0:00:02 > 0:00:06Around the world, parents raise their kids with strict discipline...
0:00:06 > 0:00:09Do not come back until you have checked your answers.
0:00:09 > 0:00:12- ..rigid boundaries... - Drinking, drugs and sex -
0:00:12 > 0:00:16they're selfish behaviours that destroy lives.
0:00:16 > 0:00:18..and immediate consequences.
0:00:18 > 0:00:20- Come on! - BELL RINGS
0:00:20 > 0:00:26Some people might say that my parents are strict, but we would rather call it love.
0:00:29 > 0:00:33But can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:35 > 0:00:38I need some more booze. Where is my booze?
0:00:38 > 0:00:41When someone says, "You will do this," I say, "No, I won't."
0:00:41 > 0:00:45I get away with murder, really. I can just do anything I want.
0:00:45 > 0:00:47Lack of respect for authority.
0:00:47 > 0:00:50I go to bed whenever I want. I wake up whenever I want.
0:00:50 > 0:00:55I don't care what anyone thinks about me, cos it's up to me, isn't it?
0:00:55 > 0:01:00To find out, two teens who've never met before will leave their fraught families behind...
0:01:00 > 0:01:02Don't embarrass your family.
0:01:02 > 0:01:04..and head off to far corners of the world,
0:01:04 > 0:01:08where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:08 > 0:01:12In my house, you are going to do as I tell you to do.
0:01:12 > 0:01:14Please, let me make it really clear.
0:01:14 > 0:01:16My children won't defy me.
0:01:16 > 0:01:19This is wrecking my head. This is wrecking...my...head.
0:01:19 > 0:01:22When I punish, I punish really hard.
0:01:22 > 0:01:25I'm sick of being treated like a kid when I'm not.
0:01:25 > 0:01:27- Shut up and listen to me. - Upstairs.- No.
0:01:27 > 0:01:31You are mine. In the US, you have to do what an adult says.
0:01:31 > 0:01:32They are insane.
0:01:32 > 0:01:36The British people's moral fabric...
0:01:36 > 0:01:38is disintegrating.
0:01:52 > 0:01:54I need to urinate.
0:01:54 > 0:01:5817-year-old Hannah Moorehead likes nothing more than a good booze-up.
0:02:01 > 0:02:02I like to drink quite a lot.
0:02:02 > 0:02:06If I'm on a night out, I'll either drink three litres of cider,
0:02:06 > 0:02:08half a bottle of vodka or just over that,
0:02:08 > 0:02:09'two bottles of wine.'
0:02:09 > 0:02:12I need some more booze. Where's my booze?
0:02:12 > 0:02:16Her destructive behaviour is making family life unbearable.
0:02:16 > 0:02:18'She'll be the first one to kick off'
0:02:18 > 0:02:22and make a problem where there doesn't need to be one.
0:02:22 > 0:02:23Go to bed!
0:02:23 > 0:02:25Do I listen to him? No.
0:02:25 > 0:02:28Why would I?
0:02:28 > 0:02:30There's no punishment, so what's the point?
0:02:30 > 0:02:33She gets very annoyed very easily.
0:02:33 > 0:02:35She's got a very short fuse.
0:02:35 > 0:02:37Shut up!
0:02:37 > 0:02:42Hannah's decline began after tragedy struck her family.
0:02:42 > 0:02:43My mum died four years ago.
0:02:43 > 0:02:46She spent half her time down the pub. I barely ever saw her.
0:02:46 > 0:02:49She got a liver infection and she died through that.
0:02:50 > 0:02:55It's awful for any child to lose a parent at any age.
0:02:55 > 0:02:58She'd already suffered the heartbreak of divorce,
0:02:58 > 0:03:00then she suffered bereavement.
0:03:00 > 0:03:06Ever since she died, I've become more of an outgoing, sociable person,
0:03:06 > 0:03:08because I want to get my mind off it.
0:03:08 > 0:03:11I think I became more liberal around that sort of time,
0:03:11 > 0:03:16because all three of them needed to be dealt with sensitively.
0:03:16 > 0:03:20I would like her to take more control of her own destiny, really,
0:03:20 > 0:03:23and to see the potential that she has inside her.
0:03:28 > 0:03:3217-year-old Leigh Sturge does whatever he wants,
0:03:32 > 0:03:33whenever he wants.
0:03:33 > 0:03:35HORN BEEPS
0:03:35 > 0:03:38- Does your mother know you're on that?- No.
0:03:38 > 0:03:40He'll quite happily take your mobility scooter out,
0:03:40 > 0:03:41- won't he?- Yeah. Yeah.
0:03:41 > 0:03:44No respect for that fact that if he breaks it,
0:03:44 > 0:03:47that's your only form of getting about.
0:03:47 > 0:03:49Leigh makes my mum run up and down the stairs,
0:03:49 > 0:03:52and it's hard work for my mum cos she's got a disability.
0:03:52 > 0:03:54I've been nasty, and said like,
0:03:54 > 0:03:57she's the shittest mum in the world and things like that.
0:03:57 > 0:04:01It's not nice. But I've said it.
0:04:01 > 0:04:03There's no boundaries in our house.
0:04:03 > 0:04:06I go to bed whenever I want. I wake up whenever I want.
0:04:06 > 0:04:10'I bring whoever I want round,
0:04:10 > 0:04:12'even if my parents don't like them.'
0:04:12 > 0:04:15I've got my tongue pierced at the moment.
0:04:15 > 0:04:17And I got my nipple pierced.
0:04:17 > 0:04:21That's a cannabis leaf, that's quite funny.
0:04:21 > 0:04:23I know he smokes, like, weed, or whatever it is.
0:04:23 > 0:04:28I don't like it, but how do you stop it?
0:04:28 > 0:04:30Leigh has dropped out of college.
0:04:30 > 0:04:35His marijuana-smoking and partying are driving his parents to distraction.
0:04:35 > 0:04:38Don't start on me. I've come in, I've had a good night and you guys start.
0:04:38 > 0:04:40HE MIMICS PARENTS
0:04:40 > 0:04:43I tell myself that I should have more respect for my parents.
0:04:43 > 0:04:45I should listen to them when they say no.
0:04:45 > 0:04:50But then when it comes to the point when they do say no, I flip.
0:04:50 > 0:04:51Keep the noise down!
0:04:51 > 0:04:53ALL SING
0:04:56 > 0:04:59- 'He is selfish...- He is.- Because he does know what he's doing.'
0:04:59 > 0:05:04And, in other words, he's saying, "I don't really care about you."
0:05:08 > 0:05:11To try and get their lives back on track,
0:05:11 > 0:05:15both families have agreed to send their wayward children to live with new parents
0:05:15 > 0:05:17on the other side of the world.
0:05:17 > 0:05:20- See you later.- All right, darling. See you.- Bye.
0:05:20 > 0:05:23Safe journey home.
0:05:23 > 0:05:27I'd like him to be more focused and positive.
0:05:27 > 0:05:29See you later, Pat.
0:05:29 > 0:05:33She needs to gain confidence and self-respect
0:05:33 > 0:05:36and realise what she can achieve.
0:05:36 > 0:05:38- How you doing?- Good, you?
0:05:38 > 0:05:39I'm good. I'm good.
0:05:39 > 0:05:43For the next ten days, the two teenagers' new home will be here...
0:05:45 > 0:05:50a village in the Republic of Botswana.
0:05:50 > 0:05:54They'll be staying with the Selelos, a close-knit family
0:05:54 > 0:05:59who believe that a child's behaviour always reflects on the parents.
0:05:59 > 0:06:03The behaviour that we see at home is the very same behaviour
0:06:03 > 0:06:06that we like our children to practise outside home.
0:06:06 > 0:06:11Dad, Michael, is in the army, while Mum, Marianyana, is a nurse.
0:06:11 > 0:06:15They are the proud parents of 27-year-old fireman, Yan,
0:06:15 > 0:06:2020-year-old law student, Gape, and 15-year-old Precious.
0:06:20 > 0:06:24When you are bringing up a child, show the child love,
0:06:24 > 0:06:30but if the child gets out of way, bring the child back on track.
0:06:30 > 0:06:33If you break the rules of the house, you get punished.
0:06:36 > 0:06:39No TV during the course of the week.
0:06:39 > 0:06:42Corporal punishment is commonplace in Botswana,
0:06:42 > 0:06:46and the Selelos believe that caning reinforces discipline.
0:06:46 > 0:06:49If the need arises, we can be firm.
0:06:49 > 0:06:52When I was younger, yes, I got lashes for being naughty.
0:06:52 > 0:06:56They wanted to show me, really, what was right.
0:06:56 > 0:06:58I think lazy people are spoiled.
0:06:58 > 0:07:03Secondly, I think lazy people do not have a future,
0:07:03 > 0:07:04because life is a struggle.
0:07:04 > 0:07:06We are not just strict for nothing.
0:07:06 > 0:07:08'Some people'
0:07:08 > 0:07:13might say that my parents are strict, but we would rather call it love.
0:07:14 > 0:07:16After 20 hours of travelling,
0:07:16 > 0:07:20Hannah and Leigh touch down in Botswana's capital, Gaborone.
0:07:20 > 0:07:21Oh!
0:07:21 > 0:07:23It's blooming hot though.
0:07:23 > 0:07:26Too hot.
0:07:26 > 0:07:27Welcome to Botswana though.
0:07:27 > 0:07:29HANNAH LAUGHS
0:07:29 > 0:07:33- Thank you.- This is probably our last cigarette, you know.
0:07:33 > 0:07:36Yeah, but you know we're going to smoke anyway.
0:07:38 > 0:07:41Botswana is one of Africa's richest nations.
0:07:41 > 0:07:47The government provides a healthcare system for its people and free education for its children.
0:07:48 > 0:07:51I'd been thinking, like, mud huts and stuff like that.
0:07:53 > 0:07:56Oh, shit, we're going to be working on a farm, aren't we?
0:07:56 > 0:07:58Oh, God.
0:07:58 > 0:08:00Oh, no.
0:08:00 > 0:08:03- Oh, my God.- I'm scared.
0:08:05 > 0:08:07This isn't even a road. It's just dirt.
0:08:07 > 0:08:09HANNAH LAUGHS
0:08:15 > 0:08:19They might have really underestimated the discipline
0:08:19 > 0:08:22that is observed in this household.
0:08:22 > 0:08:25We have some house rules, and we'll discuss them
0:08:25 > 0:08:28in detail after all of us have settled.
0:08:28 > 0:08:30Oh, my God.
0:08:33 > 0:08:35ALL: Hi.
0:08:35 > 0:08:37- How are you?- Hello.- Hello.
0:08:39 > 0:08:44From now on, Hannah and Leigh will be living exactly as the Selelo children do,
0:08:44 > 0:08:49from attending school to doing the household chores.
0:08:49 > 0:08:52- This is where you're going to cook for us...- Yeah.
0:08:52 > 0:08:56- ..starting this evening.- Wow.
0:08:56 > 0:09:01Hannah will be staying in this bedroom with Precious.
0:09:01 > 0:09:03OK. Oh, that's lovely.
0:09:03 > 0:09:05- Very nice.- Yeah.
0:09:05 > 0:09:07So this is going to be your room.
0:09:07 > 0:09:09When I, like, came into the house,
0:09:09 > 0:09:13they were like arms open wide, holding my hand and stuff.
0:09:13 > 0:09:17I've never had a family relationship like that before.
0:09:17 > 0:09:21- Leigh, this is your bedroom. You're going to be sharing this room with Gape.- OK.
0:09:21 > 0:09:25And Gape's been using this bed. Is that OK? You'll have the baby one.
0:09:25 > 0:09:28- That's fine. - LAUGHTER
0:09:28 > 0:09:29He is the gentleman.
0:09:29 > 0:09:32How is it, roommate?
0:09:32 > 0:09:34LAUGHTER
0:09:36 > 0:09:39I think they're lovely, they're lovely,
0:09:39 > 0:09:43very, very welcoming and I feel really at home already.
0:09:43 > 0:09:46But we'll find out how I feel after the rules
0:09:46 > 0:09:49and when they find out I smoke.
0:09:52 > 0:09:56- Hannah and Leigh, come to the dining room.- OK.
0:09:56 > 0:10:02In Botswanan society, children must defer to their elders at all times.
0:10:02 > 0:10:05Before the teens are welcomed into the house,
0:10:05 > 0:10:09the Selelos want to make their expectations absolutely clear.
0:10:09 > 0:10:14So, we called you so that we can brief you about the rules of the house.
0:10:14 > 0:10:16- OK.- Um...
0:10:16 > 0:10:19- Drinking and smoking...- Mmm-hmm.
0:10:19 > 0:10:22..not allowed.
0:10:22 > 0:10:23Nor the use of drugs.
0:10:23 > 0:10:26Totally, totally prohibited.
0:10:26 > 0:10:29- We both smoke. - You both smoke?- Yeah.
0:10:29 > 0:10:30You won't be smoking.
0:10:30 > 0:10:33During the course of the week,
0:10:33 > 0:10:37we all wake up at 5am, but at 6am, we leave.
0:10:37 > 0:10:41- You leave at six?- Yes.- Oh, my God.
0:10:41 > 0:10:44And no piercing is allowed.
0:10:44 > 0:10:47If you are wearing... Yes. Stuff like that.
0:10:47 > 0:10:49It's away though. You can't see it.
0:10:49 > 0:10:52- I saw it.- It'll heal up. - It'll close up.- Yeah.
0:10:52 > 0:10:54Yes. That's what we want...
0:10:54 > 0:10:57cos you have to be normal.
0:10:57 > 0:11:03Are you aware that it is not always possible to do what one wants to do?
0:11:03 > 0:11:05- Yeah. - This is one of the situations. Yeah.
0:11:05 > 0:11:12So I would like to humbly request you to hand over everything that is not allowed in the house
0:11:12 > 0:11:14- so that you don't get tempted. - OK.- Yeah.
0:11:14 > 0:11:18- Well, I don't have anything on me, anyway.- OK.
0:11:18 > 0:11:20- I didn't bring anything with me. - You know what?
0:11:20 > 0:11:23I'll trust you until you destroy that trust.
0:11:23 > 0:11:26- OK.- And once you've destroyed the trust,
0:11:26 > 0:11:28believe me, it will never be the same.
0:11:28 > 0:11:32- BOTH: OK. - We are done.
0:11:32 > 0:11:38You can go to your rooms to freshen up so that you can start helping with the dinner.
0:11:41 > 0:11:43'I thought those rules were crap.'
0:11:43 > 0:11:45When they said, like, that...
0:11:45 > 0:11:47we're not allowed cigarettes and stuff,
0:11:47 > 0:11:51and that if we lied to them, kind of thing,
0:11:51 > 0:11:54and they, like, said they trusted us and...
0:11:54 > 0:11:55It was horrible.
0:11:55 > 0:11:58And basically, we've just lied.
0:11:58 > 0:12:01It is horrible.
0:12:01 > 0:12:06They will...they will find out, cos that's obvious.
0:12:06 > 0:12:10My piercings, I'm not taking them out. I can't take my tongue out.
0:12:10 > 0:12:13Well, I can't take my tongue out, but no. If I take that out...
0:12:13 > 0:12:15They won't know about your nipple piercing.
0:12:15 > 0:12:18- They don't know.- Don't show them. - I'm not going to.
0:12:18 > 0:12:23If they don't observe the rules or they don't obey the rules,
0:12:23 > 0:12:25obviously, there are consequences,
0:12:25 > 0:12:28and those consequences will not be nice.
0:12:30 > 0:12:35Leigh has been agonising over what to do about his numerous piercings.
0:12:35 > 0:12:37Fair enough,
0:12:37 > 0:12:40I take out my tongue bar, because that's on show.
0:12:41 > 0:12:44But this bloody hurts...
0:12:44 > 0:12:45when you have it done.
0:12:45 > 0:12:47And...
0:12:50 > 0:12:53..well, in England, women find it attractive as well.
0:12:53 > 0:12:57He decides that what the Selelos don't know won't hurt them.
0:12:57 > 0:13:03He gives up his tongue stud, but in defiance of the rules, his nipple ring is staying put.
0:13:12 > 0:13:14Hi. We've got to help you make dinner.
0:13:14 > 0:13:17- Oh, yeah. You can give me a hand. - OK.
0:13:18 > 0:13:23In Botswana, mealtimes follow strict traditional rituals.
0:13:23 > 0:13:29Family elders are always served first and children must show their respect before eating.
0:13:29 > 0:13:30When my parents come,
0:13:30 > 0:13:34they'll want to wash their hands, so you're going to be having this.
0:13:34 > 0:13:36You actually do this.
0:13:36 > 0:13:39We actually do that.
0:13:39 > 0:13:40- Are you serious?- I'm serious.
0:13:40 > 0:13:44I've got to wash my parents' hands?
0:13:44 > 0:13:45For Leigh,
0:13:45 > 0:13:49showing deference to authority is a totally new experience.
0:13:51 > 0:13:52And we have to be like...
0:13:54 > 0:13:57..twisting like this and doing this.
0:13:57 > 0:13:59Like bend your knee.
0:14:01 > 0:14:03Like this, that's right.
0:14:03 > 0:14:05It's taking the mickey.
0:14:05 > 0:14:07That's just slavery.
0:14:09 > 0:14:11Hello, everyone.
0:14:15 > 0:14:18Thank you so much. Thank you so much, Leigh.
0:14:18 > 0:14:21- How are you?- OK. How are you?
0:14:21 > 0:14:23I'm fine. I've been sleeping.
0:14:23 > 0:14:26- You've been sleeping?- Yeah. - Thank you, Leigh.
0:14:28 > 0:14:31The Selelo family eat dinner together every day.
0:14:31 > 0:14:34It's an opportunity to discuss family matters
0:14:34 > 0:14:40and enjoy traditional foods, like mopane worms.
0:14:40 > 0:14:42Highly nutritious. Highly nutritious.
0:14:42 > 0:14:44It is really good.
0:14:47 > 0:14:49Chew. Chew. Chew.
0:14:49 > 0:14:51LAUGHTER
0:14:51 > 0:14:52You don't like it?
0:14:55 > 0:14:59How often do you eat together as a family at home?
0:14:59 > 0:15:02- Eat around the table?- Yeah.
0:15:02 > 0:15:04Once a year at Christmas, probably.
0:15:04 > 0:15:06- Once a year.- Yeah.
0:15:06 > 0:15:09- The rest of the time, we just eat in front of the TV.- OK.
0:15:09 > 0:15:14Do you think that conversation and togetherness...
0:15:14 > 0:15:17is important?
0:15:17 > 0:15:20I do, but I've never really had it with my family.
0:15:20 > 0:15:23I've always had it with my friends.
0:15:23 > 0:15:27So it's really weird that you're all sitting round as a family
0:15:27 > 0:15:30without arguing, and getting along really well.
0:15:30 > 0:15:33- You don't have it in your family? - No.- You don't want to have it?
0:15:33 > 0:15:36No. Not really. My family are horrible.
0:15:38 > 0:15:40It's the end of the first day,
0:15:40 > 0:15:44and both Hannah and Leigh are starting to realise
0:15:44 > 0:15:47just what they've let themselves in for.
0:15:47 > 0:15:50It's just more stressful than I would have imagined.
0:15:50 > 0:15:55Like, just because they're so nice, that I can't get angry with them.
0:15:55 > 0:15:57I've never ever had boundaries or rules to break,
0:15:57 > 0:16:00and now I've got rules, I can't accept them.
0:16:04 > 0:16:06BOTH WHISPER
0:16:09 > 0:16:12- I have no choice, guys. - You told them?- Yeah.- OK.
0:16:12 > 0:16:17Mr and Mrs Selelo are in bed, but, as the eldest son,
0:16:17 > 0:16:20it's up to Yan to enforce his parents' rules.
0:16:20 > 0:16:22I don't want you to get the full blame.
0:16:24 > 0:16:25Did you tell them?
0:16:25 > 0:16:28I feel a bit disappointed.
0:16:28 > 0:16:32Obeying the strict family hierarchy means Yan will have no choice,
0:16:32 > 0:16:35but to tell his father about the teens' behaviour.
0:16:35 > 0:16:38MUTTERED CONVERSATION
0:16:44 > 0:16:47The Selelos are halfway through their morning routine...
0:16:49 > 0:16:55..while Hannah and Leigh are just being introduced to theirs.
0:16:55 > 0:16:58Today, the teens will be sent to school.
0:16:58 > 0:17:00Leigh has a more immediate problem.
0:17:00 > 0:17:04He's worrying about the consequences of being caught smoking.
0:17:04 > 0:17:07What do you think I should do? Shall I go and own up?
0:17:07 > 0:17:11- Yeah. Go and apologise in advance. Tell them, "I'm sorry I lied," first.- Yeah.
0:17:11 > 0:17:14"I'm sorry I broke one of the rules of the house." OK?
0:17:14 > 0:17:16Gape is Leigh's elder.
0:17:16 > 0:17:21In the Selelo family, that means Leigh must respect his opinion.
0:17:21 > 0:17:24- And please be truthful with us now, don't do it again.- Yeah.
0:17:24 > 0:17:28Cos personally, if I see you do it again, I'd have to stop you,
0:17:28 > 0:17:30- even if I have to break it in front of you. Serious.- OK.
0:17:32 > 0:17:34Mum and Dad.
0:17:34 > 0:17:37- Hi.- Can I possibly have a talk with you, at all?
0:17:37 > 0:17:40I know I broke a rule last night...
0:17:40 > 0:17:44but it just all got to me, travelling halfway around the world.
0:17:44 > 0:17:46It's the first time I've been out...
0:17:46 > 0:17:48It's the first time I've left my parents.
0:17:48 > 0:17:53And I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for everything that I've done and...
0:17:55 > 0:17:58..I'll hand that over. And yeah,
0:17:58 > 0:18:02- that's it.- Thank you very much.
0:18:02 > 0:18:05It's good that you made the initiative
0:18:05 > 0:18:08to come out and say, "I'm sorry."
0:18:08 > 0:18:09so you are forgiven.
0:18:09 > 0:18:13This time around, we are not going to impose any sanctions.
0:18:15 > 0:18:21He came out clean to say that, "Last night, Mum and Dad, I smoked."
0:18:21 > 0:18:24And that, on its own, to me,
0:18:24 > 0:18:25means a lot.
0:18:25 > 0:18:29It shows that he's feeling guilty... he's feeling guilty.
0:18:29 > 0:18:33It shows that he has the potential to change.
0:18:34 > 0:18:37Pleased with Leigh's confession,
0:18:37 > 0:18:42Mrs Selelo wants to find out if Hannah has anything she would like to own up to.
0:18:42 > 0:18:45Between yesterday evening and now,
0:18:45 > 0:18:51haven't you broken any of the rules?
0:18:51 > 0:18:53Yes. I have. Um...
0:18:53 > 0:18:56Which one in particular?
0:18:56 > 0:18:57Smoking.
0:18:57 > 0:19:01- Have you been aware that we know? - No.
0:19:01 > 0:19:03OK. So you thought we are not aware?
0:19:03 > 0:19:08- Yeah.- That's why you did not come out and tell us that you'd broken one of the rules?- Yep.
0:19:08 > 0:19:11Yeah. That doesn't change anything, anyway.
0:19:11 > 0:19:12I'm going to search your bag.
0:19:12 > 0:19:14- You're going to search my bag?- Yes.
0:19:14 > 0:19:18That is a total invasion of privacy.
0:19:18 > 0:19:23- I'm sorry...that is a total invasion of privacy.- Privacy?
0:19:23 > 0:19:27Yeah, which shows little respect for me because you don't have trust in me,
0:19:27 > 0:19:29which gives me little respect for you,
0:19:29 > 0:19:34because I feel like you're treating me like I'm ten or something.
0:19:34 > 0:19:37You have already shown little respect for us.
0:19:37 > 0:19:39But I've already told you.
0:19:39 > 0:19:44- Let me remind you of something. This is my house.- I know.
0:19:44 > 0:19:49And in my house, you are going to do as I tell you to do.
0:20:02 > 0:20:04- It's not done.- It's not there.
0:20:10 > 0:20:11OK.
0:20:24 > 0:20:25(Oops.)
0:20:25 > 0:20:28(There's no way I'm handing them over.)
0:20:28 > 0:20:29(Not after that.)
0:20:29 > 0:20:31HANNAH LAUGHS
0:20:31 > 0:20:35I think she's a stubborn child. I think she's really stubborn.
0:20:35 > 0:20:37I think she's spoiled.
0:20:37 > 0:20:41- And we really, really need to be strict with her.- Very tough on her.
0:20:41 > 0:20:42Yeah. We have to be tough on her.
0:20:44 > 0:20:49Precious goes to an exclusive private school in the capital city.
0:20:49 > 0:20:52Today, Hannah and Leigh will be joining her.
0:20:53 > 0:20:58- Is that suitable for school? - You look...- Handsome!
0:21:01 > 0:21:05For Mrs Selelo, a first-class education
0:21:05 > 0:21:08is the greatest gift a parent can give their child.
0:21:08 > 0:21:11Education is important for self-empowerment.
0:21:11 > 0:21:18Self-empowerment... You have a better future if you're educated.
0:21:18 > 0:21:21And it really gives you a good feeling, you know.
0:21:21 > 0:21:24You feel good about yourself if you're educated,
0:21:24 > 0:21:29because you know that you can make a difference in the world.
0:21:29 > 0:21:32The Legae Academy is one of Botswana's
0:21:32 > 0:21:35leading academic institutions.
0:21:35 > 0:21:3995% of its students go on to university.
0:21:40 > 0:21:42Englishman, Mr Hutchinson,
0:21:42 > 0:21:47is the vice principal and is proud of his pupils' attitude.
0:21:47 > 0:21:49Most of our students, of course,
0:21:49 > 0:21:52are coming from culture in Africa, shall we say,
0:21:52 > 0:21:54and are generally very compliant.
0:21:56 > 0:22:00We go an extra mile in improving discipline in our school.
0:22:00 > 0:22:03That explains why we have the best results in this country.
0:22:08 > 0:22:12Seven o'clock in the morning. That's a ridiculous hour.
0:22:12 > 0:22:15They should at least start school a bit later.
0:22:15 > 0:22:19Hannah and Leigh will be treated like any other student,
0:22:19 > 0:22:24and Mr Hutchinson has summoned them both to outline the required standards.
0:22:24 > 0:22:27- Hello, there.- How do you do? - Mr Mughweri.
0:22:27 > 0:22:30- Hello, Leigh.- Hello.- Hi, there.
0:22:30 > 0:22:32Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you.
0:22:32 > 0:22:35Now, you'll join form five, as we call it,
0:22:35 > 0:22:38which is the equivalent to GCSE.
0:22:38 > 0:22:41- You need to take your hands out your pockets.- Sorry.
0:22:41 > 0:22:44OK. Now, we have three categories of offences.
0:22:44 > 0:22:48For example, if you don't do your homework, you'll pay a fine.
0:22:48 > 0:22:51Then detention. Right. That's obviously more serious offences.
0:22:51 > 0:22:53For example, let me warn you, chewing gum,
0:22:53 > 0:22:56that's instant detention.
0:22:56 > 0:22:57If you do argue,
0:22:57 > 0:23:03disrupt a lesson with a member of staff, that is detention and so on.
0:23:03 > 0:23:06So good luck to you both. I hope I won't meet you again in some ways,
0:23:06 > 0:23:08cos usually it means there's a problem.
0:23:08 > 0:23:11I hope you'll enjoy your time at the school. Good luck.
0:23:11 > 0:23:13- Great, thank you.- Thank you.
0:23:15 > 0:23:18Leigh has completely dropped out of college.
0:23:18 > 0:23:20And since her mother passed away,
0:23:20 > 0:23:24Hannah's education has been falling further and further behind.
0:23:27 > 0:23:32Most of her school life was based round socialising rather than academia.
0:23:32 > 0:23:36Didn't get a single GCSE...but if...
0:23:36 > 0:23:40- Every morning I'd be like, "Oh, I can't be- BLEEP- to go to school,"
0:23:40 > 0:23:43and he'd be like, "That's OK, have the day off."
0:23:43 > 0:23:48The teachers were finding it difficult to teach her the stuff, because she wasn't that interested.
0:23:48 > 0:23:51I could have been a geek or I could have had fun. I chose fun.
0:23:51 > 0:23:53I loved it.
0:23:53 > 0:23:55- Good morning.- Hi.
0:23:55 > 0:24:00The first lesson is English taught by Jamaican Mrs Burke.
0:24:01 > 0:24:05We were talking about writing speeches.
0:24:05 > 0:24:09So let's turn our books to page 30 and we'll talk
0:24:09 > 0:24:14about something I'm sure most of you will have heard about.
0:24:14 > 0:24:20It's Dr Martin Luther King. Leigh, what do you know about Dr King?
0:24:20 > 0:24:23One of the main speeches he wrote was I Have A Dream
0:24:23 > 0:24:25and it's been told around the world.
0:24:25 > 0:24:30- Hannah, do you know anything about him?- No.- You've never heard anything about him?- I've heard of him.
0:24:30 > 0:24:33You've heard about him. Read Dr King's speech for us.
0:24:33 > 0:24:37"I have a dream that one day every valley shall be..."
0:24:38 > 0:24:40- Exulted.- Exulted.
0:24:40 > 0:24:44I'm going to stop you there. This was Dr King's dream...
0:24:44 > 0:24:46What's your dream?
0:24:46 > 0:24:50Think about it for a second. What's your dream, Naomi?
0:24:50 > 0:24:54I want to become something in life to be recognised.
0:24:54 > 0:24:56To have an environmentally-friendly world.
0:24:56 > 0:25:01- I want to be a grand master in chess. - He wants to be a grand master...
0:25:01 > 0:25:04Now, Hannah, what's your dream?
0:25:04 > 0:25:05I don't have one.
0:25:05 > 0:25:08- You don't have one? - No.- You need to get one,
0:25:08 > 0:25:12because you're going to write a speech that tells us what your dream is.
0:25:12 > 0:25:15At Legae, students receive homework every day.
0:25:15 > 0:25:18Tomorrow, Hannah and Leigh will be required
0:25:18 > 0:25:22to deliver their speeches in front of the entire class.
0:25:23 > 0:25:25"Did you hear about King and I Have A Dream?
0:25:25 > 0:25:28"What's your dream?" "I want to play chess."
0:25:29 > 0:25:31I like it.
0:25:31 > 0:25:34Hannah might be scornful of her new classmates' ambitions,
0:25:34 > 0:25:40but there's no disguising that the homework topic has touched a nerve.
0:25:40 > 0:25:43I don't have a dream, and some people don't.
0:25:43 > 0:25:46I don't like to look forward cos it's stressful. I like living for today.
0:25:46 > 0:25:51I like to have fun. I want to not stress myself out.
0:25:51 > 0:25:55So looking forward and thinking, "Oh, my God, in five years time,
0:25:55 > 0:25:58"this is going to happen," and then worrying about it...
0:25:58 > 0:25:59Why would I want to do that?
0:26:02 > 0:26:07While Hannah withdraws, Leigh is relishing the attention.
0:26:07 > 0:26:10No. I'm the good one at school, but when I get home,
0:26:10 > 0:26:14I get loads of trouble at home. I don't take out my piercings.
0:26:14 > 0:26:15Your piercings?
0:26:15 > 0:26:16My nipple piercing.
0:26:16 > 0:26:18GIRLS SHRIEK
0:26:18 > 0:26:21ALL TALK AT ONCE
0:26:21 > 0:26:22I had to take the ball off...
0:26:22 > 0:26:24ALL SHRIEK
0:26:27 > 0:26:29Wasn't it painful?
0:26:29 > 0:26:33At the end of the week, the school will be hosting its annual prize-giving.
0:26:33 > 0:26:38Precious and her fellow students will be performing a traditional dance.
0:26:38 > 0:26:42Hannah and Leigh are expected to join in.
0:26:42 > 0:26:44God Almighty.
0:26:44 > 0:26:46This part...
0:26:46 > 0:26:48around your waist.
0:26:48 > 0:26:52- Yes. - This is very different to England.
0:26:52 > 0:26:54Have fun.
0:26:54 > 0:26:58THEY SING IN THEIR OWN LANGUAGE
0:27:05 > 0:27:07Leigh's a wonderful dancer.
0:27:07 > 0:27:11You can imagine that he has never done it, but I like his spirit.
0:27:11 > 0:27:14He is very positive about everything.
0:27:14 > 0:27:17By contrast, Hannah is refusing
0:27:17 > 0:27:21to take an interest in anything the school has to offer.
0:27:21 > 0:27:22I think Hannah
0:27:22 > 0:27:25is being rude about the traditional dancing thing.
0:27:25 > 0:27:28I mean, she hasn't even given it a try,
0:27:28 > 0:27:31and she's already refusing. At least Leigh tries.
0:27:31 > 0:27:33She's too self-conscious.
0:27:33 > 0:27:36She cares about what people think about her too much.
0:27:36 > 0:27:41And she worried people will think that she's an idiot, when everyone's doing exactly the same.
0:27:41 > 0:27:43I know I'm being a stroppy teenager.
0:27:43 > 0:27:45I know that I'm being a bit of a dick.
0:27:45 > 0:27:50I know that. But I'm so not used to this.
0:27:52 > 0:27:57All timetabled activities are compulsory at Legae Academy,
0:27:57 > 0:28:00and non-participation is unacceptable.
0:28:00 > 0:28:02Come in, please.
0:28:02 > 0:28:06It's not long before vice principal Hutchinson wants a word with Hannah.
0:28:06 > 0:28:08Right.
0:28:08 > 0:28:09Now, I'm getting reports
0:28:09 > 0:28:14from teachers that you're not really co-operating in class...
0:28:14 > 0:28:18- OK.- So you have detention.
0:28:18 > 0:28:22- I'm sorry, but I just... I can't click into that.- Well, Hannah,
0:28:22 > 0:28:25I have to stop you. I am not here to debate the rules.
0:28:25 > 0:28:29- But...- That is, I'm afraid, the way the world works, here and elsewhere.
0:28:29 > 0:28:33Don't forget to report here at three.
0:28:33 > 0:28:35- Right.- All right. Thank you.
0:28:41 > 0:28:44Hannah's behaviour is quite the exception
0:28:44 > 0:28:46to what I am familiar with in the school.
0:28:46 > 0:28:50Hannah's a difficult case, but we wouldn't give up on her.
0:28:50 > 0:28:51She mustn't give up on herself.
0:28:51 > 0:28:55I have done nothing wrong at all.
0:28:55 > 0:28:58- Been on my best- BLEEP- behaviour.
0:29:00 > 0:29:02It's the end of the first school day.
0:29:02 > 0:29:05Leigh leaves Hannah to start her detention.
0:29:05 > 0:29:09He's eager to get home and share his achievements.
0:29:09 > 0:29:11I learnt quite a lot today, actually.
0:29:11 > 0:29:13Surprisingly. I even joined in with the dancing.
0:29:13 > 0:29:16How do you do that dance? Can you demonstrate?
0:29:16 > 0:29:18Then it's like this...
0:29:18 > 0:29:20ALL LAUGH
0:29:20 > 0:29:23Then it was...then it was...
0:29:23 > 0:29:25MRS SELELO WHOOPS
0:29:30 > 0:29:34Back at school, Hannah's had time to dwell on her negative attitude.
0:29:34 > 0:29:38Now Mr Hutchinson wants to discuss her behaviour with Mrs Selelo.
0:29:42 > 0:29:44Hello.
0:29:44 > 0:29:47Oh, Mrs Selelo.
0:29:47 > 0:29:50Thank you very much for coming.
0:29:50 > 0:29:52You're an intelligent person.
0:29:52 > 0:29:55You have the potential to do well,
0:29:55 > 0:29:59but you have to open your heart, I would say, to do that.
0:29:59 > 0:30:02You shouldn't just be seen to be the odd one out.
0:30:02 > 0:30:05You are not doing yourself any justice.
0:30:05 > 0:30:09- I don't... - You're not doing us any justice.
0:30:09 > 0:30:10I'm sorry to you.
0:30:10 > 0:30:14I really am. And I know that you're not used to this kind of thing.
0:30:14 > 0:30:19And I know that it's, like, horrible
0:30:19 > 0:30:22to have to sit here in front of a vice principal
0:30:22 > 0:30:27and talk about somebody that you're looking after who's misbehaving.
0:30:27 > 0:30:28And I'm sorry about that.
0:30:28 > 0:30:32And also sorry to you that I've made you feel
0:30:32 > 0:30:35as though I haven't been trying.
0:30:56 > 0:30:59Back at home, Mrs Selelo wants to understand
0:30:59 > 0:31:03why Hannah has such a destructive attitude towards her education.
0:31:03 > 0:31:05It's just not me.
0:31:05 > 0:31:10I don't know, I just don't like being taught, and I don't like...
0:31:10 > 0:31:12It stresses me out.
0:31:12 > 0:31:15Don't you think, if you have an education,
0:31:15 > 0:31:18you stand a better chance of getting a job?
0:31:18 > 0:31:21Not only a job, but a better... a well-paid job?
0:31:22 > 0:31:27I don't know. The whole idea just scares me completely.
0:31:27 > 0:31:30- I know you don't think about the future anyway...- Yeah.
0:31:30 > 0:31:33but the future is going to come,
0:31:33 > 0:31:36- whether you want to admit it or not.- Yeah.- Yeah.
0:31:36 > 0:31:41I would like you to do the homework for yourself, not for the school.
0:31:41 > 0:31:44- All right. I'll try my best.- Please.
0:31:44 > 0:31:45- OK.- All right, dear.
0:31:47 > 0:31:50'She's made me think, like, about the future, which I don't want to do,'
0:31:50 > 0:31:54but I guess one day I'm going to have to.
0:31:54 > 0:31:57While Hannah takes a step forward,
0:31:57 > 0:32:01Leigh is heading in the opposite direction.
0:32:01 > 0:32:03I really don't want to talk about this.
0:32:03 > 0:32:06- Come on, Leigh.- No.
0:32:06 > 0:32:11He's being confronted with the consequences of his own dishonesty.
0:32:11 > 0:32:13Why can't this family keep anything to themselves?
0:32:13 > 0:32:18I'm not even going to talk to anyone anymore.
0:32:18 > 0:32:20Gape heard Leigh's still wearing his nipple ring.
0:32:22 > 0:32:25And as Botswanan custom demands,
0:32:25 > 0:32:28he's told his parents about this deception.
0:32:28 > 0:32:30Can I sit with you guys?
0:32:30 > 0:32:36- Hi.- If you must.- What's that mean? Are you going to tell me what's up?
0:32:36 > 0:32:38You.
0:32:38 > 0:32:41There's not one ounce or bit of respect you have for me...
0:32:41 > 0:32:45at all. If your brother came to you and told you something,
0:32:45 > 0:32:49would you go and jump straight into your parents' room, and go, "Blah blah blah?"
0:32:49 > 0:32:52Why did you tell them? Where's the respect?
0:32:52 > 0:32:55I said to my mother, she asked me to. I won't lie to you.
0:32:55 > 0:32:58I've tried so hard.
0:32:58 > 0:32:59I've stopped smoking.
0:32:59 > 0:33:02I haven't been in trouble at school.
0:33:02 > 0:33:05I worked hard. I've been respectful.
0:33:05 > 0:33:08I've made them dinner. I washed their fricking hands.
0:33:08 > 0:33:11I took out my piercings. I took out my tongue.
0:33:11 > 0:33:13I took out that. OK? I...
0:33:13 > 0:33:16He's abided by every single rule.
0:33:16 > 0:33:18- One thing he does wrong...- One thing!
0:33:18 > 0:33:22..and instantly, it goes straight to your parents.
0:33:22 > 0:33:24In the Selelo household,
0:33:24 > 0:33:28family rows are resolved, not by shouting, but by talking.
0:33:28 > 0:33:31Gape has decided to help Leigh plead his case
0:33:31 > 0:33:33in a formal family conference.
0:33:33 > 0:33:36It may be wrong, and please correct us if we are,
0:33:36 > 0:33:40but we are just thinking, let this thing be for the sake of peace
0:33:40 > 0:33:42and also in appreciation...
0:33:42 > 0:33:45To show him appreciation for all he has tried.
0:33:45 > 0:33:48I can hear what you are saying, my son...
0:33:51 > 0:33:54..but Leigh has to remove this thing.
0:33:54 > 0:33:56He was not born like this.
0:33:56 > 0:33:59It's a breach of trust.
0:33:59 > 0:34:01We want to stress the point, Mum,
0:34:01 > 0:34:04that he is in a completely different setting.
0:34:04 > 0:34:09You are now appearing as if you are the legal representative of Leigh.
0:34:09 > 0:34:11Leigh can talk for himself.
0:34:11 > 0:34:15But the way you walked out...
0:34:15 > 0:34:17is disrespectful.
0:34:17 > 0:34:21I would like you to apologise to us for that behaviour.
0:34:24 > 0:34:28I apologise for walking out on you and...
0:34:28 > 0:34:30I apologise for, like, for...
0:34:30 > 0:34:34for using the language I used.
0:34:34 > 0:34:36But to you, it may be a piece of metal,
0:34:36 > 0:34:42but it's part of me, and part of how I am.
0:34:42 > 0:34:48I want to be myself towards you, and this is me.
0:34:48 > 0:34:51The piercings are me.
0:34:51 > 0:34:55I can see that you are in such a state, and...
0:34:55 > 0:34:58I don't really want to spoil the relationship,
0:34:58 > 0:35:02but what I would like to stress is that we don't want to see that
0:35:02 > 0:35:04under any circumstances.
0:35:12 > 0:35:14It's the teenagers' second school day,
0:35:14 > 0:35:19but first, Mrs Selelo wants Hannah and Leigh to understand
0:35:19 > 0:35:23how behaviour like theirs is dealt with in Botswanan culture.
0:35:25 > 0:35:29She's escorting Hannah and Leigh to her town's tribal court, or Kgotla,
0:35:29 > 0:35:34where family disputes are judged according to traditional tribal values.
0:35:36 > 0:35:41This is where cases of disobedience are brought.
0:35:41 > 0:35:47You know, offences like disobeying parents, doing drugs,
0:35:47 > 0:35:49kind of activities.
0:35:49 > 0:35:51They are brought to the tribal court.
0:35:51 > 0:35:55The chiefs or a particular chief adjudicate on the case
0:35:55 > 0:35:58and decides the best course of action,
0:35:58 > 0:36:04and that might also include lashing or caning of the offender.
0:36:04 > 0:36:08Children as young as eight can be caned by village elders
0:36:08 > 0:36:11as punishment for bad behaviour at home.
0:36:11 > 0:36:13A fact that Leigh has trouble accepting.
0:36:13 > 0:36:16I think it's disrespectful for the children. I think...
0:36:16 > 0:36:19Disrespectful? This is our tradition.
0:36:19 > 0:36:21I understand it's your tradition,
0:36:21 > 0:36:23but in my culture...
0:36:25 > 0:36:27Do you believe that children have rights?
0:36:27 > 0:36:31HE SPEAKS IN TSWANA
0:36:31 > 0:36:34There's no such thing as rights when it comes to a child.
0:36:34 > 0:36:36LAUGHTER
0:36:36 > 0:36:37What?!
0:36:37 > 0:36:42You are joking, mate. You did not just say that.
0:36:42 > 0:36:45- Ohh!- No...!
0:36:46 > 0:36:52That is offensive. No kid, NO kid, no matter what, should be hit.
0:36:52 > 0:36:56They should be told not to do it, and if they refuse to listen...
0:36:56 > 0:37:00then you still shouldn't hit them, you should explain to them why they shouldn't.
0:37:00 > 0:37:05For the first time they might talk to you, for the second time might talk, too, but the third time,
0:37:05 > 0:37:10they need to impose harsh punishment and that would include, obviously, lashing.
0:37:10 > 0:37:13And it works here. It works.
0:37:13 > 0:37:19I've swore at my parents, I have thrown things at my parents,
0:37:19 > 0:37:22I've even told my parents that I hate them and I wish they were dead.
0:37:22 > 0:37:27They gave you too much rights, if I may use that word. And where are you right now?
0:37:27 > 0:37:30I'm certain that, had you been spanked,
0:37:30 > 0:37:34had you been lashed when you were young, you would be different.
0:37:34 > 0:37:37- Yeah. I think I'd be a lot nastier person.- I don't think so.
0:37:37 > 0:37:43- I don't agree with him when he says in English culture, they've never been beaten.- Never.
0:37:43 > 0:37:47So many times I have seen English women beating their children.
0:37:47 > 0:37:49Even as young as this...
0:37:52 > 0:37:53..until he falls down.
0:37:53 > 0:37:56So he's not telling the truth, this young man.
0:37:56 > 0:37:58No, I've, I'VE never been beaten.
0:37:58 > 0:38:00He wants to justify his wrongdoings.
0:38:06 > 0:38:11Once at school, Hannah must complete the remainder of yesterday's detention.
0:38:11 > 0:38:14She's been instructed to spend an hour filling bin bags with litter.
0:38:14 > 0:38:19As ever, she's determined to do the bare minimum.
0:38:19 > 0:38:20Are there any other dustbins?
0:38:20 > 0:38:24- Oh, there's a place where there's lots of rubbish.- Wicked. Thank you.
0:38:25 > 0:38:27Yeah, there's lots of rubbish, over there.
0:38:27 > 0:38:32- Oh, I don't want to touch it!- Just take a black bag and say it's yours.
0:38:32 > 0:38:37Thank you. You are thinking in the right box here.
0:38:39 > 0:38:41Nice one.
0:38:41 > 0:38:44- There you go.- You are a star.
0:38:44 > 0:38:46You are great. Thank you.
0:38:46 > 0:38:52Hannah thinks she's met a fellow skiver, but in this school, everyone aspires to a bright future.
0:38:52 > 0:38:58I have no idea what I want to do when I'm older. I have not looked forwards in the slightest.
0:38:58 > 0:39:00So you're going to stay with your parents your whole life?
0:39:00 > 0:39:04No. No. I'm pretty much living with my mates already...
0:39:04 > 0:39:06off, like, council tax and shit like that.
0:39:06 > 0:39:10- Council tax?!- Yeah. They've got a flat in town so we all check in.
0:39:10 > 0:39:13- You have no ambitions, nothing? - Not really.
0:39:13 > 0:39:15I don't really look forward that far.
0:39:15 > 0:39:20- I just look for now. - You're gonna be a hobo, just travelling all the time.- No.
0:39:20 > 0:39:22I might work in a shop or something.
0:39:22 > 0:39:25Don't you have dreams, like, you want this and you want that?
0:39:25 > 0:39:27I mean, you have to work for these dreams.
0:39:27 > 0:39:33You can't just be there like, "I'm living for the moment." Life is not all about fun.
0:39:33 > 0:39:37- It is!- One of these days you'll have to go out there. - But when the day comes...
0:39:37 > 0:39:39You're young and you just want to live your life.
0:39:39 > 0:39:42- Yeah.- I'm like that, too. I understand that, we're teenagers,
0:39:42 > 0:39:46and we just want to have fun, but I mean, you have to think about your future.
0:39:49 > 0:39:52Halfway through their Botswanan experience,
0:39:52 > 0:39:57both teens are starting to realise a fundamental difference between Britain and Africa.
0:39:57 > 0:40:00It's just, basically, you've got to be a rebel to be cool.
0:40:00 > 0:40:04- But here, you've got to be smart to be cool.- It's really bizarre.
0:40:04 > 0:40:06- Yeah.- It's really weird.
0:40:06 > 0:40:10To be cool you have to be smart, and actually it's pretty good.
0:40:10 > 0:40:14I want to start your presentation "I Have A Dream". Are there any volunteers?
0:40:14 > 0:40:17It's time to present their English homework.
0:40:17 > 0:40:20And Leigh is determined to impress Mrs Burke.
0:40:20 > 0:40:25"I have a dream, one that many people want, many people try for.
0:40:25 > 0:40:27"Some succeed and some fail.
0:40:27 > 0:40:31"But the winners never quit and quitters never win.
0:40:31 > 0:40:34"If you just put your heart and soul into what you want,
0:40:34 > 0:40:37"never take no for an answer, don't give up on things you love.
0:40:37 > 0:40:41"They make you who you are. Make your dreams become reality,
0:40:41 > 0:40:45"for you may never know if you'll get another shot at it."
0:40:45 > 0:40:47And that's all I've done.
0:40:52 > 0:40:58I have a dream that some day, some day, men and women will put their differences aside and live in peace.
0:40:58 > 0:41:02I have a dream that young minds in this room will drive
0:41:02 > 0:41:05the emancipation of our homeland into a league of its own.
0:41:05 > 0:41:08Last up is Hannah.
0:41:08 > 0:41:12Despite her preparation, her confidence deserts her.
0:41:12 > 0:41:15To be completely honest with you, I don't have a dream.
0:41:15 > 0:41:17This isn't my dream.
0:41:17 > 0:41:23I just wrote down a load of rubbish cos I got given homework, but I don't actually have a dream.
0:41:23 > 0:41:26Just so you know, so this isn't well written or anything.
0:41:26 > 0:41:30Just make your presentation, Hannah, thanks.
0:41:30 > 0:41:35"I have a dream where women are not judged by the way they look.
0:41:35 > 0:41:40"I believe all women of any age, or any culture, style, individuality,
0:41:40 > 0:41:43"all have a self-conscious person inside of them.
0:41:43 > 0:41:49"One day I hope women can have enough courage to look beyond their exterior
0:41:49 > 0:41:52"and not inspired to look like the models in magazines
0:41:52 > 0:41:55"but to show themselves through personality."
0:41:55 > 0:41:57Thank you, Hannah.
0:41:57 > 0:42:00APPLAUSE
0:42:02 > 0:42:05Hannah's speech was nice. It was honest.
0:42:06 > 0:42:09I didn't think she was going to do it,
0:42:09 > 0:42:12but I'm actually hoping that she actually took the effort to do it.
0:42:12 > 0:42:14Hannah, the sentiments were good.
0:42:14 > 0:42:18It's unfortunate that you felt that this is your dream
0:42:18 > 0:42:25cos I am sure that many women around the world could understand some of the things you spoke about.
0:42:25 > 0:42:26Women. OK.
0:42:28 > 0:42:32People are always implying that I am stupid and I really don't blame them
0:42:32 > 0:42:35cos I did slip a lot, and I feel stupid.
0:42:35 > 0:42:38I don't know. I used to be so smart.
0:42:38 > 0:42:42I've just got such a lack of confidence in myself.
0:42:43 > 0:42:50The British teenagers and their African parents are becoming more comfortable in each other's company.
0:42:50 > 0:42:56Mr Selelo wants to take advantage of the positive atmosphere to dig a little deeper.
0:42:56 > 0:42:59Don't you think Hannah's taken some dopes?
0:42:59 > 0:43:01Marijuana.
0:43:01 > 0:43:03- Marijuana.- She's like that, she...- She smokes it.
0:43:03 > 0:43:07- The way she behaves... - She smokes it.- She smokes tobacco.
0:43:07 > 0:43:09And marijuana, same as me.
0:43:09 > 0:43:15- You do.- Yeah. But last time when we meet first time, you told us that you have quit all these things.
0:43:15 > 0:43:23- For this week. I'm trying to quit.- To quit.- Yeah. I'm trying, trying to quit.
0:43:23 > 0:43:28- You don't have to try, you have to...- There's no addiction. I've got no addiction to marijuana.
0:43:28 > 0:43:31You don't benefit anything from smoking.
0:43:31 > 0:43:33Instead, it cripples your mind.
0:43:33 > 0:43:39- You can't think properly. - I only have one true friend...
0:43:39 > 0:43:44and he smokes weed. It's going to be the peer pressure of him maybe
0:43:44 > 0:43:49sitting there, smoking a joint and I'm just like, "No, I don't want it,"
0:43:49 > 0:43:51but I could take it again.
0:43:53 > 0:43:58So, yeah, it's difficult because, as I've said, I've only got one friend
0:43:58 > 0:44:01and I don't want to lose him, I really don't.
0:44:01 > 0:44:05Sometimes I feel you guys can change.
0:44:05 > 0:44:07I can feel I'm changing.
0:44:07 > 0:44:10I know to change from the habit
0:44:10 > 0:44:16or the things that you used to do is not a matter of a day.
0:44:16 > 0:44:18- No. It's going to take time. - It takes time.
0:44:24 > 0:44:28Like many families, the Selelos own a cattle post out in the country.
0:44:31 > 0:44:36Today they want Leigh and Hannah to get a taste of a more rural African life.
0:44:43 > 0:44:49Leigh, welcome to the lands, and this is our family farm.
0:44:49 > 0:44:54We brought you here so you can work for a change instead of all this idling in England. Great.
0:44:54 > 0:44:56- So are you ready for the work?- No.
0:44:56 > 0:44:58But the work is ready for you.
0:45:00 > 0:45:02OK, so now we're going to harvest some sweet leek.
0:45:08 > 0:45:09Got sandy shoes.
0:45:09 > 0:45:12And I'm hot and I'm bothered.
0:45:12 > 0:45:14And now my trousers are falling down.
0:45:14 > 0:45:18OK, Leigh. Leigh, today, we're going to have dinner and we're having goat meat,
0:45:18 > 0:45:21so we're going to the corral now to get the goat we're going to slaughter.
0:45:21 > 0:45:23I'm not killing it, though.
0:45:23 > 0:45:29In Botswana, learning to slaughter animals is a rite of passage for every boy.
0:45:29 > 0:45:32- GOAT BELL CLANGS - Come on, goat.
0:45:36 > 0:45:38I am not going to kill it.
0:45:39 > 0:45:42I just physically can't do it.
0:45:43 > 0:45:46Hold it like this. She's saying hold it like that.
0:45:48 > 0:45:50Look it. Look it!
0:45:50 > 0:45:53- Look it. Look it.- No. I can't.
0:45:53 > 0:45:56Look. Look. Look. Look it.
0:45:58 > 0:45:59This is dead.
0:46:04 > 0:46:06Underneath.
0:46:07 > 0:46:11I don't want to touch any more of it than I already have.
0:46:13 > 0:46:15Aah... Aah...
0:46:15 > 0:46:16Ohh...!
0:46:16 > 0:46:18Where? What am I doing?
0:46:18 > 0:46:20- What?- Yeah, that's OK.
0:46:21 > 0:46:22HE RETCHES
0:46:29 > 0:46:33On the other side of the farm, Mrs Selelo has decided to share a secret with Hannah.
0:46:36 > 0:46:38You know, when I was still at school...
0:46:39 > 0:46:41..I fell pregnant.
0:46:41 > 0:46:46They had to check him, and then he said, "I'm giving you ten minutes
0:46:46 > 0:46:51"to clear your locker and you should be out of my school."
0:46:51 > 0:46:52That's not fair.
0:46:52 > 0:46:54It was very, very painful.
0:46:54 > 0:46:59So you're not the only one who's going through the hardships.
0:46:59 > 0:47:05I used to be like, really smart, middle school, I was top of the school. They had like,
0:47:05 > 0:47:11these girls and I always hung round with them and I was like, "Yeah, I'm in with the popular kids."
0:47:11 > 0:47:14They were all like, hair and make-up and stuff like that.
0:47:14 > 0:47:19I began to fuss more about doing my make-up before school
0:47:19 > 0:47:22than I did, like, doing my homework...
0:47:22 > 0:47:26Like when I started bunking lessons and doing my make-up
0:47:26 > 0:47:29and straightening my hair in lessons
0:47:29 > 0:47:31and getting kicked out and stuff...
0:47:31 > 0:47:34- and this gave me friends!- Yeah.
0:47:34 > 0:47:37You are a person in your own right.
0:47:37 > 0:47:40It's important to believe in yourself.
0:47:40 > 0:47:41Yeah.
0:47:41 > 0:47:43You have that in you, Hannah.
0:47:43 > 0:47:45You have that in you.
0:47:45 > 0:47:47I used to have that.
0:47:47 > 0:47:49I'd like to have it back.
0:47:52 > 0:47:55When it comes to Mrs Selelo, she just opened up to me
0:47:55 > 0:47:58and I felt that I could do the same to her
0:47:58 > 0:48:00and I respect her a lot for it.
0:48:06 > 0:48:11The teens have been in Botswana for almost a week.
0:48:13 > 0:48:16Tonight, Leigh has his first contact from home.
0:48:16 > 0:48:19- I've got a letter here. - OK. Thank you.- You're welcome.
0:48:19 > 0:48:22- Thank you.- Yeah.
0:48:22 > 0:48:24"To our dear son, Leigh.
0:48:24 > 0:48:29"Recently, I'm sure you will admit you have lost your way in life.
0:48:29 > 0:48:33"Sometimes you're turning into someone I don't recognise,
0:48:33 > 0:48:36"especially after you have been smoking your weed.
0:48:36 > 0:48:41"I do want you to know that despite our disagreements
0:48:41 > 0:48:45"and arguments, I really do love you and when I moan at you, it's only
0:48:45 > 0:48:50"because I care and I'm scared that you will end up getting in too deep,
0:48:50 > 0:48:53"then you won't be able to get out.
0:48:53 > 0:48:56"We both do love you and miss you so much.
0:48:56 > 0:48:58"You are everything, Mum and Dad."
0:48:59 > 0:49:03I didn't know that I...changed
0:49:03 > 0:49:05because I smoked weed.
0:49:05 > 0:49:08I thought I was always the same.
0:49:08 > 0:49:12I just want to tell my parents that I'm really sorry
0:49:12 > 0:49:14and I want my parents to be proud of me again.
0:49:23 > 0:49:25It's prize-giving day at school.
0:49:25 > 0:49:31Both teens have been asked to give a short speech about their experiences in Botswana.
0:49:32 > 0:49:33Knock-knock, Hannah.
0:49:33 > 0:49:35Hello.
0:49:35 > 0:49:37Can you come and help me with the ironing?
0:49:37 > 0:49:40- Yep. Sure.- Thank you, my dear.
0:49:40 > 0:49:47But before they leave, Mrs Selelo wants Hannah to engage with the issue she's been desperate to avoid.
0:49:47 > 0:49:50Her mother's life...and death.
0:49:50 > 0:49:52I guess you were really close to your mum.
0:49:52 > 0:49:56I'm... We weren't actually that close.
0:49:56 > 0:50:04We didn't really speak, but she left home and I hardly got to see her.
0:50:04 > 0:50:09And when I did, she was drinking or something and I just got so fed up with it.
0:50:09 > 0:50:11Fed up with the drinking or her?
0:50:11 > 0:50:14Both. I just wanted to see her, and not drunk her.
0:50:14 > 0:50:16Mm-hmm.
0:50:16 > 0:50:18But then again, like, she took me to festivals
0:50:18 > 0:50:22and she was so much fun when she had a drink in her and stuff.
0:50:22 > 0:50:24Does talking about your mother's death
0:50:24 > 0:50:28evoke some painful feelings, that's why you don't want to talk about it?
0:50:28 > 0:50:30Yeah. Painful feelings.
0:50:30 > 0:50:35I don't like thinking about upsetting things what's happened in the past.
0:50:35 > 0:50:38Life has to go on.
0:50:38 > 0:50:44And I would like to believe that even our loved ones who have died
0:50:44 > 0:50:47would want us to live a happy life.
0:50:51 > 0:50:53'I think...
0:50:53 > 0:50:55'talking about things is a good idea.'
0:50:55 > 0:50:58I've never really thought about that,
0:50:58 > 0:51:01but yeah, talking about things is a good idea.
0:51:01 > 0:51:04But I've always wanted to be this kind of person who's like,
0:51:04 > 0:51:08"Yeah, that's happened to me, but let's just go on with it and stuff."
0:51:08 > 0:51:11Yeah. Maybe I'll start talking more.
0:51:18 > 0:51:22It's the last day of school and hundreds of parents
0:51:22 > 0:51:24are arriving to celebrate their children's achievements.
0:51:24 > 0:51:26It's too small, isn't it?
0:51:26 > 0:51:29- Put it around the other way. - OK, thank you.
0:51:32 > 0:51:36Mrs Selelo wants Hannah and Leigh to make her proud.
0:51:43 > 0:51:45THEY SING
0:51:47 > 0:51:49AUDIENCE ROAR
0:51:49 > 0:51:51Leigh!
0:52:12 > 0:52:14SHE CHEERS
0:52:20 > 0:52:25Hannah is ready to prove to herself that if she tries, she can succeed.
0:52:28 > 0:52:30OK. Well, this is really scary for me, so...
0:52:30 > 0:52:36Um... Yeah. I just wanted to thank everyone for having us on board.
0:52:36 > 0:52:42I've had a really great time here and I appreciate everything.
0:52:42 > 0:52:48I've had so many new experiences and it's mainly to do with the school.
0:52:48 > 0:52:52So I'm very grateful towards all of you. Thank you.
0:52:52 > 0:52:55APPLAUSE AND CHEERING
0:52:59 > 0:53:02I'm very proud of them. It's unbelievable.
0:53:02 > 0:53:04You know, I'm speechless.
0:53:07 > 0:53:12I'm proud of myself, just cos I'd never ever...ever...
0:53:12 > 0:53:17- stand up in front of that many people with a microphone.- Really? Oh, I'm proud of you too.
0:53:19 > 0:53:25The time has come for the teens to leave Botswana and return to their own families back home.
0:53:25 > 0:53:33We all agree and believe that you're emerging out of this experience...
0:53:33 > 0:53:37- Yeah.- ..better people. - Thank you.- Yeah.
0:53:37 > 0:53:40Believe in yourself. Look people in the eye. You are a man.
0:53:44 > 0:53:46Dude, stop crying!
0:53:46 > 0:53:49- Bye.- Bye-bye.
0:53:49 > 0:53:54- Thank you so much for everything. Thank you all so much.- Goodbye.
0:54:05 > 0:54:09The one thing I've learnt the most from this experience is to give a crap.
0:54:09 > 0:54:11At the moment the world's my oyster,
0:54:11 > 0:54:15and I can do anything I want with it if I just put my mind to it.
0:54:17 > 0:54:19KNOCK AT DOOR
0:54:21 > 0:54:23Hello.
0:54:23 > 0:54:25Have you missed me?
0:54:27 > 0:54:31Whenever I come here, I straighten my hair, out the door again.
0:54:31 > 0:54:34And it's just like I never have any time for any of you,
0:54:34 > 0:54:37but I'd like to spend some more time with you guys.
0:54:37 > 0:54:42- I'm going to appreciate you more cos you've been away for so long and I've missed you.- Yay.- Yay.
0:54:42 > 0:54:45- I've missed you, too.- It's nice to have you home again.
0:54:53 > 0:54:55- Hello, mate. You all right? - Look at you!
0:54:57 > 0:54:58Oh, Jesus.
0:54:58 > 0:55:02- Looks different, doesn't he? - Do I?- Oh, yeah.- Missed you guys. - Got a lovely tan.
0:55:03 > 0:55:08- No tongue bars. They took all my piercings.- All of them?- All of them.
0:55:08 > 0:55:12Yeah. I bought home, like, a lot of respect for you guys.
0:55:12 > 0:55:14It's unbelievable. You don't realise though, do you?
0:55:14 > 0:55:16- Missed you like mad. - It's been weird.
0:55:16 > 0:55:21It's been absolutely... I'm getting all... I'm all welling up now.
0:55:21 > 0:55:24And hopefully, I want to get my life on track. I really do.
0:55:24 > 0:55:25Fresh start, yeah?
0:55:25 > 0:55:27- All of us. Yeah? - New beginnings.- Yeah.
0:55:27 > 0:55:30- New beginnings.- Yeah.
0:55:30 > 0:55:33- 'It seems as if he's...grown up. - Yeah. He does.'
0:55:33 > 0:55:37- Yeah.- And he seems motivated. - Matured. Yeah, definitely.
0:55:37 > 0:55:40I think we're going to see a different boy from now on.
0:55:40 > 0:55:42- 'Hopefully.- Yeah.'
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