0:00:01 > 0:00:06Around the world, many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...
0:00:06 > 0:00:09Do not come back until you have checked your answers.
0:00:09 > 0:00:12- ..rigid boundaries... - Drinking, drugs and sex,
0:00:12 > 0:00:16they're selfish behaviours that destroy lives.
0:00:16 > 0:00:18..and immediate consequences.
0:00:18 > 0:00:20Come on!
0:00:20 > 0:00:24Some people might say that my parents are strict,
0:00:24 > 0:00:26but we'd rather call it love.
0:00:29 > 0:00:33Can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:34 > 0:00:38I need some more booze! Where is my booze?
0:00:38 > 0:00:41If I'm told, "You will do this", the first thing I say is, "No, I won't."
0:00:41 > 0:00:45I get away with murder, really. I can just do anything I want.
0:00:45 > 0:00:50- Big lack of respect for authority. - I go to bed when I want, wake up when I want.
0:00:51 > 0:00:55I don't care what anyone else thinks about me, cos it's up to me.
0:00:55 > 0:01:00To find out, two teens who've never met before will leave their fraught families behind.
0:01:00 > 0:01:02Don't embarrass your family!
0:01:02 > 0:01:08They'll head to the far corners of the world to live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:08 > 0:01:12In my house, you will do as I tell you to do.
0:01:12 > 0:01:14Please let me make it very clear.
0:01:14 > 0:01:16My children won't defy me.
0:01:16 > 0:01:19This is wrecking my head! This is wrecking my head!
0:01:19 > 0:01:22When I punish, I punish really hard.
0:01:22 > 0:01:25I'm being treated like a kid when I'm not a kid!
0:01:25 > 0:01:27- Shut up and listen to me. - Get upstairs.- No!
0:01:27 > 0:01:31You're a child. A minor. In the US, you have to do what an adult says.
0:01:31 > 0:01:32They're insane.
0:01:32 > 0:01:38The British people's moral fabric is disintegrating.
0:01:49 > 0:01:5417-year-old Debbie McQueen is partying her life away.
0:01:54 > 0:01:56I know I sound really bad.
0:01:56 > 0:02:01Under-age drinking, all the boyfriends, going out every weekend.
0:02:01 > 0:02:03She's completely dropped out of college.
0:02:05 > 0:02:10She spends her days sleeping and obsessing over her appearance.
0:02:10 > 0:02:12I've got seven mascaras that I use.
0:02:12 > 0:02:17And a certain order that I've got to use them in as well. I'm a bit OCD with that, actually.
0:02:17 > 0:02:22- What's the problem with a few people sat upstairs having a drink? - But you didn't ask.
0:02:22 > 0:02:26Debbie's stepfather Dave has been a part of her life since she was four.
0:02:26 > 0:02:28'When I was younger,'
0:02:28 > 0:02:31I was like his little princess.
0:02:31 > 0:02:33I remember it was always him that I went to.
0:02:33 > 0:02:37But in recent years, the relationship has completely broken down.
0:02:37 > 0:02:41- They're not coming here, so what's the problem?- Debbie, please listen.
0:02:41 > 0:02:44- They're not coming so there's no problem.- Listen.
0:02:44 > 0:02:46We're always at loggerheads.
0:02:46 > 0:02:49She will not accept the responsibility of being an adult
0:02:49 > 0:02:52or of even being a human being at the moment!
0:02:52 > 0:02:55FRUSTRATED, ANGRY MUTTERINGS
0:02:55 > 0:03:00I hate being told what to do. Oh, it really grates on us.
0:03:00 > 0:03:03I don't mind being asked to do something,
0:03:03 > 0:03:06but as soon as someone says, "You will do this,"
0:03:06 > 0:03:08I say, "No, I won't!"
0:03:08 > 0:03:11The guidance we're giving her is falling on deaf ears.
0:03:11 > 0:03:13I'm at a loss
0:03:13 > 0:03:15as to where to move forward from here.
0:03:22 > 0:03:25What have you done all afternoon? What have you done?
0:03:25 > 0:03:28You haven't done schoolwork or what I've asked you to do.
0:03:28 > 0:03:31You've laid on the sofa and watched TV all afternoon.
0:03:34 > 0:03:37Over in Leeds, 17-year-old Daniel Drinkwater
0:03:37 > 0:03:39is driving his parents to distraction.
0:03:39 > 0:03:44Daniel is selfish, stubborn, lazy,
0:03:44 > 0:03:47dirty, grubby, filthy.
0:03:47 > 0:03:53Every day, we end up having some kind of argument, for want of a better word, with him.
0:03:53 > 0:03:56My lifestyle is self-indulgent, decadent.
0:03:56 > 0:04:02Doing anything without regard for others as long as I get personal fulfilment from it.
0:04:02 > 0:04:05Daniel does nothing to help around the house,
0:04:05 > 0:04:09spending all his time on his rock band, The Psycho Strangers.
0:04:09 > 0:04:15I can't bear to speak to a teacher again. We'd have teachers ringing us, "He's not done that work."
0:04:15 > 0:04:18'We argue about my schoolwork.'
0:04:18 > 0:04:21Cos I don't do it or I don't go.
0:04:21 > 0:04:25It's just been never-ending for the last two, three, four years.
0:04:25 > 0:04:28And this is a child that supposedly wants to go to university!
0:04:28 > 0:04:31Daniel was a promising student.
0:04:31 > 0:04:36But he's been asked to leave two out of his four A-level courses.
0:04:36 > 0:04:38He's so much cleverer than I am
0:04:38 > 0:04:41that it's just such a waste.
0:04:41 > 0:04:44It's not that he needs to make a massive effort.
0:04:44 > 0:04:47He just needs to make a little effort and he'd go a long way.
0:04:50 > 0:04:52He thinks he's a rock star.
0:04:52 > 0:04:55He absolutely thinks he's a rock star.
0:04:55 > 0:04:58Yes, it's good that he's got music in his life
0:04:58 > 0:05:02but he's got to learn about other things in life as well.
0:05:02 > 0:05:06He's got to do well at school - he may not become a famous rock star!
0:05:13 > 0:05:16To try and get their lives back on track,
0:05:16 > 0:05:19both families agreed to send their wayward children
0:05:19 > 0:05:22to live with new parents on the other side of the world.
0:05:22 > 0:05:24Give us a hug.
0:05:24 > 0:05:26Have a good time!
0:05:30 > 0:05:32Be sensible. Make me proud.
0:05:32 > 0:05:35Any change would be brilliant for Daniel.
0:05:35 > 0:05:38Any change in respect of his attitude.
0:05:38 > 0:05:41Be less selfish and less narrow-minded
0:05:41 > 0:05:44and have more understanding of other people's needs.
0:05:47 > 0:05:48Bye!
0:05:49 > 0:05:54- Have a nice time.- I will do. - Take care of yourself, Debbie.
0:05:54 > 0:05:57- I will.- I want you to enjoy everything as well.
0:05:57 > 0:05:59- I will. - Come back and learn something.
0:05:59 > 0:06:03- If I can give you that to treat yourself.- Thanks!- All right?
0:06:03 > 0:06:05See ya!
0:06:05 > 0:06:08'I hope they are strict and enforce the rules.
0:06:08 > 0:06:10'Then she might realise'
0:06:10 > 0:06:12just how easy she's got it here.
0:06:18 > 0:06:20- Hi!- Hello!
0:06:21 > 0:06:25- I'm Debbie.- I'm Daniel. - Cool. Are you nervous?
0:06:25 > 0:06:28- Well nervous!- I'm- BLEEP- myself!
0:06:30 > 0:06:34For the next ten days, the teens' new home will be Beirut,
0:06:34 > 0:06:36capital city of Lebanon.
0:06:38 > 0:06:42It's the most culturally diverse city in the Middle East.
0:06:42 > 0:06:46Here, they'll be staying with the Hajjars, a Sunni Muslim family,
0:06:46 > 0:06:51who believe that rigid boundaries are essential in raising rounded children.
0:06:51 > 0:06:53Come on!
0:06:53 > 0:06:56'I think respect is everything in the world.'
0:06:56 > 0:06:59When I punish, I punish really hard.
0:06:59 > 0:07:02Dad Abdulsalam was a policeman
0:07:02 > 0:07:07while Mum Iman is a nurse. They're the proud parents of 17-year-old Mahmud
0:07:07 > 0:07:09and 16-year-old Jinan.
0:07:09 > 0:07:11You have to better your handwriting.
0:07:11 > 0:07:15'Study is very important.'
0:07:15 > 0:07:18If they get low grades in school, they will be punished.
0:07:18 > 0:07:22Iman strictly controls all outside influences on her children's lives.
0:07:22 > 0:07:25'I always go through their email'
0:07:25 > 0:07:28and even, you know, we have Facebook.
0:07:28 > 0:07:32I always make like surprising them, "What you gonna do?"
0:07:32 > 0:07:35"What are you doing?"
0:07:35 > 0:07:38"Who's this girl?", "Who's this boy?", I always ask.
0:07:38 > 0:07:40They tell me the truth. They have nothing to hide.
0:07:40 > 0:07:44Being rude to your parents is not good at all
0:07:44 > 0:07:46because they raised you.
0:07:46 > 0:07:48Dry the dishes and you do that.
0:07:48 > 0:07:50As a progressive Muslim family,
0:07:50 > 0:07:55the Hajjars are keen to expose the Western teens to their cultural values.
0:07:55 > 0:07:59The Americans and Britain and the other world think we're terrorists,
0:07:59 > 0:08:02think we're bad people, but it's not like that.
0:08:02 > 0:08:06We are open-minded, we go out, but we have some rules.
0:08:06 > 0:08:08We don't drink, we don't do bad things.
0:08:08 > 0:08:12This is some orders, we have to obey them,
0:08:12 > 0:08:15and if we don't, we get punished.
0:08:15 > 0:08:21Teenagers, British teenagers, they will learn a lot from this family.
0:08:24 > 0:08:29After a 2,000-mile journey, Daniel and Debbie arrive in Beirut.
0:08:29 > 0:08:34It was once a popular tourist destination, known as the Paris of the Middle East.
0:08:34 > 0:08:38- There seems to be a load of- BLEEP - everywhere.
0:08:40 > 0:08:42They've all got proper banger cars, as well.
0:08:42 > 0:08:45They're all scratched.
0:08:45 > 0:08:48They're all ridiculously crazy drivers.
0:08:49 > 0:08:52This is a city ravaged by years of conflict.
0:08:52 > 0:08:56It still bears the scars of a 15-year civil war
0:08:56 > 0:08:58and was bombed by Israel in 2006.
0:08:58 > 0:09:00God, did you see the size of his gun!
0:09:00 > 0:09:02My God!
0:09:04 > 0:09:06Don't know if I'd like to live here.
0:09:12 > 0:09:15- Hi!- Hello! Hi, how are you?
0:09:15 > 0:09:18- Nice to meet you.- Debbie? - I'm Debbie.- I'm Iman Hajjar.
0:09:18 > 0:09:21- This is my husband.- Hiya! - Abdulsalam Hajjar.
0:09:21 > 0:09:23- My son, Mahmud.- Hiya!
0:09:23 > 0:09:24- And Jinan.- Hiya.
0:09:24 > 0:09:27Hello, how are you, Daniel? I'm Iman Hajjar.
0:09:27 > 0:09:31- It seems like you smoke, Daniel. - Yeah.
0:09:31 > 0:09:34- Smoking's not allowed in our house. - OK.- OK?
0:09:34 > 0:09:36Welcome to our house.
0:09:36 > 0:09:41From now on, Debbie and Daniel will live according to the same rules as the Hajjar children.
0:09:41 > 0:09:46- This is our small... - Small?!- ..humble house.- Not at all!
0:09:46 > 0:09:49It's twice the size of my house.
0:09:49 > 0:09:52My husband doesn't speak too much English.
0:09:52 > 0:09:55Only Arabic with a little bit of English.
0:09:55 > 0:09:58It's just to tell you that smoking is not allowed in our house
0:09:58 > 0:10:01for our health and also Mahmud's health.
0:10:01 > 0:10:06- He was born with health problems. - Yeah.- Smoking will bother him a lot.
0:10:06 > 0:10:09- Inside the house, no smoking. - OK. Brilliant.
0:10:09 > 0:10:11- You don't smoke?- No.
0:10:12 > 0:10:15- Here is your room. - Oh, it's dead nice.
0:10:15 > 0:10:18Debbie will share a room with Jinan...
0:10:18 > 0:10:20You've got a dead nice house.
0:10:20 > 0:10:24- Thank you.- It's bigger than mine, seriously.
0:10:24 > 0:10:26..while Daniel will take Mahmud's room.
0:10:26 > 0:10:30- DANIEL:- 'The family all seem really nice, like.'
0:10:30 > 0:10:33It seems like Iman controls the family
0:10:33 > 0:10:35and the dad seems more laid-back.
0:10:35 > 0:10:39They seem quite kind and sweet.
0:10:39 > 0:10:43Maybe after they hear the rules they'll change! But the beginning was good.
0:10:43 > 0:10:47Before the teens are fully welcomed into the family,
0:10:47 > 0:10:51Iman wants to make their expectations absolutely clear.
0:10:51 > 0:10:55Whilst you are living with us, OK,
0:10:55 > 0:11:00we expect you to behave as though you are a member of our family,
0:11:00 > 0:11:02the Hajjar family.
0:11:02 > 0:11:05This includes following all our house regulations.
0:11:05 > 0:11:07There will be no drinking of alcohol,
0:11:07 > 0:11:11no smoking within or outside of these walls.
0:11:13 > 0:11:15You must dress modestly and respectfully.
0:11:15 > 0:11:19And boys or men are never, ever allowed to pee standing up.
0:11:19 > 0:11:22Because we go and wash in the bathroom
0:11:22 > 0:11:28so we have to make sure there is no pee in the bathroom.
0:11:28 > 0:11:30I could be careful.
0:11:30 > 0:11:33You can't. That is the truth.
0:11:33 > 0:11:37You must eat whatever is available at home without any complaint
0:11:37 > 0:11:40especially during escalations or times of war.
0:11:40 > 0:11:43Nobody knows when Israel will come and bombard us.
0:11:43 > 0:11:46Any visits to friends
0:11:46 > 0:11:51are only allowed once Mum has met and vetted the friend's Mum
0:11:51 > 0:11:53to make sure the family are suitable.
0:11:53 > 0:11:58- Do you not trust your children? - I do trust them. I do trust them.
0:11:58 > 0:12:03They trust that what I'm doing, me and their father, is for their own benefit.
0:12:03 > 0:12:08- Fair do's.- I hope that you will enjoy your stay at our house.
0:12:08 > 0:12:10HE SPEAKS ARABIC
0:12:10 > 0:12:12He wants you to obey the rules
0:12:12 > 0:12:15and help us to obey the rules.
0:12:15 > 0:12:18That will be all, please.
0:12:18 > 0:12:22- Some of them are just a pile of- BLEEP,- to be honest.
0:12:22 > 0:12:24It says to dress modestly and respectfully.
0:12:24 > 0:12:28I'm wearing my little hot pants! I bought them for here. I'm not gonna...
0:12:28 > 0:12:31I'm glad I get to sit down and pee. That's ace!
0:12:31 > 0:12:35- I can relax on the toilet.- I can't get why. What did she say about it?
0:12:35 > 0:12:38I'll take a bucket and make a right go of it!
0:12:38 > 0:12:41And I'm not gonna get married just to have sex. Ridiculous!
0:12:44 > 0:12:46I've seen their daughter looking at you!
0:12:47 > 0:12:50At the beginning, they're gonna suffer with me.
0:12:50 > 0:12:54Yes, they will. Because from their reaction,
0:12:54 > 0:12:58it seems like they didn't like most of the rules.
0:12:58 > 0:13:00But this is my house.
0:13:00 > 0:13:03These are my rules. They have to obey it.
0:13:06 > 0:13:09The Hajjars disapprove of drinking alcohol
0:13:09 > 0:13:11as their Muslim faith bans all intoxicants.
0:13:11 > 0:13:14Debbie, though, has smuggled some vodka from home.
0:13:16 > 0:13:18I've brought alcohol as well.
0:13:18 > 0:13:21You look dead scared.
0:13:21 > 0:13:24It's all right. Don't worry. You won't get into trouble.
0:13:24 > 0:13:28I always have a few drinks when I go on holiday.
0:13:28 > 0:13:31If she finds out, she's gonna go mad, isn't she?
0:13:31 > 0:13:35- If you want, you can give it to her...- Oh, no!
0:13:35 > 0:13:41- It costs money!- She'll give it back to you when you're going back.
0:13:41 > 0:13:43No, I'll just drink it.
0:13:43 > 0:13:46Me and Daniel are gonna go out.
0:13:46 > 0:13:49If Debbie tries to drink the alcohol here, in the house,
0:13:49 > 0:13:51she's gonna be caught.
0:13:51 > 0:13:54Cos I'm here, my mother's here.
0:13:54 > 0:13:57It's definitely not gonna be hidden anywhere
0:13:57 > 0:14:00cos there's no place to hide it.
0:14:00 > 0:14:03Even if she's outside, we're gonna be with her
0:14:03 > 0:14:06and my mum's gonna be with her so she's not gonna drink those.
0:14:07 > 0:14:11For Debbie, modest clothing is a totally new concept.
0:14:13 > 0:14:18That's better. Still gonna end up with dead dodgy tan lines.
0:14:19 > 0:14:21What the hell are you doing?
0:14:21 > 0:14:25- Sunbathing. - I'm sorry, you can't do it here.
0:14:25 > 0:14:29- Why?- Because we have strict neighbours, all Muslims.
0:14:29 > 0:14:33If they saw you, they will make a big problem with us.
0:14:33 > 0:14:36- OK?- No-one can see us on the balcony.- Yes, they will.
0:14:36 > 0:14:38- They can't!- No, no, no.
0:14:38 > 0:14:42- There's absolutely no-one about. - No way. Come on.
0:14:42 > 0:14:43Come on.
0:14:43 > 0:14:45No way.
0:14:47 > 0:14:51- Come on, you have to put on... - Don't put it on me.- No way.
0:14:51 > 0:14:53- I'm not a child.- Yes, you are.
0:14:53 > 0:14:58- Do you mind not putting that on my head!- OK, would you mind to wear decent clothes?
0:14:58 > 0:15:02- I am wearing decent clothes. - No, they are not.- They're fine!
0:15:02 > 0:15:04- Don't...- No way. No way.
0:15:07 > 0:15:11Iman decides to search Debbie's suitcase and confiscate
0:15:11 > 0:15:13any other inappropriate clothing.
0:15:13 > 0:15:16No, I'm not gonna take them. I'll put them in a bag.
0:15:16 > 0:15:19No. I swear you're not taking them.
0:15:19 > 0:15:22You're gonna stay on your luggage?
0:15:22 > 0:15:24You're not taking my clothes.
0:15:24 > 0:15:26OK. Fine. You're gonna stay here?
0:15:26 > 0:15:30- Mmm.- Fine, for me. Wear this and stay in the room.- Brilliant.
0:15:30 > 0:15:34But you're not allowed out of the room until you change your clothes.
0:15:34 > 0:15:38- Fine. I've got plenty of other shorts and vests to wear.- OK.
0:15:38 > 0:15:42- That's all right.- I hope you won't be bored sitting on your luggage.
0:15:42 > 0:15:44You'll be hungry, have to go to the toilet.
0:15:44 > 0:15:46I can not eat for days at a time.
0:15:46 > 0:15:49- You don't have to eat or go to the toilet?- No.
0:15:50 > 0:15:53- We'll see.- Fine with me. You have to stay here.
0:15:53 > 0:15:55Mm-hmm.
0:15:56 > 0:15:59- If you change your mind, I'm waiting for you.- Cool.
0:16:01 > 0:16:03Debbie, I think she is a little bit...
0:16:04 > 0:16:09She seems nice, but she is a little bit naughty.
0:16:13 > 0:16:15With Iman's back turned,
0:16:15 > 0:16:18Debbie wastes no time in breaking yet another rule.
0:16:18 > 0:16:23Oh, my God. Oh, my God! Debbie, you are smoking!
0:16:23 > 0:16:26No, that's Daniel's. I'm just holding it for a sec.
0:16:26 > 0:16:29- Really?- Yeah, I don't smoke.
0:16:29 > 0:16:31I know that you don't smoke.
0:16:31 > 0:16:34But I see Marlboro Lights.
0:16:34 > 0:16:38- They were mine. They're mine. - They're his.- I bought some today.
0:16:38 > 0:16:40I count one, two, three.
0:16:44 > 0:16:46You're not allowed to smoke any more.
0:16:48 > 0:16:50- Can I smell your mouth?- Yeah.
0:16:52 > 0:16:54I think that you are smoking.
0:16:54 > 0:16:58- No, I took one. - Yes, you are. You took one.
0:16:58 > 0:17:00But I thought you don't smoke.
0:17:00 > 0:17:03No, I don't. It's just been a stressful day.
0:17:03 > 0:17:05You smell now. Your hair smells.
0:17:05 > 0:17:10- Stinks.- Really. Do you want to smell like him?- Oh, thanks!
0:17:17 > 0:17:21He's gonna get angry because I'm gonna take his cigarettes from him.
0:17:21 > 0:17:23But...
0:17:26 > 0:17:27..he must be punished.
0:17:29 > 0:17:35It's the end of the day and Debbie and Daniel are starting to realise what they've let themselves in for.
0:17:35 > 0:17:39I'm not dependent on them. I can go without them. It's just a comfort.
0:17:39 > 0:17:43People have sweets or chocolate. I've got cigarettes.
0:17:43 > 0:17:46Everyone kept telling us, "It's not a holiday!
0:17:46 > 0:17:51I came expecting a holiday, and it's not at all.
0:17:51 > 0:17:52- My first day. It's- BLEEP.
0:17:52 > 0:17:54I want to go home.
0:18:04 > 0:18:06The Hajjar family rise at dawn each day
0:18:06 > 0:18:08for morning prayer.
0:18:08 > 0:18:11ABDULSALAM SAYS PRAYERS
0:18:13 > 0:18:15Good morning!
0:18:15 > 0:18:18Today, Iman is keen to give the teens an education
0:18:18 > 0:18:21in Lebanon's long religious history.
0:18:21 > 0:18:23BELL JANGLES LOUDLY
0:18:25 > 0:18:26Come on!
0:18:30 > 0:18:33She's taking them to an ancient mosque sited on the ruins
0:18:33 > 0:18:37of a church built by European crusaders nearly 800 years ago.
0:18:37 > 0:18:40It's called Al-Omari Mosque.
0:18:40 > 0:18:43It's a very old mosque.
0:18:43 > 0:18:46You can see from the long structure.
0:18:46 > 0:18:51You are not allowed into the mosque wearing these clothes.
0:18:51 > 0:18:52OK?
0:18:52 > 0:18:57Iman wants Debbie to experience Islam from a woman's perspective.
0:18:57 > 0:18:59I've got this one for you.
0:19:05 > 0:19:09You should have to do this as well. Just for the experience!
0:19:13 > 0:19:17- You look so beautiful! - I feel really uncomfortable.
0:19:17 > 0:19:20- You look so beautiful. - Do you not feel dead trapped?
0:19:20 > 0:19:23- No.- I do. I've only just put it on. - OK.
0:19:23 > 0:19:26- Really, you look so beautiful. - Really? I don't feel it.
0:19:26 > 0:19:28Doesn't she?
0:19:28 > 0:19:30A beauty.
0:19:31 > 0:19:34Honestly, I feel dead uncomfortable.
0:19:34 > 0:19:36You look like Mother Teresa!
0:19:37 > 0:19:38I don't know.
0:19:38 > 0:19:40MAN CHANTS
0:19:42 > 0:19:44The chandeliers...
0:19:44 > 0:19:47I really don't care. I just want to leave.
0:19:47 > 0:19:49I don't feel comfortable at all.
0:19:50 > 0:19:52CHANTING
0:19:53 > 0:19:57At the mosque, men and women pray separately.
0:19:58 > 0:20:01Before Muslims enter the prayer hall,
0:20:01 > 0:20:04they must be entirely clean.
0:20:04 > 0:20:06I first wash my hands.
0:20:07 > 0:20:10The left leg with the right hand
0:20:10 > 0:20:12and also at the heel.
0:20:13 > 0:20:16But despite Iman's efforts,
0:20:16 > 0:20:18Debbie can't see beyond the superficial.
0:20:19 > 0:20:24It's so claustrophobic. It was tied dead tight under my chin.
0:20:24 > 0:20:26There is no practical reason for it at all.
0:20:26 > 0:20:29It's just... I just think it's sexist, to be honest,
0:20:29 > 0:20:30but the women don't.
0:20:30 > 0:20:33If they accept it, that's up to them.
0:20:36 > 0:20:40The teens are required to attend school during their stay in Lebanon.
0:20:40 > 0:20:43Iman is ready with her instructions.
0:20:43 > 0:20:45You have to wear these clothes.
0:20:45 > 0:20:47Nice ones.
0:20:50 > 0:20:53- Nice long-sleeved shirt.- Nice(!)
0:20:53 > 0:20:55And the trousers.
0:20:55 > 0:20:56It's awful.
0:20:56 > 0:20:59Honestly, I feel like crying. I really do.
0:20:59 > 0:21:01I'm not wearing this!
0:21:01 > 0:21:03I feel like I work in an ice-cream shop!
0:21:03 > 0:21:09For Iman, a first-class education is the greatest gift a parent can give their child.
0:21:09 > 0:21:15The most important achievement a human can achieve in life
0:21:15 > 0:21:16is education.
0:21:16 > 0:21:23Because education is the road we have to walk to get what we want.
0:21:23 > 0:21:26Without education, they have nothing.
0:21:26 > 0:21:29For college drop-out Debbie,
0:21:29 > 0:21:32school was always a social event.
0:21:32 > 0:21:34I always poke myself in the eye with it.
0:21:35 > 0:21:39Iman's already told her the school dress code bans make-up.
0:21:40 > 0:21:45Debbie, have you put any more mascara on your eyelashes?
0:21:45 > 0:21:50I've put some on, but just let the school worry about it.
0:21:50 > 0:21:54No, it's my responsibility to tell you that they will phone me
0:21:54 > 0:21:57and tell me that "She didn't obey our rules."
0:21:57 > 0:22:01I have. I haven't got as much as I normally do on.
0:22:01 > 0:22:03- Yes, they are.- No, that's...
0:22:03 > 0:22:07Honestly, when you first woke up, they were perfect, your eyelashes.
0:22:07 > 0:22:09They were perfect.
0:22:09 > 0:22:14What you've done to them, for me, they look like the legs of a cockroach!
0:22:14 > 0:22:15Thank you.
0:22:18 > 0:22:20I'm actually dreading this now.
0:22:22 > 0:22:25At least we look sexy, though. That's the main thing!
0:22:25 > 0:22:30The teens are heading here, the Lebanon Evangelical School.
0:22:30 > 0:22:35It's a Christian institution, but welcomes students from all religions.
0:22:35 > 0:22:38# Amazing grace
0:22:38 > 0:22:42# How sweet the sound... #
0:22:42 > 0:22:45Englishman Dr White is the headmaster.
0:22:45 > 0:22:49He has a progressive approach to education.
0:22:49 > 0:22:51I want to tell them what I believe
0:22:51 > 0:22:55then it's up to them whether they think it's right or wrong.
0:22:55 > 0:22:57I want discussions. I want them to think.
0:22:57 > 0:23:00But the teens will have to answer to Iman
0:23:00 > 0:23:04if their behaviour doesn't meet her expectations.
0:23:04 > 0:23:11- I'm dressed in- BLEEP- clothes, so the only thing that's making me ME is my make-up.
0:23:13 > 0:23:18Like if I respect their culture, in the uniform, they should respect mine in the make-up.
0:23:20 > 0:23:22Dr White has called them to his office.
0:23:22 > 0:23:24- Daniel?- Yeah.
0:23:24 > 0:23:27- And?- Debbie.- Debbie. Hi, nice to meet you.
0:23:27 > 0:23:30- And you.- Have a seat.- Hiya! Cheers.
0:23:30 > 0:23:34So the main rule is no chewing gum and no abusive language
0:23:34 > 0:23:38in the classroom. Debbie, one more button. One more button.
0:23:38 > 0:23:42Second button done up when we're not doing ties. I don't know if you were told
0:23:42 > 0:23:46that one of the rules is no make-up in school.
0:23:46 > 0:23:50Yeah, I did get told, but I don't compromise on it.
0:23:50 > 0:23:54- I've always worn it. I always will. - Can you tone the...whatever, mascara,
0:23:54 > 0:23:57- on your eyelashes?- It doesn't come off.- It doesn't?- No.
0:23:57 > 0:24:00- You'd have to cut your eyelashes. - Pretty much, yeah.
0:24:00 > 0:24:04We say no make-up. If you get a method of taking it off, I'd like you to.
0:24:04 > 0:24:08I will tone it down. We'll see how comfortable I feel.
0:24:09 > 0:24:11Debbie, please.
0:24:11 > 0:24:16I can't see any other student with their button undone except Sam. Both done up.
0:24:16 > 0:24:19The main lesson of the day is English.
0:24:19 > 0:24:22The topic for debate is family values.
0:24:22 > 0:24:25Debbie, do you care what your family thinks about you?
0:24:25 > 0:24:29Well, they don't have an opinion on me, to be honest.
0:24:29 > 0:24:32- I'm not close with my family. - Do you have an opinion on them?
0:24:32 > 0:24:36- No.- Daniel, would you say the same, from what you've put there?
0:24:36 > 0:24:38Well, they feed me, so that's the main thing.
0:24:38 > 0:24:43- Is that what you use them for? - They put a roof over my head.
0:24:43 > 0:24:47- Nothing else?- No.- You don't care what they think about you? - I don't care cos...
0:24:47 > 0:24:50The teens' selfish attitudes might be cool in England,
0:24:50 > 0:24:53but Lebanese culture has a different perspective.
0:24:53 > 0:24:57Let's say he comes out and says something out of order to his family,
0:24:57 > 0:25:01in Lebanese culture, they'll abandon you straight away.
0:25:01 > 0:25:05"We're not gonna handle that in our family cos it brings shame."
0:25:05 > 0:25:07Who agrees with that?
0:25:07 > 0:25:09Omar?
0:25:09 > 0:25:12If you say something wrong, your family will abandon you?
0:25:12 > 0:25:14- Because of the culture?- Exactly.
0:25:14 > 0:25:18If they abandoned me cos I said something wrong, I'd have been abandoned ages ago.
0:25:18 > 0:25:23You have to respect the family, but if you do something your father doesn't want you to do,
0:25:23 > 0:25:26then he'll just abandon you.
0:25:26 > 0:25:30Your parents know better than you do. They know what's good for you.
0:25:30 > 0:25:35Everyone's family is different. Some families might tolerate bad behaviour
0:25:35 > 0:25:37- like our families are, really!- Yeah!
0:25:37 > 0:25:41We've got away with a lot more than we should have.
0:25:41 > 0:25:45Or, like you say, I would probably have been abandoned.
0:25:45 > 0:25:47OK. We're gonna do some homework.
0:25:47 > 0:25:53The essay you have to write is on the title - 500 words, so two sides of A4 -
0:25:53 > 0:25:55with the title "Why Bother?"
0:26:03 > 0:26:08True to form, Daniel puts his music before his studies.
0:26:08 > 0:26:11But to her credit, Debbie knuckles down.
0:26:18 > 0:26:19Hello.
0:26:21 > 0:26:24So you're not doing your assignment?
0:26:24 > 0:26:27- I'm not going to do it. - Debbie is almost finished.
0:26:27 > 0:26:31I've already said I don't want to do it.
0:26:31 > 0:26:33I don't do homework at home.
0:26:33 > 0:26:36At home. You are not now at home.
0:26:36 > 0:26:38- I know.- You are now at my house.
0:26:38 > 0:26:41You are now at my house.
0:26:41 > 0:26:42- Yeah.- OK.
0:26:42 > 0:26:45I'm asking you politely to do your assignment.
0:26:45 > 0:26:47I'm saying politely I don't want to do it.
0:26:47 > 0:26:52But you have to. We have to do some things in our life we don't want to do.
0:26:52 > 0:26:55But we have to do it. This is life. This is what life is about.
0:26:55 > 0:26:59- I...- I don't like to cook, but I have to cook.
0:26:59 > 0:27:05So you're going to stick to your mind. You're not gonna change it?
0:27:05 > 0:27:06OK. Fine.
0:27:06 > 0:27:10'A 500-word essay to a school I'm not gonna see again?'
0:27:10 > 0:27:17And on a thing like "Why Bother?" when I can say, "Yeah, why bother?
0:27:17 > 0:27:20"I'm not gonna do it." It seems so vague.
0:27:20 > 0:27:23If they want me to answer the question, I'll talk to them.
0:27:23 > 0:27:26But if I'm writing it down never to be marked,
0:27:26 > 0:27:28it doesn't mean anything. No point.
0:27:28 > 0:27:31I'm disappointed with Daniel today. I was surprised.
0:27:31 > 0:27:36I think Daniel's problem is probably with getting orders.
0:27:36 > 0:27:40He doesn't like to be told to do something.
0:27:40 > 0:27:45He thinks himself he's free to do whatever he wants, whenever he likes.
0:27:45 > 0:27:47He doesn't bother.
0:27:49 > 0:27:51Debbie may have done her homework,
0:27:51 > 0:27:55but Iman wants to discuss her reliance on make-up.
0:27:55 > 0:27:57- Can we have a talk?- Mm-hmm.
0:27:57 > 0:27:59Here?
0:28:02 > 0:28:04Have a seat, please.
0:28:04 > 0:28:07You should take your mascara off.
0:28:07 > 0:28:11It doesn't come off. I do not take it off for anyone, ever.
0:28:11 > 0:28:13I used to get bullied about the way I look.
0:28:13 > 0:28:15You are so pretty!
0:28:15 > 0:28:18No, I'm artificially pretty is the difference.
0:28:18 > 0:28:23- So, does eyelashes give you confidence?- Yeah, definitely.
0:28:23 > 0:28:25Why?
0:28:25 > 0:28:28Cos it's... I dunno, it's like a guard, isn't it?
0:28:28 > 0:28:32Honestly, I lose my personality and everything without my make-up on.
0:28:32 > 0:28:33I'm not me.
0:28:33 > 0:28:36It's just... It is kinda like...
0:28:37 > 0:28:39It just sounds pathetic.
0:28:39 > 0:28:43Like me wearing make-up and dressing the way I do
0:28:43 > 0:28:46changed absolutely everything for me.
0:28:46 > 0:28:49Like I stopped getting bullied.
0:28:49 > 0:28:52I stopped being a nerd, stopped being unpopular.
0:28:52 > 0:28:54I started getting treated better.
0:28:54 > 0:28:59Started getting drinks bought for us. It's kinda who I am now. I'm used to it.
0:28:59 > 0:29:01This is absolutely ridiculous.
0:29:01 > 0:29:04I'm not taking it off.
0:29:05 > 0:29:06I can't.
0:29:08 > 0:29:11If I've got to wear that stupid uniform,
0:29:11 > 0:29:15it's the only thing I've got to keep of myself.
0:29:15 > 0:29:17I've got the hiccups!
0:29:19 > 0:29:20HICCUPS
0:29:22 > 0:29:24SOBS
0:29:25 > 0:29:28'Like I said from the start, I'm not compromising
0:29:28 > 0:29:32with my make-up and that. It's like, go a night without it, go a day without it.
0:29:32 > 0:29:34If it's that easy, I'd do it.
0:29:34 > 0:29:36SOBS
0:29:47 > 0:29:50It's halfway through the teens' stay in Lebanon.
0:29:52 > 0:29:57Wearing limited make-up, Debbie has decided to get her confidence from elsewhere.
0:29:57 > 0:30:00She's uncovered her secret stash of vodka.
0:30:05 > 0:30:08I don't see how we can get into trouble.
0:30:08 > 0:30:11We're not gonna go in and go, "Look what we've got!"
0:30:11 > 0:30:14If we get a bottle of Coke, drink some then tip that in,
0:30:14 > 0:30:17no-one's gonna question it.
0:30:17 > 0:30:20SCHOOL BELL RINGS
0:30:20 > 0:30:23But before they have the chance to start drinking,
0:30:23 > 0:30:26Daniel needs to explain his lack of homework.
0:30:26 > 0:30:28- Guys?- I was too tired.
0:30:28 > 0:30:33Especially with the title being "Why Bother?", it was like, "Why bother doing it?"
0:30:33 > 0:30:37About that. Why would one... Write about that!
0:30:37 > 0:30:39I didn't want to do it.
0:30:41 > 0:30:46- I was too tired.- What was the point of setting homework? Why not say, "I'm not gonna do it?"
0:30:46 > 0:30:49- Debbie, did you do your thing?- Yeah.
0:30:49 > 0:30:52Good. Where's Carilav? Did you do it? David? Jake?
0:30:52 > 0:30:54Done it?
0:30:54 > 0:30:57- Everybody else did it. - Good for them.
0:30:57 > 0:30:58- It is good for them.- Yeah.
0:31:01 > 0:31:03Put your collar down, do your button up.
0:31:03 > 0:31:05OK.
0:31:05 > 0:31:12Daniel's spirited defence has attracted some kindred spirits to the UK teens.
0:31:12 > 0:31:15- We're trying to find a place to go out.- Oh?
0:31:15 > 0:31:18We got told the nightlife was really good in Lebanon.
0:31:18 > 0:31:21- I'd take you right now. - Take us out. Take us out.
0:31:21 > 0:31:24- Are you allowed?- Yeah! Yeah.
0:31:24 > 0:31:27- Definitely.- The nightlife here is amazing.
0:31:27 > 0:31:32You can actually get in and you can buy cigarettes without a legal age for a dollar!
0:31:33 > 0:31:36Typical of their attitudes at home,
0:31:36 > 0:31:42neither Debbie nor Daniel have any interest in how their actions affect others.
0:31:46 > 0:31:47Vodka...
0:31:47 > 0:31:51They couldn't be more disrespectful to the devout Hajjar family
0:31:51 > 0:31:52if they tried.
0:31:52 > 0:31:55MOCK SPLUTTERING
0:31:56 > 0:32:01- It tastes BLEEP gorgeous. It tastes fun, actually. - It is, isn't it?
0:32:01 > 0:32:04Are you allowed to drink this in England?
0:32:04 > 0:32:06Yeah. Well, no, not legally, but...
0:32:14 > 0:32:18Daniel and Debbie, I need to see you in my office for about ten minutes.
0:32:18 > 0:32:20Yeah, sure. Cool. Fine.
0:32:22 > 0:32:27Dr White has called Iman into his office to deal with her surrogate teens.
0:32:27 > 0:32:30- Debbie, did you drink this in school?- No, I didn't.
0:32:30 > 0:32:33Was it drunk in school?
0:32:35 > 0:32:38OK, yeah, we drank that one at school.
0:32:38 > 0:32:40- This one here?- Yeah.
0:32:40 > 0:32:43Who did? Both?
0:32:43 > 0:32:48Both of you. But you know from the first day alcohol is not allowed in my house.
0:32:48 > 0:32:50We're not in your house.
0:32:50 > 0:32:53- In my house!- Yeah.
0:32:53 > 0:32:56- This was in my house.- We're getting rid of it while we can.
0:32:56 > 0:32:59This was in my house. In my girl's bedroom.
0:32:59 > 0:33:03This is, for me, a very great violation of the rules.
0:33:03 > 0:33:08Did Daniel smoke? Be honest, because God is seeing you.
0:33:08 > 0:33:11- Did you smoke? - He had one cigarette today.
0:33:11 > 0:33:14- Where are you hiding the cigarettes? - In my pocket.
0:33:14 > 0:33:16In your pocket. Give it to me.
0:33:16 > 0:33:17No.
0:33:17 > 0:33:21You should learn that in the future, in real life, you must obey rules.
0:33:21 > 0:33:24You should respect others.
0:33:25 > 0:33:30- I do respect others. - No, if you respect others, you'd do as you were told.
0:33:30 > 0:33:32This is only a short period of time.
0:33:32 > 0:33:34We are not asking too much from you.
0:33:35 > 0:33:38We are not taking anything out of your privileges.
0:33:38 > 0:33:41We just want you to respect what we ask you to do.
0:33:41 > 0:33:43Can I have the cigarettes?
0:33:43 > 0:33:45Thank you.
0:33:45 > 0:33:48One thing's definitely gonna happen.
0:33:48 > 0:33:51- Your make-up case. - It's not going anywhere!
0:33:51 > 0:33:54- It will stay with me until you go back to England.- We'll see.
0:33:54 > 0:33:56- We'll see!- Yes, you'll see.
0:33:56 > 0:34:01Don't! I swear I will kick off like mad!
0:34:01 > 0:34:03- OK.- Do not...- OK, do it.
0:34:03 > 0:34:06- Do it and it's not gonna happen. - Debbie, no physical violence.
0:34:06 > 0:34:11- I haven't got physical contact. I just mean...- I'm not gonna touch you.
0:34:11 > 0:34:13I'm not gonna touch you.
0:34:13 > 0:34:18- I want only...- No.- ..the make-up case.- There's no compromising on that.
0:34:18 > 0:34:20- Yes, you will.- No.- Yes, you will.
0:34:20 > 0:34:22What we're stuck on is Debbie.
0:34:22 > 0:34:24And I will not budge.
0:34:24 > 0:34:30Can you agree on no make-up until...? Can you try that? None of your friends will see you.
0:34:30 > 0:34:32IMAN: Where's the mascara?
0:34:33 > 0:34:36- Thank you. - Thank you. Nice to meet you.
0:34:39 > 0:34:43Daniel and Debbie are not the only ones to suffer Iman's wrath.
0:34:43 > 0:34:45Jinan has come clean to her mother,
0:34:45 > 0:34:48telling her she knew about the alcohol.
0:34:48 > 0:34:54She helped Debbie to break this rule and she must be punished the same.
0:34:54 > 0:34:59I don't know why the girls are much naughtier than the boys.
0:35:00 > 0:35:04- The boys are more honest. Do you have something less than them?- No.
0:35:04 > 0:35:07- So why are you laughing now? - I'm not laughing.
0:35:07 > 0:35:10You laughed just a few seconds ago.
0:35:10 > 0:35:13You should be ashamed of yourself.
0:35:17 > 0:35:19Don't look me in the eye.
0:35:23 > 0:35:26Go to your bedroom cos I'm not satisfied with you.
0:35:29 > 0:35:33She also took my phone but she'll give it to me tomorrow when...
0:35:33 > 0:35:37- Took your phone? Why?- Because... As a punishment, you know?
0:35:37 > 0:35:41That's not.... Oh, my God. It wasn't your fault, though.
0:35:43 > 0:35:46I just didn't want to tell her because
0:35:46 > 0:35:48you said you wouldn't get me in trouble.
0:35:48 > 0:35:51So I said that nothing's gonna happen.
0:35:51 > 0:35:53- Yeah.- I was surprised that...
0:35:53 > 0:35:56- I didn't like... Oh,- BLEEP,- yeah, I forgot.
0:35:56 > 0:35:58Cos when we were talking at the school,
0:35:58 > 0:36:03she went, "Oh, you should have handed it over."
0:36:03 > 0:36:07And I said, "Jinan told me to, but I said no."
0:36:07 > 0:36:09Like, I didn't even...
0:36:09 > 0:36:13I didn't even think that she'd...do that.
0:36:13 > 0:36:14- BLEEP.- Sorry.
0:36:14 > 0:36:19She told me she wouldn't get me in trouble, but it seems I got in trouble.
0:36:19 > 0:36:20Yeah.
0:36:20 > 0:36:22'I trusted her, but...'
0:36:22 > 0:36:25You know, she gave me a promise.
0:36:25 > 0:36:27Yeah.
0:36:31 > 0:36:34You have five minutes to get ready.
0:36:34 > 0:36:36Despite the tension,
0:36:36 > 0:36:38everyone needs to put on a brave face.
0:36:41 > 0:36:44They have a family commitment they can't avoid.
0:36:54 > 0:36:57CLAPPING AND CHEERING
0:37:02 > 0:37:07A friend of Iman's is getting married. It would be an insult if the entire family didn't attend.
0:37:07 > 0:37:11It's a chance for Daniel and Debbie to redeem themselves
0:37:11 > 0:37:13and make Iman proud.
0:37:13 > 0:37:19But Debbie is still sulking and for once isn't in the mood for a party.
0:37:21 > 0:37:24Everyone's making out like I'm in the wrong.
0:37:24 > 0:37:28- You think you haven't done anything wrong?- No, not at all. I haven't.
0:37:28 > 0:37:30- You haven't?- No.
0:37:30 > 0:37:35- The true...- No, I really don't want your opinion.
0:37:35 > 0:37:38It really doesn't care. It doesn't matter to me.
0:37:38 > 0:37:46- No? But it does to me.- Your opinion matters to you.- Because I have the right to tell you my opinion.
0:37:46 > 0:37:50- You won't like the answer you get. I'm in a really- BLEEP- mood.
0:37:50 > 0:37:52I do not trust myself to be civil.
0:37:52 > 0:37:56- Do you know what the problem with you is?- What's that?
0:37:56 > 0:38:01- That you don't have self-confidence at all.- I did until I came here!
0:38:01 > 0:38:04If you did, you would listen to me and what I'm telling you.
0:38:04 > 0:38:08- I've listened for the past hour-and-a-half. - You listen to yourself.
0:38:08 > 0:38:15- Which is 100 per cent wrong.- I'll add that to the list of everything else that's wrong with us.
0:38:15 > 0:38:20I'm definite that days will prove that to you that you are absolutely wrong.
0:38:20 > 0:38:23- Yes, I am, exactly! Go and- BLEEP- yourself, I swear.
0:38:23 > 0:38:26Literally get out my face.
0:38:27 > 0:38:30- You're swearing at me? - Yes, I am. Just go.
0:38:30 > 0:38:34No-one has ever spoken to Iman like this before.
0:38:40 > 0:38:44Honestly, I treated her as if she was my own daughter.
0:38:46 > 0:38:48Honestly, I don't want her in my house.
0:38:48 > 0:38:49No.
0:38:52 > 0:38:57Let her live alone! Find her a cave in some place and live there.
0:38:57 > 0:39:01But in my house I don't think my husband would accept this at all.
0:39:01 > 0:39:03At all.
0:39:03 > 0:39:06He would be very, very angry.
0:39:06 > 0:39:11Back at home, Iman has told her husband about Debbie's insulting behaviour.
0:39:11 > 0:39:13Debbie!
0:39:13 > 0:39:15He's called a family meeting.
0:39:15 > 0:39:18His son Mahmud translates
0:39:18 > 0:39:20and there's no mistaking his meaning.
0:39:20 > 0:39:23HE SPEAKS ARABIC
0:39:56 > 0:39:59Debbie's usual reaction to a family argument
0:39:59 > 0:40:03is to stubbornly stand her ground and definitely never apologise.
0:40:03 > 0:40:07That's me shut down from her now. Nothing's gonna change.
0:40:07 > 0:40:10It's been going on with my stepdad for years.
0:40:10 > 0:40:14I'm not comfortable staying in this house now and I'm not apologising.
0:40:14 > 0:40:16SHE SOBS
0:40:22 > 0:40:25'I know she's not your mother,'
0:40:25 > 0:40:28but can't you just feel that she's your mother and talk to her,
0:40:28 > 0:40:31sit with her, explain to her how you feel
0:40:31 > 0:40:34and believe me, you'll feel comfortable.
0:40:34 > 0:40:36As soon as someone says, "You should change this,"
0:40:36 > 0:40:40what I hear is, "That's wrong. That's bad."
0:40:41 > 0:40:44I just take it personally.
0:40:47 > 0:40:49SOBBING
0:40:53 > 0:40:58Like, being here's just kind of made it even more...
0:40:59 > 0:41:02..drummed into us that I'm not good enough.
0:41:02 > 0:41:04It's just so intense here.
0:41:04 > 0:41:06It's just too intense
0:41:06 > 0:41:10and it's obviously brought out the worst in us, to be honest.
0:41:17 > 0:41:20As punishment for his own selfish behaviour,
0:41:20 > 0:41:24Iman has sent Daniel to spend a day at a local children's charity.
0:41:24 > 0:41:28She wants him to realise just how privileged he is
0:41:28 > 0:41:32and to experience a world that does not revolve around him.
0:41:32 > 0:41:35I'm really nervous about coming here today
0:41:35 > 0:41:38cos I don't know what I'm gonna be doing
0:41:38 > 0:41:42but if it's scrubbing floors or cleaning up, I'm not gonna enjoy it.
0:41:42 > 0:41:44Good morning!
0:41:44 > 0:41:45Good morning!
0:41:47 > 0:41:53The Home of Hope cares for street children who've been abandoned or abused by their families.
0:41:53 > 0:41:56The children's identity has been hidden for their protection.
0:41:56 > 0:41:59Here's where the little ones sleep.
0:41:59 > 0:42:04- Ages three to seven, eight, they sleep here.- OK.
0:42:04 > 0:42:09Usually, little children don't give us lots of problems.
0:42:09 > 0:42:12Yeah! Is it the older ones that give the problems?
0:42:12 > 0:42:14Yes!
0:42:15 > 0:42:16Assam.
0:42:16 > 0:42:22Assam is a one-year-old Sudanese who came and he is part of our family now.
0:42:25 > 0:42:29I would like to tell you about some of the stories of the children.
0:42:29 > 0:42:33The saddest one is the story of a little girl.
0:42:33 > 0:42:39She was four, five years old when the police brought her here.
0:42:39 > 0:42:43Her mum was trying to sell her for body parts,
0:42:43 > 0:42:47you know, to some rich family.
0:42:47 > 0:42:51Now you can see her smile and laugh
0:42:51 > 0:42:54and this makes me feel so happy.
0:42:54 > 0:42:57At least I'd say this place, this home,
0:42:57 > 0:43:00- has paid its dues to humanity. - Yes. Definitely.
0:43:00 > 0:43:03Daniel gets down to work.
0:43:03 > 0:43:05For once, he's not complaining.
0:43:07 > 0:43:10I don't think I've ever done the washing up at home.
0:43:10 > 0:43:14I don't even fill the dishwasher up, and that's not hard, is it?
0:43:24 > 0:43:25Just, these kids...
0:43:25 > 0:43:27They don't have anything else.
0:43:27 > 0:43:31This is all they've got
0:43:31 > 0:43:32and this is their home.
0:43:32 > 0:43:35It's inspiring, really.
0:43:35 > 0:43:39It's awfully emotional, some of the stories of some of the kids.
0:43:39 > 0:43:43Been sold for body parts and been beaten and abused.
0:43:43 > 0:43:47I don't know what to say about it.
0:43:47 > 0:43:50I'm kind of speechless and you hardly ever catch me speechless!
0:43:50 > 0:43:54I don't know. I really don't know what to say.
0:43:55 > 0:43:58Do you not have any tools to fix any of these?
0:43:58 > 0:44:01They're not worth fixing, I think.
0:44:01 > 0:44:04I've worked with bikes before. I'm good with bikes.
0:44:04 > 0:44:07I could probably help fix them.
0:44:10 > 0:44:14I think they're fixable. It's just it would be a lot of work
0:44:14 > 0:44:17and I'd need some tools like a chain splitter
0:44:17 > 0:44:19and a puncture repair kit for most of them.
0:44:19 > 0:44:22But they're all fixable.
0:44:31 > 0:44:34The teens have been in Beirut for nearly a week
0:44:34 > 0:44:36when Debbie has her first contact from home.
0:44:38 > 0:44:43"We absolutely love you to bits and will always be here for you, no matter what.
0:44:47 > 0:44:52"There used to be a little girl who would sit on her dad's knee when she was upset.
0:44:53 > 0:44:58"Who always wanted to hold his hand, not her mum's.
0:44:58 > 0:45:00"She would tell him all about her problems
0:45:00 > 0:45:03"and he was the only one who could make it better.
0:45:03 > 0:45:08"That little girl is all grown up now and we accept that.
0:45:08 > 0:45:11"But if you see her, tell her we miss her!
0:45:13 > 0:45:17"Help her understand that 'grown-up' brings its own responsibilities
0:45:17 > 0:45:19"and that she needs to start and face them.
0:45:19 > 0:45:24"We can only do so much, and we feel at times we've done more than we should.
0:45:24 > 0:45:26"The rest has to come from you.
0:45:26 > 0:45:27"Love you loads, Mum and Dad."
0:45:37 > 0:45:39Oh, it's just that last paragraph.
0:45:42 > 0:45:45I used to be very close with him.
0:45:47 > 0:45:49With both of them.
0:45:54 > 0:45:59Just seeing the family together and seeing how close they all are
0:45:59 > 0:46:02it's kind of proved how distant I was with my family.
0:46:02 > 0:46:04It's happened so slowly
0:46:04 > 0:46:08over a gradual time, I hadn't noticed.
0:46:08 > 0:46:11It's gonna sound really awful,
0:46:11 > 0:46:14I kinda feel I'm not in a family.
0:46:14 > 0:46:15It's like...
0:46:15 > 0:46:18there's my mum, my dad and my brother
0:46:18 > 0:46:20and then there's me.
0:46:20 > 0:46:24Just kind of a lodger in the house, to be honest.
0:46:26 > 0:46:28I want it to change.
0:46:30 > 0:46:35I kind of want my parents back. And my brother.
0:46:42 > 0:46:45After a night of soul-searching,
0:46:45 > 0:46:49Debbie has decided to take Mahmud's advice and approach Iman.
0:46:49 > 0:46:54Iman, I'd just like to say about yesterday
0:46:54 > 0:46:57I don't deal well with criticism,
0:46:57 > 0:47:01but I should have expressed myself in a more appropriate manner
0:47:01 > 0:47:03than swearing at you.
0:47:03 > 0:47:06So I do apologise for swearing to you.
0:47:06 > 0:47:09I don't want to be on bad terms.
0:47:09 > 0:47:11It's just a natural thing.
0:47:11 > 0:47:18As soon as I get like upset or angry the first thing I do is swearing.
0:47:18 > 0:47:20Which is pretty sad, really, but...
0:47:20 > 0:47:24I didn't realise it would offend you as much as it did
0:47:24 > 0:47:26and it wasn't meant to offend you.
0:47:26 > 0:47:29For me, it's just kind of, whatever.
0:47:29 > 0:47:32- OK. Fine with me.- Cool. - Thank you for your apology.
0:47:32 > 0:47:34- Forgive.- I am sorry.
0:47:34 > 0:47:37'She has shown respect to me.'
0:47:37 > 0:47:40I think she has passed all the past things.
0:47:40 > 0:47:42She is a great girl.
0:47:43 > 0:47:46Deep inside her, she is a wonderful girl.
0:47:46 > 0:47:48Honestly, I do feel so much better.
0:47:48 > 0:47:51There's no more pressure or no more atmosphere any more.
0:47:51 > 0:47:54So I'm glad of it, yeah.
0:47:54 > 0:47:56I'm glad everything's sorted
0:47:56 > 0:48:00and it wouldn't have been if you hadn't spoken to me last night. Thanks for that.
0:48:00 > 0:48:03It's nice to know that if I do apologise,
0:48:03 > 0:48:07I don't feel like I've lost, whereas I did before.
0:48:07 > 0:48:10That's why I wouldn't apologise. I was too stubborn.
0:48:10 > 0:48:14"I'm not apologising. If I do, then I've lost it.
0:48:14 > 0:48:15"I've lost the argument."
0:48:15 > 0:48:19Whereas apologising now just seems like, "Oh, well.
0:48:19 > 0:48:21"If I'm in the wrong, I might as well."
0:48:28 > 0:48:31Daniel has asked to revisit the Home of Hope.
0:48:31 > 0:48:35He wants to try and do something positive for someone else.
0:48:35 > 0:48:37I'm just finishing this one.
0:48:37 > 0:48:40Once I pull this off, it's finished.
0:48:49 > 0:48:51Good - unless he kills himself on it!
0:48:55 > 0:48:57Was it good?
0:48:57 > 0:48:59Thanks!
0:48:59 > 0:49:01That's OK!
0:49:03 > 0:49:06It's good. That's one down. There's loads more to go!
0:49:07 > 0:49:11He's realised he has an ability he can share
0:49:11 > 0:49:15and teaches the older boys the skills to fix bikes for themselves.
0:49:22 > 0:49:24Other side.
0:49:25 > 0:49:27Push it on like that.
0:49:27 > 0:49:29Then all the way round.
0:49:38 > 0:49:43The Home of Hope has inspired Daniel to complete his school assignment,
0:49:43 > 0:49:46the essay on "Why Bother?"
0:49:47 > 0:49:51It's making me think about why I should bother for people and my parents.
0:49:51 > 0:49:55It's making me think that I should stop being selfish.
0:49:59 > 0:50:02I found an opportunity to do the homework.
0:50:02 > 0:50:05The one from Friday? Excellent. Excellent.
0:50:05 > 0:50:10I like to see that sign that says "nothing is too late", cos I've done it.
0:50:10 > 0:50:12Excellent. Good man. Good man.
0:50:12 > 0:50:15"Why bother? Spending time in Lebanon
0:50:15 > 0:50:18"has made me think about my selfish, egotistical way.
0:50:18 > 0:50:21"Most of all, spending time at Home of Hope
0:50:21 > 0:50:24"made me realise why bothering really does make a difference.
0:50:24 > 0:50:28"Bothering is the one thing the kids rely on at the Home of Hope.
0:50:28 > 0:50:33"If no-one bothered, these battered, abused and abandoned kids would have nothing.
0:50:33 > 0:50:36"I've taken everything and everyone for granted.
0:50:36 > 0:50:39"The kids at the shelter have nothing apart from the shelter
0:50:39 > 0:50:42"yet are thankful for everything they receive.
0:50:42 > 0:50:45"I've done one thing for the kids there, which was fix bikes,
0:50:45 > 0:50:48"something I do frequently, yet the kids were thankful.
0:50:48 > 0:50:52"One of the kids told me I was a great man for doing so.
0:50:52 > 0:50:57"I lead my life on hedonism, although it hurts others, especially my parents.
0:50:57 > 0:51:00"These children would do anything for parents like I have.
0:51:00 > 0:51:02"I do nothing for my parents."
0:51:02 > 0:51:06- Brilliant.- Thank you. - Brilliant. Well done!
0:51:06 > 0:51:08- Thanks.- Thank you for that homework.
0:51:08 > 0:51:11Keep it. I want you to show it to your parents.
0:51:11 > 0:51:13- OK.- They've gotta see that!
0:51:18 > 0:51:21The British teens' stay is drawing to a close.
0:51:22 > 0:51:24But not before one final excursion.
0:51:24 > 0:51:28A picnic in the country, Lebanese-style.
0:51:28 > 0:51:31SINGS
0:51:32 > 0:51:35It's the first time in years
0:51:35 > 0:51:38Debbie's been out in public without make-up.
0:51:38 > 0:51:42If this was back in Carlisle I wouldn't have went if I didn't have my make-up.
0:51:42 > 0:51:46I'd have sat at home. So it is a pretty big thing
0:51:46 > 0:51:49for me to be here now and not to be worried about it.
0:51:50 > 0:51:54I think this feeling you should take with you back home.
0:51:54 > 0:51:58Yeah, I wanna try cos I got half an hour extra in bed this morning
0:51:58 > 0:52:00cos I didn't have to get up and worry about my face.
0:52:00 > 0:52:03That was kinda nice, a nice lie-in!
0:52:11 > 0:52:15After the last couple of days, seeing how hard other people get it,
0:52:15 > 0:52:20I can see why it would be a good thing to do things for other people
0:52:20 > 0:52:23rather than thinking about myself all the time.
0:52:23 > 0:52:27It's time for Debbie and Daniel to leave Beirut
0:52:27 > 0:52:29and return home to their own families.
0:52:29 > 0:52:32I think we had a great experience with them.
0:52:32 > 0:52:36- JINAN:- When Debbie came, we had so much in common,
0:52:36 > 0:52:40the way we think, and it was so fun having her.
0:52:41 > 0:52:45'Arguing with Iman was kind of a blessing in disguise.'
0:52:45 > 0:52:48It's taught me how I can deal with my dad in a better way.
0:52:52 > 0:52:55- DANIEL:- It's been one hell of a journey.
0:52:55 > 0:52:59I'm gonna remember it for the rest of my life!
0:52:59 > 0:53:01- Goodbye!- We'll definitely be back.
0:53:01 > 0:53:03I'm coming back next week!
0:53:19 > 0:53:21I feel a bit emotional, actually.
0:53:21 > 0:53:23I'm quite excited to see him.
0:53:23 > 0:53:28He's probably grown up just in ten days, but that's just being silly.
0:53:29 > 0:53:31Hello!
0:53:31 > 0:53:33Mind the door!
0:53:36 > 0:53:38Are you all right? Have you lost weight?
0:53:38 > 0:53:40What's this?
0:53:41 > 0:53:46- I can't wait to have a beard! - Is that to fit in with the culture? - Everyone's got beards over there.
0:53:46 > 0:53:50- Did it have an impact?- It did. A lot of the places did, yeah.
0:53:50 > 0:53:54The main thing for me was going to the Home of Hope, the shelter.
0:53:54 > 0:53:59- Seeing people with nothing? - Yeah. They have nothing. I take everything for granted.
0:53:59 > 0:54:04Seeing those, they'd give anything to have all the things I have.
0:54:04 > 0:54:09From speaking to him, he's had quite a positive experience,
0:54:09 > 0:54:13which I think can only enrich his life
0:54:13 > 0:54:17and hopefully will have some impact.
0:54:24 > 0:54:25- Hello!- Hiya!
0:54:28 > 0:54:30Hiya!
0:54:32 > 0:54:36I loved the family to bits. They've welcomed us back any time.
0:54:36 > 0:54:39If I'm ever back in Lebanon, they said go straight to their house.
0:54:39 > 0:54:43So what have you learned from it?
0:54:43 > 0:54:46I've learned that it's OK to back down when I'm in the wrong.
0:54:46 > 0:54:48It's mainly me and you, isn't it?
0:54:48 > 0:54:51I never apologise to you, you know what I mean?
0:54:51 > 0:54:55Even over the pettiest thing, it's a silence after we argue.
0:54:55 > 0:54:59It was the first time I'd really apologised to anyone.
0:54:59 > 0:55:03I thought I'd feel like I'd lost, you know what I mean?
0:55:03 > 0:55:06"Oh, she's won." But it didn't feel like that at all.
0:55:06 > 0:55:10It's obvious that she has spent time thinking
0:55:10 > 0:55:13- about how she's behaved, especially towards you.- Hmm.
0:55:13 > 0:55:15I didn't expect that at all,
0:55:15 > 0:55:19that she would let things go, that she was prepared to stand down.
0:55:19 > 0:55:22If nothing else, it's gonna make a big difference, isn't it?
0:55:22 > 0:55:24Oh, my God!
0:55:24 > 0:55:27Next time on the World's Strictest Parents...
0:55:27 > 0:55:30How do you expect me to live?
0:55:30 > 0:55:31Confrontational Calvin.
0:55:31 > 0:55:37- Your initial text was rude.- Yeah, but...- "Yeah, but..." "Yeah, but..."
0:55:37 > 0:55:39And mum-hating Rosie Harley...
0:55:39 > 0:55:42- Why don't you like speaking to me? - I just don't like it.
0:55:42 > 0:55:44..get new parents in Belize.
0:55:44 > 0:55:46This is not England, Rosie.
0:55:46 > 0:55:48I don't care. I wanna wear what I wanna wear.
0:55:48 > 0:55:52- Calvin, I need that from you. - I'll run away from you!
0:55:52 > 0:55:54I don't suppose that I could say sorry?
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