0:00:02 > 0:00:04- 'Pain...' - SHE WAILS
0:00:04 > 0:00:05'Labour...'
0:00:05 > 0:00:07Push... Good girl.
0:00:07 > 0:00:09'..a new born baby.'
0:00:11 > 0:00:13'The biggest day for any new mum.
0:00:15 > 0:00:16'But what about the dads?
0:00:18 > 0:00:21'One in three men in the UK feel left out of the pregnancy
0:00:21 > 0:00:23'and side-lined at the birth.'
0:00:24 > 0:00:26'Men do tend to take a back seat.'
0:00:26 > 0:00:28We're just really there to take the abuse.
0:00:28 > 0:00:31'But all that is about to change.'
0:00:31 > 0:00:33This whole pregnancy is happening to me, as well,
0:00:33 > 0:00:37I'm not pregnant, but I'm... in a sense, going through it.
0:00:37 > 0:00:42'In this brand-new series, first-time dads-to-be will get a crash course
0:00:42 > 0:00:46'to hopefully become the perfect birthing partners.'
0:00:46 > 0:00:49- I haven't got a clue at the minute. - I don't think I'm prepared at all.
0:00:49 > 0:00:52It's such an unknown to me, and that really scares me.
0:00:52 > 0:00:55'Guided by midwives with years of experience...'
0:00:55 > 0:00:57- That's baby's head. - Is it?
0:00:57 > 0:01:01We've not done anything like this before, working with the father.
0:01:01 > 0:01:03It's going to be really different for us.
0:01:03 > 0:01:05'..and with each other for moral support...'
0:01:05 > 0:01:07Thank God you're here.
0:01:07 > 0:01:10'..these men will get closer to the delivery action than
0:01:10 > 0:01:12'they could have ever imagined.'
0:01:12 > 0:01:14He's done brilliant, absolutely brilliant.
0:01:14 > 0:01:16I've got a tear in my eye now.
0:01:16 > 0:01:18Yeah, yeah. Lovely, isn't it?
0:01:18 > 0:01:20'But when push comes to shove...'
0:01:20 > 0:01:21Come on, push, push, push...
0:01:24 > 0:01:26'..will these dads deliver?'
0:01:26 > 0:01:27Hard as you can.
0:01:27 > 0:01:30I didn't think I'd cry, to be honest, but I did, I can't describe it.
0:01:37 > 0:01:41Tonight, two first-time fathers need all the help they can get.
0:01:44 > 0:01:45In Manchester,
0:01:45 > 0:01:50there's a guy who's in desperate need of the midwives' attention.
0:01:50 > 0:01:5422-year-old pharmacy technician Jordan and his girlfriend Jodie
0:01:54 > 0:01:56were childhood buddies.
0:01:56 > 0:01:59A year ago, they became more than just friends.
0:01:59 > 0:02:02Jordan just asked for my number, basically, on Facebook.
0:02:02 > 0:02:04They're expecting a daughter in a few weeks.
0:02:04 > 0:02:09But the problem is, Jordan knows nothing about babies or childbirth.
0:02:09 > 0:02:12I definitely don't think if I came into labour now he'd have a clue.
0:02:12 > 0:02:14He'd probably just look at me funny and go, "Er..."
0:02:14 > 0:02:15Erm, what do I know?
0:02:17 > 0:02:19Push?
0:02:20 > 0:02:22Scream, erm...
0:02:23 > 0:02:28Erm... I don't know too much, no. I'm a bloke!
0:02:28 > 0:02:31I don't think he's prepared for the actual moment where
0:02:31 > 0:02:33she comes out and stuff,
0:02:33 > 0:02:35I think that's going to shock him.
0:02:35 > 0:02:38But instead of swotting up in time for their big day,
0:02:38 > 0:02:41Jordan devotes all his time to one thing -
0:02:41 > 0:02:42and it's not Jodie.
0:02:42 > 0:02:45Where the bloody hell's my phone?
0:02:45 > 0:02:46Never mind your phone.
0:02:47 > 0:02:50He's always on his phone, texting all his friends.
0:02:50 > 0:02:52Jodie's had one pain!
0:02:52 > 0:02:53I like my phone.
0:02:53 > 0:02:56Paying his pregnant girlfriend attention isn't his strong point.
0:02:56 > 0:02:58I love my games - I could just sit here all day,
0:02:58 > 0:03:01chilling on the settee, playing Xbox.
0:03:01 > 0:03:04If he's like, talking to me and something happens on his Xbox,
0:03:04 > 0:03:09- he'll just kind of, like, cut conversation.- Oh, shit.
0:03:09 > 0:03:10Too busy to attend to Jodie,
0:03:10 > 0:03:16and completely clueless about labour, Jordan's not the dream birthing partner.
0:03:16 > 0:03:20I want him to be paying, like, attention fully. I don't want him to be sat on his phone.
0:03:20 > 0:03:23- I'm quite good at paying attention... - No, he's not!- I'm not on my phone that much.
0:03:23 > 0:03:26- I'm quite good on my... - No, he's not, he isn't.
0:03:26 > 0:03:28He's really, really easily distracted.
0:03:28 > 0:03:31I think he'll get a bit bored, I think he'll get a bit fed up,
0:03:31 > 0:03:33and he'll lose a bit of interest...
0:03:34 > 0:03:37..and I think the mobile phone may come out.
0:03:37 > 0:03:41So can the midwives transform Jordan from hopeless to hero
0:03:41 > 0:03:44to help Jodie through the toughest day of her life?
0:03:44 > 0:03:46My motive for getting help is
0:03:46 > 0:03:49so I can to do the best for her that I can possibly do.
0:03:52 > 0:03:5550 miles away in Mansfield, another dad-to-be
0:03:55 > 0:03:58is desperate for some antenatal know-how.
0:04:01 > 0:04:05Technical sales adviser Brett and hospital employee Amy,
0:04:05 > 0:04:07have been together for eight years.
0:04:08 > 0:04:13The first thing that attracted me to Amy has got to be her bottom.
0:04:13 > 0:04:15He does say things sometimes
0:04:15 > 0:04:18and you're just like that... no, no, no...
0:04:18 > 0:04:22Amy and Brett got married a year ago and before long, a baby was on the way,
0:04:22 > 0:04:25which came as a shock to an unprepared Brett.
0:04:25 > 0:04:28I don't think it actually hit me until we'd had the first scan
0:04:28 > 0:04:32and the woman said the heartbeat's fine and everything else,
0:04:32 > 0:04:34then it was like I'd been punched,
0:04:34 > 0:04:36it was just, "Whoa, I'm going to be a dad."
0:04:36 > 0:04:41Brett would like to be there at the birth, but there is one big problem.
0:04:41 > 0:04:43I am a little bit worried she might poo.
0:04:43 > 0:04:46It's common at any birth when pushing, that not just the baby
0:04:46 > 0:04:50comes out, and Brett's seriously squeamish.
0:04:50 > 0:04:56The very first nappy he changed, I know he had to put gloves on!
0:04:56 > 0:04:59I won't be surprised if I faint. I'm just hoping it's going to be
0:04:59 > 0:05:04a faint and not be sick, as well, because that would be horrendous.
0:05:04 > 0:05:06And with a water birth planned,
0:05:06 > 0:05:10Brett's not sure he'll have the stomach to jump in at the deep end.
0:05:10 > 0:05:13I would quite like to get into the pool with her, I suppose,
0:05:13 > 0:05:15but I think if Amy pooed in the pool I'd be straight out.
0:05:17 > 0:05:21Brett's fears of bodily functions and his tendencies to joke around,
0:05:21 > 0:05:25could result in some unwise remarks on the big day.
0:05:25 > 0:05:28I do see the funny side of most things, and I'm expecting to say
0:05:28 > 0:05:32something pretty bad when you're in labour, and I don't know what yet,
0:05:32 > 0:05:35but I know it's going to be something pretty bad.
0:05:35 > 0:05:37Like, if I'm having stitches,
0:05:37 > 0:05:40he'll probably say, "Chuck another one in", or...
0:05:40 > 0:05:41HE CHUCKLES
0:05:41 > 0:05:45The midwives have got their work cut out to get Brett anywhere near ready
0:05:45 > 0:05:47to be the perfect birthing partner.
0:05:48 > 0:05:50I think, at the moment,
0:05:50 > 0:05:54in the labour ward, Amy would find me utter useless,
0:05:54 > 0:05:58she would definitely like me to learn a lot more so I can help her.
0:06:01 > 0:06:03So, one hopelessly unprepared dad-to-be...
0:06:03 > 0:06:07- See you later, have fun. - Yeah, we'll see. See you later.
0:06:11 > 0:06:14I'll be good... Well, I'll try to be good, anyway.
0:06:14 > 0:06:17..and one squeamish joker, who always puts his foot in it,
0:06:17 > 0:06:21have both signed up to this unique challenge.
0:06:22 > 0:06:26To transform these lads into super dads in the delivery room,
0:06:26 > 0:06:28are two teams of experienced midwives.
0:06:31 > 0:06:33At Wythenshawe Hospital in Manchester,
0:06:33 > 0:06:38Jordan's midwife, Rose Corke, has got 35 years' experience
0:06:38 > 0:06:41and plenty of advice for new dads.
0:06:41 > 0:06:44You know, if your partner shouts at you or she swears at you
0:06:44 > 0:06:47or she tells you she hates you or you're never going to have sex again
0:06:47 > 0:06:51and that's it, this is a divorce, don't worry, she doesn't mean it.
0:06:51 > 0:06:54- Hello, hi, there.- Nice to meet you. - Is it Jordan? Hi, I'm Rose.
0:06:55 > 0:06:59'Rose has got plenty to do if she's going to whip Jordan into shape
0:06:59 > 0:07:01'and get him anywhere near ready in time.'
0:07:01 > 0:07:04'You don't want somebody who is going to ignore you'
0:07:04 > 0:07:06and just sit there reading the paper
0:07:06 > 0:07:08or looking at the television, or at their watch.
0:07:08 > 0:07:11You've got to have somebody who's going to be empathetic
0:07:11 > 0:07:14and helpful, otherwise, what's the point of them being there?
0:07:14 > 0:07:17'Their journey to super-dads starts here.'
0:07:17 > 0:07:19- Exciting times.- It is exciting, yeah.
0:07:19 > 0:07:23Facing the challenge of transforming dad-to-be Brett
0:07:23 > 0:07:26at Kings Mill Hospital, is Jayne Platts.
0:07:26 > 0:07:29I've never done this sort of thing just with the father,
0:07:29 > 0:07:32I've always done it with either couples or just women,
0:07:32 > 0:07:34so it's a bit of a new experience for me, and we'll see
0:07:34 > 0:07:37how it goes, I'm quite excited about it.
0:07:37 > 0:07:40What sort of things do you know?
0:07:40 > 0:07:42I know she's going to scream, shout...
0:07:42 > 0:07:46and my name will be mud and she'll be in pain obviously,
0:07:46 > 0:07:49she's going to request every drug you've got in the hospital.
0:07:49 > 0:07:52- Right.- She'll be shouting, "You're not allowed near me ever again..."
0:07:52 > 0:07:56I do need you just to step outside the room while I prepare it all
0:07:56 > 0:08:00and then I shall get you back in, is that all right? Don't worry.
0:08:00 > 0:08:03With no time to waste, Jayne has a plan to help
0:08:03 > 0:08:05squeamish Brett overcome his nightmare -
0:08:05 > 0:08:09she's mocked up a scene to help him face his fear head on.
0:08:09 > 0:08:11Just going to pop this on the bed.
0:08:11 > 0:08:13It's important for Brett to see this
0:08:13 > 0:08:16because I think then it prepares him.
0:08:16 > 0:08:19I know he's a bit squeamish so it's just going to prepare him, desensitise him.
0:08:19 > 0:08:23OK, then, Brett, off we go.
0:08:23 > 0:08:27- OK. Now I'm worried.- Don't be worried, you're going to be fine.
0:08:27 > 0:08:29This is going to be really grim, innit?
0:08:29 > 0:08:31Ah, it's not that bad, OK?
0:08:33 > 0:08:35Not that bad?!
0:08:35 > 0:08:36It looks vile.
0:08:36 > 0:08:40- Quite a bit of blood soaked into the pad...- Couple of things of poo.
0:08:40 > 0:08:42Bit of poo may be there.
0:08:42 > 0:08:47Men are often quite surprised by how much blood there is at birth -
0:08:47 > 0:08:50anything up to, kind of, like, 500mls is normal.
0:08:50 > 0:08:54With a water birth planned, Amy wants squeamish Brett to
0:08:54 > 0:08:56be in the pool with her for the big moment.
0:08:56 > 0:09:00I'm starting to get a little bit worried now, cos I'm expecting all that to be the in pool.
0:09:00 > 0:09:01It will be in the pool,
0:09:01 > 0:09:05and what you also have to think is the water kind of dilutes all that,
0:09:05 > 0:09:10so in the pool, that amount of blood would send the whole pool red.
0:09:10 > 0:09:13Yeah, that is disgusting.
0:09:13 > 0:09:14So that's normal.
0:09:14 > 0:09:17'It seems Brett has got a poo phobia,'
0:09:17 > 0:09:22I don't want him to be, kind of, "Oh, no, Amy, look what's happened."
0:09:22 > 0:09:25I don't want to be in when that stuff's floating around, especially
0:09:25 > 0:09:28if the water turns red, I'm definitely not going to be in there.
0:09:28 > 0:09:32Poo's poo, dog poo don't bother me, pick it up, no problem -
0:09:32 > 0:09:33it's human poo, it's different.
0:09:33 > 0:09:35He was quite inappropriate
0:09:35 > 0:09:38with his language, as well, and some of the things he said,
0:09:38 > 0:09:41because he thinks he's funny, and I think it's just nerves,
0:09:41 > 0:09:44but again during labour, that might become a bit of a problem,
0:09:44 > 0:09:48because he's a liable to get slapped round the face, unfortunately.
0:09:51 > 0:09:56In Manchester, midwife Rose is going to throw clueless dad-to-be Jordan
0:09:56 > 0:09:57in at the deep end, too.
0:09:57 > 0:10:00Jordan hasn't given labour a thought at all,
0:10:00 > 0:10:03so to get him to think about what Jodie's needs are, and to be
0:10:03 > 0:10:07supportive, I'm going to give him a DVD and I want him to watch it
0:10:07 > 0:10:11and to really take note of what's going on in the labour process.
0:10:13 > 0:10:15- I've, er, got something to show you. - What?
0:10:15 > 0:10:19'For moral support, Jordan's lured best mate Jay round -
0:10:19 > 0:10:21'under the pretence of watching a movie.'
0:10:21 > 0:10:24Midwife wanted me to, er, have a look at something.
0:10:24 > 0:10:30- It's a DVD.- A DVD of what?- Women giving birth.- Fuck off,
0:10:30 > 0:10:35- I'm not watching that.- You are! - Right, this is not how I thought today was going to go.
0:10:35 > 0:10:38'But it's not exactly a box-office smash.'
0:10:38 > 0:10:41I can't believe I'm actually sat down, I'm going to watch this, man.
0:10:43 > 0:10:46GAS AND AIR
0:10:46 > 0:10:49- What the f...- What's that?
0:10:49 > 0:10:53WOMAN SCREAMING Oh, is she bleeding? Oh, lovely.
0:10:53 > 0:10:57- This is horrific. Oh, my God. - WOMAN WAILS
0:11:01 > 0:11:03This has got to be the worst birth ever.
0:11:03 > 0:11:07- This is... It can't be this nasty. Oh, what's that?- Is that...?
0:11:10 > 0:11:12Not anything the way I thought. Oh, my God.
0:11:12 > 0:11:15This is what you've got to look forward to.
0:11:15 > 0:11:17How long do you reckon Jodie's going to take?
0:11:17 > 0:11:21- The midwife told me it's, like, 12 to 18 hours.- Oh, my God.
0:11:21 > 0:11:24What have I done to her?
0:11:24 > 0:11:27- Has it finished?- Oh, no! - Fucking hell!
0:11:29 > 0:11:31Well, that was easy.
0:11:32 > 0:11:35I don't know how you're going to cope, man,
0:11:35 > 0:11:37I really don't know how you're going to cope.
0:11:37 > 0:11:40- If I was a woman, I wouldn't want to see that. - You'll be doing that in two weeks.
0:11:40 > 0:11:41No, I won't, Jodie will.
0:11:41 > 0:11:44Are you not scared? No?
0:11:44 > 0:11:46OK.
0:11:47 > 0:11:50You're shitting it, I know you are!
0:11:53 > 0:11:58Over in Mansfield, Brett is on his way to his next midwife session.
0:12:00 > 0:12:06I'm just on my way to meet Jayne, the midwife, at an unknown location,
0:12:06 > 0:12:09see what experiences she's got waiting for me.
0:12:09 > 0:12:13Brett's not got over his poo phobia and habit of making jokes at
0:12:13 > 0:12:18the wrong time, so Jayne's taking him to the great outdoors in an attempt
0:12:18 > 0:12:21to make Brett realise that labour pains are no laughing matter.
0:12:24 > 0:12:28This was the nearest thing I could think about to demonstrate birth.
0:12:28 > 0:12:31We're going to mimic contractions, because I want you to push the zorb
0:12:31 > 0:12:36- up the hill.- Oh.- Before we do that, though, I want you to put this on,
0:12:36 > 0:12:39- which is an empathy belly.- Right...
0:12:39 > 0:12:42This is the sort of weight a woman at full term is carrying.
0:12:42 > 0:12:46Jayne wants Brett to stop worrying about his own fears
0:12:46 > 0:12:49and start thinking about what Amy will be going through.
0:12:49 > 0:12:53- All ready?- No kicking, baby, while I'm doing this.- Start pushing.
0:12:56 > 0:12:57OK.
0:12:58 > 0:13:00Yeah. It is quite heavy, isn't it?
0:13:03 > 0:13:05Come on, big push!
0:13:05 > 0:13:09'The pain of pushing this 75-kilo inflatable up the hill
0:13:09 > 0:13:12'gives Brett some idea of what a contraction is like.'
0:13:12 > 0:13:14Go on, keep pushing!
0:13:14 > 0:13:17You're making it look so easy.
0:13:17 > 0:13:21- Now stop and have a rest. - My arms are killing.- Are they?
0:13:22 > 0:13:26- It is hard, this.- Come on then, next contraction off you go.
0:13:26 > 0:13:29- No, it'll wait for me.- Come on, go, now, off we go, push!
0:13:29 > 0:13:32Push like mad,
0:13:32 > 0:13:34come on, now, Brett, we're nearly there,
0:13:34 > 0:13:37you're doing absolutely amazing, fantastic, well done.
0:13:37 > 0:13:41- Baby's nearly coming out now... stop.- Stop?
0:13:41 > 0:13:45- Well done.- Oh, thank God for that.
0:13:45 > 0:13:48- I feel like I've just had a baby. - SHE LAUGHS
0:13:48 > 0:13:52So if you imagine a woman doing that for about an hour at a time,
0:13:52 > 0:13:56you can imagine what sort of energy she's putting into it
0:13:56 > 0:13:57and how shattered she is,
0:13:57 > 0:13:59afterwards. Yeah, yeah.
0:13:59 > 0:14:01Kind of wanted to say something back to you, all the way up.
0:14:01 > 0:14:04- So what did you want to say? - I'm bloody doing it, woman, leave me alone!
0:14:04 > 0:14:07He's not going to make any jokes I don't think, he realises now how
0:14:07 > 0:14:10much concentration's needed during that part of labour.
0:14:10 > 0:14:12OK, then Brett,
0:14:12 > 0:14:13now's the time.
0:14:15 > 0:14:19- Something I'd never thought I'd be doing.- I'm ready for lift off!
0:14:22 > 0:14:24Who-a-a-a!
0:14:26 > 0:14:30Now he's had a taste of what Amy will go through, Jayne wants
0:14:30 > 0:14:33Brett to experience birth from the inside out.
0:14:33 > 0:14:35I'm going out head first?
0:14:35 > 0:14:38Head first. Big push! That's it, well done.
0:14:42 > 0:14:44And then another push, and then the whole body.
0:14:44 > 0:14:48Well done! Fantastic! It's a baby boy.
0:14:48 > 0:14:53Having being born again, will Brett learn to see things from Amy's point of view
0:14:53 > 0:14:56and keep his bad jokes to himself?
0:14:56 > 0:15:00He realises now how much energy it takes up actually birthing a baby,
0:15:00 > 0:15:04so I think he's got a better understanding of what Amy's going to go through.
0:15:08 > 0:15:12With the births just weeks away, the lads are brimming with confidence,
0:15:12 > 0:15:15and having had plenty of mental preparation,
0:15:15 > 0:15:19it's time to get practical and boost their birth know-how.
0:15:19 > 0:15:22Get your fingers like that, and just push in
0:15:22 > 0:15:24and what you're feeling for is a hard area.
0:15:27 > 0:15:29I can feel, like, the side of her.
0:15:30 > 0:15:33- No, that's the baby's head. - Oh, is it?
0:15:33 > 0:15:35'Now he's had a taste of what labour's like,
0:15:35 > 0:15:41'Brett learns how to use a tens machine, which releases electronic pulses to help dull the pain.'
0:15:41 > 0:15:43This is a really good distraction
0:15:43 > 0:15:47because it's got buttons and things to press, and things to touch and things to twiddle.
0:15:47 > 0:15:50It feels like when you've got a twitch in the muscle
0:15:50 > 0:15:53- and your muscle's twitching. - Yep.- That's what it feels like.
0:15:53 > 0:15:56You can see it's actually making my fingers go and everything,
0:15:56 > 0:16:00which is...very weird, feel like I'm playing my guitar!
0:16:00 > 0:16:04This is a balloon with about two litres of water in it,
0:16:04 > 0:16:06I'm going to show you...
0:16:06 > 0:16:11'But when Jayne shows him a mocked up impression of the waters breaking,
0:16:11 > 0:16:14'his jokes are still not pressing the right buttons.'
0:16:14 > 0:16:17She's bloody cleaning it, I'm not touching it.
0:16:17 > 0:16:21You do keep saying things that I'm thinking, "Oh, my God,
0:16:21 > 0:16:25"if you say that whilst she's in labour, she'll absolutely kill you."
0:16:25 > 0:16:29'Rose shows Jordan how he can ease Jodie's labour pains using massage'.
0:16:29 > 0:16:32Your job then is to get down on your knees,
0:16:32 > 0:16:38- and with the palm of your hand you're going to be right down there, does that feel OK?- Yeah.
0:16:38 > 0:16:40- Come on, try that.- OK.
0:16:42 > 0:16:44- Is that hard enough?- No.
0:16:44 > 0:16:47Right, yeah, that's it. The firmness, though, is important
0:16:47 > 0:16:52because that's making her feel secure and it's also relieving the pain.
0:16:53 > 0:16:56'And after today's session, for easily-distracted Jordan,
0:16:56 > 0:17:00'it looks like things are finally sinking in.'
0:17:00 > 0:17:02I can't remember how she did it...
0:17:02 > 0:17:05'To Jodie's surprise, he's using his new skills
0:17:05 > 0:17:08'to pay her a little more attention than she's used to.'
0:17:08 > 0:17:11She said, bottom of your lower back, push there
0:17:11 > 0:17:14but put pressure on it, just below there.
0:17:14 > 0:17:18- Oh, you pushed me over, then!- Sorry. How do you feel?
0:17:18 > 0:17:21Better than your usual massages.
0:17:21 > 0:17:24- You learnt some skills.- What's wrong with my other massages?- Awful.
0:17:24 > 0:17:28Definitely seemed like he's looked at the woman's side of things
0:17:28 > 0:17:33a bit better, and tried to understand that, which is something
0:17:33 > 0:17:34he didn't know before.
0:17:34 > 0:17:36That was good, you learnt some stuff.
0:17:38 > 0:17:40- I'm impressed.- I'm fucked...
0:17:40 > 0:17:42'Don't strain yourself Jordan(!)'
0:17:48 > 0:17:49'With the big day looming,
0:17:49 > 0:17:52'midwife Jayne has called Amy in to help prepare Brett for their
0:17:52 > 0:17:55'planned water birth.'
0:17:55 > 0:17:56Welcome to the pool.
0:17:56 > 0:18:00I'm hoping today's session is going to reassure Brett that if he
0:18:00 > 0:18:02wants to get into the pool during the birth, he can do,
0:18:02 > 0:18:04and there's nothing to be frightened of.
0:18:04 > 0:18:09'Amy desperately wants Brett to take the plunge with her, but he's still not keen.'
0:18:09 > 0:18:11You can get changed in there, as well.
0:18:11 > 0:18:15Not that interested in going in the pool just in case she poops.
0:18:15 > 0:18:18There's nothing Jayne can say today that'll make me go in the pool with Amy.
0:18:18 > 0:18:22So just get in it now and just do whatever you feel need to do.
0:18:22 > 0:18:26- I can get here, lean over here... - You can get there, yeah.
0:18:26 > 0:18:27Yeah.
0:18:27 > 0:18:30I'd like him to be able to lift it out...
0:18:32 > 0:18:34..but you're not interested in going in, are you?
0:18:34 > 0:18:36I'm thinking it's going to be more comfortable for me
0:18:36 > 0:18:40if I stay dry. The more comfortable I am, the more comfortable you're going to be,
0:18:40 > 0:18:42cos I get to be with you and not worrying about...
0:18:44 > 0:18:47I just think it's easier if I stay dry. It's going to be easier for ME
0:18:47 > 0:18:51and more comfortable for ME, if I stay dry all the way through it.
0:18:51 > 0:18:54I know you're thinking you're going to go in labour and all that...
0:18:54 > 0:18:59Brett, Brett, unfortunately, this is not about you, it's about Amy.
0:18:59 > 0:19:03Get in the pool now and see what it feels like.
0:19:03 > 0:19:06'The girls join forces to coax Brett out of his comfort zone.'
0:19:08 > 0:19:11- Get in the pool?- Climb in this side cos there's steps there.
0:19:11 > 0:19:14It's warmer than you think, ain't it?
0:19:14 > 0:19:17You come and sit in front of him,
0:19:17 > 0:19:21just lean back on him, that's it, he'll hold you...there.
0:19:22 > 0:19:24So what does that feel like?
0:19:25 > 0:19:28- That's nice. I like it.- Yeah, me too.
0:19:28 > 0:19:31You see, that's quite comfy, ain't it?
0:19:31 > 0:19:34Probably more comfortable when he's in massaging me than when he's out.
0:19:34 > 0:19:38- If you want me to get in...- I mean, when the stuff starts coming out,
0:19:38 > 0:19:39he can get out.
0:19:39 > 0:19:42Nothing'll stop me getting out...
0:19:42 > 0:19:43If you do poo yourself,
0:19:43 > 0:19:47we're very, very good at getting rid of it without causing a fuss.
0:19:47 > 0:19:50I've been trained on what I can say and what I can't say,
0:19:50 > 0:19:52so I know what to say and what not to say now,
0:19:52 > 0:19:54so there shouldn't be no inappropriate comments.
0:19:54 > 0:20:00Back on dry land, Brett reflects on having gained his water wings.
0:20:05 > 0:20:07Yay!
0:20:09 > 0:20:13I like the fact that we were so close with you laid on me and stuff like that,
0:20:13 > 0:20:15as you're in labour, I can imagine that being really nice,
0:20:15 > 0:20:18really passionate between us, and stuff, you know.
0:20:18 > 0:20:20I thought that's what you'd like,
0:20:20 > 0:20:23that's why it's done you well to go in it.
0:20:23 > 0:20:27Whilst I don't like the idea of getting in the pool whilst you're in labour and stuff,
0:20:27 > 0:20:30I like what we did and think it'd be brilliant,
0:20:30 > 0:20:32so I don't know. I'm kind of torn.
0:20:32 > 0:20:35It can be whatever you want at the time.
0:20:38 > 0:20:42'At last, Brett is seeing things from Amy's point of view.
0:20:42 > 0:20:47'But despite the midwife's efforts, Jordan's struggling to focus.'
0:20:49 > 0:20:51I could well play the Xbox on this.
0:20:51 > 0:20:57'And with time running out, midwife Rose feels Jordan needs an urgent wake-up call.'
0:20:57 > 0:21:02He really needs to step up his game because I actually haven't seen him concentrate yet.
0:21:02 > 0:21:06- Erm...- This is no laughing matter! I'm really uncomfortable here.
0:21:06 > 0:21:09Help me! Help me! What are you going to do?
0:21:09 > 0:21:12So I want Jordan to look after a robo-baby
0:21:12 > 0:21:14'and really immerse himself in it...'
0:21:14 > 0:21:17- This should be interesting. - '..so that he can prove to me'
0:21:17 > 0:21:20and to Jodie that he can really concentrate on something.
0:21:23 > 0:21:25I'm looking after you then, yeah?
0:21:25 > 0:21:27'For the whole day, Jordan will play Dad.
0:21:27 > 0:21:31'He has sole responsibility of caring for a new baby.
0:21:31 > 0:21:35'And he's the only one allowed to stop this baby from crying.'
0:21:35 > 0:21:39Do you want to go in the basket for now? Come on, then.
0:21:39 > 0:21:42'Robo-baby is just like a real baby - Jordan must work out
0:21:42 > 0:21:46'if it needs feeding, changing or just a cuddle...
0:21:46 > 0:21:50'so it'll need a little more attention than his phone or a games console.'
0:21:52 > 0:21:54Aww, ain't it cute?
0:21:55 > 0:21:59Oh, great, I've got a gang to kill now. I've just set my horse on fire!
0:21:59 > 0:22:05- Jordan!- What?- You have to do it properly. No games. Watch her head.
0:22:05 > 0:22:09- Don't let go of her head. Her head's going to fall!- You all right?
0:22:10 > 0:22:12You talking to me? Are you talking to me?
0:22:12 > 0:22:15Jordan, you're supposed to take this seriously, I mean it!
0:22:15 > 0:22:16Are you talking to me?
0:22:16 > 0:22:20- You're being an idiot. - Disrespect my family!
0:22:20 > 0:22:22- Jordan! - ROBO-BABY WHIMPERS
0:22:22 > 0:22:25Do you want to go to sleep now?
0:22:26 > 0:22:31ROBO-BABY WAILS
0:22:33 > 0:22:38- Shut up!- Do something to make it stop crying!
0:22:40 > 0:22:43- Sit down, hold it properly. - I can't be arsed, I want to stand up.
0:22:43 > 0:22:46I'll put her back in there when she shuts up.
0:22:46 > 0:22:49You're supposed to act like it's a real baby. Is this what I'm in for?
0:22:49 > 0:22:51But it's not, it's a doll! HE LAUGHS
0:22:51 > 0:22:53You're such an idiot.
0:22:53 > 0:22:57- You've really pissed me off today. - But you're not real, are you?
0:22:57 > 0:23:01Yeah, exactly. You can't even look after that.
0:23:01 > 0:23:05- Well, I can. I just... - You're choosing not to because you want to be big and clever.
0:23:05 > 0:23:07Do you want me to take the batteries out?
0:23:07 > 0:23:10HE SNIGGERS
0:23:10 > 0:23:13She's right, she's right, look at her, she's chilling.
0:23:13 > 0:23:16Just restore her to factory settings!
0:23:16 > 0:23:18I'm going for a cig.
0:23:21 > 0:23:24ROBO-BABY CRIES I'm having a cig.
0:23:27 > 0:23:28Annoyed with his attitude,
0:23:28 > 0:23:31Jodie goes out and leaves Jordan to it.
0:23:31 > 0:23:33She hopes that by being alone with the baby,
0:23:33 > 0:23:37he'll have no choice but to take it more seriously.
0:23:37 > 0:23:40Tonight, I'm going to show you all about Call Of Duty.
0:23:42 > 0:23:44That's an Xbox. ROBO-BABY CRIES
0:23:46 > 0:23:47Shut up.
0:23:47 > 0:23:50As the hours go by...
0:23:53 > 0:23:55..and the baby screams louder...
0:23:58 > 0:24:00..new dad Jordan has to work harder...
0:24:00 > 0:24:02- HE GROANS - ..and harder.
0:24:08 > 0:24:12And slowly but surely, he seems to be getting the hang of it.
0:24:12 > 0:24:15I don't know what that sound is, what she's making.
0:24:17 > 0:24:18Burps.
0:24:18 > 0:24:21# Baby love, my baby love... #
0:24:21 > 0:24:25Once you're, erm, actually doing it, you feel quite satisfied.
0:24:25 > 0:24:29# Instead of breaking up
0:24:29 > 0:24:32# Let's do some kissing and making up... #
0:24:32 > 0:24:36If you know you're doing something right for the baby, it does boost you up a bit,
0:24:36 > 0:24:39it's like, yeah, I'm doing something right, so, you know...
0:24:43 > 0:24:45She likes that rocking.
0:24:47 > 0:24:50I just kept thinking, cos in my head I knew it wasn't real,
0:24:50 > 0:24:53I think I was just a bit annoyed with that, to be honest with you.
0:24:53 > 0:24:55I just wish it was my baby at the moment,
0:24:55 > 0:24:57but I've got all that to come, eh?
0:24:57 > 0:25:01'After being away for two hours, Jodie arrives home...
0:25:03 > 0:25:05'..to a boyfriend she barely recognises.'
0:25:05 > 0:25:07ROBO-BABY CRIES
0:25:10 > 0:25:13# Cos she doesn't mind the oo, oo... #
0:25:13 > 0:25:17'I think he felt like a bit of an idiot looking after her,'
0:25:17 > 0:25:21but yeah, massive improvement within...within a few hours.
0:25:21 > 0:25:23He seems quite attached now.
0:25:23 > 0:25:26I can't believe how much you've bonded together
0:25:26 > 0:25:27since I've been gone.
0:25:27 > 0:25:30- Yeah.- You look dead chuffed with yourself.- I am.
0:25:36 > 0:25:38Ow...
0:25:38 > 0:25:43So your last contraction was 40 seconds long,
0:25:43 > 0:25:45took 17 minutes from the one before.
0:25:45 > 0:25:49'For Brett, the lessons are over, but as Amy starts to experience
0:25:49 > 0:25:53'signs of early labour, his real challenge is just about to begin.'
0:25:53 > 0:25:56Needs to stop 'em altogether, don't it?
0:25:56 > 0:25:58'Using his knowledge from the midwife classes
0:25:58 > 0:26:02'and a phone app, Brett's able to help Amy through her contractions.'
0:26:02 > 0:26:06But they're consistent, aren't they? They're regular, I mean, 22 now...
0:26:06 > 0:26:10how many do you think it's going to be till you have a baby, then?
0:26:11 > 0:26:15- Dread to think.- But you're handling them really well, aren't you?
0:26:15 > 0:26:17Only 30 seconds and then you're all right again, aren't you?
0:26:17 > 0:26:22You're not getting too uncomfortable yet or anything, are you?
0:26:23 > 0:26:25'Over the last few weeks...'
0:26:25 > 0:26:26Go on, keep pushing!
0:26:26 > 0:26:29'..midwife Jayne has helped Brett appreciate
0:26:29 > 0:26:31'the effort involved in labour...'
0:26:31 > 0:26:32It's a baby boy!
0:26:32 > 0:26:35'..and keep a lid on his bad jokes.'
0:26:35 > 0:26:38A lot of men crack jokes, and they're not funny.
0:26:38 > 0:26:42But now that it's the real thing, will squeamish Brett sink or swim?
0:26:45 > 0:26:50- So your first one at 6:20, and now it's 10:10.- Oh, my God.- What?
0:26:50 > 0:26:55- Four hours.- Yeah, but this is four hours I'd rather
0:26:55 > 0:26:57you be here than in a hospital,
0:26:57 > 0:27:01but you're not really frequent enough to ring em up and go in, yet,
0:27:01 > 0:27:04I mean, you might be later.
0:27:04 > 0:27:06Feel shattered now, don't you?
0:27:08 > 0:27:10Right, ready for bed?
0:27:10 > 0:27:11'Despite Amy's pain,
0:27:11 > 0:27:14'he's learnt that it's too early to head to hospital.'
0:27:14 > 0:27:15See if we can get some sleep.
0:27:15 > 0:27:20Without these sessions I'd be at hospital now saying I want a bed,
0:27:20 > 0:27:24she wants to be in a bed now, get her in a bed, legs in stirrups, all ready,
0:27:24 > 0:27:26'but now I kind of know it's not going to work like that
0:27:26 > 0:27:28'and need to wait a little bit.'
0:27:28 > 0:27:30How you doing, all right?
0:27:31 > 0:27:33You OK?
0:27:33 > 0:27:34You're doing well, darling.
0:27:34 > 0:27:36'Of course if she does get to a point'
0:27:36 > 0:27:40where the pain is unbearable, it'll be different again,
0:27:40 > 0:27:42but, you know, only time can tell.
0:27:42 > 0:27:45- Argh...- You all right, sweet? You want me?
0:27:48 > 0:27:52- You'll have it soon. - No, I won't.- Few more hours.
0:27:52 > 0:27:57'It's half past midnight and the contractions start coming more often.
0:27:58 > 0:28:01'Brett will need to put all his learning into practise to
0:28:01 > 0:28:03'support Amy through the pain.'
0:28:03 > 0:28:05SHE GROANS
0:28:05 > 0:28:09'But can he resist the temptation to crack his trademark jokes?'
0:28:11 > 0:28:14I think it's one of them times when you've been drinking,
0:28:14 > 0:28:17day after, "Never again", and then you do it again...
0:28:17 > 0:28:19or you don't.
0:28:19 > 0:28:21Don't compare labour to a hangover.
0:28:21 > 0:28:24He's doing really well at the minute,
0:28:24 > 0:28:28apart from comparing labour to a hangover...
0:28:29 > 0:28:33..saying, "I know, I know, I know you're in pain, I know how you feel".
0:28:33 > 0:28:34But you don't know how I feel.
0:28:38 > 0:28:43- Facebook's been blowing up all night.- Who you texting?- Jay.
0:28:43 > 0:28:47'It's midnight, and phone-addict Jordan's sharing some news with the world.'
0:28:47 > 0:28:51She started having pains at eight o'clock, and since the past hour,
0:28:51 > 0:28:55they've been coming on every ten minutes, some six minutes,
0:28:55 > 0:28:56so I'm guessing this is it.
0:28:56 > 0:29:00'Over the last few weeks, midwife Rose has had her work cut out
0:29:00 > 0:29:04'to focus the unprepared dad-to-be on Jodie in labour.'
0:29:04 > 0:29:06I don't know too much, no.
0:29:06 > 0:29:08'So he's been faced with the real thing...'
0:29:08 > 0:29:09THEY GROAN
0:29:09 > 0:29:12'..had to get real with a robo-baby...'
0:29:12 > 0:29:13She likes that rocking.
0:29:13 > 0:29:16'..and be realistic about his role at the birth.'
0:29:16 > 0:29:19Actually lie back on him and sway from side to side.
0:29:22 > 0:29:28'Jodie's in early labour and he's starting to put what he's learnt into practice.'
0:29:28 > 0:29:29You all right?
0:29:31 > 0:29:33Time to go in soon.
0:29:33 > 0:29:38'He's even found a good use for his phone - timing contractions.'
0:29:38 > 0:29:43Put on a scale, like... big pain, medium pain, small pain?
0:29:43 > 0:29:44It hurts...
0:29:45 > 0:29:48'Jodie's pains are getting closer together.'
0:29:48 > 0:29:51I'm at 27, so four, five, six, seven...
0:29:51 > 0:29:52four minutes ago.
0:29:54 > 0:29:55And in the early hours,
0:29:55 > 0:30:00the couple decide to go to hospital, to get Jodie checked out.
0:30:06 > 0:30:14So Jodie's now, er, 3cm dilated so er, she's been taken up to the ward.
0:30:14 > 0:30:16Everything is kind of going ahead as planned
0:30:16 > 0:30:19and I'm going to go and get some kip.
0:30:19 > 0:30:22Then I'm coming back up in a couple of hours.
0:30:22 > 0:30:24Over in Mansfield,
0:30:24 > 0:30:27Amy's been having contractions for over 12 hours.
0:30:27 > 0:30:29Not great.
0:30:29 > 0:30:32Brett decides to call the hospital.
0:30:32 > 0:30:35She's obviously crying, she's in a lot of pain.
0:30:37 > 0:30:39The midwives advise him to bring her in.
0:30:51 > 0:30:53Hi, Brett and Amy Jewsbury here.
0:30:53 > 0:30:55- Come in.- Thank you.
0:31:05 > 0:31:10Get your breath back, you're 2 to 3 centimetres.
0:31:10 > 0:31:12But Amy is not ready to give birth.
0:31:12 > 0:31:17So I don't know whether you want to go to the ward for a little bit
0:31:17 > 0:31:21to see if you can establish or whether you want to go home
0:31:21 > 0:31:25- and try and get some sleep.- That's what you need to do, isn't it?
0:31:25 > 0:31:27SHE SOBS
0:31:27 > 0:31:30It's all right, it's not what we were wanting to hear,
0:31:30 > 0:31:33obviously it's making Amy a little bit emotional,
0:31:33 > 0:31:36because she wants the baby now and she's tired and so it's difficult
0:31:36 > 0:31:40but, hey ho, come on.
0:31:45 > 0:31:50You'll be all right. we'll go home and get some sleep, yeah?
0:31:50 > 0:31:55There's no rush, darling. OK?
0:31:56 > 0:31:59All right?
0:31:59 > 0:32:04Get a couple hours' sleep, it might help you make you strong, OK?
0:32:09 > 0:32:13They decide Amy will be more comfortable in her own bed
0:32:13 > 0:32:17and head home to wait for the latter stages of labour to finally arrive.
0:32:17 > 0:32:21- See you later, bye. - Hopefully.
0:32:28 > 0:32:33Jordan's back at hospital after a couple of hours' sleep.
0:32:33 > 0:32:37Jodie is still in early labour, and Jordan is still glued to his phone.
0:32:37 > 0:32:41I'm ringing Jay, he's off today. Hello?
0:32:43 > 0:32:47Jodie's here with me now, she's rocking on me side to side.
0:32:47 > 0:32:51Er, no, we're waiting to see how it goes but she should be here
0:32:51 > 0:32:53at about nine tonight, something like that, at least.
0:32:53 > 0:32:56- Ow, ow, ow.- I can't hear you, babe.
0:32:56 > 0:32:57OW!
0:33:09 > 0:33:12With text-obsessed Jordan's mind on other things...
0:33:12 > 0:33:17Right, I'm just going to ring a couple of people on here.
0:33:17 > 0:33:20- Did she confiscate it, Jordan? - No, no.
0:33:20 > 0:33:24Both Jodie and Jordan's mums have arrived to offer support.
0:33:24 > 0:33:27I said to Jodie, "I know he's going to be there on his phone."
0:33:27 > 0:33:32Question is, can Jordan concentrate now that it really counts?
0:33:36 > 0:33:38Come on, slip your shoes off.
0:33:38 > 0:33:41Brett and Amy have been at home for 12 hours.
0:33:41 > 0:33:45The contractions are getting stronger
0:33:45 > 0:33:48and Brett decides it's time to take her back to hospital.
0:33:48 > 0:33:52The pain's a lot stronger than what she's had all day, basically.
0:33:52 > 0:33:55- Oh, God.- And all night last night, we need to get moving.
0:34:01 > 0:34:04Ow, ow, ow, ow.
0:34:14 > 0:34:18Brett and Amy Jewsbury.
0:34:18 > 0:34:22Amy has set her heart on a water birth
0:34:22 > 0:34:23with Brett in the pool with her,
0:34:23 > 0:34:26but a routine test has revealed a complication.
0:34:29 > 0:34:31The baby's heartbeat is irregular
0:34:31 > 0:34:36and will need constant monitoring to make sure it's at a safe level,
0:34:36 > 0:34:39so a water birth is no longer possible for Amy.
0:34:39 > 0:34:43Might be inappropriate but can I still get in the pool?
0:34:43 > 0:34:47- Don't make inappropriate comments. - Sorry
0:34:47 > 0:34:51My role now would be wherever Amy needs me now, and reassuring
0:34:51 > 0:34:53her that everything's OK.
0:34:53 > 0:34:56I'd have preferred the water pool as she wanted,
0:34:56 > 0:35:00but it happens, you know, not every pregnancy and labour's perfect.
0:35:00 > 0:35:02I'm just going to apply a bit of pressure on the top
0:35:02 > 0:35:04of your tummy, is that all right?
0:35:04 > 0:35:05Deep breaths on the gas.
0:35:05 > 0:35:08The doctors need to break Amy's waters to attach
0:35:08 > 0:35:09a monitor to the baby's head.
0:35:09 > 0:35:12That's it, that's perfect.
0:35:12 > 0:35:15You're doing brilliantly.
0:35:15 > 0:35:17- That's the waters breaking. - You feel that?
0:35:17 > 0:35:19Your water's gone, darling.
0:35:19 > 0:35:23Ah, that's warm. That's warm.
0:35:23 > 0:35:25Everything OK with the water then?
0:35:25 > 0:35:27With Amy's contractions getting stronger,
0:35:27 > 0:35:30can Brett stop putting his foot in it
0:35:30 > 0:35:32and provide the support she needs?
0:35:32 > 0:35:35The way you described when your waters went, was it really warm?
0:35:35 > 0:35:38- Yeah, really warm. - Was it, like you wet yourself?- Yeah.
0:35:40 > 0:35:42- Have you got a pain?- Yeah, it's so much worse now.
0:35:42 > 0:35:45Breathe.
0:35:45 > 0:35:49In Manchester, it's been 17 hours since Jodie went into labour...
0:35:51 > 0:35:53..and Jordan's still taking a backseat.
0:35:53 > 0:35:55Probably, Jodie, like we said before,
0:35:55 > 0:35:59because you're sat... They do hurt a bit more.
0:36:01 > 0:36:05- I think he's about to nod, aren't you?- Tired?
0:36:05 > 0:36:08He's had more sleep than me, I've had none.
0:36:08 > 0:36:13Driving back and forwards through them lights, it's a nightmare.
0:36:13 > 0:36:14Oh, bless you.
0:36:14 > 0:36:17Jordan's support role is more important than ever now
0:36:17 > 0:36:21that Jodie's showing signs the birth's getting nearer.
0:36:21 > 0:36:23When you're at the point of pushing,
0:36:23 > 0:36:25what are your contractions like then?
0:36:25 > 0:36:28As you get to fully dilated, as the baby just starts moving down
0:36:28 > 0:36:30into your vagina, they change again
0:36:30 > 0:36:32and they often don't come as regularly.
0:36:32 > 0:36:36They become a bit irregular. But they still should be really strong.
0:36:36 > 0:36:38- Yeah.- But of course they change
0:36:38 > 0:36:41cos you feel it all pushing out of your bottom.
0:36:41 > 0:36:44When midwife Rose starts her shift,
0:36:44 > 0:36:46she's keen to get an update from Jordan.
0:36:46 > 0:36:48- Are you being supportive?- Yeah.
0:36:48 > 0:36:50What have you done? What have you done?
0:36:50 > 0:36:54Erm, supporting her, you know, just complimenting her, you know.
0:36:54 > 0:36:57- Keeping her reassured. - Have you rubbed her back at all?
0:36:57 > 0:37:00- Erm, no.- Don't forget what I've taught you.
0:37:00 > 0:37:03I mean, at some point, she'll get to that point, really,
0:37:03 > 0:37:05when she's really feeling, you know, it's like a little bit
0:37:05 > 0:37:07out of control and that's when you've really got
0:37:07 > 0:37:10- to come into your own.- Yeah.- You've really got to sort of calm her down.
0:37:10 > 0:37:13- You know, you're the chief in a way. - Yeah.
0:37:13 > 0:37:16It's all about Jodie but you're going to be the coach.
0:37:16 > 0:37:20Is she in the loo? Is she feeling a bit sicky?
0:37:20 > 0:37:23I thought we'd just make the most of just having a little try
0:37:23 > 0:37:26- to put our mind at rest. - Yeah, yeah.- What's happened?
0:37:26 > 0:37:29She's just feeling a bit sickly, yeah.
0:37:29 > 0:37:31And she's labouring hard now.
0:37:31 > 0:37:34Is it established labour pretty much?
0:37:37 > 0:37:39We're nearly there, aren't we? Eh, Jode?
0:37:39 > 0:37:43- We're nearly there, aren't we? - I don't know.
0:37:43 > 0:37:45- We are, we are. Shall we go back onto the bed?- Yeah.
0:37:45 > 0:37:49Yeah? Come on.
0:37:49 > 0:37:52Rose's pep talk seems to have paid off.
0:37:52 > 0:37:54- Is that better?- Yeah.
0:37:54 > 0:37:56Yeah, good girl.
0:37:56 > 0:38:00Jordan's finally putting his skills into practice, using massage
0:38:00 > 0:38:04and positions to support Jodie through her pains.
0:38:04 > 0:38:07How's that? Feeling better now?
0:38:07 > 0:38:10Jodie is halfway to being fully dilated.
0:38:10 > 0:38:13It could be hours before she can start pushing.
0:38:15 > 0:38:18Come on, babe.
0:38:24 > 0:38:29It's almost 7am and Amy's cervix is nearly fully dilated.
0:38:29 > 0:38:31Ow, ow!
0:38:31 > 0:38:33She is now at the pushing stage of labour
0:38:33 > 0:38:36and Brett is providing the support she needs.
0:38:36 > 0:38:39Push me away. Hold your breath, darling, push me away.
0:38:39 > 0:38:41Oh, shite!
0:38:41 > 0:38:44For once it's not Brett using X-rated language.
0:38:44 > 0:38:49Right, wonderful. Come on, keep it going, Amy, keep it going.
0:38:49 > 0:38:52And as the pushing gets harder, Brett offers a helping hand...
0:38:52 > 0:38:54Still there. Give me another long one.
0:38:54 > 0:38:56..for Amy to crush.
0:38:56 > 0:38:58- Well done.- Ow, my hand!
0:39:02 > 0:39:03He'll need to be on his best behaviour
0:39:03 > 0:39:06- as the big moment gets closer. - Don't worry about me.
0:39:09 > 0:39:13Jodie, big breath for me now. Come on, right. Big breaths for me.
0:39:13 > 0:39:16That's a girl, good girl, keep going, and again.
0:39:16 > 0:39:20Come on, come on, babe. Breathe it in.
0:39:20 > 0:39:24Things are going slow for Jodie, and after 21 hours in labour,
0:39:24 > 0:39:26it's still not time to push.
0:39:26 > 0:39:28Breath on your gas, I know, go on.
0:39:28 > 0:39:30- Blow, blow. - Slow down.
0:39:30 > 0:39:33It's really hurting me.
0:39:33 > 0:39:36It is, I know, go on, keep breathing. Keep breathing.
0:39:36 > 0:39:39The midwives are waiting for her cervix to dilate to 10cm.
0:39:39 > 0:39:43- We'll get you on a nice clean sheet. - How far?
0:39:43 > 0:39:45- You're about six but... - Oh, my God.
0:39:45 > 0:39:48No, listen, when you get a contraction,
0:39:48 > 0:39:50it stretches up to eight.
0:39:50 > 0:39:54Oww, I can't do it, I can't!
0:39:54 > 0:39:56Go away, I can't!
0:39:56 > 0:39:59Jodie's exhausted from her long labour,
0:39:59 > 0:40:02so Jordan's support is crucial.
0:40:02 > 0:40:05We're nearly there, baby, we're nearly there.
0:40:05 > 0:40:07No we're not. We're not.
0:40:07 > 0:40:11Go on, in, out, in.
0:40:14 > 0:40:18That's it. Keep on. That's it.
0:40:18 > 0:40:20Come on, you can do it.
0:40:33 > 0:40:37Come on, babe. Babe, lift your head up.
0:40:37 > 0:40:41- Jodie, come on, lift your head up. - Fuck off!
0:40:41 > 0:40:43- Come on, babe.- I can't do this, I can't do this.
0:40:43 > 0:40:45Now Jordan knows Jodie's in nice established labour,
0:40:45 > 0:40:49he's being much more supportive and he's getting very involved.
0:40:49 > 0:40:52He's talking her through her pains, which is just lovely
0:40:52 > 0:40:56We're nearly there, babe. Babe, come on, come on.
0:40:56 > 0:40:58Keep with the gas and air.
0:40:58 > 0:41:01He was very involved with his phone, as a lot of young men are,
0:41:01 > 0:41:04but now the phone has gone, mostly.
0:41:04 > 0:41:06- That's very normal. - PHONE RINGS
0:41:06 > 0:41:08Fuck off.
0:41:14 > 0:41:16Despite the odd distraction,
0:41:16 > 0:41:19Jordan's attention seems firmly on Jodie.
0:41:24 > 0:41:28Meanwhile Amy has been having contractions for the last 42 hours
0:41:28 > 0:41:31and midwife Jane comes to check on her progress.
0:41:31 > 0:41:35Go on, big push. Go on, big push.
0:41:35 > 0:41:40How close you are. You've moved your baby all the way down.
0:41:40 > 0:41:42He's just sat there waiting.
0:41:42 > 0:41:46You're half a finger away, that's all. Keep pushing right down.
0:41:46 > 0:41:47Oh!
0:41:47 > 0:41:49You OK? Almost here, baby.
0:41:49 > 0:41:51Eh?
0:41:51 > 0:41:58Baby's that far away, need to push it that far, two inches.
0:41:58 > 0:42:01But Jane's concerned by the baby's position and calls a doctor.
0:42:16 > 0:42:18OK. In the meantime, we'll carry on as we were.
0:42:18 > 0:42:20Yeah, push your baby out, that's what we'll do.
0:42:20 > 0:42:23So did you understand, Amy? Your baby's head really low down
0:42:23 > 0:42:24and you've done fantastic,
0:42:24 > 0:42:29he's looking to the side and not looking down
0:42:29 > 0:42:32The baby's sideways position makes it harder to move through
0:42:32 > 0:42:35the birth canal naturally. The doctors may need to move Amy
0:42:35 > 0:42:37to the operating theatre to help baby out.
0:42:37 > 0:42:39Argh!
0:42:39 > 0:42:42That really did move then. I see the head and then I see
0:42:42 > 0:42:45everything round the head move rapidly then.
0:42:45 > 0:42:48It was brilliant, really big push.
0:42:48 > 0:42:52We'll just need one more of them by looks of it and he'll be out.
0:42:52 > 0:42:54Brett's doing really well, I think he's taking
0:42:54 > 0:42:57everything in his stride, he doesn't seem too flustered
0:42:57 > 0:43:00about anything, even though things have not gone according to plan.
0:43:00 > 0:43:02- It's coming. - It's coming? OK.
0:43:02 > 0:43:04I think that preparation has really worked for him
0:43:04 > 0:43:07cos it's keeping him nice and calm, he's not panicking.
0:43:07 > 0:43:10And Brett's squeamishness is the last thing on his mind
0:43:10 > 0:43:13as he focuses on giving Amy all the encouragement she needs
0:43:13 > 0:43:15to have a chance of a natural delivery.
0:43:15 > 0:43:16You want your brow wiping?
0:43:16 > 0:43:20This baby's so close now, I'm hoping that they're going to give her
0:43:20 > 0:43:23a little bit more time, she's really, really pushed that baby down
0:43:23 > 0:43:25since I've been there in the last half an hour,
0:43:25 > 0:43:27so if she carries on pushing like that,
0:43:27 > 0:43:28she'll be able to deliver this baby.
0:43:28 > 0:43:30Thanks for coming, Jane.
0:43:30 > 0:43:33It's a shame I've got to go really, at this crucial time.
0:43:33 > 0:43:35You'll have to come round and see baby.
0:43:35 > 0:43:39- I will. Don't worry, I'll be round - Oh, I'm so hot.
0:43:43 > 0:43:45Come on, right down here. Come on, give it some.
0:43:45 > 0:43:50Jodie's been in labour for 23 hours.
0:43:50 > 0:43:53Good girl. Go on, relax.
0:43:53 > 0:43:56Jordan's proving to be a dab hand at the top end.
0:43:56 > 0:43:58On your nose?
0:43:58 > 0:44:03No, pat it, don't drown me.
0:44:05 > 0:44:07Is that better?
0:44:07 > 0:44:10Right, come on, make the most of this pain
0:44:10 > 0:44:13- That's it. - That's it babe, go on.
0:44:13 > 0:44:17Jodie's fully dilated, ready to push out their baby girl.
0:44:17 > 0:44:20- There you go.- Go on. - There you go, go on.- Go on, babe.
0:44:20 > 0:44:22- Right, now push, go on.- Go.
0:44:23 > 0:44:26- Go on.- And again. You're moving her every single time,
0:44:26 > 0:44:32and again, go on, and again... Right down into your bottom.
0:44:32 > 0:44:33I can't go any harder.
0:44:33 > 0:44:35All right, no, that's perfect.
0:44:35 > 0:44:36Rest, rest, rest, rest.
0:44:36 > 0:44:39Jordan, you've just got to be a bit careful that you don't get
0:44:39 > 0:44:41too enthusiastic and kind of crush down into her,
0:44:41 > 0:44:44because you actually want to really help her,
0:44:44 > 0:44:46and so you tend to squeeze them harder and harder
0:44:46 > 0:44:49as if you're giving them some of your strength,
0:44:49 > 0:44:50- so just watch her neck.- Yeah.
0:44:50 > 0:44:54- Because if we hear a crack, it's a bit too late.- Yeah!
0:44:54 > 0:44:56You're doing good, just don't break her neck.
0:44:56 > 0:45:00- Just don't squeeze too hard - Go on.
0:45:00 > 0:45:02- Go on.- Go on, good girl.- Ow ow. Oww!
0:45:02 > 0:45:04Push down into your bottom. Push.
0:45:04 > 0:45:08Go on, get mad.
0:45:08 > 0:45:12Jordan takes a peak down south where he swore he'd never go.
0:45:12 > 0:45:16Big breath, and again, go on. Really push, deep into your bottom.
0:45:16 > 0:45:18Push around that corner.
0:45:18 > 0:45:20Push around that corner.
0:45:20 > 0:45:23Pushing could last a few more hours
0:45:23 > 0:45:27so can Jordan stay focused on Jodie until she's ready to give birth?
0:45:27 > 0:45:30- Go on.- Well done. Push. Good girl.
0:45:35 > 0:45:37- Oh, shit!- Come on, you can do it, you can do it.
0:45:37 > 0:45:39Push past that burning.
0:45:39 > 0:45:42Amy has been pushing for over two hours
0:45:42 > 0:45:46and Brett's role is to encourage and keep her calm.
0:45:46 > 0:45:50Literally just inside, just.
0:45:50 > 0:45:52It's been a couple of hours now of pushing,
0:45:52 > 0:45:57so we need to discuss it with the doctors to see what the plan is.
0:45:57 > 0:46:00It's just Mummy is exhausted I think at the moment.
0:46:00 > 0:46:02Yeah, it's been too much, hasn't it?
0:46:02 > 0:46:05She was going to be moved to the operating theatre,
0:46:05 > 0:46:07but with baby almost out,
0:46:07 > 0:46:10the doctors are going to try help her deliver, here in the bed.
0:46:10 > 0:46:16Well done, that's really good. Head's really come down.
0:46:16 > 0:46:19You may deliver the baby on your own, OK?
0:46:19 > 0:46:25I just need some very good pushes from you, all right?
0:46:25 > 0:46:27See how we go.
0:46:27 > 0:46:29- Have you got a contraction?- No.
0:46:29 > 0:46:32And as a result of his midwife sessions, Brett's able to help
0:46:32 > 0:46:35explain how the doctor will help Amy deliver the baby.
0:46:35 > 0:46:38It's a little cup, a suction pad.
0:46:38 > 0:46:40It sits on the head and sucks to the head.
0:46:40 > 0:46:43Baby will have swelling on top of its skull.
0:46:43 > 0:46:46So they're going to help Amy down there,
0:46:46 > 0:46:49they're going to give her a little cut,
0:46:49 > 0:46:52and they're going to use what they call a kiwi to get it out to help
0:46:52 > 0:46:56Amy because she's obviously drained, she ain't got no more push in her.
0:46:56 > 0:47:01I know it hurts, I know it hurts but you're so close, so close.
0:47:01 > 0:47:03Hey, after all you've done in the last two days
0:47:03 > 0:47:07- you can definitely do this. - No, I can't do it. I can't do it.
0:47:07 > 0:47:10You can. You can and I bet you will.
0:47:10 > 0:47:14Just relax.
0:47:17 > 0:47:20Come on, big pushes, big pushes, big pushes, big long push.
0:47:20 > 0:47:24That's it, right down deep.
0:47:24 > 0:47:25Come on, darling.
0:47:28 > 0:47:30- I'm trying. - I know you are, I know you are.
0:47:30 > 0:47:34I'm really proud of you. I am.
0:47:34 > 0:47:36Come on, darling, push, push.
0:47:40 > 0:47:45- Keep pushing, keep pushing. - Who's this here, who's this here?
0:47:45 > 0:47:48Perfect
0:47:49 > 0:47:51One big push.
0:47:55 > 0:47:58- Here it comes. - Just relax now.
0:47:58 > 0:47:59Just relax, relax.
0:48:02 > 0:48:05Well done, well done.
0:48:05 > 0:48:08Do you want to find out what you've got?
0:48:08 > 0:48:10What is it? It's a little girl!
0:48:10 > 0:48:13- Is it? Oh.- Happy birthday, princess.
0:48:13 > 0:48:17You want to have a look at your mummy?
0:48:17 > 0:48:21After 44 hours of contractions, baby Jessica is born
0:48:21 > 0:48:24and both mum and daughter are doing well.
0:48:24 > 0:48:27We're going to give her a bit of rub and air, OK?
0:48:27 > 0:48:30I'll bring her straight back to you.
0:48:30 > 0:48:35Brett stayed right by her side throughout and is now a dad.
0:48:43 > 0:48:47That's it, good girl.
0:48:47 > 0:48:49Hey, baby.
0:48:49 > 0:48:51Hello.
0:48:53 > 0:48:57It's the most amazing thing I've ever seen ever.
0:48:57 > 0:48:58Hello, darling.
0:49:02 > 0:49:04He said the right things at the right time,
0:49:04 > 0:49:08he was always there. Yeah, I think he did a really good job.
0:49:14 > 0:49:17Brett's been absolutely fantastic.
0:49:17 > 0:49:19I don't think I'd have been able to do it without him,
0:49:19 > 0:49:22he's been really supportive.
0:49:22 > 0:49:23How much?
0:49:23 > 0:49:25Seven, five and a half.
0:49:25 > 0:49:28Oh, come on then after all the midwife sessions with Jane,
0:49:28 > 0:49:33all the pieces came together and I think knowing everything I knew
0:49:33 > 0:49:37managed to keep me relaxed and it made it so much easier for her.
0:49:37 > 0:49:41I thought I'd be standing around and not knowing what to do.
0:49:41 > 0:49:45But it's all worth it in the end, isn't it?
0:49:45 > 0:49:48I was expecting some inappropriate comments
0:49:48 > 0:49:51but he didn't say anything, really. Well, not that I heard of.
0:49:51 > 0:49:52- OK.- He's been really good.
0:49:52 > 0:49:56I couldn't have asked for a better birthing partner.
0:50:00 > 0:50:02In Manchester...
0:50:02 > 0:50:04Oh, what's that?
0:50:04 > 0:50:08..Jodie's Mum has stepped in to support Jodie,
0:50:08 > 0:50:11because despite his initial fears,
0:50:11 > 0:50:14Jordan is now so engaged in the birth
0:50:14 > 0:50:18he wants to give Jodie encouragement by watching what's happening.
0:50:18 > 0:50:20Keep it going, babe.
0:50:20 > 0:50:21Big breath for me.
0:50:21 > 0:50:25You're certainly not a dad "I don't want to be down the business end," are you?
0:50:25 > 0:50:30I thought he wouldn't go down there!
0:50:30 > 0:50:34- Keep her coming, come more, push more.- More, more.
0:50:34 > 0:50:36- Come on.- Go on, babe, you're nearly there.
0:50:36 > 0:50:38Big breath and pull this up out the way, Jodie.
0:50:38 > 0:50:41I know it's horrid. Get rid of this leg.
0:50:41 > 0:50:43That's a girl, go on push your baby right round the corner.
0:50:43 > 0:50:45Keep her coming, keep her coming.
0:50:47 > 0:50:51- She's there, she's there. - Go on, good girl, go on.
0:50:54 > 0:50:56I think maybe two or three more pushes on that
0:50:56 > 0:50:58and she'll be out, or her head will be out.
0:50:58 > 0:51:00- New midwife.- Yeah, midwife me.
0:51:00 > 0:51:05Jordan's down there watching every minute.
0:51:05 > 0:51:07Keep going. Don't stop.
0:51:07 > 0:51:10- It really stings, I know it does. - One more push.
0:51:10 > 0:51:13Keep pushing. And again.
0:51:13 > 0:51:16One more, one more, come on, Jode.
0:51:19 > 0:51:22- I want you to go... - MIDWIFE PANTS
0:51:22 > 0:51:26JODIE PANTS THEN SCREAMS
0:51:26 > 0:51:33No, no, no. Pant for me, Pant, Jodie, pant, pant, pant.
0:51:36 > 0:51:3822:52.
0:51:38 > 0:51:41After 24 hours of labour,
0:51:41 > 0:51:46Jodie and Jordan's daughter is born.
0:51:46 > 0:51:51- Say hello, you!- Hi!- Look at you.
0:51:51 > 0:51:53The couple's baby's head is elongated
0:51:53 > 0:51:56after spending so much time in the birthing canal.
0:51:56 > 0:51:59This will settle down soon.
0:52:01 > 0:52:05Jordan's supported Jodie until the very end.
0:52:18 > 0:52:20Why has she stopped?
0:52:20 > 0:52:22BABY CRIES
0:52:22 > 0:52:26You won't be asking that in a week.
0:52:38 > 0:52:40Amazing, I'm a dad.
0:52:40 > 0:52:43I didn't think I'd cry, to be honest, but I did.
0:52:43 > 0:52:48I couldn't control that so, yeah, absolutely amazing.
0:52:48 > 0:52:49She deserves a medal for that.
0:52:49 > 0:52:55Erm yeah, brilliant. Absolutely brilliant.
0:52:55 > 0:52:59Absolutely. I'm still shocked. I'm shaking still.
0:53:03 > 0:53:04He tried his hardest.
0:53:04 > 0:53:06He needed to be reminded sometimes of what he had to do
0:53:06 > 0:53:10but when it actually came to the point that mattered at the end,
0:53:10 > 0:53:13he woke up and he actually did what he was supposed to do.
0:53:13 > 0:53:14He was very, very good.
0:53:14 > 0:53:16Jordan was really good.
0:53:16 > 0:53:20He was there if I needed my back rubbing, there with the gas and air.
0:53:20 > 0:53:21Ooo, daddy?
0:53:21 > 0:53:25Get off your phone, pay me some attention.
0:53:27 > 0:53:30You and your bloody phone!
0:53:30 > 0:53:33He was on his phone a few times, a few cheeky comments
0:53:33 > 0:53:34but I'll let him off with that.
0:53:34 > 0:53:36Put it in the bath.
0:53:36 > 0:53:39The midwife training definitely taught him a lot.
0:53:39 > 0:53:42I think if he didn't learn some of the stuff then
0:53:42 > 0:53:45he wouldn't have been nowhere near as good.
0:53:45 > 0:53:49I think I did my best I could. I tried my best.
0:53:49 > 0:53:53I can't wait to take her home. I can't believe it.
0:53:53 > 0:53:55Fucking hell.
0:53:58 > 0:54:01Two weeks after the birth of baby daughter Maisie...
0:54:01 > 0:54:06What's the matter, babe? Yeah, hiccups.
0:54:06 > 0:54:12..their 24-hour labour was well worth the wait for new parents Jodie and Jordan.
0:54:13 > 0:54:16Sometimes I think back to it and I still get the buzz, you know.
0:54:16 > 0:54:19Thinking when she came out and it's just like, wow.
0:54:19 > 0:54:22It'll never be a blur. I'll get to an old man and I'll look back
0:54:22 > 0:54:25and I'll still remember that clear as crystal.
0:54:25 > 0:54:28Every moment, every second in that time I was in the delivery room,
0:54:28 > 0:54:30I'll remember all of it.
0:54:30 > 0:54:34Definitely happy that Jordan got, you know, all the extra help
0:54:34 > 0:54:38and like the antenatal classes because I think if he didn't have
0:54:38 > 0:54:42those then he wouldn't have been no way near as good as he was.
0:54:42 > 0:54:45And he actually looked, he was down there at the bottom and stuff,
0:54:45 > 0:54:46which I wasn't expecting him to do.
0:54:46 > 0:54:49So he's definitely changed loads for the better.
0:54:52 > 0:54:53I think you did ten out of ten.
0:54:53 > 0:54:55Thank you.
0:54:55 > 0:54:57You're like a little midwife.
0:54:57 > 0:54:59I don't think I'll take it as a career path.
0:54:59 > 0:55:02I think you'd do good.
0:55:09 > 0:55:14Hey, yeah, you having it then?
0:55:15 > 0:55:19Three weeks after the birth of their baby daughter Jessica,
0:55:19 > 0:55:21Brett's relishing his new role as father.
0:55:21 > 0:55:23Is that nice?
0:55:24 > 0:55:28I think without the sessions with Jane I would have absolutely
0:55:28 > 0:55:32panicked at every single stage. If they said baby's heartbeat's low,
0:55:32 > 0:55:35I'd go, "Right, get her in, Caesarean. Get it out of her!"
0:55:35 > 0:55:39So knowing as much as possible before I went in there,
0:55:39 > 0:55:42it was just, it was brilliant.
0:55:42 > 0:55:45He knew everything that was going on,
0:55:45 > 0:55:49he explained everything to me, reassuring me that everything
0:55:49 > 0:55:54was normal, nothing seemed to faze him or bother him, he kept me calm.
0:56:00 > 0:56:04And he's taken to nappy changing like a duck to water.
0:56:04 > 0:56:06You don't see the gore,
0:56:06 > 0:56:07you see the beauty of the baby.
0:56:07 > 0:56:11You know, all I can remember is wiping my tears off my face
0:56:11 > 0:56:13for the first hour, it was just amazing.
0:56:13 > 0:56:17Absolutely amazing, and to be honest I can't wait to do it again.
0:56:17 > 0:56:20She's doing her feeding thing.
0:56:20 > 0:56:23He was really good. I wouldn't want to do it without him.
0:56:23 > 0:56:27Definitely. He's having the next one.
0:56:35 > 0:56:39Next time in their quest to become perfect birthing partners.
0:56:39 > 0:56:43He knows the baby comes out of the vagina and that's about it.
0:56:43 > 0:56:48Can party boy Jamie change his ways and face up
0:56:48 > 0:56:52to being a dad, and stop clinging on to being a lad.
0:56:52 > 0:56:55I've just got to prove to her and myself that I am going to change
0:56:55 > 0:56:57and I am going to be there.
0:56:57 > 0:57:00And can teenager Jordan fulfil his dream of catching his baby?
0:57:00 > 0:57:05I'm not trained to do it like you are so it's a bit daunting.
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