0:00:02 > 0:00:06- Don't Tell The Bride celebrates weddings like no-one else... - Congratulations on your big day.
0:00:06 > 0:00:09From New York to Glasgow...
0:00:09 > 0:00:11BOTH: Oh, my God.
0:00:11 > 0:00:15- Yes!- ..Las Vegas...- Why would the man I love do this?
0:00:15 > 0:00:17..To Ibiza...
0:00:17 > 0:00:21- I can't even plan a wedding for her. - ..And one unforgettable rollercoaster ride.
0:00:21 > 0:00:24Why the hell are we at Thorpe Park on my wedding day?
0:00:24 > 0:00:28And now we're back, as 12 more unsuspecting brides
0:00:28 > 0:00:31- prepare for the journey of a lifetime.- What?
0:00:31 > 0:00:35The grooms get three weeks and £12,000.
0:00:35 > 0:00:37- Wedding!- Wedding!
0:00:37 > 0:00:42- And the brides get no say in how it's spent.- I'd never even imagine Ben could get it this wrong.
0:00:42 > 0:00:46- So, get ready to rock.- I don't even WANT you at me wedding.
0:00:46 > 0:00:48As the party reaches new heights,
0:00:48 > 0:00:50and sinks to new lows.
0:00:52 > 0:00:55With more fairytale endings than ever before.
0:00:55 > 0:00:58This is supposed to be the biggest day of my life and I'm not happy.
0:00:58 > 0:01:00I-I-I... Switch off.
0:01:00 > 0:01:02Tonight, Welsh groom Ben...
0:01:02 > 0:01:04She's got a nice rack.
0:01:04 > 0:01:06- You mean she's got nice boobs? - Yes.
0:01:06 > 0:01:09..Is arranging the wedding for his Valley girl, Sarah.
0:01:09 > 0:01:11That's lush. Oh, that's lush.
0:01:11 > 0:01:13That's lush, isn't it?
0:01:13 > 0:01:18- Controlled by his bride-to-be... - Ben? Are you coming? Have you tidied down there?
0:01:18 > 0:01:21- ..A mum who won't let him grow up... - Beers?- No.
0:01:21 > 0:01:26- It's too early, you're not drinking. - ..This is his chance to break away...
0:01:26 > 0:01:28and plan the wedding HE wants.
0:01:28 > 0:01:31I don't care what people expect, I'm happy if the flowers aren't amazing.
0:01:31 > 0:01:33But with a bride with one big fear...
0:01:33 > 0:01:36I'm going to look fat in it, Han - honestly.
0:01:36 > 0:01:38..And a groom with more than just his bride on his mind...
0:01:38 > 0:01:41My dad said his goodbyes here.
0:01:41 > 0:01:43..Against a mum who argues every decision.
0:01:43 > 0:01:44This is what I want you to do.
0:01:44 > 0:01:48I don't want you ringing me, "Ben, have you done this? Have you done that?
0:01:48 > 0:01:49Can this henpecked groom...
0:01:49 > 0:01:51I'm going to have a nervous breakdown now.
0:01:51 > 0:01:52..Show these women...
0:01:52 > 0:01:55I'd never imagine how Ben could get it this wrong.
0:01:55 > 0:01:57..That he can be the man all by himself.
0:01:57 > 0:01:59Wow, that is booby, isn't it? That's lovely.
0:01:59 > 0:02:03I didn't want to look fat on my wedding day. I just think I'm going to look fat in it.
0:02:05 > 0:02:13This programme contains some strong language
0:02:16 > 0:02:19Deep in the heart of the Welsh Valleys is the small town of Caerphilly,
0:02:19 > 0:02:25just 20 miles from the much-loved Barry Island, where Gavin met Stacey.
0:02:25 > 0:02:29It's also where 30-year-old Ben met his 26-year-old fiancee, Sarah.
0:02:29 > 0:02:32The first thing that drew me to Sarah was that she was
0:02:32 > 0:02:36so beautiful and cheeky with it, a cheeky little attitude.
0:02:36 > 0:02:39Quite sassy, like. Like a little Valley Princess.
0:02:39 > 0:02:42He was exactly my type - muscley and good-looking.
0:02:42 > 0:02:46Lush eyes, lush smile. He is lush!
0:02:47 > 0:02:49So, all in all, lush.
0:02:49 > 0:02:51- Lush!- Lush!- Lush!
0:02:51 > 0:02:53Born and bred just five miles apart,
0:02:53 > 0:02:56these Welsh lovebirds are a match made in heaven.
0:02:56 > 0:02:59I knew from very early on that I think I loved you.
0:02:59 > 0:03:04We just knew, we just went, "Yeah, this is right." Then it was full steam ahead.
0:03:04 > 0:03:09- In two years...- It's mad.- It's meet, get engaged, move in, get married.
0:03:09 > 0:03:12Sarah works in a call centre in Cardiff while Ben works
0:03:12 > 0:03:15in a manly garage, where he does the not-quite-so-manly admin.
0:03:15 > 0:03:19And when Ben isn't being less-than-manly at work,
0:03:19 > 0:03:22he continues the trend by being less-than-manly at home.
0:03:22 > 0:03:25- Ben?- What?- Are you coming?
0:03:25 > 0:03:28I need you to do my tan for me and I need to do yours - you're looking pale.
0:03:28 > 0:03:30We get up together at the same time, we get ready together.
0:03:30 > 0:03:33You'll go to work, I'll go to work. Then we'll go to the gym.
0:03:33 > 0:03:35You do my tan, I'll do yours.
0:03:35 > 0:03:38I'll blow dry her hair, she'll shave my back, I'll shave her legs.
0:03:38 > 0:03:41- It's good.- Yep, these two share everything.
0:03:41 > 0:03:45Except the trousers, because in this relationship,
0:03:45 > 0:03:49- there's only one person wearing them.- Sarah wears the trousers.
0:03:49 > 0:03:51Three belts. Ain't never coming off.
0:03:51 > 0:03:54I wouldn't say I was bossy, I just like things done in a certain way.
0:03:54 > 0:03:58And for Sarah, a certain way means Ben doing everything -
0:03:58 > 0:04:03from ironing her clothes and tending to her every need to being her own personal beautician.
0:04:03 > 0:04:06I think I had my spine removed at day three.
0:04:06 > 0:04:07It's kept in a little box.
0:04:07 > 0:04:10- I give it back to you sometimes. - Now and again, I'm allowed it back.
0:04:10 > 0:04:13I think he's wrapped around my little finger. He always will be.
0:04:13 > 0:04:17- That's just how it is.- Sarah even takes control of his cash.
0:04:17 > 0:04:21When Ben's been a good boy, he's allowed his weekly pocket money.
0:04:21 > 0:04:24My wages go into her account. I've got an account, but no money.
0:04:24 > 0:04:27I give you money. Whatever you want, reasonable amount.
0:04:27 > 0:04:30- I may as well have "thumb" tattooed there...- That'd be nice.
0:04:30 > 0:04:31And appropriate,
0:04:31 > 0:04:35because Sarah isn't the only strong Welsh woman telling Ben what to do.
0:04:35 > 0:04:40Ben, you eat something proper first THEN you get into the dessert.
0:04:40 > 0:04:44Just around the corner is his mum, Helena, who controls his every move.
0:04:44 > 0:04:49She's the most controlling of all women I've ever met in my life...
0:04:49 > 0:04:51ever met in my life.
0:04:51 > 0:04:55I've tried doing the whole, "Mum, listen to me," thing, "I'm in charge," but it doesn't work.
0:04:55 > 0:04:58In fact, since his dad passed away five years ago,
0:04:58 > 0:05:02Ben has been surrounded and outnumbered by controlling women.
0:05:02 > 0:05:05Alongside his mum and Sarah are mother-in-law-to-be Cheryl
0:05:05 > 0:05:06and his three sisters.
0:05:06 > 0:05:09I've got to sit there with six women going, "Oh, my God."
0:05:09 > 0:05:13If I've had two beers and I have another one, one of them will say something like,
0:05:13 > 0:05:15"Come on, now - you've had two."
0:05:15 > 0:05:17I'm 30, man. 30!
0:05:17 > 0:05:20When my dad was around, it was different.
0:05:20 > 0:05:24He knew how to control Mum and all the women. He was really, like...
0:05:24 > 0:05:28"Shh, quiet. Listen to me, shush up." Not like me.
0:05:28 > 0:05:30I get stressed out or wound up by them.
0:05:30 > 0:05:34"Ben's been doing this, Ben's been doing that. I wish Ben was doing this."
0:05:34 > 0:05:38They all like to have a little finger in the pie that is my life.
0:05:38 > 0:05:40The pie would burn if we weren't there.
0:05:40 > 0:05:45It's time for Ben to prove himself to the dominating women around him.
0:05:45 > 0:05:48It's time to man up and plan a wedding.
0:05:48 > 0:05:49If I can do this right,
0:05:49 > 0:05:53they'll give me the respect that I should have earned years ago.
0:05:53 > 0:05:58I want people to think, "Yes, Ben is his dad's son."
0:05:58 > 0:06:00To achieve his goal,
0:06:00 > 0:06:03Ben has to impress one very important Valley girl.
0:06:03 > 0:06:07- That's a nice one.- And this lush bride has high expectations.
0:06:07 > 0:06:08Look how lush that is.
0:06:08 > 0:06:12Sarah hopes to get married abroad, just like her brother.
0:06:12 > 0:06:15It's lovely, all the tans, it's nice.
0:06:15 > 0:06:18- Yes, it wasn't a fake tan, it was the actual tan!- That's what I mean.
0:06:18 > 0:06:23My dream wedding would be Spain or Mexico or just somewhere nice and hot.
0:06:23 > 0:06:26Somewhere pretty, but classy - that would be lush.
0:06:26 > 0:06:29But Ben has no intention of obeying.
0:06:29 > 0:06:33And he's definitely not planning to go very far.
0:06:33 > 0:06:37We live in Caerphilly, pretty much the best town in South Wales.
0:06:37 > 0:06:39We've got the biggest castle you've ever seen.
0:06:39 > 0:06:42For the first time ever, the boys are going to be in control.
0:06:42 > 0:06:44It will be quite nice to be given that freedom.
0:06:44 > 0:06:46So by loosening the reins for once,
0:06:46 > 0:06:49Sarah knows she is taking a huge risk.
0:06:49 > 0:06:52He's never had this much responsibility in his whole life.
0:06:52 > 0:06:55I don't know how the hell he's going to manage to do all this.
0:06:55 > 0:06:56Oh, my God, Ben.
0:06:56 > 0:06:59- Are you worried? - Yeah, obviously,
0:06:59 > 0:07:02I'm petrified, Ben!
0:07:02 > 0:07:06- And they both know there's a lot at stake.- It is a massive thing for me, this.
0:07:06 > 0:07:09Prove to my new wife that...
0:07:09 > 0:07:10I can be the man.
0:07:10 > 0:07:14He knows in the back of his head, if he messes this up, that's it.
0:07:14 > 0:07:18- There's no other chances.- If I messed something as big as this up...
0:07:18 > 0:07:22I will run down the aisle and punch you in the face.
0:07:27 > 0:07:29It's time for the couple to say goodbye.
0:07:30 > 0:07:34The next time they see each other will be at the wedding.
0:07:34 > 0:07:37And Sarah wants to make sure she has everything she needs.
0:07:37 > 0:07:41- It's three weeks! - Half of Curry's in here.
0:07:41 > 0:07:43- Think you've got enough?- Yeah.
0:07:43 > 0:07:46(Be fine, Ben.)
0:07:46 > 0:07:48- (Just don't like it.)- No.
0:07:49 > 0:07:51You're shaking.
0:07:54 > 0:07:58It's the first time Ben and Sarah have ever been apart.
0:07:58 > 0:08:02- See you in three weeks, OK? - Don't say that.
0:08:05 > 0:08:07- I love you.- I love you.
0:08:07 > 0:08:12For the next three weeks, Sarah will be moving back in with her mum.
0:08:19 > 0:08:22Really, really don't want to mess it up.
0:08:22 > 0:08:27And like now, this is really, really real, man. So real.
0:08:28 > 0:08:32It's been like, what? 30 seconds? I already don't know what to do.
0:08:32 > 0:08:34My house is empty. I don't know what to do.
0:08:34 > 0:08:38It's horrible. I'm going to really, really miss him.
0:08:38 > 0:08:41I just hope he does everything the way I want it.
0:08:41 > 0:08:43I hope this is worth it.
0:08:43 > 0:08:46- It'd better be. - Time to do it, isn't it?
0:08:48 > 0:08:52I'll be all right. It'll be good. Be good.
0:08:52 > 0:08:53Just got to...
0:08:53 > 0:08:55make a wedding now, haven't I?
0:09:00 > 0:09:04To help Ben man up and plan the wedding is his best man Mike,
0:09:04 > 0:09:06who is also his boss at the garage.
0:09:07 > 0:09:10Luckily, he lives just next door.
0:09:10 > 0:09:13She's gone, time to start planning the wedding, boy.
0:09:13 > 0:09:16We're not planning no wedding till you get in here.
0:09:17 > 0:09:19I'll be round now, give me a second, boys.
0:09:21 > 0:09:26- You bastard!- Joining Mike and Ben in the hot tub is chief usher Mark.
0:09:26 > 0:09:31- Let's plan this wedding, boys. - Wedding!- Wedding!
0:09:31 > 0:09:34- Happy days. Let's sort this wedding out, boys.- Wedding.- Wedding.
0:09:34 > 0:09:36THEY WHOOP
0:09:38 > 0:09:42It's day one of wedding planning for henpecked Ben
0:09:42 > 0:09:46and with freshly pruned skin from the hot tub, he's ready to get started.
0:09:46 > 0:09:50- First on the list... - What's happening?- Venue day! - Let's plan this place.
0:10:02 > 0:10:07I need to get this venue today. It needs to be the right one.
0:10:08 > 0:10:13I have a clear vision in my head of what I want to do. A clear vision.
0:10:13 > 0:10:16Everything. Everything starts today.
0:10:16 > 0:10:21Ben knows what he wants, but Sarah is struggling to let go.
0:10:21 > 0:10:22Even at work,
0:10:22 > 0:10:25with bridesmaid Hannah, she's planning her perfect day.
0:10:25 > 0:10:27- That's stunning. - That's lush. Look at that.
0:10:27 > 0:10:30That'd be nice, something like that to get married in. On the beach.
0:10:30 > 0:10:35- Down Barry Island!- No, I don't want to go down Barry Island!
0:10:35 > 0:10:39Her ideal wedding is far from Wales and definitely far from traditional.
0:10:39 > 0:10:42- I hope it isn't in a stupid church. - I know.
0:10:42 > 0:10:44I will be fuming if he does that.
0:10:44 > 0:10:49Absolutely fuming. Can you imagine? We won't go if it's in a church.
0:10:49 > 0:10:53And first stop for the boys is Ben's local parish church.
0:10:53 > 0:10:56Good day for it, mate. Good day for a church.
0:10:57 > 0:10:59What about Sarah, does she like churches?
0:10:59 > 0:11:04Sarah's view is that a church is for a funeral and they smell funny
0:11:04 > 0:11:05and the wooden seats hurt her bum.
0:11:05 > 0:11:07She don't like churches.
0:11:07 > 0:11:10But Sarah is not here and Ben can do what he wants.
0:11:10 > 0:11:14- And he wants this church. - Wow!- What do you think?
0:11:14 > 0:11:17But he does have his reasons.
0:11:17 > 0:11:20I think as a venue, this has the ultimate meaning for me.
0:11:20 > 0:11:24My dad said his goodbyes here and in a way, for me,
0:11:24 > 0:11:28this is sort of a way of having my dad here without having my dad here.
0:11:28 > 0:11:31Usually dominated by overbearing women, Ben is taking
0:11:31 > 0:11:35the opportunity to salute the man he knew could control them.
0:11:35 > 0:11:37My dad is pretty much my hero.
0:11:37 > 0:11:39He died about five years ago, he had cancer.
0:11:39 > 0:11:43He was such a strong man his whole life and he was a man's man,
0:11:43 > 0:11:44you know?
0:11:44 > 0:11:47I may not have told him enough, but he was.
0:11:47 > 0:11:50He was the rock in our house.
0:11:50 > 0:11:52He was a musician and played guitar.
0:11:52 > 0:11:56He was a high-grade nurse his entire life, always had something to give.
0:11:56 > 0:11:59- I'd love to be like my dad. - Morning.- Morning.
0:11:59 > 0:12:02- How you doing?- I'm fine. Very nervous.
0:12:02 > 0:12:04- While Ben is booking the church in honour of his dad...- 15th?
0:12:04 > 0:12:10- 15th.- June, then.- Yes, please. - ..Sarah is still dreaming of a wedding abroad.
0:12:10 > 0:12:12Oh, that's lush.
0:12:12 > 0:12:16Bridesmaid Hannah has brought her to a beachside location.
0:12:16 > 0:12:18It may be nearer to Swansea than Marbella,
0:12:18 > 0:12:21but for Sarah, it's the gateway to the wedding she's always dreamt of.
0:12:21 > 0:12:25Wow, that's stunning. That looks like actually abroad.
0:12:25 > 0:12:27- That's lush.- Oh, yeah!
0:12:28 > 0:12:32- Oh, that's lush.- That's lush, isn't it? Look how cute they are.- I know.
0:12:32 > 0:12:35They are lush, aren't they?
0:12:35 > 0:12:39It may be lush, but for Sarah, it's just not lush enough.
0:12:39 > 0:12:41My style would be like this,
0:12:41 > 0:12:44but I'd do something a little bit different with the chairs.
0:12:44 > 0:12:48- Put bows or something on them. - Mm, bows - lush.- A bit girlier.
0:12:48 > 0:12:50It's not very girly, is it?
0:12:51 > 0:12:52No.
0:12:52 > 0:12:58- Well, it is girly, but it's not girly in the way that we are!- Yeah!
0:12:58 > 0:13:02Ben's choice for the reception does have daisy-covered lawns,
0:13:02 > 0:13:03but it's not exactly girly.
0:13:07 > 0:13:09Having booked the ceremony in a church,
0:13:09 > 0:13:13his next target is the most manly building he could find.
0:13:13 > 0:13:16Right in the middle of Caerphilly town centre.
0:13:16 > 0:13:19If you're going to have a castle venue,
0:13:19 > 0:13:21that's a serious bit of Castle!
0:13:21 > 0:13:24It may be the symbol of a famous Welsh cheddar,
0:13:24 > 0:13:27but let's hope Sarah doesn't think it stinks.
0:13:27 > 0:13:30We've both grown up in Caerphilly. We both know the castle.
0:13:30 > 0:13:34It's something from all of our childhoods. It just feels...
0:13:34 > 0:13:36like the perfect venue.
0:13:36 > 0:13:40Receptions at this formidable fortress take place
0:13:40 > 0:13:43in the Great Hall, where real men once ruled.
0:13:43 > 0:13:47- Following in the footsteps of kings, here. Edward II... - Look and learn, Ben.- It's huge!
0:13:47 > 0:13:51At the top table there, like it is now, and you've got all those
0:13:51 > 0:13:54- shields in the background as well. - It'll look amazing.
0:13:54 > 0:13:57You don't really need to decorate it that much, do you? Look at it.
0:13:57 > 0:14:02- For the steward for the bar and this venue, it's 1,500 quid.- Yeah.
0:14:02 > 0:14:05So obviously I can work caterers on top...
0:14:05 > 0:14:08Guests will expect a formal meal during the day...
0:14:08 > 0:14:12I don't care what people expect. I'm happy if the flowers aren't amazing.
0:14:12 > 0:14:16- I'm happy if the food isn't amazing. - It's all down...- Yes, to me.
0:14:16 > 0:14:21So that's £1,500 for a stone-walled room that's graced kings,
0:14:21 > 0:14:27queens and now, an under-the-thumb Welshman who's gone on a wedding planning rampage. Tidy!
0:14:27 > 0:14:30I don't know how you can't come into somewhere like this
0:14:30 > 0:14:33and not think it's a dream.
0:14:33 > 0:14:35It's the biggest castle in Wales,
0:14:35 > 0:14:38you walk up and you've got a big massive bridge over a moat,
0:14:38 > 0:14:42beautiful grounds, geese and swans everywhere.
0:14:42 > 0:14:46Some people buy or rent them for the wedding, to have swans. These live in there.
0:14:46 > 0:14:50Don't believe it. It's such a good day.
0:14:50 > 0:14:52MUSIC: "Whistle" by Flo Rida
0:14:54 > 0:14:57# Can you blow my whistle, baby
0:14:57 > 0:14:59# Whistle, baby Let me know
0:14:59 > 0:15:02# Girl, I'm going to show you how to do it
0:15:02 > 0:15:04# And we'll start real slow
0:15:04 > 0:15:08# You just put your lips together and you come real close
0:15:08 > 0:15:13# Can you blow my whistle, baby Whistle, baby
0:15:13 > 0:15:14# Here we go! #
0:15:14 > 0:15:16After just three days,
0:15:16 > 0:15:20Ben has already spent half of his budget - on his local parish church,
0:15:20 > 0:15:23the ruins of a medieval castle right in the middle of town
0:15:23 > 0:15:29and with food and drink taken care of for 100 people, it's full steam ahead.
0:15:29 > 0:15:32It may not be Sarah's cup of tea, but hey - it's his wedding!
0:15:35 > 0:15:38- Do you want omelette? - Yeah, I'll have an omelette.
0:15:38 > 0:15:42- Yeah? I'll get the eggs.- Ham, have you got ham?- Yes.- And cheese?- Yes.
0:15:42 > 0:15:46Must be strange, cos you don't know nothing, so you don't know where anything is...
0:15:46 > 0:15:48And other people do, as well. You can tell.
0:15:48 > 0:15:51In work today, they were all whispering about stuff,
0:15:51 > 0:15:54they wouldn't tell me. I thought, "Mm, they might know."
0:15:54 > 0:15:57- That's awkward, then. - I could just be paranoid as well.
0:15:57 > 0:16:00- Don't want any sauce do you, at all?- No.
0:16:01 > 0:16:04He'll be all right. When it's all sorted, you'll be fine.
0:16:05 > 0:16:07While Sarah has her mum to fall back on,
0:16:07 > 0:16:10Ben's struggling to even get a drink off his.
0:16:10 > 0:16:15- Coke.- Beers?- No. It's too early, you're not drinking.
0:16:15 > 0:16:18- Are you able to tell me anything? - No.- Oh.
0:16:18 > 0:16:21It's like waiting for a baby, this. It's doing my head in.
0:16:21 > 0:16:25Determined to stop Mum from interfering in the wedding, Ben's come up with a cunning plan.
0:16:25 > 0:16:28If she could be involved in every aspect of this wedding,
0:16:28 > 0:16:31she would be involved in every aspect of this wedding.
0:16:31 > 0:16:34So I'll give her a little something to do, something she can put her hands on.
0:16:34 > 0:16:35I just hope it works.
0:16:35 > 0:16:39I want you to...make the cake.
0:16:40 > 0:16:46- OK.- What I want is like, three tiers. - Yeah.- On there, have roses...
0:16:46 > 0:16:49Like a cabbage rose? A beautiful, pink one with bits of green in?
0:16:49 > 0:16:54No, no bits of green. I don't want bits of green in there.
0:16:54 > 0:16:56No bits of green or cabbages.
0:16:56 > 0:16:58- I don't want cabbage on a wedding cake.- Cabbage ROSES.
0:16:58 > 0:17:02- What the hell is a cabbage rose? - Oh, go to a florists.
0:17:02 > 0:17:04- It needs to be tall. - I know it needs to be tall, Benjamin.
0:17:04 > 0:17:07If they come out flat, make them three layers.
0:17:07 > 0:17:10I know, Benjamin - I know exactly what I'm doing.
0:17:10 > 0:17:12I've been making cakes since you were tiny.
0:17:12 > 0:17:16- You just told me you'd practise it with a tin!- With my new ones!
0:17:16 > 0:17:18Oh, keep a lid on!
0:17:18 > 0:17:21- And everything else?- I'll take care of everything else.
0:17:21 > 0:17:23- You just need to let me do it. - Yes. That's fine.
0:17:23 > 0:17:25This is what I want you to do.
0:17:25 > 0:17:28I don't want you ringing me, saying, "Ben, have you done this?
0:17:28 > 0:17:31"Ben, have you done that?" Unless it's about the cakes...
0:17:31 > 0:17:35Yes, Ben is absolutely definitely in charge of this whole wedding.
0:17:35 > 0:17:37Just as long as his mum says so.
0:17:37 > 0:17:40I don't feel a bit in control when it comes to my mum.
0:17:40 > 0:17:43My main thing that stresses me out so much is that I'm really worried
0:17:43 > 0:17:47she's going to change the cake and not tell me.
0:17:47 > 0:17:51It will turn up on the day and be not what I asked for.
0:17:51 > 0:17:53That will really let me down,
0:17:53 > 0:17:56because I just want her, for once, just to...
0:17:58 > 0:18:01Just to do exactly what I ask.
0:18:01 > 0:18:05For once, know that she's not the boss, I'm the boss.
0:18:08 > 0:18:11Keeping his mum under control has turned Ben's thoughts
0:18:11 > 0:18:13to his dad, who passed away five years ago.
0:18:15 > 0:18:19And he has one very important part of his wedding plans
0:18:19 > 0:18:21yet to complete.
0:18:21 > 0:18:26- I want to get, um...my sleeve finished.- What did you want on it?
0:18:26 > 0:18:29- "My father, my hero, I miss you." - What we discussed before.- Yes.
0:18:29 > 0:18:31For the last two years,
0:18:31 > 0:18:35Ben has been working on a tribute tattoo for his dad.
0:18:35 > 0:18:37He wants to complete it before the wedding.
0:18:38 > 0:18:42Is just another way of my father being close to me on my day.
0:18:42 > 0:18:45It's a way of him being there, without being there.
0:18:48 > 0:18:51A really painful way of him being there, but it's a way.
0:18:51 > 0:18:56- NEEDLE BUZZES - I hate tattoos, man - I hate it. Oh!- Ready?
0:18:56 > 0:18:59No, but hey, that's the way it goes, isn't it, kid?
0:19:01 > 0:19:03Arghh!
0:19:05 > 0:19:09I think maybe deep down as well, this is a way of maybe saying sorry.
0:19:09 > 0:19:12Sometimes I could have been a bit of a problem child.
0:19:12 > 0:19:18From the age of about...12 to about 28, just a bit of a pain in the ass.
0:19:20 > 0:19:25And he'd try and give you advice, you tend not to listen sometimes, you think you know better.
0:19:25 > 0:19:29But then you think, "Well, don't worry about it, it doesn't really matter,
0:19:29 > 0:19:31"I've got next week, it'll be fine."
0:19:31 > 0:19:33The next thing you know, he's not there.
0:19:39 > 0:19:42Just... Makes you think, I wish I hadn't been like that.
0:19:44 > 0:19:46That's going to be on my arm for ever.
0:19:46 > 0:19:49Ever and ever and ever.
0:19:49 > 0:19:52That's what you want for your marriage, isn't it?
0:19:58 > 0:20:01It's the beginning of week two and Ben is about to make
0:20:01 > 0:20:06the biggest decision of his life without any female help.
0:20:06 > 0:20:09Absolutely crapping my pants.
0:20:09 > 0:20:12For a woman, it's all about the dress, isn't it?
0:20:12 > 0:20:16All about the dress. If I get that dress wrong, I am...knackered.
0:20:16 > 0:20:19Meanwhile, Sarah is armed with lots of girly support,
0:20:19 > 0:20:23taking her mum and bridesmaid Hannah to see the dress SHE'D CHOOSE
0:20:23 > 0:20:25for her dream beachside wedding.
0:20:26 > 0:20:31- What sort of thing are you after? - I want like, an A-line one.- Yes.
0:20:31 > 0:20:35Like, I don't want a sweetheart... I just want it straight. Quite tight.
0:20:35 > 0:20:37But not tight on my bum.
0:20:37 > 0:20:39Do you want to have a little look around? Yes?
0:20:39 > 0:20:41I think with me, I'm not comfortable with my figure.
0:20:41 > 0:20:43I never have been.
0:20:43 > 0:20:48I got really large hips and with a dress, it needs to be A-line
0:20:48 > 0:20:53so you don't look fat in it. I don't want to feel fat and I think a plain dress just suits me better.
0:20:53 > 0:20:55It just looks nicer on me.
0:20:55 > 0:20:59- Do you like that, Mum? - The bashful bride hopes for a sophisticated dress
0:20:59 > 0:21:01that won't flaunt her body.
0:21:01 > 0:21:05Luckily, a man who spends his life surrounded by women should understand that perfectly.
0:21:05 > 0:21:08She's got a cracking chest!
0:21:08 > 0:21:12Curvy little hips, a little waist.
0:21:12 > 0:21:13Lovely boobs. She's stunning.
0:21:13 > 0:21:16Beautiful figure and I just think she wants to hide it away -
0:21:16 > 0:21:19I don't see why she'd want to hide it away.
0:21:19 > 0:21:22She looks sexy, so why can't she look sexy on her wedding day?
0:21:22 > 0:21:27- Hi, there. How can we help you today?- I need a dress, please.
0:21:27 > 0:21:33- What sort of style are you looking for?- Like, poofy at the bottom, netty.- Poofy!- Poofy!
0:21:33 > 0:21:37- It's my word for it - poofy! - A princess dress, is it? OK.
0:21:37 > 0:21:41Across town, the girls are thinking less poofy princess
0:21:41 > 0:21:42and more Ibiza chic.
0:21:42 > 0:21:47- It's a little tight. - But even picking her own dress...
0:21:47 > 0:21:51- No, I don't like that.- ..is proving difficult for self-conscious Sarah.
0:21:51 > 0:21:55No, I don't like that. Look at the bum in the back. It's too curvy.
0:21:59 > 0:22:02Luckily, Sarah won't have to worry about her bum looking big.
0:22:02 > 0:22:05Not when Ben has one or two other things on his mind.
0:22:05 > 0:22:08Wow, that is booby, isn't it? That's lovely.
0:22:08 > 0:22:14I'm not sure about these little... flaps. They're like air vents.
0:22:14 > 0:22:17- It's definitely booby enough, isn't it?- She has the figure, yes!
0:22:17 > 0:22:23- It's definitely...got enough of that.- Sweetheart neckline, they call it.
0:22:23 > 0:22:24I'm trying not to look at it!
0:22:24 > 0:22:27LAUGHTER Can't help it, can you!
0:22:27 > 0:22:29Hang on, so we've got the booby, we've got the lace,
0:22:29 > 0:22:31- but we don't like the...? - HE WHISTLES
0:22:31 > 0:22:33- OK.- Onto the next one.
0:22:36 > 0:22:40- Oh, it's lush.- What are you missing?
0:22:40 > 0:22:42But while Ben cops an eyeful of heaving necklines,
0:22:42 > 0:22:47Sarah is trying on her very demure dream dress.
0:22:47 > 0:22:52- Oh, you look lovely.- That's really nice.- That's lush, isn't it?
0:22:52 > 0:22:56- Really nice.- I feel small in it. It's floaty as well, and comfy.
0:22:56 > 0:23:02- You look nice in that.- I love this one. It's just pretty and just...
0:23:02 > 0:23:05- It's lovely. - I don't feel fat in it at all.
0:23:05 > 0:23:08- I think this is the one. Do you? - Definitely.- Yes, definitely.
0:23:08 > 0:23:14- None of my boobs are out now at all. Classy, for once!- I know!
0:23:14 > 0:23:17- Thank you.- Oh!- Oh, look at that!
0:23:17 > 0:23:20That's lush, isn't it? Scary now though, isn't it?
0:23:20 > 0:23:25- Imagine if he gets it wrong.- Yes, I can't wait.- I'll have a bitch fit.
0:23:25 > 0:23:27- You will, won't you?- Mm.
0:23:27 > 0:23:32While Sarah's found a classy dress she'd like to take the plunge in...
0:23:32 > 0:23:35Ben's found a saucy little number he'd like to take a plunge AT...
0:23:35 > 0:23:36Grrrrr!
0:23:36 > 0:23:37Come closer.
0:23:41 > 0:23:44Can you turn around for me, as well? Oh, look at the back.
0:23:46 > 0:23:50- Yes, I like that.- Beautiful.- Can I see it... With a crown on, as well?
0:23:50 > 0:23:54- Is that what it's called?- Crown?! - Tiara?- Tiara!
0:23:55 > 0:24:00Oh, looks the business, doesn't it? Yes, pop it over her head.
0:24:01 > 0:24:03That's amazing. I'm a bit bricking it now, though.
0:24:03 > 0:24:08Next time I'm stood next to this, it will be Sarah in it
0:24:08 > 0:24:09and I'll be doing the whole, "I do."
0:24:11 > 0:24:12- Is done, is it?- Done.
0:24:12 > 0:24:15While Sarah wanted a classy A-line floaty dress to suit her beach wedding,
0:24:15 > 0:24:18Ben has opted for a princess meringue,
0:24:18 > 0:24:23deep-set sweetheart neckline, with 18 layers of puffiness.
0:24:23 > 0:24:27And at a cost of £1,000, Ben's in boob heaven!
0:24:27 > 0:24:30It is a bit cross-my-fingers and-hope, now, isn't it? That's it.
0:24:30 > 0:24:34I've either dropped the ball or put it in the back of the net, now.
0:24:34 > 0:24:38That's it. I'm going one of two ways now. One of two ways.
0:24:38 > 0:24:42I know if I've got the dress right, 100% right, that dress,
0:24:42 > 0:24:46I know she'll forgive the church, if that dress is spot-on.
0:24:46 > 0:24:50So basically, everything I've done up till now relies on that dress being bang-on.
0:24:54 > 0:24:57It's the first time I've said that in my head, actually. Bit nerve-racking.
0:24:57 > 0:25:02After ten days of freedom, Ben's wedding is quickly coming together.
0:25:02 > 0:25:05He spends another two grand on a photographer and flowers.
0:25:05 > 0:25:08That's coral, that's pink. That's going to be on the cake.
0:25:08 > 0:25:11You do know that those colours clash?
0:25:11 > 0:25:14The reins are truly off and speaking of which,
0:25:14 > 0:25:16it's time to book the bride's transport.
0:25:16 > 0:25:18That's amazing.
0:25:18 > 0:25:21And at a cost of £950 for a horse and carriage,
0:25:21 > 0:25:25Ben has spent nearly ten grand of his budget.
0:25:25 > 0:25:28Ben, will you marry me? Oh!
0:25:28 > 0:25:33Next, Ben is taking his mum - and cake maker - to a cake shop
0:25:33 > 0:25:36to explain what he wants and to show her who's boss.
0:25:36 > 0:25:40- Hiya.- How are you going to do it? Like that?- You wanted them...
0:25:40 > 0:25:43I wanted them originally on top of each other, like that,
0:25:43 > 0:25:46but once the icing is on, it'll be heavy, won't it?
0:25:46 > 0:25:48I'd do a ten, eight, six and four.
0:25:48 > 0:25:51- It's lovely, that is.- Perhaps a few petals?- I don't want petals.
0:25:51 > 0:25:54- You don't want petals? - I don't want any petals on it.
0:25:54 > 0:25:59- But see how here, there's a little tiny leaf...- No, no leaves.
0:25:59 > 0:26:03No? Plain, naked. Right. OK. You said you wanted leaves.
0:26:03 > 0:26:06No, I don't want leaves on it. I said I don't want leaves.
0:26:06 > 0:26:07- No leaves.- Right.
0:26:10 > 0:26:11It's hard trying to get what I want.
0:26:11 > 0:26:15I knew for a fact she'd be like, "Ben, I'm doing this, shut up."
0:26:15 > 0:26:18The point is, it's my cake, so, it's going to be no leaves,
0:26:18 > 0:26:20roses on the top, coming down the side.
0:26:20 > 0:26:22You have to do as you're told.
0:26:22 > 0:26:27- For once.- For once? I always do as I'm told.- You don't.
0:26:27 > 0:26:29- I'm surprised you've gone for that red, though.- Yes.
0:26:29 > 0:26:32Well, it's not your cake, so we're going to go for the one I like.
0:26:32 > 0:26:34Don't alter anything without speaking to me first.
0:26:34 > 0:26:37- I want to know what it looks like. - Shh.- Don't shush me, it's my cake.
0:26:37 > 0:26:39Thank you. THANK YOU!
0:26:39 > 0:26:41- Bye.- Bye, thank you.
0:26:41 > 0:26:43I need to know how it looks, so if it's going to change, I need to know.
0:26:43 > 0:26:47- # Mamma Mia, Mamma Mia - Mamma Mia let me go... #
0:26:47 > 0:26:50I'm not changing anything, all right? Stop panicking, dear.
0:26:52 > 0:26:57Back at home, mum is starting to come to terms with who's actually planning this wedding.
0:26:57 > 0:27:00He's very in control.
0:27:00 > 0:27:03And that is odd, because normally...
0:27:03 > 0:27:08I'm in control. It's an unusual feeling.
0:27:08 > 0:27:12I think he's desperately trying to...
0:27:13 > 0:27:16..prove himself
0:27:16 > 0:27:21as...grown-up and doing all right.
0:27:21 > 0:27:25In my head, he's my baby boy
0:27:25 > 0:27:28and he needs me to look after him.
0:27:31 > 0:27:35It's the end of week two and time for the hen and stag.
0:27:35 > 0:27:39Best man Mike has been sent round to tell the girls the good news.
0:27:39 > 0:27:42What's up, my lovely? Right, then - tomorrow.
0:27:42 > 0:27:45Yourself plus five friends, all here for nine o'clock in the morning.
0:27:45 > 0:27:47In old clothes.
0:27:47 > 0:27:50- Something you can get dirty. - What kind of shoes?- Trainers.
0:27:50 > 0:27:55- Something you can run in as well, OK?- Trainers? We don't own trainers!
0:27:55 > 0:27:57Something you can get dirty. That's all you need to know.
0:27:57 > 0:27:59- Have fun, girls. - I don't know what to wear now, Han.
0:27:59 > 0:28:03- I'll have to wear my Uggs. - I'll wear my Uggs, black leggings.
0:28:03 > 0:28:07What are you going to do with your hair, then? Put a shower cap on it!
0:28:07 > 0:28:09Oh, Sar...
0:28:11 > 0:28:14The next morning, deep in the Welsh countryside, Ben has come up
0:28:14 > 0:28:17with an idea he hopes will give him an early victory in the wedding.
0:28:17 > 0:28:20What better way to assert his new-found supremacy
0:28:20 > 0:28:25and show the girls who is boss than a battle-of-the-sexes laser war game?
0:28:25 > 0:28:27At the end of the day, we're boys and they're girls.
0:28:27 > 0:28:30Three of us have been in the Army, so if we lose to them,
0:28:30 > 0:28:31it's pathetic.
0:28:31 > 0:28:34I can't believe he's brought me somewhere like this.
0:28:34 > 0:28:36This isn't something I'd particularly do!
0:28:36 > 0:28:40I feel like I'm being strapped to an electric chair, that's how I feel.
0:28:40 > 0:28:45Load up, it's the stag do versus the hen do. It's a STEN do.
0:28:46 > 0:28:49And with pink wellies all round,
0:28:49 > 0:28:51it's a bit like leading Welsh lambs to the slaughter.
0:28:51 > 0:28:52Sorry, girls!
0:28:54 > 0:28:57There's a guy over there, there's a guy over there!
0:28:57 > 0:28:58Oh, I got shot!
0:28:58 > 0:29:03- I shot one of them. I think it's Mark.- Did you?- Yeah.
0:29:03 > 0:29:05I don't know the difference between Mark, Mike and Ben.
0:29:05 > 0:29:09But knowing that Ben is trying to assert his control,
0:29:09 > 0:29:11Sarah decides to get serious.
0:29:11 > 0:29:13GUN COCKS Yep.
0:29:13 > 0:29:17And not long after, the best man is down.
0:29:17 > 0:29:20We shot the best man on the floor, which was quite funny.
0:29:20 > 0:29:22Very dramatic. And we were like, "Ha-ha-ha-ha!"
0:29:22 > 0:29:27Even the groom can't escape the wrath of these pink commandos.
0:29:28 > 0:29:30You bastards.
0:29:31 > 0:29:33It's me bitch!
0:29:33 > 0:29:36But after two hours of fighting it out,
0:29:36 > 0:29:40the boys assert their dominance and victory is secured.
0:29:40 > 0:29:46# We are the champions We are the champions... #
0:29:46 > 0:29:49I wanted to go over there, because I saw her, so instead I shot her.
0:29:49 > 0:29:51Good job. That's the way.
0:29:51 > 0:29:54That was just so weird, him being so close to me
0:29:54 > 0:29:58and, like, we can't kiss, we can't touch, we can't say anything.
0:29:58 > 0:30:00It's just weird, but, to be honest,
0:30:00 > 0:30:03he did a good job, because I didn't think I'd enjoy it.
0:30:03 > 0:30:05For once, Ben's outgunned the girls,
0:30:05 > 0:30:09but on the wedding day there'll be no masks to hide behind
0:30:09 > 0:30:11and no backup from the boys.
0:30:11 > 0:30:13Hiding in the woods could be his best option.
0:30:17 > 0:30:21It's the beginning of the third week and his next task is no game.
0:30:21 > 0:30:24Still refusing to be ordered around,
0:30:24 > 0:30:28Ben is choosing the bridesmaids' dresses without any bridesmaids present.
0:30:29 > 0:30:34If they were here I'd be stressing out because they'd be wanting to...
0:30:34 > 0:30:37They'd be all over it, "I'm not wearing that, I'm not wearing this.
0:30:37 > 0:30:40"It doesn't go with my shape." I like that.
0:30:40 > 0:30:44If they put them on, I like them, they're having them. Simple as that.
0:30:44 > 0:30:46It's time for a bit of authority from me.
0:30:46 > 0:30:49But Ben knows these girls are no pushover
0:30:49 > 0:30:52so he's holding the fashion show on his turf -
0:30:52 > 0:30:54the garage where he works.
0:30:54 > 0:30:56Ha! This is going to be fun.
0:30:58 > 0:31:03Chief bridesmaid Hannah has been joined by Ben's sister, Emily,
0:31:03 > 0:31:05and Sarah's friend, Anneka.
0:31:05 > 0:31:08- I feel a bit sick.- Yeah. I was expecting to be shopping today.
0:31:08 > 0:31:12I thought we could pressurise him. Strength in numbers. Unite together.
0:31:12 > 0:31:15Bully him into the ones we wanted. That's not going to happen.
0:31:15 > 0:31:22- Ben?- Yeah, in here.- Hello?- I've got nice dresses. I spent money.
0:31:25 > 0:31:29- They're short!- They're not that short.- They're short!
0:31:29 > 0:31:35- Right, try 'em on. Just try 'em on. You've all got one.- Oh, my God.
0:31:39 > 0:31:43- Sarah is not going to be happy with this. She wanted long dresses.- Yeah.
0:31:46 > 0:31:49- Ooh, God. - These are not bridesmaid dresses.
0:31:49 > 0:31:51These are something you would maybe pick
0:31:51 > 0:31:53if you're about 70 for a wedding.
0:31:53 > 0:31:57- "If you're about 70?!" - I just don't like it.
0:31:57 > 0:32:00- Bow-chicka-wow-wow. - Michael.
0:32:11 > 0:32:14- What are you? The Apprentice?- Yeah.
0:32:16 > 0:32:18- Turn around.- No.
0:32:20 > 0:32:23Turn around, Anneka. Anneka, turn around.
0:32:26 > 0:32:30They're very see-through. Look, you can see everything through them.
0:32:30 > 0:32:32THEY LAUGH He knows it!
0:32:34 > 0:32:37- They are totally see-through! - They are totally see-through,
0:32:37 > 0:32:40and with a camera and a flash it's going to be even more see-through.
0:32:40 > 0:32:43- They are completely see-through. - You can't have these, Ben.
0:32:43 > 0:32:46No, you're right. Yeah, we... No.
0:32:46 > 0:32:49- Take them off and put them back in the bag.- Yay! I love you, Ben.
0:32:49 > 0:32:53Whoops. Yeah, I think we're going back to town.
0:32:53 > 0:32:55He should have known, "They won't wear that.
0:32:55 > 0:32:57"There's no way they'll put it on."
0:32:57 > 0:32:58We'll put it on but we wouldn't wear it.
0:32:58 > 0:33:01Now we can go with him, we can boss and bully him into what we want.
0:33:01 > 0:33:05Oh, my God. You could see the cars behind through the dress.
0:33:05 > 0:33:09And the proper show every outline of their knickers and everything, didn't they?
0:33:09 > 0:33:10Wah!
0:33:12 > 0:33:15Yeah, back to town then.
0:33:15 > 0:33:20Unlike the bride, the girls now get to pick the dresses they want.
0:33:27 > 0:33:30Ben is desperately trying to keep control of the wedding,
0:33:30 > 0:33:32but when it comes to his own pocket money
0:33:32 > 0:33:34he still needs to run things by Sarah.
0:33:34 > 0:33:37She gave him £100 to buy essentials,
0:33:37 > 0:33:41but having spent it all, it's time for a grovelling phone call.
0:33:41 > 0:33:45I've only got 63p left. I'm going to have to give Hannah a call and say,
0:33:45 > 0:33:47"Can I have some money, please?"
0:33:51 > 0:33:56- Hello?- Hiya, are you all right? - Yeah. Are you?- Tired. Stressed.
0:33:56 > 0:33:59We're not tired or stressed. We're fine.
0:33:59 > 0:34:01With no control over her wedding,
0:34:01 > 0:34:04Sarah prompts Hannah to ask some very important questions.
0:34:04 > 0:34:08- You have been eating properly? - I have been eating properly, yes.
0:34:08 > 0:34:11Have you been brushing your teeth in the mornings?
0:34:11 > 0:34:13I have been brushing my teeth in the mornings as well, yes.
0:34:13 > 0:34:16- That's good. - Yeah, I'm getting paid tomorrow.
0:34:16 > 0:34:21My money's going into Sarah's bank so obviously I need to arrange to get some money.
0:34:21 > 0:34:25- Tell him how much money does he want? - How much do you want?- 50 quid.- £50.
0:34:25 > 0:34:28- No. He's not having £50 for food for the week.- "No way," she said.
0:34:28 > 0:34:30- Not a chance.- Well, why ask how much I want...
0:34:30 > 0:34:32Don't start having a go at me, Ben.
0:34:32 > 0:34:34Tell him he's not having 50 quid for food for the week.
0:34:34 > 0:34:36- Can he have 30 then? - Yeah, he can have 30.
0:34:36 > 0:34:41- But not 50 quid for one week.- Tell her 30 quid's fine.- Tell him I know.
0:34:41 > 0:34:43- Yeah, we know.- "Yeah, I know." Is that what she said?
0:34:43 > 0:34:46She's got her rent to pay. Bills to pay, Ben. Bills come first.
0:34:46 > 0:34:50- "Bills to pay." She's hard work even when the phone's not there. - You're hard work.
0:34:53 > 0:34:56Big news(!)
0:34:56 > 0:34:59All right, have a nice time. Don't mess anything up, OK?
0:34:59 > 0:35:01- OK, bye.- Bye.
0:35:08 > 0:35:12- Do you think I'm mean not giving him 50 quid?- No.
0:35:12 > 0:35:13It is a lot, though, 50 quid.
0:35:13 > 0:35:16No, it is. 50 quid for one person, are you kidding me?
0:35:18 > 0:35:20- Mike!- Yeah.
0:35:20 > 0:35:23- Come here, I've got order numbers for Mac.- Aye, Ben.
0:35:23 > 0:35:25After the phone call with Sarah,
0:35:25 > 0:35:27Ben knows that he must get the wedding on budget.
0:35:27 > 0:35:29He's really stressed this morning.
0:35:29 > 0:35:32Deep down he is panicking his arse right off.
0:35:32 > 0:35:37He's proving a point to his future wife that he's got to be trusted with money
0:35:37 > 0:35:39and I think this is a big step for him.
0:35:39 > 0:35:43If he does right with this money and does everything the way he wants it
0:35:43 > 0:35:46and the way he's going to make her happy, it means a lot.
0:35:46 > 0:35:49Maybe she'll start trusting him with a bank card.
0:35:49 > 0:35:51- Come on then, Benjamin. - THEY LAUGH
0:35:52 > 0:35:54Bugger off, now, big boy.
0:35:54 > 0:35:58With access to his own personal bank account on the line,
0:35:58 > 0:36:02and having spent nearly 11 grand, Ben needs to make some drastic cuts.
0:36:02 > 0:36:04First for the chop, the boys' suits.
0:36:04 > 0:36:07I originally budgeted seven suits, 100 quid each, 700 quid.
0:36:07 > 0:36:11If I can rent them all for cheaper then I'll rent them all for cheaper.
0:36:11 > 0:36:13Not even Sarah is spared in Ben's austerity plan.
0:36:13 > 0:36:1640 quid is the max that I can afford to spend on shoes.
0:36:16 > 0:36:20They're 55 quid, they are. I was going to get her a wedding box with, like,
0:36:20 > 0:36:24perfume and stuff like that in and I budgeted, like, 30 quid for that,
0:36:24 > 0:36:28so if I don't buy that I can still get the shoes and save 15 quid.
0:36:28 > 0:36:32Finally in his saving bonanza, Ben risks the wrath of the bridesmaids.
0:36:32 > 0:36:37What I'm going to do, hon, is just don't worry about the bridesmaids' make-up and that saves me 120 quid.
0:36:37 > 0:36:40£129. Get in.
0:36:40 > 0:36:44But there are some things a real man can't sacrifice.
0:36:44 > 0:36:47I obviously need to get it done Wednesday, don't I? So I don't look like a tangerine.
0:36:47 > 0:36:50I don't want to look orange at all, just a really, really light one,
0:36:50 > 0:36:54so I'm not stood there at the front next to a white wedding dress looking Day-glo orange.
0:36:57 > 0:36:58Spray tan's booked in.
0:36:58 > 0:37:05Out of £12,000 with four days to go, I have £16.
0:37:08 > 0:37:11But everything is bought.
0:37:11 > 0:37:12He may have come in on budget,
0:37:12 > 0:37:16but the jury's still out on whether he's spent it wisely.
0:37:21 > 0:37:26It's the day before the wedding and time for Sarah to see the all-important dress.
0:37:26 > 0:37:29Dreading it. Absolutely dreading it. I feel sick.
0:37:29 > 0:37:33I just don't want to look fat on my wedding day. If I look fat, I ain't wearing it.
0:37:33 > 0:37:37So it better be friggin' decent. I'll kill him.
0:37:37 > 0:37:41Approaching the shop that is known locally to specialise
0:37:41 > 0:37:44in big princess dresses, Sarah's nerves give in.
0:37:45 > 0:37:48SHE SOBS
0:37:49 > 0:37:50Oh, come on.
0:37:52 > 0:37:54- You haven't seen it yet. Come on.- You all right?
0:37:54 > 0:37:58- I'm just so nervous. - You haven't seen it yet, have you?
0:37:58 > 0:38:00Well, you need to see at first and then you can decide
0:38:00 > 0:38:05cos there's no point in deciding now cos you haven't even seen it. You're just looking at a window.
0:38:05 > 0:38:07I just can't imagine it being nice. I don't like this shop.
0:38:07 > 0:38:10I've seen it from outside - there's always big dresses and stuff.
0:38:10 > 0:38:13We'll just go in and have a look, all right? Just check it out.
0:38:13 > 0:38:14You just need to see the dress first.
0:38:17 > 0:38:19- So if you want to take a seat here and I'll go and get it.- OK.
0:38:19 > 0:38:21All right, thanks.
0:38:22 > 0:38:24Just wait now.
0:38:24 > 0:38:28Just wait, Sarah. Don't panic. Don't panic, now.
0:38:28 > 0:38:33Ben's choice of dress so big it comes in two parts.
0:38:36 > 0:38:38Why the hell have I got two?
0:38:41 > 0:38:45- It's two bags because it's so big. That's why it's two bags.- My God.
0:38:45 > 0:38:47Oh, she's going to go mental.
0:38:58 > 0:38:59I don't like it.
0:39:01 > 0:39:04Do you want to try it on and just see what it's like on?
0:39:04 > 0:39:07It's awful. It's puffy.
0:39:09 > 0:39:13Go and have a look at it. It's horrendous. I'm not wearing it.
0:39:13 > 0:39:18It's disgusting. It's massive. I'm going to look like a fat bitch in it.
0:39:19 > 0:39:20Right, OK.
0:39:20 > 0:39:25It's up to Mum and Hannah to convince Sarah try the dress on.
0:39:25 > 0:39:28- I know it's not what you want... - I'm going to look fat in it, Han.
0:39:28 > 0:39:30Sarah, just try it.
0:39:30 > 0:39:32Just try it, OK.
0:39:33 > 0:39:35What's that?
0:39:35 > 0:39:37It's not another dress so don't panic.
0:39:37 > 0:39:39Oh, my God.
0:39:44 > 0:39:46- Sarah, just try it, all right? - I'll try it on,
0:39:46 > 0:39:48but I'm not going to wear it because I'm not going to like it.
0:39:48 > 0:39:51Just try it. It might be different. You don't know that, do you?
0:39:52 > 0:39:54She's not happy at all, is she?
0:39:58 > 0:40:01I know that a big dress just makes you look bigger than you are.
0:40:04 > 0:40:05And that's what I said all along -
0:40:05 > 0:40:09I didn't want to look fat on my wedding day and I just think I'm going to look fat in it.
0:40:09 > 0:40:11And if I look fat in it, I'm not wearing it.
0:40:12 > 0:40:16Just devastated for her, really, cos it's completely not what she wants.
0:40:16 > 0:40:20It's a meringue and she wants a straight A-line dress, so it's the complete opposite.
0:40:20 > 0:40:23It's not even a little bit puffy, is it? It's, like, out.
0:40:23 > 0:40:25We'll just try and make her like it.
0:40:25 > 0:40:29Getting Sarah to try the dress on is one thing,
0:40:29 > 0:40:33but convincing her to walk down the aisle in it might be another matter.
0:40:37 > 0:40:39- Do I look fat?- No.
0:40:39 > 0:40:41I just feel like I'm massive.
0:40:41 > 0:40:44- The dress is big, you're not. - It's lovely.
0:40:44 > 0:40:48- He's got you some accessories as well, OK?- Oh, God. Here we go.
0:40:48 > 0:40:50- He's got you a veil.- Oh...
0:40:54 > 0:40:57I'm sure he's done this to wind me up.
0:40:57 > 0:40:58That's lovely.
0:40:58 > 0:41:00He's got a tiara as well.
0:41:00 > 0:41:03- < Sarah, it's lovely. - (He's got a tiara, Mum.)
0:41:03 > 0:41:05It's lovely. Honestly.
0:41:07 > 0:41:11- That looks lovely on.- You look about a size two.- That's beautiful.
0:41:11 > 0:41:15- You look tiny. - And the veil's pretty. It's dainty.
0:41:15 > 0:41:16And it's not that low.
0:41:16 > 0:41:19I know it's not what you want and it's nowhere near what you want.
0:41:19 > 0:41:23Really(?) I would never even imagine Ben could get it this wrong.
0:41:23 > 0:41:26I would never wear a veil, he knows I don't like tiaras.
0:41:26 > 0:41:28I've said before, "I don't like tiaras." He knows that -
0:41:28 > 0:41:30why have I got a tiara on my head?
0:41:30 > 0:41:34These are the shoes that he's got you. OK?
0:41:34 > 0:41:37They're absolutely disgusting.
0:41:37 > 0:41:39- I don't like them.- They're pointy.
0:41:39 > 0:41:42Well, just try them, Sarah.
0:41:42 > 0:41:43He's a fucking drip.
0:41:45 > 0:41:48- Pointy shoes?- They're horrible. - Just try them on.
0:41:50 > 0:41:54- That's something my mother would have on. No offence, Mam.- They're horrid.
0:41:54 > 0:41:58You don't look massive. You look tiny, you really do.
0:41:58 > 0:42:02I wouldn't lie to you. You have to like it anyway, so you haven't got choice.
0:42:04 > 0:42:07Now that Sarah is dressed head-to-toe in Ben's vision,
0:42:07 > 0:42:11she can finally see it for herself in all its glory.
0:42:12 > 0:42:14- Aw...- See?
0:42:16 > 0:42:19Don't start crying. You'll have mascara down it.
0:42:19 > 0:42:22- I don't look fat. - No, it looks lovely.
0:42:24 > 0:42:27It is big though, isn't it?
0:42:27 > 0:42:29- It is big.- It's lovely.
0:42:31 > 0:42:35- It's really pretty, Sarah.- I don't hate it.- He's done a good job. - You look confused.
0:42:35 > 0:42:37At least he's got the dress right,
0:42:37 > 0:42:41but he hasn't got what I wanted, so he still got it wrong in a way.
0:42:41 > 0:42:43- THEY LAUGH - As long as you're right it's OK.
0:42:43 > 0:42:46As long as I'm right. That's the main thing.
0:42:46 > 0:42:50I don't think he would have picked a church wedding in this type of dress because it's a bit...
0:42:50 > 0:42:52I know it's not revealing, but when he saw it
0:42:52 > 0:42:55he probably thought the boobs would be hanging out of there. "Have a look at that," like.
0:42:58 > 0:43:01He might have just got away with the dress,
0:43:01 > 0:43:04but Ben is more concerned about how Sarah may react to the church.
0:43:04 > 0:43:10So to add a feminine touch, he spent his last few pounds on some plastic flowers.
0:43:13 > 0:43:17It's all about making that church pretty.
0:43:17 > 0:43:20It's all about, just, sort of, forgetting where she is
0:43:20 > 0:43:23and thinking, "God, look at it. It doesn't look like a church."
0:43:23 > 0:43:25It needs to be pretty. It needs to be girly.
0:43:25 > 0:43:29And these are about as girly as fake roses get really, aren't they?
0:43:29 > 0:43:30What I'm doing now has to be enough.
0:43:30 > 0:43:35Am I worried that it's not going to be? Yeah. Of course I am.
0:43:35 > 0:43:38Cos I know how much she doesn't like churches.
0:43:38 > 0:43:42So I've just got to keep making rose petals
0:43:42 > 0:43:46and hope for the best.
0:43:48 > 0:43:50And speaking of making things pretty and girly,
0:43:50 > 0:43:53there's still time for the boys to get their spray tans.
0:43:53 > 0:43:55I'm not going to kiss your nipples!
0:44:12 > 0:44:14It's the morning of the wedding
0:44:14 > 0:44:18and the girl who dreamt of getting married abroad in a floaty dress
0:44:18 > 0:44:24on a sunny beach is three hours away from a church wedding in Wales.
0:44:24 > 0:44:25And the rain is looming.
0:44:26 > 0:44:31Oh, my God. So stressed now. So nervous.
0:44:31 > 0:44:33That's tight enough, mate, isn't it?
0:44:33 > 0:44:37- How are you feeling, Ben? - Oh, I'm nervous now.
0:44:39 > 0:44:41You look swag, mate.
0:44:42 > 0:44:45- Made it.- You've done it.- Right.
0:44:46 > 0:44:49Wearing the dress that came in two bags,
0:44:49 > 0:44:53Sarah is ready to see what else Ben has in store.
0:44:56 > 0:44:59But first, she needs to get out of her front door.
0:44:59 > 0:45:02Argh, I can't get out!
0:45:02 > 0:45:06I don't think I can. Oh, Lord.
0:45:15 > 0:45:19We'll just have to try and keep it up.
0:45:28 > 0:45:32Right, how the fuck are we going to get through here?
0:45:42 > 0:45:44Someone get me an umbrella.
0:45:48 > 0:45:50Oh, my God.
0:45:50 > 0:45:52Oh, my good God.
0:45:52 > 0:45:56Fucking hell! He's big, isn't he?
0:45:56 > 0:45:59It's slimming!
0:46:00 > 0:46:02Look at that!
0:46:02 > 0:46:05EXCITED CHATTER
0:46:05 > 0:46:09Oh, my friggin' lord. Do you think I'll get in?
0:46:12 > 0:46:14Oh, it stinks.
0:46:14 > 0:46:15SHE SCREAMS
0:46:19 > 0:46:20LAUGHTER
0:46:20 > 0:46:23- He is such a dick!- I know!
0:46:23 > 0:46:27OK. I'm nervous of horses. He's an idiot.
0:46:34 > 0:46:38At the church, the guests are arriving.
0:46:38 > 0:46:42Ben is feeling the full weight of his decisions.
0:46:42 > 0:46:43Come on in.
0:46:45 > 0:46:48Just down the road, Sarah is starting to realise
0:46:48 > 0:46:49part of Ben's vision.
0:46:49 > 0:46:52There's a church where we are now, right at the top of this street.
0:46:52 > 0:46:55If we slow down in a minute, I know it's the church.
0:46:55 > 0:46:58I hope it goes past.
0:47:00 > 0:47:04Oh, I'm dying. I think I'm going to have a nervous breakdown now.
0:47:04 > 0:47:07I genuinely am going to have a nervous breakdown.
0:47:07 > 0:47:09Everything is stressing me out at the moment.
0:47:09 > 0:47:10Absolutely everything.
0:47:10 > 0:47:12I hate church weddings.
0:47:12 > 0:47:15This is the way we're going, so I reckon he's got the church.
0:47:15 > 0:47:17I never thought he'd get a church.
0:47:17 > 0:47:18BELLS RINGING
0:47:18 > 0:47:20Oh, my God. It's bells!
0:47:20 > 0:47:21I hate wedding bells!
0:47:21 > 0:47:24I feel sick.
0:47:24 > 0:47:29I think his dad got buried in this church,
0:47:29 > 0:47:32so I can't really say anything, can I?
0:47:32 > 0:47:35It's a massive thing and he will know that.
0:47:36 > 0:47:41As the plastic rose petals take their place in the church,
0:47:41 > 0:47:43the only thing Ben can do is hope and wait.
0:48:02 > 0:48:04My God, it looks stunning.
0:48:06 > 0:48:09Oh, it looks beautiful.
0:48:09 > 0:48:10Oh, I don't know.
0:48:12 > 0:48:15All right. Dad, are you on the right side?
0:48:15 > 0:48:17Yes. I'm on the opposite side to you.
0:48:25 > 0:48:27Benjamin.
0:48:32 > 0:48:35- I missed you so much. - I've been fucking dying.
0:48:35 > 0:48:38I've been having heart attacks all morning. You have no idea.
0:48:38 > 0:48:41- Are you OK?- Yes. I'm all right now you're here.
0:48:41 > 0:48:42Sarah and Benjamin
0:48:42 > 0:48:46have a great love for one another.
0:48:46 > 0:48:49I know Benjamin has chosen this church
0:48:49 > 0:48:52because it is very special to him and his family,
0:48:52 > 0:48:55because of his late dad.
0:48:57 > 0:49:01Benjamin and Sarah, will you now join hands
0:49:01 > 0:49:05and make your vows in the presence of God and his people.
0:49:05 > 0:49:08- I, Benjamin Alec.- I, Benjamin Alec.
0:49:08 > 0:49:11- Take you, Sarah Marie. - Take you, Sarah Marie.
0:49:11 > 0:49:13- To be my wife.- To be my wife.
0:49:13 > 0:49:16- In sickness and in health. - In sickness and in health.
0:49:16 > 0:49:19- As long as we both shall live. - As long as we both shall live.
0:49:19 > 0:49:22- I, Sarah Marie. - Take you, Benjamin Alec.
0:49:22 > 0:49:23Take you, Benjamin Alec.
0:49:23 > 0:49:26- To be my husband.- To be my husband.
0:49:26 > 0:49:29To love and to cherish as long as we both shall live.
0:49:29 > 0:49:32Benjamin Alec and Sarah Marie,
0:49:32 > 0:49:36I proclaim that they are husband and wife.
0:49:36 > 0:49:38MUSIC: The Wedding March
0:49:41 > 0:49:43APPLAUSE
0:49:45 > 0:49:46Oh, don't everyone look lush?
0:49:46 > 0:49:48Having got his bride up the aisle,
0:49:48 > 0:49:51it seems like Ben is getting his way.
0:49:51 > 0:49:53Sarah has married him in the venue he wanted,
0:49:53 > 0:49:57wearing the dress that he liked.
0:49:57 > 0:49:59I'm really impressed with my husband. He's done a good job.
0:49:59 > 0:50:03Even though I don't like a church, it looks absolutely stunning inside.
0:50:03 > 0:50:06- You did well.- Yes, I knew I was going to have it here.
0:50:06 > 0:50:09I just thought I would make it as nice as possible.
0:50:09 > 0:50:10It was beautiful inside.
0:50:10 > 0:50:12But it's not over yet.
0:50:12 > 0:50:14- I'm going to have to help her in. - Yes, you will.
0:50:16 > 0:50:18SHE SCREAMS
0:50:18 > 0:50:20LAUGHTER
0:50:20 > 0:50:22I don't think it's big enough, Ben.
0:50:22 > 0:50:24Yes, plenty big enough.
0:50:26 > 0:50:30As the heavens open and her dreams of a sunny beach wedding
0:50:30 > 0:50:31are well and truly washed away,
0:50:31 > 0:50:36it's time for Sarah to see Ben's vision of a dream reception -
0:50:36 > 0:50:40a castle in Caerphilly, in the rain.
0:50:40 > 0:50:42- Oh, my word. - Oh, it's bloody raining.
0:50:42 > 0:50:44- Are you on the floor? - Yeah.
0:50:44 > 0:50:49- Oh, this is the worst weather in the world.- Oh, my Lord.
0:50:49 > 0:50:52Sarah may have accepted all of Ben's choices so far,
0:50:52 > 0:50:55but will his attempt at a reception
0:50:55 > 0:50:59be enough to brighten his bride's day?
0:50:59 > 0:51:00Oh, my God. Ben!
0:51:03 > 0:51:05What once was a room graced by kings
0:51:05 > 0:51:08has been transformed into a room
0:51:08 > 0:51:11fit for one very lush princess.
0:51:11 > 0:51:14Oh, babe, it's absolutely stunning.
0:51:14 > 0:51:16Better than that, it's lush.
0:51:16 > 0:51:19- Do you like the cake? My mother made that.- Shut up!
0:51:19 > 0:51:21Yes, go and have a look at it.
0:51:21 > 0:51:24- Oh, Ben! did she really make that herself?- Yes, she made it herself.
0:51:24 > 0:51:26- Shut up!- Yes!
0:51:26 > 0:51:29- Oh, that's stunning. - How nice is that?
0:51:29 > 0:51:31- That is lush.- I designed it. I said this is what I want.
0:51:31 > 0:51:34Quite simple, just white but with roses coming down.
0:51:34 > 0:51:36That's absolutely stunning.
0:51:36 > 0:51:40- It's good, isn't it? - I love it. It's absolutely stunning.
0:51:40 > 0:51:43Honest to God, you have made me so proud. This is amazing.
0:51:43 > 0:51:44It's good, isn't it?
0:51:44 > 0:51:47I couldn't have done this.
0:51:47 > 0:51:49- I am so, so proud of you. - Get in!
0:51:49 > 0:51:54- VOICE BREAKING: Here we go. No, you've done amazing.- You happy? yeah?
0:51:54 > 0:51:55Really, really happy.
0:51:59 > 0:52:01What's happening?
0:52:01 > 0:52:04- My man! - We did it, kid.
0:52:04 > 0:52:06Good God!
0:52:06 > 0:52:08Absolutely beautiful.
0:52:08 > 0:52:10He's actually done it.
0:52:10 > 0:52:13I'm really, really proud of him. He did well.
0:52:13 > 0:52:16The boy did good, really good.
0:52:16 > 0:52:19I'd like to raise a toast to the bride and groom.
0:52:19 > 0:52:20Absolutely amazing.
0:52:20 > 0:52:23I'm proud of him. He's managed to do something himself, which is good.
0:52:23 > 0:52:28Absolutely great stuff. So yes, I am proud of him. Good lad.
0:52:28 > 0:52:31She's going to have a lot more respect for him and trust him more.
0:52:31 > 0:52:34I just want to say how beautiful my new wife looks.
0:52:34 > 0:52:36CHEERING
0:52:36 > 0:52:41It's been hard. Very, very hard for many reasons. But it was worth it,
0:52:41 > 0:52:44because I can spend the rest of my life with her now.
0:52:44 > 0:52:47APPLAUSE
0:52:49 > 0:52:52I've got big thanks for a lot of people who helped along the way.
0:52:52 > 0:52:54My best man, for making sure I didn't kill anyone.
0:52:54 > 0:52:57The bridesmaids for not murdering me for the first dress I picked.
0:52:57 > 0:53:01Not so much with the second dress. Thank you, guys. Thank you.
0:53:01 > 0:53:03Thank you, baby.
0:53:04 > 0:53:07He has done so well.
0:53:07 > 0:53:10Sarah and I have looked after him
0:53:10 > 0:53:13for a long time to help him out.
0:53:13 > 0:53:17And do you know what? He has amazed me
0:53:17 > 0:53:20with everything he has done. Everything.
0:53:20 > 0:53:24The room, the church, because that's the last place he saw his dad...
0:53:24 > 0:53:26Don't cry now, Mum.
0:53:28 > 0:53:30I am so proud to welcome Sarah as...
0:53:32 > 0:53:36VOICE BREAKING: ..Mrs Longville.
0:53:36 > 0:53:37CHEERING
0:53:37 > 0:53:41With the new Mrs Longville by his side,
0:53:41 > 0:53:45Ben finally gets to be the head of the family.
0:53:45 > 0:53:47At the beginning, it was six girls against me.
0:53:47 > 0:53:50Me on one side, all them in the corner. Strong together.
0:53:50 > 0:53:52But it's not like that any more.
0:53:52 > 0:53:56It's the six girls and me as a family, working together as a unit.
0:53:56 > 0:54:00It's made me feel a lot less threatened by them all.
0:54:00 > 0:54:02A gaggle of women, attacking me.
0:54:02 > 0:54:04- Oh, he's done well. - He's done perfect.
0:54:04 > 0:54:08I wouldn't let him plan my dinner, but he's done really well.
0:54:11 > 0:54:14It's been brilliant, absolutely perfect. It's lovely here.
0:54:14 > 0:54:16This whole three weeks was a way of proving
0:54:16 > 0:54:19not just to my wife and all my family,
0:54:19 > 0:54:23but my dad that I am not the person he saw before he died.
0:54:23 > 0:54:24I am someone else.
0:54:24 > 0:54:28Someone who can be trusted with big things and can be relied on.
0:54:28 > 0:54:30And you've moved on beautifully. You've grown so much.
0:54:30 > 0:54:33That was the last thing when Daddy was dying.
0:54:33 > 0:54:37It was all about life is a gift and you have to live it.
0:54:37 > 0:54:40He was really worried, because of the way I was at the time.
0:54:40 > 0:54:42Worried about what was going to happen to me after he died.
0:54:42 > 0:54:44But I think doing all this,
0:54:44 > 0:54:47and having the wedding where it was, I think he would be proud.
0:54:47 > 0:54:50He would be happy and say there was no need to worry.
0:54:50 > 0:54:52He'd be twiddling his little beard.
0:54:52 > 0:54:55Twiddling his bloody moustache!
0:54:55 > 0:54:59He'd be going, "About time, boy! About time!"
0:54:59 > 0:55:00Twiddling his moustache!
0:55:00 > 0:55:03Ready?
0:55:03 > 0:55:04Sorry, Mum!
0:55:04 > 0:55:07CHEERING
0:55:08 > 0:55:11He's my son and I just adore him,
0:55:11 > 0:55:13absolutely adore him.
0:55:13 > 0:55:16So the wedding has brought us together
0:55:16 > 0:55:20and I would never give that away. That is something to cherish.
0:55:20 > 0:55:23I think you helped so much over the past three weeks. It's been good.
0:55:23 > 0:55:25It is. I can't wait now. Babies now!
0:55:29 > 0:55:32It may have been more Ben's dream wedding than Sarah's,
0:55:32 > 0:55:34but by calling all the shots,
0:55:34 > 0:55:37Ben has shown them all that he can be the man.
0:55:37 > 0:55:39Ben today has proper shocked me.
0:55:39 > 0:55:43He's done absolutely amazing. He's made me so proud.
0:55:43 > 0:55:45I'm going to look at him totally different.
0:55:45 > 0:55:47I'm going to trust you more with money.
0:55:47 > 0:55:52- I am still a bitch, but that's just me.- That's just you, yeah!
0:55:52 > 0:55:53You've done me proud.
0:55:53 > 0:55:56- Yes.- You really have.
0:55:56 > 0:55:59- Ben, what are you doing? - Checking your boobs.
0:55:59 > 0:56:03- SARAH LAUGHS - It's been a while since I've seen them!
0:56:03 > 0:56:06'If I could sum up this day in one word,'
0:56:06 > 0:56:10- it would be lush.- Lush!
0:56:10 > 0:56:14- Fucking lush! - Not fucking, just lush.
0:56:14 > 0:56:17Next time, Blackpool boy Mike...
0:56:17 > 0:56:20Yee-haa! My ear just went!
0:56:20 > 0:56:23..plans the wedding for his glamorous bride-to-be.
0:56:23 > 0:56:26I'd want to feel like I was on the Titanic, first class.
0:56:26 > 0:56:29With the groom totally out of touch with the modern world...
0:56:29 > 0:56:31This internet's half decent, isn't it?
0:56:31 > 0:56:34..and a bride dreaming of the high life...
0:56:34 > 0:56:35Oh, my God!
0:56:35 > 0:56:38..will it be the Hollywood wedding of her dreams?
0:56:38 > 0:56:41Oh my God!
0:56:41 > 0:56:42Or a B-movie disaster?
0:56:42 > 0:56:44Switch it off.
0:56:44 > 0:56:45MUSIC: Run by Stephen Fretwell
0:56:45 > 0:56:48# Tell me tomorrow I'll wait by the window for you
0:56:54 > 0:56:57# I'll wait by a big house for you
0:57:02 > 0:57:06# I'll wait by the squeeze box for you
0:57:10 > 0:57:12# I'll wait by your dresses for you. #