0:00:02 > 0:00:05I need some more booze! Where's my booze?
0:00:05 > 0:00:12All over the country, out-of- control teenage behaviour has turned homes into battlegrounds.
0:00:12 > 0:00:15You went out last night bloody drinking!
0:00:15 > 0:00:19- Give me the bottle. - She's a wild child.
0:00:19 > 0:00:22And parents don't know where to turn.
0:00:22 > 0:00:26We've tried absolutely everything - grounding, punishing.
0:00:26 > 0:00:28You name it, we've done it.
0:00:28 > 0:00:29I'm at my wits' end.
0:00:29 > 0:00:34This year, 16 families took drastic action
0:00:34 > 0:00:35and sent their wayward children
0:00:35 > 0:00:39to live with strict parents in different countries around the world.
0:00:39 > 0:00:43In my house you're going to do as I tell you to do.
0:00:43 > 0:00:47Please let me make it very clear. My children won't defy me.
0:00:47 > 0:00:49When I punish, I punish really hard.
0:00:49 > 0:00:52In the US, you have to do what an adult says.
0:00:53 > 0:00:59Tonight, teens look back at their experiences to see if strict parenting abroad
0:00:59 > 0:01:03has changed the relationship they have with their own parents.
0:01:03 > 0:01:09- Just the same! - Before I went in, my relationship with my mum was non-existent, almost.
0:01:09 > 0:01:12Now I'm back, she's the person I tell everything to.
0:01:14 > 0:01:16We're like proper tight now.
0:01:16 > 0:01:18I talk to her about everything. I don't argue with her any more.
0:01:18 > 0:01:22I respect her and tell her I love her. I think she's proper boss.
0:01:34 > 0:01:37I'm just mixing my vodka and Fanta orange.
0:01:37 > 0:01:42Single mum Hannah was putting her own fun before her daughter's future.
0:01:42 > 0:01:46I love getting drunk because you can make a show out of yourself and not really care about it!
0:01:49 > 0:01:52# Boom boom boom (gotta get get) # Boom boom boom... #
0:01:52 > 0:01:56Hanna would often leave her baby with her mother while she went out on the town.
0:01:56 > 0:02:01My attitude to life is "Live today like there's no tomorrow."
0:02:02 > 0:02:05I don't think it's selfish that I leave the baby for two nights a week.
0:02:05 > 0:02:07But that's what people do on Fridays.
0:02:07 > 0:02:10I don't want you getting off your face.
0:02:10 > 0:02:14You were falling down the stairs and couldn't stand up straight.
0:02:14 > 0:02:15She can't live like that. She's got a baby.
0:02:15 > 0:02:18I hope this experience will learn her something.
0:02:24 > 0:02:28James couldn't bear to spend any time with his own mother.
0:02:28 > 0:02:31I come here to escape from my mum.
0:02:31 > 0:02:34Me and my mum have a difficult relationship.
0:02:34 > 0:02:36We don't really get along with each other.
0:02:36 > 0:02:40I think James is wasting his time -
0:02:40 > 0:02:44concentrating on friends and going out drinking
0:02:44 > 0:02:47and he smokes weed.
0:02:47 > 0:02:49I've been smoking since I was 12 years old.
0:02:49 > 0:02:52It's a big part of my life. I smoke weed every single day.
0:02:52 > 0:02:59James needs to realise he's got potential but I need him to make these changes.
0:02:59 > 0:03:01Sorry.
0:03:01 > 0:03:04James and Hannah's parents were at their wits' end
0:03:04 > 0:03:10when they agreed to send their children to America to experience strict parenting first hand.
0:03:10 > 0:03:12See ya.
0:03:12 > 0:03:14I'm going to miss him loads.
0:03:14 > 0:03:15I'm proud of him for doing this.
0:03:15 > 0:03:20Just a bit sad. I hope she learns something.
0:03:22 > 0:03:26James and Hannah were sent to Utah, deep in America's Midwest,
0:03:26 > 0:03:30for eight days of clean living and rigid rules.
0:03:32 > 0:03:38Drinking, drugs and sex - they're selfish behaviours that destroy lives.
0:03:38 > 0:03:43When it comes to enforcing rules, mum Nicholeen takes no prisoners.
0:03:43 > 0:03:45Discipline is really important in our home.
0:03:45 > 0:03:49For children's lives, it's very good to have morals
0:03:49 > 0:03:51and standards and rules in the home.
0:03:51 > 0:03:55They believe every child is capable of greatness.
0:03:55 > 0:03:59They've got to make a difference in this world, a difference for good.
0:03:59 > 0:04:05That's why we parent the way we parent, because we are warriors for good.
0:04:20 > 0:04:23It was literally that much vodka and that much Coke.
0:04:24 > 0:04:28There they are! Oh, my God!
0:04:28 > 0:04:30I had a vision of them and
0:04:30 > 0:04:33they met the vision I had of them.
0:04:33 > 0:04:35Give me a hug.
0:04:35 > 0:04:38- Hi, I'm Nicholeen. I can give you a hug!- Hi.
0:04:38 > 0:04:40I'm Spencer. Nice to have you here.
0:04:40 > 0:04:44- I'm James.- Good to meet you.
0:04:44 > 0:04:45'We didn't give a good first impression.
0:04:45 > 0:04:49We strolled up there with a fag in our hands and vodka, a little bit pissed.
0:04:49 > 0:04:55Can I smell what you're drinking to make sure it's not like alcohol or something?
0:04:55 > 0:04:56THEY GIGGLE
0:04:56 > 0:04:58Whoa! I can smell it from here.
0:04:58 > 0:05:04She took it off us and poured it out and I thought I'm not going to like you, you've just wasted my alcohol!
0:05:04 > 0:05:06- Are you ready to go in?- Yeah.
0:05:06 > 0:05:09When she did that, I thought she's gonna be a proper bitch through the week.
0:05:09 > 0:05:12I thought, my days, I'm in for a tough week. I was quite worried.
0:05:12 > 0:05:17As Mormons, they're firm believers in modest dress.
0:05:17 > 0:05:20We will not wear clothing that shows our shoulders, stomachs, backs or thighs.
0:05:20 > 0:05:23Hannah was not.
0:05:23 > 0:05:25God, this is wrecking my head.
0:05:27 > 0:05:31I don't understand why you can't show your shoulders. God gave us shoulders for a reason.
0:05:31 > 0:05:34I'm not wearing that. No way, Jose.
0:05:34 > 0:05:36Are you having a laugh?
0:05:36 > 0:05:41But Nicholeen stood firm, even when Hannah wanted it her way.
0:05:41 > 0:05:44Look at the state of me. I look like a hippy.
0:05:44 > 0:05:48To me, that was the most time I've been most covered up.
0:05:48 > 0:05:50No, no, and you can't go out in that.
0:05:50 > 0:05:55At home, Hannah wins a row by shouting the loudest.
0:05:55 > 0:05:58But throwing tantrums had no effect on Nicholeen.
0:05:58 > 0:06:00You're making me feel like you're ashamed
0:06:00 > 0:06:07to take me as myself, to see your family like it's some special thing.
0:06:07 > 0:06:10That's why I'm pissed off with you.
0:06:10 > 0:06:14I used to call her everything, slag, and everything, and she'd sit there so calm.
0:06:14 > 0:06:18..which is why it's probably not wise for us to go then.
0:06:18 > 0:06:22Sound, let's go then. I'm going out.
0:06:22 > 0:06:27BLEEP suck my fat BLEEP, you BLEEP BLEEP!
0:06:28 > 0:06:32I did start learning how to control my anger a bit better and all that.
0:06:32 > 0:06:35The next day, it was James's turn to kick off.
0:06:35 > 0:06:39He didn't want to take part in Nicholeen's home schooling.
0:06:39 > 0:06:41I don't want to learn Maths and English or Science.
0:06:41 > 0:06:47You're acting like you understand what my plan is for the day which I think you don't.
0:06:47 > 0:06:51I didn't see the point in sitting there with a bunch of kids learning kiddie stuff when I already know it.
0:06:51 > 0:06:53I'm sick of being treated like a little kid.
0:06:53 > 0:06:55I'm not a little kid. Idiot!
0:06:58 > 0:07:00Are they running away, mum?
0:07:00 > 0:07:02Are they running away?
0:07:02 > 0:07:04I think they've gone nuts.
0:07:04 > 0:07:08We wanted to cause chaos and have a bit of fun.
0:07:11 > 0:07:17Later on in the week, Nicholeen tried again to get James involved in home education.
0:07:17 > 0:07:21It was very difficult for me to cope in those situations.
0:07:21 > 0:07:25I got really, really stressed out and gave up.
0:07:25 > 0:07:28Stressing me out!
0:07:28 > 0:07:32I need some space from everyone, some space from that woman because she was doing my head in.
0:07:32 > 0:07:38James was asked to join some team-building exercises run by Nicholeen's sister, Janelle.
0:07:38 > 0:07:41I can't be arsed. I'm walking. I can't be bothered.
0:07:41 > 0:07:43I'll let the team down, I don't care.
0:07:50 > 0:07:52I want to talk to you for a minute.
0:07:52 > 0:07:54No, you don't understand. There's no point in talking.
0:07:54 > 0:07:58It was very difficult to talk about things because I don't open up to anyone.
0:07:58 > 0:08:03When things get really hard at home, what you do? Give up?
0:08:03 > 0:08:04Yes.
0:08:04 > 0:08:06Where does it get you?
0:08:06 > 0:08:08- I give up on everything. - You're not a failure.
0:08:08 > 0:08:11You don't know me so how can you say that or not?
0:08:13 > 0:08:17I hate feeling things because it makes me feel shit about myself.
0:08:17 > 0:08:19And disappointed in myself.
0:08:21 > 0:08:26Just like her sister, Janelle refused to give up on a child in need.
0:08:26 > 0:08:29Would you be willing to continue on with the race because your team
0:08:29 > 0:08:33said we can't go on because James isn't here, should we go get him?
0:08:33 > 0:08:35And they care about you and want you to succeed.
0:08:35 > 0:08:38- and want you to be a part of their success.- OK, I'll come and join in.
0:08:38 > 0:08:42Let's go! It's right back here.
0:08:42 > 0:08:47- What are you all doing? - Somehow we're supposed to get everyone on this. It's ridiculous.
0:08:47 > 0:08:49If we stand at the bottom so it stays in place.
0:08:51 > 0:08:52THEY SCREAM
0:08:53 > 0:08:54JAMES LAUGHS
0:08:58 > 0:09:03At the end of the day, everyone was rewarded with a bracelet to remind them of their achievements.
0:09:03 > 0:09:08- What does this mean to you?- To never give up and to keep on trying no matter how stressful it is.
0:09:08 > 0:09:10To keep on going.
0:09:10 > 0:09:15I learned that I could never come up against hard obstacles, no matter what gets in my way,
0:09:15 > 0:09:19even if it pisses me off, I can come back stronger and get the work done.
0:09:19 > 0:09:21No matter if I go off on one.
0:09:21 > 0:09:24I can still do it. I've got to start having faith in myself.
0:09:26 > 0:09:33Hannah had been away from her daughter for nearly a week when a letter arrived from her mum.
0:09:33 > 0:09:39"Hannah babe, half the time you have my heart broken with your behaviour.
0:09:39 > 0:09:44"Your drinking and smoking really scares me. It's way out of hand.
0:09:44 > 0:09:50"I hope you learn to be a better person and respect the people around you."
0:09:50 > 0:09:54That made me realise a daughter shouldn't be treating her mum like that.
0:09:54 > 0:09:58She gave me life and I was taking advantage and treating her like shit.
0:10:11 > 0:10:12I can't wait to go home now.
0:10:12 > 0:10:15And see my little girl.
0:10:15 > 0:10:19And she deserves a better mum then I've been to her.
0:10:23 > 0:10:25SINGING
0:10:25 > 0:10:27The family took advantage of Hannah's upset,
0:10:27 > 0:10:32asking their kids to sing and help the teens focus on their futures.
0:10:32 > 0:10:34# ..when the
0:10:34 > 0:10:37# sparrows stop their singing
0:10:37 > 0:10:43# And the sky is clear and red... #
0:10:43 > 0:10:46That was so sad. I burst out crying.
0:10:46 > 0:10:50I started thinking of her and my mum and the nasty things I've done to my mum.
0:10:50 > 0:10:52I burst out crying.
0:10:52 > 0:10:57I didn't want to cry but I couldn't keep it in, it just started coming.
0:11:03 > 0:11:09- It made me realise how nasty I've been to my family. - How I act towards my mum.
0:11:09 > 0:11:11Yeah, I need to tell her I love her so much.
0:11:13 > 0:11:19And that I miss her and I'm going to be good for her from now on and not be nasty to her no more.
0:11:19 > 0:11:21She doesn't deserve it.
0:11:23 > 0:11:26That was the big turning point for me. I thought I've got to change because
0:11:26 > 0:11:27I can't keep going on like this.
0:11:27 > 0:11:30James's parents divorced when he was seven.
0:11:30 > 0:11:32He rarely sees his father.
0:11:32 > 0:11:37As the week unfolded, James began to form a special bond with Spencer.
0:11:37 > 0:11:41Spencer is such a sound genuine guy.
0:11:41 > 0:11:43- There's your horn - press that. - HORN HOOTS
0:11:45 > 0:11:47He took me out on a driving lesson, went out of his way to take me
0:11:47 > 0:11:51for a driving lesson to teach me something my own dad should have taught me.
0:11:51 > 0:11:54Ready?
0:11:54 > 0:12:00He helped me get more confident, he taught me in the right way.
0:12:00 > 0:12:02Sorry.
0:12:02 > 0:12:03Slowly on the brake.
0:12:03 > 0:12:07After a while I banged the radio on and was driving through America, yeah, yeah.
0:12:13 > 0:12:16He's the one person who helped me improve my confidence.
0:12:16 > 0:12:18I've so much respect for the guy.
0:12:18 > 0:12:21Stop. Park in that spot.
0:12:21 > 0:12:24Make sure you're in between the two lines.
0:12:24 > 0:12:28I did good, you know. I did well good. I was so proud of myself.
0:12:28 > 0:12:31Yeah, yeah. I did wicked.
0:12:35 > 0:12:38I don't want to say goodbye to you.
0:12:38 > 0:12:40# Amazing grace... #
0:12:40 > 0:12:41It was horrible.
0:12:41 > 0:12:46Saying goodbye to the family knowing they're so far away and I'd hardly ever see them again.
0:12:46 > 0:12:49I loved them all at the end. I didn't want to go.
0:12:49 > 0:12:53Thank you, Spencer. Thank you for the driving lesson and everything.
0:12:53 > 0:12:55Just don't kill anybody!
0:12:55 > 0:12:58In my eyes, I'd gone through a big journey.
0:12:58 > 0:13:02I accomplished so many different things, I went through so many emotions.
0:13:02 > 0:13:04I didn't want to leave the family.
0:13:04 > 0:13:06I thought they was all wicked.
0:13:08 > 0:13:11See you later. We love you. Drive safe.
0:13:15 > 0:13:18Three months on, and Hannah's experience
0:13:18 > 0:13:21has made her face up to her responsibilities.
0:13:21 > 0:13:23If I could speak to Nicholeen and Spencer now,
0:13:23 > 0:13:27I'd say thanks for helping me change my life for the better.
0:13:28 > 0:13:31Yeah, clap hands.
0:13:31 > 0:13:36I was like a wild child and I've settled down.
0:13:36 > 0:13:38I really don't want her to turn out like me.
0:13:38 > 0:13:41Yeah! Clever girl!
0:13:41 > 0:13:47I want to get a career so I can give her what she needs and wants. And erm,
0:13:47 > 0:13:49give her the best life I can give her.
0:13:49 > 0:13:54In Leicester, James feels like a new man since returning home.
0:13:54 > 0:13:58The biggest thing I learned, I'm never going to give up on my dream, no matter who gets in my way.
0:13:58 > 0:14:01I'm still going to get there.
0:14:06 > 0:14:10Me and my mum are like proper tight now.
0:14:10 > 0:14:12I talk to her about everything, don't argue with her any more.
0:14:12 > 0:14:15I do things when she tells me to and I respect her more.
0:14:15 > 0:14:18I tell her I love her, I think she's proper boss.
0:14:24 > 0:14:28I am being considerate. They're not coming here, are they?
0:14:28 > 0:14:30Would you please listen?
0:14:30 > 0:14:32Listen!
0:14:32 > 0:14:36Debbie McQueen's relationship with her parents had hit rock bottom.
0:14:36 > 0:14:38We're always at loggerheads.
0:14:38 > 0:14:42She'll not accept the responsibilities of being an adult.
0:14:42 > 0:14:44Or of even being a human being, at the moment.
0:14:44 > 0:14:52Her constant drinking and refusal to ever apologise had turned their home into a battleground.
0:14:52 > 0:14:54I hate being told what to do.
0:14:54 > 0:14:58Grr, it really grates on us! Grr, my god!
0:14:58 > 0:15:04I'm tired, I'm tired of the constant walking on eggshells.
0:15:10 > 0:15:11And what have you done all afternoon?
0:15:11 > 0:15:13You haven't done what I have asked.
0:15:13 > 0:15:16You've laid on the sofa and watched TV all afternoon.
0:15:16 > 0:15:2217-year-old Daniel Drinkwater was taking his parents completely for granted.
0:15:22 > 0:15:30Daniel is selfish, stubborn, lazy, dirty, grubby, filthy.
0:15:30 > 0:15:34Every day we end up having some kind of argument.
0:15:34 > 0:15:40He never lifted a finger at home and refused to pay attention to anything he didn't enjoy.
0:15:40 > 0:15:45We argue about my school work a lot because I don't do it or don't go.
0:15:45 > 0:15:50To his parents' dismay, Daniel only cared about his band.
0:15:50 > 0:15:53He thinks he's a rock star. Yes, it's good he's got music in his life
0:15:53 > 0:15:57but he's got to learn about other things in life as well, he's got to know
0:15:57 > 0:16:00he's got to do well at school and he may not become a famous rock star.
0:16:07 > 0:16:15So, what happened when Debbie and Daniel were sent to Beirut to live with a strictly Muslim family?
0:16:19 > 0:16:22Mum's approach to parenting is extremely hands-on!
0:16:22 > 0:16:26I think respect is everything in the world.
0:16:26 > 0:16:29When I punish, I punish really hard.
0:16:29 > 0:16:33She demands absolute commitment to education.
0:16:33 > 0:16:35You have to better your handwriting.
0:16:35 > 0:16:37Studying is very important.
0:16:37 > 0:16:41If they get low grades in school, they'll be punished.
0:16:41 > 0:16:46And the children are under no illusion as to who rules the roost.
0:16:46 > 0:16:49Being rude to your parents isn't good at all
0:16:49 > 0:16:51because they raised you.
0:16:51 > 0:16:54We have some rules. We have to obey them.
0:16:54 > 0:16:57If we don't, we get punished.
0:16:59 > 0:17:02The nerves kicked in immediately for Debbie and Daniel
0:17:02 > 0:17:06as they took in the sights of a city ravaged by years of war.
0:17:08 > 0:17:14There was the army absolutely everywhere and they all had big guns. Oh, my God.
0:17:14 > 0:17:18I'm going to say the wrong thing and be shot!
0:17:18 > 0:17:22Meeting a woman wearing the hijab was another first.
0:17:22 > 0:17:25Hi, how are you?
0:17:25 > 0:17:27Nice to meet you. I'm Debbie.
0:17:27 > 0:17:31'Seeing Iman totally covered up really intimidated us, to be honest.'
0:17:31 > 0:17:39In Carlisle I've seen maybe two people covered up but they get stared at in the street. It's not normal.
0:17:44 > 0:17:47The Brits' experience got underway with a rude awakening.
0:17:50 > 0:17:53In time for prayers and school.
0:17:53 > 0:17:55Tired.
0:17:55 > 0:18:00As in any Muslim home, alcohol was strictly forbidden in the household.
0:18:00 > 0:18:02You look dead scared. It's all right.
0:18:02 > 0:18:07- You won't get into trouble.- A rule that Debbie had no problem ignoring.
0:18:10 > 0:18:17I took the vodka to school because it seemed the safest place to do it.
0:18:17 > 0:18:19The place we were least likely to get caught.
0:18:19 > 0:18:22We'll get a bottle of Coke, drink some, tip that in,
0:18:22 > 0:18:24no one is going to question it.
0:18:27 > 0:18:28- What is it?- Vodka.
0:18:28 > 0:18:32The last day of term at our school, you start drinking at half eight
0:18:32 > 0:18:36in the morning and you're wasted by lunchtime when you finish.
0:18:36 > 0:18:39I thought we'll do one of them. We'll show them how the Brits do it.
0:18:39 > 0:18:44Sneaking the booze into school was Debbie's first step on the road to change.
0:18:44 > 0:18:46It tastes gorgeous.
0:18:46 > 0:18:48It is, isn't it?
0:18:49 > 0:18:52I need to see you in my office for about 10 minutes.
0:18:52 > 0:18:54Sure, cool. That's fine.
0:18:54 > 0:18:59Getting caught kick-started an intense relationship with Iman.
0:18:59 > 0:19:02I saw Iman and thought, bollocks and shit.
0:19:02 > 0:19:05That's exactly what went through my head.
0:19:05 > 0:19:07Alcohol is not allowed in my house.
0:19:07 > 0:19:10- We're not in your house. - This was in my house.
0:19:10 > 0:19:17This was in my house! In my girl's bedroom. This, for me, is a very grave violation of the rule.
0:19:19 > 0:19:21You should be ashamed of yourself.
0:19:26 > 0:19:29Don't look me in the eye.
0:19:29 > 0:19:34Back home, Debbie wasn't the only one in trouble for drinking.
0:19:34 > 0:19:37She helped Debbie break this rule.
0:19:37 > 0:19:40She must be punished the same.
0:19:40 > 0:19:41I just felt awful.
0:19:41 > 0:19:48She got her phone taken off her and wasn't allowed on the internet, she wasn't allowed her make-up.
0:19:48 > 0:19:49It's the last thing I need.
0:19:49 > 0:19:52Me and her were proper friends as well.
0:19:52 > 0:19:57I just didn't want to tell her, because you said you're not going to get me in trouble.
0:19:57 > 0:20:01Yeah, I didn't even think that she'd do that.
0:20:01 > 0:20:05- Sorry. I feel really bad now. - It's OK.
0:20:05 > 0:20:09Seeing Janan upset just made Debbie feel even more sorry for herself.
0:20:09 > 0:20:12She said it was all right, but it was kind of, "it's fine."
0:20:12 > 0:20:15She said "it's fine", to be nice, but it wasn't.
0:20:17 > 0:20:21For Daniel, it wasn't until Iman sent him to volunteer at a children's home
0:20:21 > 0:20:25that he started to put his selfish attitude into perspective.
0:20:27 > 0:20:32I wasn't sure what I'd be doing there, like, helping out the kids or anything.
0:20:32 > 0:20:34And I thought I might quite enjoy it. I'm quite good with kids.
0:20:34 > 0:20:35Good morning.
0:20:35 > 0:20:37Good morning!
0:20:37 > 0:20:44The home looks after abused and abandoned children from one year old all the way up to 18.
0:20:44 > 0:20:47Here is the little ones.
0:20:47 > 0:20:52Ages 3 to 7, 8. They sleep here.
0:20:52 > 0:20:55I would like to tell you about some of the stories of the children.
0:20:55 > 0:21:00The saddest one, of course, is the story of a little girl,
0:21:00 > 0:21:03her mum was trying to sell her for body parts.
0:21:03 > 0:21:06Amongst many shocking stories of survival,
0:21:06 > 0:21:10there was one child in particular that caught Daniel's attention.
0:21:10 > 0:21:13Hassan is one-year-old Sudanese who came
0:21:13 > 0:21:15and he is part of our family now.
0:21:17 > 0:21:21He wanted to sweep up for me, he was going for the brush!
0:21:21 > 0:21:25It's hard to believe that anyone could abandon a child that size.
0:21:25 > 0:21:26He's so cute.
0:21:29 > 0:21:33The Home was so hard hitting for me cos I've got everything I could ever
0:21:33 > 0:21:37want, and they've got nothing and they all seem so happy there.
0:21:37 > 0:21:42Inspired by the children he'd met, Daniel wanted to help in whatever way he could.
0:21:42 > 0:21:47For the first time in years, he decided to do something for someone else.
0:21:47 > 0:21:51D'you not have any tools to fix any of these?
0:21:51 > 0:21:54No, I think we will fix it. I think.
0:21:54 > 0:21:59I just came across them when I was supposed to be tidying up,
0:21:59 > 0:22:05and obviously, doing stuff around bikes, I knew I could fix a few of them.
0:22:07 > 0:22:14Daniel was learning that not only was he capable of hard work, but it could even be fulfilling.
0:22:14 > 0:22:16It was really good once I did fix one
0:22:16 > 0:22:20and one of the guys said, you're great for doing this.
0:22:20 > 0:22:23He could speak hardly any English, and he managed to say that.
0:22:23 > 0:22:27That was the best part, that really made me feel good about myself.
0:22:27 > 0:22:29Thanks!
0:22:36 > 0:22:40Towards the end of their trip, the teens were invited to a traditional Lebanese wedding.
0:22:40 > 0:22:44But Debbie was still sulking about the vodka and wasn't in the mood.
0:22:44 > 0:22:49At the point of the Lebanese wedding, I couldn't give a stuff about anything any more.
0:22:49 > 0:22:51- You're absolutely wrong.- Yes, I am.
0:22:51 > 0:22:56Exactly. Yes, yes, you are. BLEEP yourself.
0:22:56 > 0:22:59Debbie couldn't have been more offensive if she tried.
0:22:59 > 0:23:00- You've been swearing at me? - Yes, I am.
0:23:00 > 0:23:02I honestly didn't mean for her to hear it.
0:23:02 > 0:23:04I was just trying to get the last word.
0:23:04 > 0:23:08As well, she took it so much more offensively than I would take it.
0:23:08 > 0:23:10You have to suffer a lot with me.
0:23:10 > 0:23:16But after losing her temper again, Debbie began to question her self-indulgent behaviour.
0:23:16 > 0:23:22It made me feel, like, "Ha!" at the time, and then I thought, it hasn't really solved much, has it?
0:23:22 > 0:23:26I still feel shit. Now I've got one less person backing us up, you know.
0:23:26 > 0:23:29I kind of isolated myself by doing that.
0:23:29 > 0:23:33Debbie was called to a family meeting to discuss her foul behaviour.
0:23:35 > 0:23:38I actually thought I was just going to get kicked out. That's honestly what I thought.
0:23:38 > 0:23:41I won't be allowed back in the house.
0:23:41 > 0:23:45The rude way that you're talking to Iman is unacceptable.
0:23:45 > 0:23:48I want you to apologise to Iman.
0:23:48 > 0:23:51After the family meeting, I totally broke down.
0:23:51 > 0:23:54I just felt absolutely awful.
0:23:54 > 0:23:57I've even got a lump in my throat, thinking about it.
0:23:57 > 0:24:04I honestly thought, oh my God, what an evil thing am I that I can do that to a family in a few days.
0:24:04 > 0:24:12Debbie had the chance to address her greatest problem, her refusal to ever back down or apologise.
0:24:12 > 0:24:15I didn't want things to be bad, and I thought, I shouldn't waste
0:24:15 > 0:24:21the little time I've got left just feeling sorry for myself and being stubborn like always.
0:24:21 > 0:24:26And I thought, it's the one thing at home that I don't to, let's see what happens.
0:24:26 > 0:24:28I've got nothing to lose!
0:24:29 > 0:24:32Iman, I'd just like to say
0:24:32 > 0:24:37about yesterday, I don't deal well with criticism, but
0:24:37 > 0:24:45I should have expressed myself in a more appropriate manner than swearing at you. So I do apologise.
0:24:45 > 0:24:47Thank you for your apology.
0:24:47 > 0:24:49Yeah, I don't want to be on bad terms.
0:24:49 > 0:24:53The only thing to gain from it was Iman's friendship again.
0:24:53 > 0:24:56And yeah, it showed us that
0:24:56 > 0:25:01by saying sorry, you're not losing, it's just if you're in the wrong, then you should apologise.
0:25:01 > 0:25:04- Shall we...?- I am sorry.- It's OK.
0:25:04 > 0:25:07I really didn't mean to upset you.
0:25:09 > 0:25:12So I think it's time to be..
0:25:12 > 0:25:14Oh my God.
0:25:14 > 0:25:17'I never thought I'd get as attached to the family as I did.
0:25:17 > 0:25:20'By the end of the week, I could have spent a year there'
0:25:20 > 0:25:25and I'm sure we'd all still be having a laugh and getting on.
0:25:25 > 0:25:28They've had a big impact of my life. I'll never forget them.
0:25:28 > 0:25:32Debbie was really heartbroken, crying and stuff.
0:25:32 > 0:25:36My main thought was, I get to go home!
0:25:45 > 0:25:49So how has life been for Debbie since returning to her own family?
0:25:49 > 0:25:51Yeah, that's Mahmood, Iman...
0:25:51 > 0:25:55The World's Strictest Parents is the most amazing experience I've had.
0:25:55 > 0:25:57It was fantastic.
0:25:57 > 0:26:00Doesn't he look so much like cousin Stuart, though?
0:26:00 > 0:26:02One thing that Debbie did say when she came back
0:26:02 > 0:26:06was that she realised it was OK to say sorry and not feel you'd lost the argument.
0:26:06 > 0:26:10And I think that was an important lesson.
0:26:10 > 0:26:13They did teach me that I'm not as bad a person as I thought I was.
0:26:13 > 0:26:17I am bothered, I do want to be close to my family.
0:26:18 > 0:26:24Since going to Lebanon, Daniel has completely transformed his attitude.
0:26:24 > 0:26:29Spending time in Lebanon has made me think about my selfish, egotistical way.
0:26:29 > 0:26:34After putting his feelings about the experience on paper, he wanted to share it with his parents.
0:26:34 > 0:26:38Spending time at the Home of Hope made me realise why bothering really does make a difference.
0:26:38 > 0:26:42If no-one bothered, these battered, abused and abandoned kids would have nothing.
0:26:42 > 0:26:46The children at the centre would do anything for parents like I have.
0:26:46 > 0:26:48I do nothing for my parents.
0:26:48 > 0:26:51I suppose rock'n'roll sounds cliched,
0:26:51 > 0:26:56but I would be nothing without the support of my parents.
0:26:56 > 0:26:59Why don't you ever tell us things like that?
0:26:59 > 0:27:04- It's better to put it down into words.- Yeah, it's lovely.
0:27:04 > 0:27:07This experience has definitely altered my life.
0:27:07 > 0:27:12Now I know how lucky I am to have my education and that kind of thing.
0:27:12 > 0:27:17I'm really want to work hard to get my degree and then get into a really good job.
0:27:17 > 0:27:20It's made me respect myself a lot more and respect others.
0:27:25 > 0:27:27Seventeen-year-old Peter Wrigley
0:27:27 > 0:27:31expected life to be handed to him on a silver platter.
0:27:31 > 0:27:33That is all vodka, boy!
0:27:33 > 0:27:40Ideal world, absolutely minted, loads of fit girls, loads of drink.
0:27:40 > 0:27:46- Perfect.- Get up now and pick up your stuff and hang up your suit.
0:27:46 > 0:27:48But despite his privileged upbringing,
0:27:48 > 0:27:50he was throwing it all away.
0:27:50 > 0:27:55This morning I've received a letter from Peter's school.
0:27:55 > 0:27:58Expressing their concern that he's not currently
0:27:58 > 0:28:00on course to achieve his target grades.
0:28:00 > 0:28:03At the beginning of year 10 I was getting 10 A stars.
0:28:03 > 0:28:06And during the two years it went down to straight Us.
0:28:06 > 0:28:09I can't imagine how much money
0:28:09 > 0:28:14has gone on that boy's education and his whole life.
0:28:16 > 0:28:22Down in Sussex, Jocelyn Harris spent most of her time smoking marijuana.
0:28:22 > 0:28:24You do smoke cannabis, we all know that.
0:28:24 > 0:28:26We're not all stupid now, are we?
0:28:26 > 0:28:28After being kicked out of college,
0:28:28 > 0:28:31she'd spent an entire year doing nothing.
0:28:31 > 0:28:33I hate people telling me what to do all the time.
0:28:33 > 0:28:36I could never handle the teachers at school
0:28:36 > 0:28:41because they just think that they can order you around.
0:28:41 > 0:28:44If you don't get an education, how are you going to fund all that?
0:28:44 > 0:28:47How are you going...?
0:28:47 > 0:28:49Fund what?
0:28:49 > 0:28:52Well, your life in the future, when you leave home.
0:28:54 > 0:28:56Peter and Jocelyn went to live with the Unnikrishnans,
0:28:56 > 0:29:01a modern Indian family in search of excellence.
0:29:06 > 0:29:10Dad Unni is CEO of a company employing 5,000 people.
0:29:10 > 0:29:15He believes that everyone should make the most of every opportunity they have.
0:29:24 > 0:29:27To show the Brits just how privileged they were,
0:29:27 > 0:29:29Unni started by sending them off
0:29:29 > 0:29:33to witness the genuine hardship of India's poorest communities.
0:29:33 > 0:29:35When they told me I was going to be working
0:29:35 > 0:29:37for the charity, picking up rubbish,
0:29:37 > 0:29:39I was like, that's never going to happen.
0:29:39 > 0:29:41I'm not going to do any of this work. I don't do charity...
0:29:47 > 0:29:49It's not so much I hated the charity,
0:29:49 > 0:29:51it's that I hate doing stuff for free.
0:29:51 > 0:29:54Peter was assigned to litter collection,
0:29:54 > 0:29:59while Jocelyn was asked to work with some of the poorest kids.
0:29:59 > 0:30:05I was a bit nervous, cos I know what I'm like when I see stuff that's really horrible. I get all emotional.
0:30:11 > 0:30:13Oh, ponytails.
0:30:13 > 0:30:18It was just that I was wasting my life, sitting in a car smoking weed.
0:30:18 > 0:30:22And I get to India, and there were these little kids
0:30:22 > 0:30:25and these little houses and I was just like, what am I doing?
0:30:25 > 0:30:28I felt really good after I'd helped.
0:30:28 > 0:30:30I mean, I didn't do a huge amount, you know,
0:30:30 > 0:30:33I brushed the few people's hair and I just felt so bad.
0:30:33 > 0:30:37They don't have chances like we all do.
0:30:37 > 0:30:39The kids made me cry.
0:30:40 > 0:30:44On the other side of the community, getting up close and personal with
0:30:44 > 0:30:48poverty wasn't having the intended effect on Peter.
0:30:51 > 0:30:53They were going on at me, like,
0:30:53 > 0:30:54"Oh, you've got to do it."
0:30:54 > 0:30:56And that just made me even more angry.
0:30:56 > 0:30:59I was like, "Well, I don't have to do anything."
0:31:00 > 0:31:02No.
0:31:02 > 0:31:06There was no persuading Peter to get his hands dirty.
0:31:06 > 0:31:09I realise that they don't have anything, but I don't care.
0:31:10 > 0:31:13- You have to... - I'll see you all later.
0:31:17 > 0:31:18No, I can't be bothered.
0:31:18 > 0:31:21He tried to stop me and I was like, "Get out of the way."
0:31:21 > 0:31:26And he wouldn't let me go. So I just grabbed him and threw him on the other side.
0:31:26 > 0:31:27Get out of my way.
0:31:27 > 0:31:29It was pretty funny, to be honest.
0:31:39 > 0:31:41I was so surprised at Pete's reaction.
0:31:41 > 0:31:44He was really pretty disgusting at the slums.
0:31:45 > 0:31:49Peter's shock outburst got the week off to a bad start.
0:31:49 > 0:31:52The Unnikrishnans hoped that joining Siddarth
0:31:52 > 0:31:54at the school would encourage both the teens
0:31:54 > 0:31:56to achieve their potential.
0:31:56 > 0:31:58But before they even left the house,
0:31:58 > 0:32:02Jocelyn chose to rebel against the school's compulsory uniform.
0:32:02 > 0:32:07It's disgusting. When they showed me that dress, Jesus Christ!
0:32:07 > 0:32:10I was like, no! I'm not doing it!
0:32:10 > 0:32:12Get it away from me!
0:32:12 > 0:32:14Attention.
0:32:15 > 0:32:17We will now sing the national anthem.
0:32:17 > 0:32:20THEY SING
0:32:20 > 0:32:27The assembly we had, they all lined up and it was like stand at attention, stand at ease!
0:32:27 > 0:32:31And I was standing there like this, like, what are you chatting about?
0:32:31 > 0:32:35I'm not going to stand at attention for some bloke in a cloak!
0:32:35 > 0:32:38We have our school rules. We expect discipline
0:32:38 > 0:32:42and we definitely expect you to be in proper uniform.
0:32:42 > 0:32:45So I'd like to see Jocelyn after assembly, please.
0:32:46 > 0:32:49You will stand expelled from the school if you do not follow our rules.
0:32:49 > 0:32:51I'm not going to!
0:32:51 > 0:32:52- I beg your pardon?- I'm not going to.
0:32:52 > 0:32:55She absolutely refuses to get into uniform.
0:32:55 > 0:32:57I will not tolerate that.
0:32:57 > 0:33:00Send her home, please. Let her go home.
0:33:01 > 0:33:05I felt a bit bad, because I got on quite well with the mum.
0:33:05 > 0:33:08I'm too opinionated, really.
0:33:08 > 0:33:10I can't just back down.
0:33:10 > 0:33:14With Jocelyn excluded, Peter was left to get on with the day.
0:33:14 > 0:33:17But he still revelled in his bad-boy behaviour.
0:33:19 > 0:33:23Probably the worst thing was I went out to a party one night and I got
0:33:23 > 0:33:27really drunk and when I got home, I got in one of my mum's cars.
0:33:27 > 0:33:29I drove it, and I crashed it.
0:33:29 > 0:33:33So I got arrested and had to spend the night in a police cell, cos I was like, drunk.
0:33:33 > 0:33:35Oh my God!
0:33:35 > 0:33:37Do you know how bad that is?
0:33:37 > 0:33:39I was just like, Jesus Christ!
0:33:39 > 0:33:43They're being so, sort of like, moral and absolutely slated me.
0:33:43 > 0:33:47And I was just like, Jesus!
0:33:47 > 0:33:50Back at the apartment, Jocelyn arrived to some words of encouragement from home.
0:33:50 > 0:33:54My letter from my mum was horrible, it made me cry a lot.
0:33:54 > 0:33:58"We hope that you're having time to think while you're away and to
0:33:58 > 0:34:02"reflect on the choices you have made in your life over the last few years.
0:34:02 > 0:34:07"As soon as you started secondary school you seem to have adopted a persona that rejects authority.
0:34:07 > 0:34:11"Hopefully you will come back and finish your sixth-form course
0:34:11 > 0:34:14"and I hope you will go on to pursue a career
0:34:14 > 0:34:18"that makes use of your talents and that makes you happy.
0:34:18 > 0:34:22"We'll always be here for you and love you very much. Mum."
0:34:22 > 0:34:24I've always thought that I was, you know,
0:34:24 > 0:34:26the disappointment in the family.
0:34:26 > 0:34:30And she made me feel like I wasn't such a disappointment at all.
0:34:30 > 0:34:32She said that she was proud of me and stuff.
0:34:32 > 0:34:37You know, envies all the qualities I have that she wished she did. And it was such a sweet letter.
0:34:37 > 0:34:39And it really got me going!
0:34:43 > 0:34:46Determined not to let herself or her family down,
0:34:46 > 0:34:51Jocelyn put her pride aside, conformed to the dress code
0:34:51 > 0:34:54and for the first time in two years set foot in a classroom.
0:34:54 > 0:34:58The first day I went back and went to lessons, it was all right.
0:34:58 > 0:35:01You know, it was all friendly and it was fine, I got on fine.
0:35:01 > 0:35:03The word "Parliament".
0:35:03 > 0:35:07P-A-R-L-I-A-M-E-N-T.
0:35:07 > 0:35:09Excellent.
0:35:09 > 0:35:12- "Antique" Varooq?- They were all all so much better than us.
0:35:12 > 0:35:14English isn't even their first language
0:35:14 > 0:35:16and they were getting top marks.
0:35:16 > 0:35:20It really opened my eyes... the fact that there's more to life
0:35:20 > 0:35:23than mucking around and having a laugh.
0:35:23 > 0:35:27You know, actually working for something that you achieve...
0:35:27 > 0:35:30actually like, feels bloody good.
0:35:34 > 0:35:36Knowing that Peter had so far learned little
0:35:36 > 0:35:39from his immersion in Indian culture,
0:35:39 > 0:35:41Unni suspected his last chance to reach him
0:35:41 > 0:35:44was to talk cold, hard cash.
0:35:44 > 0:35:50Meeting him in his office about life and that, was quality.
0:35:50 > 0:35:52I will show a company.
0:35:52 > 0:35:55How it operates and from that you will come to know
0:35:55 > 0:35:57how you can get a good career.
0:35:57 > 0:36:00I actually realised that he was a top bloke out there
0:36:00 > 0:36:03in the whole company, he was in charge of everyone,
0:36:03 > 0:36:05obviously apart from the board or whatever.
0:36:05 > 0:36:08He was the CEO. When I found out how much he was earning I was like,
0:36:08 > 0:36:10rolling in it.
0:36:10 > 0:36:14If you were really serious about becoming something like this,
0:36:14 > 0:36:23Average salary for European sea is 500,000 US dollars per year.
0:36:25 > 0:36:27Plus bonus.
0:36:27 > 0:36:28The bonus could be anything,
0:36:28 > 0:36:31if you do great, you'll get a one million dollar bonus.
0:36:31 > 0:36:34He showed me what I need to do to get to where I want to go.
0:36:34 > 0:36:38It was one of the most eye-opening parts of being out in India.
0:36:38 > 0:36:42When the time came to say goodbye, both Peter and Jocelyn
0:36:42 > 0:36:45had new-found respect for their Indian hosts.
0:36:45 > 0:36:47Bye. Thank you.
0:36:47 > 0:36:52I know I was only with them for 10 days, but it felt like I'd known them forever.
0:36:52 > 0:36:55They made me want to work for stuff a little bit more than I have been.
0:36:55 > 0:36:58They made me want to be part of my family more as well.
0:36:58 > 0:37:00All the best. OK?
0:37:00 > 0:37:02- Thank you, Asif.- Do well, OK?
0:37:02 > 0:37:06It was a good trip overall. I'm glad I went on it.
0:37:10 > 0:37:12But back in England, has their Indian experience
0:37:12 > 0:37:15created any lasting change?
0:37:15 > 0:37:18You make mummy a cup of tea, I'll go and sit in the lounge.
0:37:18 > 0:37:22All right. 'I think there has been a little bit of change,'
0:37:22 > 0:37:25but not as much as my mother would think.
0:37:25 > 0:37:28- Thank you, darling. That's lovely. - That's all right.
0:37:28 > 0:37:32We have noticed remarkable changes in Peter's behaviour.
0:37:32 > 0:37:34I'm going to do some more revision.
0:37:34 > 0:37:35Good boy.
0:37:35 > 0:37:39I have been working harder at school and revising a lot.
0:37:39 > 0:37:44Three days solid of voluntary
0:37:44 > 0:37:48revision for his first exam, which is unheard of.
0:37:48 > 0:37:51Getting To India has definitely helped me focus on
0:37:51 > 0:37:54what I want from life and where I'm going to go.
0:37:57 > 0:38:00Before I went to India, my relationship with my mum was, like,
0:38:00 > 0:38:03non-existent, almost. Now I'm back,
0:38:03 > 0:38:06she's the first person I tell everything to now.
0:38:06 > 0:38:08Well, she seems happier.
0:38:08 > 0:38:14Jocelyn, when she's happy, is a much more easy person to deal with.
0:38:14 > 0:38:16I'm back at college, I'm at work.
0:38:16 > 0:38:19I don't smoke as much weed any more.
0:38:19 > 0:38:24I'm happy, I have a smile on my face and for a reason,
0:38:24 > 0:38:27not because I've been smoking the weed!
0:38:37 > 0:38:41Hannah Moorehead was struggling to cope with a family tragedy.
0:38:41 > 0:38:42My mum died four years ago.
0:38:42 > 0:38:46She spent half her time down the pub. I barely ever saw her.
0:38:46 > 0:38:49She got a liver infection and she died through that.
0:38:50 > 0:38:53It's awful for any child to lose a parent at any age.
0:38:53 > 0:38:56She'd already suffered the heartbreak of divorce
0:38:56 > 0:38:59and then she suffered the heartbreak of bereavement.
0:38:59 > 0:39:01I need some more booze!
0:39:01 > 0:39:02Where is my booze?
0:39:03 > 0:39:07Ever since she died, I've become more of an outgoing, sociable person,
0:39:07 > 0:39:09because I want to get my mind off it.
0:39:11 > 0:39:16Lee Sturge did whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted.
0:39:16 > 0:39:17BEEPING
0:39:17 > 0:39:20- Does your mother know you're on that?- No.
0:39:20 > 0:39:24- He'd quite happily take your mobility scooter out.- Oh, yes.
0:39:24 > 0:39:26He's no respect for the fact that if it breaks
0:39:26 > 0:39:28that's your only form of getting about.
0:39:28 > 0:39:31I tell myself that I should have more respect for my parents.
0:39:31 > 0:39:33I should listen to them when they say no.
0:39:33 > 0:39:37But when it comes to the point when they do say no, I flip.
0:39:37 > 0:39:39Will you keep the noise down please?
0:39:41 > 0:39:43- He is selfish.- He is, yes...
0:39:43 > 0:39:46Because he does know what he's doing.
0:39:46 > 0:39:48In other words, he's saying, "I don't care about you."
0:39:50 > 0:39:53Hannah and Lee's home-from-home would be in Botswana
0:39:53 > 0:39:56where they live with the Selelos family.
0:39:56 > 0:40:00The behaviour that we see at home is the very same behaviour that we
0:40:00 > 0:40:03would like our children to practise outside home.
0:40:03 > 0:40:06The Selelos believe children must demonstrate
0:40:06 > 0:40:08respect for elders at all times.
0:40:08 > 0:40:12If you break the rules of this household, you get punished.
0:40:12 > 0:40:15A fact that Lee struggled with from the off.
0:40:15 > 0:40:19- When my parents come, you are going to wash their hands. - Are you serious?
0:40:19 > 0:40:22- I'm serious.- You've got to wash their parents' hands?
0:40:22 > 0:40:27I was shocked. They're adults, I think they can wash their own hands.
0:40:27 > 0:40:28Hello!
0:40:30 > 0:40:33I did it and I didn't really like it,
0:40:33 > 0:40:36but it was the first day there and I just went along with the rules.
0:40:36 > 0:40:38In my head I was going, you...!
0:40:40 > 0:40:44Hannah also found the Selelos family values hard to handle.
0:40:44 > 0:40:46I'm going to search your bag...
0:40:46 > 0:40:48- You're going to search my bag?- Yes...
0:40:48 > 0:40:51That is a total invasion of privacy.
0:40:51 > 0:40:54This is my house.
0:40:54 > 0:40:59- I know.- And in my house you are going to do as I tell you to do.
0:40:59 > 0:41:04Who in their right mind would look through somebody's belongings
0:41:04 > 0:41:07while they're unpacking in an unfamiliar place?
0:41:07 > 0:41:08- It's not there.- Not there.
0:41:10 > 0:41:14It was ridiculous. I felt so invaded.
0:41:18 > 0:41:20The Selelos were a tight-knit family.
0:41:20 > 0:41:27Over time, their warmth persuaded the teens to get stuck into Botswana life.
0:41:27 > 0:41:31They wanted me to understand what it's like to be an African
0:41:31 > 0:41:34and what it's like to have to see what
0:41:34 > 0:41:39you have to do to actually feed the family and feed the village.
0:41:39 > 0:41:42- You're going to kill it. - I'm not going to kill it.
0:41:42 > 0:41:44I just physically can't do it.
0:41:46 > 0:41:49They wanted me to hold the knife and slit the throat,
0:41:49 > 0:41:51but I won't have any of that.
0:41:51 > 0:41:56Throughout his time in Africa, being made to do things he found difficult
0:41:56 > 0:41:58was character-building for Lee.
0:41:58 > 0:41:59Listen, he's dead.
0:41:59 > 0:42:03I realised, the rules weren't there to hurt anyone.
0:42:03 > 0:42:07They weren't there to upset anyone. They were there to, to help.
0:42:07 > 0:42:10I don't want to touch any more of it than I already have.
0:42:10 > 0:42:14This biggest thing I learned when I was over in Africa
0:42:14 > 0:42:17was the fact that you respect the parents more.
0:42:22 > 0:42:24I had to respect my parents a lot more
0:42:24 > 0:42:27because they treated their parents like Kings and Queens.
0:42:29 > 0:42:32Hannah struggled with her confidence throughout her stay.
0:42:32 > 0:42:35But over time, Mrs Selelos was able to offer her
0:42:35 > 0:42:37the benefit of her life's experience.
0:42:37 > 0:42:40- I guess you were very close to your mum.- We weren't actually that close.
0:42:40 > 0:42:43We didn't really speak.
0:42:43 > 0:42:48Like, she left home and I hardly got to see her.
0:42:48 > 0:42:50When I did she was drinking or something
0:42:50 > 0:42:53and I just got so fed up with it.
0:42:53 > 0:42:55Fed up with the drinking or her?
0:42:55 > 0:42:58- Huh? Both. I just wanted to see her and not the drunk her.- Mm-hm.
0:42:58 > 0:43:02But then again, she took me to festivals
0:43:02 > 0:43:06and she was so much fun when she had a drink in her and stuff.
0:43:06 > 0:43:10Does talking about your mother's death...evoke some painful
0:43:10 > 0:43:14- feelings and that's why you don't want to talk about it? - Yes. Painful feelings.
0:43:14 > 0:43:20I don't like thinking about upsetting things in the past.
0:43:20 > 0:43:23Life has to go on.
0:43:23 > 0:43:24And I would like to believe that
0:43:24 > 0:43:31even our loved ones who have died would want us to live a happy life.
0:43:31 > 0:43:37Speaking about my problems was pretty damn hard, because I don't.
0:43:37 > 0:43:39She was just so supportive through it all.
0:43:39 > 0:43:44I was able to speak to her and she spoke to me and I had quite a good relationship through her
0:43:44 > 0:43:46because of that conversation, I think.
0:43:49 > 0:43:54The Selelos, they were just amazing and they were really lovely people
0:43:54 > 0:43:58and they touched me, like in my heart and they will always be there.
0:43:58 > 0:44:00- Thank you all so much.- Bye.
0:44:00 > 0:44:04It was just a really great experience.
0:44:04 > 0:44:06I don't regret a thing about it.
0:44:10 > 0:44:13I'm much happier because I've moved out now
0:44:13 > 0:44:16and I speak to my family a lot more now.
0:44:16 > 0:44:19She seems to enjoy our company and spend time talking to us.
0:44:19 > 0:44:23I do think about, maybe I should get a real job,
0:44:23 > 0:44:27get a real education which I'd never have thought about before.
0:44:27 > 0:44:31Botswana has left a lasting impression on Lee.
0:44:32 > 0:44:36I learned how to do all of the washing up in Africa.
0:44:36 > 0:44:37Clever boy!
0:44:37 > 0:44:41Going to Botswana was a life-changing
0:44:41 > 0:44:42and unforgettable experience.
0:44:42 > 0:44:46- I'd say we work pretty well as a team, don't we?- Mm-hm.
0:44:46 > 0:44:50- Something has changed in him. - He's sort of matured, hasn't he?
0:44:50 > 0:44:53I don't know...he seems to have got older in his head.
0:44:53 > 0:44:55- He's more considerate.- Yeah.
0:44:55 > 0:44:57My relationship with my parents is so much stronger now.
0:44:57 > 0:45:01It's changed and it's...for the best. It's changed for the best.
0:45:01 > 0:45:04We haven't had one argument since he's been back. Not one.
0:45:04 > 0:45:06Look at that.
0:45:06 > 0:45:09- Just missed him. - The ducks just don't care...
0:45:09 > 0:45:12I've seen his dad hug him now and kiss him
0:45:12 > 0:45:17and actually say he loves him which, you know, to me is,
0:45:17 > 0:45:20that's really nice because he's never done it before.
0:45:20 > 0:45:21It was definitely an eye opener
0:45:21 > 0:45:24and a slap round the face to get my life into order.
0:45:30 > 0:45:33You woke up in a rotten mood this morning.
0:45:33 > 0:45:34- No I haven't.- Yes you have. Yes you have!
0:45:34 > 0:45:38You are the one that's turned around and said you're bloody tired.
0:45:38 > 0:45:43Well, I'm tired. You stayed out the night before, you went out last night drinking.
0:45:43 > 0:45:44That is why you're tired.
0:45:44 > 0:45:46Mum, it's run out.
0:45:46 > 0:45:52Bex Keene's out of control behaviour was tearing her family apart.
0:45:52 > 0:45:53Mum thinks I'm a druggie.
0:45:53 > 0:45:56My dad thinks I am a waster, thinks I'm gonna get pregnant.
0:45:56 > 0:45:59- What d'you mean abuse my body? - The drugs and the drink, Bex.
0:45:59 > 0:46:01- You don't even know. - Of course we don't.
0:46:01 > 0:46:04We've tried absolutely everything with Bex.
0:46:04 > 0:46:07All different kinds of grounding, punishing,
0:46:07 > 0:46:08you name it, we've done it.
0:46:08 > 0:46:10I just don't like 'em. They're horrible.
0:46:10 > 0:46:11What?
0:46:11 > 0:46:14- Bex? Are you home tonight?- I dunno.
0:46:14 > 0:46:17She's completely and utterly lost. She is an alien.
0:46:19 > 0:46:24In Bolton, Chezden Mills always looked out for number one.
0:46:24 > 0:46:26I get away with murder, really.
0:46:26 > 0:46:28I can just do anything I want.
0:46:29 > 0:46:32Chezden's mum, Sylvia, has heart disease.
0:46:32 > 0:46:34But that didn't stop him from treating her
0:46:34 > 0:46:35like his personal servant.
0:46:35 > 0:46:39- Put it on spin.- 'Three years ago I had a heart attack.
0:46:39 > 0:46:41'I couldn't get stressed.'
0:46:41 > 0:46:44So, I let things go.
0:46:44 > 0:46:47He thinks he can do as he pleases and he doesn't have to
0:46:47 > 0:46:51help out or do anything. Very lazy.
0:46:51 > 0:46:53Careful you don't ruin that shirt.
0:46:55 > 0:46:58The Brits were sent 4,000 miles away to Atlanta, Georgia.
0:46:58 > 0:47:02Right in the heart of America's Bible Belt.
0:47:03 > 0:47:06Here they would spend eight days living as children
0:47:06 > 0:47:10of the deeply religious Kimbrough family.
0:47:10 > 0:47:13We don't believe in smoking, we don't believe in drinking,
0:47:13 > 0:47:15we don't believe in using profanity.
0:47:15 > 0:47:18Just things of that nature that so many people in society
0:47:18 > 0:47:21think are no big deal. They are a big deal to us.
0:47:23 > 0:47:28Once the teens got inside, it really dawned on them just what they'd let themselves in for.
0:47:28 > 0:47:30This is the room with angels.
0:47:30 > 0:47:34So, when you walked in the door there was an angel assigned to you.
0:47:34 > 0:47:36Oh, God. Bible bashers. Totally.
0:47:37 > 0:47:41I thought...I didn't actually notice.
0:47:41 > 0:47:45But I knew from then that we were gonna have it all week, about the God thing.
0:47:45 > 0:47:49I'm not joking. They had a Bible in the toilet and I was like, no...
0:47:49 > 0:47:53In every civilised society, there are rules...
0:47:53 > 0:47:55for which we are to conduct ourselves,
0:47:55 > 0:47:57so that's what this meeting is all about.
0:47:57 > 0:47:59We're going to give you the home rules contract
0:47:59 > 0:48:01for the Kimbrough family.
0:48:02 > 0:48:04I thought they were taking the piss.
0:48:04 > 0:48:07When they put that bloody, the rules in front of us, I was like, no way.
0:48:07 > 0:48:10Profanity is used by people with limited vocabulary.
0:48:10 > 0:48:13The Kimbrough family is highly intelligent
0:48:13 > 0:48:16and only uses language that illustrates our intelligence.
0:48:16 > 0:48:18Would you please move the clipboard
0:48:18 > 0:48:22because I want to be able to see your facial expressions. Thanks.
0:48:22 > 0:48:24That four-page contract, it's like,
0:48:24 > 0:48:27this isn't a contract, this is a novel.
0:48:27 > 0:48:31I just can't believe that people actually live like this.
0:48:31 > 0:48:35- Really?- It's just so different from our life.
0:48:35 > 0:48:38The rules were ridiculous though. Proper ridiculous.
0:48:38 > 0:48:41It was just a matter of minutes between Chez and Bex
0:48:41 > 0:48:45signing up to the Kimbroughs' contract and deciding to break it.
0:48:45 > 0:48:48Sneaking a fag on the balcony.
0:48:48 > 0:48:51I thought it were proper genius, me like.
0:48:51 > 0:48:53They're actually really shocked.
0:48:53 > 0:48:55They think we're really naughty and stuff.
0:48:55 > 0:48:59Then we smoked it all, threw the fag and they've come in the bedroom.
0:48:59 > 0:49:01Why do we smell smoke?
0:49:01 > 0:49:03Christ.
0:49:03 > 0:49:04Did you step out on the balcony?
0:49:04 > 0:49:07Please tell me you weren't smoking in the home.
0:49:07 > 0:49:08I'm not smoking.
0:49:08 > 0:49:12I said, no I've just opened my suitcase. All my clothes smell of smoke.
0:49:12 > 0:49:17You did not just open your bag and the smell of smoke came out.
0:49:17 > 0:49:20That is a lie, so admit that it was a lie.
0:49:20 > 0:49:22It was a lie.
0:49:22 > 0:49:24Were you smoking in here?
0:49:24 > 0:49:25No, on the balcony.
0:49:25 > 0:49:28- There is no smoking inside the house...- Or on these grounds.
0:49:28 > 0:49:31There is no smoking outside the house,
0:49:31 > 0:49:35there is no smoking in America as far as you're concerned.
0:49:35 > 0:49:37Then we gave them an empty packet and said
0:49:37 > 0:49:41that's the last of them and they did, I think they did actually believe us.
0:49:43 > 0:49:46The Kimbroughs' total commitment to enforcing their rules
0:49:46 > 0:49:49became a recurring problem for the teens.
0:49:49 > 0:49:52The whispering that they're doing is driving me insane.
0:49:52 > 0:49:54They're like plotting.
0:49:56 > 0:50:00We kept thinking up ideas of where we can go for a fag and stuff.
0:50:00 > 0:50:01Shall we leave right now?
0:50:01 > 0:50:03- Yeah.- Wait then.
0:50:05 > 0:50:08Chez has got up, he's walked and then you hear and then you hear,
0:50:08 > 0:50:10Bex and Chez, where are you going?
0:50:10 > 0:50:11'Chez, where are you going?
0:50:11 > 0:50:13'Chez...?'
0:50:16 > 0:50:18So we ran out the fire exit, pissing down with rain.
0:50:18 > 0:50:21We run straight into the woods. Me and Chez are running.
0:50:21 > 0:50:24He's got the Bible over his head because of his hair.
0:50:24 > 0:50:26All this God shit.
0:50:26 > 0:50:29I can't believe I'm stood in the forest in the rain
0:50:29 > 0:50:31trying to have a fag with a Bible on my head.
0:50:31 > 0:50:32It's ridiculous.
0:50:32 > 0:50:35Oh, my God, it was awful just there and thinking
0:50:35 > 0:50:37this is it now for a week, got to run away for a fag
0:50:37 > 0:50:39and you knew you were going to get punished.
0:50:39 > 0:50:45So you know it's going to be church, school and house. That's it.
0:50:45 > 0:50:48No freedom, just literally nothing.
0:50:48 > 0:50:52Bex and Chez were required to attend one of Atlanta's top
0:50:52 > 0:50:55private schools for the duration of their stay.
0:50:55 > 0:50:58You all are going to be joining the biology lab today.
0:50:58 > 0:51:02The college drop-out, Bex, was to learn some unexpected lessons.
0:51:02 > 0:51:04This little piggy went to the market.
0:51:04 > 0:51:08They're dissecting these baby pigs and the baby pigs are like this big.
0:51:08 > 0:51:10They've got their little noses
0:51:10 > 0:51:14and they're putting pins in their arms and dissecting them. No...
0:51:14 > 0:51:17To begin with, Bex reacted in her usual way,
0:51:17 > 0:51:20running away whenever the pressure was on.
0:51:20 > 0:51:23You can't go in the boys' bathroom.
0:51:23 > 0:51:25Anthony!
0:51:25 > 0:51:27Now exactly why did you walk out of class?
0:51:27 > 0:51:30- Because it was too much for me.- Why?
0:51:30 > 0:51:33But she hadn't come up against anyone like Sister Patrice before.
0:51:33 > 0:51:36Can you let go of my arm, please. Let go of my arm!
0:51:36 > 0:51:39Young lady, let me make something absolutely clear to you.
0:51:39 > 0:51:42You are in our environment.
0:51:42 > 0:51:43Yeah.
0:51:43 > 0:51:46That means you must submit to the rules.
0:51:46 > 0:51:48When I first met Sister Patrice and she pinched my arm
0:51:48 > 0:51:49I had it in for her.
0:51:49 > 0:51:52I was like me and you are not going to get on.
0:51:52 > 0:51:54Why are you determined to hurt yourself?
0:51:54 > 0:51:56I'm not determined to hurt myself.
0:51:56 > 0:51:58- Yes, you are.- I just need a fag.
0:51:58 > 0:52:01No, sweetheart, you're killing yourself.
0:52:01 > 0:52:02This is killing me.
0:52:02 > 0:52:06I know it's hurting your feelings, but that's different.
0:52:06 > 0:52:08You're 17 years old, you know how you're living?
0:52:08 > 0:52:14You're living like a person that's been out of life for quite some time.
0:52:14 > 0:52:18I explained to her how different it was and how stressed out
0:52:18 > 0:52:22and the fact that I needed it. She didn't say a word to Wanda.
0:52:22 > 0:52:24Do you realise that if a student smokes here,
0:52:24 > 0:52:26they are kicked out of school automatically.
0:52:26 > 0:52:28They don't have a second chance.
0:52:28 > 0:52:33So if you are given mercy, you've got to show your family mercy.
0:52:33 > 0:52:37Whether you agree or not is not important.
0:52:37 > 0:52:39You're still a child by law.
0:52:39 > 0:52:43I don't think you will meet someone who's genuinely as nice...
0:52:43 > 0:52:47She was just... She's knew me and Chez for two days
0:52:47 > 0:52:50and she stuck by us. She believed in us.
0:52:52 > 0:52:57In the school's supportive environment Chezden began to thrive
0:52:57 > 0:52:59and did the Kimbroughs proud.
0:52:59 > 0:53:01I love the school because it was really good.
0:53:01 > 0:53:05You learn something and the teachers didn't really shout at us.
0:53:05 > 0:53:07Everyone was just really nice.
0:53:07 > 0:53:10You gave it a chance and that's all we asked this morning
0:53:10 > 0:53:14that you gave it a chance and you did and that's really great.
0:53:14 > 0:53:16I am so proud of you.
0:53:16 > 0:53:18- Thank you.- So proud of you.
0:53:18 > 0:53:22That night Bex did her homework for the first time in years.
0:53:22 > 0:53:26I just felt at least I can put
0:53:26 > 0:53:30my thoughts into paper and have some time to myself.
0:53:30 > 0:53:32It just come out.
0:53:32 > 0:53:36She opened up to Wanda in a poem about being invisible.
0:53:36 > 0:53:38I put on a mask.
0:53:38 > 0:53:40The fake Bex
0:53:40 > 0:53:42but the true Bex is still here.
0:53:42 > 0:53:44I am just hiding.
0:53:44 > 0:53:49Devil Bex came about four years ago
0:53:49 > 0:53:51and she hasn't gone away.
0:53:51 > 0:53:57I'm scared that the true Bex has not only gone invisible,
0:53:57 > 0:53:59but is going to disappear forever.
0:53:59 > 0:54:02I didn't expect that. Wow!
0:54:02 > 0:54:06I don't even think you realise what you wrote.
0:54:06 > 0:54:08That is so very hopeful to me.
0:54:08 > 0:54:10That is brilliant.
0:54:14 > 0:54:17It's nice to get the reaction like that off her.
0:54:17 > 0:54:20No-one's been proud of me like that for ages.
0:54:20 > 0:54:23I don't know, it just made you feel proud of yourself
0:54:23 > 0:54:25and a bit of belief, like.
0:54:25 > 0:54:27If I can make them happy and they don't know me,
0:54:27 > 0:54:29then I can make my mum and dad happy at home.
0:54:30 > 0:54:34Chez and Bex spent eight days with the Kimbroughs,
0:54:34 > 0:54:37but they learnt lessons they hope will last a lifetime.
0:54:37 > 0:54:42I'll go home and I think things will be a lot better with my mum.
0:54:42 > 0:54:44I think I've learnt to be a lot more respectful.
0:54:44 > 0:54:47I cried my eyes out when we left.
0:54:47 > 0:54:49I really did not want to go home.
0:54:49 > 0:54:53They're just so... oh. They're just so lovely.
0:54:57 > 0:55:01So what effect has going to Atlanta had on Chezden?
0:55:01 > 0:55:05I can actually iron, but it takes half an hour.
0:55:05 > 0:55:10Yeah, I've changed a lot. I'm nicer to my mum. I've got a better relationship with my mum now.
0:55:10 > 0:55:12I did realise from doing that, that, you know,
0:55:12 > 0:55:15she does need my help more and it's not fair on her.
0:55:15 > 0:55:21- How long have you been ironing? - It's a two-man job.
0:55:21 > 0:55:25He seems more concerned now about me health.
0:55:25 > 0:55:27He helps out quite a lot more.
0:55:27 > 0:55:32At least because I've been helping out a lot more, she's been feeling better.
0:55:32 > 0:55:35We're just getting along a lot better. We're both happy.
0:55:35 > 0:55:38For Bex, life has been very different
0:55:38 > 0:55:39since her return to England.
0:55:39 > 0:55:42The main thing I did learn is to have respect.
0:55:42 > 0:55:44She started reading me this poem.
0:55:44 > 0:55:47I didn't think she was capable of anything like that.
0:55:47 > 0:55:51It proved that she was digging deep with her inner self.
0:55:51 > 0:55:54We thought, crikey, you've really, sort of, you've learnt so much.
0:55:54 > 0:55:58In a week you've moved on, you are focused.
0:55:58 > 0:56:01It was the most best thing
0:56:01 > 0:56:03I could ever have done in the whole of my life.
0:56:26 > 0:56:28Subtitles by Red Bee Media Ltd
0:56:28 > 0:56:30E-mail subtitling@bbc.co.uk