0:00:36 > 0:00:38BRIEF KNOCK
0:00:38 > 0:00:41- Hi, Aggie.- Oh, sorry I'm late, love. Our bleeding Leslie again!
0:00:41 > 0:00:44- QUIETLY:- Sorry! - It's all right.
0:00:47 > 0:00:48Any change?
0:00:49 > 0:00:51They don't think he'll be long now.
0:00:52 > 0:00:54Then again, they told me two months ago
0:00:54 > 0:00:57he wouldn't survive the weekend and he's still hanging on.
0:00:59 > 0:01:01He doesn't want to leave you, love.
0:01:02 > 0:01:04You wouldn't believe it was the same man, would you?
0:01:04 > 0:01:06I mean, just look at him.
0:01:07 > 0:01:08Just skin and bone.
0:01:08 > 0:01:10It's just a shell, love.
0:01:10 > 0:01:13His spirit's just as strong as ever.
0:01:13 > 0:01:14Eh, you...
0:01:16 > 0:01:18When you finally do get up there...
0:01:19 > 0:01:21You'd better give Lenny and my mam
0:01:21 > 0:01:23a massive hug from me.
0:01:24 > 0:01:25D'you hear me?
0:01:28 > 0:01:30You heard from Michael?
0:01:30 > 0:01:32He's had to go to London for some big meeting,
0:01:32 > 0:01:34he couldn't get out of it.
0:01:35 > 0:01:37HE GASPS
0:01:37 > 0:01:38You're all right.
0:01:38 > 0:01:40You're all right.
0:01:40 > 0:01:42You're all right. Mike, we're here.
0:01:42 > 0:01:44Mike, we're here, love.
0:01:44 > 0:01:46We're here.
0:01:46 > 0:01:47We're here with you.
0:01:47 > 0:01:48LABOURED BREATHING
0:01:48 > 0:01:50You're all right.
0:01:50 > 0:01:52You're all right.
0:02:16 > 0:02:18PHONE RINGS
0:02:24 > 0:02:25Hi, love.
0:02:25 > 0:02:27Hiya, Mum.
0:02:27 > 0:02:28Just... Just a sec.
0:02:36 > 0:02:39Sorry about that, love, I've come out into the corridor.
0:02:39 > 0:02:41- Where are you? - Just on my way to Euston now.
0:02:41 > 0:02:45- When's the next train?- Just after eight, should get me in about 10:30.
0:02:45 > 0:02:47How is he?
0:02:47 > 0:02:49Still hanging on.
0:02:49 > 0:02:50Just.
0:02:50 > 0:02:52I'll be there as soon as I can, Mum.
0:02:52 > 0:02:57- OK. Right, well, I'd better get back in.- I'll see you soon. Ta-ra.
0:02:57 > 0:02:58Ta-ra, love.
0:03:06 > 0:03:10CONTINUOUS BEEP
0:03:14 > 0:03:16Oh, no!
0:03:17 > 0:03:19No!
0:03:19 > 0:03:21NO!
0:03:23 > 0:03:25Oh, no!
0:03:28 > 0:03:30SHE EXHALES
0:04:03 > 0:04:06I still can't believe I wasn't with him at the end.
0:04:07 > 0:04:09It happens a lot. You'd be surprised.
0:04:11 > 0:04:14I must have been out of that room just for two minutes, that's all.
0:04:14 > 0:04:16Don't beat yourself up.
0:04:16 > 0:04:19They often wait for loved ones to leave before they feel they can go.
0:04:20 > 0:04:22You couldn't have done more for him.
0:04:24 > 0:04:26I'm so sorry.
0:04:45 > 0:04:46I can't believe he's actually gone.
0:04:46 > 0:04:48No more suffering.
0:04:51 > 0:04:53Go on, go a bit closer.
0:04:54 > 0:04:56- I'm scared.- What are you scared of?
0:04:56 > 0:04:59You know what a wind-up merchant he was.
0:04:59 > 0:05:02- I'm half expecting him to jump up or something.- Don't be daft!
0:05:03 > 0:05:05Go on, it's OK.
0:05:17 > 0:05:19Bye, Dad.
0:05:44 > 0:05:45Only me!
0:05:47 > 0:05:49Look what was on the path.
0:05:50 > 0:05:51It's a sign, girl.
0:05:53 > 0:05:54He's with you.
0:05:56 > 0:05:57They're here.
0:06:03 > 0:06:06MUTED CONVERSATION
0:06:09 > 0:06:13- I didn't even know your Leslie was pregnant again.- I did tell you.
0:06:13 > 0:06:16You never. How many grandkids will that be now?
0:06:16 > 0:06:19This'll be number seven. I don't even know why they bother
0:06:19 > 0:06:22having them. They just dump them on soft girl here half the time.
0:06:22 > 0:06:25- She loves it really.- Mm!- What about you?
0:06:25 > 0:06:28- Are you seeing anyone?- No.
0:06:28 > 0:06:32- No, no, no. All work and no play for me.- Tell you what, love.
0:06:32 > 0:06:34I wish all my kids were gay.
0:06:34 > 0:06:36I might have a bit of bloody peace, then!
0:06:42 > 0:06:44Wasn't it an amazing turnout?
0:06:45 > 0:06:47Ah, they really did him proud.
0:07:02 > 0:07:04GLASSES CHINK
0:07:12 > 0:07:14LAUGHTER
0:07:16 > 0:07:18No, but the best one...
0:07:18 > 0:07:21The best one was when we went to the pictures to see The Exorcist,
0:07:21 > 0:07:24- do you remember? - Oh, wait till you hear this!- Oh,
0:07:24 > 0:07:26how petrified were we leaving that cinema?
0:07:26 > 0:07:29So there was no way I was going back to that house on my own.
0:07:29 > 0:07:31So I said she could come back to ours.
0:07:31 > 0:07:33You know what your dad was like.
0:07:33 > 0:07:35Oh, he thought it was hilarious that we were so scared.
0:07:35 > 0:07:39So he goes up to bed and we stayed up having a drink and a gab...
0:07:39 > 0:07:41After a while, I go upstairs.
0:07:41 > 0:07:44And I'm just about to get into bed
0:07:44 > 0:07:46when I hear this...
0:07:46 > 0:07:49weird scratching sound coming from the wardrobe.
0:07:49 > 0:07:52Well, you can imagine me, I completely froze.
0:07:52 > 0:07:55Then, the next thing, there's this almighty bang
0:07:55 > 0:07:57and both the doors burst open!
0:07:59 > 0:08:02- Honest to God, you should have heard her!- I absolutely...
0:08:02 > 0:08:05I swear to God, you could hear her in Outer Mongolia!
0:08:05 > 0:08:07And there's your father, your father,
0:08:07 > 0:08:10creased up double in absolute hysterics.
0:08:10 > 0:08:13Must've been sitting in that wardrobe for hours
0:08:13 > 0:08:14waiting for her to go to bed!
0:08:14 > 0:08:17- I'm surprised I didn't drop dead on the spot.- He loved winding her up.
0:08:17 > 0:08:19Is it any wonder I'm a nervous wreck?!
0:08:19 > 0:08:23I dread to think what mayhem he'll be causing up there now.
0:08:23 > 0:08:24God!
0:08:24 > 0:08:25Give us that.
0:08:25 > 0:08:27Oh, God!
0:08:28 > 0:08:32MUSIC: For The Good Times by Perry Como
0:08:43 > 0:08:45# Don't look so sad
0:08:48 > 0:08:51# I know it's over
0:08:54 > 0:08:57# But life goes on
0:08:57 > 0:08:59# And this ol' world
0:09:00 > 0:09:03# Will keep on turning
0:09:05 > 0:09:11# Let's just be glad we had some time
0:09:11 > 0:09:14# To spend together
0:09:16 > 0:09:23# There's no need to watch the bridges that we're burning
0:09:26 > 0:09:29# Lay your head
0:09:31 > 0:09:33# Upon my pillow... #
0:09:35 > 0:09:36Here y'are, love.
0:09:38 > 0:09:42He hasn't been home, you know, since the funeral, Michael.
0:09:42 > 0:09:44He's been away in London for a few days with work,
0:09:44 > 0:09:47then Frankfurt, then...
0:09:47 > 0:09:51- Delhi.- Oh, he's done so well for himself, hasn't he?- Mm.
0:09:53 > 0:09:57I suppose I should be grateful that he's getting on with his life.
0:09:57 > 0:09:59People grieve in all different kinds of ways, you know.
0:10:01 > 0:10:03- Yeah.- How about you?
0:10:04 > 0:10:05How have you been?
0:10:07 > 0:10:08Oh, you know.
0:10:08 > 0:10:11One minute, I think I'm doing OK and the next minute I'm running
0:10:11 > 0:10:14out of the shop in floods of tears cos they're playing a sad song.
0:10:15 > 0:10:17I wish I could say it gets easier.
0:10:18 > 0:10:21I went to see the doctor yesterday.
0:10:21 > 0:10:23She wanted to put me on antidepressants.
0:10:23 > 0:10:25Whatever gets you through.
0:10:26 > 0:10:28I'm heartbroken, I'm not depressed
0:10:28 > 0:10:31and I don't want anything just to mask the pain.
0:10:34 > 0:10:36I met him when I was 15!
0:10:37 > 0:10:39I've never known anything else.
0:10:42 > 0:10:43I...
0:10:44 > 0:10:47I just can't get my head around the fact that I'm never going to
0:10:47 > 0:10:49speak to him again.
0:10:49 > 0:10:52What would you say to him if you could?
0:10:52 > 0:10:53I...
0:10:53 > 0:10:57I'd tell him I was so sorry that I...
0:10:57 > 0:10:59wasn't with him at the end.
0:10:59 > 0:11:01Who's to say you can't still speak to him?
0:11:03 > 0:11:05Remember when Lenny died?
0:11:05 > 0:11:10I started going to that Spiritualist Church in town with Josie Kane.
0:11:10 > 0:11:12You know what I think about all that.
0:11:12 > 0:11:14Yeah, and I felt exactly the same.
0:11:15 > 0:11:17Till he came through.
0:11:18 > 0:11:20And I can't tell you how moving it was.
0:11:27 > 0:11:30I can't believe you've talked me into this.
0:11:30 > 0:11:31Come on, it's only a laugh.
0:11:33 > 0:11:35I'm supposed to be a good Catholic.
0:11:35 > 0:11:38Yeah, so are half the other people in there an' all!
0:11:38 > 0:11:39Oh, look...
0:11:39 > 0:11:41I know you're scared to come,
0:11:41 > 0:11:44but I can guarantee the spirits will be with us tonight.
0:11:44 > 0:11:46Vodka and Coke!
0:11:47 > 0:11:50Oh, come on. Let's get in there, before you change your mind.
0:11:55 > 0:11:58I'd like to welcome you all here tonight.
0:11:58 > 0:12:02My name is Doreen Alan and I'm the chair of this spiritualist church.
0:12:02 > 0:12:07Tonight, we're joined by Mary Combs, one of our regular visiting mediums.
0:12:08 > 0:12:10Now, before we start,
0:12:10 > 0:12:13if I could just ask you all to bow your heads in prayer.
0:12:16 > 0:12:21Dear Lord, we pray for those who've recently made their transition
0:12:21 > 0:12:24back home to the spirit world.
0:12:25 > 0:12:27And we wish them well with their progression.
0:12:28 > 0:12:31We also remember the animal kingdom, who give us
0:12:31 > 0:12:36so much love and devotion and ask so little in return.
0:12:38 > 0:12:42And lastly, my friends, ask for healing for yourselves.
0:12:43 > 0:12:47For any physical ailment you're suffering from or any
0:12:47 > 0:12:49stresses of the mind you're going through.
0:12:50 > 0:12:52Ask for healing.
0:12:53 > 0:12:55Ask for peace of mind.
0:12:57 > 0:12:58Thank you.
0:12:59 > 0:13:01Now, any newcomers in tonight?
0:13:03 > 0:13:06- Don't say anything. - Oh, two or three. Now...
0:13:07 > 0:13:10If a spirit does come forward for you...
0:13:11 > 0:13:15..we just ask you not to talk about it until after the service is over.
0:13:17 > 0:13:19I appreciate how exciting it is to get a message...
0:13:19 > 0:13:22- MOUTHS: (Strong!)- ..chattering away,
0:13:22 > 0:13:25Mary might think she's hearing spirits, when it's just you lot!
0:13:27 > 0:13:30We always like to start with a song and tonight,
0:13:30 > 0:13:33I've selected hymn number 17.
0:13:35 > 0:13:38MUSIC STRIKES UP
0:13:38 > 0:13:39Hymn?
0:13:45 > 0:13:49# I closed my eyes
0:13:49 > 0:13:52# Drew back the curtain
0:13:53 > 0:13:56# To see for certain
0:13:56 > 0:14:01# What I thought I knew
0:14:01 > 0:14:03# Far, far away
0:14:04 > 0:14:08# Someone was weeping
0:14:08 > 0:14:12# And the world was sleeping
0:14:12 > 0:14:15# Any dream will do. #
0:14:16 > 0:14:19Hello, good evening, everyone.
0:14:19 > 0:14:21OK, so how do I work? Well...
0:14:22 > 0:14:26Spirit test us every day and every single way, believe you me.
0:14:27 > 0:14:31So sometimes I'll go directly to one person, sometimes I'll get
0:14:31 > 0:14:34more collective information and then I'll just push it out
0:14:34 > 0:14:39into the congregation and I'll see which of you put up your hand, OK?
0:14:40 > 0:14:43Now, remember - it isn't just about the tears that we feel
0:14:43 > 0:14:44we need to shed, OK?
0:14:44 > 0:14:48It is perfectly fine to have a little laugh and a giggle,
0:14:48 > 0:14:50cos I like to bring out that feeling of love
0:14:50 > 0:14:53and laughter in people, you know?
0:14:53 > 0:14:56Right, should we get started? Ho-ho-ho-ho...
0:14:56 > 0:15:00I think we've got some lovely bubbly characters coming through.
0:15:00 > 0:15:04In fact, I think the Irish are on their way, to tell you the truth.
0:15:04 > 0:15:05Um...
0:15:07 > 0:15:11You. You, there, in the furry jacket, yeah. You.
0:15:11 > 0:15:14As I said that, did you feel... the connection to the Irish?
0:15:15 > 0:15:17No.
0:15:17 > 0:15:19Oh, you don't understand it?
0:15:19 > 0:15:21No.
0:15:21 > 0:15:24I can really feel a connection to Ireland around here.
0:15:24 > 0:15:26Um, what about you ladies either side?
0:15:28 > 0:15:32- You can understand it? - My husband's family is from Belfast.
0:15:32 > 0:15:33That's it.
0:15:33 > 0:15:36You see, initially I was drawn to this lady,
0:15:36 > 0:15:40but there was such a strong feeling of Ireland around here.
0:15:40 > 0:15:41There's this feeling of needing...
0:15:43 > 0:15:46..activity and fun and laughter for you.
0:15:46 > 0:15:49Do you know why I'm saying this to you right now?
0:15:50 > 0:15:53There's a lovely lady drawing close.
0:15:53 > 0:15:57And she's telling me she's a mother. Do you understand?
0:15:57 > 0:16:00A mother in spirit. She's standing to your left there.
0:16:01 > 0:16:04Ah, look. I can see you're shedding a tear.
0:16:04 > 0:16:07She's telling me you've shed a lot more tears than this over
0:16:07 > 0:16:10the past few years, haven't you?
0:16:10 > 0:16:11She's acknowledging that, right?
0:16:13 > 0:16:16And, I... Am I feeling a lung condition?
0:16:17 > 0:16:20- Not my mum, no.- No? You can't take that?
0:16:21 > 0:16:24Oh, she's talking about the dishes,
0:16:24 > 0:16:26she's saying, "Get those dishes done!"
0:16:26 > 0:16:29Do you understand why I'm saying that to you? The sink!
0:16:29 > 0:16:33Thought I was looking at my own kitchen, there!
0:16:33 > 0:16:35Listen, try and get that done, will you, please?
0:16:35 > 0:16:38Cos I'm trying to help release the pressure for you. OK?
0:16:41 > 0:16:42God bless.
0:16:48 > 0:16:53I mean, who hasn't got a load of unwashed dishes sitting in the sink?
0:16:53 > 0:16:54Oh!
0:16:54 > 0:16:58But did you see her eyes fill up when she talked about her mam?
0:16:59 > 0:17:02The mother who she said had a lung condition when she never?
0:17:02 > 0:17:05Well, it can't be easy for her.
0:17:05 > 0:17:08With all those different messages coming through from all sides.
0:17:09 > 0:17:11SHE SCOFFS
0:17:26 > 0:17:28DOOR CLOSES
0:17:28 > 0:17:30Hiya, Mum - only me.
0:17:37 > 0:17:40- I was beginning to get paranoid.- Hm?
0:17:40 > 0:17:44- I've lost count of the number of messages I've left.- Oh!
0:17:44 > 0:17:46Yeah, I'm sorry. It's just...
0:17:46 > 0:17:47It's been so mental at work.
0:17:49 > 0:17:51Oh...
0:17:53 > 0:17:54Look what I found in his wardrobe.
0:17:57 > 0:18:01Paid a fortune for that when we were in Prague.
0:18:01 > 0:18:03Money well spent, I'd say!
0:18:03 > 0:18:06I've lost count of the number of times he got Aggie with it!
0:18:06 > 0:18:08Do you remember the wig, as well?
0:18:10 > 0:18:11He bought that in Madrid.
0:18:11 > 0:18:14He used to buy something daft every time we went away.
0:18:15 > 0:18:17That wasn't cheap, either.
0:18:18 > 0:18:21When we came home, he told Aggie he'd had a hair transplant,
0:18:21 > 0:18:24the silly cow fell for it!
0:18:24 > 0:18:26What do you think?
0:18:28 > 0:18:30You're as cracked as he is.
0:18:31 > 0:18:34- Have you seen much of Aggie?- Yeah.
0:18:34 > 0:18:36Yeah. Actually, I...
0:18:36 > 0:18:39She dragged me along to this spiritualist church the other night.
0:18:40 > 0:18:42Spiritualist church?
0:18:43 > 0:18:45- Mm.- You're not serious?
0:18:45 > 0:18:46Oh, it was just a laugh.
0:18:46 > 0:18:49Yeah, if you find exploiting vulnerable, grieving people funny.
0:18:49 > 0:18:52I can just imagine what me dad'd say if he was still here.
0:18:52 > 0:18:54Well, he's not here, is he?
0:18:58 > 0:19:02- So you started sorting through his stuff, then?- Um...
0:19:02 > 0:19:04I've not really had chance.
0:19:04 > 0:19:07Well, I'm off at the weekend, I could give you a hand if you like.
0:19:07 > 0:19:10I was thinking maybe we could donate his clothes to a homeless
0:19:10 > 0:19:14- shelter or something, what do you think? - I can't really, this weekend.
0:19:14 > 0:19:15OK.
0:19:17 > 0:19:19When you're ready, just give us a shout.
0:19:20 > 0:19:21I'd better get back.
0:19:22 > 0:19:25OK. Don't stay away too long.
0:19:25 > 0:19:27Yeah. And you...
0:19:28 > 0:19:31..stay away from those spiritualist churches, you hear me?
0:19:38 > 0:19:41SHE SIGHS
0:19:41 > 0:19:42DOOR CLOSES
0:19:53 > 0:19:56Right, lady in the middle, there. With the butterflies.
0:19:57 > 0:20:01You are surrounded by children, absolutely loads of kids.
0:20:01 > 0:20:05- Oh, yeah, yeah.- Can you acknowledge where these children are from?
0:20:05 > 0:20:07- I work with children. - You work with them, yeah?
0:20:07 > 0:20:09Well, you've got a lovely energy around you.
0:20:09 > 0:20:13And the lady who's giving me information, she seems
0:20:13 > 0:20:16like an older lady, I wouldn't say a mother, more of a grandmother.
0:20:18 > 0:20:19She's been watching you.
0:20:19 > 0:20:22And she's been watching the way you've been helping those children
0:20:22 > 0:20:25and she's been watching the way you've been, um...
0:20:26 > 0:20:31..an effective role model. She's giving me managerial terms here!
0:20:31 > 0:20:32Are you a manager or something?
0:20:32 > 0:20:35Well, I've just had a promotion, yeah.
0:20:35 > 0:20:36Oh, brill!
0:20:36 > 0:20:39I'm delighted! Oh, that's fab.
0:20:39 > 0:20:41No wonder she's so chuffed.
0:20:41 > 0:20:44You know, she showed me one of those football thingies - wahey!
0:20:45 > 0:20:47It's funny, the things they show you.
0:20:48 > 0:20:49Right.
0:20:49 > 0:20:51Now...
0:20:51 > 0:20:54Who is the lady who stands in front of the kitchen sink
0:20:54 > 0:20:57looking down the garden and daydreaming?
0:20:57 > 0:20:59QUIETLY: Sounds like me!
0:20:59 > 0:21:00Is that yourself?
0:21:04 > 0:21:05I can really feel that.
0:21:07 > 0:21:08Yeah, it could be.
0:21:11 > 0:21:13You know that song, For the Good Times?
0:21:13 > 0:21:15I feel like I want to sing that to you,
0:21:15 > 0:21:16but I'll spare you my shocking voice!
0:21:18 > 0:21:20Have you been going down memory lane recently?
0:21:20 > 0:21:22Just a little bit, yeah.
0:21:22 > 0:21:24Yeah.
0:21:24 > 0:21:27Those feelings that have been coming over your mind all the time,
0:21:27 > 0:21:29they've been making you feel really low.
0:21:30 > 0:21:34Well, I want to try and get you to concentrate on the love
0:21:34 > 0:21:37side of things and the lessons you've learned to take forward.
0:21:41 > 0:21:44Right, now...I'm getting a man.
0:21:44 > 0:21:46And he feels like a large man.
0:21:46 > 0:21:48I'm not being rude here, I don't mean fat,
0:21:48 > 0:21:52I mean this man did proper manual labour.
0:21:54 > 0:21:57- That's my... My husband.- Is he in spirit?
0:21:59 > 0:22:02He's telling me that he liked to have a drink after work, "Have a
0:22:02 > 0:22:04"nice little drink", he's saying.
0:22:04 > 0:22:07That was his "achievement", he's saying.
0:22:07 > 0:22:11"That was my luxury, that was my luxury at the end of each day,
0:22:11 > 0:22:13"I used to look forward to the end of work
0:22:13 > 0:22:15"to going to the pub and having a pint."
0:22:15 > 0:22:17Spending time with his friends.
0:22:18 > 0:22:21Yeah, and there's a lot of people with him now.
0:22:21 > 0:22:23Friends and family that passed a while ago.
0:22:25 > 0:22:28So you were there when he passed, right?
0:22:31 > 0:22:34Well, I was at the hospice, but I wasn't actually with him, no.
0:22:40 > 0:22:41He's telling me something about
0:22:41 > 0:22:44the holding of a hand as he passed into spirit?
0:22:46 > 0:22:48I promised I'd be with him, but I...
0:22:49 > 0:22:51No, no, no. He understands.
0:22:51 > 0:22:55He's saying that he knew you were with him in here
0:22:55 > 0:22:58and THAT is all that matters.
0:22:58 > 0:23:00Please, let go of any more guilt.
0:23:00 > 0:23:02OK?
0:23:04 > 0:23:07Have you got any idea why they might be showing me computers?
0:23:08 > 0:23:10My son's a graphic designer.
0:23:10 > 0:23:12Oh, now he's more like his dad, isn't he, than you?
0:23:12 > 0:23:15Right chip off the old block, eh?
0:23:15 > 0:23:18They didn't see eye-to-eye all the time when he was on earth, did they?
0:23:18 > 0:23:21But he wants him to know...
0:23:21 > 0:23:23that he couldn't be any more proud of him
0:23:23 > 0:23:26and he couldn't love him any more, OK?
0:23:28 > 0:23:31- God bless you, love. - Thank you.
0:23:31 > 0:23:34Well, ladies and gentlemen, that's all we've got time for.
0:23:34 > 0:23:36I'm really sorry that I couldn't reach everyone,
0:23:36 > 0:23:40but I hope you took some comfort from somebody else's reading.
0:23:40 > 0:23:43OK, let's bow our heads. Gracious divine spirits, we thank you...
0:23:48 > 0:23:50My hands! I can't stop shaking!
0:23:50 > 0:23:52I'm not surprised.
0:23:52 > 0:23:55I've got us large ones, I think we need them after that.
0:23:56 > 0:23:58And you know how he loved that song.
0:23:58 > 0:24:01He loved everything by Perry Como because of his dad.
0:24:01 > 0:24:03They're probably all up there right now,
0:24:03 > 0:24:05having a good old sing-along with Perry himself!
0:24:05 > 0:24:08As soon as she started talking to you,
0:24:08 > 0:24:10I felt the hairs on my arms shoot up.
0:24:10 > 0:24:13- It was like he was standing right there with us.- I know.
0:24:13 > 0:24:16- I felt the blood completely drain out of my body.- See!
0:24:16 > 0:24:17What did I tell you?
0:24:19 > 0:24:21I know they're not always 100% accurate,
0:24:21 > 0:24:23but there's definitely something in it.
0:24:23 > 0:24:26- What about all the stuff about the hospice?- I know!
0:24:26 > 0:24:28I mean, how could she know that?
0:24:28 > 0:24:31- How exactly did she put it, again? - Well, she knew, didn't she?
0:24:31 > 0:24:33She knew you'd been carrying around all this guilt
0:24:33 > 0:24:36because you weren't with him when he passed.
0:24:36 > 0:24:40I feel as if a great weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
0:24:40 > 0:24:41Oh, I'm made up for you, girl.
0:24:43 > 0:24:45I knew he'd come through for you, I just knew it.
0:24:45 > 0:24:49- What about that stuff she said about Michael?- Oh, yes, spot-on again.
0:24:49 > 0:24:53I mean, we both know Mike struggled when he first came out,
0:24:53 > 0:24:55but he worshipped the ground he walked on.
0:24:55 > 0:24:58He'd have killed anybody who said a bad word against him.
0:24:58 > 0:25:01- Are you going to say anything to him?- Oh, I doubt it.
0:25:01 > 0:25:03He can be very cynical about this sort of thing.
0:25:03 > 0:25:05This is different, Kath.
0:25:05 > 0:25:07Mike's passed on a message for him.
0:25:08 > 0:25:10You can't keep that from him.
0:25:15 > 0:25:18- That was lovely, I'm stuffed. - No, leave it. Leave it.
0:25:18 > 0:25:20- I'll do it later.- Sure?- Mm.
0:25:23 > 0:25:25I went to mass this morning.
0:25:25 > 0:25:28And I lit two candles, one from both of us.
0:25:28 > 0:25:31I know you don't believe...
0:25:31 > 0:25:34Still a nice thing to do, though, isn't it?
0:25:34 > 0:25:36Talking of your dad...
0:25:36 > 0:25:38There's something else I really need to tell you.
0:25:41 > 0:25:44I know you think I'm gullible, but please just hear me out on this.
0:25:44 > 0:25:45Go on.
0:25:48 > 0:25:52Well, me and Aggie went back to the spiritualist church the other night.
0:25:52 > 0:25:55And I'm starting to think there might be something in it.
0:25:57 > 0:25:59I got a message from your dad.
0:26:00 > 0:26:03Look, I, I've... I know what you're thinking.
0:26:03 > 0:26:06But I swear to you, the sort of stuff she was saying,
0:26:06 > 0:26:08she couldn't possibly have made it up.
0:26:08 > 0:26:09Like what?
0:26:10 > 0:26:12Well, loads of things. I mean, like...
0:26:12 > 0:26:15She knew that you were a graphic designer.
0:26:15 > 0:26:17What, she actually said that?
0:26:17 > 0:26:19I can't remember the exact words she used,
0:26:19 > 0:26:22but she definitely said you work with computers.
0:26:22 > 0:26:24Who doesn't work with computers these days?
0:26:24 > 0:26:26Hm.
0:26:26 > 0:26:27Maybe, but...
0:26:28 > 0:26:30But you should have heard how she described your dad to me.
0:26:30 > 0:26:34She described his build, his job.
0:26:34 > 0:26:36She even knew he went in the Farmer's every night.
0:26:36 > 0:26:39She actually said the Farmer's?
0:26:39 > 0:26:42Well, no, but she knew he loved a pint after work.
0:26:42 > 0:26:44Well, find me a fella round here who doesn't!
0:26:44 > 0:26:48Well, I'm just not explaining it very well, that's all.
0:26:48 > 0:26:51Mum... They're just very good at reading people.
0:26:51 > 0:26:52That's what they do.
0:26:53 > 0:26:54Well, maybe.
0:26:54 > 0:26:57But how does that explain her knowing about you and your dad?
0:26:57 > 0:27:01- What about us?- She knew that you didn't always see eye to eye.
0:27:01 > 0:27:05Oh, wow, we she really that specific? You must have been blown away.
0:27:05 > 0:27:07Oh, I knew you'd just laugh at me.
0:27:07 > 0:27:08Mum, I'm not laughing at you.
0:27:10 > 0:27:13I know you're grieving. But Dad's gone.
0:27:13 > 0:27:15He's not sending you messages from beyond the grave.
0:27:15 > 0:27:19- How can you be sure of that? How can anybody be?- Because it's the truth.
0:27:19 > 0:27:22No, it's your truth, but it's not mine!
0:27:22 > 0:27:24Nobody knows for certain what happens to us when we die, nobody!
0:27:24 > 0:27:27Yes, and the same goes for some so-called medium.
0:27:27 > 0:27:30Oh, what would you know? Because your mind is closed.
0:27:30 > 0:27:33You've never been there, you don't know what it's like.
0:27:33 > 0:27:36Because I've never been so stupid or naive, Mum!
0:27:36 > 0:27:38Oh, Mum, I'm sorry, I didn't mean...
0:27:38 > 0:27:40Just forget it, I wish I'd never opened my mouth.
0:27:46 > 0:27:48SINGING: # If you feel the wonder
0:27:51 > 0:27:54# Of a fairy tale
0:27:55 > 0:27:58# You can take the future
0:28:00 > 0:28:02# Even if you fail
0:28:04 > 0:28:09# I believe in angels
0:28:11 > 0:28:14# Something good in everything I see
0:28:15 > 0:28:18# I believe in angels
0:28:19 > 0:28:24# When I know the time is right for me
0:28:24 > 0:28:28# I'll cross the stream
0:28:28 > 0:28:32# I have a dream
0:28:33 > 0:28:37# I'll cross the stream
0:28:37 > 0:28:39# I have a dream. #
0:28:39 > 0:28:42Er, £2, please, sir.
0:28:42 > 0:28:45Oh, right, yeah. Course. Sorry.
0:28:46 > 0:28:48- Thank you.- Ta.
0:28:48 > 0:28:50Thank you, everyone.
0:28:53 > 0:28:56As I explained earlier, we were supposed to be joined
0:28:56 > 0:29:01tonight by our guest medium Mark Jenkins, but unfortunately,
0:29:01 > 0:29:05he had to cancel due to unforeseen circumstances.
0:29:05 > 0:29:10But I am delighted to say that the ever reliable Mary Coombs has
0:29:10 > 0:29:12come to our rescue once again.
0:29:12 > 0:29:15- Hello! - APPLAUSE
0:29:16 > 0:29:19What is going on with this weather, you don't know
0:29:19 > 0:29:22whether to take out your brolly or your bikini, do you?
0:29:22 > 0:29:26Anybody get caught in that downpour earlier? How horrible was that?
0:29:26 > 0:29:29Well, I was in the car, luckily, but my little windscreen wipers
0:29:29 > 0:29:32were going like the clappers all the way here.
0:29:32 > 0:29:33Now, speaking of cars, I think
0:29:33 > 0:29:36somebody might be having a bit of an issue with theirs.
0:29:36 > 0:29:39- Mine needs an MOT!- That might be it!
0:29:39 > 0:29:41Well, look, it's not a big thing,
0:29:41 > 0:29:43it's just a little blessing,
0:29:43 > 0:29:44but get it sorted out.
0:29:45 > 0:29:48And I wouldn't be surprised when you go there
0:29:48 > 0:29:52if you bump into someone that you haven't seen for years,
0:29:52 > 0:29:54because I feel that you've got
0:29:54 > 0:29:57a lot of love coming to you, OK?
0:29:57 > 0:29:58God bless.
0:29:59 > 0:30:01OK, piano. Who's got a piano?
0:30:02 > 0:30:05- Have you been playing the piano? - Well, years ago, yeah.
0:30:05 > 0:30:07Well, they know.
0:30:07 > 0:30:11They're saying we know everything you do and we're so proud of you.
0:30:14 > 0:30:17Now, what's the American connection?
0:30:17 > 0:30:20- I'm getting someone saying something about America?- No.
0:30:20 > 0:30:22No, you can't get that?
0:30:22 > 0:30:24Well, look, I think I'll be budging over somewhere,
0:30:24 > 0:30:27because I can definitely feel something about America.
0:30:27 > 0:30:29Oh, gentleman at the back there.
0:30:29 > 0:30:31Could you take an American connection?
0:30:36 > 0:30:40Er, I've been to America a few times, yeah.
0:30:40 > 0:30:41Well, there you go.
0:30:41 > 0:30:43Now, I think you've got some unfinished business there,
0:30:43 > 0:30:46because it's calling you back, you know.
0:30:46 > 0:30:49Also, I think you have a link
0:30:49 > 0:30:52with the date 12 July.
0:30:55 > 0:30:58That to me is Orange Day. You know, the Protestant day.
0:30:58 > 0:31:01And you've got a link, a family link...
0:31:01 > 0:31:05Protestant and a Catholic family link as well.
0:31:05 > 0:31:08I mean, up there in spirit world, it makes no difference,
0:31:08 > 0:31:10they're all equal. I mean, they like a bit of banter,
0:31:10 > 0:31:12but you know, it's all good-humoured.
0:31:12 > 0:31:18- My dad's Protestant, my mum was Catholic.- Oh, well, there you go.
0:31:18 > 0:31:21Ooh! Now, I'm feeling a bit breathy.
0:31:21 > 0:31:24Yeah, that's a heavy smoker there. I can tell, because I can smell smoke.
0:31:24 > 0:31:27Oh! I think there must be some kind of celebration coming up,
0:31:27 > 0:31:30cos they're handing me a cigar!
0:31:30 > 0:31:32Have you got an anniversary or big birthday coming up?
0:31:35 > 0:31:38- It's my birthday next month. - Well, there you are.
0:31:38 > 0:31:40They're just letting you know, they're getting ready to
0:31:40 > 0:31:42celebrate with you. Now...
0:31:42 > 0:31:45I have got a lady here
0:31:45 > 0:31:48giving you so much love.
0:31:48 > 0:31:50She's a mother, do you understand?
0:31:50 > 0:31:53A mother in spirit and she's doing this.
0:31:54 > 0:31:58It's like the umbilical cord is still attached, is attached to you
0:31:58 > 0:32:02and you know, I know that when you're a baby, you cut the cord,
0:32:02 > 0:32:06but she's saying that you're still linked with this cord
0:32:06 > 0:32:10and you always will be, it's a silver cord.
0:32:10 > 0:32:16She's trying so hard to prove how much she loves you.
0:32:16 > 0:32:19- Can you feel it? How close she is to you at this moment?- Yeah.
0:32:19 > 0:32:21Definitely. In fact, there she is.
0:32:21 > 0:32:22Sitting just down there.
0:32:24 > 0:32:26Oh, well, I was so sure I was
0:32:26 > 0:32:29communicating with someone in spirit.
0:32:29 > 0:32:32So I don't understand, if my mum is still alive,
0:32:32 > 0:32:34what's all this stuff about umbilical cords?
0:32:34 > 0:32:38Well, sometimes, when we telepathically link to the mind
0:32:38 > 0:32:42of a spirit, there's a possibility of a crossover to people on earth.
0:32:42 > 0:32:47So what's happened here is, I think, I felt the energy between you two
0:32:47 > 0:32:50in this room and I didn't realise that it was a living connection.
0:32:50 > 0:32:54Oh, right. So you weren't actually talking to a dead person,
0:32:54 > 0:32:57you were reading both our minds, instead?
0:32:57 > 0:32:59I think we should probably move on.
0:32:59 > 0:33:03We've an awful lot of people in tonight hoping to receive a message.
0:33:03 > 0:33:05Sorry, can I just ask one more question?
0:33:05 > 0:33:11- Mum, is this the same one who contacted my dad last week?- Yes.
0:33:11 > 0:33:13Right. Well, I hate to tell you this,
0:33:13 > 0:33:16but you definitely got your psychic wires crossed on that one.
0:33:16 > 0:33:19Cos I can assure you, dead or alive, there's no way in a million years
0:33:19 > 0:33:22my dad would ever waste his time with a fraud like you.
0:33:22 > 0:33:24I'm sorry, my love, but if you're going to be negative...
0:33:24 > 0:33:26And if you really are hearing voices in your head...
0:33:26 > 0:33:29..or offensive, we'll have to ask you to leave.
0:33:29 > 0:33:32I'd go see a psychiatrist if I were you. Don't worry, I'm going.
0:33:36 > 0:33:38Apologies for that, everyone.
0:33:38 > 0:33:41We all know that there's a lot of very cynical people out there
0:33:41 > 0:33:43and that is entirely their prerogative.
0:33:50 > 0:33:52What the hell are you playing at?
0:33:52 > 0:33:55I've never been so mortified in the whole of my life.
0:33:55 > 0:33:58I'll never be able to show my face in there again.
0:33:58 > 0:34:00- Good!- What is the matter with you?
0:34:00 > 0:34:02- I'll wait in the pub.- Oh, come on.
0:34:02 > 0:34:05If you can't see what a load of rubbish it is now, you never will.
0:34:05 > 0:34:06So you came here to prove a point?
0:34:06 > 0:34:08- Cos you've always got to be right. - No.
0:34:08 > 0:34:11I just wanted to see for myself what it was all about.
0:34:11 > 0:34:12I didn't know she would approach me, did I?
0:34:12 > 0:34:15No, but you were quite happy to lead her on a merry dance.
0:34:15 > 0:34:18Think she did a pretty good job of that on her own.
0:34:18 > 0:34:20I find something that brings me comfort
0:34:20 > 0:34:23and you are determined to take it away from me.
0:34:23 > 0:34:26- Mum...- How dare you?
0:34:26 > 0:34:27Mum.
0:34:28 > 0:34:31Oh, right - so you're more than happy to contact the dead,
0:34:31 > 0:34:33but then turn your back on the living?
0:34:35 > 0:34:38- Who are you to lecture anyone on that?- You what?
0:34:38 > 0:34:42Well, let's face it, it's no wonder you don't want to receive a message
0:34:42 > 0:34:45from your dad now, cos you barely bothered with him when he was alive!
0:34:46 > 0:34:50Oh, don't look at me like that, because we both know it's true.
0:34:50 > 0:34:54Mum, I know you're hurting, but believe me,
0:34:54 > 0:34:57you're searching for answers in all the wrong places.
0:34:57 > 0:35:00I wouldn't be searching at all, would I, if it wasn't you?
0:35:00 > 0:35:01What's that supposed to mean?
0:35:03 > 0:35:05Let's... Forget it. Leave it.
0:35:05 > 0:35:07No, no, no. Come on, say it.
0:35:11 > 0:35:13All I know is...
0:35:15 > 0:35:18..that when your father was diagnosed,
0:35:18 > 0:35:22I made him a promise that I would be with him when he passed.
0:35:23 > 0:35:26And thanks to you, I broke that promise.
0:35:28 > 0:35:29Because of me?
0:35:34 > 0:35:38You... You knew he barely had days left.
0:35:39 > 0:35:42And yet you STILL wouldn't cancel some meeting...
0:35:42 > 0:35:45that was so important to you!
0:35:51 > 0:35:54Why do you think I left that room in the first place?
0:35:57 > 0:36:02Because you were calling again with some bloody excuse!
0:36:18 > 0:36:19HE SNIFFS
0:36:29 > 0:36:31PHONE RINGS
0:36:51 > 0:36:53PHONE RINGS
0:37:03 > 0:37:05Please leave a message after the tone.
0:37:05 > 0:37:07BEEP
0:37:07 > 0:37:08Mum, it's me again.
0:37:08 > 0:37:10Just give me a call when you can.
0:37:46 > 0:37:47You want a biscuit?
0:37:54 > 0:37:57I can't stop thinking about what you said the other day.
0:37:59 > 0:38:01I feel absolutely terrible, Mum.
0:38:03 > 0:38:07And I know I wasn't there for him much towards the end.
0:38:07 > 0:38:10But I'd hate for you to think it's because I didn't care.
0:38:11 > 0:38:14Mum, you know what Dad was like, he didn't do serious.
0:38:15 > 0:38:17He only ever talked about footy or work.
0:38:20 > 0:38:22Just normal stuff, like everyone else.
0:38:25 > 0:38:27Even when he was in the hospice...
0:38:29 > 0:38:33..and I had all the stuff in my head, that I knew I had to say,
0:38:33 > 0:38:34but I could never find the words...
0:38:36 > 0:38:39And even in that last week, when I knew time was running out...
0:38:39 > 0:38:41That if I didn't say it,
0:38:41 > 0:38:44I'd end up regretting it for the rest of my life, so what did I do?
0:38:45 > 0:38:48I threw myself into work, ran off back to London to some stupid
0:38:48 > 0:38:50meeting I could have cancelled like that.
0:38:52 > 0:38:54And now...
0:38:59 > 0:39:01So, what exactly did you want to say?
0:39:03 > 0:39:04That I loved him.
0:39:06 > 0:39:08And how grateful I was that he was always...
0:39:09 > 0:39:13..so accepting of me because I know it wasn't always easy for him...
0:39:18 > 0:39:19And that I'm sorry.
0:39:20 > 0:39:22Sorry? What for?
0:39:24 > 0:39:26If I've been a disappointment to him.
0:39:28 > 0:39:31What the hell are you talking about?
0:39:31 > 0:39:33Come on.
0:39:33 > 0:39:35Look at Aggie and her kids.
0:39:35 > 0:39:37Grandkids I've deprived you both of.
0:39:37 > 0:39:39Oh, you didn't deprive us of anything.
0:39:41 > 0:39:45I wouldn't swap places with Aggie for a big clock.
0:39:46 > 0:39:47When you have kids, it's...
0:39:49 > 0:39:51It's like you never really die.
0:39:51 > 0:39:54It's like your genes live on through them and then their kids...
0:39:54 > 0:39:58Yeah, exactly, and your dad lives on through you.
0:39:58 > 0:40:00But, Mum, I'm the end of the line.
0:40:02 > 0:40:03Aren't I?
0:40:03 > 0:40:04When my time comes, I really will die
0:40:04 > 0:40:06and I'll be taking you all down with me.
0:40:06 > 0:40:09Well, it's just as well we won't be around!
0:40:17 > 0:40:20You are more like your dad than you'll ever know.
0:40:21 > 0:40:24That's why sometimes I could smash your face in!
0:40:27 > 0:40:30Good job you've inherited some of his better traits.
0:40:33 > 0:40:36You're kind and you're generous and...
0:40:36 > 0:40:39you've got his same wicked sense of humour and...
0:40:40 > 0:40:42Not to mention his good looks.
0:40:45 > 0:40:47Never underestimate how much your dad loved you.
0:40:50 > 0:40:52He was so proud of you.
0:40:55 > 0:40:57He would not have changed you for the world.
0:41:00 > 0:41:02If ever I need to feel close to your dad...
0:41:04 > 0:41:06..all I've got to do is look at you.
0:41:09 > 0:41:11Oh, come here, soft lad.
0:41:33 > 0:41:34KNOCKING
0:41:38 > 0:41:39- Hiya!- Hiya.
0:41:40 > 0:41:43- Oh, someone's been busy! - Yeah, well...
0:41:43 > 0:41:45It just felt like the right time.
0:41:45 > 0:41:47Oh, may as well let someone else make good use of it.
0:41:47 > 0:41:51That's just what Michael said. He's been great. He did the bulk of it.
0:41:51 > 0:41:54Couple more bags upstairs, would you give me a hand?
0:41:54 > 0:41:57- Then I'll make as a cuppa. - Yeah, course.
0:41:57 > 0:42:00- So has Michael been today?- Yeah, you've just missed him, actually.
0:42:00 > 0:42:02Oh, that's a shame.
0:42:02 > 0:42:05- So are you two back on track? - Yeah.- Oh, great.
0:42:09 > 0:42:10Feels funny being up here.
0:42:14 > 0:42:16Aww. Seems like yesterday.
0:42:17 > 0:42:19Scary, isn't it?
0:42:19 > 0:42:21You might be clearing out his stuff,
0:42:21 > 0:42:23but you'll never clear out the memories.
0:42:23 > 0:42:26You can feel his presence in every room of this house.
0:42:26 > 0:42:29If I bring these down, would you mind taking those down for me, love?
0:42:31 > 0:42:34HE ROARS, SHE SCREAMS
0:42:36 > 0:42:39- Jesus!- I'm so.. I'm sorry!
0:42:39 > 0:42:41You're sorry?!
0:42:42 > 0:42:44You pair of bloody loons!
0:42:46 > 0:42:48Your face!
0:42:56 > 0:43:00# Hear the whisper of the raindrops
0:43:01 > 0:43:06# Blowing soft across the window
0:43:08 > 0:43:12# And make believe you love me
0:43:12 > 0:43:15# One more time
0:43:18 > 0:43:20# For the good times. #