0:00:03 > 0:00:05Around the world, many parents
0:00:05 > 0:00:07raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...
0:00:07 > 0:00:09As I am the head of the house,
0:00:09 > 0:00:13I expect them to obey these rules whether we are right or not.
0:00:13 > 0:00:17- ..rigid boundaries... - Say sorry. You will not do again.
0:00:17 > 0:00:20My father controls my life every day.
0:00:20 > 0:00:23Are we going to see some progress in five minutes?
0:00:23 > 0:00:25..and immediate consequences.
0:00:25 > 0:00:27Stop!
0:00:31 > 0:00:33But can traditional parenting
0:00:33 > 0:00:37change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:37 > 0:00:39Come and get me, I'm drinking underage!
0:00:39 > 0:00:43I took LSD, cocaine, ecstasy, weed,
0:00:43 > 0:00:46MDMA, ketamine.
0:00:46 > 0:00:49Being 17 you need to go out, you need to party,
0:00:49 > 0:00:52because before you know it, you'll be like, "It's game over".
0:00:52 > 0:00:54I'm not coming back today by the way.
0:00:54 > 0:00:55See you in 20 years!
0:00:55 > 0:00:59She's so incredibly rude. She's just a cow, really.
0:00:59 > 0:01:03- You just sweared at me.. - Dad, just be quiet!
0:01:03 > 0:01:07I don't care what people think about me. Rules are made for breaking.
0:01:09 > 0:01:11To find out, two teens who have never met before,
0:01:11 > 0:01:14will leave their fraught families behind...
0:01:14 > 0:01:16Come on, give us a hug!
0:01:16 > 0:01:19Behave yourself, Shola. I'm not joking, behave!
0:01:19 > 0:01:21..and head off to the far corners of the world
0:01:21 > 0:01:25where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:27 > 0:01:30- Do you want a punch? Do you want a punch?!- No, gosh.
0:01:30 > 0:01:33Get off me. Get off.
0:01:33 > 0:01:36Do me a favour and for once put some effort into your life!
0:01:36 > 0:01:40- Get off! Get off. - Go out! Just go out!
0:01:40 > 0:01:42The world does not revolve around you!
0:01:42 > 0:01:44I'm trying to walk away and she's following me!
0:01:44 > 0:01:46They can't programme me.
0:01:46 > 0:01:49If all the British teenagers were like them...
0:01:49 > 0:01:51No good.
0:01:59 > 0:02:01MUSIC: "I Need a Dollar" by Aloe Blacc
0:02:03 > 0:02:06- I just want money to go out! - I ain't got no money.
0:02:06 > 0:02:08- I don't care.- What did I tell you?
0:02:08 > 0:02:10I don't care, just give me money.
0:02:10 > 0:02:14No, you've got no money. You get your own money now, yeah?
0:02:14 > 0:02:18- That's what's going to happen now. - Dad, just be quiet!
0:02:18 > 0:02:2217-year-old college drop out Remzi Tomlin has one sole obsession.
0:02:22 > 0:02:25Remzi will always set me off about money.
0:02:25 > 0:02:31His aim is money, money, money and it always starts an argument.
0:02:31 > 0:02:33- Can I just have money? - How much do you need?
0:02:33 > 0:02:37- I don't know, just money.- I'll give you a tenner, that's all I've got.
0:02:37 > 0:02:39- Can I have that, as well? - Now I've got no money!
0:02:39 > 0:02:42- Just give me the tenner then. - Then I just give in like that.
0:02:42 > 0:02:45If I see something I'll buy it even though I don't need it.
0:02:45 > 0:02:49I know I'm spoilt but if they'd said, "No" when I was younger, I wouldn't be like this.
0:02:49 > 0:02:53Since Remzi's parents divorced five years ago,
0:02:53 > 0:02:56he hardly bothers to visit his mum and her new partner Neil.
0:02:56 > 0:03:01Remzi's always invited. He'll say, "Yeah," and then he'll let me down.
0:03:01 > 0:03:05Remzi now lives with his dad in a one-bed flat,
0:03:05 > 0:03:08hogging the only bedroom and forcing his dad to sleep on the sofa.
0:03:08 > 0:03:11And this is my bed here, you know, this is my bed here.
0:03:11 > 0:03:16So I've even done that for him, you know. I've even got him a place.
0:03:16 > 0:03:19Remzi never stops taking, but has nothing to give in return.
0:03:19 > 0:03:21'What do I do round the flat?'
0:03:25 > 0:03:26Nothing.
0:03:29 > 0:03:35No longer in education, Remzi now lives to spend his parent's money
0:03:35 > 0:03:40and thinks nothing of wasting it all on clothes and partying.
0:03:40 > 0:03:42Looks like Harry Potter!
0:03:42 > 0:03:44I'm getting to hate him, you know.
0:03:44 > 0:03:48I know it's bad to say that about my son, but he's got no respect for me.
0:03:48 > 0:03:52Why should I carry on doing what I'm doing for him?
0:03:52 > 0:03:55You've got to stand up, otherwise, you're going home on your own.
0:03:55 > 0:03:56No more drink!
0:03:56 > 0:04:00Remzi is on the road to nowhere, but doesn't even seem to care.
0:04:00 > 0:04:01'My master plan, I don't have one.'
0:04:01 > 0:04:06I don't think about the future. I think about what's happening now.
0:04:09 > 0:04:11Dad.
0:04:11 > 0:04:14Dad! Dad!
0:04:14 > 0:04:18- I'll get you a drink, but I'll get you a small bottle. - Dad, that's what you always do!
0:04:18 > 0:04:20Oh, dear.
0:04:20 > 0:04:2416-year-old Bryony Harris has a very short fuse.
0:04:24 > 0:04:27- When you're at the shops, can you get me some drink, please?- No.
0:04:27 > 0:04:28You said you will!
0:04:28 > 0:04:31She can get quite angry if she can't get her own way
0:04:31 > 0:04:33and she can swear quite a lot.
0:04:33 > 0:04:38When I get angry, I get so angry I literally... I can feel it all...
0:04:38 > 0:04:43It's horrible, even talking about being angry makes me angry.
0:04:43 > 0:04:46And it's not just at home that Bryony's anger has caused problems.
0:04:46 > 0:04:49Got kicked out of my mainstream school.
0:04:49 > 0:04:51I think it was just the end of year ten.
0:04:51 > 0:04:53She wasn't getting much of an education
0:04:53 > 0:04:57cos she was being put into isolation all the time.
0:04:57 > 0:05:00She'd go to school and disrupt the class.
0:05:00 > 0:05:03Next, her wild behaviour got her kicked out
0:05:03 > 0:05:05of two separate specialist schools
0:05:05 > 0:05:08and, by this point, even anger management couldn't help.
0:05:08 > 0:05:11An old woman sitting there and she's trying to tell me that I'm angry.
0:05:11 > 0:05:14I know I'm angry, you don't need to tell me that. It was crap!
0:05:14 > 0:05:17When Bryony was 11, her parents separated,
0:05:17 > 0:05:19dividing her family straight down the middle.
0:05:19 > 0:05:22Alisha stayed with me
0:05:22 > 0:05:24and I think Bryony went with her mum for about a year.
0:05:24 > 0:05:28But after her mum struggled on her own,
0:05:28 > 0:05:30Bryony moved back in with her dad.
0:05:30 > 0:05:34Now with no school, no job and no desire to do anything,
0:05:34 > 0:05:38she relies on Dad Bill to do everything for her.
0:05:38 > 0:05:40Bryony, can you come and clean the piss up please?
0:05:40 > 0:05:42I will when I come down.
0:05:42 > 0:05:44You know the procedure.
0:05:45 > 0:05:48There you go. Can you sort it out, please?
0:05:48 > 0:05:51No, Bryony, can you do the whole thing, please?
0:05:54 > 0:05:59Bryony's future is at a standstill, and for Bill, it's worse than ever.
0:05:59 > 0:06:02She's a spoilt little cow, yeah. That's my own fault.
0:06:02 > 0:06:06She treats me like a slave. She seems to have no respect for me.
0:06:06 > 0:06:10I just feel like from the time I get up in the morning to the time
0:06:10 > 0:06:13I go to bed, it's just a constant battle.
0:06:16 > 0:06:20To try and turn their irresponsible teenagers into mature adults,
0:06:20 > 0:06:24the desperate dads have agreed to send them to live with new parents
0:06:24 > 0:06:26on the other side of the world.
0:06:26 > 0:06:28- Do you want some pocket money?- Yeah.
0:06:28 > 0:06:31- How much do you want? 20?- No.
0:06:31 > 0:06:35- Have a good time.- Thank you.- Give us a cuddle, son. I'll miss you!
0:06:35 > 0:06:37You see, he won't even give me a hug!
0:06:37 > 0:06:40'I think this trip's really going to sink into him'
0:06:40 > 0:06:43and hopefully something good will come out of it.
0:06:43 > 0:06:47Be a good girl, all right? Make a good show of yourself, all right?
0:06:47 > 0:06:49- I will.- Don't let the family down. - I'll try not to.
0:06:49 > 0:06:54- And try and enjoy yourself a little bit.- Oh, for goodness sake.
0:06:59 > 0:07:04- All right?- All right? Hi, I'm Bryony. - I'm Remzi. Are you nervous?
0:07:04 > 0:07:07- Yeah, really nervous. I've never flown before.- Haven't you?
0:07:07 > 0:07:09- No.- Really? - Yeah, so I'll be really scared!
0:07:11 > 0:07:14They're heading to Argentina's capital, Buenos Aires.
0:07:19 > 0:07:21Famed for the tango,
0:07:21 > 0:07:26it's also the second biggest city in South America.
0:07:26 > 0:07:29The teens will be staying in an affluent gated community
0:07:29 > 0:07:31one hour north of the city...
0:07:31 > 0:07:33with the Bustamante family.
0:07:35 > 0:07:38Dad, Gonzalo, owns his own advertising firm
0:07:38 > 0:07:41and Guadalupe is a full-time mum.
0:07:41 > 0:07:47They have two kids - Juancho, 15, and Santiago who's 13.
0:07:47 > 0:07:51Santi, will you clean up the surface of the swimming pool please?
0:07:51 > 0:07:58The first and most important rule in our house is to follow the rules.
0:07:58 > 0:08:02We are not used to hearing "no" from our kids.
0:08:02 > 0:08:06Gonzalo has based his parenting style on his own upbringing.
0:08:06 > 0:08:11I grew up in a very strict house. My father was from the Navy
0:08:11 > 0:08:14and there were rules that must be done
0:08:14 > 0:08:17and that was the way that I grew up.
0:08:17 > 0:08:21In the Bustamante home, there is a formula to the hierarchy.
0:08:21 > 0:08:25Gonzalo is the captain and I am the first officer,
0:08:25 > 0:08:27but I am in charge.
0:08:27 > 0:08:31Sons Juancho and Santiago know that education comes before fun.
0:08:31 > 0:08:36The target is having a good family, nice kids
0:08:36 > 0:08:40and you begin with your school, so it's very important for me.
0:08:40 > 0:08:42- Are you doing your homework?- Mm-hm.
0:08:42 > 0:08:45Look at this.
0:08:45 > 0:08:48But here is an "S".
0:08:48 > 0:08:52The Bustamante system of parenting works by their kids earning rights.
0:08:52 > 0:08:56If they respect the rules they can go to parties,
0:08:56 > 0:08:59they can come with friends to our house.
0:08:59 > 0:09:02If they don't respect the school rules or our rules,
0:09:02 > 0:09:04they know that the answer is "no".
0:09:12 > 0:09:13It's so cold.
0:09:13 > 0:09:16It's freezing. It's a piss take.
0:09:16 > 0:09:20After travelling almost 7,000 miles, Bryony and Remzi
0:09:20 > 0:09:25touch down in a wintry Buenos Aires, Argentina.
0:09:25 > 0:09:27Oh, my God, imagine if we lived there, look at that!
0:09:27 > 0:09:29No, look at them houses.
0:09:29 > 0:09:32They'd better be rich, otherwise, I can't sit in a mud hut.
0:09:32 > 0:09:35They look like they're going to fall over any second now.
0:09:35 > 0:09:38- I didn't expect this. - I didn't expect this at all.
0:09:38 > 0:09:43The security guards at the Bustamante's gated community
0:09:43 > 0:09:46have two jobs - to stop undesirables getting in
0:09:46 > 0:09:48and unaccompanied children getting out.
0:09:48 > 0:09:53- Noventa y dos, quinientos y quince...- I totally agree.
0:09:53 > 0:09:56I feel safer now we're going through the gates.
0:09:56 > 0:09:58Yeah, same. Cos all the little mud huts,
0:09:58 > 0:10:00- they seem better houses, don't they?- Yeah.
0:10:07 > 0:10:09Oh, my God they're standing there.
0:10:09 > 0:10:11Do we just get out and shall we get suitcases?
0:10:13 > 0:10:16He looks really weird. Oh, God look at him.
0:10:16 > 0:10:19- He's fat.- Oh, my God!
0:10:19 > 0:10:21Oh, my God. How scary.
0:10:21 > 0:10:25Oh, my God, oh, my God, oh, my God! Look at him!
0:10:25 > 0:10:26Hey, how are you?
0:10:26 > 0:10:28Hi, hello.
0:10:28 > 0:10:31Hi, how are you?
0:10:31 > 0:10:35- Bryony. Hello. - Good morning, welcome.
0:10:35 > 0:10:36You all right?
0:10:36 > 0:10:38Welcome to our house, welcome to our family.
0:10:40 > 0:10:44The Bustamante's youngest son, 13-year-old Santiago,
0:10:44 > 0:10:48is ill in bed, but his older brother Juancho is ready and waiting.
0:10:48 > 0:10:51This is your brother, Juancho.
0:10:51 > 0:10:53All right?
0:10:55 > 0:10:57To the left...
0:10:57 > 0:10:59Is going to be lady's room...
0:10:59 > 0:11:02and this will be your room.
0:11:03 > 0:11:07You have plenty of toys, you can play a lot.
0:11:07 > 0:11:14I hope you'll be comfortable and enjoy your stay with Bustamantes.
0:11:14 > 0:11:16'Oh, they're too nice.'
0:11:16 > 0:11:18SPANISH ACCENT: "Hello, welcome home!"
0:11:18 > 0:11:20"Oh, hello, I'm your new dad. Oh, hello."
0:11:20 > 0:11:23It's not my new home. I'm here for seven days.
0:11:23 > 0:11:26It's a bit strange to me to have a girl,
0:11:26 > 0:11:31because I have two boys so I am worried about this because I treat
0:11:31 > 0:11:36my boys like if I was a father too,
0:11:36 > 0:11:39so we have to learn about each other.
0:11:39 > 0:11:42In anticipation of a smoking ban,
0:11:42 > 0:11:45the teens hide their stash of cigarettes.
0:11:45 > 0:11:47Put some in there.
0:12:05 > 0:12:08Gonzalo had a strict military upbringing,
0:12:08 > 0:12:10so establishing a code of conduct
0:12:10 > 0:12:13for his guests to follow is paramount.
0:12:13 > 0:12:17The first rule is respect the rules of our family.
0:12:17 > 0:12:20- Any one of you smokes?- Mm-hm.
0:12:20 > 0:12:23Well you can smoke if you want, but outside. OK?
0:12:23 > 0:12:27As we tell our kids, school is your job.
0:12:27 > 0:12:29- You're going to go to school. - I don't like school.
0:12:29 > 0:12:32I'm not going to school.
0:12:32 > 0:12:35How long do we have to go there for? Is it like six hours?
0:12:35 > 0:12:38No, I think in Argentina the bilingual schools
0:12:38 > 0:12:43are from eight to four, I think.
0:12:43 > 0:12:44Oh, God.
0:12:44 > 0:12:47You must have good manners at the dinner table,
0:12:47 > 0:12:53- no elbows on the table. - Don't do this when we are eating.
0:12:53 > 0:12:56You must always try your hardest
0:12:56 > 0:12:58when you are representing our family.
0:12:58 > 0:13:05If people see you misbehave they will think badly of my name...
0:13:05 > 0:13:06of Bustamante.
0:13:06 > 0:13:10If you agree with them, I ask you to sign them.
0:13:10 > 0:13:13- If you don't, you have to sign them anyway.- That's right.
0:13:13 > 0:13:17Because we don't discuss with our kids because we are the parents,
0:13:17 > 0:13:21you are the kids and this is not a democracy.
0:13:21 > 0:13:24We are in charge.
0:13:24 > 0:13:29One particular rule seems to have troubled the teens.
0:13:29 > 0:13:30School. BLEEP that.
0:13:30 > 0:13:33Eight, nine, ten, 11, 12,
0:13:33 > 0:13:35one, two, three, four...
0:13:35 > 0:13:37- nine hours.- I don't want to go to school.
0:13:37 > 0:13:39- I've already been to school.- Yeah.
0:13:39 > 0:13:40- I'm scared now.- Why?
0:13:40 > 0:13:43Dunno, she seems like a right bitch.
0:13:43 > 0:13:47They don't like the rules, especially once or twice,
0:13:47 > 0:13:52but they don't have a choice because they will live here and this is...
0:13:52 > 0:13:54That's the way that we live.
0:13:57 > 0:14:01Before lunch, Bryony and Remzi question eldest son Juancho
0:14:01 > 0:14:03to see if he is friend or foe.
0:14:03 > 0:14:06Have you ever been drunk?
0:14:06 > 0:14:08I don't really like alcohol but...
0:14:08 > 0:14:10- Really?- What about parties and stuff like that?
0:14:10 > 0:14:13- You should take us to a party. - Yeah, of course.
0:14:13 > 0:14:15Of course, I go to those parties and I have fun
0:14:15 > 0:14:18but without alcohol. It's the same but...
0:14:18 > 0:14:21I think you should take us to a party.
0:14:23 > 0:14:28Excuse me, what is this? This was inside the toilet paper.
0:14:31 > 0:14:36Don't laugh. Be an adult, we are not five years old.
0:14:36 > 0:14:39I'm not laughing. How am I laughing?
0:14:39 > 0:14:41- Give me... - Why are you telling me I'm laughing?
0:14:41 > 0:14:44Gonzalo told you that we don't allow you to smoke inside
0:14:44 > 0:14:48and this is in the kids' bathroom.
0:14:48 > 0:14:51- Why?- Probably because we didn't know what you'd say...- I'm...
0:14:51 > 0:14:54- Listen to me, I'm talking. They probably...- But...
0:14:54 > 0:14:57- Shh! I'm talking....- No, no. - I'm talking, shh!- Listen to me.
0:14:57 > 0:15:00- Don't get in my face! Who the BLEEP do you think you are? - Listen to me...
0:15:00 > 0:15:04- WHO do you think you are?- Listen to me, this is my house...- Well done(!)
0:15:04 > 0:15:06..and you are not going to yell at me.
0:15:06 > 0:15:09You're not supposed to put this inside my boys' toilet.
0:15:09 > 0:15:14- Yes, I know, but what I'm saying... - This was inside the toilet paper.
0:15:14 > 0:15:20Santi was throwing up on the inside and I say, "What is this?"
0:15:20 > 0:15:22Did you put this inside in the bathroom?
0:15:22 > 0:15:24We hid a few because we thought you would take them away
0:15:24 > 0:15:28so we were going to give you the pack with some hidden....
0:15:28 > 0:15:32No, because we trust you. We don't have to discuss in this matter.
0:15:32 > 0:15:35We were clear. We deserve some respect inside our house,
0:15:35 > 0:15:37and it's for your health.
0:15:37 > 0:15:41I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
0:15:41 > 0:15:45- Do you?- Mm-hm.- OK.
0:15:47 > 0:15:50All I want to do is sleep and they're annoying me.
0:15:52 > 0:15:58Meal times for the Bustamante family are a social event
0:15:58 > 0:16:01and an important part of the daily routine.
0:16:01 > 0:16:03I want a small bit.
0:16:03 > 0:16:07- Please.- Please.- Is this OK?
0:16:09 > 0:16:13Enjoy our first meal. How does it taste?
0:16:13 > 0:16:16- Good.- OK. It's cool.
0:16:16 > 0:16:19Tell us something about you.
0:16:19 > 0:16:23- Where do you live, in London? - Essex.- Crawley.
0:16:23 > 0:16:25London, basically.
0:16:25 > 0:16:28Who do you live with in London?
0:16:28 > 0:16:32- I live with my dad. - Your dad? And you?
0:16:32 > 0:16:33- My dad.- Your dad.
0:16:33 > 0:16:37- Is it all right if I go to the toilet, yeah?- Yeah.
0:16:37 > 0:16:40But Bryony's already forgotten one of the mealtime rules.
0:16:40 > 0:16:42They are both at the side of the table.
0:16:42 > 0:16:45- I'm not eating any more.- What? - I'm not eating any more.
0:16:45 > 0:16:47Yes, but we are at the table so...
0:16:47 > 0:16:53When you're at the table, remember we try to have correct position.
0:16:53 > 0:16:55I'll just go to my room, then.
0:16:55 > 0:17:00- No, no, no. - I don't feel well. Shut up.
0:17:00 > 0:17:05This is not the way that I want to spend this week.
0:17:08 > 0:17:12It's a baptism of fire for the Bustamantes.
0:17:14 > 0:17:17I prefer to speak things and try to understand each other.
0:17:17 > 0:17:20OK, OK, goodbye.
0:17:20 > 0:17:23Not goodbye, we just said "hello" two hours ago.
0:17:23 > 0:17:25We just get together at lunch.
0:17:25 > 0:17:29It's a family moment and I want to know about you.
0:17:29 > 0:17:33I just don't want to be told what to do and stuff, I just don't.
0:17:35 > 0:17:41OK, I will wait you, ten minutes, OK? Thank you.
0:17:48 > 0:17:52I think that's not the attitude because it's like,
0:17:52 > 0:17:56"come on, let's make this week the best experience for all of us,"
0:17:56 > 0:18:00and it's easy if you respect the rules. They're not difficult rules.
0:18:11 > 0:18:14"Oh, this is absolutely... Stop shouting at me!"
0:18:14 > 0:18:16Stop shouting at me.
0:18:16 > 0:18:20I just don't want to row with them but they're pissing me off.
0:18:20 > 0:18:25- The dad's the best, he's lovely. - After a few days of her talking, I'll brain her. She don't shut up.
0:18:25 > 0:18:28- Yeah, she's just going on, she's like "Oh, yes".- Shut the door.
0:18:28 > 0:18:29SHE MUMBLES
0:18:29 > 0:18:34Our first day, it was hard.
0:18:34 > 0:18:39I never expected that the things go so fast.
0:18:39 > 0:18:41Yeah, that surprised me.
0:18:41 > 0:18:44They're so bad!
0:18:44 > 0:18:47It's a big challenge because we are not used to that.
0:18:47 > 0:18:51- It's going to be OK. - It's not easy but not impossible.
0:18:51 > 0:18:54Nothing's impossible.
0:19:07 > 0:19:10It's Remzi and Bryony's first full day in Argentina.
0:19:10 > 0:19:14Remember that you're going to school today.
0:19:14 > 0:19:17Gonzalo wants to make sure the teens know what's expected of them.
0:19:17 > 0:19:20Remember we were talking yesterday about my name
0:19:20 > 0:19:22and the Bustamante family.
0:19:22 > 0:19:25- Try to make me proud.- OK.
0:19:25 > 0:19:29We will talk later when I come back and you tell me your experience.
0:19:29 > 0:19:32- Yep.- I hope it will be positive.
0:19:33 > 0:19:38But for image-obsessed Remzi, it's the school uniform
0:19:38 > 0:19:40that's troubling him more than anything else.
0:19:40 > 0:19:42You've got the thing...
0:19:42 > 0:19:45Look at it...
0:19:45 > 0:19:49Do they actually wear this, like really actually wear this?
0:19:52 > 0:19:54It's not even about individuality.
0:19:54 > 0:19:57It's about looking like a dick basically,
0:19:57 > 0:20:01with a green frickin' woolly thing and tracksuit bottoms.
0:20:09 > 0:20:12The teens will be attending San Patricio's College,
0:20:12 > 0:20:15one of Buenos Aires many bilingual schools.
0:20:15 > 0:20:18San Patricio is a fee paying school
0:20:18 > 0:20:22and a strong work ethic is expected of all of its pupils.
0:20:22 > 0:20:25Kids who come to my school work really hard.
0:20:25 > 0:20:29We praise responsibility, we praise loyalty
0:20:29 > 0:20:32and we try and trust our students.
0:20:32 > 0:20:36And pupils at this school understand that any bad behaviour
0:20:36 > 0:20:37will not be tolerated.
0:20:37 > 0:20:41Do we have kids who misbehave here very often in my office?
0:20:41 > 0:20:44No, no, we don't.
0:20:47 > 0:20:51Guadalupe has brought the kids in early today
0:20:51 > 0:20:53so they can meet head teacher Marisa.
0:20:55 > 0:20:59Well, people at this school behave and we live like a family.
0:20:59 > 0:21:03We try not to break rules, we try to respect each other and especially
0:21:03 > 0:21:10we trust each other, yeah? So I beg you to behave and also to let
0:21:10 > 0:21:14other people behave. But I think that we will get along well, yeah?
0:21:16 > 0:21:20Today, the teens will be joining an English language class
0:21:20 > 0:21:22for final year students.
0:21:22 > 0:21:25Before we start I would like you guys to come here to the front
0:21:25 > 0:21:28and tell the rest of the class why you're here
0:21:28 > 0:21:31and what your aims are by this experience, OK?
0:21:31 > 0:21:32No, you do it.
0:21:32 > 0:21:35You can do it from there if you don't want to stand up.
0:21:35 > 0:21:37Um, I'm Remzi.
0:21:37 > 0:21:41We're here because we misbehave at home and they want to try
0:21:41 > 0:21:42and change us so we're better.
0:21:42 > 0:21:45- How about you?- Just the same as him.
0:21:45 > 0:21:48Guys, would you like to ask them anything?
0:21:48 > 0:21:51I don't know, what they do back there, have any hobbies, sports?
0:21:51 > 0:21:54What do you enjoy doing?
0:21:54 > 0:21:56Just with my mates, just chilling...
0:21:56 > 0:21:59- Parties.- Yeah, parties and stuff.
0:21:59 > 0:22:00OK.
0:22:00 > 0:22:02- Do you smoke or drink?- Yeah.
0:22:02 > 0:22:06On average, how much do you spend every time?
0:22:06 > 0:22:07What, on a night out, like?
0:22:07 > 0:22:11- At a party.- All of it. - Party?- All of it.
0:22:11 > 0:22:13It depends on if you have to get a cab home or something.
0:22:13 > 0:22:17If you do, it's 60 quid. If it's normal, it's 20 or 30.
0:22:17 > 0:22:20Introductions over, it's time to get down to some work.
0:22:20 > 0:22:24We're going to read a story about a person, OK?
0:22:24 > 0:22:26- I'm not reading. - Can you get one and pass the rest?
0:22:28 > 0:22:31I'm not reading out loud, I'm really not.
0:22:31 > 0:22:36"Lance, being a seemingly healthy young man ignored the warning signs.
0:22:36 > 0:22:41"By the time the cancer was diagnosed it had spread to his lung,
0:22:41 > 0:22:44"abdomen and brain. His chances of survival limited."
0:22:44 > 0:22:48The reading task set by the teacher requires concentration from the whole class.
0:22:48 > 0:22:51You don't want to read and don't want to work, it's OK.
0:22:51 > 0:22:52I'm listening!
0:22:52 > 0:22:55Yes, but it's not enough, you're being disrespectful
0:22:55 > 0:22:57with that attitude.
0:22:59 > 0:23:03We'll have to ask you to leave the class if you keep doing that.
0:23:03 > 0:23:05What, because I'm just sitting here?
0:23:05 > 0:23:07- Because you're being disrespectful. - I'm looking at you!
0:23:07 > 0:23:12I want you to grab the piece of paper and behave like the rest of the people.
0:23:12 > 0:23:14Can you start reading, please?
0:23:15 > 0:23:17I can't deal with BLEEP English.
0:23:17 > 0:23:21You need to stop saying those things because they're not allowed.
0:23:21 > 0:23:23You don't hear other people saying...
0:23:23 > 0:23:26I don't want to BLEEP learn. I don't want to listen to this.
0:23:26 > 0:23:28So, listen, either you stop saying that or...
0:23:28 > 0:23:31- OK, shush! - I'm sorry, you're shouting at me.
0:23:31 > 0:23:35- Well done.- Marisa, I'm going to have to ask you to take her out
0:23:35 > 0:23:39- because she's shouting...- Come with me, please.- ..she's swearing.
0:23:39 > 0:23:42She's happy to come with me. Please pick up the chair.
0:23:42 > 0:23:46- No, I'm not bending down.- Please pick the chair up.- Don't touch me.
0:23:46 > 0:23:47I didn't touch you.
0:23:47 > 0:23:49I'm sorry.
0:23:55 > 0:23:57Stop there.
0:23:57 > 0:24:00Darling, calm, stop there.
0:24:00 > 0:24:03- I don't want to learn English. - We know you don't want to.
0:24:03 > 0:24:06I'm not sitting in there. I've done school. I'm not doing it again!
0:24:06 > 0:24:11Sorry, please, could you please stop there? Could you please stop there?
0:24:14 > 0:24:17Let's go back to class, because I think you might find
0:24:17 > 0:24:20something interesting from what is being said there.
0:24:20 > 0:24:23Stop following me, please.
0:24:26 > 0:24:27TUTOR: This one. >
0:24:29 > 0:24:32What's cancer, it's not that difficult, is it?
0:24:32 > 0:24:34- Illness.- An illness.
0:24:34 > 0:24:38Can I have the cigarettes? Thank you.
0:24:38 > 0:24:41- You can't smoke in here.- I'm not smoking indoors. I'm going outside.
0:24:41 > 0:24:45You're not going to go out. So give the cigarettes back.
0:24:45 > 0:24:48- You BLEEP what?! - Give the cig...- BLEEP move!
0:24:48 > 0:24:50- Don't touch me.- BLEEP move! Don't BLEEP do that!
0:24:50 > 0:24:53- Don't touch me. - Move now!- Don't touch me.
0:24:53 > 0:24:56Don't you dare! Let me out.
0:24:56 > 0:24:59Do you want a BLEEP punch, you old woman? Get me out of here!
0:24:59 > 0:25:00Let me out!
0:25:00 > 0:25:04- You're not going to... - Don't you dare!- Sit down, please.
0:25:04 > 0:25:06- I'm not sitting down. - Sit down, please.- No.
0:25:06 > 0:25:08- Yes, please.- Do you want a punch?
0:25:08 > 0:25:11- No.- Do you want a punch? - I don't need to be aggressive.
0:25:11 > 0:25:13- Let me out!- Gosh.
0:25:17 > 0:25:19Can I go, please, because I'm really angry
0:25:19 > 0:25:23and I'm going to punch that stupid old woman?!
0:25:23 > 0:25:25BLEEP old woman.
0:25:25 > 0:25:28- Bryony!- What?!
0:25:28 > 0:25:33Concerned about Bryony's behaviour, Marisa decides to call Guadalupe.
0:25:33 > 0:25:36For the other classmates, it's been a real eye opener.
0:25:36 > 0:25:37She has no limits.
0:25:37 > 0:25:42You can not shout at a teacher or you can not push a teacher.
0:25:42 > 0:25:44She brought this on.
0:25:44 > 0:25:48She shouldn't have blocked the door while I wanted to go and calm down.
0:25:50 > 0:25:54She flips for no reason, it's weird. Like, she'll sit there and be quiet
0:25:54 > 0:25:58and then she like pushed the teacher and that
0:25:58 > 0:25:59and then she's like all...
0:25:59 > 0:26:02I don't know, moods are up and down all the time.
0:26:04 > 0:26:05Yeah, do come in, please.
0:26:05 > 0:26:09Unsure of what's taken place, Guadalupe is summoned to the school.
0:26:09 > 0:26:12First she just put her head on the table,
0:26:12 > 0:26:15then she started swearing in class.
0:26:15 > 0:26:17Then she came into the classroom,
0:26:17 > 0:26:20asked you for a cigarette, you gave her one.
0:26:20 > 0:26:24I told you you were not allowed to smoke here at school
0:26:24 > 0:26:27so that's why I think they shouldn't be staying
0:26:27 > 0:26:29for the rest of the day with us.
0:26:29 > 0:26:30- OK.- I'm sorry.
0:26:30 > 0:26:35- Thank you very much, Marisa, I appreciate the effort.- OK.
0:26:36 > 0:26:40With the teens suspended for disrupting the class
0:26:40 > 0:26:43and smoking on school grounds, Guadalupe takes them home
0:26:43 > 0:26:46to decide how to tackle the situation.
0:26:57 > 0:27:00No, go away!
0:27:00 > 0:27:01No, why?
0:27:03 > 0:27:08At the end of the day, we must talk about what happened today at school.
0:27:09 > 0:27:13Why you become mad so fast?
0:27:13 > 0:27:16I try to understand why.
0:27:16 > 0:27:18All right, please, go away!
0:27:18 > 0:27:22- We're going outside.- Why? - Yes, you can go but not her.
0:27:22 > 0:27:24- Why?- You can go, not her. - Where are you going?
0:27:24 > 0:27:26Because I don't allow it.
0:27:26 > 0:27:29- It's up to her. If she wants to be alone.- No. - I'm sure she's independent.
0:27:29 > 0:27:31No, you can't go, no.
0:27:31 > 0:27:34Don't you dare push me. Do you want it to happen what happened this morning?
0:27:34 > 0:27:37You are supposed to be alone. Don't force me to do this.
0:27:37 > 0:27:41- Don't force me to punch you in the face.- What did you say?!
0:27:41 > 0:27:44- I said don't force me to punch you on the face.- Don't you dare.
0:27:44 > 0:27:48- What are you BLEEP doing? - Don't you dare!- Get out of my face.
0:27:48 > 0:27:53- I don't touch, you but you have to stay here alone.- Why?
0:27:53 > 0:27:55- Because it's that...- What's wrong?
0:27:55 > 0:27:58What's wrong, I thought your kids don't get angry like this?
0:27:58 > 0:28:02- No, this is my kid, this is not yours.- Yeah, I know that.
0:28:02 > 0:28:06He's angry because you're shouting at me. Tell me what's wrong.
0:28:06 > 0:28:08- Don't backchat my mum.- What?
0:28:08 > 0:28:12- You have to respect her.- OK, yep. Can I just go outside, then?
0:28:12 > 0:28:16If she says you can't go outside, you can't go outside, end point.
0:28:16 > 0:28:19It's my mum and I'm not going to let you speak like that.
0:28:19 > 0:28:23- I know it's your mum. - So don't raise your voice to her.
0:28:23 > 0:28:26Oh, I just want to go home now!
0:28:28 > 0:28:31She started raising her voice and saying bad words,
0:28:33 > 0:28:36so I got really mad.
0:28:37 > 0:28:40It's OK.
0:28:40 > 0:28:43I love you, but this is not the way.
0:28:45 > 0:28:47I'm proud of you.
0:28:50 > 0:28:54Gonzalo's home, and he's keen to find out how Bryony
0:28:54 > 0:28:56and Remzi did at school today.
0:28:56 > 0:29:01- Is everything OK?- Well...
0:29:01 > 0:29:03Well, not everything is OK
0:29:03 > 0:29:08because there was a little incident at school.
0:29:08 > 0:29:11Given the low-down from Guadalupe, Gonzalo decides
0:29:11 > 0:29:13to try a different approach.
0:29:13 > 0:29:17If you do crazy things there are going to be crazy results.
0:29:17 > 0:29:19Yeah...sorry.
0:29:19 > 0:29:21No, no, no, not sorry...
0:29:21 > 0:29:26You never tell me sorry to me. You have to say sorry of you.
0:29:26 > 0:29:33- OK.- You lose the opportunity to get in touch with a different culture,
0:29:33 > 0:29:38with different kids, you know.
0:29:38 > 0:29:42The only one that loses is you when you behave this way.
0:29:42 > 0:29:43Yeah.
0:29:43 > 0:29:48Gonzalo's soothing words seem to have struck a chord with Bryony.
0:29:48 > 0:29:52I love Gonzalo. He's really nice, I get along with him loads.
0:29:52 > 0:29:56He's a good dad. It's just the mum really, she's so annoying.
0:29:56 > 0:30:00She doesn't shut up, she doesn't let you talk, she doesn't understand
0:30:00 > 0:30:04and she's just like, "Oh, no, no, shut up, get in your room, shut up."
0:30:13 > 0:30:16Suspended from school, Remzi and Bryony are at home,
0:30:16 > 0:30:20but Gonzalo's not planning on letting them take it easy.
0:30:20 > 0:30:22KNOCK ON DOOR
0:30:22 > 0:30:24< Hi, Ana.
0:30:24 > 0:30:28He's arranged for their neighbour, Ana, to take the teens
0:30:28 > 0:30:30to do some charity work today.
0:30:30 > 0:30:34Born and raised in Buenos Aires, Ana has witnessed the rise
0:30:34 > 0:30:35of the city's slum population
0:30:35 > 0:30:39and been doing what she can to help for the last eight years.
0:30:39 > 0:30:44Here in our gated community, we live in a privileged way,
0:30:44 > 0:30:49but there are some people that live outside that are not so lucky
0:30:49 > 0:30:54and Ana is the one that has the biggest heart in Talar De Lago
0:30:54 > 0:30:58and tries to give them a big hand.
0:30:58 > 0:31:03In Argentina, it's a common sight to see affluent gated communities
0:31:03 > 0:31:06sat side by side with slums.
0:31:09 > 0:31:13So Ana is taking the teens to a slum just ten minutes drive
0:31:13 > 0:31:16from the Bustamantes' doorstep.
0:31:16 > 0:31:20It's like they've just randomly pulled things off random houses and built a house.
0:31:23 > 0:31:26I've never been to a place like this before in my life.
0:31:26 > 0:31:28I'm scared.
0:31:32 > 0:31:38As many as 500,000 of a population of 3 million people
0:31:38 > 0:31:42live in communities like this in central Buenos Aires alone.
0:31:43 > 0:31:46The charity where Ana volunteers is a small school
0:31:46 > 0:31:48in the heart of the slum.
0:31:48 > 0:31:53Hola, chicos! Buenos dias. Como le va?
0:31:53 > 0:31:56Estan Bry y Rem.
0:31:59 > 0:32:02I didn't expect it to be like this, like where we've been
0:32:02 > 0:32:05in the house, like, it's so luxurious but like here,
0:32:05 > 0:32:08this is the real Argentina, ain't it? There's dogs everywhere.
0:32:08 > 0:32:10I feel like I'm in a third world country.
0:32:13 > 0:32:17It's not very nice, but it's upsetting as well
0:32:17 > 0:32:21because of all the little kids and stuff, but they seem happy.
0:32:21 > 0:32:24The job Ana has in mind for Bryony and Remzi is to begin
0:32:24 > 0:32:28the much needed redecorating of one of the classrooms.
0:32:28 > 0:32:31- Is it going in?- Yeah, bits on the side so it's fine.
0:32:31 > 0:32:33And be generous with the paint
0:32:33 > 0:32:38because we've got to cover all this with one coat.
0:32:40 > 0:32:42With the teens out of the house,
0:32:42 > 0:32:45Guadalupe phones Bryony's dad, Bill, to try and find out more
0:32:45 > 0:32:49about the explosive behaviour she showed at school.
0:32:49 > 0:32:50Hello.
0:32:50 > 0:32:53Hi, I'm Guadalupe from Argentina.
0:32:53 > 0:32:56Good evening to you.
0:32:56 > 0:32:57Bryony is a nice girl,
0:32:57 > 0:33:03but she has a little bit issues that I would like to talk to you about.
0:33:03 > 0:33:07She has got some serious anger problems.
0:33:07 > 0:33:10'It kind of messed up her schooling.'
0:33:10 > 0:33:12She was excluded from school,
0:33:12 > 0:33:18then she was diagnosed at a very late stage with ADHD.
0:33:18 > 0:33:20Oh.
0:33:20 > 0:33:24But also she's got a very low concentration time, you know.
0:33:24 > 0:33:27She loses concentration very quickly.
0:33:29 > 0:33:32ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, affects levels
0:33:32 > 0:33:37of focus and concentration predominantly in children.
0:33:37 > 0:33:39The problem wasn't identified with Bryony
0:33:39 > 0:33:42until after she had been expelled from school.
0:33:42 > 0:33:46She was just a naughty little girl in the junior school,
0:33:46 > 0:33:50then she went up to secondary school and then the problems started
0:33:50 > 0:33:52because she had to do some serious work,
0:33:52 > 0:33:57but obviously the ADHD wasn't recognised.
0:33:57 > 0:34:00The school basically couldn't cope with her behaviour.
0:34:00 > 0:34:04There are ways to deal with ADHD, both medical and psychological,
0:34:04 > 0:34:06but it's Bryony's emotional response
0:34:06 > 0:34:10when she can't cope that causes her fits of rage.
0:34:10 > 0:34:12It's even gone beyond her schooling
0:34:12 > 0:34:15and is now affecting all areas of her life.
0:34:15 > 0:34:18These are my old trophies from Irish dancing.
0:34:18 > 0:34:22I used to do Irish dancing, but obviously I quit.
0:34:22 > 0:34:26That's my drama certificate and this is ages ago.
0:34:26 > 0:34:31This is from my musical theatre. That was when I had hobbies though.
0:34:31 > 0:34:34It's Bryony again, she loses interest, you know, very quickly.
0:34:34 > 0:34:38I just give up. I give up on a lot, which is quite stupid.
0:34:45 > 0:34:50The phone call with Bryony's Dad has been a revelation to Guadalupe.
0:34:50 > 0:34:55I learned a lot of things about Bryony that I didn't know
0:34:55 > 0:35:00and then I have to know and I have to think about
0:35:00 > 0:35:02all the things he told me.
0:35:06 > 0:35:09Back at the slum, Bryony's lost concentration
0:35:09 > 0:35:12and has stopped working, leaving Remzi to paint alone.
0:35:12 > 0:35:15If you're going to sit and do nothing just go outside.
0:35:15 > 0:35:16- Shut up.- Can you just go outside?
0:35:16 > 0:35:19- Shut up.- No, you shut up. - No, you shut up.
0:35:19 > 0:35:22- I'm not being funny, but we're all here to...- I've done loads of shit.
0:35:22 > 0:35:24Oh, and I haven't?
0:35:24 > 0:35:27Why stand there when you could give me more paint or something?
0:35:27 > 0:35:30- You didn't ask for it.- You just ask. - Maybe next time, ask.
0:35:30 > 0:35:33- I can't be bothered to row with you. - Why did you start rowing?
0:35:33 > 0:35:36You're annoying me. I don't understand why you have to stand there!
0:35:36 > 0:35:41Ana is shocked to see how the British teens act in front of her.
0:35:41 > 0:35:46Honestly, if it came from one of my grandchildren or something,
0:35:46 > 0:35:48yes, I'd be pretty surprised,
0:35:48 > 0:35:52but when she's angry and she's using bad language, I don't think
0:35:52 > 0:35:57she realises how ugly it all looks and it was a shame it happened.
0:35:59 > 0:36:01Ana takes Bryony aside.
0:36:01 > 0:36:05Do you always get angry that quickly? Yes?
0:36:05 > 0:36:12Well...you know you'll find out in time it's not worth it.
0:36:12 > 0:36:15When you get angry there's only one other thing you can do...
0:36:15 > 0:36:16get pleased again.
0:36:16 > 0:36:21You know you should never get angry because you're so pretty,
0:36:21 > 0:36:24- so pretty when you smile.- OK.
0:36:24 > 0:36:30When all your teeth fall out and you can't smile then you can get angry!
0:36:30 > 0:36:35Why don't you go and see how he's getting on?
0:36:35 > 0:36:37What shall I say?
0:36:37 > 0:36:40"I'm sorry." That's all.
0:36:40 > 0:36:43You can do it. I know you can do it. You're terrific!
0:36:44 > 0:36:48Remzi...I'm sorry. You've done a good job.
0:36:49 > 0:36:52- If you ever threaten to punch me again I will actually kill you.- OK.
0:36:56 > 0:36:58Today has been a chance for Remzi and Bryony
0:36:58 > 0:37:00to see a different side of Argentina.
0:37:00 > 0:37:04When we went out the gated community, we thought that was really bad
0:37:04 > 0:37:06but this is worse, but it's like friendly.
0:37:06 > 0:37:11I thought it would have been like get shot or something, but it's really friendly for some reason.
0:37:11 > 0:37:12I was shitting myself!
0:37:17 > 0:37:21Even after a difficult start, Ana is keen for the teens
0:37:21 > 0:37:22to return and finish the job.
0:37:22 > 0:37:26'We've already told them we're coming back on Thursday.'
0:37:26 > 0:37:29We've already told them we're going to paint flowers on the wall.
0:37:29 > 0:37:31'If you promise, you've got to do it.'
0:37:31 > 0:37:35We've got one more white wall to do. We're going to go back to the house,
0:37:35 > 0:37:38draw some stencils and then on Thursday we're coming back
0:37:38 > 0:37:41to just decorate and clean it up and stuff like that.
0:37:41 > 0:37:44I'm looking forward to seeing their faces and that!
0:37:44 > 0:37:45I don't want to leave them.
0:37:45 > 0:37:48I can't wait until we come back on Thursday now.
0:37:52 > 0:37:55As night falls over Buenos Aires,
0:37:55 > 0:37:57Marisa at San Patricio's College has called.
0:37:57 > 0:38:01There's been a meeting to discuss Bryony and Remzi's behaviour
0:38:01 > 0:38:04and the result is outright expulsion.
0:38:04 > 0:38:07The principal of the school called us
0:38:07 > 0:38:10and said that you're not allowed to get in to the school again.
0:38:10 > 0:38:14I asked you, please, to take care about my name.
0:38:14 > 0:38:18You didn't do any effort about that.
0:38:18 > 0:38:22- Remzi, what do you think about that? - I just want to go to bed... - I didn't understand.
0:38:22 > 0:38:25Yeah, I know, I'm sorry.
0:38:25 > 0:38:28- You're going to be sorry if I get more angry.- All right, yeah, cool.
0:38:28 > 0:38:31I promise you. All right, yeah, I get your point.
0:38:31 > 0:38:35- You're in my house and you have to respect my rules, is that clear?- Yes, it is.
0:38:35 > 0:38:37OK, think about it because the next time,
0:38:37 > 0:38:40- it's not going to be talking, you know.- All right.
0:38:40 > 0:38:44Thursday, I think you're not going again to the activity.
0:38:44 > 0:38:47You have to earn it.
0:38:47 > 0:38:50But we're not earning, we're helping people who are less fortunate.
0:38:50 > 0:38:52So you won't let us help people?
0:38:52 > 0:38:55- If you want to go back...- I do.
0:38:55 > 0:38:58..show some, you know, effort, OK?
0:38:58 > 0:39:01Thank you.
0:39:01 > 0:39:03It's the first time the teens have had to deal
0:39:03 > 0:39:06with the consequences of their bad behaviour.
0:39:06 > 0:39:09They're being BLEEP and taking the experience away.
0:39:09 > 0:39:13What's the point of saying that we can't go back, yeah?
0:39:13 > 0:39:16I'm not being funny, like, we've done half the work.
0:39:16 > 0:39:20It's a bit out of order to just leave them with like half a room painted.
0:39:20 > 0:39:23I think they are going to improve.
0:39:23 > 0:39:28The only thing that I want is to make them think.
0:39:30 > 0:39:33Bryony and Remzi know they need to change
0:39:33 > 0:39:36if they want to see Ana or the nursery school again.
0:39:44 > 0:39:48Urgh, that one's got a leaf on it. I don't think I could do that one.
0:39:48 > 0:39:50Remzi breaks the deadlock
0:39:50 > 0:39:54and starts helping Guadalupe with some jobs around the house.
0:39:54 > 0:39:57The first is to clear up after the Bustamantes' two dogs.
0:39:57 > 0:39:59Urgh, this one's all hard.
0:40:01 > 0:40:03You need to stop feeding them.
0:40:03 > 0:40:06Don't feed them and they won't poo.
0:40:06 > 0:40:07GUADALUPE LAUGHS
0:40:08 > 0:40:15And there are no temper tantrums when Guadalupe asks Bryony to take the dogs for a walk.
0:40:15 > 0:40:18When my dog sees big dogs like this,
0:40:18 > 0:40:20her tail tucks in and she goes really shy.
0:40:20 > 0:40:27In the hope of returning to the slum tomorrow, Bryony and Remzi work on designs for a mural.
0:40:27 > 0:40:32- How old are they, like, toddlers? - They're well young. - Like three...two, three.
0:40:32 > 0:40:35- They said they start learning English then, don't they?- Mmm.
0:40:35 > 0:40:39I'm very pleased they're doing this.
0:40:39 > 0:40:44I know they have strong feelings about the kids,
0:40:44 > 0:40:48so it's really good these kind of things
0:40:48 > 0:40:52are coming from inside them.
0:40:52 > 0:40:55They didn't need me to ask them for it.
0:40:55 > 0:40:58- A sun at least. We need to put a sun.- Yeah, a sun.
0:40:58 > 0:41:00Yeah, just do that then.
0:41:03 > 0:41:06With both teens showing signs of improvement,
0:41:06 > 0:41:09even Bryony is letting her guard down with the family.
0:41:12 > 0:41:14That's quite good, actually. That's good.
0:41:14 > 0:41:17Not only do Juancho and Bryony both play the drums,
0:41:17 > 0:41:21but Juancho has also suffered from anger problems.
0:41:21 > 0:41:25The drums really helped me with my problem inside.
0:41:25 > 0:41:27I guess anger or something like that.
0:41:27 > 0:41:32The relationship with my parents improved. With my friends, too.
0:41:32 > 0:41:39It was something that I had inside, which this helped to release it.
0:41:39 > 0:41:42I'm looking forward to playing the drums when I get back.
0:41:42 > 0:41:45I'm going to ask my dad if I can have mine now.
0:41:45 > 0:41:47Then I'll be able to play them every day.
0:41:47 > 0:41:50I think it would make me more calm and stuff.
0:41:50 > 0:41:52You should keep with it.
0:41:53 > 0:41:57- It's really helpful.- Yeah.
0:42:04 > 0:42:08'Me and Juancho have got quite a lot of stuff in common.'
0:42:08 > 0:42:11We both have problems with anger.
0:42:11 > 0:42:16We get our anger out by drums and he was saying it's helped him.
0:42:16 > 0:42:20Now I've played since I've been here it feels like I definitely want to.
0:42:20 > 0:42:26I was thinking of getting rid of my drum kit, selling it and spending it on myself.
0:42:26 > 0:42:31Drums is just a really cool hobby, I like and I enjoy it.
0:42:31 > 0:42:33And it makes me happy cos I can hear myself.
0:42:38 > 0:42:41Remzi is helping Guadalupe prepare the dinner.
0:42:41 > 0:42:45Back home, he hasn't eaten a meal with his dad in over a year.
0:42:45 > 0:42:50I only live with my dad so we don't really do this at home.
0:42:50 > 0:42:53The only time we all sit down for a meal is when we go round my nan's.
0:42:53 > 0:42:58You live with your dad, not your mum, because your mum lives in another place?
0:42:58 > 0:43:05When I did live with my mum, I used to cook food for her.
0:43:05 > 0:43:07But it's not something I do with my dad. I just don't.
0:43:07 > 0:43:14Spending time with Guadalupe has made Remzi reflect on his relationship with his own mother.
0:43:14 > 0:43:17I didn't want to talk to her cos I thought she was selfish,
0:43:17 > 0:43:21expecting me and my sister to leave our whole lives
0:43:21 > 0:43:24just so she could move near her boyfriend. It really pissed me off.
0:43:24 > 0:43:29I was just being really stubborn. Didn't want Neil in my life that much.
0:43:29 > 0:43:31If I moved in with him that would've been it.
0:43:31 > 0:43:34He would've had power over me. I didn't want that.
0:43:34 > 0:43:39Both Bryony and Remzi hope to return to the charity tomorrow.
0:43:39 > 0:43:42But the decision lies with Gonzalo.
0:43:42 > 0:43:45Tell me, how was the day today?
0:43:45 > 0:43:50- Relaxing.- Relaxing but they both made big efforts.
0:43:51 > 0:43:53I wanted to hear that.
0:43:54 > 0:44:00What would be the best thing that you'd love to do tomorrow?
0:44:00 > 0:44:02- Go back.- Go back.
0:44:02 > 0:44:05Just to finish it off so we know that we've done it.
0:44:05 > 0:44:08- If I went home now knowing that I've only done...- Just painted it.
0:44:08 > 0:44:12Painted it and haven't even finished the whole room, it would annoy me.
0:44:12 > 0:44:16I think that you earned the right
0:44:16 > 0:44:20to go back and make happy those kids.
0:44:20 > 0:44:23Congratulations.
0:44:37 > 0:44:40Before the teens head back to the charity this morning,
0:44:40 > 0:44:45a letter has arrived for Remzi from his mum and her partner, Neil.
0:44:45 > 0:44:48Do you want to read it alone?
0:44:48 > 0:44:50Read it alone.
0:44:50 > 0:44:56- Take a few minutes and afterwards, if you want, you call me. OK?- OK.
0:44:59 > 0:45:05"Hello, Remzi. When you come home Neil and I would like a chat, get everything out in the open.
0:45:05 > 0:45:12"Neil was saying how good this is for you and he also said you would go far in life, which I know you will.
0:45:12 > 0:45:16'I love you, son, and I do hope the family see the way we do.
0:45:16 > 0:45:18"Fun-loving and caring. Cos that's what you are.
0:45:18 > 0:45:23"It's just I think we have all got a bit lost on the way.
0:45:23 > 0:45:28"I want you to come round and be a part of this life and so does Neil.
0:45:28 > 0:45:33"I'm proud of you for all you've done and I love you more than anything."
0:45:33 > 0:45:35Aww. That's nice.
0:45:35 > 0:45:37It's a nice letter.
0:45:39 > 0:45:43It was the kind of thing you expected to read?
0:45:43 > 0:45:47No, I was expecting her to be angry and her going on about the past instead of the future.
0:45:47 > 0:45:51She's saying forget about what's happened and we can move on.
0:45:51 > 0:45:58Perhaps this week it's the time enough for you and your family
0:45:58 > 0:46:03to try to change little things that are going to make big changes in the future.
0:46:03 > 0:46:07I hope mine and my dad's relationship can be better,
0:46:07 > 0:46:09mine and my mum's relationship can be better
0:46:09 > 0:46:13and mine and my stepdad. Basically.
0:46:13 > 0:46:17- Hopefully when I get home it will change.- I hope so.- It will change.
0:46:17 > 0:46:19I know you will.
0:46:19 > 0:46:20- You're a good man.- So are you.
0:46:23 > 0:46:26I know that Remzi has a lot of potential.
0:46:26 > 0:46:33I see his changes here from the beginning of the week till now
0:46:33 > 0:46:38and he's amazing. He wants to make changes.
0:46:49 > 0:46:54Bryony and Remzi arrive at the slum, keen to finish what they started.
0:46:54 > 0:46:56- Do it right there?- Yeah, like that.
0:46:56 > 0:47:01- We can just do...- Yeah, we can paint it on better any way.
0:47:01 > 0:47:05Whilst Bryony marks out the mural the teens designed yesterday,
0:47:05 > 0:47:07Remzi finishes whitewashing the last wall.
0:47:07 > 0:47:13At first I thought the family was being horrible, telling us we can't come back to help them.
0:47:13 > 0:47:19But it was actually us cos we had to behave to help them.
0:47:19 > 0:47:25It sounds weird, but if we were bad, we would've been selfish,
0:47:25 > 0:47:28cos we wouldn't have been able to help them.
0:47:28 > 0:47:31So I'm happy we behaved.
0:47:31 > 0:47:34With the kindergarten class relocated outside for the morning,
0:47:34 > 0:47:38Bryony and Remzi work double quick time.
0:47:38 > 0:47:43And to finish it off in style, the teens have an idea.
0:47:43 > 0:47:44Ready?
0:47:48 > 0:47:51- Si!- Si! Oh, no!
0:48:00 > 0:48:01You want one more?
0:48:05 > 0:48:10- You like blue.- Where should we do it? Underneath them all.
0:48:10 > 0:48:11One, two, three.
0:48:14 > 0:48:15Aww!
0:48:18 > 0:48:23With the transformation complete, it's time to reveal the results.
0:48:23 > 0:48:27They all want to thank you very much for having done the painting and drawings.
0:48:27 > 0:48:30They're very, very grateful.
0:48:30 > 0:48:32Thank you! >
0:48:44 > 0:48:48I'm not used to people being happy for something I've done.
0:48:48 > 0:48:52Being thankful for something you've done.
0:48:52 > 0:48:55- Makes me want to smile. - Yeah, I know.
0:48:55 > 0:48:58- Cool.- Yeah.
0:48:59 > 0:49:06It's tremendous, and all I hope is that they carry on and remember
0:49:06 > 0:49:10and that this really helps them change things
0:49:10 > 0:49:15and see that what they have at home is pretty good.
0:49:15 > 0:49:19I didn't think you could get a buzz from this without getting money.
0:49:19 > 0:49:23It's crazy to think that little kids like that actually...
0:49:23 > 0:49:26The amount of money I spend on clothes could build three of them.
0:49:26 > 0:49:31It makes me feel really bad. Maybe if I went without a pair of trainers
0:49:31 > 0:49:36for one month, they could get more food for one month. I feel like a dick spending all that money.
0:49:36 > 0:49:42Bryony's time here has also made her think differently about her behaviour back home.
0:49:42 > 0:49:47If someone says something I don't like or I don't agree with, I get angry.
0:49:47 > 0:49:53When I'm angry I get upset and then I feel sorry what I say to them after.
0:49:53 > 0:49:56I just need to calm down a bit, really.
0:50:06 > 0:50:10It was four years ago that Bryony moved out of her mother's house
0:50:10 > 0:50:12to live with her dad.
0:50:12 > 0:50:16Today, a letter has arrived, and it's from Bryony's mum.
0:50:16 > 0:50:18"My beautiful Bryony, only three days have gone,
0:50:18 > 0:50:20"and it seems like three months.
0:50:20 > 0:50:24"Not having any contact with you has been so difficult.
0:50:24 > 0:50:26"Bryony, you have so many qualities.
0:50:26 > 0:50:30"My wish is that you look at your inner self,
0:50:30 > 0:50:34"and make the changes you know will make a difference.
0:50:34 > 0:50:38"I know you can prove to yourself and others what you are capable of.
0:50:38 > 0:50:41"Missing you so much. I love you, Mum."
0:50:43 > 0:50:46- Are you happy?- Yeah.
0:50:48 > 0:50:52She does tell me stuff like this before. Like, quite a lot.
0:50:52 > 0:50:55But it's never really got to me like this.
0:50:55 > 0:51:00I've never really wanted to make changes and stuff. But I really do.
0:51:02 > 0:51:04Your mum is so proud of you.
0:51:08 > 0:51:10I know, because I'm proud, too.
0:51:12 > 0:51:14Thanks for giving me the letter now.
0:51:14 > 0:51:18And I'm just going to... just have some time by myself.
0:51:18 > 0:51:20OK.
0:51:20 > 0:51:23I'm glad that you have the letter.
0:51:23 > 0:51:24Thank you.
0:51:24 > 0:51:25First kiss!
0:51:31 > 0:51:34Special barbecue.
0:51:34 > 0:51:37It's Bryony and Remzi's last night in Argentina.
0:51:37 > 0:51:41And Gonzalo's laid on a traditional Argentinian barbecue
0:51:41 > 0:51:42for the whole family.
0:51:42 > 0:51:46Thank you for everything. You've been the most amazingest parents ever.
0:51:46 > 0:51:49And this isn't going to be the end.
0:51:49 > 0:51:50- No.- No. I hope so.
0:51:50 > 0:51:54- And to meet again and keep in contact!- Keep in touch.
0:51:54 > 0:51:56Don't go to any more parties.
0:52:16 > 0:52:20For the British teens, their week in Argentina is at an end.
0:52:20 > 0:52:24This experience has helped me realise it's not all about me.
0:52:24 > 0:52:26Cos all I did was care about myself.
0:52:26 > 0:52:27And I took things for granted.
0:52:27 > 0:52:30But I've tried to take things in a different way,
0:52:30 > 0:52:33and, if I disagree, I just keep my mouth shut.
0:52:33 > 0:52:35Otherwise, there'll be a big argument, so...
0:52:35 > 0:52:38I'm just going to try and be more polite, and help around the house.
0:52:38 > 0:52:41It has actually been a life-changing experience, like.
0:52:41 > 0:52:43I used to just be horrible to everyone.
0:52:43 > 0:52:48But now, I've learnt to put my self in other people's shoes.
0:52:48 > 0:52:51How it would feel if someone done that to me. It's not nice.
0:52:51 > 0:52:54You should treat someone how you want to be treated, I think.
0:52:54 > 0:52:56Need to go home and think about stuff, now.
0:52:58 > 0:53:01Thank you so much. You've been very kind.
0:53:01 > 0:53:04- I love you.- I love you, too.
0:53:05 > 0:53:09Come on! You'll always be my girl, you know.
0:53:09 > 0:53:11Thank you for everything. You make a big effort.
0:53:11 > 0:53:14- I tried. - No, you made an excellent effort.
0:53:14 > 0:53:16- One more time?- That's right.
0:53:18 > 0:53:20Love you.
0:53:39 > 0:53:42Very quiet without Bryony around the house. But I must admit,
0:53:42 > 0:53:45I can't believe how much I have really actually missed her,
0:53:45 > 0:53:47even though she can be a real pain sometimes.
0:53:48 > 0:53:52Hello! All right, babe?
0:53:52 > 0:53:55It's just been such a cool experience and stuff.
0:53:55 > 0:53:57But yeah, I want things to change.
0:53:57 > 0:54:01Good, I hope so. Are you going to help me around the house a bit more?
0:54:01 > 0:54:03- Yeah.- Perhaps we can do things together.
0:54:03 > 0:54:08I just want it to be a bit more family like, where we talk more.
0:54:08 > 0:54:09I can't wait.
0:54:09 > 0:54:12Yeah, I can see a bit of a difference in her.
0:54:12 > 0:54:15Even after a week, she's come back a little bit more calmer
0:54:15 > 0:54:18and chilled out.
0:54:18 > 0:54:21I can't change everything but I'm going to change all the stuff
0:54:21 > 0:54:23I need to change.
0:54:23 > 0:54:24I've shown myself I can do it,
0:54:24 > 0:54:27so there's no point in being an idiot and not carrying it on.
0:54:27 > 0:54:29So, yeah, of course I'm going to do it.
0:54:35 > 0:54:38I'm hoping that he's not changed as a whole person, you know?
0:54:38 > 0:54:42Just get the niggling things out of him like the cheekiness
0:54:42 > 0:54:47and respect me a bit more and respect his money a bit more.
0:54:47 > 0:54:50Just to take more responsibilities.
0:54:50 > 0:54:54Hello, son. How's it going? Give us a cuddle. Aww.
0:54:56 > 0:55:00I've missed you, son, are you all right, yeah?
0:55:00 > 0:55:03I am really, really sorry for taking so much money off you and stuff.
0:55:03 > 0:55:05I feel really bad.
0:55:05 > 0:55:09And taking all my anger out on you when it weren't your fault.
0:55:09 > 0:55:13And just basically pushing you away.
0:55:13 > 0:55:14I'm just in shock, mate.
0:55:14 > 0:55:18I really just, I really, I am going to help you, son.
0:55:18 > 0:55:19I am going to help you a lot.
0:55:19 > 0:55:21Give us another hug, son.
0:55:21 > 0:55:25Do you know what? I'm really, really proud.
0:55:25 > 0:55:28That trip has done something to him, you know?
0:55:28 > 0:55:32With my help, with his mum's help, we can really pull through this, you know?
0:55:32 > 0:55:35Inside I am quite emotional, you know?
0:55:35 > 0:55:36Because I'm thinking,
0:55:36 > 0:55:40"Wow, is this really my son talking to me like this?"
0:55:40 > 0:55:43This is like, he hasn't spoken to me like this for ages but for him
0:55:43 > 0:55:48to pour out to me like that, that really has got to me.
0:55:48 > 0:55:51But it's a nice, it's a nice feeling.
0:55:51 > 0:55:54I need to start thinking about my family more now.
0:55:54 > 0:55:56I need to start sorting myself out.
0:55:56 > 0:55:58I would have thought I would have came back
0:55:58 > 0:56:01and just normal but this like proper motivated me not to be.
0:56:01 > 0:56:05To change a little bit. Yeah, I'm looking forward to it.
0:56:05 > 0:56:08Next time on The World's Strictest Parents -
0:56:08 > 0:56:11wannabe big man Hamzah Wali,
0:56:11 > 0:56:14and spoiled private schoolgirl Charlie Denny...
0:56:14 > 0:56:17Come and get me. I'm drinking underage.
0:56:17 > 0:56:20..get new parents in South Africa.
0:56:20 > 0:56:22Oi! There's two women, what the...?
0:56:22 > 0:56:25- Can we just bunk? - Seriously?- You want to bunk?
0:56:25 > 0:56:29Are you impressed with yourself, young lady?
0:56:29 > 0:56:33Just do me a favour and for once put some effort into your life.
0:56:33 > 0:56:35I'm done with this. That is bollocks.
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