0:00:02 > 0:00:04This programme contains some strong language.
0:00:04 > 0:00:07Earlier this year, three footballers from Leicester City
0:00:07 > 0:00:09filmed themselves in an orgy while on tour with the club.
0:00:16 > 0:00:17The video caused outrage,
0:00:17 > 0:00:21as the players sexually humiliated the women involved.
0:00:26 > 0:00:28Come on, lick it now!
0:00:28 > 0:00:33But stories like this are nothing new in the world of football.
0:00:33 > 0:00:36Football sex scandals are hitting headlines
0:00:36 > 0:00:39and it's their actions off the pitch that are making the front pages,
0:00:39 > 0:00:43from orgies to underage sex to rape.
0:00:43 > 0:00:45I want to find out if football culture
0:00:45 > 0:00:48of promiscuous sex and predatory behaviour
0:00:48 > 0:00:51is breeding a worrying attitude towards young women.
0:00:51 > 0:00:53They will pick out girls and be like,
0:00:53 > 0:00:55"I want that one, that one and that one on my table."
0:00:55 > 0:00:58Or are the women just as much to blame?
0:00:58 > 0:01:00A lot of WAGs knew what they were marrying into.
0:01:00 > 0:01:03They get all the goods in return.
0:01:03 > 0:01:05That is a form of prostitution.
0:01:05 > 0:01:09And has the spotlight on footballers' personal lives gone too far?
0:01:09 > 0:01:11If you can keep it out of the newspapers, that's fantastic.
0:01:11 > 0:01:14You don't really want it hitting the headlines.
0:01:14 > 0:01:17And it also uncovers some personal experiences I wasn't expecting.
0:01:17 > 0:01:19What are you scared of?
0:01:19 > 0:01:23I look at my mum, I look at women who have married footballers,
0:01:23 > 0:01:26I don't know how you trust. I don't know.
0:01:34 > 0:01:36My name's Amal Fashanu
0:01:36 > 0:01:38and I grew up in the footballing spotlight.
0:01:38 > 0:01:42I'm making this film because I'm the daughter of a football player
0:01:42 > 0:01:46and I'm the niece of a footballer and a cousin of a footballer
0:01:46 > 0:01:49so football seems to be in my life quite a lot.
0:01:49 > 0:01:52Sex scandals in football seem as frequent as goals
0:01:52 > 0:01:56and I partly blame this culture for the divorce of my parents.
0:01:57 > 0:02:00Their relationship ended when I was two years old, after my mum
0:02:00 > 0:02:03found out that my dad, John Fashanu, was having an affair.
0:02:05 > 0:02:07We've seen a host of high-profile footballers
0:02:07 > 0:02:09involved in controversial stories,
0:02:09 > 0:02:12from Ryan Giggs' affair with his brother's wife,
0:02:12 > 0:02:14to Ched Evans jailed for rape.
0:02:14 > 0:02:18Football has been painted as a dark and seedy world.
0:02:18 > 0:02:22It always seems to be lately that footballers are there
0:02:22 > 0:02:25in the press for women and sex.
0:02:25 > 0:02:29Are we to blame footballers? Are we to blame society?
0:02:29 > 0:02:33Are we to blame the people that pay footballers this amount of money?
0:02:36 > 0:02:41With the Premier elite earning up to £300,000 a week,
0:02:41 > 0:02:44players have overnight access to money, fame
0:02:44 > 0:02:48and an exclusive nightlife where they are the centre of attention.
0:02:48 > 0:02:50So what really goes on after dark?
0:02:50 > 0:02:56I head to one of London's most popular clubs for footballers.
0:02:56 > 0:03:00MUSIC: Earthquake by DJ Fresh
0:03:06 > 0:03:08In the club, I meet up with Danielle Mason,
0:03:08 > 0:03:12who has first-hand experience with footballers after dark.
0:03:13 > 0:03:15She worked as a promoter for many years
0:03:15 > 0:03:19and has insider knowledge into this exclusive world.
0:03:19 > 0:03:22- Oh, how are you?- Very nice. Wow.
0:03:22 > 0:03:24Can you just explain to me
0:03:24 > 0:03:27basically what your job has been for the past few years?
0:03:27 > 0:03:32So when I was 21, I started, erm, glamour modelling
0:03:32 > 0:03:35and then, with that, I was obviously always out
0:03:35 > 0:03:37at, you know, like, your Chinawhites
0:03:37 > 0:03:41and all your different clubs in the West End.
0:03:41 > 0:03:45I'd bring a lot of good-looking girls with me to the tables,
0:03:45 > 0:03:48and then I thought, "Do you know what? I'm the one bringing all the people in
0:03:48 > 0:03:52"so I might as well become a club promoter myself."
0:03:52 > 0:03:54'Danielle's job was to make sure
0:03:54 > 0:03:56'everyone in the club was having a good time.
0:03:56 > 0:03:59'Many of her top clients were Premiership footballers.'
0:03:59 > 0:04:01When it comes to footballers,
0:04:01 > 0:04:03is there any type of special requirement,
0:04:03 > 0:04:06anything special that happens within the club?
0:04:06 > 0:04:08They always get, like, the superstar treatment
0:04:08 > 0:04:10whenever they go to a club,
0:04:10 > 0:04:14like, they will have the top table so everyone can see them.
0:04:14 > 0:04:18They will pick out girls in the club and be like,
0:04:18 > 0:04:22"I want that one, that one and that one on my table," and then...
0:04:22 > 0:04:25So, yeah, no, they request girls.
0:04:25 > 0:04:29How's your job different from what you call a pimp?
0:04:29 > 0:04:32I can't believe you're asking me that.
0:04:32 > 0:04:36It's nothing like a pimp, I'm just working in a nightclub
0:04:36 > 0:04:39and if guys that have bought a table off me want to...
0:04:39 > 0:04:43want girls on their table then I'm just going to put them on there
0:04:43 > 0:04:45because that's what they want.
0:04:45 > 0:04:48You get the girls that will specifically go down to the club
0:04:48 > 0:04:52to pull a footballer and they'll be hanging around the VIP bits.
0:04:52 > 0:04:55What do you really think that they're after?
0:04:55 > 0:04:58I can only imagine that it's either to sell a story
0:04:58 > 0:05:03or something to do with money, maybe like fame,
0:05:03 > 0:05:05they're thinking long run, I don't know.
0:05:05 > 0:05:09After the club, do these girls stay, go?
0:05:09 > 0:05:11Is there afterparties? What happens?
0:05:11 > 0:05:17With the top footballers, they've got a lot of...entourage around them
0:05:17 > 0:05:21that will literally just be like, "Look, they need this and this.
0:05:21 > 0:05:24"Get them out the back door so they don't get papped."
0:05:24 > 0:05:29I know that they've taken quite a few girls back to hotel rooms
0:05:29 > 0:05:32and, you know, gangbanged
0:05:32 > 0:05:36and had all fuelled sorts of things going on.
0:05:36 > 0:05:39Have you ever known any successful relationships
0:05:39 > 0:05:40that have developed from a club?
0:05:40 > 0:05:44I have heard stories of girls getting bought flats
0:05:44 > 0:05:47and getting paid off and being bought cars
0:05:47 > 0:05:48to keep their mouth shut.
0:05:50 > 0:05:54I've heard that with a couple of really well-known footballers.
0:05:54 > 0:05:56There was a particular girl that was out
0:05:56 > 0:05:58and she was very well known for going with the footballers
0:05:58 > 0:06:01and I remember one time she was actually...
0:06:01 > 0:06:04there were some wide boys
0:06:04 > 0:06:09that were linked to a particular big footballer
0:06:09 > 0:06:11and I think they basically threatened her
0:06:11 > 0:06:14that if she was to sell any stories...
0:06:14 > 0:06:18- That they would do something to her? - Yeah, she wouldn't get away with it.
0:06:18 > 0:06:20That's kind of scary, though, in a way.
0:06:20 > 0:06:23Yeah, but she shouldn't be a slag then, should she?
0:06:23 > 0:06:24SHE CHUCKLES
0:06:24 > 0:06:26You know, they have so much power
0:06:26 > 0:06:28- that something might actually happen to you.- They do.
0:06:28 > 0:06:31They've got so much money that they could just pay anyone off
0:06:31 > 0:06:35to...look after them, do you know what I mean?
0:06:37 > 0:06:41I think Danielle has thrown more questions than answers.
0:06:41 > 0:06:44I'm feeling like maybe I have to explore more the role of the female
0:06:44 > 0:06:49because, to be honest, I don't think that it's all to do with men now.
0:06:51 > 0:06:54Thank you so much, it was so nice, I had such a good time.
0:06:54 > 0:06:57- That's all right. - That wine got to me.
0:06:57 > 0:06:59- See you later. - Bye.
0:07:07 > 0:07:11I want to find out how this money and power can affect a young footballer
0:07:11 > 0:07:12and who's to blame.
0:07:15 > 0:07:17I've travelled to the North of England
0:07:17 > 0:07:21to meet with international sporting legend Dwight Yorke.
0:07:22 > 0:07:26- So, I can't believe I'm in Cheshire. - Yeah, well, welcome to Cheshire.
0:07:27 > 0:07:30Dwight's first year at Manchester United
0:07:30 > 0:07:32saw him as top goal-scorer in the Premiership.
0:07:32 > 0:07:35He was one of the highest-paid strikers that year.
0:07:36 > 0:07:40What advice would you give to a 17-, 16-year-old
0:07:40 > 0:07:42trying to make it in football?
0:07:42 > 0:07:45It is a short career and I would say to them make as much money
0:07:45 > 0:07:48as you can because when it stops... it does eventually stop.
0:07:48 > 0:07:50You will make mistakes along the way
0:07:50 > 0:07:53but how you minimise the mistakes that you have made.
0:07:53 > 0:07:56You're young, you're rich, you're talented.
0:07:56 > 0:07:58How do you keep focused?
0:07:58 > 0:08:02I think it's difficult at the beginning,
0:08:02 > 0:08:05you're really going into unknown territory in respect.
0:08:05 > 0:08:08You know, you get recognised on the street,
0:08:08 > 0:08:11people asking you for autographs, you're hanging out places,
0:08:11 > 0:08:14you're getting more attention than you're used to.
0:08:14 > 0:08:18It's very difficult to deal with some of these things
0:08:18 > 0:08:20at the very beginning.
0:08:20 > 0:08:23What are the temptations that footballers nowadays fall into?
0:08:23 > 0:08:26Where do you start? Where do you want me to start?
0:08:26 > 0:08:30We talked about women, we're talking about alcoholism,
0:08:30 > 0:08:35we're talking about drugs, you know, social media, gambling.
0:08:35 > 0:08:38All these things are a prime factor that has happened
0:08:38 > 0:08:41within our sport in the past.
0:08:41 > 0:08:43You know, you train hard, you come home,
0:08:43 > 0:08:461:30-2:00, you're through the door,
0:08:46 > 0:08:49you get up, you went to have a power nap, that's fine.
0:08:49 > 0:08:52- 5:00, 6:00, you get up, you have your dinner...- You're bored.
0:08:52 > 0:08:55..you're living alone, you're bored. What would you do?
0:08:55 > 0:08:58Call a mate, OK, we'll go out for a drive, go for dinner,
0:08:58 > 0:09:00we're back in, we'll go watch a movie.
0:09:00 > 0:09:02You can only do those things for a certain period of time.
0:09:02 > 0:09:05If you have anything about you, you don't want to be doing that all.
0:09:05 > 0:09:08You want to get something out of your system.
0:09:08 > 0:09:11You've got these beautiful young ladies next to you
0:09:11 > 0:09:13and you're feeling macho about yourself.
0:09:13 > 0:09:17It's a good feel factor at that time. I mean...
0:09:17 > 0:09:20What do you tell these young guys? Not to?
0:09:21 > 0:09:25Dwight's career continued to go from strength to strength
0:09:25 > 0:09:27but with the successes came problems off the pitch.
0:09:27 > 0:09:31He had a string of relationships with high-profile "It" girls,
0:09:31 > 0:09:34including his infamous relationship with Katie Price.
0:09:34 > 0:09:36I don't talk about my personal life
0:09:36 > 0:09:40because it's been in the public domain for a number of years
0:09:40 > 0:09:41and I just feel that...
0:09:41 > 0:09:44Did you want it to be in the public domain?
0:09:44 > 0:09:47I don't think anyone wants their private life to be out in the media
0:09:47 > 0:09:50but that's something that seems to be a fashionable thing.
0:09:50 > 0:09:52You've got OK Magazine, you've got this one,
0:09:52 > 0:09:54you've got all kinds of stuff going on.
0:09:54 > 0:09:58Some people like that, some people don't, ideally, you know.
0:09:58 > 0:10:02But the media sometimes forces you down that road.
0:10:02 > 0:10:06Of course, the more successful you are on the football pitch,
0:10:06 > 0:10:08the more attention you bring.
0:10:08 > 0:10:12I've had my fair share of headlines in the media and, yeah,
0:10:12 > 0:10:15at the beginning it seems great and it seems OK
0:10:15 > 0:10:19but it does come to a stage where it does not just affect me,
0:10:19 > 0:10:21as I said, it affected my family.
0:10:21 > 0:10:23I think that's what hurts, when the media gets involved.
0:10:23 > 0:10:26They're relentless at it, that's what sells papers,
0:10:26 > 0:10:31they want to know, and I dread to live the life of a top athlete now
0:10:31 > 0:10:34because everything that you do is being scrutinised.
0:10:34 > 0:10:35Would I be the same?
0:10:35 > 0:10:38- I think, yeah... - AMAL LAUGHS
0:10:38 > 0:10:42I really would, because I was happy doing it then, back in those days.
0:10:45 > 0:10:48Dwight enjoyed the part he played off the field,
0:10:48 > 0:10:52but what happens to the girls who get caught up in these sex scandals?
0:10:52 > 0:10:55Football gossip is commonplace in the tabloids.
0:10:55 > 0:10:57Kiss-and-tell stories on famous players
0:10:57 > 0:10:59can sell for up to hundreds and thousands of pounds.
0:10:59 > 0:11:02I'm on my way to meet Helen Wood.
0:11:02 > 0:11:04I've read a bit about her
0:11:04 > 0:11:07and I've been investigating a little bit, obviously,
0:11:07 > 0:11:10so I do know her story.
0:11:10 > 0:11:12Helen first came to the nation's attention
0:11:12 > 0:11:14after she took part in a threesome
0:11:14 > 0:11:17with England player Wayne Rooney in 2010.
0:11:17 > 0:11:20Since her story came out, Helen has built a career for herself.
0:11:20 > 0:11:24She's released a book, writes a regular column in a newspaper
0:11:24 > 0:11:26and has won Big Brother.
0:11:26 > 0:11:28It's important for me to be honest as well
0:11:28 > 0:11:31because my mum was the wife of a footballer, you know,
0:11:31 > 0:11:34they did break up, and I'm not sure of all the ins and outs
0:11:34 > 0:11:36but I do know it was because of women.
0:11:36 > 0:11:38And it's women like this who kiss and tell
0:11:38 > 0:11:41who end up breaking marriages
0:11:41 > 0:11:45and, you know, I didn't grow up with a dad because of that.
0:11:46 > 0:11:48She also owns a salon in Bolton,
0:11:48 > 0:11:51which is where we've arranged to meet.
0:11:51 > 0:11:56I'm doing a documentary where I'm kind of getting to know more
0:11:56 > 0:11:59about this secret world of football.
0:11:59 > 0:12:02I've got different views on different things,
0:12:02 > 0:12:07like, I don't have a problem with footballers sleeping with girls,
0:12:07 > 0:12:09provided they're not married.
0:12:09 > 0:12:12A lot of people watching would actually be like,
0:12:12 > 0:12:13"Well, that's exactly what you did,"
0:12:13 > 0:12:16so you're saying something but then in the way you've done that...
0:12:16 > 0:12:18- So it sounds contradictory, obviously.- Exactly.
0:12:18 > 0:12:20Whether people want to believe this or not,
0:12:20 > 0:12:22I did not go out one night and think,
0:12:22 > 0:12:24"Oh, there we go, I'm going to do that
0:12:24 > 0:12:26"and then tomorrow I'm going to make a bit of money off it."
0:12:26 > 0:12:28I didn't think like that.
0:12:28 > 0:12:31If people choose to think that's how I thought then that's up to them
0:12:31 > 0:12:35but I know how I thought and that is not what happened.
0:12:35 > 0:12:38So you slept with a footballer, you know he's married,
0:12:38 > 0:12:41you know, you're with another girl who's meant to be your friend.
0:12:41 > 0:12:43At this point, what's crossing your mind?
0:12:43 > 0:12:46To be honest, it's something that pisses me off
0:12:46 > 0:12:48how it constantly gets brought up
0:12:48 > 0:12:50how I'm this home-wrecker and stuff.
0:12:50 > 0:12:52I wasn't a home-wrecker in my eyes.
0:12:52 > 0:12:58Why is a girl a slag for sleeping with a footballer, when he's married?
0:12:58 > 0:13:01That's bollocks! He is married!
0:13:01 > 0:13:06The story of Helen's threesome was leaked by the other woman involved,
0:13:06 > 0:13:08Helen's then friend Jennifer Thompson.
0:13:08 > 0:13:10Helen later sold her side of the story.
0:13:10 > 0:13:14Reportedly, she was paid a five-figure sum.
0:13:14 > 0:13:15The difference is, basically,
0:13:15 > 0:13:18that you didn't plan, set off to do that.
0:13:18 > 0:13:23I denied everything for a year and then the press just kind of...
0:13:23 > 0:13:27pushed it that far that it ended up coming out.
0:13:27 > 0:13:30My world got flipped upside down, through my own fault,
0:13:30 > 0:13:33I did something that I shouldn't have done necessarily,
0:13:33 > 0:13:35but I didn't try trapping anybody.
0:13:35 > 0:13:37Instead, I was trapped,
0:13:37 > 0:13:40and because I didn't have sufficient funds
0:13:40 > 0:13:43to stop my name from being outed,
0:13:43 > 0:13:46erm, I ended up having the book thrown at me.
0:13:46 > 0:13:49For that particular injunction that I would've needed at the time,
0:13:49 > 0:13:52I was looking at £50,000.
0:13:52 > 0:13:54Where was I going to find £50,000 from?
0:13:54 > 0:13:57Do you ever think about these footballers' wives
0:13:57 > 0:13:59and how they must feel and what it must be like?
0:13:59 > 0:14:04In a way, do you not sometimes feel like saying sorry or communicating, like, what...
0:14:04 > 0:14:08No, I think if these wives choose to stay with their husbands
0:14:08 > 0:14:11then that's them saying, "Well, that's OK."
0:14:11 > 0:14:14I'm not saying that all footballers are the same,
0:14:14 > 0:14:15I'm not saying all these WAGs
0:14:15 > 0:14:18have gone out there to marry for money,
0:14:18 > 0:14:20that would be so unfair to say that,
0:14:20 > 0:14:23but I think that a lot of WAGs out there
0:14:23 > 0:14:26knew what they were marrying into
0:14:26 > 0:14:29and they thought it was acceptable to marry...
0:14:29 > 0:14:32Like, they get all the goods in return,
0:14:32 > 0:14:34the guy can go out and behave exactly how he wants.
0:14:34 > 0:14:36That is a form of prostitution.
0:14:36 > 0:14:38Why are they taking them back?
0:14:38 > 0:14:40Would they take them back if he was a chippie worker,
0:14:40 > 0:14:42if he peeled potatoes all day?
0:14:42 > 0:14:43No, they fucking wouldn't,
0:14:43 > 0:14:47they take them back because they like the lifestyle.
0:14:53 > 0:14:54What can I say?
0:14:54 > 0:14:58I know how it feels to have your family wrecked
0:14:58 > 0:15:00because of someone who has just come in,
0:15:00 > 0:15:03thought it was a great night out and, you know, done this.
0:15:03 > 0:15:07When I'm saying it in my family and the impact it had to me
0:15:07 > 0:15:11and growing up without a dad, I clearly know, it hurts me.
0:15:11 > 0:15:14I look at this girl and I'm thinking, "Hold on a second,
0:15:14 > 0:15:17"there was one of these girls, or many of these girls,
0:15:17 > 0:15:20"which made my mum definitely move away from my father."
0:15:30 > 0:15:33I was too young to remember what happened to MY parents,
0:15:33 > 0:15:36but how do you manage the aftermath when stories
0:15:36 > 0:15:41about your relationship end up on the front pages of the press?
0:15:41 > 0:15:44I'm going to meet up with Jude Cisse,
0:15:44 > 0:15:48ex-wife of French international and Liverpool star Djibril Cisse.
0:15:55 > 0:15:58Hi, how are you? So lovely to meet you.
0:15:58 > 0:16:01- And you. Come in. - Thank you so much for having me.
0:16:01 > 0:16:04- Wow, you've got a beautiful house. - Thank you.
0:16:04 > 0:16:07'Like any WAG, the house is complete with its own dressing room,
0:16:07 > 0:16:10'and she offers to show me her impressive collection.'
0:16:10 > 0:16:11You are one lucky woman.
0:16:11 > 0:16:14See, a girl's best friend, isn't it, all these shoes.
0:16:14 > 0:16:17It's about 11 years' worth here.
0:16:17 > 0:16:21Before marrying a footballer, you know, who were you?
0:16:21 > 0:16:27I was a qualified lecturer, so I used to lecture in post-16 college.
0:16:27 > 0:16:29I had a lot of pressure when I got married to Djibril
0:16:29 > 0:16:32cos he went to ten clubs in ten years
0:16:32 > 0:16:35so it was very difficult to have a job in lecturing,
0:16:35 > 0:16:38because obviously it requires you to be there at 9:00 in the morning
0:16:38 > 0:16:40to teach people and stuff,
0:16:40 > 0:16:43so it was something that, erm, I gave up in the end.
0:16:43 > 0:16:46How was your wedding day, what was that like?
0:16:46 > 0:16:51It was a three-day event, we got married in a big castle in Wales
0:16:51 > 0:16:54and we had over 200 people there.
0:16:54 > 0:16:56Yeah, it was the fairy-tale wedding,
0:16:56 > 0:16:58it was something that I'd always dreamed of.
0:16:58 > 0:17:03'Jude's lavish £100,000 wedding was covered by Hello magazine.'
0:17:03 > 0:17:05Oh, wow! He dressed red!
0:17:05 > 0:17:09It was just after the Champions League as well,
0:17:09 > 0:17:11so he was red for Liverpool.
0:17:11 > 0:17:15'Jude filed for divorce from Djibril on the grounds of adultery.'
0:17:15 > 0:17:18People always think, oh, the typical footballer,
0:17:18 > 0:17:20he's cheated or whatever,
0:17:20 > 0:17:25but there were a lot of... factors that broke the marriage.
0:17:25 > 0:17:26A lot of factors.
0:17:26 > 0:17:29Although I have all these nice things,
0:17:29 > 0:17:31you have to invest for the future, and I think a lot
0:17:31 > 0:17:34of the difficulty was that he didn't know how to invest.
0:17:34 > 0:17:37He didn't know how to put things together and manage things.
0:17:37 > 0:17:38He's never had to do that.
0:17:38 > 0:17:43So it was a lot of stress for me trying to keep him grounded as well.
0:17:43 > 0:17:46Obviously, he was in the front page of the newspapers
0:17:46 > 0:17:49for assaulting me and stuff like that so it was very difficult
0:17:49 > 0:17:51and that's what I found challenging because I knew
0:17:51 > 0:17:54I was going to get phone calls the next day from my family,
0:17:54 > 0:17:56from my uncles, from everything,
0:17:56 > 0:17:59and it was a massive shock to a lot of people.
0:17:59 > 0:18:01How do you deal with that?
0:18:01 > 0:18:07I think you just know that the media can...put things out of proportion.
0:18:07 > 0:18:10You know, it isn't easy at times and you have to deal with it.
0:18:10 > 0:18:13There's no way of not dealing with it because when it's there
0:18:13 > 0:18:15and you're faced with it, what can you do?
0:18:17 > 0:18:20'Jude and Djibril separated after seven years.'
0:18:22 > 0:18:26So he's left, told the children "I'll be home every weekend"
0:18:26 > 0:18:28and never come back again.
0:18:28 > 0:18:31Now, they're lucky if they see him...
0:18:31 > 0:18:33Well, last year, they saw him three times,
0:18:33 > 0:18:34this year, they've seen him once.
0:18:34 > 0:18:37For so long, I wanted my parents to be together.
0:18:37 > 0:18:39My mum didn't give my dad a second chance,
0:18:39 > 0:18:41and she was very, very hard,
0:18:41 > 0:18:43and how many chances can you really give a man
0:18:43 > 0:18:44and especially a footballer?
0:18:44 > 0:18:47But you're quite bitter when it comes to men, though, aren't you?
0:18:47 > 0:18:50Yeah, I am, I'm angry. I'm angry because he hurt my mum.
0:18:50 > 0:18:51- I was very angry as well. - I'm angry.
0:18:51 > 0:18:54It's what I had to learn to do, to let go of that anger,
0:18:54 > 0:18:57because you can never move on if you keep that anger.
0:18:57 > 0:19:00'For Jude, being married to a footballer
0:19:00 > 0:19:02'wasn't the fairy tale she was expecting.'
0:19:07 > 0:19:09Is it possible to avoid these problems
0:19:09 > 0:19:11and have a happy marriage with a player?
0:19:13 > 0:19:16I've decided to spend some time with my friend Olivia
0:19:16 > 0:19:18at her home in London.
0:19:18 > 0:19:21Hi, Olivia, it's me, Amal.
0:19:25 > 0:19:27Hi. Hi, Olivia.
0:19:27 > 0:19:31- How are you?- So nice to see you. How are you?- Good, and you?
0:19:31 > 0:19:33Good. Now I'm even better, I'm in your house.
0:19:33 > 0:19:36'Olivia is not only a good friend,
0:19:36 > 0:19:39'she's also the wife of Alex Song, a Premiership footballer
0:19:39 > 0:19:44'who has played for the likes of Arsenal, West Ham and Barcelona.'
0:19:44 > 0:19:45Here is the African Cup.
0:19:45 > 0:19:48- Oh, my gosh, two? - Yeah.- Wow!
0:19:48 > 0:19:50The African Cup in 2010.
0:19:50 > 0:19:52Wow, and the trophy's really nice and it matches my nails.
0:19:52 > 0:19:55Ooh, maybe I should keep one.
0:19:55 > 0:19:57THEY LAUGH
0:19:57 > 0:19:59Wow!
0:19:59 > 0:20:04These are the good sides of football, I mean, automatic pool!
0:20:04 > 0:20:08I'm not complaining, you know!
0:20:08 > 0:20:10AMAL CHEERS
0:20:10 > 0:20:13'Olivia and I have been friends for years.
0:20:13 > 0:20:16'She and Alex have always seemed to have the perfect relationship.'
0:20:16 > 0:20:19When did you get married to Alex? How many years has it been?
0:20:19 > 0:20:21- 11 years now. - 11 years?
0:20:21 > 0:20:23We were so young.
0:20:23 > 0:20:30I remember when we came here, he was, like, so impressed
0:20:30 > 0:20:36because he was in the changing rooms with Thierry Henry and Robert Pires.
0:20:36 > 0:20:38He was like, "Can you imagine?
0:20:38 > 0:20:42"When I'm dressing up, I have Thierry Henry next to me,
0:20:42 > 0:20:44"like, can you imagine?"
0:20:44 > 0:20:47I couldn't, because I don't really know football.
0:20:47 > 0:20:49'I tell Olivia about meeting Helen Wood
0:20:49 > 0:20:52'and ask how she handles trust in her marriage.'
0:20:52 > 0:20:57As a wife, it's quite hard to cope with all the girls
0:20:57 > 0:20:59who want to have my husband.
0:20:59 > 0:21:06When I go out with him, let's say we go to a club and stuff, yeah,
0:21:06 > 0:21:11I see the girls ready to throw themselves, you know.
0:21:11 > 0:21:15I just feel kind of sad, honestly.
0:21:15 > 0:21:17THEY CHUCKLE For them!
0:21:17 > 0:21:22I do feel sad for them, because they just see the glitter.
0:21:22 > 0:21:27Looking for someone just because of his bank account,
0:21:27 > 0:21:30I'm not really sure it will last.
0:21:30 > 0:21:35Every time that I meet, like, a woman who's married to one or an ex-wife
0:21:35 > 0:21:39or something like that, all the stories that they tell me,
0:21:39 > 0:21:41they are very similar to what my mum lived.
0:21:41 > 0:21:46What do you expect for your special one?
0:21:46 > 0:21:50I think my whole idea growing up was how the man will come in
0:21:50 > 0:21:53and swoop the woman off and the woman will live this great life
0:21:53 > 0:21:55and he will protect her.
0:21:55 > 0:22:00I think, in the modern day, the roles have kind of reversed.
0:22:00 > 0:22:06You are struggling with trust a lot, like, you have a wall.
0:22:06 > 0:22:08What are you scared of?
0:22:08 > 0:22:11I genuinely... I don't know how you trust.
0:22:11 > 0:22:13I don't know, I don't know.
0:22:21 > 0:22:22Everywhere you look in the game,
0:22:22 > 0:22:25there appears to be money and lavish lifestyles,
0:22:25 > 0:22:30but there's one part of football that still has a well-earned reputation
0:22:30 > 0:22:31with no hint of a scandal.
0:22:33 > 0:22:37I want to find out what women's football is doing right
0:22:37 > 0:22:40that the men's game seems to have got so wrong.
0:22:40 > 0:22:41Bend it in!
0:22:41 > 0:22:43I've been invited to watch the Basildon Ladies
0:22:43 > 0:22:45play their Sunday match.
0:22:45 > 0:22:49This year, more people than ever watched women's football.
0:22:49 > 0:22:51England Ladies came third in the World Cup,
0:22:51 > 0:22:55an achievement not matched by the men since 1966.
0:22:55 > 0:22:57Another three, come on. Well done, good work.
0:22:57 > 0:22:58Despite all this,
0:22:58 > 0:23:02the women's game still only has a small following compared to the men.
0:23:04 > 0:23:06While the girls are warming up, I take the opportunity
0:23:06 > 0:23:09to have a chat with their coach, Danny Greaves.
0:23:09 > 0:23:12He played professionally for a number of top clubs
0:23:12 > 0:23:14but grew tired of the men's game.
0:23:14 > 0:23:17The trouble with footballers today is from a young age
0:23:17 > 0:23:20they're completely pampered and surrounded in a bowl.
0:23:20 > 0:23:23They become talented boys at 14, 15,
0:23:23 > 0:23:27and don't have to do anything in life any more.
0:23:27 > 0:23:29Therefore they grow up, they earn good money,
0:23:29 > 0:23:32even great money in some quarters.
0:23:32 > 0:23:35The problem with that is that they have no sense of realism
0:23:35 > 0:23:38about the world and, consequently, most of them
0:23:38 > 0:23:42and quite a lot of them do believe they're above the law.
0:23:42 > 0:23:44And therefore there where the problems start,
0:23:44 > 0:23:47"If I misbehave, oh, the football club will look after me,"
0:23:47 > 0:23:51or, "If I misbehave, oh, I'm a footballer, I'll get away with it."
0:23:51 > 0:23:54Unfortunately, it's a culture that we're now breeding.
0:23:54 > 0:23:59With the women at the moment is the enthusiasm for the game,
0:23:59 > 0:24:02you know, the willingness to learn, to get better.
0:24:02 > 0:24:05If I was a betting man, I would say England women
0:24:05 > 0:24:07would win the World Cup before England men will.
0:24:13 > 0:24:17MUSIC: Bitch Better Have My Money by Rihanna
0:24:22 > 0:24:25'After the warm-up, I head into the changing room,
0:24:25 > 0:24:28'a place strictly off limits in men's football.'
0:24:28 > 0:24:31Hi, girls. Whoa. I'm like whoop!
0:24:31 > 0:24:33THEY CHUCKLE
0:24:33 > 0:24:36Why do you actually think that footballers hit headlines
0:24:36 > 0:24:37for the wrong reasons?
0:24:37 > 0:24:39Money.
0:24:39 > 0:24:41It's not massive in the women's game
0:24:41 > 0:24:43but it is in the men's game, as you know.
0:24:43 > 0:24:47You know, the wages that the guys are on is extortionate,
0:24:47 > 0:24:49it's just unbelievable.
0:24:49 > 0:24:52You know, what we earn in probably ten years is what they earn in a week.
0:24:52 > 0:24:56Would you say, because of obviously the lack of money in a way and et cetera,
0:24:56 > 0:25:00that the women's game is actually a bit purer than the men's game?
0:25:00 > 0:25:03For us, the game, we just play for the love of the game.
0:25:03 > 0:25:06We're not here for any money, we're here to win and turn up as a team,
0:25:06 > 0:25:08whereas in the men's game, if they lose,
0:25:08 > 0:25:10they're still going to get their bonus,
0:25:10 > 0:25:13they're still going to get all their money and things like that
0:25:13 > 0:25:15so, for us, it's just pure... There's no incentive for that.
0:25:15 > 0:25:19What do you think it will take for change to come?
0:25:19 > 0:25:20You won't see a massive change
0:25:20 > 0:25:22until, again, it's built into the leagues,
0:25:22 > 0:25:25till our system...there is a bit more money fed in
0:25:25 > 0:25:26so things can be changed.
0:25:26 > 0:25:29So until we have a rise in stats and people watching, turning up,
0:25:29 > 0:25:31nothing's really going to change at the moment.
0:25:31 > 0:25:32Is it about attitudes?
0:25:32 > 0:25:35Do you think that in society we kind of view footballers
0:25:35 > 0:25:38and put them in this pedestal, kind of like semi-gods in a way?
0:25:38 > 0:25:40Rugby in England is massive.
0:25:40 > 0:25:42You don't see a lot of rugby players going out,
0:25:42 > 0:25:45creating the same kind of headlines as the footballers do.
0:25:45 > 0:25:46Now, why is that?
0:25:46 > 0:25:49In England, I think it's just the fact that football
0:25:49 > 0:25:50is put on a massive pedestal
0:25:50 > 0:25:52and every other sport is put underneath that
0:25:52 > 0:25:56and therefore the people who play that sport are put underneath that.
0:25:57 > 0:25:59One, two, three...
0:26:02 > 0:26:03Great, Kirsty!
0:26:03 > 0:26:06I think the girls are great, they're really down to earth,
0:26:06 > 0:26:08really normal and it really, really seems
0:26:08 > 0:26:10like these girls just genuinely love the sport.
0:26:10 > 0:26:11Go on, Blues!
0:26:16 > 0:26:19They're not here for the money, they're not here for the people,
0:26:19 > 0:26:20they're not here for the crowd,
0:26:20 > 0:26:23they're actually here because they bloody love football.
0:26:23 > 0:26:25WHISTLE BLOWS
0:26:26 > 0:26:28Well done!
0:26:30 > 0:26:31According to the girls,
0:26:31 > 0:26:34the reason their male equivalents are making headlines
0:26:34 > 0:26:36is for their obscene pay cheques.
0:26:36 > 0:26:41A professional female footballer earns £23,000 a year,
0:26:41 > 0:26:42which is equivalent to a day's wage
0:26:42 > 0:26:45for the likes of Wayne Rooney and John Terry.
0:26:45 > 0:26:48But for some footballers it's not all about the money.
0:26:48 > 0:26:50I've been told about a Premiership player
0:26:50 > 0:26:53who chose to walk away from the game for good.
0:26:53 > 0:26:57He was forced to make a choice between football or his family.
0:26:57 > 0:26:59He chose his family.
0:26:59 > 0:27:03MUSIC: My Type by Saint Motel
0:27:03 > 0:27:05So I've come to meet David Bentley.
0:27:05 > 0:27:09He's one of the only players that I know that has actually
0:27:09 > 0:27:12decided to step away from the football world,
0:27:12 > 0:27:16and I hope that he'll have a really open, honest take
0:27:16 > 0:27:19because I think that he has nothing to lose at this point.
0:27:19 > 0:27:23David Bentley climbed the ranks at Arsenal, played for England
0:27:23 > 0:27:25and was tipped to be the next David Beckham.
0:27:27 > 0:27:31But at just 29 he decided to hang up his boots and retire from the sport.
0:27:31 > 0:27:35- Hola, que tal? - Hola, bien.
0:27:35 > 0:27:38- Ah, hablas espanol! - Un poco.
0:27:38 > 0:27:40- Ahh, I was trying, I was trying it! - You speak Spanish?
0:27:40 > 0:27:43Yeah, it's my first language.
0:27:43 > 0:27:45'He moved his young family to Spain
0:27:45 > 0:27:49'and now runs a restaurant and club business catering to holiday-makers.'
0:27:51 > 0:27:54This looks so cool.
0:27:57 > 0:28:00So did you always want to be a footballer?
0:28:00 > 0:28:03It was my dream, it was the first thing I was good at
0:28:03 > 0:28:06and probably the only thing really I was good at.
0:28:06 > 0:28:09If football was your dream and you loved it so much,
0:28:09 > 0:28:13I feel like something really intense and strong must have happened
0:28:13 > 0:28:17to kind of make you change your mind in this way.
0:28:17 > 0:28:19I was earning the money but the money was bringing me nothing.
0:28:19 > 0:28:22The further I got on, the less I enjoyed it.
0:28:22 > 0:28:26Friends, family, everything was breaking down around me
0:28:26 > 0:28:31so it was the kind of, you know, "more money, more problems".
0:28:31 > 0:28:35But why? Is it the day-to-day? What makes football less enjoyable?
0:28:35 > 0:28:37It's the pressure, the focus, the people that surround it.
0:28:37 > 0:28:39The players are there now to be shot at.
0:28:39 > 0:28:43It's changed, with social media and the focus
0:28:43 > 0:28:49and...society has become a lot more jealous and envious.
0:28:49 > 0:28:53Was it, like, the women, the money, the agents?
0:28:53 > 0:28:56Do you think, in a way, you were just losing who you were?
0:28:56 > 0:29:00The whole caring side of what it should be all about is gone,
0:29:00 > 0:29:02it's a ruthless business.
0:29:02 > 0:29:04You're a commodity and a piece of meat.
0:29:04 > 0:29:08You sign that contract, you become the public's possession
0:29:08 > 0:29:10and you have to play that role.
0:29:10 > 0:29:14The best ones who play it well are probably the most successful.
0:29:14 > 0:29:16Well, look, do you know what?
0:29:16 > 0:29:19This seems like a very good plan to me.
0:29:20 > 0:29:25I feel like it takes a lot of courage for someone to say no
0:29:25 > 0:29:29to a 60-, 70-grand salary. It was his dream.
0:29:29 > 0:29:31He no longer believes in that dream.
0:29:34 > 0:29:37It's not just about the money, it's about culture, attitude,
0:29:37 > 0:29:40social media, the era we live in.
0:29:40 > 0:29:44It's to do with so many different things that it almost becomes
0:29:44 > 0:29:49harder to focus and target something, because it's a mix of everything.
0:29:51 > 0:29:54David made me realise that all the money, fame and pressure
0:29:54 > 0:29:57can have a negative affect on players,
0:29:57 > 0:30:00so who's looking out for their welfare?
0:30:03 > 0:30:06Back in England, I've set up a meeting with one of the biggest
0:30:06 > 0:30:11and best-known managers in the game - Harry Redknapp.
0:30:11 > 0:30:14Harry's son Jamie played for Spurs and Liverpool
0:30:14 > 0:30:17and he's uncle to Chelsea legend Frank Lampard.
0:30:17 > 0:30:21I'm actually quite excited and quite nervous, I don't know what
0:30:21 > 0:30:23he's going to say but I hope he can finally say something
0:30:23 > 0:30:25which is just going to determine,
0:30:25 > 0:30:28you know, why are these footballers hitting headlines?
0:30:28 > 0:30:31Harry has been managing players for some of the biggest clubs
0:30:31 > 0:30:33in the UK for the past 30 years
0:30:33 > 0:30:36so is well placed to offer insight into a player's behaviour.
0:30:36 > 0:30:38- Good morning. - Hello, good morning.
0:30:38 > 0:30:39- How are you? - So good.
0:30:39 > 0:30:42- OK, good.- So lovely to meet you. - And you, nice to see you.
0:30:42 > 0:30:44- Thank you very much for joining me. - How's dad, all right?
0:30:44 > 0:30:46Yes, he's good, actually.
0:30:46 > 0:30:50Could you start off by telling me what does a manager actually do?
0:30:50 > 0:30:57He's responsible for...picking the team and signing players and...
0:30:57 > 0:31:00the general day-to-day running of the football side of the club -
0:31:00 > 0:31:07organising training and looking after 40-odd young men
0:31:07 > 0:31:11who, every day, one of them's got a problem.
0:31:11 > 0:31:13Like a father figure in many ways, really.
0:31:13 > 0:31:15So when there is a problem,
0:31:15 > 0:31:18for example, they get out of hand, they've gone out one night,
0:31:18 > 0:31:21they've hit headlines, how do you actually manage that?
0:31:21 > 0:31:22You have to manage it as best you can.
0:31:22 > 0:31:25If you can keep it out of the newspapers, that's fantastic to start with.
0:31:25 > 0:31:27You don't really want it hitting the headlines,
0:31:27 > 0:31:30you want to keep it within house if you can, but then you have to talk
0:31:30 > 0:31:35to the player involved and tell him that this is not the way to behave.
0:31:35 > 0:31:38You know, you're supposed to be setting an example
0:31:38 > 0:31:42out there to young kids, you know, and it doesn't go down well.
0:31:42 > 0:31:43With cases like the Ched Evans case
0:31:43 > 0:31:45or, for example, Leicester City boys,
0:31:45 > 0:31:47do you think they'll be re-signed?
0:31:47 > 0:31:51I don't know what Ched's situation is.
0:31:51 > 0:31:54Obviously, he's paid a heavy price as well.
0:31:54 > 0:31:58You know, he's lost his football status and...
0:31:58 > 0:32:01but, you know, and the young lads at Leicester,
0:32:01 > 0:32:04I think a couple of them have got fixed up with new clubs.
0:32:04 > 0:32:06Hopefully, they've learnt their lesson
0:32:06 > 0:32:08and won't misbehave like that again.
0:32:08 > 0:32:10Do you remember any incidences where you thought,
0:32:10 > 0:32:13"Oh, my God, this player is such a nuisance, like,
0:32:13 > 0:32:15"this is just going to cause some hassle"?
0:32:15 > 0:32:19Quite often, it's the most talented ones who can be the biggest problem.
0:32:19 > 0:32:23If someone steps out of line who's not a good player and you might want to get rid of him anyway,
0:32:23 > 0:32:25you'll say, "Oh, he's broke the rules, bump, he's gone."
0:32:25 > 0:32:29If it's a top player who's worth £20 million or something
0:32:29 > 0:32:32then you tend...he gets treated, there's no doubt about it,
0:32:32 > 0:32:34he'll get treated differently.
0:32:34 > 0:32:37You don't suddenly sack him, because someone else will take him.
0:32:37 > 0:32:40He's an important player to your... and that is a fact.
0:32:40 > 0:32:42It's not the right way it should be done
0:32:42 > 0:32:44but that's the way it is, it works that way.
0:32:44 > 0:32:48- Someone's worth, got good value... - It's the money.
0:32:48 > 0:32:50Yeah, you can't afford just to sack 'em.
0:32:50 > 0:32:53Thank you very much for your time. It's been amazing, Harry.
0:32:53 > 0:32:56- Nice to talk to you. - Thank you.- OK, pleasure.
0:32:56 > 0:32:58SHE MOUTHS
0:32:58 > 0:33:02I've seen from this interview that, you know, the more money you have,
0:33:02 > 0:33:04the more stuff you can get away with.
0:33:04 > 0:33:06Is that fair? Should it be like that?
0:33:06 > 0:33:12Can a player get away with X, Y, Z just because he's worth 20 million?
0:33:12 > 0:33:15Harry had made a lot of interesting points
0:33:15 > 0:33:17but something that stood out to me
0:33:17 > 0:33:20was that he believed Ched Evans had paid a heavy price.
0:33:21 > 0:33:24Ched Evans, the professional footballer convicted of rape,
0:33:24 > 0:33:27has been freed from prison today on licence.
0:33:27 > 0:33:30Ched Evans was a striker for Sheffield United.
0:33:30 > 0:33:34In 2012, he was convicted of raping a 19-year-old girl
0:33:34 > 0:33:38at a hotel in Wales and sentenced to five years in prison.
0:33:38 > 0:33:40After serving half of this time,
0:33:40 > 0:33:42he was released and was set to return to football.
0:33:42 > 0:33:45The Evans case caused an unprecedented legal
0:33:45 > 0:33:47and moral maze for the industry.
0:33:47 > 0:33:51Should Ched Evans be allowed to play for Sheffield United again?
0:33:51 > 0:33:53Here's the straightforward question -
0:33:53 > 0:33:58are people who go to prison entitled to come out of prison
0:33:58 > 0:34:00and try to re-build their lives or aren't they?
0:34:00 > 0:34:02He's served his time, he's served two years,
0:34:02 > 0:34:04but the rape was not violent...
0:34:04 > 0:34:06I think that the owners need to think really long and hard
0:34:06 > 0:34:09about the fact that when you take a footballer on
0:34:09 > 0:34:11you're not taking just a footballer these days,
0:34:11 > 0:34:12you're also taking on a role model.
0:34:12 > 0:34:15Ched has always denied any wrongdoing.
0:34:15 > 0:34:18The application seeks to demonstrate that the acts
0:34:18 > 0:34:21I engaged in on that night were consensual in nature
0:34:21 > 0:34:22and not rape.
0:34:22 > 0:34:26The Criminal Case Review Commission has referred his case
0:34:26 > 0:34:29back to the Court of Appeal and Ched is awaiting the result.
0:34:34 > 0:34:38Ched Evans isn't the first top footballer to be accused of rape
0:34:38 > 0:34:41but he is the first to be sentenced.
0:34:41 > 0:34:45Many accusations have been made against footballers for rape,
0:34:45 > 0:34:48sexual assault, and there is even a current player
0:34:48 > 0:34:50facing child-sex-offence charges.
0:34:50 > 0:34:54I'm meeting Amy, a 34-year-old who's been raped,
0:34:54 > 0:34:57as I want to hear from a victim's point of view.
0:34:57 > 0:35:00When you see footballers come up in rape cases on TV,
0:35:00 > 0:35:03what feelings does that make you have?
0:35:04 > 0:35:07It makes me angry.
0:35:07 > 0:35:10What makes me most angry about it is the lack of remorse.
0:35:10 > 0:35:13Rape is not that far down the rung on how serious it is -
0:35:13 > 0:35:16you change someone's life, you ruin someone's life.
0:35:16 > 0:35:19Once a footballer has been convicted and served their sentence,
0:35:19 > 0:35:21should they be allowed back in the game?
0:35:21 > 0:35:23If you're going into government and you'd raped someone,
0:35:23 > 0:35:25would you be allowed your job back? No chance.
0:35:25 > 0:35:28If you were a teacher in a school and you'd had that conviction,
0:35:28 > 0:35:31would you be able to have your job back? Absolutely no chance,
0:35:31 > 0:35:34and I think especially if you're in a position like that, you know,
0:35:34 > 0:35:37the football club need to take a bit of responsibility
0:35:37 > 0:35:40and think about the message that they're sending to fans,
0:35:40 > 0:35:43to the rest of their club, and they need to realise how serious that is.
0:35:43 > 0:35:47How has being raped affected you?
0:35:47 > 0:35:51It's affected me in every area of my life.
0:35:51 > 0:35:54It's affected my work, I've had to leave two jobs.
0:35:54 > 0:35:57It's affected my friends, I've lost a lot of friends through it.
0:35:57 > 0:36:00It's affected my family who have been hurt by it.
0:36:00 > 0:36:03It's really affected my health quite negatively.
0:36:03 > 0:36:06I'm not sure people quite realise
0:36:06 > 0:36:10the impact that something like rape has.
0:36:10 > 0:36:12Do you think that people find it hard to hear about your story?
0:36:12 > 0:36:14I think they find it very difficult,
0:36:14 > 0:36:17I think they find the word "rape" difficult to hear.
0:36:17 > 0:36:19Quite often you get...quite cold, you know,
0:36:19 > 0:36:21people don't know how to handle it,
0:36:21 > 0:36:24and then there's always these questions, people,
0:36:24 > 0:36:27one of the first things they do is...there's victim-blaming,
0:36:27 > 0:36:29so they question how.
0:36:29 > 0:36:33It's such a horrible thing to happen, is she telling the truth?
0:36:35 > 0:36:39I think that a lot of people in society feel like rape
0:36:39 > 0:36:40is not that serious
0:36:40 > 0:36:45and in the footballing world, where it's male domination
0:36:45 > 0:36:50kind of thing going on, I just can't imagine being a victim of rape
0:36:50 > 0:36:55and having to come out publicly in the footballing world, to be honest.
0:36:55 > 0:36:58The 19-year-old in the Ched Evans case
0:36:58 > 0:37:00had her name leaked on Twitter
0:37:00 > 0:37:02and had to change her identity five times.
0:37:02 > 0:37:05It's one of the worse cases of victim-blaming
0:37:05 > 0:37:07ever seen in this country.
0:37:07 > 0:37:10People took to Twitter in their thousands to attack the character
0:37:10 > 0:37:13of this young woman to query her account of events.
0:37:13 > 0:37:17I'm beginning to see another problem is how we view rape in the UK.
0:37:17 > 0:37:20I don't understand why someone would make a hashtag
0:37:20 > 0:37:22saying "it's not rape if..."
0:37:22 > 0:37:26I mean, it's not... Why would you even start that?
0:37:26 > 0:37:30Rape isn't being dealt with in any type of serous way.
0:37:30 > 0:37:34I don't think that this is something that should, at any point,
0:37:34 > 0:37:37by anyone, be taken as a joke.
0:37:42 > 0:37:45I've decided to contact a sociologist
0:37:45 > 0:37:49to see why rape culture seems to be accepted in football.
0:37:49 > 0:37:54- Hi, Amal.- Hello, lovely to meet you. - Really lovely to meet you too.
0:37:54 > 0:37:57'Liz Kelly is a professor at London Metropolitan University.
0:37:57 > 0:38:02'She has a PhD in sociology and advises the EU on gender equality.'
0:38:02 > 0:38:05The Emirates is just over here.
0:38:05 > 0:38:08'Liz is also a massive football fan.'
0:38:08 > 0:38:10This is an amazing view.
0:38:10 > 0:38:12Why do you think so many footballers
0:38:12 > 0:38:14get caught up in so many sex scandals?
0:38:14 > 0:38:17I don't know whether it's specific to footballers.
0:38:17 > 0:38:22I think there's an issue about, erm, men's expectations of sex,
0:38:22 > 0:38:26men's sense of entitlement to have sex,
0:38:26 > 0:38:29and it's everywhere,
0:38:29 > 0:38:32but I think the more power, position
0:38:32 > 0:38:36and status that you have in the world as a man,
0:38:36 > 0:38:39the more you feel entitled to it.
0:38:39 > 0:38:43Do you think some of the girls should take some responsibility as well?
0:38:43 > 0:38:48I think we need to be doing sex and relationships education
0:38:48 > 0:38:52with all young people about what sexual ethics are.
0:38:52 > 0:38:56Would you say that the football clubs kind of...you know,
0:38:56 > 0:38:59they kind of... they're happy with this
0:38:59 > 0:39:00or they encourage it in a way?
0:39:00 > 0:39:01LIZ SIGHS
0:39:01 > 0:39:04I don't think they're happy with it
0:39:04 > 0:39:08but I think they...they accept
0:39:08 > 0:39:15what I would call a version of rape culture in football clubs.
0:39:15 > 0:39:19If you think about rape culture as that it's about blaming the victim,
0:39:19 > 0:39:23it's about trivialising or denying that sexual violence took place,
0:39:23 > 0:39:27or it's about saying it wasn't really that harmful,
0:39:27 > 0:39:30that's the kind of stuff they say.
0:39:30 > 0:39:34I would even say there's a toxic masculinity in football
0:39:34 > 0:39:39and they need to actually address that, they need to think about
0:39:39 > 0:39:45what is it to be a male footballer in the 21st century.
0:39:46 > 0:39:47Yeah.
0:39:49 > 0:39:54Meeting Liz has made me wonder what's being taught at grass-roots level.
0:39:55 > 0:39:58So I'm heading to a football academy in South East London
0:39:58 > 0:39:59to see for myself.
0:40:01 > 0:40:0498% of kids in football academies
0:40:04 > 0:40:07fail to become professional footballers.
0:40:07 > 0:40:09I'm on my way today to meet Baz.
0:40:09 > 0:40:12He's a coach at Fisher Athletic Academy,
0:40:12 > 0:40:16and I guess, like many other academies that there are all over England,
0:40:16 > 0:40:20they're nurturing young kids to kind of be that next footballing star.
0:40:23 > 0:40:26Football academies were set up a generation ago
0:40:26 > 0:40:31to develop players, so what's gone wrong and what needs to change?
0:40:32 > 0:40:34Do you know where I can find Baz?
0:40:34 > 0:40:36- Just through there.- Oh, brilliant.
0:40:36 > 0:40:38'I've been told Baz Baker is the guy to talk to -
0:40:38 > 0:40:41'he's coached hundreds of young players
0:40:41 > 0:40:43'and has also played at a professional level.'
0:40:43 > 0:40:45I know you're busy so I won't waste your time.
0:40:45 > 0:40:47Hi, Baz, how are you? Nice to meet you.
0:40:47 > 0:40:50All right, not too bad, yeah.
0:40:50 > 0:40:54'The academy trains 11-to-18-year-olds who all have big ambitions
0:40:54 > 0:40:56'to be signed and play football as a career.'
0:40:57 > 0:41:00What it's like training a group of under-18s?
0:41:00 > 0:41:02You've got to get discipline,
0:41:02 > 0:41:04there's got to be a lot of discipline
0:41:04 > 0:41:08because, obviously, you've got a lot of testosterone flying around.
0:41:09 > 0:41:12Would you say that your players are influenced by other players
0:41:12 > 0:41:15- obviously who have made it?- Oh, yes, yes, yes.- Cars, money, women?
0:41:15 > 0:41:17- Yes, yes, yes.- How do you think that affects them?
0:41:17 > 0:41:20Well, because they want to emulate that, they want that,
0:41:20 > 0:41:24because their goal is... they look at the top end of football
0:41:24 > 0:41:28and they see the footballers earning loads of money, driving fast cars,
0:41:28 > 0:41:31and these guys want to get there.
0:41:31 > 0:41:34I'm trying to understand why footballers hit headlines
0:41:34 > 0:41:35for the wrong reasons.
0:41:35 > 0:41:38I say you're giving a load of money to uneducated players
0:41:38 > 0:41:42and that's a horrible thing to say but that's basically what they do.
0:41:42 > 0:41:47You pay someone 16, 17, 18, 19 a lot of money, he buys a fast car
0:41:47 > 0:41:51and he's getting loads of attention because he's now a commodity.
0:41:51 > 0:41:54Go back, come back, come back to Lewis and start again!
0:41:54 > 0:41:57Do you think that if they made, like, for example, a law
0:41:57 > 0:42:01where footballers had to study until the age of 21
0:42:01 > 0:42:06and then they could earn that, do you think that things would change maybe?
0:42:06 > 0:42:07BAZ CHUCKLES
0:42:07 > 0:42:10That would be good, it's meant to be that way.
0:42:10 > 0:42:14When the academy started 20-odd years ago,
0:42:14 > 0:42:16they were meant to take kids
0:42:16 > 0:42:19and nurture 'em all the way through from a young age,
0:42:19 > 0:42:22all the way till they get to the first team, but that's been lost.
0:42:22 > 0:42:25How do you stop them getting themselves into this type of trouble?
0:42:25 > 0:42:30I think a little bit more leadership from the FA into the clubs,
0:42:30 > 0:42:34rather than let the clubs deal with it themselves,
0:42:34 > 0:42:37but there's no leadership to say, "If you cross this line,"
0:42:37 > 0:42:42or, "If you breach this contract in this area,
0:42:42 > 0:42:46"this is what's going to happen," so they don't, so nothing happens.
0:42:48 > 0:42:53'Boys can be given multimillion pound contracts from as young as 17.'
0:42:53 > 0:42:57Is football the ultimate goal for a lot of you and your friends?
0:42:57 > 0:42:59- Yeah. - Yeah, definitely.
0:42:59 > 0:43:01My whole crowd who I chill with want to become a footballer
0:43:01 > 0:43:05so, like, when I'm in that crowd, I want to follow them, do you know what I mean?
0:43:05 > 0:43:07Growing up from young, you want to become a footballer...
0:43:07 > 0:43:10I'm only seeing football. Like, when I was in year 6,
0:43:10 > 0:43:12I was thinking I'm going to be a footballer,
0:43:12 > 0:43:14I don't have nothing else to back me up, do you know what I mean?
0:43:14 > 0:43:16Education is just a no for me, to be honest.
0:43:20 > 0:43:25They go from being in an academy to being signed within a day and night
0:43:25 > 0:43:30and then, obviously, it's for coaches, agents, FA,
0:43:30 > 0:43:33everyone wants them, everyone wants these kids
0:43:33 > 0:43:35cos they are commodities and they make millions.
0:43:37 > 0:43:40There's only so much that a guy like Baz can do, you know,
0:43:40 > 0:43:42he's a coach for an academy
0:43:42 > 0:43:46but what actually happens when these guys go into the next level
0:43:46 > 0:43:47and the next stage?
0:43:47 > 0:43:51Who actually guides them at that point? Who helps them out?
0:44:00 > 0:44:02Finally, after a lot of phone calls and e-mails,
0:44:02 > 0:44:06I have the opportunity to meet someone at the top of the game.
0:44:06 > 0:44:09The Professional Footballers' Association
0:44:09 > 0:44:11is one of the richest unions in the world.
0:44:11 > 0:44:14It's set up to look after the rights of players
0:44:14 > 0:44:16but it's also there to educate them.
0:44:16 > 0:44:20I've arranged to meet the Deputy Chief Executive, Bobby Barnes,
0:44:20 > 0:44:23to find out what he's doing not only to help the players
0:44:23 > 0:44:26but also to challenge their behaviour.
0:44:26 > 0:44:28Do you think that footballers now are earning too much money
0:44:28 > 0:44:30- for their own good? - As an industry,
0:44:30 > 0:44:33football is probably generating more money than it ever has
0:44:33 > 0:44:35or probably even dreamed of.
0:44:35 > 0:44:37Now, with the best will in the world,
0:44:37 > 0:44:40the reasons for that money coming into the game
0:44:40 > 0:44:42is because of the players, so I think it's only right
0:44:42 > 0:44:45that players should get a fair share of that income.
0:44:45 > 0:44:49So my question to you is really what do the PFA have in place
0:44:49 > 0:44:52in order to help these young players stay in the right track?
0:44:52 > 0:44:55It's important that we show young players that,
0:44:55 > 0:44:57although they don't ask to be role models,
0:44:57 > 0:45:00whether they like it or not, that position is thrust upon them.
0:45:00 > 0:45:03I think it's important for us to provide some education
0:45:03 > 0:45:06and to help those players to be rehabilitated
0:45:06 > 0:45:09so they can come back and be useful citizens again
0:45:09 > 0:45:11in the field that they're actually in.
0:45:11 > 0:45:16We probably spend in excess of £12 million a year on education.
0:45:16 > 0:45:18Have you noticed a change in the type of education
0:45:18 > 0:45:20that you have to offer players?
0:45:20 > 0:45:23Very much so. I think, certainly a few years ago,
0:45:23 > 0:45:26it would have been very much focused purely on vocational training
0:45:26 > 0:45:30and preparing people for a life after football,
0:45:30 > 0:45:32that was pretty much the core.
0:45:32 > 0:45:35As the world has changed, obviously, we have a responsibility
0:45:35 > 0:45:38and it's important that what we actually offer
0:45:38 > 0:45:43reflects changes in society and changes in the way our members
0:45:43 > 0:45:48are perceived, so it's very important that we provide our members
0:45:48 > 0:45:51with the tools as best we can to equip them to deal with
0:45:51 > 0:45:54the challenges that they're going to have to face
0:45:54 > 0:45:55in an ever-changing world,
0:45:55 > 0:45:58and one that they're basically going to be exposed to scrutiny
0:45:58 > 0:46:00more than ever before.
0:46:00 > 0:46:03Do you think that footballers need to be challenged on how they view women?
0:46:03 > 0:46:06We can't pretend that we've got the silver bullet
0:46:06 > 0:46:09that's the answer to this, but what we can say is
0:46:09 > 0:46:12that we're aware that if there is an issue that needs to be addressed,
0:46:12 > 0:46:16we need to speak and work with the appropriate bodies that can help us
0:46:16 > 0:46:17to help our members.
0:46:17 > 0:46:22So far, the PFA have only committed to producing an educational video
0:46:22 > 0:46:26that aims to tackle footballers' attitude towards consent.
0:46:26 > 0:46:29They plan to distribute it to all major clubs.
0:46:30 > 0:46:31After interviewing Bobby,
0:46:31 > 0:46:34I know that the PFA do things in order to help footballers.
0:46:34 > 0:46:37Now, I'm not sure how effective these things are
0:46:37 > 0:46:40cos, right now, if I'm honest with you,
0:46:40 > 0:46:43it seems like they don't actually do as much as they could do.
0:46:47 > 0:46:50Bobby Barnes said that players are role models,
0:46:50 > 0:46:52so what do young footballers think
0:46:52 > 0:46:55about having that responsibility thrust upon them?
0:46:55 > 0:46:57I've come to Peckham in South London
0:46:57 > 0:47:00to meet a young player called Danny Haynes.
0:47:04 > 0:47:06Danny plays for Ebbsfleet Utd,
0:47:06 > 0:47:10but he also played for Ipswich, Bristol City, Charlton,
0:47:10 > 0:47:12Barnsley and Notts County.
0:47:12 > 0:47:15Although he's not in the top flight of the game,
0:47:15 > 0:47:17I want to find out what it's like
0:47:17 > 0:47:19when a young man starts off as a professional.
0:47:19 > 0:47:23Peckham is quite a well-known area for quite iconic footballers.
0:47:23 > 0:47:26Who else do you know that's been brought up around here?
0:47:26 > 0:47:29- The two obvious is Anton Ferdinand and Rio.- OK.
0:47:29 > 0:47:34- And then you got one that plays for Middlesbrough, Cario.- OK.
0:47:34 > 0:47:37I seen him not too long ago driving through.
0:47:37 > 0:47:39Why do you think a lot of footballers
0:47:39 > 0:47:41come from a similar background?
0:47:41 > 0:47:44It's a way out and, obviously, people love football,
0:47:44 > 0:47:48it's England's biggest sport, so everyone does football.
0:47:50 > 0:47:53Do footballers have to let off steam?
0:47:53 > 0:47:56Obviously, it's an intense environment, you know, so...
0:47:56 > 0:47:59They do have to let off steam but they got to be careful
0:47:59 > 0:48:02when they do do it because the media will just jump all over it.
0:48:02 > 0:48:05For me, it's hard, like, I have five brothers and sisters
0:48:05 > 0:48:10and they're all younger, and their role models, like you, Rio,
0:48:10 > 0:48:12all these people who are earning a lot of money,
0:48:12 > 0:48:15but, you know, there are young ones who they also look up to
0:48:15 > 0:48:17who are earning the same amount of money
0:48:17 > 0:48:21but they're going absolutely... hitting headlines, doing this, doing that.
0:48:21 > 0:48:22It's hard. At the age of 18,
0:48:22 > 0:48:26you're expecting a child to be a role model to another child.
0:48:26 > 0:48:30He hasn't really grown up yet so how can you put pressure on him
0:48:30 > 0:48:33to say he's a role model because he earns this amount of money,
0:48:33 > 0:48:35because he's good at a talent?
0:48:35 > 0:48:37I think it's bizarre.
0:48:37 > 0:48:40How do you think that that should be stopped? Cos...
0:48:40 > 0:48:44I don't know how you control that or monitor it in any way.
0:48:44 > 0:48:47I don't think you can control it, it's out of our hands.
0:48:47 > 0:48:54The money is there in football for footballers and it's enticing young boys
0:48:54 > 0:48:58to grow up wanting to do football so I don't think you can stop that.
0:48:58 > 0:49:02Anyone coming from round here and you get that offer on the table,
0:49:02 > 0:49:05you're going to snap it up with both hands.
0:49:10 > 0:49:13As a 17-year-old, how much were you earning?
0:49:13 > 0:49:19At 17, I was on like... £1,800 a week.
0:49:19 > 0:49:22Would you say you had to learn the hard way
0:49:22 > 0:49:24and quite young, which is quite a shock?
0:49:24 > 0:49:27Yeah, I've had to learn the hard way
0:49:27 > 0:49:31because...moving to a whole different city with whole different people,
0:49:31 > 0:49:33you don't have your family around,
0:49:33 > 0:49:37you have to learn the hard way, and I made plenty of mistakes.
0:49:37 > 0:49:40Cos, remember, footballers are going in at the age of 18, 19
0:49:40 > 0:49:44and earning big money, and with money,
0:49:44 > 0:49:46loads of things come with it.
0:49:46 > 0:49:49Do you find it hard to maintain focus,
0:49:49 > 0:49:53because obviously you have women throwing themselves at you?
0:49:53 > 0:49:55It depends if you go out or not.
0:49:55 > 0:49:58If you go out quite a bit and you're known for going out
0:49:58 > 0:50:00and people obviously know you're a footballer,
0:50:00 > 0:50:03you're going to get women throwing themselves at you
0:50:03 > 0:50:05because they feel like it's a meal ticket.
0:50:05 > 0:50:07Is it easy to trust women now?
0:50:07 > 0:50:10No, it's not easy to trust women now.
0:50:10 > 0:50:13I've got my partner now so I'm very settled
0:50:13 > 0:50:17and I've got my children, so that's...
0:50:17 > 0:50:19anything I do now is just for them.
0:50:22 > 0:50:25I think I have a better understanding
0:50:25 > 0:50:28as to why footballers hit headlines for the wrong reasons.
0:50:28 > 0:50:31I think I know more of why, for example, someone like my dad
0:50:31 > 0:50:34would've done something like that to my mum.
0:50:34 > 0:50:36Maybe it's not on purpose.
0:50:36 > 0:50:38I'm understanding things more.
0:50:48 > 0:50:51It feels like I've come to the end of my journey
0:50:51 > 0:50:54but there's one more chat I need to have before I finish.
0:50:54 > 0:50:58I'm back in Madrid and on my way to see my mum.
0:50:58 > 0:51:03I think my mum and dad actually fell in love when they were 16, 17.
0:51:03 > 0:51:07My mum was playing basketball for a team in Norwich University
0:51:07 > 0:51:10and my dad was also playing football.
0:51:12 > 0:51:14My mum's gone through a lot
0:51:14 > 0:51:17and I think she's a really strong individual
0:51:17 > 0:51:21and, as a woman, she's shown me everything that I am.
0:51:21 > 0:51:25My mum and dad broke up when I was two years old.
0:51:25 > 0:51:31My dad has re-married twice but my mum has always remained single.
0:51:31 > 0:51:35I want to ask her if she blames football culture for their divorce.
0:51:38 > 0:51:41- Hola, Madre, how are you? - Hola.
0:51:41 > 0:51:44- OK.- How are you? - All right.
0:51:44 > 0:51:48- How have you been? - Very good, how have you been?
0:51:48 > 0:51:51Busy, working hard, as always.
0:51:51 > 0:51:55- IN SPANISH ACCENT: I've been working hard too.- Have you?
0:51:55 > 0:51:58- Yes, come, let me show you. - What you been doing, then?
0:51:58 > 0:52:00A lot of things, Madre.
0:52:00 > 0:52:02Do you know Dwight Yorke?
0:52:02 > 0:52:04His face is familiar but...
0:52:04 > 0:52:07He has been in the press, known for, you know,
0:52:07 > 0:52:10a lot of sexual activity with women...
0:52:10 > 0:52:12Oh, that is unusual in footballers(!)
0:52:12 > 0:52:13Oh, it's unusual?
0:52:13 > 0:52:15Very unusual.
0:52:15 > 0:52:17AMAL LAUGHS Yeah.
0:52:17 > 0:52:19I've been speaking to a lot of people basically
0:52:19 > 0:52:23to make this documentary and I think that I've realised a set of things -
0:52:23 > 0:52:27football, it seems that women and sex are always attached to it.
0:52:27 > 0:52:31From your experience, who do we blame, or what is it to blame?
0:52:31 > 0:52:34Is it the money, the managers, the agents, the girls?
0:52:34 > 0:52:38The fact that they are footballers? Is it football itself? What is it?
0:52:38 > 0:52:40It's to do with education,
0:52:40 > 0:52:45it's to do with being very young, famous and rich
0:52:45 > 0:52:50and not have the head in the right place
0:52:50 > 0:52:55to put everything together and handle everything.
0:52:55 > 0:52:58All these girls, they're throwing themselves to them.
0:52:58 > 0:53:04I mean, I've been with your dad to a nightclub after the game.
0:53:04 > 0:53:08Girls, they will not see me, I was not there.
0:53:08 > 0:53:12The first thing they will do is give him a kiss, hug him
0:53:12 > 0:53:17if they can, and hold his hand and pass him a little paper
0:53:17 > 0:53:20and I would say, "John, can I see the paper?"
0:53:20 > 0:53:23And it was "my name is Lucy
0:53:23 > 0:53:25"and my telephone number, please call me."
0:53:25 > 0:53:28Yeah, so women have no self-respect.
0:53:28 > 0:53:32Exactly, but...I will not blame them.
0:53:34 > 0:53:35It's 50/50.
0:53:35 > 0:53:40If someone throw themselves to them, they will go for it.
0:53:40 > 0:53:43So it's just basically men in general.
0:53:43 > 0:53:45Of course.
0:53:45 > 0:53:49Do you think it's hard to have a relationship with a football player?
0:53:49 > 0:53:53For me, at the time, when I met your dad, we were very young.
0:53:53 > 0:53:55Your dad was 18, I was 18.
0:53:55 > 0:53:59I trusted him, he trusted me.
0:53:59 > 0:54:02I was in love with him, I felt that he loved me as well,
0:54:02 > 0:54:07and what I really wanted was to have a family, happy family,
0:54:07 > 0:54:12have babies, and he was agreeing with me at the time,
0:54:12 > 0:54:14I mean, he was happy with that.
0:54:14 > 0:54:16But then that's even worse,
0:54:16 > 0:54:20because then when you do find out that he's cheated...
0:54:20 > 0:54:26Obviously I was so naive, because I was going this way
0:54:26 > 0:54:28and he was going another way.
0:54:28 > 0:54:30So how did you find out?
0:54:30 > 0:54:35I find out when someone called me
0:54:35 > 0:54:38- and said, "Oh, have you seen the newspaper?"- Yeah.
0:54:38 > 0:54:40And I said, "No, I haven't seen it."
0:54:40 > 0:54:43Then they send me the newspaper
0:54:43 > 0:54:48and I remember you were...two years old.
0:54:48 > 0:54:51I drove you to my girlfriend's house
0:54:51 > 0:54:56that she had the newspaper and I could not stop crying.
0:54:56 > 0:55:00You were in the back of the car saying, "Mum, what's wrong with you?"
0:55:00 > 0:55:06And I could not stop crying because at that point...
0:55:06 > 0:55:08all my...
0:55:08 > 0:55:14all that I believed, all that I worked for, my heart was broken.
0:55:17 > 0:55:19As a child you get to know things
0:55:19 > 0:55:24but you can never actually understand them that well.
0:55:24 > 0:55:28Today, I found out how much pain she actually did go through.
0:55:28 > 0:55:31It just makes me really sad and it pains me that there are
0:55:31 > 0:55:35footballers out there still in the same type of frame of mind.
0:55:37 > 0:55:42There's a very close link, it seems, to football and sex, you know.
0:55:43 > 0:55:45If you are a footballer,
0:55:45 > 0:55:48it almost seems these days that you are entitled to do certain things
0:55:48 > 0:55:51that, realistically, you shouldn't be doing.
0:55:51 > 0:55:53We're giving young men,
0:55:53 > 0:55:55and most of the time uneducated young men,
0:55:55 > 0:55:58a lot of money and a lot of power
0:55:58 > 0:56:00and they just clearly can't handle it.
0:56:00 > 0:56:04MUSIC: Gimme Shelter by The Rolling Stones