0:00:02 > 0:00:06Around the world, many parents raise their children on a diet of strict discipline...
0:00:06 > 0:00:09Do not come back until you have checked your answers.
0:00:09 > 0:00:10Rigid boundaries...
0:00:10 > 0:00:16Drinking, drugs and sex, they're selfish behaviours that destroy lives.
0:00:16 > 0:00:18And immediate consequences...
0:00:18 > 0:00:19Come on!
0:00:19 > 0:00:20RINGS BELL
0:00:20 > 0:00:26Some people might say that my parents are strict but we'd rather call it love!
0:00:29 > 0:00:33But can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:33 > 0:00:38I need some more booze! Where is my booze?
0:00:38 > 0:00:41As soon as someone says, "You will do this," the first thing I say is, "No, I won't!"
0:00:41 > 0:00:45I get away with murder, really, like, I can just do anything I want!
0:00:45 > 0:00:47Big lack of respect for authority!
0:00:47 > 0:00:50I go to bed whenever I want. I wake up whenever I want!
0:00:50 > 0:00:55I don't care what anyone else thinks about me because it's up to me, isn't it?
0:00:55 > 0:01:00To find out, two teens who have never met before will leave their fraught families behind.
0:01:00 > 0:01:02Don't embarrass your family!
0:01:02 > 0:01:05And head off to the far corners of the world where they will live
0:01:05 > 0:01:08according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:08 > 0:01:12In my house, you're going to do as I tell you to do.
0:01:12 > 0:01:14Please, let me make it very clear...
0:01:14 > 0:01:16My children won't defy me!
0:01:16 > 0:01:19This is wrecking my head, this is wrecking my head!
0:01:19 > 0:01:22When I punish, I punish really hard!
0:01:22 > 0:01:25I'm sick of being treated like a little kid!
0:01:25 > 0:01:27- Shut up and listen to me! - Get upstairs!- No!
0:01:27 > 0:01:29You're a child, you're mine.
0:01:29 > 0:01:31In the US, you have to do what an adult says.
0:01:31 > 0:01:32They are actually insane.
0:01:32 > 0:01:38The British people's moral fabric is disintegrating.
0:01:49 > 0:01:52I'm just mixing me vodka and me Fanta orange!
0:01:52 > 0:01:56Teenage mum Hannah Thorpe always looks after number one!
0:01:56 > 0:02:01I just love getting drunk because you can make a show of yourself and not really care about it!
0:02:01 > 0:02:02Give me the bottle!
0:02:02 > 0:02:06I do what I want when I want and I don't care what anyone else thinks about me.
0:02:06 > 0:02:09It's a nightmare! She goes out, she gets drunk,
0:02:09 > 0:02:13she smokes and I'm terrified that she'll get that drunk one night,
0:02:13 > 0:02:16she won't know what she's doing. It's a cruel world out there!
0:02:16 > 0:02:18# Boom, boom, boom
0:02:18 > 0:02:20# Gotta get that boom, boom, boom. #
0:02:20 > 0:02:24Hannah is bringing up nine-month-old Tanicia on her own after separating from the father.
0:02:24 > 0:02:29Being a single parent has not changed her self-indulgent behaviour.
0:02:29 > 0:02:33My attitude to life is live today like there's no tomorrow!
0:02:35 > 0:02:38I'm 17, I'm still a child, I still want to go out and have fun!
0:02:38 > 0:02:41I don't think it's selfish I leave the baby for two nights a week.
0:02:41 > 0:02:43That's what people do on Fridays!
0:02:43 > 0:02:46I don't want you getting off your face like that, Hannah!
0:02:46 > 0:02:49You were falling down the stairs, couldn't stand up straight!
0:02:49 > 0:02:52She's just wild, she's a wild child, basically.
0:02:52 > 0:02:54She just lives the way she wants to live.
0:02:54 > 0:02:59Hannah lives entirely on benefits but won't take advice from anyone.
0:02:59 > 0:03:03My mum tries to tell me what to do, but I just don't listen to her!
0:03:03 > 0:03:05She wants her own way all the time.
0:03:05 > 0:03:10If you don't give her her own way, she flies off in a paddy!
0:03:10 > 0:03:11I'm at me wits end with her.
0:03:11 > 0:03:13Now she's pissed me off!
0:03:13 > 0:03:15She can't live like that! She's got a baby.
0:03:15 > 0:03:18I just hope this experience will learn her something.
0:03:21 > 0:03:2617-year-old James Gowing is obsessed with his image.
0:03:28 > 0:03:31That's my hair done. Does my hair look all right?
0:03:31 > 0:03:34My image is very important because it makes me who I am,
0:03:34 > 0:03:39it makes me distinctive, it makes me stand out and makes me just...me!
0:03:39 > 0:03:41- Have fun.- I will, bye.
0:03:41 > 0:03:43James can't stand being at home.
0:03:43 > 0:03:47- He spends his life hanging out with friends.- Is that how much that was?
0:03:47 > 0:03:50What percentage is it?
0:03:50 > 0:03:52- £2.40!- 7.5, you know!
0:03:52 > 0:03:54- It's 7.5.- Naah!
0:03:54 > 0:03:59I come here so often to escape from my mum because me and my mum have a difficult relationship,
0:03:59 > 0:04:02like, we don't really get along with each other.
0:04:02 > 0:04:04I think James is wasting his time at the moment
0:04:04 > 0:04:09just concentrating on friends and going out drinking
0:04:09 > 0:04:12and smokes weed and that.
0:04:12 > 0:04:16I've been smoking since I was about 12-years-old. It's quite a big part of my life, really.
0:04:16 > 0:04:18I smoke weed every single day.
0:04:18 > 0:04:21James's parents divorced when he was seven.
0:04:21 > 0:04:23He hardly ever sees his father.
0:04:23 > 0:04:28It's been all right not having my dad around but I would like him in my life...
0:04:28 > 0:04:30it's just difficult cos he lives so far away.
0:04:30 > 0:04:36The only time James gets in contact with his dad is if he wants money off him or something, but otherwise...
0:04:36 > 0:04:38not really, no.
0:04:38 > 0:04:42Tired of their constant rows, James's mum is on the verge of kicking him out for good.
0:04:42 > 0:04:45He can come back in a bad mood
0:04:45 > 0:04:49and just kick off at the slightest little thing I say.
0:04:49 > 0:04:52Over the past, maybe year or so, things have been...
0:04:52 > 0:04:56- Really hard.- So I'm hoping after this trip we can make a fresh start.
0:04:56 > 0:05:03James needs to realise that he has got potential but I need him to make these changes. Sorry.
0:05:06 > 0:05:09To try and get their family lives back on track,
0:05:09 > 0:05:12both parents have agreed to send their wayward teens
0:05:12 > 0:05:14to the other side of the world,
0:05:14 > 0:05:16to live with new parents under strict rules.
0:05:16 > 0:05:19- See ya!- See ya!
0:05:19 > 0:05:22I'm gonna miss him loads, but I'm proud of him for doing this.
0:05:22 > 0:05:23Just a bit sad.
0:05:23 > 0:05:26I just hope she learns something while she's out there.
0:05:28 > 0:05:29Are you OK? Give us a hug.
0:05:29 > 0:05:32- Are you scared?- Yeah, I'm petrified!
0:05:32 > 0:05:34I am, only a little bit.
0:05:38 > 0:05:42The teens' 4,500 mile journey will end here...
0:05:42 > 0:05:47the town of Touella in the state of Utah, deep in the American Midwest.
0:05:47 > 0:05:54# Were you there when they crucified my lord? #
0:05:58 > 0:06:01Here they will be staying with the Pecks,
0:06:01 > 0:06:05a clean-living Mormon family who dedicate their lives to God.
0:06:05 > 0:06:09We follow his teachings, his principles out of the Bible
0:06:09 > 0:06:11and that's how we run our home.
0:06:12 > 0:06:14Dad, Spencer is a plumber
0:06:14 > 0:06:18whilst mum, Nicholeen, home-schools their four children,
0:06:18 > 0:06:2112-year-old Quinton, 11-year-old Paije,
0:06:21 > 0:06:24seven-year-old Lundin and Porter, who is five.
0:06:24 > 0:06:27Discipline is really important in our home.
0:06:27 > 0:06:31In order for a person to be a success in life, they have to learn how to master themselves.
0:06:31 > 0:06:36For children's lives it is very good to have morals and standards
0:06:36 > 0:06:37and rules in the home.
0:06:37 > 0:06:42# Oh, say can you see by the dawn's early light
0:06:42 > 0:06:45We consider ourselves very patriotic in our family.
0:06:45 > 0:06:48We instil that in our children to love your country, to love your God,
0:06:48 > 0:06:52to be a person who is going to be able to change your country for good.
0:06:52 > 0:06:56Mr and Mrs Peck strictly control their children's access to youth culture.
0:06:56 > 0:07:00We're not allowed to watch or listen to anything
0:07:00 > 0:07:04that the prophet himself would not listen to.
0:07:04 > 0:07:11"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal."
0:07:11 > 0:07:17Drinking, drugs and sex, they're selfish behaviours that destroy lives.
0:07:17 > 0:07:20The Pecks have just one goal for their children.
0:07:20 > 0:07:25They've got to make a difference in this world, a difference for good,
0:07:25 > 0:07:28that's why we parent the way that we parent
0:07:28 > 0:07:30because we are warriors for good.
0:07:34 > 0:07:40After 20 hours of travelling, James and Hannah touch down in the state capital, Salt Lake City.
0:07:40 > 0:07:44I've been smoking since I was like nine-years-old so I'm obviously addicted.
0:07:44 > 0:07:46Without fags, I get really stressed out.
0:07:49 > 0:07:53Utah is one of America's most conservative states.
0:07:53 > 0:07:57You must be 18 to smoke and 21 to drink alcohol.
0:07:57 > 0:08:01- Ugh!- You think yours is! Mine's stronger.
0:08:01 > 0:08:04A vodka and a coke!
0:08:04 > 0:08:08I reckon that they're stuck up, definitely!
0:08:08 > 0:08:12- Definitely!- If you live in a neighbourhood like this, it's like Wisteria Lane!- And strict.
0:08:12 > 0:08:14Are you ready for this?
0:08:14 > 0:08:16If I'm not by now, it's too late!
0:08:16 > 0:08:20Oh, there they are, oh, my God!
0:08:20 > 0:08:23- Hello!- Hello! Welcome to Utah.
0:08:23 > 0:08:28- I'll give you a hug.- Hi, I'm Nicholeen. I can give you a hug, definitely, definitely!
0:08:28 > 0:08:30- Hi.- I'm Spencer. - Hi.- Nice to have you here.
0:08:30 > 0:08:34- I'm James.- James, nice to meet you, I'm Nicholeen, good to meet you.
0:08:34 > 0:08:36- I'm Spencer.- Did you travel good? - Yeah.
0:08:36 > 0:08:38- Are you James?- Yes, I'm James.
0:08:38 > 0:08:43All right, I notice there's already a few things that we don't usually do in our house.
0:08:43 > 0:08:46We don't smoke. Can I just take them from you?
0:08:46 > 0:08:49I don't mean to disrespect you but I really need a cigarette.
0:08:49 > 0:08:52The thing is that then you have a smell on you after.
0:08:52 > 0:08:56- I've got deodorant in my bag.- I can't have no ciggies for ten days.
0:08:56 > 0:08:59Well, I'll just hold onto these ones right now and your lighter and stuff.
0:08:59 > 0:09:03No, I'm not gonna give you my lighter, though! You can't have it!
0:09:03 > 0:09:06OK, well for now hold onto the lighter but I'll take the cig, OK?
0:09:06 > 0:09:09- Can I just have one blow? - Really, no, no.
0:09:09 > 0:09:10Are you gonna give these back to us, then?
0:09:10 > 0:09:14Do you know, we're gonna go over all the stuff inside, OK?
0:09:14 > 0:09:19- Thank you, and I'm guessing you've got just soda or something?- Yeah.
0:09:19 > 0:09:23OK, we generally actually don't drink coke, but if you want to finish that off today.
0:09:23 > 0:09:26OK, do I have to drink it right now?
0:09:26 > 0:09:30- Go for it!- OK!- Can I
0:09:30 > 0:09:38actually smell what you're drinking to make sure it's not like alcohol or something?
0:09:38 > 0:09:41Oh, woah, I can smell it from here!
0:09:41 > 0:09:44You know, well, actually smells like it's alcohol,
0:09:44 > 0:09:49Sorry that I made you do that because, actually, you're gonna have a harder day now because of that.
0:09:49 > 0:09:51- I'm gonna dump this in the gutter, OK.- Go for it.
0:09:51 > 0:09:53And we'll feed the street, OK?
0:09:53 > 0:09:56That's just a waste! We should have drank it in the car!
0:09:56 > 0:09:58- Are you ready to go in?- Yeah.
0:10:01 > 0:10:04- I need a cigarette, man. - I need a ciggie as well!
0:10:04 > 0:10:08For the next ten days, Hannah and James will be living as children
0:10:08 > 0:10:11of the Peck family, from doing daily chores to being home-schooled.
0:10:11 > 0:10:13- Hi, are you all right?- Hi!
0:10:13 > 0:10:17Hey, everybody, this is James and Hannah.
0:10:17 > 0:10:19- Hi!- If you wanna say hello. - Hi, nice to meet you. What's your name?
0:10:19 > 0:10:22- I'm Quinton.- Nice to meet you, Quin. - Nice to meet you, Quin.
0:10:22 > 0:10:24- What's your name?- Paije. - Nice to meet you, Paije.- Hi, Paije.
0:10:24 > 0:10:26- Hi!- What's your name? - Lundin.
0:10:26 > 0:10:29- Oh, hi, Lundin.- Like the city but it's spelt a little different.
0:10:29 > 0:10:33- Porter.- Porter? Hi to meet you, I mean, nice to meet you!
0:10:33 > 0:10:37The Pecks live in a modest four bedroom house.
0:10:37 > 0:10:41They surround themselves with photos as a reminder of the importance of family.
0:10:41 > 0:10:45That is a picture of Spencer's brothers and sisters and their kids.
0:10:45 > 0:10:48I haven't even got a picture of my baby to show you, I forgot it!
0:10:48 > 0:10:50- Your babies? You have a baby?- Yeah.
0:10:50 > 0:10:53Oh, really! So you left him with your mom? Is it a girl or boy?
0:10:53 > 0:10:56She's with my mum, a girl, her name's Tanicia, she's gorgeous.
0:10:56 > 0:10:57- And how old is she? - She's nine months old.
0:10:57 > 0:11:00- Nine months!- Yeah! Oh, what a fun age! She's amazing!
0:11:00 > 0:11:02I think it's a little bit shocking that she has a baby.
0:11:02 > 0:11:04I think it's sad. I hope she's a good mother.
0:11:04 > 0:11:08This is actually the bedroom, Hannah, where you will be staying.
0:11:08 > 0:11:12Hannah will be sharing a room with 11-year-old Paije.
0:11:12 > 0:11:13Oh, my god!
0:11:17 > 0:11:21Oh, my god, it looks more like a grandma's clothes!
0:11:21 > 0:11:25James will be staying in 13-year-old Quinton's room.
0:11:25 > 0:11:27The people I've just met seem really nice.
0:11:27 > 0:11:29I don't think they seem that strict
0:11:29 > 0:11:31and I don't think they'll be that harsh.
0:11:34 > 0:11:38Mormons believe that parents have absolute authority over their children.
0:11:38 > 0:11:41Before they fully welcome the teens into their home,
0:11:41 > 0:11:44Spencer and Nicholeen want to establish the rules of the house.
0:11:44 > 0:11:49So I've made you each a little packet and they have a lot of the rules
0:11:49 > 0:11:54of our home in them and we're going to go over them with you, OK?
0:11:54 > 0:11:59Things that we will and will not do, number one is language.
0:11:59 > 0:12:03In our home, we do not swear, we do not gossip about other people...
0:12:03 > 0:12:04Or be rude to other people.
0:12:04 > 0:12:08We do not consume alcoholic beverages or addictive substances,
0:12:08 > 0:12:12energy drinks, hard liquor, coffee, tea, caffeinated drinks etc.
0:12:12 > 0:12:14Coffee? You can't drink coffee?
0:12:14 > 0:12:16- We have no coffee here. - It's addictive.
0:12:16 > 0:12:17So the other things,
0:12:17 > 0:12:22and these are rules that we cannot and will not bend on, OK?
0:12:22 > 0:12:26- Smoking.- Oh, but...that's a no-no.
0:12:26 > 0:12:29That's just one thing that I cannot go without.
0:12:29 > 0:12:33I'm sorry if I'm bending your rules but there's also my rules.
0:12:33 > 0:12:36OK, now remember that these are all no answers.
0:12:36 > 0:12:39No, no, it's not a no, because I need my nicotine.
0:12:39 > 0:12:43I would say with your "no, no, I cannot, no, no" I would not call that necessary!
0:12:43 > 0:12:46- That is not calm.- That is calm!
0:12:46 > 0:12:50So we're going to have to work on calm a little bit, and that's fine.
0:12:50 > 0:12:52So calm is what he showed, so.
0:12:52 > 0:12:54Let's go into what we're going to wear.
0:12:54 > 0:12:56Oh!
0:12:56 > 0:13:00It says we will not wear clothing that shows our shoulders, stomachs,
0:13:00 > 0:13:04backs or thighs, clothes that are too tight or closely fitted are inappropriate.
0:13:04 > 0:13:08All underwear must be completely covered by outside clothing.
0:13:08 > 0:13:12Clothing considered to be sloppy, dirty or contain any emblems or pictures
0:13:12 > 0:13:15which do not invite the spirit of the lord are inappropriate.
0:13:15 > 0:13:19- We haven't come to change how we look, we've come to change our attitude.- Yeah, exactly.
0:13:19 > 0:13:23I don't see why changing our clothes, our dress-sense has anything to do with our attitude.
0:13:23 > 0:13:25That is an amazing thing to bring up.
0:13:25 > 0:13:29The way that you present yourself to the world shows the world
0:13:29 > 0:13:33what statement you're making, so if you're making a statement...
0:13:33 > 0:13:38It doesn't matter if I wear a dress to there, to my ankles, I'm still gonna talk the way I'm gonna talk.
0:13:38 > 0:13:42- Exactly.- It's still gonna come out and I'm still gonna be me.
0:13:42 > 0:13:46- It doesn't change.- Just because I'm wearing a stupid ugly dress doesn't mean I'm gonna change!
0:13:46 > 0:13:49I'm not changing any of my clothes. I'm not going for that rule.
0:13:49 > 0:13:51- Stop talking. - I'm wearing my clothes.
0:13:51 > 0:13:55We're gonna go through that and these are no answers so we're gonna talk about these things.
0:13:55 > 0:13:58I'm wearing my clothes and now I need to go for a cigarette cos now I'm stressing!
0:13:58 > 0:14:01As far as the rules that we have, they may seem extreme
0:14:01 > 0:14:05but there are rules that we've implemented for our family
0:14:05 > 0:14:10and anybody who lives in our home would be expected to follow these rules.
0:14:17 > 0:14:22Being given firm boundaries has left James and Hannah in defiant moods.
0:14:22 > 0:14:26I don't care what she wants me to do... it's not gonna happen!
0:14:26 > 0:14:29She's not letting us do what we wanna do by smoking,
0:14:29 > 0:14:32so I'm not going to try and obey her rules
0:14:32 > 0:14:34and not wear fake tan or short skirts.
0:14:34 > 0:14:37It's my body and I'll show it if I want to.
0:14:37 > 0:14:40I need to wash my hands.
0:14:40 > 0:14:46One of my main priorities in life is my appearance, because that's the way I've been brought up...
0:14:46 > 0:14:49I haven't been brought up to dress and cover myself up.
0:14:49 > 0:14:51I've been brought up if you've got it, flaunt it.
0:14:51 > 0:14:53# Boy, I know you want it! #
0:14:56 > 0:14:59The teens have arrived on Memorial Day,
0:14:59 > 0:15:01a public holiday all over America
0:15:01 > 0:15:06and tonight the Pecks are hosting a celebration barbecue.
0:15:06 > 0:15:11- We want you to meet our family. - I want to meet your family.
0:15:11 > 0:15:14We can't take you up there if you're out of control, OK?
0:15:14 > 0:15:18We like to have fun and we want you to do that with us, that's the fun thing.
0:15:18 > 0:15:22I'm not gonna have fun if I'm not comfortable with what I'm wearing and I know I'm not.
0:15:22 > 0:15:26Well, we want you, by the end of this, to be able to have fun regardless of what you're wearing.
0:15:26 > 0:15:29- I won't be able to. - Well, that's your choice.
0:15:29 > 0:15:32- We're gonna get you some really nice things.- I don't...no!
0:15:32 > 0:15:35I mean, we wanna buy some really nice things, you know?
0:15:35 > 0:15:39I'm OK with spending a little bit of money on clothes
0:15:39 > 0:15:45if it's gonna be something that you can feel comfortable wearing and it also fits within our family standard.
0:15:45 > 0:15:50I don't understand why you can't show your shoul... I wanted to get a tan as well! God gave you shoulders!
0:15:50 > 0:15:54Surely Sunday, though, if it's a nice day you could go and sunbathe in the garden or something.
0:15:54 > 0:15:58With your shoulders covered? With everything covered over! - With our shorts on.
0:15:58 > 0:16:01Oh, god, this is wrecking my head, this is wrecking my head,
0:16:01 > 0:16:04I can't cope with this no more!
0:16:04 > 0:16:07I don't understand why you can't show the shoulders.
0:16:07 > 0:16:10God gave us shoulders for a reason and obviously if God let people
0:16:10 > 0:16:14make clothes like this then obviously if wasn't really bothered
0:16:14 > 0:16:16if you showed your shoulders off!
0:16:16 > 0:16:19Here we are starting a really strange place with her at age 17
0:16:19 > 0:16:24having a long history, apparently, of "If I have a fit, I get what I want,
0:16:24 > 0:16:26"ultimately, I'll get what I want."
0:16:26 > 0:16:29She may give a little bit to try to please but then she still wants what she wants.
0:16:29 > 0:16:33Well, this is going to be tricky with her, this is going to be hard.
0:16:33 > 0:16:37Modest dress is a key principle of the Mormon faith.
0:16:37 > 0:16:40For Nicholeen, compromise is not an option.
0:16:40 > 0:16:43Is that all right?
0:16:43 > 0:16:44They are a little tight.
0:16:44 > 0:16:48- They are a little tight. - I'm not wearing that, no way, Jose!
0:16:48 > 0:16:50- Hey, it will be cute! - No! Are you having a laugh?
0:16:50 > 0:16:53I am not wearing that. I'm not wearing that underneath.
0:16:53 > 0:16:57- Go...- No no no, no no no no no! - That looks good.
0:16:57 > 0:17:03If Hannah won't meet the Pecks' standard, she cannot join tonight's get together.
0:17:03 > 0:17:08- I don't want my family and my kids looking at you.- There's nothing wrong with it! You can't see nothing!
0:17:08 > 0:17:10Under that, actually you can.
0:17:10 > 0:17:11Wear that!
0:17:11 > 0:17:17Nicholeen believes that standing firm and enforcing boundaries are the key to good parenting.
0:17:17 > 0:17:20Yeah, but it's low-cut, they won't let me wear it.
0:17:20 > 0:17:22Yes, but that's gonna be covering it.
0:17:22 > 0:17:25She'll never make a threat that she isn't prepared to carry out.
0:17:25 > 0:17:28But you're still having an attitude problem.
0:17:28 > 0:17:31Yes, because look at the state of me! I look like a hippie!
0:17:31 > 0:17:33She can't go.
0:17:33 > 0:17:38James leaves with Spencer to get to the family gathering on time.
0:17:38 > 0:17:41Nicholeen is left to face the wrath of Hannah.
0:17:41 > 0:17:46Actually, yes, I did come here to change but you can't just expect me to change like that.
0:17:46 > 0:17:51Right now, just about everything that I say
0:17:51 > 0:17:53you are arguing with.
0:17:53 > 0:17:58You make me feel like you're ashamed to take me as myself,
0:17:58 > 0:18:02to see your family, like it's some special thing,
0:18:02 > 0:18:05that's why I'm pissed off with you.
0:18:05 > 0:18:09Which is why it's probably not wise for us to go, then.
0:18:09 > 0:18:13Sound! Let's go then. I'm going out in a bit.
0:18:13 > 0:18:17BLEEP suck my fat BLEEP you BLEEP BLEEP.
0:18:22 > 0:18:25She has very strong opinions
0:18:25 > 0:18:30and she pretty much only cares about her image
0:18:30 > 0:18:36and I hope, if she ever decides to let down her wall just a little bit,
0:18:36 > 0:18:39that we can show her something bigger to care about, something better.
0:18:39 > 0:18:42I mean family, relationships,
0:18:42 > 0:18:46those things are all way more important than somebody's image
0:18:46 > 0:18:48and I hope she gets that.
0:18:48 > 0:18:51She's made me cover all my body up.
0:18:51 > 0:18:53She's just irritating me to pieces.
0:18:53 > 0:18:55Just because she's a BLEEP fat bible basher,
0:18:55 > 0:18:57it doesn't mean I want to be one!
0:19:02 > 0:19:07Memorial Day is a nationwide family holiday.
0:19:07 > 0:19:09James, come and meet everybody.
0:19:09 > 0:19:11This is Nicholeen's father. His name is Nick.
0:19:11 > 0:19:13- Your name is?- James.
0:19:13 > 0:19:15James, happy to meet you, welcome.
0:19:15 > 0:19:17- You as well, thank you. - And this is her mother right there.
0:19:17 > 0:19:20- Are you all right? - Nice to meet you.- And you as well.
0:19:20 > 0:19:24At home, James spends hardly any time with his close relations.
0:19:24 > 0:19:27Me and my family never do anything like this.
0:19:27 > 0:19:30We used to do like with my dad and his ex-wife but like now,
0:19:30 > 0:19:32we don't do much any more, we all do our own thing.
0:19:32 > 0:19:38It's the end of James' first day living with the Pecks and their strict rules.
0:19:38 > 0:19:40You've been a bit strict with what she's wearing
0:19:40 > 0:19:42because people just wear what they wear
0:19:42 > 0:19:44and what they feel comfortable in, I think.
0:19:44 > 0:19:50Well, I don't know if you have any different ideas of how we might be able to get her past that?
0:19:50 > 0:19:54I hope we can, we're kind of sad she's missing all this.
0:19:54 > 0:19:56The family, I think they're quite nice really.
0:19:56 > 0:20:00The woman does my head in a little bit but the rest of them, the dad's all right.
0:20:00 > 0:20:03At the end of the day I've got to stay with them until next week...
0:20:03 > 0:20:05I might as well make the most of it while I'm here
0:20:05 > 0:20:07and save any arguments and just get along with them.
0:20:18 > 0:20:21Today the teens will be home-schooled by Nicholeen.
0:20:21 > 0:20:24Hannah.
0:20:24 > 0:20:26Wake up.
0:20:26 > 0:20:28James.
0:20:28 > 0:20:32It's, like, 7.25 right now.
0:20:32 > 0:20:38But first the entire family are expected to pull their weight with household chores.
0:20:38 > 0:20:40All these lists are
0:20:40 > 0:20:42the chore lists.
0:20:42 > 0:20:50Chores are very important in our house because, number one, it keeps the house clean and number two,
0:20:50 > 0:20:54it teaches us how we need to do things when we grow older.
0:20:54 > 0:20:56I don't think kids should do gardening.
0:20:56 > 0:21:00It's a boring job and kids shouldn't do boring things.
0:21:00 > 0:21:05I don't think it's fair for young kids of that age to have to do chores.
0:21:05 > 0:21:07They should be out having fun with a friend.
0:21:07 > 0:21:09It's annoying, it's pointless,
0:21:09 > 0:21:12it's not like it's not gonna get mucky again
0:21:12 > 0:21:13by the end of the frigging day.
0:21:16 > 0:21:20I'll show you where it goes in case you need it again, which you might.
0:21:22 > 0:21:25Nicholeen believes that home-educating her children
0:21:25 > 0:21:29helps her protect them from the temptations of the playground.
0:21:29 > 0:21:32The reason that I home-school
0:21:32 > 0:21:36is because I want them to do good in the world
0:21:36 > 0:21:38and to know what good means.
0:21:38 > 0:21:43I don't want them confused by somebody else's priorities in life.
0:21:43 > 0:21:47Hannah and James are required to join the daily study sessions.
0:21:47 > 0:21:50James has other ideas.
0:21:50 > 0:21:55Today I've decided to get a suntan, a real one.
0:21:55 > 0:21:57- Where are you going?- In the garden.
0:21:57 > 0:22:00Boys. Hey, James, come here, please.
0:22:00 > 0:22:02No, man.
0:22:02 > 0:22:07Today is Quinton's 13th birthday and since it's his 13th birthday
0:22:07 > 0:22:13I thought that we would do something that revolved a little bit around the age 13, OK?
0:22:13 > 0:22:18Hannah was expelled from school aged 13, when she was just two years older than Paije.
0:22:18 > 0:22:22When I was 13, I was just drinking like every night of the week
0:22:22 > 0:22:26and just going with loads of boys and because I was drunk I was kissing them and that.
0:22:26 > 0:22:28Are you going to save yourself until marriage?
0:22:28 > 0:22:30- Mm.- You're not gonna kiss no-one?
0:22:30 > 0:22:35How are you supposed to find if he's for you then if you don't kiss them and find...
0:22:35 > 0:22:39- You don't need to kiss them. You don't need to.- You need to explore them.- No you don't.
0:22:39 > 0:22:43You find out what their morals are and how they live their lifestyle.
0:22:43 > 0:22:47The Pecks have taught their children to stand up for what they believe in.
0:22:58 > 0:23:02James has been struggling with his education for some time.
0:23:02 > 0:23:07I didn't really do that good at school because I didn't concentrate enough in year 11.
0:23:07 > 0:23:10Year 11 is the year I lacked in and started smoking more weed.
0:23:10 > 0:23:14It made my grades go fail because I used to go my exams buzzing.
0:23:14 > 0:23:19He passed enough GCSEs to get into college, but there's little chance of graduating.
0:23:19 > 0:23:24I don't know how often he attends college, to be honest, but it's not regular.
0:23:24 > 0:23:31Things are not looking good and he's looking to be kicked out if he doesn't pull his socks up.
0:23:31 > 0:23:38Nicholeen believes a good education is essential for every teen to fulfil their potential.
0:23:38 > 0:23:40I don't want to learn about maths, English and science.
0:23:40 > 0:23:44I understand. You act like you know what my plan is, which I think you don't.
0:23:44 > 0:23:48Home schooling is about learning whatever you want. Did you know that?
0:23:48 > 0:23:53So here we go. I'll just do it with you both together, or are you planning on going too, Hannah?
0:23:53 > 0:23:58- The thing is, we're not little kids. - No...- We're 17 years old, and you're treating us like we're ten.
0:23:58 > 0:24:01- You're acting like it.- How am I acting like a three year old?
0:24:01 > 0:24:04- I'm 17 years old, I can look after myself.- OK, talk calmly.
0:24:04 > 0:24:08No! I'm sick of being treated like a kid when I'm not a kid.
0:24:08 > 0:24:13- Do I look like I'm BLEEP ten years old?! No! Idiot!- OK.
0:24:13 > 0:24:19- Are they running away, Mum? - It needs to be discussed with them. - Mum, are they running away?
0:24:20 > 0:24:24- There's no trust. Do not chase them. - No, I wouldn't, I wouldn't want to.
0:24:24 > 0:24:26- They want an audience. OK.- Yeah.
0:24:26 > 0:24:30If they don't get an audience, hopefully this behaviour will stop happening.
0:24:30 > 0:24:35In England, James and Hannah constantly run away from their problems,
0:24:35 > 0:24:38but in suburban Utah, they have nowhere to go.
0:24:38 > 0:24:42- I want to go to a pub but we ain't got no dollars.- We've got no ID. - We've got no ID.
0:24:42 > 0:24:45It's stupid, though, because you can't drink in their home
0:24:45 > 0:24:50and they won't let you drink because you're only 17 and we're not 21.
0:24:50 > 0:24:56In the Peck family, any arguments are discussed openly and used as an opportunity to learn.
0:24:56 > 0:25:00How do you feel about Hannah and James running away?
0:25:00 > 0:25:06- Bad...- I think they're acting like babies.
0:25:06 > 0:25:08They're being very immature.
0:25:08 > 0:25:12OK. How do you think they should handle the situation?
0:25:12 > 0:25:15They should disagree properly with you two
0:25:15 > 0:25:21and they should take it more calmly.
0:25:25 > 0:25:28Can we come back in, please?
0:25:28 > 0:25:31- You're asking to come in?- Uh-huh.
0:25:31 > 0:25:34I think so. Come on in.
0:25:40 > 0:25:44I think they've about gone nuts.
0:25:44 > 0:25:48They're trying to push all my mom's buttons and they haven't realised yet
0:25:48 > 0:25:52that's it's not gonna work.
0:25:52 > 0:25:57I tried this for years, I tried pushing my mom's buttons and it never worked.
0:25:57 > 0:25:59Could you go inside, please?
0:25:59 > 0:26:04Nicholeen has had enough of James and Hannah's behaviour.
0:26:04 > 0:26:10My kids right now...I think are really disappointed in you guys.
0:26:10 > 0:26:12What, in how we dress?
0:26:12 > 0:26:17No, because of the way that you're treating them and their parents and their family.
0:26:17 > 0:26:20They've seen you be very disrespectful and yell at us.
0:26:20 > 0:26:23We've said we're not changing how we look, and we're sticking with it.
0:26:23 > 0:26:26You can stay out of instructional control for the entire week
0:26:26 > 0:26:29but it would be such a bore for everybody to watch.
0:26:29 > 0:26:32I'm already bored now. There's nothing to bloody do!
0:26:32 > 0:26:38That's because everything we were going to do, we can't, because you're out of instructional control.
0:26:38 > 0:26:40At this point, we can't go back to clothes, OK.
0:26:40 > 0:26:42- Yeah, yeah.- We can't.
0:26:42 > 0:26:46We're just stuck in a big fat BLEEP rut over our appearance, that's what it is.
0:26:46 > 0:26:51- Exactly! And I want you to look attractive...- I want to look attractive. I'm in America.
0:26:51 > 0:26:53But still keeping the family standard.
0:26:53 > 0:26:56Take us shopping, let's see what you can get us.
0:26:56 > 0:27:01So I'm right in assuming, then, Hannah, that you would be willing to change your wardrobe for the week
0:27:01 > 0:27:04- as long as you liked the look of the clothes?- Yeah.
0:27:04 > 0:27:08Awesome. Then I think we're at the place we need to be.
0:27:08 > 0:27:14That really shows that you've chosen to respect me and that is a great place to be
0:27:14 > 0:27:18because then we can start doing things that are not about clothes, and that would be great.
0:27:20 > 0:27:24The Pecks eat breakfast together every morning.
0:27:24 > 0:27:28It's an opportunity to discuss any problems or concerns as a family.
0:27:28 > 0:27:34Look at this big stack of pancakes that Hannah has made!
0:27:34 > 0:27:38Spencer believes that only married couples should have children.
0:27:38 > 0:27:42He wants to know more about how Hannah is raising her daughter.
0:27:42 > 0:27:45- Were you planning on having a baby this young?- No.
0:27:45 > 0:27:49When I was 14, I was actually trying for a baby and then...
0:27:49 > 0:27:50- At 14?!- Yeah.
0:27:50 > 0:27:54- How come?- I just wanted one. I just wanted a kid.
0:27:54 > 0:27:59- And you have a job?- No.- How do you support your little girl? - I'm on benefits.
0:27:59 > 0:28:06So the Government helps to pay for diapers and food and things like that for the baby?
0:28:06 > 0:28:11I get £128 a week, and that's for me and my baby, and, like, it is hard to keep on that.
0:28:11 > 0:28:14And how far will that go? What will that buy?
0:28:14 > 0:28:15It'll get...
0:28:18 > 0:28:20..me and the baby some new clothes,
0:28:20 > 0:28:25the baby's milk, the baby's nappies, the rest of it goes like on me,
0:28:25 > 0:28:31like on a Friday, I'll go and spend it on alcohol or cannabis, or something like that.
0:28:31 > 0:28:36If you didn't spend it on those things, would you have more money to spend on your little girl?
0:28:36 > 0:28:40- Mmm.- To buy her more...- She has everything she needs, though.
0:28:40 > 0:28:46What if you were to save the other money that you are spending on drugs and stuff,
0:28:46 > 0:28:48how could that help you?
0:28:48 > 0:28:51It could help me, but I can't save money.
0:28:51 > 0:28:53I'd probably go and save a few hundred pound
0:28:53 > 0:28:57and then think, "I don't care, I'm going to go and spend it now."
0:28:57 > 0:29:00I can't save money for a long time.
0:29:00 > 0:29:06It shocked me that, if this is what the teenagers who are having babies are spending their money on,
0:29:06 > 0:29:10certainly they're not ready to be mothers,
0:29:10 > 0:29:13and I think we've seen in Hannah a lot of behaviours
0:29:13 > 0:29:18that would portray that she's not ready to be a mother. She's a mom, but she's not a mother.
0:29:20 > 0:29:26The Pecks believe passionately that a strong work ethic is central to good character.
0:29:26 > 0:29:31Dad Spencer, wants Hannah and James to discover the satisfaction that working can bring.
0:29:31 > 0:29:35He's volunteered them for a day of hard graft at a friend's ranch,
0:29:35 > 0:29:41where they will have to get their hands dirty alongside owner Carol and local teens, Aaron and Kash.
0:29:41 > 0:29:47Aaron, you work with James. You guys will throw a bale. Hannah, you'll work with me. We'll throw them up.
0:29:47 > 0:29:49They need to be loaded on then stack it.
0:29:49 > 0:29:53Kash works at the ranch in exchange for using their stables.
0:29:53 > 0:29:57He mows 70 lawns a week to earn spending money.
0:29:59 > 0:30:05I'm 15 and I've been working with my brothers and with my dad since I was 10...
0:30:05 > 0:30:11doing this and that, and I'm not saying that every kid needs to start when they're really young
0:30:11 > 0:30:16but I think every kid needs to learn, every teenager, especially a teenager,
0:30:16 > 0:30:18needs to learn that you have to work to have fun.
0:30:18 > 0:30:20Oh, my God!
0:30:22 > 0:30:27Even before she got pregnant, Hannah was happy to live on state benefits.
0:30:27 > 0:30:30Oh, my God, look!
0:30:30 > 0:30:35Last time I went to work I was 15, so that was 2½ years ago nearly.
0:30:35 > 0:30:40If it gets too much for me, then I'm going to let them know that I'm not prepared to do no more.
0:30:41 > 0:30:44Oh, my God, look at that one!
0:30:46 > 0:30:52With 150 acres and 120 horses to take care of, the ranch doesn't run itself.
0:30:54 > 0:30:58That was only ten bales. Normally, you get a truck-load of 150, 250 bales,
0:30:58 > 0:31:01you've got to put them all on and take them all off.
0:31:01 > 0:31:03INDISTINCT
0:31:03 > 0:31:06It takes a while. So what have you done before?
0:31:06 > 0:31:13I've done experience in a salon, like doing hair and nails, and that, but then I ran away.
0:31:13 > 0:31:16Well, this is totally different to doing nails and hair, yeah!
0:31:16 > 0:31:18It definitely is!
0:31:24 > 0:31:28They're volunteering, helping that woman, and they're not even her kids!
0:31:28 > 0:31:35During a rare break, James is keen to show off about his usual recreational activities.
0:31:35 > 0:31:39On an average weekend, I'd go out and get drunk and do drugs, that kind of stuff,
0:31:39 > 0:31:42go to parties or go out in town, and just generally have a good time.
0:31:42 > 0:31:46Why do that? You can have all the fun without getting drunk.
0:31:46 > 0:31:50- Do you go out or drink or smoke or do drugs or anything?- Never.
0:31:50 > 0:31:52So what do you do? Like go parties?
0:31:52 > 0:31:56- Yes, some.- Go to parties, hang out with friends, watch movies.
0:31:56 > 0:31:59- We watch movies.- Do you never drink, never?- No.- No.- Oh, my God!
0:31:59 > 0:32:05I think it's good that they don't. They can have fun without having to drink or anything.
0:32:05 > 0:32:11Cos of their religion. It's sad because they're young and shouldn't have to follow a religion so much
0:32:11 > 0:32:14and look into it in so much depth at such a young age.
0:32:14 > 0:32:17They should be having fun and living their life while they're young.
0:32:24 > 0:32:30Nicholeen has arranged for James to attend a local home-school get-together.
0:32:30 > 0:32:33She wants him to experience positive peer pressure.
0:32:35 > 0:32:37So everyone's got a team.
0:32:37 > 0:32:41Today's activities are all about confidence-building and team work.
0:32:41 > 0:32:43Nicholeen's sister Janelle is in charge.
0:32:43 > 0:32:47Everyone get a hold of your rope and then I'll give you the first clue.
0:32:47 > 0:32:48Ready?
0:32:48 > 0:32:50ALL: Yeah!
0:32:50 > 0:32:51Here we go...
0:32:51 > 0:32:53- Talk to your teams.- Guys, guys, OK.
0:32:53 > 0:32:55- What is...- This one, this one.
0:32:55 > 0:33:00You're BLEEP stressing me out! I can't be bothered with this!
0:33:00 > 0:33:03James's feelings of failure at school quickly resurface.
0:33:03 > 0:33:08I'm not doing it any more, simple as. I can let them down, I'm not doing it.
0:33:08 > 0:33:12- You can laugh at me all you want. - I'm not laughing at you. I'm just trying to figure out
0:33:12 > 0:33:18- what's really making you frustrated. - I can't be arsed anyway. I'm walking. Can't be bothered.
0:33:18 > 0:33:20I can let the team down, I don't care.
0:33:25 > 0:33:27James, I just want to talk to you for a minute.
0:33:27 > 0:33:31- No! Can you not understand there's no point in talking.- How about this?
0:33:31 > 0:33:34When things get really hard at home, what do you do?
0:33:34 > 0:33:37- I get stressed out. - And when what happens?
0:33:37 > 0:33:39What do you do?
0:33:39 > 0:33:42- I have a cigarette.- OK.
0:33:42 > 0:33:43Anything else?
0:33:45 > 0:33:47- No.- Do you give up?
0:33:47 > 0:33:49Yes.
0:33:49 > 0:33:54- Where does it get you?- I'm a failure, I give up on everything, so.- You're not a failure.
0:33:54 > 0:33:58You don't know me, so how can you say that or not?
0:33:58 > 0:34:04The reason why I feel like a failure is because I failed school, I failed at college that I've just been to.
0:34:04 > 0:34:10I've always never had faith in anything...and I always give up.
0:34:10 > 0:34:16I hate feelings these things because it just makes me feel ... about myself and disappointed in myself.
0:34:21 > 0:34:26I want to apologise for how I spoke to you and how I behaved.
0:34:26 > 0:34:30I was just really stressed out and I didn't feel very well.
0:34:30 > 0:34:32Well, thanks, I appreciate it.
0:34:32 > 0:34:38Would you be willing to continue on with the race? Your team said, "We can't go on cos James isn't here.
0:34:38 > 0:34:40"Shall we go get him?" And so they care about you,
0:34:40 > 0:34:44they want you to succeed, they want you to be a part of their success.
0:34:44 > 0:34:48When you overcome these hard challenges, you feel good about yourself,
0:34:48 > 0:34:54- cos you know that whatever you put your mind to, you can do it.- Yeah, I'll come and join in.- OK, let's go.
0:34:54 > 0:34:56Just right back here.
0:34:56 > 0:35:01This is your team right here, so work with them, talk to them, see what they're doing.
0:35:01 > 0:35:02They definitely need your help.
0:35:02 > 0:35:08I want to give you a hug for coming back, cos it's hard, and I know it's hard to do stuff like this
0:35:08 > 0:35:12but it is so courageous and brave to come back and face it and do more stuff.
0:35:12 > 0:35:15That's awesome. And they need you. Go for it!
0:35:15 > 0:35:21- So what are you all doing?- Somehow we're supposed to try and get everyone on this.- It's ridiculous.
0:35:21 > 0:35:25- People stand on the bottom so they stay in place?- It'll break!
0:35:25 > 0:35:30ALL SPEAK AT ONCE
0:35:30 > 0:35:31CRACKING
0:35:31 > 0:35:34THEY SCREAM
0:35:36 > 0:35:40Janelle believes that success should always be rewarded.
0:35:40 > 0:35:44Everyone is given a bracelet to remind them of their achievement.
0:35:44 > 0:35:46What does this rope mean to you?
0:35:46 > 0:35:49To never give up. To keep on trying, no matter how stressful it is.
0:35:49 > 0:35:54- Good, that's awesome. I'm glad you learnt that.- That was a good one, that!- That's great!
0:35:55 > 0:36:01The Pecks have arranged for Hannah to meet with ranch-hand Kash for a lunchtime date.
0:36:01 > 0:36:04They want her to understand a different teenage perspective.
0:36:04 > 0:36:10You go and meet the boy in town, usually you take your mate with you on the first time, and get a bevvy
0:36:10 > 0:36:13and smoke weed, and then if you're single and that,
0:36:13 > 0:36:16then you go back to his house and probably have sex.
0:36:16 > 0:36:18HE MUMBLES
0:36:18 > 0:36:23In Utah, the age of consent is 18 and, like all Mormons,
0:36:23 > 0:36:27the Peck children will be expected to save sex for marriage.
0:36:27 > 0:36:2916 is when you should date.
0:36:29 > 0:36:35You should be learning about other people, what you like, what you don't like, you know, in a person.
0:36:35 > 0:36:41They say passionate kissing is wrong, you shouldn't do that, you shouldn't lie on top of each other
0:36:41 > 0:36:47- and you should always date in groups. - Are you allowed to like touch each other before you're 16?- You're not.
0:36:47 > 0:36:53- I mean, before you get married?- No, you're not supposed to do that. You can hold hands, sit by each other.
0:36:53 > 0:36:56- What, that's it? - Talk, you know, and then have fun.
0:36:56 > 0:37:02- Are you allowed to sleep in the same bed?- No, definitely not. That's absolutely not allowed.
0:37:02 > 0:37:05If you're sleeping in the same bed, you might as well be doing it, too.
0:37:05 > 0:37:10In our church and in our culture, a relationship
0:37:10 > 0:37:11is more about emotional support
0:37:11 > 0:37:16and more about getting to know people and what you like and what you don't like,
0:37:16 > 0:37:19and to get to know that, you don't need to be sleeping with people.
0:37:19 > 0:37:22- Bye.- I hope you've had fun.- OK. - See you.- Bye.
0:37:22 > 0:37:25The most important thing in a relationship to me is,
0:37:25 > 0:37:29he needs to make me laugh, he needs to be nice to me, to cuddle me
0:37:29 > 0:37:35and tell me he loves me and that, he needs to be nice-looking and he needs to be good in bed.
0:37:44 > 0:37:51Tonight, James will be joining Spencer and Quinton in their regular father-and-son activity...
0:37:51 > 0:37:54singing with the Beehive Statesmen Chorus.
0:37:54 > 0:37:57Quin was the one who got me involved in barber-shop singing,
0:37:57 > 0:38:01so it's another one of those family things that's fun to do, we enjoy doing that.
0:38:01 > 0:38:04# We-de-de-de de de de de
0:38:04 > 0:38:08# We-um-um-away
0:38:08 > 0:38:11# In the jungle, the mighty jungle
0:38:11 > 0:38:14# The lion sleeps tonight
0:38:14 > 0:38:15# Ah-ah-ooh!
0:38:15 > 0:38:18- # In the jungle, the quiet jungle - Ooh-wah-wah, ooh-wah-wah
0:38:18 > 0:38:22# The lion sleeps tonight Hup-hup!
0:38:22 > 0:38:25# Ah-weem-away, ah-weem-away
0:38:25 > 0:38:29- # Ah-wee-um-um-um-away - Ah-weem-away
0:38:29 > 0:38:34- # Rr-rrrr-rrrr-rrr-r-r-r-r--r - Ah-weem-away, ah-weem-away
0:38:34 > 0:38:38# Ah-weem-away, ah-weem-away Wup! #
0:38:38 > 0:38:42I never, ever, ever thought in my life I could have fun with a bunch of old fogies, yeah.
0:38:42 > 0:38:49Even though I didn't sing very much, at least I came and joined in. I did enjoy myself, it was quite fun.
0:38:49 > 0:38:53- This is James, from England. - Hi, y'all.
0:38:53 > 0:39:00You all must know before James got here, he said, "I will NOT get up in front of people!"
0:39:00 > 0:39:02LAUGHTER AND APPLAUSE
0:39:05 > 0:39:09Do any of you have any questions you would like to ask James about England
0:39:09 > 0:39:14- or about himself, what he does? - James, what do you do for fun?
0:39:14 > 0:39:18Well, I go out and I just get off my head and just do what I want to do, basically.
0:39:18 > 0:39:23I've done drugs and that in the past, and I drink, so I've got a bit of an addiction towards it
0:39:23 > 0:39:26so it's kind of something that I feel... I like to do it.
0:39:26 > 0:39:31Maybe there is something in your life that you could choose, like singing or dancing,
0:39:31 > 0:39:36that gives you that same high without going to that addiction. There's your advice for the day.
0:39:36 > 0:39:40That's very true, actually. That's good advice, yeah.
0:39:40 > 0:39:43A little shocked, but pleased, that he was willing to get up and I said,
0:39:43 > 0:39:47"James, the only time we grow is when we do things we don't want to do
0:39:47 > 0:39:52"and when we get out of our little comfort zone," so I think he grew a lot tonight.
0:39:52 > 0:39:58First I said I wasn't going to do a Q&A session because my confidence wasn't good enough,
0:39:58 > 0:40:02but then I decided, "Why not?" At the end of the day, I need to improve my confidence.
0:40:02 > 0:40:05Why not get up in front of loads of people and talk about myself
0:40:05 > 0:40:09and answer questions what they're asking me. It made me feel better.
0:40:09 > 0:40:14That's why I'm buzzing at the minute because it made me feel much better, much more confident.
0:40:21 > 0:40:26Nicholeen's younger sister, Janelle, has a baby boy the same age as Hannah's daughter.
0:40:26 > 0:40:29You have a little munchkin this big?
0:40:29 > 0:40:35- Yeah.- And he depends on me for everything, Tanicia depends on you for everything
0:40:35 > 0:40:41and that includes learning everything they need to know to survive in the adult world.
0:40:41 > 0:40:48I cannot believe it that someone that is a mom is willing to just go out, drink, smoke,
0:40:48 > 0:40:52take two days off of being a mum so they can get their own fulfilment.
0:40:52 > 0:40:55I don't take drugs or drink around her,
0:40:55 > 0:40:59so when my mum has her, I think, "This is my free time to go and do what I want."
0:40:59 > 0:41:01She doesn't know I'm taking drugs and drinking.
0:41:01 > 0:41:05But you should be going home and sleeping where your child sleeps.
0:41:05 > 0:41:09- Yeah.- That is what a mom does. You know what? When Davis wakes up, I'm there.
0:41:09 > 0:41:12If he wakes up in the middle of the night, I'm there.
0:41:12 > 0:41:16He knows that I love him more than drugs, I love him more than alcohol.
0:41:16 > 0:41:20- I love Tanicia more than drugs or alcohol.- But actions prove otherwise sometimes.
0:41:20 > 0:41:26It doesn't, because how can I love alcohol and drugs over something I've actually created in my body?
0:41:26 > 0:41:28Well, that's a good question!
0:41:32 > 0:41:37Hannah's rebellious lifestyle started when her own family life broke down.
0:41:37 > 0:41:40We were like a close family and we all got on,
0:41:40 > 0:41:48then my mum and dad split up, then they decided to get divorced so we lost contact with my dad then.
0:41:48 > 0:41:51Hannah hasn't seen her dad for over five years.
0:41:51 > 0:41:56I got the blame for it. I think that's where a lot of Hannah's anger comes from as well.
0:41:56 > 0:42:02She could've tried to make it work and now we've been brought up without a dad and I miss him,
0:42:02 > 0:42:03so I do blame my mum.
0:42:03 > 0:42:09Despite her behaviour, Hannah's mum has always stood by her...
0:42:11 > 0:42:17..but after a week apart, she wants Hannah to know just how much hurt she's caused.
0:42:17 > 0:42:22"Hiya, love, really missing you and I love you very much.
0:42:22 > 0:42:26"Tanicia is happy and well so don't worry about her.
0:42:26 > 0:42:32"Hannah, babe, half the time you have my heart broken with your behaviour.
0:42:32 > 0:42:37"Your drinking and smoking really scares me. It's way out of hand.
0:42:37 > 0:42:42"I just want you to realise it's because I care about you so much.
0:42:42 > 0:42:46"You have to take other people's feelings into consideration.
0:42:46 > 0:42:52"I hope you learn to be a better person and respect the people around you.
0:42:52 > 0:42:57"I love you very much and wish you all the best. All my love, Mum."
0:42:58 > 0:43:00Oh, there's Tanicia!
0:43:08 > 0:43:13I can't wait to go home now and see my little girl.
0:43:15 > 0:43:18She deserves a better mum than I've been to her!
0:43:20 > 0:43:22Cos she's gorgeous.
0:43:22 > 0:43:28Nicholeen and Spencer want Hannah to look forward to a new life with her family.
0:43:28 > 0:43:32They've asked their children to sing for the British teens.
0:43:32 > 0:43:37# In the quiet misty morning
0:43:37 > 0:43:42# When the moon has gone to bed
0:43:42 > 0:43:47# When the sparrows stop their singing
0:43:47 > 0:43:52# And the sky is blue and red
0:43:52 > 0:43:58# Bind me not to the pasture
0:43:58 > 0:44:03# Chain me not to the plough
0:44:03 > 0:44:08# Set me free to find my calling
0:44:08 > 0:44:13# And I'll return to you somehow. #
0:44:13 > 0:44:18- The words of that are so true. - I know!- That was a really great surprise, guys.- So, so true.
0:44:18 > 0:44:24- You've made me realise how nasty I've been to my family. - How I act towards my mum.- Yeah.
0:44:24 > 0:44:30And I need to tell her that I love her too much! And that I miss her.
0:44:30 > 0:44:35And I'm going to be good for her. From now on, I'm not going to be nasty to her no more,
0:44:35 > 0:44:37because she doesn't deserve it.
0:44:39 > 0:44:43Feeling bad like that for those things
0:44:43 > 0:44:46and for understanding your sacrifice,
0:44:46 > 0:44:51that is a deep form of love, because that's you being selfless.
0:44:51 > 0:44:55- I do love her to pieces. - It's beautiful, it's so beautiful.
0:44:55 > 0:44:58I miss my mum now and the baby so much.
0:44:58 > 0:45:03Just sometimes I try and palm the baby off on people when I want to go out
0:45:03 > 0:45:08and I've realised now I shouldn't do that because I only get one life with her.
0:45:08 > 0:45:15She's going to get to a certain age and not want to spend all the time with me that she wants to now.
0:45:15 > 0:45:22I want to be the best mum that I possibly can for her and I don't want her to have a life like me.
0:45:22 > 0:45:25I don't want her to drink alcohol and take drugs and smoke weed.
0:45:25 > 0:45:31I want her to be a good girl, so I need to grow up now and start being a mum,
0:45:31 > 0:45:34because that's what I am, I'm a mum, and I can't change it.
0:45:42 > 0:45:47It's James' and Hannah's last full day with the Pecks.
0:45:47 > 0:45:50- You want to know what we're doing today?- Yeah!- Yes, please.- OK.
0:45:50 > 0:45:56Nicholeen wants the teens to join her at her annual charity gala in Salt Lake City.
0:45:56 > 0:45:58This event is so incredibly important to me
0:45:58 > 0:46:05- and so I will expect that you will be very respectful...- We will.
0:46:05 > 0:46:07It's a grand affair and strictly black tie.
0:46:07 > 0:46:12- Can I get them silky gloves? - We'll have to see, yeah.- Ooh! - We'll have to see.
0:46:12 > 0:46:18James, you are going to go with Spencer and he's going to teach you how to drive.
0:46:18 > 0:46:20- Really?- Really!- Yeah!
0:46:27 > 0:46:32In Utah, teenagers are legally allowed to drive from the age of 15.
0:46:32 > 0:46:34HE BEEPS HORN
0:46:34 > 0:46:38Having lessons with Dad is a rite of passage for American boys.
0:46:38 > 0:46:39Are you ready?
0:46:41 > 0:46:45Spencer wants to give James a chance to shine.
0:46:45 > 0:46:47- BUMPING - Sorry.
0:46:47 > 0:46:50Slowly on the brake, don't hit it too hard.
0:46:54 > 0:47:00I'd love my dad, like, to teach me to drive, but I don't think he's interested in that kind of stuff.
0:47:00 > 0:47:05- Try to park.- It's been different living with a dad, because I'm not used to having my own dad around.
0:47:05 > 0:47:09Seeing how Spencer is with his kids I wish my dad was like that with us.
0:47:09 > 0:47:15Pick a spot and park in that spot and just make sure you're in between the two lines.
0:47:15 > 0:47:21He's a good dad and he means well, he's got a good heart and he's a proper good family man.
0:47:21 > 0:47:23I know Spencer might not say it.
0:47:23 > 0:47:29Having brought nothing suitable with her to wear, Hannah is on the hunt for the perfect ball gown.
0:47:29 > 0:47:33- That's very, very... - That's gorgeous!- Yeah!
0:47:33 > 0:47:36And it has this nice detail in the back, it laces up.
0:47:36 > 0:47:41- It's beautiful, it's beautiful! - It is nice. It's just amazing, look at it!
0:47:44 > 0:47:48The Pecks have decided that James is ready to hear from home.
0:47:50 > 0:47:53"Dear James, it's probably about 3:30am,
0:47:53 > 0:47:59"couldn't sleep for thinking about the enormity of the journey you're going on.
0:47:59 > 0:48:02"Obviously, you knew that things needed to change.
0:48:02 > 0:48:06"We couldn't carry on the way it was.
0:48:06 > 0:48:08"I think it's very brave of you to do this.
0:48:08 > 0:48:11"Be strong as I know you are.
0:48:11 > 0:48:17"I'm looking forward to a new start when you get home in a couple of weeks. Mum."
0:48:20 > 0:48:22She's been there for me my whole life.
0:48:22 > 0:48:29She's been a single mum and she just works so goddamn hard and all I've done is walked all over her
0:48:29 > 0:48:34and put it back in her face when she's not deserved it.
0:48:34 > 0:48:37Hannah is all set for the evening.
0:48:37 > 0:48:42- With only an hour to the gala, James has let his emotions get the better of him.- Leave me alone!
0:48:42 > 0:48:45CRYING
0:48:46 > 0:48:48James.
0:48:48 > 0:48:50Are you OK?
0:48:50 > 0:48:52What's wrong?
0:48:52 > 0:48:56He was a bit upset and I thought, if I can try and comfort him,
0:48:56 > 0:49:01then he can at least get dressed and make it to the party tonight.
0:49:01 > 0:49:05At some point really soon you've got to just take a breath, OK,
0:49:05 > 0:49:12- because I can't bring somebody in there that's all upset.- Stop talking to me like you're my mum, OK!
0:49:12 > 0:49:17- You're not my mum. I've got one mum. That's it.- Tonight...- Don't talk to me like you're my mum.
0:49:17 > 0:49:20One thing you can stop doing is talking to me like you're my mum.
0:49:20 > 0:49:23Don't! It's upsetting me even more because I've got one mum only.
0:49:23 > 0:49:26I might have seen you for ten days, but you're still not my mum.
0:49:26 > 0:49:30Everyone gets upset, everyone gets mad, you know.
0:49:30 > 0:49:32There's times you want to punch a hole in the wall,
0:49:32 > 0:49:38but if you can master your emotions and get over the selfishness,
0:49:38 > 0:49:40then you've conquered a lot
0:49:40 > 0:49:42and hopefully James will conquer that tonight.
0:49:42 > 0:49:48- I'm stressed out and tired.- I know you are.- I need a fag and I'm upset at the minute, I don't know why.
0:49:48 > 0:49:50Can you hug me?
0:49:51 > 0:49:57James, do you know I want you there? Do you know that?
0:49:57 > 0:50:03I want you sitting beside me so that I can be proud of you, do you know that?
0:50:03 > 0:50:05I do,
0:50:05 > 0:50:08but I need YOU to respect ME.
0:50:08 > 0:50:11I need you...
0:50:11 > 0:50:13to be...
0:50:13 > 0:50:15the boy that I'm proud of tonight.
0:50:15 > 0:50:18You've got to be on my team or I can't take you.
0:50:18 > 0:50:22You've got to promise to me right now that you'll do that,
0:50:22 > 0:50:24otherwise I don't want to get you there -
0:50:24 > 0:50:28it'll be more disappointment if I say you can't come in because you're still uptight.
0:50:28 > 0:50:32- Can you do that for me? - Yeah.- You look great.
0:50:35 > 0:50:38Thank you, OK.
0:50:43 > 0:50:45Hello, Daniel.
0:50:45 > 0:50:50Tonight's charity ball is held at Utah's 90-year-old Capitol building
0:50:50 > 0:50:54and is attended by the cream of Salt Lake City society.
0:50:58 > 0:51:01GENTLE MUSIC PLAYS
0:51:04 > 0:51:10For the first time in her life, Hannah has discovered she can combine glamour and modesty.
0:51:12 > 0:51:15I'm all covered up tonight and I feel the best that I've ever felt.
0:51:15 > 0:51:18Usually I wear little skirts and all that.
0:51:18 > 0:51:22I'll feel good then, but you can't even see me toes in this dress
0:51:22 > 0:51:25and I feel even better than what I do with a little skirt on.
0:51:27 > 0:51:31It's more than a week since the teens have had any alcohol.
0:51:31 > 0:51:33Tonight's no exception.
0:51:33 > 0:51:36I don't need alcohol for everything, but I just choose to do it.
0:51:36 > 0:51:38At first when she said your drink's apple cider,
0:51:38 > 0:51:41we went, "Oh, yeah, cider, let's go and get a drink,"
0:51:41 > 0:51:46- then we noticed it wasn't cider, we were a bit gutted, then I wasn't bothered after that.- Me neither.
0:51:46 > 0:51:52For James, the evening has given him a chance to reflect on his lack of self-control.
0:51:52 > 0:51:55I'd like to apologise for my behaviour earlier.
0:51:55 > 0:52:02I don't know why I reacted like that, but like sometimes I have problems handling my anger problems
0:52:02 > 0:52:07and sometimes I just go off on one without thinking about my actions before I do them
0:52:07 > 0:52:11and, like, sometimes I just get upset for no reason.
0:52:11 > 0:52:15Apologising when you've done something wrong is, like, so mature.
0:52:15 > 0:52:19- Yeah.- Because it takes a big person to admit that sometimes.
0:52:19 > 0:52:24- Thank you for coming with me tonight. - Thanks for bringing us. - Thank you for bringing us...
0:52:24 > 0:52:27Yes, I was happy to have people come with me.
0:52:27 > 0:52:32That's, like, a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity and I'm glad it was with you.
0:52:32 > 0:52:37James and Hannah still have good times and bad times, but they have changed.
0:52:37 > 0:52:39I think they have vision, is the thing.
0:52:39 > 0:52:42They look at their lives with a different pair of eyes
0:52:42 > 0:52:49because they have been in a different environment long enough to be able to see the world differently.
0:52:53 > 0:52:57James' and Hannah's time in Utah has come to an end.
0:52:57 > 0:53:04I'll remember the family forever. They've helped me so much. This is an experience I'll never forget.
0:53:12 > 0:53:15THEY SING "AMAZING GRACE"
0:53:18 > 0:53:20I don't want to say goodbye to you!
0:53:22 > 0:53:26Thank you for changing me into a better person.
0:53:26 > 0:53:28SHE MOUTHS
0:53:30 > 0:53:35Thank you, Spencer, thank you for the driving lesson and everything.
0:53:35 > 0:53:37Just don't kill anybody, OK?
0:53:37 > 0:53:41SINGING CONTINUES AS FAREWELLS CONTINUE
0:53:43 > 0:53:47Are you OK? Are you OK?
0:53:47 > 0:53:49No.
0:53:54 > 0:53:58- See you all.- Take care, bye. - We love you. Drive safe.
0:54:00 > 0:54:02CRYING
0:54:13 > 0:54:16I've actually learnt I am a stronger person than what I thought I was.
0:54:16 > 0:54:19I thought I was going to break down and go "I wan to go home,"
0:54:19 > 0:54:25but I've stuck it out and I've changed in so many ways. I feel like a stronger person now.
0:54:25 > 0:54:28I just feel better in myself, I feel happier.
0:54:28 > 0:54:33The Pecks are a good family with each other. They talk to each other and spend time together.
0:54:33 > 0:54:39It's great that they're like that and when I go back my relationship with my mum is going to change.
0:54:39 > 0:54:43I'm going to let her into my life and talk to her more as well.
0:54:54 > 0:54:57- Hello!- Hello!
0:54:57 > 0:54:59How are you?
0:55:00 > 0:55:03It's good to see you.
0:55:05 > 0:55:11The most important thing that I've learnt all week is...family.
0:55:11 > 0:55:15- You've got us. - That's what I said all along, the only family I need is you lot.
0:55:15 > 0:55:17This is going to be a fresh start for us.
0:55:20 > 0:55:22Oh, Tanicia!
0:55:22 > 0:55:25Oh, my gosh, she's got massive!
0:55:26 > 0:55:28Oh, give us a hug!
0:55:29 > 0:55:33- I've really missed ya! - I've missed you too!
0:55:33 > 0:55:37Oh, my God, I've missed you so much!
0:55:37 > 0:55:42I'm really sorry for being a bad daughter and all I've put you through
0:55:42 > 0:55:45- and everything I've done to you that's been wrong.- Thank you.
0:55:45 > 0:55:50I feel so much more happy now that I've got my baby back!
0:55:50 > 0:55:54I'm so much more happier! Yeah, I am.
0:55:54 > 0:55:59- I'm just so pleased to see ya! - I'm pleased to see you! - Give me a hug!
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