0:00:02 > 0:00:07Around the world, many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...
0:00:07 > 0:00:11It's our responsibility as parents to be in control of the music they listen to,
0:00:11 > 0:00:14the movies they watch and the friends they have.
0:00:14 > 0:00:16Rigid boundaries...
0:00:16 > 0:00:19Am I friends with my children?
0:00:19 > 0:00:23- No, I'm not your friend, I'm your parent. - ..And immediate consequences.
0:00:23 > 0:00:25My dad is really strict.
0:00:25 > 0:00:28If you break the rules, he can be very scary.
0:00:30 > 0:00:35But can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:35 > 0:00:39I was brought here on this earth to party.
0:00:39 > 0:00:42She can be a nightmare.
0:00:42 > 0:00:44It's awful.
0:00:44 > 0:00:48My lifestyle is playing Xbox and getting hammered.
0:00:49 > 0:00:51You, I'm getting you!
0:00:51 > 0:00:53I went to anger management.
0:00:53 > 0:00:57Got kicked out of anger management for being angry.
0:00:57 > 0:01:01No-one can tell me what to do. Not even the Queen of England can tell me what to do!
0:01:02 > 0:01:05He's slapped me, he's poked me, he's pushed me.
0:01:05 > 0:01:07He's done it all.
0:01:07 > 0:01:10I am what I am. If you don't like it, jog on.
0:01:10 > 0:01:13To find out, two teens who've never met before
0:01:13 > 0:01:18- will leave their fraught families behind...- Maybe she'll come back and be nice.
0:01:18 > 0:01:20- I doubt it.- ..and head off
0:01:20 > 0:01:26to the far corners of the world where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:26 > 0:01:30You are not in the UK. You are in Barbados.
0:01:30 > 0:01:33They're the most awful people I've ever met in my whole life.
0:01:33 > 0:01:36If she wants to throw a hissy fit, she can have a hissy fit.
0:01:38 > 0:01:42- I'm going home. - What are you going to do?!
0:01:42 > 0:01:46This is our rule. If you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it.
0:01:46 > 0:01:49- What's the point? - The point is about trust.
0:01:49 > 0:01:52If this is how they are, I'm sorry for Britain.
0:02:06 > 0:02:10- I've got myself to think about because I'm 17. - That's all you think about.
0:02:10 > 0:02:13Well, do you want me to move out?
0:02:13 > 0:02:15- No...- Stop it, then! It's my life.
0:02:15 > 0:02:2117-year-old Forrest Talbott is utterly self-obsessed.
0:02:21 > 0:02:26My main priority is probably me, and then my make-up and straighteners.
0:02:26 > 0:02:30Before anything else, without doubt, her hair and make-up comes first.
0:02:30 > 0:02:32I go through four bottles a week.
0:02:32 > 0:02:34It's, like, £10 a bottle.
0:02:34 > 0:02:39Forrest works part-time at a pet shop, but her wages
0:02:39 > 0:02:43don't come close to paying for her expensive lifestyle.
0:02:43 > 0:02:49I don't want to get a full-time job. If I say to my parents, "Can I have this?", and they say no,
0:02:49 > 0:02:51I flip. It gets over the top sometimes.
0:02:51 > 0:02:55I can't stand it. I end up screaming into my pillow because I'm so angry.
0:02:55 > 0:03:01Forrest is spoilt. She doesn't do anything. It's gone past laziness.
0:03:01 > 0:03:04I say, "Forrest, other than breathe, I do everything for you".
0:03:04 > 0:03:08When Forrest was 11, her parents split up.
0:03:08 > 0:03:11Now she lives alternative weeks with Mum and Dad.
0:03:11 > 0:03:14I'm not lazy, Dad. I'm not lazy!
0:03:14 > 0:03:16I would suggest that you're extremely lazy.
0:03:16 > 0:03:19Number one, you don't do anything round the house.
0:03:19 > 0:03:24- You can't be bothered getting out there when you were looking for a job.- Cos I didn't want a job.
0:03:24 > 0:03:27'If she wants to be treated like an adult who's left school, then act like one.'
0:03:27 > 0:03:31Don't act like you're five years old with your temper tantrums.
0:03:31 > 0:03:34"I want, I want, I want, and I'll stamp my feet until I get it".
0:03:34 > 0:03:39She'll say to me, "You're just a part-time mum," because we have joint custody.
0:03:39 > 0:03:42And that kills me because I'm her mum... I'm going to cry!
0:03:47 > 0:03:52Since they divorced, Forrest has become an expert at playing one parent off against the other.
0:03:52 > 0:03:55'I've been spoiled since I was little.
0:03:55 > 0:03:57'If I wanted something, I'd get it.'
0:03:57 > 0:04:01Now they've broke up, it's no different. I just get a bit more because they're both,
0:04:01 > 0:04:04like, giving it me, do you know what I mean?
0:04:04 > 0:04:10She's only 17. All her friends are moving on, and Forrest doesn't seem to be going in the same direction.
0:04:10 > 0:04:12She is at a crossroads now, definitely,
0:04:12 > 0:04:17where she could bum around now for the rest of her life if she's not careful.
0:04:17 > 0:04:20Something needs to change now to shift this frame of mind she's in.
0:04:20 > 0:04:23BOY RAPS: You got me chasing and I'm runnin' all the time
0:04:23 > 0:04:26and I keep on getting closer but it's playing on my mind
0:04:26 > 0:04:28and I keep on working harder but I keep falling behind,
0:04:28 > 0:04:30I'm a wave in the ocean, going against the tide...
0:04:32 > 0:04:3717-year-old Daniel Eyre is convinced he's the next big thing.
0:04:37 > 0:04:39I just want to become famous and rich.
0:04:39 > 0:04:41Be like Will Smith, but better.
0:04:41 > 0:04:45- And he's already living the rap star lifestyle.- What are you doing?
0:04:45 > 0:04:47I'm trying to roll a spliff.
0:04:47 > 0:04:53I am aware he has smoked marijuana, I am aware he drinks, I am aware that he's sexually active.
0:04:53 > 0:04:56I've slept with 37 girls.
0:04:56 > 0:04:59Older girls are better because they're more experienced.
0:05:00 > 0:05:06I do speak to him as much as I can, and kind of try and guide him, but he's oblivious, it seems.
0:05:08 > 0:05:15Daniel is passionate about music, and was in a band. But he was thrown out for partying too hard.
0:05:15 > 0:05:22If you start getting into drugs and alcohol, then you will get lost, and you will not...
0:05:22 > 0:05:26I don't know one rap artist or singer that doesn't smoke weed
0:05:26 > 0:05:30- and drink - I don't know one. - So they're your role models?- Yeah.
0:05:32 > 0:05:35Dan's dad left when he was eight months old.
0:05:35 > 0:05:41Mum, Julie, is worried his idea of being a man has come straight from the world of gangster rap.
0:05:41 > 0:05:45He's very angry quite a lot of the time.
0:05:45 > 0:05:46He does swear at me -
0:05:46 > 0:05:49you know, really awful words sometimes.
0:05:49 > 0:05:51My mum nags a lot.
0:05:51 > 0:05:54It does get a bit heated sometimes. I'll just ignore her and she'll shout at me.
0:05:54 > 0:06:00Or I just get a bit too angry and...smash things and stuff.
0:06:00 > 0:06:04Dan's at a crossroads now, where if he carries on smoking marijuana,
0:06:04 > 0:06:07that he'll end up possibly in and out of prison.
0:06:07 > 0:06:12It's a road that I've seen people go down and that's something I really don't want for Dan.
0:06:18 > 0:06:23Desperate to turn their lives around, both families are sending
0:06:23 > 0:06:27their troubled teens abroad, to live with new parents with strict rules.
0:06:27 > 0:06:30Be good. Hope you learn something from this.
0:06:30 > 0:06:34Come back brand-new. Love you, Dan.
0:06:39 > 0:06:44- Just be careful and be good. I love you, babe.- Love you, too.
0:06:44 > 0:06:49The main thing she needs to get out of this I think is to be happy, but a bit more respectful to people,
0:06:49 > 0:06:52well me, mainly, and just to focus
0:06:52 > 0:06:55for what she wants to do with herself.
0:06:58 > 0:07:04The teens will be heading to Holland - famous for its liberal attitudes to drink, sex and drugs.
0:07:04 > 0:07:07But they won't be near any of this.
0:07:07 > 0:07:14Forrest and Daniel will be staying here, the rural town of Born, home to the Van Berkel family.
0:07:14 > 0:07:18They believe the secret to good parenting is to treat teenagers
0:07:18 > 0:07:22with respect, but to demand responsibility.
0:07:22 > 0:07:25For us, everything starts with trust - and they have to trust us.
0:07:25 > 0:07:27It is the base of a good relationship
0:07:27 > 0:07:29between the parent and a child.
0:07:29 > 0:07:36Dad, Jan, is a middle manager and mum, Liesbeth, works three jobs in the local community.
0:07:36 > 0:07:3917-year-old Amber and 14-year-old Frank both study full-time,
0:07:39 > 0:07:43have part-time jobs and are expected to help out at home.
0:07:43 > 0:07:47I am not the maid of the family. I expect everybody to work.
0:07:47 > 0:07:49Did you vacuum today?
0:07:49 > 0:07:52- Yes.- Very good, Frank. You deserve dinner.
0:07:52 > 0:07:53I don't mind doing it,
0:07:53 > 0:07:59because it's not the end of the world if you have to do the dishes or something.
0:07:59 > 0:08:00Every teenager needs rules.
0:08:00 > 0:08:05If my parents tell you something, make sure you do it!
0:08:05 > 0:08:08The Van Berkels embrace their country's liberal philosophy.
0:08:08 > 0:08:11They give their children freedom but demand respect.
0:08:11 > 0:08:14Just checking if you drank too much.
0:08:14 > 0:08:19I don't approve of drunk people. They make fools out of themselves.
0:08:19 > 0:08:21And there's no reason to get drunk.
0:08:21 > 0:08:25So that's something as a parent you should teach your children - enough is enough.
0:08:25 > 0:08:28And despite Holland's relaxed laws on cannabis,
0:08:28 > 0:08:30the family are totally anti-drugs.
0:08:30 > 0:08:33A lot of kids think one joint doesn't harm, but it does.
0:08:33 > 0:08:38It does damage to your brain and your body - and we don't want children who smoke.
0:08:38 > 0:08:44The Van Berkels know raising kids is no easy feat, but they set a high standard for themselves.
0:08:44 > 0:08:50The biggest achievement in life when you have children, for me,
0:08:50 > 0:08:54is to bring my children up to be stable, trustworthy, good people.
0:08:54 > 0:08:58If I fail on that, I would be so embarrassed.
0:09:00 > 0:09:03I smell some nice ganja!
0:09:03 > 0:09:05The British teens have touched down
0:09:05 > 0:09:13in the country's capital, Amsterdam, home to over 200 coffee shops that openly sell marijuana.
0:09:14 > 0:09:15Coffee shop!
0:09:18 > 0:09:20Argh! Oh, my days!
0:09:20 > 0:09:25Please can we go in the coffee shop? I'm really up for getting stoned.
0:09:25 > 0:09:26Please.
0:09:26 > 0:09:30The Van Berkels live 150 miles away.
0:09:33 > 0:09:36So long, Amsterdam dreams.
0:09:36 > 0:09:41A bit countrysidey, isn't it? When I think of country, it's all dirt and poo, that's all I think of.
0:09:44 > 0:09:45This is it!
0:09:45 > 0:09:47- I'm anxious.- I'm excited!
0:09:47 > 0:09:50Very excited!
0:09:50 > 0:09:52We're in a village, though.
0:09:52 > 0:09:54I hope they are more nervous than we are!
0:09:54 > 0:09:56And stressed!
0:09:56 > 0:10:00- Oh, my god, this is so... How old is he?- He's in his hundreds!
0:10:00 > 0:10:02He's got white hair, he's got no hair!
0:10:07 > 0:10:10- Hiya!- Finally.- Hi.
0:10:10 > 0:10:14- Tired?- No, not really.
0:10:14 > 0:10:17- How are you? - I'm all right, thank you.- OK.
0:10:17 > 0:10:21- Your name was?- Forrest.- Forrest. Love the name.
0:10:21 > 0:10:27- Daniel.- Daniel. I'm Liesbeth. - And I'm Jan.- Hi!- Welcome.
0:10:27 > 0:10:30For the next seven days,
0:10:30 > 0:10:34Daniel and Forrest must live by the same rules as the Van Berkel children.
0:10:34 > 0:10:37- Hiya. I'm Forrest.- I'm Amber.
0:10:37 > 0:10:39- Hi, I'm Frank.- Dan.
0:10:39 > 0:10:44I'm going to show you around a bit, so you know what home would be like for a few days.
0:10:44 > 0:10:46- OK.- Yeah?
0:10:49 > 0:10:51We'll start with your room, Forrest...
0:10:51 > 0:10:54The Van Berkels live in a modest four-bedroom house.
0:10:54 > 0:10:59Daniel will get his own room, Forrest will share with daughter, Amber.
0:10:59 > 0:11:03- This is yours. You think it looks comfortable enough?- I'll have to see when I sleep in it.
0:11:03 > 0:11:08- OK, Daniel, you have a room for yourself. It's a small room. - It's nice. Nice.
0:11:08 > 0:11:11The room looks nice right now. I'd like to keep it this way.
0:11:11 > 0:11:16- And I'll check once in a while. - That's cool.- Yeah?
0:11:17 > 0:11:19It's all right. It's not my cup of tea.
0:11:19 > 0:11:21But it's not minging, is it?
0:11:26 > 0:11:29- What do you think?- It's not too bad.
0:11:29 > 0:11:30What do you think of the parents?
0:11:30 > 0:11:33- They're all right - what do you think?- They're all right.
0:11:33 > 0:11:35We need to get to know them.
0:11:35 > 0:11:37They don't seem that strict, to be honest.
0:11:37 > 0:11:42Not yet. Wait till they've put down the rules.
0:11:42 > 0:11:45I think the woman wears the trousers, though.
0:11:45 > 0:11:47- Yeah!- Definitely.
0:11:47 > 0:11:53She's a bit more tough than he is. I think she's a real female.
0:11:53 > 0:12:00And I know what it's like. So I think that that might take some arguments.
0:12:00 > 0:12:02When they came in, I was like, woooh, that's...
0:12:02 > 0:12:05For me it was really extreme, I was expecting a little bit less.
0:12:05 > 0:12:10I would never dress the way she dresses, because it's a bit too much skin.
0:12:10 > 0:12:14Upstairs, the teens are checking out their surroundings...
0:12:14 > 0:12:16Oh. I was expecting make-up.
0:12:16 > 0:12:18She's quite boring, isn't she?
0:12:18 > 0:12:19There's no make-up or anything.
0:12:19 > 0:12:23..with little regard for daughter Amber's privacy.
0:12:26 > 0:12:28BLEEP!
0:12:33 > 0:12:35BLEEP!
0:12:35 > 0:12:38I hear all kinds of sounds coming from upstairs.
0:12:38 > 0:12:39I don't know.
0:12:39 > 0:12:41God. Always...
0:12:41 > 0:12:44Not worried about good first impressions,
0:12:44 > 0:12:47the British teens are content to act like children.
0:12:49 > 0:12:54- Hey, guys - what are you doing? - I haven't done anything!
0:12:54 > 0:12:57- Hey, hey, hey! What's the matter?
0:12:57 > 0:13:00- He socked me! - Daniel, open the door.
0:13:00 > 0:13:02Tell her to stop throwing stuff at me, please.
0:13:02 > 0:13:06- Daniel, what happened? - She attacked me.- Don't listen to him. - She's crazy, man.
0:13:06 > 0:13:08If that's true, then why am I more wet than him?
0:13:08 > 0:13:10It isn't acceptable for me.
0:13:10 > 0:13:13You just arrived and make a mess in this house.
0:13:13 > 0:13:18- I apologise for her behaviour and my behaviour.- I'm sorry as well.
0:13:21 > 0:13:28That was just pretty funny, you know. Already, how long have we been here, about half an hour?
0:13:28 > 0:13:31- We have a challenge in the house. - I think so.
0:13:31 > 0:13:32It will be a nice job for this coming week.
0:13:32 > 0:13:34Let's see who is winning.
0:13:34 > 0:13:37It's dead heavy - I can't take it up the stairs.
0:13:37 > 0:13:40Oh, my God!
0:13:40 > 0:13:45Forrest is keen to unpack, but Amber has just discovered the state of her room.
0:13:45 > 0:13:47- Tell me... - They're going to leave now.
0:13:47 > 0:13:50I don't want them in the house any more.
0:13:50 > 0:13:53My underwear was all over here. They went through all my stuff,
0:13:53 > 0:13:56and they threw away something that's really expensive.
0:13:56 > 0:14:00They went in my bed, my draws, everything was all over my room,
0:14:02 > 0:14:04I just want to say I'm sorry.
0:14:04 > 0:14:06All my stuff is all over the place!
0:14:06 > 0:14:09Take the bed and go!
0:14:09 > 0:14:14- Where do you want me to go, where am I supposed to put..?- Over there behind the door, and close it.
0:14:14 > 0:14:19I've just struggled all the way upstairs. I'm not taking that down now.
0:14:23 > 0:14:28For Forrest, upsetting the people she lives with is par for the course.
0:14:28 > 0:14:33- Can I take a shower now? - No, first we do the rules.
0:14:37 > 0:14:40After this less-than-perfect start,
0:14:40 > 0:14:44the parents need to explain where the boundaries lie in their household.
0:14:44 > 0:14:48So, our family rules, it's one of the important things to explain to you both.
0:14:48 > 0:14:51The rules in our house are based mainly on trust.
0:14:51 > 0:14:54Our motto is that trust brings freedom.
0:14:54 > 0:14:59And that's one thing that's already broken. Everybody makes a mistake once,
0:14:59 > 0:15:05but I really hope you learn from it, and it's not going to happen anything like this again.
0:15:05 > 0:15:08I will continue. Absolutely no smoking in the house.
0:15:08 > 0:15:12- In the house - does that mean we can do it outside?- Outside is no problem.
0:15:12 > 0:15:16- Oh, thank God for that. Thanks. - Forrest, why do you have the towel in front of your face?
0:15:16 > 0:15:21- Just, no, I'm not taking it off my face.- It's very impolite to talk to people like this.
0:15:21 > 0:15:23Well, I don't like wearing no make-up,
0:15:23 > 0:15:27and you're trying to make me show my face with no make-up on, and I don't want to do that.
0:15:27 > 0:15:31I think we have another rule in the house, not to hide behind towels when you talk to people.
0:15:31 > 0:15:34I'm just going to have to break that rule tonight,
0:15:34 > 0:15:38- because I'm not taking it off. - Do you have rules at home?
0:15:38 > 0:15:41- No.- No rules?- No. - Well, we do have rules,
0:15:41 > 0:15:46and you live here so you have to live by those rules. Let's continue.
0:15:46 > 0:15:50You may have heard about Holland's coffee shops,
0:15:50 > 0:15:53but drugs will not be tolerated in our house.
0:15:53 > 0:15:59It is legal to drink alcohol in Holland when you're 16, but you must never be drunk.
0:15:59 > 0:16:02- I was drunk once.- In your life?
0:16:02 > 0:16:05In my life, and never again. Forrest, do you drink?
0:16:05 > 0:16:07I do, I drink with my mum, at home.
0:16:07 > 0:16:09If I go out, I get really drunk.
0:16:09 > 0:16:14You'll be in for a surprise here. We are not here to be your slaves,
0:16:14 > 0:16:17- and everyone must do chores. - Does that mean we've got to work?
0:16:17 > 0:16:20- Yeah.- OK.
0:16:20 > 0:16:24You know, if I know we can trust you, you get a lot of freedom.
0:16:24 > 0:16:29I think that has to be the start of this whole experience. Thanks a lot.
0:16:35 > 0:16:37Now we've heard the rules and that, they're not that bad.
0:16:37 > 0:16:41I was dreading it, because I thought they were going to take my make-up
0:16:41 > 0:16:45and my tan, but they haven't even mentioned it, so... And I can still smoke!
0:16:45 > 0:16:51I don't think she's a very happy girl, because she was so unhappy with her make-up rules.
0:16:51 > 0:16:53So she needed a towel, so you could tell
0:16:53 > 0:16:58she's not very, erm, very self-assured.
0:16:58 > 0:17:03Daniel seems like a really nice kid, like a kid
0:17:03 > 0:17:06you would like hug and take care of.
0:17:06 > 0:17:14I was hoping to obviously go to a couple of the coffee shops, but, erm, they said that's a no-go.
0:17:14 > 0:17:20I'm still thinking in my head whether to respect that or not.
0:17:29 > 0:17:34In the Van Berkel household, everyone gets up on time.
0:17:34 > 0:17:39- Good morning. Welcome to the world. - It's too early.
0:17:39 > 0:17:43Today, the teens will be doing what every Dutch teenager
0:17:43 > 0:17:47- is required to do by law... - Daniel, are you awake?
0:17:48 > 0:17:49..attend school.
0:17:53 > 0:17:55Daniel...?
0:17:55 > 0:17:58Mmm? Are you awake?
0:18:01 > 0:18:03Have a good day in school.
0:18:03 > 0:18:04I'll see you today, OK, later on?
0:18:04 > 0:18:11Liesbeth and Jan leave for work first. They must trust the teens to behave like grown-ups
0:18:11 > 0:18:13and get themselves to college on time.
0:18:13 > 0:18:17You know the rules. 10 euros.
0:18:17 > 0:18:21- Thank you.- Thank you.- Enjoy it.
0:18:21 > 0:18:23Keep in mind it's all based on trust.
0:18:23 > 0:18:27- Thank you.- And just in case they fancy bunking off,
0:18:27 > 0:18:30Amber will be there to keep an eye on them.
0:18:30 > 0:18:33I hope they don't embarrass me, because it's my first week, too.
0:18:33 > 0:18:37So I still have to meet my own friends and everything there.
0:18:37 > 0:18:39If they start acting really bad,
0:18:39 > 0:18:42I think I'll just walk away and not be part of it!
0:18:42 > 0:18:46I'm so scared. I'm scared!
0:18:46 > 0:18:49With the help of traditional Dutch transport,
0:18:49 > 0:18:52the day gets off to a good start.
0:18:52 > 0:18:55I feel like such a twonk, you know.
0:18:57 > 0:19:01Does your bum not hurt? Oh, no, my God!
0:19:04 > 0:19:08Can you go a little bit faster, Daniel?
0:19:08 > 0:19:13The teens will cycle 45 minutes to here, the Regional Community College of Twente.
0:19:13 > 0:19:15It's a vocational college
0:19:15 > 0:19:19that prepares teenagers for work in the catering industry.
0:19:19 > 0:19:26Students run a restaurant that's open to the public and even operate a fully functional hotel.
0:19:27 > 0:19:32Forrest and Daniel will be mentored by British teacher, Miss Robinson.
0:19:32 > 0:19:36Here we have very, very high standards for our students,
0:19:36 > 0:19:40especially with regard to personal presentation, articulation,
0:19:40 > 0:19:43professionalism and hospitality.
0:19:47 > 0:19:51I'm looking for a drug dealer. Anyone sell any cannabis round here?
0:19:51 > 0:19:52See you later.
0:19:54 > 0:20:00Back home, Daniel does have a college place, but his mum worries about him dropping out.
0:20:00 > 0:20:03Forrest has given up her education altogether.
0:20:05 > 0:20:06KNOCKS AT DOOR
0:20:06 > 0:20:10- Why are you knocking so loud? - Shut up. Hiya.- Come in.
0:20:10 > 0:20:15- Good morning.- I'm Forrest. - I'm Miss Robinson, nice to meet you.
0:20:15 > 0:20:18- I'm Dan.- Morning, nice to meet you.
0:20:18 > 0:20:21Here in Holland, students have to go to school till they're 18.
0:20:21 > 0:20:25If you don't go to school you will be visited by the truant officer.
0:20:25 > 0:20:29But in addition to that, until you're 23, it's also compulsory for you
0:20:29 > 0:20:32to go to school unless you've got some kind of formal qualification.
0:20:32 > 0:20:38So you have to get an NVQ Level 2 minimum before you can stop school.
0:20:38 > 0:20:40- Do either of you have an NVQ? - No, what's that?
0:20:40 > 0:20:43It's a National Vocational Qualification.
0:20:43 > 0:20:46I've got a National Award in Animal Management.
0:20:46 > 0:20:50That sounds like a Level 1 so I don't think that would be enough for you to quit school here.
0:20:50 > 0:20:53You're going to be joining the service and hospitality department.
0:20:53 > 0:20:57You'll be allocated a hotel room, which you have to clean.
0:20:57 > 0:20:58I have instructions. HE BLOWS RASPBERRY
0:20:58 > 0:21:01You will have to tie your hair back and I see you've got
0:21:01 > 0:21:05- quite long fingernails, which is obviously unhygienic. - I can't take them off.
0:21:05 > 0:21:09- That's something we will have to discuss...- I'm not taking them off.
0:21:09 > 0:21:10- Any questions?- Nope.
0:21:12 > 0:21:14I ain't cleaning no toilet for shit, man.
0:21:14 > 0:21:17I have my doubts about how they will get on here for the next two days.
0:21:17 > 0:21:23Here in the Netherlands, the children, all the students, have far more respect for authority.
0:21:23 > 0:21:25This is so embarrassing!
0:21:25 > 0:21:28- Before they get to work proper... - Hello. Good morning.
0:21:28 > 0:21:32- Hi.- ..the teens must meet their fellow classmates.
0:21:32 > 0:21:36OK, class, I'd like to introduce you to Forrest and Daniel.
0:21:36 > 0:21:40- Hiya.- They'll be spending two days with us here at school.
0:21:40 > 0:21:42If you'd like to introduce yourself to the class.
0:21:42 > 0:21:45- I'm Forrest and I'm 17. - I'm Dan. I'm 16.
0:21:47 > 0:21:48- FORREST LAUGHS - OK.
0:21:48 > 0:21:50And do you guys have any questions?
0:21:50 > 0:21:52What kind of school did you went to?
0:21:52 > 0:21:56I quit. I was so behind with work they were going to kick me out anyway.
0:21:56 > 0:21:58And I was disruptive and stuff so I just left.
0:21:58 > 0:22:00Do you smoke or drink?
0:22:00 > 0:22:04- We do both, both of us. - Do you have any hobbies?
0:22:04 > 0:22:09I just like going out and getting drunk with my friends and stuff like that, really.
0:22:09 > 0:22:11What do you think about drugs?
0:22:11 > 0:22:15Certain drugs I wouldn't touch but cannabis, weed, it's sweet.
0:22:15 > 0:22:18It's a nice feeling. You've got to have a few tokes.
0:22:18 > 0:22:22- Does that shock you guys? - Yes.- Actually, yes.
0:22:22 > 0:22:27- Do you prefer it to be like England where you can do whatever you want at 16 or do you enjoy this?- No.
0:22:27 > 0:22:30- You don't?! Do you like going to school?- Yes.
0:22:30 > 0:22:37- When we are old we want to have a nice job, so...- I know but you're wasting your little teenage years.
0:22:37 > 0:22:42To the Dutch students, the Brits' attitude is completely foreign.
0:22:42 > 0:22:45They don't want to go to work. They don't want to go to school
0:22:45 > 0:22:49or anything. So it's quite strange actually for me to hear about it.
0:22:49 > 0:22:53They just want to be stupid, I think. I think they can handle school.
0:22:53 > 0:22:58It won't be a problem for them but they are just lazy, I think.
0:22:58 > 0:22:59Just lazy.
0:23:02 > 0:23:06Their first assignment is to clean one of the college's hotel rooms.
0:23:07 > 0:23:12They will be overseen be third year management student, Bart.
0:23:13 > 0:23:15Oh, my God, that's well annoying.
0:23:15 > 0:23:17- This is the checklist. - There's so much!
0:23:19 > 0:23:21- Look, we go... - Is that the checklist just there?
0:23:21 > 0:23:25No, no, no. This is the whole checklist. Doing all in 20 minutes.
0:23:25 > 0:23:28Are you going to be watching us and seeing that we're working?
0:23:28 > 0:23:32No, no, no. I will go away and then after 20 minutes I will check you.
0:23:34 > 0:23:39- I need you to help me with making the bed.- Get working on something else then.- Like what?
0:23:39 > 0:23:43- You're the main one that writes everything.- Look through the list. - I just- BLEEP- did!
0:23:43 > 0:23:46What does a duster look like in Holland?
0:23:47 > 0:23:50OK, I won't do that one.
0:23:52 > 0:23:55Think of all the arses that have sat on this.
0:23:57 > 0:24:00I've never, ever, ever cleaned a toilet in my life.
0:24:07 > 0:24:09Time is up.
0:24:09 > 0:24:12- You've changed the pillows? - I've changed ever cover, everything.
0:24:12 > 0:24:14It's right.
0:24:20 > 0:24:22Oh, I'm impressed.
0:24:23 > 0:24:26- This I have not expected. - Did you expect worse?
0:24:26 > 0:24:28Yes. SHE LAUGHS
0:24:28 > 0:24:30But I'm very impressed, really.
0:24:30 > 0:24:34It's not perfect but it's very good for the first time.
0:24:34 > 0:24:36- Very good.- I'm ecstatic.
0:24:37 > 0:24:43Despite Bart's praise, Dutch schooling is doing little to inspire Forrest and Daniel.
0:24:43 > 0:24:48I will never, ever, ever, ever do that for a job.
0:24:48 > 0:24:52If it was the only job in the world, I wouldn't do it.
0:24:52 > 0:24:54It was disgusting. It was minging.
0:24:54 > 0:25:00But lunch break gives them the chance to question the students who actually want to study.
0:25:00 > 0:25:02Do you not drink? Do you not drink at your parties?
0:25:02 > 0:25:06Yeah, we do but we don't really get wasted or something.
0:25:06 > 0:25:09I'll get really drunk. I always embarrass myself.
0:25:09 > 0:25:15- Why don't you do marijuana? - It's not that exciting because it's legal in Holland.
0:25:15 > 0:25:18The people who do drugs, they just aren't cool, actually.
0:25:24 > 0:25:29The college has one of the highest pass rates in Holland but students must work hard to qualify.
0:25:32 > 0:25:36This afternoon, you're going to be working in the brasserie for two hours.
0:25:36 > 0:25:39Dan, you can go straight off. I just want a quick word with you first.
0:25:39 > 0:25:43- Do I get my 15 minute break now? - You'll have to discuss that when we get down there.
0:25:43 > 0:25:46So you're going to be in the kitchen this afternoon,
0:25:46 > 0:25:52- what are we going to do about your nails?- I don't know. I like my nails.
0:25:52 > 0:25:55I really don't want to do this. I really don't want to do that.
0:25:55 > 0:25:59It's co-operate and work in the brasserie kitchen this afternoon
0:25:59 > 0:26:03or you'll have to be doing something really nasty outside.
0:26:05 > 0:26:07I'll go and get my nails off then.
0:26:08 > 0:26:12The school's firm but fair approach is having a strange effect on Forrest.
0:26:12 > 0:26:18She's actually doing what she's told.
0:26:18 > 0:26:20Is that OK?
0:26:20 > 0:26:22Yeah, that's OK.
0:26:22 > 0:26:26But Daniel is struggling with conformity.
0:26:26 > 0:26:28Do I have to work for two hours straight
0:26:28 > 0:26:32- or am I allowed out at some point to go for a cigarette?- No.
0:26:32 > 0:26:34I actually have to work two hours straight?
0:26:34 > 0:26:41Yeah, but it's not possible. And when you work always your chewing gum out of your mouth. OK?
0:26:49 > 0:26:51Sorry.
0:26:55 > 0:27:00Fresh from the nail bar, Forrest is working with trainee chef Nelson.
0:27:00 > 0:27:03I'm going to chop my fingers off if I do it as fast as you.
0:27:03 > 0:27:05That's OK. This size, all right?
0:27:05 > 0:27:09She still wants to convert the Dutch to her wayward British ways.
0:27:09 > 0:27:13I don't think college is for everybody. Like, I just think
0:27:13 > 0:27:16if you don't want to do it, then you shouldn't do it.
0:27:16 > 0:27:20- Yes.- I just don't like doing stuff that's hard work. I'm quite lazy.
0:27:23 > 0:27:28First year, I'm the same as you, doing nothing,
0:27:28 > 0:27:34smoking with my friends and drink a lot. That's not a good way of life.
0:27:34 > 0:27:37It's much better when you're not drink and not smoke.
0:27:37 > 0:27:40- But I like drinking and smoking though. I enjoy it.- Yeah, OK,
0:27:40 > 0:27:45OK. But your future, then?
0:27:45 > 0:27:49I don't know what I want to do with my future but, like, I'd rather
0:27:49 > 0:27:55- just wait until it comes to me what I want to do, if that makes sense. - OK, yes.
0:27:55 > 0:27:56They're so positive to learn.
0:27:56 > 0:27:58When I was at school I was like, "I cannot wait to leave.
0:27:58 > 0:28:02I just want to go and do my own thing." They're like, "Woo, school!"
0:28:02 > 0:28:05It's like, "No, you don't do that."
0:28:05 > 0:28:08People back in England, they're like, "Ah, I can't be arsed.
0:28:08 > 0:28:11"I'm just going to go out. I don't care. I'll be on the dole."
0:28:11 > 0:28:13Everyone here's, "I really want a good job. I really want this."
0:28:13 > 0:28:18It's really weird hearing them being dead excited and positive about school.
0:28:18 > 0:28:21Freaks.
0:28:29 > 0:28:32Back home, the families settle down to dinner.
0:28:32 > 0:28:35The Van Berkels eat together every evening.
0:28:35 > 0:28:40In Holland the law allows 16-year-olds to drink alcohol.
0:28:40 > 0:28:44Jan and Liesbeth let their kids have a beer with dinner
0:28:44 > 0:28:46to teach them to drink responsibly.
0:28:46 > 0:28:49Are you allowed to drink in your house with your family?
0:28:49 > 0:28:51I don't really drink alcohol with my family.
0:28:51 > 0:28:54If I went to a party then I would probably drink a lot of alcohol.
0:28:54 > 0:28:58- You have the experience of getting drunk?- Yes.
0:28:58 > 0:29:01Do you like that you're allowed to have a glass of alcohol here?
0:29:01 > 0:29:07- It's very cool. - I would be absolutely shocked if my children would get drunk.
0:29:07 > 0:29:12They have a lot of freedom, but they have to learn how to deal with it.
0:29:12 > 0:29:15So if I tell the child you can have a beer,
0:29:15 > 0:29:18absolutely not that they drink three beers.
0:29:18 > 0:29:21Tonight Forrest and Daniel will be trusted to go out
0:29:21 > 0:29:24but they must stick to the one-drink rule
0:29:24 > 0:29:26and will have a strict curfew.
0:29:26 > 0:29:30I'm looking forward to going out, ish. I can't get drunk,
0:29:30 > 0:29:34so I'll just have to sit there with one wine.
0:29:34 > 0:29:38Obviously I'm going to get drunk. When I'm drunk I can act sober.
0:29:38 > 0:29:41Or I think I can. I don't know, I'm pretty drunk when I'm doing it!
0:29:46 > 0:29:49- You all right?- Are you all set to go?- Yeah, we're going out now.
0:29:49 > 0:29:56We trust you to be back at 10.30, so you have about two hours and ten minutes.
0:29:56 > 0:29:59Just one beer, it's a Monday night. Tomorrow is school.
0:29:59 > 0:30:01- Enjoy. Have a good time. - See you later, everyone!
0:30:01 > 0:30:03- Bye.- See you later on.
0:30:10 > 0:30:13Away from the watchful eyes of the Van Berkels,
0:30:13 > 0:30:16Daniel is determined to make the most of his freedom.
0:30:16 > 0:30:18SINGS: You show me where the coffee shop.
0:30:18 > 0:30:20I want a smoke and some pot.
0:30:20 > 0:30:22Apparently it's like ten euros for a gram.
0:30:28 > 0:30:32- Do you do Stella? Stella Artois? - We've got Grolsch.
0:30:32 > 0:30:34I'll have one of them, please.
0:30:37 > 0:30:42Although he knows that Jan and Liesbeth are completely anti-drugs,
0:30:42 > 0:30:46for Daniel a beer simply isn't enough.
0:30:46 > 0:30:49I'm going to go get some weed, man.
0:30:49 > 0:30:52- I'm going to the coffee shop to try. - BLEEP- love it!
0:30:53 > 0:30:55Liesbeth will be pissed, yeah.
0:30:55 > 0:31:00But to be honest I've been being good all week and I'm kind of bored of it.
0:31:01 > 0:31:03I'm back in two.
0:31:04 > 0:31:07How many spliffs can I get for ten euros?
0:31:07 > 0:31:12The legal age to buy marijuana is 18 and Daniel is refused by the staff.
0:31:12 > 0:31:15I had it in my hands and then the man stopped me.
0:31:19 > 0:31:23- Had it in my- BLEEP- hands, yeah. I put the note on the table.
0:31:23 > 0:31:26This geezer just comes over and takes it out of my hands and puts it back
0:31:26 > 0:31:29and says, "You're not old enough." I was like, "Yeah, I am."
0:31:29 > 0:31:32BLEEP
0:31:32 > 0:31:36- Should have brought my ID. Are you tipsy?- A little bit. Yeah.
0:31:36 > 0:31:39SHE MUMBLES
0:31:39 > 0:31:45For Jan and Liesbeth, letting the teens out is a calculated move to test their character.
0:31:45 > 0:31:46Everything is based on trust
0:31:46 > 0:31:51because trust is so important to us if it's broken by other people.
0:31:51 > 0:31:56There would also be this little voice in my head, "Be careful."
0:31:56 > 0:31:59Party!
0:32:00 > 0:32:01Cheers!
0:32:01 > 0:32:06Both teens have long since broken the one-drink rule.
0:32:06 > 0:32:08Forrest is leading the charge.
0:32:08 > 0:32:09I don't want to go back yet.
0:32:09 > 0:32:12I was going to say go back because then we're on time.
0:32:12 > 0:32:17- I just want to get pissed. I don't care if anyone's around. I just want to get pissed.- BLEEP.
0:32:20 > 0:32:21I'm really pissed off.
0:32:21 > 0:32:25They were allowed to go out. They should be home at 10.30.
0:32:25 > 0:32:29Now it's like 45 minutes later and they're still not home.
0:32:29 > 0:32:32I was in the shower with my pyjamas on and now I'm here in the rain.
0:32:32 > 0:32:34I'm not exactly happy.
0:32:37 > 0:32:41Instead of staying to face the punishment, Daniel does a runner.
0:32:43 > 0:32:45Where's Daniel?
0:32:48 > 0:32:49Where's Daniel gone?
0:32:51 > 0:32:55- See you later, guys.- Bye bye!
0:32:55 > 0:32:58- Where's Daniel?- I don't know.
0:32:58 > 0:33:00Is that him down there?
0:33:00 > 0:33:03He just left. He just took off.
0:33:03 > 0:33:05We got Forrest.
0:33:05 > 0:33:07But I don't know. He can go anywhere.
0:33:07 > 0:33:10We're going to go to our car. You keep an eye out.
0:33:10 > 0:33:13- There's no use in looking here. - I'm not going back to your car till I find him.
0:33:13 > 0:33:18- I'm not leaving him in the street. - You should have thought of that before.- An hour before.
0:33:18 > 0:33:22No. No. I will try and find him. I'm not going back in your car.
0:33:22 > 0:33:25How are you going to find him?
0:33:25 > 0:33:27Two stubborn teenagers.
0:33:27 > 0:33:33Neither the family, nor the production team know where Daniel has gone.
0:33:33 > 0:33:36- But when Forrest tracks him down... - Is that him down there?
0:33:36 > 0:33:39There's him. Come here. I got worried about you.
0:33:39 > 0:33:41..there's been a change in his behaviour.
0:33:41 > 0:33:42Know what I'm saying? Bo!
0:33:42 > 0:33:45Most wanted. Say something.
0:33:45 > 0:33:47Why all you guys looking for me, man?
0:33:47 > 0:33:52Daniel refuses to come home, testing Jan's patience to the limit.
0:33:52 > 0:33:54- That's enough. - That's totally enough, Daniel.
0:33:54 > 0:33:55I'm saying goodbye to everybody else.
0:33:55 > 0:34:00- No. You're disrespectful to me. - I don't want to be disrespectful to more people.
0:34:00 > 0:34:04- I'm sorry I'm disrespectful to you, I actually am. - No, I don't think so any more.
0:34:04 > 0:34:07- I don't think so any more. I don't trust you.- What's the point?
0:34:07 > 0:34:10- The point is a matter of trust. - Come with me, then.
0:34:10 > 0:34:11- It's a matter of trust, my man. - Come with.- Why?
0:34:14 > 0:34:17Come with, if you don't trust me. Come with me while I say goodbye.
0:34:17 > 0:34:20If you had the trust tome you come with me to the car.
0:34:20 > 0:34:23Yes, I will. I do have trust in you.You have trust me, man.
0:34:23 > 0:34:26- You said, "I do." Come.- Prove it. - Prove it, man.
0:34:28 > 0:34:31You want to trust me, come this way. If not take that route.
0:34:31 > 0:34:33That route's not a good route.
0:34:33 > 0:34:37- Which one, this one?- Yes. Get in the car.
0:34:40 > 0:34:43Daniel is...out of control.
0:34:43 > 0:34:48And I think, but I can't prove it right now, that he's taken some drugs.
0:34:48 > 0:34:52You can tell his eyes are bright red.
0:34:52 > 0:34:54He has a funny look in his eyes.
0:34:54 > 0:34:57And there's no use in talking to him. And I...
0:34:57 > 0:35:01It's kind of dangerous to have him in the house. I don't want the responsibility.
0:35:03 > 0:35:07Suspicious he may have smoked cannabis, the Van Berkels refuse to take Daniel home.
0:35:07 > 0:35:12Their zero tolerance to drugs means he'll be spending the night in a hotel.
0:35:12 > 0:35:16Basically I started chatting with some people. They gave me a spliff.
0:35:16 > 0:35:21I had half a spliff there. It's hardly like I smoked loads.
0:35:21 > 0:35:23What's so bad about half a spliff?
0:35:26 > 0:35:32I wonder if they have any idea what it means to trust someone or being trusted?
0:35:32 > 0:35:36The way I look at it now, I hope she wants to stay,
0:35:36 > 0:35:41because we would love to have her here, but only if she wants to.
0:35:41 > 0:35:45With Daniel, don't think it will work.
0:35:45 > 0:35:47For us, it's over.
0:35:50 > 0:35:53The morning after the night before.
0:35:53 > 0:35:57Forrest is nursing a sore head, but has a clear conscience.
0:35:57 > 0:36:00We're here for like a week. I wanted to have a good time
0:36:00 > 0:36:03so I didn't really care what time we came in or not.
0:36:03 > 0:36:05It was funny and it's over now.
0:36:05 > 0:36:08Do you know what I mean? No, I don't feel guilty...at all.
0:36:10 > 0:36:14But alone at his hotel, Daniel has had time to reflect.
0:36:15 > 0:36:17I understand why they're so upset.
0:36:17 > 0:36:21Obviously, like, weed is a big thing for them.
0:36:21 > 0:36:25I need to apologise to them for breaking their trust, to be honest, because I think that hurt.
0:36:25 > 0:36:29That's the main thing that hurt about it, that we broke their trust.
0:36:29 > 0:36:32So I need to apologise for that, to be honest.
0:36:34 > 0:36:37I feel pretty shitty, to be honest.
0:36:37 > 0:36:41We told Daniel about our views on marijuana.
0:36:41 > 0:36:44I think it's bad for someone to smoke marijuana
0:36:44 > 0:36:47because it has a big effect on your brain. It's just not healthy.
0:36:47 > 0:36:50Last night he was a different person.
0:36:50 > 0:36:52Liesbeth has agreed to hear Daniel out
0:36:52 > 0:36:55and welcomes him back into the home.
0:37:00 > 0:37:03We allowed you to go out and it was meant to be a privilege.
0:37:03 > 0:37:07Why I decided to get drunk last night was because I just felt like
0:37:07 > 0:37:12you wasn't letting us have fun and do our own thing as well as yours.
0:37:12 > 0:37:15I just felt like it was your way or no way.
0:37:15 > 0:37:17To me it sounds like if you want something,
0:37:17 > 0:37:21I have to say yes OR something will happen.
0:37:21 > 0:37:25Daniel, I was so shocked that you took off when you saw us.
0:37:25 > 0:37:28- Why did do you that? - Because, I'm not going to lie,
0:37:28 > 0:37:32I had half a spliff smoked.
0:37:32 > 0:37:35Obviously I like you guys, you're a nice family.
0:37:35 > 0:37:38I didn't want to let you guys down
0:37:38 > 0:37:40and make you guys upset and that.
0:37:40 > 0:37:45I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to, like, lose your trust.
0:37:45 > 0:37:50Daniel, that concerns me a lot, the using of marijuana,
0:37:50 > 0:37:53and that's that important to you.
0:37:53 > 0:37:55It's not that important.
0:37:55 > 0:37:59It was important enough to break a rule. We talked about trust
0:37:59 > 0:38:04and, you know, I kind of figure out that I can't expect someone
0:38:04 > 0:38:08to live by that rule if you have no idea what it means.
0:38:08 > 0:38:14Liesbeth wants to use Daniel's guilt to probe a little deeper into his behaviour.
0:38:14 > 0:38:18- Do you remember the look on Jan's face?- Yes, disappointment.
0:38:18 > 0:38:20Upset.
0:38:20 > 0:38:25I'm not really used to talking to, like, male role models and that,
0:38:25 > 0:38:28because I'm always... I live with my mum and that.
0:38:28 > 0:38:33For you, as a boy, growing up with your mum,
0:38:33 > 0:38:36and your dad wasn't there...
0:38:36 > 0:38:40Just to explain to me, how is that?
0:38:45 > 0:38:48You're not following me out...
0:39:26 > 0:39:32It was cos I drunk and smoked together, they messed with my mind. I was on that different level.
0:39:33 > 0:39:39Liesbeth steers the conversation to how similar behaviour at home affects Daniel's mum.
0:39:39 > 0:39:44Feels like I always let her down - and she's disappointed,
0:39:44 > 0:39:47because she always brought me up well.
0:39:47 > 0:39:51- And it feels like for her that I- BLEEP- up all the time...
0:39:54 > 0:39:55And then
0:39:55 > 0:39:58we have arguments together and shit,
0:39:58 > 0:40:00and I don't like that.
0:40:00 > 0:40:04Knowing that he trusted me enough to cry in front of me,
0:40:04 > 0:40:07and tell me things about his life... He's worth investing in.
0:40:07 > 0:40:12And there's more patience from my side. You can't change him in one day.
0:40:12 > 0:40:17But I know there's a really good part of him that just needs to be found.
0:40:18 > 0:40:24This is probably the first time I've been properly open with someone I don't really know.
0:40:24 > 0:40:26Makes me feel good, and
0:40:26 > 0:40:30like I got something off my chest I needed to get off.
0:40:31 > 0:40:32Feel relieved, yeah.
0:40:35 > 0:40:39The British teens' behaviour has unsettled Liesbeth.
0:40:39 > 0:40:46Instead of returning to school, she decides Daniel and Forrest need to learn some bigger lessons.
0:40:48 > 0:40:52They need to prepare themselves for a day out.
0:40:52 > 0:40:56Let's get ready to leave at...12:00?
0:40:57 > 0:40:59Have our jobs done by then.
0:40:59 > 0:41:01I can't be ready for 12:00.
0:41:01 > 0:41:04What else do you need to do besides ironing?
0:41:04 > 0:41:06Put my extensions in. Make sure my hair's OK.
0:41:06 > 0:41:09Do my make-up and fake tan.
0:41:09 > 0:41:11Do that after.
0:41:11 > 0:41:13I don't want to go out with no make-up.
0:41:13 > 0:41:17- No-one knows you here. - I know, but it doesn't matter.
0:41:17 > 0:41:23For Forrest, being confronted over her appearance has touched a raw nerve.
0:41:23 > 0:41:27I just don't like myself without anything... I just don't like myself without anything on.
0:41:27 > 0:41:30If I felt in myself I looked better without it
0:41:30 > 0:41:34I wouldn't wear all the make-up and stuff, but I feel like I have to, I feel like...
0:41:34 > 0:41:37I feel like I'm just better with it on.
0:41:40 > 0:41:44Now, she's refusing to leave the house without her make-up.
0:41:47 > 0:41:49Not happy..? Why?
0:41:49 > 0:41:56You're making us do something that we don't want to do. You're going to try and punish me for not doing it.
0:41:56 > 0:41:57I just don't want to go.
0:41:57 > 0:42:00If there's something really bothering you... Look at me.
0:42:00 > 0:42:03..let me know, OK? Yeah?
0:42:03 > 0:42:09Sensing there's something deeper going on, Liesbeth tries to get Forrest to open up.
0:42:10 > 0:42:13A mother-daughter makeover is just the thing.
0:42:13 > 0:42:16Is it the rain... or the fact no make-up?
0:42:16 > 0:42:20I don't like being with no make-up on. So...
0:42:20 > 0:42:25that's mainly why, because I didn't want to go out with nothing on my face.
0:42:25 > 0:42:31So do you think you will ever change, with the make-up issue?
0:42:31 > 0:42:34My mum and dad say it's just a phase and I'll grow out of it,
0:42:34 > 0:42:37and I won't have to wear as much make-up all the time -
0:42:37 > 0:42:40but I don't know, I love my make-up, so...
0:42:40 > 0:42:43It amazes me. I've never met anyone like her.
0:42:43 > 0:42:46If you never do anything or have to do anything,
0:42:46 > 0:42:49your whole identity is not there.
0:42:49 > 0:42:52Because that's just make-up and hair, and looks.
0:42:52 > 0:42:57She has a big lack of self-confidence and there's no need for that at all.
0:43:05 > 0:43:10While Daniel spends quality time with his new brother, Liesbeth
0:43:10 > 0:43:14has decided that Forrest needs to start appreciating how lucky she is,
0:43:14 > 0:43:18and how much she'll achieve if only she'd try.
0:43:19 > 0:43:22I understand that most people, a lot of people, do things for you,
0:43:22 > 0:43:26and today is your chance to do something for someone else.
0:43:26 > 0:43:29- Right.- It will be a new experience.
0:43:29 > 0:43:35Forrest will spend the day working at a centre for people with learning difficulties.
0:43:40 > 0:43:42Forrest...
0:43:42 > 0:43:44- Hello!- ALL: Hello.
0:43:45 > 0:43:50First, manager Heidi introduces her to 17-year-old Charlena.
0:43:50 > 0:43:53What are you doing?
0:43:53 > 0:43:57- What am I doing?- Yeah. - What, today?
0:43:57 > 0:44:02I've come to help you clean your house, like clean your apartment.
0:44:08 > 0:44:10But first, Charlena needs to go shopping.
0:44:10 > 0:44:15It's up to Forrest to support her and boost her self-confidence.
0:44:16 > 0:44:18One, two...
0:44:18 > 0:44:22Heidi has come along to keep an eye on things.
0:44:22 > 0:44:24There you go...
0:44:26 > 0:44:28- Shall we push it together?- Yeah.
0:44:28 > 0:44:32She's doing very well. Caring is really a selfless job,
0:44:32 > 0:44:38and Forrest is showing that when she wants to be, she can be a selfless person.
0:44:38 > 0:44:44It's nice to see her helping, and I also see that Forrest is enjoying it.
0:44:48 > 0:44:50There you go.
0:44:50 > 0:44:55At home, workshy Forrest refuses to do anything around the house.
0:44:55 > 0:45:00Today, she must help cook dinner for 12.
0:45:00 > 0:45:01What do you want me to do?
0:45:02 > 0:45:04The rice...
0:45:04 > 0:45:06The rice in there?
0:45:06 > 0:45:08- 16 cups.- 16 cups?
0:45:09 > 0:45:12Can be a bit more...
0:45:12 > 0:45:14Little bit more?
0:45:14 > 0:45:17Yeah, that's right.
0:45:17 > 0:45:22- Why are you getting support? - I have autism.- Autism? OK.
0:45:22 > 0:45:25That is a little bit of a problem.
0:45:29 > 0:45:32- Is that right? - That is good.- Right...
0:45:32 > 0:45:35Do you like cooking in the home?
0:45:35 > 0:45:39Do I like cooking at home? Um...no, I don't ever cook. My mum cooks.
0:45:39 > 0:45:42The most I'll cook is probably toast -
0:45:42 > 0:45:44- like bread in the toaster. - Oh, toast, yeah.
0:45:44 > 0:45:47I can't cook anything else. I'll burn it or something.
0:45:47 > 0:45:51It does look really nice, actually. I cooked it myself so I've got to try it, haven't I?
0:45:51 > 0:45:54Maybe you can do it at home...
0:45:54 > 0:45:56Make it for my mum. Yeah.
0:46:01 > 0:46:07As the day progresses, Forrest's selfish attitude appears to be taking a back seat.
0:46:07 > 0:46:09- There you go.- Thank you.- It's OK.
0:46:12 > 0:46:15Working here today, was it an eye-opener for you?
0:46:15 > 0:46:20When I first come, I was quite nervous - like, I didn't know how it was going to be.
0:46:20 > 0:46:23But I've really actually enjoyed it. Everybody's really nice.
0:46:23 > 0:46:26I was like you. Really.
0:46:26 > 0:46:32Spoilt, and didn't know the way I wanted to go.
0:46:33 > 0:46:38And then I started working in care,
0:46:38 > 0:46:44and it really gave me such a good feeling, that
0:46:44 > 0:46:47my whole life changed. Yeah.
0:46:47 > 0:46:50Working here, I haven't felt like I've been helping,
0:46:50 > 0:46:54I just feel like I've just been with friends and had a good time. It's really weird.
0:46:54 > 0:46:57You were smiling all the time, and you were helping.
0:46:58 > 0:47:02It's in you. Really. You're really a nice girl.
0:47:02 > 0:47:05Was that good? Yeah?
0:47:05 > 0:47:06THEY CHEER
0:47:06 > 0:47:09She did well. Big applause.
0:47:11 > 0:47:15They were really nice people, like - I was just getting on with them.
0:47:15 > 0:47:19Everyone was dead nice. "Oh, your cooking's good..." It makes ME feel good.
0:47:20 > 0:47:25Well, it makes me feel like I can do everything on my own, like...
0:47:26 > 0:47:29Do you know, if there was an actual place like this in Blackpool
0:47:29 > 0:47:32I'd probably work there. It's quite cool.
0:47:36 > 0:47:42To build on her successful day, the Van Berkels decide now's the time for Forrest to hear from home.
0:47:42 > 0:47:45"You can do whatever you put your mind to.
0:47:45 > 0:47:47"You're a beautiful girl with so much going for you
0:47:47 > 0:47:50"and you don't need to hide behind make-up and fake tan.
0:47:50 > 0:47:52"You need to let people see the real you -
0:47:52 > 0:47:56"the funny, outgoing, confident, bubbly person that we know you are.
0:47:56 > 0:47:59"It makes me sad knowing you've had so much given to you
0:47:59 > 0:48:01"and so much done for you,
0:48:01 > 0:48:03"but we never seem to get anything back in return from you.
0:48:03 > 0:48:06"Like helping out around the house, keeping your room tidy.
0:48:06 > 0:48:09"But for me, the most important thing for me is respect,
0:48:09 > 0:48:12"which I feel you sometimes don't have for me.
0:48:12 > 0:48:15"I know you have said in the past that I'm a part-time mum.
0:48:15 > 0:48:16"I'm a mum all the time. I'm YOUR mum.
0:48:16 > 0:48:20"It hurts so much to hear you say that because I love you more than you will ever know."
0:48:28 > 0:48:32Everything's she's said, it's just true, isn't it?
0:48:37 > 0:48:41After reading the letter, it makes me want to help her more
0:48:41 > 0:48:42and give her stuff back
0:48:42 > 0:48:46rather than just taking stuff from them both.
0:48:56 > 0:49:01It's nearing the end of the week, and Daniel has settled well into family life.
0:49:02 > 0:49:06But Liesbeth is still concerned about his relationship with marijuana.
0:49:06 > 0:49:11Today, she wants him to meet their friend, Eddie Boevink,
0:49:11 > 0:49:14a man who knows a lot about the dangers of drugs.
0:49:14 > 0:49:18I was a school drop-out. I was addicted for 15 years.
0:49:18 > 0:49:23I have been stealing a lot and deceiving a lot,
0:49:23 > 0:49:29and I want to tell people from my experience that this isn't the path
0:49:29 > 0:49:33that you should go on.
0:49:33 > 0:49:35Hi.
0:49:35 > 0:49:38- Hi, welcome.- Hi, Eddie.
0:49:38 > 0:49:40Hey. Daniel. Welcome here.
0:49:40 > 0:49:41That's Eddie.
0:49:41 > 0:49:46Daniel is a guy who has been getting into trouble.
0:49:46 > 0:49:49He was using marijuana...
0:49:49 > 0:49:52I don't really abuse drugs, but...
0:49:52 > 0:49:55- But you use drugs? - Now and again I smoke it.- OK, OK.
0:49:55 > 0:50:00- So I hope you can talk to him, tell him YOUR story.- If I may?
0:50:00 > 0:50:05Maybe you recognise some parts and maybe you don't, but I'd love you to talk to him about it.
0:50:05 > 0:50:08It would be nice, it would be good, I think.
0:50:08 > 0:50:10- Yeah.- Bye. Enjoy, also.
0:50:10 > 0:50:11Bye, Eddie. Bye.
0:50:11 > 0:50:13- I have a jacket for you...- OK.
0:50:15 > 0:50:16Shall we do some work?
0:50:16 > 0:50:22Daniel will spend the day helping to tidy up a local park that was once a hang-out for addicts.
0:50:22 > 0:50:25Eddie works here voluntarily to keep the area clean.
0:50:26 > 0:50:30What kind of background do you have? What kind of family you come from?
0:50:30 > 0:50:33I just live with my mum and my little sister.
0:50:33 > 0:50:37- My mum's like a single mum, just working and that.- OK.
0:50:37 > 0:50:39I didn't know my dad until, like, a year and a half ago.
0:50:39 > 0:50:42What does your mum feel like? What is her concern?
0:50:42 > 0:50:46She's concerned in the same way you are about drugs,
0:50:46 > 0:50:48but I know in MY mind where I'm heading.
0:50:50 > 0:50:55At home, Daniel's mum has been worn out by his frequent angry outbursts.
0:50:55 > 0:50:58It's a familiar story for Eddie.
0:50:58 > 0:51:02You know, my mother did her best, believe me - but I was lazy,
0:51:02 > 0:51:06I was addicted, and I didn't want to do anything.
0:51:06 > 0:51:08I called her names, you won't believe it.
0:51:08 > 0:51:12I called her all bad names you can imagine.
0:51:12 > 0:51:17And I can imagine that you called your mother also...
0:51:18 > 0:51:22I've said a lot of horrible things to my mum and that.
0:51:22 > 0:51:27I do feel in my heart, like, upset and angry sometimes that I've done that.
0:51:27 > 0:51:30One day I said to my mother, when I was clean and I was doing well,
0:51:30 > 0:51:37"Mother, can you forgive me what I called you, what I did, what I said?"
0:51:37 > 0:51:40And she said some beautiful things.
0:51:40 > 0:51:47"The way you are doing now, and the man you are now makes me more proud than anything in the world.
0:51:47 > 0:51:48"Of course I forgive you."
0:51:48 > 0:51:52And those are very important words, forgiveness.
0:51:52 > 0:51:54It's necessary for you to open up to your mum.
0:51:58 > 0:52:05Daniel's week in Holland has given him time to reflect on his behaviour at home.
0:52:06 > 0:52:10Over dinner with the Van Berkels, he's keen to let them know what he's learned.
0:52:10 > 0:52:14I don't have to, like, put on an act...
0:52:14 > 0:52:16I can be who I am inside and that.
0:52:16 > 0:52:19I don't have to be the man of the house,
0:52:19 > 0:52:22just be a role model to my sister and my mother.
0:52:22 > 0:52:26Not always be looking for a role model and use that as an excuse -
0:52:26 > 0:52:28but to be a role model myself.
0:52:31 > 0:52:33The audience is applauding.
0:52:39 > 0:52:43The time has come for the teens to return to England.
0:52:43 > 0:52:46I've learned a lot of stuff about respect and trust.
0:52:46 > 0:52:50Obviously, I've still got my ambition to be a rapper and singer,
0:52:50 > 0:52:52that's not going anywhere,
0:52:52 > 0:52:54but I'm going to try and get another job as well.
0:52:54 > 0:52:57Try and get to work and give my mum a bit of money.
0:52:57 > 0:53:01I'm hoping that I can rebuild some trust and the whole relationship
0:53:01 > 0:53:05with my whole family, to be honest - my mum, my little sister.
0:53:06 > 0:53:11This experience has changed how I want to be with my mum and my dad, and be nicer to them.
0:53:11 > 0:53:15I just realised, like, that I need to change really.
0:53:16 > 0:53:19- Take care.- You too. - Have a good flight.
0:53:19 > 0:53:22- Daniel...- Thank you for having me. - Goodbye, my man.
0:53:22 > 0:53:25- Bye!- Bye! - Thanks for the opportunity.
0:53:25 > 0:53:27You're welcome.
0:53:30 > 0:53:33- Bye, Forrest. Bye, Daniel. - Bye, Daniel. Bye, Forrest.
0:53:36 > 0:53:40Deep down, they're really good kids and we wish the best of them for the future.
0:53:41 > 0:53:43I'll miss you!
0:53:52 > 0:53:59I can't wait to see her. I've missed her so much. I hope this week's been everything she hoped,
0:53:59 > 0:54:01and that she's brought something positive back.
0:54:02 > 0:54:04Hi!
0:54:07 > 0:54:09I missed you so much.
0:54:09 > 0:54:11Hi, Dad.
0:54:15 > 0:54:19Amber, which was the girl, and the mum, they just had such a good relationship with each other
0:54:19 > 0:54:22that it actually made me want to respect you more.
0:54:22 > 0:54:26Because, like, I know I disrespect you all the time and stuff,
0:54:26 > 0:54:30but it made me want to help you more and stuff like that.
0:54:30 > 0:54:32- Don't cry, you- BLEEP!
0:54:32 > 0:54:37Stop it! It really made me want to change.
0:54:37 > 0:54:41I felt bad, I really felt bad.
0:54:46 > 0:54:51You know, when she said she wanted to respect me more, it did make me feel good. She can't always be right
0:54:51 > 0:54:56all the time, and it's nice to hear her say that she's going to try.
0:54:56 > 0:54:59And if she tries, it's a start, isn't it?
0:54:59 > 0:55:02- It's a good thing.- Here you are.
0:55:02 > 0:55:04Oh, thank you, darling.
0:55:10 > 0:55:15I hope that Dan's learned that every household has rules and you have to adhere to them.
0:55:15 > 0:55:19I hope he's learned some respect, and
0:55:19 > 0:55:21that I'm not so bad.
0:55:21 > 0:55:23Hi, Mum.
0:55:25 > 0:55:28Hi, Minxy-Pie.
0:55:28 > 0:55:32- Are you guys all right? - Yeah. Come in, bring your case in.
0:55:32 > 0:55:35I just want to say I'm sorry and that things are going to change.
0:55:35 > 0:55:39I'd like to win your trust back and, like, get a job and give you money
0:55:39 > 0:55:42cos you ain't got anyone else to give you extra money.
0:55:42 > 0:55:43I'm going to change my ways and prove to
0:55:43 > 0:55:48you that I can be a good son and be a good role model for Caris as well.
0:55:54 > 0:55:55I love you.
0:55:56 > 0:55:59Next time on World's Strictest Parents...
0:55:59 > 0:56:01Can you go and get my bag, please?
0:56:01 > 0:56:10Spoilt diva Nadia Traboulsi and angry stoner Aron Shave get a new parent in Bangalore.
0:56:10 > 0:56:15- Stop it.- No.- OK, don't think about it. Talk like an adult.
0:56:15 > 0:56:18He called me a bitch. You called me a bitch...
0:56:18 > 0:56:20All right, stop it, both of you.
0:56:20 > 0:56:23This is ridiculous. These things don't happen in this country.
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