0:00:02 > 0:00:04Welcome, everyone, to our lovely town hall, where we are gathered
0:00:04 > 0:00:07to witness the marriage of Ashkir and Jamaal.
0:00:07 > 0:00:10If anyone knows of any lawful impediment to this marriage,
0:00:10 > 0:00:13he or she should declare it now.
0:00:20 > 0:00:22So far, so good!
0:00:24 > 0:00:26- The ring?- Ah, yes.
0:00:29 > 0:00:32Now, Ashkir, repeat after me.
0:00:32 > 0:00:35- I give you this ring... - I give you this ring...
0:00:35 > 0:00:37..as a token of my love and affection...
0:00:37 > 0:00:39..as a token of my love and affection...
0:00:39 > 0:00:41..and I call upon these persons here present...
0:00:41 > 0:00:44..and I call upon these persons here present...
0:00:44 > 0:00:46..to witness that I, Ashkir Dalma...
0:00:46 > 0:00:49..to witness that I, Ashkir Dalma ...
0:00:49 > 0:00:51..do take thee, Jamaal Osman...
0:00:51 > 0:00:53..do take thee, Jamaal Osman...
0:00:53 > 0:00:55..to be my lawful wedded wife.
0:00:55 > 0:00:58..to be my lawful wedded wife.
0:00:58 > 0:01:00- For better, for worse. - For better, for worse.
0:01:00 > 0:01:03- For richer, for poorer. - For richer, for poorer.
0:01:03 > 0:01:07- In sickness and in health. - In sickness and in health.
0:01:07 > 0:01:09Until death us do part.
0:01:09 > 0:01:11Until death us do part.
0:01:16 > 0:01:18And now, Jamaal.
0:01:19 > 0:01:22- I, Jamaal Osman... - I, Jamaal Osman...
0:01:22 > 0:01:24..do take thee, Ashkir Dalma...
0:01:24 > 0:01:26..do take thee, Ashkir Dalma...
0:01:26 > 0:01:30- ..to be my lawful wedded husband. - ..to be my lawful wedded husband.
0:01:30 > 0:01:33- For better, for worse. - For better, for worse.
0:01:33 > 0:01:36- For richer, for poorer. - For richer, for poorer.
0:01:36 > 0:01:39- In sickness and in health. - In sickness and in health.
0:01:39 > 0:01:42- Till death us do part. - Till death us do part.
0:01:44 > 0:01:47I now pronounce you man and wife.
0:01:47 > 0:01:49But I will not let you kiss the bride yet
0:01:49 > 0:01:53- because you have something to say, I believe, Ashkir?- Yes.
0:01:56 > 0:02:01I asked Ashkir if he'd thought about going home for the honeymoon.
0:02:01 > 0:02:03"Yes," he said.
0:02:03 > 0:02:06"42 Knowlson Street, across from the chippy!"
0:02:13 > 0:02:14My beautiful Jamaal.
0:02:15 > 0:02:19We were born just a few miles apart.
0:02:19 > 0:02:23Yet we had to cross continents to meet in England
0:02:23 > 0:02:26with its oh-so-cold weather.
0:02:26 > 0:02:29But also warm welcome.
0:02:32 > 0:02:35I thought I could never be happier than the day I reached England.
0:02:35 > 0:02:38But, today, I am happier still.
0:02:40 > 0:02:41My beautiful Jamaal...
0:02:42 > 0:02:46..I will love you till the day I die.
0:02:48 > 0:02:50You may now kiss the bride.
0:03:07 > 0:03:11Jamaal, just there. Are you going anywhere nice to celebrate?
0:03:11 > 0:03:15- I've got to work in four hours.- Oh. - How long have you been a registrar?
0:03:15 > 0:03:1922 years. Thank you. No going back now!
0:03:19 > 0:03:22- 22 years, huh? - And I still love every minute.
0:03:22 > 0:03:24Have you ever tried counting how many people you have married
0:03:24 > 0:03:28- in all that time? - Oh, thousands, must be.
0:03:28 > 0:03:30- Thank you.- All those photographs,
0:03:30 > 0:03:32all those wedding albums you'll be in, huh?
0:03:32 > 0:03:35If the witnesses would step up? Thank you.
0:03:38 > 0:03:40And second witness?
0:03:42 > 0:03:44Right, shall we have some photographs?
0:03:44 > 0:03:47- If we start with the signing of the register.- Now, for legal reasons,
0:03:47 > 0:03:50we cannot use the real register but I come prepared.
0:03:58 > 0:04:01Thank you very much. And now, can I ask everybody to come in?
0:04:01 > 0:04:04If we put the bride and groom in the middle and everyone makes their way
0:04:04 > 0:04:07- either side. - That's it, just tuck in.
0:04:07 > 0:04:10Right, smile, everyone, for Ashkir's auntie.
0:04:10 > 0:04:13Thank you. And one for Jamaal's sister.
0:04:13 > 0:04:16Stay where you are. That's lovely.
0:04:16 > 0:04:18Thank you. And one for us.
0:04:20 > 0:04:22Thank you very much. Congratulations.
0:04:22 > 0:04:24Thank you so much.
0:04:24 > 0:04:25It was a beautiful ceremony.
0:04:25 > 0:04:28- Thanks.- You love what you do and it shows, it's infectious.
0:04:28 > 0:04:30Keep going, Kev!
0:04:32 > 0:04:35- Are you OK for a lift? - Yeah, Frank's coming. HORN HONKS
0:04:35 > 0:04:38- Oh. Talk of!- See you tomorrow. - Yeah, see you.
0:04:51 > 0:04:53- Been waiting long?- Just come in.
0:04:53 > 0:04:57- Who's that? - Kevin, senior registrar.
0:04:57 > 0:05:00- Good day?- Not bad. You?- Yeah.
0:05:00 > 0:05:03Good. What are we having?
0:05:03 > 0:05:06- Chicken stir-fry! - Yes!
0:05:09 > 0:05:14It was beautiful. Not many there but really beautiful.
0:05:15 > 0:05:18I love marrying people from far-flung countries.
0:05:18 > 0:05:21- Why?- Oh, I don't know.
0:05:21 > 0:05:24- Are we having pudding?- Yeah.
0:05:24 > 0:05:26When you marry British people, you wonder,
0:05:26 > 0:05:29do they know what they're saying? "Till death do us part."
0:05:29 > 0:05:32Do they actually know what that means? Or does it mean
0:05:32 > 0:05:34until someone else comes along.
0:05:34 > 0:05:37- What wine are we having?- Er, Pinot.
0:05:37 > 0:05:38But these two today...
0:05:38 > 0:05:40- Taste that.- Oh.
0:05:42 > 0:05:43Bit more chilli.
0:05:45 > 0:05:47Now...
0:05:47 > 0:05:49- Which one's the Pinot? - It's on the top.
0:05:49 > 0:05:51DOORBELL RINGS
0:05:52 > 0:05:53They're here.
0:05:55 > 0:05:57Hello, love.
0:05:59 > 0:06:02- Dad's doing a stir-fry. - Yes!- Charlie.
0:06:02 > 0:06:04- Hello, Sandra.- In you come. - Thank you very much.- Dad!
0:06:08 > 0:06:12They've fled war and famine, seen parents killed, babies starved,
0:06:12 > 0:06:14and ended up here with nothing but the clothes on their backs.
0:06:14 > 0:06:16- Are you sure?- Positive.
0:06:16 > 0:06:20Thanks. When people like that vow to stay together, you believe it.
0:06:20 > 0:06:23- Any more than people who've never known hardship?- Yes! Because people
0:06:23 > 0:06:26who've known pain and suffering don't take anything lightly,
0:06:26 > 0:06:28least of all vows.
0:06:28 > 0:06:33- Charlie! Sweetheart, you start. - Thank you.
0:06:33 > 0:06:36- I think she's pregnant. - Why?
0:06:36 > 0:06:39- She didn't drink.- She was driving.
0:06:44 > 0:06:45She's pregnant.
0:06:53 > 0:06:55I am so, so sorry.
0:06:55 > 0:06:57Honestly, I'm going to be late to my own funeral one day!
0:06:57 > 0:07:00- Sandra.- That's fine. Andrew. - Hello.- Marie.
0:07:00 > 0:07:02Hi. Please, have a seat.
0:07:02 > 0:07:06Um, Kevin Galt is outside, he's my senior registrar,
0:07:06 > 0:07:08and he's been observing me this week.
0:07:08 > 0:07:10But if you'd sooner just keep it as the three of us, then...
0:07:10 > 0:07:13- No, that's fine with us. - Are you sure?- Yes.- Thank you.
0:07:16 > 0:07:17Kevin?
0:07:18 > 0:07:22- Kevin, this is Marie. - Hello, Marie.- And Andrew.
0:07:22 > 0:07:24- How do you do? - Pleased to meet you, Andrew.
0:07:24 > 0:07:29We like to keep an eye on her, you know, keep her on her toes!
0:07:29 > 0:07:32Shall we deal with the documents first?
0:07:32 > 0:07:34Passports, so I know I've got the right people.
0:07:34 > 0:07:36- Yes.- Thank you. Thanks.
0:07:36 > 0:07:38- Birth certificates?- Yes.
0:07:38 > 0:07:40Thanks. And driving licence.
0:07:40 > 0:07:42- I don't drive.- Oh, anything with your address on.
0:07:42 > 0:07:44- Utility bill?- Yes.- That's perfect.
0:07:44 > 0:07:47Now, I'll photocopy these and then I'll get them back to you.
0:07:47 > 0:07:49Now, in answer to your e-mail,
0:07:49 > 0:07:53you can say practically anything you like. But you've got to exchange
0:07:53 > 0:07:56vows and you've got to avoid anything religious because,
0:07:56 > 0:07:58obviously, this is a civil ceremony.
0:07:58 > 0:08:01But, apart from that, pretty much anything.
0:08:01 > 0:08:05- What did you have in mind? - Well, um, I'm writing something,
0:08:05 > 0:08:08and I was hoping you'd read it for me.
0:08:08 > 0:08:11Of course, yes. I look forward to it.
0:08:17 > 0:08:20- Sorry.- No, that's OK.
0:08:20 > 0:08:23- Woo! My God!- Sorry!- What have you been doing with these seats?
0:08:23 > 0:08:27- I dropped something and I went looking for it.- Ha.- Good day?
0:08:27 > 0:08:29Yeah, good. We had a lovely couple.
0:08:29 > 0:08:31In their 70s.
0:08:31 > 0:08:33And so in love.
0:08:36 > 0:08:39INDISTINCT TV CHATTER
0:08:41 > 0:08:43- Oh, no.- What?
0:08:43 > 0:08:45- I said I'd call Emma. - Well, it's nearly ten o'clock.
0:08:45 > 0:08:47Better late than never.
0:08:50 > 0:08:53- Have you put a password on this? - Yeah.- Why?- In case I lose it,
0:08:53 > 0:08:56- you know what I'm like. - Well, what is it?- I'll do it.
0:09:03 > 0:09:04It's ringing.
0:09:06 > 0:09:07You should put one on yours.
0:09:09 > 0:09:10Would you turn that down?
0:09:13 > 0:09:14Hello, love, it's Mum.
0:09:14 > 0:09:17You're not going to believe this but I totally forgot.
0:10:03 > 0:10:05I'll wait in the car.
0:10:48 > 0:10:51OPERATIC SINGING ON RADIO
0:11:31 > 0:11:33Have you got the keys?
0:11:54 > 0:11:57- Are you all right?- Yeah. Fine.
0:12:03 > 0:12:07Now, Murray, could you repeat after me?
0:12:07 > 0:12:10- I give you this ring... - I give you this ring...
0:12:10 > 0:12:12..as a token of my love and affection...
0:12:12 > 0:12:14..as a token of my love and affection...
0:12:14 > 0:12:16..and I call upon these persons here present...
0:12:16 > 0:12:18..and I call upon these persons here present...
0:12:18 > 0:12:21..to witness that I, Murray John Campbell...
0:12:21 > 0:12:24..to witness that I, Murray John Campbell...
0:12:24 > 0:12:26..do take thee, Eugene Fraser...
0:12:26 > 0:12:28..do take thee, Eugene Fraser...
0:12:28 > 0:12:30..to be my lawful wedded husband.
0:12:30 > 0:12:32..to be my lawful wedded husband.
0:12:35 > 0:12:38- For richer, for poorer. - For richer, for poorer.
0:12:38 > 0:12:41- In sickness and in health. - In sickness and in health.
0:12:41 > 0:12:43Till death us do part.
0:12:43 > 0:12:45Till death us do part.
0:12:48 > 0:12:50Now, Eugene.
0:12:53 > 0:12:55I give you this ring...
0:12:55 > 0:12:57I give you this ring...
0:12:57 > 0:12:59..as a token of my love and affection...
0:12:59 > 0:13:01..as a token of my love and affection...
0:13:01 > 0:13:03..and I call upon these persons here present...
0:13:03 > 0:13:06..and I call upon these persons here present...
0:13:06 > 0:13:09..to witness that I, Eugene Fraser...
0:13:09 > 0:13:12..to witness that I, Eugene Fraser...
0:13:12 > 0:13:14..do take thee, Murray John Campbell...
0:13:14 > 0:13:18..do take thee, Murray John Campbell...
0:13:18 > 0:13:20..to be my lawful wedded husband.
0:13:20 > 0:13:22To be my lawful wedded husband.
0:13:24 > 0:13:27For richer, for poorer.
0:13:27 > 0:13:28For richer, for poorer.
0:13:28 > 0:13:32- In sickness and in health. - In sickness and in health.
0:13:32 > 0:13:33Till death us do part.
0:13:33 > 0:13:35Till death us do part.
0:13:39 > 0:13:44Same-sex marriages started on the 29th of March 2014.
0:13:44 > 0:13:46And I've done a lot since then.
0:13:47 > 0:13:49But this is the bit I never tire of,
0:13:49 > 0:13:52the bit where I say to the groom,
0:13:52 > 0:13:54you may now kiss the groom.
0:13:57 > 0:14:02APPLAUSE
0:14:12 > 0:14:14Are you OK?
0:14:14 > 0:14:17- Yeah. - Are you doing your Greta Garbo?
0:14:17 > 0:14:19- Sorry? - "I vant to be alone."
0:14:20 > 0:14:23- No.- Are you sure?- Yeah.
0:14:23 > 0:14:25I'm fine.
0:14:25 > 0:14:27- What's up?- I...
0:14:27 > 0:14:29I'm getting a bit of a headache.
0:14:29 > 0:14:31- Have you taken anything?- Aspirin.
0:14:31 > 0:14:33I've got some stuff in my bag that'll get rid of anything.
0:14:33 > 0:14:36- Thanks.- Yeah, I get migraines, you see, so...
0:14:36 > 0:14:38They always do the business.
0:14:38 > 0:14:40- Thanks.- Yeah, I'll get them.
0:15:05 > 0:15:08Are you going to buckle up?
0:15:08 > 0:15:10Not yet.
0:15:10 > 0:15:13- What?- I'm waiting for Kevin to go.
0:15:14 > 0:15:16Why?
0:15:32 > 0:15:35You're not very good at this, are you, Frank?
0:15:35 > 0:15:37What are you playing at?
0:15:37 > 0:15:38Sandra, where are you going?
0:15:40 > 0:15:43Get in the car! Oh, for God's sake!
0:15:46 > 0:15:49Sandra! Just get in!
0:15:49 > 0:15:51I'm not letting you walk home.
0:15:51 > 0:15:53You'll never get a cab round here.
0:15:54 > 0:15:57It's a five-mile walk, Sandra.
0:15:59 > 0:16:02I'll drag you in here, and I mean it.
0:16:02 > 0:16:04You are NOT walking home.
0:16:08 > 0:16:11- HE SIGHS - Come on, just get in.
0:16:20 > 0:16:23CLASSICAL MUSIC PLAYS
0:17:32 > 0:17:34Listen, I've got to go. Yeah, she's back.
0:17:43 > 0:17:45Did you walk all the way?
0:17:45 > 0:17:46I wanted to think.
0:17:49 > 0:17:53You haven't so much as held me for months, Frank, why is that?
0:17:55 > 0:17:57Why is that?
0:17:57 > 0:17:59- I've been tired. - Tired?- Yes.
0:17:59 > 0:18:02- I'm getting older. - Who's been looking in the mirror?
0:18:02 > 0:18:04- What mirror?- The mirror in the car. - No-one.- I close it.
0:18:04 > 0:18:07You drive off. You come back, it's open again, why is that?
0:18:07 > 0:18:10- I've no idea.- And since when have you been into opera?
0:18:10 > 0:18:12- What?- Well, you've got a new CD.
0:18:12 > 0:18:13Opera. I'm not into it, you're not into it,
0:18:13 > 0:18:16- so it must be for someone else.- It's not.- A woman.- That's ridiculous.
0:18:16 > 0:18:19The same woman who's been checking her face in the mirror.
0:18:19 > 0:18:22- That's absolutely ridiculous.- Is it? - Yes.- Why mess about with the seat?
0:18:22 > 0:18:24I told you, I dropped something.
0:18:24 > 0:18:26Twice?
0:18:26 > 0:18:28- What?- Once it was too far forward, once it was too far back.
0:18:28 > 0:18:30- Yes.- What was it you dropped?
0:18:30 > 0:18:33- Money.- And why put a password on your phone?
0:18:33 > 0:18:35I told you, in case it gets stolen.
0:18:35 > 0:18:37Why would anyone want to steal a phone like yours, Frank?
0:18:37 > 0:18:39- It's ancient! - They steal all kinds of phones.
0:18:39 > 0:18:41- Tell it to me.- Tell you what?
0:18:41 > 0:18:43- The password.- No.
0:18:43 > 0:18:45- Unlock it, then.- No. - Unlock it and let me look.
0:18:45 > 0:18:47- No.- What have you got to hide, Frank?
0:18:47 > 0:18:49- Nothing!- So unlock it!
0:18:59 > 0:19:00Oh, God.
0:19:04 > 0:19:05Yeah.
0:19:09 > 0:19:10Her name's Lisa.
0:19:13 > 0:19:14Oh, God.
0:19:41 > 0:19:42Lisa?
0:19:44 > 0:19:45Yes.
0:19:46 > 0:19:48Is she someone you teach with?
0:19:48 > 0:19:49Yes.
0:19:51 > 0:19:52How old?
0:19:52 > 0:19:5442.
0:19:57 > 0:20:00She's only been at the school a couple of years.
0:20:02 > 0:20:06About eight months ago... she sat in on a lesson.
0:20:06 > 0:20:09She was impressed.
0:20:09 > 0:20:11Said I was the best teacher she'd ever seen.
0:20:13 > 0:20:14It started from there.
0:20:15 > 0:20:18- Eight months?- Yeah.
0:20:21 > 0:20:24Was I right about the car?
0:20:24 > 0:20:25Yeah.
0:20:26 > 0:20:28I pick her up from work.
0:20:30 > 0:20:32Do you really want to hear this?
0:20:32 > 0:20:33Oh, yes.
0:20:35 > 0:20:37We drive to a place we know.
0:20:38 > 0:20:41Afterwards, I drop her off around the corner from her house.
0:20:41 > 0:20:43- Around the corner?- Yeah.
0:20:43 > 0:20:45So she's married?
0:20:45 > 0:20:47- Yeah.- Kids?
0:20:48 > 0:20:49Yes.
0:20:51 > 0:20:53Who? How old?
0:20:53 > 0:20:57Three. Er, Jackie, 22, working.
0:20:57 > 0:21:00Annie is at uni.
0:21:00 > 0:21:03Uh, Patrick, who's 17.
0:21:03 > 0:21:05Got his exams in August.
0:21:07 > 0:21:09We were waiting until after that to tell you all.
0:21:11 > 0:21:12It's serious, then?
0:21:13 > 0:21:17- Yeah.- She's leaving him and you're leaving me?
0:21:17 > 0:21:19Yes.
0:21:24 > 0:21:26What are you doing?
0:21:26 > 0:21:28- Calling Emma.- Why?
0:21:28 > 0:21:30Because she has a right to know, that's why.
0:21:30 > 0:21:34Because she'd object to your slut's 17-year-old son dictating
0:21:34 > 0:21:37when I get told and she gets told something as crucial as this.
0:21:40 > 0:21:43- What does he do?- Who? - The husband.- He's a builder.
0:21:43 > 0:21:45Oh, tough guy, then!
0:21:45 > 0:21:47I can't wait till you tell him.
0:21:47 > 0:21:50Oh, hello, love, it's Mum here.
0:21:50 > 0:21:53Could you call me back as soon as you can?
0:21:53 > 0:21:55- Thanks, love.- She'll think there's something wrong.
0:21:55 > 0:21:57There is something wrong!
0:21:57 > 0:21:59With us, with our health.
0:22:01 > 0:22:02I want the car.
0:22:06 > 0:22:07You can have it.
0:22:07 > 0:22:09I haven't got a key.
0:22:22 > 0:22:25PHONE RINGS
0:22:25 > 0:22:27Hello, love.
0:22:27 > 0:22:29No. There's nothing wrong.
0:22:29 > 0:22:33Well, there is, but no-one's sick, no broken bones.
0:22:35 > 0:22:36Can I ask you something?
0:22:38 > 0:22:39Are you pregnant?
0:22:42 > 0:22:43She's pregnant.
0:22:45 > 0:22:46I just guessed.
0:22:47 > 0:22:49Do you know what...
0:22:52 > 0:22:53A girl.
0:22:58 > 0:23:00I am over the moon for you, love.
0:23:03 > 0:23:05But your father's got something to tell you.
0:23:06 > 0:23:08Oh, God, no.
0:23:08 > 0:23:10Would you sooner she got my version?
0:23:13 > 0:23:14Ask her when.
0:23:19 > 0:23:21Hi, love.
0:23:21 > 0:23:24I'm delighted for you.
0:23:24 > 0:23:25When is she due?
0:23:27 > 0:23:28August?
0:23:30 > 0:23:32Listen.
0:23:32 > 0:23:34There's no easy way of saying this.
0:23:36 > 0:23:37I'm leaving your mum.
0:23:41 > 0:23:43There's someone else.
0:23:45 > 0:23:47There's been someone else for quite a while now.
0:23:50 > 0:23:54I'm torn. It's not fair to either of them, especially...
0:23:54 > 0:23:56Don't...swear, love.
0:23:58 > 0:24:00Please, love, don't use that language.
0:24:01 > 0:24:04Emma, don't call her that.
0:24:04 > 0:24:06Her name's Lisa.
0:24:16 > 0:24:19CLASSICAL MUSIC PLAYS
0:24:53 > 0:24:54Eight months?
0:24:58 > 0:25:00Yeah.
0:25:00 > 0:25:03So it was going on when we were in Crete?
0:25:05 > 0:25:07Yes.
0:25:09 > 0:25:12So it was going on when we...
0:25:19 > 0:25:20Yeah.
0:26:05 > 0:26:09Everything. Inside and out.
0:26:17 > 0:26:20Well, this is it.
0:26:20 > 0:26:22Ah, this is lovely.
0:26:22 > 0:26:26- It is, isn't it? - Uh, oh, I've written something.
0:26:26 > 0:26:28- Right.- And, uh...
0:26:30 > 0:26:34..we'd like you to mention our previous partners.
0:26:34 > 0:26:36They both passed away, of course.
0:26:36 > 0:26:39And we're worried it might put a dampener on things.
0:26:39 > 0:26:41What do you think?
0:26:44 > 0:26:47Sandra?
0:26:47 > 0:26:48Oh, I think that sounds lovely.
0:26:48 > 0:26:50And you're sure you still want me to read this?
0:26:50 > 0:26:53- Oh, yes.- You wouldn't prefer to read it yourself?
0:26:53 > 0:26:55Oh, God, no.
0:26:55 > 0:26:59I'd just cry. And he'd make a mess of things.
0:26:59 > 0:27:01Right.
0:27:01 > 0:27:03Well, I'll have a good read of it later on.
0:27:10 > 0:27:12Have you still got that headache?
0:27:12 > 0:27:14- Yeah.- Did you take those pills I gave you?
0:27:14 > 0:27:16- Yeah.- No good?
0:27:16 > 0:27:19- No.- Sandra, they're bazookas, those things. They should have cleared it
0:27:19 > 0:27:22- up for you.- It'll go.- I think you should get checked out.
0:27:22 > 0:27:24- Yeah, I will!- No, I mean now.
0:27:24 > 0:27:28Kevin! Tell me where I'm going wrong work-wise, but nothing else, please.
0:27:28 > 0:27:30OK?
0:27:30 > 0:27:32OK.
0:27:36 > 0:27:38People can make up their own vows, yes.
0:27:38 > 0:27:40Uh, I'll hold, yeah, thanks.
0:27:40 > 0:27:42But would it be possible for you not to play that music?
0:27:42 > 0:27:44I disagree, Mrs Thorpe.
0:27:44 > 0:27:47HOLD MUSIC PLAYS I love civil ceremonies.
0:27:47 > 0:27:52When two people marry in church that's nice, it's really nice.
0:27:52 > 0:27:56But when two people marry in a registry office,
0:27:56 > 0:27:59two people whose lives have been torn apart by religion and who now
0:27:59 > 0:28:00want no part of it,
0:28:00 > 0:28:04two people who've met thousands of miles away from home,
0:28:04 > 0:28:09that's not just nice, that's profoundly moving.
0:28:11 > 0:28:15Or two people getting married for a second time,
0:28:15 > 0:28:20betrayed by their partners and shunned by the church because of it.
0:28:20 > 0:28:25Mrs Thorpe, that's not just nice either,
0:28:25 > 0:28:27that's also profoundly moving.
0:28:27 > 0:28:29Mrs Thorpe, could I call you back?
0:28:29 > 0:28:31Thank you.
0:28:36 > 0:28:39- MAN: Thanks for holding. - Uh, that's OK.
0:29:00 > 0:29:02- Sorry. - It's fine, no problem.
0:29:05 > 0:29:07You never told me you got migraines.
0:29:07 > 0:29:09I didn't think you'd find it particularly interesting.
0:29:12 > 0:29:13How did you cope...
0:29:15 > 0:29:16..when Jean left?
0:29:17 > 0:29:19I just did.
0:29:20 > 0:29:23When you've got to cope, you cope. Why? Why do you ask?
0:29:26 > 0:29:28I didn't have a headache.
0:29:28 > 0:29:30I've got one now. Serves me right for lying.
0:29:32 > 0:29:35I thought Frank was carrying on with someone.
0:29:35 > 0:29:37Last night, I confronted him.
0:29:37 > 0:29:39He told me he was - he is.
0:29:41 > 0:29:42Oh, my God.
0:29:42 > 0:29:44Someone he teaches with.
0:29:45 > 0:29:48She's 42 and he's 56.
0:29:48 > 0:29:51Now, 56 might be OK to a 42-year-old,
0:29:51 > 0:29:53but 60 to a 46-year-old?
0:29:53 > 0:29:56She'll throw him out in a few years.
0:29:56 > 0:29:58I won't take him back.
0:29:58 > 0:30:00Is he moving in with her?
0:30:00 > 0:30:02When he gets his act together, yeah.
0:30:02 > 0:30:05- Do you want to take a few days off? - No.- Are you sure?
0:30:05 > 0:30:11- I'm positive.- Sandra, you bring so much joy to so many people...
0:30:12 > 0:30:15It's horrible seeing you so sad.
0:30:40 > 0:30:43MICROWAVE BEEPS
0:30:44 > 0:30:46DOORBELL RINGS
0:30:54 > 0:30:55Oh.
0:31:00 > 0:31:02Come in.
0:31:03 > 0:31:07So, how did you know I was pregnant?
0:31:07 > 0:31:09I just did.
0:31:09 > 0:31:11Well, you weren't drinking - that was a clue.
0:31:11 > 0:31:14But basically I just knew.
0:31:14 > 0:31:16There was something in your eyes.
0:31:16 > 0:31:19Have you thought of a name yet?
0:31:19 > 0:31:22Not yet, we're going to wait until she's born.
0:31:22 > 0:31:26FOOTSTEPS ON STAIRS
0:31:26 > 0:31:29- Who's that?- It's your dad.
0:31:29 > 0:31:30He's still here?
0:31:34 > 0:31:35Hiya, love.
0:31:38 > 0:31:41- How are you? - We're talking.
0:31:41 > 0:31:43OK.
0:31:44 > 0:31:47Just phoned our Tommy, I can stay with him for a while.
0:31:47 > 0:31:50- He's coming round for me. - Right.
0:31:51 > 0:31:53Right.
0:32:03 > 0:32:05You will let him see her, won't you?
0:32:05 > 0:32:06I mean, I know he's been a complete...
0:32:08 > 0:32:11But he'd make a lovely grandad. And you don't want to deprive her
0:32:11 > 0:32:13of that just cos you're cross with him.
0:32:16 > 0:32:17We'll see.
0:32:18 > 0:32:20Things haven't been right for a while.
0:32:20 > 0:32:23I was always cuddling him, never him me.
0:32:23 > 0:32:29I told myself, I'll take him back to Crete, the best holiday we ever had.
0:32:29 > 0:32:32That time we walked through the olive groves, made love there,
0:32:32 > 0:32:35that'll put things right again.
0:32:35 > 0:32:39I honestly thought it was the most romantic day of my life.
0:32:39 > 0:32:42Now I know that all the time he was thinking of her.
0:32:43 > 0:32:44He's coming back.
0:32:48 > 0:32:50- Who is it?- Our Paula.
0:32:53 > 0:32:56- I'm off.- Right.
0:33:04 > 0:33:05He's going.
0:33:11 > 0:33:12He's gone.
0:34:04 > 0:34:06A very warm welcome, everyone,
0:34:06 > 0:34:10to the wedding of Marie Davis and Andrew O'Connor.
0:34:10 > 0:34:14Marie was married to John for 46 years,
0:34:14 > 0:34:18and Andrew was married to Helen for 47.
0:34:18 > 0:34:21Sadly, those marriages ended,
0:34:21 > 0:34:24and they thought they'd never know such happiness again.
0:34:24 > 0:34:28But then they met, two years ago.
0:34:28 > 0:34:30Line dancing, did you say, Marie?
0:34:30 > 0:34:32Yes!
0:34:32 > 0:34:34And now here they are.
0:34:34 > 0:34:37It's a great testament to their earlier marriages that they should
0:34:37 > 0:34:41embrace this one with such joy and enthusiasm.
0:34:41 > 0:34:46Marie, Andrew, we are delighted for you.
0:34:46 > 0:34:48- Thank you.- Thank you.
0:34:48 > 0:34:52Now, Marie has written something she would like me to read.
0:34:52 > 0:34:55It's something I find very moving and...
0:34:56 > 0:35:00Well...here goes.
0:35:03 > 0:35:05"I've been here before.
0:35:05 > 0:35:09"I've been at the blissful beginning of a marriage,
0:35:09 > 0:35:12"and at the heartbreaking end.
0:35:12 > 0:35:17"I remember that first year or so, so full of passion, so full of love.
0:35:19 > 0:35:23"But then the kids came along and that dampened the ardour a bit.
0:35:23 > 0:35:27"Money got tight, the whole thing a slog.
0:35:27 > 0:35:30"We started taking each other for granted.
0:35:30 > 0:35:32"I even told myself I'd leave him when the kids were grown up,
0:35:32 > 0:35:35"or at least think about leaving him.
0:35:35 > 0:35:38"But then the kids did grow up,
0:35:38 > 0:35:41"and suddenly we had some time for each other again.
0:35:41 > 0:35:44"Foreign holidays, even.
0:35:44 > 0:35:47"The old passion rekindled.
0:35:47 > 0:35:48"In love again.
0:35:50 > 0:35:54"But then the kids had kids.
0:35:54 > 0:35:56"And, oh, the joy of holding a grandchild in your arms
0:35:56 > 0:35:58"for the first time.
0:35:58 > 0:36:00"But not long after that,
0:36:00 > 0:36:04"I was baby-sitting those grandkids just a little too much,
0:36:04 > 0:36:07"and picking them up from school just a little too often.
0:36:07 > 0:36:10"And I was wishing they weren't quite so dependent on me,
0:36:10 > 0:36:13"didn't take me quite so much for granted.
0:36:13 > 0:36:15"But be careful what they wish for.
0:36:15 > 0:36:19"Because, in no time at all, they were teenagers.
0:36:19 > 0:36:22"And they didn't come round so much.
0:36:22 > 0:36:25"And who can blame them for that? Because they were teenagers.
0:36:27 > 0:36:29"And it was around about then
0:36:29 > 0:36:34"I realised it was me and him.
0:36:34 > 0:36:37"The kids were busy living their own lives.
0:36:37 > 0:36:39"It was me and him.
0:36:41 > 0:36:44"Me and John.
0:36:47 > 0:36:51"I was everything to him and he was everything to me.
0:36:51 > 0:36:53"A truly profound love.
0:36:53 > 0:36:56"But then fate played its dirtiest trick.
0:36:56 > 0:36:59"It snatched him away.
0:36:59 > 0:37:01"John died,
0:37:01 > 0:37:04"and I was devastated.
0:37:04 > 0:37:06"Oh, why wait till now?
0:37:06 > 0:37:09"Why couldn't it have happened ten years ago, 20, 30 years ago
0:37:09 > 0:37:12"when I was young and the love not so deep and the pain not so intense?
0:37:15 > 0:37:20"But a few years later, fate atoned for its dirty trick.
0:37:20 > 0:37:23"It let me meet someone else.
0:37:23 > 0:37:26"Someone who'd been through what I'd been through.
0:37:26 > 0:37:31"And when that happens, and I realise it doesn't happen to us all,
0:37:31 > 0:37:34"I realised just how lucky I am...
0:37:35 > 0:37:38"..that when it does happen
0:37:38 > 0:37:40"it's beautiful.
0:37:41 > 0:37:43"Just beautiful."
0:37:44 > 0:37:46Thank you.
0:37:47 > 0:37:48Kevin, would you...?
0:37:56 > 0:37:58Andrew, would you repeat after me?
0:38:00 > 0:38:02I, Andrew O'Connor...
0:38:02 > 0:38:05I, Andrew O'Connor...
0:38:05 > 0:38:07..do take thee Marie Davis...
0:38:07 > 0:38:09..do take thee, Marie Davis...
0:38:09 > 0:38:12..to be my lawfully wedded wife...
0:38:12 > 0:38:15..to be my lawfully wedded wife...
0:38:47 > 0:38:48Reasonable?!
0:38:48 > 0:38:51Over the last few months, I have been nothing but reasonable.
0:38:51 > 0:38:53But this is a step too far.
0:38:53 > 0:38:55I will not sell that house,
0:38:55 > 0:38:58and I cannot believe you are asking me to do so.
0:38:58 > 0:39:00- I've got to.- I won't go into the emotional stuff, Frank,
0:39:00 > 0:39:03like the fact that our child was born there, for instance,
0:39:03 > 0:39:06- because that obviously means nothing to you.- It does not mean nothing.
0:39:06 > 0:39:08But I will go on about the money!
0:39:08 > 0:39:11That house is bought and paid for,
0:39:11 > 0:39:13not a penny do I owe.
0:39:13 > 0:39:16And you're asking me to borrow £160,000
0:39:16 > 0:39:19so that you two can buy a love nest?
0:39:19 > 0:39:22Sorry, Frank, no, that is not going to happen. And you can go on about
0:39:22 > 0:39:25his legal entitlement until you're blue in the face,
0:39:25 > 0:39:27it is not going to happen!
0:39:27 > 0:39:28I'm afraid it is.
0:39:28 > 0:39:30You know who pays for this?
0:39:30 > 0:39:32Who ultimately pays for this?
0:39:32 > 0:39:34Your own daughter.
0:39:34 > 0:39:36We were going to leave her that house
0:39:36 > 0:39:38but that's out of the question now.
0:39:38 > 0:39:40So your own daughter loses
0:39:40 > 0:39:43half her house to pay for her father's love nest!
0:39:47 > 0:39:49I fell in love.
0:39:51 > 0:39:55I know you want it to be more sordid than that, but it's not.
0:39:56 > 0:39:57I fell in love.
0:40:01 > 0:40:03Arthur.
0:40:14 > 0:40:17Hello.
0:40:17 > 0:40:18Oh!
0:40:20 > 0:40:23Being Superwoman.
0:40:23 > 0:40:25Aren't you?
0:40:25 > 0:40:27DOORBELL RINGS Who's that?
0:40:27 > 0:40:29- I'll go.- Thanks.
0:40:30 > 0:40:34Where did Mama go? Where did Mama go?
0:40:34 > 0:40:38Oh. Can't quite decide...
0:40:40 > 0:40:42It's Kevin Galt.
0:40:43 > 0:40:45- Kevin?- Bearing gifts.
0:40:46 > 0:40:49I'll be back.
0:40:49 > 0:40:52Hello. Hello.
0:40:56 > 0:40:58- Hiya.- Hiya.
0:41:00 > 0:41:04I remembered you were going to the solicitors today.
0:41:04 > 0:41:06I thought it wouldn't be very nice.
0:41:06 > 0:41:09- No, it wasn't. - It's an agapanthus.
0:41:09 > 0:41:11Right.
0:41:11 > 0:41:14See, every time I turn on Radio 4, it's Gardeners' Question Time.
0:41:14 > 0:41:22- Right.- And so I phoned them up and I said, "Recommend a plant, please,
0:41:22 > 0:41:26"for a beautiful woman with a sunny disposition."
0:41:31 > 0:41:32"Agapanthus," they said.
0:41:35 > 0:41:36Thank you.
0:41:37 > 0:41:38There's a card.
0:41:51 > 0:41:53"If a registrar
0:41:53 > 0:41:56"married a registrar...
0:41:58 > 0:42:00"..would they need a registrar?"
0:42:09 > 0:42:12I, Kevin Galt,
0:42:12 > 0:42:15do take thee, Sandra Barton,
0:42:15 > 0:42:18to be my lawful wedded wife,
0:42:18 > 0:42:20for better, for worse,
0:42:20 > 0:42:23for richer, for poorer,
0:42:23 > 0:42:26in sickness and in health,
0:42:26 > 0:42:28till death us do part.
0:42:28 > 0:42:32I, Sandra Barton, do take thee, Kevin Galt,
0:42:32 > 0:42:35to be my lawful wedded husband,
0:42:35 > 0:42:37for better, for worse,
0:42:37 > 0:42:39for richer, for poorer,
0:42:39 > 0:42:42in sickness and in health,
0:42:42 > 0:42:44till death us do part.
0:42:46 > 0:42:48You may now kiss the registrar!
0:42:50 > 0:42:51# I
0:42:51 > 0:42:53# Know you
0:42:53 > 0:42:56# So well
0:42:56 > 0:42:58# I can tell by the sound of your voice
0:42:58 > 0:43:00# If you're really in love with me
0:43:00 > 0:43:03# And you are
0:43:03 > 0:43:05# And you are
0:43:07 > 0:43:08# You
0:43:08 > 0:43:11# Know I
0:43:11 > 0:43:13# Can't lie
0:43:13 > 0:43:15# If I said, yeah, baby, I love you
0:43:15 > 0:43:17# Then, baby, I love you
0:43:17 > 0:43:20# Oh, and I do
0:43:20 > 0:43:22# Yes, I do
0:43:23 > 0:43:25# I do... #