Mother Knows Best

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0:00:26 > 0:00:28He has your father's nose.

0:00:29 > 0:00:30I know.

0:00:30 > 0:00:32A handsome nose.

0:00:34 > 0:00:37When are you bringing him to Nigeria?

0:00:37 > 0:00:38Oh, when he's two.

0:00:38 > 0:00:43Bring him sooner now. Your father's waiting to see him.

0:00:43 > 0:00:45BABY CRIES

0:00:45 > 0:00:47Think that means he doesn't want to!

0:00:49 > 0:00:50Of course he wants to.

0:00:52 > 0:00:56He has to see where he comes from. See our village.

0:00:58 > 0:00:59It's OK.

0:00:59 > 0:01:00SHE SINGS

0:01:00 > 0:01:03Niamh. It's Oliver speaking... No, come on!

0:01:05 > 0:01:08Niamh! It's Oliver. Just a quick call.

0:01:08 > 0:01:10You left rather suddenly the other day.

0:01:10 > 0:01:12I'm guessing something came up at work...

0:01:14 > 0:01:15No, that's rubbish.

0:01:18 > 0:01:21Er... Niamh. Listen, are you free tonight?

0:01:21 > 0:01:24If you are then I think we should meet up, talk about us.

0:01:25 > 0:01:27Talk about us - honestly!

0:01:27 > 0:01:29Um...OK.

0:01:29 > 0:01:32Niamh. It's Oliver. Listen.

0:01:32 > 0:01:35Whatever plans you've got tonight, cancel them.

0:01:35 > 0:01:38I'm taking you out for dinner and I'm not taking no for an answer.

0:01:42 > 0:01:43Let me try.

0:01:43 > 0:01:45I'm all right.

0:01:45 > 0:01:47Why don't you feed him?

0:01:47 > 0:01:49Because he's got set times.

0:01:49 > 0:01:51A child knows when he is hungry.

0:01:52 > 0:01:56Yeah... Can you... Can you speak up, please?

0:01:58 > 0:02:00Dr Carter is with a patient at the moment,

0:02:00 > 0:02:02but I can recommend another GP.

0:02:02 > 0:02:04Dr Haskey...

0:02:04 > 0:02:09Well, there is no need to be rude, Mr Simms! Well, if you would

0:02:09 > 0:02:11like to leave a message for Dr Carter...

0:02:11 > 0:02:12Lawrence Okotu-me?

0:02:12 > 0:02:16Okotum-ay. Lawrence Okotum-ay.

0:02:16 > 0:02:17My apologies. Okotum-ay.

0:02:18 > 0:02:20Sorry, you've got...

0:02:20 > 0:02:22Why don't you go to the bathroom?

0:02:22 > 0:02:24I will take the boy in.

0:02:24 > 0:02:28Shush. Grandma is here now.

0:02:28 > 0:02:30BABY QUIETENS

0:02:30 > 0:02:33Well, you do seem to have the golden touch.

0:02:33 > 0:02:35Yes, well, I have four sons.

0:02:35 > 0:02:36Can you tell me where the...

0:02:36 > 0:02:39Yeah, it's just down there.

0:02:39 > 0:02:40Mrs Okotume?

0:02:40 > 0:02:41We are coming.

0:02:57 > 0:03:01You can never find a breast pad when you need one.

0:03:01 > 0:03:04I really thought I put some in here, but... You don't by any chance...

0:03:04 > 0:03:08Sorry, my breastfeeding days are well and truly over.

0:03:08 > 0:03:11Yeah, part of me can't wait until they've stopped either,

0:03:11 > 0:03:13but then part of me...

0:03:13 > 0:03:17Well, it's going to have to stop when I go back to work, isn't it?

0:03:17 > 0:03:20That's why I'm feeding him at set times,

0:03:20 > 0:03:22but she wants him to feed on demand.

0:03:23 > 0:03:27Oh, his grandmother. She's staying with us for a month.

0:03:29 > 0:03:31I mean, it should be at set times, right?

0:03:31 > 0:03:34It really comes down to personal choice.

0:03:34 > 0:03:36Exactly, but she thinks I'm being over-protective

0:03:36 > 0:03:38because I'm not doing what she wants,

0:03:38 > 0:03:40but when she leaves, everything's going to be messed up.

0:03:40 > 0:03:43Parents always think they know best.

0:03:43 > 0:03:46Tell me about it. Oh, here.

0:03:46 > 0:03:47This is him.

0:03:47 > 0:03:50Oh, I've already seen him, in reception.

0:03:50 > 0:03:52Screaming his lungs out?

0:03:52 > 0:03:56Well, I'd better get back. Patients to see.

0:03:56 > 0:03:57Sure.

0:03:59 > 0:04:01They do have their uses, you know.

0:04:01 > 0:04:05You've got a babysitter on tap for the next few weeks.

0:04:05 > 0:04:07If I were you, I'd make the most of it.

0:04:13 > 0:04:16Well, he does have a bit of a cold, but it's not serious.

0:04:19 > 0:04:21Continue with the paracetamol.

0:04:22 > 0:04:26I said this to the mother, but she would not listen.

0:04:26 > 0:04:30These youngsters, they make so much fuss over nothing.

0:04:32 > 0:04:35I see his immunisations are up-to-date,

0:04:35 > 0:04:37so is there anything else I can help you with?

0:04:37 > 0:04:39No. That is it.

0:04:40 > 0:04:42I am sorry to have wasted your valuable time.

0:04:42 > 0:04:44Oh, no, not at all.

0:04:44 > 0:04:46It's better to be safe rather than sorry, Mrs Okotume.

0:04:46 > 0:04:48- KNOCKING - Come in.

0:04:49 > 0:04:52- Mrs Okotume. - Oh, have you finished already?

0:04:52 > 0:04:54There's nothing to worry about.

0:04:54 > 0:04:57We just need to continue with the paracetamol.

0:04:57 > 0:05:00And that's going to be fine on top of what they give him?

0:05:00 > 0:05:02On top of what who give him?

0:05:02 > 0:05:05The clinic. This afternoon.

0:05:05 > 0:05:07When he gets circumcised.

0:05:09 > 0:05:11Let's give it a go.

0:05:15 > 0:05:18PHONE RINGS

0:05:18 > 0:05:20Niamh. Listen... Whatever plans...

0:05:20 > 0:05:22'Hi, it's Niamh's phone. I'm not around right now,

0:05:22 > 0:05:25'so please leave a message and I'll get back to you.'

0:05:25 > 0:05:26BEEP

0:05:26 > 0:05:29Oh, um, Niamh, it's me. Oliver....

0:05:29 > 0:05:33The amount of paracetamol Lawrence is taking won't affect

0:05:33 > 0:05:36the anaesthetic or the pain relief that the clinic will give him,

0:05:36 > 0:05:37but do tell them what he's taking.

0:05:37 > 0:05:39Of course we will.

0:05:39 > 0:05:43And you think it's OK, Doctor? Lawrence being circumcised?

0:05:44 > 0:05:47The clinic you're going to specialises in this procedure,

0:05:47 > 0:05:49so you're in safe hands.

0:05:49 > 0:05:51Which is what I keep telling her.

0:05:51 > 0:05:54Can I ask why you've decided to have Lawrence circumcised now?

0:05:54 > 0:05:56He's four months old.

0:05:56 > 0:05:58Kids are usually circumcised when they're much younger.

0:05:58 > 0:06:01Because my son did not think to do it.

0:06:01 > 0:06:03Chukka and I discussed it. It...

0:06:03 > 0:06:06But now that I'm here, Doctor, it is happening.

0:06:06 > 0:06:11My grandson will be circumcised, as is our tradition.

0:06:11 > 0:06:12It is a low-risk procedure.

0:06:12 > 0:06:15You've got nothing to worry about, Mrs Okotume.

0:06:17 > 0:06:20Mrs Tembe! Thank you for dealing with Mr Simms.

0:06:20 > 0:06:22He's not the easiest of patients.

0:06:22 > 0:06:25His language was quite colourful, to say the least.

0:06:25 > 0:06:29Well, I put that down to him coming to terms with his diagnosis.

0:06:29 > 0:06:30It is unfortunate,

0:06:30 > 0:06:34but there is no need to lash out at the people who are trying to help.

0:06:34 > 0:06:37Yes, of course. Um, right, I'm off for the afternoon.

0:06:37 > 0:06:39See you tomorrow.

0:06:39 > 0:06:40Have an enjoyable afternoon.

0:06:40 > 0:06:43Mrs Tembe, have you seen Al? He's not in Room 1.

0:06:43 > 0:06:45Yes, he's in Dr Granger's room.

0:06:45 > 0:06:48- Great.- Ah, ah, ah - but he is with a patient at the moment.

0:06:48 > 0:06:49- Oh. OK. I'll catch him later.- Hm-mm.

0:06:51 > 0:06:53Maybe she just forgot.

0:06:53 > 0:06:57That was the reason we were taking him to the GP in the first place.

0:06:57 > 0:06:59Don't get yourself all wound up about it.

0:06:59 > 0:07:00It's done now, so relax.

0:07:00 > 0:07:02He's getting circumcised, Chukka!

0:07:02 > 0:07:05Yeah, I know, but the doctor said it was all OK,

0:07:05 > 0:07:08and we're going to the clinic you chose.

0:07:11 > 0:07:12He's going to be fine, babe.

0:07:12 > 0:07:14I am, aren't I?

0:07:14 > 0:07:16And I didn't go to some fancy clinic, neither.

0:07:16 > 0:07:18All I got was an old rabbi with a shaky hand.

0:07:20 > 0:07:22Aren't we going to be late?

0:07:22 > 0:07:24Oh, there's loads of time.

0:07:24 > 0:07:27Stop messing about. I'll take the baby in the car.

0:07:32 > 0:07:35- You should apologise.- What?!

0:07:35 > 0:07:38You embarrassed her. Questioning her like that in front of the doctor.

0:07:38 > 0:07:40Because she didn't do what she was meant to!

0:07:40 > 0:07:43Yeah, I know, but you two need to get on, or she'll be on the phone

0:07:43 > 0:07:45to Dad about how I've made a poor choice of wife

0:07:45 > 0:07:48and why they should have never gone back to Nigeria.

0:07:49 > 0:07:51Please, babe?

0:08:03 > 0:08:05PHONE RINGTONE

0:08:05 > 0:08:10'Niahm, it's me, Oliver. Um...I've been trying to reach you all weekend.

0:08:10 > 0:08:12'Please give me another chance.

0:08:13 > 0:08:17'You're the best thing that's happened to me in such a long time,

0:08:17 > 0:08:19'so whatever it is you want me to do, I'll do it, I promise!

0:08:19 > 0:08:22'I... I just...'

0:08:22 > 0:08:23SHE CUTS MESSAGE OFF

0:08:42 > 0:08:45Ellen, I'm sorry if I upset you.

0:08:49 > 0:08:52Yeah? So let's do this!

0:08:53 > 0:08:56Why you had to marry someone raised up in this country!

0:08:58 > 0:09:00- I- was raised in this country.

0:09:00 > 0:09:04Yes, but I raised you traditionally. You know how to behave.

0:09:11 > 0:09:12Al?

0:09:21 > 0:09:24There she was, hanging on my every word.

0:09:24 > 0:09:27She was like putty in my hands.

0:09:27 > 0:09:29Even insisted on paying the bill.

0:09:29 > 0:09:32I'd let her pay, then I would've gone home alone,

0:09:32 > 0:09:34because desperation is a real turn-off.

0:09:34 > 0:09:36Yeah, right. Anyway, get a cab back to mine...

0:09:36 > 0:09:38Yeah - I don't want to hear all the gory details.

0:09:38 > 0:09:40That's the thing. There aren't any.

0:09:41 > 0:09:45So, get a cab back to mine, I tell her to put some music on,

0:09:45 > 0:09:48she only goes and picks A Tribe Called Quest.

0:09:48 > 0:09:51Turns out she totally digs old school hip-hop! Who knew?

0:09:51 > 0:09:54We spent all night talking about music and life.

0:09:54 > 0:09:55It was surreal.

0:09:55 > 0:09:59- And then...- Yeah, mate, I'm made up for you, but I'm going to read this.

0:09:59 > 0:10:02- Is that full?- Yep.

0:10:02 > 0:10:04I have had the morning from hell.

0:10:04 > 0:10:06Oh, tell me about it.

0:10:06 > 0:10:09If I have to deal with another self-diagnosis from the good old internet...

0:10:09 > 0:10:11Right, well, try dealing with a kid

0:10:11 > 0:10:14who's about to be circumcised with a mum who's got cold feet,

0:10:14 > 0:10:18on top of that, an overbearing mother-in-law who obviously wears the trousers.

0:10:18 > 0:10:21- Was that the child from reception? - Yep.

0:10:21 > 0:10:22You win.

0:10:24 > 0:10:25Not bad, eh?

0:10:33 > 0:10:35Mrs Okotume?

0:10:35 > 0:10:36Okotum-ay.

0:10:38 > 0:10:39What's wrong?

0:10:39 > 0:10:41I'm going to wait out here, babe.

0:10:41 > 0:10:45He doesn't need all of us in there looking at his tackle, does he?

0:11:03 > 0:11:04Is he OK?

0:11:04 > 0:11:07He's fine. Such a fuss about nothing!

0:11:10 > 0:11:13I wasn't sure whether to wait for the allotted time

0:11:13 > 0:11:16or expect to be accommodated.

0:11:16 > 0:11:18Well, you're in luck, actually. I've had a cancellation.

0:11:18 > 0:11:20- So, how are you? - Oh, I'm raring to go.

0:11:20 > 0:11:23Actually, I've been thinking long and hard about the problem,

0:11:23 > 0:11:26and I think the best way is to deal with it head-on.

0:11:26 > 0:11:30I must say, I'm rather disappointed - I was expecting a chaise longue.

0:11:30 > 0:11:33Ah, well, I'm assured by my patients that the chair's quite comfortable.

0:11:33 > 0:11:36Actually, seeing as we have some time, would you like a cup of tea?

0:11:36 > 0:11:37- Oh, splendid.- Right.

0:11:43 > 0:11:45Oh, he won't remember anything about it.

0:11:49 > 0:11:50Go on.

0:11:50 > 0:11:52What?

0:11:52 > 0:11:53Offer to help her out.

0:11:53 > 0:11:57What's the point? She's not going to like me whatever I do.

0:11:57 > 0:11:59She will. Just make a bit more of an effort.

0:12:01 > 0:12:03Go on.

0:12:05 > 0:12:07Would you like any help, Ellen?

0:12:08 > 0:12:11I am making moi-moi, but I can't find any ingredients.

0:12:11 > 0:12:13Well, what do you need?

0:12:13 > 0:12:16You don't know how to make moi-moi?

0:12:16 > 0:12:19No. My mum didn't teach me how to cook Nigerian.

0:12:19 > 0:12:23Chukka would only eat my food when he was growing up.

0:12:23 > 0:12:26Yeah, well, things change. So what do you need?

0:12:26 > 0:12:32Black-eyed beans, red onions, ground crayfish, tomato puree...

0:12:34 > 0:12:37- We've got baked beans and tomato puree.- Eh?

0:12:38 > 0:12:41So, anything exciting happened recently?

0:12:41 > 0:12:43I've just bought a place, as it happens.

0:12:43 > 0:12:46Right. Been a bit of a stressful time, then, has it?

0:12:46 > 0:12:47No, not really.

0:12:47 > 0:12:50I was already a tenant so it's quite straightforward.

0:12:50 > 0:12:53Oh, that's lucky. So you've found time to relax?

0:12:53 > 0:12:55Do things you enjoy?

0:12:55 > 0:12:57I like the old amateur dramatics.

0:12:57 > 0:12:59What about holidays?

0:12:59 > 0:13:03Nothing planned. I think I might go to Tuscany for a few weeks.

0:13:03 > 0:13:06Nice. I'm planning on going away too, actually.

0:13:06 > 0:13:08Anywhere in particular?

0:13:08 > 0:13:11Well, nowhere as exciting as Tuscany. I was thinking of Ireland.

0:13:11 > 0:13:13Lovely.

0:13:13 > 0:13:17Yeah. Nothing's been decided yet, though.

0:13:17 > 0:13:20I thought I'd ask Niamh if she had any recommendations.

0:13:20 > 0:13:22Good idea.

0:13:22 > 0:13:25Is she at work today, do you know?

0:13:25 > 0:13:26She should be.

0:13:29 > 0:13:31Rice and stew is such a simple dish.

0:13:31 > 0:13:35Once you taste mine, you will want to make it at least once a week.

0:13:36 > 0:13:39Are you watching?

0:13:39 > 0:13:40Yes.

0:13:41 > 0:13:44You need to learn how to make traditional food.

0:13:44 > 0:13:45Keep him satisfied here

0:13:45 > 0:13:48and he will keep from straying here. Hm?

0:13:50 > 0:13:52Babe, can I have another beer?

0:13:52 > 0:13:54Haven't you had enough?

0:13:54 > 0:13:56Ah, it's low alcohol!

0:14:09 > 0:14:10Chukka, get in here!

0:14:10 > 0:14:12What is it?

0:14:12 > 0:14:13- What's wrong?- He's bleeding!

0:14:13 > 0:14:15It is nothing. We just need to change the dressing.

0:14:15 > 0:14:18I think we should take him to the doctors. There shouldn't be this much blood!

0:14:18 > 0:14:20I have done this many times.

0:14:20 > 0:14:22If you would just stop making a...

0:14:22 > 0:14:24I don't care if I'm making a fuss.

0:14:24 > 0:14:26You coming?

0:14:26 > 0:14:28All they will do is change the dressing.

0:14:28 > 0:14:29Babe...

0:14:29 > 0:14:30Just forget it!

0:14:34 > 0:14:36So, what's it like working with her?

0:14:36 > 0:14:39She's very congenial, goes out of her way for patients,

0:14:39 > 0:14:40who seem to like her.

0:14:40 > 0:14:42Do you think she has a future at the Mill?

0:14:44 > 0:14:47Hard to tell this early in a young doctor's career.

0:14:48 > 0:14:54Why all the questions about Niamh? Do I take it you're interested?

0:14:54 > 0:14:58Oh. She's someone I'd like to get to know better, that's all.

0:14:58 > 0:15:00I'm sorry - this is neither the time nor the place.

0:15:00 > 0:15:01Shall we make a start?

0:15:03 > 0:15:04I need to see Dr Tyler.

0:15:04 > 0:15:07He is with a patient at the moment.

0:15:07 > 0:15:09No, please, it's urgent. It's my baby.

0:15:09 > 0:15:10I am sure he will not be too long.

0:15:10 > 0:15:12Look at him.

0:15:15 > 0:15:17Please help me.

0:15:17 > 0:15:19Look, I will see what I can do.

0:15:19 > 0:15:25So, having seen all these so-called experts, I'm none the wiser.

0:15:25 > 0:15:30I've never experienced such incompetency in my entire life.

0:15:30 > 0:15:33What exactly are the symptoms you've been experiencing?

0:15:33 > 0:15:35Some memory loss, really.

0:15:35 > 0:15:38And what sort of memory loss are we talking about?

0:15:38 > 0:15:40Is it words or actions you don't remember?

0:15:40 > 0:15:41Actions, mostly.

0:15:43 > 0:15:44Can you give me some examples?

0:15:44 > 0:15:46From the first incident, if possible.

0:15:46 > 0:15:50Yes, it sort of started a few months ago.

0:15:50 > 0:15:52Sort of things - objects - not being where they should be.

0:15:52 > 0:15:54Could you be more specific?

0:15:54 > 0:15:58Yeah, for example, an umbrella stand would be in one place at night,

0:15:58 > 0:16:02somewhere else in the morning, um...I'd fall asleep

0:16:02 > 0:16:05without a blanket and then wake up with a blanket on me,

0:16:05 > 0:16:06that sort of thing.

0:16:06 > 0:16:08Noises in the attic.

0:16:08 > 0:16:15I was convinced that I had intruders or ghosts even.

0:16:15 > 0:16:19So I changed the locks, got a CCTV system.

0:16:19 > 0:16:22But, when I played the recording back,

0:16:22 > 0:16:26um, I sort of saw that I was the culprit.

0:16:26 > 0:16:32There I was laying the table for two with my best cutlery,

0:16:32 > 0:16:36so obviously I was expecting someone fairly important.

0:16:42 > 0:16:44- OK.- Why was there so much blood?

0:16:44 > 0:16:46It's just something that happens - the wound doesn't heal.

0:16:46 > 0:16:49- It simply keeps on bleeding. - So the clinic messed up?

0:16:49 > 0:16:51No, it's a minor thing.

0:16:51 > 0:16:55You know, she thought - my mother-in-law -

0:16:55 > 0:16:57she thought that I was over-reacting.

0:16:57 > 0:16:59She made me feel like...

0:17:00 > 0:17:03If I'd listened to her, he'd still be bleeding, wouldn't he?

0:17:03 > 0:17:06Look, I can understand you're upset, but this isn't anyone's fault.

0:17:06 > 0:17:09You did the right thing bringing him here.

0:17:09 > 0:17:12- And you're sure he doesn't need to go to the hospital?- Yeah.

0:17:12 > 0:17:16Just keep that dressing on and make sure you check it every couple of hours, OK?

0:17:21 > 0:17:23Excuse me, my wife should be here. Mrs Okotume.

0:17:23 > 0:17:25Yes, she is with Dr Tyler.

0:17:25 > 0:17:27If you'd like to take a seat.

0:17:27 > 0:17:29Is he all right? My boy?

0:17:29 > 0:17:32Well, I'm sure Dr Tyler will explain everything once he has finished.

0:17:32 > 0:17:36- Look, my son could be...- Chukka. I beg, do as the woman says and sit down.

0:17:39 > 0:17:40Is he all right?

0:17:40 > 0:17:43Yes. No thanks to you.

0:17:43 > 0:17:46There was a persistent bleed which I've stopped.

0:17:46 > 0:17:48It's a minor complication that can happen

0:17:48 > 0:17:50when you circumcise using forceps.

0:17:51 > 0:17:54So this is no-one's fault?

0:17:54 > 0:17:56It's all her fault!

0:17:56 > 0:17:58Going on and on at us to get it done.

0:17:58 > 0:17:59It is our tradition.

0:17:59 > 0:18:01Well, it's not mine!

0:18:01 > 0:18:02Dr Tyler, if you...

0:18:02 > 0:18:03Look, Joy...

0:18:03 > 0:18:09Don't! All you care about is what your family in Nigeria think.

0:18:09 > 0:18:10Well, fine.

0:18:10 > 0:18:13If you love them so much, you might as well go and live there

0:18:13 > 0:18:15and I'll decide what's best for my son.

0:18:17 > 0:18:19It's time for his feed. Where can I...

0:18:19 > 0:18:22You can use Dr Tyler's room. Go with her.

0:18:24 > 0:18:25Thanks.

0:18:25 > 0:18:26Joy!

0:18:28 > 0:18:32She will calm down. Maybe we should go home.

0:18:33 > 0:18:37I'm not going anywhere. Not until I speak to her.

0:18:41 > 0:18:44I'd like to clarify a few things with you if that's all right?

0:18:44 > 0:18:46Yes, of course.

0:18:46 > 0:18:49Is it fair to say that the moving of these household objects

0:18:49 > 0:18:51first occurred at about the time as you deciding to buy

0:18:51 > 0:18:53the property from Julia?

0:18:54 > 0:18:56Yes, I suppose it did.

0:18:56 > 0:19:00And am I right in saying that you ruled out a brain tumour

0:19:00 > 0:19:02prior to ruling out early onset dementia?

0:19:02 > 0:19:04Yes. That's correct.

0:19:05 > 0:19:07How often do these incidents happen?

0:19:11 > 0:19:15Ah, it's sort of hard to say. Once, twice a week, I think.

0:19:15 > 0:19:17And only at night?

0:19:17 > 0:19:19No, sometimes during the day.

0:19:21 > 0:19:23Oh, right, I see where this is going.

0:19:23 > 0:19:28You think because I'm not in control that I might be mentally ill.

0:19:28 > 0:19:32I can assure you, that is not the case.

0:19:36 > 0:19:38OK. You've made your point.

0:19:42 > 0:19:44I'm sorry. I came, didn't I?

0:19:48 > 0:19:49- Babe... - I mean it, Chukka.

0:19:50 > 0:19:53I am sick and tired of you putting her first.

0:19:53 > 0:19:55You know she won't be here for long.

0:19:55 > 0:19:58And when she goes back to Nigeria she'll still be giving orders.

0:20:01 > 0:20:03So you don't get us. Not any more.

0:20:05 > 0:20:07What do you mean, I don't get you?

0:20:07 > 0:20:10Me and Lawrence. We're going to stay with my sister.

0:20:10 > 0:20:14It's pretty obvious you're not that invested in this marriage anyway.

0:20:14 > 0:20:18Come on, Joy! You know I love you!

0:20:18 > 0:20:20But not as much as you love your mother.

0:20:20 > 0:20:22KNOCKING Yes?

0:20:23 > 0:20:27- How are we doing? - Fine. Thanks.

0:20:27 > 0:20:31Look, your mother-in-law was doing what she clearly thought was right.

0:20:31 > 0:20:34What you need to do is sit down and talk.

0:20:34 > 0:20:35Sort it out.

0:20:35 > 0:20:39Not just for your sakes, but for that little one, as well. OK?

0:20:46 > 0:20:49Have you considered psychosis at all?

0:20:49 > 0:20:51Certainly not!

0:20:51 > 0:20:55If you were suffering from psychosis then you'd be unaware of it.

0:20:55 > 0:20:57The only reason you know that it was you laying the table

0:20:57 > 0:20:59is because you recorded it.

0:20:59 > 0:21:03And you say you've been hearing things, which is another symptom.

0:21:05 > 0:21:09I believe you're experiencing some form of depression.

0:21:09 > 0:21:12Depression and psychosis can sometimes be connected.

0:21:12 > 0:21:15I am the most optimistic person that I know.

0:21:15 > 0:21:18Have you had any trouble sleeping?

0:21:18 > 0:21:20No, not really.

0:21:20 > 0:21:21No loss of appetite?

0:21:21 > 0:21:23What do you think?

0:21:23 > 0:21:25And you've had no suicidal thoughts?

0:21:27 > 0:21:31I think I've probably taken up enough of your time.

0:21:31 > 0:21:35Yes, perhaps we should leave it there for today.

0:21:35 > 0:21:37Don't worry - the first session tends to be difficult,

0:21:37 > 0:21:38but it does get easier.

0:21:38 > 0:21:40So, same time next week?

0:21:45 > 0:21:47So, I am the wicked person here?

0:21:47 > 0:21:50No-one's saying that, Mrs Okotume.

0:21:50 > 0:21:53If things had gone well, we would not be sitting here.

0:21:53 > 0:21:54There would be no problem.

0:21:54 > 0:21:55I don't know about that.

0:21:55 > 0:21:59Mrs Okotume, Joy tried to respect your ways, even though

0:21:59 > 0:22:01they went against everything she really felt.

0:22:01 > 0:22:04She's not saying that you forced her into it...

0:22:04 > 0:22:06I am! That's exactly what I'm saying!

0:22:06 > 0:22:09- Eh!- Joy.

0:22:09 > 0:22:10Go on. Side with her!

0:22:10 > 0:22:13Look, I'm not siding with her, but you're wrong.

0:22:13 > 0:22:15I forced you to do it.

0:22:15 > 0:22:18I let the pressure of wanting to please you and Dad get to me.

0:22:18 > 0:22:19What pressure?

0:22:19 > 0:22:22You play us off one another. Amechi's a doctor.

0:22:22 > 0:22:24Junior's wife's a lawyer.

0:22:24 > 0:22:26I thought you'd be pleased because Joy's from Nigeria but no,

0:22:26 > 0:22:28she's "too westernised."

0:22:29 > 0:22:30I dunno, if I'm such

0:22:30 > 0:22:33a disappointment, then maybe you should just go.

0:22:33 > 0:22:37You are casting out your own mother? Your own flesh and blood?

0:22:39 > 0:22:40No, but this is my family,

0:22:40 > 0:22:44and I'm going to do whatever it takes to make it work.

0:22:44 > 0:22:48All I have done is try to do my best for you.

0:22:48 > 0:22:52And that's what I'm trying to do for our son and my marriage.

0:22:54 > 0:22:57So, I must go this minute?

0:23:01 > 0:23:07No. You can stay the rest of your holiday, but I'm in charge.

0:23:07 > 0:23:11If you can't live with that, then you'll have to go somewhere else.

0:23:19 > 0:23:21PHONE RINGS

0:23:21 > 0:23:24Oliver, hi.

0:23:24 > 0:23:26'You're there!'

0:23:26 > 0:23:27Yes. How are you?

0:23:27 > 0:23:31Yeah, great. How are you? Did you get my message?

0:23:31 > 0:23:33I did. I'm really sorry I didn't get back to you,

0:23:33 > 0:23:35but it's been a bit manic here.

0:23:35 > 0:23:39That's fine. So, er, what do you think?

0:23:41 > 0:23:44I don't know, Oliver. I think we're very different.

0:23:44 > 0:23:47No, we're not, Niamh. We're great together.

0:23:47 > 0:23:48We're like...

0:23:48 > 0:23:50I just don't see a future.

0:23:50 > 0:23:52Oh, don't say that.

0:23:52 > 0:23:53'Oliver...'

0:23:53 > 0:23:56Just don't make any rash decisions, OK?

0:23:56 > 0:23:59Not before I've had a chance to prove to you that I'm right.

0:23:59 > 0:24:01Let me take you out tomorrow night.

0:24:01 > 0:24:03I don't know.

0:24:03 > 0:24:05Please?

0:24:05 > 0:24:07I've got to go. I've got a patient.

0:24:07 > 0:24:08OK, yeah, go, go.

0:24:08 > 0:24:10But tomorrow night, yes?

0:24:10 > 0:24:13I know the perfect place for us to talk.

0:24:13 > 0:24:14OK. Give me the address.

0:24:19 > 0:24:22Say "Dadda." Say "Dadda."

0:24:22 > 0:24:24He's too young, silly.

0:24:24 > 0:24:29Not if he's a genius. Which he will be, of course.

0:24:29 > 0:24:31- Just like his dad, then?- Hm-mm.

0:24:35 > 0:24:37I think I will go and take a nap.

0:24:40 > 0:24:44I think Lawrence might like a nap, too, with his grandmother.

0:24:44 > 0:24:46Thank you.

0:24:49 > 0:24:50Here we go.

0:24:59 > 0:25:01- Oh, hey.- Hi.

0:25:01 > 0:25:03I was just...

0:25:03 > 0:25:06Did you go out at lunchtime?

0:25:06 > 0:25:08I brought food for Emma cos she needed cheering up.

0:25:08 > 0:25:10Her Auntie Barbara's driving her up the wall, so...

0:25:10 > 0:25:12Oh, I thought...

0:25:12 > 0:25:15I thought you were avoiding me.

0:25:15 > 0:25:18Seriously? I thought you were avoiding me.

0:25:18 > 0:25:22Look, I need to say I'm sorry, I'm so sorry.

0:25:22 > 0:25:24I was just trying to impress you.

0:25:24 > 0:25:26I was just trying to impress you too!

0:25:27 > 0:25:32How's about we try it again? Something simple.

0:25:32 > 0:25:33Just me, you, pub?

0:25:35 > 0:25:36Sounds great.

0:25:37 > 0:25:39How about tomorrow night?

0:25:40 > 0:25:41Perfect.

0:25:42 > 0:25:43I can't wait.

0:25:57 > 0:25:58You're back!

0:25:58 > 0:26:00I realised how much I missed you.

0:26:00 > 0:26:03I've got a date with her, Dr Donoghue.

0:26:03 > 0:26:05Can I go?

0:26:05 > 0:26:07No, the police surgeon's on his way.

0:26:07 > 0:26:11You certainly always make me feel thirsty. What are you going to have?

0:26:11 > 0:26:14This is like the seventh circle of hell!

0:26:14 > 0:26:17Nah, this is prime pulling ground, mate.

0:26:17 > 0:26:18Get out, get out, get out!