0:00:02 > 0:00:04Don't Tell The Bride Celebrates weddings like no-one else.
0:00:04 > 0:00:06Congratulations on your big day.
0:00:06 > 0:00:09- From New York...- Ohhhh!
0:00:09 > 0:00:11- ..to Glasgow!- Oh my God.
0:00:11 > 0:00:13Las Vegas.
0:00:13 > 0:00:15Why would the man I love do this?
0:00:15 > 0:00:17To Ibiza.
0:00:17 > 0:00:19I can't even plan a wedding.
0:00:19 > 0:00:21And one unforgettable roller coaster ride.
0:00:21 > 0:00:24Why the hell are we at Thorpe Park on my wedding day?!
0:00:24 > 0:00:30And now we're back as 12 more unsuspecting brides prepare for the journey of a lifetime.
0:00:30 > 0:00:33No freaking way!
0:00:33 > 0:00:36The grooms get three weeks and £12,000.
0:00:36 > 0:00:37Waaaay!
0:00:37 > 0:00:39HE LAUGHS
0:00:39 > 0:00:42And the brides get no say in how it's spent.
0:00:42 > 0:00:45I'm trying my hardest to stay positive and I can't.
0:00:45 > 0:00:46So, get ready to rock...
0:00:46 > 0:00:51- I don't even want you at me wedding. - ..as the party reaches new heights.
0:00:51 > 0:00:52And sinks to new lows.
0:00:52 > 0:00:54SHE RETCHES
0:00:54 > 0:00:57With more fairy tale endings than ever before.
0:00:57 > 0:00:59Is this it? Is this all I get?
0:01:00 > 0:01:04Tonight - Scouser Terry celebrates his Ghanaian roots...
0:01:04 > 0:01:07by adding Africa to his wedding theme.
0:01:07 > 0:01:10- I want an elephant on there. - It's madness.
0:01:10 > 0:01:12But his straight-talking Northern Irish bride...
0:01:12 > 0:01:15- What are your nightmare themes?- Just a theme in general is a nightmare.
0:01:15 > 0:01:18..has her own vintage vision.
0:01:18 > 0:01:22Ah, it's amazing. It's classical, it's elegant, it's traditional.
0:01:24 > 0:01:26With friends and family far away...
0:01:26 > 0:01:30- Hello?- Now as you know, the wedding's a surprise.
0:01:30 > 0:01:32It is? I didn't even know you were getting married.
0:01:34 > 0:01:37- ..and a groom who struggles with decisions.- Sorry.
0:01:38 > 0:01:42- Will it prove a jumbo-sized disaster.- This elephant is reversing.
0:01:42 > 0:01:45A bit of a nightmare is the biggest understatement ever.
0:01:45 > 0:01:46Can this adventurous groom...
0:01:46 > 0:01:48Oh, my God. No way.
0:01:48 > 0:01:50..give this traditional girl...
0:01:50 > 0:01:51I'm leaving it up to a male.
0:01:51 > 0:01:53It's like I'm in a nightmare.
0:01:53 > 0:01:54..the wedding of her dreams?
0:01:54 > 0:01:57This wasn't what I envisioned or wanted.
0:02:08 > 0:02:15Scouser Terry fell for Irish lass Melissa six years ago, when she was a student in Liverpool.
0:02:15 > 0:02:18I just love everything about him.
0:02:18 > 0:02:21I love that he's so thoughtful and caring and kind.
0:02:21 > 0:02:23He'll always put other people before himself.
0:02:23 > 0:02:27She is the life and soul of every party when she goes, she's fun.
0:02:27 > 0:02:32Everybody loves here, all my friends, soon as you meet her, you've just got to love her straight away.
0:02:34 > 0:02:39For love-struck Terry, it was definitely a case of lust at first sight.
0:02:39 > 0:02:41- This girl walked passed and goes... - "Hiya".
0:02:41 > 0:02:47I didn't know who it was, but I was thinking, "Who is that?! She is tidy!"
0:02:48 > 0:02:50She had these hot pants on.
0:02:50 > 0:02:54This white shirt buttoned down to about here, red stilettos.
0:02:54 > 0:02:59He didn't realise he'd met her before dressed-down, in their local library.
0:02:59 > 0:03:04So a few days later, Melissa said, "I saw you in town and you blanked me."
0:03:04 > 0:03:06I was like, "Whoa, was that you?!"
0:03:06 > 0:03:09I suppose you were so used to seeing me in the library in my scruffs.
0:03:09 > 0:03:12You still looked cute in the library, but you know...
0:03:12 > 0:03:15This other girl in town was something else.
0:03:15 > 0:03:18Terry was recovering from a life-threatening kidney transplant,
0:03:18 > 0:03:20which had changed his outlook on life.
0:03:20 > 0:03:26After my transplant, for me it was about enjoy your life, don't overthink everything.
0:03:26 > 0:03:31Don't think too far into the future, so I was just like...bachelor pad.
0:03:31 > 0:03:38You know, that independence and then Melissa totally derailed that plan totally.
0:03:41 > 0:03:44Just eighteen months later, 34-year-old Terry proposed to Melissa,
0:03:44 > 0:03:47six years his junior, on a romantic getaway.
0:03:47 > 0:03:50Terry goes, there's something I really need to tell you.
0:03:50 > 0:03:53He was genuinely really nervous and I thought
0:03:53 > 0:03:56he was going to break up with me. He said he really loved me and got down on one knee.
0:03:56 > 0:04:00I said, "What are you doing that for? Get back up!"
0:04:00 > 0:04:02And then he took out this ring, I said, "What's that for?"
0:04:02 > 0:04:07I think I stuttered over my words for a few minutes before I said yes.
0:04:07 > 0:04:12Five years on, the couple have a four-year-old son, Mason,
0:04:12 > 0:04:16as well as Terry's ten-year-old boy Reece from a previous relationship.
0:04:16 > 0:04:20But they still haven't got round to tying the knot.
0:04:20 > 0:04:24We haven't really got very far in any aspect of it because it ended up
0:04:24 > 0:04:28in too much indecisiveness and disagreements and a lot of stress.
0:04:28 > 0:04:33But we did know somehow someway we did want to get married that was the reason we got engaged.
0:04:33 > 0:04:38- We just don't know how.- The actual doing it has been a nightmare.
0:04:38 > 0:04:44They did arrange a christening for Mason, but meticulous Melissa took charge of that.
0:04:44 > 0:04:47I was the one doing all the organising, doing all the catering
0:04:47 > 0:04:50and deciding what food we were having.
0:04:50 > 0:04:56I had a vision of what and how I wanted it to be made and tried to do it all myself.
0:04:56 > 0:05:00It was too much for me to take on, but I felt like I had to if I wanted to get it right.
0:05:02 > 0:05:05And in this relationship they both know who's in pole position.
0:05:05 > 0:05:09Let me see that jumper. Nah, that's not nice. I don't like it.
0:05:09 > 0:05:14I need to control any situation or scenario.
0:05:14 > 0:05:19So then I know it can only go my way and hopefully that way's right.
0:05:19 > 0:05:24- They're lovely.- No, they're too plain and I don't like colour and the leg cut.
0:05:24 > 0:05:28It suits me Melissa wearing the trousers and me getting sign off
0:05:28 > 0:05:32because I feel it shifts the accountability on to Melissa.
0:05:32 > 0:05:35If I just went out willy-nilly made a decision on my own,
0:05:35 > 0:05:38no sign off and it went wrong, I'd just never hear the end of it.
0:05:41 > 0:05:44Good luck with that. Because now social worker Melissa wants
0:05:44 > 0:05:48Terry to step up and plan the biggest day of her life.
0:05:48 > 0:05:54This is the only way we can get married. I think we would stay unmarried otherwise because...
0:05:54 > 0:05:57Or maybe worse, that's not an exaggeration!
0:05:57 > 0:06:02When we have discussed the wedding and got to a certain point - which wasn't very far -
0:06:02 > 0:06:08if we continued in this way, it would end up ruining relationship.
0:06:11 > 0:06:14No pressure there then. Newly-qualified accountant Terry
0:06:14 > 0:06:16will have to punch above his weight to pull this off.
0:06:16 > 0:06:20Especially when his bride has her own dream wedding in mind.
0:06:20 > 0:06:23My perfect wedding day would be an elegant and classy day,
0:06:23 > 0:06:27very intimate with all my close family and friends.
0:06:27 > 0:06:33A day where we can have lots of fun and just laugh and really enjoy it.
0:06:36 > 0:06:40But Terry's a scouser with proud African roots.
0:06:40 > 0:06:45I'm Ghanaian and that's important and I want to show the world, Melissa and all my friends.
0:06:45 > 0:06:49That's who I am, that's where I'm from. I just want it to be
0:06:49 > 0:06:53one of those where everyone's looking round going,
0:06:53 > 0:06:58"Wow, he really pulled that out the bag. That's the best wedding I've ever been to."
0:06:58 > 0:07:02I want her to go, "Terry, do you know what? You're crazy but, I loved that.
0:07:02 > 0:07:06"I'd never have thought of doing a wedding like that - not in a million years."
0:07:08 > 0:07:12But in this relationship, taking control doesn't come easily to Terry.
0:07:14 > 0:07:19- What do I normally get?- Terry, please, just make a decision.
0:07:19 > 0:07:24I've never organised anything. I don't think I have even organised like a birthday party.
0:07:24 > 0:07:30I am the sort of person who turns up and provides a bit of entertainment when I am there.
0:07:30 > 0:07:33But haven't got a clue how to plan a wedding.
0:07:36 > 0:07:41It's time for Terry and Melissa to say goodbye.
0:07:41 > 0:07:46- How you getting on, babe?- You know, I need a bin bag.- Oh my God, I told you take a bigger suitcase.
0:07:47 > 0:07:50For the next three weeks Terry will be staying with his best mate.
0:07:50 > 0:07:54Melissa will have no contact with him until their big day.
0:07:54 > 0:07:57Do you fancy your last little drink together before we're married?
0:07:57 > 0:08:02Cheers. To the biggest day of our lives, the next time you see me you know where we'll be.
0:08:04 > 0:08:08Terry's best mate and usher Leon will be helping with every detail of the big day.
0:08:08 > 0:08:12You'll be all right. You'll be sound.
0:08:14 > 0:08:19You'll be ok. It'll fly. It'll fly. It'll fly.
0:08:21 > 0:08:25This is what it's all about. We wouldn't have got married otherwise.
0:08:27 > 0:08:29I love you, babe.
0:08:32 > 0:08:36- Try and be organised, yeah? - I will do.
0:08:36 > 0:08:38- I love you.- See you soon, Mel.
0:08:38 > 0:08:40- It'll be all right, you know? - I know.
0:08:47 > 0:08:52I just don't know how I'm going to cope without Terry for three weeks.
0:08:52 > 0:08:57I'll feel really lonely tonight in bed because I'll be on my own
0:08:57 > 0:09:00and I don't like sleeping on my own with no-one to talk to.
0:09:03 > 0:09:08Seeing Melissa so upset there. I want an amazing wedding to wipe away the three weeks of missing me.
0:09:08 > 0:09:10There's no way I'll let this wedding be a failure.
0:09:10 > 0:09:13I'll make sure it works because both of them deserve it.
0:09:16 > 0:09:21As a teenager Leon lived with Terry's family, making them more like brothers than mates.
0:09:21 > 0:09:24But they're about to get even closer, living in Leon's cosy one bed flat.
0:09:24 > 0:09:28Is this going to be my home for three weeks? Is this where I'm sleeping?
0:09:28 > 0:09:32I give up my king-size bed with Melissa for this.
0:09:33 > 0:09:35I must be mad.
0:09:36 > 0:09:39Back home, Melissa hasn't stayed lonely for long.
0:09:39 > 0:09:42Friends Kelly, Jackie and Heidi have come round to offer support...
0:09:42 > 0:09:45And alcohol.
0:09:45 > 0:09:48This is just going to be so hard for me. I trust Terry but I wouldn't
0:09:48 > 0:09:51trust anyone doing my wedding. Not even Terry.
0:09:51 > 0:09:54You've given up your control now. It's kind of too late now, isn't it?
0:09:54 > 0:09:58I think as much as you can, you've got to drop your ideas of what you want and trust
0:09:58 > 0:10:03he'll create something you'll love, even if it wasn't what you were thinking.
0:10:03 > 0:10:06Every decision that I make, we are accountable for.
0:10:06 > 0:10:11I like the way you accepted the "we". Where the buck stops.
0:10:11 > 0:10:14We can't blame Melissa. She's had no input.
0:10:14 > 0:10:17- There won't be mistakes made. - That is the attitude. We started slipping negative.
0:10:17 > 0:10:19There aren't going to be any mistakes made.
0:10:19 > 0:10:22If he fails we're just going to kill him.
0:10:22 > 0:10:25OK. Cheers to that!
0:10:28 > 0:10:32They've only been apart an hour. But Terry's totally focussed on his first task.
0:10:32 > 0:10:36You know, Melissa, Irish background, me Catholic. We're both Catholics.
0:10:36 > 0:10:39It's very very important we get married in a church.
0:10:39 > 0:10:43But Terry's not after just any church.
0:10:43 > 0:10:47His heart's set on the one his family attend - St Anne's, just down the road.
0:10:47 > 0:10:52Terry's known the priest, Father Peter, since he was a child.
0:10:52 > 0:10:54Hi, Father, it's Terry here.
0:10:54 > 0:10:58'Hello, Terry, how you doing, son?#
0:10:58 > 0:11:04- Not too bad. The reason I'm phoning you is I'm getting married in three weeks.- 'Three weeks?'
0:11:04 > 0:11:09I know it's very short notice but you're an important part
0:11:09 > 0:11:12of our family and I'd love you to do it in St Anne's.
0:11:12 > 0:11:16'Terry. we can't do that. We really can't.
0:11:16 > 0:11:22'You, Melissa and I, we've got to meet together on a few occasions to get you married.'
0:11:22 > 0:11:26Terry hadn't realised that, before a Catholic church wedding,
0:11:26 > 0:11:30couples must meet the priest a number of times. Together!
0:11:30 > 0:11:35The way it is I can't see Melissa for three weeks. I can't see her until my wedding day.
0:11:35 > 0:11:38- Can't we talk separately, no? - 'I'm sorry, Terry, but there's no way, son.
0:11:38 > 0:11:41- 'You're welcome to come over and talk.'- OK,
0:11:41 > 0:11:46- Thank you, father. Thanks. Bye. - 'God bless.'- That's massive.
0:11:46 > 0:11:48That's awful.
0:11:48 > 0:11:50I did not know that.
0:11:51 > 0:11:54If you get married by a priest, you didn't know. It doesn't mean anything.
0:11:54 > 0:11:56Step one, fail.
0:11:56 > 0:11:58No, it's not fail.
0:11:58 > 0:12:04It might not be a fail. But it's a setback of almighty proportions. And it's still only day one...
0:12:04 > 0:12:08When I left Melissa what got me through it was that I'd deliver an amazing wedding,
0:12:08 > 0:12:12and now, I don't think I can do that.
0:12:15 > 0:12:19The next morning, and Terry isn't taking no for an answer.
0:12:19 > 0:12:25He wants to talk things over with Father Peter...man to clergyman.
0:12:25 > 0:12:26How you doing, son?
0:12:26 > 0:12:29The idea is I'm meant to do this on my own without Melissa
0:12:29 > 0:12:33and show her that the biggest day of her life - I planned it. It was a
0:12:33 > 0:12:37success and all she had to do was turn up and enjoy the day.
0:12:37 > 0:12:43It's very important to us, as we're preparing for marriage which is for the two of you,
0:12:43 > 0:12:48these vital steps leading up to that occasion, that you do that together.
0:12:48 > 0:12:54So the idea of me doing it at all on my own, it's a big dilemma for me.
0:12:54 > 0:12:59Don't build your hopes up, but I'll take advice, eh?
0:12:59 > 0:13:05I'll talk it over with some people.
0:13:05 > 0:13:07We'll just see.
0:13:07 > 0:13:10OK, thank you. thanks.
0:13:16 > 0:13:20It was absolutely gutting, I don't know what I'm going to do to be honest with you.
0:13:20 > 0:13:26I was hoping there was some way, somehow that Father Peter could do something miraculous,
0:13:26 > 0:13:31but, it just looks like that's the end.
0:13:34 > 0:13:38Blissfully unaware that a Catholic church ceremony hangs in the balance,
0:13:38 > 0:13:42Melissa's back home in Northern Ireland. She's come with friend Leandra
0:13:42 > 0:13:47to her dream church, St Aengus just ten miles from Londonderry where she grew up.
0:13:47 > 0:13:53I've always wanted to get married in it and every time I pass it, "I want to get married in there".
0:13:53 > 0:13:57It might not look much like St Anne's back in Liverpool,
0:13:57 > 0:14:01but a Catholic wedding is just as important to Melissa as it is for Terry.
0:14:01 > 0:14:04Yous definitely want married in a church?
0:14:04 > 0:14:08Definitely. I couldn't see it any other way. That's the way I've grown up.
0:14:08 > 0:14:11We're both Catholics, we've both gone to church all our lives.
0:14:11 > 0:14:15So it's the traditional, religious way to do things.
0:14:15 > 0:14:18'I'm just assuming in my head that we will have a church wedding,
0:14:18 > 0:14:20'we will have a Catholic ceremony.'
0:14:20 > 0:14:24I don't think it's a question of we will or we won't, it's a must,
0:14:24 > 0:14:26and I think Terry sees it that way as well.
0:14:30 > 0:14:33Terry and Melissa both want a church wedding,
0:14:33 > 0:14:35but at the moment it's looking highly unlikely.
0:14:35 > 0:14:39Terry heads over to see mum Charlotte
0:14:39 > 0:14:41and older brothers Stephen and George,
0:14:41 > 0:14:44who saved his life six years ago by donating a kidney.
0:14:44 > 0:14:47After what they've been through, they're as devastated as Terry
0:14:47 > 0:14:50that his dream wedding might not happen.
0:14:50 > 0:14:53Father Peter's been a part of our family, you know?
0:14:53 > 0:14:54My kids' communion...
0:14:54 > 0:14:57Christenings, baptisms, confirmations.
0:14:57 > 0:14:59I thought I'd just phone Father Peter -
0:14:59 > 0:15:02"Hi, Father, we're getting married".
0:15:02 > 0:15:05He goes "Oh, hi, son," like he always refers to me...
0:15:05 > 0:15:08"Yeah, OK, that's cool. What day?" "That day, Father."
0:15:08 > 0:15:11"OK, brilliant, see you there, son. Bye!" "Bye!"
0:15:11 > 0:15:13He's laughing - "Failure's not an option."
0:15:13 > 0:15:15I know he got that saying from you.
0:15:15 > 0:15:18Then only 20 minutes later, a phone call,
0:15:18 > 0:15:22and it's, like...the rug's gone.
0:15:22 > 0:15:26I can't think past not getting married in a church at the minute.
0:15:26 > 0:15:29It's just a must for both families.
0:15:29 > 0:15:33Terry's desperate for a breakthrough.
0:15:33 > 0:15:34Yes, Father. Yes, Father.
0:15:36 > 0:15:39- There you go.- Hi, Father.
0:15:41 > 0:15:45Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you so much!
0:15:45 > 0:15:47I'm always going to pray.
0:15:47 > 0:15:50Father Peter says he's going to be able to marry me.
0:15:52 > 0:15:55OK. You know what? That's the miracle I've been waiting to happen,
0:15:55 > 0:16:00and now that's happened, right... we're back on track.
0:16:00 > 0:16:02THEY SHOUT
0:16:10 > 0:16:13Father Peter's come through. Boom! Yeah? Boom!
0:16:13 > 0:16:16Yeah? Boom!
0:16:18 > 0:16:22Do you know what? I'm always lucky. I'm always lucky!
0:16:22 > 0:16:24I know you're going to pull it off.
0:16:24 > 0:16:28In Ghana, they always say that the third born...
0:16:28 > 0:16:30If you have three boys, the third one...
0:16:30 > 0:16:33..is always the lucky one. What about the first born?!
0:16:33 > 0:16:37What about the first born? What about the first born?!
0:16:37 > 0:16:41It seems luck is in for the lucky third son.
0:16:41 > 0:16:43Question is, will it last?
0:16:45 > 0:16:49It's day two, and with the ceremony sorted for just £250,
0:16:49 > 0:16:53Terry's focusing on the wedding reception and his big theme.
0:16:53 > 0:16:56My journey for me is... I'm a Ghanaian Scouser.
0:16:56 > 0:16:59That's the way I've been brought up. That's what's in my heart.
0:16:59 > 0:17:02And for Melissa, Ireland's definitely in her heart, as well,
0:17:02 > 0:17:06so the idea for me is it's a wedding celebration,
0:17:06 > 0:17:10but I want us to be able to celebrate both these two cultures as well.
0:17:10 > 0:17:13How are you planning to respect both cultures
0:17:13 > 0:17:15and get them into the wedding?
0:17:15 > 0:17:19I haven't got a clue. We go into the nitty-gritty about it all
0:17:19 > 0:17:21Mine's going to be Ghana.
0:17:21 > 0:17:24So, it's a Ghanaian-Irish-Liverpudlian wedding.
0:17:24 > 0:17:26Easy...
0:17:26 > 0:17:29Although Terry does have some fairly big ideas.
0:17:29 > 0:17:31I know you'll think it's crazy,
0:17:31 > 0:17:32but I want an elephant on there.
0:17:32 > 0:17:34Like a miniature elephant?
0:17:34 > 0:17:37No, a live functioning elephant.
0:17:37 > 0:17:39That is the Ghanaian, and it's me, as well.
0:17:39 > 0:17:41Yeah, but it's madness.
0:17:41 > 0:17:45- Performers.- Ghanaian performers. - Dancers or something.
0:17:45 > 0:17:49So that's Ghana covered, but what about Ireland?
0:17:49 > 0:17:52Only think I know about Ireland is leprechauns!
0:17:52 > 0:17:54Stereotypical!
0:17:54 > 0:17:58Let's put it on, cos it is something she would see the funny side of.
0:17:58 > 0:18:02I want her picked up in a limo. It's got the Ireland flags on there.
0:18:02 > 0:18:04I'm really impressed with that.
0:18:10 > 0:18:15Lucky Terry might need all the luck he can get with that list.
0:18:15 > 0:18:17And so the boys set off to find an elephant,
0:18:17 > 0:18:19in the dusty plains...
0:18:19 > 0:18:22of Knowsley Safari Park, just between Manchester and Liverpool.
0:18:24 > 0:18:28- When you think Africa, what animals do you think? - I honestly think giraffes.
0:18:28 > 0:18:30Giraffe. Elephant. Put them all on the list.
0:18:31 > 0:18:32Oh, dear.
0:18:33 > 0:18:38- Oh, my God, one of these has escaped.- It's not escaped, they're allowed!- OK, cool.
0:18:42 > 0:18:45- I'm not really an animal lover.- You never know what they're going to do.
0:18:45 > 0:18:47Ah, shit!
0:18:51 > 0:18:52But it just feels uncomfortable.
0:18:52 > 0:18:54Terry's grand plan
0:18:54 > 0:18:56is for him and Melissa to ride into the reception
0:18:56 > 0:18:58on an elephant.
0:18:58 > 0:19:02But a trip round the safari park's changed his mind.
0:19:02 > 0:19:05If you're that scared of animals, are you sure an elephant's a good idea?
0:19:05 > 0:19:08- Maybe I won't ride it, it'll just be Melissa.- Yeah, you can just watch.
0:19:14 > 0:19:17Oh, it's beautiful!
0:19:17 > 0:19:20Totally unaware of the Elephant Plan,
0:19:20 > 0:19:24Melissa's with Leandra just outside Derry, visiting her dream venue,
0:19:24 > 0:19:27the stunning Drenagh estate.
0:19:27 > 0:19:30I can envision that all the guests would be here first.
0:19:30 > 0:19:32I would come up the really large driveway.
0:19:32 > 0:19:37- In a vintage car.- With a large vintage car, me and Terry, and it would be really exciting.
0:19:37 > 0:19:41Well, vintage car, African elephant, what's the difference?
0:19:41 > 0:19:43They both have a trunk!
0:19:43 > 0:19:46- Oh, Melissa!- It's beautiful!
0:19:46 > 0:19:49This refined Georgian country house
0:19:49 > 0:19:53is continents away from Terry's theme.
0:19:53 > 0:19:55It's amazing!
0:19:55 > 0:19:58This is so my ideal venue.
0:19:58 > 0:20:02It's classical, it's elegant, it's traditional.
0:20:02 > 0:20:05I know me and Terry know each other, but I don't think he knows, deep down,
0:20:05 > 0:20:09what my preference or taste is in certain things -
0:20:09 > 0:20:10cosmopolitan in my everyday life,
0:20:10 > 0:20:14and I like nice, up-to-date bars and restaurants.
0:20:14 > 0:20:15For my big day
0:20:15 > 0:20:17that's not what I want.
0:20:17 > 0:20:20I thin he would think this was a bit old and granny-ish.
0:20:20 > 0:20:24It can be old-fashioned but classy, and that's the way I want my day to be.
0:20:24 > 0:20:25MELISSA GASPS
0:20:29 > 0:20:31Isn't this lovely?
0:20:31 > 0:20:33Wow! And look at the views out the window, Leandra,
0:20:33 > 0:20:37that really old type of window closure.
0:20:37 > 0:20:39And I love the way you can't see anything for miles around.
0:20:39 > 0:20:41You just feel really secluded, on your own,
0:20:41 > 0:20:43and everything's really private.
0:20:45 > 0:20:47I want it to be very personal to me.
0:20:47 > 0:20:53Yeah. And if it doesn't have all them personal touches, Leandra,
0:20:53 > 0:20:54I'm not going to be very happy.
0:21:00 > 0:21:03In Liverpool, the pressure's on Terry to prove himself,
0:21:03 > 0:21:04and he's feeling it.
0:21:04 > 0:21:09The whole idea of this, for me, is I'm challenged with creating all this
0:21:09 > 0:21:10on my own.
0:21:10 > 0:21:14I want them to feel Terry's done an amazing job.
0:21:16 > 0:21:19I'm hoping that every choice that he makes,
0:21:19 > 0:21:22he has me at the forefront of them choices and decisions.
0:21:22 > 0:21:25It's so important to get this right for so many people,
0:21:25 > 0:21:27Melissa being the most important.
0:21:27 > 0:21:29Hey, what about getting married at Anfield?
0:21:29 > 0:21:30No.
0:21:30 > 0:21:33But that's not up to you. I'm not marrying you.
0:21:33 > 0:21:38- I know.- Thank God!- I was going to say.- Yeah. That'd be great, y'know?
0:21:38 > 0:21:42It might not be Melissa's ideal venue, but it would be mine!
0:21:42 > 0:21:44I'm leaving it up to a male
0:21:44 > 0:21:49to organise the biggest, most eventful day of my life,
0:21:49 > 0:21:51that I'm always going to remember.
0:21:51 > 0:21:53It's like a nightmare.
0:21:56 > 0:21:58The boys are on the hunt
0:21:58 > 0:22:01for a wedding venue on which Terry can stamp his theme.
0:22:01 > 0:22:04And nothing says "Africa"
0:22:04 > 0:22:08like the Isla Gladstone Conservatory in Liverpool.
0:22:08 > 0:22:11Impressive, mate. Wow.
0:22:11 > 0:22:14It's lovely. I like it.
0:22:14 > 0:22:17The drinks are going to be flowing. Y'know?
0:22:17 > 0:22:21You get the heat, though, when the sun's out.
0:22:21 > 0:22:24The boys love it. And in here it's as hot as Ghana.
0:22:24 > 0:22:28- You can dress it all, can't you? - It's pretty much a blank canvas,
0:22:28 > 0:22:29as you wanted.
0:22:29 > 0:22:32This huge venue can hold up to 400 guests,
0:22:32 > 0:22:36but injecting an African-Irish theme into such a big place
0:22:36 > 0:22:38is going be tough.
0:22:38 > 0:22:41It's a big space. We need to fill this space beautifully.
0:22:41 > 0:22:42There's a lot to do.
0:22:42 > 0:22:44It'll be a big, big task. We're talking about risk.
0:22:44 > 0:22:48You're talking not a big task, a monumental task.
0:22:48 > 0:22:52- That means cash.- And it's going to be a big chunk of your budget,
0:22:52 > 0:22:54just he decorating of this...
0:22:54 > 0:22:56- It's daunting, actually.- It is.
0:22:56 > 0:23:01Terry will need to spend a sizeable chunk of his 12-grand budget
0:23:01 > 0:23:02on transforming the venue.
0:23:02 > 0:23:04It's time to play hardball with the price.
0:23:06 > 0:23:09I'm looking to get married around the 7th, 8th or 9th September.
0:23:09 > 0:23:13- That's the Friday to Sunday. - OK. This year?- This year.- OK.
0:23:13 > 0:23:19We haven't got the Friday available. We did, however, have a cancellation not so long ago,
0:23:19 > 0:23:20so the Saturday is available.
0:23:20 > 0:23:24- How much am I looking at? - Food, drink, hire, everything?
0:23:24 > 0:23:29- These pockets are virtually empty! - OK, with it being short notice and with the cancellation,
0:23:29 > 0:23:33the room hire is normally £3,000 for the day, but we could look at waivering that for you.
0:23:33 > 0:23:36So you would be looking at just the food and drink costs,
0:23:36 > 0:23:39probably looking around £40, £45 a head.
0:23:39 > 0:23:43Actually, I feel cheated a bit, Mandy, cos I wanted to bargain you down.
0:23:43 > 0:23:48So could we pretend that you...? But, Mandy, that sounds amazing.
0:23:48 > 0:23:52- Today's been one of the better days, hasn't it?- A very good day today.
0:23:52 > 0:23:58Incredibly, the boys have bagged the venue for absolutely nothing.
0:23:58 > 0:24:00But Terry sets aside £4,000
0:24:00 > 0:24:02for food and drink for his 120 guests.
0:24:02 > 0:24:06- Four to five grand is a big chunk. It's nearly half the money gone! - It is.
0:24:06 > 0:24:10We haven't talked dress. Don't even know how much that's going to cost.
0:24:12 > 0:24:15In Northern Ireland, Melissa's back in Derry,
0:24:15 > 0:24:18where son Mason's staying with grandparents John and Teresa
0:24:18 > 0:24:21and Melissa's younger sister, Katherine.
0:24:21 > 0:24:24As if Terry wasn't under enough pressure already,
0:24:24 > 0:24:27the wedding's sure to be a big event in this household.
0:24:27 > 0:24:31- Are you looking forward to getting your first daughter married off? - I'm looking forward
0:24:31 > 0:24:33to having my first son-in-law!
0:24:33 > 0:24:36He's going to be the benchmark for the rest of them.
0:24:36 > 0:24:39We're not going to be able to beat that. It's not on.
0:24:39 > 0:24:42For Melissa, the reality of Terry planning
0:24:42 > 0:24:43her big day is sinking in.
0:24:43 > 0:24:46I know that it won't be my ideal wedding day,
0:24:46 > 0:24:49cos I won't necessarily get what I want
0:24:49 > 0:24:52if Terry doesn't pick what I like.
0:24:52 > 0:24:55And when I don't get it like that, I'm not very happy.
0:24:55 > 0:24:59So I'm just feeling a bit overwhelmed at the minute that I've got no say in anything
0:24:59 > 0:25:05and no control over anything and that things aren't going to go my way.
0:25:05 > 0:25:08This is the one time in your life you've no control over anything.
0:25:08 > 0:25:12And it's total trust on your part with Terry, total trust.
0:25:12 > 0:25:15Would you have let my daddy sort your wedding day out?
0:25:16 > 0:25:19I don't think so.
0:25:20 > 0:25:25Ah, Mummy, yous look gorgeous.
0:25:25 > 0:25:29Your wedding seemed quite classy and elegant as well.
0:25:29 > 0:25:34I'm looking forward to seeing your wedding album in a few weeks' time.
0:25:34 > 0:25:36So am I.
0:25:36 > 0:25:39It's really sad. I can't believe I'm getting married.
0:25:41 > 0:25:44It's really serious now, isn't it?
0:25:44 > 0:25:47It's like it reality now, instead of just thinking about it.
0:25:47 > 0:25:49Isn't it? Definitely is.
0:25:52 > 0:25:54But you couldn't get anybody better than Terry.
0:25:54 > 0:25:57He's a good, good fella. Isn't he?
0:26:02 > 0:26:05I'm getting more emotional as it gets closer.
0:26:05 > 0:26:09Losing control of the wedding means that the reality of getting married
0:26:09 > 0:26:12is only just dawning on Melissa.
0:26:12 > 0:26:16In my eyes, I said yes to an engagement but not quite a marriage.
0:26:16 > 0:26:20Part of me still feels not quite ready, if you get what I mean,
0:26:20 > 0:26:22like I don't really feel ready to be a Mrs
0:26:22 > 0:26:25and I don't really feel ready to take his name.
0:26:25 > 0:26:30But I suppose that's just the emotions I'm going to go through over the next few weeks
0:26:30 > 0:26:32until it kind of sinks in that I'm going to be a married woman
0:26:32 > 0:26:34and I'm going to have a husband
0:26:34 > 0:26:38and this is the next step in our lives, in our relationship.
0:26:46 > 0:26:47It's the end of week one
0:26:47 > 0:26:51and determined to fill his vast, empty reception venue,
0:26:51 > 0:26:54Terry's on the hunt for some African-themed table decorations.
0:26:54 > 0:26:57I don't know if this is African or more Oriental.
0:26:57 > 0:26:58It could be either.
0:26:58 > 0:27:02- It's a bit aggressive.- It's not really African. It's just cool.
0:27:02 > 0:27:05I like these. The whole elephant thing.
0:27:05 > 0:27:07I might do this as my first purchase.
0:27:12 > 0:27:14Across town, Melissa's with friend Natalie
0:27:14 > 0:27:16getting her nails done for the big day.
0:27:20 > 0:27:21What are your nightmare themes?
0:27:21 > 0:27:24Just a theme in general is a nightmare.
0:27:24 > 0:27:26I don't want a themed wedding.
0:27:27 > 0:27:28I just want a normal wedding.
0:27:28 > 0:27:30What about these?
0:27:30 > 0:27:32They'll just look nice about.
0:27:32 > 0:27:35Could we have a giraffe on each table?
0:27:35 > 0:27:39Lucky Terry's determined to haggle everything down to a bargain price.
0:27:39 > 0:27:41I'll negotiate. I'm going to tell him we haven't got much money.
0:27:41 > 0:27:46I've seen a lot of things that I like. Can we work out a deal?
0:27:46 > 0:27:49But it's a charity shop.
0:27:49 > 0:27:50TERRY LAUGHS
0:27:52 > 0:27:54Even though he's in a charity shop,
0:27:54 > 0:27:57bargain hunter Terry is still after a freebie.
0:27:57 > 0:28:00I might get these, get him to throw these in.
0:28:00 > 0:28:01Come on, it's a charity shop...
0:28:01 > 0:28:04I know. Not throw them in. I mean...
0:28:04 > 0:28:07- throw them in at a discount price. - This is all right.- OK? Yeah?
0:28:07 > 0:28:09Freebie? Boom. See? Told ya.
0:28:09 > 0:28:15- 120, 165, 175... Yeah?- Plus 55.
0:28:15 > 0:28:16230...
0:28:16 > 0:28:18Can you do 210?
0:28:21 > 0:28:22220.
0:28:22 > 0:28:25220's a deal, then. And thanks for the shades.
0:28:25 > 0:28:27Did they look cool?
0:28:27 > 0:28:31So Terry forks out over £200 on a bag of knick-knacks
0:28:31 > 0:28:33to fill his vast, empty venue
0:28:33 > 0:28:35Still, at least he got £10 off.
0:28:35 > 0:28:39Even if the price is right, I want the price to be righter!
0:28:39 > 0:28:41You know what I mean? I want some kind of discount.
0:28:41 > 0:28:44Well, you might want that, but what does Melissa want?
0:28:44 > 0:28:46A normal nice wedding.
0:28:46 > 0:28:51Classic, elegant and traditional with a lot of personal touches.
0:28:51 > 0:28:54Vintage. Elegant. Yeah, that's it.
0:28:54 > 0:28:56OK, got that Terry?
0:28:58 > 0:29:00Everything's still there.
0:29:01 > 0:29:04She said elegant not elephant!
0:29:04 > 0:29:07- Have we actually ticked anything off? - No, nothing.
0:29:07 > 0:29:10TERRY LAUGHS
0:29:10 > 0:29:14With less than two weeks to go, aside from the venue and food,
0:29:14 > 0:29:17all they've sorted is 220 quid's worth of African nick-nacks.
0:29:18 > 0:29:22To pull off Terry's ambitious theme they need to get moving.
0:29:23 > 0:29:28He's spending £200 flying Melissa's parents over from Ireland.
0:29:28 > 0:29:31But there are 40 other Irish guests that Terry needs to
0:29:31 > 0:29:35get to Liverpool without the bride finding out the location.
0:29:35 > 0:29:37So he's come up with a plan.
0:29:37 > 0:29:38And it's a complicated one.
0:29:38 > 0:29:42Everybody from Liverpool and Ireland, I'm phoning them up, saying
0:29:42 > 0:29:45I'm taking £100 or whatever for flights off everybody.
0:29:45 > 0:29:49If it's going to be in Ireland you get your money back
0:29:49 > 0:29:51but obviously if in Liverpool your flights are already paid for.
0:29:51 > 0:29:55So they all pay 100 quid, but everyone in Liverpool
0:29:55 > 0:29:58gets it back while everyone in Ireland loses out,
0:29:58 > 0:30:01except they can't know that yet. Couldn't be simpler.
0:30:01 > 0:30:03Well, it could obviously.
0:30:03 > 0:30:07Confused by his own ruse, Terry rehearses his story.
0:30:07 > 0:30:10Now as you know, the wedding's a surprise.
0:30:10 > 0:30:13It is, I didn't even know you were getting married.
0:30:13 > 0:30:16Sorry, start again.
0:30:16 > 0:30:18You've lost it already haven't you.
0:30:18 > 0:30:22To keep the wedding location a secret I'm going to have to ask
0:30:22 > 0:30:25everybody from Liverpool and Ireland for a...
0:30:25 > 0:30:29Hang on, I like that. "To keep the wedding location secret..."
0:30:29 > 0:30:31First phone call. Hiya, Teresa, you OK? It's Terry.
0:30:31 > 0:30:37I know Melissa's going to want her dad's four sisters and partners
0:30:37 > 0:30:41She said... If you end up flying to Liverpool you get the money refunded.
0:30:41 > 0:30:46If people from Liverpool end up flying to Ireland they get their...
0:30:46 > 0:30:48Oh, sorry, I've got that totally wrong.
0:30:48 > 0:30:51Whoops! Try again.
0:30:51 > 0:30:52Hi, Sabrina, you OK?
0:30:52 > 0:30:56Don't worry about me, it's all under control over here.
0:30:56 > 0:31:01A bit of a nightmare is the biggest understatement ever!
0:31:02 > 0:31:05And it's not just the flights that are giving Terry nightmares.
0:31:05 > 0:31:09The short notice is also causing problems for Melissa's guests.
0:31:09 > 0:31:13Louise and Sam you said they're definitely not coming, didn't you?
0:31:13 > 0:31:15Bye.
0:31:15 > 0:31:17I'm hating the fact that loads of them can't go.
0:31:17 > 0:31:18Short notice and all that.
0:31:18 > 0:31:22I'd hate it to be ten guests of Melissa's there, 80 of mine.
0:31:22 > 0:31:24Oh!
0:31:24 > 0:31:26This bit doesn't feel nice at all.
0:31:26 > 0:31:27It's not nice.
0:31:31 > 0:31:34The whole guest list bit's been stressing me out because
0:31:34 > 0:31:37a lot of her family can't make it.
0:31:37 > 0:31:41Getting her family and friends over here is key to making her happy.
0:31:42 > 0:31:46All the aunts and uncles pretty much can't make it.
0:31:46 > 0:31:50Some of her mates are nearly saying, "I might not be able to make it,
0:31:50 > 0:31:52"I can't get the day off," or whatever.
0:31:52 > 0:31:55I'm saying, "You need to have the Saturday off at least,"
0:31:55 > 0:31:58and they're like, "Oh, I can't get the Saturday off."
0:31:58 > 0:32:00I'm like, "You do whatever you need to!"
0:32:00 > 0:32:03These are really important people to Melissa.
0:32:04 > 0:32:10Unaware of Terry's stress, Melissa still has high hopes for her wedding.
0:32:10 > 0:32:14She's in Cheshire with mum Teresa, sister Stephanie and friend Natalie,
0:32:14 > 0:32:19picking out the dress she'd choose for her dream day.
0:32:19 > 0:32:23I want a nice ivory dress with a vintage look to it.
0:32:23 > 0:32:26I've never quite been into fishtail dresses.
0:32:26 > 0:32:29- What are we thinking here? - No. I don't like the material.
0:32:29 > 0:32:32It feels like your mum's net curtains, doesn't it?
0:32:32 > 0:32:35Not me. Not good.
0:32:35 > 0:32:38Mmmm, I really like this one.
0:32:38 > 0:32:40It's got very elegant, lacy straps.
0:32:40 > 0:32:46Look at the trail, it's gorgeous. I think it ticks all the boxes.
0:32:46 > 0:32:50And if Terry wasn't under enough pressure already,
0:32:50 > 0:32:53he's about to make the most important purchase of his life.
0:32:53 > 0:32:56I'm the type of guy, as soon as I see it I'll know it.
0:32:56 > 0:32:58I know in my head what I'm looking for.
0:32:58 > 0:33:01But this isn't going to be as straightforward as he thinks.
0:33:01 > 0:33:04You see, I don't know what that would look like on.
0:33:07 > 0:33:08Hmmmm.
0:33:08 > 0:33:11Can you have a bit of a boogie in that?
0:33:11 > 0:33:13Yeah, that's all right, that.
0:33:13 > 0:33:14THEY LAUGH
0:33:14 > 0:33:18Shall we try the other ones on anyway so I can see? Is that OK?
0:33:18 > 0:33:21It just comes in a little bit too much there.
0:33:21 > 0:33:23- I don't think I like that shape. - Too fitted?
0:33:23 > 0:33:26Should have got more models and put on a wedding show,
0:33:26 > 0:33:28the amount of dresses you're going through.
0:33:28 > 0:33:32Are you volunteering yourself to help this process any quicker?
0:33:32 > 0:33:33No, I'm not.
0:33:33 > 0:33:35That's a proper wedding dress to me.
0:33:37 > 0:33:40- You're saying too big? - I think it's too big.
0:33:40 > 0:33:43- You're so different. - Sorry about that!
0:33:43 > 0:33:46- That's fine. - You going to be positive?
0:33:46 > 0:33:48- If I like it I'll be positive. - Be positive anyway.
0:33:48 > 0:33:51While Terry struggles to find the one,
0:33:51 > 0:33:53Melissa's fallen in love...
0:33:53 > 0:33:55THEY SQUEAL
0:33:55 > 0:33:59..with a vintage, ivory, £1,600 gown.
0:33:59 > 0:34:01Gorgeous!
0:34:05 > 0:34:09- It's gorgeous.- Wow. - Absolutely gorgeous.
0:34:09 > 0:34:14- It's your dress.- It's lovely. - Melissa, it suits you completely.
0:34:14 > 0:34:16Nice and figured isn't it?
0:34:16 > 0:34:19Love it.
0:34:19 > 0:34:22I just hope Terry picks me something like this
0:34:22 > 0:34:24because it's what I've got my heart set on.
0:34:24 > 0:34:26It's fantastic. I love it.
0:34:26 > 0:34:27I absolutely love it.
0:34:27 > 0:34:30It's gorgeous.
0:34:30 > 0:34:32This makes me feel special, it makes me feel confident,
0:34:32 > 0:34:35it makes me feel like I want to be looked at.
0:34:35 > 0:34:39And I'll be proud to be centre of attention that day.
0:34:41 > 0:34:44- I think I like this one better than the other one.- That is better.
0:34:44 > 0:34:47It seems lucky Terry's lucked-out again,
0:34:47 > 0:34:51and stumbled across a dress exactly like the one Melissa wants.
0:34:51 > 0:34:54I think she'd really like that.
0:34:54 > 0:34:57- Got a nice train on it. - It has, hasn't it?
0:34:57 > 0:34:59Now all he has to do is buy it.
0:35:01 > 0:35:03I still want to try all the others.
0:35:03 > 0:35:05Oh, so close!
0:35:08 > 0:35:10I really like that.
0:35:10 > 0:35:13Now Terry's got his eye on something completely different.
0:35:13 > 0:35:15For me this is the one.
0:35:15 > 0:35:18But he still hasn't quite made up his mind.
0:35:18 > 0:35:23Can I get you to try the other one on just to make double sure? Sorry.
0:35:23 > 0:35:26Do you know, I love that one. That is the one.
0:35:26 > 0:35:28Do you know what...
0:35:35 > 0:35:37I think that is definitely the one.
0:35:37 > 0:35:42I know I said that before but that's definitely it. Definitely.
0:35:42 > 0:35:45So Terry's plumped for a full-skirted, satin gown.
0:35:45 > 0:35:47It's not vintage
0:35:47 > 0:35:51and it's half the price of Melissa's dream dress.
0:35:52 > 0:35:54I feel shaky.
0:35:55 > 0:35:58I'm a proper bag of nerves.
0:35:58 > 0:36:01I am a bag of nerves. This is torture.
0:36:07 > 0:36:13I'm happy that I've tried it on but hasn't helped my anxieties at all.
0:36:13 > 0:36:15Just trust him that he knows you.
0:36:15 > 0:36:17I'm probably going to get...nice.
0:36:17 > 0:36:20Probably going to get all right.
0:36:20 > 0:36:25I'm probably going to get a dress that I'll be satisfied with at the most.
0:36:25 > 0:36:26Do you want a hug?
0:36:26 > 0:36:30No, I don't want nothing. I just want my dress.
0:36:40 > 0:36:42Terry tried his best
0:36:42 > 0:36:46but with just over a week to go, lots of Melissa's guests can't make it.
0:36:46 > 0:36:49The Irish number started off at 45
0:36:49 > 0:36:52but we knew that was really hopeful, a lot of people...
0:36:52 > 0:36:55Yeah, ambitious to say the least.
0:36:55 > 0:36:59A lot of people coming from Ireland to Liverpool,
0:36:59 > 0:37:01so that's gone down to 21.
0:37:01 > 0:37:04I was just scared it was going to be less than 20.
0:37:04 > 0:37:06With less than half of Melissa's friends and family coming,
0:37:06 > 0:37:09this will be a blow for the bride on her big day.
0:37:09 > 0:37:14There are some that can't make it but a lot of the key people will be there.
0:37:14 > 0:37:17I think she'll be happy and I think when she looks back
0:37:17 > 0:37:19and sees the effort I've put in to try and make sure
0:37:19 > 0:37:24as many as possible could come, she'll know I've tried my best.
0:37:26 > 0:37:29That's not the only bad news.
0:37:29 > 0:37:32One of Terry's biggest Africa-inspired plans has proved,
0:37:32 > 0:37:34well, a bit too big.
0:37:34 > 0:37:36I wanted to get Melissa to arrive on a elephant
0:37:36 > 0:37:39and I've been looking into that massively.
0:37:39 > 0:37:41Unfortunately that didn't pan out.
0:37:41 > 0:37:44Really looked into it, apparently you can't do it in the UK.
0:37:44 > 0:37:48So, he spends £650 on a novel alternative,
0:37:48 > 0:37:51an old-fashioned sedan chair known as a palanquin.
0:37:51 > 0:37:53Oh, my God, no way!
0:37:53 > 0:37:57Melissa's not going to like this, I don't think.
0:37:57 > 0:37:58Ah, she'll be all right.
0:37:58 > 0:38:00And on a roll, he splashes out
0:38:00 > 0:38:04£700 on a limo to take Melissa to the church...
0:38:04 > 0:38:05Perfect, isn't it?
0:38:05 > 0:38:08..£550 on African entertainment...
0:38:08 > 0:38:13..and £150 on a much safer-looking elephant.
0:38:13 > 0:38:17That leaves him with just over £1,000 and he still hasn't paid for
0:38:17 > 0:38:21suits, bridesmaids dresses or hair and make up.
0:38:25 > 0:38:27It's time for the hen do.
0:38:27 > 0:38:30And after the stress of planning this wedding on his own,
0:38:30 > 0:38:33Terry wants to put Melissa through her paces.
0:38:33 > 0:38:37I need to make sure she was in good shape for the wedding
0:38:37 > 0:38:40so I thought why not send her to a little boot camp?
0:38:40 > 0:38:43- Hello?- Are you Melissa? - No. Melissa!- What?
0:38:43 > 0:38:48- There's someone at the door. - Terry sent us, it's boot camp time.
0:38:48 > 0:38:51CHEERING
0:38:51 > 0:38:56I don't know why you're so happy, Tracey.
0:38:56 > 0:38:59At the end of the day we've got to show men we're made of thicker skin.
0:38:59 > 0:39:02Anything the boys can do, we can do better.
0:39:02 > 0:39:03CHEERING
0:39:04 > 0:39:09But for the boys, it's time for a well-earned break.
0:39:09 > 0:39:13So we need to leave that on for a good 20 minutes there.
0:39:13 > 0:39:16I was thinking about booking her for the girls
0:39:16 > 0:39:17but they would have hated it.
0:39:17 > 0:39:20They wouldn't have enjoyed just chilling here.
0:39:20 > 0:39:22Don't want to be sitting on a windy beach,
0:39:22 > 0:39:24doing exercise for my hen night.
0:39:24 > 0:39:26It's like hell on earth.
0:39:26 > 0:39:28Nice and easy. Stay together.
0:39:30 > 0:39:33One minute. Knees up, stop cheating.
0:39:33 > 0:39:36- I don't like ginger people.- As quick as you can. Happy with that.
0:39:36 > 0:39:39Oh, my God, Terry is evil.
0:39:42 > 0:39:44Ah, this is boss, this, you know?
0:39:44 > 0:39:46I haven't had a facial like this before.
0:39:46 > 0:39:49Come on, let's go back to the start, let's go!
0:39:49 > 0:39:52Come on, straight to the next one!
0:39:56 > 0:39:59Keep going! 15 seconds, let's go.
0:39:59 > 0:40:02- 15 seconds.- Hold on a sec!
0:40:02 > 0:40:04Don't worry about it. Effort!
0:40:11 > 0:40:15Still aching from the hen do and with just a few days to go,
0:40:15 > 0:40:19Melissa's has some upsetting news about the wedding.
0:40:19 > 0:40:21Heidi is on hand to lend her support.
0:40:21 > 0:40:25- I found out today that my mum and dad are flying over from Ireland tomorrow.- Right.
0:40:25 > 0:40:31Which obviously tells me that the wedding's not in Ireland.
0:40:31 > 0:40:33- It's in Liverpool.- Right.
0:40:33 > 0:40:37I'm not getting married back home so the chances are
0:40:37 > 0:40:41I'm going to have a shortfall in my close family and friends on my big day.
0:40:41 > 0:40:44Because you got Mason christened over there, didn't you?
0:40:44 > 0:40:48And that's where I'm from. He always said we'd get married in Ireland.
0:40:48 > 0:40:51Always, always, always Terry said we'd get married in Ireland.
0:40:51 > 0:40:55And obviously he's gone back on his word and changed his mind.
0:40:55 > 0:40:58I don't know the country or the city of Derry well enough
0:40:58 > 0:41:02to be able to plan something there to a high standard.
0:41:02 > 0:41:05And incorporate that Ghana and Ireland culture.
0:41:05 > 0:41:08And I'd have to take Liverpool there then in a way,
0:41:08 > 0:41:11and it would have been really difficult to do it there.
0:41:11 > 0:41:15Organising a wedding in a different country is not an impossible task at all.
0:41:15 > 0:41:16We've got e-mail, we've got phone.
0:41:16 > 0:41:19It's so easy to organise things you know.
0:41:19 > 0:41:20I'm just a bit gutted.
0:41:20 > 0:41:22I'm more than a bit gutted.
0:41:22 > 0:41:25The first thing I found out about my day.
0:41:25 > 0:41:28This is the very first thing I found out and it's not what I wanted.
0:41:34 > 0:41:38It's the day before the wedding and time for Melissa to see her dress.
0:41:40 > 0:41:43Already disappointed that her big day won't be in Ireland,
0:41:43 > 0:41:46she's hoping Terry's got this right.
0:41:46 > 0:41:50There's a lot riding on this with regards to how it's going to make me feel on the big day.
0:41:50 > 0:41:53I'm just really, really nervous and really scared.
0:41:53 > 0:41:56She wants a vintage, ivory gown.
0:41:56 > 0:42:00So what will she make of Terry's full skirted, satin dress?
0:42:00 > 0:42:02Neither vintage, nor ivory.
0:42:02 > 0:42:04I'm starting to get palpitations.
0:42:04 > 0:42:06You'll be fine, you'll be grand.
0:42:06 > 0:42:09- Shall we go through?- Yeah.
0:42:11 > 0:42:15If he gets this it's everyone happy.
0:42:28 > 0:42:30It's got no lace.
0:42:30 > 0:42:32It's got bling on it. I don't really like bling.
0:42:33 > 0:42:37It's not vintage. It's oyster.
0:42:37 > 0:42:40I wouldn't have chosen that dress at all.
0:42:45 > 0:42:46- See how she feels about it.- Yeah.
0:43:00 > 0:43:03- It feels big.- You need to look at it in the mirror.
0:43:09 > 0:43:13- I feel like a big meringue.- You don't look like a meringue.
0:43:19 > 0:43:20It's too big.
0:43:20 > 0:43:27- It's too big. It's got too much going on here.- This is too...
0:43:27 > 0:43:29- Do you not like it?- No.
0:43:29 > 0:43:34- I don't like it.- It's thick material.- There's too much going on.
0:43:34 > 0:43:37You're meant to have elegance around this part.
0:43:37 > 0:43:40This is just too much.
0:43:40 > 0:43:43I don't like this. It's ugly.
0:43:43 > 0:43:45I thought once I tried it on, I would feel it.
0:43:45 > 0:43:48I'm not feeling it.
0:43:48 > 0:43:52What's it about? I would have preferred if it was like...
0:43:52 > 0:43:56I don't know. I don't know. I just don't know.
0:43:57 > 0:44:00I'm not going to look forward to putting this dress on.
0:44:00 > 0:44:03If she doesn't like it, she wouldn't walk down the aisle.
0:44:03 > 0:44:06Do you want to see how it looks with the top of it fitted?
0:44:06 > 0:44:11If you still don't like it, there's nothing else we could have done.
0:44:11 > 0:44:16With the wedding tomorrow, Melissa's sister puts in an emergency call to Terry.
0:44:16 > 0:44:19- Hi, Terry, it's Tracey. - 'Hi, Tracey.'
0:44:19 > 0:44:21Does she like the dress?
0:44:21 > 0:44:24Some alterations will have to be made to the dress
0:44:24 > 0:44:26to make it fit on the top half.
0:44:26 > 0:44:28Would you have money in the budget?
0:44:28 > 0:44:29How much are we saying?
0:44:29 > 0:44:32I'm not sure. I'll ring you back once we know.
0:44:32 > 0:44:35- All right. Bye.- Bye.
0:44:35 > 0:44:39I'm a bit worried. I know Melissa well. I can imagine her going mad.
0:44:39 > 0:44:45Will a few alterations be enough to keep meticulous Melissa happy?
0:44:45 > 0:44:46- Turn round.- This way?- Yeah.
0:44:47 > 0:44:53- This one down there.- We're going to stitch inside here - give it an extra fold,
0:44:53 > 0:44:55instead of a wide strap.
0:44:55 > 0:44:58- I don't want a wide strap. - It'll be an extra fold but it'll give it the pleat,
0:44:58 > 0:45:00kind of carry on.
0:45:00 > 0:45:02- That looks so much better. - I'll accept that.
0:45:02 > 0:45:04There's a smile!
0:45:04 > 0:45:07- It looks perfect at the top.- I'll take the dress.
0:45:07 > 0:45:12I'm happy I can make the adjustments. That's made me happy about the dress.
0:45:12 > 0:45:15She'll walk down the aisle with her head held high.
0:45:15 > 0:45:16She'll be happy.
0:45:16 > 0:45:19I hope Terry's got some money left in the budget
0:45:19 > 0:45:23to pay for these alterations and if he doesn't, he'll have to find it.
0:45:23 > 0:45:25SHE LAUGHS
0:45:25 > 0:45:27It's the morning of the wedding.
0:45:29 > 0:45:34Terry is busy turning his reception venue into an African-Irish extravaganza
0:45:34 > 0:45:37for his theme-hating bride.
0:45:38 > 0:45:43Six miles away, Melissa is getting ready and stress levels are rising.
0:45:43 > 0:45:46I was fine until ten minutes ago.
0:45:46 > 0:45:47Now I'm feeling stressed out.
0:45:47 > 0:45:50Everyone seems unorganised.
0:45:50 > 0:45:53The flowers have arrived!
0:45:54 > 0:45:56- Amazing!- Gorgeous!
0:45:56 > 0:46:00Over at his mum's, Terry is beginning to have doubts.
0:46:00 > 0:46:03The thing about Melissa is if she doesn't like something,
0:46:03 > 0:46:05she can't hide it.
0:46:05 > 0:46:08I'll know. She probably wouldn't give me a hard time
0:46:08 > 0:46:12but I'll know by her reaction about it that she doesn't love it.
0:46:15 > 0:46:18It's time for Melissa to see the coral bridesmaids' dresses
0:46:18 > 0:46:20that Terry has picked for her three sisters.
0:46:21 > 0:46:23MELISSA GASPS
0:46:23 > 0:46:29Oh, my...GOD!
0:46:31 > 0:46:34- You look gorgeous.- Lovely. I love them!- ALL: Good!
0:46:34 > 0:46:39I love the shoes - they really go!
0:46:39 > 0:46:40Yeah.
0:46:40 > 0:46:43ALL: Oh!
0:46:43 > 0:46:47- Let me see you.- You're not going to cry, are you?- No.
0:46:47 > 0:46:50He looks like a small businessman.
0:46:50 > 0:46:52LAUGHTER
0:46:52 > 0:46:54I think you look like Alan Sugar!
0:46:56 > 0:46:59Terrified of being fired, Terry's going through
0:46:59 > 0:47:00a final checklist.
0:47:00 > 0:47:02Phone calls, marriage certificate. Done.
0:47:02 > 0:47:09Haircut. Done. Flower petals. Need to do. Flower baskets there. Cushions.
0:47:09 > 0:47:13Do you know what? I'm proud of us!
0:47:13 > 0:47:15I'm confident it'll go ahead without a hitch.
0:47:15 > 0:47:18To get hitched but without a hitch!
0:47:18 > 0:47:24With an hour to go, Melissa is finally ready to set off with Dad John.
0:47:24 > 0:47:27With Terry finding £70 to make last-minute alterations to the dress,
0:47:27 > 0:47:30John's not the only one who's happy.
0:47:30 > 0:47:33- How do you like me?- Beautiful. Absolutely gorgeous.
0:47:33 > 0:47:35Do you like it, Dad?
0:47:35 > 0:47:37You look lovely.
0:47:37 > 0:47:41It's lovely. You look beautiful as well, Daddy - you scrub up well!
0:47:41 > 0:47:43Scrubbed up well. You scrub up well.
0:47:46 > 0:47:48But what will they make of Terry's shiny black limo,
0:47:48 > 0:47:51complete with both Ghanaian AND Irish flags?
0:47:51 > 0:47:53Daddy, it's a limousine.
0:47:53 > 0:47:55Well, not much, as it turns out.
0:47:55 > 0:47:57Ugh, how tacky.
0:47:57 > 0:48:01It's a limousine with massive alloys.
0:48:01 > 0:48:03I feel like I'm going to a funeral.
0:48:03 > 0:48:05I do, Daddy.
0:48:05 > 0:48:07I don't like limousines.
0:48:08 > 0:48:09Hiya.
0:48:20 > 0:48:22Do you think a limousine's a typical car to go to your wedding in?
0:48:22 > 0:48:24A limousine, yeah.
0:48:24 > 0:48:28I think it's for a night out. I don't think it's classy and I don't think it's elegant.
0:48:28 > 0:48:31This isn't what I envisioned or wanted.
0:48:31 > 0:48:35It's not a great start but after five years of waiting,
0:48:35 > 0:48:38it's finally time for Melissa and Terry to tie the knot.
0:48:38 > 0:48:42Ah, the church and there's me bridesmaids!
0:48:45 > 0:48:47It's not the Irish church wedding she dreamed of
0:48:47 > 0:48:51but Terry's pulled off the next best thing in Liverpool.
0:48:51 > 0:48:54I can't believe I'm getting married in St Anne's Church!
0:48:54 > 0:48:56Melissa looks stunning!
0:49:11 > 0:49:13You have come to gather in this church
0:49:13 > 0:49:17so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love.
0:49:17 > 0:49:19Now we make our marriage vows.
0:49:20 > 0:49:22I call upon these persons here present...
0:49:22 > 0:49:25..to witness that I, Melissa Marie Lindsay...
0:49:25 > 0:49:27..to be my lawful wedded wife...
0:49:27 > 0:49:30..to be my lawful wedded husband.
0:49:30 > 0:49:34APPLAUSE
0:49:45 > 0:49:47That was gorgeous. I'm so happy to see Terry.
0:49:47 > 0:49:50Mwah! Mwah! Mwah! It's been so long!
0:49:50 > 0:49:54It's been so long! Congratulations!
0:49:54 > 0:49:56CHEERING
0:50:02 > 0:50:04I can see it! I can see it!
0:50:04 > 0:50:08It's got one of them horns! One of them funny horns!
0:50:08 > 0:50:12Terry has even arranged something old for his vintage-loving bride.
0:50:12 > 0:50:15Champagne! Yes!
0:50:15 > 0:50:18To Mr and Mrs Mensah!
0:50:18 > 0:50:19HORN TOOTS
0:50:19 > 0:50:21I love the funny horn.
0:50:21 > 0:50:23Where are we going now?
0:50:23 > 0:50:25I really want to know. Give me a hint.
0:50:25 > 0:50:28We are not having our reception here, are we?
0:50:38 > 0:50:39Oh, babe!
0:50:39 > 0:50:42Terry has another vintage transport surprise.
0:50:42 > 0:50:46It's not the elephant he wanted but a princess' palanquin.
0:50:52 > 0:50:54- Am I really going in that?- You certainly are.
0:50:54 > 0:50:56Oh, my God!
0:50:56 > 0:50:57Do I sit in the cushion or...
0:50:59 > 0:51:02Oh, no! I don't like it!
0:51:02 > 0:51:03Two, three...
0:51:03 > 0:51:04MELISSA SCREAMS
0:51:04 > 0:51:07Sorry!
0:51:07 > 0:51:09Am I all right?
0:51:09 > 0:51:11I feel like a princess!
0:51:11 > 0:51:14Melissa dreamed of a classic Irish wedding.
0:51:14 > 0:51:19But handing control to husband Terry means she's arriving to this.
0:51:19 > 0:51:21AFRICAN DRUMS PLAY
0:51:24 > 0:51:27Groom Terry's donned a traditional Ghanaian outfit
0:51:27 > 0:51:30and joined the African musicians and dancers to greet his bride.
0:51:30 > 0:51:34CHEERING
0:51:34 > 0:51:38AFRICAN DRUMS PLAY
0:51:55 > 0:51:57Everybody clap your hands!
0:52:04 > 0:52:07CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
0:52:07 > 0:52:08I am so happy.
0:52:08 > 0:52:11It's amazing. They've put so much thought into it.
0:52:11 > 0:52:16Just so much time. It's lovely. I am so happy.
0:52:16 > 0:52:18IRISH MUSIC PLAYS
0:52:18 > 0:52:20But it's not all about Africa.
0:52:27 > 0:52:30Terry's got a surprise for his Irish girl.
0:52:32 > 0:52:33CHEERING
0:52:45 > 0:52:47CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
0:52:53 > 0:52:56The crowd loved it. Everyone seems to be buzzing about it.
0:52:56 > 0:52:57It was really good.
0:52:57 > 0:53:01I don't think he got a single step right - it was more the effort that was appreciated.
0:53:01 > 0:53:03Where did you get the flags?
0:53:03 > 0:53:06A lot of hard work went into it.
0:53:06 > 0:53:09It's time for Terry to show off his venue.
0:53:11 > 0:53:14Wow!
0:53:14 > 0:53:17- Do you like it?- Oh, my God!
0:53:17 > 0:53:19I feel like I want to cry.
0:53:19 > 0:53:22You have done the most perfect job ever.
0:53:24 > 0:53:26I done it for you.
0:53:26 > 0:53:27Did you like the lion?
0:53:27 > 0:53:31Yeah. Can I bring them home?
0:53:31 > 0:53:33- Yeah. We own them.- What about the zebras?- We own most of it.
0:53:33 > 0:53:35Go away!
0:53:40 > 0:53:45Ireland is where I envisioned my perfect day but he's made the best of a situation
0:53:45 > 0:53:48and he's brought Ireland to me. That's amazing. I'm happy.
0:53:50 > 0:53:54He's done fantastic. You could see straightaway Melissa was made up with everything.
0:53:54 > 0:53:56I thought, "How is this going to work out?"
0:53:56 > 0:53:57But it is brilliant.
0:54:02 > 0:54:05My wife and I would like to say a big thank you to everyone here.
0:54:05 > 0:54:08"My wife and I." I like that!
0:54:08 > 0:54:09LAUGHTER
0:54:09 > 0:54:12It's been the toughest three weeks of my life.
0:54:12 > 0:54:15I wouldn't have got through it
0:54:15 > 0:54:16if it wasn't for you, mate.
0:54:18 > 0:54:20Now to my wife!
0:54:22 > 0:54:25You're my best friend and soul mate. I promise to love you and appreciate you
0:54:25 > 0:54:29till death do us part.
0:54:29 > 0:54:32CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
0:54:35 > 0:54:37The wedding day has been fantastic.
0:54:37 > 0:54:41I feel so overwhelmed. The surprises I've had around each corner.
0:54:41 > 0:54:44I'm very happy with everything Terry's put on.
0:54:44 > 0:54:46I'm very happy to be his wife.
0:54:46 > 0:54:48- Ah, my nail!- Sorry!
0:54:48 > 0:54:52You're going to have to sort out the honeymoon!
0:54:52 > 0:54:53THEY LAUGH
0:54:53 > 0:54:56What he did today was amazing.
0:54:56 > 0:55:03It wasn't just about Terry, it was about two separate cultures, two entities coming together
0:55:03 > 0:55:05and uniting as one.
0:55:06 > 0:55:09It's going to be brilliant to have my flat back.
0:55:09 > 0:55:12I'll enjoy it for a few days. After that, I'll be like,
0:55:12 > 0:55:13"Missing him a bit!"
0:55:17 > 0:55:19He couldn't have done any better than he did.
0:55:19 > 0:55:21Well done, Terry!
0:55:21 > 0:55:24You did well. I'm proud to call you my brother-in-law.
0:55:27 > 0:55:29I've been to a lot of weddings over the years.
0:55:29 > 0:55:34I'm not just saying this cos it's me daughter's wedding but it's been the best wedding I've ever been at.
0:55:38 > 0:55:42I'm going to be able to have more trust in you
0:55:42 > 0:55:46to organise situations and take the front seat in family events.
0:55:46 > 0:55:48I don't want to!
0:55:48 > 0:55:50I really don't!
0:55:52 > 0:55:55The pawinquin, for me, that was a treasured memory.
0:55:55 > 0:55:57I don't think I'll ever be on another pawinquin in my life.
0:55:57 > 0:55:59- Palan-quin.- Whatever, Trevor.
0:56:00 > 0:56:03Next time - it's bride abroad.
0:56:03 > 0:56:05When prison officer Noel...
0:56:05 > 0:56:08I don't like the idea of it being miles away.
0:56:08 > 0:56:11..tries to plan a romantic wedding in Magaluf.
0:56:11 > 0:56:13We're not even here for the drink.
0:56:13 > 0:56:15Will hard-working mum Gemma...
0:56:15 > 0:56:17It's the only day in my life that I'm not covered in baby sick.
0:56:17 > 0:56:19..get the day of her dreams?
0:56:19 > 0:56:23We've spent more on booze in one night than on the wedding dress.
0:56:23 > 0:56:25Or will it be a foreign fiasco?
0:56:25 > 0:56:29If this is where I'm going to spend my wedding evening I need to get really pissed.
0:56:29 > 0:56:33# I love him, I love him, I love him I love him
0:56:33 > 0:56:35# Ooh, ooh
0:56:35 > 0:56:38# I love him, I love him, I love him I love him
0:56:38 > 0:56:39# Ooh, ooh
0:56:39 > 0:56:42# And there ain't no other that I'd put above him
0:56:42 > 0:56:43# Ooh, ooh
0:56:43 > 0:56:45# I'm so mad about the boy
0:56:45 > 0:56:47# Ooh, ooh
0:56:47 > 0:56:48# Oh, oh
0:56:48 > 0:56:53# Can't make up my mind about this guy
0:56:53 > 0:56:56# Sometimes he makes me smile... #
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