0:00:02 > 0:00:04Around the world, many parents raise their kids
0:00:04 > 0:00:05on a diet of strict discipline...
0:00:05 > 0:00:08It's our responsibility as parents
0:00:08 > 0:00:10to be in control of the music they listen to,
0:00:10 > 0:00:13the movies they watch and the friends they have.
0:00:15 > 0:00:16..rigid boundaries...
0:00:16 > 0:00:19Am I friends with my children? No.
0:00:19 > 0:00:21I'm not your friend, I'm your parent.
0:00:21 > 0:00:24..and immediate consequences.
0:00:24 > 0:00:25My dad is really strict.
0:00:25 > 0:00:28If you break the rules he can be very scary.
0:00:28 > 0:00:30LOUD ROCK MUSIC
0:00:30 > 0:00:32But can traditional parenting
0:00:32 > 0:00:35change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:35 > 0:00:39I was brought here on this earth to party.
0:00:39 > 0:00:42She can be an absolute nightmare. It's awful.
0:00:44 > 0:00:48My lifestyle is playing Xbox, and getting hammered.
0:00:49 > 0:00:51You, I'll get you!
0:00:51 > 0:00:53I went to anger management,
0:00:53 > 0:00:56got kicked out of anger management...for being angry.
0:00:56 > 0:00:58No-one can tell me what to do.
0:00:58 > 0:01:01Not even the Queen of England can tell me what to do.
0:01:01 > 0:01:02GLASS SMASHES
0:01:02 > 0:01:05He's slapped me, he's poked me, he's pushed me.
0:01:05 > 0:01:06He's done it all.
0:01:06 > 0:01:09I am what I am. If you don't like it then jog on.
0:01:09 > 0:01:13To find out, two teens who've never met before
0:01:13 > 0:01:16will leave their fraught families behind.
0:01:16 > 0:01:19- Maybe she'll come back home and be nice.- Doubt it.
0:01:19 > 0:01:22And head off to the far corners of the world where they
0:01:22 > 0:01:26will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:26 > 0:01:30You are not in the UK, you are in Barbados.
0:01:30 > 0:01:33They're the most awful people I've ever met in my whole life.
0:01:33 > 0:01:36If she wants to throw a hissy fit, she can have her hissy fit.
0:01:36 > 0:01:38Ahh!
0:01:38 > 0:01:40I'm going home, bro.
0:01:40 > 0:01:42What you going to do? That's what I thought.
0:01:42 > 0:01:46This is our rule. If you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it.
0:01:46 > 0:01:49- What's the point, yeah? - The point is a matter of trust.
0:01:49 > 0:01:52If this is how they are, I'm sorry for Britain.
0:02:06 > 0:02:08THEY LAUGH
0:02:08 > 0:02:1319-year-old Wes McGillian has only one thing on his mind.
0:02:14 > 0:02:16If they're ugly, it's funny.
0:02:16 > 0:02:18If they're fit, then it's good on you.
0:02:20 > 0:02:22The plan is like going out, having a good time
0:02:22 > 0:02:24then see what's knocking about.
0:02:24 > 0:02:27Even if it's a pull, not even a shag, it's good enough.
0:02:36 > 0:02:38Tonight, I don't really... I have no care in the world.
0:02:38 > 0:02:41I really don't. There's nothing to care about.
0:02:43 > 0:02:47But Wesley's mum Tina wants him to face his responsibilities.
0:02:49 > 0:02:53- I want to know what you're going to do.- Just go out and have fun.
0:02:53 > 0:02:56- You just want to go and have fun? - Yeah.
0:02:57 > 0:02:58And what about the baby?
0:02:58 > 0:03:01What about the baby?
0:03:03 > 0:03:06Three months ago, Wesley received shocking news.
0:03:08 > 0:03:12My ex-girlfriend is now pregnant with my child.
0:03:12 > 0:03:14She told me on the computer. On Facebook.
0:03:15 > 0:03:19Still at college, Wes refuses to confront the reality
0:03:19 > 0:03:20of being a teen dad.
0:03:20 > 0:03:22What I'm doing about the baby is nothing.
0:03:22 > 0:03:24I don't want to think about it.
0:03:24 > 0:03:26That's real, Wesley.
0:03:26 > 0:03:28But it's not here now, is it?
0:03:28 > 0:03:29Yeah, but it's real.
0:03:29 > 0:03:31It's just a photo.
0:03:31 > 0:03:34It's not a photo, it's a photo of your baby - my grandchild.
0:03:34 > 0:03:35And what?
0:03:35 > 0:03:39Wesley's mum separated from his father when he was a little boy.
0:03:39 > 0:03:43She doesn't want Wes to follow in his dad's footsteps.
0:03:43 > 0:03:45Every child should have a dad around them.
0:03:45 > 0:03:48And be in their life 24/7 basically.
0:03:48 > 0:03:51And that's why I really want to push it for Wesley to think about
0:03:51 > 0:03:53his responsibility to his baby.
0:03:53 > 0:03:54I don't want him to be a part-time dad.
0:03:54 > 0:03:57- You've got to plan.- Plan what?
0:03:57 > 0:04:00Plan, you've got to save, you've got to buy a cot,
0:04:00 > 0:04:02you've got to buy prams...
0:04:02 > 0:04:03How can I do that, Mum?
0:04:03 > 0:04:08You're going to have to get a part-time job, cos you're going to have to work extra hard as parents.
0:04:08 > 0:04:12Mum Tina is ashamed of his immature attitude.
0:04:12 > 0:04:16If Wesley doesn't take responsibility of this child I'll kill him.
0:04:16 > 0:04:19He wouldn't be the boy that I gave birth to.
0:04:22 > 0:04:25Everyone in Brighton is just... high on life.
0:04:25 > 0:04:2816-year-old Tamsin Carruthers-Cole
0:04:28 > 0:04:30has a broken relationship with her family.
0:04:33 > 0:04:38Really kind of...hate living here.
0:04:38 > 0:04:40When was the last time you had anything to eat?
0:04:40 > 0:04:42This morning.
0:04:43 > 0:04:47When I try and talk to Tamsin I will, 99% of the time, get a brick wall.
0:04:47 > 0:04:49Can I have some money, please?
0:04:51 > 0:04:52What do you need money for?
0:04:52 > 0:04:55In case I want to get a bus anywhere.
0:04:55 > 0:04:59She's a very beautiful 16-year-old pain in the arse.
0:04:59 > 0:05:02When have I been getting loads of money off you? I haven't...
0:05:02 > 0:05:06I've been being really good about it, so please, can I have a fiver at least?
0:05:06 > 0:05:09I might need to get a bus to the other side of Brighton.
0:05:09 > 0:05:10The bus is £2.
0:05:12 > 0:05:14- (BLEEP)- you.
0:05:15 > 0:05:19When I'm in a bad mood, I'm the child from hell.
0:05:19 > 0:05:23Mum and Dad suspect Tamsin is experimenting with drugs.
0:05:23 > 0:05:26I've had weekend benders.
0:05:27 > 0:05:29But, if you don't sleep,
0:05:29 > 0:05:33you get sleep deprived and you go a bit insane.
0:05:33 > 0:05:36I don't know what goes on in her social life
0:05:36 > 0:05:39or what kind of peer pressure there is...
0:05:39 > 0:05:41So of course I worry as a parent.
0:05:41 > 0:05:46I have a life at home and then a different life outside my home.
0:05:47 > 0:05:48And this is all secret.
0:05:48 > 0:05:50I've tried a lot of drugs.
0:05:52 > 0:05:54Like, everything, really.
0:05:57 > 0:06:01Tamsin's parents are terrified she's throwing her life away.
0:06:01 > 0:06:04She's dropped out of college. I mean, she's not doing anything.
0:06:04 > 0:06:06We'd always done music, for example.
0:06:06 > 0:06:09All those things went out the window.
0:06:09 > 0:06:13Most of her problems are because she doesn't say what she's feeling.
0:06:13 > 0:06:14It just comes out as anger.
0:06:14 > 0:06:18I'm an angry person. But I'm not, that's the thing.
0:06:18 > 0:06:21I can't control her and I accept that.
0:06:29 > 0:06:31Thank you.
0:06:31 > 0:06:33Thanks very much, driver.
0:06:35 > 0:06:37- Miss you.- Don't cry.
0:06:40 > 0:06:43You're ignoring me. Do you know why you're going?
0:06:43 > 0:06:47- Course.- Right, if you show us up, I'll be really upset.
0:06:47 > 0:06:51To try and turn their irresponsible teenagers into mature adults,
0:06:51 > 0:06:55both families have agreed to send them to live with new parents
0:06:55 > 0:06:57on the other side of the world.
0:06:58 > 0:07:02I just hope that he's not got girls on his mind and he's going there
0:07:02 > 0:07:05to think deeply about himself and his responsibilities.
0:07:05 > 0:07:08- What he's got to do, really. - Yeah, forget about the women.
0:07:10 > 0:07:12I'm not going to cry.
0:07:15 > 0:07:16She's not going to look back.
0:07:16 > 0:07:19That's it, she's just gone.
0:07:19 > 0:07:23She doesn't like showing emotion. She told me I wasn't allowed to cry
0:07:23 > 0:07:25and I wasn't allowed to be over-emotional.
0:07:25 > 0:07:29I want her to come back having found something positive and constructive
0:07:29 > 0:07:32in her life instead of negative and destructive.
0:07:32 > 0:07:33Hello.
0:07:33 > 0:07:35Nice to meet you, what's your name?
0:07:35 > 0:07:37- I'm Tamsin, what's your name? - Wesley.
0:07:37 > 0:07:40- So what brings you here? - I need to sort my life out.
0:07:40 > 0:07:42Same here. I don't know what to expect.
0:07:42 > 0:07:45Still can't believe that it's actually happening.
0:07:45 > 0:07:46America, here we go.
0:07:48 > 0:07:51The 3,500-mile journey will end here -
0:07:51 > 0:07:55up-market Cape May, on the American east coast.
0:07:56 > 0:07:59Home to the Loper-Leveille family.
0:07:59 > 0:08:04Scott Loper and Joe Leveille have been together for 19 years.
0:08:04 > 0:08:08They have a straight-talking approach when it comes to parenting.
0:08:08 > 0:08:10'I enjoy my children,'
0:08:10 > 0:08:13I have a good relationship with my children,
0:08:13 > 0:08:16but am I friends with my children? No.
0:08:16 > 0:08:19I'm not your friend, I'm your parent.
0:08:19 > 0:08:20Good morning.
0:08:20 > 0:08:24Three of their kids are adopted and two are being fostered.
0:08:24 > 0:08:27They include Noah, 11,
0:08:27 > 0:08:29Chris, who is 16,
0:08:29 > 0:08:31And Zack, 17.
0:08:31 > 0:08:32Amazing.
0:08:32 > 0:08:37We were the very first gay couple in New Jersey
0:08:37 > 0:08:39to openly, jointly
0:08:39 > 0:08:42adopt children together.
0:08:42 > 0:08:45It may seem unusual to some people
0:08:45 > 0:08:49for two men to have this many children,
0:08:49 > 0:08:52but when you get right down to it, we really pretty much
0:08:52 > 0:08:55do anything that any other type of family would do.
0:08:55 > 0:08:59Joe and Scott provide a stable family for children
0:08:59 > 0:09:01who would otherwise live in a state-run home.
0:09:04 > 0:09:08Most of the children that come to us come to us from a background
0:09:08 > 0:09:09that is somehow damaged.
0:09:09 > 0:09:14We've dealt with everything from petty larceny, lying,
0:09:14 > 0:09:16drugs...
0:09:16 > 0:09:18They maybe aren't used to the type of structure
0:09:18 > 0:09:20that we try and provide here.
0:09:20 > 0:09:23In fact, with that many kids in the house, we really NEED
0:09:23 > 0:09:25the type of structure that we provide here.
0:09:25 > 0:09:28With five boys and a beautiful home,
0:09:28 > 0:09:34two of those key structures are tidiness and cleanliness.
0:09:34 > 0:09:37We check to make sure the kids have made their beds,
0:09:37 > 0:09:39that their rooms are neatened.
0:09:39 > 0:09:40How come the blinds are closed?
0:09:40 > 0:09:44Ooh, the room that's always a disaster area. Dare I?
0:09:46 > 0:09:48Oh, my gosh!
0:09:48 > 0:09:49Look at that!
0:09:51 > 0:09:55This house is one of my biggest accomplishments, next to my kids.
0:09:58 > 0:10:01I would say that the thing that I am most proud of
0:10:01 > 0:10:05isn't any accomplishment of mine, other than my family.
0:10:09 > 0:10:15After a nine-hour flight, the teens touch down in the United States.
0:10:15 > 0:10:17Cape May is a two-hour drive.
0:10:20 > 0:10:23They're going to be the typical American family, aren't they?
0:10:23 > 0:10:25American flag outside,
0:10:25 > 0:10:29all holding Bibles singing little hymns when we're coming in.
0:10:30 > 0:10:34I'll respect their views, but they've got to respect mine.
0:10:34 > 0:10:35Like, I don't believe it.
0:10:35 > 0:10:38If they treat me like crap then I'll have to treat them like crap.
0:10:38 > 0:10:41It's going to be weird if there's a dad there as well.
0:10:41 > 0:10:44Like, some male authority trying to tell me what to do.
0:10:47 > 0:10:49- Are you ready for this?- Yeah.
0:10:49 > 0:10:50It's two men.
0:10:53 > 0:10:54It's two men!
0:10:56 > 0:10:58- Is it a gay couple?- Don't know.
0:10:58 > 0:11:00What is going on here?
0:11:01 > 0:11:05Hello, how do you do? I guess you probably didn't expect this?
0:11:05 > 0:11:07- No!- Welcome.- I'm Wes.
0:11:07 > 0:11:08Hi, Wes.
0:11:08 > 0:11:10- I'm Tamsin. - Hi, how are you. Welcome.
0:11:10 > 0:11:13- Tamsin.- Tamsin. And Wes, I'm Joe.
0:11:13 > 0:11:16- I guess you're a couple, yeah?- Yes. You guessed correctly.
0:11:16 > 0:11:19- THEY LAUGH - We're a couple of something.
0:11:19 > 0:11:21And we have other kids.
0:11:21 > 0:11:24I bet you weren't expecting that either!
0:11:24 > 0:11:25THEY ALL LAUGH
0:11:25 > 0:11:27From now on, Tamsin and Wes will be living
0:11:27 > 0:11:29as children of the Loper-Leveilles.
0:11:30 > 0:11:32Come on in.
0:11:32 > 0:11:33What a beautiful house.
0:11:33 > 0:11:35Why don't you introduce...
0:11:35 > 0:11:37These are our boys.
0:11:38 > 0:11:39You all right?
0:11:39 > 0:11:40Hi.
0:11:42 > 0:11:44- Zack.- You all right?- Noah.
0:11:44 > 0:11:46Nice to meet you, I'm Wes.
0:11:46 > 0:11:48- What's your name?- Tamsin.
0:11:49 > 0:11:53Well, welcome. We do want you to consider this your home.
0:11:53 > 0:11:56We'll show you around and we'll do all the formalities.
0:11:56 > 0:11:59- All right.- So if you want to grab your bags...
0:12:01 > 0:12:04You guys are going to be around the corner here.
0:12:04 > 0:12:06After you, please.
0:12:06 > 0:12:08This will be your room. There are empty drawers,
0:12:08 > 0:12:13all of these are empty for your use. The closet, there are hangers...
0:12:13 > 0:12:15So we want you to be at home and not living out of a suitcase.
0:12:15 > 0:12:17OK, Wes, this is your room.
0:12:17 > 0:12:20You're going to be sleeping in that bed.
0:12:20 > 0:12:23We would like you to unpack and make yourself at home.
0:12:24 > 0:12:25OK.
0:12:25 > 0:12:27How did you manage to have kids?
0:12:27 > 0:12:28Uh, all of our children are...
0:12:28 > 0:12:30They were really tough birthing,
0:12:30 > 0:12:33but I think my figure came back nice, don't you?
0:12:33 > 0:12:34I think I did pretty good!
0:12:37 > 0:12:39Wow!
0:12:41 > 0:12:42What do you think?
0:12:42 > 0:12:45- I wasn't expecting that at all. - I weren't expecting that.
0:12:48 > 0:12:50This is the first gay couple I've ever met so...
0:12:50 > 0:12:53Like, it doesn't bother me cos that's who they are, but...
0:12:53 > 0:12:56It's just strange to get your head around the situation.
0:12:56 > 0:12:59Scott, you locked the liquor cabinet, correct?
0:12:59 > 0:13:01I told them it's locked anyway.
0:13:01 > 0:13:04'This week I really don't know what's going to happen.'
0:13:04 > 0:13:08Really... I'm in shock.
0:13:08 > 0:13:10Truly in shock.
0:13:10 > 0:13:11Big shock.
0:13:11 > 0:13:15Males everywhere. I'm used to living in a house with girls.
0:13:15 > 0:13:18Joe and Scott believe that honesty
0:13:18 > 0:13:20is the key to their success as parents.
0:13:20 > 0:13:25Wesley, Tamsin, could you come in here, please?
0:13:25 > 0:13:28So before the teens are fully welcomed into the family,
0:13:28 > 0:13:32the dads want to outline exactly what's expected of them.
0:13:34 > 0:13:36Welcome to Camp Scott.
0:13:36 > 0:13:41This is Camp Scott. This house is run by me.
0:13:41 > 0:13:42Rule number one -
0:13:42 > 0:13:45no drug or alcohol use will be tolerated.
0:13:45 > 0:13:48The drinking age here in the United States is 21.
0:13:48 > 0:13:51There are no ifs, ands or buts on this.
0:13:51 > 0:13:55I am nosey, I will find out.
0:13:55 > 0:13:58Number two - chores are to be completed when asked.
0:13:58 > 0:14:00This home is neat.
0:14:00 > 0:14:01We expect it to stay that way.
0:14:01 > 0:14:03And I have a few things under that.
0:14:03 > 0:14:06A - beds will be made each morning.
0:14:06 > 0:14:08Bed and room inspections to follow.
0:14:08 > 0:14:13B - keep rooms, drawers and closets tidy.
0:14:13 > 0:14:18If you fail to clean up after yourself, I will call you back and you will do it.
0:14:18 > 0:14:23C - boys who cannot aim correctly will sit!
0:14:25 > 0:14:28- Funny one, right, Wes?- Yeah.
0:14:28 > 0:14:32You may find that funny - all of my children sit.
0:14:32 > 0:14:34Bedtime on weekdays is promptly at ten.
0:14:34 > 0:14:37- No exceptions.- Are you joking?
0:14:37 > 0:14:40- No, I'm not.- There's no way I can go to bed at ten.
0:14:40 > 0:14:41What time do you normally go to bed?
0:14:41 > 0:14:44- Three or something like that. - What's that?- Three at night time.
0:14:44 > 0:14:46Three at night time.
0:14:46 > 0:14:49I'm afraid there's no way you're going to be able to do that.
0:14:49 > 0:14:51You do not want to press those rules.
0:14:51 > 0:14:53There is a price to living like this.
0:14:53 > 0:14:57It can be fun, it can be friendly, it can be nice.
0:14:57 > 0:15:00- Or it can be hell.- Or you can fight us.- And you can fight us.
0:15:00 > 0:15:04My children have fought us, and we won.
0:15:04 > 0:15:08My favourite saying is, "Do your worst."
0:15:08 > 0:15:11Do your worst and we'll see what happens.
0:15:11 > 0:15:14- That's all. You're free to go. - Cheers.- Thank you.
0:15:21 > 0:15:26- That went well.- So far, the issues seem to be minor.- Yes.
0:15:26 > 0:15:28- But...- We'll see.- We'll see.
0:15:28 > 0:15:31I won't sit down to have a wee. I'm a man!
0:15:31 > 0:15:33No way I'm sitting down.
0:15:33 > 0:15:37In the UK, both teens are used to total freedom.
0:15:37 > 0:15:39You can see yourself doing all the cleaning up?
0:15:39 > 0:15:44Making sure that you do your bed properly, the way he likes?
0:15:44 > 0:15:46I'm not going to be able to do it all properly.
0:15:46 > 0:15:47I'm not a tidy person.
0:15:47 > 0:15:52There's no time to relax and just enjoy yourself and, like...
0:15:52 > 0:15:54just do what you want to do.
0:15:54 > 0:15:56I feel like I'm on a leash.
0:15:57 > 0:15:59It'll only take two...
0:16:01 > 0:16:04The one thing we didn't really cover with you guys is drug use.
0:16:04 > 0:16:07What is your opinion of people who do them?
0:16:08 > 0:16:11- My friends do them, so...- They do? - I'm not going to say anything.
0:16:11 > 0:16:15Have you ever been asked to take any kind of a drug test?
0:16:15 > 0:16:18- No.- No, how about you?- No.
0:16:18 > 0:16:19OK.
0:16:19 > 0:16:24- SCOTT:- You're going to today. Every child who comes into this house - and you're not being singled out -
0:16:24 > 0:16:27every child that comes into this house is drug tested.
0:16:27 > 0:16:30The reason is, we are a licensed foster home, OK?
0:16:30 > 0:16:33If you're not taking, I won't have to worry about you.
0:16:33 > 0:16:36- We're trying to prevent something from happening. - Preventative medicine.
0:16:36 > 0:16:41Personally, I don't want to do it because I don't want my mum knowing anything.
0:16:41 > 0:16:45It is a standard rule of the house. Here's the situation -
0:16:45 > 0:16:49this is our rule, if you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it.
0:16:49 > 0:16:52Because I'm going to tell you right now, it's not just you.
0:16:52 > 0:16:56It's not just you. We need to protect ourselves.
0:16:56 > 0:17:00Scott's hard line has upset Tamsin and angered Wesley.
0:17:00 > 0:17:05Why can't you just take my word? I'm telling you that I do not do drugs.
0:17:05 > 0:17:09The point is that if she is doing or if you are doing, and not telling us, I...
0:17:09 > 0:17:13- WESLEY POPS HIS CHEWING GUM - Please, don't do that. That's rude.
0:17:13 > 0:17:16Everyone is going to smoke, OK, fine.
0:17:16 > 0:17:18Do not... Here's the rule in my house, do not...
0:17:18 > 0:17:22You're putting words into my mouth. I'm stating I do not take drugs.
0:17:28 > 0:17:32It's like, personal stuff, and I don't want to open up about it.
0:17:32 > 0:17:36I don't want those people knowing, I don't want...
0:17:36 > 0:17:40I don't know them and I don't want them knowing everything.
0:17:43 > 0:17:46'Tamsin's reaction seemed to be one of guilt.'
0:17:46 > 0:17:50You cannot have friends that take drugs and expect to remain drug-free.
0:17:50 > 0:17:53- A little bit.- Just a dabble?- Yeah.
0:17:53 > 0:17:55And then screw the lid on.
0:17:55 > 0:17:57Unscrew the lid before you try and use the cup.
0:17:59 > 0:18:03To keep the peace, Wes decides to submit to the test.
0:18:06 > 0:18:11Got a little name tag for it, so we all know whose is whose.
0:18:11 > 0:18:14- That's it?- That's all you needed, isn't it?- That's all I needed.
0:18:14 > 0:18:18All of these, straight across the board, are pink.
0:18:18 > 0:18:21Here's what you just accomplished, OK?
0:18:21 > 0:18:25First of all, I know that you don't do drugs. OK?
0:18:25 > 0:18:27What's the second thing that I now know?
0:18:27 > 0:18:28That you can trust me.
0:18:28 > 0:18:31- Right.- Bingo. Trust.- Bingo.
0:18:31 > 0:18:34You are the new poster boy for a drug-free England!
0:18:34 > 0:18:38Now, Tamsin, everyone that comes into my home
0:18:38 > 0:18:40has some sort of screening.
0:18:40 > 0:18:43I don't know how I can make it any clearer to you, OK?
0:18:51 > 0:18:52- Justin?- Yes?
0:18:54 > 0:19:00- Did I make you take a drug test? - You didn't MAKE me... - But you did it.
0:19:00 > 0:19:01But I... Yeah.
0:19:03 > 0:19:05I'll just admit it. I've had a major drugs problem.
0:19:05 > 0:19:08I've been addicted to drugs and I'm not proud of it
0:19:08 > 0:19:11and I don't want anyone to know, but it's too late.
0:19:11 > 0:19:14You know, Tamsin... You know, I didn't...
0:19:17 > 0:19:18A bit extreme.
0:19:20 > 0:19:22Joe wants to find out more from Tamsin.
0:19:24 > 0:19:26You told me you dabbled in drugs,
0:19:26 > 0:19:28and I'm thinking it was more than dabbling.
0:19:28 > 0:19:30I don't want to admit to anything.
0:19:30 > 0:19:33- You don't want to admit to anything?- No.
0:19:33 > 0:19:39Things aren't amazing at home and my mum has so much to deal with.
0:19:39 > 0:19:41- Yeah.- She knows that I've done it, but...
0:19:41 > 0:19:45- She doesn't maybe know to what extent.- She doesn't know properly.
0:19:45 > 0:19:51She's just been through so much and had so much to deal with and everything to worry about.
0:19:51 > 0:19:55It's not until recently that I've started to realise how much she's been going through,
0:19:55 > 0:19:58and I just want to make everything easy for her.
0:19:58 > 0:20:00I just don't want her to know.
0:20:00 > 0:20:03Well, look. Why don't you try and relax? OK?
0:20:04 > 0:20:09Tamsin's family troubles began after Dad fell seriously ill.
0:20:09 > 0:20:1313 or 14 years ago, my dad got kidney failure
0:20:13 > 0:20:16and he's been ill ever since.
0:20:16 > 0:20:20Dad is on his third kidney, the latest donated by Tamsin's mum.
0:20:20 > 0:20:24I've had three transplants, and each one of them, it's always been there,
0:20:24 > 0:20:28the hope that I can spend time with my children while they're children.
0:20:28 > 0:20:32It's been quite tough. Him having transplants, being in hospital,
0:20:32 > 0:20:36operations going wrong and Mum being upset.
0:20:37 > 0:20:39After I donated a kidney to Matthew
0:20:39 > 0:20:42I don't have the energy I used to, where I could fix everything,
0:20:42 > 0:20:44always make everything better.
0:20:44 > 0:20:47Part of me has always been kind of angry
0:20:47 > 0:20:51that I've never really had a dad.
0:20:51 > 0:20:56Cos he's been in bed, working, being ill -
0:20:56 > 0:20:57that's what I know him for.
0:21:02 > 0:21:07I don't like to get in a confrontation on the first day that I meet someone,
0:21:07 > 0:21:13so I think, perhaps, letting this go for a little while, coming back to it later,
0:21:13 > 0:21:16is what we need to do.
0:21:30 > 0:21:31Good morning.
0:21:31 > 0:21:33Rise and shine, sir.
0:21:33 > 0:21:37We're going to be checking the place in about 15 minutes, so get yourself up.
0:21:37 > 0:21:41In the Loper-Leveille household, the daily routine starts bright and early.
0:21:41 > 0:21:44It is important to get off on a good start,
0:21:44 > 0:21:47because then you're going to have a good day.
0:21:47 > 0:21:48Pretty good, pretty good.
0:21:48 > 0:21:50I'll be in to check it, trust me.
0:21:53 > 0:21:55Laying about in bed is not an option.
0:21:55 > 0:21:56GOOD MORNING!
0:21:59 > 0:22:00There. Up.
0:22:01 > 0:22:03Good morning, sir.
0:22:03 > 0:22:04Time to wake up.
0:22:04 > 0:22:10There we go, there we go! Say, "Good morning, Wesley, good morning, Wesley."
0:22:10 > 0:22:13There we are, oh, yes! Pug in the morning!
0:22:13 > 0:22:16- Ooh!- Pug in the morning!
0:22:16 > 0:22:18Now maybe you'll get out of bed!
0:22:18 > 0:22:21Ha-ha-ha-ha!
0:22:22 > 0:22:24There, that worked!
0:22:26 > 0:22:28Very good girl, Gracie!
0:22:28 > 0:22:33Scott used to manage a motel so breakfast is run like a well-oiled machine.
0:22:35 > 0:22:37These are the rules -
0:22:37 > 0:22:39someone is asked to set the table,
0:22:39 > 0:22:43then after dinner, somebody clears the table, somebody rinses the dishes,
0:22:43 > 0:22:45somebody washes pots and pans.
0:22:45 > 0:22:47I've never done chores, never do chores.
0:22:47 > 0:22:49- You don't?- You don't do chores?
0:22:49 > 0:22:51- Who does the chores?- My mum.
0:22:51 > 0:22:53Your mom. Does your mother work?
0:22:53 > 0:22:54- Mm-hm.- Do you work?
0:22:54 > 0:22:58So you lounge about the house all day while your mother does everything?
0:22:58 > 0:23:00- Basically, yeah. - Boy, would that make me angry.
0:23:00 > 0:23:02Got to tell you.
0:23:02 > 0:23:05If you don't have a job, who pays for everything you do?
0:23:05 > 0:23:06My mum pays for everything.
0:23:06 > 0:23:09- She pays for EVERYTHING?- Yeah.- Wow.
0:23:09 > 0:23:11'Wesley is a big kid.'
0:23:11 > 0:23:15He's 19 chronologically, but a lot of the attitudes
0:23:15 > 0:23:17that I hear from his mouth
0:23:17 > 0:23:21are those that I would expect to hear from a 15-year-old child.
0:23:24 > 0:23:26With Tamsin's admission of frequent drug use back home,
0:23:26 > 0:23:30Scott and Joe have decided that she must remain in the house
0:23:30 > 0:23:31under close supervision.
0:23:32 > 0:23:35They have other plans for work-shy Wesley.
0:23:37 > 0:23:41You need to learn what it is that people do
0:23:41 > 0:23:47to earn the money that you're so eager to take and spend without contributing.
0:23:48 > 0:23:49All right.
0:23:49 > 0:23:51Wesley, are you ready?
0:23:51 > 0:23:54Joe believes that holding down a job teaches teenagers
0:23:54 > 0:23:56how to become responsible adults.
0:24:00 > 0:24:02What's the other kids doing back at home?
0:24:02 > 0:24:05Oh, we're going to have all kinds of fun.
0:24:05 > 0:24:10I thought we would lounge about on the couch and we might watch Manchester United.
0:24:12 > 0:24:14Wes is starting work at the Erma Deli -
0:24:14 > 0:24:20a traditional diner, run with a strong, American work ethic.
0:24:20 > 0:24:23Most staff here do a ten-hour shift with only short breaks.
0:24:23 > 0:24:25- I'm Fred, I'm the owner.- Fred.
0:24:25 > 0:24:28- What's your name?- I'd like you to meet Wesley.- Pleased to meet you.
0:24:28 > 0:24:31Self-made man Frederick Todd owns the diner.
0:24:31 > 0:24:36- What's that?- I've never worked, really, so... - You've never worked?- No.
0:24:36 > 0:24:37Really?
0:24:37 > 0:24:38What are you, rich?
0:24:38 > 0:24:40WESLEY LAUGHS No.
0:24:40 > 0:24:42Come on back here.
0:24:42 > 0:24:47- All right.- See you later. - Good luck.- Will do.- All right?- OK.
0:24:47 > 0:24:49Have a great day.
0:24:49 > 0:24:52Wesley has never worked before.
0:24:52 > 0:24:54Just give me some basic information.
0:24:54 > 0:24:58Paul, the manager, tells Wes what's expected of an employee.
0:24:58 > 0:25:02OK, the business we're in is creating the best experience
0:25:02 > 0:25:03we can for people.
0:25:03 > 0:25:09And we have zero-to-none level tolerance for letting anyone interrupt that.
0:25:09 > 0:25:12The food service business is one of the hardest businesses there is in this country -
0:25:12 > 0:25:16mentally, physically and everything above.
0:25:16 > 0:25:18- I'll be right back.- OK.
0:25:20 > 0:25:22I'm very nervous.
0:25:24 > 0:25:25Big guys, as well, big guys.
0:25:27 > 0:25:29So I can't, like, charm my way out of it.
0:25:31 > 0:25:32This is where you'll check in.
0:25:32 > 0:25:35Today, Wes begins with a four-hour shift.
0:25:35 > 0:25:39This is my office here, in case we have to lock you up or anything.
0:25:40 > 0:25:42This time card slips under this red arrow.
0:25:44 > 0:25:45You're now officially started.
0:25:50 > 0:25:53Aww, I look like a total idiot!
0:25:54 > 0:25:59Wes is starting his working life at the bottom - cleaning the toilets.
0:25:59 > 0:26:00Oh, it's a floater.
0:26:00 > 0:26:03It's not even going away!
0:26:05 > 0:26:06Stinks.
0:26:14 > 0:26:16They better be all working at home.
0:26:20 > 0:26:22Eugh!
0:26:22 > 0:26:25'I clean out other people's piss and shit.'
0:26:25 > 0:26:28'It's just not pleasant. It's not a pleasant job to do.'
0:26:34 > 0:26:37Thought I'd just be doing all the fun activities.
0:26:39 > 0:26:41But I'm stuck here, cleaning toilets.
0:26:44 > 0:26:47He told me he had life pretty good at home, you know?
0:26:47 > 0:26:49I'm from just the opposite background.
0:26:49 > 0:26:51I come from a house where you had to work
0:26:51 > 0:26:53I was working at 12.
0:26:53 > 0:26:56So my work ethic is a little different than his.
0:26:56 > 0:26:58Sorry about this.
0:27:02 > 0:27:05Tamsin has been kept at home by Joe and Scott.
0:27:05 > 0:27:08They want some answers about her drug use.
0:27:11 > 0:27:13What have you experimented with?
0:27:13 > 0:27:17Meow, which is the drug that I had been doing, they sell as plant fertiliser.
0:27:17 > 0:27:22You can't sell it in shops, but they pass it off as plant fertiliser so they can sell it.
0:27:22 > 0:27:23- Plant fertiliser?- Yeah.
0:27:23 > 0:27:26- You're kidding.- It's not actually plant fertiliser.- What is it?
0:27:26 > 0:27:28Uh, I don't know.
0:27:28 > 0:27:32You're putting something into your body and you have no clue what it is?
0:27:32 > 0:27:34Yeah.
0:27:34 > 0:27:36Why would you do that?
0:27:36 > 0:27:37Don't know.
0:27:37 > 0:27:39What kind of an effect does it give you?
0:27:39 > 0:27:40Like ecstasy.
0:27:40 > 0:27:44It makes you just happy and...up.
0:27:44 > 0:27:50It seems to me though, with this Meow Meow, I don't think Tamsin is happy doing that.
0:27:52 > 0:27:56Meow Meow is the nickname for class B stimulant mephedrone.
0:27:56 > 0:27:59Legal until April 2010,
0:27:59 > 0:28:02it's popular amongst Tamsin's age group.
0:28:02 > 0:28:06Year nines at school are just sitting there, sniffing it up. During school!
0:28:06 > 0:28:07During school, people are doing it.
0:28:07 > 0:28:09'Everyone is taking it.'
0:28:09 > 0:28:1114-year-olds at schools are taking it.
0:28:11 > 0:28:15I'm a bit...I don't know. Confused.
0:28:15 > 0:28:19I don't need it to have a good night, but it makes the night more interesting.
0:28:19 > 0:28:23The insane person is coming to get us.
0:28:23 > 0:28:24And he's going to kill us.
0:28:24 > 0:28:27No, he wont kill us. He's scared of me.
0:28:27 > 0:28:28Cos I'm BAD.
0:28:30 > 0:28:35Tamsin's drug use is a major barrier between her and her parents.
0:28:35 > 0:28:39'I do try and have discussions with her but Tamsin is very adamant.'
0:28:39 > 0:28:41She just completely blocks me and says,
0:28:41 > 0:28:45"I do not take drugs. I am not..." for example,
0:28:45 > 0:28:47and so I can't go any further in a discussion
0:28:47 > 0:28:49about what things could mean
0:28:49 > 0:28:51without her getting quite cross with me.
0:28:51 > 0:28:55The dads are slowly getting Tamsin to open up, but they're concerned
0:28:55 > 0:28:58she doesn't talk to anyone at home.
0:28:58 > 0:29:03We talked about an open line of communication with our kids.
0:29:03 > 0:29:06- Have you ever sat your mother down...- I've spoken to her about it, yeah.
0:29:06 > 0:29:09In a calm, rational fashion, or did you yell?
0:29:09 > 0:29:10No. I cried.
0:29:10 > 0:29:15There has to be someone that you trust enough to help you.
0:29:15 > 0:29:17I don't trust anyone fully.
0:29:17 > 0:29:24Honey, it's through talking that you're going to figure out the answers.
0:29:24 > 0:29:29- It's through talking... - I can't talk about it. It just hurts so much to talk about it.
0:29:29 > 0:29:31If Tamsin can let down her barriers
0:29:31 > 0:29:36and sit down with her mom and discuss this
0:29:36 > 0:29:40with the idea that her mom isn't going to condemn her,
0:29:40 > 0:29:41I think that is the point.
0:29:41 > 0:29:44I think she's afraid of being condemned.
0:29:44 > 0:29:48Disturbed by Tamsin's ignorance of what she's taking,
0:29:48 > 0:29:51Scott and Joe decide to do their own research on Meow Meow.
0:29:51 > 0:29:52Meow Meow, here.
0:29:52 > 0:29:55"Its intended effects for recreational use
0:29:55 > 0:29:59"are similar to those derived from speed, ecstasy and cocaine.
0:29:59 > 0:30:03"It is thought to be used by children as young as nine.
0:30:03 > 0:30:06"Side effects are thought to include
0:30:06 > 0:30:12"nosebleeds, burning mouth and throat, headaches, nausea,
0:30:12 > 0:30:17"high blood pressure, teeth grinding, joint pain, cold or blue fingers,
0:30:17 > 0:30:20"anxiety, panic attacks, agitation,
0:30:20 > 0:30:28"paranoia, heart palpitations, insomnia, weight loss, and memory problems."
0:30:28 > 0:30:32Now, after reading that paragraph,
0:30:32 > 0:30:36I don't think I'd be ordering any of this stuff.
0:30:41 > 0:30:46Back at the deli, Wes has been moved off toilet duty...
0:30:46 > 0:30:49Is it all right if I have a bit of soda, please?
0:30:49 > 0:30:54..and taken a shine to waitress Britney.
0:30:54 > 0:30:57She is cute, yeah.
0:30:57 > 0:30:59She's got a boyfriend and stuff.
0:30:59 > 0:31:01So why are you over here?
0:31:01 > 0:31:06Erm, basically I need to get responsibility and grow up,
0:31:06 > 0:31:09because I'm going to be a dad.
0:31:09 > 0:31:11- You're going to be a dad?- Yeah.
0:31:11 > 0:31:14- I'm going to have a daughter. - Well, congratulations.
0:31:16 > 0:31:20I take it you're not even with the girl, but...
0:31:20 > 0:31:24- I feel like you've just got to deal with it.- I'm happy the way I live now,
0:31:24 > 0:31:29and I don't want to change it, because I enjoy life and stuff.
0:31:29 > 0:31:32And I feel like with this responsibility and stuff, it's...
0:31:32 > 0:31:37Yeah, but then you should have been being responsible in other ways when you were out partying.
0:31:37 > 0:31:42If you weren't partying so hard you would have remembered to use protection,
0:31:42 > 0:31:44you wouldn't have a baby.
0:31:44 > 0:31:48- You can't blame her.- She told me she couldn't get pregnant.
0:31:48 > 0:31:52Britney is not falling for Wesley's Mancunian charm.
0:31:52 > 0:31:59I just feel, as a person, if you don't respect your ex-girlfriend and the situation that you're in,
0:31:59 > 0:32:02- no other girl's ever going to respect you.- Yeah.
0:32:02 > 0:32:06I wouldn't date you, because I feel like you wouldn't respect me.
0:32:06 > 0:32:10What if something happened with me? You'd be the same way.
0:32:10 > 0:32:11- Know what I mean?- Yeah.
0:32:11 > 0:32:16- You don't respect the situation you're in, so...- You're a fiery one, aren't you?! Wow.
0:32:16 > 0:32:19Looks like my sex life is over.
0:32:19 > 0:32:20Shit.
0:32:22 > 0:32:26The reality of being a working man is wearing thin.
0:32:26 > 0:32:30I can't take no more, I can't do no more.
0:32:30 > 0:32:31I don't have the energy.
0:32:32 > 0:32:35Exhausted, Wes finishes his shift.
0:32:41 > 0:32:45Back at the house, Scott is taking Tamsin under his wing.
0:32:45 > 0:32:47It's not real hard, trust me.
0:32:47 > 0:32:50- OK.- If you can play a cello, you can drive a car.
0:32:50 > 0:32:55And he has a plan to try and break down Tamsin's barriers.
0:32:55 > 0:32:57When you want to stop, brake.
0:32:57 > 0:33:00- But you don't want to... - Slam on the brake.
0:33:00 > 0:33:04- You don't want to slam on the brake, cos if you do, I'm going through the windshield.- OK.
0:33:04 > 0:33:06I don't want to go through the windshield.
0:33:06 > 0:33:08OK, start the car.
0:33:09 > 0:33:10What way do I turn it?
0:33:10 > 0:33:12ENGINE STARTS
0:33:12 > 0:33:14OK. Put this in drive.
0:33:14 > 0:33:15CAR BLEEPS
0:33:15 > 0:33:18OK. There you go. You're driving!
0:33:19 > 0:33:21OK. It's OK.
0:33:21 > 0:33:23OK, now you want to stay on the road.
0:33:23 > 0:33:25Stay on the road.
0:33:25 > 0:33:28'It's a locked wall that she's put herself behind,'
0:33:28 > 0:33:34and by doing one-on-one activities with her, it's someone showing an interest in her.
0:33:34 > 0:33:35Slow, slow, slow.
0:33:35 > 0:33:38'That's very important.'
0:33:38 > 0:33:41OK, always look behind. Slow, slow, slow.
0:33:41 > 0:33:44Put your foot on the brake. You're going to hit a tree. Stop, stop.
0:33:44 > 0:33:46There's a car coming.
0:33:46 > 0:33:47It's OK. Just swing around.
0:33:47 > 0:33:49No, you went too much.
0:33:50 > 0:33:52You went too much, honey. OK.
0:33:52 > 0:33:56There, perfect. That's driving.
0:33:58 > 0:34:00- You did it there, didn't you?- Yeah.
0:34:00 > 0:34:02Yeah, see?
0:34:02 > 0:34:04I'm going to go take some blood pressure medicine!
0:34:08 > 0:34:11I have a little question, a little favour to ask you.
0:34:11 > 0:34:17What would you think if because of everything that you and I have gone through this week
0:34:17 > 0:34:20and everything that we have done,
0:34:20 > 0:34:26how would you feel about giving your mom a call, and talking to your mom for a few minutes?
0:34:26 > 0:34:29I think she'd like to hear from you,
0:34:29 > 0:34:31and I think that would be good if you called your mom.
0:34:31 > 0:34:33- You know, just talk to your mom. - Yeah.- OK?
0:34:36 > 0:34:42The purpose of giving a driving lesson to Tamsin was...
0:34:42 > 0:34:45I was showing her I trust her.
0:34:45 > 0:34:48I trusted her with my prized possession - my car.
0:34:49 > 0:34:54Scott believes that if he trusts Tamsin, Tamsin will learn to trust him.
0:34:54 > 0:34:56Four-four.
0:34:56 > 0:34:58Hi, is this Mrs Cole?
0:34:58 > 0:35:01Hi, Mrs Cole, this is Scott Loper.
0:35:01 > 0:35:05How lovely to hear you. I just want to say thank you so, so much for doing this.
0:35:05 > 0:35:09- Oh, you're quite welcome. I've got a little surprise for you, and here she is.- OK. Thank you.
0:35:09 > 0:35:12- Hello?- 'Tamsin!'
0:35:12 > 0:35:13Hiya. You all right?
0:35:13 > 0:35:16Hello, darling. I'm fine. How are you?
0:35:16 > 0:35:18I'm good. What are you doing?
0:35:18 > 0:35:21Oh, I'm just all excited because I'm speaking to you.
0:35:21 > 0:35:25OK, Tams, so tell me. What have you got to tell me? How's it going?
0:35:25 > 0:35:27Fine.
0:35:27 > 0:35:29Do you want to tell me some things?
0:35:29 > 0:35:31I can't do this.
0:35:31 > 0:35:34What's wrong?
0:35:34 > 0:35:36Mrs Cole?
0:35:36 > 0:35:38Has she gone?
0:35:38 > 0:35:39Yes.
0:35:39 > 0:35:41She ran off.
0:35:43 > 0:35:44She's hung up and gone off.
0:35:44 > 0:35:47- Tamsin.- Yeah?
0:35:47 > 0:35:49- What happened?- I just can't do this.
0:35:49 > 0:35:52- Honey, open the door for me.- No.
0:35:52 > 0:35:55Oh, come on. Don't do this, please.
0:35:57 > 0:36:01I wanted you to just talk to her and say "hi" to her.
0:36:01 > 0:36:05But she asked me, she said, "What have you got to say to me?"
0:36:16 > 0:36:20There's no helping her if she...
0:36:20 > 0:36:23If she can't get past...
0:36:23 > 0:36:27She cannot get past the wall she's built around herself.
0:36:29 > 0:36:33Although Tamsin is unwilling to talk to her mum,
0:36:33 > 0:36:35Scott refuses to give up.
0:36:35 > 0:36:38It's a blame game. You're blaming each other.
0:36:38 > 0:36:43That's why I said to you... What you simply need to say to her is,
0:36:43 > 0:36:49"I need you to forgive me, I need to forgive you."
0:36:49 > 0:36:53And then you open a door of communication with her.
0:36:53 > 0:36:58And there is no, "You're a drug addict, and you're this, and you're that,"
0:36:58 > 0:37:02and, "Well, OK, I'm a drug addict, but what are you?"
0:37:02 > 0:37:03Do you understand?
0:37:03 > 0:37:07Because really, it's not like you committed murder.
0:37:07 > 0:37:10People make mistakes, we're not infallible.
0:37:10 > 0:37:13We screw up.
0:37:13 > 0:37:17I think it's really important that they're not being angry or anything like that
0:37:17 > 0:37:19and they're just helping,
0:37:19 > 0:37:22cos it kind of makes you not hate yourself for it.
0:37:25 > 0:37:30I was hoping that Tamsin would be able to say to her mother,
0:37:30 > 0:37:31"You know, I have problems."
0:37:31 > 0:37:35That "I want your help."
0:37:35 > 0:37:38That's what I was hoping she would say,
0:37:38 > 0:37:41but Tamsin didn't.
0:37:49 > 0:37:52DOG BARKING
0:37:52 > 0:37:56OK, we're ready. The kids can eat.
0:37:58 > 0:38:04Today, Wesley has decided to tell Scott and Joe the real reason why he's been sent to America.
0:38:06 > 0:38:10I found out a couple of months ago that I'm going to be a dad.
0:38:10 > 0:38:13- You're going to be a dad?- Yeah.
0:38:17 > 0:38:20- So are you looking forward to being a father?- Not really.
0:38:20 > 0:38:22- Not really?- No.
0:38:22 > 0:38:25Just trying to push it to one side and just not think about it,
0:38:25 > 0:38:27and just think about myself and have a good time.
0:38:27 > 0:38:30- You don't want to think about it? - No.
0:38:30 > 0:38:38But you know what, I can't imagine a bigger responsibility than being a father to someone.
0:38:38 > 0:38:41I know, but I feel like at this age I shouldn't have any responsibilities.
0:38:41 > 0:38:45I can't even look after myself, let alone a kid.
0:38:45 > 0:38:49My feeling really is, you've done this,
0:38:49 > 0:38:53then you need to figure out and step up and become a man.
0:38:53 > 0:38:58The best thing to think about now is, "What is the child's future going to be?"
0:38:58 > 0:38:59But I didn't choose it, though.
0:38:59 > 0:39:05Well, you did, by having sexual intercourse without proper protection. You did choose it.
0:39:05 > 0:39:10In a family made up of adopted kids, Wes's attitude has not gone down well.
0:39:10 > 0:39:13Kind of makes me angry because if you don't take responsibility,
0:39:13 > 0:39:16there's a lot of stuff that can happen to your kid,
0:39:16 > 0:39:18and it can ruin people's lives. Especially that kid.
0:39:18 > 0:39:22'He doesn't take any responsibility for his actions.'
0:39:22 > 0:39:27He doesn't take any responsibility, apparently, for anything at all,
0:39:27 > 0:39:31and that kind of attitude really isn't going to wash.
0:39:31 > 0:39:36Not with us, and certainly not with the future baby.
0:39:41 > 0:39:44It's Wesley's second day at the diner.
0:39:44 > 0:39:48With Joe's words ringing in his ears, he's started to knuckle down.
0:39:52 > 0:39:54Where would you need a bin?
0:39:54 > 0:39:57His improved attitude has not gone unnoticed.
0:39:57 > 0:40:05Listen, what we're going to do now is recognise that I'm real pleased
0:40:05 > 0:40:10with your attention to detail, and initiatives, and things I've asked you to do.
0:40:10 > 0:40:14So what we've decided to do is take the balance of the day,
0:40:14 > 0:40:18and promote you to engaging with the customers.
0:40:18 > 0:40:22So look at this, this is something that you've earned. All right, boss?
0:40:22 > 0:40:25- All right.- Congratulations. - Thank you.
0:40:25 > 0:40:26Gosh.
0:40:26 > 0:40:29Yeah, today's going a lot better now.
0:40:29 > 0:40:33It's something I've always wanted to do, so I want to see if I'm any good at it.
0:40:33 > 0:40:38Promoted to waiter, Wes needs to maintain a high standard of service.
0:40:38 > 0:40:40- Hello.- Hello.- You all right?
0:40:40 > 0:40:44- I'm fine, how are you? - I'm OK, thanks. What would you all like to drink?
0:40:44 > 0:40:46- A coke, please.- A coke.
0:40:46 > 0:40:49- Same for me.- Same.
0:40:49 > 0:40:50- Water.- Water.
0:40:50 > 0:40:53- Does the little one want a drink? - No, she's fine.
0:40:53 > 0:40:56- Do you want it from the fountain or the case?- I want fountain.
0:40:56 > 0:40:57- I want the case.- OK.
0:40:57 > 0:41:00I think you did really good. Really good for the first time.
0:41:00 > 0:41:04- Do they get refills on this? - Yes. Three refills.
0:41:04 > 0:41:07All right. You're going to take these out.
0:41:07 > 0:41:10- Take it back out to the guy in the green shirt.- There you go, sir.
0:41:10 > 0:41:13- You're doing a fine job. - Cheers. Thank you. Thanks.
0:41:13 > 0:41:18It's been a big jump, from cleaning bins
0:41:18 > 0:41:21to being out the front and interacting with people and taking orders.
0:41:21 > 0:41:25'It's good when someone throws something at you and you've not done it before,
0:41:25 > 0:41:30'and you have to step up your game, and you have to just go straight into it,'
0:41:30 > 0:41:33and you have to forget about the nerves and try your best.
0:41:33 > 0:41:35I've enjoyed it, yeah. It's been good.
0:41:38 > 0:41:40- Thank you.- There you go.- Thank you.
0:41:40 > 0:41:41Enjoy it.
0:41:41 > 0:41:43- Thank you.- All right.
0:41:43 > 0:41:44Order in!
0:41:46 > 0:41:48- Got that part down! - He's got that part down.
0:41:50 > 0:41:53- OK, boss. It's been good having you. - Brilliant.
0:41:53 > 0:41:57- I hope the experience was good for you. - I've loved it, every minute of it.
0:41:57 > 0:41:59- Your wages.- Oh, thanks very much.
0:41:59 > 0:42:02- Enjoy yourself, enjoy the rest of your visit in the country.- Oh, brilliant.
0:42:02 > 0:42:05Thanks for letting us come and work here. I've really enjoyed it.
0:42:05 > 0:42:0930, 50, 70, 80, 85,
0:42:09 > 0:42:1086.
0:42:10 > 0:42:12I feel like an adult, I really do.
0:42:12 > 0:42:13I feel like...
0:42:13 > 0:42:16you know, this is something that you need to do.
0:42:16 > 0:42:20Instead of blowing away and getting pissed and stuff,
0:42:20 > 0:42:22I want to put it to good use,
0:42:22 > 0:42:27and buy something which I'll feel good about and be proud of.
0:42:31 > 0:42:32Quality!
0:42:35 > 0:42:39Scott and Tamsin have headed downtown for some quality time together.
0:42:41 > 0:42:43Well, we are here.
0:42:43 > 0:42:46- We're doing a little father-daughter type of thing.- Oh, that's wonderful.
0:42:46 > 0:42:48And then I'm going to tickle her later.
0:42:48 > 0:42:53My daughter makes me do this all the time. This is a nice time, cos it's quiet.
0:42:53 > 0:42:56- Now, it's your mom that's from Australia, right?- Yeah.
0:42:56 > 0:43:00- OK. And so your dad is from England? - He's English, yeah.
0:43:00 > 0:43:04I think it's 13 or 14 years ago my dad got kidney failure.
0:43:04 > 0:43:06Wow. Wow.
0:43:06 > 0:43:09- That's got to be a horrible thing to go though.- Yeah.
0:43:09 > 0:43:12Did you see a change when he went on the medication at all?
0:43:12 > 0:43:16When he has the last transplant, yeah, his face swelled up a lot.
0:43:16 > 0:43:19Yeah. He's had a transplant before?
0:43:19 > 0:43:20Yeah. He's had three.
0:43:20 > 0:43:22So I guess he can't work, right?
0:43:22 > 0:43:25He's been working the whole time, but he's better now.
0:43:25 > 0:43:27My mum gave him a kidney in February.
0:43:27 > 0:43:30I imagine it's really, really stressful on your mom.
0:43:30 > 0:43:33They say that also recuperation time
0:43:33 > 0:43:38is a lot longer when you give one than when you are actually getting one.
0:43:38 > 0:43:41Yeah, it was weird having them both ill, cos I'm not used to it.
0:43:41 > 0:43:44- My mum never gets ill.- You ran the house, didn't you? I know.
0:43:44 > 0:43:47- What was your childhood like? - My childhood was different.
0:43:47 > 0:43:49A lot different than yours.
0:43:49 > 0:43:54I was adopted. Badly, badly treated.
0:43:54 > 0:43:58I was burned, I had my jaw broken with a lead pipe.
0:43:58 > 0:44:01And what saved me was I told.
0:44:01 > 0:44:06I told what was going on, and I was put into a national registry,
0:44:06 > 0:44:08and I ended up here.
0:44:08 > 0:44:12I gave my parents a lot of grief for a long time.
0:44:12 > 0:44:16But my parents stuck by me, and they still stick by me.
0:44:16 > 0:44:19I love my mom. My mom was very dear to me.
0:44:19 > 0:44:22- That's why with your mom, talk to your mom.- Yeah.
0:44:22 > 0:44:25You have no idea. You have no idea.
0:44:29 > 0:44:31Now try to get by!
0:44:31 > 0:44:35'I just feel bad that I've taken it all for granted and not appreciated them enough'
0:44:35 > 0:44:38and not said thank you enough for them being there
0:44:38 > 0:44:42and supporting me through everything and every decision I've made.
0:44:47 > 0:44:50With only a few months until the birth of his baby,
0:44:50 > 0:44:53Joe has a special job for Wes.
0:44:53 > 0:44:54Where are we going?
0:44:54 > 0:44:57We're going to go down to one of the neighbours' homes.
0:44:57 > 0:45:02They have some odd jobs and chores that they would like you to take care of for them.
0:45:02 > 0:45:06And I told them that you, given your newfound work ethic,
0:45:06 > 0:45:08would be thrilled.
0:45:08 > 0:45:11- Well, everyone else seems to be having...- Fun?
0:45:11 > 0:45:13- Fun, yeah.- Yeah. Don't you hate that?
0:45:13 > 0:45:15- Yeah, missing that. - You know what that's called?
0:45:15 > 0:45:17- What?- Adult responsibility.
0:45:17 > 0:45:19- All right?- Yeah.
0:45:19 > 0:45:21Yeah. It's the new you, Wes.
0:45:21 > 0:45:25- Hello.- How are you? I'm Andrea.
0:45:25 > 0:45:28I actually asked you to come over so you can help me with my son.
0:45:28 > 0:45:31He is 14 months old,
0:45:31 > 0:45:32and his name's Trey.
0:45:32 > 0:45:35- Wow.- Now, these are all his toys.
0:45:35 > 0:45:40I'm actually going to make him lunch if you could keep him occupied for a minute.
0:45:40 > 0:45:42Yeah!
0:45:42 > 0:45:46Go on! Go get it! Go on!
0:45:46 > 0:45:49Go on!
0:45:49 > 0:45:50What's that you've got there?
0:45:50 > 0:45:52Ooh, we'll build something.
0:45:52 > 0:45:54Want to put it together? Yeah.
0:45:54 > 0:45:57WES LAUGHS
0:45:57 > 0:46:00I'm just overwhelmed. He's a really cute kid and stuff.
0:46:00 > 0:46:02Whizz-oh!
0:46:02 > 0:46:04Oh!
0:46:04 > 0:46:06You can feed him lunch.
0:46:06 > 0:46:07Er...
0:46:07 > 0:46:09THEY LAUGH
0:46:10 > 0:46:12- Yeah.- Look at that.
0:46:12 > 0:46:15"Chicks dig me." Yeah!
0:46:15 > 0:46:18So you kind of just give him a spoonful, and he'll open up.
0:46:18 > 0:46:20Oh! Look at that.
0:46:20 > 0:46:23Don't worry if the bib gets messy or his mouth gets messy.
0:46:23 > 0:46:25That's part of the whole thing.
0:46:25 > 0:46:27You like yoghurt?
0:46:27 > 0:46:29Look at that. Whoa.
0:46:31 > 0:46:35- So I hear that you're going to have a baby soon.- Yeah, I am, yeah.
0:46:35 > 0:46:37- Three months.- Three months, wow.
0:46:37 > 0:46:39So it's scary stuff.
0:46:39 > 0:46:41Yeah, it is. It's scary but it's exciting.
0:46:41 > 0:46:45- I know this one's a really nice kid, so...- Yeah.
0:46:45 > 0:46:47Look, we're done.
0:46:47 > 0:46:49Oh, good job!
0:46:49 > 0:46:51All gone.
0:46:51 > 0:46:53- It's good fun.- Yeah. Yeah.
0:46:56 > 0:46:58Wow.
0:46:59 > 0:47:03It's like... Seeing him pick up the drink, and running around...
0:47:05 > 0:47:08He's just a little person, really.
0:47:10 > 0:47:12It's just a nice feeling, it is.
0:47:35 > 0:47:39It just hit me, just seeing him pick up his own bottle,
0:47:39 > 0:47:42and smile and wave his little self.
0:47:42 > 0:47:45That'll be me in a few years' time, so...
0:47:47 > 0:47:52I just want to do the best I can, be a good dad.
0:47:53 > 0:47:56It's not wanting to be a part of my daughter's life at the beginning,
0:47:56 > 0:48:01I'm just thinking about myself and that.
0:48:01 > 0:48:07Just selfish. And I feel guilty, and the baby's mum, I feel guilty.
0:48:07 > 0:48:10My family and that. And...
0:48:10 > 0:48:13I feel guilty cos I could've done a lot more from day one and...
0:48:13 > 0:48:18I could've been there and... been more a part of things.
0:48:19 > 0:48:23And I'm just grateful that it's...
0:48:23 > 0:48:26It's, you know, not too late.
0:48:27 > 0:48:31Wes decides to go shopping with his hard-earned dollars.
0:48:31 > 0:48:36For once, he's spending his cash on someone other than himself.
0:48:42 > 0:48:44- Good luck with your daughter. - Thanks.
0:48:44 > 0:48:48And enjoy her, cos guess what? They grow fast - real quick.
0:48:48 > 0:48:52- Cheers. Thanks for everything. - Thank you. Good luck to you.
0:49:03 > 0:49:08The British teenagers' time in New Jersey has come to an end.
0:49:08 > 0:49:10I truly hope that Wesley will be a good dad.
0:49:10 > 0:49:16I think he realises now that he needs to put aside his immaturity
0:49:16 > 0:49:19and get on about being a man.
0:49:19 > 0:49:21See youse all soon, yeah?
0:49:21 > 0:49:23The family's just amazing and they're just full of joy.
0:49:23 > 0:49:26'They've been through so much, they just know how to work as a team
0:49:26 > 0:49:29'and be together and be there for each other and help out.'
0:49:29 > 0:49:31Take care, man.
0:49:31 > 0:49:35- Look after yourself, yeah?- I'll miss you, man.- Going to miss you.
0:49:35 > 0:49:39But Scott has an unexpected proposal for Tamsin.
0:49:39 > 0:49:43'My fear is that within three hours of Tamsin returning home,
0:49:43 > 0:49:45'she'll have her mom drive her to Brighton
0:49:45 > 0:49:47'and she'll be with her friends,
0:49:47 > 0:49:50'and it will start all over again. The drugs,'
0:49:50 > 0:49:53the partying and nothing has been accomplished.
0:49:53 > 0:49:58Because Tamsin is going to do whatever Tamsin can do to run away.
0:49:58 > 0:50:00Now, I called you in here for a reason.
0:50:00 > 0:50:02Mm.
0:50:03 > 0:50:06How would you feel about staying here...
0:50:06 > 0:50:08for a couple more weeks with me?
0:50:08 > 0:50:10I'd love to.
0:50:10 > 0:50:11- Would you?- Yeah.
0:50:11 > 0:50:14We would love to have you stay.
0:50:14 > 0:50:17I'm going to teach you to communicate with your mom and your dad.
0:50:17 > 0:50:20I promised you last night, I would be behind you.
0:50:20 > 0:50:22You're kind of like mine!
0:50:24 > 0:50:25Hi, Mum!
0:50:25 > 0:50:29May I stay in America for a little bit longer?
0:50:29 > 0:50:30Tamsin, of course you can.
0:50:30 > 0:50:34- 'Will you promise to stay in touch with me, darling?' - I'll call you every day.
0:50:34 > 0:50:38- OK. That sounds good to me. - As long as you don't cry. - I'm trying not to.
0:50:38 > 0:50:41- OK.- Dad and I just want you to know we love you dearly.
0:50:41 > 0:50:43I love you all very much.
0:50:43 > 0:50:46If you can talk to me, you can talk to her.
0:50:48 > 0:50:51- Thank you so much. - You're welcome, honey.
0:50:51 > 0:50:53'It is going to be hard. I am going to miss home a lot'
0:50:53 > 0:50:55but it's needed to stay here
0:50:55 > 0:51:03because I do need a bit more time and...I'm really glad I've been given the opportunity.
0:51:03 > 0:51:07Tamsin! I can't believe I'm not going home with you.
0:51:08 > 0:51:10- I'm going to miss hugging you. - I'll miss you.
0:51:11 > 0:51:13This is it!
0:51:15 > 0:51:16Don't party too hard.
0:51:16 > 0:51:18I won't.
0:51:19 > 0:51:21Does the case go in the back or the side?
0:51:21 > 0:51:23- In the back. - 'Joe and Scott have inspired me.'
0:51:23 > 0:51:25I want to be the best dad I can be.
0:51:25 > 0:51:29You're amazing. You're both amazing, honestly.
0:51:29 > 0:51:31- You be a good boy.- Thank you.
0:51:31 > 0:51:34You're brilliant dads, absolutely brilliant.
0:51:34 > 0:51:37You are going to be a brilliant dad too.
0:51:44 > 0:51:51Joe and Scott have helped me by just being there and just guiding me and just giving me good advice.
0:51:51 > 0:51:57They're very blunt and you know, say how it is and what's going to happen and they made me more prepared.
0:52:07 > 0:52:09Hi, Mum.
0:52:09 > 0:52:14- Aw! I missed you.- I missed you.- Aw.
0:52:14 > 0:52:17Aw, these are beautiful. Proper American clothes. That's cute.
0:52:17 > 0:52:22These are gorgeous. Did you get satisfaction of buying this out of your own money?
0:52:22 > 0:52:23I did. I did. I wanted to.
0:52:23 > 0:52:26- So you've learned a lot from it then.- I have, actually. Really have.
0:52:26 > 0:52:29- Within a week, you've learned all this?- Honestly.
0:52:29 > 0:52:32It was there in the back of my head but it just needed pushing.
0:52:35 > 0:52:40Two weeks later, and Tamsin is finally ready to head home.
0:52:40 > 0:52:42- 'It's really nice of you to call.' - Yeah.
0:52:42 > 0:52:45Tamsin has been in daily contact with her mum and dad.
0:52:45 > 0:52:50- 'Have you turned into the Cookie Monster now?'- Yep.- 'Cookies!'
0:52:50 > 0:52:54I've definitely learned a lot about being honest and communicating with my mum.
0:52:54 > 0:52:57I'm wonderful and I got you to talk.
0:52:57 > 0:52:59- Mmm.- Aw!
0:52:59 > 0:53:02'If you can get a child to trust you enough to talk to you,'
0:53:02 > 0:53:03that's the key.
0:53:03 > 0:53:06'You have to make them feel safe.'
0:53:06 > 0:53:10And you have to make them feel that you're not going to condemn them for what they've done.
0:53:10 > 0:53:13I feel really positive about everything. I just...
0:53:13 > 0:53:16I don't know, I feel like I've finally got my life on track.
0:53:16 > 0:53:19'I feel so much happier because I know that'
0:53:19 > 0:53:22when I go home, I won't be sad because I'll be able to have
0:53:22 > 0:53:25a relationship with my family that I haven't had before.
0:53:25 > 0:53:30'I want to make my mum proud of me. I've got an amazing family...'
0:53:30 > 0:53:34and shouldn't treat them like shit or take it for granted.
0:53:34 > 0:53:38Tamsin will not be travelling alone.
0:53:38 > 0:53:41Am I looking forward to going to England?
0:53:41 > 0:53:43Uh... Hell, yeah.
0:53:43 > 0:53:47Take care, take good care of Tamsin.
0:53:47 > 0:53:51Tell Tamsin's mom and dad I said "hi", all right?
0:53:51 > 0:53:54Oh, sweetheart. Goodbye.
0:54:02 > 0:54:04It's been three weeks since
0:54:04 > 0:54:07Tamsin walked away from her mum at the airport.
0:54:24 > 0:54:27TAMSIN SOBS
0:54:33 > 0:54:34Thank you so much for everything.
0:54:36 > 0:54:37Aw.
0:54:38 > 0:54:44Tamsin is finally able to face her mother and tell her the truth.
0:54:44 > 0:54:49I know that when I was taking drugs, my behaviour at home was changing a lot,
0:54:49 > 0:54:54but it was just because I was just having fun...
0:54:54 > 0:54:55and...
0:54:55 > 0:54:58the bad side of it I was taking out on you.
0:54:58 > 0:55:01I am really sorry for that.
0:55:01 > 0:55:03I do realise now what it did to me.
0:55:04 > 0:55:06And...
0:55:06 > 0:55:08I'm never going to take Meow again.
0:55:08 > 0:55:10That's a big relief to hear.
0:55:12 > 0:55:15- I love you.- I'm really proud you're my daughter as well.
0:55:15 > 0:55:19- Sorry I put you through so much. - I'm sorry it's been hard for you.
0:55:19 > 0:55:22'Hearing Tamsin talk about having taken drugs
0:55:22 > 0:55:23'is a relief to hear, really,'
0:55:23 > 0:55:28because then suddenly everything completely slots into place and makes sense.
0:55:28 > 0:55:31I'm so proud of you.
0:55:31 > 0:55:32Thank you.
0:55:34 > 0:55:37'The step that she made today was...monumental.
0:55:37 > 0:55:41'For her to be able to say, "This is who I am,
0:55:41 > 0:55:43'"this is what I've been doing,"'
0:55:43 > 0:55:46really showed a lot of guts.
0:55:46 > 0:55:48- You did that on your own.- You did.
0:55:48 > 0:55:51- You did that on your own. - Oh, don't cry.
0:55:51 > 0:55:52Thank you.
0:55:55 > 0:55:57Next time on The World's Strictest Parents...
0:55:57 > 0:55:59- No cigarettes...- That's fine!
0:55:59 > 0:56:01Little rich girl Nicole Benham...
0:56:01 > 0:56:02Don't snatch!
0:56:02 > 0:56:04..and lazy layabout Nathan Ballance...
0:56:04 > 0:56:07- Used wrappers. - Used wrappers, not condoms.
0:56:07 > 0:56:09..get new parents in Barbados.
0:56:09 > 0:56:14- I am 16...- You are not in the UK, you are in Barbados!
0:56:14 > 0:56:16I told you this morning!
0:56:16 > 0:56:20You are a woman, stand your ground! You cuss at me, stand your ground!
0:56:20 > 0:56:24- I'm not going to stand and argue with that psychotic bitch. - I'd like to take the two of them
0:56:24 > 0:56:27and give both of them a hard slap around their heads.
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