0:00:02 > 0:00:05'Many parents raise their kids on a diet of discipline...'
0:00:05 > 0:00:10It's our responsibility to be in control of the music they listen to,
0:00:10 > 0:00:14the movies they watch and the friends they have.
0:00:14 > 0:00:17'..rigid boundaries...'
0:00:17 > 0:00:21I'm not your friend. I'm your parent.
0:00:21 > 0:00:23'..and immediate consequences.'
0:00:23 > 0:00:28My dad is really strict. If you break the rules he is very scary.
0:00:30 > 0:00:35'Can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?'
0:00:35 > 0:00:39I was brought here on this Earth to party.
0:00:39 > 0:00:42She can be an absolute nightmare. It's awful.
0:00:42 > 0:00:48My lifestyle is playing Xbox, getting hammered and having sex.
0:00:49 > 0:00:53Yeah, I went to anger management.
0:00:53 > 0:00:57Got kicked out of anger management for being angry.
0:00:57 > 0:01:01Not even the Queen of England can tell ME what to do.
0:01:02 > 0:01:06He's slapped me. He's poked me. He's pushed me.
0:01:06 > 0:01:09I am what I am. If you don't like it, then jog on.
0:01:09 > 0:01:13'To find out, two teens who've never met before
0:01:13 > 0:01:15'will leave their families...'
0:01:15 > 0:01:19- Maybe she'll come home and be nice. - Doubt it.
0:01:19 > 0:01:21'..and head off to a world
0:01:21 > 0:01:26'where they will live according to strict rules set by new parents.'
0:01:26 > 0:01:30You are not in the UK. You are in Barbados!
0:01:30 > 0:01:33The most awful people I've met in my whole life.
0:01:33 > 0:01:36She can have her hissy fit.
0:01:38 > 0:01:44This is our rule. If you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it.
0:01:44 > 0:01:46What are you going to do?
0:01:46 > 0:01:49I'm not going to argue with that psychotic bitch.
0:01:49 > 0:01:52If this is how they are, I'm sorry for Britain.
0:01:55 > 0:02:01This programme contains some strong language.
0:02:06 > 0:02:12'17-year-old Sevda Huseyin thinks the world revolves around her.'
0:02:12 > 0:02:15I love being centre of attention. I love it.
0:02:15 > 0:02:19If I'm not, I'll make myself centre of attention.
0:02:19 > 0:02:22Everything has got to be about Sev.
0:02:22 > 0:02:24She can be selfish.
0:02:24 > 0:02:27It's going to be mad tonight! Oh, my God!
0:02:27 > 0:02:31'Coming from east London, she's learned to stick up for herself.'
0:02:31 > 0:02:36She likes to put on the impression that she's hard - but she is.
0:02:36 > 0:02:39- I had a fight with that shopkeeper. - So did I.
0:02:39 > 0:02:41'Everyone's got their guard up.'
0:02:41 > 0:02:46I had a fight in Wood Green, in Finsbury Park. Oh! Everywhere, man!
0:02:46 > 0:02:49I can't even remember half of them.
0:02:49 > 0:02:53I'm gonna go raving tonight. I look sexy...
0:02:53 > 0:02:55Sev talks the gangsta talk.
0:02:55 > 0:02:59Everyone come out your house, yeah. Bang bang, yeah.
0:02:59 > 0:03:02It can be embarrassing. "Talk properly!"
0:03:02 > 0:03:07People say my attitude stinks. I love my attitude. It's who I am.
0:03:07 > 0:03:11'Sevda's dropped out of school without a single GCSE.'
0:03:11 > 0:03:15School was shit! It was shit. Hate school.
0:03:15 > 0:03:18You've got no education behind you. Nothing.
0:03:18 > 0:03:23I can't be bothered, Mum, to hear it again. It does my head in.
0:03:23 > 0:03:28'When Sevda was a baby, her father went home to Turkey.'
0:03:28 > 0:03:32'When it comes to my dad, obviously, I've got anger problems.'
0:03:32 > 0:03:36It's made me think people lash out at you, lash out back at them.
0:03:36 > 0:03:41'Hard-working single mum Joan is worried she's going nowhere fast.'
0:03:41 > 0:03:46She doesn't care. It's really... Something's shading over her.
0:03:46 > 0:03:50She wants to do what she wants to do and that's it.
0:03:50 > 0:03:53'In the heart of Sussex,
0:03:53 > 0:03:57'17-year-old Andrew Harwood is loving the drop-out lifestyle.'
0:03:57 > 0:04:01At the moment in my life, not much is going on.
0:04:02 > 0:04:06Average day in my life - wake up midday,
0:04:06 > 0:04:10an hour lying in bed smoking, couple of drinks,
0:04:10 > 0:04:16head to my girlfriend's house, start drinking, smoke, be up till five. That's a pretty good day.
0:04:16 > 0:04:20Andrew wouldn't pick a thing from the floor.
0:04:20 > 0:04:23'The state of his room is a disaster.'
0:04:23 > 0:04:28- Andrew, look at this!- All right. - Dirty underpants. What the hell?
0:04:28 > 0:04:32'Andrew's parents were well-off and he had privileged upbringing.'
0:04:32 > 0:04:37He has had the chance to experience amazing things around the world.
0:04:37 > 0:04:39I like the way I've been raised.
0:04:39 > 0:04:43I wouldn't want to live in a council flat.
0:04:43 > 0:04:46'Andrew was a promising student, but he blew his education.'
0:04:46 > 0:04:51I can't remember how many GCSEs I've got. Three or something?
0:04:51 > 0:04:55I basically wasted 120 grand of my parents' money in private school.
0:04:55 > 0:05:00With all the pain in my heart, I feel highly disappointed.
0:05:00 > 0:05:04'Four years ago, his parents separated. The privileges stopped.'
0:05:04 > 0:05:10I went to a normal state school. Stereotype chavs. They were foul.
0:05:10 > 0:05:17'Andrew still sees his dad, but his attitude to his mum leaves a lot to be desired.'
0:05:17 > 0:05:20Andrew has been sometimes horrible.
0:05:20 > 0:05:21'It's really upsetting.'
0:05:21 > 0:05:27- This is a reflection of how messy your life is, honey. - It's my room! It's just a mess!
0:05:27 > 0:05:31I don't want to turn out like her or Dad.
0:05:31 > 0:05:35They have their good parts but they're both incredibly flawed.
0:05:35 > 0:05:39'Claudia worries Andrew has given up on himself.'
0:05:39 > 0:05:43As a parent, I'm facing something that is frightening me.
0:05:43 > 0:05:48'He's not going anywhere. Masses of potential wasted.'
0:05:51 > 0:05:56'To try and get their teenagers to do something positive,
0:05:56 > 0:06:02'both mums have agreed to send them to strict parents in another country.'
0:06:06 > 0:06:08Goodbye, Mother.
0:06:09 > 0:06:12It would be rather nice to see him
0:06:12 > 0:06:17to realise his potential, to know that he can achieve so much more.
0:06:19 > 0:06:22Listen, I'm going to say bye.
0:06:22 > 0:06:24- CRYING:- Bye, mum!
0:06:25 > 0:06:29- And be good. Don't let us down. All right?- All right.
0:06:29 > 0:06:33I'm hoping that she has more respect for everybody.
0:06:33 > 0:06:37Gets rid of the attitude and learns to appreciate me a bit more.
0:06:39 > 0:06:41Hi. I'm Sevda.
0:06:41 > 0:06:44- Yeah. I'm good. How are you? - I'm fine.- Nice.
0:06:44 > 0:06:47- Are you nervous? - I'm shitting myself.
0:06:49 > 0:06:54'The teens will be travelling 5,000 miles to San Antonio, Texas,
0:06:54 > 0:06:58'to stay with the Frazees, a deeply religious conservative family.'
0:06:58 > 0:07:03The role of God in our family life is central. We're very faith based.
0:07:03 > 0:07:06'Randy is pastor at the local megachurch,
0:07:06 > 0:07:10'while his wife Roseanne raises their children David and Austin.
0:07:10 > 0:07:14'Eldest daughter Jennifer has left home but frequently visits.'
0:07:14 > 0:07:18Thank you for tonight, the opportunity of getting together.
0:07:18 > 0:07:20Amen.
0:07:20 > 0:07:24'The Frazees like to set an example to families in the community.'
0:07:24 > 0:07:29We're not just trying to be a family for the sake of our own family.
0:07:29 > 0:07:33We have a broader community that's counting on us.
0:07:33 > 0:07:39One thing that's important that our do kids know is that we love them unconditionally.
0:07:39 > 0:07:46'The Frazees operate a system of trust for their children's access to money and credit cards.'
0:07:46 > 0:07:51- This is my gas money that I spent. - You used the credit card?
0:07:51 > 0:07:55- Yup.- I appreciate you being honest about that, son.
0:07:55 > 0:08:00We found that trust is a principle that has worked for us as parents.
0:08:00 > 0:08:05When they prove to be trustworthy, we give them more freedoms.
0:08:05 > 0:08:09When they prove to be untrustworthy, we take those freedoms away.
0:08:09 > 0:08:13My parents are very...understanding.
0:08:13 > 0:08:17And I want to be like them when I grow older.
0:08:17 > 0:08:21Understanding what a child is going through is hard for a parent.
0:08:21 > 0:08:25'In the house, mum Roseanne is in charge.'
0:08:25 > 0:08:30Austin, would you go wash a little bit, please?
0:08:30 > 0:08:34Part of loving your children is not giving them everything they want.
0:08:34 > 0:08:39'The way we show that we love them is by setting guidelines.'
0:08:39 > 0:08:44If you finish the dish washing we'll get dinner on the table quicker.
0:08:44 > 0:08:50'These rules and boundaries can produce a place of laughter that's positive.'
0:08:50 > 0:08:53It doesn't always have to be hard.
0:08:55 > 0:08:59'After eight hours, the teens finally arrive in Texas.'
0:08:59 > 0:09:01We're in Texas, you know.
0:09:01 > 0:09:05- Pretty fucking stressful. - Stuck-up snobs.
0:09:05 > 0:09:09If they tell me what to do, I'm gonna show them what's what, innit?
0:09:10 > 0:09:12- That's how we do it.- Word.
0:09:12 > 0:09:19'The "buckle of the Bible belt", Texas is one of the most conservative states in America.
0:09:19 > 0:09:22'77% of the population are Christian
0:09:22 > 0:09:26'and attend one of the 11,000 churches.'
0:09:26 > 0:09:31I feel like I'm surrounded by God. I feel like there's God everywhere.
0:09:31 > 0:09:34I'd laugh if we got sent to one of those churches.
0:09:34 > 0:09:37A tiny church and the biggest cross!
0:09:37 > 0:09:40It's like driving to hell.
0:09:42 > 0:09:45Are we here? We're not, are we?
0:09:45 > 0:09:48They're comin'.
0:09:48 > 0:09:52They're there. Oh, my God. Home, sweet home. Joke.
0:09:52 > 0:09:57Oh, my God. I don't want to get out the car. I'm gonna cry.
0:09:59 > 0:10:01EVERYONE: Hello.
0:10:01 > 0:10:04- ROSEANNE: How are you?- I'm fine.
0:10:04 > 0:10:08- Welcome, guys. - I'm Roseanne.
0:10:08 > 0:10:12- I'm Randy.- Hi, Randy. - We're the mom and dad of the family.
0:10:12 > 0:10:16Andrew, nice to meet you. First of all, welcome to Texas.
0:10:16 > 0:10:20- This is our daughter, Jennifer. - I like your hair.- Thank you.
0:10:20 > 0:10:24- We have David back here. He is our oldest son.- Hello, David.
0:10:24 > 0:10:29David just graduated from university, magna cum laude.
0:10:29 > 0:10:31This is Austin. He's just turned 18.
0:10:31 > 0:10:35He's doing an internship at the Southwest Research Institute,
0:10:35 > 0:10:37which is a space centre.
0:10:37 > 0:10:42Glad to have you guys here. It's going to be a fun time.
0:10:42 > 0:10:48'For the next seven days, the teens will be staying in the Frazees' immaculate mansion.'
0:10:48 > 0:10:53Obviously, the kitchen, where we hang out and get some great food.
0:10:53 > 0:10:57- Walk-in closets. - Oh. My. Days!
0:10:57 > 0:10:59Oh, shit!
0:10:59 > 0:11:01Jacuzzi tubs.
0:11:01 > 0:11:05Oh, my word. This is proper nice.
0:11:05 > 0:11:10- This is our outside living area. I think you'll enjoy this.- Wow!
0:11:10 > 0:11:15'For the Frazees, 30 years of righteous hard work has reaped its rewards.'
0:11:15 > 0:11:19- These are books that I've written. - SEVDA GASPS
0:11:19 > 0:11:24I am a pastor, a minister of a megachurch here in Texas.
0:11:24 > 0:11:27- Megachurch! - Our church is 10,000 folks.
0:11:27 > 0:11:32- You'll get a chance to experience that.- I can't. I'm not Christian.
0:11:32 > 0:11:35That's OK. You don't have to be Christian.
0:11:35 > 0:11:39- I don't want to pray.- You don't have to do that. You just need to go.
0:11:39 > 0:11:43I'm going to take you, Sevda, to your room back here.
0:11:43 > 0:11:48'As Texans, the Frazees believe in southern hospitality.'
0:11:48 > 0:11:54You have your own room and your own walk-in closet and private bathroom.
0:11:54 > 0:11:57Oh, my God!
0:11:57 > 0:12:00This is our upstairs room.
0:12:00 > 0:12:04- And I think you'll like it. - Oh, my God!
0:12:04 > 0:12:10- That's a 62-inch flat screen. We're not going to let you watch a LOT of television.- Wow.
0:12:10 > 0:12:14I walk in. It's literally like a five-star hotel.
0:12:14 > 0:12:16Yeah?
0:12:16 > 0:12:18And then you've got the dad.
0:12:18 > 0:12:23He looked at me like he thinks, "She's going to be a problem."
0:12:23 > 0:12:27They've all got such big qualifications.
0:12:27 > 0:12:31They're going to massive colleges and schools.
0:12:31 > 0:12:33They've all got, like...
0:12:33 > 0:12:38In England, the highest aspiration is work in McDonald or Tesco's.
0:12:38 > 0:12:43Here, they're, like, going to the top of what you can get to.
0:12:43 > 0:12:46- Aren't you nervous?- I have anxiety.
0:12:46 > 0:12:49- Of course I'm nervous. - I've got anxiety as well.
0:12:52 > 0:12:55I'm feeling REALLY nervous.
0:12:55 > 0:12:59'The fifth Commandment states, "Honour thy mother and thy father."'
0:12:59 > 0:13:04Hey, Andrew and Sevda? We're ready for you.
0:13:04 > 0:13:08'The Frazees expect the teens to agree to follow their rules.'
0:13:08 > 0:13:13Because I'm a pastor, we have a unique position in the community.
0:13:13 > 0:13:19We've spent years building a reputation, and we'd like you to help us maintain that.
0:13:19 > 0:13:25No swearing or bad language. We want our language to be uplifting.
0:13:25 > 0:13:29- So we'd really like for you to honour what we will do.- Of course.
0:13:29 > 0:13:32No drinking. Again, under-age.
0:13:32 > 0:13:36You have to be 21 in Texas, so we can't have you do that.
0:13:36 > 0:13:39No smoking inside or outside the house.
0:13:39 > 0:13:43In Texas, unless you're over the age of 18, it's illegal.
0:13:43 > 0:13:48If you look at any of them as the biggest, it's not lying, it's trust.
0:13:48 > 0:13:53Trust is the...is the ace for us.
0:13:53 > 0:13:57If you're trustworthy in our home, you get more privileges.
0:13:57 > 0:14:01If you prove untrustworthy, you'll see that other side of us
0:14:01 > 0:14:05where, for your sake, we're buckling down.
0:14:05 > 0:14:06- OK?- Of course.
0:14:06 > 0:14:12So your first opportunity to demonstrate trust to us... Trust.
0:14:12 > 0:14:16If there are things that you have that would challenge these rules,
0:14:16 > 0:14:21I'm going to ask you in a moment to go get it and surrender it.
0:14:21 > 0:14:25You're dismissed. Come back and we'll be right here.
0:14:25 > 0:14:27Oh, no! A week!
0:14:27 > 0:14:30RANDY CHUCKLES
0:14:34 > 0:14:37I can't do it. Do you know what I'm gonna do?
0:14:37 > 0:14:43I'm gonna give a couple like this. Oh! This is horrible!
0:14:43 > 0:14:45I'll hide this up here.
0:14:47 > 0:14:49For fuck's sake, man!
0:14:49 > 0:14:52It's dawning on me, the enormity of the situation.
0:14:52 > 0:14:56No cigarettes. I go through a box a day, easy.
0:14:56 > 0:14:59Considerably stricter than home.
0:14:59 > 0:15:02Like, considerably so. So... Yeah.
0:15:04 > 0:15:07That's all you have? I don't even have a box.
0:15:07 > 0:15:13You don't have anything in your suitcases or your rooms?
0:15:13 > 0:15:16- Have one last smell. - Goodbye.
0:15:18 > 0:15:20See me, yeah? I'm just wonderful.
0:15:20 > 0:15:24Got my fags hidden somewhere!
0:15:28 > 0:15:31- Ew. I'd never put them in the bin. - Pardon?
0:15:31 > 0:15:35- I'd never put them in the bin! - You didn't think of that?
0:15:39 > 0:15:42See my silly little signs for my guests?
0:15:46 > 0:15:48- Very good.- Nothing?
0:15:48 > 0:15:50It's clear in here.
0:15:50 > 0:15:55'Randy is due to speak in church, and the family will be joining him.
0:15:55 > 0:16:02'As a figurehead in the community, he wants to make sure the teens give the best reflection on his family.'
0:16:02 > 0:16:06On Saturday night I do a service. You're going to go to work with me.
0:16:06 > 0:16:09Good behaviour would be the language thing.
0:16:09 > 0:16:13- As long as I don't have to pray to Jesus.- No.
0:16:13 > 0:16:17'Randy leaves ten minutes early to make the preparations
0:16:17 > 0:16:22'for the big Saturday service in front of a congregation of 1,000.
0:16:22 > 0:16:25'He expects the teens to be presentable and on time.
0:16:25 > 0:16:29'Sevda decides it's time to get changed.'
0:16:32 > 0:16:37- Sevda?- Hello.- It's five minutes. Are you doing OK?
0:16:37 > 0:16:42- Yeah. I'm just getting dressed. - Awesome. See you in a minute.
0:16:42 > 0:16:46'For Andrew, the prospect of church is uncomfortable.'
0:16:46 > 0:16:53I've got no problem with religion. It's the people who worship those deities and religions.
0:16:53 > 0:16:57- Sevda, how long do you think it will take?- Oh, my God!
0:16:58 > 0:17:00There we go.
0:17:04 > 0:17:09'For image-conscious Sevda, making the right first impression is everything.'
0:17:09 > 0:17:12You're about to fall out of there.
0:17:12 > 0:17:14You might want something over your shoulders.
0:17:14 > 0:17:20- What are you saying?- You probably need to rethink wearing that top.
0:17:20 > 0:17:25- They don't have to look.- I think men are created very differently.
0:17:25 > 0:17:29However, everyone is accepted at our church
0:17:29 > 0:17:32so you can wear that if you like.
0:17:32 > 0:17:37Of course. I'd love to wear this. You're the one who's got an issue.
0:17:37 > 0:17:41- Do you want a shawl in case it gets cold?- Yeah.
0:17:41 > 0:17:46If she knew how the gentlemen would look at her, not just the boys but the older men,
0:17:46 > 0:17:49and how it would play out in their minds,
0:17:49 > 0:17:53she would not be happy with what they might be thinking.
0:17:53 > 0:17:58That's a sad thing when sex and love are totally separated.
0:18:07 > 0:18:10'The service has been running for ten minutes
0:18:10 > 0:18:13'when the teens finally arrive.'
0:18:13 > 0:18:15Covering up the chest!
0:18:16 > 0:18:20- ROSEANNE: Thank you, Sevda. - That's all right.
0:18:20 > 0:18:24Children, obey your parents and the Lord, for this is right...
0:18:24 > 0:18:28'A megachurch is a church with 2,000 or more regular worshippers.
0:18:28 > 0:18:31'Randy's is one of the largest in the United States.'
0:18:31 > 0:18:36You'll find all different kinds of people in different kinds of dress.
0:18:36 > 0:18:39You're not going to have to say anything.
0:18:39 > 0:18:42Let's go stand in the back for a minute.
0:18:42 > 0:18:48- It's not that. It's just that I'm in a church!- You ARE!
0:18:48 > 0:18:54'Roseanne doesn't expect Sevda to pray, but she does expect her to behave herself.'
0:18:54 > 0:18:57Everyone's welcome.
0:19:00 > 0:19:04Studies tell us that the greatest gift you can give to your children
0:19:04 > 0:19:08is to demonstrate to your children love...
0:19:08 > 0:19:12- WHISPERS:- I feel like I'm in a movie or something.
0:19:12 > 0:19:16- The music. - Until he's finished, shut up!
0:19:16 > 0:19:18- You shut up!- Don't say a word.
0:19:18 > 0:19:20No way!
0:19:20 > 0:19:23It's a fucking church!
0:19:23 > 0:19:29So what? I used to go to church. I had to whisper in church.
0:19:35 > 0:19:42'With the service over, the congregation gather to greet Randy and be introduced to the teens.'
0:19:42 > 0:19:45Hi. Thank you for coming. It's all good.
0:19:45 > 0:19:48INAUDIBLE
0:19:50 > 0:19:53- Howdy! > - Howdy.
0:19:53 > 0:19:56That's a Texan greeting. Glad to see you.
0:19:56 > 0:19:57Howdy.
0:19:57 > 0:20:03'Back home, Sevda is suspicious of strangers.'
0:20:03 > 0:20:05I wanna go. I wanna go.
0:20:12 > 0:20:14She's gone for a little bit? OK.
0:20:19 > 0:20:22What am I doing? Seriously. Oh, my God.
0:20:22 > 0:20:26I had those thoughts, too, before you got here.
0:20:26 > 0:20:32"What am I doing introducing this drama into our lives?" Right?
0:20:32 > 0:20:38- But you know what...?- You don't know how I'm feeling. You really don't.
0:20:38 > 0:20:42To come over from England, yeah? Stay with a family I don't know.
0:20:42 > 0:20:46And, like, I've got to do all these things. It's a lot.
0:20:46 > 0:20:50You don't understand. Plus, you took my cigarettes away.
0:20:50 > 0:20:53- Let's talk about it when we get home.- Yeah.
0:20:53 > 0:20:57I'd like some time to myself. I need a cigarette.
0:20:57 > 0:21:04- I need a cigarette.- How about we talk about that?- There's no talking. I want a cigarette.
0:21:05 > 0:21:11'To avoid making a scene, Roseanne takes Sevda straight home.
0:21:13 > 0:21:15'Back at the house,
0:21:15 > 0:21:22'Sevda's desperate for a smoke, and Roseanne is on her guard.'
0:21:22 > 0:21:24Sevda.
0:21:25 > 0:21:29- There's a cigarette in there. - No. I need to go toilet.
0:21:29 > 0:21:33- We have a bathroom right...- No. - Sevda...- Get off me, bruv.
0:21:33 > 0:21:39- We have another bathroom. - Why are you touching me for?
0:21:39 > 0:21:42- We have another bathroom. - I'm going home, bruv.
0:21:42 > 0:21:45SEVDA GIGGLES
0:21:45 > 0:21:48I'm going home. Are you stupid?
0:21:48 > 0:21:52Open the fucking door, man. I'm going home. Are you dumb?
0:21:52 > 0:21:56Putting your hand on me. You're fucking stupid!
0:21:56 > 0:21:57Dickhead!
0:21:59 > 0:22:01Don't film me, bruv. Seriously!
0:22:02 > 0:22:05Why are you coming here for? Go away!
0:22:05 > 0:22:10- When you are ready to talk like an adult...- Piss off! Go the fuck away!
0:22:10 > 0:22:13- ..I will be looking... - I don't like you!
0:22:13 > 0:22:18I'm not coming back in your house. That's that. Bitch.
0:22:23 > 0:22:28'The Frazees decide to give Sevda time to reflect on her behaviour.'
0:22:28 > 0:22:32It's just a lot of attitude. "Don't get in my way!"
0:22:32 > 0:22:36Out of love, we can outlast her. I'm not going to get her.
0:22:36 > 0:22:39It could be a really cold night.
0:22:39 > 0:22:44Think I'm going back in that house? You must be crazy. I'm not going back in there.
0:22:44 > 0:22:48'Concerned that Sevda's rocking the boat,
0:22:48 > 0:22:51'Andrew has a word.'
0:22:52 > 0:22:58- Get over it!- What are you talking about?- You're acting like some fucking prick.
0:22:58 > 0:23:02- Why are you taking their side? - I'm not.- You are.
0:23:02 > 0:23:07This is our fucking chance and you've screwed it up on the first day.
0:23:07 > 0:23:12You're going to balls-up your one chance to do something right.
0:23:20 > 0:23:24'Three hours later, Sevda has not returned to the house.'
0:23:24 > 0:23:28Bitch! She makes me sick.
0:23:28 > 0:23:33ROSEANNE: I'd like to order three large pizzas. Do you have a special?
0:23:33 > 0:23:35This is for delivery.
0:23:35 > 0:23:40'The Frazees refuse to let Sevda ruin the family evening.'
0:23:40 > 0:23:47They're proper treating me like a kid. "We're getting pizza and you're on the naughty step."
0:23:47 > 0:23:48Skin.
0:23:49 > 0:23:52This is pepperoni with pineapple.
0:23:52 > 0:23:58'Inside the house, the family atmosphere is winning Andrew over.'
0:23:58 > 0:24:03I'm not going to give up just cos of their rules.
0:24:07 > 0:24:13Why is the car there for? Go away and let me sleep.
0:24:13 > 0:24:17'The Frazees are giving Andrew a new view on family life.'
0:24:17 > 0:24:19A culture shock.
0:24:19 > 0:24:22Coming from England, you know.
0:24:22 > 0:24:24My parents are divorced.
0:24:24 > 0:24:28Most parents of the people I know are divorced.
0:24:28 > 0:24:32I've come here and they're the happiest family in the world!
0:24:33 > 0:24:38I can't even act like a dick towards them. I try but I can't.
0:24:38 > 0:24:40They're SO nice!
0:24:40 > 0:24:44'Randy and Roseanne's strategy of leaving Sevda to stew
0:24:44 > 0:24:46'has finally paid off.'
0:24:46 > 0:24:50I really don't want to walk back in but it's got to be done.
0:24:50 > 0:24:56They're just so controlling and stubborn.
0:24:59 > 0:25:01Hello.
0:25:01 > 0:25:04Sevda, hi.
0:25:10 > 0:25:12Sorry.
0:25:12 > 0:25:16For what, Sevda? What do you think you did wrong?
0:25:18 > 0:25:21- I lost my temper.- You did.
0:25:21 > 0:25:24I accept your apology.
0:25:24 > 0:25:28I want to check something out, OK? You lost trust.
0:25:28 > 0:25:32We care about you. We are going to walk with you.
0:25:32 > 0:25:39And we expect for you to make mistakes and start over again. That's called forgiveness.
0:25:42 > 0:25:47'The Frazees' calm, gentle approach seems to have an effect on Sevda.'
0:25:47 > 0:25:51I knocked over the coffee. I don't know why I do that.
0:25:51 > 0:25:55Because I can be so considerate and nice to people.
0:25:55 > 0:26:00My mum always says to me that I've got this stinking attitude.
0:26:00 > 0:26:04If that was me in London, I would have got a bottle of vodka
0:26:04 > 0:26:07and drank my sorrows away.
0:26:07 > 0:26:11That's what I would have done but today, it was different.
0:26:11 > 0:26:15I had to talk to them cos I wasn't going to give up.
0:26:15 > 0:26:19They wasn't going to give in, so it had to be done.
0:26:19 > 0:26:23I think there's a small victory, believe it or not.
0:26:23 > 0:26:26We didn't give in and give her the cigarette.
0:26:26 > 0:26:31We think the cigarettes is a smaller issue than authority in her life
0:26:31 > 0:26:34and, basically, overpowering people.
0:26:41 > 0:26:45'In the Frazee household, the day starts bright and early.'
0:26:45 > 0:26:48Morning.
0:26:48 > 0:26:55It's after seven and we have things planned today so we've got to get up, bud. OK?
0:26:55 > 0:27:01'At this time, Andrew would usually be getting in from a big night out.'
0:27:01 > 0:27:05What time do I normally get up?
0:27:05 > 0:27:09Well, I don't get up in the morning.
0:27:09 > 0:27:12'The Frazees believe that, to help yourself,
0:27:12 > 0:27:15'you must learn to help others.
0:27:15 > 0:27:17'They have arranged for the teens
0:27:17 > 0:27:22'to volunteer at a homeless shelter in San Antonio.'
0:27:22 > 0:27:24We're going to Haven For Hope.
0:27:24 > 0:27:29Cos I'm not going to be there, this is kind of a test of trust.
0:27:29 > 0:27:34What I need for you guys to do is to show up and to participate
0:27:34 > 0:27:39- and to make a contribution. - Definitely.- You up for that?- Yeah.
0:27:39 > 0:27:42I think it's going to benefit both of them
0:27:42 > 0:27:47to see that, "Oh, my goodness! There is a way that people can be helped.
0:27:47 > 0:27:53"It's so satisfying. Maybe the key to my life is not to be so focused on myself."
0:27:57 > 0:28:00'Only a fifth the size of London,
0:28:00 > 0:28:05'San Antonio has the same number of homeless people on its streets.
0:28:05 > 0:28:11'Haven For Hope is a 100-million state-of-the-art shelter.
0:28:11 > 0:28:15'It's the only one of its kind in the United States.'
0:28:15 > 0:28:18Welcome to Prospect Courtyard...
0:28:18 > 0:28:22'The teens will be supervised by project leader Susan Jenkins,
0:28:22 > 0:28:27'who oversees volunteers and new residents.'
0:28:27 > 0:28:32We bring people in that sleep under the bridge, in the parks and such,
0:28:32 > 0:28:36give them a shower and a meal and keep them safe.
0:28:36 > 0:28:38We do not discriminate.
0:28:38 > 0:28:42That means there are individuals who have just gotten out of jail.
0:28:42 > 0:28:47There are some dangerous individuals so you do have to be careful.
0:28:47 > 0:28:51We advise people for their jewellery and such, to put that all away.
0:28:51 > 0:28:54- I'm a bit nervous now.- Good.
0:28:54 > 0:28:55Good!
0:28:55 > 0:28:59- Can you do it?- Yeah.- OK, do it.
0:28:59 > 0:29:02We're going to talk about this at dinner.
0:29:02 > 0:29:04- How's it going today?- Very good.
0:29:04 > 0:29:09Take everything off that's metal and go through my metal detector.
0:29:09 > 0:29:11Take your bandana off.
0:29:11 > 0:29:14'The residents earn their place on campus
0:29:14 > 0:29:19'by taking part in rehabilitation programmes and working in the community.'
0:29:19 > 0:29:24We're going to take you in the kitchen and get you ready to serve.
0:29:24 > 0:29:29'It's lunch time, and there are more than 800 people to feed.'
0:29:29 > 0:29:31- LAUGHING:- Andrew!
0:29:31 > 0:29:33I feel like a prick.
0:29:33 > 0:29:36I most likely look like a prick.
0:29:36 > 0:29:38Apron?
0:29:44 > 0:29:48Go on. I put loads of carrots for you guys.
0:29:48 > 0:29:52I don't work here, so take advantage of me.
0:29:52 > 0:29:55I'm giving them loads of carrots.
0:29:55 > 0:29:57'While Sevda is in her element,
0:29:57 > 0:30:01'Andrew is affronted by a lack of thanks for his hard work.'
0:30:01 > 0:30:06It's weird. Like, they're getting food and they don't care.
0:30:06 > 0:30:11I don't mean to sound like a pompous dick, but they're so ungrateful.
0:30:11 > 0:30:14You've got your food, yes?
0:30:14 > 0:30:18Don't you feel like you're helping and you can chillax a bit?
0:30:18 > 0:30:22I'm doing it because I have to. It's just not my thing.
0:30:24 > 0:30:28'After 20 minutes, Andrew has given up.'
0:30:28 > 0:30:32They don't have anything in their eyes. There's no spark.
0:30:32 > 0:30:36Everyone has a spark, even a tiny glint in their eyes.
0:30:36 > 0:30:38They have nothing.
0:30:38 > 0:30:41A lot of what you see is fear.
0:30:41 > 0:30:44< Other people are not going to do anything.
0:30:44 > 0:30:48We have to channel what you feel into giving people hope.
0:30:49 > 0:30:52No. I don't know if I can do it.
0:30:52 > 0:30:55I come from an upper-class background.
0:30:55 > 0:30:58I've been to private school all my life.
0:30:58 > 0:31:02Everyone I know, quite a lot of my friends,
0:31:02 > 0:31:06they make the wealthy people here seem like commoners.
0:31:06 > 0:31:11The amount of money I've been around and I guess I've been fucking spoilt
0:31:11 > 0:31:15and my parents have given me a bit too much but...
0:31:15 > 0:31:20It just contrasts on such a fucking level that I just can't handle it.
0:31:20 > 0:31:25'Lunch service over, the Frazees arrive to pick up the teens.'
0:31:25 > 0:31:29Everyone I met, I got along with them.
0:31:29 > 0:31:31- All right!- They're proper nice.
0:31:31 > 0:31:35Andrew, you look like you're struggling.
0:31:35 > 0:31:37Today, full stop,
0:31:37 > 0:31:41everything, like... I don't know. I've not been into it.
0:31:41 > 0:31:43You think you tried your best? >
0:31:43 > 0:31:46I did it because I have to.
0:31:46 > 0:31:49That's it. That's literally it.
0:31:49 > 0:31:51I'm doing it because I have to.
0:31:58 > 0:32:01Here it is.
0:32:01 > 0:32:03We're going to get some lunch.
0:32:03 > 0:32:08'The Frazees believe that education and character development
0:32:08 > 0:32:11'are critical to a young person's upbringing.
0:32:11 > 0:32:15'Both teens have been failing at school.
0:32:15 > 0:32:19'The Frazees want them to start a self-improvement programme
0:32:19 > 0:32:22'to try and get them back on track
0:32:22 > 0:32:26'at the Boys & Girls Club of America in nearby Boerne.'
0:32:26 > 0:32:28Any questions about the rules?
0:32:28 > 0:32:33'The Boerne centre is run by programme director Diane Chase.'
0:32:33 > 0:32:38We have a lot of kids that are on probation or have been in trouble
0:32:38 > 0:32:43hanging out, side-by-side, with kids that are getting good grades,
0:32:43 > 0:32:46kids that are doing the things they should be doing.
0:32:46 > 0:32:49It can do nothing but benefit them.
0:32:49 > 0:32:55Our focus is about personal responsibility, character development,
0:32:55 > 0:33:01learning how to be an adult and making positive life choices that stick with you.
0:33:03 > 0:33:07Where are we going? Is that a school, bruv?
0:33:07 > 0:33:12Listen to me carefully. Both of you are smart. You know you're smart.
0:33:12 > 0:33:17We believe in you. Do everything they ask you to do and wow them.
0:33:17 > 0:33:19- Fine.- Impress them, OK?
0:33:19 > 0:33:21- Hi, Miss.- Hi. Diane Chase.
0:33:21 > 0:33:25- Who are you, babe? - Pardon. What's your name?- Diane.
0:33:25 > 0:33:28- It's OK. What's yours?- Sevda.
0:33:28 > 0:33:32- Say that again.- Sevda.- That's beautiful.- Thank you.- Welcome.
0:33:32 > 0:33:35Andrew. Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you.
0:33:35 > 0:33:39The one rule is we respect each other, we don't put each other down,
0:33:39 > 0:33:43whether we dress or talk differently.
0:33:43 > 0:33:45We try to avoid swearing.
0:33:45 > 0:33:49Everybody want to grab a seat?
0:33:51 > 0:33:55- LAUGHING:- I don't want to be here! - Let it slide.
0:33:55 > 0:33:57'Sevda got no qualifications.
0:33:57 > 0:34:02'In year 12, her mum was issued a parenting order for low attendance.
0:34:02 > 0:34:04'Soon after, Sevda stopped going.'
0:34:04 > 0:34:07Why don't we start with introductions?
0:34:07 > 0:34:12'Miss Chase wants the teens to get to know one another.
0:34:12 > 0:34:14I'm Georgia. I'm 17.
0:34:14 > 0:34:17I'm a senior at Boerne High School.
0:34:17 > 0:34:22I like to ride horses and I want to be a doctor. I'm a pretty good kid!
0:34:22 > 0:34:29'Listening to the ambitions and achievements of her new classmates is intimidating for Sevda.'
0:34:29 > 0:34:33I like to play sports. I'm on the basketball team.
0:34:33 > 0:34:35Basketball's my life.
0:34:35 > 0:34:37I'm a senior at...
0:34:37 > 0:34:41- Can I go outside, please? - What, honey?
0:34:43 > 0:34:45Keep talking.
0:34:49 > 0:34:54'Accustomed to difficult teenagers, Miss Chase goes looking for Sevda.'
0:34:54 > 0:34:58They're not the kind of people I'd make friends with.
0:34:58 > 0:35:03- How do you know that? - They're not my kind of people.
0:35:03 > 0:35:08I'm asking you to give them a chance the way they're giving you a chance.
0:35:08 > 0:35:13Don't judge them. Give them the opportunity that they're giving you.
0:35:13 > 0:35:19- That's all I'm asking.- But they're all together. And I'm just here.
0:35:19 > 0:35:21Give them a chance, OK?
0:35:21 > 0:35:24- Yeah.- It's not going to hurt.
0:35:26 > 0:35:28I had a joint that long in my hand...
0:35:28 > 0:35:31'Andrew had a fortune spent on his education,
0:35:31 > 0:35:35'but he left school with only three GCSEs.'
0:35:35 > 0:35:38School didn't go particularly well for me.
0:35:38 > 0:35:41My parents spent a lot of money on school
0:35:41 > 0:35:44and I threw it back in their face.
0:35:44 > 0:35:50I've messed everything up. Yeah. To be perfectly blunt and honest.
0:35:50 > 0:35:52< I failed everything.
0:35:52 > 0:35:57'During break time, students are encouraged to socialise.'
0:35:57 > 0:35:59Sevda was the quiet one.
0:35:59 > 0:36:03I wanted to hear more out of her but Andrew's really talkative.
0:36:03 > 0:36:08He spoke what was on his mind. I like that. He's really cool.
0:36:08 > 0:36:12She seems cool. I just wish she would open up to us.
0:36:12 > 0:36:15I think she'd be cool to hang out with.
0:36:15 > 0:36:19'Sevda stays inside and tries to avoid the crowd.
0:36:19 > 0:36:22'Classmate Carlton makes an approach.'
0:36:22 > 0:36:25- You like art? - Yeah. I do it when I'm nervous.
0:36:25 > 0:36:28In a lesson, I like to draw.
0:36:28 > 0:36:31So you like art. You're very stylish.
0:36:33 > 0:36:35You have a lot going for you.
0:36:35 > 0:36:37Do you like to party?
0:36:37 > 0:36:39A lot?
0:36:39 > 0:36:43So do I. You want to know where I just got back from?
0:36:43 > 0:36:47- I got five months in jail. - Really?- Yeah.
0:36:47 > 0:36:51My mum's an alcoholic. My dad, I don't know where he is.
0:36:51 > 0:36:56I've been to every school in this town cos of moving.
0:36:56 > 0:36:58I've been through rough times.
0:36:58 > 0:37:03- I hate all of this.- You don't want to do this?- I don't like school.
0:37:03 > 0:37:06- I don't do school. - I say go for it...
0:37:06 > 0:37:12'Despite Carlton's efforts, the pressure of fitting in proves too much.'
0:37:12 > 0:37:15Oh, my God! I'm not staying here.
0:37:16 > 0:37:18LAUGHTER
0:37:18 > 0:37:20'Whilst Andrew settles in,
0:37:20 > 0:37:24'Sevda sits out the rest of the afternoon.
0:37:27 > 0:37:31'Back home, Roseanne wants to find out what's troubling her.'
0:37:31 > 0:37:35When it comes to doing things, I can never follow through.
0:37:35 > 0:37:39- You don't follow through?- Never. - Never?
0:37:39 > 0:37:43- Do you not like that?- I hate it. It's why I couldn't do school.
0:37:43 > 0:37:46- Cos you would give up?- Hm.
0:37:46 > 0:37:48I know you COULD do school.
0:37:50 > 0:37:56In order to get to be an executive and do some of the things that you dream about doing,
0:37:56 > 0:38:00you kinda have to prove yourself on paper, unfortunately.
0:38:00 > 0:38:05I've failed so many times in school, so I'm kind of used to it now.
0:38:05 > 0:38:08That's why I'm here. I really want to try.
0:38:08 > 0:38:10You do.
0:38:10 > 0:38:13It makes us feel bad when we fail.
0:38:13 > 0:38:18- About ourself.- Mm. - But it doesn't change who we are.
0:38:18 > 0:38:20We've got to love inside, who we are.
0:38:20 > 0:38:24And say, "You know what? I can't do THAT.
0:38:24 > 0:38:26"But I can do THIS."
0:38:26 > 0:38:30- Yeah. - You have SO many things you can do.
0:38:30 > 0:38:35You are Sevda. You are funny. You are smart.
0:38:35 > 0:38:37You're clever.
0:38:38 > 0:38:43That's who you are, and that's not up for grabs.
0:38:51 > 0:38:53'In the Frazee household,
0:38:53 > 0:38:58'the family get together every day to bond over an evening meal.
0:39:00 > 0:39:05'Randy has been keeping a close eye on the teens' progress.'
0:39:05 > 0:39:09'I'm learning about where they're from. They're from polar opposites.'
0:39:09 > 0:39:15When they arrived I thought they were the same, and they're very different.
0:39:15 > 0:39:19Andrew, I was surprised he didn't make more progress.
0:39:19 > 0:39:23There's something about looking homelessness in the face.
0:39:23 > 0:39:27I'm not sure why. It really angers him, really unnerves him.
0:39:27 > 0:39:32For Sevda, I'm learning that she is a part of a community
0:39:32 > 0:39:37that you relate to and identify with the people in that community.
0:39:37 > 0:39:43But once you go outside of that, you have to be guarded because you can't trust them.
0:39:47 > 0:39:49'It's the third day in Texas.
0:39:49 > 0:39:54'The teens are being sent back to the Boys & Girls Club.'
0:39:54 > 0:39:58I know, Sevda, this is a challenge for you.
0:39:58 > 0:40:01I'm going to ask you to lose the attitude.
0:40:01 > 0:40:07Go through the fire of this experience and we'll be here to hear your success story,
0:40:07 > 0:40:12for you and everybody who needs to get through a difficult situation.
0:40:12 > 0:40:15- Can you give it a try for me?- Yeah.
0:40:15 > 0:40:19- Dig down deep, girl.- Yeah. - We'll be back in a little bit.
0:40:19 > 0:40:23- ANDREW: Shut up! - You shut up! Arse!
0:40:23 > 0:40:26'The day begins with a team-building exercise.'
0:40:26 > 0:40:29So, is everybody ready to roll? >
0:40:29 > 0:40:34The simple explanation is you're going to the park to play games.
0:40:34 > 0:40:36'The class head to the park.
0:40:36 > 0:40:40'When the games begin, Sevda doesn't want to play.'
0:40:42 > 0:40:46- I don't want to go over there. - All right.
0:40:46 > 0:40:50I just feel, what am I here with these people for?
0:40:50 > 0:40:54You want to come back and help me set up the room for the kids?
0:40:54 > 0:40:57All the art stuff? ..OK.
0:40:57 > 0:41:01'Sensing Sevda's lack of confidence,
0:41:01 > 0:41:05'Miss Chase gets her to focus on her positive memories from school.'
0:41:05 > 0:41:09Think of something that a teacher said that stuck with you.
0:41:09 > 0:41:15I got along with my old teachers. They all loved me. I've let my teachers down.
0:41:15 > 0:41:21- You can go and talk to them. - I wouldn't want to go back to my secondary school.
0:41:21 > 0:41:25The message you need to carry from them is that you've got potential.
0:41:25 > 0:41:27I'm just naturally paranoid.
0:41:27 > 0:41:30Like, I'm just paranoid all the time.
0:41:30 > 0:41:33LAUGHTER
0:41:33 > 0:41:37'The rest of the class have completed the trust-building game.
0:41:37 > 0:41:40'Miss Chase sets her homework.'
0:41:40 > 0:41:44So, the last phase of the project we're working on
0:41:44 > 0:41:49is a challenge for you guys to map out where you are now
0:41:49 > 0:41:51and where you see yourself going.
0:41:51 > 0:41:56Then present it in whatever way you are comfortable with.
0:41:56 > 0:42:00'Miss Chase hopes her course will help Sevda
0:42:00 > 0:42:03'address some of her insecurities.'
0:42:03 > 0:42:07She projects the things that make her feel uncomfortable,
0:42:07 > 0:42:09the things that make her nervous
0:42:09 > 0:42:13and her self-esteem issues onto other people,
0:42:13 > 0:42:16rather than take the chance that she'll be vulnerable.
0:42:16 > 0:42:19That's what she doesn't want to be.
0:42:19 > 0:42:23'Problems began when her father left the family home.'
0:42:23 > 0:42:28She hasn't really got a relationship with her dad. She never did have.
0:42:28 > 0:42:30'He left her.'
0:42:30 > 0:42:34'I've had opportunities to be in contact with him.'
0:42:34 > 0:42:38But I don't want to get hurt again. And again. And again.
0:42:38 > 0:42:46I told her why we split up. She said, "Would you ever go back with him?" I said, "Never!"
0:42:46 > 0:42:51I've never had a father figure in my life, you know.
0:42:51 > 0:42:55I always think, if he was in my life, how would my life be?
0:42:55 > 0:42:58How would I be as a person?
0:42:58 > 0:43:00Always think that.
0:43:00 > 0:43:05'Time away from home has given Sevda the chance to reflect
0:43:05 > 0:43:09'on how her father's absence has affected her.'
0:43:09 > 0:43:12It makes me angry that my dad hasn't tried with me
0:43:12 > 0:43:16because it affects my relationships with people.
0:43:16 > 0:43:20I can't trust people because I think they're gonna walk out,
0:43:20 > 0:43:23just like my dad did, like my parent.
0:43:23 > 0:43:27Maybe if I just opened up a bit, stopped being so tight
0:43:27 > 0:43:30and just, like...closed.
0:43:30 > 0:43:33I need to stop that.
0:43:33 > 0:43:38I'm not going to let the fact that I didn't have a dad hold me back.
0:43:42 > 0:43:47'The Frazees often do charity outreach work.
0:43:47 > 0:43:51'They're taking the teens to a soup kitchen in San Antonio.
0:43:51 > 0:43:59'Randy has been concerned about Andrew's attitude since his outburst at the homeless shelter.'
0:44:03 > 0:44:06Say something nice to them. "Bless you." Something.
0:44:06 > 0:44:10Wish them a great day. Something, OK?
0:44:10 > 0:44:13All right. I think I can manage.
0:44:15 > 0:44:17There you go.
0:44:20 > 0:44:23Enjoy it, man.
0:44:27 > 0:44:29I'd love to do this for a job.
0:44:29 > 0:44:34I seriously would. I feel so good. I really do.
0:44:36 > 0:44:38I don't fucking think I can do this.
0:44:38 > 0:44:43It's the most depressing thing I've ever seen in my life.
0:44:43 > 0:44:46< I can't do this. This is SO depressing.
0:44:49 > 0:44:53'Sensing Andrew's distress, Randy intervenes.'
0:44:53 > 0:44:56I want to introduce you to Melvin.
0:44:56 > 0:44:59From the UK, man? Gloves? I don't have germs.
0:44:59 > 0:45:03- I got the cooties, though! - I want you to meet Melvin.
0:45:03 > 0:45:05Tell him a little about your story.
0:45:05 > 0:45:09When I was where you come from, it was the same way.
0:45:09 > 0:45:11Homeless people? Really?
0:45:11 > 0:45:16"Let me get a dollar!" "Get a job, bro!"
0:45:16 > 0:45:19Seriously. I'm in Manhattan. Brooklyn, New York.
0:45:19 > 0:45:23Working in night clubs. "Excuse me, man. You got a dollar?"
0:45:23 > 0:45:28"Oh, man. What you need a dollar for? You gonna get drunk?"
0:45:28 > 0:45:30You just look down at people.
0:45:30 > 0:45:34When you hit that level they're on, there's no more looking down.
0:45:34 > 0:45:39I got a whole new-found respect for these individuals. It's for real.
0:45:39 > 0:45:42That's straight from the heart.
0:45:42 > 0:45:46I never thought I'd be in a situation that I am right now.
0:45:46 > 0:45:49I understand completely. Good to meet you, man.
0:45:49 > 0:45:55'Chatting with Melvin has given Andrew a whole lot to think about.'
0:45:55 > 0:45:59It makes me realise how much of a prick I've been.
0:45:59 > 0:46:02I've wasted everything. I've wasted so much money.
0:46:02 > 0:46:04The money I wasted on school
0:46:04 > 0:46:08could have bought these people a fucking house!
0:46:10 > 0:46:15'If anything, this is the reason why you came here.'
0:46:15 > 0:46:18That's what I love about you, man.
0:46:18 > 0:46:22Because you love people. You know?
0:46:22 > 0:46:24How could this happen?
0:46:24 > 0:46:26Hopeless, almost like. Yeah.
0:46:26 > 0:46:28Yeah.
0:46:28 > 0:46:29Wow. >
0:46:32 > 0:46:34ANDREW: It shouldn't happen, man.
0:46:34 > 0:46:37Can you gut it up and head back?
0:46:37 > 0:46:41Yeah. Sure. Just give me a minute.
0:46:41 > 0:46:45'Feeling drained, but with new resolve, Andrew returns to serving.'
0:46:45 > 0:46:47How you doing, Andrew? Good.
0:46:47 > 0:46:50There you go, man.
0:46:50 > 0:46:54'Yeah. I'm glad I came down. It hasn't been a highlight.'
0:46:54 > 0:46:57It has, at the same time. It's strange.
0:46:57 > 0:47:02I'm always going to keep the memory of what's going on here.
0:47:02 > 0:47:09It's stopped me being so prejudiced and such a...dick about it.
0:47:09 > 0:47:11It's changed my mind completely.
0:47:20 > 0:47:22'As a storm hits Texas,
0:47:22 > 0:47:26'the teens head to the Boys & Girls Club for the last time.
0:47:26 > 0:47:31'Their assignment has been to create an art project that shows their life's journey.'
0:47:31 > 0:47:37This is the relaxing period of my life, where I'm going to retire.
0:47:37 > 0:47:43This means I'm finished and safe, cos I have the shield of wisdom.
0:47:43 > 0:47:47I'm hoping to go make my life story happen.
0:47:47 > 0:47:50MISS CHASE: Excellent.
0:47:52 > 0:47:56'Simply being amongst new classmates has been a struggle for Sevda.
0:47:56 > 0:48:00'Now she must present HER life story to them.'
0:48:02 > 0:48:05So this is a big thing for me right now.
0:48:05 > 0:48:11You may think it's a small group. It's a really big thing for me.
0:48:11 > 0:48:14OK, basically,
0:48:14 > 0:48:20I might seem intimidating but deep down I am a nice soft person.
0:48:20 > 0:48:24I've learnt to be patient, hold my anger, stay cool.
0:48:24 > 0:48:28Things are easier to get through when you just keep the peace.
0:48:28 > 0:48:32I've learnt not to say, "I don't feel comfortable",
0:48:32 > 0:48:37"Why is everyone staring?" and "I can't do it" because it's pointless.
0:48:37 > 0:48:41I feel proud because I actually find that I can do it.
0:48:46 > 0:48:51I needed to open up about my life and stuff,
0:48:51 > 0:48:53'just so I could actually change.'
0:48:53 > 0:48:58- First step, managing to finish something.- Get a certificate!- Yeah.
0:48:58 > 0:49:02- I haven't got a certificate for three years.- Same.- A certificate!
0:49:02 > 0:49:08- The first step on a new road. - Yeah. I'll give you a hug. Ah.
0:49:08 > 0:49:10Mum and Dad's here!
0:49:10 > 0:49:12Mum and Dad's here!
0:49:12 > 0:49:15Get my teacher! Get my teacher!
0:49:15 > 0:49:18- Hi.- No more school. You did it!
0:49:18 > 0:49:22I'm not letting them take you away from me now!
0:49:22 > 0:49:26She told us all about her life and her ambitions. I was proud of her.
0:49:26 > 0:49:28Way to go, Sevda.
0:49:28 > 0:49:30What about Andrew?
0:49:32 > 0:49:39'Randy thinks that Andrew will benefit from some quality father-and-son time.
0:49:43 > 0:49:47'He wants to give him a real Texan experience,
0:49:47 > 0:49:51'and is taking him to a friend's shooting ranch.'
0:49:51 > 0:49:56We have a little time to laugh and lose yourself in hanging out together.
0:49:56 > 0:50:00'You really do learn a lot and bond a lot,
0:50:00 > 0:50:03'and it takes bonding to have hard conversations.'
0:50:07 > 0:50:10- I hit it?- You hit it.- Yeah!
0:50:10 > 0:50:12ANDREW LAUGHS
0:50:12 > 0:50:15For Queen and country.
0:50:15 > 0:50:17Pull.
0:50:19 > 0:50:21You did it again.
0:50:21 > 0:50:26- It beats video games.- Yeah. This beats video games any day.
0:50:28 > 0:50:30Randy! >
0:50:30 > 0:50:34I'm back, baby! I'm back! I'm back!
0:50:34 > 0:50:37- Shall we do one last shell each? - All right.
0:50:41 > 0:50:44< Oh, my goodness! You both got it!
0:50:44 > 0:50:46Yeah!
0:50:46 > 0:50:49- That was awesome. - That was good, man.
0:50:50 > 0:50:52'Before they leave the ranch,
0:50:52 > 0:50:54'Randy wants to find out
0:50:54 > 0:50:58'what Andrew's learned about himself in Texas.'
0:50:58 > 0:51:03I've heard you say several times, "I squandered my opportunities."
0:51:03 > 0:51:06"I've failed up to this point."
0:51:06 > 0:51:09Yeah, I realise I've been failing my parents.
0:51:09 > 0:51:14They've said it's always THEIR fault. They haven't failed me.
0:51:14 > 0:51:17I've been failing, not only myself, but them.
0:51:17 > 0:51:20They've given me everything. I've given them nothing.
0:51:20 > 0:51:24I've literally seen them, like, on their knees,
0:51:24 > 0:51:27crying, begging for me to change.
0:51:27 > 0:51:33I've walked off. "Fuck off! You're being over the top."
0:51:33 > 0:51:38My dad's getting old and I want to be able to make something of myself.
0:51:38 > 0:51:44I've never quite seen my dad actually...truly be proud.
0:51:44 > 0:51:47I want to be able to pay him back.
0:51:47 > 0:51:50One piece of advice I might give you is that
0:51:50 > 0:51:55it's all about the opportunity to be forgiven and starting fresh.
0:51:55 > 0:51:59I promise you, no matter what you think about your dad,
0:51:59 > 0:52:01from the perspective of a dad,
0:52:01 > 0:52:05I can tell you he's waiting for his son to come home.
0:52:06 > 0:52:11Usually, I'm fairly good with words but I don't have much to say
0:52:11 > 0:52:15- other than...just, thank you. - You're welcome, man.
0:52:15 > 0:52:17That was awesome, man.
0:52:23 > 0:52:26'The time has come for the teens to leave Texas
0:52:26 > 0:52:29'and return to their own families.'
0:52:29 > 0:52:33- VOICE BREAKING:- It's been an honour to have you in our home.
0:52:33 > 0:52:38We want you to live life to the full with everything you have in you.
0:52:43 > 0:52:45It began with enormous apprehension.
0:52:45 > 0:52:50It ended with tremendous hope and a sense of accomplishment,
0:52:50 > 0:52:52I think, for all parties involved.
0:52:52 > 0:52:58The number one thing we can say is we fell in love with two kids from England.
0:52:58 > 0:53:01- Bye, Dad.- Bye, darling.
0:53:01 > 0:53:05They're a wonderful family. Lovely, lovely people.
0:53:05 > 0:53:08They've got so much love in their hearts.
0:53:08 > 0:53:11- Thank you very much.- You're welcome.
0:53:11 > 0:53:16I'm going to help round the house. I'm going to respect my mum more.
0:53:16 > 0:53:19I'm most looking forward to going to college,
0:53:19 > 0:53:22just to get things back working.
0:53:22 > 0:53:24I love you guys.
0:53:24 > 0:53:27The Frazee family must be the nicest people I've ever met.
0:53:27 > 0:53:30In fact, they are. You know?
0:53:30 > 0:53:31Bye.
0:53:31 > 0:53:33Bye.
0:53:33 > 0:53:38'I'm hoping that Mum is going to be surprised that I've changed,'
0:53:38 > 0:53:41that I can make life easier for her.
0:53:50 > 0:53:54I hope he comes back with a sense of achieving something.
0:53:54 > 0:53:57I want to see him motivated and excited about things.
0:53:57 > 0:54:02One of the purposes of this was to help his self-esteem.
0:54:06 > 0:54:09Ah! To be home!
0:54:09 > 0:54:12I'm definitely going to be more helpful.
0:54:12 > 0:54:15It's not actually that much of a problem.
0:54:15 > 0:54:19I was whining about it cos I couldn't be bothered.
0:54:19 > 0:54:21This is so wonderful.
0:54:22 > 0:54:24'I see a change.'
0:54:24 > 0:54:28I see an old Andrew. I cannot tell you how happy I feel.
0:54:28 > 0:54:31I owe Randy and his family everything,
0:54:31 > 0:54:34just like I owe you and Dad.
0:54:34 > 0:54:38Oh, God! I'm so grateful. Do you know how much you move me?
0:54:38 > 0:54:43'I cannot describe how happy I feel. I'm humble.'
0:54:43 > 0:54:47I really hope it is the making of Andrew. I really hope so.
0:54:51 > 0:54:54I really hope she's learnt to open her eyes.
0:54:54 > 0:54:57Drop this barrier, give people a chance.
0:54:57 > 0:55:02Get rid of this chip on her shoulder and this bad attitude.
0:55:02 > 0:55:06Knuckle down and sort out her education.
0:55:06 > 0:55:08KNOCKS ON DOOR
0:55:08 > 0:55:09Hello.
0:55:09 > 0:55:12Hey, Nanny.
0:55:14 > 0:55:16- Welcome back.- Hey, Mum!
0:55:19 > 0:55:21I missed you.
0:55:21 > 0:55:27I had to fill this in. "I don't like it." "I don't feel comfortable."
0:55:27 > 0:55:31In the end, I thought, "If I can do this, I can do anything."
0:55:31 > 0:55:33It really challenged me.
0:55:33 > 0:55:38I'm sorry for my attitude. I need to stop being self-centred.
0:55:38 > 0:55:40- It's just holding me back, man.- Yes.
0:55:40 > 0:55:44She's got the capability to do anything she wants.
0:55:44 > 0:55:50I just really hope now that this is going to prove she can do it.
0:55:50 > 0:55:54I left my London attitude in Texas and brought my Texas attitude back.
0:55:54 > 0:55:58- I'm really proud of you. - Oh, I missed you!
0:55:58 > 0:56:00I'm really proud of you.
0:56:02 > 0:56:07'Next time on The World's Strictest Parents,
0:56:07 > 0:56:11'wannabe rap star Daniel and spoilt brat Forest...'
0:56:11 > 0:56:15- I've got myself to think about. - That's all you think about.
0:56:15 > 0:56:18'..get new parents in Holland.'
0:56:18 > 0:56:23- It isn't acceptable for me.- I don't want to share my room with them.
0:56:23 > 0:56:25It's a matter of trust!
0:56:25 > 0:56:29I think, but I can't prove it, that he's taken some drugs.
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