0:00:02 > 0:00:05This programme contains strong language
0:00:05 > 0:00:07We look back on a summer of partying...
0:00:07 > 0:00:08We're going to go and see some titties!
0:00:08 > 0:00:11..where the legendary Paradise Resorts in Thailand
0:00:11 > 0:00:14were overrun by crazy kids and their mates.
0:00:14 > 0:00:16Little bit scared. Agh!
0:00:18 > 0:00:21But their snooping parents went along, too,
0:00:21 > 0:00:23to spy on what actually went on.
0:00:23 > 0:00:27He's taking pictures of that lovely young lady doing a special dance.
0:00:27 > 0:00:29- The drinking... - HE BELCHES LOUDLY
0:00:29 > 0:00:31Thailand, we are here.
0:00:31 > 0:00:33Within... Then.... Ah, I'm so drunk.
0:00:33 > 0:00:35..the pulling...
0:00:35 > 0:00:38Funny enough, girl was a boy.
0:00:38 > 0:00:39..the falling out.
0:00:39 > 0:00:42- Oi, oi-oi-oi.- Leave me be. - Oi, oi, come here.
0:00:42 > 0:00:44It was a journey of self discovery.
0:00:44 > 0:00:46- One gay.- Another gay.
0:00:46 > 0:00:51For the parents, it was the chance of a lifetime, secretly watching...
0:00:51 > 0:00:55- The girl will bend over like that. - No, no!
0:00:55 > 0:00:56..sneakily spying...
0:00:56 > 0:01:00He's really, really tired. He's collapsed, really.
0:01:00 > 0:01:01KNOCKING ON WINDOW
0:01:01 > 0:01:02What was that?
0:01:02 > 0:01:05..and outrageously hiding,
0:01:05 > 0:01:08all to see if their kids could be independent...
0:01:08 > 0:01:09Oh!
0:01:09 > 0:01:11..and if they were finally growing up.
0:01:11 > 0:01:14Your room is a pigsty!
0:01:14 > 0:01:16But did it make them closer and change anything...
0:01:16 > 0:01:17Oh, f...!
0:01:17 > 0:01:20I've watched everything. Money in the knickers...
0:01:20 > 0:01:22ALL LAUGH
0:01:22 > 0:01:24..or drive a wedge between them?
0:01:25 > 0:01:29- He just sees it as a betrayal of trust.- Stop, stop, stop, stop!
0:01:29 > 0:01:31Now, the parents have revealed themselves to their kids
0:01:31 > 0:01:34and the holidays are over.
0:01:34 > 0:01:38It's time to see what's changed and what they all learned.
0:01:38 > 0:01:40I always worried about what other people thought about who I am
0:01:40 > 0:01:42and now I don't really give two toss.
0:01:42 > 0:01:45I can't believe that I slept with a prostitute on telly.
0:01:45 > 0:01:48He was demonstrating a total lack of respect.
0:01:48 > 0:01:50You can have, like, a great group of friends
0:01:50 > 0:01:53and go out on a night out with them and everything will be fine,
0:01:53 > 0:01:56but going on holiday with them is a different ball game.
0:01:59 > 0:02:02MUSIC: "Troublemaker" by Olly Murs ft Flo Rida
0:02:05 > 0:02:0820-year-old Essex boy Pat was leaving Romford
0:02:08 > 0:02:10for the beaches of Thailand.
0:02:10 > 0:02:13The main reason I wanted to go to Thailand in the first place
0:02:13 > 0:02:16was to see what the girls were like, see how I could get on out there,
0:02:16 > 0:02:18cos it's a holiday, that's what you want to do.
0:02:18 > 0:02:22At home, Pat loved a good party and life was all about pulling.
0:02:22 > 0:02:26Girls and that, I'm... I suppose I am quite successful.
0:02:26 > 0:02:27I know what I'm doing,
0:02:27 > 0:02:30I just talk a lot and I don't muck about, really.
0:02:30 > 0:02:34I just say what's what and, most of the time, it works.
0:02:34 > 0:02:37But mum Lisa didn't always approve.
0:02:37 > 0:02:40I would like Patrick to be a little bit more responsible.
0:02:40 > 0:02:43At the moment, I think he goes out too much.
0:02:44 > 0:02:48And before party-boy Pat set off, Mum had some words of advice.
0:02:48 > 0:02:51Come back with an experience that's valuable,
0:02:51 > 0:02:53but I just want you to be safe.
0:02:56 > 0:02:59Pat was off to the tropical island of Koh Pha Ngan,
0:02:59 > 0:03:03with his chosen wingmen Phil and Dan.
0:03:03 > 0:03:05But did he listen to Mum's advice?
0:03:07 > 0:03:10Ha-ha, why have you brought them?
0:03:10 > 0:03:11- Just in case. - SHE GUFFAWS
0:03:11 > 0:03:13When I get into it, I don't really have much time
0:03:13 > 0:03:15for putting on a condom.
0:03:15 > 0:03:18Yeah, I know I shouldn't really go bareback, but...
0:03:18 > 0:03:19it just happens, don't it?
0:03:19 > 0:03:23But when mum Lisa and Tina watch Pat for the first time,
0:03:23 > 0:03:26the johnnies were no joke.
0:03:26 > 0:03:29He don't listen to a word I say, does he?
0:03:29 > 0:03:31He does, I think he's just showing off a little bit.
0:03:31 > 0:03:35- Well, spying on Pat was interesting.- Funny.
0:03:35 > 0:03:37- Yeah, it was funny at times.- Yeah.
0:03:37 > 0:03:40- Harrowing at other times.- Yeah.
0:03:40 > 0:03:42And that was just for starters.
0:03:42 > 0:03:47Pat had an objective - get smashed and shack up.
0:03:47 > 0:03:49Yeah, go on, suck it, love.
0:03:49 > 0:03:52When I'm really drunk, the only thing I've got on my mind is, like,
0:03:52 > 0:03:54to, you know, go out and sleep with someone
0:03:54 > 0:03:55or find someone to take home.
0:03:55 > 0:03:58So, yeah, I got really drunk and that was the only thing on my mind,
0:03:58 > 0:04:00that's the only thing I wanted to do.
0:04:00 > 0:04:04So Pat, it's all about a numbers game for him when it comes to women.
0:04:04 > 0:04:06As soon as he's got a little bit of alcohol in him,
0:04:06 > 0:04:09not even drunk but just a little bit, then he's just...
0:04:09 > 0:04:10he turns into an animal.
0:04:10 > 0:04:17When Pat's drunk, he loses that special something, he's not...
0:04:17 > 0:04:20he's definitely not as handsome when he's drunk.
0:04:20 > 0:04:23I got with a few girls tonight.
0:04:23 > 0:04:26One was from Galway and she thought I was Irish as well
0:04:26 > 0:04:28because I told her I was from Cappoquin
0:04:28 > 0:04:31and I spoke in an Irish accent, which worked, I got away with it.
0:04:31 > 0:04:35A couple of other girls, they were going home tomorrow so they went home early.
0:04:35 > 0:04:38Yeah, it was an eventful night for the first night.
0:04:38 > 0:04:41Mission accomplished, it was on to his next quest -
0:04:41 > 0:04:44bedding a local beauty.
0:04:44 > 0:04:47I think if I went home with, like, only shagging one bird,
0:04:47 > 0:04:50as long as she was Thai, I wouldn't mind. As long as I could say I come
0:04:50 > 0:04:53out to Thailand, shagged a Thai bird and went home, that's all right.
0:04:53 > 0:04:55One of the things I want to do is, like, sleep
0:04:55 > 0:04:58with, like, kind of every kind of race going.
0:04:58 > 0:05:01And the next night, Pat had his eye focused on the target
0:05:01 > 0:05:04and he was determined not to miss.
0:05:04 > 0:05:08I'd love to have a bit of that, to be honest, because she's pretty...
0:05:08 > 0:05:12Oh, I don't know if she's got a willy...to be honest.
0:05:13 > 0:05:16If she flopped out a willy, I think I'd walk away,
0:05:16 > 0:05:20but if she was beautiful and she's flopped out a willy, I'd be like, "Oh, why not?"
0:05:20 > 0:05:24Ladyboys aside, nothing was going to stop Pat's dream being fulfilled,
0:05:24 > 0:05:26whatever the cost.
0:05:26 > 0:05:28With my mum the thing, she was most angry about
0:05:28 > 0:05:30was probably the prostitute and...
0:05:30 > 0:05:32but leading up to that as well, the drunkenness,
0:05:32 > 0:05:35because I think she puts that drunkenness
0:05:35 > 0:05:37hand in hand with the prostitute.
0:05:37 > 0:05:38I wanted to speak to him and say,
0:05:38 > 0:05:41"Look, do you know what you look like?
0:05:41 > 0:05:44"Do you know what you're doing or saying or whatever?"
0:05:44 > 0:05:47- Yeah, "Pack it in, Pat." That's what you wanted to say, wasn't it? - Yeah, yeah.
0:05:47 > 0:05:49But Pat was on a roll
0:05:49 > 0:05:54and needed some dosh from Dan to pay for his lady of the night.
0:05:54 > 0:05:57Pat said to me, "Oh, quick, give me 1,000 baht."
0:05:57 > 0:05:59I was like, "Why do you want 1,000 baht?"
0:05:59 > 0:06:01He goes, "She said we'll have sex for 1,000 baht."
0:06:01 > 0:06:05I said, "Why are you going to pay for that? You're an idiot."
0:06:05 > 0:06:09In the end, it works out about 20 quid to pay for the prostitute,
0:06:09 > 0:06:11so it's not all bad, really.
0:06:11 > 0:06:14He had to pay money to go with that Thai bird.
0:06:14 > 0:06:18- Oh, jeez!- Exactly, why? Why do you need to pay for that?
0:06:18 > 0:06:20Oh, for God's sake, Patrick.
0:06:20 > 0:06:24That was very uncomfortable, very worrying
0:06:24 > 0:06:27- and I was...really embarrassed. - Mortified.
0:06:27 > 0:06:30Yeah, yeah. Yeah, that says it.
0:06:30 > 0:06:34For my mum to see me sleep with a prostitute,
0:06:34 > 0:06:38it does make you feel a bit bad because that's just not something you want to see.
0:06:38 > 0:06:40My mum obviously knows I go out and sleep with people,
0:06:40 > 0:06:45but a prostitute's kind of low-low, so, yeah, that wasn't a cool thing.
0:06:45 > 0:06:48- He was demonstrating a total lack of respect.- Mm.
0:06:48 > 0:06:51And that really, really hurt me, deeply.
0:06:51 > 0:06:55But when a cocksure Pat returned to his hotel later,
0:06:55 > 0:06:57only one thing was certain.
0:06:57 > 0:07:00I had a great time. It was a good shag.
0:07:00 > 0:07:03Kind of fantastic because I want to do... In my life,
0:07:03 > 0:07:06I want to do every single race going and Thai was obviously
0:07:06 > 0:07:11on the list and now I can tick that one off. That's one of many.
0:07:11 > 0:07:16Pat may have scored, but for the lads, it was an own goal.
0:07:16 > 0:07:21- Funny enough, the girl was a boy, so...- No, she weren't a boy.
0:07:21 > 0:07:24- OK.- She was a bloke?! - She weren't a boy?
0:07:24 > 0:07:26Yeah, I'm pretty sure that she was a girl because she
0:07:26 > 0:07:28was all wet and that, so it can't work...
0:07:28 > 0:07:29I know they make the cut-and-shuts,
0:07:29 > 0:07:31but I don't think they work that good.
0:07:31 > 0:07:33She had a vagina, mate.
0:07:33 > 0:07:36- He wouldn't say if he was protected or not, would he?- No.
0:07:36 > 0:07:40I know it's not a question that... You don't want to ask the boy,
0:07:40 > 0:07:42but you know when you think to yourself,
0:07:42 > 0:07:45"Well, hold on a minute, if you was that much of a numpty
0:07:45 > 0:07:49"to go off and do it, was you that much of a numpty not to...
0:07:49 > 0:07:50- "you know, use protection?"- Mm.
0:07:50 > 0:07:52- But he wouldn't actually tell us, would he?- No.
0:07:52 > 0:07:55The second we got home, one of the first things Mum was on to me
0:07:55 > 0:07:57about was going down to the clinic.
0:07:57 > 0:08:01I went down there in the end, and it was all all right, so it's not bad.
0:08:01 > 0:08:04And after that bareback gallop,
0:08:04 > 0:08:07the next ride Pat took he rode with a saddle.
0:08:07 > 0:08:08How you doing, boys?
0:08:08 > 0:08:11This is great, Pat. "Ride an elephant," you said.
0:08:11 > 0:08:14This jungle journey was also a good time for Pat to reflect
0:08:14 > 0:08:16- on his adventures. - Making me a bit nervous.
0:08:16 > 0:08:18Since Thailand, there is a couple of little things I regret.
0:08:18 > 0:08:22You know, I regret getting so drunk on the first couple of nights.
0:08:22 > 0:08:25Even though the first night we had a good night, the second night really was...
0:08:25 > 0:08:28It's funny to look back, I'll laugh about it in ten years' time
0:08:28 > 0:08:30but at the minute, I'm proper embarrassed about
0:08:30 > 0:08:34what happened with the prostitute and stuff like that. It's just terrible, really.
0:08:34 > 0:08:37And even with that ladyboy. So that's disgusting.
0:08:37 > 0:08:40But it's done now, and can't do nothing about it
0:08:40 > 0:08:43and I suppose you've got to learn your lesson from it.
0:08:43 > 0:08:44Oh, wow.
0:08:44 > 0:08:46ALL LAUGH
0:08:46 > 0:08:48God, I'm scared, though.
0:08:48 > 0:08:53Yeah, I think I've realised that maybe I should calm down a little.
0:08:53 > 0:08:57I think Thailand was a bit of a wake-up call for Patrick.
0:08:57 > 0:09:01Now he seems to have much more of a zest for life
0:09:01 > 0:09:05- and an enthusiasm. He's motivated again.- Yeah.
0:09:05 > 0:09:07When we was out in Thailand, I realised that there was a lot
0:09:07 > 0:09:10more to just Romford, there's another half of the world
0:09:10 > 0:09:13that I don't even know nothing about, so one of the main things
0:09:13 > 0:09:15is that I do want to go out travelling again now.
0:09:15 > 0:09:17I know I have to earn money, no-one else will pay for that,
0:09:17 > 0:09:20so all I want to do really is work hard for a little while
0:09:20 > 0:09:22and then hopefully go sometime next year.
0:09:25 > 0:09:28And a newly inspired Pat was determined not to waste
0:09:28 > 0:09:31his last days on the island, going all-out for a good rave
0:09:31 > 0:09:34and now strictly sticking with his best buddies.
0:09:36 > 0:09:38But we're in.
0:09:39 > 0:09:42Thailand's changed me in quite a few ways,
0:09:42 > 0:09:43like with going out and drinking.
0:09:43 > 0:09:45I've changed my ideas about that, you know.
0:09:45 > 0:09:48I know it's not all about girls now, I know you can go out
0:09:48 > 0:09:50and have a laugh whether you're... you know,
0:09:50 > 0:09:52sitting around your mate's house for a beer
0:09:52 > 0:09:56or whether you're out, you know, it's not all about that.
0:09:57 > 0:10:00I've got 1,000 baht in my hand which is about 25 quid which is
0:10:00 > 0:10:02enough for a few drinks.
0:10:02 > 0:10:04It is the price of a prostitute, but I've grown up
0:10:04 > 0:10:08since the other day and I ain't doing that no more.
0:10:08 > 0:10:11- PHIL:- Good lad!- Thanks, Phil.
0:10:12 > 0:10:14He says thank you a lot now.
0:10:14 > 0:10:16And I think it's because
0:10:16 > 0:10:21he appreciates what he's got
0:10:21 > 0:10:22a lot more.
0:10:22 > 0:10:24I wanted to stay there and the boys want to go home
0:10:24 > 0:10:26and it's a team effort,
0:10:26 > 0:10:29so if they want to go home, we've got to go home.
0:10:29 > 0:10:31Since I've got back I still go out a bit,
0:10:31 > 0:10:33but it's like, I used to go out like every night,
0:10:33 > 0:10:35and now it's only once or twice a week.
0:10:35 > 0:10:39And last day, with girls off the cards for good,
0:10:39 > 0:10:43Pat was thankful he could seek some relief elsewhere.
0:10:43 > 0:10:45But little did he know
0:10:45 > 0:10:47that this particular body rub
0:10:47 > 0:10:49would have a surprise finish.
0:10:50 > 0:10:53Was as bit weird, I found, turning around and finding my mum
0:10:53 > 0:10:55at the bottom of my legs, from me massage.
0:10:55 > 0:10:58Lise, can you imagine if he would have asked for a happy ending?
0:10:58 > 0:11:02Oh, I'd have... I just... I'd have left.
0:11:02 > 0:11:04- You turn over now.- Turn over?- Yeah.
0:11:04 > 0:11:06Which way?
0:11:06 > 0:11:09Oh, fuck off. Have a look.
0:11:09 > 0:11:13Was that you doing that? Fucking hell, woman.
0:11:14 > 0:11:16Oi, oi, Mum!
0:11:16 > 0:11:18- Hello, love.- She had a big smile on her face
0:11:18 > 0:11:20and that was really nice,
0:11:20 > 0:11:23but then I thought straightaway the first thing was "prostitute"
0:11:23 > 0:11:25about, "What's my mum going to think?"
0:11:25 > 0:11:28I brought someone with me, because I couldn't come on my own.
0:11:28 > 0:11:31Hi, Tina.
0:11:31 > 0:11:34- How are you?- I'm all right, yeah.
0:11:34 > 0:11:36Well, thanks, girls.
0:11:36 > 0:11:38It would have been dodgy if I'd turned round
0:11:38 > 0:11:40and there was a boner going on or something, you know,
0:11:40 > 0:11:43and it was my mum, that would have been awkward to explain.
0:11:43 > 0:11:45Been a funny old week.
0:11:45 > 0:11:49- It has indeed.- I have to say, I was very stressed at the beginning
0:11:49 > 0:11:52and to be so close to you and not be able to come and tell you
0:11:52 > 0:11:55that I was worried
0:11:55 > 0:11:58was really, really hard.
0:11:58 > 0:12:01I think if I'd come back from Thailand and nothing had changed
0:12:01 > 0:12:03then I don't think she'd be too happy about anything.
0:12:03 > 0:12:05But I've come back and I think I've realised my mistakes
0:12:05 > 0:12:07and she's been really happy,
0:12:07 > 0:12:09so she's just been bubbly and happy since
0:12:09 > 0:12:10and I think she's let it all slide.
0:12:10 > 0:12:14It's weird, cos you don't think that you will change in just a week.
0:12:14 > 0:12:16I think I've learnt more about myself
0:12:16 > 0:12:17and I just want to keep learning more.
0:12:17 > 0:12:19The outcome has been positive.
0:12:19 > 0:12:24I know how much better Patrick is for it,
0:12:24 > 0:12:27so that will make all the embarrassment and that
0:12:27 > 0:12:29- worth it, really.- Yeah.
0:12:35 > 0:12:3820-year-old Huddersfield boy Alex was going on a trip of a lifetime,
0:12:38 > 0:12:39first stop Bangkok,
0:12:39 > 0:12:43with its bonkers bars and naughty nightlife.
0:12:44 > 0:12:46How do you feel about seeing a girl
0:12:46 > 0:12:48fire a ping-pong ball out of her pussy?
0:12:50 > 0:12:52Don't remember much of Bangkok.
0:12:52 > 0:12:54I remember being excited when we got there.
0:12:54 > 0:12:55How exciting.
0:12:55 > 0:12:57Cheers.
0:12:57 > 0:13:00Back at home in Yorkshire, doting mum Suzanna...
0:13:00 > 0:13:04Don't forget these, darling. Hair remover.
0:13:04 > 0:13:05..felt she knew her son well.
0:13:05 > 0:13:09I think Alexander's really good with money.
0:13:09 > 0:13:11I'm really, really, really bad with money.
0:13:11 > 0:13:14Thailand's pretty cheap, I'd like to spend 500,
0:13:14 > 0:13:16that would be a good amount for me.
0:13:17 > 0:13:19But it's highly unlikely.
0:13:19 > 0:13:21I do, like, flash my cash
0:13:21 > 0:13:25and act as if I'm a millionaire
0:13:25 > 0:13:26with a teenager's wallet.
0:13:27 > 0:13:29And when Alex was in the money,
0:13:29 > 0:13:32what mum Suzanna didn't know was that it was spent one way.
0:13:34 > 0:13:36I've never seen him really drunk at all.
0:13:36 > 0:13:38He doesn't drink at home.
0:13:39 > 0:13:42Within... Then... Ah, I'm so drunk.
0:13:42 > 0:13:46I think his drinking did concern me at times.
0:13:46 > 0:13:49I think he felt that he was on a rugby tour.
0:13:51 > 0:13:54We are going to fuck shit up in Bangkok.
0:13:54 > 0:13:56And to help on this mission
0:13:56 > 0:13:58were best friends Josh and Tom.
0:13:58 > 0:14:00Bye!
0:14:02 > 0:14:05With only one night in Bangkok,
0:14:05 > 0:14:09secret party-boy Alex was determined not to waste a minute.
0:14:09 > 0:14:12- Tuk-tuk! Tuk-tuk!- Tuk-tuk! Tuk-tuk!
0:14:12 > 0:14:14- Tuk-tuk!- Tuk-tuk!- Tuk-tuk!
0:14:17 > 0:14:18Whoa, look at her.
0:14:18 > 0:14:20We want pussy. We want pussy!
0:14:20 > 0:14:22And with cats on the menu,
0:14:22 > 0:14:26these hungry tigers first lapped up plenty of giggle juice.
0:14:30 > 0:14:33Don't remember what went on in the strip club at all.
0:14:35 > 0:14:37Unfortunately for Alex,
0:14:37 > 0:14:42Suzanna and partner Paul were spying on him for the first time.
0:14:42 > 0:14:44I don't think my mum's that impressed
0:14:44 > 0:14:46with me going to a strip club.
0:14:47 > 0:14:51If that was one of the experiences that he needed to have, so be it.
0:14:51 > 0:14:54Pole-dancing may not have concerned mum...
0:14:54 > 0:14:56but Alex's wallet-opening habits did.
0:14:56 > 0:14:58He's paying money?!
0:14:59 > 0:15:01I was absolutely horrified
0:15:01 > 0:15:04about his relationship with money
0:15:04 > 0:15:06whilst we were away.
0:15:06 > 0:15:10I'll flash my cash and I'll put..
0:15:10 > 0:15:13I'll put money where.. where their knickers are.
0:15:13 > 0:15:16I don't really care, like.
0:15:16 > 0:15:21In the first night I think I spent around £200.
0:15:21 > 0:15:24I woke up the next morning and thought someone had robbed me.
0:15:24 > 0:15:26You've spent 6,000 baht
0:15:26 > 0:15:28and you've been putting money in knickers.
0:15:28 > 0:15:32I definitely wasn't shoving money down anyone's pants.
0:15:32 > 0:15:34I think that was a big eye-opener for him,
0:15:34 > 0:15:37not to be able to remember that and to really, really think
0:15:37 > 0:15:39that he had been robbed.
0:15:39 > 0:15:42After a spending frenzy in balmy Bangkok,
0:15:42 > 0:15:46it was time for the relative peace and tranquillity of Koh Samui,
0:15:46 > 0:15:48but Alex had a problem.
0:15:50 > 0:15:53I'm spending a fucking fortune. This is going to kill me.
0:15:53 > 0:15:56- Is he working out how much he's spent?- I might cry.
0:15:56 > 0:15:57Come on, let's see.
0:15:57 > 0:15:59You had 1,000, didn't you, for the holiday?
0:15:59 > 0:16:01Yep.
0:16:01 > 0:16:02He brought £1,000 with him?
0:16:02 > 0:16:04I've got 400 left.
0:16:04 > 0:16:07Well, he's given away a lot of it.
0:16:07 > 0:16:10Alexander hasn't told me the truth about how much he spent on the trip.
0:16:10 > 0:16:12Over the holiday in Thailand
0:16:12 > 0:16:15I'm pretty sure I spent about two grand.
0:16:15 > 0:16:19Money issues are an ongoing discussion with us.
0:16:19 > 0:16:21Might have to extend my overdraft.
0:16:22 > 0:16:24Fuck it, let's go out.
0:16:24 > 0:16:26Carefree and more money borrowed,
0:16:26 > 0:16:29there was only one thing to do -
0:16:29 > 0:16:32go on an all-day booze-bender and splash more cash.
0:16:32 > 0:16:35THEY CHEER
0:16:41 > 0:16:44That is disgusting, why is he drinking so quickly?
0:16:48 > 0:16:50I'm pretty drunk now.
0:16:50 > 0:16:52Really, really drunk now.
0:16:52 > 0:16:53I'm not surprised!
0:16:53 > 0:16:55Before we went out,
0:16:55 > 0:16:59we decided that we were going to do loads of cultural stuff
0:16:59 > 0:17:01and have a party at the same time.
0:17:01 > 0:17:03When we got out there,
0:17:03 > 0:17:06everything got just a bit too exciting
0:17:06 > 0:17:08and erm...
0:17:08 > 0:17:12we spent the whole of the duration of the trip drunk.
0:17:12 > 0:17:16I mean, it was full-on drinking and that, for any parent,
0:17:16 > 0:17:18you know, was excessive,
0:17:18 > 0:17:21and something that we've addressed since he came back.
0:17:23 > 0:17:25- I'm not liking this. - SHE GASPS
0:17:29 > 0:17:33- Oh,- my god. You didn't know he smoked, did you?
0:17:33 > 0:17:37- You didn't know?- Oh, my god. Oh, my god. He's got a cigarette.
0:17:37 > 0:17:39But smoking wasn't all.
0:17:39 > 0:17:42Alex was on fire.
0:17:43 > 0:17:45Pretty good.
0:17:52 > 0:17:55Apart from seeing me with a cigarette in my mouth,
0:17:55 > 0:18:00I think my mum was a bit disgusted
0:18:00 > 0:18:03with me being in a shower with an Australian girl.
0:18:03 > 0:18:07But we were on holiday, that shit happens on holiday.
0:18:10 > 0:18:12He's just got loads to learn.
0:18:13 > 0:18:17I've heard I ran through the hotel naked.
0:18:17 > 0:18:20Honestly, I don't actually remember.
0:18:20 > 0:18:24Oh, well, doesn't really matter, does it?
0:18:26 > 0:18:29And as if flashing his man-bits in public wasn't enough,
0:18:29 > 0:18:31when it came to the clubbing...
0:18:31 > 0:18:36Music's banging, mate. I love the music here.
0:18:36 > 0:18:37..it wasn't so much "bust a move"
0:18:37 > 0:18:39as "break a leg".
0:18:39 > 0:18:41'I was just off my head,'
0:18:41 > 0:18:43dancing like an absolute tit.
0:18:44 > 0:18:49And this time, Mum was there to catch his fancy footwork.
0:18:49 > 0:18:53When I was in the club, that was a bittersweet memory, to be honest.
0:18:54 > 0:18:56Actually he's really, really tired.
0:18:56 > 0:18:58He's collapsed, really.
0:18:58 > 0:19:00It was fun to be there,
0:19:00 > 0:19:02but I really, really was distressed
0:19:02 > 0:19:05to see the amount of...
0:19:05 > 0:19:08the drinking and the.. I mean, he just seemed..
0:19:08 > 0:19:11I was worried that he was going to be really ill that night.
0:19:11 > 0:19:13I've cut down on my drinking
0:19:13 > 0:19:15just because I'm looking after my body more,
0:19:15 > 0:19:17like, I go to the gym twice a day now,
0:19:17 > 0:19:21and it's gone well so far, and saved me money.
0:19:22 > 0:19:25When we got back from Thailand, we addressed his drinking
0:19:25 > 0:19:27and I suppose... I think that, you know,
0:19:27 > 0:19:31your drinking really does show out more than anything else,
0:19:31 > 0:19:35and the change in him since he's come back
0:19:35 > 0:19:36has been incredible.
0:19:38 > 0:19:40But back in Thailand, nursing a hangover,
0:19:40 > 0:19:43Alex was about to get the shock of his life.
0:19:43 > 0:19:45I've had a really good time so far.
0:19:45 > 0:19:47- I have.- I like Thailand, love it.
0:19:47 > 0:19:50Me and the lads, we were out for the whole day,
0:19:50 > 0:19:51'just chilling on the beach.
0:19:51 > 0:19:53'We were lying on our deckchairs,
0:19:53 > 0:19:58'suddenly this Thai shopper... selling woman
0:19:58 > 0:20:00'with scarves on her arms
0:20:00 > 0:20:02'comes up to me, taps me on the shoulder going,
0:20:02 > 0:20:05- '"Shopping, shopping."' - Shopping, cheap.
0:20:05 > 0:20:06- No, thank you.- Cheap.
0:20:06 > 0:20:08That suits you. That suits you.
0:20:08 > 0:20:10And I'm getting really pissed off.
0:20:10 > 0:20:13- Shopping.- No, sorry. - That colour suits you.- Very cheap.
0:20:13 > 0:20:17The reveal was probably one of the best memories of the week.
0:20:17 > 0:20:19- Cheap for take home. - Oh, it's my mum.
0:20:19 > 0:20:22- It's your- mum? Shopping. - It's my fucking mum.
0:20:22 > 0:20:25Mum? THEY LAUGH
0:20:29 > 0:20:32'Penny dropped, I just knew.'
0:20:32 > 0:20:33I was like, "Fuck."
0:20:33 > 0:20:36I've watched everything.
0:20:36 > 0:20:39- Gallons of alcohol. - Oh, I've been stitched up.
0:20:39 > 0:20:40The money in the knickers.
0:20:42 > 0:20:44What about the cigarettes?
0:20:44 > 0:20:45Ah...
0:20:46 > 0:20:49But that was just a holiday thing
0:20:49 > 0:20:50and it doesn't...
0:20:50 > 0:20:52It won't continue back here.
0:20:55 > 0:20:59I think it's been harder for me, but you won't have realised that.
0:20:59 > 0:21:01- No, I understand that, like, for me...- Do you?
0:21:01 > 0:21:03Obviously, I didn't know you were here,
0:21:03 > 0:21:06- so I'm just having a great time.- Oh, I know.
0:21:06 > 0:21:08And you're there learning stuff about me.
0:21:08 > 0:21:11I don't think Alexander's learnt the value of money yet,
0:21:11 > 0:21:14I think he's got a long way to go.
0:21:14 > 0:21:18His... His priorities are in the wrong place.
0:21:18 > 0:21:21Flashing cash everywhere - everywhere Alexander.
0:21:21 > 0:21:23- You were buying drinks for everyone.- I know.
0:21:23 > 0:21:26But, well, does that tell you anything?
0:21:26 > 0:21:28I'm just losing my money.
0:21:28 > 0:21:30- But you're not losing it, you're giving it away.- No.
0:21:30 > 0:21:33Your hard-earned cash, you're giving it away.
0:21:33 > 0:21:38I regretted my spending habits for about a week after I got back
0:21:38 > 0:21:43and now it's just gone back to the same-old same old,
0:21:43 > 0:21:46so I'm spending an absolute fortune again.
0:21:48 > 0:21:50Also in Bangkok for a mere 24 hours
0:21:50 > 0:21:53was 22-year-old London boy Joss.
0:21:53 > 0:21:56- # YMCA - It's fun to stay at the
0:21:56 > 0:21:59# YMCA... #
0:21:59 > 0:22:03'Since I've come back from Thailand, so much has changed for me.'
0:22:03 > 0:22:06- Everyone's just so much more happier since we've come back.- Definitely.
0:22:06 > 0:22:09In the UK, an unemployed Joss aspired to stardom.
0:22:09 > 0:22:13My massive goal and dream
0:22:13 > 0:22:15would be to perform on the West End stage,
0:22:15 > 0:22:18but I'll probably end up working at McDonald's, to be fair, like.
0:22:18 > 0:22:21He's desperately looking for a job.
0:22:21 > 0:22:26He's been looking for ages and he does apply and apply and apply.
0:22:26 > 0:22:29But it wasn't just Joss's theatrical dream that needed addressing.
0:22:29 > 0:22:31Sexually you've got to be very careful.
0:22:31 > 0:22:34He's also been less than straight with mum Penny
0:22:34 > 0:22:35regarding his sexuality.
0:22:35 > 0:22:37I'm quite a secretive person,
0:22:37 > 0:22:41I don't really tell my mum a lot of stuff about who I pull,
0:22:41 > 0:22:43who I kiss - I never kiss and tell.
0:22:43 > 0:22:46Bring back, you know, nothing you can't leave on the mantelpiece
0:22:46 > 0:22:48on full display, or..
0:22:48 > 0:22:50La-la-la-la-la-la...
0:22:50 > 0:22:51Yeah, yeah, I know!
0:22:51 > 0:22:55He sort of told me a couple of years ago
0:22:55 > 0:22:59that he doesn't really know which way he wants to go in life.
0:22:59 > 0:23:03I think she's aware a little bit about, like, what sexuality I am,
0:23:03 > 0:23:05but we don't really talk about it.
0:23:05 > 0:23:07I don't think he will have some sort of great epiphany
0:23:07 > 0:23:11and suddenly decide that he is gay or he is straight.
0:23:11 > 0:23:12I think going away to Thailand,
0:23:12 > 0:23:15I think it'll just really, like, start my life, kind of thing.
0:23:15 > 0:23:18Because right now it's gone... downhill and it's not good.
0:23:20 > 0:23:24Joss was hitting Thailand with bosom-buddies Eman and Danielle.
0:23:26 > 0:23:29Bangkok is not ready for us.
0:23:30 > 0:23:33In a city famed for its liberal attitudes,
0:23:33 > 0:23:38Joss and the gang first checked out Bangkok's legendary ladyboy cabaret.
0:23:38 > 0:23:41'They're stunning, they are very, very stunning,'
0:23:41 > 0:23:43like, you'll look at them and go, "Wow."
0:23:43 > 0:23:44I respect the ladyboys so much,
0:23:44 > 0:23:47like, what they've gone through
0:23:47 > 0:23:50and what they've done to become who they want to be is crazy.
0:23:50 > 0:23:52An inspired Joss was revelling in the show,
0:23:52 > 0:23:57but what he didn't know was mum and partner Roberto were in on the act.
0:23:57 > 0:23:58Some of them look amazing
0:23:58 > 0:24:01but then obviously some of them have still got a dick.
0:24:01 > 0:24:03I'm a bit like, "I can see your bulge,"
0:24:03 > 0:24:05like, "Oh, my god, what is going on downstairs?"
0:24:05 > 0:24:08Looking good upstairs, downstairs is not working.
0:24:11 > 0:24:12It's a good opportunity
0:24:12 > 0:24:14for me to see Joss
0:24:14 > 0:24:19and to see him coping in a totally different culture,
0:24:19 > 0:24:20out with his friends,
0:24:20 > 0:24:24how he adapted and how he managed to survive
0:24:24 > 0:24:26in somewhere so, so different,
0:24:26 > 0:24:29when he's never been, really, abroad before.
0:24:29 > 0:24:32He's posing more than they are! Oh, bless him!
0:24:32 > 0:24:33And after the ladyboys,
0:24:33 > 0:24:36a jovial Joss grabbed his moment in the spotlight
0:24:36 > 0:24:37with some moves of his own.
0:24:37 > 0:24:40He's going for it, he's going for it!
0:24:43 > 0:24:46But it was Eman that finally stole the show.
0:24:46 > 0:24:48THEY LAUGH
0:24:52 > 0:24:56Bangkok was absolutely flabbergasting, amazing.
0:24:56 > 0:24:59Everyone was in that... That party vibe, and it was just like
0:24:59 > 0:25:01even if you were, like, really hung-over,
0:25:01 > 0:25:03you were really tired, you would just be in that party vibe...
0:25:03 > 0:25:05- It did... It stunk out there, though.- Oh, yeah.
0:25:05 > 0:25:09All danced out and it was straight from Bangkok to Koh Samui.
0:25:09 > 0:25:12- Welcome to Samui!- ALL: Whoo!
0:25:12 > 0:25:14And after that raucous ride...
0:25:14 > 0:25:15ELEPHANT TRUMPETS
0:25:15 > 0:25:18..Joss was saddled up and raring to go.
0:25:18 > 0:25:21- You look like you're so comfortable up there.- Yeah.
0:25:21 > 0:25:23- You were born to ride an elephant.- Yep.
0:25:23 > 0:25:25You've both got big schlongs.
0:25:25 > 0:25:28I named my elephant Jumbo, and I do miss him.
0:25:28 > 0:25:29My elephant was called Cump.
0:25:31 > 0:25:34Thailand had helped Joss feel free.
0:25:34 > 0:25:37I feel more comfortable with my identity
0:25:37 > 0:25:39and just embracing who I am.
0:25:39 > 0:25:42We're having a bit of a freshen-up now because we feel a bit dirty.
0:25:42 > 0:25:45- Feel minging.- Do you want some more? - Yeah.- Dan, do you want some more?
0:25:45 > 0:25:47This is why it's good hanging around gay guys.
0:25:47 > 0:25:51- Well, one gay.- Another gay. - One gay.- Another gay.- Yeah, one gay.
0:25:51 > 0:25:52And fag hags.
0:25:52 > 0:25:55I always worried about what other people thought about who I am
0:25:55 > 0:25:56and now I don't really give two toss.
0:25:56 > 0:25:59I'm so happy my best friend's a gay as well.
0:25:59 > 0:26:02- Basically Emanuel's a poof.- Shut up!
0:26:02 > 0:26:05Jo-Jo is ready to wave his freak flag.
0:26:07 > 0:26:10For Penny, it was confirmation
0:26:10 > 0:26:12of her son's sexuality.
0:26:13 > 0:26:14I guess we do know him a bit better.
0:26:14 > 0:26:18I think he's had the opportunity to voice things
0:26:18 > 0:26:20that he wouldn't have voiced.
0:26:20 > 0:26:23That's a bit of eye candy.
0:26:23 > 0:26:26- There's condoms in the hotel room. - HE CHUCKLES
0:26:26 > 0:26:29Maybe he's not telling us something we didn't know,
0:26:29 > 0:26:32but it's confirming things that we thought.
0:26:32 > 0:26:34But maybe you didn't realise
0:26:34 > 0:26:36we understood you as well as we did.
0:26:36 > 0:26:40For Mum, certain questions may have been answered,
0:26:40 > 0:26:43but there was still more to come from Joss.
0:26:44 > 0:26:47I got bullied at school nastily, like,
0:26:47 > 0:26:51I was bricked, I was bloody stabbed, I was set on fire and...
0:26:51 > 0:26:53I think...I can't remember one single day at school
0:26:53 > 0:26:57where...I was happy and something went right.
0:26:57 > 0:26:58Like, I remember every single day
0:26:58 > 0:27:00getting either pushed down the stairs,
0:27:00 > 0:27:03or getting dragged across the corridors and it was nasty,
0:27:03 > 0:27:05it was horrible. But without that happening
0:27:05 > 0:27:07I wouldn't be the stronger person I am today.
0:27:07 > 0:27:09He's very strong.
0:27:09 > 0:27:13- God, yes.- He's really strong inside.
0:27:16 > 0:27:17I feel really comfortable here,
0:27:17 > 0:27:20like, I've enjoyed every single moment of being here,
0:27:20 > 0:27:22but it has been hard, growing up,
0:27:22 > 0:27:23it's been a hard journey.
0:27:23 > 0:27:25It's been a hard journey to find out who I am right now.
0:27:25 > 0:27:27As a mum, it is hard to hear
0:27:27 > 0:27:31some of the things that he's had to go through,
0:27:31 > 0:27:36because I think he's very good at protecting me from how he feels.
0:27:36 > 0:27:39I just want to go and give him a hug and tell him it's going to be OK.
0:27:41 > 0:27:42Can't wait.
0:27:42 > 0:27:44I love you, Joss.
0:27:46 > 0:27:48I've come back and I've got a job now
0:27:48 > 0:27:50and I've signed up to, like, a new agency and I've..
0:27:50 > 0:27:53I've come back as a brand-new person, just more fresher.
0:27:53 > 0:27:54And I think, if I didn't go to Thailand,
0:27:54 > 0:27:59I would not be where I am right now in such a more positive place.
0:27:59 > 0:28:02I think Thailand, really,
0:28:02 > 0:28:04in some ways, sort of saved him
0:28:04 > 0:28:08from getting himself into a real depressed state.
0:28:08 > 0:28:10He was getting very unhappy
0:28:10 > 0:28:12and I think it really gave him the opportunity
0:28:12 > 0:28:14to do that self-analysis,
0:28:14 > 0:28:17get himself back in gear, grow his confidence.
0:28:17 > 0:28:20I wish for a six-pack and not a fat-pack.
0:28:20 > 0:28:22This was Joss's journey,
0:28:22 > 0:28:24but there was one thing he hadn't discovered yet.
0:28:25 > 0:28:28Mum Penny had been desperate to see her son
0:28:28 > 0:28:31after a roller coaster of a week.
0:28:31 > 0:28:34But when a knock at the door came...
0:28:34 > 0:28:35Oh, fuck off.
0:28:35 > 0:28:37..nobody could have predicted the outcome.
0:28:37 > 0:28:39Yeah, yeah, no, fuck off.
0:28:41 > 0:28:44At the time, it felt the whole holiday was all fake,
0:28:44 > 0:28:47it just went from really happy to really fake.
0:28:47 > 0:28:49- Ohh!- Oh, boy!
0:28:49 > 0:28:51Hello, guys.
0:28:51 > 0:28:53Where's he gone?
0:28:53 > 0:28:56- Oh, he's in the toilet.- Is he all right?- Oh, no.- He's going to cry.
0:28:56 > 0:28:58It will be all right.
0:28:58 > 0:29:01- Cringe moment.- I don't understand why you freaked out so much.
0:29:01 > 0:29:03Would you freak out if your mum was there?
0:29:03 > 0:29:06I probably would have drop-kicked her, but..
0:29:08 > 0:29:09Come out, honey.
0:29:09 > 0:29:10He won't come out.
0:29:12 > 0:29:14- 'It wasn't a happy reveal.'- 'No.'
0:29:14 > 0:29:19Was it? It was... It was very stressful, very emotional.
0:29:19 > 0:29:20Shouldn't have done it, should I?
0:29:20 > 0:29:22Haven't seen anything bad.
0:29:22 > 0:29:23Joss?
0:29:25 > 0:29:27He just sees it as a betrayal of trust
0:29:27 > 0:29:30and I know exactly what's going through his head.
0:29:32 > 0:29:35- It was an emotional night. - Yeah.- It was a horrible night,
0:29:35 > 0:29:36like, it was just...shell-shocked.
0:29:36 > 0:29:38SHE SIGHS
0:29:42 > 0:29:44But it wasn't all bad.
0:29:44 > 0:29:45After some time out,
0:29:45 > 0:29:48Joss waved his peace flag and faced Mum.
0:29:48 > 0:29:50I hated having to lie to you
0:29:50 > 0:29:53- because I don't tell you lies. - No, I know.- You know I don't.
0:29:53 > 0:29:57'Because my mum saw my story about my sexuality and everything'
0:29:57 > 0:30:00and she accepts who I am and she just embraces who I am,
0:30:00 > 0:30:02and she's always going to me, "You're my best friend,"
0:30:02 > 0:30:04like, "I'm not going to worry about who you are
0:30:04 > 0:30:05"just as long as you're happy."
0:30:05 > 0:30:08And it's always good to get the reassurance from your mum
0:30:08 > 0:30:10and know that she's always there supporting you.
0:30:10 > 0:30:12Just go home now and just push everything
0:30:12 > 0:30:16and just make sure I don't let myself down again.
0:30:16 > 0:30:18You never let yourself down,
0:30:18 > 0:30:19you've just got pushed down
0:30:19 > 0:30:21and just lost a bit of your confidence,
0:30:21 > 0:30:24because it's been knocked and knocked.
0:30:24 > 0:30:26'Since we've come back from Thailand,
0:30:26 > 0:30:29'he's definitely got his mojo back,'
0:30:29 > 0:30:32he's really looking to get on with his life now
0:30:32 > 0:30:35and that's really good, good to see,
0:30:35 > 0:30:38that's the best thing that came out of it for us, really.
0:30:42 > 0:30:45Bristol party-girl Jo
0:30:45 > 0:30:47was waited upon hand-and-foot by mum Julie.
0:30:47 > 0:30:48Bit higher.
0:30:48 > 0:30:51Going to Thailand made me appreciate my mum more.
0:30:51 > 0:30:53She does tidy up after me a lot.
0:30:53 > 0:30:56Mum, have you see my scarf?
0:30:56 > 0:30:58- She likes it. She likes cleaning. - She does like it.
0:30:58 > 0:31:01Mum, have you seen my grey shorts?
0:31:01 > 0:31:03Before Jo took off for Thailand
0:31:03 > 0:31:07she would rely on Julie 100%.
0:31:07 > 0:31:09Jo, haven't you forgotten something?
0:31:09 > 0:31:11- Yeah.- Sun cream.
0:31:11 > 0:31:14And a frustrated stepdad Rob
0:31:14 > 0:31:17hadn't had the best relationship with Jo either.
0:31:17 > 0:31:19We had a rocky stage with Jo
0:31:19 > 0:31:21where the evil stepfather,
0:31:21 > 0:31:23wouldn't let her do this, et cetera.
0:31:23 > 0:31:26Jo and Rob now, after Thailand, is...
0:31:26 > 0:31:27is nice for me,
0:31:27 > 0:31:29because it takes the pressure off me,
0:31:29 > 0:31:33I can just leave them in a room together and not worry.
0:31:33 > 0:31:37I mean, she'll even make a cup of tea for me now, it's wonderful.
0:31:37 > 0:31:39It may just be a brew at home,
0:31:39 > 0:31:44but Jo also had a reputation as a girl that loved going on the lash.
0:31:44 > 0:31:46That's what we wanted to see, we wanted to see party Jo.
0:31:46 > 0:31:48A vodka and Red Bull as well, please.
0:31:48 > 0:31:50My toes curl when she goes out in Bristol.
0:31:50 > 0:31:53I think, "Oh, what are you going to get up to tonight, Jo?"
0:31:54 > 0:31:59Jo was bound for Patong on the paradise island of Phuket
0:31:59 > 0:32:02and she invited best mates Shaz and Natalie along for the party.
0:32:02 > 0:32:04Taxi time!
0:32:06 > 0:32:08And on arrival at the hotel,
0:32:08 > 0:32:11things didn't get off to a smooth start for the girls.
0:32:12 > 0:32:14Um, where's our suitcases? Huh?
0:32:19 > 0:32:21Left our suitcases on the road, oops!
0:32:23 > 0:32:25I just assumed someone was going to take it,
0:32:25 > 0:32:26I know that sounds really up my own arse
0:32:26 > 0:32:28but I really thought someone was going to take it.
0:32:28 > 0:32:31Does anybody want a drink?
0:32:32 > 0:32:34We drunk the whole minibar as well,
0:32:34 > 0:32:36not realising we had to pay for it.
0:32:36 > 0:32:39You have to pay for stuff out of the bar, don't you?
0:32:39 > 0:32:41What, that?
0:32:41 > 0:32:44Why'd they put it in there if you've got to pay for it?
0:32:44 > 0:32:46- It's like, "Ooh, bar!"- Beers.
0:32:48 > 0:32:51With the revelation that nothing in life is free,
0:32:51 > 0:32:54the girls made a dash for Patong's shameless saucy strip.
0:32:56 > 0:32:57Little bit scared.
0:32:58 > 0:33:02Quickly discovering it was a very different affair to Bristol.
0:33:03 > 0:33:07It is so busy and there's people, like, ladyboys everywhere.
0:33:07 > 0:33:09Yeah, can we have a photo?
0:33:10 > 0:33:13- 110?- Yeah.- For a photo?
0:33:13 > 0:33:14- Yeah.- Oh!
0:33:17 > 0:33:19OK. OK, bye.
0:33:21 > 0:33:22Fuck that.
0:33:22 > 0:33:24- Phuket is very... - Busy.- Touristy, yeah, yeah.
0:33:24 > 0:33:27I was like, "Is this what it's like all the time?"
0:33:27 > 0:33:29A ping-pong show.
0:33:29 > 0:33:31But we were just, like, "Uhh!" at the start,
0:33:31 > 0:33:34and then they were following you, like, following...
0:33:34 > 0:33:36"Miss, come here, miss." And you're like, "Oh, no way."
0:33:36 > 0:33:40- No, thanks.- She's not interested.
0:33:40 > 0:33:41Jo wasn't liking the hassle,
0:33:41 > 0:33:45but Julie was more surprised that her daughter was a party pooper.
0:33:45 > 0:33:47She seems quite sober, doesn't she?
0:33:47 > 0:33:48- Yeah.- Yeah.
0:33:48 > 0:33:51We'll go back and party hard tomorrow.
0:33:51 > 0:33:52I am quite shocked,
0:33:52 > 0:33:54I thought she would have gone out there full-blast.
0:33:54 > 0:33:56I need sleep, yeah, I need sleep.
0:33:56 > 0:33:58With that, the girls called it a night.
0:33:58 > 0:34:00- Night, guys.- Night.
0:34:00 > 0:34:02But the next evening,
0:34:02 > 0:34:05Mum was on a mission to get her daughter mashed.
0:34:05 > 0:34:06Oh, hi, Jo.
0:34:06 > 0:34:09- Are you OK?- Yeah, I'm good.
0:34:09 > 0:34:10When Jo was away
0:34:10 > 0:34:13we felt that she needed to party a little bit harder because...
0:34:13 > 0:34:14That's what...
0:34:14 > 0:34:17We hear stories from her friends of what Jo's like
0:34:17 > 0:34:18and we didn't see that.
0:34:18 > 0:34:21- Go out there and enjoy yourself, OK?- Yeah.
0:34:21 > 0:34:24It's a fantastic opportunity, go and enjoy yourself with your mates.
0:34:24 > 0:34:27- I will.- We were saying, "We can do better than this, can't we?"
0:34:27 > 0:34:30I was going, "Give her some vodka." What a bad parent I am!
0:34:30 > 0:34:32Give her some more vodka, what will it take?
0:34:32 > 0:34:35Give her some vodka, give her some shots, in fact. No? Shots.
0:34:35 > 0:34:36When my mum said that
0:34:36 > 0:34:39she was disappointed that we didn't drink enough, or we're not drinking
0:34:39 > 0:34:42- enough, it makes me feel like, oh, my god, I'm, like...- Boring.
0:34:42 > 0:34:45- Yes, ready.- Finally.
0:34:45 > 0:34:48Determined not to fail her party parents,
0:34:48 > 0:34:50Jo tried to make up for lost time.
0:34:52 > 0:34:55Drinking in Thailand is so strong.
0:34:55 > 0:34:57It may be mind-bending booze,
0:34:57 > 0:35:01but for Jo something wasn't quite right.
0:35:01 > 0:35:03I kind of wish now
0:35:03 > 0:35:05that when my mum said to party harder, we should have.
0:35:05 > 0:35:08I just felt like because you're in a different country
0:35:08 > 0:35:11and you're so far away and there's loads of people you don't know...
0:35:11 > 0:35:14I don't know, you have to just be careful.
0:35:14 > 0:35:16Caution was the name of the game for Jo,
0:35:16 > 0:35:18but her parents were yet to paint the town red,
0:35:18 > 0:35:22and when they did it was a real eye-opener.
0:35:23 > 0:35:25Felt quite intimidated by it all
0:35:25 > 0:35:28and I wouldn't like to be in a position
0:35:28 > 0:35:30where I'm kind of helpless in that situation.
0:35:31 > 0:35:34Then when Julie and Rob spied on Jo in a bar first-hand...
0:35:34 > 0:35:39Because Jo said she would never, ever be in a club
0:35:39 > 0:35:40- at the same time with you.- Yeah.
0:35:40 > 0:35:43..it all suddenly became clear.
0:35:43 > 0:35:46I'll be honest, I'm not surprised
0:35:46 > 0:35:49that Jo's not maybe entirely being herself, because this is quite...
0:35:49 > 0:35:52- You can understand. - It's quite scary, isn't it?
0:35:52 > 0:35:53She's going to be cautious.
0:35:53 > 0:35:55We decided halfway through the week,
0:35:55 > 0:35:59when we were watching, that it wasn't about how drunk Jo could get,
0:35:59 > 0:36:02it was about Jo discovering herself,
0:36:02 > 0:36:05and it was about us, as parents,
0:36:05 > 0:36:07basically being quite wrong about her.
0:36:07 > 0:36:10It was a revelation for Julie and Rob,
0:36:10 > 0:36:13but there was even more to come from this new mature Jo.
0:36:13 > 0:36:16I do think that I see my stepdad as another dad.
0:36:16 > 0:36:18I'm so glad that my mum met him,
0:36:18 > 0:36:20I'm glad he moved in with us.
0:36:20 > 0:36:22He's not like a replacement, obviously, he's just..
0:36:22 > 0:36:24I've got two dads, basically.
0:36:27 > 0:36:31When I heard that conversation, that was really touching.
0:36:31 > 0:36:34Obviously I didn't know Rob was going to, like,
0:36:34 > 0:36:37know that stuff I said about him,
0:36:37 > 0:36:38but I'm really glad he did hear it,
0:36:38 > 0:36:41because we wouldn't be as close, like, now.
0:36:41 > 0:36:43It was a massive moment,
0:36:43 > 0:36:44but quickly forgotten
0:36:44 > 0:36:47when Julie and Rob got to snoop in Jo's room
0:36:47 > 0:36:50and it was apparent that some things would never change.
0:36:52 > 0:36:54Oh, my fucking god.
0:36:54 > 0:36:57- Look at the state of that. - Oh, my god.
0:36:57 > 0:37:00Oh, my god, that room was a state.
0:37:00 > 0:37:02You couldn't walk... Like, there was no...
0:37:02 > 0:37:05Like, you couldn't see the floor sometimes, it was that bad.
0:37:07 > 0:37:09I'm shocked.
0:37:09 > 0:37:12At least we left a challenge for the maids.
0:37:12 > 0:37:14I'm just thinking of what Jo's room would look like
0:37:14 > 0:37:15if you didn't tidy it.
0:37:15 > 0:37:18There's still no household chores done by Jo.
0:37:18 > 0:37:20I haven't seen her tidy her bedroom
0:37:20 > 0:37:23- since she's been back. - No, but I've been really good,
0:37:23 > 0:37:25because I know that Jo wants her bedroom left like that,
0:37:25 > 0:37:27so I've had to really,
0:37:27 > 0:37:29like, "Shut the door, Julie, walk away."
0:37:29 > 0:37:30Oh, my god!
0:37:30 > 0:37:33But there was little chance of Jo walking away
0:37:33 > 0:37:34on her last day in Thailand
0:37:34 > 0:37:36when her parents surprised her.
0:37:36 > 0:37:39What the fuck? What the fuck?!
0:37:39 > 0:37:42What the fuck, what the fuck, what the fuck?!
0:37:42 > 0:37:44Your room is a pigsty!
0:37:44 > 0:37:46I've never seen anything like it.
0:37:48 > 0:37:51It was such a shock to see, like, my mum and Rob.
0:37:51 > 0:37:53Jo, seriously,
0:37:53 > 0:37:57major proud of you - me and Rob have been so proud of you, all of you.
0:37:57 > 0:37:59- Yeah.- Look at it. - I've misjudged you.- Why?
0:37:59 > 0:38:01- I thought you were a tearaway. - No.- But you're not.
0:38:01 > 0:38:04- You're a little softy, aren't you? A little softy.- I am.
0:38:04 > 0:38:06'Ever since I've come back,'
0:38:06 > 0:38:11I just feel like the changes in our family are, like,
0:38:11 > 0:38:12we're all just a lot closer.
0:38:12 > 0:38:15I think Jo is a... is a lot more grown up...
0:38:15 > 0:38:18- Yeah.- ..than she makes on at home. - She put us to shame, really.
0:38:18 > 0:38:21She does. You're such a... such a bad mother.
0:38:26 > 0:38:2920-year-old Bristol student Billy
0:38:29 > 0:38:31was about to jet off halfway around the world
0:38:31 > 0:38:33on his first-ever lads' holiday.
0:38:33 > 0:38:35Would you wear these?
0:38:35 > 0:38:38But before he left, mum Jan had a couple of concerns.
0:38:38 > 0:38:39No, I think I'll leave them here.
0:38:39 > 0:38:41Are you planning to drink every night?
0:38:41 > 0:38:44I will, at some point, be very, very, very, very, very drunk.
0:38:44 > 0:38:48Definitely, definitely, definitely drank too much on this holiday.
0:38:48 > 0:38:49But it wasn't just the boozing,
0:38:49 > 0:38:53it was Billy trying to keep up with his mates that worried Mum.
0:38:53 > 0:38:56Billy's very strong in making his own mind up, but not always.
0:38:56 > 0:38:59Everybody succumbs to peer pressure at some point in their lives.
0:38:59 > 0:39:01I think it's a general part of growing up.
0:39:01 > 0:39:03You can have, like, a great group of friends
0:39:03 > 0:39:06and go out on a night out with them and everything will be fine,
0:39:06 > 0:39:09but going on holiday with them is a different ball game.
0:39:11 > 0:39:13Billy was travelling to the beautiful island of Koh Samui
0:39:13 > 0:39:16with best beer-buddies Jay and Ali,
0:39:16 > 0:39:21and on arrival it was clear he had a different outlook to the boys.
0:39:21 > 0:39:23If I was on my own, it would all be about the culture,
0:39:23 > 0:39:25but because I've got Ali and Jay with me, I think...
0:39:25 > 0:39:28What are you talking about?! This guy is like...
0:39:28 > 0:39:30Beer o'clock. Drink, drink, drink, pussy!
0:39:32 > 0:39:34I may as well do the honours, yeah?
0:39:34 > 0:39:37And it was Ali's way that won the day.
0:39:37 > 0:39:39Whatever you drink tonight, I'll drink.
0:39:39 > 0:39:42- We'll hold you to that as well. - You are going to be on your arse, mate, serious.
0:39:42 > 0:39:47I think the moments where I gave in to peer pressure in Thailand
0:39:47 > 0:39:49were those live-for-the-moment minutes
0:39:49 > 0:39:53where I had to either do it or, you know, not do it.
0:39:53 > 0:39:56Billy may have been determined to match the boys
0:39:56 > 0:40:00but what he didn't know was mum Jan and family friend Andi
0:40:00 > 0:40:02were now watching and about to be shocked.
0:40:02 > 0:40:03HE BELCHES
0:40:03 > 0:40:07When we first started to spy on him, I felt quite excited
0:40:07 > 0:40:09and cheeky and naughty.
0:40:09 > 0:40:12Never have I ever lasted 30 seconds with a girl.
0:40:12 > 0:40:14Really drunk, my cock didn't work once.
0:40:14 > 0:40:17THEY LAUGH
0:40:17 > 0:40:18Billy...
0:40:18 > 0:40:22That's a little bit cringey, I don't want to hear all about that.
0:40:22 > 0:40:25And that drinking game was just for starters.
0:40:25 > 0:40:27Where there's booze there had to be girls.
0:40:27 > 0:40:32We're going to go to the wet T-shirt competition and see some titties.
0:40:32 > 0:40:36Not only was mum having to hear her son's cocky confessions...
0:40:36 > 0:40:37Boobies!
0:40:37 > 0:40:40..when she got a chance to spy close up...
0:40:40 > 0:40:44He's taking pictures of that lovely young lady doing a special dance.
0:40:44 > 0:40:46..she witnessed Billy's cheesy one-liners.
0:40:46 > 0:40:50- They're chatting up the girls now, aren't they?- Yeah, definitely chatting her up.
0:40:50 > 0:40:53- Guess what?- What?
0:40:53 > 0:40:55And one of them's trying to...
0:40:55 > 0:40:57What a terrible chat-up line, it makes me
0:40:57 > 0:41:01feel like "Oh, my god, you've got such a cheek, boy".
0:41:01 > 0:41:04I was just being totally honest when it came to the chat-up lines.
0:41:04 > 0:41:06I could see her nipples so I thought I'd let them know
0:41:06 > 0:41:08that I was seeing their nipples.
0:41:12 > 0:41:14If anything I was being a friend helping them out
0:41:14 > 0:41:16like, "Put your nipples away."
0:41:16 > 0:41:18No, don't, keep them out.
0:41:18 > 0:41:24But this trip wasn't just about girls, it was about getting smashed.
0:41:24 > 0:41:26The drinking in Thailand is insane
0:41:26 > 0:41:28because everything out there is dirt cheap.
0:41:30 > 0:41:33Really do have to pace yourself out there,
0:41:33 > 0:41:35otherwise you are going to be a complete mess.
0:41:37 > 0:41:41And getting wasted every night meant no bailing on the boys.
0:41:41 > 0:41:44- I'm dreading the fact that you want to get smashed again tonight. - Oh, of course, bruv.
0:41:44 > 0:41:47There were points definitely where, you know, I'm knocking back drinks
0:41:47 > 0:41:51and thinking to myself, "I really don't want to do this."
0:41:51 > 0:41:54The bonkers boozing was taking its toll
0:41:54 > 0:41:57and mum was concerned Billy was being egged on.
0:41:57 > 0:42:00- Looks slightly...- He's hammered already, isn't he?- He is, isn't he?
0:42:00 > 0:42:02It looks like he was drinking under duress there, didn't it?
0:42:02 > 0:42:04- Yes, yes.- I think he felt he had to do it.- Yeah.
0:42:04 > 0:42:08It takes a very strong person to not succumb to peer pressure,
0:42:08 > 0:42:11but if you're outnumbered it's very difficult not to succumb to it.
0:42:11 > 0:42:15I think on the holiday it comes across as me
0:42:15 > 0:42:17being a bit peer pressured, but when thinking about it myself
0:42:17 > 0:42:22I think it was more of me wanting to keep the group happy.
0:42:22 > 0:42:25For Billy, it was all about keeping his mates sweet,
0:42:25 > 0:42:29but one night when they tried to ditch him, things began to change.
0:42:29 > 0:42:32- Billy...- I'm out here, you're making secret phone calls to girls...
0:42:32 > 0:42:34I'm making a phone call in front of you.
0:42:34 > 0:42:37Girls you've met tonight, you're pointing at Ali saying "Let's meet them."
0:42:37 > 0:42:38Did you meet them? Oh, oi, Billy.
0:42:38 > 0:42:40I'm not telling you to fuck off, you do your thing,
0:42:40 > 0:42:43- don't worry about it..- Oi, oi, oi... oi, oi, oi, come out here.
0:42:43 > 0:42:46DOOR SLAMS I recognise that, slamming of doors.
0:42:46 > 0:42:47Oh, I'm unhappy about that.
0:42:47 > 0:42:50We met some girls, they said, "Do you want to come to the after
0:42:50 > 0:42:52"party?" It was just me and Ali, they only know us.
0:42:52 > 0:42:56Billy wants to come along, they only know us, they only want us to come,
0:42:56 > 0:43:00and I told Billy, he got really upset, told me to fuck off.
0:43:00 > 0:43:03I wasn't expecting to get into arguments with them, to be fair.
0:43:03 > 0:43:05There's always little squabbles
0:43:05 > 0:43:07but I didn't think it'd escalate to what it did in the end.
0:43:07 > 0:43:09We're all here to have a good time,
0:43:09 > 0:43:10like I don't know why like you're arguing.
0:43:10 > 0:43:14At the end of the day if he's coming in here, sneaking out on the phone to go
0:43:14 > 0:43:18and meet girls, but taking you, and saying, "No, Billy you can't come with," who are you to do that?
0:43:18 > 0:43:20- Do whatever you want to do. - OK, fine.
0:43:20 > 0:43:23Oi, I don't even know why you're both arguing.
0:43:23 > 0:43:25The most difficult part of the experience was thinking
0:43:25 > 0:43:29and feeling that Billy wasn't really appreciated by his friends
0:43:29 > 0:43:31for that moment when there was a disagreement.
0:43:31 > 0:43:33For your sake, for my sake and for his sake, please, man.
0:43:33 > 0:43:37'It was important for me to sort of remain myself'
0:43:37 > 0:43:40and, you know, hopefully things would pan out in my favour.
0:43:40 > 0:43:42You do find out an awful lot about people
0:43:42 > 0:43:43when you spend a lot of time with them.
0:43:43 > 0:43:45Some of it's negative, some of it's positive,
0:43:45 > 0:43:49but overall I think Billy's quite an easygoing guy and he gets on
0:43:49 > 0:43:52with virtually everybody, it takes a lot to rile him.
0:43:52 > 0:43:55And the next day, a calm and determined Billy was ready
0:43:55 > 0:43:59to move on, take control and salvage his precious holiday.
0:44:01 > 0:44:02Just got up.
0:44:02 > 0:44:05I was there to experience the culture,
0:44:05 > 0:44:07to see what Thailand had to offer.
0:44:07 > 0:44:10We've kind of thrown away the morning.
0:44:10 > 0:44:12'I think my friends come across as being a little bit mean.'
0:44:12 > 0:44:14A little bit annoyed that we've done that.'
0:44:14 > 0:44:17Because their whole idea of going to Thailand was just
0:44:17 > 0:44:20to pull loads of women, which they didn't do anyway.
0:44:20 > 0:44:22Today, I really hope that Billy makes a decision
0:44:22 > 0:44:24and the other guys follow him
0:44:24 > 0:44:29and do what he wants to do rather than Billy being led by the others.
0:44:29 > 0:44:31And he did just that.
0:44:31 > 0:44:36- So we need to get a taxi to go to see Buddha.- Go to the temple.
0:44:36 > 0:44:37Buddha.
0:44:37 > 0:44:39Go to the temple and shit.
0:44:43 > 0:44:45At the Buddhist temple
0:44:45 > 0:44:48it was clear a new, enlightened Billy was emerging.
0:44:53 > 0:44:55My mum would be glad that I came somewhere like here, show that
0:44:55 > 0:44:58I'm not just the type of person that goes out getting pissed
0:44:58 > 0:45:01every night. Being drunk at night, you're going to forget a lot of
0:45:01 > 0:45:05things. Being here right now, I'm not going to forget something like this.
0:45:05 > 0:45:07- Oh. That is really good. - That's good, that's really good.
0:45:07 > 0:45:09It was important for me to do my own thing
0:45:09 > 0:45:11because Thailand's one of those places
0:45:11 > 0:45:14that you know, you don't get an offer like that come twice
0:45:14 > 0:45:19and I wanted to, you know, do as much as I can, with or without them.
0:45:19 > 0:45:21I think Billy actually found it quite frustrating
0:45:21 > 0:45:25with the thought of his friends lying in bed and he wanted to go out
0:45:25 > 0:45:27and do more and experience more,
0:45:27 > 0:45:30so I'm quite glad that he had the get-up-and-go to do those things.
0:45:32 > 0:45:34And as the holiday drew to a close,
0:45:34 > 0:45:38Billy was determined not to waste another second in paradise.
0:45:39 > 0:45:43It's three o'clock in the afternoon, boys are still in bed.
0:45:43 > 0:45:44I've had a massage, had a dip,
0:45:44 > 0:45:48and I'm enjoying just having some me time at the moment.
0:45:48 > 0:45:51Thailand's inspired me to go travelling a lot more.
0:45:51 > 0:45:54Definitely want to go to Australia next.
0:45:54 > 0:45:58But before Billy could realise any backpacking dreams,
0:45:58 > 0:46:01there was still one last night in Thailand,
0:46:01 > 0:46:03and a massive surprise.
0:46:05 > 0:46:06Before the reveal, I was
0:46:06 > 0:46:10so nervous about knowing that I'd be seeing him shortly.
0:46:10 > 0:46:11Stop, stop, stop, stop.
0:46:11 > 0:46:14Don't get any money out, don't get any money out.
0:46:14 > 0:46:18I've got you some money, honey, I've got you some money.
0:46:18 > 0:46:19I've got you some money, darling.
0:46:20 > 0:46:24When I first saw my mum, it didn't really kick in that it was her,
0:46:24 > 0:46:27and I was like, "Who the fuck is this?"
0:46:27 > 0:46:30I was very shocked when I'd seen her,
0:46:30 > 0:46:34but in a way I was kind of happy that I'd seen her as well.
0:46:34 > 0:46:37The fact that he was pleased to see me was a huge relief.
0:46:37 > 0:46:39Not embarrassed or disappointed in me at all?
0:46:39 > 0:46:42- Yeah, that you didn't pull! - Absolutely not at all.
0:46:42 > 0:46:45Yes. Mum approves of my behaviour, see.
0:46:45 > 0:46:47Told you I've nothing to hide.
0:46:47 > 0:46:50After his holiday in Thailand, he realised
0:46:50 > 0:46:53that he'd actually drank an awful lot
0:46:53 > 0:46:56and he'd probably put his body through some serious punishment.
0:46:56 > 0:46:58I've been quite calm when it comes to drinking,
0:46:58 > 0:47:02I've definitely learnt that I cannot go out every day of the week
0:47:02 > 0:47:03and get smashed like that again.
0:47:03 > 0:47:06I think I had to be quite mature about a few things.
0:47:06 > 0:47:09You certainly give things a lot of thought before you do things
0:47:09 > 0:47:12and I think that makes you a better person for it.
0:47:12 > 0:47:15I think my mum's always had faith in me anyway when it comes to
0:47:15 > 0:47:18going out and looking after myself, and I think, you know, this
0:47:18 > 0:47:21just was the icing on the cake and now she knows exactly what I'm
0:47:21 > 0:47:23like and she doesn't have to worry about what I get up to any more.
0:47:23 > 0:47:26Thailand has made me realise that he is very grown-up.
0:47:26 > 0:47:28He's got his head screwed on. I think I'm going
0:47:28 > 0:47:29to lay off a little bit more.
0:47:29 > 0:47:32The only time I was a bit concerned about how you were feeling
0:47:32 > 0:47:36was when you had the little bit of a disagreement with Jay and Ali.
0:47:36 > 0:47:40- Oh, yeah, I was pissed off for a day or two about that.- Yeah.
0:47:40 > 0:47:41I could see it had upset you.
0:47:41 > 0:47:43I told you mate, I told you.
0:47:43 > 0:47:45Me and Jay didn't talk for a few weeks but things are sorted with
0:47:45 > 0:47:49that now, and things with Ali have always been good anyway. We sorted
0:47:49 > 0:47:53things out straightaway, because he was quite apologetic and said
0:47:53 > 0:47:57quite a few times that he was really happy that I took him on holiday.
0:48:02 > 0:48:06Also in Koh Samui that week was 22-year-old Essex girl
0:48:06 > 0:48:09and university student Agi with her mum Fatou.
0:48:09 > 0:48:13If we hadn't have gone to Thailand I don't think she would have
0:48:13 > 0:48:17really understood the pressures that sort of I feel like I'm under.
0:48:17 > 0:48:21But life's burdens meant Agi had dropped out of uni three times,
0:48:21 > 0:48:24but mum Fatou thought she'd just lost focus.
0:48:24 > 0:48:27Sometimes it's good for you to do things for yourself
0:48:27 > 0:48:30and finish it before you start with something else.
0:48:30 > 0:48:33I'm going to be a perpetual student for my whole life.
0:48:33 > 0:48:35But it wasn't just the studying.
0:48:35 > 0:48:37Coming from a strict Muslim background,
0:48:37 > 0:48:39there was no boozing at home.
0:48:39 > 0:48:43When it comes to me and Islam and like, you know, maybe having
0:48:43 > 0:48:46a drink, I know what I'm doing, I know if it's right or wrong.
0:48:46 > 0:48:48We don't discuss about drinking really,
0:48:48 > 0:48:50because we haven't got that culture.
0:48:50 > 0:48:53My only concern is that I heard about all these wild parties
0:48:53 > 0:48:55and all those things.
0:48:55 > 0:48:58I know you don't drink so those things I'm not bothered about.
0:48:58 > 0:49:00If I see Agi drink, I'll be shocked.
0:49:00 > 0:49:03We're not going to go and get the vodka buckets or anything like that.
0:49:03 > 0:49:06I am glad that she got to see the real me.
0:49:07 > 0:49:10And joining Agi on this trip of a lifetime
0:49:10 > 0:49:12were best mates Aisha and Moria.
0:49:13 > 0:49:14Bye!
0:49:14 > 0:49:16See you sooner than you think.
0:49:16 > 0:49:20On arrival in Koh Samui and 6,000 miles from her mum,
0:49:20 > 0:49:24or so she thought, Agi had one priority.
0:49:24 > 0:49:27I think we're all really just ready to like go out and have fun.
0:49:27 > 0:49:30- Can I have a mojito, please? - Can we have three mojitos? - Three mojitos.
0:49:30 > 0:49:32Thailand, we are here. Chink, chink, chink.
0:49:32 > 0:49:34That's really tasty.
0:49:34 > 0:49:36With the constraints of home lifted
0:49:36 > 0:49:40and a cocktail menu to work through, Agi got down to business.
0:49:40 > 0:49:43I am also going to have the lemon daiquiri.
0:49:43 > 0:49:44Daiquiri.
0:49:44 > 0:49:45Daiquiri.
0:49:45 > 0:49:47This is a Caipirinha.
0:49:47 > 0:49:49And what Agi didn't suspect was mum Fatou
0:49:49 > 0:49:54and her Auntie Ramou were here for the first time, keeping a beady eye.
0:49:54 > 0:49:55Oh, my god.
0:49:55 > 0:49:59It was terrible spying on Agi because I trust her.
0:49:59 > 0:50:01Amazing, I love my cocktails.
0:50:02 > 0:50:05The drinking culture in Thailand is exactly
0:50:05 > 0:50:11what I thought it would be - buckets, alcohol, like Zante on crack.
0:50:11 > 0:50:13Agi may have sussed Koh Samui's lifestyle,
0:50:13 > 0:50:16but for Fatou, it wasn't quite as clear.
0:50:16 > 0:50:19From what I've seen she's not drinking alcohol,
0:50:19 > 0:50:21it was cocktail and it was..
0:50:21 > 0:50:24it can be different kinds of cocktails like fruits and all that.
0:50:25 > 0:50:27But for a high-spirited Agi,
0:50:27 > 0:50:29that fruit had to be mixed with something else.
0:50:36 > 0:50:38We're like fuck it, whatever, like we're just like..
0:50:38 > 0:50:40Oh, whatever, let's just have fun, like...
0:50:40 > 0:50:44That was quite a shock, first time hearing it, saying about
0:50:44 > 0:50:48drinking alcohol. She mentioned that she have gin in her cocktail.
0:50:48 > 0:50:52The fact that my mum has seen me drink is like, meh,
0:50:52 > 0:50:54it's just one of those things.
0:50:54 > 0:50:57I'm not a crystal meth addict. It's cocktails.
0:50:57 > 0:51:01So as long as I'm staying safe, that's all that matters.
0:51:01 > 0:51:04I don't like it at all. I mean, because it's not part of us,
0:51:04 > 0:51:06alcohol is not part of what we do.
0:51:06 > 0:51:10The realisation Agi drunk alcohol was a boozing bombshell but since
0:51:10 > 0:51:14returning home, Fatou has changed her tune on the drinking front.
0:51:14 > 0:51:18I know Agi as much as I know her as my daughter.
0:51:18 > 0:51:21She said she had lots of cocktails and at the end she says
0:51:21 > 0:51:24she have a mojito, but I can have a mojito without alcohol in it.
0:51:24 > 0:51:28And I'm not in denial here, I know that she doesn't drink.
0:51:28 > 0:51:31But it wasn't just the hard liquor -
0:51:31 > 0:51:34a liberated Agi began to reflect on the pressures of home life.
0:51:34 > 0:51:37If you're not a lawyer, doctor or accountant...
0:51:37 > 0:51:38- What are you?- ..what are you?
0:51:38 > 0:51:41If you're like, "Oh, actually "I want to be a fashion designer"
0:51:41 > 0:51:43or "I want to be a music producer,
0:51:43 > 0:51:45"I want to be this" they'll be like, "Oh, like, you know,
0:51:45 > 0:51:48"focus on this and then you can do that on the side."
0:51:48 > 0:51:51And Agi was determined to address some of these issues
0:51:51 > 0:51:53when she returned home.
0:51:53 > 0:51:54Like I feel like coming...
0:51:54 > 0:51:59overcoming that African mentality where it's like your parents' word is gospel.
0:51:59 > 0:52:02But what Agi didn't realise was that her mum had come to spy
0:52:02 > 0:52:06and could hear every rebellious word.
0:52:06 > 0:52:11It's like, OK, yeah, most of it, it is, but you guys at the same time
0:52:11 > 0:52:14we have grown up in different kind of cultures,
0:52:14 > 0:52:17so you have to give us a little bit of leeway and understand and sort of
0:52:17 > 0:52:21comprehend that we know sort of what we're doing at the same time, too.
0:52:21 > 0:52:25It's about us being able to stand on our own two feet.
0:52:25 > 0:52:29I didn't realise the amount of pressure I've been putting onto Agi
0:52:29 > 0:52:33that she has to be good and she have to, you know, achieve well and
0:52:33 > 0:52:37do well in life and in school and everything, and I've heard it today.
0:52:38 > 0:52:40I do understand, in that...
0:52:40 > 0:52:44in that case she might feel pressured a little bit
0:52:44 > 0:52:47because of the society we're living in,
0:52:47 > 0:52:49because when we are in Africa...
0:52:49 > 0:52:54I mean, well, where we come from, we...we brought up our children
0:52:54 > 0:52:57or we were brought up in a certain way, you know,
0:52:57 > 0:53:00to have all the standards and all these ethics, you know, when we...
0:53:00 > 0:53:02anywhere we go out in the world.
0:53:02 > 0:53:06So when we go somewhere else, we carry those morals and ethics
0:53:06 > 0:53:08and standards to pass on to our children.
0:53:09 > 0:53:13It was a moment of clarity that was clearly beneficial for both
0:53:13 > 0:53:15mother and daughter.
0:53:15 > 0:53:19Going to Thailand has definitely given me more focus,
0:53:19 > 0:53:24more focus to finish university and just get it over and done with,
0:53:24 > 0:53:26so I can travel and I can sort of get on with my life
0:53:26 > 0:53:28and do all the things that I wanted to do.
0:53:28 > 0:53:32Well, I'm quite... I'm quite positive now and
0:53:32 > 0:53:33it's more of a...
0:53:33 > 0:53:38more secure now that Agi's going to finish her university
0:53:38 > 0:53:40and she's going to work,
0:53:40 > 0:53:42she's going to do what she wants to do.
0:53:44 > 0:53:46As the holiday drew to a close,
0:53:46 > 0:53:50a newly focused Agi hit the shops for some last-minute souvenirs.
0:53:50 > 0:53:54But there was one gift Agi certainly hadn't bargained for.
0:53:54 > 0:53:55It was nerve-racking
0:53:55 > 0:53:59because I didn't know how she's going to feel when she sees me.
0:54:07 > 0:54:09'When I saw my mum and my aunt pop out...'
0:54:09 > 0:54:11You! You!
0:54:11 > 0:54:15..I was like, "Oh, man, fuck's sake."
0:54:18 > 0:54:21I've seen so many things that you've talked about
0:54:21 > 0:54:22and you have proved yourself.
0:54:22 > 0:54:25Cos I feel fearless if I have...if I have your support,
0:54:25 > 0:54:29I'm like "Oh, it's fine, "like, I have my mum's backing so I can do whatever."
0:54:29 > 0:54:31Why do you think I'm right on your back?
0:54:31 > 0:54:34Because I don't have the motivation or the determination for myself.
0:54:34 > 0:54:36I think Thailand was a learning curve for Agi and for me.
0:54:36 > 0:54:40I believe in you and I trust in you. I'm going to be that cool chick you're talking about.
0:54:40 > 0:54:43I think my mum has a better understanding of who I am, definitely.
0:54:43 > 0:54:46She's seen another side to me.
0:54:46 > 0:54:49Agi and Fatou may be more sympathetic towards each other,
0:54:49 > 0:54:52but there's one point yet to be cleared up.
0:54:52 > 0:54:56In mojitos, I think has lemon, is it lime?
0:54:56 > 0:54:59And it has, um, what is it called again?
0:54:59 > 0:55:04Oh, is it mint it has?
0:55:04 > 0:55:06And, er...
0:55:06 > 0:55:10Do you know, I don't know that much in mojitos.
0:55:10 > 0:55:12Mum,
0:55:12 > 0:55:15there is alcohol in mojitos.
0:55:15 > 0:55:17There's rum,
0:55:17 > 0:55:18just in case you didn't know.
0:55:24 > 0:55:27It was a revealing summer for the parents.
0:55:27 > 0:55:28Oh, it's my mum.
0:55:29 > 0:55:32Full of unexpected moments.
0:55:32 > 0:55:35- Oh, for God's sake, Patrick. - Not liking this.
0:55:35 > 0:55:37And shocking discoveries.
0:55:37 > 0:55:39Really drunk, my cock didn't work once.
0:55:39 > 0:55:42But they learnt a lot about their kids.
0:55:42 > 0:55:43I am quite shocked. I thought
0:55:43 > 0:55:46she would have gone out there full blast.
0:55:46 > 0:55:48As a mum, it is hard to hear
0:55:48 > 0:55:52some of the things that he's had to go through.
0:55:52 > 0:55:55I just want to go and give him a hug and tell him it's going to be OK.
0:55:57 > 0:55:59So many sort of emotions this week.
0:55:59 > 0:56:02You know, I've been angry, I've been worried for him.
0:56:02 > 0:56:04How are you? Oh...
0:56:04 > 0:56:06And after all the excitement and emotion...
0:56:07 > 0:56:08No, fuck off.
0:56:08 > 0:56:12..the experience has brought them all closer together.
0:56:12 > 0:56:16Since we've come back from Thailand, he's definitely got his mojo back.
0:56:16 > 0:56:18Yeah, can you do my washing?
0:56:19 > 0:56:23I do think that I see my stepdad as another dad.
0:56:23 > 0:56:27When I heard that conversation, that was really touching.