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0:00:00 > 0:00:03- Five years ago, - Ray Gravell allowed BBC Wales...
0:00:03 > 0:00:05- ..to film his recovery...
0:00:05 > 0:00:09- ..after he lost his leg - as a result of diabetes.
0:00:09 > 0:00:12- Ray unexpectedly died - of a heart attack...
0:00:12 > 0:00:15- ..before filming - could be completed.
0:00:16 > 0:00:19- His wife and children - wanted this programme...
0:00:20 > 0:00:23- ..which follows the final - six months of his life...
0:00:23 > 0:00:28- ..to be broadcast, in order - to raise awareness about diabetes.
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0:00:44 > 0:00:45- Borth, Ceredigion. October 2007
0:00:54 > 0:00:57- # Beside the sea
0:00:57 > 0:00:59- # Red roses growing #
0:00:59 > 0:01:04- Ray doesn't do half measures. - He's flat out.
0:01:04 > 0:01:06- That's Ray for you.
0:01:06 > 0:01:11- He's back now to the way he was, - more or less.
0:01:12 > 0:01:14- He's coping great with it.
0:01:14 > 0:01:17- It's lovely to be here.
0:01:17 > 0:01:21- Borth is always at its best, - whatever the weather.
0:01:21 > 0:01:25- We're with friends, John and Elin. - They've lived here for years.
0:01:26 > 0:01:29- We always get an incredible welcome - from John and El.
0:01:29 > 0:01:33- # Where tender words - in love were uttered #
0:01:33 > 0:01:38- There's nothing you can say about - Ray that hasn't been said before.
0:01:38 > 0:01:40- He's got what they call charisma.
0:01:40 > 0:01:45- Some kind of magic, and charm. - I don't know anyone like him.
0:01:53 > 0:01:58- I haven't, as far as I know, - asked the question, why me?
0:01:58 > 0:02:00- I've accepted it.
0:02:00 > 0:02:04- What I've been through, - to be completely honest...
0:02:05 > 0:02:09- ..I wouldn't belittle it - and say it was nothing.
0:02:09 > 0:02:11- It is something.
0:02:11 > 0:02:16- But compared to what others have - been through, I have no right.
0:02:16 > 0:02:18- Well done, you. Kiss for Dad.
0:02:22 > 0:02:24- A stone with a hole in it.
0:02:24 > 0:02:30- The old Celts used to believe - that it brought a person luck.
0:02:30 > 0:02:34- We're descendants of the Celts, - so it brings us luck.
0:02:34 > 0:02:36- Don't lose that, alright?
0:02:36 > 0:02:39- Dad will buy it off you.
0:02:39 > 0:02:41- You found it, you keep it.
0:02:41 > 0:02:43- You'll bring us all luck now.
0:02:48 > 0:02:51- Physiotherapy. Morriston Hospital. - June 2007
0:02:54 > 0:02:55- Everything's alright.
0:02:55 > 0:02:57- Everything's alright.- - Can you do that again?
0:02:58 > 0:03:00- Oh! I enjoy that!
0:03:01 > 0:03:02- Sorry!
0:03:03 > 0:03:07- When the surgeon said I had to go - to the theatre immediately...
0:03:07 > 0:03:09- ..to have this operation...
0:03:09 > 0:03:13- ..I didn't realize - the full implications of his words.
0:03:13 > 0:03:16- I could hear what he was saying...
0:03:16 > 0:03:20- ..but I couldn't take in - what was being said.
0:03:20 > 0:03:23- I turned to Mari - and she was fine...
0:03:23 > 0:03:28- ..although a small vein - burst in her eye...
0:03:29 > 0:03:33- ..and her eye went red - there and then.
0:03:33 > 0:03:38- It was then I realized - that what had been said was serious.
0:03:39 > 0:03:40- Oh, yes.
0:03:42 > 0:03:43- They're pulling now, yes.
0:03:44 > 0:03:45- Yes.
0:03:45 > 0:03:48- They saved my life.
0:03:48 > 0:03:49- Another two days...
0:03:50 > 0:03:53- ..and the poison would have spread - throughout my body.
0:03:54 > 0:03:58- It was then the reality - of what could have happened hit me.
0:03:59 > 0:04:03- Then, in the small hours, - it hit me mentally.
0:04:03 > 0:04:07- My mind was going - in all directions.
0:04:07 > 0:04:11- I realized that life - would be different...
0:04:12 > 0:04:15- ..and would be different forever.
0:04:31 > 0:04:33- Hello.
0:04:36 > 0:04:39- Gwennan, my youngest, - asked her mother...
0:04:39 > 0:04:43- .."Is Dadi's leg - going to grow back?"
0:04:43 > 0:04:46- It made me laugh.
0:04:47 > 0:04:51- It just showed the honesty - and sincerity of a small child.
0:04:51 > 0:04:53- That was... Wow!
0:04:53 > 0:04:59- That shook my conscience, - more than touched my imagination...
0:04:59 > 0:05:03- ..and I started imagining, - "Yes, go on, grow!"
0:05:03 > 0:05:06- And I laughed at myself.
0:05:06 > 0:05:11- My attitude changed after hearing - the question from Gwennan.
0:05:11 > 0:05:15- Who takes my chair - to the other side of the room...
0:05:15 > 0:05:18- ..so I can't reach it?!
0:05:18 > 0:05:21- There's a lot of laughter - in the background.
0:05:21 > 0:05:23- Gwens and her friend, Emily, there.
0:05:24 > 0:05:27- What if Dad needs the toilet? - He can't go!
0:05:27 > 0:05:30- Where's my chair?!
0:05:31 > 0:05:32- Who do you love, Gwens?
0:05:32 > 0:05:35- Who do you love, Gwens?- - Dadi and Mami.
0:05:52 > 0:05:53- I feel emotionally drained.
0:05:54 > 0:05:56- I just...
0:05:57 > 0:06:00- When I go through the cards...
0:06:01 > 0:06:07- ..it brings the whole thing back - and it leaves me weak.
0:06:07 > 0:06:08- It leaves me...
0:06:10 > 0:06:13- ..emotionally weak.
0:06:13 > 0:06:17- I don't like reading them in public - because it's very personal.
0:06:19 > 0:06:23- Ceri Wyn. He played for Wales. - He was a centre.
0:06:23 > 0:06:25- Under 18 for the schools.
0:06:26 > 0:06:28- "When the rain beats heavily
0:06:29 > 0:06:32- "And the radio programmes - are depressing
0:06:32 > 0:06:35- "We all hope for the same thing
0:06:35 > 0:06:38- "Why can't it always be Grav?"
0:06:42 > 0:06:47- If I read Dic's card again, - I'll be crying my eyes out.
0:06:47 > 0:06:49- They're very personal. - They're just...
0:06:51 > 0:06:53- And I know that after my time...
0:06:53 > 0:06:57- ..Manon and Gwennan - will treasure these.
0:06:57 > 0:07:01- They'll understand - the significance of these words.
0:07:04 > 0:07:10- I come in here some nights - and read them, just to myself.
0:07:11 > 0:07:13- And I cry.
0:07:13 > 0:07:18- Some of the strongest - and bravest men I know cry.
0:07:18 > 0:07:21- There's no shame in crying.
0:07:21 > 0:07:23- No, none at all.
0:07:26 > 0:07:30- First public appearance post-surgery - at Carmarthenshire Urdd Eisteddfod
0:07:31 > 0:07:32- Here we are.
0:07:32 > 0:07:36- Wales outside half Stephen Jones - uses this aftershave!
0:07:36 > 0:07:38- The scent, well...
0:07:41 > 0:07:44- Stephen's better-looking than me, - but there we are.
0:07:45 > 0:07:50- Right, I've had half a shower, - I've shaved, brushed my teeth.
0:07:50 > 0:07:53- The next step - is getting downstairs.
0:07:53 > 0:07:54- Right. Oops!
0:07:55 > 0:07:57- Here we go.
0:07:57 > 0:08:01- This could be a problem, - but I'm used to doing it now.
0:08:02 > 0:08:08- I have to be careful - not to hit my leg.
0:08:08 > 0:08:09- So...
0:08:11 > 0:08:14- I slept downstairs - for the first fortnight.
0:08:14 > 0:08:20- But psychologically, to come up - the stairs and into the bedroom...
0:08:20 > 0:08:24- ..into the bathroom, - the things you're used to...
0:08:25 > 0:08:28- ..psychologically, - it's a huge boost.
0:08:30 > 0:08:33- When I had this offer - from Urdd Gobaith Cymru...
0:08:33 > 0:08:39- ..to present the talent award - on the final Saturday night...
0:08:39 > 0:08:45- ..I thought, - "I can never refuse this."
0:08:45 > 0:08:48- The young people, - they are our future.
0:08:51 > 0:08:54- Ray, was it difficult to decide - what to wear tonight?
0:08:55 > 0:08:58- Well, I'd decided on the tie.
0:08:58 > 0:09:02- A tie with Owain Glyndwr's crest. - He's my big hero.
0:09:04 > 0:09:06- But I'm not sure - about the trousers.
0:09:07 > 0:09:10- Long trousers - folded under the stump.
0:09:11 > 0:09:15- Mari has suggested - that I wear shorts.
0:09:17 > 0:09:21- Is the length of the tie alright? - Should it be a little longer?
0:09:22 > 0:09:23- What do you think? Longer?
0:09:23 > 0:09:25- What do you think? Longer?- - Yes.
0:09:25 > 0:09:30- Until the week of the Eisteddfod, - I'd only been to Glangwili...
0:09:30 > 0:09:32- ..and up to Morriston Hospital.
0:09:33 > 0:09:35- But I didn't want to go - anywhere else.
0:09:35 > 0:09:39- I thought people - would be embarrassed.
0:09:39 > 0:09:43- That's what worried me most. - Embarrassing others.
0:09:48 > 0:09:50- Is Sam alright, Gwens?
0:09:50 > 0:09:51- Woof!
0:09:52 > 0:09:54- Is he sleeping?
0:09:54 > 0:09:55- Yes.
0:09:56 > 0:09:59- Sam the little dog - has been all over the world.
0:10:00 > 0:10:03- Over to Australia, Spain.
0:10:04 > 0:10:07- Kidwelly, Trimsaran, Llansaint.
0:10:08 > 0:10:10- Ferryside. Has he been to Llansaint?
0:10:11 > 0:10:16- And wherever he goes, - he says, "Woof!"
0:10:22 > 0:10:25- We're presenting - the Carmarthenshire 2007...
0:10:25 > 0:10:28- ..Radio Cymru Talent Medal - and this year...
0:10:28 > 0:10:34- ..it will be presented - by a very special person.
0:10:34 > 0:10:36- You're making me feel old.
0:10:40 > 0:10:43- Blimey! 30 years younger!
0:10:45 > 0:10:49- Please give a warm welcome - to Ray Gravell.
0:10:49 > 0:10:51- CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
0:10:54 > 0:10:58- What I hadn't prepared for - was the response.
0:10:58 > 0:11:02- I'm not daft. I knew there'd be - a response and people would clap.
0:11:02 > 0:11:08- But every single person - was on their feet, and I cried.
0:11:09 > 0:11:11- APPLAUSE
0:11:13 > 0:11:18- It revived me as a person. - I'll never forget that Eisteddfod.
0:11:20 > 0:11:24- Now then, these are - the best judges in the world.
0:11:24 > 0:11:26- Was Dad alright?
0:11:26 > 0:11:27- Well done.
0:11:38 > 0:11:40- Was Dad OK?
0:11:54 > 0:11:57- Prosthetic Unit, Morriston Hospital
0:11:58 > 0:12:03- It's a big day today - because I'm getting my leg...
0:12:03 > 0:12:07- ..the first leg, - for the first time.
0:12:07 > 0:12:11- I was thinking about this - quite a lot last night.
0:12:11 > 0:12:16- I didn't sleep too well, - but I receive great care here.
0:12:16 > 0:12:20- I'm in good hands with Peter - at the end of this corridor.
0:12:20 > 0:12:23- We'll see what he has to say. - Peter, good morning.
0:12:24 > 0:12:25- Well, now then.
0:12:25 > 0:12:27- Well, now then.- - Would you like to come in?
0:12:27 > 0:12:29- After you, sir. Great.
0:12:30 > 0:12:32- He's coming along very well.
0:12:33 > 0:12:37- He does a little more - each time we come here.
0:12:37 > 0:12:39- You've got sticks here as well.
0:12:39 > 0:12:40- You've got sticks here as well.- - Ready for you for after.
0:12:41 > 0:12:44- I've met a number of wives - or partners...
0:12:45 > 0:12:48- ..and everyone - has different experiences.
0:12:48 > 0:12:53- It's nice to share those because - some people have been through...
0:12:53 > 0:12:57- ..far worse experiences and I - don't know how I would have coped.
0:12:58 > 0:13:01- If you'd like to hold that for me. - This is your new leg.
0:13:02 > 0:13:04- It's got an ankle and a foot on it.
0:13:04 > 0:13:08- Peter, it's bigger - than I thought it would be.
0:13:08 > 0:13:14- The stump hasn't fully healed yet. - The initial one will be bigger.
0:13:16 > 0:13:18- Don't be frightened of it.
0:13:18 > 0:13:23- As soon as the bulbous end reduces, - you'll have no problems pushing on.
0:13:23 > 0:13:25- Slipping, oops.
0:13:25 > 0:13:28- If you'd just like to stand.
0:13:29 > 0:13:32- Ah, that's excellent, Ray. - Really good.
0:13:32 > 0:13:36- We'll just check the length. - Do one step further forward.
0:13:37 > 0:13:42- Good. Excellent, Ray. - Pressure on your back, yeah?
0:13:42 > 0:13:44- Yeah. I felt something there.
0:13:47 > 0:13:51- Always look up. Never look - at your own feet. That's great, Ray.
0:13:51 > 0:13:55- I have lost weight, you know. - Keeps your blood pressure down.
0:13:56 > 0:13:58- Excellent. Hi, Mari.
0:13:58 > 0:13:59- Mari fach!
0:13:59 > 0:14:01- Fantastic!
0:14:02 > 0:14:04- I'm taller than you now!
0:14:04 > 0:14:06- Yes, you are.
0:14:06 > 0:14:11- Until now, it's been, "Hello, Mari." - I've been looking up.
0:14:11 > 0:14:13- But now... You know.
0:14:13 > 0:14:15- Brilliant!
0:14:15 > 0:14:17- Try the sticks.
0:14:17 > 0:14:21- I think he can go outside - the rails now, to be honest.
0:14:22 > 0:14:25- I might just walk through the door - and out to the front.
0:14:26 > 0:14:29- Try and get to the corridor - and if you want to go further...
0:14:30 > 0:14:30- I'm not stopping!
0:14:30 > 0:14:33- I'm not stopping!- - You'd better catch him up.
0:14:33 > 0:14:35- I'll see you next week.
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0:14:55 > 0:14:59- Borth, Ceredigion, October 2007
0:15:02 > 0:15:05- To me, he was a hero. - He played for Llanelli and Wales.
0:15:06 > 0:15:08- To meet him, well, I was...
0:15:08 > 0:15:14- I was quite shy - and I didn't know what to say.
0:15:14 > 0:15:16- I didn't have much to say anyway.
0:15:16 > 0:15:20- But I remember I was shy - the first time I met him.
0:15:20 > 0:15:23- Come on. Let's go then. - Let's get down the chapel.
0:15:23 > 0:15:25- I know the face.
0:15:25 > 0:15:26- I know the face.- - Lyn Rees.
0:15:27 > 0:15:28- He has time for everyone.
0:15:28 > 0:15:33- Sometimes, when you're shopping, - you're in Tesco...
0:15:33 > 0:15:37- ..and you hope to be there - 15 minutes, but it takes an hour...
0:15:37 > 0:15:39- ..because Ray is talking.
0:15:39 > 0:15:42- It's not that I don't like him - talking to people...
0:15:42 > 0:15:44- ..it just takes so long.
0:15:44 > 0:15:47- That was hard to get used to - in the very beginning.
0:15:48 > 0:15:50- Pieces of eight! Pieces of eight!
0:15:50 > 0:15:53- What's that coming over the hill?
0:15:53 > 0:15:54- Cap'n Jack Sparrow!
0:16:00 > 0:16:04- I fell head over heels in love - with her many years ago.
0:16:04 > 0:16:11- I realized very quickly there was - something special about her.
0:16:13 > 0:16:17- As I fell in love with her, - she also fell in love with me.
0:16:19 > 0:16:24- Now, we have a family and that's - what sealed the relationship...
0:16:24 > 0:16:25- ..the children.
0:16:26 > 0:16:31- I can't imagine life without them. - They are my life now.
0:16:32 > 0:16:36- Any vote now, three to one, - I lose every vote in this house.
0:16:37 > 0:16:40- Or even four to one! - Even the cat votes against me!
0:16:41 > 0:16:42- But I accept that.
0:16:51 > 0:16:54- Mynydd y Garreg, June 2007
0:16:55 > 0:16:59- Every morning, around this time, - it's 7.45am now...
0:17:00 > 0:17:01- .."Medication!"
0:17:01 > 0:17:04- Medication. - I call her Nurse Ratched.
0:17:04 > 0:17:07- She's not too happy - with that nickname.
0:17:08 > 0:17:10- From One Flew Over - The Cuckoo's Nest.
0:17:11 > 0:17:16- She came round with medication - for the patients every morning.
0:17:17 > 0:17:19- I'd be lost without Nurse Ratched.
0:17:20 > 0:17:23- I think she's seen through me now.
0:17:23 > 0:17:27- "I can't come down, Mari, - because of my disability."
0:17:27 > 0:17:29- She knows how to respond now.
0:17:31 > 0:17:35- "If you want food, come down." - That in itself is medication.
0:17:35 > 0:17:37- How is Sam this morning?
0:17:38 > 0:17:42- Is he woof woof - or is he woof woof woof woof?
0:17:43 > 0:17:45- Ta-ra.
0:17:45 > 0:17:46- Ta-ra.- - Ta-ra. Do your best.
0:17:47 > 0:17:52- As a person, I hope I have changed.
0:17:52 > 0:17:58- I'm much more patient - and I consider the needs of others.
0:18:00 > 0:18:01- Haven't you got a coat?
0:18:01 > 0:18:02- Haven't you got a coat?- - What?
0:18:03 > 0:18:03- Haven't you got a coat?
0:18:03 > 0:18:05- Haven't you got a coat?- - No.
0:18:05 > 0:18:11- Also, I get very frustrated - and I lack patience sometimes.
0:18:11 > 0:18:17- The people that have noticed - and have suffered because of that...
0:18:17 > 0:18:20- ..are my close family, - there are only three of them.
0:18:21 > 0:18:22- Only three.
0:18:22 > 0:18:24- Three heroines.
0:18:26 > 0:18:30- The children, - Manon and Gwennan, and Mari.
0:18:30 > 0:18:32- They've seen Dad at his worst.
0:18:32 > 0:18:35- At his best too, but at his worst.
0:18:35 > 0:18:37- Angry.
0:18:37 > 0:18:40- Angry with himself, - more than anything.
0:18:40 > 0:18:43- But they've taken it all.
0:18:43 > 0:18:47- They haven't retaliated, - they've just taken it all.
0:18:47 > 0:18:52- Dad is suffering with depression - and when I felt very low...
0:18:53 > 0:18:55- ..they lifted me.
0:18:55 > 0:18:59- They, more than anyone, - have inspired me.
0:18:59 > 0:19:02- Good morning, Gwens. How are you?
0:19:04 > 0:19:08- OK. Bonjour. - Est-ce que tout va bien?
0:19:09 > 0:19:11- Hello! Good morning!
0:19:12 > 0:19:13- How are you?
0:19:16 > 0:19:19- She's all shy now - because you're here.
0:19:19 > 0:19:22- But she's gorgeous. She's gorgeous!
0:19:24 > 0:19:26- Come on!
0:19:26 > 0:19:29- Oh, this cat! Blimey!
0:19:29 > 0:19:30- Out you go.
0:19:35 > 0:19:39- Buying a new car
0:19:48 > 0:19:53- I'll tell you now, - I had the treatment on 14th April.
0:19:53 > 0:19:58- It's now... Well, we're virtually - at the end of June.
0:19:58 > 0:20:02- This is the first time for me - to sit in the driver's seat...
0:20:02 > 0:20:05- ..in any car since then.
0:20:05 > 0:20:10- At one time, I didn't think I'd be - standing on my feet and walking...
0:20:11 > 0:20:13- ..let alone driving a car.
0:20:13 > 0:20:15- I was in hospital for six weeks.
0:20:15 > 0:20:19- It's not long, compared to what - some people go through.
0:20:19 > 0:20:22- But for me, it was a long time.
0:20:22 > 0:20:27- I was independent, I drove to work, - I missed being with my family.
0:20:27 > 0:20:32- We take these things for granted - from day to day...
0:20:32 > 0:20:36- ..and don't think twice - because they happen naturally...
0:20:36 > 0:20:38- ..and we accept that.
0:20:38 > 0:20:41- Do you happen to have it in scarlet?
0:20:41 > 0:20:43- You can't have everything!
0:20:58 > 0:21:00- OK, boys. The leg is coming off.
0:21:05 > 0:21:07- That's a relief.
0:21:14 > 0:21:16- Don't.
0:21:18 > 0:21:21- More wine, darling?
0:21:21 > 0:21:22- More wine, darling?- - No, thanks.
0:21:22 > 0:21:26- No, thanks? Blimey! - You're very respectable tonight!
0:21:30 > 0:21:32- It bit him!
0:21:38 > 0:21:40- Where have my girls gone?
0:21:40 > 0:21:41- Where have my girls gone?- - They're upstairs.
0:21:41 > 0:21:44- It hasn't really changed him.
0:21:45 > 0:21:50- When his foot was hurting him, - he complained.
0:21:50 > 0:21:54- But he's always complained, - ever since I can remember.
0:21:54 > 0:21:58- So he hasn't really changed. - Not much.
0:22:00 > 0:22:02- Still the same old Dad.
0:22:03 > 0:22:05- Mad.
0:22:06 > 0:22:08- Oh, I love Shiraz.
0:22:08 > 0:22:14- Dafydd Rowlands, the late Archdruid, - introduced me to Shiraz.
0:22:14 > 0:22:18- Well, it's been... - What are you drinking?
0:22:18 > 0:22:19- Nothing.
0:22:19 > 0:22:21- Water?
0:22:22 > 0:22:24- Nothing.
0:22:24 > 0:22:26- Look into my eyes, Mari!
0:22:38 > 0:22:42- Receiving the new car
0:22:45 > 0:22:46- Blimey!
0:22:46 > 0:22:49- Now then, - do you feel at home there?
0:22:49 > 0:22:51- David.
0:22:51 > 0:22:53- This is... Well...
0:22:53 > 0:22:58- It's a feeling... It's hard - for me to express in words...
0:22:58 > 0:23:00- ..how it feels.
0:23:00 > 0:23:04- Oh, David, David, David!
0:23:04 > 0:23:09- It's just... It's freedom, - it's independence and also...
0:23:09 > 0:23:11- The independence is important.
0:23:11 > 0:23:15- You're by yourself. - You don't need to rely on anyone.
0:23:15 > 0:23:19- You've got the car back now. - That's what's important.
0:23:19 > 0:23:23- Exactly! I feel that I'm in control.
0:23:25 > 0:23:29- It sounds like a cat. Purr-rr-rr!
0:23:31 > 0:23:35- Ray's Tribute Night, - Stradey Park Hotel, Llanelli
0:23:45 > 0:23:46- Dad, Derek's here.
0:23:47 > 0:23:50- It's a big night for Ray - and for all of us really.
0:23:50 > 0:23:53- I think it'll be quite emotional, - actually.
0:23:54 > 0:23:57- I feel a bit embarrassed - because, you know...
0:23:57 > 0:24:01- ..I don't deserve such a thing.
0:24:06 > 0:24:09- Oh, Lord! It's broken, Mari. - The cufflink.
0:24:09 > 0:24:12- Oh, no. Where is it?
0:24:12 > 0:24:14- It fell off.
0:24:25 > 0:24:27- Are you looking forward to tonight?
0:24:28 > 0:24:34- It's going to be really cool - seeing all of Dad's friends.
0:24:34 > 0:24:38- You don't happen to have cufflinks, - do you?
0:24:38 > 0:24:39- Or just one.
0:24:40 > 0:24:46- Ladies and gentlemen, friends, - there is one person missing.
0:24:48 > 0:24:51- The main guest of the night.
0:24:51 > 0:24:55- A man we all admire, following - what has happened to him...
0:24:55 > 0:24:59- ..and the way he has faced up to it - over recent weeks.
0:24:59 > 0:25:03- Please give a warm welcome - to Ray O'r Mynydd...
0:25:03 > 0:25:07- ..Mari, his wife, and Manon - and Gwennan, his daughters.
0:25:07 > 0:25:10- CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
0:25:28 > 0:25:31- # There's a big man - living on a rocky mountain
0:25:31 > 0:25:33- # A special man, a big man #
0:25:34 > 0:25:38- There's 350 here. They could - have sold it out for a thousand.
0:25:38 > 0:25:40- That speaks volumes for Ray.
0:25:40 > 0:25:44- # His favourite colour - is the colour of blood
0:25:44 > 0:25:48- # A special man, a big man #
0:25:48 > 0:25:52- One word to describe Ray - would be "genuine".
0:25:52 > 0:25:55- I'm so glad - I was able to be here tonight.
0:25:55 > 0:25:58- It's a night to pay tribute - to a Welsh giant.
0:25:59 > 0:26:00- Thank you, Huw.
0:26:01 > 0:26:07- The surgeon who saved my life, - he's a very shy man, a big man.
0:26:07 > 0:26:10- He's a Jack. - He's a Swansea Jack as well.
0:26:10 > 0:26:12- LAUGHTER
0:26:12 > 0:26:16- Proud to wear the red jersey, he'd - look at it in the dressing room...
0:26:16 > 0:26:20- ..and he'd cry a bit - and sing a Dafydd Iwan song.
0:26:20 > 0:26:23- I hated Dafydd Iwan 'cos I could - never get near the toilets!
0:26:24 > 0:26:27- Seeing Gareth there - and Gerald, Mervyn and Jack...
0:26:28 > 0:26:31- ..on that particular day, we were - all involved in France, 1975.
0:26:32 > 0:26:37- Gerald, Mervyn, and of course - the best room-mate I ever had...
0:26:37 > 0:26:42- Sorry, Mari, but JJ Williams - takes that accolade!
0:26:44 > 0:26:48- The spirit in which Ray - has fought back has amazed everyone.
0:26:48 > 0:26:52- To see him on his first prosthesis - tonight, getting on...
0:26:52 > 0:26:54- ..it's just fantastic, unbelievable.
0:26:55 > 0:26:58- APPLAUSE
0:27:01 > 0:27:06- He was the centre of attraction, - but he made everybody else feel...
0:27:06 > 0:27:08- ..as if they were so special.
0:27:08 > 0:27:11- Perhaps that's the magic - of Ray Gravell.
0:27:11 > 0:27:16- I've enjoyed tonight, - more than any night in my life.
0:27:16 > 0:27:18- You've had some big nights.
0:27:18 > 0:27:23- Do you know why? A good man. - A good man. And enjoyment.
0:27:28 > 0:27:31- I wish you'd had better hands - when you were playing though!
0:27:31 > 0:27:33- More training!
0:27:33 > 0:27:37- It's just been such a lovely night.
0:27:37 > 0:27:40- And for the girls - to experience it too...
0:27:41 > 0:27:47- ..it's just been a very special - night for us as a family.
0:27:47 > 0:27:52- And it will be something - for us to remember forever.
0:27:52 > 0:27:56- Maybe I talked too much, - went on too long...
0:27:56 > 0:27:59- ..but at least I meant - every word I said.
0:28:00 > 0:28:05- And to finish, the one who should - receive the greatest tribute...
0:28:06 > 0:28:09- ..is Mari, my wife, - and the children.
0:28:12 > 0:28:12- .
0:28:18 > 0:28:18- Subtitles
0:28:18 > 0:28:20- Subtitles- - Subtitles
0:28:34 > 0:28:37- Borth, Ceredigion, October 2007
0:28:41 > 0:28:45- We made an executive decision. - The chip shop was closed.
0:28:46 > 0:28:49- So we bought frozen chips.
0:28:49 > 0:28:52- There's another chip shop.
0:28:52 > 0:28:54- No. They were queuing out - of the door.
0:28:54 > 0:28:58- Well, fair enough. - Hey, executive decision.
0:28:58 > 0:29:03- At the moment, life is much better - than it was a few months ago.
0:29:03 > 0:29:05- Today is better than yesterday.
0:29:06 > 0:29:11- I feel stronger, physically and - mentally, than when I left hospital.
0:29:11 > 0:29:14- My body was weak. - I've been eating well.
0:29:14 > 0:29:19- Life is totally different, - but it's not worse.
0:29:19 > 0:29:22- There are elements that are better, - in a way.
0:29:22 > 0:29:25- Perfect timing. Oh!
0:29:25 > 0:29:30- Elin! We've been friends - for 30 years.
0:29:31 > 0:29:34- Oh, bubbles! Champers!
0:29:34 > 0:29:36- Blimey! Hey, cheers!
0:29:36 > 0:29:38- Blimey! Hey, cheers!- - Chin-chin!
0:29:46 > 0:29:49- Mynydd y Garreg, July 2007
0:29:58 > 0:30:01- As soon as I sat behind the wheel...
0:30:01 > 0:30:06- ..it was like - receiving the ball on the pitch.
0:30:06 > 0:30:10- I had the ball. Holding the wheel, - the ball was in my hands.
0:30:10 > 0:30:14- And then I wanted to go forward - through the opposition.
0:30:15 > 0:30:18- So, off we go!
0:30:18 > 0:30:20- Where are we going, Ray?
0:30:20 > 0:30:22- Where are we going, Ray?- - To visit Auntie Babs.
0:30:22 > 0:30:26- I love Auntie Babs. - I love Auntie Babs so much.
0:30:27 > 0:30:29- My father's youngest sister.
0:30:29 > 0:30:34- My father had three sisters, - Eileen, Olive and Barbara.
0:30:34 > 0:30:36- Barbara Jean.
0:30:38 > 0:30:41- Unfortunately, Auntie Babs - is the only one left.
0:30:41 > 0:30:43- She's the last of the line.
0:30:43 > 0:30:47- She's ten years younger - than my father.
0:30:47 > 0:30:52- My father... They lost their father, - William Henry, my grandfather...
0:30:52 > 0:30:56- ..when she was ten years old.
0:30:57 > 0:31:02- I bought the house for Auntie Babs - and her partner, Dennis.
0:31:02 > 0:31:05- Babs is good to me.
0:31:05 > 0:31:08- We're good to each other. - We love each other.
0:31:08 > 0:31:09- Auntie Babs!
0:31:09 > 0:31:10- Auntie Babs!- - Hello, Ray.
0:31:10 > 0:31:12- How are you?
0:31:12 > 0:31:14- Hey, now then.
0:31:14 > 0:31:16- Well, you're driving the car.
0:31:16 > 0:31:19- Is everything alright?
0:31:19 > 0:31:21- Oh, Babs!
0:31:21 > 0:31:22- Hey.
0:31:24 > 0:31:26- What would your brother say?
0:31:27 > 0:31:29- Pull yourself together.
0:31:30 > 0:31:31- Yes.
0:31:32 > 0:31:33- Right, a cup of tea.
0:31:33 > 0:31:35- A cuppa.
0:31:35 > 0:31:37- No-one makes tea like Babs!
0:31:37 > 0:31:42- She came to see me in hospital, - despite having difficulty walking...
0:31:42 > 0:31:45- ..plastic hips, triple bypasses...
0:31:45 > 0:31:49- I've suffered very little compared - to what Babs has been through.
0:31:49 > 0:31:52- So she's also an inspiration to me.
0:31:52 > 0:31:54- And she has my father's stamp.
0:31:55 > 0:31:58- Blimey! He was a fiery character!
0:31:58 > 0:32:00- You say I'm like him.
0:32:00 > 0:32:07- Yes, and she has the same love. - That's the most important thing.
0:32:07 > 0:32:10- I broke my heart - when you were in hospital.
0:32:10 > 0:32:13- But there we are. - You're better now.
0:32:14 > 0:32:20- I can reverse much better now - than before I had the surgery.
0:32:20 > 0:32:23- Ta-ra, Babs! Love you, Babs!
0:32:26 > 0:32:29- I dreamt about my father - the other night.
0:32:29 > 0:32:32- I still dream about him.
0:32:33 > 0:32:35- As he was.
0:32:35 > 0:32:39- Here it is, the cottage. Brynhyfryd.
0:32:39 > 0:32:45- He fell in love with this place - and now we have too.
0:32:45 > 0:32:48- I'm tied to it, - emotionally and financially!
0:32:49 > 0:32:53- My little family, Manon and Gwennan, - this is their home.
0:32:53 > 0:32:56- That means more than anything - in the world to me.
0:33:04 > 0:33:06- I enjoy my own company up here.
0:33:08 > 0:33:11- I was an only child.
0:33:11 > 0:33:15- I lost my father - when I was 14 years old.
0:33:15 > 0:33:21- That was a tough time for my mother, - even more than for me.
0:33:21 > 0:33:23- Her influence is still here.
0:33:23 > 0:33:27- I can see her influence, - especially in Gwennan.
0:33:27 > 0:33:31- Gwennan has the same expressions, - which is incredible.
0:33:31 > 0:33:33- Incredible!
0:33:33 > 0:33:38- She does this thing with her lower - lip, just like Mam did.
0:33:38 > 0:33:42- She wasn't old anyway. - She was 67 when she died.
0:33:42 > 0:33:44- A heart attack, - a stroke, everything.
0:33:45 > 0:33:48- And she was in pain for two years.
0:33:50 > 0:33:53- But when I look at Gwennan, - I see Mam.
0:34:09 > 0:34:12- Oh. Has she gone through?
0:34:15 > 0:34:16- She's gone upstairs.
0:34:16 > 0:34:18- Ah, here she is!
0:34:18 > 0:34:20- Naughty girl!
0:34:23 > 0:34:28- I love this cat, to be honest, - but she's adopted us.
0:34:28 > 0:34:30- I send her out every night.
0:34:30 > 0:34:34- She was spoilt rotten - when I was in hospital.
0:34:34 > 0:34:37- I was lying in that hospital bed...
0:34:38 > 0:34:42- ..and she was lying on my bed here!
0:34:43 > 0:34:44- She's the boss.
0:34:47 > 0:34:51- Prosthetic Unit, Morriston Hospital
0:34:53 > 0:34:55- I think it should be fine.
0:34:55 > 0:34:57- Hey. Oh, that came off...
0:34:59 > 0:35:00- It's stiff.
0:35:00 > 0:35:02- It's stiff.- - It'll be stiff for a while now.
0:35:03 > 0:35:06- From this stage until you get - your limb takes two to three weeks.
0:35:07 > 0:35:10- After that, you can decide - whether you want a cosmetic cover...
0:35:11 > 0:35:15- ..which the majority of people do, - or you can leave it bare...
0:35:15 > 0:35:19- ..so that everybody - can see the structure of it.
0:35:19 > 0:35:21- Either way, it's your choice.
0:35:21 > 0:35:28- Personally, I like it - sort of bare, really.
0:35:28 > 0:35:31- Well, you can start off like that, - if you wish.
0:35:32 > 0:35:35- But you know... - This may sound silly to you.
0:35:35 > 0:35:40- I'd love to have... I'm the - President of the Scarlets.
0:35:40 > 0:35:45- I'd love to have - the Scarlets emblem, if possible...
0:35:45 > 0:35:47- ..on the finished product.
0:35:47 > 0:35:51- We've already done the Ospreys one - and various football sides.
0:35:51 > 0:35:53- You've done an Ospreys one?
0:35:53 > 0:35:58- That's it, Peter! I'll pay you - to do me a Scarlets one.
0:35:58 > 0:36:02- I have to! Because I'm - in Osprey country here now.
0:36:02 > 0:36:04- I've crossed the River Loughor!
0:36:04 > 0:36:07- For a Westwalian, I mean, that's...
0:36:08 > 0:36:11- You'll be the first one - to have a Scarlet leg.
0:36:11 > 0:36:15- Is that a deal? He's shaken on it! - He's got no choice! Thanks.
0:36:28 > 0:36:30- Where is he there?
0:36:31 > 0:36:34- That's how he looked.
0:36:34 > 0:36:38- That's how Dad looked - when he met Mam.
0:36:38 > 0:36:41- Don't listen to her. I was acting.
0:36:41 > 0:36:43- Mam, what's that?
0:36:47 > 0:36:51- Oh, it's make-up. - It's black lipstick.
0:36:53 > 0:36:55- Listen to her laughing.
0:36:55 > 0:36:57- Dad, this is your photo.
0:36:57 > 0:36:59- Oh, blimey!
0:36:59 > 0:37:02- Well, well!
0:37:04 > 0:37:07- When Mari walked into Horeb chapel, - all I saw...
0:37:08 > 0:37:11- ..out of the corner of my eye - was this flash of red.
0:37:12 > 0:37:15- Well! It was such a visual impact...
0:37:15 > 0:37:19- ..to see her in scarlet.
0:37:19 > 0:37:21- Blimey!
0:37:22 > 0:37:25- Listen to them laughing!
0:37:26 > 0:37:29- You two weren't at the wedding.
0:37:33 > 0:37:37- Flintshire Eisteddfod, August 2007
0:37:37 > 0:37:41- The Herald Bard, Dyfrig ab Ifor, - and Recorder John Gwilym Jones...
0:37:41 > 0:37:46- ..came to see me in hospital and - said the decision had been made...
0:37:46 > 0:37:51- ..by the Gorsedd board that they'd - ask you to carry the sword.
0:37:52 > 0:37:55- I was delighted. - I wanted to jump out of bed.
0:37:55 > 0:37:59- And then I thought, - "Right, this is meant to be."
0:38:00 > 0:38:06- But I heard Dic, - who'll be the Archdruid next year...
0:38:06 > 0:38:09- ..talking on the radio - and one thing he wanted to see...
0:38:09 > 0:38:13- ..was Ray Gravell by his side - on the Eisteddfod stage.
0:38:13 > 0:38:18- So because of Dic, I'm going to - carry it one more time next year...
0:38:19 > 0:38:21- ..if you're willing.
0:38:21 > 0:38:23- ..if you're willing.- - More than willing.
0:38:23 > 0:38:24- Well, cheers to that.
0:38:24 > 0:38:26- Well, cheers to that.- - And for years to come.
0:38:32 > 0:38:36- I'm so pleased to be here this year. - I didn't think we would be.
0:38:37 > 0:38:40- We've been coming to the Eisteddfod - for ten years...
0:38:41 > 0:38:45- ..since Ray became the Grand Sword - Bearer and the kids have grown up.
0:38:45 > 0:38:49- They've reached that age - where they go off by themselves.
0:38:51 > 0:38:53- Robin is doing a great job.
0:38:54 > 0:38:56- It's quite strange.
0:38:56 > 0:39:01- I'm watching from the outside now... - Good morning!
0:39:01 > 0:39:03- Thank you.
0:39:03 > 0:39:05- It looks fantastic.
0:39:06 > 0:39:09- I'm appreciating, - or maybe realizing...
0:39:09 > 0:39:14- ..the significance of the Gorsedd - more than ever now.
0:39:14 > 0:39:15- Good morning.
0:39:17 > 0:39:18- Action!
0:39:19 > 0:39:20- Thank you.
0:39:22 > 0:39:25- He's a strong man. Come here!
0:39:25 > 0:39:29- A kiss for the Strongest Welshman! - You were fantastic!
0:39:29 > 0:39:33- You carried that huge sword - with dignity.
0:39:33 > 0:39:36- I've had two offers - that were impossible to turn down.
0:39:36 > 0:39:42- To represent my country - and to carry the Gorsedd sword.
0:39:42 > 0:39:45- Grand Sword Bearer, oof!
0:39:45 > 0:39:49- They can keep their CBEs, OBEs, - MBEs and any other BEs.
0:39:49 > 0:39:51- I say that with respect.
0:39:51 > 0:39:54- I've been honoured.
0:39:54 > 0:39:59- I don't deserve that honour, - but I accepted it with pride.
0:40:00 > 0:40:03- Back broadcasting on Radio Cymru, - Stradey Park
0:40:08 > 0:40:13- Good morning. It's great to say - - thank goodness, it's Grav!
0:40:13 > 0:40:15- And thank you to all of you.
0:40:15 > 0:40:20- It's Thursday morning - and it's a morning and a half.
0:40:20 > 0:40:23- It's going to be a memorable day.
0:40:23 > 0:40:26- Thank you, the listeners, - the people of West Wales...
0:40:26 > 0:40:31- ..you're special people and - that's why I'm here on my feet...
0:40:31 > 0:40:32- ..as it were, this morning.
0:40:33 > 0:40:36- I didn't think I'd be back. - Four months have flown by.
0:40:36 > 0:40:40- Right, we'll start. - Gareth Phillips is the singer.
0:40:40 > 0:40:42- Good morning, Gareth.
0:40:42 > 0:40:45- # Good morning, it's me and Grav
0:40:45 > 0:40:49- # Will you have a small whisky - for breakfast on the sly? #
0:40:49 > 0:40:55- Oh! He's back where he belongs now. - He really enjoys this programme.
0:40:55 > 0:40:57- He has a lot of fun doing it.
0:40:57 > 0:41:02- To be honest, the programme - inspired Ray to return to work.
0:41:02 > 0:41:05- He has missed doing it.
0:41:05 > 0:41:10- The listeners - have been so supportive...
0:41:10 > 0:41:12- ..during the time he's been ill.
0:41:13 > 0:41:15- He just enjoys it.
0:41:16 > 0:41:20- It's time for us to go. - Have I run over? No. Thanks!
0:41:21 > 0:41:25- He's so professional. - Marci G is here.
0:41:25 > 0:41:29- Tomos Bryn Morse, if I can describe - the scene, has a piece of paper...
0:41:29 > 0:41:32- ..and it's time for me - to introduce this next song.
0:41:33 > 0:41:37- Yes, it's my favourite song. - For my wife, Mari.
0:41:37 > 0:41:39- Tudur Huws Jones...
0:41:45 > 0:41:49- These words really get to me.
0:41:50 > 0:41:56- They express everything - I feel and appreciate about Mari.
0:41:57 > 0:41:58- # You are my anchor #
0:41:59 > 0:42:00- And she is my anchor.
0:42:02 > 0:42:06- You understand that, - as a wife and mother.
0:42:06 > 0:42:09- When there's a crisis, I've seen...
0:42:11 > 0:42:13- She... Well...
0:42:14 > 0:42:16- She is a rock.
0:42:21 > 0:42:25- # You are a haven
0:42:26 > 0:42:29- # My haven #
0:42:29 > 0:42:29- .
0:42:35 > 0:42:35- Subtitles
0:42:35 > 0:42:37- Subtitles- - Subtitles
0:42:47 > 0:42:51- Borth, Ceredigion, October 2007
0:43:01 > 0:43:03- You like fish, don't you?
0:43:03 > 0:43:05- Oh, seafood, yes.
0:43:05 > 0:43:09- If you had to choose between - a good steak and one of these?
0:43:09 > 0:43:11- Years ago, I'd have chosen steak.
0:43:11 > 0:43:15- I find it remarkable, - his mental attitude...
0:43:16 > 0:43:20- ..in the middle of it all, he went - down but came straight back up...
0:43:20 > 0:43:22- ..and he's very positive.
0:43:22 > 0:43:25- He realizes where he's been - and where he can go.
0:43:25 > 0:43:28- She poured it out of the jug.
0:43:28 > 0:43:32- Oh, hang on. Munster - have broken through again.
0:43:32 > 0:43:36- They're very strong. - They love each other so much.
0:43:36 > 0:43:42- And with her support, - they have both done so well.
0:43:42 > 0:43:47- She is strong - and Ray is all over the shop.
0:43:47 > 0:43:49- Mari is like a rock.
0:43:49 > 0:43:51- Who's going to win, Ray?
0:43:51 > 0:43:55- Do you know what? New Zealand - are the clear favourites.
0:43:56 > 0:44:00- But I've got a little bet - on South Africa at 9/2.
0:44:04 > 0:44:08- Receiving the new leg, - Morriston Hospital, August 2007
0:44:12 > 0:44:13- Here it is.
0:44:14 > 0:44:15- Oh, my gosh!
0:44:16 > 0:44:20- I'm not looking. Wait now. - I want to hear your reaction first.
0:44:20 > 0:44:23- It's fantastic!
0:44:23 > 0:44:25- Oh!
0:44:25 > 0:44:27- Oh! Incredible!
0:44:27 > 0:44:29- What do you think of that?
0:44:29 > 0:44:31- Oh, well!
0:44:32 > 0:44:33- Well, well!
0:44:34 > 0:44:36- Oh, Peter!
0:44:36 > 0:44:38- That's brilliant!
0:44:39 > 0:44:41- Well!
0:44:42 > 0:44:47- It's like the shirt. I didn't - realize it'd be all scarlet!
0:44:47 > 0:44:49- Scarlets!
0:44:49 > 0:44:52- Well, well! You beaut!
0:44:57 > 0:45:00- If it won't fit, - I'll carry it with me!
0:45:01 > 0:45:04- I'll be in the stand like that! - Come on, Scarlets!
0:45:04 > 0:45:06- Well, well!
0:45:08 > 0:45:09- Oh, Peter bach!
0:45:09 > 0:45:15- I really didn't expect that. - I knew you'd be thrilled with it.
0:45:15 > 0:45:16- What do you think?
0:45:16 > 0:45:18- What do you think?- - Cool.
0:45:20 > 0:45:22- Cool, cool, cool!
0:45:23 > 0:45:25- I really wasn't expecting that.
0:45:25 > 0:45:30- I thought it would be something - with a small logo.
0:45:32 > 0:45:34- You're chuffed.
0:45:34 > 0:45:37- I'm over the moon. It's Christmas.
0:45:38 > 0:45:42- I've got a new leg - and I'm wearing a Scarlets shirt.
0:45:43 > 0:45:48- I'll carry this everywhere - with pride. I'm not hiding it.
0:45:50 > 0:45:52- It's fantastic! It's fantastic!
0:45:54 > 0:45:56- It's different.
0:45:56 > 0:46:00- It looks like you're walking better.
0:46:00 > 0:46:03- A bit of a limp, but... Well, well!
0:46:03 > 0:46:05- Send it to Babs.
0:46:06 > 0:46:09- I can't use that camera. - Wow! Blimey!
0:46:14 > 0:46:15- Well, well, well!
0:46:15 > 0:46:18- There we are.
0:46:22 > 0:46:26- Testimonial match for Ray, - Stradey Park
0:46:27 > 0:46:31- # Small saucepan - boiling on the fire
0:46:31 > 0:46:35- # Big saucepan - boiling on the floor #
0:46:35 > 0:46:40- As President and as a former player, - and because of this condition...
0:46:40 > 0:46:44- ..they've asked me - to lend my name to this match.
0:46:44 > 0:46:48- The girls are mascots, so they'll - be on the pitch with Dad...
0:46:48 > 0:46:53- ..before the match and maybe - I'll ask Manon to kick us off.
0:46:53 > 0:46:57- And then... Oh, yes! New shirts!
0:46:57 > 0:46:59- New season, new shirts.
0:46:59 > 0:47:01- Hey, do you know what?
0:47:01 > 0:47:05- You two look... - Well, you look gorgeous anyway.
0:47:08 > 0:47:12- Can we get the leg in? - I'm proud of this leg.
0:47:12 > 0:47:16- We're walking out on to the field - with Dadi. We're mascots.
0:47:17 > 0:47:22- Dad is going to kick off and we - have to make sure he doesn't fall.
0:47:23 > 0:47:25- I was a mascot when I was six...
0:47:25 > 0:47:28- ..but I couldn't appreciate - the experience...
0:47:29 > 0:47:31- ..because I had chickenpox.
0:47:31 > 0:47:36- So this is going to be - a better experience.
0:47:37 > 0:47:39- Thank you, boys. Thank you.
0:47:39 > 0:47:41- Thank you very much.
0:47:41 > 0:47:46- Thank you. Thank you, boys. - Thank you. Thanks very much indeed.
0:47:46 > 0:47:49- I've been a lucky man - and I still am.
0:47:49 > 0:47:54- I've achieved things - I never thought I'd achieve.
0:47:54 > 0:47:56- I've fulfilled dreams.
0:47:56 > 0:47:58- My father had two dreams.
0:47:58 > 0:48:05- Firstly, to turn a small, - white-washed cottage...
0:48:05 > 0:48:07- ..into some kind of splendid palace.
0:48:08 > 0:48:11- It's not a palace, - but it's a home.
0:48:11 > 0:48:15- It's a lovely home - and there's plenty of space here.
0:48:15 > 0:48:17- That was his dream.
0:48:17 > 0:48:20- I've fulfilled that dream - on his behalf.
0:48:20 > 0:48:25- The second dream was that Jack - Gravell's son would play for Wales.
0:48:26 > 0:48:30- It's a strange thing - to fulfil a dream.
0:48:32 > 0:48:34- Crikey! Thank you, Nige.
0:48:34 > 0:48:36- Come with Dad.
0:48:36 > 0:48:39- Let Dad go in the middle.
0:48:44 > 0:48:48- Physically, I've changed. - That's clear for everyone to see.
0:48:48 > 0:48:50- I'm not hiding anything.
0:48:50 > 0:48:54- In a way, I accept - what's happened with pride.
0:48:54 > 0:48:57- I think that helps others, - to some extent.
0:48:57 > 0:49:00- Thank you very much. Thank you.
0:49:02 > 0:49:04- Full of pride. I want to cry.
0:49:13 > 0:49:18- I have to slow down now. - Mari tells me every day.
0:49:18 > 0:49:22- I have to slow down. - I've overdone it in the last month.
0:49:23 > 0:49:25- I've had late nights.
0:49:26 > 0:49:28- You get tired then.
0:49:29 > 0:49:31- I'm back on now in the morning.
0:49:31 > 0:49:36- That's the main thing I want to do. - I love that programme.
0:49:36 > 0:49:39- I'm back in the middle of things - with that...
0:49:40 > 0:49:44- ..so I have to be careful - and cut back on things.
0:49:44 > 0:49:48- But it's difficult when someone, - some charity...
0:49:49 > 0:49:54- When people do things - for voluntary charities...
0:49:54 > 0:49:57- ..they ask you to contribute - in some way.
0:49:58 > 0:50:02- I think then, if I refuse, people - will think I'm odd for refusing.
0:50:03 > 0:50:06- But I've started having - the mentality now, as Mari says...
0:50:07 > 0:50:11- .."You're not like you used to be. - You have to consider that."
0:50:17 > 0:50:19- Ray's birthday. September 2007
0:50:24 > 0:50:27- It's Ray's birthday. A big day.
0:50:27 > 0:50:30- We woke up quite early - this morning.
0:50:30 > 0:50:32- It was before 6.00am, I think.
0:50:33 > 0:50:36- He was singing happy birthday - to himself!
0:50:36 > 0:50:37- Poor dab!
0:50:38 > 0:50:42- We weren't given the chance - to forget about this birthday...
0:50:42 > 0:50:45- ..so we've bought him - a little cake.
0:50:45 > 0:50:47- He doesn't know about this.
0:50:48 > 0:50:51- So we'll see how he reacts now.
0:50:51 > 0:50:55- He's 56 today. - He's getting on now.
0:50:57 > 0:51:01- Why haven't we put his age - on the cake?
0:51:01 > 0:51:02- Gosh, no!
0:51:02 > 0:51:04- Gosh, no!- - He'd throttle us!
0:51:05 > 0:51:06- He's 56 today.
0:51:07 > 0:51:09- Ah, faces! There's the mother.
0:51:10 > 0:51:13- Oh! Well, well, well!
0:51:14 > 0:51:16- A cake!
0:51:16 > 0:51:18- "Happy Birthday Dad."
0:51:18 > 0:51:20- Oh! Good grief!
0:51:20 > 0:51:25- Now, I see... Oh! Surprise! - How did you do that?
0:51:25 > 0:51:31- I'm not cutting this cake. - I'm keeping it like that forever.
0:51:31 > 0:51:34- I want to frame it.
0:51:35 > 0:51:40- If this is what I think it is, - I'll be very, very happy!
0:51:41 > 0:51:45- Oh, you know, - the smell of the leather is lovely.
0:51:46 > 0:51:50- If you don't like it, - we can change it.
0:51:50 > 0:51:52- This is spot on.
0:51:52 > 0:51:56- "Tanned with vegetable extract - and completely biodegradable."
0:51:57 > 0:51:58- There we are.
0:51:58 > 0:52:03- If I haven't got money to buy food, - I can eat my wallet!
0:52:03 > 0:52:07- Oh! Hey, it's exactly - what Dad wanted.
0:52:07 > 0:52:08- You know that.
0:52:09 > 0:52:11- Five months ago, - the likelihood was...
0:52:12 > 0:52:15- ..I wouldn't be here - to celebrate this birthday.
0:52:15 > 0:52:20- So the significance of the date, - the day, my birthday...
0:52:20 > 0:52:23- ..you know, the fact - I am celebrating...
0:52:23 > 0:52:27- ..I can't express - how I feel in words.
0:52:27 > 0:52:28- I'm so grateful.
0:52:30 > 0:52:32- There was a time when I felt low...
0:52:32 > 0:52:38- ..and I thought, the end - of the journey is on the horizon.
0:52:38 > 0:52:42- But no, the end of the journey - is far away, I hope.
0:52:42 > 0:52:45- It will come some day. - That's inevitable.
0:52:45 > 0:52:48- But life is good. Life is lovely.
0:52:52 > 0:52:57- It's personal as well. There are - only four of us here. The family.
0:52:57 > 0:53:00- Manon, Gwennan and Mari.
0:53:00 > 0:53:04- And Dad, the old boy - in the big chair.
0:53:04 > 0:53:06- It's lovely to be here.
0:53:06 > 0:53:08- I'm very lucky to be here.
0:53:11 > 0:53:15- Tears of happiness have run down - these cheeks, as you know.
0:53:19 > 0:53:20- There we are.
0:53:23 > 0:53:24- 56 years old.
0:53:25 > 0:53:27- 56 not out!
0:53:28 > 0:53:30- And more runs to come.
0:53:46 > 0:53:47- Cheers!
0:53:48 > 0:53:50- The big, stormy waves and seafood.
0:53:50 > 0:53:54- Who am I to complain - and think, "Why me?"
0:53:54 > 0:53:58- Why not me? Am I religious? - Well, I still believe.
0:53:59 > 0:54:02- Whatever happens, I think something - or someone lifts us all...
0:54:03 > 0:54:06- ..when times are hard.
0:54:07 > 0:54:10- Our families, friends - or whatever it is.
0:54:10 > 0:54:15- A surgeon. Help comes from some - direction. From several directions.
0:54:15 > 0:54:17- Life is a very exciting journey.
0:54:18 > 0:54:21- Everything that comes our way - is some kind of a challenge.
0:54:22 > 0:54:25- We have to accept that challenge.
0:54:25 > 0:54:30- I'm also very aware that we - don't know what's ahead of us.
0:54:31 > 0:54:36- That might be a good thing, - but I do take every day as it comes.
0:54:48 > 0:54:51- There was something within him...
0:54:51 > 0:54:55- ..that touched and awoke - the power of graciousness.
0:54:56 > 0:54:57- Our thanks to him.
0:55:05 > 0:55:10- More information - about the effects of diabetes...
0:55:10 > 0:55:15- ..is available on the website, - www.s4c.co.uk/cymorth
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