0:00:03 > 0:00:05Many of us feel like we're stuck in rut.
0:00:05 > 0:00:09My heart sinks when I think about sitting in front of a screen
0:00:09 > 0:00:11for another 20 years.
0:00:11 > 0:00:13But what if you could experience a world
0:00:13 > 0:00:16which couldn't be further from the one you know?
0:00:16 > 0:00:18There's so much more to life than going to work.
0:00:18 > 0:00:22Imagine being flown across the world
0:00:22 > 0:00:24and opening your eyes...
0:00:24 > 0:00:25Wow!
0:00:25 > 0:00:28..to find yourself in someone else's life.
0:00:28 > 0:00:32- Good grief!- I'm certainly outside the M25 now.
0:00:32 > 0:00:34In this series, six Brits...
0:00:34 > 0:00:36Excuse me, do you speak English?
0:00:36 > 0:00:38..will swap places with complete strangers...
0:00:38 > 0:00:42- Welcome to your new home. - ..from across the globe.
0:00:42 > 0:00:45I never dreamed to be in a place like this.
0:00:45 > 0:00:47While their opposite numbers...
0:00:47 > 0:00:50- Are there any crocodiles in here? - No.
0:00:50 > 0:00:53..test drive life in Britain.
0:00:53 > 0:00:56Oh, my gosh! Is that Big Ben?
0:00:56 > 0:00:58For seven days...
0:00:58 > 0:01:01- Car is coming!- ..both will be immersed in a culture
0:01:01 > 0:01:03which is totally different from their own.
0:01:03 > 0:01:05I'm not in Kansas any more, Toto.
0:01:05 > 0:01:07LAUGHTER
0:01:07 > 0:01:09Could walking in someone else's shoes...
0:01:09 > 0:01:11It's been a wake-up call.
0:01:11 > 0:01:14..pave the way to a better life back home?
0:01:14 > 0:01:17I really want to have a life just like this.
0:01:17 > 0:01:21What can you learn by seeing your world through a stranger's eyes?
0:01:21 > 0:01:23Hi!
0:01:23 > 0:01:25What would you do if you were me?
0:01:25 > 0:01:30I really don't know what the impact of this is going to be.
0:01:38 > 0:01:40We're just constantly in a temporary state.
0:01:40 > 0:01:43And I don't know if it was Einstein said,
0:01:43 > 0:01:47the only thing that never changes is change itself.
0:01:48 > 0:01:52This week, two women from different sides of the world
0:01:52 > 0:01:54have agreed to swap lives.
0:01:54 > 0:01:56Keep your eyes closed.
0:01:56 > 0:01:58Both are in their 50s.
0:01:58 > 0:01:59Count to ten for me.
0:01:59 > 0:02:03- OK.- And both want to shake up their lives.
0:02:03 > 0:02:05One's had enough of being an army wife.
0:02:05 > 0:02:10We have moved 17 times in the last 25 years.
0:02:10 > 0:02:13While the other is desperate for adventure.
0:02:13 > 0:02:16I want to be an explorer, I want to be Columbus,
0:02:16 > 0:02:21I want to be Star Trek Captain Kirk, going where no man's gone.
0:02:21 > 0:02:24They're about to get a window into each other's lives,
0:02:24 > 0:02:27to see if it could help them change the way they live their own.
0:02:29 > 0:02:32For nearly 30 years, 51-year-old nurse Lillian has followed her
0:02:32 > 0:02:34husband's military postings.
0:02:34 > 0:02:37There are two sides to being an army wife.
0:02:37 > 0:02:41One side that gives you immense security.
0:02:41 > 0:02:45The downside is that you never really have anywhere to call home.
0:02:45 > 0:02:48They've moved every two years, and each time,
0:02:48 > 0:02:51Lillian has created a temporary social circle for herself
0:02:51 > 0:02:54and a temporary home for the family.
0:02:54 > 0:02:58She's given up a hell of a lot to follow me around, and, every time,
0:02:58 > 0:03:00that's a whole new life you have to start.
0:03:00 > 0:03:04There's a saying with army families that you can count your associates
0:03:04 > 0:03:07in the hundreds but your good friends on one hand.
0:03:07 > 0:03:11But this year, Stuart is due to retire from the army.
0:03:11 > 0:03:14And finally, Lillian has a chance to put herself first and think about
0:03:14 > 0:03:16what to do with her future.
0:03:16 > 0:03:21She's done this for 30-odd years, now.
0:03:21 > 0:03:24So she's not really known something constant.
0:03:24 > 0:03:26You have all these dreams.
0:03:26 > 0:03:28"When we leave the army, we'll do this.
0:03:28 > 0:03:30"When we leave the army, we'll do that."
0:03:30 > 0:03:34But we don't have a blooming clue what we really want to do.
0:03:34 > 0:03:37I want to find the thing that fulfils me most.
0:03:37 > 0:03:39Hoping to find some answers,
0:03:39 > 0:03:43army wife Lillian is about to swap lives
0:03:43 > 0:03:45with wild Alaskan girl, Leslie.
0:03:45 > 0:03:49I've always been a big wannabe traveller.
0:03:49 > 0:03:5253-year-old bed-and-breakfast owner Leslie
0:03:52 > 0:03:55wants to escape her remote island community to see the world.
0:03:55 > 0:03:57I think I'm in my prime.
0:03:57 > 0:04:00Leslie's home town of Wrangell in Alaska is more than 150 miles
0:04:00 > 0:04:02from the nearest major city.
0:04:02 > 0:04:07Cut off from the mainland, it's home to just over 2,000 people.
0:04:07 > 0:04:08Slo-o-ow!
0:04:10 > 0:04:14Life in Wrangell is very, very slow.
0:04:14 > 0:04:17She's one of those adventurous types that always thinks
0:04:17 > 0:04:20maybe something's better somewhere else.
0:04:20 > 0:04:24I've dreamt of going abroad my whole life.
0:04:25 > 0:04:29The adventure begins when they open their eyes.
0:04:30 > 0:04:33Three, two, one...
0:04:35 > 0:04:36Open.
0:04:37 > 0:04:39Wow!
0:04:41 > 0:04:42Oh, wow!
0:04:44 > 0:04:46I think I've died and gone to heaven.
0:04:51 > 0:04:53I have no idea where I am.
0:04:53 > 0:04:55Maybe Piccadilly Square?
0:04:55 > 0:04:57BELLS TOLL
0:04:57 > 0:04:59Oh, my gosh!
0:05:00 > 0:05:02Is that Big Ben?
0:05:03 > 0:05:05First job for both women -
0:05:05 > 0:05:09find their way to their new home and their new identity.
0:05:09 > 0:05:13Leslie, Wrangell, in Alaska.
0:05:14 > 0:05:18All they have to go on is each other's name and address.
0:05:18 > 0:05:20Lillian Trowell.
0:05:20 > 0:05:23That must be my new identity.
0:05:23 > 0:05:24OK.
0:05:26 > 0:05:27Where is Wrangell?
0:05:27 > 0:05:29Who is Leslie?
0:05:36 > 0:05:39That's Big Ben. That is Big Ben.
0:05:39 > 0:05:42I've wanted to see this my whole life.
0:05:42 > 0:05:44Holy cow!
0:05:44 > 0:05:47It's her first time outside of North America,
0:05:47 > 0:05:50and Leslie isn't exactly sure where she is.
0:05:50 > 0:05:53It's completely different than anything I've ever seen.
0:05:53 > 0:05:57The buildings are so close together, all the people...
0:05:57 > 0:06:00There's no place like this in the States.
0:06:00 > 0:06:03Hello, is this Piccadilly Square?
0:06:03 > 0:06:06- Well, no, you're in Nottingham now. - I'm in Nottingham?
0:06:06 > 0:06:09- Yeah.- So, Nottingham, is this...?
0:06:09 > 0:06:11Like, I don't mean to sound silly,
0:06:11 > 0:06:14but that's like Sherwood Forest and Robin Hood?
0:06:14 > 0:06:15That's it.
0:06:15 > 0:06:19Wow! So, is there a kingdom around here?
0:06:19 > 0:06:21- No. There's no...- Oh. No kingdom.
0:06:26 > 0:06:30In Alaska, Lillian is navigating her way to Leslie's home.
0:06:30 > 0:06:32Wrangell's an island! I like islands.
0:06:32 > 0:06:3522 miles from the Canadian border,
0:06:35 > 0:06:38Wrangell Island is a remote outpost in southeastern Alaska.
0:06:39 > 0:06:42Just 28 miles long and five miles wide,
0:06:42 > 0:06:46the residents of this small island are a close-knit group.
0:06:46 > 0:06:49Hi. I'm really sorry to disturb you.
0:06:49 > 0:06:52I'm looking for somebody called Leslie.
0:06:52 > 0:06:54What's the name of Alan and Leslie's place?
0:06:54 > 0:06:58- Grand View.- Grand View Bed and Breakfast, is one Leslie.
0:06:58 > 0:07:04And if this is not the Leslie you're looking for, this woman will know.
0:07:04 > 0:07:06- Right.- How's that?- OK.
0:07:06 > 0:07:09There are three Leslies in town and one of them runs a B&B.
0:07:09 > 0:07:12I'm fairly sure that's a good place to start.
0:07:12 > 0:07:16Lillian has spent the last 25 years putting her own life on hold
0:07:16 > 0:07:19while she followed her husband Stuart's military career.
0:07:19 > 0:07:22Everything that we have done since we got married
0:07:22 > 0:07:24has been because Stuart's in the army.
0:07:24 > 0:07:28But if we're going to survive as a couple then we need to do something
0:07:28 > 0:07:33that helps us both to live the lives that we want to lead.
0:07:34 > 0:07:35And stay together.
0:07:39 > 0:07:41Lillian Trowell.
0:07:41 > 0:07:44In Wrangell, Leslie always dreamed of a world
0:07:44 > 0:07:46beyond her small community.
0:07:46 > 0:07:48Have you ever heard of Lillian Trowell?
0:07:48 > 0:07:50I haven't, I'm afraid.
0:07:50 > 0:07:51But for the last hour,
0:07:51 > 0:07:55she's been lost in a city of a little over 300,000 people.
0:07:55 > 0:07:59Excuse me? Do you know who Lillian Trowell is?
0:08:00 > 0:08:03'I've always lived where they knew my name.'
0:08:03 > 0:08:05Do you know Lillian Trowell?
0:08:06 > 0:08:08'So to be completely anonymous,'
0:08:08 > 0:08:11that is exciting.
0:08:11 > 0:08:12Lillian Trowell?
0:08:12 > 0:08:14There's a place called Trowell.
0:08:14 > 0:08:15There's a place called Trowell?
0:08:15 > 0:08:18- Yeah.- Thank you very much.
0:08:18 > 0:08:20I'm travelling from Alaska.
0:08:20 > 0:08:22And I've got to try to find this place.
0:08:22 > 0:08:24The bus to Ilkeston.
0:08:24 > 0:08:27- Excuse me?- The bus to Ilkeston.
0:08:27 > 0:08:29- What is that?- I don't know where the bus would be.
0:08:29 > 0:08:31- It would be at the top. - It's a bus?- Yeah.
0:08:31 > 0:08:32Like that bus right there?
0:08:32 > 0:08:36- No, not that. You go up the road. - It's a yellow bus.
0:08:36 > 0:08:37It's a yellow bus?
0:08:37 > 0:08:40- To Ilkeston. - I cannot understand that.
0:08:40 > 0:08:42- To Ilkeston.- To "Alcason"?
0:08:42 > 0:08:44- Ilkeston.- OK, thank you.
0:08:46 > 0:08:48- Just a single fare, yeah? - Yes.- Just for you, yeah?
0:08:48 > 0:08:51Have you heard of a woman named Lillian?
0:08:51 > 0:08:53No, I've not.
0:08:53 > 0:08:56While Leslie struggles to find her way...
0:08:56 > 0:08:58I'm looking for somebody called Leslie.
0:08:58 > 0:09:01In Alaska, Lillian is having better luck.
0:09:01 > 0:09:03- I worked for Leslie! - She works for Leslie.
0:09:03 > 0:09:05- You work for Leslie! Hi. - Nice to meet you!
0:09:05 > 0:09:07- Would you like a ride or anything? - If it's less than a mile
0:09:07 > 0:09:09then I'm going to walk, if that's OK?
0:09:09 > 0:09:10I'm definitely on the right road?
0:09:10 > 0:09:13- You're on the right way. - Yes, yes, you are.
0:09:13 > 0:09:14Nice to meet you.
0:09:14 > 0:09:15'They're all so friendly.
0:09:15 > 0:09:18'And they all make eye contact when they're talking to you as well.'
0:09:18 > 0:09:20Which is something quite new.
0:09:20 > 0:09:21That's what I want.
0:09:21 > 0:09:24DOORBELL
0:09:24 > 0:09:27In Nottingham, Leslie has made it to Lillian's Street.
0:09:28 > 0:09:30Hi, I'm not selling anything.
0:09:30 > 0:09:33- That's good, cos I'm not buying. - I saw your sign.
0:09:33 > 0:09:36I am looking for a woman named Lillian.
0:09:36 > 0:09:41Do you know any neighbours named Lillian in this area?
0:09:41 > 0:09:42No, I don't know who that is.
0:09:42 > 0:09:46I could not tell you who that is at all, my darling.
0:09:48 > 0:09:50Well, this is frustrating!
0:09:50 > 0:09:55If this was Alaska, the first person would tell me.
0:09:55 > 0:09:57DOG BARKS
0:09:57 > 0:09:59But I'm not in Kansas any more, Toto.
0:09:59 > 0:10:01But finally... DOORBELL
0:10:01 > 0:10:02..her persistence pays off.
0:10:02 > 0:10:06I am looking for a woman on this street named Lillian.
0:10:06 > 0:10:08Yeah, she lives right next door.
0:10:08 > 0:10:09- Right here?- Yeah.- Really?
0:10:09 > 0:10:11- Yeah!- Oh, thank you.
0:10:11 > 0:10:14# Hallelujah! #
0:10:14 > 0:10:16Is this the house of Lillian?
0:10:16 > 0:10:17- You've got it.- Yeah!
0:10:17 > 0:10:19- I'm Leslie.- Hiya, Leslie.
0:10:19 > 0:10:22- I'm Stuart, pleased to meet you.- Hi, Stuart. Pleased to meet you, too.
0:10:22 > 0:10:23Lovely home.
0:10:25 > 0:10:26Grand View.
0:10:26 > 0:10:28We're here, hooray!
0:10:28 > 0:10:30Lillian, too, has made it to her new home.
0:10:32 > 0:10:35- Lillian?- Yeah.- I'm Alan. Come on in.- Thank you very much.
0:10:36 > 0:10:40For the next week, Lillian will have to run this beach-side B&B
0:10:40 > 0:10:43with views across the Gulf of Alaska...
0:10:43 > 0:10:47What a stunning place. I can see why you call it Grand View.
0:10:47 > 0:10:49I'll show you the moose room first...
0:10:49 > 0:10:51- OK.- ..and you'll see why.
0:10:51 > 0:10:54- OK.- There's just moose everywhere.
0:10:55 > 0:10:57There's a moose loose aboot this hoose!
0:10:57 > 0:11:00..while in Nottingham Leslie will live with Lillian's husband, Stuart,
0:11:00 > 0:11:02and their two youngest kids, Ellie and Aaron.
0:11:03 > 0:11:06- Look at this. - Full of teenagers' stuff.
0:11:06 > 0:11:11Perfect. I think I can sleep in that bed very well.
0:11:11 > 0:11:14After a long journey, both women take time to settle in.
0:11:16 > 0:11:21Check this out. There is a picture that's going to blow your mind.
0:11:21 > 0:11:26It's Princess Diana, pinning a medal on our very own Stuart.
0:11:26 > 0:11:29And she's looking at him all appreciative.
0:11:29 > 0:11:32I can't believe how humbled I am.
0:11:32 > 0:11:36The other one I totally adore is Stuart and Lillian
0:11:36 > 0:11:37on their wedding day.
0:11:38 > 0:11:41Military wedding.
0:11:41 > 0:11:43It's just awesome.
0:11:43 > 0:11:46They just look so in love, and so happy.
0:11:46 > 0:11:50You know, boy meets girl, he's a handsome young soldier,
0:11:50 > 0:11:54and she's a young nurse, and this is sort of like a love story.
0:11:54 > 0:11:57It's a Cinderella, Prince Charming thing.
0:11:59 > 0:12:01'My husband says that it's my turn now,
0:12:01 > 0:12:03'and I want to prove to myself that
0:12:03 > 0:12:07'all these little personal dreams that I have could be a reality.'
0:12:07 > 0:12:12And when you're given that amount of freedom, it's just mind-boggling.
0:12:12 > 0:12:17But now, after today, I really am very excited.
0:12:23 > 0:12:27I think we've just slipped into a routine that's simple and easy,
0:12:27 > 0:12:29and really we could both do
0:12:29 > 0:12:30with a bit of shaking up now.
0:12:34 > 0:12:36Today, I'm going to be in the working class.
0:12:36 > 0:12:40It's Lillian and Leslie's first morning in their new lives.
0:12:40 > 0:12:41Do you think I'll see any blood?
0:12:41 > 0:12:44Although Leslie takes care of people in her own job,
0:12:44 > 0:12:47a day of volunteering at the hospital where Lillian works
0:12:47 > 0:12:49is a daunting prospect.
0:12:49 > 0:12:51I can comfort, I can do bedside,
0:12:51 > 0:12:53"I'm so sorry you're in this situation,"
0:12:53 > 0:12:57but if I have to dress a wound, we'd be in real trouble!
0:12:57 > 0:12:59- No, no, no, you be all right.- OK.
0:12:59 > 0:13:02But first, she has to drive Lillian's car to work.
0:13:02 > 0:13:04Just make sure that you bring it back in one piece!
0:13:04 > 0:13:05I will do my best.
0:13:05 > 0:13:08- It's Lil's pride and joy. - I'm an excellent driver.- Good.
0:13:13 > 0:13:14ENGINE STALLS
0:13:14 > 0:13:16SHE LAUGHS
0:13:17 > 0:13:20Come on, car. Oh, I know why.
0:13:20 > 0:13:21I'm in third.
0:13:28 > 0:13:31- SATNAV:- 'At the end of the road, turn left.'
0:13:31 > 0:13:32Right, I'm following this guy.
0:13:34 > 0:13:35OK. Off we go.
0:13:35 > 0:13:39There's a lot going on. I need to pay attention and focus.
0:13:39 > 0:13:41Up to 90,000 commuters navigate their way
0:13:41 > 0:13:43through suburban Nottingham each morning.
0:13:43 > 0:13:46Don't be jumping out there, buddy.
0:13:46 > 0:13:49A far cry from what small-town girl Leslie is used to.
0:13:49 > 0:13:52It's very narrow. The roads are narrower.
0:13:52 > 0:13:54The cars are all smaller too.
0:13:54 > 0:13:56- BUMPING - Oops.
0:13:57 > 0:13:59Slow. Is that a castle?
0:14:01 > 0:14:04- SATNAV:- 'Turn right.' - Yes, ma'am.
0:14:04 > 0:14:05HORN HONKING
0:14:05 > 0:14:07Oh, shut up!
0:14:07 > 0:14:09And she's still got five miles to go.
0:14:10 > 0:14:12- HORN HONKING - Oh, shut up!
0:14:14 > 0:14:16Go, go, go, go.
0:14:18 > 0:14:20I'm really worried about this.
0:14:20 > 0:14:24In Alaska, Lillian is taking over Leslie's duties at the B&B.
0:14:24 > 0:14:26Oh, no. That's one's a disaster.
0:14:27 > 0:14:32Guests at the Grand View expect to receive impeccable service.
0:14:32 > 0:14:33Those don't taste right. OK.
0:14:33 > 0:14:35We need to find the recipe.
0:14:36 > 0:14:38That would never happen if Leslie were here.
0:14:38 > 0:14:43It's a lot of responsibility for somebody who's new in post.
0:14:43 > 0:14:47For an outsider, a newbie, a transplant,
0:14:47 > 0:14:49as we would call them, to get liked
0:14:49 > 0:14:54just be a hard worker, and an asset to the community.
0:14:54 > 0:14:55Look at that!
0:14:55 > 0:14:57Now, that is a pancake.
0:14:57 > 0:14:58You've got to be funny,
0:14:58 > 0:15:00you've got to have a little humour about things.
0:15:00 > 0:15:04She seems a bit quiet, so it's a 50-50.
0:15:04 > 0:15:06We'll either like you, or we won't.
0:15:06 > 0:15:08- There we go.- Thank you. - I'll get that for you.
0:15:08 > 0:15:13After a shaky start, Lillian finally manages to serve up breakfast.
0:15:14 > 0:15:16Are they up to the usual standard?
0:15:17 > 0:15:18They're a little tough.
0:15:18 > 0:15:20Oh, no!
0:15:20 > 0:15:25- And, erm...sour. - Well, it's sourdough.- I know.
0:15:25 > 0:15:26More than normal.
0:15:27 > 0:15:30They were very tough customers, but quite right.
0:15:30 > 0:15:32I don't want to let Leslie down.
0:15:32 > 0:15:33You're doing amazing.
0:15:34 > 0:15:38- Do I get the job?- Yes, you're hired! - LILLIAN LAUGHS
0:15:38 > 0:15:39Wa-hey!
0:15:44 > 0:15:46It's hot, and it's muggy.
0:15:46 > 0:15:48It just feels sick.
0:15:48 > 0:15:49It feels sickly.
0:15:50 > 0:15:54In Nottingham, Leslie has arrived at City Hospital.
0:15:54 > 0:15:58However, there's people in here that need help.
0:15:58 > 0:16:02Lillian has worked here since moving to Nottingham two years ago,
0:16:02 > 0:16:04but today, complete novice Leslie
0:16:04 > 0:16:06will be assisting the nurses on shift.
0:16:06 > 0:16:08A completely different field for me.
0:16:08 > 0:16:11- What do you normally do? - I have a bed and breakfast.
0:16:11 > 0:16:13- I run a bed and breakfast. - Oh, very different.
0:16:13 > 0:16:15- I've done many things... - We do do bed and breakfast.
0:16:15 > 0:16:17Oh, yeah, it's a little bit different.
0:16:17 > 0:16:19- Ready?- OK, here we go.
0:16:19 > 0:16:22Luckily, Leslie's first task is something she's used to.
0:16:22 > 0:16:24- Dirty ones in there.- Right, got it.
0:16:26 > 0:16:27You tuck the top in.
0:16:30 > 0:16:32- Voila!- Voila! Nicely done.
0:16:34 > 0:16:36Beds made, Leslie wants to know more
0:16:36 > 0:16:39about what it's like working in such an environment.
0:16:39 > 0:16:42- Do you enjoy your work? - Yeah, I do, yeah.
0:16:42 > 0:16:44'It was very eye-opening for me.
0:16:44 > 0:16:47'They take a lot of pride in what they do.'
0:16:47 > 0:16:49They're not only saving lives or...
0:16:49 > 0:16:52They're improving the lives of the people that they're working with.
0:16:52 > 0:16:57And all of this is covered under the scope of HSN?
0:16:57 > 0:17:00- NHS.- NHS.- National Health Service.
0:17:00 > 0:17:01Home Shopping Network, HSN!
0:17:03 > 0:17:05We have a lot of health care issues in the States.
0:17:05 > 0:17:08Like, if we didn't have insurance - we do, but if we didn't -
0:17:08 > 0:17:11then they base what you pay on your income.
0:17:11 > 0:17:13Do you have anything like that here?
0:17:13 > 0:17:14Not for health care.
0:17:14 > 0:17:16- So if you're assessed... - Everybody's covered?
0:17:16 > 0:17:19- Absolutely, yeah. Universal coverage.- Wow.
0:17:19 > 0:17:21In America, we tend to think that
0:17:21 > 0:17:24the higher of the dollar of your health care,
0:17:24 > 0:17:25the better the care is.
0:17:25 > 0:17:27I don't know if that's necessarily so.
0:17:27 > 0:17:31Whereas I think the playing field is more even here in Britain.
0:17:31 > 0:17:34It doesn't matter whether you're poor or rich,
0:17:34 > 0:17:37you all get the same care and they're absolutely committed
0:17:37 > 0:17:39to giving you the best care available.
0:17:39 > 0:17:42And that seems pretty appealing.
0:17:44 > 0:17:47- There you go.- Bed two. Thank you. Here's your dinner.
0:17:47 > 0:17:49- Oh, thank you.- I hope you enjoy it.
0:17:52 > 0:17:55OK, well, we'll keep our fingers crossed.
0:17:55 > 0:17:58I know, without a shadow of a doubt,
0:17:58 > 0:18:01that I could not perform that duty day in and day out.
0:18:01 > 0:18:04- You're wonderful, Katie, thank you. - Oh, thank you.
0:18:06 > 0:18:10- In we go.- OK. Wonderful.
0:18:10 > 0:18:12Now, please don't make me clean their toilet!
0:18:12 > 0:18:14THEY LAUGH
0:18:16 > 0:18:18When I was training to be a nurse,
0:18:18 > 0:18:21bed making was almost an examination standard,
0:18:21 > 0:18:24and if you didn't get your hospital corners in
0:18:24 > 0:18:26and your fold-overs done properly,
0:18:26 > 0:18:28the sister on the ward would come and strip it all down
0:18:28 > 0:18:29and you'd have to do it again!
0:18:31 > 0:18:34And there's something quite satisfying about a well-made bed.
0:18:36 > 0:18:38As her first day comes to a close,
0:18:38 > 0:18:43Lillian gets to enjoy one of the perks of the job.
0:18:43 > 0:18:44Ooh!
0:18:44 > 0:18:47There are three orcas in the water.
0:18:47 > 0:18:49A little one and two bigger ones.
0:18:49 > 0:18:52They seem to be swimming round in a circle.
0:18:52 > 0:18:55- SHE LAUGHS - The most excitement I get
0:18:55 > 0:18:56is a squirrel or a fox!
0:18:57 > 0:18:59- SHE GASPS - Wow!
0:19:02 > 0:19:05Even if I don't do anything else this week,
0:19:05 > 0:19:06that just made my year.
0:19:10 > 0:19:14My job, I'm looking after people who are at the end of their life,
0:19:14 > 0:19:16and so many times they've said to me,
0:19:16 > 0:19:18"I wish I'd done this...
0:19:18 > 0:19:20"I wish I'd done that...
0:19:20 > 0:19:22"And now I've run out of time."
0:19:23 > 0:19:26I would like to run some kind of B&B
0:19:26 > 0:19:28cos it's a way to make new friends
0:19:28 > 0:19:32and learn about yourself, as much as learn about anybody else.
0:19:32 > 0:19:34You can't just give up on life.
0:19:34 > 0:19:36You have to make the most of what you've got.
0:19:37 > 0:19:39And in Nottingham, Leslie, too,
0:19:39 > 0:19:42is starting to think about the week ahead.
0:19:42 > 0:19:44It's beyond what I thought.
0:19:44 > 0:19:48I thought it was a way to get out of my situation for a day or two
0:19:48 > 0:19:55and what I'm finding is that I get to experience England
0:19:55 > 0:19:58as an English person.
0:19:58 > 0:20:01It's kind of fairy tale-y, to be honest.
0:20:04 > 0:20:08Today, Leslie's English fairy tale is about to move up a notch.
0:20:08 > 0:20:11She's been enlisted by Stuart to attend a black-tie dinner
0:20:11 > 0:20:13at his military barracks.
0:20:13 > 0:20:15Have you gone to these events with him before?
0:20:15 > 0:20:17- When I was a lot younger. - When you were a lot younger.
0:20:17 > 0:20:20The highlight of the military social calendar,
0:20:20 > 0:20:23black-tie dinners are a rather formal affair...
0:20:23 > 0:20:26I didn't have a whole lot of time to pack, so I just threw stuff in.
0:20:26 > 0:20:28This is just a...
0:20:28 > 0:20:30- like a dress with some leggings. - Mm-hmm.
0:20:30 > 0:20:34..so Leslie has asked Ellie to help choose some suitable attire.
0:20:34 > 0:20:37I have to do this with my mum all the time.
0:20:37 > 0:20:39- OK.- I like it.
0:20:39 > 0:20:40- I like the daisies.- You DO like it?
0:20:40 > 0:20:41- Yeah.- Number one.
0:20:41 > 0:20:45When my dad and my mum first met she went to one of these events,
0:20:45 > 0:20:48and the dress she was wearing had a slit up her leg,
0:20:48 > 0:20:50up to here. And apparently that's not allowed.
0:20:50 > 0:20:53I think my dad got told off and he had to do, like,
0:20:53 > 0:20:55extra duties or something.
0:20:55 > 0:20:57It's quite traditional.
0:20:57 > 0:20:58OK. Ellie.
0:21:00 > 0:21:02- It's very summery.- It's very what?
0:21:02 > 0:21:04- Summery.- Summery. Yeah, OK.
0:21:04 > 0:21:07'This is worrying me, because it's out of my comfort zone.'
0:21:07 > 0:21:10I mean, these are, like, military stiffs.
0:21:10 > 0:21:14And I'm very casual, American slacker.
0:21:15 > 0:21:17So I'm going to be on my best behaviour
0:21:17 > 0:21:19because I'm with the Queen's army.
0:21:19 > 0:21:22OK, this is the most comfortable.
0:21:22 > 0:21:24- I like that one the most. - You do?- Yeah.
0:21:24 > 0:21:27- Shut the front door!- I do. - You're just saying that.
0:21:27 > 0:21:28- Really?- No, I really do like that one.
0:21:28 > 0:21:31I want to look the part. I want to, you know, shine.
0:21:32 > 0:21:34Nice choice.
0:21:34 > 0:21:35My favourite.
0:21:35 > 0:21:37- Appreciate it.- No problem.
0:21:39 > 0:21:41Whoo!
0:21:41 > 0:21:43Oh, I'm nervous!
0:21:45 > 0:21:48In Alaska, Lillian and Alan are heading into town
0:21:48 > 0:21:50to pick up supplies.
0:21:50 > 0:21:51Need a step ladder!
0:21:54 > 0:21:56I have never been in something this size.
0:21:56 > 0:21:58- Really?- Never.
0:22:01 > 0:22:05The largest and one of the least populated states in America,
0:22:05 > 0:22:08Alaska is often referred to as the last frontier.
0:22:10 > 0:22:11There's a deer, right there.
0:22:11 > 0:22:13- Oh, yeah.- See the little deer?
0:22:13 > 0:22:17Yeah. Aw, they're so sweet.
0:22:17 > 0:22:20I understand why you don't want to leave.
0:22:20 > 0:22:22Aw, this place is great.
0:22:22 > 0:22:24- Yeah.- I love it here.
0:22:24 > 0:22:28Wrangell itself is one of the oldest towns in Alaska.
0:22:28 > 0:22:31Strategically located near the mouth of the Stikine River,
0:22:31 > 0:22:33it was founded by fortune-seekers
0:22:33 > 0:22:37during three major gold rushes in the 1800s.
0:22:37 > 0:22:39And it's a chance for Lillian to see
0:22:39 > 0:22:41what it's like to live in a small community.
0:22:41 > 0:22:43Eggs...
0:22:43 > 0:22:45- Then hash browns. - OK, they're down here.
0:22:45 > 0:22:48- I think we'll get another half gallon of milk.- OK.
0:22:48 > 0:22:51And everyone wants to meet Wrangell's newest resident.
0:22:51 > 0:22:53I'm Judy. I'm Leslie's friend.
0:22:53 > 0:22:55- Hello, it's really lovely to meet you, Judy.- You too.- I'm Lil.
0:22:55 > 0:22:56Well, welcome.
0:22:56 > 0:22:59- It's lovely to meet you. - I'm sure we'll see you around.
0:22:59 > 0:23:00I'm sure you will.
0:23:00 > 0:23:06It's quite scary how willing people are here to come and say hello
0:23:06 > 0:23:07and make friends.
0:23:07 > 0:23:10How do you like it in Alaska so far?
0:23:10 > 0:23:13- Oh, it's amazing. - Awesome. Here, you have that back.
0:23:13 > 0:23:15- Thank you very much. - You have a great day.
0:23:15 > 0:23:16Thank you very much indeed.
0:23:16 > 0:23:19It feels as if they are genuinely interested in you.
0:23:19 > 0:23:21Which is completely new for me.
0:23:23 > 0:23:27As a military wife, Lillian and her family have had to move home
0:23:27 > 0:23:29every two years and start afresh.
0:23:29 > 0:23:34And each move has felt like another compromise and another compromise,
0:23:34 > 0:23:37till I've completely lost touch with who I thought I was.
0:23:39 > 0:23:40I want to stop.
0:23:40 > 0:23:43I want to put down roots and establish myself somewhere.
0:23:45 > 0:23:48That looks like a whole piece of history.
0:23:48 > 0:23:50Here. Nobody's in a hurry,
0:23:50 > 0:23:52everybody's quite happy to slow down
0:23:52 > 0:23:54and have a good look at you, as they go past.
0:23:55 > 0:23:57It's just so unusual.
0:23:58 > 0:24:00But it feels really nice as well.
0:24:01 > 0:24:04I want to be part of a community. I'm done moving.
0:24:12 > 0:24:15I feel honoured. I feel like it's a privilege,
0:24:15 > 0:24:18and my goal is to be respectful
0:24:18 > 0:24:21and not open my mouth and say anything inappropriate.
0:24:22 > 0:24:26In the UK, Leslie is getting ready for the black-tie dinner
0:24:26 > 0:24:27at Catterick Garrison.
0:24:27 > 0:24:31If you want to be seen, stand up, if you want to be heard, speak up,
0:24:31 > 0:24:34if you want to be respected, shut up!
0:24:34 > 0:24:35So that's my mantra.
0:24:35 > 0:24:36I've got to get ready.
0:24:36 > 0:24:39SHE GRUMBLES
0:24:41 > 0:24:43Are you decent, Leslie?
0:24:46 > 0:24:48- Ooh!- Check you out. Very nice. There you go.
0:24:48 > 0:24:51- You clean up good, too. - Scrub up well!
0:24:51 > 0:24:53Wow!
0:24:53 > 0:24:55Built in the early 1900s,
0:24:55 > 0:24:59the barracks is steeped in British military history.
0:24:59 > 0:25:01This is a table that we stole from Napoleon.
0:25:01 > 0:25:04- SHE GASPS - Shut the front door!
0:25:04 > 0:25:06This would go really good in my bed and breakfast.
0:25:06 > 0:25:08SHE CHUCKLES
0:25:08 > 0:25:10That's the Boer War.
0:25:11 > 0:25:13Look at the picture of the Queen.
0:25:13 > 0:25:17- That's her sister. - I'm going to take a picture of her.
0:25:17 > 0:25:18HE LAUGHS
0:25:18 > 0:25:21So, in here, reading room, library.
0:25:21 > 0:25:25And it's a chance for Leslie to really take in history.
0:25:26 > 0:25:30There's a distinct and amazing...
0:25:30 > 0:25:33- aroma. - HE LAUGHS
0:25:33 > 0:25:34SHE SIGHS
0:25:34 > 0:25:38I feel so grateful to see England in this way.
0:25:38 > 0:25:42Oh, my gosh, this should be, like, in Buckingham Palace or something.
0:25:42 > 0:25:47I don't think any American ever gets afforded this type of a tour.
0:25:47 > 0:25:50So this is where we're going to have dinner tonight.
0:25:50 > 0:25:53Oh! Oh, my word! Are you kidding me?
0:25:53 > 0:25:56- How does this match up to your B&B? - It doesn't even come close!
0:25:56 > 0:25:58- HE LAUGHS - I thought I had a nice B&B.
0:25:58 > 0:26:00- SHE GASPS - That's Princess Di.
0:26:00 > 0:26:02Yup, certainly is.
0:26:02 > 0:26:04- SHE SNIFFS - I feel like crying.
0:26:04 > 0:26:06HE LAUGHS
0:26:09 > 0:26:12I need to take a picture of this, this is really moving.
0:26:16 > 0:26:17Wow.
0:26:18 > 0:26:21I just feel unworthy.
0:26:28 > 0:26:30- Hi, Judy.- Hi. Venison burgers.
0:26:30 > 0:26:33Venison burgers, awesome.
0:26:33 > 0:26:35Holy smokes, you've been busy, huh?
0:26:35 > 0:26:37- This is Lil.- Lily.
0:26:37 > 0:26:41- Lil.- Lil.- Very pleased to meet you.
0:26:41 > 0:26:42As evening draws in in Alaska,
0:26:42 > 0:26:45Alan is keen that Lillian gets into the small-town spirit
0:26:45 > 0:26:48and is throwing a barbecue for some friends and neighbours.
0:26:48 > 0:26:51You have an English accent.
0:26:51 > 0:26:53I have a Scottish accent.
0:26:53 > 0:26:57- Scottish. Oh, OK. OK.- Hello, Catherine, it's lovely to meet you.
0:26:57 > 0:26:58I'm Todd.
0:26:58 > 0:27:02- Todd. I am never going to remember all these names!- Oh, that's OK.
0:27:02 > 0:27:04And it's giving Lillian a better understanding
0:27:04 > 0:27:06of exactly what she's been missing.
0:27:06 > 0:27:11- We're also close-knit. - Yeah.- And we all come together,
0:27:11 > 0:27:14whether we know each other a lot or not much at all.
0:27:14 > 0:27:16People here make eye contact.
0:27:16 > 0:27:18And it doesn't feel threatening.
0:27:18 > 0:27:20- Yeah.- It feels welcoming.
0:27:22 > 0:27:25What are the disadvantages of living in such a tight-knit community?
0:27:25 > 0:27:27Dating!
0:27:28 > 0:27:30- Yeah.- You better know you're not related first.
0:27:35 > 0:27:37When you move every two years,
0:27:37 > 0:27:40the friends you make are never really friends.
0:27:40 > 0:27:41They're acquaintances
0:27:41 > 0:27:46because you never develop the depth of relationship that allows you
0:27:46 > 0:27:49to continue when you're no longer together.
0:27:49 > 0:27:51Are you lonely?
0:27:51 > 0:27:52Yes.
0:27:52 > 0:27:53Incredibly.
0:28:05 > 0:28:07That's the joy of being an army wife.
0:28:18 > 0:28:20So, what do you think about all this history?
0:28:20 > 0:28:23Cos to me this feels like the Oscars or something.
0:28:23 > 0:28:25It's very posh.
0:28:25 > 0:28:27This mess is particularly beautiful.
0:28:27 > 0:28:29In the UK, before dinner
0:28:29 > 0:28:32Leslie gets a chance to mingle with the other guests.
0:28:32 > 0:28:34So is all Army so tall?
0:28:34 > 0:28:37- SHE LAUGHS - The officers' mess was just
0:28:37 > 0:28:40reeking with importance.
0:28:40 > 0:28:43It was regal, that's a good word.
0:28:43 > 0:28:45But I just felt awkward in the beginning.
0:28:45 > 0:28:49So what's midget? About 5'10" or so?
0:28:49 > 0:28:50You guys are all so tall.
0:28:50 > 0:28:52'I didn't know how to act, quite.
0:28:52 > 0:28:54'And so I was just trying to, kind of, feel it out.'
0:28:55 > 0:28:58But I just got a brand-new rifle.
0:28:58 > 0:29:01- Huh.- Yeah, a Henry Repeating .22.
0:29:01 > 0:29:06It's got an octagon barrel, so you can load 15 rounds at a time.
0:29:06 > 0:29:09- OK.- It's a replica, obviously, but it's pretty sweet.
0:29:09 > 0:29:11What do you shoot with that?
0:29:11 > 0:29:14Whatever gets in my way, how about that!
0:29:15 > 0:29:18- Yeah.- Ladies, gentlemen, dinner is now served.
0:29:18 > 0:29:22- Please start making your way through.- This is so fun.
0:29:23 > 0:29:25My stuff's on the left?
0:29:25 > 0:29:28- Yeah, that's right.- OK. - And you start outside, going in.
0:29:28 > 0:29:29You start from the inside going out?
0:29:29 > 0:29:33- Outside going in. - Outside going in, thank you.
0:29:33 > 0:29:34Keep helping me!
0:29:34 > 0:29:36We don't have stuff like this in America.
0:29:36 > 0:29:40Spending time in the formal environment of a regimental dinner
0:29:40 > 0:29:42is proving a revelation for Leslie.
0:29:42 > 0:29:45In my everyday life, I'm, like...
0:29:45 > 0:29:48you know, boisterous
0:29:48 > 0:29:51and making noise.
0:29:51 > 0:29:55So, you got a little filly on the side, are you think about
0:29:55 > 0:29:57- settling down?- Er... No. No, I'm absolutely not, no.
0:29:57 > 0:30:00'I just feel like I want to be a little softer'
0:30:00 > 0:30:03when I go home and a little bit quieter.
0:30:03 > 0:30:0631. I'm sure Mom's pushing.
0:30:06 > 0:30:08- Yeah.- It's time for some grandkids, Richard.- I know. Yeah.
0:30:08 > 0:30:10I feel that as well.
0:30:10 > 0:30:12Whoohoo!
0:30:12 > 0:30:15'Cos I've just been seeing things through my eyes
0:30:15 > 0:30:18'and I'm sort of seeing it through a different set of eyeballs.'
0:30:22 > 0:30:24Honestly, this day...
0:30:26 > 0:30:30..could quite possibly be one of the best days of my life.
0:30:30 > 0:30:33This is something I will never forget as long as I live.
0:30:33 > 0:30:36I am one lucky chick.
0:30:36 > 0:30:37Goodnight.
0:30:46 > 0:30:50It's halfway through the week and both women have now spent several
0:30:50 > 0:30:52days living in each other's worlds.
0:30:52 > 0:30:53England's old.
0:30:54 > 0:30:57You know, you can see it in the buildings,
0:30:57 > 0:31:00you can see it in the architecture and the landscapes.
0:31:00 > 0:31:04It just has an aura of old.
0:31:04 > 0:31:07America feels more new.
0:31:07 > 0:31:11Feels more shiny, feels more superficial and shallow.
0:31:11 > 0:31:13This has more deep meaning.
0:31:15 > 0:31:17This experience has taught me that
0:31:17 > 0:31:20I'm just so insignificant in the big scheme of things.
0:31:20 > 0:31:26I mean, I'm just a little piece of sand on a humongous planet,
0:31:26 > 0:31:28in a huge universe.
0:31:31 > 0:31:34I have never felt so like the real me...
0:31:36 > 0:31:37..as I do at the moment.
0:31:39 > 0:31:42I want to go back to a time where communities actually worked
0:31:42 > 0:31:46together and people were valued for being part of the community,
0:31:46 > 0:31:48not because they had a job to do.
0:31:48 > 0:31:52But most of all, I want to laugh with my husband,
0:31:52 > 0:31:55because I've laughed so much since I've been here.
0:31:56 > 0:31:58But Stuart and I don't laugh together.
0:32:00 > 0:32:03And we used to. We used to laugh together, before the children
0:32:03 > 0:32:09and before mortgages and bills and the cares of the day.
0:32:09 > 0:32:10We used to laugh quite a lot together.
0:32:12 > 0:32:14We need that back.
0:32:21 > 0:32:24It's so shocking how fast time goes,
0:32:24 > 0:32:26so, you know, just enjoy the ride
0:32:26 > 0:32:29and enjoy this moment as it is.
0:32:33 > 0:32:38When I walked in this morning, there was a bald eagle just flew leisurely
0:32:38 > 0:32:40- past the window.- I know. - And it's just like...
0:32:40 > 0:32:42- SHE LAUGHS - It's really cool.
0:32:42 > 0:32:45Now that she's settled in, Alan is keen to show Lillian
0:32:45 > 0:32:47some Alaskan wilderness
0:32:47 > 0:32:50and has decided to take her on her first ever deer hunt.
0:32:50 > 0:32:51I'm excited in the fact
0:32:51 > 0:32:55that I'd get to see the wildlife in their natural habitat.
0:32:55 > 0:32:59The idea that something at the end of it might end up on my plate
0:32:59 > 0:33:01is something I'll have to deal with.
0:33:04 > 0:33:07The best spot to hunt deer around here is Zarembo Island,
0:33:07 > 0:33:10a 30-minute boat journey west of Wrangell.
0:33:10 > 0:33:13This is just spectacular.
0:33:13 > 0:33:16I can see why you and Leslie enjoy doing this.
0:33:16 > 0:33:17Oh, we do, we love it.
0:33:17 > 0:33:20She gets away from the bed and breakfast, we just get out of town,
0:33:20 > 0:33:22the cellphones don't work.
0:33:22 > 0:33:25- Yeah.- It's our favourite thing to do.
0:33:25 > 0:33:28Lillian wants to know more about the realities of living
0:33:28 > 0:33:29in such a small community.
0:33:29 > 0:33:32If you do fall out with someone,
0:33:32 > 0:33:34how do you get round that and does the community get involved as well?
0:33:34 > 0:33:36Just like a family, you know.
0:33:36 > 0:33:39- Yeah.- I mean, you get upset with a family member, be mad at them,
0:33:39 > 0:33:42- you might not talk to them for a week or something and...- Yeah.
0:33:42 > 0:33:44..you just kind of let bygones be bygones.
0:33:47 > 0:33:50Don't let them know where your goat's tied up, you know?
0:33:50 > 0:33:52I've never heard that before.
0:33:52 > 0:33:54You know, people can get your goat,
0:33:54 > 0:33:58they can't get it if they don't know where it's tied up.
0:33:58 > 0:34:00And just let it flow.
0:34:00 > 0:34:01Oh, dear!
0:34:04 > 0:34:06How's the temperature in the car for you?
0:34:06 > 0:34:09- Yeah, fine.- OK, good, I tend to get a little warm.
0:34:11 > 0:34:12So...
0:34:12 > 0:34:14Raar!
0:34:14 > 0:34:16Nice one.
0:34:16 > 0:34:19In Nottingham, Leslie is braving the English roads once more.
0:34:21 > 0:34:22Whoa!
0:34:22 > 0:34:24Now, if I make you nervous, let me know.
0:34:24 > 0:34:27And this time, she's bringing Lillian's daughter Ellie
0:34:27 > 0:34:29along for the ride.
0:34:29 > 0:34:30Whoop.
0:34:30 > 0:34:33She wants to show her her favourite Alaskan pastime.
0:34:33 > 0:34:35Do you know what a .44 is?
0:34:35 > 0:34:38A .44, like, we call it the Dirty Harry.
0:34:38 > 0:34:39That big pistol.
0:34:40 > 0:34:42That's got a lot of firepower.
0:34:42 > 0:34:44They're heading to a shooting range.
0:34:45 > 0:34:48What's your feeling about this or your anxiety level?
0:34:50 > 0:34:52Erm...I'm slightly nervous.
0:34:52 > 0:34:53You're slightly nervous?
0:34:53 > 0:34:57Yeah, just cos I don't think I should be in charge of something
0:34:57 > 0:35:01- as powerful as a gun!- Yeah, but you're the one that has the power.
0:35:01 > 0:35:04It's like... Guns don't kill people, people kill people.
0:35:04 > 0:35:06You know? Oops.
0:35:06 > 0:35:08- ENGINE CRUNCHES - Sorry.
0:35:09 > 0:35:10Raar.
0:35:14 > 0:35:16Mmm. That was incredible.
0:35:19 > 0:35:23In Alaska, Lillian and Alan have arrived at Zarembo Island.
0:35:23 > 0:35:26All you can hear is water and wildlife.
0:35:28 > 0:35:30There are no permanent residents on the island...
0:35:30 > 0:35:33Push down on it.
0:35:33 > 0:35:35..but for the past 20 years,
0:35:35 > 0:35:38hunters have shipped in beaten up old pick-up trucks...
0:35:38 > 0:35:39- I like the paint job.- Yeah?
0:35:39 > 0:35:43..to use as transport around Zarembo.
0:35:43 > 0:35:46Anyone can use them. CAR STARTS
0:35:46 > 0:35:47The only rule is
0:35:47 > 0:35:51leave enough gas in the tank for the next hunter who comes along.
0:35:51 > 0:35:54- This is a nice rig.- Yeah!
0:35:54 > 0:35:57With its 183 square miles of pristine wilderness...
0:35:57 > 0:36:01- That's some view.- ..Zarembo Island is a hunter's paradise.
0:36:01 > 0:36:03See it running in the road down there.
0:36:05 > 0:36:07So what other animals are there on the island?
0:36:07 > 0:36:12There's moose, elk, porcupines, squirrels, wolves...
0:36:14 > 0:36:17Tonight, Lillian and Alan will stay in an isolated lodge
0:36:17 > 0:36:19before they begin their hunt in the morning.
0:36:21 > 0:36:23I'm looking forward to doing something different
0:36:23 > 0:36:26and pushing myself outside my comfort zone.
0:36:26 > 0:36:28And I've never done anything like this before.
0:36:28 > 0:36:30And that's pretty cool.
0:36:30 > 0:36:33But at the back of my mind,
0:36:33 > 0:36:37this is not some benign little wander in the woods, though, is it?
0:36:37 > 0:36:40It's hunting. And I think I'm going to struggle with this.
0:36:48 > 0:36:52GUNSHOTS In the UK, Leslie and Ellie have
0:36:52 > 0:36:54arrived at the shooting range.
0:36:54 > 0:36:56Ellie, here, we have to go a little ginger with
0:36:56 > 0:36:59because she... She said guns scare her.
0:36:59 > 0:37:02OK, this is the gun we're going to be using. 20 bore.
0:37:03 > 0:37:06Empty gun. Bring this hand up on to there.
0:37:06 > 0:37:08This hand up on to there. Lower the gun down.
0:37:08 > 0:37:11- Just want to check the eye. - Oh, it's heavy.
0:37:11 > 0:37:13- Now just focus. - You think it's heavy?
0:37:13 > 0:37:16Honey, you're a natural, I'm telling you.
0:37:16 > 0:37:17- Thanks.- Right.
0:37:17 > 0:37:19GUNSHOTS
0:37:19 > 0:37:22Are you still having anxiety or have you calmed down a little?
0:37:22 > 0:37:23I don't know. We'll see.
0:37:23 > 0:37:26We'll see? You're going to be fine, I promise.
0:37:31 > 0:37:34When I was in high school, I took a riflery class.
0:37:34 > 0:37:35It was all boys.
0:37:35 > 0:37:39Football, fishing, firearms.
0:37:41 > 0:37:42Boy magnets.
0:37:44 > 0:37:47So, anxiety level?
0:37:47 > 0:37:49- It's gone up a bit. - It's gone up!
0:37:50 > 0:37:52Quit asking her.
0:37:52 > 0:37:53Right.
0:37:56 > 0:37:59That right eye.
0:37:59 > 0:38:01- Pull.- Nice and steady.
0:38:01 > 0:38:03- Boom!- Well done.
0:38:04 > 0:38:06Pull, boom!
0:38:06 > 0:38:08Boom. Boom.
0:38:09 > 0:38:11- Well done.- This is a blast!
0:38:13 > 0:38:14It's so fun, Ellie.
0:38:16 > 0:38:18Especially when you hit it.
0:38:21 > 0:38:23Bring your hands round like I showed you.
0:38:23 > 0:38:25Take it. Finger off the trigger.
0:38:25 > 0:38:28- Pull.- Nice and gently.
0:38:29 > 0:38:30- OK? Now...- Ugh.
0:38:32 > 0:38:33Do you mind if I stop?
0:38:33 > 0:38:35No problem at all. OK?
0:38:39 > 0:38:41Are you OK?
0:38:41 > 0:38:43- ELLIE SNIFFS - Tell me.
0:38:43 > 0:38:44I'm fine, I just didn't like it.
0:38:44 > 0:38:47You just don't like it. And that's OK.
0:38:47 > 0:38:49You don't have to like it. Some things are for somebody,
0:38:49 > 0:38:52just like when I went into that hospital where your mom works.
0:38:52 > 0:38:55Honey, I was coming out of my skin, just the smell of death.
0:38:55 > 0:38:57- It does smell.- Yes.
0:38:57 > 0:39:00And so I'm really proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone.
0:39:00 > 0:39:01You did really good.
0:39:01 > 0:39:04- Thanks.- OK? And it's OK to show emotion.
0:39:04 > 0:39:06It's OK to be sensitive.
0:39:06 > 0:39:10- It's much better to be sensitive than to be insensitive.- Yeah.
0:39:10 > 0:39:12So, I love you for trying.
0:39:12 > 0:39:14- Thanks, honey.- That's OK.- OK.
0:39:14 > 0:39:16Thanks for being my little gun girl.
0:39:16 > 0:39:17Oh, that's OK.
0:39:17 > 0:39:21'So, obviously, this was a little hard on Ellie.
0:39:21 > 0:39:23'You know, the thing that occurs to me is
0:39:23 > 0:39:25'she has a father in the military.'
0:39:25 > 0:39:30Growing up with the thought that maybe my dad's in danger
0:39:30 > 0:39:33and guns is a big part of that.
0:39:33 > 0:39:38She's battling a fear and just the idea that she tried it is huge.
0:39:38 > 0:39:40That's the way I feel.
0:39:51 > 0:39:54Ellie is not the only one with a fear of guns.
0:39:57 > 0:39:59- Does that coat fit OK?- Yeah.
0:39:59 > 0:40:04Today, Lillian is joining Alan on her first ever deer hunt.
0:40:04 > 0:40:06I think she's excited about seeing the island.
0:40:06 > 0:40:08Not so excited about killing a deer.
0:40:10 > 0:40:11Literally, sick.
0:40:14 > 0:40:16Physically sick.
0:40:18 > 0:40:20I feel sick every time I look at the gun.
0:40:28 > 0:40:30SHE GROANS
0:40:37 > 0:40:40Lillian and Alan will be stalking Sitka black-tailed deer.
0:40:41 > 0:40:44- WHISPERING:- I shot a nice deer standing right there one time.
0:40:44 > 0:40:45I was standing right here,
0:40:45 > 0:40:48and there was a buck standing right there.
0:40:48 > 0:40:51By those rocks, and shot him right here.
0:40:51 > 0:40:53It was nice.
0:40:53 > 0:40:56Native to southeastern Alaska, they're small and agile,
0:40:56 > 0:41:00and hard to spot as they blend into their natural environment.
0:41:00 > 0:41:05'It's clear that hunting is such a big part of this community.
0:41:08 > 0:41:10'Doesn't mean I want to do it.'
0:41:10 > 0:41:14- CREW MEMBER:- Is this quite a challenge for you, then?
0:41:14 > 0:41:15This is a real challenge.
0:41:15 > 0:41:17HIGH-PITCHED WHISTLE
0:41:18 > 0:41:21It's not about the hunting, it's about the taking of life.
0:41:23 > 0:41:26I'm a nurse. I preserve life.
0:41:26 > 0:41:28It's a doe, but it's up on that other ridge.
0:41:28 > 0:41:31But she's looking right at us.
0:41:31 > 0:41:33- Can you see her?- No.
0:41:33 > 0:41:37Out here, hunters are only allowed to shoot mature male bucks.
0:41:37 > 0:41:41Killing female does is strictly off-limits.
0:41:41 > 0:41:42Well, that's one deer.
0:41:43 > 0:41:45This is a killer spot.
0:41:46 > 0:41:49'I know the damage that guns can do.
0:41:49 > 0:41:53'I've seen the impact that it has on people.'
0:41:53 > 0:41:55She's moving away from us.
0:41:56 > 0:41:59- It's amazing, three steps, and she's disappeared.- She's gone.
0:42:05 > 0:42:07HIGH-PITCHED WHISTLE
0:42:07 > 0:42:09Whoa! Whoa! Whoa!
0:42:12 > 0:42:15- Can you see it? See the deer? See it moving?- No.
0:42:17 > 0:42:18HIGH-PITCHED WHISTLE
0:42:37 > 0:42:40Nothing. That was a big, fat doe.
0:42:42 > 0:42:44It's only the girlies coming out today.
0:42:44 > 0:42:48With a storm brewing on the horizon, much to the relief of Lillian...
0:42:48 > 0:42:49Hurray for the deer!
0:42:49 > 0:42:51..Alan decides to call it a day.
0:42:59 > 0:43:04The fact that we did not shoot anything made me feel so happy.
0:43:04 > 0:43:07It was nice to be in the vicinity of something that escaped unharmed.
0:43:13 > 0:43:14In the UK,...
0:43:14 > 0:43:15Is there any castles?
0:43:17 > 0:43:18I don't think so.
0:43:19 > 0:43:21When am I going to see a castle?
0:43:22 > 0:43:25..Stuart has agreed to show Leslie the English countryside.
0:43:25 > 0:43:28You are the tour guide.
0:43:28 > 0:43:30Yeah.
0:43:30 > 0:43:33Oh! This is so cool.
0:43:39 > 0:43:43Woohoo! This is like going into outer space.
0:43:44 > 0:43:47We have now been rocketed into a fourth dimension.
0:43:47 > 0:43:49Whoo!
0:43:49 > 0:43:51They're on their way to one of his favourite spots
0:43:51 > 0:43:53in the Yorkshire Dales.
0:43:53 > 0:43:54- Oh, wow.- Cool, huh?
0:43:54 > 0:43:56That looks ancient.
0:43:57 > 0:44:02I really enjoyed seeing England on the back of a motorcycle.
0:44:02 > 0:44:04It's very different than Alaska.
0:44:04 > 0:44:09In Alaska it's still, kind of, untamed and jagged, and rough.
0:44:09 > 0:44:12I mean, I have sort of a healthy fear of the wilderness.
0:44:12 > 0:44:15If you're not prepared, you're not going to make it.
0:44:16 > 0:44:19Whoo! I feel like a princess.
0:44:22 > 0:44:26As they stop for a break in the Yorkshire Dales...
0:44:26 > 0:44:28Look over the grand vista.
0:44:28 > 0:44:30Ah! Breathtaking!
0:44:30 > 0:44:32Leslie wants to know more about
0:44:32 > 0:44:34Lillian and Stuart's plans for the future.
0:44:34 > 0:44:37- Sit on this rock. - I am not a city girl.
0:44:37 > 0:44:40- Pull up a rock. - Pull up a rock. A stump.
0:44:41 > 0:44:44There you go. That's the Pennines.
0:44:44 > 0:44:47After nearly 40 years of a regimented army lifestyle,
0:44:47 > 0:44:50she's keen to know how Stuart thinks he will explore
0:44:50 > 0:44:51his upcoming freedom.
0:44:51 > 0:44:54- The army, it's been my life since I left school.- Right.
0:44:54 > 0:44:56But I've enjoyed every minute of it.
0:44:56 > 0:44:57And you start thinking differently
0:44:57 > 0:45:00- when you're hitting your 50s. - You certainly do. Yes.
0:45:00 > 0:45:03You work for the man for many years. I want to work for me.
0:45:04 > 0:45:07I don't want to be reporting to somebody else,
0:45:07 > 0:45:08or having to do what I'm told.
0:45:08 > 0:45:10I just want to get on and do something for myself.
0:45:10 > 0:45:13- Right.- So, what I want to do when I leave the army,
0:45:13 > 0:45:16is I want to set up a motorcycle tour company.
0:45:16 > 0:45:18Organised tours around parts of the UK,
0:45:18 > 0:45:21the scenic parts of the UK, this being one of them.
0:45:21 > 0:45:22I can certainly see why.
0:45:22 > 0:45:24It's absolutely fun.
0:45:24 > 0:45:27So, you set up the motorcycle business,
0:45:27 > 0:45:29what do you think Lillian's going to want?
0:45:29 > 0:45:32She wants to do something different, I know that.
0:45:32 > 0:45:36It's now providing that opportunity for Lil to be part of it as well.
0:45:36 > 0:45:38That's why you get married, that's why you get together.
0:45:38 > 0:45:40- Right.- To be together.- That's huge.
0:45:40 > 0:45:43So next year is going to be the start of it,
0:45:43 > 0:45:46and let us build it, and hopefully, if it succeeds, then, yes.
0:45:49 > 0:45:52- Well, the beauty of life is we have choices.- Yes.
0:45:52 > 0:45:55But, erm...compromise.
0:45:55 > 0:45:57What are you going to give, OK?
0:45:57 > 0:45:59I'll give this, if you give that.
0:45:59 > 0:46:02- So it's striking a deal between each other.- That's exactly right.
0:46:02 > 0:46:04And so there's the yin and the yang.
0:46:04 > 0:46:08Why not, indeed? It's glorious, isn't it?
0:46:08 > 0:46:11You set this company up, and I'll be your agent in Alaska.
0:46:11 > 0:46:14I'm serious. I can be your American propaganda machine.
0:46:14 > 0:46:15Yeah, why not?
0:46:18 > 0:46:20The future for us now...
0:46:21 > 0:46:22..is all changed.
0:46:23 > 0:46:25We're both at a crossroads,
0:46:25 > 0:46:28and we don't know which way it's going to take us next.
0:46:28 > 0:46:31I just want to encourage you to take the risk,
0:46:31 > 0:46:34because otherwise you're always going to wonder.
0:46:34 > 0:46:37- It sounds exciting.- Let's hope so.
0:46:37 > 0:46:40Aah! I love it when we go fast!
0:46:46 > 0:46:49Stuart wants to find a way that he and Lillian
0:46:49 > 0:46:52can take on the next part of their life as a team.
0:46:52 > 0:46:53THUNDER RUMBLES
0:46:53 > 0:46:58And in Alaska, Lillian's thoughts too are turning to their future.
0:46:58 > 0:47:00He's been saying it for a long time.
0:47:00 > 0:47:03"When I finish in the army it's your turn next, honey."
0:47:03 > 0:47:05But the reality of that, I think...
0:47:07 > 0:47:08..could be a little different.
0:47:09 > 0:47:12He's been in the army since he was 17,
0:47:12 > 0:47:15and when he gets out next year, he'll be 55.
0:47:15 > 0:47:16That's a lifetime.
0:47:17 > 0:47:21And that change in status is very subtle.
0:47:22 > 0:47:24But it's very powerful.
0:47:25 > 0:47:28And he won't... And the respect he commands now
0:47:28 > 0:47:30will disappear overnight.
0:47:32 > 0:47:34This is when he needs me most.
0:47:38 > 0:47:44But it's a two-way thing, because he also has to be open and receptive.
0:47:46 > 0:47:50I really don't know what the impact of this is going to be.
0:47:51 > 0:47:54We're going to get out of here before this storm really gets bad.
0:47:58 > 0:48:00I'm in.
0:48:01 > 0:48:03- Good trip.- I enjoyed it.
0:48:03 > 0:48:05Yeah, it was a good time.
0:48:06 > 0:48:08It will be a fun ride.
0:48:08 > 0:48:11- You don't get seasick, do you? - No, I don't get seasick. No.
0:48:12 > 0:48:14Whoa!
0:48:14 > 0:48:15Whoo!
0:48:16 > 0:48:19'When I go back, the conversation is going to be more about
0:48:19 > 0:48:23'how can we find a shared purpose?'
0:48:27 > 0:48:30How do we move forward and how do we do it together?
0:48:30 > 0:48:32Woohoo!
0:48:32 > 0:48:36We're going to get around the corner here, and it's going to be nice.
0:48:36 > 0:48:37Alan, it was excellent.
0:48:37 > 0:48:40I'm just going to tell Leslie to stay in the UK. I'm stopping here.
0:48:44 > 0:48:45Can we do it again?
0:48:49 > 0:48:53Life's too short to hold back because you're frightened
0:48:53 > 0:48:55or worried about what other people might think.
0:48:58 > 0:49:02This is the strangest way to make coffee I've ever seen in my life,
0:49:02 > 0:49:07but as long as I get that caffeine, that's the whole point.
0:49:07 > 0:49:08OK.
0:49:08 > 0:49:10It's Leslie's last day in Nottingham.
0:49:10 > 0:49:13There's definitely some work here.
0:49:16 > 0:49:19Ooh, look at that. That's an antique!
0:49:19 > 0:49:23I like dirt. Mother Earth.
0:49:23 > 0:49:24It's where we all come from.
0:49:25 > 0:49:31This experience has taught me a lot of stuff about who I am,
0:49:31 > 0:49:33and who I'm not.
0:49:33 > 0:49:34More about who I'm not.
0:49:34 > 0:49:39I fancy myself to be this world traveller and,
0:49:39 > 0:49:44"Oh, yeah, I could go visit London, Paris,"
0:49:44 > 0:49:46but, you know what? It's really not who I am.
0:49:46 > 0:49:48It's sort of a pipe dream.
0:49:48 > 0:49:52Really, I'm just a hometown country girl from Alaska.
0:49:52 > 0:49:54And that's where I'm most comfortable.
0:49:58 > 0:50:01I thought I was looking forward to being in a place
0:50:01 > 0:50:02where nobody knew me,
0:50:02 > 0:50:06however, abs... What's that saying?
0:50:06 > 0:50:10Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
0:50:10 > 0:50:11That's a fact.
0:50:13 > 0:50:17I do have a deeper appreciation of what I have
0:50:17 > 0:50:18and my life back home.
0:50:21 > 0:50:23Oh, that's amazing.
0:50:23 > 0:50:24They should bottle that.
0:50:26 > 0:50:31This has really taught me that I have to appreciate everything
0:50:31 > 0:50:33as it is at this moment.
0:50:34 > 0:50:36The weather changes.
0:50:36 > 0:50:38The scenery changes.
0:50:38 > 0:50:40The flowers change, and we all are, like,
0:50:40 > 0:50:43in a season, changing all the time.
0:50:43 > 0:50:48And instead of worrying about the past, or worrying about the future,
0:50:48 > 0:50:53I just need to enjoy this moment as it is.
0:50:53 > 0:50:55Oh, my!
0:50:55 > 0:50:57Here, fishy, fishy!
0:50:58 > 0:51:00Here, fishy, fishy!
0:51:13 > 0:51:17Lil, how was you guys' ride home from Zarembo?
0:51:17 > 0:51:19It was excellent. I love it.
0:51:19 > 0:51:20- Yeah?- I absolutely love it.
0:51:20 > 0:51:23That's good. You can come back and go fishing with me then
0:51:23 > 0:51:26if you want to. If you ever toughen up!
0:51:27 > 0:51:32In Alaska, Lillian's time in the small town of Wrangell is nearly up.
0:51:32 > 0:51:34What are you going to miss most about Wrangell?
0:51:35 > 0:51:37I think I'm going to miss the people most.
0:51:37 > 0:51:40- The people? Aw!- The people most. - She tells the nicest lies.
0:51:40 > 0:51:42'From first arriving here,'
0:51:42 > 0:51:44the calm and the beauty of the island,
0:51:44 > 0:51:47and the friendliness of the first people I met...
0:51:47 > 0:51:48Ten on a number three.
0:51:48 > 0:51:50..every experience I've had since then
0:51:50 > 0:51:53has just deepened those first impressions.
0:51:53 > 0:51:55- I got a winner!- 150.
0:51:55 > 0:51:57I won 150!
0:51:57 > 0:51:59Whoo!
0:51:59 > 0:52:01This has been a life-changing moment
0:52:01 > 0:52:04and maybe it's time to do something.
0:52:04 > 0:52:07- You're going to sign the post? - She's going to sign the post.
0:52:07 > 0:52:09'Moving somewhere like this,
0:52:09 > 0:52:13'that has the same kind of community values and spirit.'
0:52:13 > 0:52:16- I was here.- Lil was here.- Yeah.
0:52:18 > 0:52:19You're part of the furniture.
0:52:19 > 0:52:22To be honest, as soon as Lil come through the door,
0:52:22 > 0:52:24she really didn't seem like a stranger.
0:52:24 > 0:52:2620, 40, 50.
0:52:26 > 0:52:28- Thank you very much. - You are welcome.
0:52:28 > 0:52:30She's just a friend.
0:52:30 > 0:52:32There ain't nothing to making money in Alaska.
0:52:34 > 0:52:35Nothing to it.
0:52:40 > 0:52:42What's important is relationships.
0:52:42 > 0:52:45And the people in your life that sustain you.
0:52:46 > 0:52:49So, doing something adventurous...
0:52:50 > 0:52:53..and doing it with Stuart, who else?
0:52:53 > 0:52:54Who else, really?
0:52:55 > 0:52:56Do I trust?
0:52:57 > 0:53:01And be there to back me up, and he ticks all those boxes.
0:53:02 > 0:53:04And I love him so much.
0:53:23 > 0:53:26Well, by the time I figure out where everything is,
0:53:26 > 0:53:27it's time to go.
0:53:28 > 0:53:30Lillian and Leslie's week is up,
0:53:30 > 0:53:33and it's time for them to say goodbye to their host families
0:53:33 > 0:53:35and head for home.
0:53:36 > 0:53:39Thank you for everything you did for me.
0:53:39 > 0:53:42I think Leslie had a significant life experience by coming here.
0:53:42 > 0:53:45So, thanks again, I sure appreciate everything.
0:53:45 > 0:53:48Coming to the UK has convinced me
0:53:48 > 0:53:52that I have to stop fighting where I belong.
0:53:52 > 0:53:54- See you.- Thank you. - Safe trip back home.
0:53:54 > 0:53:57I am anything but a world-class jet setter!
0:54:01 > 0:54:05I'm really glad to have met her. She's just a great soul.
0:54:05 > 0:54:07She's a special lady.
0:54:08 > 0:54:10Today's it, isn't it?
0:54:10 > 0:54:14- Yeah.- Well, it has been a wonderful week.
0:54:19 > 0:54:24The key to happiness has got to be doing what feels right.
0:54:24 > 0:54:26Not what you think is right.
0:54:33 > 0:54:37Before they return home, the two women will get a chance to meet.
0:54:37 > 0:54:40I feel like Lillian really puts out a lot for others,
0:54:40 > 0:54:44and what is Lillian doing for Lillian?
0:54:44 > 0:54:46If you're just pouring out of the cup all the time,
0:54:46 > 0:54:48what's left in the cup?
0:54:48 > 0:54:51What's going to recharge your battery?
0:54:55 > 0:54:58I've been inhabiting her life for a week.
0:54:59 > 0:55:02And sometimes you can... You get so close to things
0:55:02 > 0:55:03that you can't see them for yourself,
0:55:03 > 0:55:05and you really need somebody else to be that mirror.
0:55:09 > 0:55:10Hang on a minute.
0:55:12 > 0:55:14That would be me!
0:55:15 > 0:55:17Hi!
0:55:19 > 0:55:21Hello. So, how was in Nottingham?
0:55:21 > 0:55:24Nottingham is...
0:55:24 > 0:55:26- Yes.- Really different.
0:55:26 > 0:55:29I was on your block, knocking on doors,
0:55:29 > 0:55:31and they didn't even know who you were.
0:55:31 > 0:55:33- Yeah.- That blew my mind.
0:55:33 > 0:55:36After this adventure, I'm not so...
0:55:36 > 0:55:38I don't think it's so bad here.
0:55:38 > 0:55:44Listen, your community is perhaps one of the most cohesive...
0:55:45 > 0:55:48..amazing communities I've ever had the pleasure to be part of.
0:55:48 > 0:55:51Do you know, I'm really glad that you talked about our community,
0:55:51 > 0:55:56because I didn't realise how much it meant to me that everybody knows me,
0:55:56 > 0:55:57everybody knows my name.
0:55:57 > 0:55:59They all know my story.
0:55:59 > 0:56:01And it's, like...
0:56:01 > 0:56:03It gave me a sense of belonging.
0:56:03 > 0:56:05You have what I want.
0:56:05 > 0:56:10Well, I'm glad you enjoyed it, but Stuart is getting ready to retire.
0:56:11 > 0:56:12He adores you,
0:56:12 > 0:56:16I got the sense that he wants you to work along with him
0:56:16 > 0:56:18on the tour thing.
0:56:18 > 0:56:21Yeah. Having something that we can work on together,
0:56:21 > 0:56:25a shared sense of purpose, is absolutely what we need now.
0:56:25 > 0:56:29Well, I think whatever you decide is OK with him.
0:56:29 > 0:56:31So what a great experience, huh?
0:56:31 > 0:56:34- It's been phenomenal. - It has been phenomenal.
0:56:34 > 0:56:35- Thank you.- So, let's go home.
0:56:38 > 0:56:41It was more comfortable than I thought it was going to be
0:56:41 > 0:56:44and she was everything I thought
0:56:44 > 0:56:48and I feel like I have a new sister in the UK now.
0:56:49 > 0:56:54My goodness, Leslie's a force to be reckoned with, isn't she?
0:56:54 > 0:56:59It was lovely. It was lovely, and, once again, it's that openness
0:56:59 > 0:57:00and that friendliness and the directness
0:57:00 > 0:57:02that can be quite disarming.
0:57:02 > 0:57:04I'm so happy to be Leslie.
0:57:04 > 0:57:08I think that my whole life I've looked at life as...
0:57:08 > 0:57:12"I'll be happy when I am doing something different."
0:57:12 > 0:57:14And I really got a sense of "I'm happy now."
0:57:14 > 0:57:17The whole experience, blimey!
0:57:17 > 0:57:19Mind-blowing, for me.
0:57:20 > 0:57:22And certainly life-changing for me.
0:57:24 > 0:57:27Change is a slow process
0:57:27 > 0:57:30and you have to take the people with you as you make the changes.
0:57:34 > 0:57:35Hello!
0:57:35 > 0:57:36Hello!
0:57:50 > 0:57:53Oh! Where have you been?
0:57:53 > 0:57:55I've been globe hopping!
0:57:55 > 0:57:58Oh! I'm so glad... Mmm-hmm!
0:58:02 > 0:58:03Next time...
0:58:03 > 0:58:05Wow, where am I?
0:58:05 > 0:58:07..a tribesman from Guyana...
0:58:07 > 0:58:09Can you please help me?
0:58:09 > 0:58:12..tries to get to grips with the urban jungle.
0:58:12 > 0:58:14This is my first time trying to put my finger on a computer.
0:58:14 > 0:58:16While a civil servant from London...
0:58:18 > 0:58:21..goes back to basics in the Amazon rainforest.
0:58:21 > 0:58:25I'm hungrier than, probably, I've never been in my life before.
0:58:25 > 0:58:28What will they learn from each other's worlds?