0:00:02 > 0:00:05Around the world, many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...
0:00:05 > 0:00:09It's our responsibility as parents to be in control of the music that
0:00:09 > 0:00:13they listen to, the movies they watch, and the friends they have.
0:00:13 > 0:00:16- Rub, rub, rub.- ..rigid boundaries...
0:00:16 > 0:00:17Am I friends with my children?
0:00:17 > 0:00:21No. I'm not your friend, I'm your parent.
0:00:21 > 0:00:23..and the meaning of consequences.
0:00:23 > 0:00:25My dad is really strict.
0:00:25 > 0:00:28Phew, if you break the rules, he can be very scary.
0:00:31 > 0:00:35But can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:35 > 0:00:38I was brought here,
0:00:38 > 0:00:39on this Earth, to party.
0:00:39 > 0:00:42She can be an absolute nightmare. It's awful.
0:00:42 > 0:00:47My lifestyle is playing Xbox and getting hammered.
0:00:49 > 0:00:53You, I'm getting you! I went to anger management.
0:00:53 > 0:00:56Got kicked out of anger management for being angry.
0:00:56 > 0:00:58No-one can tell me what to do.
0:00:58 > 0:01:01Not even the Queen of England can tell me what to do.
0:01:02 > 0:01:06He's slapped me, he's poked me, he's pushed me. He's done it all.
0:01:07 > 0:01:09I am what I am. If you don't like it, then jog on.
0:01:10 > 0:01:15To find out, two teens who've never met before will leave their fraught families behind.
0:01:15 > 0:01:19- Maybe she'll come back home and be nice.- Doubt it.
0:01:19 > 0:01:21And head off to the far corners of the world,
0:01:21 > 0:01:26where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:26 > 0:01:30You are not in the UK, you are in Barbados.
0:01:30 > 0:01:33They are the most awful people I've ever met in my whole life.
0:01:33 > 0:01:36If she wants to throw a hissy fit, she can have her hissy fit.
0:01:38 > 0:01:42- I'm going home, bruv. - What are you going to do?
0:01:42 > 0:01:46This is our rule. If you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it.
0:01:46 > 0:01:49- What's the point? - It's a matter of trust!
0:01:49 > 0:01:52If this is how they are, I'm sorry for Britain.
0:02:06 > 0:02:08I'm waiting for you to give me money so I can get ready to go.
0:02:08 > 0:02:12"Mum, can I borrow some money," you really should say, shouldn't you?
0:02:12 > 0:02:14- Are you going to give it me back? - Yes, I will.- When?
0:02:14 > 0:02:18When I get a job. I'll give you all your money back when I get a job.
0:02:18 > 0:02:2217-year-old Nicole Benham thinks the world owes her a living.
0:02:22 > 0:02:24- No cigarettes.- Yes, fine!
0:02:24 > 0:02:28Don't snatch, Nicole, for God's sake.
0:02:28 > 0:02:31'She's lazy. She's obnoxious.'
0:02:31 > 0:02:33She's just turned into a brat.
0:02:33 > 0:02:37She should give me more money, because I do live quite an extravagant lifestyle.
0:02:37 > 0:02:40That's her job, she's meant to fund what I do.
0:02:40 > 0:02:42I love Champagne.
0:02:42 > 0:02:44I like finer restaurants as well.
0:02:44 > 0:02:47Snails and...
0:02:47 > 0:02:50gnocchi and stuff like that. I have acquired taste.
0:02:52 > 0:02:57Nicole has never lived with her father. Her parents separated before she was born.
0:02:57 > 0:03:02I don't know much about my dad, and where he's from. I don't see him much, I don't want to see him.
0:03:02 > 0:03:06Mum was only 18 when she had Nicole, and struggled to bring her up.
0:03:06 > 0:03:12From nine-months-old, Nicole was raised by her grandparents.
0:03:12 > 0:03:16She was a happy, happy-go-lucky little girl.
0:03:16 > 0:03:17She was just a joy to have.
0:03:17 > 0:03:22This one of Nicole was when she went to boarding school.
0:03:22 > 0:03:25I think this was just before she went off the rails.
0:03:25 > 0:03:31But growing up as a mixed-race child in rural Devon, she often felt the odd one out.
0:03:31 > 0:03:33That's Nicole.
0:03:33 > 0:03:39There was only about 100 people in her primary school, and there were no coloured children at all there.
0:03:39 > 0:03:41We need glasses.
0:03:41 > 0:03:43- Cheers, girl.- Mum!
0:03:43 > 0:03:46- Need another cup. - 'It's been a nightmare, you know?'
0:03:46 > 0:03:49An absolute nightmare. Our health has suffered because of it.
0:03:49 > 0:03:51'She's just so lazy.
0:03:51 > 0:03:54'She won't get up, she's smoking.
0:03:54 > 0:03:56'I don't know if she's doing drugs.'
0:03:56 > 0:03:58She just rebels against anything.
0:03:58 > 0:04:01- Bye!- Bye, Chrissie!
0:04:06 > 0:04:09I'm going to be sick!
0:04:13 > 0:04:18- You just don't care, do you?- Not really.- BLEEP- off, Mum, seriously. You're pissing me off.
0:04:18 > 0:04:22She's destroying me. She's destroyed my parents.
0:04:22 > 0:04:24I find it terribly upsetting.
0:04:24 > 0:04:29She's really got to grow up and realise,
0:04:29 > 0:04:31what you put in, you get out.
0:04:31 > 0:04:34And she's not putting stuff in at the moment.
0:04:41 > 0:04:44- What are you doing later on today, love?- I don't know.
0:04:44 > 0:04:48- What d'you mean, "don't know?"- Can you shut up? I'm trying to play.
0:04:48 > 0:04:53Only three things are important to 16-year-old Nathan Ballance.
0:04:53 > 0:04:56My lifestyle is playing Xbox, getting hammered and having sex.
0:04:56 > 0:04:59Nathan is not a little shit, he's a big shit.
0:04:59 > 0:05:02But a very charming big shit, at the best of times.
0:05:02 > 0:05:05I've slept with about 24 people and that's what I tell to the lads.
0:05:05 > 0:05:10But if I'm talking to the lasses, I tell them about five. It makes me sound like less of a slag.
0:05:10 > 0:05:13- All in all, he's a spoilt little - BLEEP.- Sponging off everybody.
0:05:13 > 0:05:20Nathan was kicked out of school without a single GCSE, but life's never been better.
0:05:20 > 0:05:22I don't really see the point in getting a job, because if
0:05:22 > 0:05:25you want to enjoy your life, there's no point in getting one.
0:05:25 > 0:05:31I work anything from 30 to 40 hours a week and I come in, and I still have to cook. I still have to clean.
0:05:31 > 0:05:33'Because he does absolutely nothing.'
0:05:33 > 0:05:37- Used wrappers?- Used wrappers, not condoms. Just the wrappers.
0:05:37 > 0:05:41No, I actually used a piece of tissue and picked them up and put them in the bin for you.
0:05:41 > 0:05:44Nathan's parents split up when he was four.
0:05:44 > 0:05:50He rarely sees his dad, so mum has to deal with his angry outbursts alone.
0:05:50 > 0:05:54- Mucky sock, mucky underwear. - BLEEP- you!
0:05:54 > 0:05:56If I'm not in a good mood, yeah, I am very aggressive.
0:05:56 > 0:05:59He'll tell me how much he hates me, how useless I am, how it's all my fault.
0:05:59 > 0:06:03I've had enough of holes in the walls and knife marks through doors.
0:06:03 > 0:06:05I've had enough of it.
0:06:05 > 0:06:08'I'm very scared when he gets in a bad temper.'
0:06:08 > 0:06:11- Go on, Nathan, you can get up and get out of the way. - Oh, shut up,- BLEEP- you.
0:06:11 > 0:06:15I don't know what he's capable of. Sometimes I've thought he would hit me.
0:06:15 > 0:06:18As it stands at the moment, Nathan's future holds absolutely nothing.
0:06:25 > 0:06:28To try and get their lives back on track, both teenagers have agreed
0:06:28 > 0:06:32to spend a week living with some of the world's strictest parents.
0:06:32 > 0:06:35- Right, then.- See you. - See you in a few days.
0:06:35 > 0:06:39- Don't give them any harder time than you give me.- I won't.- All right.
0:06:39 > 0:06:42Enjoy yourself. See you later.
0:06:42 > 0:06:46I'm hoping Nathan comes back as a different person because
0:06:46 > 0:06:51he needs to for his own self being, to get off his backside and learn.
0:06:51 > 0:06:57Give us a kiss. Don't be so bloody awkward! Give your sister a cuddle.
0:06:57 > 0:07:00Please be good, Nicole. Promise me.
0:07:00 > 0:07:03- Yep, see you later.- See you later. Be good.
0:07:05 > 0:07:07Loving child, isn't she?
0:07:08 > 0:07:12- Maybe she'll come back and be nice, loving and...- Doubt it.
0:07:12 > 0:07:17I just hope she comes back and realises
0:07:17 > 0:07:20what we do mean to her, not just
0:07:20 > 0:07:22people she can use and abuse.
0:07:22 > 0:07:27- Hi. I'm Nicole.- I'm Nathan. - Nice to meet you.
0:07:30 > 0:07:34The teens are heading to Barbados.
0:07:34 > 0:07:40An island paradise, and playground for millionaires and celebrities.
0:07:43 > 0:07:47But here they will be staying with the Harris family.
0:07:47 > 0:07:51Seven Day Adventists who live their lives by the letter of the Bible.
0:07:53 > 0:08:00Mum Andrea is a primary school teacher, and dad Kenrick is an IT consultant.
0:08:00 > 0:08:04We are a Christian-minded, Christian-oriented family.
0:08:04 > 0:08:07God first, then you have family.
0:08:07 > 0:08:14# All things bright and beautiful All creatures great and small... #
0:08:14 > 0:08:19'We would describe ourselves as strict but fair parents.'
0:08:19 > 0:08:21Our family believes in discipline,
0:08:21 > 0:08:25we believe in our children trying to live to the highest of their potential.
0:08:25 > 0:08:33The Harris approach to parenting has made eight-year-old Ashley and 16-year-old Kendria model daughters.
0:08:33 > 0:08:35Number one discipline in the house is lashes.
0:08:35 > 0:08:40When I lose my temper, a lot of things can happen!
0:08:40 > 0:08:42My voice raises.
0:08:45 > 0:08:49My body language is more in a fighting mode.
0:08:51 > 0:08:56The children have been brought up to pull their weight in the family home.
0:08:56 > 0:08:57I have to wash the dishes.
0:08:57 > 0:08:59I wash the wheels...
0:08:59 > 0:09:03Clean my bedroom, clean the windows.
0:09:03 > 0:09:05Wash clothes, press...
0:09:05 > 0:09:08- Clean the car.- Sweep the house.
0:09:08 > 0:09:12Mop. That's all.
0:09:13 > 0:09:19After a long flight the teens finally arrive in the Caribbean.
0:09:29 > 0:09:33I would like to have a cigarette now after 12 hours of not having one.
0:09:37 > 0:09:43Barbados is a former British colony and its laws are based on our own.
0:09:43 > 0:09:46You have to be 18 to drink or smoke.
0:09:48 > 0:09:49There's a Heineken shop!
0:09:49 > 0:09:53Can we get out here, please? Please, please.
0:09:53 > 0:09:55The temptation proves irresistible.
0:09:57 > 0:10:01I just wanted a nice cold beer and a cigarette for the road.
0:10:01 > 0:10:03So I've got that.
0:10:03 > 0:10:08I've got another 20 cigs in my bag, I just bought a pack of 20 and two pouches of baccy.
0:10:08 > 0:10:10I'm putting up with a strict family
0:10:10 > 0:10:14so I'm going to have to smoke like a double the amount just to put up with them.
0:10:20 > 0:10:25It looks like shacks, like beach shacks.
0:10:25 > 0:10:30It's not that I expected. I expected nice like Sandals hotels and stuff.
0:10:37 > 0:10:43From the moment the teens arrive they will be subject to the same strict rules as the Harris children.
0:10:48 > 0:10:51Come on in, welcome.
0:10:51 > 0:10:55- Would you like a hand? - Yes, please, thank you.
0:11:00 > 0:11:02Hi. I'm Andrea.
0:11:02 > 0:11:04Hi, Andrea, I'm Nicole.
0:11:04 > 0:11:08- I'm Nathan.- Nice to meet you.
0:11:08 > 0:11:12It's late, so the Harrises' plan is to get the teens tucked up in bed as quickly as possible.
0:11:12 > 0:11:16For tonight, just to let you all know, there is no smoking...
0:11:16 > 0:11:20So if you have any cigarettes you have to hand them over now.
0:11:20 > 0:11:23I'm sorry, but that's not going to happen.
0:11:23 > 0:11:25- I can't go eight days without smoking.- Nathan...
0:11:25 > 0:11:29- Well, Nathan...- That's not going to happen. It's my choice to smoke.
0:11:29 > 0:11:31Nathan, you will go eight days without smoking.
0:11:31 > 0:11:36Nathan, if you don't hand over the cigarettes right now you can take your journey back through the door.
0:11:38 > 0:11:40Lovely. Thank you.
0:11:41 > 0:11:44I ain't stopping smoking.
0:11:44 > 0:11:46That's being disrespectful. Yes, Nicole?
0:11:46 > 0:11:48I don't have any cigarettes on me.
0:11:48 > 0:11:51Do you have any alcohol, do you have any drugs on you?
0:11:51 > 0:11:54No, I don't have any intoxicating substances on me.
0:11:54 > 0:11:58OK, so if we find out you're telling lies you are going to be in trouble
0:11:58 > 0:12:01because I did not expect this night to start like this.
0:12:01 > 0:12:05For Nathan, the Harrises' tough stance is unsettling.
0:12:05 > 0:12:07I'm pretty surprised, to be fair.
0:12:07 > 0:12:12I'm willing to just smoke what I've got on me, they'll be gone by the end of tomorrow, easily,
0:12:12 > 0:12:14then I'm willing not to buy any more,
0:12:14 > 0:12:19and give it a try. Sort of.
0:12:19 > 0:12:25Just as he would at home, at Nathan wants to argue his way around the rules.
0:12:25 > 0:12:29Now let me find out, you're going to hand over the cigarettes.
0:12:29 > 0:12:34I've made a very good compromise that's fair on both of us.
0:12:34 > 0:12:38I'll smoke what I've got left, all I've got left is half a packet in my pocket.
0:12:38 > 0:12:40We will go with what we want and right now
0:12:40 > 0:12:45the situation is we have decided there will be no more smoking.
0:12:45 > 0:12:50Well, I'm sorry, I am 16, I'm legally classed an adult, I am old enough...
0:12:50 > 0:12:53You are not in the UK, you're in Barbados!
0:12:53 > 0:12:58And you are an adult at 18 years old, my man, not at 16!
0:12:58 > 0:13:02So you don't tell me nothing that you are legally an adult, you're not an adult here!
0:13:02 > 0:13:05You've been to school, haven't you? I don't know.
0:13:05 > 0:13:06Everyone knows about...
0:13:06 > 0:13:09I can't remember his name now.
0:13:09 > 0:13:13The guy who did "I have a dream," the speech.
0:13:13 > 0:13:15ANDREA: Mmm-hmm. Martin Luther King.
0:13:15 > 0:13:17He stood up for human rights, your human right...
0:13:17 > 0:13:20Nathan, you are not... You are talking out of turn.
0:13:20 > 0:13:24You will have a human right when you get back home, but not here.
0:13:24 > 0:13:28- You have human rights all over the world.- Nathan, I finish. I am finished.
0:13:28 > 0:13:30Done, excuse me.
0:13:30 > 0:13:35- This discussion don't finish in five minutes, you go in your bed.- OK.
0:13:35 > 0:13:39Right, so you watch the clock. OK? Good.
0:13:41 > 0:13:43- NATHAN:- I can't be arsed with this shit.
0:13:43 > 0:13:46ANDREA: Nathan, watch the language.
0:13:50 > 0:13:54ANDREA: 'I figured there was going to be some strangeness tonight but not as far as this.'
0:13:54 > 0:13:57He is not even trying to comply.
0:13:57 > 0:14:00If I back down now, my children lose respect for me.
0:14:02 > 0:14:08Until Nathan accepts the rules, the Harrises won't have him under their roof.
0:14:08 > 0:14:11He will spend the night in a local motel to consider his options.
0:14:11 > 0:14:19No-one has ever refused to back down against me, so I was being stubborn basically and not budging.
0:14:19 > 0:14:21It's a change...
0:14:23 > 0:14:26A very shocking change.
0:14:40 > 0:14:42Hello? Good morning.
0:14:42 > 0:14:44Nicole.
0:14:44 > 0:14:46Time to get up.
0:14:46 > 0:14:50In the Harris household, every day begins at dawn.
0:14:54 > 0:14:58After his night in a motel, Nathan has come to a decision.
0:15:03 > 0:15:08Good morning, Nathan. It is nice to see you.
0:15:08 > 0:15:11How was your rest last night? OK, Nathan, remember last night
0:15:11 > 0:15:14we talked about the cigarettes. So you have to hand over all of them.
0:15:16 > 0:15:20'I thought about it last night and I might as well see what sort of people they are.'
0:15:20 > 0:15:24I am willing to abide by their rules, see what it is like living as a teenager over here.
0:15:27 > 0:15:30The Bible preaches "honour thy mother and father."
0:15:30 > 0:15:33Nathan and Nicole, you can come through that door, please.
0:15:33 > 0:15:39To avoid any confusion, the Harrises have spelt out exactly what that means in black and white.
0:15:44 > 0:15:48Well, good morning once again and welcome to our home.
0:15:48 > 0:15:51What these are are rules of love. These are the kind of things
0:15:51 > 0:15:54that we expect from young persons growing up.
0:15:54 > 0:15:58They are going to give you some kind of control as you go forward in life,
0:15:58 > 0:16:02because in life there are rules that we have to live by each and every single day.
0:16:02 > 0:16:03There you go, Nicole.
0:16:03 > 0:16:06There you go, Nathan.
0:16:06 > 0:16:12Before we go any further, do you have any other cigarettes or tobacco
0:16:12 > 0:16:15that you have not handed over to us?
0:16:15 > 0:16:18No. I gave you all I've got.
0:16:18 > 0:16:20We are going to accept that for now.
0:16:20 > 0:16:25We are a strictly religious family and we will not tolerate people taking the Lord's name in vain.
0:16:25 > 0:16:27No unruly behaviour.
0:16:27 > 0:16:31This includes no slamming of doors, no raising of voices.
0:16:31 > 0:16:35No illegal drugs of any type, none.
0:16:35 > 0:16:40Whether it be snorting, smoking, nothing.
0:16:40 > 0:16:44No sexual activity except between married consenting adults.
0:16:44 > 0:16:47That's only the two of us, in this case, no-one else.
0:16:47 > 0:16:50So no sneaking into each other's room.
0:16:50 > 0:16:55If you break these rules, punishment will include any combination of the following -
0:16:55 > 0:17:00going to bed early, removal of privileges, additional chores, scolding.
0:17:00 > 0:17:04- Ultimately, as parents we have full authority.- OK.
0:17:04 > 0:17:08The Harrises want to seal the deal with a prayer.
0:17:08 > 0:17:13Dear eternal God in Heaven, we thank you, dear Jesus, for just being with us this morning.
0:17:13 > 0:17:17You will bless these young people in our midst, you will help us be a guidance to them.
0:17:17 > 0:17:19'I think they're actual, like, psychopaths.'
0:17:19 > 0:17:21They don't understand what normal people are like.
0:17:21 > 0:17:28It is a bit of a shock to us because that sort of thing would never happen with my parents.
0:17:28 > 0:17:31It's just a completely new experience.
0:17:31 > 0:17:35I've got all my contraband in my bra, basically, and it's just staying there.
0:17:37 > 0:17:39Let's load up.
0:17:39 > 0:17:42As fully fledged members of the Harris family,
0:17:42 > 0:17:46the teens are joining Kenrick to help with the weekly family shop.
0:17:50 > 0:17:51Disgusting.
0:17:51 > 0:17:53It is? It's the smell of fresh fish.
0:17:53 > 0:18:00It's disgusting, the smell is like actually sickening. It's just mad.
0:18:00 > 0:18:03I don't even like fish, which is the funniest thing.
0:18:03 > 0:18:05Thank you.
0:18:05 > 0:18:08I'm just looking for somewhere to go for a smoke without the dad following us.
0:18:08 > 0:18:15It's their first outing on the island and Kenrick wants to make sure they are safe at all times.
0:18:15 > 0:18:18Do not move from here. I'll be right back.
0:18:18 > 0:18:24But for the teens, a moment's freedom is too much to resist.
0:18:24 > 0:18:26They head off for a crafty smoke.
0:18:32 > 0:18:35The teens' disappearing act has alarmed Kenrick.
0:18:35 > 0:18:37We're going to get in so much...
0:18:37 > 0:18:40Nathan?
0:18:40 > 0:18:44Nicole, Nathan, Nathan, Nicole, Nicole, come back.
0:18:44 > 0:18:46Come back, Nicole!
0:18:46 > 0:18:48Come back.
0:18:48 > 0:18:51- Nicole, come here. - I feel quite intimidated by you.
0:18:51 > 0:18:56Maybe if you really felt intimidated you'd do as I say.
0:18:56 > 0:19:00But I don't get the impression you really feel intimidated right now.
0:19:00 > 0:19:02- OK.- The first chance you got, you went and smoked.
0:19:04 > 0:19:08Although you might not know I can see, I can see what you're doing.
0:19:08 > 0:19:11- OK.- I don't have eyes in the back of my head but I'm extremely observant.
0:19:11 > 0:19:14Nicole. Nicole!
0:19:14 > 0:19:16Nicole!
0:19:16 > 0:19:18Excuse me one minute.
0:19:21 > 0:19:25Could you please stop, I need to speak to you one minute.
0:19:25 > 0:19:27Let me explain to you one more time.
0:19:27 > 0:19:34I'm a bit annoyed at the whole situation so I really need to stop and think about it
0:19:34 > 0:19:38as I drive back up the road as to what would be additional...
0:19:38 > 0:19:42Hold on, hold on, there they go again.
0:19:42 > 0:19:45Let me just go and find out where they're going again this time.
0:19:47 > 0:19:52The teens finally stop running and daughter Kendria is not amused.
0:19:52 > 0:19:55Right now I am really, really upset.
0:19:55 > 0:19:58My parents will have no...
0:19:59 > 0:20:03..hesitation flogging you, as he calls it.
0:20:03 > 0:20:05Exactly. I'm not willing to just bend over
0:20:05 > 0:20:09- and be like, "Come on, yeah, spank me, baby," for- BLEEP- sake. No.
0:20:09 > 0:20:16I think you should go and find my father.
0:20:18 > 0:20:23Apologise and let us go home and see what happens there.
0:20:23 > 0:20:26OK, we're back.
0:20:26 > 0:20:29Kenrick has called ahead to tell his wife about the teens' behaviour.
0:20:29 > 0:20:34Andrea is determined to get to the bottom of what has gone on.
0:20:34 > 0:20:39It seems to be that somebody here did something.
0:20:39 > 0:20:43I want to hear your side of the story, Nicole.
0:20:43 > 0:20:46- I can't remember.- No, hello, hello!
0:20:46 > 0:20:48- Hi!- Don't go there with me.
0:20:48 > 0:20:50You did something, 'fess up.
0:20:50 > 0:20:52We discussed this this morning.
0:20:52 > 0:20:55Nathan, what went on? I want to hear your part of the story.
0:20:55 > 0:20:58We smoked and sat on the beach.
0:20:58 > 0:21:04You told Mr Harris you was going for a smoke or something, you just walked away?
0:21:04 > 0:21:08- We just walked off.- You just walked off? I can't trust the two of you to go anywhere together
0:21:08 > 0:21:12because it seems somebody is a bad influence on somebody else.
0:21:12 > 0:21:15Let me talk to you woman to woman, because you is a woman.
0:21:15 > 0:21:19Andrea is accustomed to her children listening respectfully during a scolding.
0:21:19 > 0:21:24I want you to look at me because you must look at me. You know why?
0:21:24 > 0:21:26Listen to hear why you must, don't give me that talk.
0:21:26 > 0:21:29I don't look at anyone when I speak to them, I'm not going to look at you.
0:21:29 > 0:21:34Even if you don't look now you're going to look eventually, you know why?
0:21:34 > 0:21:37Because you want to be treated as a woman.
0:21:37 > 0:21:40"Look at me, world, I'm 17!
0:21:40 > 0:21:44"I can smoke, I can drink, I can do what I want!"
0:21:44 > 0:21:47But still you cannot take no advice from nobody.
0:21:47 > 0:21:50You only act tough but you ain't tough.
0:21:50 > 0:21:52I don't act tough at all.
0:21:52 > 0:21:57Yes, you do, you are very mouthy... shut up, I'm not finished, when I'm done you will have time to talk.
0:21:57 > 0:22:02- Don't tell me to shut up.- I will say shut up, so shut up, because I told you already this morning...
0:22:02 > 0:22:08- Get the...- I told you this morning! - BLEEP- off,- BLEEP- you! Seriously. Get off me!
0:22:08 > 0:22:14You are a woman, stand your ground, you're cussing me, stand your ground!
0:22:14 > 0:22:16Stand your ground!
0:22:17 > 0:22:20You is a woman, stand your ground!
0:22:20 > 0:22:22You're not a woman, you are a child!
0:22:22 > 0:22:24You don't even know how to behave.
0:22:24 > 0:22:28- Nicole?- She's a baby.
0:22:33 > 0:22:36I'm not going to stand there and argue with that psychotic bitch.
0:22:36 > 0:22:39- Seriously. What the- BLEEP- wrong with her.
0:22:39 > 0:22:43- I think she's mentally ill, seriously. She must be.- BLEEP.
0:22:45 > 0:22:51I am not so big a person that if she talks to me I can't apologise for something.
0:22:51 > 0:22:54If she thinks I need to apologise, I will hear her out.
0:22:54 > 0:22:59But if she is a woman she needs to come back and we need to talk about this and she needs to apologise.
0:22:59 > 0:23:04As a stand off develops, Kenrick is getting the measure of Nicole's behaviour.
0:23:04 > 0:23:11There is something definitely wrong there where she runs each and every time somebody stands up to her.
0:23:14 > 0:23:21When Andrea leaves to take Kendria to music school, Nicole dares to return to the house.
0:23:21 > 0:23:24- Nicole.- Hi.
0:23:24 > 0:23:26- Welcome back.- Thank you.
0:23:26 > 0:23:29Is there anything you want to say?
0:23:29 > 0:23:31- Nothing at all?- No.
0:23:35 > 0:23:41I am very nervous about Andrea's return.
0:23:41 > 0:23:45I don't know how to carry myself when she's around.
0:23:45 > 0:23:47I just don't know what to do.
0:23:51 > 0:23:53Good evening.
0:23:59 > 0:24:03Yes, ma'am, Miss Nicole?
0:24:03 > 0:24:05You ready to talk now?
0:24:05 > 0:24:07Come this way.
0:24:09 > 0:24:14Now, Nicole, I am not pleased with your attitude, I am not pleased with it at all.
0:24:14 > 0:24:17I will apologise for coming in your face
0:24:17 > 0:24:19but I will not apologise
0:24:19 > 0:24:23for losing my temper and trying to speak to you.
0:24:23 > 0:24:28I don't know you but I care about you. I can look at you and tell you so.
0:24:28 > 0:24:35But you have to care about Nicole because I can care all I like, talk all I like,
0:24:35 > 0:24:40it's not going to make a difference unless Nicole wants it to make a difference.
0:24:40 > 0:24:42So again, the ball is in your court.
0:24:48 > 0:24:51'I don't know how I'm going to cope for the rest of the week.'
0:24:51 > 0:24:55What I do when things start getting heavy, because I don't like arguments,
0:24:55 > 0:24:58I don't like confrontation, I just back off.
0:24:58 > 0:25:01If I was at home, I'd go to my room or take the dog for a walk,
0:25:01 > 0:25:04but here I can't do that because it's not my house.
0:25:06 > 0:25:08Today has been a really hard day.
0:25:08 > 0:25:13The family are just crazy, they really are.
0:25:13 > 0:25:15It's really hard.
0:25:25 > 0:25:28Nathan? Come on, time to rise and shine.
0:25:28 > 0:25:30Move it.
0:25:30 > 0:25:35For the Harris family, a good education is the foundation for a successful and happy life.
0:25:35 > 0:25:39So today, Nicole and Nathan will be attending school.
0:25:39 > 0:25:40What's the time?
0:25:45 > 0:25:495.30am? Seriously?
0:25:52 > 0:25:56Six months ago, Nicole was expelled from a private boarding school,
0:25:56 > 0:26:01whilst Nathan left school at 14 without a single qualification.
0:26:01 > 0:26:03Don't laugh!
0:26:05 > 0:26:07That's not going to stay.
0:26:07 > 0:26:10Nicole, are you looking forward to going to school?
0:26:12 > 0:26:15Yeah, I'm really looking forward to going to school.
0:26:16 > 0:26:20The teens are heading to Harrison College, one of the most
0:26:20 > 0:26:25prestigious schools on the island, having produced five out of the six previous prime ministers.
0:26:25 > 0:26:30The headmaster is Winston Crichlow who attributes much of his success to firm discipline.
0:26:30 > 0:26:34We do have corporal punishment still on the statute books.
0:26:34 > 0:26:36There are many other measures that we take
0:26:36 > 0:26:40to ensure our students are well-disciplined.
0:26:40 > 0:26:45For Kenrick, the teens' behaviour will be a matter of great personal pride.
0:26:45 > 0:26:51Nathan, you're attending my old school, Harrison College.
0:26:51 > 0:26:55I spent many good years here, didn't give too much trouble
0:26:55 > 0:26:59and I will expect the same thing from you both today.
0:26:59 > 0:27:02Remember, there may be a temptation here and there.
0:27:02 > 0:27:06Some cigarettes or whatever knocking around.
0:27:06 > 0:27:11I will be seeing you again this afternoon and I am expecting a good report.
0:27:13 > 0:27:17- Have a good day.- Thank you. - OK, then. Bye-bye.
0:27:17 > 0:27:21While Barbados has a state school system, Harrison College is like
0:27:21 > 0:27:26the Eton of the island, attended by the most privileged pupils.
0:27:26 > 0:27:31In honour of their British guests, the school have arranged a welcoming committee.
0:27:31 > 0:27:35I want welcome both of you to Harrison College.
0:27:35 > 0:27:38We are very firm on discipline.
0:27:38 > 0:27:40We expect you to fall in line.
0:27:40 > 0:27:46Rule number one is very important in our school, a breach of common sense is a breach of the school rules.
0:27:46 > 0:27:49If you do something silly or stupid, you will be punished.
0:27:49 > 0:27:52For the young lady, are you wearing eye make-up?
0:27:52 > 0:27:57- Yes.- You have to wash it off. We don't allow make-up here at school.
0:27:57 > 0:28:02We are glad to have you and hope you enjoy your time here.
0:28:02 > 0:28:06- They can- BLEEP- off because I am not staying here.
0:28:06 > 0:28:10Not if I have to take my make-up off. No. I'm running away. I'm being serious.
0:28:10 > 0:28:15I am not doing that because I am not myself when I haven't got make-up on. They can bugger off.
0:28:15 > 0:28:21Their first class is taught by the appropriately-named Miss Lashley.
0:28:21 > 0:28:24OK, welcome to our class. This is English literature
0:28:24 > 0:28:29and we are happy to have you and eager to hear what you say about yourselves.
0:28:29 > 0:28:30Hi, I am Nicole.
0:28:30 > 0:28:36I am from England and I don't go to school because I have been kicked out of three schools.
0:28:36 > 0:28:40Yeah.
0:28:40 > 0:28:47I'm Nathan, I am from the UK, too. I left school when I was 14 now I am not doing owt.
0:28:47 > 0:28:48Any questions?
0:28:48 > 0:28:51What are your hobbies?
0:28:51 > 0:28:55Go drinking, take drugs and sleep all day.
0:28:55 > 0:28:59That's what I do, honestly, that's what I do in England is nothing.
0:28:59 > 0:29:02So, you mean like, marijuana or cocaine, or...
0:29:02 > 0:29:04That's a good question.
0:29:04 > 0:29:10There's marijuana, coke, crack, ecstasy, speed.
0:29:14 > 0:29:16Anything you can get your hands on.
0:29:16 > 0:29:17Anything you can get.
0:29:17 > 0:29:23It's kind of scary knowing that you are at the same age as us and you've been doing drugs for so long.
0:29:23 > 0:29:31We would never even imagine doing this stuff on a daily basis. It's just wrong!
0:29:31 > 0:29:35I thought it was pure rubbish. I find it lazy and a lack of direction
0:29:35 > 0:29:37and lack of respect altogether for
0:29:37 > 0:29:41your parents, your friends, all those who are close to you.
0:29:41 > 0:29:44- Yeah.- Make some room for Nathan and Nicole in the class because I want
0:29:44 > 0:29:51to set some work I think is important coming out of our discussions so far.
0:29:51 > 0:29:56Everybody is going to do this and it is going to be read out in class.
0:29:56 > 0:30:00You are writing on mistakes you have made in your life.
0:30:00 > 0:30:02The lessons you have learned so far.
0:30:02 > 0:30:06This gives everybody a chance to reflect.
0:30:06 > 0:30:11It's only the first class of the day and Nathan has already given up.
0:30:11 > 0:30:14Back in the UK, you will never find kids like these.
0:30:14 > 0:30:18Everybody cares about having fun and enjoying theirselves, really.
0:30:18 > 0:30:23It makes me feel like I am a piece of shit on someone's shoe.
0:30:23 > 0:30:28They are all so determined to do well in their life.
0:30:28 > 0:30:31At Harrison College, appearances are important.
0:30:31 > 0:30:36Nicole is pulled up for a second time.
0:30:36 > 0:30:41Show her the bathroom so she can remove this make-up from her face.
0:30:41 > 0:30:46If you look, you'll see my students are not wearing make-up. We don't allow it here.
0:30:46 > 0:30:49I'm going.
0:30:51 > 0:30:57Unwilling to toe the line, Nicole does what she does best.
0:30:57 > 0:31:00And Nathan is happy to run alongside her.
0:31:00 > 0:31:02Nathan!
0:31:07 > 0:31:11I'm not bending over and taking it up the arse, like these kids.
0:31:11 > 0:31:18The first lesson we had today, every other lesson is going to be a repeat of the first lesson.
0:31:18 > 0:31:21Us just sitting there, telling the kids what we're like,
0:31:21 > 0:31:26and then basically getting abused by them for the next 30 minutes.
0:31:26 > 0:31:29Hello, good afternoon. Is this Mr Harris?
0:31:29 > 0:31:32We have a slight problem with the two young people.
0:31:32 > 0:31:36They have gone off the compound, I don't know if you will be able to collect them.
0:31:41 > 0:31:45With the teens loose on the streets, Kenrick is forced to leave work early.
0:31:45 > 0:31:47That is them.
0:31:47 > 0:31:49I can see them here now.
0:31:49 > 0:31:54- Are you going back to school? - We're walking up to the school, if that helps.- Thank you.
0:32:07 > 0:32:09Right now, what I'm really thinking,
0:32:09 > 0:32:15is I would like to take the two of them and give both of them a hard slap around their heads.
0:32:15 > 0:32:21My problem is I am not going to chase anyone around Barbados again.
0:32:21 > 0:32:28I am sick and tired of it. To be told that students that I brought here
0:32:28 > 0:32:30have been a disruption is really painful.
0:32:36 > 0:32:40Hours later, an angry and humiliated Kenrick returns home.
0:32:40 > 0:32:44We are going to have a discussion.
0:32:44 > 0:32:47- Just drop it. - No, I am not going to drop it.
0:32:47 > 0:32:48Let me tell you why.
0:32:48 > 0:32:51We have sacrificed so much for the two of you.
0:32:51 > 0:32:56I am disappointed that both of you decided to leave the school compound.
0:32:56 > 0:32:59You do not know the kind of things you could have put that school through.
0:32:59 > 0:33:05But to have you having me walk all over the place up and down the street.
0:33:05 > 0:33:11Going to some extremely dangerous areas where people could have killed one of us.
0:33:11 > 0:33:15If you were my children, I would grab you by the collar and pulled
0:33:15 > 0:33:18you into the car and then I would have thrown some licks at you.
0:33:18 > 0:33:23A lot of those same children, their families are friends of mine.
0:33:23 > 0:33:26Those same teachers went to school with me.
0:33:26 > 0:33:30Some of those same teachers taught me and I have respect for those people.
0:33:30 > 0:33:33But the two of you are not showing any respect for us.
0:33:33 > 0:33:38If you both don't appreciate it, leave this house.
0:33:42 > 0:33:45- I am going to walk away now. - Oh, shit!
0:33:45 > 0:33:49This be somebody trying to talk some sense into you.
0:33:49 > 0:33:50But do as you're accustomed to do.
0:33:50 > 0:33:55You and Nicole run away. You cannot run away from life. Remember that.
0:33:55 > 0:33:57BLEEP.
0:34:10 > 0:34:14Three hours later, Kendria attempts to break the deadlock.
0:34:14 > 0:34:19OK, I have something to say. You may not like it too much,
0:34:19 > 0:34:23you may not like me either, but you need to go inside
0:34:23 > 0:34:26and sincerely apologise.
0:34:26 > 0:34:31Nicole, you need to stop acting like two-year-old.
0:34:31 > 0:34:36- You're getting all shitty though, aren't you? Look at you, for- BLEEP - sake. Calm the- BLEEP- down. Seriously.
0:34:36 > 0:34:40- You need to calm down. - I am- BLEEP- Zen. I'm Zen.
0:34:40 > 0:34:44If you think so, girl. My parents have been putting up with this.
0:34:44 > 0:34:48Count to ten and speak to me when you are calm.
0:34:48 > 0:34:52I am not willing to listen to this.
0:34:52 > 0:34:59With no friends to turn to, and nowhere left to run, Nicole starts to feel sorry for herself.
0:34:59 > 0:35:03I hate myself enough as it is, I don't need people telling me how shit I am.
0:35:03 > 0:35:06I know it is me that causes this.
0:35:06 > 0:35:09If I didn't do the things I did, things wouldn't happen.
0:35:09 > 0:35:14Dragging Nathan along after her, Nicole makes a chance discovery.
0:35:14 > 0:35:15Gin, rum or vodka?
0:35:15 > 0:35:18What shall we go for?
0:35:20 > 0:35:22How much is a bottle of rum?
0:35:22 > 0:35:25A small one. What size? Any of them.
0:35:30 > 0:35:33This is like Christmas come early.
0:35:33 > 0:35:34Cheers.
0:35:36 > 0:35:42They came with one thing in mind, that is to try to get through this week if possible.
0:35:42 > 0:35:43They did not come to change.
0:35:45 > 0:35:49But they will have regrets about a lot things in their life
0:35:49 > 0:35:54that could have been so much different if they would listen and learn.
0:35:54 > 0:36:00Instead of bringing comfort, the drink has only made Nicole feel more miserable.
0:36:00 > 0:36:03Her thoughts turn to her life at home.
0:36:03 > 0:36:07I have had a couple of hours away from them.
0:36:07 > 0:36:15It made me think about my actions as a whole, not just this instant but as a whole
0:36:15 > 0:36:21and how much regret and sorrow and guilt I feel.
0:36:21 > 0:36:23It has got to stop now.
0:36:23 > 0:36:28It's going to continue if I don't stop and make a change, basically.
0:36:35 > 0:36:38I really am sorry
0:36:38 > 0:36:40for what I've done.
0:36:40 > 0:36:46I am just pushing away and if I carry on pushing away I will have nothing left any more.
0:36:46 > 0:36:50I am sincerely sorry about it.
0:36:50 > 0:36:52You want to say something?
0:36:52 > 0:36:58Nicole, we have heard you. We accept your apology.
0:36:59 > 0:37:04We are willing to welcome you back in our home tonight, OK?
0:37:05 > 0:37:09- All right.- I am sorry.
0:37:09 > 0:37:12I really am. Thank you so much.
0:37:15 > 0:37:22Whilst the Harrises are always prepared to forgive and forget, for Nathan an apology is a step too far.
0:37:22 > 0:37:26I think if I went in and apologised, they would probably take us back but
0:37:26 > 0:37:29it wouldn't be the same. It would be like the first few days again
0:37:29 > 0:37:34where you didn't feel like part of the family and it would be horrible again.
0:37:36 > 0:37:41Nathan spends the night outside sleeping on a nearby porch.
0:37:48 > 0:37:50Good morning, Nicole.
0:37:50 > 0:37:54Morning, Nicole. Time to wake up.
0:37:54 > 0:37:59After another night away from the family home, Nathan has reached a decision.
0:37:59 > 0:38:01I really want to go home now.
0:38:01 > 0:38:03I want to be back with my family.
0:38:03 > 0:38:04I have had enough here.
0:38:04 > 0:38:06I really have.
0:38:06 > 0:38:13I know it may be a stupid idea to go home when I've only been here three days but I've realised a lot
0:38:13 > 0:38:15and it is the weather
0:38:15 > 0:38:19and missing my family and friends, girlfriend.
0:38:19 > 0:38:22I'm missing the stupid things in the UK.
0:38:22 > 0:38:25But Kenrick has other ideas.
0:38:25 > 0:38:30He's arranged for Nathan to spend the day working with his friend Orlando.
0:38:30 > 0:38:32Orlando will be here to pick you up to take you off to work.
0:38:32 > 0:38:35- We will go from there. - I'm going home, that's it.
0:38:35 > 0:38:37We'll see what happens.
0:38:37 > 0:38:40- Orlando will be here for you.- I am not going to work, I'm going home.
0:38:44 > 0:38:46- Nathan!- Just- BLEEP- off!
0:38:46 > 0:38:51With no dad at home, Nathan is not used to a man telling him what to do.
0:38:51 > 0:38:53Do you know Jack shit about me?
0:38:53 > 0:38:56- No, you- BLEEP- don't.
0:38:56 > 0:39:01And Kenrick's persistence provokes the angry temper his mother is so frightened of.
0:39:01 > 0:39:04He's pissing me off.
0:39:04 > 0:39:07Nathan!
0:39:07 > 0:39:09I just need to calm down.
0:39:09 > 0:39:15- Seriously, if you want me to calm down, just- BLEEP- off and leave me alone.- Nathan...
0:39:15 > 0:39:22- No, listen. If you want me to calm down,- BLEEP- off.- One of the rules we have, watch your language.
0:39:22 > 0:39:26- I don't give a- BLEEP- any more. I don't give a- BLEEP- about your rules!
0:39:26 > 0:39:28- You have to.- No, I don't.
0:39:28 > 0:39:31What are you going to do, kick me out? Please, do it.
0:39:31 > 0:39:35That's what you want me to do. It is not happening.
0:39:35 > 0:39:38- I'm not listening to your- BLEEP- rules.
0:39:38 > 0:39:39You still have to obey them.
0:39:39 > 0:39:42- No, I don't.- Yes, you do. I am not kicking you out.
0:39:42 > 0:39:46You are staying in Barbados!
0:39:52 > 0:39:54Kenrick leaves for work.
0:39:54 > 0:39:59Exhausted, hungry and homesick, Nathan returns to the house...
0:39:59 > 0:40:04- only to have Orlando arrive hot on his heels.- Good morning.
0:40:04 > 0:40:07Hopefully you'll be helping me with some work today, then?
0:40:07 > 0:40:11I'm not going to work today because I cannot be bothered.
0:40:11 > 0:40:13I can't work in this heat.
0:40:13 > 0:40:16- Are you sure? You don't want to try it?- I'm sure.
0:40:16 > 0:40:19Let's say you come, just see what's happening.
0:40:19 > 0:40:21And see how things are transformed.
0:40:21 > 0:40:26- Let's go cos it's just short there. All right?- All right.
0:40:26 > 0:40:33With no fight left in him, Nathan is charmed off the sofa by Orlando's gentle approach.
0:40:39 > 0:40:43Orlando gave up an office job he hated to follow a childhood dream
0:40:43 > 0:40:46and start his own landscaping business.
0:40:46 > 0:40:49And he's never looked back.
0:40:49 > 0:40:52You see the tall grass?
0:40:52 > 0:40:54Just push over it.
0:40:57 > 0:41:00Those bits that are sticking out that you missed.
0:41:00 > 0:41:02It's what I'm doing now.
0:41:07 > 0:41:11Tell me something, have you done any work in the last two years or so?
0:41:11 > 0:41:14- No, I haven't worked in the last two years. - What you did in the last two years?
0:41:14 > 0:41:17- Basically drunk, gone out with my mates...- Pardon?
0:41:17 > 0:41:19- Last two years, I've basically got drunk...- Drunk?
0:41:19 > 0:41:22Yes. Gone out with my mates and smoked spliffs.
0:41:22 > 0:41:24- Smoke... That's marijuana?- Yeah.
0:41:24 > 0:41:30- And why would you smoke marijuana? And drink?- I don't know, really. It was just something to do.
0:41:30 > 0:41:34If I had the ability to give you some joints for the time you were here,
0:41:34 > 0:41:38you feel like it'd encourage you to stay here and work with me?
0:41:39 > 0:41:44No, because I'd just want to smoke the spliffs and sit down and chill-out for the rest of the day.
0:41:44 > 0:41:49The notion of just wanting to smoke and chill, you know, is really a no-go because,
0:41:49 > 0:41:53at the end of the day, you're here to be productive for yourself, your family.
0:41:53 > 0:42:00And if there's one thing that I would want to leave, or one impression that I would want to leave with you
0:42:00 > 0:42:07for this short time you spend with me, which I enjoyed tremendously, is that you be a positive influence,
0:42:07 > 0:42:12firstly to yourself, and then to all of those around you who care for you, like your parents.
0:42:12 > 0:42:15I don't think going back home would be the best thing for you.
0:42:15 > 0:42:20Actually, it would be putting your right back in the position of what caused you to be here. Right?
0:42:20 > 0:42:24So, I'm saying to you, your first test is not to leave Barbados.
0:42:24 > 0:42:26It's to stay here for the next few days.
0:42:26 > 0:42:31- God bless. Look after yourself, all the best when you go back, all right? - Yes.
0:42:31 > 0:42:36Orlando's calm advice has given Nathan a new perspective on his behaviour.
0:42:37 > 0:42:40He wants to stay and see out the week.
0:42:40 > 0:42:43But first, he has to face the Harrises.
0:42:44 > 0:42:48I will apologise to them, but to be fair,
0:42:48 > 0:42:54I don't regret sleeping under the stars because it gave me quite a bit of time to think and clear my head.
0:42:54 > 0:42:58I'm not really one for saying sorry after big things like this.
0:42:58 > 0:43:02I'll say sorry after the little things, just not really big things.
0:43:02 > 0:43:04It's a bit of a challenge, really.
0:43:12 > 0:43:16I'm sorry for last night, for being so disrespectful to you and all of yesterday.
0:43:16 > 0:43:20I understand it was very wrong and very disrespectful.
0:43:33 > 0:43:37Nathan, I really don't know what to say. Because...
0:43:37 > 0:43:39we both held you in very high esteem.
0:43:39 > 0:43:46I do not have a son. In Barbados, when you have sons, women idolise their sons.
0:43:46 > 0:43:49So that is why I spent time talking. It hurts, Nathan.
0:43:49 > 0:43:54It's not just that. I'm not sitting down here dramatising or nothing, it's hurting me.
0:43:54 > 0:43:56- You are welcome back.- Thank you.
0:44:06 > 0:44:11Now, let me just ask, because I've not seen the number I've seen before.
0:44:11 > 0:44:15Is this all that you have? Are there any more?
0:44:15 > 0:44:18- No.- You're certain?- Yes.
0:44:18 > 0:44:20OK.
0:44:27 > 0:44:30Following Nathan's apology for his earlier outburst,
0:44:30 > 0:44:34Kenrick thinks the time is right to deliver him a message from home.
0:44:34 > 0:44:36Hi, Nathan. I have a letter from your mum.
0:44:36 > 0:44:38- Cheers. - There you go, for you to read.
0:44:40 > 0:44:43"Hi, Nathan. Hope you're enjoying your experiences in Barbados.
0:44:43 > 0:44:49"Over the last year, you've gotten a lot better with your anger issues but the ability to go backwards is still
0:44:49 > 0:44:54"there and I still fear because, to be honest, you scared me at some stages.
0:44:54 > 0:44:56"I thought you would lash out at me.
0:44:56 > 0:44:59"It's not something to be proud of.
0:44:59 > 0:45:01"It hurts. A lot."
0:45:03 > 0:45:05"Needless to say, I miss you.
0:45:05 > 0:45:07"Love you lots, Mum. See you soon."
0:45:18 > 0:45:21It...
0:45:21 > 0:45:26All the stuff that my mum is saying that when I used to have a real anger problem, it used to scare her.
0:45:26 > 0:45:28I don't think I ever knew that.
0:45:32 > 0:45:35It makes me feel shit.
0:45:35 > 0:45:36It really does.
0:45:49 > 0:45:52I'm very surprised you're actually here.
0:45:52 > 0:45:56With both teens back in the fold, the Harrises decide a trip to the beach
0:45:56 > 0:46:04will do everyone the world of good. Getting ready for the trip, Nicole puts on her usual layers of make-up.
0:46:04 > 0:46:07But her look is about more than simple fashion.
0:46:07 > 0:46:09I don't like the colour of my skin.
0:46:09 > 0:46:12I don't like being dark. I just don't like it.
0:46:12 > 0:46:14I just want to be a bit lighter.
0:46:14 > 0:46:17Or just completely light and blonde.
0:46:17 > 0:46:21I would say I feel more white, only because I have been brought up
0:46:21 > 0:46:25in a white environment and not really subjected to black culture, in a way.
0:46:25 > 0:46:30I just, I can't explain how I feel about it. I just hate it.
0:46:30 > 0:46:32And I wish I could be lighter.
0:46:32 > 0:46:34If I could, I would.
0:46:36 > 0:46:41Since childhood, Nicole has always been unhappy being mixed race.
0:46:42 > 0:46:47When Nicole was about, I suppose four or five, she was in the bath.
0:46:47 > 0:46:51And her granddad said to her, "Nicole, what are you doing?"
0:46:51 > 0:46:53And she had the scrubber, she was scrubbing.
0:46:53 > 0:46:56And she said, "I want to be white like you, Granddad."
0:46:56 > 0:46:59And this is what the trouble is.
0:46:59 > 0:47:00She cannot see herself.
0:47:00 > 0:47:03I don't like being mixed-race.
0:47:03 > 0:47:06If I could change it, I would, like Michael Jackson.
0:47:06 > 0:47:08That would make me very happy.
0:47:31 > 0:47:33How embarrassing!
0:47:40 > 0:47:43- Amazing?- Yeah. - Had a really good day?- Yeah.
0:47:43 > 0:47:45Because of all that has happened, right,
0:47:45 > 0:47:50as things go well, we try to make sure that you understand that we will treat you well.
0:47:50 > 0:47:52- Yeah, thank you.- No problem.
0:47:52 > 0:47:56The sea has washed away Nicole's make-up.
0:47:56 > 0:47:59And Andrea notices a change in her mood.
0:47:59 > 0:48:03Is it so bad that you don't have on mascara or make-up?
0:48:03 > 0:48:04You don't think you're pretty?
0:48:04 > 0:48:10Definitely not without make-up on, I look like shit. Oh, sorry, I look awful.
0:48:10 > 0:48:15And you really don't need make-up all the time because you're a beautiful girl.
0:48:17 > 0:48:20I realise your skin tone, you are mixed.
0:48:22 > 0:48:25- So you don't like that part of you? - No, hate it.
0:48:25 > 0:48:28So you don't want no part of being black?
0:48:28 > 0:48:30No.
0:48:30 > 0:48:32You'd prefer to be totally white?
0:48:32 > 0:48:35It's who you are, it's who make up you.
0:48:35 > 0:48:40So you have to get a don't-carish attitude in a good sensible way about who Nicole is.
0:48:40 > 0:48:46Nicole, you have to start from the very beginning. You have to start with say who Nicole is.
0:48:46 > 0:48:52When you accept Nicole, you're going to realise out there is going to look at you different.
0:48:54 > 0:48:57- You need to let go of stuff, though, Nicole.- It's hard.
0:48:57 > 0:48:59It's the hardest thing to do.
0:49:01 > 0:49:07I have a better understanding of why certain things she does, behaves certain ways.
0:49:07 > 0:49:09She doesn't feel she's pretty.
0:49:09 > 0:49:12And she doesn't feel well. If you don't accept that you're black,
0:49:12 > 0:49:16you can't accept your hips and your legs and your nose and the shape of your mouth.
0:49:16 > 0:49:18Because our shape is different.
0:49:18 > 0:49:20But all of these are just excuses.
0:49:20 > 0:49:26If she accepts who she is, she would realise they're so many things she can do with herself.
0:49:27 > 0:49:32To be honest, it's making sense, what she's saying. It's nice to...
0:49:32 > 0:49:35it's actually nice to speak to someone for a change.
0:49:37 > 0:49:41Yeah, I would like to start doing normal things, because the more I do,
0:49:41 > 0:49:47it'll benefit not just me but my family as well, if I'm mature enough to cope with issues,
0:49:47 > 0:49:49rather than just be an idiot about it,
0:49:49 > 0:49:54and just take drugs and be reckless and irrational, and run off and stuff.
0:49:54 > 0:49:56I'm more open to change now.
0:50:04 > 0:50:09Impressed with the teens' change in attitude, the Harrises decide
0:50:09 > 0:50:13it's time to send them back to school to complete their education.
0:50:16 > 0:50:20Whilst Nicole knuckles down to her A-level English homework,
0:50:20 > 0:50:25career-truant Nathan is catching up on his basic GCSE chat-up lines.
0:50:25 > 0:50:28How many girlfriends have you had?
0:50:28 > 0:50:33- Do you mean girlfriends, or how many people I've slept with? - Slept with.- About 52.
0:50:33 > 0:50:34SHRIEKING
0:50:36 > 0:50:39- What age did you lose your virginity at?- 12 or 13.
0:50:39 > 0:50:41- 12 or 13?- Oh, God.
0:50:43 > 0:50:45It's a good life.
0:50:45 > 0:50:47You can't go wrong with it.
0:50:47 > 0:50:51It does feel a lot more satisfying, in general, just actually not wasting the day.
0:50:51 > 0:50:54Actually finding some things out about the culture and the teens over here
0:50:54 > 0:50:57than just wandering the streets, basically.
0:50:58 > 0:51:01Nicole has struggled all week to talk about her feelings.
0:51:01 > 0:51:05Yes, Nicole. So, can you read what you wrote for us now?
0:51:05 > 0:51:09Now she's expected to open up in front of the whole class.
0:51:09 > 0:51:14"It is clear from the outset that my life has taken a turn for the worse.
0:51:14 > 0:51:16"I've fallen down the path of destruction.
0:51:16 > 0:51:18"I've had a privileged life.
0:51:18 > 0:51:21"This turned me into an ungrateful, demanding, and very spoilt brat.
0:51:21 > 0:51:25"I'm very close to losing all of my family simply because
0:51:25 > 0:51:31"I fight against help, opportunities and change. I know that I am destructive. And...
0:51:31 > 0:51:36"I may claim I don't care, but underneath my hard exterior
0:51:36 > 0:51:39"is a lonely, vulnerable and extremely confused girl."
0:51:44 > 0:51:46OK.
0:51:48 > 0:51:51"That's why I've got to change, not just for me, for everyone.
0:51:51 > 0:51:57"And in the future, I honestly don't care what I'm doing, or what I want to do, as long as
0:51:57 > 0:52:00"I wake up in the morning and I can honestly say I'm happy with my life.
0:52:00 > 0:52:03"Because I haven't been happy for a long time."
0:52:03 > 0:52:06APPLAUSE
0:52:14 > 0:52:16It hurts me that...
0:52:16 > 0:52:18you as a person...
0:52:18 > 0:52:22you realise now that what you're doing is self-destructive.
0:52:25 > 0:52:28That what you're doing to yourself isn't healthy.
0:52:28 > 0:52:31That's all I think.
0:52:37 > 0:52:42The day has come for Nathan and Nicole to go home.
0:52:42 > 0:52:45Yeah, I am going to miss the Harris family.
0:52:45 > 0:52:50They have helped me a lot in the time I've been here with realising things back home, things I need to change,
0:52:50 > 0:52:54ways that I need to change personally, and things like education and stuff like that.
0:52:54 > 0:52:56They have helped a lot.
0:52:56 > 0:53:00I think I'm much more well-rounded now.
0:53:00 > 0:53:03I can see where I go wrong,
0:53:03 > 0:53:07whereas I didn't before. I will miss the Harris family quite a lot.
0:53:07 > 0:53:11And I'll just miss their, like, values, in a sense.
0:53:13 > 0:53:17Have a safe flight home. I'm going to miss you.
0:53:17 > 0:53:18All the best.
0:53:24 > 0:53:28- Thank you for everything. - My daughter, that don't like hugs.
0:53:42 > 0:53:44Nicole is going back her grandparents,
0:53:44 > 0:53:48who she hasn't seen for two months since they kicked her out.
0:53:51 > 0:53:53- Hi.- Hi, granddad.
0:53:55 > 0:53:56I've missed you.
0:53:58 > 0:54:00So, you've learnt a lot?
0:54:00 > 0:54:04- She chased me down the street saying, "Be a woman, stand your ground."- Exactly.
0:54:04 > 0:54:06And I freaked out and run away.
0:54:06 > 0:54:09I didn't know what to do. I thought she was going to hit me.
0:54:09 > 0:54:12It doesn't matter. You can stand your ground, you shouldn't run away.
0:54:12 > 0:54:18Stand your ground. And, you know, communicate, which is very important.
0:54:18 > 0:54:22I have to prove that I want to change.
0:54:22 > 0:54:25And I can't just sit here and say, you know, "I want to change, and this, and that."
0:54:25 > 0:54:29I have to actually prove to you by doing stuff.
0:54:29 > 0:54:30You can't just take, take, take.
0:54:30 > 0:54:32You have to give back. And that's what I want to do.
0:54:32 > 0:54:36You know, I want to not just enhance my life, but enhance yours as well.
0:54:36 > 0:54:39She sounds positive. Very, very positive.
0:54:39 > 0:54:44Hopefully, you know, it'll be an ongoing thing.
0:54:46 > 0:54:50She said she's changed and she gave me a hug, which was...
0:54:50 > 0:54:53It was just wonderful because she just don't...
0:54:53 > 0:54:57She just don't hug you. Oh, that's lovely.
0:54:57 > 0:54:59That was...that was nice, yes.
0:55:01 > 0:55:04I hope Nathan on his trip has learned to appreciate what he has
0:55:04 > 0:55:09got here at home, realising that not everybody has the privileges he has.
0:55:13 > 0:55:16- Hiya.- Hiya.
0:55:16 > 0:55:18Oh. Come on in. Come on.
0:55:18 > 0:55:21God. You are seriously going to piss yourselves laughing.
0:55:22 > 0:55:25Oh, wow!
0:55:25 > 0:55:28It's been an eye-opening experience, big time.
0:55:30 > 0:55:34- I'm sorry for over the years just being basically a little- BLEEP- towards you.
0:55:34 > 0:55:36Thank you very much.
0:55:36 > 0:55:38I accept your apology.
0:55:38 > 0:55:41Let's just hope things get better now.
0:55:41 > 0:55:43And you sort yourself out.
0:55:43 > 0:55:46Good to see you.
0:55:46 > 0:55:48- It's good to be back. - All right, then.
0:55:48 > 0:55:51It's the first time he's ever apologised to me.
0:55:51 > 0:55:55And he seems to be really positive about improving himself and everything.
0:55:55 > 0:55:58So, yeah, I'm really chuffed. Proud of him.
0:56:03 > 0:56:05Next time on World's Strictest Parents,
0:56:05 > 0:56:08angry street fighter, Nicky.
0:56:08 > 0:56:12- It's my life, I do what I want to do. - And spray-tan waster Geri...
0:56:14 > 0:56:16..get new parents in Sri Lanka.
0:56:16 > 0:56:19- If you was my mum, I'd tell you to- BLEEP- off.
0:56:19 > 0:56:21We don't tolerate that kind of language.
0:56:21 > 0:56:25- When I walked in there and saw those people, I thought,- "BLEEP - this," and walked back out.
0:56:25 > 0:56:29Oh, my God. You're in my ear at 5 o'clock in the morning.
0:56:29 > 0:56:32If she cannot change her attitude, she doesn't come back into this house.
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