0:00:02 > 0:00:07All across Britain, teenagers are out of control.
0:00:07 > 0:00:10I was brought here on this earth to party.
0:00:10 > 0:00:13And parents don't know which way to turn.
0:00:13 > 0:00:16She's a very beautiful, 16-year-old pain in the arse.
0:00:16 > 0:00:22- Everyone in Brighton is just high on life.- He needs to sort his life out, he is lost.
0:00:22 > 0:00:24I am what I am and if you don't like it, then jog on.
0:00:24 > 0:00:31This year, 20 wayward British teens volunteered to experience
0:00:31 > 0:00:35firm discipline and strict rules in the far corners of the world.
0:00:35 > 0:00:40- You are not in the UK, you are in Barbados!- Get off me bruv, what are you doing?
0:00:40 > 0:00:44You are not 16, you are six years old.
0:00:44 > 0:00:46I'm not your friend, I'm your parent.
0:00:46 > 0:00:50- Stand your ground! - I'm going home, bro.
0:00:50 > 0:00:54This is our rule, if you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it.
0:00:54 > 0:01:01Tonight we find out if their experiences made any lasting impressions on their lives back home.
0:01:01 > 0:01:07We don't argue now which is a really weird thing after nine years of straight arguing.
0:01:07 > 0:01:10It made me want to be a better dad and a better person.
0:01:10 > 0:01:14I thought the full family was just out of their mind.
0:01:14 > 0:01:20We don't argue at all, don't even bicker, it's a mother and daughter relationship, how it should be.
0:01:29 > 0:01:36Back in August, 16-year-old Sevda Huseyin was rebelling against everything.
0:01:36 > 0:01:40People say my attitude stinks, but at the end of the day, I love my attitude, it's who I am.
0:01:40 > 0:01:43She does like to put on the impression
0:01:43 > 0:01:46that she is kind of tough and hard, but then she is.
0:01:46 > 0:01:49- I got in a fight with that shopkeeper.- Yeah, so did I. He's an arsehole.
0:01:49 > 0:01:53Everyone has a guard up around here. I had a fight in Wood Green,
0:01:53 > 0:01:57I had a fight in Finsbury Park, had a, ah, everywhere, man.
0:01:57 > 0:01:59I can't even remember half of them, to be honest.
0:01:59 > 0:02:03Sevda has dropped out of school without a single GCSE.
0:02:03 > 0:02:05School was shit.
0:02:05 > 0:02:07It was shit. Hate school.
0:02:07 > 0:02:10You've got no education behind you, no nothing behind you. Nothing.
0:02:10 > 0:02:15- I can't be bothered, Mum, to hear it again.- I know you can't be bothered. - It just does my head in.
0:02:15 > 0:02:18She just doesn't care. It just really,
0:02:18 > 0:02:21something shading over her, she just doesn't care.
0:02:23 > 0:02:28Over in Sussex, 17-year-old Andrew Harwood thought he was a rock star.
0:02:28 > 0:02:34Average day, wake up midday after an hour or so of lying in bed, smoking, a couple of drinks,
0:02:34 > 0:02:40head back to my girlfriend's house, start drinking, smoke, meet up till like five in the morning.
0:02:40 > 0:02:41On average that's a pretty good day.
0:02:41 > 0:02:45Andrew was a promising student, but blew his education.
0:02:45 > 0:02:49I can't even remember how many GCSEs I've got, like three or something.
0:02:49 > 0:02:54I've wasted about 120 grand of my parents' money in private school.
0:02:54 > 0:02:59With all the pain in my heart I must say that I am highly disappointed.
0:02:59 > 0:03:03Recently separated, Mum found it hard dealing with Andrew by herself.
0:03:03 > 0:03:06Make me feel like I have done a crappy job as a parent.
0:03:06 > 0:03:11I'm just terrified as a parent, I am honestly facing something that is frightening me.
0:03:11 > 0:03:13He's not going anywhere.
0:03:13 > 0:03:16Masses of potential wasted.
0:03:17 > 0:03:23The teens travelled 5,000 miles to San Antonio, Texas, to live with the Frazees,
0:03:23 > 0:03:28a deeply religious family with deeply conservative beliefs.
0:03:28 > 0:03:33When our children prove to be trustworthy, we give them more freedoms.
0:03:33 > 0:03:37When they prove to be untrustworthy, we take those freedoms and privileges away.
0:03:37 > 0:03:41As we were approaching the house it was...
0:03:41 > 0:03:45Me and Andrew were just so nervous.
0:03:45 > 0:03:46Ah, they're there.
0:03:46 > 0:03:51Oh, my God. Home sweet home. Joke. It was like oh, my God, this is really happening.
0:03:51 > 0:03:54Just seeing them there like,
0:03:54 > 0:03:55I swear I was having a panic attack.
0:03:55 > 0:04:00I don't think my heart has ever gone that fast in my life as we were just pulling up.
0:04:00 > 0:04:03- I'm Randy.- Hi, Randy.
0:04:03 > 0:04:05We're the mom and dad of the family.
0:04:05 > 0:04:08- Andrew.- Hi Andrew, nice to meet you. Welcome to Texas. - Thank you very much.
0:04:08 > 0:04:12Right from the off, the Frazees made clear what was important to them.
0:04:12 > 0:04:17If you're going to look at any of them as the biggest of all, this next one is really it.
0:04:17 > 0:04:19It is not just lying, it's trust.
0:04:19 > 0:04:23Trust is the ace for us.
0:04:23 > 0:04:27The Frazees and trust. Oh, my God.
0:04:27 > 0:04:32If you are trustworthy, you get more privileges.
0:04:32 > 0:04:36If you prove to be untrustworthy then you'll see the other side of this,
0:04:36 > 0:04:38where for your sake we are buckling down.
0:04:38 > 0:04:41But their key rule fell on deaf ears.
0:04:41 > 0:04:43Shh.
0:04:43 > 0:04:47Rozanne was coming to check my room.
0:04:49 > 0:04:53She looked in all the wrong places and I was just smiling at her like, you idiot.
0:04:55 > 0:04:59But trying to smoke her secret stash did not go well.
0:04:59 > 0:05:02- There is a cigarette in there, I'm assuming.- No, I need to go toilet.
0:05:02 > 0:05:05OK. We have a bathroom right over here. No, Sevda, Sevda.
0:05:05 > 0:05:08No, I need the toilet. Get off me, bruv. What are you doing? What are you doing?
0:05:08 > 0:05:10- We have another bathroom. - Why are you touching me for?
0:05:10 > 0:05:15I thought "What? Like, do you know what, forget this man, forget this, I can't do it any more."
0:05:15 > 0:05:16We have another bathroom that you can use.
0:05:16 > 0:05:19Why are you touching me for? I am going home, bruv.
0:05:19 > 0:05:21I kind of lost my temper a bit.
0:05:21 > 0:05:24If I hadn't moved from her, I would have hit her or something.
0:05:24 > 0:05:27Open the door man, I am going home, I'm done.
0:05:28 > 0:05:32Go about putting your hands on me, are you stupid? Are you stupid?
0:05:32 > 0:05:33- Dickhead. - SUCKS HER TEETH
0:05:35 > 0:05:39Don't film me bruv, seriously.
0:05:39 > 0:05:43I had a really bad attitude that day, like, thinking of it now,
0:05:43 > 0:05:49I am kind of embarrassed because no-one respects that Sevda.
0:05:49 > 0:05:50Why are you coming here for?
0:05:50 > 0:05:55- Go away!- When you are ready to talk like an adult...- Piss off.
0:05:55 > 0:05:57I was thinking "Oh, my God, she wants me to come in the
0:05:57 > 0:06:00house and lock me my room forever," that's what I thought.
0:06:00 > 0:06:03I should've listened to her though.
0:06:06 > 0:06:11I think it was from like three o'clock to like ten o'clock at night
0:06:11 > 0:06:14I laid on their lawn and I would not go in their house.
0:06:14 > 0:06:15Go away, let me sleep.
0:06:15 > 0:06:21But I knew that this can't go on, I either go home, yeah, and fail,
0:06:21 > 0:06:29and I am not going to be a failure, or I go in there and I apologise.
0:06:29 > 0:06:34And as stubborn as I was, I got up and I walked in that house.
0:06:34 > 0:06:39My legs were literally shaking and I was gritting my teeth going, "Sevda, what are you doing?
0:06:39 > 0:06:45"Where is your pride?" and I was breathing, so I goes, "Hi Rozanne and Randy.
0:06:45 > 0:06:47"Can I talk to you please?"
0:06:49 > 0:06:52Sorry.
0:06:52 > 0:06:56For what exactly? What do you think you did wrong?
0:06:56 > 0:07:00- I lost my temper.- Me, too.
0:07:00 > 0:07:03I accept your apology.
0:07:03 > 0:07:07I'm so stubborn, but I dropped my stubbornness, I really did.
0:07:07 > 0:07:12Just so I wouldn't fail, and that is one thing about the Frazees, if you
0:07:12 > 0:07:17apologise and talk to them, your point comes across more.
0:07:17 > 0:07:24We care about you. We are going to walk with you, and we expect for you to make mistakes
0:07:24 > 0:07:26and start over again.
0:07:26 > 0:07:28That's called forgiveness.
0:07:28 > 0:07:33I was really happy after that. I was so grateful.
0:07:37 > 0:07:41For Andrew, his Texan experience hit home in a very different way.
0:07:41 > 0:07:43Welcome to Prospect Courtyard.
0:07:43 > 0:07:50The Frazees' plan was to make Andrew see just how privileged he was, and to stop him being so self-absorbed.
0:07:50 > 0:07:57This is a facility where we bring people in that traditionally sleep under the bridge, out in the park.
0:07:57 > 0:07:59There are some dangerous individuals so you do have to be careful.
0:07:59 > 0:08:04The first time I went to Haven For Hope, I didn't like it at all.
0:08:04 > 0:08:10I don't mean to sound like a pompous stuck-up little dick, but so ungrateful.
0:08:10 > 0:08:15I despise seeing humans in that sort of condition and state.
0:08:15 > 0:08:20I found it sort of horrible, to be honest. They don't have anything in their eyes.
0:08:20 > 0:08:23There is no spark, no life, you can't see any hope.
0:08:23 > 0:08:25A lot of what you see is fear.
0:08:25 > 0:08:28Other people are not going to do anything about it, that's why we're here.
0:08:28 > 0:08:32I don't know if I can do it.
0:08:32 > 0:08:35At first my attitude towards the homeless people, I was really
0:08:35 > 0:08:42closed minded, but gradually like I had to do the whole confronting them and talking to them, which I hated.
0:08:42 > 0:08:45Like that is the bit I couldn't do.
0:08:45 > 0:08:50When I was where you come from, it is the same way.
0:08:50 > 0:08:51Homeless people, really?
0:08:51 > 0:08:54Hey, let me get a dollar. Man, get a job.
0:08:54 > 0:08:59When you hit that level that they are on, there's no more looking down.
0:08:59 > 0:09:00It's like wow. You know what?
0:09:00 > 0:09:03I've got a whole newfound respects for all these individuals.
0:09:03 > 0:09:07Hey, man. It was cool meeting you.
0:09:07 > 0:09:11It really, really like changed my opinion in the end because I finally
0:09:11 > 0:09:15got to hear like why they were there and, like, their circumstances.
0:09:18 > 0:09:22- It just makes me realise how much of a- BLEEP- I have been!
0:09:22 > 0:09:27- The money I wasted on school could have bought these people a- BLEEP- house!
0:09:28 > 0:09:33You've made some huge progress my friend, all right? I'm proud of you.
0:09:34 > 0:09:38It just changed my mind again on so many points.
0:09:38 > 0:09:43Like so many things I was doing wrong towards like my whole family and my parents and stuff. It...
0:09:45 > 0:09:51For both Andrew and Sevda, the Frazees helped open their eyes to a different way of life.
0:09:51 > 0:09:53We will miss you guys.
0:09:53 > 0:09:56It has been an honour to have you in our home and
0:09:56 > 0:10:00we want you to live life to the full with everything you have in you, OK?
0:10:00 > 0:10:05I was really sad to leave the Frazees, they were so kind
0:10:05 > 0:10:09and caring, just something you don't really get these days.
0:10:11 > 0:10:15They have actually got the biggest heart of gold.
0:10:15 > 0:10:17I swear to God.
0:10:19 > 0:10:21- Bye.- Bye.
0:10:28 > 0:10:34Two months later, and Sevda's life is looking very different.
0:10:34 > 0:10:39I am in college now, studying catering, hospitality.
0:10:39 > 0:10:42I love it, love everyone in my class, they're wonderful.
0:10:42 > 0:10:45It's like I'm going to be successful, I'm going
0:10:45 > 0:10:49to be successful and college is the start of it, it really is.
0:10:49 > 0:10:51I'm delighted she is at college.
0:10:51 > 0:10:55Her eyes have just been opened to the fact that there's
0:10:55 > 0:10:57more to life than Sevda.
0:10:57 > 0:11:01I made a risotto yesterday at college.
0:11:01 > 0:11:05- And the day before you made mushroom soup, was it?- Yeah.
0:11:05 > 0:11:06Might go instead, I'm not sure.
0:11:06 > 0:11:12There's so much more respect there, like, me and my mum get along so much better now.
0:11:12 > 0:11:15Yeah, it's all right, you know.
0:11:15 > 0:11:17Home life now is a lot more relaxed,
0:11:17 > 0:11:20you're not walking round on eggshells with her, you're more...
0:11:20 > 0:11:25You come in and, "Hi Sev, what have you done today?", and, you know, normality.
0:11:25 > 0:11:30Whereas before it would just be "Oh, God, what kind of mood is she in?" or, "Is she even up?"
0:11:30 > 0:11:34- Sev, could you take that washing out and put it in the dryer for me? - Yeah.
0:11:34 > 0:11:36'I ain't got attitude all the time now.'
0:11:36 > 0:11:40I'm more softer, I'm more like considerate of people's feelings.
0:11:42 > 0:11:46I cannot thank the Frazee family enough for what they've done.
0:11:46 > 0:11:48They've sent me back a new girl,
0:11:48 > 0:11:52and my heart is with you, thank you so much.
0:11:54 > 0:11:58People might think "Oh, Sevda, you're not going to do it."
0:11:58 > 0:12:01Watch, watch, please watch.
0:12:01 > 0:12:04I've never been so determined in my life, man.
0:12:04 > 0:12:07For Andrew, there have been changes as well.
0:12:07 > 0:12:10At college this year I'm hoping that I'm going to get onto
0:12:10 > 0:12:14the courses I've applied for, and I have also applied to redo my GCSEs.
0:12:14 > 0:12:17I want to be able to actually have like high enough grades
0:12:17 > 0:12:21so when I do eventually go to uni I'll get in with no problem.
0:12:21 > 0:12:25I've definitely managed to get over the guilt that I had
0:12:25 > 0:12:27about messing up my education.
0:12:27 > 0:12:31It was just unnecessary baggage and it was just holding me down.
0:12:31 > 0:12:35I think he had the opportunity to re-evaluate his life.
0:12:35 > 0:12:40He understood finally that without an education you cannot move forward.
0:12:40 > 0:12:44I have also changed in terms of how I help around the house and stuff,
0:12:44 > 0:12:46like cleaning my room and actually just...
0:12:46 > 0:12:48being less of an arse.
0:12:48 > 0:12:51Before he was a couch potato,
0:12:51 > 0:12:56and all he wanted was, "Mum, take me here, take me there, give me money" - that's it.
0:12:56 > 0:12:57He's more considerate.
0:12:57 > 0:13:00He puts more thought in what he says and what he does.
0:13:00 > 0:13:04We like don't argue now, which is a really, really weird thing,
0:13:04 > 0:13:07after like nine years of straight arguing.
0:13:07 > 0:13:09SHE MUMBLES
0:13:12 > 0:13:15It is going to be good, I just know it is.
0:13:24 > 0:13:27Nine months ago, 19-year-old Wes McGillian
0:13:27 > 0:13:31spent every weekend searching out his next conquest.
0:13:33 > 0:13:37The plan is like going out having a good time, and then seeing what's knocking about.
0:13:37 > 0:13:40Even if it's a pull, not even a shag, it's just good enough.
0:13:42 > 0:13:47But busy with his playboy lifestyle, Wes was ignoring big news at home.
0:13:47 > 0:13:51My ex-girlfriend is now pregnant with my child.
0:13:51 > 0:13:54She told me on the computer, on Facebook.
0:13:54 > 0:13:58He was refusing to take on the responsibility of becoming a father.
0:13:58 > 0:14:00What I'm doing about the baby is nothing.
0:14:00 > 0:14:02I just don't want to think about it.
0:14:02 > 0:14:04His mum was at her wits' end.
0:14:04 > 0:14:05Because you've got to plan.
0:14:05 > 0:14:07Plan what?
0:14:07 > 0:14:11Plan, you've got to save, you've got to buy a cot, got to buy a pram...
0:14:11 > 0:14:12How can I do that then?
0:14:12 > 0:14:14You're going to have to get a part-time job
0:14:14 > 0:14:17and work extra hard, as parents. That's what you have to do in life.
0:14:17 > 0:14:19'Every child should have their dad around them'
0:14:19 > 0:14:22and be in their life 24/7, basically,
0:14:22 > 0:14:25and that's why I really want to push Wesley to think about
0:14:25 > 0:14:28his responsibility to his baby. I don't want him to be a part-time dad.
0:14:32 > 0:14:35Everyone in Brighton is just high on life.
0:14:35 > 0:14:38At the same time, 16-year-old Tamsin Carruthers-Cole
0:14:38 > 0:14:41had a broken relationship with her family.
0:14:41 > 0:14:44I have a life at home,
0:14:44 > 0:14:46and then a different life outside of my home,
0:14:46 > 0:14:48and this is all secret.
0:14:49 > 0:14:53Her party lifestyle was starting to get out of control.
0:14:53 > 0:14:55I have tried a lot of drugs.
0:14:55 > 0:14:58Like everything, really.
0:14:58 > 0:15:01I don't know what goes on in her social life or what kind of
0:15:01 > 0:15:05peer pressure there is, so of course I worry as a parent.
0:15:05 > 0:15:09'She's a very beautiful 16-year-old pain in the arse.'
0:15:09 > 0:15:12But Mum and Dad didn't know how to reach her
0:15:12 > 0:15:15and were becoming scared they might lose their daughter.
0:15:15 > 0:15:18'She's dropped out of college. I mean she's not doing anything.'
0:15:18 > 0:15:22You know, we'd always done music for example,
0:15:22 > 0:15:24all those things went out the window.
0:15:24 > 0:15:30Most of her problems are because she doesn't say what she's really feeling, it just comes out as anger.
0:15:30 > 0:15:35The teens were sent 3,000 miles away to America's East Coast,
0:15:35 > 0:15:40where they'd stay with the Loperleveille family.
0:15:40 > 0:15:42Joe and Scott have been together for 19 years
0:15:42 > 0:15:45and have a straight-talking approach to parenting.
0:15:45 > 0:15:48Am I friends with my children? No.
0:15:48 > 0:15:50'I'm not your friend, I'm your parent.'
0:15:50 > 0:15:53Joe and Scott adopt and foster kids
0:15:53 > 0:15:57who would otherwise live in state-run children's homes.
0:15:57 > 0:15:59Most of the children that come to us
0:15:59 > 0:16:02come to us from a background that is somehow damaged,
0:16:02 > 0:16:06and I think it's important to have an open, honest
0:16:06 > 0:16:10line of communication between parent and child.
0:16:12 > 0:16:17When the teens touched down, they had no idea what to expect.
0:16:19 > 0:16:23The opportunity to go to America was like one in a million, so I had to grab it.
0:16:23 > 0:16:25And, like, it's just crazy how different it is.
0:16:25 > 0:16:28I had it in my head that it was going to be a cult,
0:16:28 > 0:16:31I thought they would be over-the-top religious people.
0:16:31 > 0:16:36And then two gay men stood there waiting for us. I was shocked.
0:16:36 > 0:16:40Hello, how do you do? I guess you probably didn't expect this.
0:16:40 > 0:16:42Welcome.
0:16:42 > 0:16:44- I'm Wes.- Hi, I'm Tamsin.
0:16:44 > 0:16:48It's like the one thing you don't think is that you're going to be staying with two men without a mum.
0:16:48 > 0:16:51And then we went inside, and it was all boys
0:16:51 > 0:16:53and it was kind of like even more of a shock
0:16:53 > 0:16:55because I was like the only girl.
0:16:55 > 0:16:57But shock quickly turned to anger
0:16:57 > 0:17:02as soon as they were asked to comply with the first house rule.
0:17:02 > 0:17:05Have you ever been asked to take any kind of a drug test?
0:17:05 > 0:17:07- No.- How about you?
0:17:07 > 0:17:09No.
0:17:09 > 0:17:10Well, you're going to today,
0:17:10 > 0:17:14because every child that comes into this house is drug-tested.
0:17:14 > 0:17:17'Walking into someone's house for the first time'
0:17:17 > 0:17:21and then you are greeted with, like, to piss in a pot for a drugs test,
0:17:21 > 0:17:25it was like you're being accused of something you haven't done.
0:17:25 > 0:17:29I wasn't expecting to have to do a drugs test, definitely wasn't expecting that.
0:17:29 > 0:17:31'I just thought they were a bit crazy.'
0:17:31 > 0:17:34We're trying to prevent something from happening.
0:17:34 > 0:17:36Personally, I don't really want to do it
0:17:36 > 0:17:38because I don't want my mum knowing anything.
0:17:38 > 0:17:42This is our rule - if you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it,
0:17:42 > 0:17:46because I'm going to tell you right now, it's not just you.
0:17:46 > 0:17:49'I just really didn't want to do it, and it made me really angry'
0:17:49 > 0:17:53the fact that I had to do it, and I got quite pissed off, really.
0:17:53 > 0:17:56Scott and Joe insisted on the test
0:17:56 > 0:18:00as a way of making Tamsin reveal the truth about her drug-taking.
0:18:00 > 0:18:03I don't know how I can make it any clearer to you.
0:18:07 > 0:18:08Their persistence paid off,
0:18:08 > 0:18:12but it revealed more than they'd anticipated.
0:18:12 > 0:18:16OK, I admit it, I've had a major drugs problem, I've been addicted to drugs,
0:18:16 > 0:18:20and I'm not proud of it at all, and I don't want anyone to know, but it's too late now.
0:18:20 > 0:18:25I found it really hard to speak about drugs to them,
0:18:25 > 0:18:28because I've never really been open with an adult about it before,
0:18:28 > 0:18:31and it was something that I was really ashamed of.
0:18:31 > 0:18:34What have you experimented with?
0:18:34 > 0:18:37Meow, which is the drug that I had been doing...
0:18:37 > 0:18:40Have you ever sat your mother down?
0:18:39 > 0:18:40I've spoken to her about it.
0:18:40 > 0:18:43And said in a calm rational fashion, or did you yell?
0:18:43 > 0:18:45No, I cried.
0:18:46 > 0:18:51Opening up for the first time was the first step on the road to recovery for Tamsin.
0:18:51 > 0:18:56'I knew that if I could say it to them, who I'd only just met,
0:18:56 > 0:18:59I could tell my mum, which made me feel a lot happier'
0:18:59 > 0:19:04because it's something that needed to be done, because there was just too many secrets.
0:19:05 > 0:19:08While Tamsin began to wrestle her demons,
0:19:08 > 0:19:13it was time for workshy Wes to get a wake-up call to the real world.
0:19:13 > 0:19:15Nice to meet you, Wesley.
0:19:15 > 0:19:17I have never really worked, really.
0:19:17 > 0:19:19- You've never worked?- No.
0:19:19 > 0:19:21- What, are you rich?- No.
0:19:21 > 0:19:22'I kept thinking'
0:19:22 > 0:19:26it's going to be a holiday, I'm in America and I'm going to do all these things.
0:19:26 > 0:19:30Then to send me to work, I was a bit pissed off.
0:19:30 > 0:19:34I'd never worked in a restaurant before, so it's like, "What can I do?"
0:19:34 > 0:19:36Ugh, there's a floater!
0:19:38 > 0:19:42But Wes persisted, and was amazed to discover
0:19:42 > 0:19:46that working can actually be quite fulfilling.
0:19:46 > 0:19:49- There you go, sir.- You're doing a fine job.- Cheers, thank you.
0:19:51 > 0:19:52'Working hard,'
0:19:52 > 0:19:55and trying to ensure that, you know, you can do it,
0:19:55 > 0:19:58'I felt like I achieved something.' There you go, enjoy.
0:19:58 > 0:20:01- Thank you.- I hope the experience was good for you?
0:20:01 > 0:20:03Yes, I've loved it, every minute of it.
0:20:03 > 0:20:06- Your wages.- Thanks very much.
0:20:06 > 0:20:08Getting that envelope full of money was like, I've got that,
0:20:08 > 0:20:11not just asked my mum or my mates for a bit of money.
0:20:11 > 0:20:13It felt really good.
0:20:14 > 0:20:17Following his success at the diner,
0:20:17 > 0:20:21the time had come for Wes to face up to his impending fatherhood,
0:20:21 > 0:20:24and admit his big secret to the Dads.
0:20:26 > 0:20:29- I'm going to be a dad. - You're going to be a dad?- Yeah.
0:20:29 > 0:20:33'I was scared to be honest, I didn't know how they would take it,
0:20:33 > 0:20:37'cos obviously they've got foster kids. Very daunting.'
0:20:37 > 0:20:42I can't imagine a bigger responsibility
0:20:42 > 0:20:44than being a father to someone.
0:20:44 > 0:20:48I know, but I feel at this age I shouldn't have any responsibilities,
0:20:48 > 0:20:51because I can't look after myself, let alone a kid.
0:20:51 > 0:20:54'Joe was basically my rock out there,'
0:20:54 > 0:20:57he was the one helping me out and talking through things with me
0:20:57 > 0:21:01and making me realise this is what I have to do. He was my dad out there.
0:21:01 > 0:21:04He just talked to me, instead of talking at me, he just talked to me.
0:21:05 > 0:21:07But Joe did more than talk.
0:21:07 > 0:21:12He wanted to give Wes a sense of the joy parenting can bring.
0:21:12 > 0:21:15- Hello.- Hiya, I am Andrea. - Nice to meet you.
0:21:15 > 0:21:19I've actually asked you to come over so you can help me with my son.
0:21:19 > 0:21:22I was nervous as hell and like... because I'd never done it before,
0:21:22 > 0:21:25and to be looking after someone else's kid,
0:21:25 > 0:21:29and you have their life in your hands, and it was scary.
0:21:32 > 0:21:36Look at that. "Chicks dig me," yeah.
0:21:36 > 0:21:40'Everybody was too busy saying, "You need to get a job, and you need to do this."'
0:21:40 > 0:21:44They never said, "You're going to absolutely love the time
0:21:44 > 0:21:48"you spend with your daughter, and how much you're going to love them."
0:22:00 > 0:22:02I felt guilty as well,
0:22:02 > 0:22:06I felt bad that my attitude to being a dad was so bad.
0:22:06 > 0:22:09Meeting Trey was the turning point,
0:22:09 > 0:22:12just the enjoyment I had just spending time with him,
0:22:12 > 0:22:15and I thought to myself, "This is what I'll be doing with my daughter,
0:22:15 > 0:22:19"but I will love my daughter, and just seeing her smile
0:22:19 > 0:22:23"and playing with her would make me feel 100 times better."
0:22:23 > 0:22:27I just want to do the best I can, and be a good dad.
0:22:33 > 0:22:35As the week drew to a close,
0:22:35 > 0:22:40Tamsin continued to open up to Scott about her problems at home.
0:22:40 > 0:22:46I really trusted him, and found it easy to talk to him, because he really opened up to me.
0:22:46 > 0:22:47My childhood was different.
0:22:47 > 0:22:49A lot different than yours.
0:22:49 > 0:22:51I was adopted.
0:22:51 > 0:22:54Badly, badly treated.
0:22:54 > 0:22:57He made me feel I could really learn from my mistakes
0:22:57 > 0:23:02and that he just wanted to help me and wanted me to have a good relationship with my mum
0:23:02 > 0:23:04because he hadn't had that.
0:23:08 > 0:23:11I think I got a lot out of talking about family stuff with Scott.
0:23:11 > 0:23:17It made me realise a lot more, I should open up more about things, I shouldn't keep them bottled up.
0:23:19 > 0:23:25But, with the teens about to return to England, Scott had a surprise proposal for Tamsin.
0:23:25 > 0:23:30How would you feel about staying here for a couple more weeks with me?
0:23:30 > 0:23:31I'd love to.
0:23:31 > 0:23:36- Would you?- Yeah. - We would love to have you stay.
0:23:36 > 0:23:44It was a first for World's Strictest Parents, a British teenager actually wanting rules.
0:23:44 > 0:23:48I didn't even think twice about saying yes when Scott asked me to stay,
0:23:48 > 0:23:49because I was really benefiting from it
0:23:49 > 0:23:53and was becoming a lot happier, just by talking about things.
0:23:53 > 0:23:58And I knew that spending more time with Scott would make me a lot happier
0:23:58 > 0:24:01and make things at home work a lot more.
0:24:03 > 0:24:08- Be a good boy.- Thank you. You're brilliant dads, absolutely brilliant dads.
0:24:08 > 0:24:10You're going to be a brilliant dad too.
0:24:10 > 0:24:12I didn't want to leave,
0:24:12 > 0:24:17I weren't expecting to get close to the family, but I got attached. I got attached to them all,
0:24:17 > 0:24:19and it was hard to leave them.
0:24:25 > 0:24:30Five months on, and Wes is the father of a two-month-old baby girl.
0:24:30 > 0:24:34You really cannot describe the feeling you get when you first hold your child.
0:24:34 > 0:24:37It's brilliant, an amazing feeling.
0:24:37 > 0:24:42He absolutely bonded with her from the minute of seeing her. He talks about her all the time.
0:24:42 > 0:24:47I actually catch him looking at photographs of her when he's not seeing her.
0:24:47 > 0:24:50There you go, happy now.
0:24:50 > 0:24:56Being on the show definitely changed the way I was going about things and it made me want
0:24:56 > 0:24:59to be a better dad and a better person.
0:24:59 > 0:25:05Wes now sees his little girl regularly, and is determined to stay involved with her life.
0:25:05 > 0:25:12The way Joe was with me, and seeing the way he was with his kids, I want to be like a dad like Joe.
0:25:12 > 0:25:15I could be here now, not even involved in my daughter's life,
0:25:15 > 0:25:19and that would have been a stupid, stupid move to do.
0:25:21 > 0:25:28Over in Sussex did three weeks with the gay dads make a lasting impression on Tamsin?
0:25:28 > 0:25:34It definitely was life changing, staying with Scott and Joe, because I'm so much happier now.
0:25:34 > 0:25:38I have a so much better relationship with my mum and my dad and my sister.
0:25:38 > 0:25:45Before, me and my mum, like, couldn't talk, and now me and my mum talk about a lot.
0:25:45 > 0:25:49It's nice to have a relationship with her that isn't screaming at each other.
0:25:49 > 0:25:54Tamsin is definitely happier, she's just the Tamsin we used to know that kind of disappeared,
0:25:54 > 0:25:55and now she's come back.
0:25:55 > 0:25:59She's a really sweet person, and really caring and lovely.
0:25:59 > 0:26:04If she stays on the road she's on, the sky's the limit.
0:26:04 > 0:26:08I'm really, really glad that I went and I met some amazing people who
0:26:08 > 0:26:11I'll hopefully stay in contact for all my life.
0:26:17 > 0:26:23Eight months ago, Nicki Stygall was terrorising her local community.
0:26:25 > 0:26:27Nicola is an absolute nightmare child.
0:26:27 > 0:26:31She's uncontrollable, she doesn't do what she's told.
0:26:31 > 0:26:36I live how I want to live. I party how I want to party.
0:26:36 > 0:26:39But when Nicki drank, she'd show a darker side.
0:26:39 > 0:26:44Oh, my God, look who it is! That's the girl I went to fight in college.
0:26:44 > 0:26:46I'm worried about Nicki when she goes out drinking.
0:26:46 > 0:26:52Her temper does flare up, and she does show a very ugly side.
0:26:52 > 0:26:55You, yeah, you walk off, I'll get you in college.
0:26:55 > 0:26:58'If someone pisses me off, I'm having them.'
0:26:58 > 0:27:03'It doesn't matter what they've done or haven't done, I'm going for them.'
0:27:03 > 0:27:06Yeah, I went to anger management and got kicked out of anger management,
0:27:06 > 0:27:08for being angry.
0:27:09 > 0:27:13Meanwhile in Essex, 18-year-old Jerri MacVeigh
0:27:13 > 0:27:15was living a WAG's lifestyle.
0:27:15 > 0:27:21I just want to come across a footballer, and have a Bentley and a Range Rover.
0:27:21 > 0:27:25I'd love that, just go shopping, wake up, "Here's 60 grand to spend."
0:27:25 > 0:27:29You'd just go spend it, wouldn't you? Go in Harrods and that.
0:27:29 > 0:27:34I do think that Jerri is trying to live a celebrity lifestyle
0:27:34 > 0:27:38before earning the right to do so.
0:27:38 > 0:27:45She refused to get a job, and sponged money off her parents to finance her self-indulgent lifestyle.
0:27:45 > 0:27:49- Dad, can I have an extra tenner? Please, Dad.- Yeah, yeah, all right.- Thanks.
0:27:49 > 0:27:51If I don't get my own way I go mad.
0:27:51 > 0:27:57It makes me really, really angry, it just gets on my nerves because I think, "Why?" I just want to scream.
0:27:57 > 0:28:03I think it's important that Jerri changes, and changes now, and I think if she learns that
0:28:03 > 0:28:08you have to work hard, I think it would make her a better person.
0:28:11 > 0:28:18The teens were sent halfway around the world to Sri Lanka to stay with the Buddhist De Silva family.
0:28:18 > 0:28:22It is important not to spoil your children, because from there stems all evil.
0:28:22 > 0:28:27The De Zylvas threw materialistic Jerri in at the deep end
0:28:27 > 0:28:31when they asked her to help distribute food to the city's poor.
0:28:31 > 0:28:34Give him. Just take a packet and give him.
0:28:34 > 0:28:36I've never been so scared in my life.
0:28:36 > 0:28:41I got out of this van, and they all started running towards me.
0:28:41 > 0:28:45I just lost the plot, I was like, "Urgh, get me away from them."
0:28:45 > 0:28:47I was calling them tramps and all sorts, I feel bad.
0:28:47 > 0:28:52But I thought, "That's so bad." I just hated it, I wanted to go.
0:28:52 > 0:28:57The De Zylvas' plan was to confront her selfish ways head on.
0:28:57 > 0:29:00I felt like there was just these animals just
0:29:00 > 0:29:03trying to... I don't know, I didn't like it all.
0:29:03 > 0:29:06Maybe he hasn't eaten for four days, we don't know.
0:29:06 > 0:29:09I was very narrow minded with what I said.
0:29:09 > 0:29:14I'm not one to show sympathy anyway, I'm quite a hard person.
0:29:14 > 0:29:18Now, when I look back, I do think, I do feel a bit sorry for them.
0:29:18 > 0:29:19They're just...they've got nothing.
0:29:19 > 0:29:21I have everything, and they've got nothing.
0:29:23 > 0:29:29But at the time Jerri wasn't interested in doing anything for anyone,
0:29:29 > 0:29:32no matter how much help they needed.
0:29:32 > 0:29:35As soon as I saw that sign, when it said "Disability home,"
0:29:35 > 0:29:37I was like, "Oh, my God."
0:29:37 > 0:29:41What's she doing?
0:29:43 > 0:29:46I think tears even come into my eyes because I thought,
0:29:46 > 0:29:49"I can't do it, she's making me do something I can't do."
0:29:49 > 0:29:53It's like if someone can't swim and they're getting chucked in a swimming pool.
0:29:53 > 0:29:58It's horrible. I was so scared, I was like "Just leave me alone". I wanted to go home.
0:29:58 > 0:30:02Back at the house, Nicki was expressing her usual angry self.
0:30:02 > 0:30:08The family, they were all right at first, but as soon as they told me the rules I felt like screaming.
0:30:08 > 0:30:09I actually did.
0:30:09 > 0:30:12- You have to give your cigarettes to us.- Bollocks to it.
0:30:12 > 0:30:17- No- BLEEP- way. If I paid for them, then they're staying with me. - Please mind your language, Nicki.
0:30:17 > 0:30:22- You're winding me up.- You are my two daughters.- If you were my mum I would tell you to- BLEEP- off.
0:30:22 > 0:30:25We don't tolerate that kind of language.
0:30:25 > 0:30:28I didn't get on with Brindley. Clashed with him.
0:30:28 > 0:30:31To me I just thought, well, he can't really tell me what to do.
0:30:31 > 0:30:34But it didn't work that way, did it?
0:30:34 > 0:30:38But Nicki did put up a good fight,
0:30:38 > 0:30:41and the early starts fuelled the anger within.
0:30:41 > 0:30:45Warm milk at five o'clock in the morning. I couldn't deal with that.
0:30:45 > 0:30:48At least put a teabag in it. I'd have been happier.
0:30:48 > 0:30:54- I will just keep it here. - No, take it away.- I told you this attitude has to stop.- Oh, my God.
0:30:54 > 0:30:56Are you like on smack or something?
0:30:56 > 0:31:00If someone called me a crackhead I don't know what I would have done.
0:31:00 > 0:31:03I would have gone mental. But Brindley, he handled it quite well.
0:31:03 > 0:31:05Nicki.
0:31:05 > 0:31:06- Will you move?- No, sorry.
0:31:06 > 0:31:08Will you move?
0:31:08 > 0:31:10Don't be grabbing me, go away.
0:31:10 > 0:31:12Nicki, I won't touch you.
0:31:12 > 0:31:17If she cannot change her attitude, she doesn't come back into this house.
0:31:17 > 0:31:20But dad Brindley wouldn't give up on Nicki.
0:31:20 > 0:31:25His relentless kindness started to make her see things from another point of view.
0:31:25 > 0:31:27It gave me respect for him. He was like,
0:31:27 > 0:31:32"No, I don't care who you are, what background you come from, this is my house, my rules.
0:31:32 > 0:31:35"If you want to learn, you learn." You know what I mean?
0:31:35 > 0:31:40He did stick to his guns. It kind of shocked me because not a lot of people do that.
0:31:42 > 0:31:47But Nicki had yet to meet the man who would bring her inner peace.
0:31:47 > 0:31:51Really bad. When it comes up, that's it, I can't control it.
0:31:51 > 0:31:53Oh, right, you get angry.
0:31:53 > 0:31:56Yes, very angry, 80% of the day I'm angry.
0:31:56 > 0:31:5980% of the time you are angry?
0:31:59 > 0:32:02Yes. It's really hard to control. It scares me sometimes.
0:32:02 > 0:32:08Nicki was shown how to meditate as a way of controlling her anger.
0:32:08 > 0:32:14So what we do is just feel at home, sitting here now,
0:32:14 > 0:32:19and we close the eyes gently, relax.
0:32:19 > 0:32:23I never thought it would work, because I have never found anything to relax me.
0:32:23 > 0:32:26It was, like, scary in a way, because it was like,
0:32:26 > 0:32:31"You've actually just made me calmer and relaxed and quite happy", and not a lot of people can do that.
0:32:33 > 0:32:39A week of seeing the lives of those less fortunate than herself began to soften Jerri's attitudes.
0:32:39 > 0:32:45But the De Zylva family had a final hurdle for her to overcome -
0:32:45 > 0:32:47returning to the care home.
0:32:47 > 0:32:50All right. Right shaking.
0:32:50 > 0:32:51When I did actually do something,
0:32:51 > 0:32:56I thought "Oh, my God, I've done something for someone else and I've made them happy".
0:32:56 > 0:33:01I didn't really think about that, I was so... I was selfish and just so narrow minded.
0:33:01 > 0:33:05I didn't think about anything apart from what I am doing with my life.
0:33:05 > 0:33:08Brindley, guess what? We've made you something.
0:33:08 > 0:33:09Come see it.
0:33:12 > 0:33:13Thank you.
0:33:14 > 0:33:19Looking back, Mandy and Brindley, their approach to life is absolutely amazing.
0:33:19 > 0:33:25Just to make you realise that you do get something out of giving, it ain't always about taking.
0:33:28 > 0:33:31I am glad I've done it. It's such a good experience
0:33:31 > 0:33:35and it feels like a relief that I have done something good
0:33:35 > 0:33:38out of something that started off really quite negative.
0:33:40 > 0:33:45Back home, Jerri has brought a different perspective to Essex.
0:33:45 > 0:33:50For some reason, I have become more calmer about the way I feel about certain situations.
0:33:50 > 0:33:56If my mum goes to work or that, I'll just do some washing or some ironing, you know.
0:33:56 > 0:33:59I think our relationship has definitely, definitely improved.
0:33:59 > 0:34:02We've got a lot closer since she's been away.
0:34:02 > 0:34:04Yeah, I am being less selfish.
0:34:04 > 0:34:09I look at things from other people's point of view instead of my own all the time.
0:34:09 > 0:34:11It's just changed the way I look at life.
0:34:11 > 0:34:13If I haven't got it, I haven't got it.
0:34:13 > 0:34:16Look at my undies,
0:34:16 > 0:34:20me "pick me" pants.
0:34:20 > 0:34:23Oh, no, I still tap my dad up for cash sometimes, but not as much as I used to.
0:34:26 > 0:34:30As soon as Nicki got home she made up with her mum.
0:34:30 > 0:34:32I didn't have to forgive my mum. I wanted to forgive my mum...
0:34:32 > 0:34:34Mum, don't cry.
0:34:34 > 0:34:37..instead of carrying on the fights and that.
0:34:37 > 0:34:42Now we don't argue at all, don't even bicker.
0:34:45 > 0:34:52Nicki's raging temper has been calmed by the meditation techniques she learnt in Sri Lanka.
0:34:52 > 0:34:54I am glad I went to the monk.
0:34:54 > 0:34:57He was like a miracle.
0:34:58 > 0:35:02My relationship with Nicki since she has come back has really improved.
0:35:02 > 0:35:04It's like a ray of light coming in the house now.
0:35:04 > 0:35:09She's not argumentative any more, she doesn't fight with her sister any more,
0:35:09 > 0:35:16- she's become the little Nicki I used to know when she was younger.- Mum, I love you.
0:35:16 > 0:35:18And I'm happy I'm your mother.
0:35:18 > 0:35:22It's a mother and daughter relationship, how it should be.
0:35:22 > 0:35:24Happy, loving, caring.
0:35:24 > 0:35:27It's good, it's a good feeling.
0:35:36 > 0:35:41Eight months ago, Nathan Ballance thought he was living the dream...
0:35:41 > 0:35:46My lifestyle is playing Xbox, getting hammered and having sex.
0:35:46 > 0:35:49- What are you doing later on today, love?- I don't know.
0:35:49 > 0:35:50But his mum had had enough.
0:35:50 > 0:35:52Can you shut up? I'm trying to play.
0:35:52 > 0:35:56Nathan is not a little shit, he's a big shit.
0:35:56 > 0:36:03Nathan dropped out of school aged 14, had no qualifications and was going nowhere fast.
0:36:03 > 0:36:05I don't really see the point in getting a job, because
0:36:05 > 0:36:08if you want to enjoy your life there's no point in getting one.
0:36:08 > 0:36:14- Something had to change.- He tells me how much he hates me, how useless I am, how it's all my fault.
0:36:14 > 0:36:18As it stands at the moment, Nathan's future holds absolutely nothing.
0:36:18 > 0:36:20On the other side of the country,
0:36:20 > 0:36:2517-year-old Nicole Benham was treating her mum like a cash machine.
0:36:25 > 0:36:29- No cigarettes, nothing.- Yes, fine.
0:36:29 > 0:36:31Don't snatch, Nicole, for God's sake.
0:36:31 > 0:36:36She's lazy, she's obnoxious, she's just turned into a brat.
0:36:39 > 0:36:44Nicole was living with her grandparents, but even they were sick of her selfish attitude.
0:36:44 > 0:36:46She's just so lazy.
0:36:46 > 0:36:53She won't get up, she's smoking, I don't know if she's doing drugs, she just rebels against anything.
0:36:53 > 0:36:58She's really got to grow up and realise what you put in,
0:36:58 > 0:37:02you get out, and she is not putting stuff in at the moment.
0:37:04 > 0:37:10The teens were sent here, Barbados, home to millionaires, luxury resorts...
0:37:10 > 0:37:13and the Harris family.
0:37:13 > 0:37:17We would describe ourselves as strict but fair parents.
0:37:17 > 0:37:21Our family believes in discipline, we believe in our children trying
0:37:21 > 0:37:23to live to the highest of their potential.
0:37:27 > 0:37:33As soon as you see the country, you can't help but smile and be quite happy about it. It's just beautiful.
0:37:33 > 0:37:37I was really happy that I was going to Barbados, because my experience
0:37:37 > 0:37:42with Caribbean people is, they're so laid back they might fall over.
0:37:42 > 0:37:48Tragically for the teens, any thoughts of a Caribbean holiday were quickly dashed.
0:37:48 > 0:37:51OK, come on in, come on in, welcome.
0:37:51 > 0:37:55Good night. Just to let you all know, there is no smoking.
0:37:55 > 0:37:59So if you have any cigarettes, you have to hand them over now.
0:37:59 > 0:38:01I'm sorry, but that's not going to happen.
0:38:01 > 0:38:04I can't go eight days without smoking.
0:38:04 > 0:38:06It was just so full-on straight away.
0:38:06 > 0:38:10They just drop everything on you as soon as you walk in the door.
0:38:10 > 0:38:13They went straight in like with guns blazing and stuff,
0:38:13 > 0:38:17just went straight into us, "Hand over all the stuff", really stern. It was quite intimidating.
0:38:17 > 0:38:22Nathan, if you don't hand over your cigarettes right now you can take your journey back through the door.
0:38:24 > 0:38:25Lovely.
0:38:27 > 0:38:29I ain't stopping smoking!
0:38:29 > 0:38:32And it planted a seed in your mind, they are buggers.
0:38:32 > 0:38:34So that's when I sort of set off and I thought, fine,
0:38:34 > 0:38:38I'm going to be myself, I'm not going to be nice or anything.
0:38:38 > 0:38:42Nathan was the first to get a taste of the battles ahead.
0:38:42 > 0:38:44We will go through what we want, and right now
0:38:44 > 0:38:49the situation is that we have decided that there will be no more smoking.
0:38:49 > 0:38:54The first night I was there it did shock me because every other time I have argued with someone,
0:38:54 > 0:38:58they've always backed down because I am very stubborn.
0:38:58 > 0:39:02Well, I am sorry, I am 16, I am legally classed as an adult, I am old enough...
0:39:02 > 0:39:05You are not in the UK, you are in Barbados.
0:39:05 > 0:39:09But they just did not back down and they stuck to their guns.
0:39:09 > 0:39:14And you are an adult at 18 years old, my man, not at 16.
0:39:14 > 0:39:20So you don't tell me nothing, but you are legally no adult, you are not an adult here.
0:39:20 > 0:39:24I thought the full family was just out of their mind.
0:39:26 > 0:39:31The next day, it was Nicole who learnt a few lessons about Caribbean discipline
0:39:31 > 0:39:35after mum Andrea discovered she'd blatantly ignored the simple rules.
0:39:35 > 0:39:39She wore the trousers in the relationship, she was the disciplinarian
0:39:39 > 0:39:42and she was the one to watch out for, not Kenrick. Kenrick was nothing.
0:39:42 > 0:39:45Oh, look at me world, I'm 17!
0:39:45 > 0:39:53I can smoke, I can drink, I can do what I want, but you cannot take no advice from nobody.
0:39:53 > 0:39:57I just don't like people being in my personal space either, and she was like there.
0:39:57 > 0:39:59I was like "Oh, my goodness. I need to get out."
0:39:59 > 0:40:02I told you already this morning...
0:40:02 > 0:40:04- Get that finger... - I told you this morning!
0:40:04 > 0:40:08I found it actually really funny at the time, and I still do.
0:40:08 > 0:40:13- BLEEP- off!- BLEEP- you! Seriously! Get off me!
0:40:13 > 0:40:18You are a woman, stand your ground! You cuss at me, stand your ground!
0:40:18 > 0:40:22- Stand your ground!- I was very rude. I'm not going to deny that.
0:40:22 > 0:40:25My rudeness was unbelievably disgusting.
0:40:25 > 0:40:31Their way of showing their authority and commanding respect in a sense
0:40:31 > 0:40:34is completely different to anything I am used to.
0:40:36 > 0:40:43To begin with the Harris's rigid enforcement of the rules made the teens even more defiant.
0:40:43 > 0:40:45School did not go well.
0:40:45 > 0:40:47For the young lady, are you wearing eye make-up?
0:40:47 > 0:40:50- Yes.- You have to go and wash it off.
0:40:50 > 0:40:54We don't allow make-up here at school.
0:40:54 > 0:40:56I'm not staying here if I have to take my eye make-up off.
0:40:56 > 0:40:59- No. I'm- BLEEP- running away. I'm being serious.
0:40:59 > 0:41:01And that's exactly what they did.
0:41:01 > 0:41:04For Mr Harris, this was the last straw.
0:41:04 > 0:41:06We have sacrificed so much for the two of you,
0:41:06 > 0:41:11but then to have both of you decide to leave the school compound.
0:41:11 > 0:41:15Some of those same teachers taught me and I have respect for them!
0:41:15 > 0:41:19But the two of you aren't showing any respect for us.
0:41:19 > 0:41:22If you both don't appreciate it, leave this house!
0:41:24 > 0:41:29But this last act of rebellion was what started to tip the scales of change for Nicole.
0:41:29 > 0:41:32When I was out there, I ran away a lot.
0:41:32 > 0:41:36I ran away from every problem because that's what I have always done -
0:41:36 > 0:41:37run away from serious things.
0:41:37 > 0:41:42It's just stupid. It makes me realise how pathetic I...was.
0:41:42 > 0:41:49Stupid behaviour you'd expect from an 11 year old or something, not nearly 18 year old. Ridiculous.
0:41:49 > 0:41:53I've had like a couple of hours away from them and
0:41:53 > 0:41:58it just made me think about how much time that is, and it makes me think about my actions as a whole.
0:41:58 > 0:42:00I do this all the time to my family.
0:42:00 > 0:42:02On a weekly occurrence, basically.
0:42:02 > 0:42:04All the time. And, um,
0:42:04 > 0:42:08it honestly made me think of that and it just made me think it's got to stop.
0:42:08 > 0:42:11I really wanted to show my gratitude
0:42:11 > 0:42:17for them having me and to apologise for my disgusting behaviour.
0:42:17 > 0:42:19I really wanted to and I really meant it as well.
0:42:19 > 0:42:22I really am sorry... for what I have done.
0:42:22 > 0:42:25We have heard you.
0:42:25 > 0:42:27We accept your apology.
0:42:27 > 0:42:30All right?
0:42:30 > 0:42:34I'm sorry. I really am. Thank you.
0:42:34 > 0:42:37It opened my eyes to who I really am as a person,
0:42:37 > 0:42:41what I have been doing wrong, and that I needed to make a change.
0:42:41 > 0:42:47Nathan never fully recovered his relationship with the Harris family.
0:42:48 > 0:42:51- Just- BLEEP- off and leave me alone!
0:42:51 > 0:42:55But inspiration did come from an unexpected source.
0:42:56 > 0:43:00His first ever day's work.
0:43:00 > 0:43:05Just push it, go through the tall glass. Just push over it.
0:43:05 > 0:43:09Working alongside Orlando was actually really good because he is a really nice person.
0:43:09 > 0:43:13Instead of him just going on about his beliefs, he sat and looked at it
0:43:13 > 0:43:18from my point of view, especially with the drugs and stuff and why I did them.
0:43:18 > 0:43:21The notion of just wanting to smoke and chill
0:43:21 > 0:43:27is really a no-go because at the end of the day, you are here to be productive.
0:43:27 > 0:43:31He's the only person that actually managed to get through to me the full week.
0:43:31 > 0:43:36He said it was wrong to do it, but he could understand why we did it because instead of saying we have
0:43:36 > 0:43:40to stop it and stuff like that he said when you get back to the UK,
0:43:40 > 0:43:45yeah, you can just cut down on it, and stop doing it as often, and after a while you can stop it.
0:43:45 > 0:43:48If there is one impression that I would want to leave with you,
0:43:48 > 0:43:51be a positive influence to yourself.
0:43:51 > 0:43:54- God bless.- Take care of yourself. - All the best when you go back.
0:43:54 > 0:44:00I started taking drugs and stuff like that just to mainly escape reality, and he understood that.
0:44:01 > 0:44:06With the week finally over, it was time for the teens to return home.
0:44:06 > 0:44:08Thank you for everything.
0:44:08 > 0:44:12At the end of the week, I had such a huge amount of respect for them,
0:44:12 > 0:44:16because I saw them in a completely different light.
0:44:23 > 0:44:27Three months on and Nicole's experience with the Harrises
0:44:27 > 0:44:31has made her want to fix broken relationships.
0:44:31 > 0:44:35Job done. There's one up there you can pick.
0:44:35 > 0:44:41It's going to take a long time to build up my relationship back with my parentals, all of them.
0:44:41 > 0:44:44I've got to work hard at college, I've got to prove to them that I can do it.
0:44:46 > 0:44:49When it comes to the future, I am excited about the future.
0:44:49 > 0:44:51Whereas before I was dreading it.
0:44:51 > 0:44:53I was like, oh, no!
0:44:53 > 0:44:57My complete outlook on life has changed 100%.
0:44:57 > 0:45:04Up in Hull, Nathan has also brought some lessons home with him.
0:45:04 > 0:45:06Ever since I've come back we've gotten a lot closer.
0:45:06 > 0:45:09We spend a lot more time talking.
0:45:09 > 0:45:12It's such a family-orientated place over there.
0:45:12 > 0:45:17They all sit down and eat tea together, spend a lot of time talking, I started to think,
0:45:17 > 0:45:21"Why can't I have a relationship like that with my mum?"
0:45:21 > 0:45:24Before Barbados, I was losing the child I saw as my son.
0:45:24 > 0:45:30I couldn't see a future for him how he was, whereas now I've got that nice kid back.
0:45:30 > 0:45:35When my mum's got days off, we might pop out into town, go and look around the shops.
0:45:35 > 0:45:39It's much more of a family atmosphere.
0:45:39 > 0:45:42My final thoughts on them is...
0:45:42 > 0:45:45I still think they're absolutely stark crazy.
0:45:45 > 0:45:47They're lovely people,
0:45:47 > 0:45:50but I wouldn't like to go live with them again!
0:45:54 > 0:45:57Let's get pissed! Whoo!
0:45:57 > 0:46:04Last August, 16-year-old Rosie Hynd was an unstoppable party animal.
0:46:04 > 0:46:06Whoo-hoo!
0:46:06 > 0:46:12Right now is my time to go crazy, really, and no-one's going to stop me from doing it.
0:46:12 > 0:46:14She likes to rip the backside out of things.
0:46:14 > 0:46:20You know, if she's drunk, she's not just a little bit drunk, she's paralytic.
0:46:20 > 0:46:24There's no "what if", because it is a definite 100% no.
0:46:24 > 0:46:28At home, Rosie's temper had left Mum powerless to control her.
0:46:28 > 0:46:33- She is either lovely, or she's vile.- Put that down!
0:46:33 > 0:46:37It is quite hard to say no to me, that's probably why I get away with so much.
0:46:37 > 0:46:40Rosie was destroying her future.
0:46:40 > 0:46:43It can't go on like this, otherwise she is going to have huge problems
0:46:43 > 0:46:46and she is going to ruin the rest of her life.
0:46:46 > 0:46:49Stop talking to me like I'm a child, cos I'm not.
0:46:49 > 0:46:54- You are my child, Nicolas! - But I'm not child, though! I'm 18 years old!- You are my child!
0:46:54 > 0:46:56I am 18 years old!
0:46:56 > 0:47:00Nick Barrientos was behaving more like a boy than a man.
0:47:00 > 0:47:02He's not growing up.
0:47:02 > 0:47:04He's a spoilt brat.
0:47:04 > 0:47:09I hate being told what to do. Not even the Queen of England can tell me what to do.
0:47:09 > 0:47:13Nick had left school, but had no intention of getting a job.
0:47:13 > 0:47:15Hard labour...
0:47:15 > 0:47:17is just scary.
0:47:17 > 0:47:20- I can't handle a full-time job. Can I have some money?- Some money?
0:47:20 > 0:47:26- No, no, no.- Please! - We have so many arguments.
0:47:26 > 0:47:29When he's around it's like he's not here.
0:47:29 > 0:47:30I don't like being at home, period.
0:47:30 > 0:47:33Straight up, I don't like being at home.
0:47:33 > 0:47:36He needs to sort his life out.
0:47:36 > 0:47:39He is lost, he is absolutely lost.
0:47:42 > 0:47:49Nick and Rosie were sent 4,000 miles away to the sun-kissed island of Puerto Rico,
0:47:49 > 0:47:52home to the Hill family.
0:47:52 > 0:47:55Being a parent is not a popularity contest.
0:47:55 > 0:47:57Side to side now. Put some back into it.
0:47:57 > 0:48:03We're firm, we have high expectations, we want only the best for our children.
0:48:06 > 0:48:13I thought that the trip to Puerto Rico was going to be like a holiday, but boy, was I wrong.
0:48:13 > 0:48:18Driving to the house and all I could see was a jungle either side of me
0:48:18 > 0:48:21and I was thinking, "Oh, my God, what have I done?"
0:48:21 > 0:48:25- Hello. Welcome.- Nice to meet you.
0:48:25 > 0:48:27Nice to see you. Hi, how are you?
0:48:27 > 0:48:29- I'm Rosie.- Nick, Rosie.
0:48:29 > 0:48:34Within minutes of their arrival, Rosie and Nick's worst fears were confirmed
0:48:34 > 0:48:37when the Hills presented the rules.
0:48:37 > 0:48:39We don't tolerate laziness.
0:48:39 > 0:48:44We kind of live by a rule that if a man doesn't work, he doesn't eat.
0:48:44 > 0:48:48The whole time I was thinking, these guys are just going to fail.
0:48:48 > 0:48:52I am stubborn, Rosie's stubborn, there is no way we are following
0:48:52 > 0:48:55any of these rules, especially not the no-smoking rule.
0:48:55 > 0:48:57Let me expand that a little bit.
0:48:57 > 0:49:01The more you resist, the more we are going to push.
0:49:01 > 0:49:03- I was just thinking, "You're an absolute- BLEEP."
0:49:03 > 0:49:09I was like, don't want to be with this person for any longer.
0:49:09 > 0:49:14With the battle lines drawn, the teens began a campaign of fearsome resistance.
0:49:14 > 0:49:18- That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever- BLEEP- heard in my life, man.
0:49:18 > 0:49:21I hate him.
0:49:21 > 0:49:23I think he was just really, really angry
0:49:23 > 0:49:27at that point that we were smoking, we broke the rule that quick,
0:49:27 > 0:49:31and we just had no regard for any of this authority whatsoever.
0:49:31 > 0:49:35You guys have already decided to disrespect me.
0:49:35 > 0:49:39Respect has to be earned.
0:49:39 > 0:49:42I'm 18 years old. 18. I am legally allowed to smoke this.
0:49:42 > 0:49:47Sensing there would be bigger battles to fight, Mr Hill was prepared to compromise.
0:49:47 > 0:49:53- You will not smoke inside of the house.- Fair enough.
0:49:53 > 0:49:59Every other rule... will be respected and tolerated.
0:49:59 > 0:50:05But the uneasy truce ended in all-out war when Ed found out the kids had been excluded from school.
0:50:05 > 0:50:11And not two periods went by that they've already been kicked out of school.
0:50:11 > 0:50:13There's no privileges.
0:50:13 > 0:50:18It's over. They are getting nothing. I am sick of this already.
0:50:18 > 0:50:22He just didn't say a word and that is when I was like, "Are you angry?
0:50:22 > 0:50:25"Are you mad? Do you want to get mad?"
0:50:25 > 0:50:28Just being a complete wind-up. I just thought it was funny.
0:50:28 > 0:50:35In the face of her punishment, Rosie decided she'd had enough and it was time to head home.
0:50:35 > 0:50:40I don't want to be with these people. I don't like them, they're nothing to me.
0:50:45 > 0:50:48- How can you actually do this? - I don't know.
0:50:49 > 0:50:52- I'm not staying in this- BLEEP.
0:50:52 > 0:50:57They wouldn't let me go, so I thought the only way I am going to get to go is if I get kicked out.
0:50:57 > 0:51:01So I was just trying everything.
0:51:01 > 0:51:03Open the gate!
0:51:03 > 0:51:08Rosie just switched and she went mad at Ed.
0:51:08 > 0:51:10Open the gate!
0:51:10 > 0:51:14I'm going to trash your house until you open the gate.
0:51:14 > 0:51:17He just ignored me.
0:51:17 > 0:51:20That just winds you up even more because you just want to stand there
0:51:20 > 0:51:24and have an argument with someone and no-one was arguing with me.
0:51:24 > 0:51:27- I want to get out of- BLEEP!
0:51:27 > 0:51:32At one point I know that he so wanted to shout at me.
0:51:32 > 0:51:34I was right up in his face.
0:51:34 > 0:51:36I will smash your car window.
0:51:38 > 0:51:41Why won't you open the gate?
0:51:41 > 0:51:43The man did not shout at me once.
0:51:43 > 0:51:47- The keys to get out of the gate. - All right, honey. Try those keys.
0:51:47 > 0:51:49- What- BLEEP- key is this?
0:51:49 > 0:51:52That's a car key. That car isn't here any more.
0:51:52 > 0:51:58Well, then, you won't mind if I do this, then, will you?
0:52:01 > 0:52:05I was thinking, "Rosie, you're insane."
0:52:05 > 0:52:08At the time, I didn't feel bad at all.
0:52:08 > 0:52:10I just cared about getting out of there.
0:52:10 > 0:52:15Today, you have shown me that, in fact, you are not 16,
0:52:15 > 0:52:18- you are six years old.- Well...
0:52:18 > 0:52:21Have your fit, and when we're done...when you're done...
0:52:21 > 0:52:24- No, listen to me... - I'm done with you. I'm done.
0:52:24 > 0:52:26- No, listen to me! - I'm done with you.
0:52:26 > 0:52:29How do you expect me...
0:52:29 > 0:52:34How do you expect me to talk to you like an adult with respect
0:52:34 > 0:52:36when you're treating me like I am...
0:52:36 > 0:52:40When I sort of realised they weren't going to send me home,
0:52:40 > 0:52:42I was like, "Oh, my God, what have I done?
0:52:42 > 0:52:45"I've been horrible and I've got to spend a week with these people."
0:52:45 > 0:52:48We were on the second day. I was like, "Oh, my God!"
0:52:48 > 0:52:55I am truly sorry, I really regret speaking to you the way I did and it was completely uncalled for.
0:52:55 > 0:52:59For the rest of the time that I'm here, I'm going to follow your rules.
0:53:01 > 0:53:07With both teens finally ready to co-operate, Ed hoped to shine some light on their issues.
0:53:07 > 0:53:11Nick was sent to work in a foster home for the day.
0:53:11 > 0:53:15- Do you have your mum?- Yeah. - I don't have mine, but I am grateful for what I have.
0:53:15 > 0:53:20I'm going to listen to your advice and I will help my mum more when I get home.
0:53:20 > 0:53:24Going to the foster home made me appreciate my parents a lot.
0:53:24 > 0:53:26It made me think about them
0:53:26 > 0:53:29and there was nothing else going through my mind
0:53:29 > 0:53:32apart from my parents and how badly I have treated both of them.
0:53:32 > 0:53:36It was just like a weight lifted off my shoulders.
0:53:36 > 0:53:39I felt so good after that.
0:53:41 > 0:53:42Take care.
0:53:42 > 0:53:43Bye, Ed.
0:53:43 > 0:53:46'I do definitely feel proud of myself for lasting the week,'
0:53:46 > 0:53:50like when Ed and Marta were proud of me, I was like, "Ahh!"
0:53:50 > 0:53:53See ya, bruv.
0:53:53 > 0:53:55'I felt differently at the end.'
0:53:55 > 0:53:58I thought, "These guys, maybe they do know what they're talking about."
0:54:06 > 0:54:08Hi!
0:54:16 > 0:54:19- God, I've missed you! - I've missed you too.
0:54:23 > 0:54:25Since I've got back from Puerto Rico,
0:54:25 > 0:54:29I'm at college now, I'm doing a hairdressing course.
0:54:29 > 0:54:31I really like it, I really enjoy it.
0:54:31 > 0:54:36Spending time with the Hills, I suppose it did make me realise...
0:54:36 > 0:54:39well, anyone, really, can do what they want.
0:54:39 > 0:54:41You've just got to work for it.
0:54:41 > 0:54:45She knows now that this is the time to work hard.
0:54:45 > 0:54:48Start making a future for myself.
0:54:48 > 0:54:52And it makes me really, really proud of her that she is doing it now.
0:54:52 > 0:54:54I do think that I have grown up since I have come back.
0:54:54 > 0:54:57I do think I have been more responsible.
0:54:57 > 0:55:00I don't drink as often as I used to, but I think that's just because
0:55:00 > 0:55:03there's more to life than going out and getting drunk.
0:55:03 > 0:55:08I can honestly say I worry about Rosie less now.
0:55:08 > 0:55:13She's obviously realised that her behaviour impacts on all of us.
0:55:13 > 0:55:18The difference that makes as a household, you know, as a family, is massive.
0:55:21 > 0:55:29Before he went to Puerto Rico, Nicholas was lost, absolutely lost.
0:55:29 > 0:55:32And now he is trying to improve.
0:55:32 > 0:55:36He's taking life like a man, and that made me very proud.
0:55:36 > 0:55:40Since getting back from Puerto Rico, I think I have matured quite a bit.
0:55:40 > 0:55:44I realised that I need to straighten up my act, so I started looking for work.
0:55:44 > 0:55:47- Can I give you a CV? - Yeah. No worries, dude.
0:55:47 > 0:55:50I don't smoke weed any more.
0:55:50 > 0:55:52I help out a lot more.
0:55:52 > 0:55:55If my mum wants something done, I don't have a problem with anything.
0:55:55 > 0:55:57I'll just get on with it.
0:55:57 > 0:56:01We really feel more like a family with Nicholas around.
0:56:01 > 0:56:08He is more friendly. He is the Nicholas that I used to know.
0:56:08 > 0:56:13My little boy. I'm very happy.
0:56:13 > 0:56:15Give me a cuddle. Give me a cuddle, go on.
0:56:15 > 0:56:19It's smart to think about the future, and it's just made me want to,
0:56:19 > 0:56:22like, you know, achieve what I want,
0:56:22 > 0:56:24be what I want to be, and I can do it.
0:56:24 > 0:56:26I've proved that to myself.
0:56:34 > 0:56:37# I know you're not ready to live
0:56:38 > 0:56:40# Are you ready to die?
0:56:46 > 0:56:48# Cos under your skin Under your skin
0:56:48 > 0:56:50# Under your skin
0:56:51 > 0:56:53# Is a regular guy. #
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