0:00:02 > 0:00:04Families can be driven apart for all manner of reasons.
0:00:04 > 0:00:07I had no information at all about where my mum went.
0:00:07 > 0:00:10And when you do lose touch with your loved ones...
0:00:10 > 0:00:12You don't know who you are, where've you come from.
0:00:12 > 0:00:14..finding them can take a lifetime.
0:00:14 > 0:00:18I might have a brother that's still living here.
0:00:18 > 0:00:23Especially when they could be anywhere. At home or abroad.
0:00:23 > 0:00:26And that's where the Family Finders come in.
0:00:26 > 0:00:28From international organisations...
0:00:28 > 0:00:32Hi, it's The Salvation Army Family Tracing Service.
0:00:32 > 0:00:34..to genealogy detective agencies...
0:00:34 > 0:00:37For someone to say that it's changed their life,
0:00:37 > 0:00:40it makes coming to work, you know, really, really special.
0:00:40 > 0:00:42..and dedicated one-man bands.
0:00:42 > 0:00:46It's a matter of how much effort you really want to put into it,
0:00:46 > 0:00:48how badly you want to solve the problem.
0:00:48 > 0:00:52They hunt through history to bring families back together again.
0:00:52 > 0:00:55Finding new family is wonderful.
0:00:55 > 0:00:59In this series, we follow the work of the Family Finders...
0:00:59 > 0:01:04Suddenly, you get one spark of breakthrough and there they are.
0:01:04 > 0:01:06..learning the tricks they use
0:01:06 > 0:01:08to track missing relatives through time...
0:01:08 > 0:01:13I didn't think I'd ever find my sisters, but I have.
0:01:13 > 0:01:17..and meeting the people whose lives they change along the way.
0:01:17 > 0:01:19I've been waiting to meet John my whole life.
0:01:19 > 0:01:22Since we've met, I feel part of a family again.
0:01:24 > 0:01:26You've just completed my life for me.
0:01:31 > 0:01:34Every year, thousands of people throughout the UK
0:01:34 > 0:01:37embark on searches for long lost relatives.
0:01:37 > 0:01:41Some use large, specialist family finding agencies.
0:01:41 > 0:01:44Others decide to go it alone and look themselves.
0:01:44 > 0:01:48Today, we meet the family who haven't seen their long lost
0:01:48 > 0:01:50brother in nearly 50 years,
0:01:50 > 0:01:52despite their efforts to track him down.
0:01:52 > 0:01:56Everybody was phoning us. It was like a hotline to the White House.
0:01:56 > 0:01:59I'm quite an emotional person and I think I cried for days after it.
0:01:59 > 0:02:03And Alison, who started her own search
0:02:03 > 0:02:06and discovered family she never knew she had.
0:02:06 > 0:02:10There isn't a day goes by that I don't think about her.
0:02:13 > 0:02:17Too often it's a tragic event that tears a family apart.
0:02:17 > 0:02:21And it can take the expertise of a family finding company
0:02:21 > 0:02:24to help piece things back together again,
0:02:24 > 0:02:27as with the case of the Buckley brothers from Glasgow.
0:02:27 > 0:02:3169-year-old Michael Buckley and his 70-year-old brother James
0:02:31 > 0:02:34were born in Glasgow in the post-war period,
0:02:34 > 0:02:38along with their two younger brothers, John and Patrick.
0:02:38 > 0:02:42I can't remember too much about our early years in Glasgow.
0:02:42 > 0:02:45All I remember is the day my mother died.
0:02:47 > 0:02:51Their mother, Sarah, was just 32 when she died.
0:02:51 > 0:02:55She left four young sons, all under the age of ten.
0:02:55 > 0:02:56I went into the living room
0:02:56 > 0:03:00and I saw my gran holding a mirror over my mother's face.
0:03:00 > 0:03:03Shouting to my father, "There's no breath."
0:03:05 > 0:03:08Their mother had suffered complications after
0:03:08 > 0:03:10the birth of her youngest son, Patrick.
0:03:12 > 0:03:16I've no memories whatsoever of my mother. I remember my father.
0:03:16 > 0:03:18Eh...
0:03:20 > 0:03:24Not very fondly, I might add, because of the life we had.
0:03:24 > 0:03:26He could have done better.
0:03:26 > 0:03:30Soon after their mother's death, their father made a decision
0:03:30 > 0:03:33which would change his sons' lives forever.
0:03:34 > 0:03:39My father sat us down and told me we were going to live in the country
0:03:39 > 0:03:41and there was going to be cows and sheep.
0:03:41 > 0:03:44Their father placed the boys in care.
0:03:44 > 0:03:47But where they were actually sent was a stark contrast to the
0:03:47 > 0:03:50idyllic scene he had described.
0:03:50 > 0:03:54We were subsequently sent up to the Nazareth House orphanage
0:03:54 > 0:03:55in Aberdeen,
0:03:55 > 0:04:00where we spent the vast majority of our formative years.
0:04:02 > 0:04:04Which wasn't a very pleasant experience.
0:04:04 > 0:04:07- It was a soul destroying experience.- Yeah.
0:04:07 > 0:04:10You weren't actually allowed to feel like brothers.
0:04:10 > 0:04:11It wasn't actually
0:04:11 > 0:04:15until we left the home that we actually became brothers.
0:04:15 > 0:04:17- Mm.- You were just a number.
0:04:18 > 0:04:21Christmas-time was a particularly hard time.
0:04:21 > 0:04:24Cos we all sat there, and there was a big Christmas tree
0:04:24 > 0:04:28and piles of presents for people who had families that
0:04:28 > 0:04:30kind of cared for them.
0:04:30 > 0:04:33And we were left there with practically nothing.
0:04:33 > 0:04:36As the four boys each turned 15,
0:04:36 > 0:04:38they were released from the confines of the orphanage.
0:04:38 > 0:04:42But before long, tragedy struck again.
0:04:42 > 0:04:46Our younger brother Patrick, he left last.
0:04:46 > 0:04:50Then he actually died when he was 21.
0:04:50 > 0:04:53Losing Patrick was a big blow.
0:04:53 > 0:04:57As the eldest, James tried to help his remaining brothers
0:04:57 > 0:04:59find their way in the world.
0:04:59 > 0:05:01I got him an apprenticeship.
0:05:01 > 0:05:05And my goal was to get us all back together.
0:05:05 > 0:05:08James actually got me a job in Edinburgh as a commis chef.
0:05:08 > 0:05:10And I worked at that for five years.
0:05:11 > 0:05:15But after spending almost his entire childhood in an institution,
0:05:15 > 0:05:18their younger brother John was struggling.
0:05:18 > 0:05:22And unbeknown to them all, James' wedding in 1966 would be the
0:05:22 > 0:05:27last time he and Michael would see their brother for almost 50 years.
0:05:27 > 0:05:29I was 21 when I got married.
0:05:30 > 0:05:33Michael was there as my best man.
0:05:33 > 0:05:37And John. And that was the last time we saw him.
0:05:38 > 0:05:43Their brother John, who was only 16 at the time, couldn't settle.
0:05:43 > 0:05:45So he left Scotland completely,
0:05:45 > 0:05:47losing all contact with James and Michael.
0:05:47 > 0:05:49In the years that followed,
0:05:49 > 0:05:52the brothers tried to put the past behind them
0:05:52 > 0:05:54and get on with their lives.
0:05:54 > 0:05:57But their younger brother was never far from their thoughts,
0:05:57 > 0:06:00as Michael's wife, Ellen, remembers.
0:06:00 > 0:06:03When I first met Michael, he told me about John.
0:06:05 > 0:06:09What he'd never seen for nearly 50 years.
0:06:09 > 0:06:11And I said, "Oh, that's sad,"
0:06:11 > 0:06:13because I've got a big family, you see?
0:06:15 > 0:06:19I wondered what life John had had and how he'd turned out.
0:06:20 > 0:06:22So I said to Mike, "We need to find him.
0:06:22 > 0:06:25"And we'd welcome him with open arms."
0:06:26 > 0:06:27And over the years,
0:06:27 > 0:06:31Ellen's tried pretty much everything to track him down.
0:06:31 > 0:06:34A wee while later, I'd heard that he'd moved to London.
0:06:34 > 0:06:40I got on and I found, oh, hundreds of addresses for John Buckley.
0:06:40 > 0:06:45So I sat one night and I phoned...loads of them.
0:06:45 > 0:06:49I just kept saying, "I'm looking to trace John Buckley.
0:06:49 > 0:06:53"He's this age and he went to this."
0:06:53 > 0:06:54And, "No, sorry. It's not us."
0:06:54 > 0:06:58I even got people wanting to be my relatives in the end.
0:06:58 > 0:07:00But I was at it all night.
0:07:00 > 0:07:03Michael and James have also made endless unsuccessful
0:07:03 > 0:07:06attempts to find their little brother.
0:07:06 > 0:07:12It's very frustrating when you're trying to locate a lost relative.
0:07:12 > 0:07:14So we sort of gave it up for a while.
0:07:14 > 0:07:15It was only when Ellen started,
0:07:15 > 0:07:20"Listen, we really must try to look for your brother again."
0:07:20 > 0:07:22Cos Ellen's words to me, she says,
0:07:22 > 0:07:24"Listen, you're no' getting any younger.
0:07:24 > 0:07:26"You want to find your brother..."
0:07:26 > 0:07:28Yeah, before it's too late.
0:07:28 > 0:07:30"..before it's too late."
0:07:30 > 0:07:33So, in one last-ditch attempt to trace him,
0:07:33 > 0:07:36Michael's wife, Ellen, got in touch with a company that
0:07:36 > 0:07:39specialises in tracking down lost relatives.
0:07:39 > 0:07:43Senior researcher Jennifer Hill picked up the case.
0:07:43 > 0:07:46"We've not had any contact since Nazareth House in Aberdeen."
0:07:46 > 0:07:49Which was the children's home they were in.
0:07:49 > 0:07:53"Our youngest brother, Patrick, died many years ago. As did our father.
0:07:53 > 0:07:56"We're getting on now and we've not had an easy life.
0:07:56 > 0:07:59"We have no other known relatives, so it would be fantastic
0:07:59 > 0:08:02"if we could meet again before it's too late."
0:08:02 > 0:08:06When you receive a case and you know it's gone on for, you know,
0:08:06 > 0:08:08we're talking decades,
0:08:08 > 0:08:12you really hope beyond hope that you can find the right person for them.
0:08:12 > 0:08:14And finally put this to rest.
0:08:14 > 0:08:17With the information she had, Jennifer got straight to work.
0:08:19 > 0:08:21So when the case came into us,
0:08:21 > 0:08:28what we knew was that John was approximately 65, 66 years old.
0:08:28 > 0:08:30We didn't have an address for him
0:08:30 > 0:08:33or a last-known address or anything like that.
0:08:33 > 0:08:36But we did know his parents' full names and details.
0:08:36 > 0:08:41But the location of John's birth presented a challenge.
0:08:41 > 0:08:45With Scottish records, Scotland's people hold all the records -
0:08:45 > 0:08:47births, deaths, marriages.
0:08:47 > 0:08:49So we needed to bring in an external researcher
0:08:49 > 0:08:51who was based in Scotland
0:08:51 > 0:08:54to go in and find the full date of birth.
0:08:55 > 0:08:57When searching for relatives who could be
0:08:57 > 0:08:59anywhere in the British isles,
0:08:59 > 0:09:02it's crucial to remember that records of births,
0:09:02 > 0:09:05deaths and marriages in Scotland are held separately to
0:09:05 > 0:09:07those in England and Wales,
0:09:07 > 0:09:10as are the records of Northern Ireland and Ireland.
0:09:10 > 0:09:14So if your search of one set of records doesn't turn up any results,
0:09:14 > 0:09:18it could be well worth extending your hunt to the others,
0:09:18 > 0:09:20or as the Buckley brothers have done,
0:09:20 > 0:09:25employ a family finding company who can bring in specialist researchers.
0:09:27 > 0:09:31Now that James and Michael had passed on their case to Jennifer,
0:09:31 > 0:09:33all they could do was wait.
0:09:33 > 0:09:35But would the experts fare any better in finding
0:09:35 > 0:09:37their missing brother?
0:09:37 > 0:09:40Waiting for the bus to come in, it was like standing on hot coals.
0:09:40 > 0:09:44Probably a day we never thought we would see.
0:09:51 > 0:09:55On the other side of the UK, 58-year-old Alison Searle
0:09:55 > 0:09:58was about to embark on a search of her own.
0:09:58 > 0:10:00Alison grew up in Worthing, West Sussex.
0:10:02 > 0:10:06My childhood was brilliant. My family were wonderful.
0:10:06 > 0:10:08Went to Scotland every year.
0:10:08 > 0:10:12Went to Blackpool every year for the lights and summer holiday.
0:10:12 > 0:10:14I couldn't have asked for better.
0:10:14 > 0:10:18But when Alison met her future husband as a teenager,
0:10:18 > 0:10:20it led to a shocking revelation.
0:10:20 > 0:10:22I got engaged at 16.
0:10:24 > 0:10:28We'd arranged to be married the following year.
0:10:28 > 0:10:30Just before my 18th birthday.
0:10:30 > 0:10:34And I needed my mum and dad to sign the consent form.
0:10:36 > 0:10:39They took so long dithering over it
0:10:39 > 0:10:42and I thought, "Maybe they don't want me to get married."
0:10:44 > 0:10:49And one lunchtime, my dad arranged to meet me.
0:10:49 > 0:10:53And he sat me down and told me I was adopted.
0:10:55 > 0:10:59I didn't expect quite that bombshell.
0:10:59 > 0:11:01And it was a bombshell.
0:11:02 > 0:11:05But I just loved them so much...
0:11:05 > 0:11:08it didn't make no difference, to be quite honest.
0:11:08 > 0:11:12But it explained why I was so tall and they weren't.
0:11:14 > 0:11:18The reason they had to tell me now that
0:11:18 > 0:11:24I was adopted was the form said "parent/adoptive parent."
0:11:25 > 0:11:28And they knew that they couldn't sign it as a parent.
0:11:30 > 0:11:34So that must have been heart-wrenching for them.
0:11:34 > 0:11:36Because I don't think they would have told me
0:11:36 > 0:11:39that I was adopted otherwise.
0:11:39 > 0:11:41And that's the only reason I got told.
0:11:42 > 0:11:44If I'd been 18...
0:11:45 > 0:11:47..I still would be none the wiser.
0:11:48 > 0:11:53Alison then pushed the news of her parentage to the back of her mind.
0:11:53 > 0:11:55I wasn't interested at the time.
0:11:55 > 0:11:59I wasn't interested in finding out where I'd come from.
0:11:59 > 0:12:01Because I knew where I was.
0:12:01 > 0:12:03But when Alison started a family of her own,
0:12:03 > 0:12:06her feelings about her own origins changed.
0:12:06 > 0:12:09I first started to think about it
0:12:09 > 0:12:13when I fell pregnant with my daughter.
0:12:13 > 0:12:15And they asked me for medical background.
0:12:17 > 0:12:20And I just turned round and said, "I don't have one."
0:12:21 > 0:12:28Through the pregnancy, especially at the birth and first cuddle...
0:12:29 > 0:12:34The first hug, that's when I thought of my birth mum.
0:12:35 > 0:12:39And what she must have gone through to give me up.
0:12:41 > 0:12:48As the years roll on, I just then wanted to know who I looked like.
0:12:48 > 0:12:51Why I was so tall. Where did I come from?
0:12:51 > 0:12:53Where was I born?
0:12:54 > 0:12:56And what does my mum look like?
0:12:57 > 0:13:03It was 2009 when Alison finally started to trace her birth mother.
0:13:03 > 0:13:04I wanted to meet my mum.
0:13:06 > 0:13:07And I wanted a hug.
0:13:09 > 0:13:11She applied for a copy of her birth certificate,
0:13:11 > 0:13:15which revealed that her original name had been Susan,
0:13:15 > 0:13:18as well as giving details of her birth mother, Mary McGow.
0:13:18 > 0:13:22When I saw my mum's name, the floodgates opened.
0:13:22 > 0:13:24It was quite amazing to have a name.
0:13:25 > 0:13:27And where she came from.
0:13:27 > 0:13:29Where I came from.
0:13:31 > 0:13:33She's a Geordie lass.
0:13:33 > 0:13:36And I was born in Yorkshire.
0:13:36 > 0:13:39It was...amazing.
0:13:39 > 0:13:43I couldn't wait to get home and get on my computer.
0:13:43 > 0:13:44And start searching for her.
0:13:46 > 0:13:49The next stage in the process was to contact social services.
0:13:49 > 0:13:54I then had to apply for my adoption papers from the court.
0:13:54 > 0:13:57Which was so, so sad to read.
0:13:57 > 0:14:02But the saddest bit is the very last line.
0:14:02 > 0:14:05Why is the child offered for adoption?
0:14:05 > 0:14:10And she's put, "Mother unmarried. No home or parents."
0:14:11 > 0:14:13She wasn't a youngster.
0:14:13 > 0:14:17She was 29 years old when she had me.
0:14:17 > 0:14:20So I really wanted to find her.
0:14:21 > 0:14:23And I've got to do it now.
0:14:24 > 0:14:25Before it's too late.
0:14:28 > 0:14:33Not realising when I did my searches...
0:14:33 > 0:14:35that it was already too late.
0:14:36 > 0:14:39Alison's mum had died 23 years ago.
0:14:41 > 0:14:43I missed meeting her.
0:14:45 > 0:14:48And...
0:14:48 > 0:14:49I regret that.
0:14:49 > 0:14:53She may have missed the chance to meet her birth mother,
0:14:53 > 0:14:56but Alison's search didn't end there.
0:14:56 > 0:15:00I thought, "Right, I'll apply for the death certificate."
0:15:00 > 0:15:07I was upstairs and I opened it. And my hubby said, "Are you all right?"
0:15:07 > 0:15:12Cos I just screamed when I opened it. And I came running downstairs.
0:15:12 > 0:15:14And I said, "I've got a sister!
0:15:14 > 0:15:15"I've got...
0:15:15 > 0:15:17"I've got a sister."
0:15:17 > 0:15:20Alison's mother's death certificate showed that Mary had
0:15:20 > 0:15:22had another daughter.
0:15:22 > 0:15:25But would she be able to trace that daughter
0:15:25 > 0:15:27and find out the truth behind her adoption?
0:15:32 > 0:15:35In Scotland, Michael and James Buckley's search
0:15:35 > 0:15:37had reached a crucial stage.
0:15:37 > 0:15:41They last saw their younger brother John in Glasgow 50 years ago.
0:15:41 > 0:15:45I was 21 when I got married. And it was the last time I saw him.
0:15:45 > 0:15:48After decades of unsuccessful searching,
0:15:48 > 0:15:51they decided to seek help from a professional family finder.
0:15:54 > 0:15:58Jennifer Hill contacted a researcher based in Scotland to check
0:15:58 > 0:16:00birth, death and marriage records.
0:16:00 > 0:16:02A week elapsed.
0:16:03 > 0:16:06Quite an anxious week, waiting to hear from them.
0:16:06 > 0:16:11But when we did, the information we got was absolutely fantastic.
0:16:11 > 0:16:13The kind of detail that was in it.
0:16:13 > 0:16:17We looked into the marriage of Sarah and James Buckley,
0:16:17 > 0:16:19which were the parents in this instance.
0:16:19 > 0:16:22So we knew that we were looking into the right family.
0:16:22 > 0:16:25And then of course, the bit of information we were absolutely
0:16:25 > 0:16:28desperate to see was the full date of birth for John Buckley,
0:16:28 > 0:16:30which was brilliant.
0:16:30 > 0:16:35The next aim was to try to bring his current whereabouts up to speed
0:16:35 > 0:16:38and hopefully find out where he currently was living.
0:16:38 > 0:16:41So we have an extensive range of databases
0:16:41 > 0:16:44that we are able to access.
0:16:44 > 0:16:49We put in the full name, put in the date of birth of John Buckley,
0:16:49 > 0:16:51and we had a match come up.
0:16:51 > 0:16:54I jumped up off the sofa, I was so excited.
0:16:54 > 0:16:56I said, "They've found John! They've found John!
0:16:56 > 0:16:58"I need to phone Michael. I need to phone him at work.
0:16:58 > 0:17:01"I need to phone him." I was over the moon. It was amazing.
0:17:01 > 0:17:03I was absolutely gobsmacked.
0:17:03 > 0:17:04Absolutely gobsmacked.
0:17:06 > 0:17:09I phoned him at work and I said, "Michael, they've found John."
0:17:09 > 0:17:12"No." I said, "Yeah, they've found him. They've found him."
0:17:12 > 0:17:15Then he phoned James and he was phoning us.
0:17:15 > 0:17:20And everybody was phoning us. It was like a hotline to the White House.
0:17:20 > 0:17:21I was...
0:17:22 > 0:17:23I was blown away.
0:17:23 > 0:17:26You know, I'm quite an emotional person
0:17:26 > 0:17:28and I think I cried for days after it.
0:17:29 > 0:17:33The family asked Jennifer to act as an intermediary.
0:17:33 > 0:17:37She wrote to John to see if he would be open to contact.
0:17:37 > 0:17:40When we send a letter out to a subject,
0:17:40 > 0:17:42it's always a really nerve-racking moment.
0:17:42 > 0:17:46You're just absolutely praying, you know, please just say,
0:17:46 > 0:17:48"Yes, I'm absolutely thrilled to hear from them.
0:17:48 > 0:17:51"And I can't wait to see them again."
0:17:51 > 0:17:54It's a heart-in-your-mouth moment. Definitely.
0:17:59 > 0:18:03120 miles away, John received a letter telling him
0:18:03 > 0:18:06his brothers were trying to find him.
0:18:06 > 0:18:09I got the letter in. So I phoned them up.
0:18:11 > 0:18:14And they said, "Your brothers are looking for you."
0:18:15 > 0:18:20He says, "Can we pass your information on?" I says, "Yeah."
0:18:20 > 0:18:23I didn't think I'd ever see my brothers again. It was just...
0:18:25 > 0:18:30I think before I'd got the letter, it had actually gone out of my head.
0:18:31 > 0:18:33And his wife of 34 years, Betty,
0:18:33 > 0:18:37was thrilled about the family making contact.
0:18:37 > 0:18:40It was just like a bolt out of the blue
0:18:40 > 0:18:42that all came about.
0:18:45 > 0:18:48Delighted. Over the moon. You know?
0:18:50 > 0:18:53So where had John's life taken him
0:18:53 > 0:18:57since he last saw his brothers in the 1960s?
0:18:57 > 0:19:00I started to get in with gangs and that, so I decided to leave.
0:19:00 > 0:19:03From there, I went to Manchester.
0:19:03 > 0:19:04I was roaming around.
0:19:04 > 0:19:07The only reason I think we lost touch was
0:19:07 > 0:19:10because when I decided to go on my own, it was...
0:19:10 > 0:19:12Everything just went out of my head
0:19:12 > 0:19:14and I was just thinking of myself, really.
0:19:15 > 0:19:18Number one. And that was it.
0:19:19 > 0:19:23In the early 1970s, John left the north of England altogether.
0:19:25 > 0:19:29Drifted about, in and out of London. Then I settled down and met Betty.
0:19:32 > 0:19:35- Then the rest is history from there, really. - HE LAUGHS
0:19:40 > 0:19:45Betty's been my rock. I don't think I'd be here if I hadn't had Betty.
0:19:45 > 0:19:50And Betty knew only too well how much he longed to see his brothers.
0:19:52 > 0:19:57There was no way he could really get in contact with them.
0:19:57 > 0:20:04We had tried a few times, but with no dates or anything...
0:20:04 > 0:20:07I think he just really gave up.
0:20:07 > 0:20:10When I got that letter through the post, it was...
0:20:10 > 0:20:13- HE SIGHS - Oh, God.
0:20:20 > 0:20:25After 50 years apart, finally the brothers were in contact again.
0:20:28 > 0:20:30And he came on the phone...
0:20:30 > 0:20:32I said, "I never thought I'd speak to you again."
0:20:32 > 0:20:35Cos that was the way I felt. I never thought I would.
0:20:35 > 0:20:37Cos I hadn't a clue where he was.
0:20:38 > 0:20:43And that was... I couldn't actually say a lot cos I was just choked up.
0:20:43 > 0:20:45I'm quite an emotional person, as you probably realise.
0:20:45 > 0:20:47I know it seems strange, but...
0:20:49 > 0:20:51..it seemed as if we hadn't been apart at all.
0:20:53 > 0:20:55I just...
0:20:56 > 0:20:59It was so lovely for John.
0:21:00 > 0:21:02I was at a loss what to say, really.
0:21:02 > 0:21:06I just said, "Look, it's great to speak to you
0:21:06 > 0:21:07"and know you're still alive."
0:21:07 > 0:21:10It was like a weight off my shoulders.
0:21:10 > 0:21:13I was aware that something great had happened in my life
0:21:13 > 0:21:17instead of sometimes a lot of bad things happen in your life,
0:21:17 > 0:21:19you know? And...
0:21:19 > 0:21:21Aye, it was amazing. You know?
0:21:24 > 0:21:27Having missed out on half a century together,
0:21:27 > 0:21:30the brothers didn't want to waste any more time.
0:21:30 > 0:21:34And just a few days after their emotional phone call,
0:21:34 > 0:21:3765-year-old John Buckley finally made his journey home.
0:21:39 > 0:21:44Mike and I went to Carlisle to pick him up off the coach.
0:21:44 > 0:21:48We just stood there and we waited. The coach was a few minutes late.
0:21:48 > 0:21:51Waiting for the bus to come in, it was like standing on hot coals.
0:21:51 > 0:21:53It really was.
0:21:54 > 0:21:59I looked out the window and I says to Betty, "Look, there's Michael."
0:21:59 > 0:22:00And it was.
0:22:01 > 0:22:03HE SNIFFLES
0:22:03 > 0:22:06And as soon as he walked off the bus...
0:22:06 > 0:22:11I knew it was him. I says, "Michael..." I says, "John."
0:22:11 > 0:22:14We burst into tears, obviously.
0:22:14 > 0:22:18- The minute he came in, I was just... - HE EXHALES
0:22:18 > 0:22:24But the joy of being reunited has also been tinged with some sadness.
0:22:24 > 0:22:26Since we've been together with John,
0:22:26 > 0:22:29we've found out he's got lung cancer.
0:22:29 > 0:22:33But at the moment, as far as we know, the news is good.
0:22:33 > 0:22:36But it just makes it more poignant.
0:22:39 > 0:22:42Today is another momentous occasion for the brothers.
0:22:42 > 0:22:46Two weeks after John first met up with Michael and James again,
0:22:46 > 0:22:49he's travelling up to Scotland to be officially introduced to
0:22:49 > 0:22:52the rest of his older brothers' families.
0:22:52 > 0:22:55I'm quite looking forward to it.
0:22:55 > 0:22:58- I know Betty is. - THEY LAUGH
0:22:58 > 0:23:00I am, actually.
0:23:01 > 0:23:04My nerves are not so bad today.
0:23:08 > 0:23:11And it's a big day for another reason.
0:23:11 > 0:23:15Michael's also celebrating his 69th birthday.
0:23:16 > 0:23:19Pretty honestly, I never thought I'd see John again.
0:23:22 > 0:23:24And it's nice he's going to be here today...
0:23:25 > 0:23:27..to help celebrate my birthday.
0:23:28 > 0:23:32It will be the first family celebration the brothers have
0:23:32 > 0:23:35shared together since James' wedding in 1966,
0:23:35 > 0:23:38after which John disappeared for 50 years.
0:23:40 > 0:23:44- Have I got enough tissues? - HE CHUCKLES
0:23:44 > 0:23:46I've got a bagful for you, love.
0:23:46 > 0:23:48- You'll be all right.- Aye, I will.
0:23:50 > 0:23:52Right, shall we carry on?
0:23:57 > 0:24:02Probably a day we never thought we'd see. I don't mean him being 69.
0:24:02 > 0:24:03I mean John being here.
0:24:10 > 0:24:11Yep.
0:24:15 > 0:24:19Hi, John. You all right, mate? Nice to see you again.
0:24:19 > 0:24:20And you.
0:24:20 > 0:24:22Happy birthday.
0:24:26 > 0:24:30- Hi, Betty. You all right? - Happy birthday, Michael.
0:24:30 > 0:24:32Nice to see you again.
0:24:32 > 0:24:35MUFFLED SPEECH
0:24:39 > 0:24:42Hi, honey. Lovely to see you again.
0:24:42 > 0:24:45This is Jill.
0:24:45 > 0:24:48As well as sharing their first birthday together
0:24:48 > 0:24:51since John was a teenager, the brothers are introducing
0:24:51 > 0:24:54him to the nieces and nephews he never knew he had.
0:24:54 > 0:24:57- And that's our daughter. - Hello, nice to meet you.
0:25:04 > 0:25:06I'd just like to thank you all for coming
0:25:06 > 0:25:10and helping celebrate my birthday. And to welcome...
0:25:10 > 0:25:14- HE CLEARS THROAT - ..welcome John back into the family.
0:25:14 > 0:25:15Thank you very much.
0:25:15 > 0:25:17Cheers, everyone.
0:25:17 > 0:25:18- ALL:- Cheers.
0:25:18 > 0:25:20Cheers to John. And cheers to Betty.
0:25:20 > 0:25:23- ALL:- Cheers.
0:25:23 > 0:25:26And a happy 79th birthday to Michael.
0:25:26 > 0:25:28- Aye. - LAUGHTER
0:25:28 > 0:25:32Christ, if I make that, I'll be lucky, aye.
0:25:32 > 0:25:36It's even better now we've found you, John. It's good.
0:25:38 > 0:25:43- I'm practically crying. - Come on, Betty. Come here.
0:25:43 > 0:25:45I've been waiting to meet John my whole life, really,
0:25:45 > 0:25:49cos we were brought up always told about him
0:25:49 > 0:25:54and always knowing that my mum and dad were looking for him.
0:25:54 > 0:25:59And it's amazing. It must be the best sort of birthday present ever.
0:26:01 > 0:26:02Cheese.
0:26:02 > 0:26:04Parmesan!
0:26:05 > 0:26:07I wasn't sure if we'd ever meet our Uncle John.
0:26:07 > 0:26:09Hoped we would.
0:26:09 > 0:26:12But obviously, it shows that if you look hard enough,
0:26:12 > 0:26:14you can find people.
0:26:14 > 0:26:16It's great. Really, it's fantastic.
0:26:16 > 0:26:18It really is great.
0:26:18 > 0:26:21And as I say, I couldn't have asked for a better day. It's...
0:26:23 > 0:26:25To make a pun, it's the icing on the cake.
0:26:26 > 0:26:30- Talking about cakes... - LAUGHTER
0:26:30 > 0:26:34- As we move swiftly onto that... - LAUGHTER
0:26:34 > 0:26:37- ALL: # Happy birthday to you... # - Thank you.
0:26:37 > 0:26:40# Happy birthday, dear Michael
0:26:40 > 0:26:43# Happy birthday to you. #
0:26:43 > 0:26:45APPLAUSE
0:26:45 > 0:26:47Thank you very much.
0:26:48 > 0:26:51John, seeing as you're the guest of honour today,
0:26:51 > 0:26:54you can have the first piece.
0:26:54 > 0:26:55There you go.
0:26:55 > 0:26:56Not too big, though.
0:26:57 > 0:27:00Right, that's it. I'm keeping the rest for myself.
0:27:02 > 0:27:06It was fantastic to finally have them all together again.
0:27:06 > 0:27:08The three amigos I call them now, you know.
0:27:08 > 0:27:09Are you ready?
0:27:14 > 0:27:20Never give up. There's always a chance that they could find them.
0:27:29 > 0:27:33In Worthing, Sussex, Alison Searle has never given up on her
0:27:33 > 0:27:35search for her family.
0:27:35 > 0:27:37After discovering she had been adopted,
0:27:37 > 0:27:39Alison has been trying to trace her birth mother.
0:27:39 > 0:27:42She's found out that her mother is no longer alive.
0:27:42 > 0:27:45But the death certificate revealed something incredible.
0:27:45 > 0:27:47I've got a sister!
0:27:47 > 0:27:48I've got...
0:27:48 > 0:27:50I've got a sister.
0:27:50 > 0:27:55Alison was determined to track down the sibling she never knew she had.
0:27:55 > 0:27:58I put it in a social media site.
0:27:58 > 0:28:02And came up with about five of the same name.
0:28:02 > 0:28:08I typed in a message that only they would know
0:28:08 > 0:28:09and understand.
0:28:11 > 0:28:14Two people came back to me and said, "No, sorry."
0:28:15 > 0:28:20But then this lady came back to me and said yes.
0:28:20 > 0:28:26The message was absolutely specific to my mum, so I just immediately
0:28:26 > 0:28:31thought, "Well, it must be a cousin that we'd not known about."
0:28:31 > 0:28:37So I replied to the message and just said, "Yes, that was my mum."
0:28:37 > 0:28:43And she said, "How do you know all this information? Are we related?"
0:28:44 > 0:28:48And I said, "Please phone me immediately."
0:28:48 > 0:28:51I telephoned straight away,
0:28:51 > 0:28:56not even thinking for one second that it would be my sister.
0:28:56 > 0:28:59This person was a total stranger.
0:28:59 > 0:29:03And then she just said, "Are you sitting down?
0:29:03 > 0:29:06"Because I think I'm your sister."
0:29:06 > 0:29:11And at 7.35 on the 1st of February 2010,
0:29:11 > 0:29:14I spoke to my sister for the very first time,
0:29:14 > 0:29:18which was...amazing.
0:29:18 > 0:29:20Absolutely amazing.
0:29:20 > 0:29:24That was the point of total shock.
0:29:24 > 0:29:28Bemused. Excited. Ecstatic.
0:29:28 > 0:29:32We were both in floods of tears. Screaming at each other.
0:29:32 > 0:29:34"I can't believe this."
0:29:34 > 0:29:38And she said, "I've got another sister as well.
0:29:38 > 0:29:40"And a brother."
0:29:40 > 0:29:42I felt complete.
0:29:42 > 0:29:44I'd found my family.
0:29:46 > 0:29:49Even though Mum had died...
0:29:51 > 0:29:52I had family.
0:29:56 > 0:29:59After baby Alison's adoption, her mother, Mary,
0:29:59 > 0:30:01had gone on to meet a man in the RAF,
0:30:01 > 0:30:05set up home in Leeds, and had had three more children.
0:30:05 > 0:30:08June, Liz and their brother, David.
0:30:08 > 0:30:12We used to fight like hell, of course, cos we're so different,
0:30:12 > 0:30:15- character wise.- Yeah.
0:30:15 > 0:30:19But we were very close. You would defend me to the hilt.
0:30:19 > 0:30:21- As a family, we were very close. - As a family, yes.
0:30:21 > 0:30:23My mum kept us very close.
0:30:23 > 0:30:28She was so private that nothing should go out of the family.
0:30:28 > 0:30:31You know, you don't tell other people your business.
0:30:31 > 0:30:35Of course, this is how she'd been all her life, you see.
0:30:35 > 0:30:40But in 1985, Mary decided to reveal something which explained why
0:30:40 > 0:30:44she had been so guarded about her past.
0:30:44 > 0:30:47She just basically sat us down one day and just said,
0:30:47 > 0:30:50"I have to tell you that you have a sister.
0:30:51 > 0:30:57"And I had to have her adopted. She was born in 1957.
0:30:57 > 0:31:02"I had to go to a mother and baby home in Halifax.
0:31:02 > 0:31:05"And she was adopted from there."
0:31:05 > 0:31:08Well, basically, Mum said they took her away.
0:31:08 > 0:31:12They told her that she had been adopted
0:31:12 > 0:31:15and that she had gone to America.
0:31:15 > 0:31:18And that she couldn't have any contact at all with her.
0:31:20 > 0:31:23So she was very upset about that.
0:31:23 > 0:31:26And then we realised that she used to always watch
0:31:26 > 0:31:28Surprise, Surprise
0:31:28 > 0:31:34and was hoping that Alison would find her.
0:31:34 > 0:31:37Or at least be searching for her.
0:31:37 > 0:31:42And I believe she went to Halifax quite a lot.
0:31:42 > 0:31:46And it turns out that she was hoping to see Susan...
0:31:46 > 0:31:48on the streets of Halifax.
0:31:49 > 0:31:52You know, we could tell by the way she was
0:31:52 > 0:31:55talking about it that it had upset her terribly.
0:31:55 > 0:31:58And, you know, I think she said, "There isn't a day goes by..."
0:31:58 > 0:32:00Yeah, she did. Yes.
0:32:00 > 0:32:04"..that I don't think about her."
0:32:04 > 0:32:07June and Liz had tried to trace their half sister,
0:32:07 > 0:32:12but they were looking for Alison under her name at birth - Susan.
0:32:12 > 0:32:15With the wrong name, and faced with the restrictions around tracing
0:32:15 > 0:32:19adopted relatives at the time, the sisters drew a blank.
0:32:19 > 0:32:22Until that fateful day, 25 years later,
0:32:22 > 0:32:24when Alison got in touch out of the blue.
0:32:27 > 0:32:29The sisters were desperate to meet.
0:32:29 > 0:32:33So it wasn't long before Alison was heading up to Leeds.
0:32:33 > 0:32:37We were so excited and waiting for her to come.
0:32:37 > 0:32:40Then she got lost in the car.
0:32:40 > 0:32:43And went straight past the house.
0:32:43 > 0:32:46I reversed the car back up into her drive.
0:32:47 > 0:32:51And I just started to shake and shake and shake,
0:32:51 > 0:32:54cos she'd come out and she was stood there.
0:32:54 > 0:32:59I just about took it out of gear, put the handbrake on.
0:32:59 > 0:33:02I never even turned the engine off. I just opened the door.
0:33:02 > 0:33:05And we...we hugged.
0:33:05 > 0:33:07It...
0:33:07 > 0:33:09It was...
0:33:10 > 0:33:12..as though I'd come home.
0:33:12 > 0:33:15We just hugged and just cried,
0:33:15 > 0:33:19like she had always been my sister.
0:33:19 > 0:33:21It was so...
0:33:22 > 0:33:23..wonderful.
0:33:25 > 0:33:30We couldn't stop staring at her because she was
0:33:30 > 0:33:36so like our mother and she has all our mother's mannerisms.
0:33:36 > 0:33:39And when she showed me the photo of my mum...
0:33:39 > 0:33:46It was beautiful. It was so warm and lovely to know
0:33:46 > 0:33:48who I was and where I'd come from.
0:33:49 > 0:33:52Since they've been reunited,
0:33:52 > 0:33:55Alison, Liz and June have spent lots of time together.
0:33:55 > 0:33:59But there are still some mysteries surrounding their mother, Mary,
0:33:59 > 0:34:01and her life back in the late 1950s.
0:34:05 > 0:34:10Today, the sisters are meeting up again for a very special journey.
0:34:10 > 0:34:15So excited to meet my sisters today.
0:34:15 > 0:34:17Every time is like the first time.
0:34:17 > 0:34:19I've got goose bumps everywhere.
0:34:32 > 0:34:34THEY LAUGH
0:34:37 > 0:34:40- How are you?- I'm all right. - You've been crying, haven't you?
0:34:45 > 0:34:48Alison, Liz and June are going on a trip that they hope will
0:34:48 > 0:34:52fill in some of the blanks in their mother's early life.
0:34:53 > 0:34:55- Happy.- I've been so excited about this.- I know.
0:34:57 > 0:34:59First stop is the West Yorkshire Library
0:34:59 > 0:35:02in the nearby town of Todmorden.
0:35:02 > 0:35:06Liz and June know that from the ages of 17 to 29, their mother,
0:35:06 > 0:35:10Mary, lived and worked in a nearby textile mill.
0:35:10 > 0:35:14They're meeting Ruth Beardsley, a local expert and curator
0:35:14 > 0:35:18of an exhibition about the mills in the area, to find out more.
0:35:18 > 0:35:22Here is the hostel brochure which was produced probably
0:35:22 > 0:35:26when your mother was in the hostel in the '50s.
0:35:26 > 0:35:27Right.
0:35:27 > 0:35:30And it was called a home from home.
0:35:30 > 0:35:33Despite Mary having been a closed book on a large part of her
0:35:33 > 0:35:36younger years, she had spoken freely
0:35:36 > 0:35:39and warmly of her time at the Triangle Mill.
0:35:39 > 0:35:40And the workers' accommodation.
0:35:42 > 0:35:47They had to convert the mill owner's house into a hostel
0:35:47 > 0:35:51to recruit young women from another part of the country
0:35:51 > 0:35:54where employment was very scarce,
0:35:54 > 0:35:58where there were high levels of poverty
0:35:58 > 0:36:00and where there was very little for women to do
0:36:00 > 0:36:04- apart from going into service, if they were lucky.- Right.- Sure.
0:36:04 > 0:36:07Most of them came from the northeast of England.
0:36:07 > 0:36:11- Did your mother come from the northeast?- She did, yeah.
0:36:11 > 0:36:12- Yeah.- Right.
0:36:12 > 0:36:17- All the women in the hostel worked for William Morris's mill.- Right.
0:36:17 > 0:36:20- All the girls were woken at 6.30. - Ah, right.
0:36:20 > 0:36:24And they had to be in the mill by 7.30.
0:36:24 > 0:36:28- Right, OK.- Wow.- And if you can imagine 100 young women trying...
0:36:28 > 0:36:30THEY LAUGH
0:36:30 > 0:36:33..trying to get dressed and breakfasted and out.
0:36:33 > 0:36:38- What a change of just a lifestyle. - Yeah.- You know?
0:36:38 > 0:36:41Well, working in the mills was very, very noisy.
0:36:41 > 0:36:43- That was a big feature of it.- Yeah.
0:36:43 > 0:36:45They even learned to sort of lip-read.
0:36:45 > 0:36:48Yes, I said to you earlier, she was very good at lip-reading.
0:36:48 > 0:36:51I heard about that earlier.
0:36:51 > 0:36:53- Yes, yeah.- They all talk about lip-reading.- Yes.
0:36:53 > 0:36:55Mum could, yeah.
0:36:55 > 0:36:59One of the things that they were passionate about was dancing.
0:36:59 > 0:37:00My mum loved dancing.
0:37:00 > 0:37:02- Back in the hostel...- Yeah.
0:37:02 > 0:37:06..they would move the chairs and tables back in the dining room
0:37:06 > 0:37:09in the evening. This was the dining room there.
0:37:09 > 0:37:11- Right.- And practise their dancing.
0:37:11 > 0:37:15And they were so keen that the managers gave them
0:37:15 > 0:37:17their own band on a Friday night.
0:37:17 > 0:37:18Oh, wow. Wow.
0:37:18 > 0:37:21In the winter months.
0:37:21 > 0:37:23Mum loved to jive. She loved to jive.
0:37:23 > 0:37:27- People would be making their own entertainment.- Yes.
0:37:27 > 0:37:30It was during her time at the Triangle Mill that Mary met
0:37:30 > 0:37:32Alison's father.
0:37:32 > 0:37:34Perhaps at one of these dances.
0:37:34 > 0:37:38Looking at the photos here, they've all got smiles on.
0:37:38 > 0:37:41So did they have a good time?
0:37:41 > 0:37:44All the ladies I've spoken to had a wonderful time.
0:37:44 > 0:37:48One or two of them said it was the best years of their life.
0:37:48 > 0:37:51- And they have had good lives.- Yes.
0:37:51 > 0:37:55They saw the hostel as a gateway out of, you know,
0:37:55 > 0:37:57poverty for some of them.
0:37:57 > 0:38:02- Into financial independence... - It would have been for our mum.
0:38:02 > 0:38:05And for many of them, it was an opportunity.
0:38:05 > 0:38:08Many of them got married from the hostel.
0:38:11 > 0:38:15The next stop on the sisters' tour is Halifax
0:38:15 > 0:38:19and the mother and baby home where, 58 years ago, their mother,
0:38:19 > 0:38:23Mary, gave birth to and then had to give up Alison.
0:38:25 > 0:38:28- Being there, I think, is going to be...- Yeah.
0:38:28 > 0:38:31- ..quite emotional, isn't it? - Quite sad, I think.
0:38:31 > 0:38:33Yeah, cos it's my...my beginning.
0:38:33 > 0:38:35- Your beginning.- It is.- Yeah.
0:38:35 > 0:38:37I began...
0:38:37 > 0:38:40There was an ending and a beginning there, wasn't there?
0:38:40 > 0:38:44- Yeah.- Of course, because your parents, your adoptive parents,
0:38:44 > 0:38:48- it was the happiest day of their life, taking...- Oh, yeah.
0:38:48 > 0:38:50- Finding you.- Picking me up.
0:38:50 > 0:38:52Picking you up, of course.
0:38:52 > 0:38:55So it was the saddest day and the happiest day.
0:38:55 > 0:38:57- Beginning of another life. - Yeah.- Yeah.
0:38:57 > 0:39:00It's nice that we're all together again.
0:39:00 > 0:39:03- Absolutely.- I think that's the special thing.
0:39:03 > 0:39:04That's right.
0:39:05 > 0:39:09The building has now been converted into flats.
0:39:09 > 0:39:13Alison takes a moment to reflect alone at the only place she
0:39:13 > 0:39:15and her mum were ever together.
0:39:16 > 0:39:19'I think we'll get closure and say goodbye to Mum.
0:39:20 > 0:39:22'And thank her'
0:39:22 > 0:39:23for giving me life.
0:39:24 > 0:39:26And doing what she did.
0:39:27 > 0:39:31'And the circumstance she was under to do it.
0:39:31 > 0:39:33'That'll be nice.
0:39:33 > 0:39:35'Just to put a lid on that one.'
0:39:38 > 0:39:41Mother and baby homes, like the one where Alison was born,
0:39:41 > 0:39:45were first founded in England in the late 19th century.
0:39:45 > 0:39:48Most were run by religious charities.
0:39:48 > 0:39:51Unmarried pregnant women would stay there for the birth
0:39:51 > 0:39:54of their children and for several weeks afterwards.
0:39:54 > 0:39:55Following the birth,
0:39:55 > 0:39:59the homes would often facilitate the adoption of the babies.
0:39:59 > 0:40:01In the late 1960s, there was still
0:40:01 > 0:40:05nearly 200 mother and baby homes in the UK.
0:40:05 > 0:40:08To find out more about their mother's experience in one of these
0:40:08 > 0:40:12homes, the sisters have arranged to meet an expert in this area,
0:40:12 > 0:40:14Dr Eloise Moss.
0:40:14 > 0:40:19The mother and baby homes that were created, they're actually
0:40:19 > 0:40:23spaces in which mothers are given the opportunity to make a choice.
0:40:23 > 0:40:27So they would be admitted about two months before they were due
0:40:27 > 0:40:30to give birth. And they would stay there.
0:40:30 > 0:40:33And they could stay there for up to three months afterwards.
0:40:33 > 0:40:38There was a nursery inside the home. There were two large dormitories.
0:40:38 > 0:40:42So, I mean, what might be a comfort is to think that actually,
0:40:42 > 0:40:45she would have been around a lot of other young women
0:40:45 > 0:40:48in the exact same position, chatting to them,
0:40:48 > 0:40:51in a community of other people feeling the same way.
0:40:51 > 0:40:53Particularly in this period,
0:40:53 > 0:40:57there is a great deal of stigma attached to single mothers.
0:40:57 > 0:41:03They are seen to have been promiscuous and irresponsible.
0:41:03 > 0:41:06And the stigma doesn't only lie with single mothers,
0:41:06 > 0:41:09but it can attach to their children.
0:41:09 > 0:41:11- Yeah.- As well.
0:41:11 > 0:41:14They would've had to decide how on earth
0:41:14 > 0:41:19they were going to juggle looking after a baby, finding a job.
0:41:19 > 0:41:23A lot of employers would not have been willing to hire a
0:41:23 > 0:41:26single mother because of the stigma attached to it.
0:41:26 > 0:41:31So the likelihood of your mum actually being able to find
0:41:31 > 0:41:34a job with you would have been fairly slim.
0:41:34 > 0:41:38So it was really going to be a sort of fall into poverty,
0:41:38 > 0:41:40had she actually stayed with you.
0:41:40 > 0:41:41(God.)
0:41:41 > 0:41:45I can say with almost total certainty that the reason
0:41:45 > 0:41:49she would have given you up for adoption really was a last
0:41:49 > 0:41:53resort and because she must have felt so desperate and so
0:41:53 > 0:41:57worried that she couldn't give you a happy childhood and a good life.
0:41:57 > 0:41:59Yeah.
0:42:00 > 0:42:03- Yeah.- Yeah.
0:42:03 > 0:42:04(God.)
0:42:09 > 0:42:13For all three sisters, today has been a voyage of discovery
0:42:13 > 0:42:15about their mother's early life.
0:42:16 > 0:42:20We found out so much more today about Mum's life
0:42:20 > 0:42:23and about the time she had Alison.
0:42:23 > 0:42:24Yeah.
0:42:24 > 0:42:28And it's just given us even more closure and even more information.
0:42:28 > 0:42:32- Yeah. That really was nice.- Yes.
0:42:32 > 0:42:36And we found things out about our mother that we didn't know.
0:42:36 > 0:42:39I'm glad Alison found us
0:42:39 > 0:42:42cos we would never have had this experience.
0:42:42 > 0:42:47And for Alison, it's the end of a search for answers that
0:42:47 > 0:42:51began 50 years ago, when she first found out she'd been adopted.
0:42:51 > 0:42:55I've had a fantastic journey and I've found...
0:42:55 > 0:42:57wonderful, wonderful family.
0:42:57 > 0:42:59And I couldn't ask for more.
0:42:59 > 0:43:03And I'm still finding out things every single day.
0:43:03 > 0:43:05It's hard but very, very worth it.