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0:00:34 > 0:00:38- We're Nerys and Graham. - We live in Llangefni.
0:00:39 > 0:00:43- We knew each other in school. - But it wasn't special.
0:00:43 > 0:00:44- No.
0:00:44 > 0:00:48- I went out one weekend - when I moved to Llangefni.
0:00:48 > 0:00:51- We got to know each other again.
0:00:51 > 0:00:54- It wasn't plain sailing - from the start.
0:00:54 > 0:00:56- There were a lot of ups and downs.
0:00:57 > 0:00:58- Do you remember who fancied who?
0:00:58 > 0:00:59- Do you remember who fancied who?- - I don't remember.
0:01:00 > 0:01:01- I think you fancied me.
0:01:01 > 0:01:02- I think you fancied me.- - Do you think?
0:01:02 > 0:01:05- Yes, if I remember correctly.
0:01:06 > 0:01:10- I have three daughters. - The oldest is eighteen.
0:01:11 > 0:01:14- Tia is seven, - and the youngest is four.
0:01:14 > 0:01:16- We married in 2008.
0:01:16 > 0:01:17- WHISPERS
0:01:17 > 0:01:18- WHISPERS- - 2010.
0:01:18 > 0:01:20- 2010. Was it?!
0:01:20 > 0:01:22- I'm dead now!
0:01:22 > 0:01:26- We've been together for 13 years - and married for five.
0:01:27 > 0:01:29- Are you going to put it there?
0:01:29 > 0:01:31- Yes.
0:01:32 > 0:01:33- Somehow.
0:01:34 > 0:01:36- Will she be like that?
0:01:36 > 0:01:37- She's fast asleep.
0:01:38 > 0:01:39- Megan.
0:01:39 > 0:01:40- Sound asleep.
0:01:41 > 0:01:42- Megan will sleep there.
0:01:43 > 0:01:44- Megan, come out.
0:01:44 > 0:01:46- Don't be nasty to her.
0:01:47 > 0:01:50- I found out on Boxing Day. - It was a surprise.
0:01:50 > 0:01:54- It was the first time we tried, - after losing three.
0:01:54 > 0:01:57- I bought what I thought - was a pregnancy test.
0:01:58 > 0:02:00- But it was an ovulation test.
0:02:00 > 0:02:02- I hoped she was pregnant.
0:02:02 > 0:02:06- He was going to put it in a box, - as a Christmas present.
0:02:07 > 0:02:09- But Graham didn't get one.
0:02:09 > 0:02:13- I got an ovulation test, - not a pregnancy test.
0:02:19 > 0:02:21- I'm Sian Roberts.
0:02:24 > 0:02:26- I've been a midwife since 2013.
0:02:27 > 0:02:31- I started in the community - in May this year.
0:02:31 > 0:02:33- With a few weeks to go...
0:02:33 > 0:02:39- ..I'm seeing the midwife in Ysbyty - Cefni to make sure everything is OK.
0:02:39 > 0:02:41- I've had quite a few check-ups.
0:02:41 > 0:02:46- She might see me once or twice again - before the baby arrives.
0:02:46 > 0:02:48- If the baby comes on time.
0:02:49 > 0:02:50- Nerys?
0:02:53 > 0:02:54- Are you OK?
0:02:54 > 0:02:55- Are you OK?- - Yes.
0:02:55 > 0:02:57- Good. Are you OK?
0:02:57 > 0:02:59- Do you feel well in yourself?
0:02:59 > 0:03:00- Do you feel well in yourself?- - Yes.
0:03:00 > 0:03:04- The baby is moving less, - but that's normal, isn't it?
0:03:04 > 0:03:05- Less than normal?
0:03:05 > 0:03:06- Less than normal?- - In the last few days.
0:03:07 > 0:03:08- Has it?
0:03:08 > 0:03:11- At night, she's active, - but less in the day.
0:03:11 > 0:03:13- What is your normal pattern?
0:03:13 > 0:03:14- It's usually in the night.
0:03:14 > 0:03:15- It's usually in the night.- - Yes.
0:03:16 > 0:03:18- And when I wake up, - I feel the movements.
0:03:19 > 0:03:24- Mothers start feeling the baby move - at about twenty weeks.
0:03:25 > 0:03:27- Some mothers feel them a week later.
0:03:27 > 0:03:32- If they've already had a baby, - they might feel them a bit earlier.
0:03:34 > 0:03:38- The mother gets - to know the baby's pattern too.
0:03:39 > 0:03:42- I'll just feel - where the baby is lying.
0:03:42 > 0:03:44- Ready to come out, I hope.
0:03:46 > 0:03:47- The head is there.
0:03:47 > 0:03:49- Is it?
0:03:49 > 0:03:51- I hope so.
0:03:51 > 0:03:52- It is.
0:03:53 > 0:03:54- Right.
0:03:54 > 0:03:57- I'll listen in, if that's alright.
0:03:57 > 0:04:02- If they think there - is less movement than usual...
0:04:03 > 0:04:05- ..or if the pattern changes...
0:04:06 > 0:04:09- ..we tell them to contact us...
0:04:10 > 0:04:13- ..or the Assessment Unit in Bangor.
0:04:13 > 0:04:15- She doesn't move as much in the day.
0:04:16 > 0:04:18- Not as much as you were used to.
0:04:20 > 0:04:21- She's moving now.
0:04:21 > 0:04:23- She's moving now.- - Is she?
0:04:27 > 0:04:31- If a woman tells me the pattern - has changed in some way...
0:04:31 > 0:04:33- ..or there is less movement...
0:04:34 > 0:04:37- ..I ask her to go - to the Assessment Unit.
0:04:38 > 0:04:40- They will check her too.
0:04:41 > 0:04:43- They will put her on a monitor.
0:04:45 > 0:04:47- This prints the heartbeat.
0:04:49 > 0:04:54- The midwives can see the pattern - and the baby's heartbeat.
0:04:56 > 0:04:59- Better safe than sorry. - That's why I'm here.
0:04:59 > 0:05:01- We can hear the heart.
0:05:02 > 0:05:05- Tia is happy, hearing - the heart, aren't you?
0:05:07 > 0:05:09- I press that when she moves.
0:05:09 > 0:05:12- Since I'm here, - typical, she has moved loads.
0:05:12 > 0:05:16- I don't think - I'll be here for long.
0:05:16 > 0:05:19- The heart rate - and everything look fine.
0:05:32 > 0:05:36- This is the suitcase, - ready to go to hospital.
0:05:37 > 0:05:41- I've bought this babygro - with Little Sister on it.
0:05:42 > 0:05:44- I'll bring her home in this.
0:05:45 > 0:05:47- There's a matching headband.
0:05:48 > 0:05:52- Getting everything ready - makes it more real.
0:05:53 > 0:05:55- We're very excited.
0:05:58 > 0:06:01- I have polycystic ovaries, - so it was difficult.
0:06:01 > 0:06:05- I had to take medication - to have the two younger girls.
0:06:05 > 0:06:10- If I was going to be pregnant - again, I didn't want medication.
0:06:10 > 0:06:12- I was ten weeks pregnant.
0:06:12 > 0:06:14- We thought, it's just...
0:06:14 > 0:06:15- Then...
0:06:16 > 0:06:18- It's alright.
0:06:19 > 0:06:20- Don't cry.
0:06:24 > 0:06:25- Then you miscarried.
0:06:28 > 0:06:29- That's it.
0:06:29 > 0:06:33- She tried again, - but didn't want medication.
0:06:34 > 0:06:37- She lost it again at seven weeks.
0:06:37 > 0:06:39- They said they'd refer you...
0:06:40 > 0:06:43- ..to your consultant again.
0:06:43 > 0:06:47- But by then, she was pregnant again, - and lost the third.
0:06:47 > 0:06:50- They suggested you - go back on Clomid.
0:06:50 > 0:06:51- No, Metformin.
0:06:51 > 0:06:56- She got pregnant again, - but there were no problems.
0:06:56 > 0:07:01- Sadly, miscarriage can occur - for one in five women.
0:07:03 > 0:07:05- That's 20%.
0:07:07 > 0:07:09- It happens more often...
0:07:10 > 0:07:15- ...certainly more often - than I expected it to happen.
0:07:16 > 0:07:18- Most happen for no reason at all.
0:07:19 > 0:07:23- Women then go on - to have another pregnancy...
0:07:25 > 0:07:27- ..and they're fine.
0:07:27 > 0:07:30- There's no reason for most of them.
0:07:30 > 0:07:32- Are you going to help Mam...
0:07:32 > 0:07:34- ..when the baby comes?
0:07:35 > 0:07:37- Will you choose her clothes?
0:07:40 > 0:07:42- There's a girl in Mam's belly.
0:07:43 > 0:07:47- We're going to call her - Megan Lynne Parry.
0:07:47 > 0:07:49- I hope she'll be healthy.
0:07:50 > 0:07:53- Will you change her dirty nappies?
0:07:54 > 0:07:55- All of them!
0:08:06 > 0:08:08- It'd be nice to have a little boy.
0:08:09 > 0:08:10- That's it.
0:08:10 > 0:08:13- I'm trapped with all these girls!
0:08:13 > 0:08:15- I'm trapped with all these girls!- - Not that you complain!
0:08:16 > 0:08:18- I'd like to have a boy one day.
0:08:20 > 0:08:21- We'll see.
0:08:21 > 0:08:24- Things don't work out - the way you want them to.
0:08:25 > 0:08:26- Not every time.
0:08:26 > 0:08:29- This must be - how we're supposed to be.
0:08:29 > 0:08:30- A house full of girls.
0:08:34 > 0:08:36- If anything, they're more like boys.
0:08:37 > 0:08:41- They ride bikes, - play here and fight!
0:08:41 > 0:08:43- They're just the same.
0:08:45 > 0:08:48- Ruby is a tomboy. She's boisterous.
0:08:48 > 0:08:49- Not like a boy!
0:08:49 > 0:08:50- Not like a boy!- - Yes, you are.
0:08:53 > 0:08:54- Push!
0:08:54 > 0:08:58- I'll go back to work - two weeks after the birth.
0:08:58 > 0:09:01- The hours are different every day.
0:09:01 > 0:09:05- I can be with the children - and new baby. That's the plan.
0:09:06 > 0:09:10- I'll help Nerys with - the nappy changing and feeding.
0:09:10 > 0:09:13- She wouldn't be happy - if I didn't help.
0:09:13 > 0:09:16- I don't think she'd stay - with me if I was lazy.
0:09:16 > 0:09:20- She won't let me be lazy. - So that's it.
0:09:30 > 0:09:33- When we shop, he puts his arm - round me and kisses me.
0:09:33 > 0:09:37- He pesters me at the till - and everyone looks.
0:09:37 > 0:09:38- I get embarrassed!
0:09:39 > 0:09:43- It doesn't matter where, - you always do that.
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0:10:13 > 0:10:15- The midwife sent me here...
0:10:15 > 0:10:20- ..because my blood pressure is up - and there's protein in the urine.
0:10:20 > 0:10:23- They're checking, - in case of pre-eclampsia.
0:10:23 > 0:10:25- Or it's my fault.
0:10:25 > 0:10:26- Or it's my fault.- - Or Graham stresses me.
0:10:26 > 0:10:28- Playing with his phone!
0:10:30 > 0:10:32- It's very important - that we pick it up.
0:10:32 > 0:10:37- Women can deteriorate very suddenly - when they have pre-eclampsia.
0:10:39 > 0:10:41- It can affect the kidneys.
0:10:41 > 0:10:45- They create a lot of protein, - which is passed out.
0:10:45 > 0:10:47- That's how we pick it up.
0:10:47 > 0:10:52- It can affect the liver and the way - the blood goes through the body.
0:10:52 > 0:10:56- It affects the brain - and can cause headaches.
0:10:57 > 0:11:00- If they're very ill, - it can cause fits.
0:11:01 > 0:11:03- I don't want to stay overnight.
0:11:05 > 0:11:08- It shows the blood pressure - every half hour...
0:11:09 > 0:11:11- ..the baby's movements - and heartbeat.
0:11:12 > 0:11:15- They've sent urine and blood - to be tested.
0:11:15 > 0:11:19- The results will be - back in two hours.
0:11:19 > 0:11:24- I've worried more about - this pregnancy than the other three.
0:11:24 > 0:11:26- You had three miscarriages.
0:11:26 > 0:11:27- You had three miscarriages.- - Yes.
0:11:27 > 0:11:32- It's because I lost three, between - our youngest child and this one.
0:11:32 > 0:11:33- It makes you worry more.
0:11:34 > 0:11:37- Until the baby's here, - I don't think it's real.
0:11:37 > 0:11:41- I don't want to stress Nerys - and raise her blood pressure.
0:11:42 > 0:11:45- I'm trying to sit here quietly, - like a good boy.
0:11:45 > 0:11:50- I gave him instructions. - What not to do, mainly!
0:11:50 > 0:11:51- Didn't I?
0:11:52 > 0:11:56- I'll be more hands-on in labour.
0:11:57 > 0:11:59- When Nerys came in...
0:12:00 > 0:12:02- ..she had tests for pre-eclampsia.
0:12:02 > 0:12:06- We took her blood pressure - and checked the urine.
0:12:07 > 0:12:09- Luckily, this time, it was negative.
0:12:18 > 0:12:22- Because her blood pressure - was slightly high...
0:12:23 > 0:12:26- ..there's protein in the urine...
0:12:26 > 0:12:28- ..and she's overdue...
0:12:29 > 0:12:32- ..they've decided to start her off.
0:12:32 > 0:12:36- I cried when she told me. - Shock, isn't it.
0:12:36 > 0:12:39- I'll be admitted to Llifon Ward now.
0:12:39 > 0:12:42- I'll have a pessary, - or whatever it's called.
0:12:43 > 0:12:46- Lucky I packed a suitcase.
0:12:47 > 0:12:51- It's not unusual - to be admitted to hospital...
0:12:51 > 0:12:55- ..to get started off.
0:12:55 > 0:13:00- It only means that we start - the labour off.
0:13:01 > 0:13:05- She'll be given an internal pessary.
0:13:05 > 0:13:08- It works gradually over 24 hours...
0:13:08 > 0:13:10- ..sometimes, less.
0:13:10 > 0:13:16- The labour might begin on its own.
0:13:16 > 0:13:21- If not, we get the body - ready for labour.
0:13:23 > 0:13:26- It's natural to be worried.
0:13:27 > 0:13:31- I was examined again. - I'm still only three.
0:13:31 > 0:13:37- What did she say? There's only - a little thickness of cervix left.
0:13:38 > 0:13:43- I've gone too far into labour - to have the pessary.
0:13:44 > 0:13:48- I'm glad she isn't having - the tablet. She didn't want it.
0:13:48 > 0:13:50- It's a waiting game now.
0:13:51 > 0:13:53- I'm ready to go.
0:13:53 > 0:13:54- I'm ready to go.- - Excited.
0:14:06 > 0:14:12- They've brought Nerys to - the Labour Ward to break her waters.
0:14:12 > 0:14:16- I can stay here all night with her, - until the baby is born.
0:14:16 > 0:14:18- Spot on.
0:14:20 > 0:14:24- It's better than worrying at home, - and having to come back.
0:14:25 > 0:14:26- Are you nervous?
0:14:26 > 0:14:27- Are you nervous?- - Yes.
0:14:27 > 0:14:28- Why?
0:14:29 > 0:14:30- In case something goes wrong.
0:14:30 > 0:14:32- In case something goes wrong.- - It won't.
0:14:33 > 0:14:35- Right, Nerys.
0:14:35 > 0:14:37- You understand why you came here.
0:14:37 > 0:14:39- You understand why you came here.- - Yes.
0:14:39 > 0:14:41- Your blood pressure went up today.
0:14:42 > 0:14:44- They want to induce you.
0:14:44 > 0:14:47- We want to examine you, - and break the waters.
0:14:47 > 0:14:50- Are you happy for us to carry on?
0:14:52 > 0:14:53- Ouch!
0:15:03 > 0:15:06- Can you sit up a little?
0:15:07 > 0:15:11- I was examined. - They tried to break my waters.
0:15:11 > 0:15:13- They weren't sure if they'd gone.
0:15:14 > 0:15:16- They started me on a drip.
0:15:17 > 0:15:22- It'll bring on the contractions - so they can check again.
0:15:22 > 0:15:26- Nerys came in four weeks ago, - thinking her waters had broken.
0:15:27 > 0:15:30- They couldn't say - whether they had or not.
0:15:30 > 0:15:32- We had a word with the doctor.
0:15:33 > 0:15:36- He wants to start things sooner.
0:15:36 > 0:15:40- We usually wait two hours - after the waters are broken.
0:15:41 > 0:15:43- We've put her on a drip.
0:15:43 > 0:15:46- The drip helps the body - to go into labour...
0:15:47 > 0:15:50- ..rather than wait for it to happen.
0:16:02 > 0:16:05- I want to hold her hand, - but she might go mad.
0:16:05 > 0:16:10- I'm waiting for her - to tell me what to do.
0:16:11 > 0:16:14- Has the gas helped?
0:16:14 > 0:16:17- The contractions - are close together.
0:16:17 > 0:16:23- Nerys is progressing - sooner than we expected.
0:16:23 > 0:16:27- It's her fourth baby.
0:16:27 > 0:16:30- She won't need much of the drip.
0:16:41 > 0:16:45- Did the gas help - or do you want something stronger?
0:16:45 > 0:16:48- It hurts terribly.
0:16:48 > 0:16:51- I'll get morphine.
0:16:52 > 0:16:55- Don't be long, - just in case Megan comes.
0:16:57 > 0:17:01- If you need me while I'm gone...
0:17:01 > 0:17:03- ..get Graham to press that.
0:17:04 > 0:17:05- Alright.
0:17:25 > 0:17:30- The latest pain went on for a long - time. She wanted to see the midwife.
0:17:32 > 0:17:34- The pain lasted a long time.
0:17:35 > 0:17:37- Is there any pressure?
0:17:38 > 0:17:40- It's like I want to poo.
0:17:41 > 0:17:43- Is she ready to push?
0:17:43 > 0:17:45- Is she ready to push?- - I'll see.
0:17:46 > 0:17:50- I put the clip on earlier.
0:17:51 > 0:17:53- Nothing has changed.
0:17:53 > 0:17:57- Will you be OK - if I pop out to get the injection?
0:17:58 > 0:18:01- It just hurt for a long time.
0:18:02 > 0:18:06- Take some gas. Can I go and get it?
0:18:08 > 0:18:11- I'm beginning to feel sleepy.
0:18:14 > 0:18:18- It's not nice, - being woken every thirty seconds.
0:18:18 > 0:18:22- It's a pain - you'll never, ever experience...
0:18:23 > 0:18:26- ..unless I kick you in your goolies!
0:18:41 > 0:18:44- Is it fully open now? Oh, my God.
0:18:45 > 0:18:48- Can you go up in the bed?
0:18:52 > 0:18:54- Do I push?
0:18:54 > 0:18:59- Take the gas, hold your breath - and push into your bottom.
0:19:01 > 0:19:04- Hold your breath and push.
0:19:06 > 0:19:09- Head forward, and push.
0:19:11 > 0:19:12- Make it longer.
0:19:12 > 0:19:14- Make it longer.- - Ow! That hurts.
0:19:14 > 0:19:18- I know it hurts. - The pain will end once she's out.
0:19:19 > 0:19:23- Bring your feet right up - to give her plenty of room.
0:19:23 > 0:19:26- Take a deep breath and push.
0:19:26 > 0:19:29- Bring your head forward.
0:19:29 > 0:19:32- Go on! A little more. There you are.
0:19:33 > 0:19:36- Good. Keep going.
0:19:36 > 0:19:40- She's almost there. Come on! - We need her out now.
0:19:42 > 0:19:44- And again! Push harder.
0:19:44 > 0:19:46- Push harder, Nerys.
0:19:47 > 0:19:49- Go on, Nerys. She's there, babe.
0:19:50 > 0:19:53- You'll be holding her - in five minutes if you push.
0:19:53 > 0:19:55- It hurts.
0:19:55 > 0:19:59- A deep breath, and push.
0:20:01 > 0:20:04- Push, Nerys.
0:20:04 > 0:20:08- Here she comes! Well done, Nerys!
0:20:08 > 0:20:11- Look! She's like Ruby!
0:20:13 > 0:20:16- Well done, Nerys.
0:20:18 > 0:20:20- Look how lovely she is!
0:20:29 > 0:20:31- Oh, my God. I don't believe it.
0:20:31 > 0:20:33- Oh, my God. I don't believe it.- - I do.
0:20:34 > 0:20:36- Look at her little nose.
0:20:36 > 0:20:38- What time is it?
0:20:38 > 0:20:40- What time is it?- - She was born at 23.46.
0:20:42 > 0:20:44- She's a girl.
0:20:44 > 0:20:47- Have you got her?
0:20:47 > 0:20:48- Have you got her?- - Hold her.
0:20:48 > 0:20:51- The chord isn't very long.
0:20:52 > 0:20:54- Hold her there for me.
0:20:55 > 0:20:57- Her name will be Megan Lynne.
0:20:58 > 0:21:02- Megan after my grandmother. - My mother's name is Lynne.
0:21:02 > 0:21:04- Megan Lynne.
0:21:04 > 0:21:07- MEGAN CRIES
0:21:07 > 0:21:09- Tia and Ruby are sleeping.
0:21:09 > 0:21:12- Let them sleep.
0:21:15 > 0:21:16- You're trembling.
0:21:16 > 0:21:18- You're trembling.- - Yes.
0:21:19 > 0:21:22- You have a little sister.
0:21:24 > 0:21:26- Can you hear her crying?
0:21:27 > 0:21:29- Show me Megan!
0:21:30 > 0:21:34- She's cute. I'll phone you back.
0:21:34 > 0:21:37- My phone has gone flat.
0:21:37 > 0:21:39- My phone is on charge.
0:21:39 > 0:21:42- Between those two.
0:21:42 > 0:21:43- Here?
0:21:43 > 0:21:45- Here?- - Yes.
0:21:46 > 0:21:48- Open and close it.
0:21:48 > 0:21:50- Mind my fingers.
0:21:51 > 0:21:53- One more. That's it.
0:21:53 > 0:21:56- That was quick.
0:21:57 > 0:22:01- You weren't on the receiving end - of that pain!
0:22:02 > 0:22:04- Hey, missus!
0:22:08 > 0:22:09- Oh!
0:22:11 > 0:22:13- I'm glad the pain has gone.
0:22:13 > 0:22:14- Do you want a cuppa?
0:22:14 > 0:22:15- Do you want a cuppa?- - Tea, please.
0:22:16 > 0:22:17- Sugar?
0:22:17 > 0:22:18- Sugar?- - Three!
0:22:18 > 0:22:21- Tea with three, coffee with two. - Toast?
0:22:21 > 0:22:23- Thanks.
0:22:28 > 0:22:30- Amazing.
0:22:31 > 0:22:36- I was in so much pain, - but now it's such a relief.
0:22:36 > 0:22:40- I feel I'm brilliant, that I'm ace.
0:22:41 > 0:22:43- You are brilliant, for doing that.
0:22:43 > 0:22:46- When can we have another one?
0:22:48 > 0:22:50- Cute, isn't she?
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