Hell Is More Kind

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0:00:33 > 0:00:34CAR HORN

0:00:35 > 0:00:37SHE EXHALES

0:00:39 > 0:00:41CAR HORN Just a sec!

0:00:46 > 0:00:48One day at a time.

0:00:53 > 0:00:55- Hiya! Busy morning?- You know I have.

0:00:55 > 0:00:59Don't believe in easing people gently back into the workplace, do you?

0:00:59 > 0:01:04Well, don't pretend that you don't know you're Mr Popular.

0:01:04 > 0:01:07Half those visits were just people waiting for you to come back.

0:01:07 > 0:01:10- Really?- "Dr Clay understands me."

0:01:10 > 0:01:13"Dr Clay's got very soft hands."

0:01:13 > 0:01:16OK, moving swiftly on, is Emma here today, or is she over at the campus?

0:01:16 > 0:01:19- Neither. She phoned in sick. - Oh, right. OK.

0:01:20 > 0:01:22Home is the traveller.

0:01:22 > 0:01:25Jimmi, welcome back!

0:01:25 > 0:01:27- Really good to see you, mate. - Yeah. Hi.

0:01:27 > 0:01:30You look well! How was Thailand?

0:01:30 > 0:01:31Um...yeah, it was a real steep learning curve.

0:01:31 > 0:01:34I will be interested to hear all about it. How about lunch on me?

0:01:34 > 0:01:37You can tell me all about the spiritual side of your journey.

0:01:37 > 0:01:39OK. As long as you promise to tell me about the camping trip.

0:01:39 > 0:01:44Well, it would have been more fun if we'd been able to prise Joe from his tablet.

0:01:44 > 0:01:46We are trying to move away from technology.

0:01:46 > 0:01:49That's why I'm thinking of bringing mindfulness into the equation.

0:01:49 > 0:01:51- For Joe?- Yeah. For everything.

0:01:51 > 0:01:54That's why I'd be interested to hear your take on it.

0:01:54 > 0:01:56I've got to dash, but coffee before afternoon surgery?

0:01:56 > 0:01:57See you later.

0:02:02 > 0:02:03Did Zara just hug me?

0:02:03 > 0:02:07I should be done by 4.00. If I'm held up, I'll text.

0:02:11 > 0:02:13What?

0:02:13 > 0:02:15- Mindfulness?- Yes.

0:02:15 > 0:02:17I've been reading up on it recently.

0:02:17 > 0:02:19Some of the research is quite compelling.

0:02:19 > 0:02:22You do realise you'll have to make an emotional investment in your patients?

0:02:22 > 0:02:24Fully aware.

0:02:24 > 0:02:26Like, actually listen to them.

0:02:26 > 0:02:28Undivided, sympathetic attention.

0:02:28 > 0:02:32And you think I'm incapable of that because...?

0:02:32 > 0:02:33OK. You're serious.

0:02:33 > 0:02:36- I'll see you tonight. - I hope it goes well.

0:02:37 > 0:02:40It's only routine, nothing sinister.

0:02:40 > 0:02:44Maybe I should get my hearing checked, for all the listening(!)

0:02:44 > 0:02:46- KNOCK AT DOOR - Yep?

0:02:46 > 0:02:50Hi. I just wanted to welcome you back.

0:02:50 > 0:02:52Good to be back.

0:02:52 > 0:02:54So, how was it?

0:02:54 > 0:02:56It was worth every minute.

0:02:56 > 0:02:58So, um... I was wondering, um...

0:02:58 > 0:03:00the whole mind-over-matter part of Buddhism...?

0:03:00 > 0:03:02Here we go. Go on.

0:03:02 > 0:03:04Any tips on how it can help with self-confidence?

0:03:04 > 0:03:06Just be yourself.

0:03:06 > 0:03:08- Really? - Straight from Buddha's mouth.

0:03:08 > 0:03:10Look, I've only been on a course for a few weeks,

0:03:10 > 0:03:11I'm hardly the font of all knowledge, am I?

0:03:11 > 0:03:13I suppose not. Sorry.

0:03:13 > 0:03:16Give me chance to find my feet and we'll have a chat, yeah?

0:03:16 > 0:03:18What, a chat or a chant(?)

0:03:18 > 0:03:20SID LAUGHS

0:03:20 > 0:03:23Yeah. Sounds great, Jimmi. Cheers.

0:03:23 > 0:03:25Um...you any idea what's going on with Emma?

0:03:25 > 0:03:28No, sorry. I was at my parents' at the weekend.

0:03:28 > 0:03:30Ayesha mentioned something about flu, I think.

0:03:30 > 0:03:32All right. Thanks.

0:03:36 > 0:03:40- Afternoon.- Right, so I'm here, cap in hand, without a leg to stand on.

0:03:40 > 0:03:43My behaviour the other night... I'm a douche.

0:03:43 > 0:03:47That was something that was waiting to happen, wasn't it? So it's forgotten.

0:03:47 > 0:03:49No, it's not forgotten until I give a proper apology.

0:03:49 > 0:03:51- Accepted.- Really? That easy?

0:03:51 > 0:03:53Yep.

0:03:54 > 0:03:56Um...in with anger, out with love.

0:03:56 > 0:03:59- I'm chanting as we speak.- Ha!

0:04:04 > 0:04:05- Hello.- Zara Carmichael, 3.00.

0:04:05 > 0:04:08- Thank you.- Would you like to take a seat, please?- Thanks.

0:04:08 > 0:04:12But this is why follow-up appointments are vital.

0:04:12 > 0:04:13- I know. - Just because it got caught early...

0:04:13 > 0:04:16Doesn't mean that's the end of it, yeah.

0:04:19 > 0:04:20Can we just take a break?

0:04:21 > 0:04:25It's been eat, sleep, think breast cancer for the last year.

0:04:25 > 0:04:27All right. End of.

0:04:28 > 0:04:31No more on the subject until we're in there.

0:04:33 > 0:04:34Checkup?

0:04:34 > 0:04:35I'm sorry?

0:04:35 > 0:04:38You seem quite young for routine checks.

0:04:38 > 0:04:40Unless... Oh.

0:04:40 > 0:04:42Prevention is better than cure.

0:04:42 > 0:04:44Sorry! Huh! Nosy.

0:04:44 > 0:04:47It gets to the point where it becomes all shared experience.

0:04:47 > 0:04:50Thea. Vince.

0:04:50 > 0:04:53We've learned to develop a united front kind of thing.

0:04:53 > 0:04:55I understand.

0:04:55 > 0:04:57You read everything on the subject,

0:04:57 > 0:05:00but you still hope you can find out more from pooled knowledge.

0:05:00 > 0:05:06I have become an expert at asking questions, and getting answers.

0:05:06 > 0:05:08And has it gone well?

0:05:08 > 0:05:11Early diagnosis, which you learn is the best-case scenario.

0:05:11 > 0:05:13- Absolutely.- Mm. And the treatment...

0:05:15 > 0:05:19- Well...- Who knew vomit could have so many different forms of consistency?

0:05:19 > 0:05:22Well, you were prescribed an anti-emetic, though?

0:05:22 > 0:05:24More drugs.

0:05:24 > 0:05:25Drugs which helped.

0:05:27 > 0:05:28Hoping we're on the home stretch now.

0:05:28 > 0:05:31That's good. No sign of secondary...?

0:05:31 > 0:05:33Metastases? It's OK, we know what the word means.

0:05:33 > 0:05:36Oh, absolutely, of course. A lot of people wouldn't.

0:05:36 > 0:05:38You know it.

0:05:38 > 0:05:39I'm a doctor.

0:05:39 > 0:05:42Really? Do you see a lot of cancer patients?

0:05:42 > 0:05:45- Well... - What's your view, as an observer?

0:05:47 > 0:05:50It...is not just the physical impact,

0:05:50 > 0:05:52it's the emotional and psychological, as well.

0:05:52 > 0:05:57But, as you said yourself, finding the right support can make all the difference.

0:05:57 > 0:05:59Miss Carmichael?

0:05:59 > 0:06:00Hm! Excuse me.

0:06:07 > 0:06:11See? Finding the right support. What have I said?

0:06:14 > 0:06:16LOUD DRILLING

0:06:32 > 0:06:34SHE GROANS

0:06:37 > 0:06:39Where are you going?

0:06:39 > 0:06:40Pee. That OK?

0:06:40 > 0:06:43They're going to call us in any minute.

0:06:45 > 0:06:47TEXT ALERT

0:06:50 > 0:06:52SHE CHUCKLES

0:06:58 > 0:07:02Ha-ha, Granger. Smutty boy!

0:07:02 > 0:07:05The technician was the same woman it always is.

0:07:05 > 0:07:09And it's a black one, by the way. New, with purple lace.

0:07:09 > 0:07:12I might let you see it later.

0:07:12 > 0:07:14But then again, I might not. Bye!

0:07:19 > 0:07:22- What the hell?! - Please! I'm not weird or anything!

0:07:22 > 0:07:24- I just wanted to talk to you. - Get out!

0:07:24 > 0:07:27Listen a sec. I thought you'd understand, being a doctor.

0:07:27 > 0:07:29Understand what?!

0:07:29 > 0:07:33That you've just abandoned your wife to face whatever the consultant is going to tell her all on her own?!

0:07:33 > 0:07:35- She'll be fine. - How can you say that?!

0:07:35 > 0:07:40How cold and selfish do you need to be to run out at a time like this?!

0:07:40 > 0:07:44Do you have you any idea how emotional having breast cancer can be?

0:07:44 > 0:07:46More than you know.

0:07:47 > 0:07:49She's not the one who had it, I am.

0:08:04 > 0:08:06Where are you?

0:08:06 > 0:08:09They're going to call us in any minute. Get back here!

0:08:12 > 0:08:14I know it's cowardly.

0:08:14 > 0:08:17Cowards get cancer like everyone else, though.

0:08:17 > 0:08:21You shouldn't look at it that way.

0:08:21 > 0:08:22It's taken over my whole life.

0:08:24 > 0:08:26Everyone's so understanding.

0:08:26 > 0:08:30Time off work, private health care through Thea's company insurance.

0:08:31 > 0:08:34You say that like it's a bad thing.

0:08:34 > 0:08:35The results are good.

0:08:35 > 0:08:37I'm cancer-free.

0:08:37 > 0:08:38But...

0:08:40 > 0:08:41There's always a "but".

0:08:43 > 0:08:45Which is?

0:08:45 > 0:08:47It's all been kind of...

0:08:50 > 0:08:54When you step into a fog, you know where you are, but you don't.

0:08:54 > 0:08:57Like you're being erased, or...or replaced.

0:08:57 > 0:08:59Replaced?

0:08:59 > 0:09:01By someone who has no choice but to deal with it!

0:09:03 > 0:09:07Sometimes all I've wanted to do is just step outside my life for a bit.

0:09:07 > 0:09:09Escape.

0:09:10 > 0:09:12That's what you're heading towards, isn't it?

0:09:12 > 0:09:15Successful operation, end of treatment.

0:09:17 > 0:09:18Getting your life back.

0:09:18 > 0:09:20But they don't, do they?

0:09:22 > 0:09:24Your hair grows back, your scars fade, but...

0:09:26 > 0:09:28..you're not you.

0:09:28 > 0:09:30I sympathise, I really do.

0:09:32 > 0:09:35But you need to go back in there,

0:09:35 > 0:09:37go to your appointment

0:09:37 > 0:09:39and tell all of this to Thea.

0:09:40 > 0:09:41Right, fine.

0:09:41 > 0:09:44Because she's been such a good listener(!)

0:09:46 > 0:09:47Vince?

0:09:50 > 0:09:52SHE SIGHS

0:09:59 > 0:10:01- Mrs Ridley?- Oh, Mrs Kewn.

0:10:02 > 0:10:06Sorry...he went to the bathroom and now he's...

0:10:08 > 0:10:10- I'm not sure.- Not sure?

0:10:10 > 0:10:12I think he was a bit on edge about today.

0:10:14 > 0:10:15OK. Well...

0:10:17 > 0:10:21I can move the appointment back by 45 minutes?

0:10:21 > 0:10:23Thank you! Thank you so much!

0:10:25 > 0:10:26I really don't know what this is about.

0:10:32 > 0:10:34I don't need baby-sitting.

0:10:34 > 0:10:36I shouldn't have bothered you.

0:10:37 > 0:10:43Look, I appreciate you wanting to abdicate responsibility.

0:10:45 > 0:10:47Why don't you tell me about that?

0:10:50 > 0:10:52Thea went into battle mode.

0:10:52 > 0:10:57Downloaded case studies, statistics, healthy eating.

0:10:58 > 0:11:01Focus on the good bits, count yourself lucky.

0:11:03 > 0:11:06And...?

0:11:06 > 0:11:08It's someone else's words and experience.

0:11:08 > 0:11:10One size fits all.

0:11:11 > 0:11:15I understand you wanting to wish yourself back to a time before your diagnosis,

0:11:15 > 0:11:18but that's not going to happen.

0:11:18 > 0:11:19I know.

0:11:23 > 0:11:24Would you stop for a moment?

0:11:26 > 0:11:30Has anyone discussed mindfulness with you?

0:11:30 > 0:11:31No.

0:11:31 > 0:11:33Well, it might help.

0:11:33 > 0:11:37There's a certain technique, it's very simple.

0:11:41 > 0:11:43LOUD DRILLING

0:11:55 > 0:11:56Chris, it's me.

0:11:58 > 0:12:03Oh, I'm sorry, I... I hadn't worked out the time difference.

0:12:03 > 0:12:07I don't know whether you're sleeping or you're at work. I'm sorry.

0:12:09 > 0:12:11I was just ringing for a chat, really.

0:12:13 > 0:12:15See how you are.

0:12:16 > 0:12:19Anyway...give me a call.

0:12:22 > 0:12:23Bye!

0:12:26 > 0:12:28LOUD DRILLING

0:12:29 > 0:12:31Oh, shut up, shut up, shut up!

0:12:37 > 0:12:40You not hungry? Go on, have a chip.

0:12:40 > 0:12:41I'm fine. Thanks.

0:12:44 > 0:12:46Proper savoury tartar sauce.

0:12:46 > 0:12:48Real chips, not them skinny jobs.

0:12:48 > 0:12:50- HE CHUCKLES - Brilliant!

0:12:50 > 0:12:54I went through periods where everything tasted like cardboard.

0:12:54 > 0:12:56Not uncommon.

0:12:56 > 0:12:58Thea monitors everything I eat.

0:12:58 > 0:13:02First meal I've had in ages that didn't come with the words

0:13:02 > 0:13:05"macrobiotic" or "carcinogenic" attached to the conversation.

0:13:05 > 0:13:07Hm! Have you had much loss of appetite?

0:13:09 > 0:13:11You can take a break from being the doctor.

0:13:11 > 0:13:12This is so good!

0:13:14 > 0:13:17I hate to be that person, but you might want to go easy.

0:13:17 > 0:13:19Such a heavy meal might be a mistake if you're not used to it.

0:13:22 > 0:13:24HE VOMITS

0:13:24 > 0:13:25ZARA SIGHS

0:13:36 > 0:13:38Now, that's a proper pavement pizza.

0:13:38 > 0:13:41I'm loathe to say I told you so.

0:13:43 > 0:13:46It's the real stuff, not that chemo vomit.

0:13:46 > 0:13:49Taking pleasure in small things.

0:13:49 > 0:13:51That's what mindfulness teaches.

0:13:52 > 0:13:54Sounds a bit naff.

0:13:54 > 0:13:57What, and appreciating your own vomit isn't?

0:13:58 > 0:14:00Is it just that men don't like to talk about these things?

0:14:00 > 0:14:02They don't like sharing?

0:14:03 > 0:14:05No-one does.

0:14:05 > 0:14:07You must've had patients clamming up about it.

0:14:09 > 0:14:11Or the people around them.

0:14:11 > 0:14:14Half the time, they don't know what to say.

0:14:14 > 0:14:16What do you say to them?

0:14:18 > 0:14:20Thea handles that.

0:14:20 > 0:14:21She's the official PR.

0:14:23 > 0:14:26"Oh, he's all right. He's really, really OK."

0:14:26 > 0:14:28"Oh, he's so brave!"

0:14:28 > 0:14:29But I'm not.

0:14:32 > 0:14:34She decided I was.

0:14:34 > 0:14:38- I see.- I don't even have breast cancer, according to her.

0:14:38 > 0:14:40It's just cancer.

0:14:40 > 0:14:42It's not a good image.

0:14:42 > 0:14:44So you leave people to draw their own conclusions.

0:14:45 > 0:14:47It's easy enough.

0:14:47 > 0:14:50You see them thinking prostate or testicular.

0:14:50 > 0:14:52Or worse.

0:14:54 > 0:14:59So, something more acceptable? More manly?

0:14:59 > 0:15:00Yeah.

0:15:00 > 0:15:02Do you feel emasculated?

0:15:04 > 0:15:06She asked me that.

0:15:06 > 0:15:08Right before she booked an appointment for the sperm bank

0:15:08 > 0:15:11just in case the treatment left me firing blanks.

0:15:13 > 0:15:14And what did you tell her?

0:15:15 > 0:15:17How do you answer a question like that?

0:15:17 > 0:15:21Your wife, with a pink ribbon for breast-cancer awareness,

0:15:21 > 0:15:23asking if you feel less of a man.

0:15:25 > 0:15:26Breaking out of this pattern,

0:15:26 > 0:15:31this way of thinking, would be a real step forward.

0:15:32 > 0:15:34Why don't you give it a try?

0:15:36 > 0:15:39I mean, as indiscretions go, it was strictly internal.

0:15:39 > 0:15:42Mrs Tembe's reaction to it was completely over the top.

0:15:42 > 0:15:44- I'm surprised...- I know.

0:15:44 > 0:15:48I was humiliated and undermined for the most trivial reasons.

0:15:48 > 0:15:50Can I finish?

0:15:50 > 0:15:53I'm surprised that you haven't realised how serious this is.

0:15:53 > 0:15:56- Sorry?- Mrs Tembe did everything by the book.

0:15:56 > 0:15:57I see.

0:15:57 > 0:16:01If, by that, you're implying that after years of working in the medical profession,

0:16:01 > 0:16:04I don't understand the protocol of confidentiality, then...

0:16:04 > 0:16:08In our jobs, there are so many areas concerned with that,

0:16:08 > 0:16:10and I've no doubt that you can be trusted with most.

0:16:10 > 0:16:12Most?

0:16:12 > 0:16:15Valerie, it seems to me that you are well-versed

0:16:15 > 0:16:17in the legal grey areas that we all face...

0:16:17 > 0:16:21So, what, in your opinion, am I doing so wrong?

0:16:22 > 0:16:25It would be unethical for me to say anything in his absence.

0:16:27 > 0:16:31You know I have made all the big decisions since this started.

0:16:31 > 0:16:33Maybe that's the point.

0:16:33 > 0:16:35Perhaps he sees the burden you're carrying

0:16:35 > 0:16:37and doesn't want to add to it any further.

0:16:37 > 0:16:41Yeah. Because running off really lightens the load(!)

0:16:41 > 0:16:43You'll have to ask him why he did it.

0:16:43 > 0:16:48He will talk to Macmillan nurses until the cows come home.

0:16:49 > 0:16:52Laugh...joke.

0:16:52 > 0:16:54But me, I...

0:16:54 > 0:16:57I'm left second-guessing, deciding.

0:16:58 > 0:17:00I think you're doing very well.

0:17:02 > 0:17:05Some patients don't cope, or just give up.

0:17:07 > 0:17:09Do you think Vince would do that without you?

0:17:11 > 0:17:12I don't know.

0:17:13 > 0:17:15And I am close to not caring.

0:17:18 > 0:17:21Focusing on things which you wouldn't normally notice.

0:17:21 > 0:17:23And this helps because...?

0:17:24 > 0:17:28Well, you're developing a more positive mind-body balance.

0:17:31 > 0:17:34It's going to be a hard sell to Thea, after all that research.

0:17:35 > 0:17:38You give the impression that you're fighting her

0:17:38 > 0:17:40as much as you are the illness.

0:17:42 > 0:17:44That's a hell of a battle.

0:17:45 > 0:17:47I'm beginning to understand why you ran away.

0:17:49 > 0:17:50Interpersonal boundaries?

0:17:52 > 0:17:53What does that even mean?

0:17:53 > 0:17:57It covers the day-to-day things that we all have to negotiate at work.

0:17:57 > 0:18:01You mean...? Is this me talking about my cancer?

0:18:01 > 0:18:02No, but as an example,

0:18:02 > 0:18:05you would have to respect the privacy of a colleague

0:18:05 > 0:18:08who chose not to share that information under the same circumstances.

0:18:08 > 0:18:10Well, course I would...if I knew about it.

0:18:10 > 0:18:13Of course, if they kept it to themselves, I might not.

0:18:13 > 0:18:15Of course, of course.

0:18:15 > 0:18:17All right, let's try another example.

0:18:17 > 0:18:20Um... Would you tell Karen about a row you'd had with your boyfriend?

0:18:20 > 0:18:22I haven't got a boyfriend.

0:18:22 > 0:18:24If you had a boyfriend.

0:18:24 > 0:18:26Well, Karen's a friend, as well as a colleague.

0:18:26 > 0:18:29Right, OK. And if you heard gossip about somebody else's boyfriend,

0:18:29 > 0:18:31would you share that with her?

0:18:31 > 0:18:33Well...no.

0:18:33 > 0:18:36Because that would be crossing the line, wouldn't it?

0:18:36 > 0:18:40- Look, if this is about Sid... - Of course it's about Sid.

0:18:40 > 0:18:42You told him things that you'd heard in confidence.

0:18:42 > 0:18:46Yes, but they were about him. Surely he had a right to know?

0:18:46 > 0:18:49- Anyway, I didn't tell him any facts. - Which made it worse.

0:18:49 > 0:18:53You told him he was being spoken about in the partners' meeting, but not why.

0:18:53 > 0:18:55And your gossip quickly became an issue.

0:18:55 > 0:18:58Quite frankly, Valerie, if you don't understand the consequences of that,

0:18:58 > 0:19:01we'll have to consider if working here is right for you.

0:19:04 > 0:19:08Only six missed calls and one text message.

0:19:08 > 0:19:09She's gone home.

0:19:09 > 0:19:11You don't say(!)

0:19:11 > 0:19:14Well, that's a lecture waiting to happen.

0:19:14 > 0:19:15How irresponsible am I?

0:19:15 > 0:19:18Smacked bum, stand in the corner.

0:19:20 > 0:19:22Look, perhaps don't take the lecture.

0:19:22 > 0:19:25Maybe talk to her, have a proper adult conversation

0:19:25 > 0:19:27about the things you've told me.

0:19:27 > 0:19:28Adult conversation?

0:19:31 > 0:19:34You know, there's one thing this diagnosis has really made me see.

0:19:35 > 0:19:37We don't grow up.

0:19:37 > 0:19:39We pretend we're adults, but...

0:19:40 > 0:19:42..only because it's expected.

0:19:42 > 0:19:45So, that's what this afternoon's been about?

0:19:45 > 0:19:48Fish and chips, playing, running away.

0:19:50 > 0:19:54I've never had to pretend to be grown up more than I have since all this started.

0:19:55 > 0:19:59And it's the time where I've most wanted to...shake it off.

0:19:59 > 0:20:01Not be an adult.

0:20:01 > 0:20:03- Why?- I don't know.

0:20:06 > 0:20:07Because adults die?

0:20:09 > 0:20:11When you're a kid, you're so far away from that.

0:20:13 > 0:20:17OK, well, there's being childish

0:20:17 > 0:20:19and there's being child-like.

0:20:20 > 0:20:22And there's being yourself.

0:20:22 > 0:20:24Who's that?

0:20:28 > 0:20:33My advice is...don't sweat the small stuff.

0:20:36 > 0:20:38What it is to be grown up.

0:20:38 > 0:20:40What it is to be a man.

0:20:42 > 0:20:46I've seen cancer rob people of what it is to be human.

0:20:48 > 0:20:49What it is to be themselves.

0:20:51 > 0:20:53Am I close to that, in your opinion?

0:20:54 > 0:20:56Not even.

0:21:00 > 0:21:03You are right about something.

0:21:03 > 0:21:05The fog.

0:21:06 > 0:21:08I understand that.

0:21:12 > 0:21:14So...mindfulness.

0:21:16 > 0:21:18Well, you would be the ideal candidate.

0:21:19 > 0:21:22Although I think the blade of grass was a bit of a mistake.

0:21:22 > 0:21:24- THEY LAUGH - Maybe.

0:21:26 > 0:21:28Any chance of a lift home?

0:21:28 > 0:21:31Mindful observation of your driving skills.

0:21:34 > 0:21:36Come on.

0:21:38 > 0:21:41Where the hell have you been?! I have worried myself...

0:21:41 > 0:21:43Oh!

0:21:43 > 0:21:45Hello again.

0:21:46 > 0:21:47I needed time to think.

0:21:48 > 0:21:52And Zara - Dr Carmichael - helped.

0:21:52 > 0:21:54After I gave her no choice.

0:21:54 > 0:21:56What does that mean?!

0:21:56 > 0:21:57Actually, I don't care.

0:21:59 > 0:22:01Today has been one more day

0:22:01 > 0:22:04where I have been to hell and back over this.

0:22:04 > 0:22:06Lucky you.

0:22:08 > 0:22:10What?

0:22:10 > 0:22:12Hell is probably a kinder place to end up than heaven.

0:22:12 > 0:22:14Have you been drinking?

0:22:14 > 0:22:16Hell has lower expectations of us.

0:22:16 > 0:22:18It knows we're not perfect.

0:22:21 > 0:22:23I think you should hear him out.

0:22:32 > 0:22:35Riding out my feelings, staying on top.

0:22:37 > 0:22:39Being positive and brave.

0:22:40 > 0:22:41These are all heavenly ideals.

0:22:43 > 0:22:45And I've hated them most of the time.

0:22:45 > 0:22:47Rubbish!

0:22:48 > 0:22:51All you have had to do is keep a grip on things

0:22:51 > 0:22:53and take your medication.

0:22:53 > 0:22:56No. No, there's more to it than that.

0:22:56 > 0:22:57Like what?

0:22:57 > 0:23:00The emotional impact it's had on Vince.

0:23:00 > 0:23:04The feelings of abandonment, of emasculation.

0:23:04 > 0:23:06You're a doctor!

0:23:07 > 0:23:11You should understand the importance of a treatment regime.

0:23:11 > 0:23:13The right course of action for his prognosis.

0:23:13 > 0:23:16Vince has been coming to an understanding

0:23:16 > 0:23:17of the impact of his condition.

0:23:17 > 0:23:21Well, thank you for your limp contribution

0:23:21 > 0:23:23and for indulging his behaviour.

0:23:23 > 0:23:25Will you just listen for once?!

0:23:25 > 0:23:28He's trying to see the positive in everything.

0:23:29 > 0:23:32Zara's been trying to teach me about mindfulness.

0:23:32 > 0:23:35Oh! Wonderful(!)

0:23:37 > 0:23:39You can make all the decisions, then,

0:23:39 > 0:23:41since he won't see his oncologist, or bother with me.

0:23:41 > 0:23:43No!

0:23:45 > 0:23:49Zara's really helped me out this afternoon, and I'm grateful.

0:23:50 > 0:23:52But I make my own decisions now.

0:23:52 > 0:23:54No-one else.

0:23:57 > 0:23:58Come on.

0:24:02 > 0:24:03Emma?

0:24:06 > 0:24:09- She's not in there. - No? She's not in the kitchen.

0:24:09 > 0:24:11Her car's here. Emma?

0:24:15 > 0:24:17Emma?

0:24:17 > 0:24:19KNOCK AT DOOR

0:24:19 > 0:24:20Emma?

0:24:22 > 0:24:23Emma, are you OK?

0:24:26 > 0:24:29Emma? Emma! Emma!

0:24:29 > 0:24:31- Jimmi, what's wrong with her?! - Let me see, let me see.

0:24:31 > 0:24:34Emma! Right, what have you taken?!

0:24:34 > 0:24:36- Ooo! Grief! - HE CHUCKLES

0:24:36 > 0:24:38You've wasted an entire afternoon!

0:24:40 > 0:24:42The clinic's just over there. Why not...?

0:24:42 > 0:24:44It'll still be there tomorrow.

0:24:46 > 0:24:48One of us has got to be grown up about this.

0:24:49 > 0:24:52Take some responsibility for your life.

0:24:53 > 0:24:55Responsible, maybe.

0:24:56 > 0:24:57Grown up?

0:24:57 > 0:24:59Never again!

0:24:59 > 0:25:01Why?

0:25:02 > 0:25:05Tell me, because I don't get it.

0:25:08 > 0:25:09You do look a bit...

0:25:12 > 0:25:13..less stressed, though.

0:25:16 > 0:25:19That might be the fish and chips I had earlier.

0:25:19 > 0:25:21You're kidding?! After all the advice...!

0:25:24 > 0:25:26Your choice.

0:25:32 > 0:25:33THEY LAUGH

0:25:35 > 0:25:37Come on, I'll race you to the swings.

0:25:37 > 0:25:39- What?- Come on!

0:25:42 > 0:25:44Have you taken anything else?

0:25:44 > 0:25:47Don't be stupid. I wasn't trying to end it all.

0:25:47 > 0:25:49What, then?

0:25:51 > 0:25:52The fog.

0:25:52 > 0:25:54The fog?

0:25:54 > 0:25:56Look, can you go now?

0:25:56 > 0:25:58No. It doesn't work like that!

0:25:58 > 0:26:00Come on, Emma, what were you trying to achieve?

0:26:03 > 0:26:05I just wanted to stop feeling, that's all.

0:26:08 > 0:26:09Sam.

0:26:11 > 0:26:12Howard.

0:26:14 > 0:26:16Chris leaving.

0:26:20 > 0:26:21The baby dying.

0:26:25 > 0:26:27Baby Nicolas.

0:26:29 > 0:26:31The needle stick, I...

0:26:33 > 0:26:35I'm so tired.

0:26:35 > 0:26:37Well, look, I'm going to have to let the practice know

0:26:37 > 0:26:41- and the other partners will need to be informed.- What? No! Don't!

0:26:41 > 0:26:43- What for?- Because she needs a psych evaluation.

0:26:43 > 0:26:45We don't know that she's fit to treat patients.

0:26:45 > 0:26:48Don't you see? It's not about other people.

0:26:51 > 0:26:52I had a patient.

0:26:54 > 0:26:56He said he was on so much medication...

0:26:58 > 0:27:01..he felt like he was living life through a fog.

0:27:05 > 0:27:06That's what I want.

0:27:10 > 0:27:11Not death.

0:27:14 > 0:27:16Just oblivion.

0:27:24 > 0:27:26- Jimmi won't say anything.- Won't he?!

0:27:26 > 0:27:29He is a partner, so surely he'll have to tell the others, won't he?

0:27:29 > 0:27:31Guys, could we talk later?

0:27:31 > 0:27:33Is there a problem, Dr Clay?

0:27:33 > 0:27:35She's the spit of someone I used to hang out with.

0:27:35 > 0:27:38- EMMA:- You really don't have to make this official.

0:27:38 > 0:27:41You don't have to tell anybody.

0:27:41 > 0:27:43Would you look at you!

0:27:43 > 0:27:44I thought you were dead.