0:00:01 > 0:00:06Many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline.
0:00:06 > 0:00:09Do not come back until you have checked your answers.
0:00:09 > 0:00:10Rigid boundaries.
0:00:10 > 0:00:14Drinking, drugs and sex, they're selfish behaviours
0:00:14 > 0:00:16that destroy lives.
0:00:16 > 0:00:18And immediate consequences.
0:00:18 > 0:00:20- Come on. - BELL RINGS
0:00:20 > 0:00:26Some people might say that my parents are strict but we would rather call it love.
0:00:29 > 0:00:31But can traditional parenting
0:00:31 > 0:00:33change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:35 > 0:00:38I need some more booze. Where is my booze?
0:00:38 > 0:00:41As soon as someone says "You will do this," I say "No."
0:00:41 > 0:00:45I get away with murder, really, like I can just do anything I want.
0:00:45 > 0:00:47Big lack of respect for authority.
0:00:47 > 0:00:50I go to bed whenever I want, I wake up whenever I want.
0:00:50 > 0:00:52SHE GIGGLES
0:00:52 > 0:00:55I don't care what anyone else thinks about me, cos it's up to me.
0:00:55 > 0:01:00To find out, two teens who've never met before will leave their fraught families behind...
0:01:00 > 0:01:02Don't embarrass your family.
0:01:02 > 0:01:05And head off to the far corners of the world
0:01:05 > 0:01:08where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:08 > 0:01:12In my house you will do as I tell you to do.
0:01:12 > 0:01:14Please let me make it very clear.
0:01:14 > 0:01:16My children won't defy me.
0:01:16 > 0:01:19This is wrecking my head. This is wrecking...my head!
0:01:19 > 0:01:22When I punish, I punish really hard.
0:01:22 > 0:01:25I'm sick of being treated like a little kid when I'm not.
0:01:25 > 0:01:27- Shut up and listen to me. - Get upstairs.- No.
0:01:27 > 0:01:31You're out of your mind. In the US, you have to do what an adult says.
0:01:31 > 0:01:32They are actually insane.
0:01:32 > 0:01:38The British people's moral fabric is disintegrating.
0:01:49 > 0:01:52Please can I have some money to go to town, please?
0:01:52 > 0:01:54About how much? £5 will do.
0:01:54 > 0:01:56- No.- What do you mean no?
0:01:56 > 0:02:0116-year-old Calvin Curlew always wants his own way.
0:02:01 > 0:02:04- How do you expect me to learn? - You've not been doing your chores properly so...
0:02:04 > 0:02:07Oh, my God! Oh, my God!
0:02:07 > 0:02:11The only thing I think about my mum is financial support.
0:02:11 > 0:02:13Your mum has done so much for you and you just...
0:02:13 > 0:02:16No. My mum's done what a mum should do.
0:02:16 > 0:02:18And what's that?
0:02:18 > 0:02:22Um, have a roof over my head, give me money, buy me clothes, give me food...
0:02:22 > 0:02:25If she wouldn't do them things for me then she wouldn't be my mum.
0:02:25 > 0:02:29As he's got older his respect and his manners
0:02:29 > 0:02:32and a little bit of his behaviour has just gone through the door.
0:02:34 > 0:02:38Single mother Rose fostered Calvin when he was a baby.
0:02:38 > 0:02:40She has three elder daughters.
0:02:40 > 0:02:44We all grew to love Calvin. At the age of five Calvin's adoption came through.
0:02:44 > 0:02:46It was a very proud moment.
0:02:46 > 0:02:49But since becoming a teenager Calvin's relationship
0:02:49 > 0:02:53with his adopted mum has completely broken down.
0:02:53 > 0:02:57My relationship with my mum is nonexistent.
0:02:57 > 0:03:01We have very extreme arguments just about silly little things because
0:03:01 > 0:03:05we're both as stubborn as each other so we won't back down.
0:03:05 > 0:03:07You know what my problem is with you...
0:03:07 > 0:03:11His selfish behaviour is alienating his older sisters.
0:03:11 > 0:03:14Everyone else is fair with you, you're just selfish.
0:03:14 > 0:03:19By kicking down the door, shouting and stamping his feet he thinks he's going to get his own way.
0:03:19 > 0:03:21So if Mum shouts at me that's not respect.
0:03:21 > 0:03:24- Then I won't give her respect. - Calvin, when have I shouted at you?
0:03:24 > 0:03:26- Well, you haven't... - Who fights your battles...
0:03:26 > 0:03:28This is what you come across like...
0:03:28 > 0:03:32You come across like you want to start an argument with me.
0:03:32 > 0:03:36At the end of the day, I wouldn't be here if I didn't really love you.
0:03:36 > 0:03:40You are a complete arsehole sometimes and it does my head in.
0:03:40 > 0:03:42That's it.
0:03:47 > 0:03:52Down in Brighton, Rosie Harley will do anything to avoid her parents.
0:03:52 > 0:03:56I just prefer spending more time away from my house than anything else.
0:03:56 > 0:03:59I don't like spending time with my family.
0:03:59 > 0:04:01She has got no respect for me whatsoever.
0:04:01 > 0:04:05She's always shouting at me, swearing at me.
0:04:05 > 0:04:07There's so much lack of communication.
0:04:07 > 0:04:10- I don't like speaking to you. - Why don't you like it?
0:04:10 > 0:04:14- I just don't like speaking to you. - You won't even go into town with me any more.
0:04:14 > 0:04:16It's your personality, I don't like it.
0:04:19 > 0:04:22I don't believe you just said that...
0:04:24 > 0:04:28Rosie recently left school and is intending to go to art college
0:04:28 > 0:04:32but she refuses to lift a finger around the house.
0:04:32 > 0:04:36I go out as much as possible so that I don't have to do anything,
0:04:36 > 0:04:41when I do go out I just sit on the grass somewhere with my friends and laze around anyway.
0:04:41 > 0:04:43We don't do very much.
0:04:43 > 0:04:48If she's asked to do anything round the house, literally anything, Rosie will just refuse to do it,
0:04:48 > 0:04:52run off to her bedroom, slam the door, turn her music right up
0:04:52 > 0:04:54and we're left just scratching our heads.
0:04:54 > 0:04:59Since Rosie's dad left, her mum has struggled to raise her alone.
0:05:01 > 0:05:05Rosie's dad left when she was 12 months old
0:05:05 > 0:05:09and he didn't see her for the first four years of her life,
0:05:09 > 0:05:13although I kept phoning him up every week, "When are you coming down?"
0:05:13 > 0:05:17I used to see my dad often but now I only see once a year
0:05:17 > 0:05:21and if I don't see him then he'll post my presents to me for my birthday and Christmas.
0:05:21 > 0:05:25She doesn't talk to me about her feelings.
0:05:25 > 0:05:28I do try and sit with her but it's always "Get lost,"
0:05:28 > 0:05:33or "Go away, I hate you, I don't want to speak to you, you would never understand."
0:05:33 > 0:05:38We don't have this mother-daughter connection any more, this bond that we used to have.
0:05:38 > 0:05:40I would like...
0:05:40 > 0:05:44Rosie to, um...
0:05:44 > 0:05:46Sorry...
0:05:48 > 0:05:51I think I'd like to, um...
0:05:51 > 0:05:55have Rosie to love me a bit more.
0:06:00 > 0:06:06To try and get their lives back on track, both families have agreed to send their wayward child
0:06:06 > 0:06:09to live with new parents on the other side of the world.
0:06:09 > 0:06:11Say goodbye.
0:06:13 > 0:06:17- Let's hope you come back as a different person.- Yeah, right.
0:06:17 > 0:06:18Yeah, without the attitude.
0:06:18 > 0:06:22She needs a wake up call, really, she needs some discipline.
0:06:22 > 0:06:27I just hope she realises what sort of teenager she really is.
0:06:29 > 0:06:32Have a good time but remember what you're going for.
0:06:32 > 0:06:33All right, then.
0:06:33 > 0:06:37- Bye.- I'll miss you.
0:06:37 > 0:06:39Yeah. Take care. Right, bye.
0:06:39 > 0:06:42At times I think Calvin takes things for granted
0:06:42 > 0:06:48and I just want him to see a different side of, um, different culture and how they live.
0:06:48 > 0:06:50Hello. Hi, you're beautiful.
0:06:50 > 0:06:52I love your lipstick. Mwah.
0:06:52 > 0:06:54Let's rock and roll.
0:06:57 > 0:07:00The British teens are heading here, Belize,
0:07:00 > 0:07:03a former British colony in Central America.
0:07:03 > 0:07:07It's population of just 300,000 is a cultural melting pot,
0:07:07 > 0:07:10including descendents of African slaves,
0:07:10 > 0:07:13Mayan Indians and European conquistadors.
0:07:13 > 0:07:16It's also home to the Perez family.
0:07:16 > 0:07:20There's dad Earl, mum Rosie,
0:07:20 > 0:07:2218-year-old Lucy-Jane,
0:07:22 > 0:07:24Bobby, 16,
0:07:24 > 0:07:26and 7-year-old Ethan.
0:07:26 > 0:07:31We are God-fearing, we demand respect, especially from our kids.
0:07:31 > 0:07:33Rosie is a school administrator
0:07:33 > 0:07:37and believes that children should have total respect for authority.
0:07:37 > 0:07:43You don't talk when I am talking! Have some manners!
0:07:43 > 0:07:48If I say jump they need to ask me how high, and that's me. Just ask me "How high?"
0:07:48 > 0:07:53You give me two, three other words I didn't ask for, then...
0:07:53 > 0:07:55I think you are overstepping.
0:07:55 > 0:07:58Dad Earl manages a lumber yard.
0:07:58 > 0:08:02He ensures his family follow a strict moral code.
0:08:02 > 0:08:07I will discipline you in whatever manner I see fit to ensure that you have a bright future.
0:08:07 > 0:08:11We are raised on old-fashioned traditions
0:08:11 > 0:08:12and that includes,
0:08:12 > 0:08:16from time to time, whipping if we are bad.
0:08:16 > 0:08:20With seven children under their belt Mr and Mrs Perez are convinced
0:08:20 > 0:08:25that every child must work hard to contribute to family life.
0:08:25 > 0:08:27When I come home in the evening times
0:08:27 > 0:08:30my chores are to clean the house, sweep it,
0:08:30 > 0:08:33um, do the laundry and do my homework,
0:08:33 > 0:08:37make sure Ethan takes a bath.
0:08:37 > 0:08:41And I also have to do the cooking in the evening times.
0:08:41 > 0:08:46If I don't wash up, that has to be a big problem, and fold the clothes.
0:08:46 > 0:08:51Now that their four older children have left home
0:08:51 > 0:08:53the Perezes have recently adopted a little boy, Ethan.
0:08:53 > 0:08:55Eat your meat, OK?
0:08:55 > 0:08:59A few months ago I adopted little Ethan from the children's home.
0:08:59 > 0:09:03He came in from school with a little torn-up school bag,
0:09:03 > 0:09:08and I felt sorry for him and I said to him, "Do you want to go and live with me?"
0:09:08 > 0:09:10And he said yes, and he was smiling,
0:09:10 > 0:09:13and that is where it all started.
0:09:18 > 0:09:20After 15 hours of travelling,
0:09:20 > 0:09:23Calvin feels a long way from Nottingham.
0:09:23 > 0:09:25It looks so rural.
0:09:25 > 0:09:29It's not like a town, it's like rivers and trees
0:09:29 > 0:09:33and I'm not used to that at all so I'm getting a bit worried now.
0:09:35 > 0:09:38The Belizean landscape covers everything from Caribbean beaches
0:09:38 > 0:09:40to tropical rainforest and jungle.
0:09:43 > 0:09:49But like half the population, the teens will be staying in the capital city Belmopan.
0:09:56 > 0:10:00I'm a little bit nervous about what the family are going to be like.
0:10:00 > 0:10:03- For the time being I just need to relax...- Yeah.
0:10:03 > 0:10:07- And calm down, cos... - We're in Belize!
0:10:19 > 0:10:21- Hello.- How do you do?
0:10:21 > 0:10:23Nice to meet you. I'm Calvin.
0:10:23 > 0:10:25My family, Bob, my wife.
0:10:25 > 0:10:27- Hello.- How do you do?
0:10:27 > 0:10:29- Hi, Rosie.- Hi.
0:10:29 > 0:10:32- Hello.- I'm Rosie.
0:10:32 > 0:10:35- And little Ethan.- Hi, I'm Rosie.
0:10:35 > 0:10:38- I'm Rosie.- What's your name?- Rosie.
0:10:38 > 0:10:40- Really?- Yeah.
0:10:40 > 0:10:44For the next seven days, Rosie and Calvin will live according
0:10:44 > 0:10:47to the exact same rules as the Perez children.
0:10:47 > 0:10:48That'll be your bed.
0:10:48 > 0:10:50- This one's mine.- OK.
0:10:50 > 0:10:54- You'll be sharing this room with LJ.- OK.
0:10:54 > 0:10:56This, you like it?
0:10:56 > 0:10:58- Very nice.- Thank you.
0:10:58 > 0:10:59- How old are you?- I'm 16.
0:10:59 > 0:11:02- And you?- 16.- Oh. Same age as Bobby.
0:11:02 > 0:11:04LJ is 18.
0:11:04 > 0:11:05- How old is...- Seven.
0:11:05 > 0:11:07He's our adopted son.
0:11:07 > 0:11:09- Oh, I'm adopted too.- You're adopted?
0:11:09 > 0:11:11- Yeah.- We just adopted...
0:11:11 > 0:11:13You are lucky. You are lucky.
0:11:13 > 0:11:17I just hope you achieve your objective
0:11:17 > 0:11:19and you will get to see
0:11:19 > 0:11:22a part of a third-world country life, culture.
0:11:22 > 0:11:23Nothing comes easy.
0:11:23 > 0:11:28Hard work, son. We are going to go to the farm.
0:11:28 > 0:11:30- You have a farm?- Yes, we have a farm.
0:11:30 > 0:11:33- I don't like animals. - You don't like animals?
0:11:33 > 0:11:36- Do you have to work on the farm? - Yeah.
0:11:36 > 0:11:37Don't be scared.
0:11:39 > 0:11:41I don't want to be horrible but I don't like it.
0:11:41 > 0:11:44It's so different, I'm not used to this at all.
0:11:46 > 0:11:49I'm scared.
0:11:49 > 0:11:51They seem like really nice people
0:11:51 > 0:11:56and it's just such a together family.
0:11:56 > 0:11:58Like their daughter's 18 and she's still living at home.
0:11:58 > 0:12:00It's, like, amazing.
0:12:01 > 0:12:03Calvin and Rosie...
0:12:03 > 0:12:05waiting on you guys.
0:12:05 > 0:12:08Before they fully welcome the teenagers into their home
0:12:08 > 0:12:13Mr and Mrs Perez want to make their expectations absolutely clear.
0:12:13 > 0:12:14We have rules.
0:12:14 > 0:12:16No smoking.
0:12:16 > 0:12:18I smoke and so does she.
0:12:18 > 0:12:19We do no smoking here, period.
0:12:19 > 0:12:23I will smoke if I want to.
0:12:23 > 0:12:24I'll go outside and do it.
0:12:24 > 0:12:27You're not do it around here, you have a long way to go.
0:12:27 > 0:12:32Everyone in the house is supposed to be up in the morning by 6.30.
0:12:32 > 0:12:346.30 is too early.
0:12:34 > 0:12:37I've never had rules.
0:12:37 > 0:12:43Everybody is supposed to work for their earning, for their food,
0:12:43 > 0:12:46in this house and on the farm.
0:12:46 > 0:12:51Very important. Children are not allowed to hang out in the street.
0:12:51 > 0:12:55There are times when you just need to get away,
0:12:55 > 0:13:01you just need some space and if that's on the street, then I'll go.
0:13:01 > 0:13:07OK, just look at it, we've been experiencing a lot, a lot of problem in Belize with the youths.
0:13:07 > 0:13:12They have been after drugs, they have been alcohol, cigarette, they don't like to go to church,
0:13:12 > 0:13:15they just want to do what they feel like doing.
0:13:15 > 0:13:17That's me.
0:13:17 > 0:13:20And we would like...
0:13:20 > 0:13:23to see our kids not be one of them.
0:13:23 > 0:13:25OK.
0:13:25 > 0:13:27I am keeping my cigarettes on me at all times.
0:13:27 > 0:13:30If she tries to touch them, I will actually smack her.
0:13:30 > 0:13:31Definitely keeping my cigarettes.
0:13:31 > 0:13:35Are you crazy, she'll take them and destroy them? I'll destroy her.
0:13:35 > 0:13:37SHE LAUGHS
0:13:37 > 0:13:42We've dealt with wild horses, we've had them eating out of our hands in a short period of time
0:13:42 > 0:13:44so there's no reason why we can't break them.
0:13:44 > 0:13:49In the Perez household, the kids are expected to cook the evening meal.
0:13:49 > 0:13:54You will help LJ prepare something for us to eat and yourselves.
0:13:54 > 0:13:57- OK?- OK.- Let's go, guys.
0:13:57 > 0:14:03Calvin, as soon as the girls are ready you will be coming to help as well.
0:14:03 > 0:14:08Straight away, Rosie is showing her disapproval of Perez family values.
0:14:08 > 0:14:11It's just some of these rules, I just don't approve at all.
0:14:11 > 0:14:14- Mmm?- It's just stupid, though. - Yeah, those are our rules.
0:14:14 > 0:14:17Not so stupid because they make my kids into be very, very strong.
0:14:17 > 0:14:23- Why can't... - So you can't call my rules stupid because they are not stupid.
0:14:23 > 0:14:27I raised six kids and I adopted a little boy and I intend for him to,
0:14:27 > 0:14:30for those rules to carry on making him strong as well.
0:14:30 > 0:14:33- That's your family, though. - But you are my family now, Rosie.
0:14:33 > 0:14:37- I'm not.- You are here with me for seven days, you are my family.
0:14:37 > 0:14:40Their defiance was pretty shocking.
0:14:40 > 0:14:43It was the first time I saw my mum, you know, being disrespected like that.
0:14:43 > 0:14:48If I would do that to any adult in Belize
0:14:48 > 0:14:50I would, like, get slapped.
0:14:50 > 0:14:54My mum will have something in store for them that probably they won't like.
0:14:54 > 0:14:56Are you getting there, Calvin?
0:14:56 > 0:15:01The teens have been in Belize for just four hours
0:15:01 > 0:15:04and are already feeling the strain.
0:15:04 > 0:15:08I feel like I have done so much work already.
0:15:08 > 0:15:12If my mum would have asked me to do this I would have point blank said no.
0:15:12 > 0:15:15Calvin and Rosie!
0:15:16 > 0:15:18Come on guys, Mama hungry now.
0:15:18 > 0:15:22I'm getting hungry. You are moving too slow.
0:15:23 > 0:15:25I'm hungry.
0:15:35 > 0:15:39It's 6.30am, the Perez family's regular wake-up time.
0:15:39 > 0:15:44Mr and Mrs Perez expect all their children to work for their keep at the family farm.
0:15:44 > 0:15:47Rosie and Calvin are no exception.
0:15:47 > 0:15:53Getting the kids to help me on the farm I am hoping that this will teach them a sense of responsibility.
0:15:53 > 0:15:56I have my workshop that I do furniture
0:15:56 > 0:16:02and I need to put in some windows to have the place secured and they are going to help me with that today.
0:16:02 > 0:16:04They will get some benefit from it.
0:16:04 > 0:16:07A sense of achievement, pride in it.
0:16:07 > 0:16:10I want them to be proud of whatever they do.
0:16:14 > 0:16:18The family's farm is an hour's drive from their townhouse.
0:16:18 > 0:16:21Its 51 acres are home to horses, pigs
0:16:21 > 0:16:23and 30 head of cattle.
0:16:27 > 0:16:33Without a rest stop en route, the kids get the day off to a bad start.
0:16:33 > 0:16:36You're smoking and she's coming round the corner.
0:16:36 > 0:16:37- Is she?- Yeah.
0:16:41 > 0:16:44Rosie and Calvin, what's up?
0:16:44 > 0:16:48- Can I have that match? Can I have the cigarette as well? - I don't have any cigarettes.
0:16:48 > 0:16:51Yeah, you do. What do you have in your hands there?
0:16:51 > 0:16:53A lighter.
0:16:53 > 0:16:55Ah. So what's this?
0:16:55 > 0:16:58- I'm sorry, but I don't really care. - Mm-hmm.
0:16:58 > 0:17:02I, um...am not, I don't care what you say right now.
0:17:02 > 0:17:05- Can I have the lighter, Rosie? - No.- Yeah. I'll have the lighter.
0:17:05 > 0:17:07- Well, you're not having it, it's my lighter!- I want it.
0:17:07 > 0:17:10- I'm not giving it. - I want the lighter.
0:17:10 > 0:17:11No, no, no, no. OK?
0:17:11 > 0:17:14OK. When we get home we'll see.
0:17:14 > 0:17:16- All right?- OK.
0:17:16 > 0:17:17OK.
0:17:22 > 0:17:24Who does she think she is?
0:17:24 > 0:17:26Our mother, apparently.
0:17:29 > 0:17:32On arrival, Mrs Perez wastes no time
0:17:32 > 0:17:35in dishing out her punishment for the teens' defiant behaviour.
0:17:35 > 0:17:36CATTLE MOO
0:17:36 > 0:17:40We're not going in there are we? Are we going in there?
0:17:40 > 0:17:41I'm not going in there.
0:17:41 > 0:17:45Calvin and Rosie will be mucking out the pig pen, but to reach it
0:17:45 > 0:17:48they must first navigate a way through a field of cows.
0:17:48 > 0:17:54- No. No, no...- Let's go Calvin.- No!
0:17:54 > 0:17:55They're not coming back.
0:17:55 > 0:17:57They're not coming back, they're eating.
0:17:57 > 0:17:59Oh, God.
0:17:59 > 0:18:02- Count to five. One... - Can I do another job?
0:18:02 > 0:18:04Can I do another job?
0:18:04 > 0:18:08No. That's what you get for smoking and not adhering to my rules.
0:18:08 > 0:18:12I don't want you to run, Calvin, because there's nothing to be scared of.
0:18:12 > 0:18:14I hate pigs.
0:18:18 > 0:18:21Lots of work, dedication,
0:18:21 > 0:18:25and that's how you become successful businessmen and women.
0:18:28 > 0:18:32The teens have to hose out the pig poo from the pens.
0:18:32 > 0:18:34It's proving too much for Calvin.
0:18:34 > 0:18:36- I don't want to.- The smell is fine.
0:18:36 > 0:18:40The smell is fine, just hold your hose and control the water in there, Calvin. Let's go.
0:18:40 > 0:18:42Hold it by the...
0:18:42 > 0:18:45Ten minutes have gone. Ten minutes have gone.
0:18:56 > 0:18:58With the punishment complete,
0:18:58 > 0:19:02Mr Perez outlines the construction project he has planned for the week ahead.
0:19:14 > 0:19:19I'll do anything just so I can get to bed sooner.
0:19:19 > 0:19:24I don't want to do it but I can't be bothered to argue.
0:19:24 > 0:19:26I'm just too tired.
0:19:26 > 0:19:30I'm terrified about having to complete all those windows.
0:19:30 > 0:19:33I don't know how I'm going to do it
0:19:33 > 0:19:38but I guess I'll just like hide and slack off and smoke and stuff.
0:19:41 > 0:19:47With help from some neighbours Rosie will prepare the wood and Calvin will construct the windows.
0:19:50 > 0:19:53I need to sit down.
0:19:56 > 0:19:58No. I'm tired.
0:19:58 > 0:20:02I'm really, I need to like lie down or sit around or something.
0:20:05 > 0:20:06You're tired?
0:20:22 > 0:20:26The first day at the farm has not gone well for Calvin.
0:20:27 > 0:20:31I hate the farm, I don't know how you do it. Do you enjoy it?
0:20:31 > 0:20:35No, not all the time of course.
0:20:35 > 0:20:40Yeah. Why do you do it then? Why don't you just say that you don't want to do it?
0:20:40 > 0:20:43Because in the end I want to see it done,
0:20:43 > 0:20:45I want to see what we have created.
0:20:45 > 0:20:47A lot of the things we have here
0:20:47 > 0:20:51we had to do it in order to have what we have.
0:20:51 > 0:20:56So it's like if you want something you have to do it yourself.
0:20:56 > 0:20:58Or get someone else to do it.
0:20:58 > 0:21:03- Well, you see getting someone else to do it you have to pay them.- Yeah.
0:21:08 > 0:21:11It's day three.
0:21:11 > 0:21:15The barn is taking shake but Calvin's still refusing to help.
0:21:21 > 0:21:23I think you should get up and help the kids.
0:21:23 > 0:21:27- Try to take a hammer and a nail. - I already tried it and I can't do it.
0:21:27 > 0:21:29- You can't do it?- No.
0:21:29 > 0:21:31Calvin, you've got to keep telling yourself you can,
0:21:31 > 0:21:33not say I can't, I can't.
0:21:33 > 0:21:35That will break you, that will bring you down.
0:21:35 > 0:21:38Say can for a change, tell me that you can.
0:21:38 > 0:21:41- I can't.- No, Calvin.
0:21:41 > 0:21:45Rosie's been moved onto general farm chores
0:21:45 > 0:21:49and is surprised to find work can be rewarding.
0:21:49 > 0:21:52In my household, I don't really, like, do anything at all,
0:21:52 > 0:21:54I'm not proud of anything I've done because I don't,
0:21:54 > 0:21:58it's like every time I'm, like, asked to do something I sort of
0:21:58 > 0:22:02wiggle my way out it, I just can't be bothered to do things.
0:22:02 > 0:22:05I do whatever they want
0:22:05 > 0:22:07because whenever I need or want something
0:22:07 > 0:22:11they'd be the first person to tell me that they will.
0:22:11 > 0:22:14They may not at the same exact minute but eventually they will.
0:22:18 > 0:22:19But for Calvin,
0:22:19 > 0:22:23the concept of working for his keep is not to his liking.
0:22:23 > 0:22:26You know what, Calvin?
0:22:26 > 0:22:31I get enough of this shit. I get enough of this shit.
0:22:31 > 0:22:36- Why should we find you all the time lying in bed?- Too hot! - No, That's not an excuse!
0:22:36 > 0:22:38I am out there, the boys are out there...
0:22:38 > 0:22:40- Bobby's out there. - They're used to it, I'm not.
0:22:40 > 0:22:43You need to get used to it as well.
0:22:45 > 0:22:49- You make a little, I'm getting a little...- It's too hot.
0:22:49 > 0:22:51I'm getting a little embarrassed.
0:22:51 > 0:22:55All the boys are out their working while you coming in here and be resting like a little girl.
0:22:55 > 0:22:57- Come on.- Whatever.
0:22:57 > 0:22:59Nothing has been good living here.
0:22:59 > 0:23:03I hate every second of it, especially Mrs Perez.
0:23:03 > 0:23:05She orders me about a lot
0:23:05 > 0:23:10and she's a bitch, she's a actual bitch, I hate her so much.
0:23:10 > 0:23:15Like, the way she calls my name it...
0:23:15 > 0:23:18it's always, "Calv-i-i-in!"
0:23:18 > 0:23:19all the time.
0:23:20 > 0:23:23Come on, Calvin, let's finish up.
0:23:23 > 0:23:25Well, I don't want to. Well, I don't want to.
0:23:25 > 0:23:27You have to because we got to finish the project.
0:23:27 > 0:23:30- Do I have to? - Yes, you have to!
0:23:30 > 0:23:33- No, it's my choice if- I- have to. It's not YOUR choice
0:23:33 > 0:23:37- and- I- don't want to, so, therefore, I am not going to!
0:23:37 > 0:23:41I don't know where you are going. The house is all locked up.
0:23:41 > 0:23:42To have a cigarette!
0:23:43 > 0:23:46Where's the cigarette? Give me the cigarette.
0:23:46 > 0:23:49- You're not having the cigarette. - Give me the cigarette.
0:23:49 > 0:23:52- Calvin.- Oh, my God... - Hand me the cigarette, Calvin!
0:23:52 > 0:23:56- Calvin, I need that cigarette. - I'll run away from you.
0:23:56 > 0:23:58GIGGLING
0:23:58 > 0:24:03- Can I get yours, Rosie? You have cigarettes as well?- Yeah, but I'm not giving them to you.
0:24:03 > 0:24:05- Why not?- Because I bought them with my money...
0:24:05 > 0:24:08- You'll get them back when you leave.- No.
0:24:08 > 0:24:10- I'm not giving you my cigarettes. - I need your cigarette.
0:24:10 > 0:24:12What don't you understand about no?
0:24:12 > 0:24:15- No.- You don't need them.- No. No. No. - You don't need them, Rosie.
0:24:15 > 0:24:17- You don't need them here. - I don't care.
0:24:17 > 0:24:21Well, you don't take your cigarettes in my house. Period.
0:24:21 > 0:24:24- That cigarette stay outside. - Fair enough.
0:24:28 > 0:24:30The teens' blatant lack of respect
0:24:30 > 0:24:34has offended everything that the Perez family hold dear.
0:24:34 > 0:24:38Maybe they will learn something and maybe they will change a little
0:24:38 > 0:24:43but I don't think they're going to change as much as we all hoped they would.
0:24:43 > 0:24:48I still have a couple more days to work with them, on them.
0:24:48 > 0:24:52One little baby step is worth a try.
0:24:52 > 0:24:56Determined that the British teens understand the impact
0:24:56 > 0:24:57that they've had on her family,
0:24:57 > 0:25:00Mrs Perez summons them for a talking to.
0:25:02 > 0:25:04Rosie and Calvin,
0:25:04 > 0:25:06you have torn...
0:25:06 > 0:25:09deep in the heart of my kids...
0:25:09 > 0:25:12and myself.
0:25:12 > 0:25:16I have never, ever had kids talk to me like that before.
0:25:16 > 0:25:20Never ever yet, in my whole entire life,
0:25:20 > 0:25:22including teaching for 29 years.
0:25:22 > 0:25:25You owe my children an apology.
0:25:25 > 0:25:29I will apologise to your children but I'm certainly not apologising to you.
0:25:29 > 0:25:33- Why?- Because not only did I speak with you with disrespect,
0:25:33 > 0:25:35you spoke to me with disrespect.
0:25:35 > 0:25:38All I wanted was for you to get on with your work
0:25:38 > 0:25:43and get something done and you can say "This is my work, I have done something."
0:25:43 > 0:25:46- I did...- I have been there, done that and know how to do all that stuff.
0:25:46 > 0:25:48I am quite above this.
0:25:48 > 0:25:53I have raised six kids and I never had one day where I had to confront my kids with this.
0:25:53 > 0:25:57I'll apologise to your kids but I'm not apologising to you.
0:25:57 > 0:25:59It won't work.
0:26:02 > 0:26:04Um...
0:26:04 > 0:26:08I'm very sorry that I shouted at your mum like that.
0:26:08 > 0:26:13You've got to understand that we're not used to this at all.
0:26:13 > 0:26:19We're sheltered, we're lousy at working, you know, that's us.
0:26:19 > 0:26:24- We're just not used to this.- At all. - I'm sorry I had a go at your mum.
0:26:24 > 0:26:26It is sad to see my mum,
0:26:26 > 0:26:30that the person that I love so much to be treated like that.
0:26:30 > 0:26:33If I would go to your house and your mum would ask me
0:26:33 > 0:26:35to do the most ridiculous thing in the world
0:26:35 > 0:26:38I would do it, put the biggest smile on my face,
0:26:38 > 0:26:42even if I don't like it, even if it's out of the way,
0:26:42 > 0:26:45I would do it for her because I respect her,
0:26:45 > 0:26:49not only for myself, but for you, because I respect you.
0:26:49 > 0:26:53And I just didn't, I didn't like it at all.
0:26:53 > 0:26:56- Do you accept our apologies then? - I accept your apology.
0:26:56 > 0:26:58- I'll accept it.- I'm sorry.
0:27:01 > 0:27:04I'm quite upset, actually.
0:27:04 > 0:27:05SHE SNIFFS
0:27:05 > 0:27:09I have underestimated the difference between the Belizean culture
0:27:09 > 0:27:12and the English culture is a lot different.
0:27:12 > 0:27:15I mean, her kids would never ever talk to her like that
0:27:15 > 0:27:22but I'm sorry, overstepping the mark, it's just being pathetic.
0:27:22 > 0:27:27Fair enough her kids wouldn't talk to her like that and stuff like that but it's like,
0:27:27 > 0:27:29what is the big deal?
0:27:31 > 0:27:36Mrs Perez never makes a threat she's not prepared to carry out.
0:27:36 > 0:27:42She's decided that unless the teens give up their cigarettes they're not welcome under her roof.
0:27:42 > 0:27:44They can sleep outside.
0:27:49 > 0:27:51Children are supposed to know their boundaries.
0:27:51 > 0:27:55If we as adults don't teach them,
0:27:55 > 0:27:56lead them,
0:27:56 > 0:28:01then they would never ever learn their boundaries.
0:28:01 > 0:28:03It's either them or me,
0:28:03 > 0:28:06and this is my turf.
0:28:06 > 0:28:09I know it was hot and you were stressed out
0:28:09 > 0:28:13but there was just no need to have a tantrum like that and run away.
0:28:13 > 0:28:17She's giving us a roof over our head and she's feeding us with her...
0:28:17 > 0:28:20- That's her choice to. - ..food. I know it's her choice...
0:28:20 > 0:28:24But she's feeding us, she's looking after us while we're here. She doesn't have to.
0:28:24 > 0:28:28Like tonight she's going to make us sleep outside. You know what I'm saying.
0:28:29 > 0:28:31I'll apologise.
0:28:35 > 0:28:38- It's hard isn't it? - It'll be fine.- Mm-hm.
0:28:40 > 0:28:41Rosie and Calvin!
0:28:41 > 0:28:43Come here.
0:28:44 > 0:28:45Yeah, we're coming.
0:28:47 > 0:28:49This is where you'll be sleeping.
0:28:51 > 0:28:54Calvin and Rosie.
0:28:54 > 0:28:57Um, we're going to give them over.
0:28:57 > 0:29:00- Ah?- We're going to give them over. We give up.
0:29:00 > 0:29:03- You give up?- We give up, yes.
0:29:03 > 0:29:05- What?- We give up. We're sorry.
0:29:05 > 0:29:08We're going to give you the cigarettes now.
0:29:08 > 0:29:11Come on! This was fun...
0:29:11 > 0:29:14No, it's not. Do be honest, Rosie.
0:29:14 > 0:29:20You're giving it up? I honestly wanted you guys to sleep out here
0:29:20 > 0:29:24so it could teach you respect for your elders.
0:29:24 > 0:29:25- OK?- Mmm-hm.
0:29:25 > 0:29:27- Sorry.- Sorry.
0:29:27 > 0:29:29OK, Rosie. OK, Calvin.
0:29:29 > 0:29:32I brought these outside and I will not take them back in.
0:29:32 > 0:29:36It's only right that you pick them up and take them. This was your bed.
0:29:40 > 0:29:43I'm scared to walk through the grass.
0:29:43 > 0:29:47Grateful to be back inside, Calvin is making more of an effort.
0:29:47 > 0:29:50And here is your burger.
0:29:50 > 0:29:56'I feel quite sorry, the fact that I spoke to her with such disrespect.
0:29:56 > 0:30:03'I'm definitely becoming aware of how me being selfish affects others.'
0:30:03 > 0:30:06I guess I should have thought about it at the time but...
0:30:06 > 0:30:10obviously I was too caught up in my own...problems.
0:30:16 > 0:30:17HORSE WHINNIES
0:30:17 > 0:30:23Mrs Perez believes Rosie and Calvin have no concept of how comfortable their lives are back in England.
0:30:23 > 0:30:29She wants them to appreciate what it's like to grow up in the developing world.
0:30:29 > 0:30:33Today we are going to my village where I grew up, Calvin.
0:30:33 > 0:30:37It's very important that I take you there
0:30:37 > 0:30:43to see where I am started, moulds me to the person that I am today.
0:30:43 > 0:30:45Strong, determined,
0:30:45 > 0:30:49appreciative, respectful...
0:30:49 > 0:30:52of what I now have.
0:30:54 > 0:30:57Rural life in Belize is tough.
0:30:57 > 0:31:02Most families are only able to grow enough food to feed their nearest and dearest.
0:31:02 > 0:31:05My dad was a farmer.
0:31:05 > 0:31:07If the weather's good...
0:31:07 > 0:31:09then we'll get food.
0:31:09 > 0:31:14If the weather is bad then we just have to make do with what we have.
0:31:14 > 0:31:20At times, my parents had to take us out of the school
0:31:20 > 0:31:23to go and do the planting of the corn and the rice.
0:31:23 > 0:31:26If we didn't do it, we didn't get food
0:31:26 > 0:31:29so it's a matter of doing it for survival.
0:31:29 > 0:31:33After a 20-minute drive, they arrive at Mrs Perez's uncle's house,
0:31:33 > 0:31:37a place where she spent much of her youth.
0:31:37 > 0:31:39Morning.
0:31:40 > 0:31:45The Perez's extended family have always pulled together in times of hardship.
0:31:45 > 0:31:50In the village here there is no running water, we have to get water
0:31:50 > 0:31:52either by buying a pump now,
0:31:52 > 0:31:56um, or we are getting it from the river...
0:31:56 > 0:32:00And that river comes all the way from Guatemala.
0:32:00 > 0:32:05- Yes.- So it was whatever Guatemala throws in their river up yonder, we drink it down here.
0:32:05 > 0:32:09- I couldn't imagine living without running water.- Yes.
0:32:09 > 0:32:12I am old, I am 81 years
0:32:12 > 0:32:14and I live right here.
0:32:14 > 0:32:17Here we have flood here, big flood.
0:32:17 > 0:32:20This house here, water was right up here.
0:32:20 > 0:32:26- How did you cope in the flood? - We have to fall asleep on tree until the flood...- Really?
0:32:28 > 0:32:34Meeting Mrs Perez's family is having a humbling effect on Calvin.
0:32:34 > 0:32:40There's nothing out here at all and the fact that you've got two homes, a big farm,
0:32:40 > 0:32:44you love your children, your children are successful
0:32:44 > 0:32:49and it's hard to get my head around how you did it all...
0:32:50 > 0:32:52..when there's nothing.
0:32:56 > 0:32:57As the kids prepare the evening meal
0:32:57 > 0:33:03the British teens are finally starting to feel part of the family.
0:33:03 > 0:33:05Chef Calvin!
0:33:05 > 0:33:07I think these are done.
0:33:07 > 0:33:11Bobby, LJ!
0:33:11 > 0:33:12Tea time!
0:33:12 > 0:33:14THEY LAUGH
0:33:14 > 0:33:18"Calv-i-i-in! Come here!"
0:33:18 > 0:33:20That's what she does.
0:33:27 > 0:33:30Before Belizeans can graduate high school,
0:33:30 > 0:33:33it's mandatory for them to carry out volunteer work.
0:33:35 > 0:33:39Mrs Perez is sending Rosie and Calvin to a children's home
0:33:39 > 0:33:41to offer their services.
0:33:41 > 0:33:46It's a great opportunity for them to reflect on their lives.
0:33:46 > 0:33:49They have a lot of love, their parents give them a lot of love
0:33:49 > 0:33:52and they are not responding to their parents.
0:33:52 > 0:33:57I am hoping this is an opportunity for them
0:33:57 > 0:34:00to give some love.
0:34:00 > 0:34:03Delphina Mitchell is a director of the charity-funded
0:34:03 > 0:34:07Liberty Children's Home and surrogate mum to 41 children.
0:34:09 > 0:34:12- Hello.- Good morning.- Hi, how are you?
0:34:12 > 0:34:14- Hello, Calvin.- Hi, I'm Rosie.
0:34:14 > 0:34:16Oh, you're cute, Rosie. Hi.
0:34:16 > 0:34:19These are my two kids. They're yours.
0:34:19 > 0:34:22OK, well thank you and I'll see you this afternoon.
0:34:22 > 0:34:23Bye.
0:34:23 > 0:34:27Well, welcome to Liberty, Calvin and Rosie.
0:34:27 > 0:34:30What backgrounds do most of the kids come from?
0:34:30 > 0:34:33Most of them that are here they are here because they have been
0:34:33 > 0:34:38neglected, abandoned, physically abused and some of them sexually abused.
0:34:38 > 0:34:40They can be a handful sometimes.
0:34:40 > 0:34:45They require a lot of attention, they like attention.
0:34:45 > 0:34:48Because I understand this is to be a learning experience for you guys
0:34:48 > 0:34:55what I expect at the end of the day tomorrow that you guys could kind of give me a report back
0:34:55 > 0:34:58on how your time was spent. OK?
0:34:58 > 0:35:01Now let's go over and meet your baby.
0:35:03 > 0:35:06Rosie's job is to look after the youngest child in the dormitory,
0:35:06 > 0:35:08who is just 18 months old.
0:35:08 > 0:35:15This is Mastashi, Mastashi, this is Rosie and she is our volunteer.
0:35:15 > 0:35:17Hello, Leah.
0:35:17 > 0:35:20Hello. Hi.
0:35:20 > 0:35:23This is Miss Rosie.
0:35:23 > 0:35:24You want to say hi to Rosie.
0:35:26 > 0:35:30- I don't know if she liked me. - Well, she's got to get used to you.
0:35:32 > 0:35:33Here's a hug.
0:35:38 > 0:35:43- No problem?- Oh, she's heavy.- Does it feel like she has her arms on you?
0:35:43 > 0:35:46It's, uh, strange, you know.
0:35:46 > 0:35:48I'm not used to comforting.
0:35:49 > 0:35:55Sensitiveness in your heart, it will try make you learn to want to be with them more,
0:35:55 > 0:35:58even want to figure out what about them, you know.
0:35:58 > 0:36:00I mean, right here is first start.
0:36:02 > 0:36:05- What's your name?- Shannon. - Shannon. And you are?
0:36:05 > 0:36:08After spending just a few hours with the kids,
0:36:08 > 0:36:14Calvin reflects on how different his life could have been had his mum not permanently adopted him so young.
0:36:14 > 0:36:17The kids are so amazing.
0:36:17 > 0:36:21I just wish they had parents to give their love to.
0:36:21 > 0:36:24- Have you always known you've been adopted?- Always.
0:36:24 > 0:36:27I've always known that I'm adopted, my mum's never hidden it from me.
0:36:27 > 0:36:29How do you get along with your mum?
0:36:29 > 0:36:33- I just don't feel a bond with her. - You don't?
0:36:33 > 0:36:37I don't want her to think that it's because she's not my birth mother
0:36:37 > 0:36:40but, um, at times...
0:36:40 > 0:36:43at times I do think it's because of that.
0:36:43 > 0:36:45- Do you have fantasies about your birth parents?- Yeah.
0:36:45 > 0:36:49What they would look like, how they would be, if they are looking for you too?
0:36:49 > 0:36:51Yeah, I definitely do.
0:36:51 > 0:36:55I definitely do, I think about like what they look like.
0:36:55 > 0:37:01Like, how they talk and how tall they are and if they look like me.
0:37:01 > 0:37:05Do you have any resentment? Do you maybe feel that maybe
0:37:05 > 0:37:11you were not wanted and so you feel maybe something was wrong with you that you were not wanted?
0:37:11 > 0:37:16Yeah, at times. At times, I think it's my fault but...
0:37:16 > 0:37:19What do you think you could have done to make it your fault
0:37:19 > 0:37:21why they gave you up for adoption?
0:37:24 > 0:37:29Maybe I was a horrible kid.
0:37:29 > 0:37:32Like, maybe I wouldn't stop crying or something,
0:37:32 > 0:37:35maybe I made it that my mum couldn't cope or...
0:37:37 > 0:37:41I think that a lot of time, the parents they do that
0:37:41 > 0:37:44when they realise that they don't have the maturity
0:37:44 > 0:37:48- or the economic finances to take care of their child...- Yeah.
0:37:48 > 0:37:54And I think sometimes it's an act of love when they do decide that I cannot do this for the child and
0:37:54 > 0:38:00- it's best if I placed them with someone that can take better care than I can.- Yeah.
0:38:00 > 0:38:03I suppose I never thought of it like that,
0:38:03 > 0:38:07that maybe it was out of love that I was given up.
0:38:07 > 0:38:11And you must know that you are a very special person...
0:38:11 > 0:38:15- Yeah.- ..because your mum, she went looking for you,
0:38:15 > 0:38:18she picked you to take care of and to love.
0:38:18 > 0:38:24I would wish for you, Calvin, to find some way back to her.
0:38:24 > 0:38:30If you just keep things bottled inside you, nothing will ever come of it but destructive behaviour
0:38:30 > 0:38:36and anger so you need to find a way to be able to communicate and get those feelings out.
0:38:36 > 0:38:38But talk to your mum and let her understand,
0:38:38 > 0:38:42I am sure she would understand a lot more than you give her credit for.
0:38:42 > 0:38:45Yeah. Thanks.
0:38:46 > 0:38:49- Can I get a hug?- Yeah.
0:38:50 > 0:38:53In the girls' dormitory,
0:38:53 > 0:38:56Rosie is stepping up to her new responsibilities.
0:38:58 > 0:39:00There you are, sweetie.
0:39:00 > 0:39:03You are lucky in that you have your parents still around.
0:39:03 > 0:39:06Some of these kids that you have talked to, you know...
0:39:08 > 0:39:11..they wish that they could be with their parents and they can't be.
0:39:11 > 0:39:15That's what being here has taught me, that I'm lucky to have family.
0:39:17 > 0:39:22'Being around all these children and stuff it's taught me like to open up my heart a little bit more.
0:39:24 > 0:39:30'You want to give a lot of love to these children, a lot of love.
0:39:30 > 0:39:33'I've got love at home but I've been rejecting it.'
0:39:33 > 0:39:37I think I should really try and accept the love
0:39:37 > 0:39:40that's given to me and give it back.
0:39:40 > 0:39:46With her own mum on her mind, Rosie's curious about how LJ
0:39:46 > 0:39:50keeps such a close bond with Mrs Perez despite the strict rules.
0:39:50 > 0:39:54My mum, she never allowed any of my sisters to date
0:39:54 > 0:39:56and I've been dating ever since I was 17.
0:39:56 > 0:40:00And it was always 19, they would start, that she would allow it,
0:40:00 > 0:40:06and so me starting that young, she had to set a rule.
0:40:06 > 0:40:09So that was the rule, that Bobby had to go with me everywhere.
0:40:09 > 0:40:14I can't believe that your younger brother has to chaperone you
0:40:14 > 0:40:15with your boyfriend.
0:40:15 > 0:40:19It's like, he's younger than you and you're 18 years old, it's just a bit...
0:40:19 > 0:40:23It kind of creates trust between my mum and me because
0:40:23 > 0:40:27if there wasn't that rule, then maybe she would be nagging me a lot.
0:40:27 > 0:40:31Yeah. So, LJ, are you still a virgin or not?
0:40:31 > 0:40:34Ah, hmm...
0:40:35 > 0:40:36I'm not.
0:40:36 > 0:40:39When did you have sex?
0:40:39 > 0:40:41At what age?
0:40:41 > 0:40:43I was 18.
0:40:43 > 0:40:45Does your mum know about that?
0:40:45 > 0:40:47Yes, she does. I told her.
0:40:47 > 0:40:50Is that why she makes Bobby come with you now?
0:40:50 > 0:40:52No, she made Bobby...
0:40:52 > 0:40:55She has been doing that for a while.
0:40:55 > 0:40:58I don't know,
0:40:58 > 0:41:02I just have a relationship with my mum that I felt I had to tell her.
0:41:02 > 0:41:07'It's just nice to see a close family. I love LJ.
0:41:07 > 0:41:09'She's, like, always cooking, and stuff.'
0:41:09 > 0:41:15I think Mr and Mrs Perez have set their kids up very well for making it in the world.
0:41:15 > 0:41:20They know what they're doing, what it's all about.
0:41:20 > 0:41:22It's nice.
0:41:22 > 0:41:25With a newfound respect for their family philosophy,
0:41:25 > 0:41:29Rosie is ready to open up to Mrs Perez.
0:41:29 > 0:41:31My mum and dad were never married.
0:41:31 > 0:41:33I used to see him about once every fortnight
0:41:33 > 0:41:36but now I hardly ever see him.
0:41:36 > 0:41:39He spends like all of his money on alcohol and stuff.
0:41:39 > 0:41:42I've always tried to be close to him...
0:41:43 > 0:41:46..but I've never quite got there.
0:41:46 > 0:41:52So, um, you feel, your feeling towards him is rejection.
0:41:52 > 0:42:00When I was about nine or so, he got really drunk and left me... No, he collapsed in a field
0:42:00 > 0:42:03and left me to walk back to the pub that we were at
0:42:03 > 0:42:06and get the bar staff to come and wake him up.
0:42:06 > 0:42:10And my mum was on holiday at the time and so she couldn't come and get me
0:42:10 > 0:42:13so my nan had to come and get me.
0:42:13 > 0:42:15But, yeah, I was quite scared.
0:42:15 > 0:42:18There have been loads of incidents like that.
0:42:18 > 0:42:20I am hurt by what my dad does.
0:42:20 > 0:42:22Um...
0:42:25 > 0:42:28- Go ahead.- And I guess I take out on my mum, yeah.
0:42:29 > 0:42:33Who takes care of you after your dad has abandoned you
0:42:33 > 0:42:36for that short period of time?
0:42:36 > 0:42:38- My mum.- Your mum.
0:42:38 > 0:42:41She is not turning her back on you.
0:42:41 > 0:42:46Don't let your problems you have with your dad, you push in your mum's corner,
0:42:46 > 0:42:49- keep the love burning with you and your mum.- OK.
0:42:49 > 0:42:54It's going to be hard for me to let go of the past
0:42:54 > 0:42:56because I've held onto it for so long
0:42:56 > 0:43:00but if we take little steps at a time
0:43:00 > 0:43:03I think...
0:43:03 > 0:43:05eventually, we will get there.
0:43:09 > 0:43:11Calvin's experience at the children's home
0:43:11 > 0:43:15has set him thinking about the Perez's adopted child Ethan.
0:43:26 > 0:43:29Where did you used to live before the Perez's?
0:43:31 > 0:43:33Um, at the home.
0:43:33 > 0:43:35At the home?
0:43:36 > 0:43:38Did you like it?
0:43:38 > 0:43:40No?
0:43:40 > 0:43:43Why didn't you like it?
0:43:44 > 0:43:46Because they had fights.
0:43:48 > 0:43:52- They break up the toys. - They break the toys?
0:43:52 > 0:43:53They have guns.
0:43:53 > 0:43:55They have guns?
0:43:55 > 0:43:57Was it scary?
0:44:00 > 0:44:03I can see me in him,
0:44:03 > 0:44:07he still knows he lived in a home and he knows how hard it was and stuff.
0:44:07 > 0:44:09I'm glad I made it out,
0:44:09 > 0:44:13I'm glad I was adopted because I could be in a home somewhere.
0:44:13 > 0:44:16The teens have been in Belize for almost a week.
0:44:16 > 0:44:21Tonight, Calvin has his first contact from home.
0:44:21 > 0:44:24Here I have a letter from my mum.
0:44:24 > 0:44:30"Hi Calvin, the decision to send you on this trip was very difficult because what has been more difficult
0:44:30 > 0:44:35"for me to deal with is that in the days that you have been away I have felt more relaxed.
0:44:35 > 0:44:38"I have not come home to be faced by an angry teenager
0:44:38 > 0:44:43"who wants everything done for him after spending the whole day in bed.
0:44:43 > 0:44:48"Demanding money, food and lifts to places is what you do best.
0:44:48 > 0:44:52"I don't recall you ever asking me if I wanted a cup of tea.
0:44:52 > 0:44:55"I do hope this experience will help you be calmer and more considerate.
0:44:55 > 0:45:01"I want you to realise your potential and rise to the stars, Calvin, because I know you can do it.
0:45:01 > 0:45:03"Without your own efforts this will not happen.
0:45:03 > 0:45:09"We cannot fulfil your dream for you but we can support you in reaching them as we always have done.
0:45:09 > 0:45:10"I love you. Mum."
0:45:12 > 0:45:15I've had everything handed to me on a silver platter
0:45:15 > 0:45:21and the times that my mum's told me about when they were younger about like how they
0:45:21 > 0:45:24used to survive like on nothing,
0:45:24 > 0:45:31like after my sisters finished dinner, then she would eat,
0:45:31 > 0:45:33and she would just eat the leftovers,
0:45:33 > 0:45:35she would have no food for herself, like.
0:45:38 > 0:45:40And I think...
0:45:42 > 0:45:46..just, I think because I've had everything so easy...
0:45:48 > 0:45:51..and I just treated her so badly.
0:45:55 > 0:45:57It's bad.
0:45:57 > 0:45:59I just wish that I could say sorry.
0:46:05 > 0:46:07God.
0:46:19 > 0:46:24It's the final day of the teens' voluntary assignment at the kid's home.
0:46:26 > 0:46:28You do it too.
0:46:31 > 0:46:32ROSIE GIGGLES
0:46:32 > 0:46:34Give me your hands. Oh...
0:46:34 > 0:46:39Delphina's pleased that Rosie has started to open up about her troubled childhood
0:46:39 > 0:46:42but wants to keep her focused on her behaviour at home.
0:46:42 > 0:46:47I'm constantly arguing with my mum about petty things, like, I want to
0:46:47 > 0:46:51annoy her constantly, I want to make her angry, I want to argue with her.
0:46:51 > 0:46:57It's good that you recognise that what the action that you are trying to get some emotions out of her.
0:46:57 > 0:47:00I've got a very short temper...
0:47:00 > 0:47:04so I get very frustrated quite quickly.
0:47:04 > 0:47:09What do you want for Rosie, say, five years from now?
0:47:09 > 0:47:12To fix my family...
0:47:14 > 0:47:16To have a job that's stable.
0:47:16 > 0:47:18And you say you want to fix your family
0:47:18 > 0:47:22but how can you fix your family with all that anger in you?
0:47:25 > 0:47:29I guess I can let it out somehow.
0:47:31 > 0:47:35That would be a start because if you continue like this, like you are,
0:47:35 > 0:47:42with all that repressed anger and being short tempered, um,
0:47:42 > 0:47:45disrespectful of authority and all that,
0:47:45 > 0:47:49you're not going to have a very fulfilled life.
0:47:49 > 0:47:53You're going to have lots of problems, lots of issues
0:47:53 > 0:47:55and lots of heartache.
0:47:55 > 0:47:58And you're a young beautiful girl,
0:47:58 > 0:48:02you deserve to be happy and you deserve to have a full life,
0:48:02 > 0:48:04a full, happy life.
0:48:09 > 0:48:12You deserve that, Rosie.
0:48:12 > 0:48:15You can make your future better than your past.
0:48:15 > 0:48:17- OK?- OK.
0:48:19 > 0:48:21Thank you.
0:48:21 > 0:48:24# You are my sunshine
0:48:24 > 0:48:26# My only sunshine... #
0:48:26 > 0:48:29It's the end of their time at the children's home
0:48:29 > 0:48:34and both teens are expected to give a short talk about their experiences.
0:48:34 > 0:48:39Delphina has invited the Perez family to come and watch.
0:48:39 > 0:48:43And Rosie, can you tell us what you've gotten out of being at Liberty these two days?
0:48:43 > 0:48:46Liberty has helped me
0:48:46 > 0:48:50open up my heart and feelings
0:48:50 > 0:48:56and wanting to care for other people.
0:48:56 > 0:49:00And one of your chores while you were here was to work with Leah.
0:49:00 > 0:49:03- Yeah.- How was that for you?
0:49:03 > 0:49:08At first I didn't like the responsibility of looking after somebody else
0:49:08 > 0:49:12but then I learned that she's a very special child
0:49:12 > 0:49:16and she made me think about a lot of things. I feel responsible.
0:49:16 > 0:49:20What was the most important thing that you learned here?
0:49:22 > 0:49:23Everybody needs a mother.
0:49:24 > 0:49:27APPLAUSE
0:49:31 > 0:49:36I need you guys to be really quiet and listen to what Calvin has to say, OK?
0:49:36 > 0:49:42Coming here to the children's home has opened my eyes to a lot of things.
0:49:42 > 0:49:46I am adopted and I've been adopted since I was very young
0:49:46 > 0:49:54I've had a very privileged, happy life and seeing the children's home, that could have been me.
0:49:54 > 0:49:59I could have been in a children's home, I could have been fostered
0:49:59 > 0:50:03but I guess I've never thanked my mum or I've never thanked anyone,
0:50:03 > 0:50:06I've never thought about it.
0:50:06 > 0:50:09It makes me feel bad for taking it for granted.
0:50:09 > 0:50:11Thank you.
0:50:11 > 0:50:12APPLAUSE
0:50:15 > 0:50:17I'm proud of you guys.
0:50:22 > 0:50:24Thank you so much.
0:50:27 > 0:50:29Have fun, man.
0:50:29 > 0:50:31It's sad.
0:50:31 > 0:50:32Thank you.
0:50:32 > 0:50:34I wish you the best.
0:50:34 > 0:50:38I wish you the best as well. I hope you get everything done here.
0:50:38 > 0:50:40- OK. Be happy.- I will.
0:50:56 > 0:51:02Back on the farm, and Calvin is finally embracing the Perez's hard work ethic.
0:51:02 > 0:51:06He's finishing the windows for Mr Perez's workshop.
0:51:06 > 0:51:07Ow!
0:51:14 > 0:51:17- England, here I come. - Here I come. >
0:51:17 > 0:51:20Let's hear it again.
0:51:20 > 0:51:22England, here I come.
0:51:22 > 0:51:24THEY LAUGH
0:51:24 > 0:51:26I can, I can, I can.
0:51:26 > 0:51:29- I can!- I can.- I can!
0:51:32 > 0:51:33You deserve it.
0:51:33 > 0:51:37Try not to hammer your fingers any more. You did good.
0:51:37 > 0:51:39Good job, Calvin.
0:51:39 > 0:51:43There it is! Look at that hug! He's waiting on me!
0:51:43 > 0:51:48I tell you, you can be strong when you want to.
0:51:48 > 0:51:50There is a lot of good in him.
0:51:50 > 0:51:53Keep trying.
0:51:53 > 0:51:56Oh, not that one, that one's horrible. That one's disgusting.
0:51:56 > 0:51:58No-o-o!
0:51:58 > 0:52:00HE SHRIEKS
0:52:00 > 0:52:04Just take one foot...over.
0:52:04 > 0:52:05Yeah!
0:52:05 > 0:52:09That's it. You're ready.
0:52:09 > 0:52:10No, don't make it go.
0:52:13 > 0:52:15I'll fall and die.
0:52:15 > 0:52:19I think Calvin has started to have respect for authority.
0:52:19 > 0:52:22You know, he was doing it and without arguments.
0:52:22 > 0:52:25"I am tired, " he didn't say that. He just did it.
0:52:25 > 0:52:28It makes me feel a lot better about myself.
0:52:30 > 0:52:35Like, I felt I was glowing inside when I saw
0:52:35 > 0:52:39like the window going up and I saw I had a part in it.
0:52:39 > 0:52:42that window's going to be a part of this farm for a very long time
0:52:42 > 0:52:46and I just want her to remember me by it.
0:52:46 > 0:52:48I'm going to miss you, baby.
0:52:50 > 0:52:53Take care. Show mummy a lot of love when you get there.
0:52:53 > 0:52:54You can do it.
0:52:54 > 0:52:56Bye, Calvin.
0:52:56 > 0:52:59The time has come for the teens to leave Belize
0:52:59 > 0:53:02and return to their own families back home.
0:53:02 > 0:53:05You have a mama already at home, love her.
0:53:05 > 0:53:07Thank you.
0:53:07 > 0:53:08Bye.
0:53:12 > 0:53:16- I'm going to miss them. - I'm going to miss them as well.
0:53:19 > 0:53:23They're an amazing family, amazing. I admire them a lot.
0:53:23 > 0:53:28I think Mr and Mrs Perez are very good parents because they are firm but fair.
0:53:28 > 0:53:32They know when to have a joke but they also know
0:53:32 > 0:53:35when they have to be tough.
0:53:35 > 0:53:38I've seen both of them change.
0:53:38 > 0:53:41Calvin, he has done a lot for himself.
0:53:41 > 0:53:44I'm getting ready to miss them.
0:53:58 > 0:54:02- Hello.- Hi, Mum.- Hiya.
0:54:02 > 0:54:05Oh, wow, look at you.
0:54:05 > 0:54:07- Missed you.- Did you?- Yes.- Really?
0:54:07 > 0:54:11- I love you. - I missed you too, darling.
0:54:11 > 0:54:13I'm sorry, Mum, for being so horrible.
0:54:13 > 0:54:16Such a horrible little brat.
0:54:16 > 0:54:20Are you going to make life easier on both of us?
0:54:20 > 0:54:21I'll help out a lot more.
0:54:21 > 0:54:23Yes. Well, that would be really nice.
0:54:23 > 0:54:29Dad has just really annoyed me in not giving me attention
0:54:29 > 0:54:34and always, he's just always cared about his drink more than me.
0:54:34 > 0:54:37Yeah, I'm sorry that that's happened.
0:54:37 > 0:54:42I guess I've been taking it out on you as well as other things but...
0:54:43 > 0:54:48Well, I'm really surprised, actually. I'm surprised, yeah.
0:54:48 > 0:54:53Oh, it would be lovely if we could just be a mother and daughter again, really.
0:54:53 > 0:54:57She definitely looks like she's grown up in a week's time. There's a phenomenal change.
0:54:57 > 0:55:00If she just keeps this together we're all going to be happy.
0:55:04 > 0:55:06Hello, Mum.
0:55:06 > 0:55:08I love your hair.
0:55:12 > 0:55:15I missed you so much. I missed you so much.
0:55:15 > 0:55:18I'm sorry for everything that I've done.
0:55:18 > 0:55:24Like, this experience made me realise the things you ask me to do
0:55:24 > 0:55:29are nothing compared to the things that other people do.
0:55:29 > 0:55:33Throughout my whole childhood I've been treated as the special one
0:55:33 > 0:55:36and I've been handed everything on a silver platter.
0:55:36 > 0:55:40I did used to take advantage of it. I just want to apologise.
0:55:40 > 0:55:43I feel grateful for all the things that I've got.
0:55:43 > 0:55:47- I love you.- I love you too, Calvin and I hope you appreciate that.
0:55:50 > 0:55:52Very happy to have Calvin home.
0:55:52 > 0:55:56It's been great. I've really missed him, little scallywag.
0:55:56 > 0:55:58I think he's enjoyed and appreciated what he's seen out there
0:55:58 > 0:56:02and coming back home, he's really happy to be back home.
0:56:02 > 0:56:06Next time on the World's Strictest Parents -
0:56:06 > 0:56:08attention-seeker Kaya Elliot...
0:56:08 > 0:56:13If I want to do something, I'll do it. If I don't want to do it, you've got no chance.
0:56:13 > 0:56:16..the rest of your life expecting everybody to pay for you.
0:56:16 > 0:56:17..and bone idle Jay Birch...
0:56:17 > 0:56:20Jay's going nowhere at the moment, I don't think.
0:56:20 > 0:56:23..get new parents in Oklahoma.
0:56:23 > 0:56:26I'm actually the police chief in this town.
0:56:26 > 0:56:29You are disrespecting me, I don't like that. I'm not disrespecting you.
0:56:31 > 0:56:32Why are they stopping?
0:56:32 > 0:56:34I need a cigarette, I need to smoke.
0:56:34 > 0:56:37You're going to get in the car or I'll make you.
0:56:37 > 0:56:38I thought I was pissing her off.
0:56:38 > 0:56:41I didn't think I was actually hurting her.
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