex,

0:26:52 > 0:26:56and same-sex marriage has been legalised.

0:26:56 > 0:26:59He doesn't like the mud. He's trying to get out of the mud.

0:26:59 > 0:27:01A generation ago, the average age for young people

0:27:01 > 0:27:05to tell friends and family they were gay was 25.

0:27:06 > 0:27:08But today, it's 16.

0:27:09 > 0:27:11I told you in the changing rooms,

0:27:11 > 0:27:14which is not the best scenario to have chosen to tell you.

0:27:14 > 0:27:16But you were like, "Oh.

0:27:16 > 0:27:18"I mean, I was pretty sure you were anyway."

0:27:18 > 0:27:21I remember someone saying, "I'm not inviting her to my sleepover,

0:27:21 > 0:27:24"because I'm scared she's going to watch me get changed."

0:27:24 > 0:27:26'Finding relationships is difficult,

0:27:26 > 0:27:29'so I've not had a serious relationship ever.

0:27:29 > 0:27:34'I have been out with one lesbian, which didn't last long.

0:27:34 > 0:27:36'Like, less than a week.'

0:27:36 > 0:27:38SHE LAUGHS

0:27:38 > 0:27:42And I've basically exhausted all my options for people my age already,

0:27:42 > 0:27:45and I've only been out with one person.

0:27:45 > 0:27:49Eve has found one way to connect with other gay teenagers.

0:27:50 > 0:27:54While social media might be a source of pressure for some teens,

0:27:54 > 0:27:56it's a lifeline for Eve.

0:27:57 > 0:28:00Eve spends a lot of time on the internet.

0:28:00 > 0:28:03The dominant part of her social life is virtual.

0:28:03 > 0:28:07It's almost as if it's a safety net...

0:28:09 > 0:28:13..for people who might not have a great social life.

0:28:13 > 0:28:14It gives them another option.

0:28:16 > 0:28:21The internet's definitely somewhere where I am content.

0:28:21 > 0:28:24A lot of the friends I have who are gay are online,

0:28:24 > 0:28:26just because it's the easiest place

0:28:26 > 0:28:29to, like, find people who are similar to you.

0:28:29 > 0:28:31My time will come. I'm confident about that.

0:28:31 > 0:28:34Next year, you'll come visit and I'll have a girlfriend,

0:28:34 > 0:28:35probably, maybe. I don't know.

0:28:38 > 0:28:42The new digital world means teenagers can explore

0:28:42 > 0:28:46the rocky road of love in ways their parents could never have imagined

0:28:46 > 0:28:48a generation ago.

0:28:50 > 0:28:54This urge to experiment and explore is part of being 16.

0:28:55 > 0:29:00Teenagers are biologically driven to experiment.

0:29:00 > 0:29:02The exciting cocktail of sex hormones

0:29:02 > 0:29:05and a brain stimulated by thrills

0:29:05 > 0:29:07means that they're irresistibly drawn

0:29:07 > 0:29:10to love, sex and other temptations.

0:29:15 > 0:29:17Back in South Wales,

0:29:17 > 0:29:20Megan is getting ready to celebrate her 16th birthday

0:29:20 > 0:29:22in the barn on her parents' farm.

0:29:26 > 0:29:28Before even my 15th birthday,

0:29:28 > 0:29:31I'd already booked my 16th birthday party in the barn,

0:29:31 > 0:29:35because I wanted to do something big for my 16th.

0:29:38 > 0:29:41It'll be the first grown-up style party she's had

0:29:41 > 0:29:44and many of her friends will be bringing their own alcohol.

0:29:45 > 0:29:49The whole idea of a party has been redefined by this age,

0:29:49 > 0:29:54where it's more focused around drinking and alcohol.

0:29:54 > 0:29:57I think everybody has to experiment in parties,

0:29:57 > 0:30:00like, trying out and testing your...

0:30:00 > 0:30:01alcohol limits.

0:30:01 > 0:30:03I think you learn from your mistakes.

0:30:06 > 0:30:11Having a party at home means Megan's parents can keep an eye on things.

0:30:11 > 0:30:14There is an element of alcohol involved very often.

0:30:14 > 0:30:17We're quite relaxed, or...

0:30:18 > 0:30:19..lenient in that respect.

0:30:19 > 0:30:23Yeah. I'd sooner they... If they are going to experiment with drinking,

0:30:23 > 0:30:26that they do it under supervision

0:30:26 > 0:30:29and not when they go to a big town or a city.

0:30:30 > 0:30:32Learning to take risks responsibly

0:30:32 > 0:30:35is something Megan has always been encouraged to do.

0:30:35 > 0:30:37Oh, whoops!

0:30:37 > 0:30:38Whoops-a-daisy!

0:30:38 > 0:30:40When Megan falls over, I don't make a fuss,

0:30:40 > 0:30:43unless there's blood pouring from everywhere.

0:30:44 > 0:30:48I've never put a stair gate up. I'm not a believer in stair gates.

0:30:48 > 0:30:51They've got to learn by their own mistakes.

0:30:51 > 0:30:54They've got to learn by their own little experiments.

0:30:54 > 0:30:55Come on, Megan.

0:30:55 > 0:31:01I can't abide children that are constantly, "Oh, I've got an owie."

0:31:01 > 0:31:03Oh, that does my head in.

0:31:06 > 0:31:11And it's not just at home that Megan's learnt to look after itself.

0:31:11 > 0:31:13There's dangers in anything,

0:31:13 > 0:31:16whether you went to Legoland and fell off a ride there

0:31:16 > 0:31:19or whether you got knocked over by a sheep.

0:31:19 > 0:31:21We try and be safe. We try and keep them out of danger.

0:31:21 > 0:31:24We know where the sheep are going to run and things, so...

0:31:24 > 0:31:27Yeah, there is an element of danger whatever you do.

0:31:27 > 0:31:29Ready, go.

0:31:33 > 0:31:36- Turn!- Meg, look where you're going out the big window.

0:31:36 > 0:31:37CAR HORN BEEPS

0:31:37 > 0:31:40Megan's also grown-up taking responsibility for herself

0:31:40 > 0:31:42in other ways.

0:31:42 > 0:31:455, 35.

0:31:45 > 0:31:49She's always been expected to pull her weight on the farm.

0:31:49 > 0:31:51Are you going to carry it to the car?

0:31:53 > 0:31:55There's a pound for parking.

0:31:55 > 0:31:57- There you, then. Thank you. - Thank you.

0:31:58 > 0:32:00As a result of her upbringing,

0:32:00 > 0:32:03Megan is unfazed by putting on her own party.

0:32:03 > 0:32:06Megan won't let anybody get involved.

0:32:06 > 0:32:10She just takes all the planning under her own wing

0:32:10 > 0:32:12and she will organise the whole lot.

0:32:15 > 0:32:18She's organised the DJ, she's made a cake.

0:32:19 > 0:32:24After months of planning, the big night has finally arrived.

0:32:24 > 0:32:27Megan hopes it'll be a night to remember.

0:32:27 > 0:32:28CORK POPS

0:32:28 > 0:32:29THEY CHEER

0:32:29 > 0:32:33# I just came to say hello. #

0:32:33 > 0:32:34Perfect!

0:32:36 > 0:32:40Right, we're all going to sing a birthday, a happy birthday to Megan.

0:32:40 > 0:32:42CHEERING

0:32:42 > 0:32:44# Happy birthday...

0:32:44 > 0:32:46# ..to you! #

0:32:48 > 0:32:50WHISTLING AND CHEERING

0:32:50 > 0:32:53# I want to run away

0:32:54 > 0:32:57# I want to run away... #

0:32:57 > 0:33:00Very soon, the teenage instinct for hedonism

0:33:00 > 0:33:03and the search for thrills kicks in.

0:33:03 > 0:33:05# I want to run away

0:33:05 > 0:33:08# Just you... #

0:33:10 > 0:33:14After just half an hour, the night's supply of alcohol has been drunk.

0:33:15 > 0:33:21I am trying to give them water to diffuse loads of alcohol.

0:33:24 > 0:33:30We feel it's better that they do learn from a young age, really.

0:33:30 > 0:33:32All right. Good stuff.

0:33:32 > 0:33:33Otherwise, it hits them all in one go

0:33:33 > 0:33:37and they just rebel against the whole way they were brought up.

0:33:37 > 0:33:39I think they've had enough now.

0:33:46 > 0:33:49Whilst teenage brains are wired to experiment and push the boundaries,

0:33:49 > 0:33:53today's teens are probably more sober and sensible

0:33:53 > 0:33:55than their parents were.

0:33:55 > 0:33:58But like every teenager that's lived before them,

0:33:58 > 0:34:02they're more likely to go overboard if their friends are doing the same.

0:34:04 > 0:34:06Better out than in!

0:34:09 > 0:34:14I'd say my friends probably have more influence than my family.

0:34:14 > 0:34:16Friendship groups, there's a lot of pressure in there

0:34:16 > 0:34:18and stuff like that.

0:34:18 > 0:34:21I'd probably get pressured to drink even if I didn't want to.

0:34:21 > 0:34:24Seems to be, as you get older, your friends pay a lot bigger part

0:34:24 > 0:34:26in your life than they did.

0:34:26 > 0:34:29So, the kind of decisions that they make will definitely influence.

0:34:29 > 0:34:33One of those things, you have to fit in or, like,

0:34:33 > 0:34:34you just get pushed out.

0:34:37 > 0:34:40Teenagers may feel that peer pressure comes from other people,

0:34:40 > 0:34:43but new research is revealing, once again,

0:34:43 > 0:34:47that it's also linked to changes happening in their brains.

0:34:55 > 0:34:57Here at the science Museum in London,

0:34:57 > 0:35:01researchers are investigating how teenagers' assessment of risk

0:35:01 > 0:35:04is affected by what others think.

0:35:09 > 0:35:12We ask to rate the riskiness of everyday situations,

0:35:12 > 0:35:17like just crossing a street on a red light or cycling without a helmet.

0:35:17 > 0:35:20Would you change the rating of the risk of a situation

0:35:20 > 0:35:23if other people tell you it's risky or it's not risky?

0:35:23 > 0:35:26Teenagers are asked to rate on a sliding scale

0:35:26 > 0:35:29how risky they think different situations are.

0:35:33 > 0:35:36They are then told what other teenagers thought

0:35:36 > 0:35:38and asked to assess the risk again.

0:35:41 > 0:35:44The results are showing that young adolescents

0:35:44 > 0:35:48are over three times more likely to conform to what their peers think

0:35:48 > 0:35:49than adults do.

0:35:51 > 0:35:54If you ask teenagers, they're well aware of the risk of situations

0:35:54 > 0:35:55and it seems to be really

0:35:55 > 0:35:58that the social context is triggering their behaviour.

0:35:58 > 0:36:01You don't want to be the one that's different from the other people.

0:36:01 > 0:36:03You don't want to be the weird person.

0:36:06 > 0:36:08Using the latest scanning techniques,

0:36:08 > 0:36:11scientists have discovered that there is heightened activity

0:36:11 > 0:36:15in the brain's pleasure centre when teenagers are making risky decisions

0:36:15 > 0:36:17in front of their friends.

0:36:18 > 0:36:22This, combined with more activity in the prefrontal cortex -

0:36:22 > 0:36:25the part that makes us so sensitive to others' opinions -

0:36:25 > 0:36:29may explain why teens are more likely to succumb to peer pressure.

0:36:31 > 0:36:34Once again, their brains just can't help it.

0:36:43 > 0:36:46Peer pressure isn't just from the outside -

0:36:46 > 0:36:48it's from within, too.

0:36:48 > 0:36:51Taking risks in the presence of friends

0:36:51 > 0:36:55makes the brain's pleasure centre fire even more strongly

0:36:55 > 0:36:59and, sometimes, this combination can have dangerous consequences.

0:37:05 > 0:37:10In January 2016, Jamie Craven was out with his friends.

0:37:13 > 0:37:15Jamie did get in with a bad lot.

0:37:15 > 0:37:19They were known to be naughty lads,

0:37:19 > 0:37:21who did stupid things.

0:37:21 > 0:37:23Um...

0:37:24 > 0:37:27They have been previously in trouble with the police.

0:37:27 > 0:37:29I knew some of them were on drugs.

0:37:29 > 0:37:31That was frightening.

0:37:31 > 0:37:33That night, he didn't come home.

0:37:35 > 0:37:38Jamie is diabetic and, without his insulin,

0:37:38 > 0:37:41his mum knew he could go into a coma.

0:37:42 > 0:37:46Scared for his safety, she posted a cry for help on social media.

0:37:58 > 0:38:00- Mummy.- You big boy...

0:38:00 > 0:38:04Jamie was four-years-old when he was diagnosed with type one diabetes.

0:38:04 > 0:38:07No! Not that one!

0:38:07 > 0:38:10It meant a childhood learning to cope with daily blood tests,

0:38:10 > 0:38:13injections, and a very careful diet.

0:38:14 > 0:38:17I need some breakfast before I go to bed.

0:38:17 > 0:38:19Breakfast before you go to bed?

0:38:19 > 0:38:21Yeah, yeah, because that's me...

0:38:21 > 0:38:23That makes me better.

0:38:26 > 0:38:28Over the years, Jamie and his mother

0:38:28 > 0:38:31have learned together to manage his condition,

0:38:31 > 0:38:34but, when we filmed with them in 2012,

0:38:34 > 0:38:38Sharon was beginning to worry about the dangers that might lie ahead.

0:38:38 > 0:38:42I do worry, also, about when he gets a bit older and he starts drinking.

0:38:43 > 0:38:46That's my next hurdle, I think,

0:38:46 > 0:38:50and I am not looking forward to that one at all.

0:38:54 > 0:38:57Sharon's fears were realised in January,

0:38:57 > 0:38:59when Jamie returned home drunk,

0:38:59 > 0:39:0224 hours after going missing and passing out.

0:39:07 > 0:39:09I didn't know what was wrong with him

0:39:09 > 0:39:11when I first went into his bedroom.

0:39:11 > 0:39:16He wasn't responsive, and then, all of a sudden, he just went blank,

0:39:16 > 0:39:17and he started fitting.

0:39:19 > 0:39:20And I...

0:39:20 > 0:39:23tried to shake him to bring him round,

0:39:23 > 0:39:25because I'd never seen this before,

0:39:25 > 0:39:27so I hadn't a clue what was going on.

0:39:28 > 0:39:31And then it was obvious to me that...

0:39:31 > 0:39:33he was in a coma - a diabetic coma.

0:39:36 > 0:39:39I thought, "Right, you need to get sugar in him,"

0:39:39 > 0:39:44so I was rubbing jam in his gums, inside his mouth.

0:39:45 > 0:39:49Whilst I was doing that, I was on the phone to the paramedics.

0:39:49 > 0:39:52It's somebody's life,

0:39:52 > 0:39:54and it... It's frightening that, "Oh, my God,

0:39:54 > 0:39:56"I'm going to do the wrong thing."

0:39:57 > 0:40:00And then the ambulance came out.

0:40:00 > 0:40:04It was quite scary, being in hospital,

0:40:04 > 0:40:05because I wasn't really...

0:40:07 > 0:40:08..sure what was going to happen.

0:40:11 > 0:40:14This incident was a turning point for Jamie.

0:40:16 > 0:40:19It's been kind of a wake-up call, really.

0:40:19 > 0:40:22It's a lesson in what...

0:40:22 > 0:40:24what to and what not to do.

0:40:24 > 0:40:25Yeah.

0:40:27 > 0:40:29Since then, Jamie's got a job.

0:40:29 > 0:40:30Thanks, Jamie.

0:40:30 > 0:40:33As well as taking responsibility for his health and finances,

0:40:33 > 0:40:37he's taking another big step towards independence.

0:40:37 > 0:40:42Well, it's a Yamaha Aerox 50

0:40:42 > 0:40:43and it's...

0:40:43 > 0:40:48Well, it's my bike and I've just been doing it up.

0:40:48 > 0:40:51I want to be able to get places by myself

0:40:51 > 0:40:53and not have to rely on people to take me.

0:40:54 > 0:40:56OK, Jamie. All right?

0:40:56 > 0:40:59There's going to look after you out there, only you.

0:40:59 > 0:41:02- Yeah.- All right? Very important to understand that.

0:41:02 > 0:41:04When you're ready.

0:41:04 > 0:41:07Keep looking, Jamie. Keep looking. Look at me.

0:41:07 > 0:41:09Slowly. Keep going, Jamie.

0:41:09 > 0:41:11That's doing good. Keep going.

0:41:18 > 0:41:19OK, then, Jamie.

0:41:19 > 0:41:22- Well done.- Thank you. - You've done well.

0:41:22 > 0:41:25- You keep that safe and you keep safe.- I will.

0:41:25 > 0:41:28# Everything is changing

0:41:28 > 0:41:30# And I've been here for too long. #

0:41:30 > 0:41:33It feels like...like I'm free,

0:41:33 > 0:41:36cos I've been waiting for weeks to go out on it.

0:41:39 > 0:41:42And now I can, so I'm really happy.

0:41:49 > 0:41:51The group of friends we have when we're 16

0:41:51 > 0:41:55is critical in helping us to define who we are,

0:41:55 > 0:41:58and research shows it can have an impact on us

0:41:58 > 0:42:00for the rest of our life.

0:42:00 > 0:42:03Our friends at 16 can influence how likely we are

0:42:03 > 0:42:07to graduate from college, the amount of money we'll go on to earn,

0:42:07 > 0:42:10and even how much we'll drink.

0:42:19 > 0:42:22# I'm no saint

0:42:22 > 0:42:24# I bathe in sin

0:42:24 > 0:42:30# This world is cruel, but we made it. #

0:42:30 > 0:42:33Rhianna Lees, growing up in East Yorkshire,

0:42:33 > 0:42:36has a group of friends who share a cynicism of the world,

0:42:36 > 0:42:39which she expresses in her songs.

0:42:39 > 0:42:42# We're not insane

0:42:42 > 0:42:45# So damaged from the breakages

0:42:45 > 0:42:48# You'll be this way

0:42:48 > 0:42:51# Life is what you make of it

0:42:51 > 0:42:53# We're not the same

0:42:53 > 0:42:57# Someone fix my wicked brain. #

0:42:58 > 0:43:02I don't think that I'm going to get to do what I want to do,

0:43:02 > 0:43:04to be honest. I think I'm going to end up stuck somewhere,

0:43:04 > 0:43:06which I don't want to do. And then you just...

0:43:06 > 0:43:08You pay your bills and you die -

0:43:08 > 0:43:10that's pretty much what happens in life!

0:43:11 > 0:43:13The friendship group she's got...

0:43:15 > 0:43:18I'm guessing they're a kind of outsider group.

0:43:18 > 0:43:21We're kind of just, like, a ragtag bunch of people,

0:43:21 > 0:43:23who are slightly mentally insane.

0:43:23 > 0:43:26# Can I say

0:43:26 > 0:43:29# That I miss you? #

0:43:31 > 0:43:34"The weird people" is kind of where we are.

0:43:34 > 0:43:37She is a much giddier person with her friends, you know,

0:43:37 > 0:43:41chortling and shrieking and carrying on.

0:43:41 > 0:43:44I do get on really well with my mum, of course, but I just...

0:43:44 > 0:43:46prefer to spend time with my friends.

0:43:50 > 0:43:53For Rhianna, friends have always been a source of strength

0:43:53 > 0:43:55because, from an early age,

0:43:55 > 0:43:58she's had to cope with troubles in her parents' marriage.

0:43:58 > 0:44:01I don't think Daddy's coming home for tea tonight, so it's just...

0:44:01 > 0:44:03But he never comes home!

0:44:03 > 0:44:04- You what, darling?- Stop it!

0:44:04 > 0:44:08If Rhianna marries somebody like Andy, I would be furious.

0:44:08 > 0:44:12It's not good, because he's not spending time with his family.

0:44:12 > 0:44:16Working mum Tanya was always frustrated that Rhianna's dad, Andy,

0:44:16 > 0:44:19contributed so little to the household.

0:44:19 > 0:44:23I resent horrendously the fact that he won't do what I think is,

0:44:23 > 0:44:26you know, his duty -

0:44:26 > 0:44:28take his responsibilities seriously.

0:44:30 > 0:44:31Life's too short.

0:44:32 > 0:44:34You know? Just, what's the point

0:44:34 > 0:44:36- in worrying yourself to death over something?- Right...

0:44:36 > 0:44:39The world won't stop just because the washing-up's not done.

0:44:39 > 0:44:40Move it.

0:44:42 > 0:44:45The atmosphere at home had an impact on Rhianna.

0:44:45 > 0:44:47Oh, sorry, sweetheart.

0:44:49 > 0:44:52When she was six, her mum sought professional help.

0:44:54 > 0:44:56Children are very sensitive to conflict in the household.

0:44:56 > 0:44:58As a child psychiatrist,

0:44:58 > 0:45:01if I could only ever do one thing to help children,

0:45:01 > 0:45:03it would be to reduce family conflict.

0:45:03 > 0:45:04Thank you.

0:45:05 > 0:45:07What's helped Rhianna to cope

0:45:07 > 0:45:10is that she's always been a sociable child.

0:45:10 > 0:45:13If you actually swing on these two branches...

0:45:13 > 0:45:17Spending time with her friends was a release from the stresses of home.

0:45:20 > 0:45:23Over the years, things haven't improved,

0:45:23 > 0:45:27and, last year, her parents' marriage reached breaking point.

0:45:28 > 0:45:32Things hadn't been right for a long time - living separate lives, etc.

0:45:32 > 0:45:36And it all erupted one night when, um...

0:45:36 > 0:45:39for the first time in my life, I was really honest with him.

0:45:39 > 0:45:41Um, we had a fallout.

0:45:41 > 0:45:45Two days later, I was evicted by the police

0:45:45 > 0:45:50with a black bin liner full of some work clothes and that was it.

0:45:50 > 0:45:54And we don't speak any more, at the moment.

0:45:56 > 0:45:57Well, I can't speak to Tanya,

0:45:57 > 0:46:00because she has a restraining order against me.

0:46:03 > 0:46:05Although the restraining order

0:46:05 > 0:46:07doesn't prevent Andy from seeing Rhianna,

0:46:07 > 0:46:10there's been little contact between them since he moved out.

0:46:12 > 0:46:17I've seen Rhianna perhaps six times in a year.

0:46:17 > 0:46:21She's turning into a young lady, and I'm missing Rhianna growing up.

0:46:23 > 0:46:25And, er...

0:46:27 > 0:46:29HE EXHALES

0:46:30 > 0:46:31- Blimey. - HE SNIFFS

0:46:34 > 0:46:37# Get going, get going, get going

0:46:37 > 0:46:40# You leave and you leave and you're leaving

0:46:40 > 0:46:43# Get going, get going, get going

0:46:43 > 0:46:47# I don't want you any more. #

0:46:50 > 0:46:52- It looks a mess.- He's meant to.

0:46:52 > 0:46:55- He's a mentally insane supervillain. - Yeah, OK.

0:46:55 > 0:46:58Research shows that children who seek support from others

0:46:58 > 0:47:01during a family breakdown adjust more quickly.

0:47:01 > 0:47:05The female Joker look is what I'm going for, really. Um...

0:47:05 > 0:47:08Rhianna's been spending lots of time with her friends

0:47:08 > 0:47:12and, next month, they're all going to her favourite comic convention.

0:47:12 > 0:47:14How long have I got to do this?

0:47:14 > 0:47:19Comic Con is a comic convention and there's loads of people cosplaying,

0:47:19 > 0:47:21which is dressing up as a favourite character,

0:47:21 > 0:47:24and kind of living as them, and just...

0:47:24 > 0:47:26You know, just for that day.

0:47:26 > 0:47:28They get to dress up as Star Trek characters

0:47:28 > 0:47:31and get really excited it if they go to see Derek Nimoy or...

0:47:31 > 0:47:34- Leonard Nimoy.- Leonard Nimoy. Sorry.- Nimoy.

0:47:34 > 0:47:37Nimoy. Well, Finding Nemo, it's all the same sort of thing.

0:47:37 > 0:47:38Jesus Christ, Tanya.

0:47:39 > 0:47:44# The revolution starts tonight

0:47:45 > 0:47:47# Grab what you've got... #

0:47:47 > 0:47:50'It's fun to meet people who share the same interests as you.

0:47:50 > 0:47:55'We have no shame when it comes to each other, so we just say whatever.

0:47:55 > 0:47:57'And it's kind of comforting to know

0:47:57 > 0:48:02that you've always got someone who will be there for you.'

0:48:02 > 0:48:04# The revolution starts tonight. #

0:48:04 > 0:48:09Our interests are things outside of what you would call "society."

0:48:09 > 0:48:11We like... In school, we're segregated to,

0:48:11 > 0:48:13like, different groups.

0:48:13 > 0:48:16The "popular people" and the "jocks" look at you strangely,

0:48:16 > 0:48:19but, with this little group that we've got going on here,

0:48:19 > 0:48:23- none of us will judge each other, if you know what I mean.- Yeah.

0:48:23 > 0:48:25No, we're strange. We're strange.

0:48:25 > 0:48:29- THEY CHANT:- Strange and proud! Strange and proud!

0:48:29 > 0:48:31Strange and proud! Strange and proud!

0:48:31 > 0:48:33# We're all they've got

0:48:33 > 0:48:36# Force them outside

0:48:37 > 0:48:39# We're all they've got

0:48:39 > 0:48:41# Force them outside

0:48:41 > 0:48:43# Revolution starts tonight. #

0:48:48 > 0:48:51Lots of teenagers think one tribe is a really safe place to be.

0:48:51 > 0:48:54There is groups, though. Like, there is divisions,

0:48:54 > 0:48:56and people do, sort of, stick in a group.

0:48:56 > 0:48:58I hang out with people from, like, the music room.

0:48:58 > 0:49:00You know, the kind of "alternative" crowd.

0:49:00 > 0:49:04The, like, bitchy girls, the, like, football boys...

0:49:04 > 0:49:07And I hang out with people who are kind of smart.

0:49:07 > 0:49:10Like the kind of "geeky" kind of people.

0:49:10 > 0:49:13The, like, not nerdy boys and the nerdy girls...

0:49:13 > 0:49:16But I think that's fine, really, cos that's what...

0:49:16 > 0:49:18That's the kind of thing of growing up, really.

0:49:18 > 0:49:21You make a strong group of friends and you stay with them.

0:49:24 > 0:49:28These teenage tribes are remarkably universal.

0:49:29 > 0:49:32Research has revealed that there's a distinct pattern

0:49:32 > 0:49:35to the way teenagers organise their social bonds,

0:49:35 > 0:49:36wherever they live.

0:49:37 > 0:49:43We surveyed 22 different schools in Scotland for 15-to-16-year-olds,

0:49:43 > 0:49:45and we asked them who their friends were,

0:49:45 > 0:49:48and also to describe something about the group that they belong to.

0:49:48 > 0:49:50So these are the kind of labels and the identities

0:49:50 > 0:49:53that these young people tend to adopt at this time.

0:49:53 > 0:49:55So we've got the smart kids, we've got the Goths,

0:49:55 > 0:49:58we've got the computer kids, we've got the nice girls,

0:49:58 > 0:49:59the sexy girls...

0:49:59 > 0:50:00What are the neds?

0:50:00 > 0:50:03"Neds" stands for non-educated delinquent.

0:50:03 > 0:50:06We basically find these groups appear again and again.

0:50:06 > 0:50:09This has been replicated in Canada and America.

0:50:09 > 0:50:12There's been some work done in Germany, some work in India,

0:50:12 > 0:50:14so, again, all over the world, we see these types.

0:50:14 > 0:50:17We also tend to see a kind of social hierarchy.

0:50:17 > 0:50:20The lowest tend to be the drug groups,

0:50:20 > 0:50:24and the sports groups tend to be quite highly placed.

0:50:24 > 0:50:26The smart group, unfortunately,

0:50:26 > 0:50:28doesn't tend to be placed very highly

0:50:28 > 0:50:30in terms of the peer hierarchy.

0:50:30 > 0:50:33Actually, so peer-based popularity seems to be based on

0:50:33 > 0:50:37your attractiveness and stylishness, and those are the key facets

0:50:37 > 0:50:39that kind of determine where you rank.

0:50:40 > 0:50:43So what happens to the members of these different groups

0:50:43 > 0:50:46when they leave school and enter adulthood?

0:50:47 > 0:50:50Researchers who tracked them throughout their lives

0:50:50 > 0:50:52found that the creativity and empathy

0:50:52 > 0:50:56of the alternative kids like Rhianna gave them a better chance than most

0:50:56 > 0:50:59of having a successful, well-paid career.

0:50:59 > 0:51:01The sporty group did too,

0:51:01 > 0:51:04though they had higher levels of drinking than most.

0:51:04 > 0:51:08But the smart kids, who at school were the least popular group,

0:51:08 > 0:51:11as adults were the most successful of all.

0:51:26 > 0:51:28One of the reasons their teenage years

0:51:28 > 0:51:30will have such a big impact on their future life

0:51:30 > 0:51:33is because their brains are still plastic,

0:51:33 > 0:51:35and so easily shaped by experiences.

0:51:41 > 0:51:45In Glasgow, identical twins Alex and Ivo

0:51:45 > 0:51:49are making the most of the many opportunities they have.

0:51:49 > 0:51:52Monday, we have ceilidh band and orchestra.

0:51:52 > 0:51:55Tuesday, we have Woody, who's an English tutor.

0:51:55 > 0:51:57Wednesday is my day where I don't have anything.

0:51:57 > 0:52:00Thursdays, I do volunteering.

0:52:00 > 0:52:03Fridays, I have choir. And Saturdays, I have RCS.

0:52:03 > 0:52:07On Sundays, I have a piano lesson.

0:52:07 > 0:52:09I'll have to do nine past eight.

0:52:09 > 0:52:11Is it? Are you sure? Have another look. What do you think it is?

0:52:11 > 0:52:15Alex and Ivo have always had a busy and supportive home life.

0:52:15 > 0:52:19They quickly developed a natural curiosity about the world...

0:52:21 > 0:52:25..and a love of learning - something that they still have today.

0:52:27 > 0:52:31It's always about maintaining high standards and just getting better.

0:52:31 > 0:52:32We have to practise a lot.

0:52:42 > 0:52:44This is my room.

0:52:45 > 0:52:47Everywhere I go, I'll collect something.

0:52:47 > 0:52:49A thing from Shakespeare's house.

0:52:49 > 0:52:51A small bit of Orgonite.

0:52:51 > 0:52:53A bullet casing. Some glass.

0:52:53 > 0:52:56Just interesting bits and bobs.

0:52:56 > 0:52:58I have a busy mind.

0:52:59 > 0:53:02I get bored in school a lot, so I doodle.

0:53:02 > 0:53:05Basically, I just rip up parts of my jotters and I just doodle.

0:53:05 > 0:53:08I'd like to be pushed a bit harder, you know.

0:53:08 > 0:53:12It's always important to learn, just to keep on learning new skills.

0:53:12 > 0:53:15Cos if you didn't learn, well, then, what's the point of living?

0:53:15 > 0:53:18You just learn, you take in new experiences,

0:53:18 > 0:53:21you try and just do as much as you can.

0:53:25 > 0:53:28As teenagers learn and take in new experiences,

0:53:28 > 0:53:32rich connections are fostered and strengthened.

0:53:33 > 0:53:37During this time, the brain is very flexible,

0:53:37 > 0:53:39meaning teenagers think more creatively

0:53:39 > 0:53:42than at any other time of their lives.

0:53:43 > 0:53:47And you can see this with a very simple test.

0:53:49 > 0:53:53Right, we're going to do a test, a task, and it's a competition.

0:53:53 > 0:53:55- OK.- You're up against each other.

0:53:55 > 0:53:58'Alex and his mum, Berenice, have a grid of matchsticks

0:53:58 > 0:54:03'and instructions to remove some of them in order to make new patterns.'

0:54:03 > 0:54:05The time starts now.

0:54:05 > 0:54:07Off you go.

0:54:10 > 0:54:14It's an unusual task that requires them to think out of the box.

0:54:17 > 0:54:20They have five minutes to solve as many as they can.

0:54:25 > 0:54:26OK. We're done.

0:54:26 > 0:54:29Matches down. How many problems did you solve?

0:54:29 > 0:54:31- Two.- You solved two problems.

0:54:31 > 0:54:33How many problems did you solve?

0:54:34 > 0:54:41- BOTH:- One, two, three, four, five, six,

0:54:41 > 0:54:44seven, eight, nine, ten,

0:54:44 > 0:54:4611, 12.

0:54:46 > 0:54:48Hmm, I'm struggling to know who did better there.

0:54:48 > 0:54:52- Um, yes. So you're the winner. Congratulations.- Gosh!- Yay.

0:54:52 > 0:54:55Very difficult. It's not my kind of task at all, I have to say.

0:54:55 > 0:54:57Did you feel that you were really having...?

0:54:57 > 0:54:59You were struggling to use your brain

0:54:59 > 0:55:02in a way that felt quite unusual for you?

0:55:02 > 0:55:04Yes. Uh-huh. Definitely out of my comfort zone.

0:55:06 > 0:55:09'Scientists have found that teenagers perform this task

0:55:09 > 0:55:11'better than adults.'

0:55:13 > 0:55:18And it's to do with differences in the way their brains function.

0:55:18 > 0:55:20Stick them up here.

0:55:21 > 0:55:24What we're looking at in this test is the difference between the way

0:55:24 > 0:55:27the teenage brain works and the adult brain.

0:55:27 > 0:55:30So I've got two brain scans here - one is an adult, one a teenager.

0:55:30 > 0:55:34Anybody want to guess which is adult, which is teen?

0:55:34 > 0:55:37So that one is a teenager, and that one is an adult.

0:55:37 > 0:55:40OK, so this is the teen, this is the adult. You're correct. Why?

0:55:40 > 0:55:41What are you seeing differently?

0:55:41 > 0:55:45- That one's got more grey matter than that one.- Brilliant.

0:55:45 > 0:55:47Brilliant. Exactly right.

0:55:47 > 0:55:49So the teenage brain here, it's denser, right?

0:55:49 > 0:55:51It's got more grey matter.

0:55:51 > 0:55:54It's got more neurones - more brain cells, basically.

0:55:56 > 0:55:59What we see with the teenage brain is, boys,

0:55:59 > 0:56:02you are much more flexible in your thinking.

0:56:02 > 0:56:05Now, the reason for this is, developmentally,

0:56:05 > 0:56:09when you're a teenager, you have a huge amount of grey matter,

0:56:09 > 0:56:11and lots and lots of neurones.

0:56:11 > 0:56:14But, over a process which is called pruning,

0:56:14 > 0:56:17which is basically neurones that aren't used very often,

0:56:17 > 0:56:21brain cells that aren't used very often as you develop into adulthood,

0:56:21 > 0:56:22are sort of pruned away,

0:56:22 > 0:56:25and what happens is we get stronger connections

0:56:25 > 0:56:28between the parts of the brain that we use regularly.

0:56:30 > 0:56:34As we become adults, and the rich connections are strengthened,

0:56:34 > 0:56:40the ones we don't use wither away, and our brains become more fixed.

0:56:40 > 0:56:43The process of becoming an adult in our teenage years

0:56:43 > 0:56:47is about pruning the infinite possibilities that are there.

0:56:48 > 0:56:53Our experience as teenagers has such an impact on later life

0:56:53 > 0:56:57because, at 16, the brain is still developing

0:56:57 > 0:57:00and new pathways are being shaped.

0:57:00 > 0:57:04So what we do as teenagers is not only important now,

0:57:04 > 0:57:08it fundamentally shapes our brain for later life.

0:57:10 > 0:57:13The choices our teenagers are making this year

0:57:13 > 0:57:17will leave their mark on the very structure of their brain.

0:57:17 > 0:57:19THEY CHEER

0:57:21 > 0:57:24I think they've had enough now.

0:57:24 > 0:57:26Whether it's who to love,

0:57:26 > 0:57:28how to have fun...

0:57:28 > 0:57:30Strange and proud! Strange and proud!

0:57:30 > 0:57:32..where to belong,

0:57:32 > 0:57:35being 16 is more than just a moment in time.

0:57:35 > 0:57:41It's an age that fundamentally shapes you and the adult you become.

0:57:41 > 0:57:45The future is a very odd thing and anything could happen,

0:57:45 > 0:57:48so I'm kind of looking forward to it.

0:57:48 > 0:57:51I-I will jinx it if I say exactly what I want,

0:57:51 > 0:57:54cos life never works out.

0:57:54 > 0:57:57Being responsible and, like,

0:57:57 > 0:57:59just being independent, that seems good.

0:58:01 > 0:58:03# Here comes the sun

0:58:03 > 0:58:05# Here comes the sunshine... #

0:58:05 > 0:58:08It'll be fascinating to see how our teenagers

0:58:08 > 0:58:11continue to forge their unique journeys through life.

0:58:11 > 0:58:13# Here comes the sun

0:58:13 > 0:58:17# Here comes the sunshine

0:58:17 > 0:58:20# Whoa. #

0:58:20 > 0:58:23For this free Open University booklet

0:58:23 > 0:58:26about young people and changing times, call...

0:58:30 > 0:58:33..or go to the BBC Child Of Our Time website

0:58:33 > 0:58:36and follow the links to the Open University.

0:58:46 > 0:58:48# Here comes the sun

0:58:48 > 0:58:51# Here comes the sunshine. #